after using youtube for almost 2 decades, and watching mbti youtubers from each respective type, this is the first time I was in awe watching this video, chef kiss.
Kinda crazy how well tuned an infp and enfj are. I have friend that we barely talked and she was an enfj and literally every conversation we had flowed sooo nicely and they were my favorite part of my day.
I’ve been binging your content. The way its laid out is great and easy to digest. Your points have a clear beginning and end and you’re basically my fave mbti guru. -ENFJ
I've had the pleasure of knowing an ENFJ. Not only are we socially compatible, the sexual chemistry I had with this one guy was pretty intense. My first impression of him was that he is manipulative/insincere in a bad way. I was also put off by how emotionally expressive he is..like can you tone it down a bit?! I met you a half an hour ago lol. He is like me exactly, just a super uninhibited and more organized version of me which is pretty cool. I liked him but was hesitant because I knew that if things got sexual I would get emotionally attached (of course I didn't tell him that) but he seemed pretty frustrated with the fact that I refused to go home with him "just to watch a documentary about x" lol! INFP
I'm an ENFJ and I am a good friend of an INTJ. Smart guy, and I love it when he shows me the flaws in my logic (confirming my insecurities perhaps? xD), and he appreciates me showing him where people's emotional needs fit into things.
I’m an INFJ married to a ENFJ...... 30years. We have a great relationship, we always have deep conversations but we listen to each other’s point of view and perspective. I wouldn’t have it any other way 🤗. It’s wonderful!
jjrock5 there is much conflict between an INFJ and ENFJ but it does work. I would say it depends upon how deep your ENFJ is willing to go. My ENFJ is extremely loving and definitely giving, he listens to my every word to the point that he surprises me with gifts that I just happened to mention that I need but am not requesting. Example...I was sitting at my desk and just happened to mention I must pick up a new cord charger for my iPad, the next day here he comes with a new charger cord.....I loved it! He does these things all the time and I love it over getting stuff I don’t need. Now on the other hand he loves to be pet a lot and I’m not very touchy feely.... my mind starts to wander off and forget I’m playing with his hair.....then I’m back and go Oh I forgot lol. There has to be loyalty and trust...it’s a must. I’ve often said we should record our conversations, we go really deep sometimes and it’s amazing to have a partner who can do that with you...especially if you’re an INFJ. This does not come without work, we fort like cats and dogs for the first year of our marriage ( control v independence ). We eventually woke up and realized what we were arguing about was really stupid ....,... he doesn’t like his toothpaste tube squeezed in the middle, he like’s it squeezed from the bottom....... I really don’t give a crap where it’s squeezed from but he does.....so we have our own toothpaste tube. I know funny right 😏 believe it or not it’s important. My 2 cents 😉
@@traceyb3946 Are you sure you aren't a mistyped INFP? Because that wall of text plus all those ellipses suggest an informative communication style whereas INFJs are direct.
Happy, healthy, eccentric INFP male here! I have a really close friendship with an ENFJ female, but don't seriously feel like it would ever be romantic, which is what most of these comments seem to be focusing on. We're great friends and can really discuss just about anything with each other and respect each others values even though they're very different. She always keeps me in check when I'm being hard on myself, and I help remind her of her past experiences and to live what she knows to be true. I don't think a romantic relationship would ever manifest between us because she seems to like challenges and our relationship is so easy and straightforward. I just can't see her really being satisfied, so I don't picture us in that way, so as not to lose the great friendship we have.
I am an ENFJ female My male partner is an ISTJ. It’s contrasting and dynamic yet super interesting with healthy growth. It helps he’s so determined and surrenders to me. Don’t worry, I’m considerate and fair. Did CBT, arts, movement, constant awareness practice for almost ten years now and always practicing to be my most balanced self. Thanks 🙏 for the great videos.
Do you have this need to give an expirience in the bedroom(Se pleasing the Si) as chase says? I am still kinda skeptical with what he says with Se, Si thats why i am asking
This is great! Thank you for your time yet again. It's very interesting to me, all of my close friends are either INFP or INTP. And using what you've taught before, I've tentatively typed my dad as INFP, he hits all your points and anytime you talk about them I'm immediately reminded of him lol. This also explains why my sister and I get along well enough, but don't really click. We're both ENFJs
I‘m ENFJ and I‘ve been working on growing myself for about half a year now. During this time I successively found myself being surrounded with INFJs more and more. It‘s much more helpful if my inadequacies get pointed out and I can learn from them.
@@donaczella I have a close INFJ friend who is awesome on her good days, but when she's destabilised due to some issues internal to herself (gets triggered by external factors), she can get over-critical of me and jump on conclusions without letting me make my case. I have learned to avoid her when she's too stressed out -- she knows her weaknesses herself so she usually lets me know beforehand that she's having an emotionally unstable day if we had plans to meet up. If I'm not feeling too up for dealing with random crap, I go with the flow and reschedule to another day. What's amazing is that we two are absolutely on the same page about all of this. She knows my weaknesses because she can read me like a book, and I know her weaknesses - so we just work with each other. It's a very open and honest friendship. (ENFJ)
My boyfriend is an ENFJ and I'm an INFP, and my goodness, that is the most freeing and mentally stimulating relationship. I can completely dive into my deep mind thought streams, and he's right there giving me input, his views and just everything just syncs so easily and so naturally. Also, I have found that when we are together, I embody more of an ENFJ personality, and he becomes more like my aspects of an INFP. It's so much fun!
seems like the one of the most healthiest couple ive ever seen, once i was reading an article in quora that mature enfj will turn to infp mode without being in their shadow anymore and vice versa, i hope the best for you guys ,,~ Enfj
It’s funny how you mentioned INFP and ENFJ shadow because one of my closest friends is an INFP and I’m an ENFJ and I can say that yes, I live under her shadow...
I'm very surprised that you acknowledge ESTPs can have good relationship with ENFJ in friendship perspective. And I wit it myself and confirm it by listening to your explanation! Thank you, Chase.
I have an ENFJ female friend. I would say that we don't have compatibility in any way but our friendship helps me a lot to understand myself or the unhealthy actions I might encounter in my future and she gives me good advices.
Awesome video! Really enjoy your work and am looking forward to any further series you do. As an ENFJ, the depth and clarity of thought from Ti parent is incredible. Keep up the good work!
26:14 "I wouldn't recommend having a relationship with the same type because it creates unnecessary conflict" (paraphrase). Is the conflict really unnecessary, or is it actually necessary for your personal growth and you're just using the word "unnecessary" as an excuse to stay in your comfort zone?
This may be dumb question but , what is on the ENFJ shirts & phone cases ? I enjoy visual statements! P.S love your channel vary informative 👍🏻. You do the best in depth visualization & clarity. I will eventually watch all of your content. Keep up the good work .
Good comment Joseph on the comradely vs social compatibility. I love to be in the same team with other STP’s but can’t imagine a romantic relationship would work with another Se-dom or Se-aux user.
I'm an ENFJ female and my bf is ISTP. We just celebrated our second year together. We've had few fights and arguments but overall things have been great. Our biggest reason why we've been able to be together for so long now is because we had our biggest fights at the very beginning when we started to become friends. We were friends for 2 years before we became a couple. He was able to learn how to open up to me and show emotion while I learn from him how to chill and manage my anger. And because we had similar experiences in our childhood. We're literally best friends turn into lovers and I couldn't be happier.
I agree I always felt that there’s something missing with my childhood friend enfj like i can be myself with him yes but there’s no deep connection he never tell me his problems or anything but I think I meant to be with esfjs because I can talk to them without the need to keep my emotions inside myself :]
My best friend is an ENFJ. Im in infj Tbh we cant stand each other when we are too long together physically. We respect each other. I need to let her see her other friends like enfps or istjs or she will go crazy i think..
As Fe my experience has been that Fi's tend to be too much about their feelings, not considering mine. Can't be reasoned with very well either when it comes to solving something. But could be peoples individual issues. people are more diverse than 16 types also.
RUclipsr fi is all about morals so infps morals wouldn’t be happy if they neglected someone or made them do all the work and even if the fi user doesn’t talk about it, their inferior te is wondering what your thinking, they’re si is always thinking of their memories of you and their ne is thinking of your future and your future together and tries to work to avoid any possible future issue. So while they think about theirselves and are aware of how they feel, they do care. I literally stay up till 3 in the morning thinking about the past and my future with people in my life.
@@agot7fan855 yeah I think this 16 types is bs anyways, you might fit somewhat more towards some and share some traits but the variation of characteristics and behavioris infinitely wider. Plus people being variously well functioning too. Sorry if I hurt your feelings.
Eh it can be bizarrely accurate sometimes and help you learn about people and sometimes the community will force your mbti stereotype on you even when it’s way off. For example, I’m an infp, but just because I’m an introvert doesn’t mean I don’t like attention seeking and being in the spotlight. I get exhausted around people but I’m a confident introvert and the community won’t talk about that lol. And obviously it can’t talk about outside factors but for the most part I’d say it makes a decent case. I mean if you put introvert in the test and the answer says your an introvert, you can’t really get mad at the system, so in regards to that I’d say it makes sense, even if it can’t explain all the intricacies of the human mind.
i came from the INFP compatibility video over the the ENFJ compatibility video because I doubted anybody could ever want someone like me--I'm sad all the time and I have trouble concentrating and doing things. I live alone and just kind of scrape by in life. I don't know why anybody would ever want me.
Us intuitives operate on the long range am dial. Sensors operate on the crackly fm dial. Its interesting how radio waves are similar to personal communication. Theres a lot of static on the fm frequency. So good to be on am frequency
Yes, the issue ends up being maturity and human nurture that can lead to incompatibility even with highly compatible human natures. Although, is it possible one of them is mistyped?
I first typed my mother as an ESFP but with using your grid i figured that she was an ENFJ with a developed Se and my dad is a behind the scene/idealist for sure
Im an enfj and i used to like infps because they would always be really drawn to me but tbh i started to think they were naggy and too submissive which isnt interesting to me at all. I felt like i had to take care of them even tho thats not true. Idk it just feels like im their mom
Dont judge INFP men based on an INFP manchild. That is unfair. If oyu watn to know what a real man should look like, watch my playlist on: "How relationships actually work."
This enfj-istp relationship reminds me of kato haru (enfj) constantly complain that daisuke kanbe (istp) is not caring of social needs. While Daisuke kinda dislike him of not getting a job done. From time to time, they learnt each other. And also my relationship between me and my brother (enfj).we used to cut each other's throat because he prefered to get the job done in "affliative" way while I prefered to get the job done regardless of the "affliative" way. He did called me "pompous" because I mostly did my own way without listening to him(So does Kato called Daisuke arrogant). Gradually, we learnt each other since he was the only one that recovered my Fi demon. He was the one that noticed that I suffered silently.
I have a friend INFP. We are good friends, came through a lot and we tried so much to make our friendship bloom. The only problem is that we are completely and utterly incompatible in every possible way. Her Fi always gives too much evaluations which makes me angry, and my Fe gets her mad, cause she doesn't give a damn about ethics (like you said in the video, except for a "it's not a big problem"). Both weak sensing functions are not only creating infinite amount of problems for each other, but also make us feel miserable because of that. Our logics are different, she doesn't care for my systemic Ti needs, she sleeps on my "lectures", and I ignore her Te hobies. MBTI has a big problem with this compat theory, not that I say cosionics' is perfect, but at least it tells us, that we should not try to force our values on people who will never, under any circumstances understand them!
Honestly I don't think compatibility theory is valid. I think there are probably personality types that suit an individual but types that suit types seem so reductionist to me. I'm enfj and I would take an ntj over a nfp any day of the week.
Agreed. The willingness to grow and effort of two partners seem to be the deciding factors for succes in a relationship over this "compatibility". - An ENTJ
My bf is a enfj and I am a istp. I love him to death, we get along more than anyone before, trust him more than anyone before. We are actually quite telepathic too. In your “who are the enfjs” and “who are the istp” i had enfj as subconscious and vice versa. I thought possibly that’s why we are so telepathic, etc.
This and your other videos have been helpful in figuring out my (ESTP) relationship with my ENFJ spouse. It's been a struggle lately, as I've acted badly. Thoughts?
@@CSJoseph I've studied myself pretty thoroughly, and I'm 99% certain ESTP is right. The only caveat is that I can display some strong intuitive traits, but quickly default back to SP. I believe that comes with being left handed. Nardi talks about this and it made a lot of sense to me. Never the less, I always come back to SP. My wife was typed through test. I think that it's probably correct or close from what I can tell. She is pretty true to type.
@@Bookooky I'm curious, what would you say the biggest challange or struggle between you two is? I understand if that is too personal a thing to ask on youtube.
umm i do trust ur opinions but i feel like estj tries to mentally manipulate enfj and enfj is trying to emotionally manipulate the estj ,, is it because of un matureness or lack of communication & lack of understanding each other idk I really want to work this because i feel like it will benefit both because of how different these types are
I'm an ENFJ and my GF is an ENFJ as well. We've taken multiple test and just watching how we function and our attitudes, I highly doubt we are mistyped. I'm highly skeptical of your analysis. We've got a friend circle that pushes...well, it's big. Our closest friends consider us a "couples goal." When we got together, we learned that people were shipping the two of us in their heads for some time before (GF and I were close friends before). We've got people saying how they love our dynamic and how we inspire them to be better partners themselves. Some of that may be due to our individualities, of course, but one thing she and I do for each other that not one of our ex'es EVER understood.... we understand how each other has the need to help others of both sexes and it doesn't mean anything except our desire and need to help. I can help a female friend in a close way and my GF understands why. She can do the same for a male friend and I'm not threatened. We're both able to fully be ourselves in ways we know the other won't judge (cause ENFJs don't do that) and it's the most liberating experience either of us has ever had. Both of us have been with introverts before and none of them could keep up with our social lives. It was far too exhausting for them and what both us saw from ex-partners was that we ended up having to leave our partners behind in social activities because they didn't want (or just couldn't) that level of engagement. And it lead to jealousy. That was the biggest hangup in our previous relationships and what we both find so rewarding in our current one.
Not saying his analysis isn't sometimes suspect, but you are talking about a romantic relationship whereas this video is about social (working/friend) relationships. It's different.
Someone recently typed me as ENFJ, and I straight up thought he's wrong and still think he's wrong, but it's started kinda making sense... Or is it? 😂 there's no way I'm that lol
Hi, don’t u think that ISTJs is more compatible with ENFJs than ENFPs? ENFP’s extroversion is exhausting Their compatibility is always in the negative way, and they hurt ENFJ’s style (control) and lacks being informative
after using youtube for almost 2 decades, and watching mbti youtubers from each respective type, this is the first time I was in awe watching this video, chef kiss.
Kinda crazy how well tuned an infp and enfj are. I have friend that we barely talked and she was an enfj and literally every conversation we had flowed sooo nicely and they were my favorite part of my day.
This is what ENFJs do though, with every type, even the most difficult ones.
@@JD-gk7eh no, lol im an infj though. he's the most difficult person ive talked to so far
I'm an ENFJ and I figured that the people that I learned the most from often happen to be INFPs =D
well I'd say ENFJ probably learns the most from INFJs. With INFPs it is way too easy, no push for improvement
I’ve been binging your content. The way its laid out is great and easy to digest. Your points have a clear beginning and end and you’re basically my fave mbti guru. -ENFJ
much appreciated
I've had the pleasure of knowing an ENFJ. Not only are we socially compatible, the sexual chemistry I had with this one guy was pretty intense. My first impression of him was that he is manipulative/insincere in a bad way. I was also put off by how emotionally expressive he is..like can you tone it down a bit?! I met you a half an hour ago lol. He is like me exactly, just a super uninhibited and more organized version of me which is pretty cool. I liked him but was hesitant because I knew that if things got sexual I would get emotionally attached (of course I didn't tell him that) but he seemed pretty frustrated with the fact that I refused to go home with him "just to watch a documentary about x" lol!
INFP
I'm an ENFJ and I am a good friend of an INTJ. Smart guy, and I love it when he shows me the flaws in my logic (confirming my insecurities perhaps? xD), and he appreciates me showing him where people's emotional needs fit into things.
I’m an INFJ married to a ENFJ...... 30years. We have a great relationship, we always have deep conversations but we listen to each other’s point of view and perspective. I wouldn’t have it any other way 🤗. It’s wonderful!
Lady Jane would you say these two types are generally compatible or no?
jjrock5 there is much conflict between an INFJ and ENFJ but it does work. I would say it depends upon how deep your ENFJ is willing to go. My ENFJ is extremely loving and definitely giving, he listens to my every word to the point that he surprises me with gifts that I just happened to mention that I need but am not requesting. Example...I was sitting at my desk and just happened to mention I must pick up a new cord charger for my iPad, the next day here he comes with a new charger cord.....I loved it! He does these things all the time and I love it over getting stuff I don’t need. Now on the other hand he loves to be pet a lot and I’m not very touchy feely.... my mind starts to wander off and forget I’m playing with his hair.....then I’m back and go Oh I forgot lol. There has to be loyalty and trust...it’s a must. I’ve often said we should record our conversations, we go really deep sometimes and it’s amazing to have a partner who can do that with you...especially if you’re an INFJ. This does not come without work, we fort like cats and dogs for the first year of our marriage ( control v independence ). We eventually woke up and realized what we were arguing about was really stupid ....,... he doesn’t like his toothpaste tube squeezed in the middle, he like’s it squeezed from the bottom....... I really don’t give a crap where it’s squeezed from but he does.....so we have our own toothpaste tube. I know funny right 😏 believe it or not it’s important. My 2 cents 😉
@@traceyb3946 Are you sure you aren't a mistyped INFP? Because that wall of text plus all those ellipses suggest an informative communication style whereas INFJs are direct.
Astonish_Injurer nope. I was long winded because I had a beverage 😉
@@traceyb3946 even i prefer squeezing toothpaste from the bottom. I'm an INFJ though. :)
Happy, healthy, eccentric INFP male here! I have a really close friendship with an ENFJ female, but don't seriously feel like it would ever be romantic, which is what most of these comments seem to be focusing on. We're great friends and can really discuss just about anything with each other and respect each others values even though they're very different. She always keeps me in check when I'm being hard on myself, and I help remind her of her past experiences and to live what she knows to be true. I don't think a romantic relationship would ever manifest between us because she seems to like challenges and our relationship is so easy and straightforward. I just can't see her really being satisfied, so I don't picture us in that way, so as not to lose the great friendship we have.
I am an ENFJ female
My male partner is an ISTJ.
It’s contrasting and dynamic yet super interesting with healthy growth. It helps he’s so determined and surrenders to me. Don’t worry, I’m considerate and fair. Did CBT, arts, movement, constant awareness practice for almost ten years now and always practicing to be my most balanced self. Thanks 🙏 for the great videos.
Do you have this need to give an expirience in the bedroom(Se pleasing the Si) as chase says? I am still kinda skeptical with what he says with Se, Si thats why i am asking
This is great! Thank you for your time yet again. It's very interesting to me, all of my close friends are either INFP or INTP. And using what you've taught before, I've tentatively typed my dad as INFP, he hits all your points and anytime you talk about them I'm immediately reminded of him lol. This also explains why my sister and I get along well enough, but don't really click. We're both ENFJs
Itsfish3 awesome!
I‘m ENFJ and I‘ve been working on growing myself for about half a year now. During this time I successively found myself being surrounded with INFJs more and more. It‘s much more helpful if my inadequacies get pointed out and I can learn from them.
Watch out for unhealthy INFJs, they can become overly criticial while in the Ni-Ti loop. They also do projection
@@donaczella I have a close INFJ friend who is awesome on her good days, but when she's destabilised due to some issues internal to herself (gets triggered by external factors), she can get over-critical of me and jump on conclusions without letting me make my case. I have learned to avoid her when she's too stressed out -- she knows her weaknesses herself so she usually lets me know beforehand that she's having an emotionally unstable day if we had plans to meet up. If I'm not feeling too up for dealing with random crap, I go with the flow and reschedule to another day.
What's amazing is that we two are absolutely on the same page about all of this. She knows my weaknesses because she can read me like a book, and I know her weaknesses - so we just work with each other. It's a very open and honest friendship.
(ENFJ)
My boyfriend is an ENFJ and I'm an INFP, and my goodness, that is the most freeing and mentally stimulating relationship. I can completely dive into my deep mind thought streams, and he's right there giving me input, his views and just everything just syncs so easily and so naturally. Also, I have found that when we are together, I embody more of an ENFJ personality, and he becomes more like my aspects of an INFP. It's so much fun!
seems like the one of the most healthiest couple ive ever seen, once i was reading an article in quora that mature enfj will turn to infp mode without being in their shadow anymore and vice versa, i hope the best for you guys ,,~ Enfj
It’s funny how you mentioned INFP and ENFJ shadow because one of my closest friends is an INFP and I’m an ENFJ and I can say that yes, I live under her shadow...
"It's funny..." : please mention "shadow", because it sounds abstract
My best friend is an ENFJ and so am I. We both laugh non-stop and have a great time all the time.
18:08 ENFJ-ISTP
23:12 ENFJ-INFJ
24:08 ENFJ-ENFJ
You knew exactly what pairings I was looking for haha, thank you
I'm very surprised that you acknowledge ESTPs can have good relationship with ENFJ in friendship perspective. And I wit it myself and confirm it by listening to your explanation! Thank you, Chase.
awesome
I have an ENFJ female friend. I would say that we don't have compatibility in any way but our friendship helps me a lot to understand myself or the unhealthy actions I might encounter in my future and she gives me good advices.
Awesome video! Really enjoy your work and am looking forward to any further series you do. As an ENFJ, the depth and clarity of thought from Ti parent is incredible. Keep up the good work!
Dope, I appreciate the kudos muchly.
26:14 "I wouldn't recommend having a relationship with the same type because it creates unnecessary conflict" (paraphrase). Is the conflict really unnecessary, or is it actually necessary for your personal growth and you're just using the word "unnecessary" as an excuse to stay in your comfort zone?
This may be dumb question but , what is on the ENFJ shirts & phone cases ?
I enjoy visual statements!
P.S love your channel vary informative 👍🏻. You do the best in depth visualization & clarity.
I will eventually watch all of your content. Keep up the good work .
Dr. House returns at full speed 😁
This is the highest praise.
Good comment Joseph on the comradely vs social compatibility.
I love to be in the same team with other STP’s but can’t imagine a romantic relationship would work with another Se-dom or Se-aux user.
ESTP Baaf thanks for noticing, I felt like people were getting confused so I brought it up now instead of later when I do a series on it
does any other enfj feels like they behave like an intp when down?
I'm an ENFJ female and my bf is ISTP. We just celebrated our second year together. We've had few fights and arguments but overall things have been great. Our biggest reason why we've been able to be together for so long now is because we had our biggest fights at the very beginning when we started to become friends. We were friends for 2 years before we became a couple. He was able to learn how to open up to me and show emotion while I learn from him how to chill and manage my anger. And because we had similar experiences in our childhood. We're literally best friends turn into lovers and I couldn't be happier.
You sure he isn’t an INTP?
@@CSJoseph He's too big of a dumbass, too stubborn and spontaneous to be an INTP. And I love him for that.
Über Kirbeeh all intps are not considered traditionally “smart”. With that same logic he wouldn’t be a ISTP either then.
@@Goldforever-vp8zq Yes
I agree I always felt that there’s something missing with my childhood friend enfj like i can be myself with him yes but there’s no deep connection he never tell me his problems or anything but I think I meant to be with esfjs because I can talk to them without the need to keep my emotions inside myself :]
My best friend is an ENFJ. Im in infj Tbh we cant stand each other when we are too long together physically. We respect each other. I need to let her see her other friends like enfps or istjs or she will go crazy i think..
With Fe and Fi as the top functions, wouldn’t they clash between INFP and ENFJ?
No not at all, they would understand each other in deep ways.
As Fe my experience has been that Fi's tend to be too much about their feelings, not considering mine. Can't be reasoned with very well either when it comes to solving something. But could be peoples individual issues. people are more diverse than 16 types also.
RUclipsr fi is all about morals so infps morals wouldn’t be happy if they neglected someone or made them do all the work and even if the fi user doesn’t talk about it, their inferior te is wondering what your thinking, they’re si is always thinking of their memories of you and their ne is thinking of your future and your future together and tries to work to avoid any possible future issue. So while they think about theirselves and are aware of how they feel, they do care. I literally stay up till 3 in the morning thinking about the past and my future with people in my life.
@@agot7fan855 yeah I think this 16 types is bs anyways, you might fit somewhat more towards some and share some traits but the variation of characteristics and behavioris infinitely wider. Plus people being variously well functioning too. Sorry if I hurt your feelings.
Eh it can be bizarrely accurate sometimes and help you learn about people and sometimes the community will force your mbti stereotype on you even when it’s way off. For example, I’m an infp, but just because I’m an introvert doesn’t mean I don’t like attention seeking and being in the spotlight. I get exhausted around people but I’m a confident introvert and the community won’t talk about that lol. And obviously it can’t talk about outside factors but for the most part I’d say it makes a decent case. I mean if you put introvert in the test and the answer says your an introvert, you can’t really get mad at the system, so in regards to that I’d say it makes sense, even if it can’t explain all the intricacies of the human mind.
i came from the INFP compatibility video over the the ENFJ compatibility video because I doubted anybody could ever want someone like me--I'm sad all the time and I have trouble concentrating and doing things. I live alone and just kind of scrape by in life. I don't know why anybody would ever want me.
❤️🌻Start with self-love and self-care and I hope you find your way out of the turmoil you are going through.
THANK YOU SO MUCH!
11:37 I can confirm this, an ISTJ I know responds best to other direct people
Us intuitives operate on the long range am dial. Sensors operate on the crackly fm dial. Its interesting how radio waves are similar to personal communication. Theres a lot of static on the fm frequency. So good to be on am frequency
I’m an INTP and my best friend is ENFJ
Same tho
Lol same here Intp
My mother is an ENFJ and my father is an INFP yet they seem extremely incompatible. Is there anything like "unhealthy ENFJ" ?
Yes, the issue ends up being maturity and human nurture that can lead to incompatibility even with highly compatible human natures. Although, is it possible one of them is mistyped?
I first typed my mother as an ESFP but with using your grid i figured that she was an ENFJ with a developed Se
and my dad is a behind the scene/idealist for sure
I like how it says 'deep' on the side😅
where do you learn all of this sir?
My brother is ENFJ. me my mum and my dad are 1st 2nd and 3rd most compatible respectively so this ones extra interesting to me.
Im an enfj and i used to like infps because they would always be really drawn to me but tbh i started to think they were naggy and too submissive which isnt interesting to me at all. I felt like i had to take care of them even tho thats not true. Idk it just feels like im their mom
Dont judge INFP men based on an INFP manchild. That is unfair. If oyu watn to know what a real man should look like, watch my playlist on: "How relationships actually work."
C.S. Joseph i wasnt talking about men i was talking about infp friends I'd had. So both men and women.
C.S. Joseph but sure ill watch it
Submissive? Lol
@@coolamericano lol hey
the same type relationship is good for teaching, because that person can teach you exactly how you digest information.
Sign me up if that is the case.
Where are all my ENFP's ???
This enfj-istp relationship reminds me of kato haru (enfj) constantly complain that daisuke kanbe (istp) is not caring of social needs. While Daisuke kinda dislike him of not getting a job done. From time to time, they learnt each other. And also my relationship between me and my brother (enfj).we used to cut each other's throat because he prefered to get the job done in "affliative" way while I prefered to get the job done regardless of the "affliative" way. He did called me "pompous" because I mostly did my own way without listening to him(So does Kato called Daisuke arrogant). Gradually, we learnt each other since he was the only one that recovered my Fi demon. He was the one that noticed that I suffered silently.
Hi Joseph, please do INFJ social compatibility. My life depends on it please!!! Workplace drama.
Sylvia Lopez it’s coming!
I have a friend INFP. We are good friends, came through a lot and we tried so much to make our friendship bloom. The only problem is that we are completely and utterly incompatible in every possible way. Her Fi always gives too much evaluations which makes me angry, and my Fe gets her mad, cause she doesn't give a damn about ethics (like you said in the video, except for a "it's not a big problem"). Both weak sensing functions are not only creating infinite amount of problems for each other, but also make us feel miserable because of that. Our logics are different, she doesn't care for my systemic Ti needs, she sleeps on my "lectures", and I ignore her Te hobies. MBTI has a big problem with this compat theory, not that I say cosionics' is perfect, but at least it tells us, that we should not try to force our values on people who will never, under any circumstances understand them!
Honestly I don't think compatibility theory is valid. I think there are probably personality types that suit an individual but types that suit types seem so reductionist to me. I'm enfj and I would take an ntj over a nfp any day of the week.
Agreed.
The willingness to grow and effort of two partners seem to be the deciding factors for succes in a relationship over this "compatibility".
- An ENTJ
My bf is a enfj and I am a istp. I love him to death, we get along more than anyone before, trust him more than anyone before. We are actually quite telepathic too. In your “who are the enfjs” and “who are the istp” i had enfj as subconscious and vice versa. I thought possibly that’s why we are so telepathic, etc.
I love being enfj there's a girl I like who's the same age as me she is esfj I had feeling we were compatible 😊👏
Nice work ... i am ENFJ ...
I'm an ENFJ and my boyfriend is INTP. Very insteresting combination :)
its highest sexual compatibility
Same here.
I'm ENFJ and my husband is INTP.
How about enfj isfj?
How's intp with enfj ? Both type have opposite cognitive functions.
For what kind of relationship?
C.S. Joseph romance. 🌹
This and your other videos have been helpful in figuring out my (ESTP) relationship with my ENFJ spouse. It's been a struggle lately, as I've acted badly. Thoughts?
have you confirmed and verified your types are accurate without the use of a test?
@@CSJoseph I've studied myself pretty thoroughly, and I'm 99% certain ESTP is right. The only caveat is that I can display some strong intuitive traits, but quickly default back to SP. I believe that comes with being left handed. Nardi talks about this and it made a lot of sense to me. Never the less, I always come back to SP.
My wife was typed through test. I think that it's probably correct or close from what I can tell. She is pretty true to type.
The ENFJ INFP relationship is basically Julian and Bubbles in Trailer Park Boys
This is so different from the way it presented by Aušra Augustinavičiūtė
Me, mom and sister are all ENFJ, and my bff is INFJ 🙈 I am pretty sure I'm ENFJ (but I feel ESFJ also fits)
The people that disliked this video are the ones thinking 16 personalities is bs, but yet still managed to end up on this video LOL
I'm sincerely concerned when you get to intj it will be literally no one.
Nope, people like me are ideal for INTJs.
I’m a ENFJ and my best friend is a INFJ, weird :/
My ENTP friend from college dated two ENTP's. They were terrible relationships. lol
Could you do a video on INTP vs INFP? Your probably swamped with requests so I understand if you wont get to this.
It is already in the schedule.
If this Is not so much for relationships, did you do a video that Is for relationships (or at least more for relationships) regarding mbti?
Yes, Golden pair videos are part of the Discover bundle and pedagogues are in the members area.
I'm a ENTJ male with a ENFJ girlfriend, things are great
ENFJ here with INTJ boyfriend. I have the same experience~
@@Bookooky I'm curious, what would you say the biggest challange or struggle between you two is?
I understand if that is too personal a thing to ask on youtube.
I like entj male. How is in bed your relationship?
@@Bookooky INTJ here who adores an ENFJ and we get along really well.
umm i do trust ur opinions but i feel like estj tries to mentally manipulate enfj and enfj is trying to emotionally manipulate the estj ,, is it because of un matureness or lack of communication & lack of understanding each other idk I really want to work this because i feel like it will benefit both because of how different these types are
I'm an ENFJ and my GF is an ENFJ as well. We've taken multiple test and just watching how we function and our attitudes, I highly doubt we are mistyped. I'm highly skeptical of your analysis.
We've got a friend circle that pushes...well, it's big. Our closest friends consider us a "couples goal." When we got together, we learned that people were shipping the two of us in their heads for some time before (GF and I were close friends before). We've got people saying how they love our dynamic and how we inspire them to be better partners themselves. Some of that may be due to our individualities, of course, but one thing she and I do for each other that not one of our ex'es EVER understood.... we understand how each other has the need to help others of both sexes and it doesn't mean anything except our desire and need to help. I can help a female friend in a close way and my GF understands why. She can do the same for a male friend and I'm not threatened. We're both able to fully be ourselves in ways we know the other won't judge (cause ENFJs don't do that) and it's the most liberating experience either of us has ever had.
Both of us have been with introverts before and none of them could keep up with our social lives. It was far too exhausting for them and what both us saw from ex-partners was that we ended up having to leave our partners behind in social activities because they didn't want (or just couldn't) that level of engagement. And it lead to jealousy. That was the biggest hangup in our previous relationships and what we both find so rewarding in our current one.
Not saying his analysis isn't sometimes suspect, but you are talking about a romantic relationship whereas this video is about social (working/friend) relationships. It's different.
24:08 I love you C.S.
Someone recently typed me as ENFJ, and I straight up thought he's wrong and still think he's wrong, but it's started kinda making sense... Or is it? 😂 there's no way I'm that lol
But how can I find NFPs? Just in case
Yea i do see how estj enfj can benefit the other on an extreme point but getting there needs a lot of work how did u get there???
Does anyone know what personality type C.S is?
He's an ENTP
Hi can you talk more about INFJs?
Yes, I have much more to go.
Can you please do INFJ please? It's been a week already, so I'm rudely asking.
He goes in the same order every time. The next video will be ESFJ.
INFPs are last because nice guys finish last
well said
Enfj
3 days... No pressure
Yeah, children are visiting, I had to pause making videos, they leave tomorrow.
C.S. Joseph of course. Looking forward to your vids all the time 👍
why is there so much conflict when ego functions reach down to shadow functions? specifically hero---demon and aspirational---opposing
Interference. Please watch the last two or three lectures of Season 1 to find out more.
Hi, don’t u think that ISTJs is more compatible with ENFJs than ENFPs?
ENFP’s extroversion is exhausting
Their compatibility is always in the negative way, and they hurt ENFJ’s style (control) and lacks being informative
No i don't agree Fe people need Fe people, Fi makes them unhappy an vice versa
this doesnt make sense
I think you need a comma after the word "agree". Without it the sentence contradicts itself.