Weekly Vlog: Why I Don't Change My Food Plan on a Holiday
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- Опубликовано: 31 май 2024
- As someone who supports thousands of people in staying Bright throughout the year, I’m sensitive to this time of year. I’ve talked about Thanksgiving before in these vlogs. Go to Brightlineeating.com or RUclips and type in “Thanksgiving” and you can find all my past vlogs on how to navigate Thanksgiving shiny Bright.
This year, though, I want to talk about a particular facet of eating Bright: whether or not to change your food plan for a holiday or special occasion. For example, let’s say you are on the Bright Line Eating weight loss plan, and you don’t get fruit at dinner, but you do at breakfast and lunch. So maybe on Thanksgiving you want to wait and not eat your fruit earlier in the day, so that you can enjoy it at dinner when everyone else is eating dessert.
I don’t do this. I keep my food plan the same on holidays, and for two main reasons.
First, I am a food addict, through and through. And because I’m a food addict, it’s really crucial that I not buy into the notion that my being okay, at the most fundamental level, is contingent on the deliciousness of my food. That’s the addictive part of the brain talking. Now, I love my food, and I enjoy eating it. But I don’t want to think about it beforehand, or obsess about it afterwards.
I remember eating a meal on a cruise that was so extraordinary that when I had the possibility of going on a cruise like that again with my husband, I spent a whole meditation session months in advance thinking about how and whether I might get to eat a similar meal again. That’s not how I want to live.
When I’m considering swapping categories of food around, I find myself in my meditation well in advance thinking about whether I’m going to do it and how I could make it work-but that feels unmanageable to me. Food cannot be the deepest source of my okay-ness and my happiness.
So in order to live without mashed potatoes on Thanksgiving, I just need to live without them, and see that there are other ways to get the nurturing and sustenance I crave. I need to die to the food, and awaken to the laughter and sharing of gratitude-and everything else that makes Thanksgiving memorable.
It’s not a shame or judgment thing. It’s not wrong to swap around your food categories. I just don’t want to feed the part of me that believes that food is the way I’m going to be okay.
The second reason is this: I’ve learned that swapping out my food builds a future wobble into my lines. And here’s why. Let’s say I move my fruit from lunch to dinner one time. And then, at the next holiday, I do it again. And it works. No problem, right? But what happens a few months later when I have friends visiting from out of town unexpectedly, and I invite them over for dinner, and since I’ve done it before, I have fruit while they’re having dessert, even though I ate fruit at lunch alreadty. Then it’s not a swap, it’s extra food.
The part of me that’s logging whether I’m Bright or not Bright will have a tough time with that, because now there’s a wobble in my line.
This is very similar to why I don’t put milk or cream in my coffee, even if it’s weighed and measured. I’ve found that it sets up my program to be wobbly later on. For example: I’m at a conference after a late flight and I’m exhausted so I’m having more coffee than usual, and because I’ve done it before I put creamer or milk in every cup. That’s been the start of a binge for me. That’s why I don’t put milk in coffee. And that’s why I don’t move my food categories around, because it will cause a wobble.
I want to work my program so that my years and decades are Bright-not weeks, not months. Years and decades. I’m a Bright Lifer. I’m in my Bright Body, and I eat better than most. I don’t miss or lack anything-even on Thanksgiving.
Remember: it’s not the food that makes the holiday. It’s the gratitude, and the people, and the warmth, and the eye contact, and the opportunities to connect and serve. So I move the food onto the back burner and put my focus where it needs to be.
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Thank you for doing what you do! You have been the first person to help me really understand food addiction and that it's okay to forever be "that person" who can't eat this or that, and to permanently say good bye to the trigger foods. Now I have to figure out the scheduling and amounts part.
Yes, still a nugget! In Ireland, no Thanksgiving but very thankful for this vlog. Thanks Susan
If you understood the internal thoughts of a food addict perhaps you might relate. I can tell you for years I was and still am in this mindset but I go back to her guidance to see me through. Helping people is her soul. Not a marketing ploy. I am thankful for the freedom of these feelings vanishing when I surrender that I am powerless over food
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Thank you very much for this super helpful Vlog. ❤
I am so truly Thankful for you SPT , I believe that you helped save my life, and I will be forever grateful and thankful. I agree with you on this topic vlog but I have already written down my food for tomorrow before watching this so, as per what I have written I still will be having my sweet potatoes at lunch instead of breakfast . Maybe next Thanksgiving I will not move my grain around. I Love You With All My Heart! Thank you and Happy Thanksgiving to you and your beautiful family.
I needed this thank you
awesome vlog - THANK YOU SPT!! i am excited about starting BLE soon - my move got pushed back to prob early Jan - can’t wait to go full tilt boogie into BLE!! hope to go to bootcamp soon!
💓to all my BLE family
HAPPY THANKSGIVING!
Love your 49ers shirt! I am struggling with this as I just started BL eating
Meh, don't believe you in this vlog. I dont believe you love your food. I appreciate your program and company. I love the bright community. Shame guilt and fear in my opinion are your business model. I love the science, but all the language in this video is not appealing to me. Shame, guilt, and control over others and fear inducing language is not cool for me nor healthy. Interesting you keep saying it's not shame or judgment.... cuz you know that it is. I do believe and feel your intention is good. Bless you and your team.
Perhaps you don't understand addiction? Addicts try to self medicate those emotions every day, whatever the substance. I work in mental health and I see it with food as well as drugs and alcohol. (It surprised me to see how many men have food issues.) I don't know Dr. Thompson personally but I have been following her for a number of years, and can't imagine her ever intentionally (her business model?) projecting those bad feelings on to others, especially since she has been there herself. Addicts have enough fear, shame and judgement of their own, they don't need to go looking for it in a program. Susan and BLE offers people a way forward, and help in how to deal with the emotional and practical aspects of food addiction. To me this vlog seems like practical advice...I am not getting the vibe you did.
Look lady if you get it you get it if you don’t you don’t. I responded more above. I appreciate you’ve never felt the endless negative thought processes that addicted people deal with when eating and binging on food
@@marischlice3990 Thanks for taking the time to reply and express yourself. Regarding what I understand and what I have experienced, I have been 10++ on the BLE Ecommerce Quiz known as susceptibility scale. I lost 90 pounds with BLE. I am so blessed to have found the program. However, white and black thinking, shame, guilt and especially fear I have learned don't serve me, but keep the addicted centers of my brain constantly searching. I am actively healing and making decisions that empower me. I wish you happiness and peace and good health.
@@fionah3433 Thanks for your reply, and the care it took to make it. BLE is a way forward. I am grateful for what I learned from Dr. Thompson and always will be. I appreciate her and her company. I appreciate the community. However, I don't think she does really love her food. Its okay that you don't agree with my viewpoint. She gives so freely and generously, its okay to have a business model to make money from the endeavor and expertise too. I have grown to the point where the fear inducing language and fostering a dependence on her every move and decision or some person outside of my being doesn't serve me as I conquer my addictions. Wishing you peace and good health. Thanks for the work you do in mental health.