Are ENFP's manipulative? They certainly have the means to be, but I don't think the vast majority act on it. The central tool that an ENFP can use to become a skillful manipulator is, ironically, their well-honed empathy. They can immediately see the deepest, most personal desires of others and step into the skin of another person almost effortlessly. If an ENFP remains healthy, they will stay in a field of work that inspires them to be soulful, compassionate, and creative in a way that utilizes their overflowing empathy positively. But if an ENFP directs that empathy to tap into the materialistic, superficial wants of modern society (as I feel someone like Tai Lopez and other super gurus do), they can read the cravings of the masses in a way no other type can, and will reap a very lucrative but ultimately dark harvest. I think a much more positive, everyday example of an ENFP would be your stereotypical English teacher who is creative and quirky, helped you discover your favorite author and the joy of reading, and inspired you to reach your potential in life.
Enfp here. Thank you for bringing this my attention. I 100% agree it’s this strong empathy we have that can make us manipulative. I think it’s prob stated better that we are EXTREMELY INTUITIVE and because Of that power we then can manipulate situations. So, it’s not that we’re manipulative it’s just that we’re able to manipulate situations, Im not sure if that makes sense but that’s what’s connecting with me. The word “Manipulative” has such a bad connotation. i am insanely good at picking up what another person needs/wants because I’m so hypersensitive to another’s energy, verbal & non verbal cues. And i can sense what they need or are wanting. this has made me HIGHLY successful. & being able to read & absorb so much has expanded my skill set &knowledge. I think Tai Lopez really is inspiring others to achieve, his tactic prob is manipulative, however, I think he is doing more good than harm. Same with Tony Robbins and other gurus.
I'm an ENFP but never have I ever been manipulative. Nor am I selfish. I've watched many videos as well and this has never been said in any of them. I really think he is mixing this up with another type because ENFP is the campaigner not the advocate. The advocate is INFJ and my best friend is one, he is describing her to a T!
I feel like I’m being called out. But I can’t deny it. At my worst I can be manipulative and very cruel with my words. Like how he said ENFPs can sell you anything for being persuasive. ENFPs can also chew you up and spit you out with their words. If you hurt them enough and they feel it’s justified they can really cause some damage and point out every insecurity in another individual. It’s rare but when it happens we don’t hold back.
Yes! I just hold all that I have inside, but I do say it, holy shit..... I did this to my mom who used to always say bad stuff to me and to put me down. When I finally answered her properly, she was just 😶😶😶😶 QUIET!!!!!
Alot of thi stuff belongs to a negative ENFP , when a enfp is positive and balanced. They are generous, value oriented, sensitive, original and great leaders. They are not organized or too logical more emotional than anything
Vani Perez The funny part about what your saying is, you’re not factoring in that most people can’t tell mature, immature, healthy, or damaged, all they see if the image in front of them, Sensing types are less inclined to look beyond what’s presented to them. So it’s best to have someone (an Ne Dominate no less) let us know how Enfp’s can come off, because An SJ type will not look beyond the crazy behavior.
@@jtotheohn1253 exactly, that's true for all types. I am pretty damn sure I have Joker from Batman as demonic archetype and Laughing Buddha as angelic archetype. I'm an INTJ (i.e ESFP subconscious)
My twin flame is an ENFP she is awesome but most just see her as crazy. I myself am a INFJ. We are both born on the same day one year apart and fit every sign of twin flame including our MBTI 🤣
@@XxxXxx-gq2qy The enfp lawyer I know does personal injury commercials, poses in front of an empty courtroom, and has 50 fake positive reviews. One of those.
Russel Brand is an ENTP that knows how to market himself to the NFs. See his pank call of an old man (Andrew Sachs who played Manuel in Fawlty Towers) to tease him about his grand-daugher being a stripper. Fi Allergic like Jonathan Ross.
I didn't think this description is negative at all and I am an ENFP. Every MBTI personality has the potential of having a "dark side". Depends on whether or not we are actively trying to be a good person. The qualities in our personality types, no matter what they are, have the potential of being used for good or bad. It's part of what makes it so fascinating! Thank you for putting the video together and giving me some items to think about.
Yes, the ENFP is the campaigner he is mixing them up and causing confusion. I stopped watching on account of his lack of expertise. But hey, he's doing more than i am right now. I just can't trust it because of this disconnect. But that's just me...
Also an INTP and my ex girlfriend is an ENTP. I really enjoyed being with her at the time, but she realized we were not a good fit. I think that I made her feel stupid when we would debate because her arguments would consist of appeals to authority and I wasnt convinced unless she could cite hard data. Or if I questioned the methodology or credibility of her sources, she would run out of steam. My only experience with this type is that they want to convince you that their way is the right way, but they use emotional arguments or guilt or shame tactics. It did seem like reputation was really important to her as well. She put a lot of pressure on me to "perform" in front of her family and openly told me several times that she was worried her family wouldn't like me.
Collin C I wasn’t talking about an Entp but an Enfp(my cousin actually), in any case my father is an Entp and what you wrote about your relationship with the Entp in your life sounds very familiar. Tons of arguments from authority and emotional guilt-tripping. Not a lot of concern for finding the truth, but confirming their “truth”. Anyways I hope you’ve found a better girlfriend.
@@therealcoolc No No No......... *facepalms* that is the most un- ENTP thing I have ever heard. You're describing an FP. You literally described loads of Te,Fi and low Ti. Sounds like Fe critic so EFP
Enfp here. First time I heard this I hated it. I think it’s because I felt I was being criticized & it is very hard for me to take criticism...unless it’s delivered appropriately and it’s constructive criticism lol. Second time I watched it..i do understand what he’s saying. He’s just a tad more blunt than I would’ve liked to hear it. I do think he has had a bad run in w/enfps HOWEVER he makes some very solid points. I think it comes down to our FEELINGS. Our feelings can be so tied to a belief it’s unreal. Example, most of us probably believe we are good people so this video saying we’re manipulative goes against that belief so initially it’s off putting. I look back at when I was in my early 20s & it’s like i had blinders to how I was acting/responding when people would hurt my feelings. I felt so sure of my actions at the time because I was strongly driven by my emotions. NOW that I’m older, my life is so different. I got HUGE into meditation, mindfulness & studying the law of attraction. All of this taught me how to CONTROL & MANAGE my thoughts. Thoughts used to effect my emotions. When we learn to control our THOUGHTS it will control our FEELINGS which will control our ego self. Then we start living from the heart and become our best selves. I agree that I love reading. If you’re a true Enfp & don’t read you’re doing yourself a disservice. Read, read, read (try audiobooks) & take some meditation classes :) it’ll change your life! Tony Robbins is also an enfp. #enfplove
I agree that we all have room to grow and can see that by observing our own progression from past experiences. I agree with many points and appreciate the effort put into making this video, but I also agree that it is far too blunt and negative. I feel that the selfish/unhealthy ENFPs like Tai Lopez who are addicted to success and are willing to exploit others financially through pyramid schemes are not a fair representative of the majority. ENFPs do naturally develop a identity/brand by connecting research(Ne) to their beliefs(Fi), however myself and most ENFPs find those that exploit this tool to be repulsive. In the same way, while all INFJs are constant empathizers, some are very selective about in who is deserving of this empathy, while others disagree with this behavior and are more charitable with it. From my experience, the sleazy salesperson behavior is also very common in ESTPs. They can lead with selfish convenient/financial reasons(Ti) and use their understanding of others’ situations(Fe) as a manipulation tool to get what they want. In sales, they tend to use facts to convince the other person it is a good purchase, as opposed to soliciting theoretical advise like Tai Lopez. I find it interesting you notice that certain qualities of these two personalities can balance each other out. All of this said, I also understand the approach of this video is meant to be more critical to combat the other fluffy videos out there. In the end, I’m just another typical helpless emotionally reactive ENFP that was too selfish to realize that this video isn’t just for me, but for others learning to better handle my erratic behaviors... Cheers!
I agree what you said ..also I'm starting to read more books now ..and as for manipulative part ..I have to say I was pointed out for being manipulative pretty early in life by a friend and I DID NOT took it very well at that time it really hurt my ego and I did not believe them as I believed I was totally innocent ...but as the time passed I accepted the fact and I accept that I can be selfish and manipulative sometimes (of course I believe I am not a bad person ..but I do question that a lot too ) I guess I will know more about me as I grow up. I'll try meditation as you said a I really need to focus .
@@jadaleewallace8566 Read any and everything you currently give a damn about. I'm am ENFP and I find that I can get completely immersed in ANYTHING! Whenever that happens I read everything i can about it and watch tons of videos about it until I eventually get burned out or move on. I always have that knowledge with me. Annoyingly so at points. I find myself constantly spewing facts about shit I no longer care about anymore 😂
Google User Your point is exactly how I perceived this info about the ENFP’s. However I always felt misunderstood by most people who thought they knew me. I seldom felt understood by other people. The arrogance I had to put up with was shocking me. When I was in my 20’s I didn’t exactly know myself that well, but my high standarts and morals did not Change over time and I have always been honest and true about them. The only thing that was difficult for me was that I stood on my own with them and that made me difficult to be around with I guess, because no one shared my values back then. I on the other hand, felt guilt tripped by others who were offened by them in some way. Over time I grew out of my naivity and became to know myself even beter which Is why I have better boundaries and can built better foundations that are more healthy. That’s the core here for the ENFP’s I believe.. The problem for ENFP’s is, people that take advantage of the lighthearted or naive nature of ENFP’s. In my 20’s, some people sure were offended when I became aware of myself more and more...and so...what other things I found important than only THEIR lives. They blamed me for persuing self awareness and other people than them. I have done things for these people out of complete submission to them (forgetting myself or out of contact with myself)....and many so called friends tried to buy my goodwill or my presence with them, back when I started being my own person more and more. I did not force them to do give me anything else than friendship and love, but they were making me feel guilty for them giving money and stuff I didn’t ask for, and blaming me for having my own thoughts and feelings. ......They did this, I guess because they needed my approval for something or they wanted to OWN me. Maybe I have been somewhat naive with these types, or maybe I have never been understood. The people that do understand me however, have also stood beside me all the while, but Hey, So did I stand next to them all the while, as well. And these contacts have only become stronger and more beautiful with time. The connections grew in freedom. Which I love so much. These people DO really know me and my quirky weird ways. More so, they love that about me....and can make me laugh about myself with them. Most so called past friends seemed to have had an incredible blind spot in the way I have been myself, and the way I have been there for them. They did not see it. See what I did for them. That is scarry you know? This made me ask for confesions about how I have been perceived by others for a long time. Now I know I AM a good person....as I was then. I have had many parasites in my life in the past who have made me feel unworthy and bad about my ways of personal living, who could only point out what I lacked and or wasn’t giving to them. So that is what I read between the lines about ENFP’s also. I think that most people don’t understand the ENFP (just like they don’t understand the INFJ). I have very good connections with the ISTJ and ESFJ’s (they teach me A LOT and balance me our in such a good way...they are so different from me and just because of that, very good for me). The ENFJ, very good friends, they SEE me and understand my ways. The INFJ in my life is my souls mirror, could not wish for a better partner than him. Every type has its beauty, but I realize that because of what I metioned, I’m more apt to people who feel familiar or safe to me.... *Edited in later: There are bad people in every type. I myself just can not relate to the manipulation part the way he explained it in this video. I have used white lies when I was younger. But only to make things more beautiful, to get myself out of difficult situations and to fulfill my imagination (I did this for my own survival as a child). Not by all means to do harm, or play nasty tricks on people. I have been played like that myself by others, like I said before (maybe by some other ENFP’s who knows). But, Manipulation is inbreaded in us all, you know? Namely to survive and get what we want in life. It begins with being a baby. They manipulate to survive, to get love from the parent. But about the ENFP. The questions are though, do you play people for a fool and harm them in any way by it? or do you want to make peoples worlds better by sharing something magical that they can use for their own lives? I’m disgusted by cruelty, gossip and hard lies, or the use of manipulation to do harm and it has always been that way. But I love magic (spirituality) and the imagination. These are totally different things. But I get the idea that they might be confused often for manipulation. If people (not only ENFP’s) see the value in the beauty of imagination and if they want to know the levels in there, it is up to them to connect with such levels.
I'm an ENFP, and I've noticed that the ESFJ is caring to everyone, but for some reason cruel to me, while the INTP (the animus of ESFJ) , conversely, is cruel to everyone but for some reason caring to me. Fun. ;)
ENFP here. I agree with a lot of the video. And can see the reasoning on why he feels so strongly towards enfp types. Learning from my interactions with other enfp’s we can actually be very different. So though I think he was spot on describing how we use our cognitive functions I don’t think it describes every Enfp. I have seen completely selfish enfps and selfless ones. And also how some of our actions can be deemed selfish. One thing I feel like only other enfps I’ve talked with can understand is in conversations I would always talk about how I feel about things. And it’s not to talk about myself it’s to show the other person how we relate and connect. And that’s why I love talking with other enfps. I JUST WANNA KNOW HOW YOU FEEL AND HOW IT ALL CONNECTS hahaha. In conclusion I think enfp is being really misunderstood in this video. It all depends on how developed a persons cognitive functions are on how that person acts.
@whit3ric3 I agree with you, thank you so much for connecting with other ENFPs, we need it so much. I guess in a hard world like this, we ENFPs have got to stick together 💞
C.S. Joseph, I recently discovered your videos, and I must say I'm impressed. Typically, I don't think anyone does a great job at representing the strengths and weaknesses of each type, or how these would relate to the given function stack. You do a great job, and with an impressive level of accuracy. I especially appreciate how you've made these videos, that you're honest, and that you don't shy away from sharing both the potential good, and the potential bad. People need to hear both, and the fact that everyone takes it personally instead of a learning opportunity is a bit embarrassing. As an INFJ, I appreciated the weaknesses that you shared, including the negative *personal experiences that you have had with INFJs. I think it's beneficial for people to hear the examples of what their weaknesses look like in a circumstance.
I don't think ENFPs initially are covering themselves with contracts. I think we often were burned so badly from our charitable side that we begin protecting ourselves. (And yes, I'm watching the virtue and vice video next.)
I think it’s untrue to call a healthy enfp a sales man and not to call them a diplomat we rally for the people not ideas, when an enfp stops putting Love first then they aren’t being authentic to themselves, because we love, love. An enfp that doesn’t love is something else because childlike with out love is not childlike at all.
INFP here, keeping the peace. I feel like when I watch CS's video, I search the comments about how much he dislikes this or that type. I feel like his information and the way he communicates is more realistic and true. He might not be saying what people want to hear but what they need to hear. And I think that is why I appreciate his videos so much because I can honor that he is willing to share all angles and not just the ones people want to receive. My sister is ENFP and this video has really opened a door for me to relate to her and who she is. Bad or good. I still love her.
Enfp is good at campaigns, coz thats their role in d world, everyone has a shadow function, depending on the environment, it doesn't have to be triggered though, we call it buttons, everyone has. This ENTP guy is just explaining the worst and best tendencies, it's up to the individual how he can handle himself. So kudos to C.S. for being truthful about this.
I am thankfully a very empathetic ENFP, and I'm grateful for the way you did this video. You've mirrored to me several things I didn't see about myself, and some that I did see and have been working on.
Hmmm... ENFP here... So, I'm well aware that ENFP has strong ability to influence others. I agree with many points of this analysis, but the general characterization of ENFP as an overall dark personality type that needs to be constantly reminded and prodded to lean away from the dark side is neither accurate nor fair. This appears to be more of a perception of the presenter based on what he has admitted himself to be some of his personal encounters with certain individuals. Unhealthy people - Liars, cheaters, bullies, narcissists, etc... come in all personality types. Now if the presenter claimed that it can be particularly dangerous when an ENFP is determined to deceive/cheat because of our ability to sway the perception and therefore the actions of large numbers of people - that I whole heatedly agree with! But, to paint a picture that this is ENFP's natural tendency unless steared in a positive direction is completely misleading. What I did appreciate: The discussion of the psychology behind ENFP insecurities and people pleasing tendencies is good and (from my perspective) accurate. Also, the fact that ENFP's can and do practically inhale knowledge and information is accurate. As an ENFP in technology, I had to learn early to embrace my "Si" in order to thrive in my career. I also understand what the presenter means by ENFP's being afraid to do new things. It just was not stated clearly. It's not actually that we are afraid of doing new things, it's that we're hesitant about acting on new potentially life altering paradigms for which we have no personal precedent of successes. ENFP Fi parent has to figure out and put safety nets in place before we venture forth so we can make sure that we'll be able to retreat/return to safety if the new world is not as we thought. Finally, I'm definitely a live and let live person - totally none violent. I have not been in a single fight in my life, not even as a child (I'm an adult over 40 right now). However, I have had some experiences where I've been deeply wronged as an adult, and I won't lie - the thoughts of what I would have liked to do for revenge were pretty severe - it takes an awful, awful lot to make an ENFP truly enraged - this is a seriously last, last, last resort for an ENFP because we ourselves know more than anyone how truly dangerous we can be. I think it's way less likely to be a physical altercation, and much more likely that we will destroy you (your business, job, social standing). We will also be careful that we are able to live well after the dust settles, hence our preference for handling things legally (presenter also got that part right).
As a fellow ENFP, thank you for leaving this comment, it's very informative. The presenter seems like he's being subjective, given his bad past experiences. It's saddening to see...
I’m enfp and unless I’m missing some serious self analysis I don’t identify with 80% of this. I can’t read fast, I don’t absorb everything I read haha and I love trying new things :)
You are missing SOME information. I'm an ENFP also, and what he doesn't fully explain in this particular video is that ENFPs do have a slow processing speed.
...and ENFPs being "the ultimate novelists" makes them super open to new things, yet they can also be afraid of actually having new experiences in real life.
It is what I call “honest guilt free manipulation”. Everyone regardless of personality type manipulate to achieve their goals in life in some way. Many lie. As an ENFP, I feel we do it open and honest, to allow you to chose to be manipulated. We just get our way most the time. You’re welcome
As an ENFP I know myself, I know my dark side, I know what I'm capable of and the effort I put forth to be a good person. This rundown is pretty spot on. This is actually really helpful as the bs unicorn and glitter stereotyping in most profiles for ENFP is enough to make me question the typing.
i only have one 'I was born to sparkle' T-shirt + only 1 unicorn shirt! ... but i'm shopping for another; and glitter is everywhere here....... yeah: fluffy-bunny ENFP here. but i HAVE been a badass...........
@@CSJoseph Hey ENFP here, Can you talk about how to get out of my family's guilt tripping? Every idea or career path that I see forward they shoot it down. Saying your no good at that, what good are you . And every time I think of leaving to go live out my dreams or ideas. They guilt trip me about how I am abandoning the family and being a bad son. I honestly feel trapped, like nothing I can ever do will fix the situation.
This guy is wrong about anything having to do with Fi. He's just right enough about part of it to actually mess everyone's perceptions up. And he thinks I'm all about perception? Dude. Status? He thinks we care about status? We ACTUALLY care about the truth... much more than this guy.
I'm an ENFP, and I think I don't really care about "popularity", but I do care about what the people I care about think of me to the point that if I feel like I've said ANYTHING wrong I start to overthink and I have a tendency to believe people hate me/ think I'm stupid. I also tend to try and be lowkey about service (which i love to do) because I don't want people to think I'm only doing it to gain favor in the eyes of others. I do agree with the fact that ENFPs twist the truth. I tend to do that to keep people happy (making and keeping people happy is probably one of my main focuses..?) I also agree with the fear of trying new things, unlike some people in this comment section. I LOVE learning and learning about new things and experiencing new things, but there have been PLENTY of times where new things have been kind of terrifying and the idea of doing them makes me uncomfortable. Sometimes I just want to stay in my own little comfort zone. the contracts thing is ABSOLUTELY true. I tend to be VERY afraid someone will "screw me over" if I don't pay attention to what they're REALLY saying. I also have a tendency to talk about myself and I HATE it, because I feel like I should be listening to other people and not taking up all the time making everything about me. A very insightful video and while I don't agree with absolutely EVERYTHING, you make very good points and you present a lot of quality information. Sorry for some of the odd, seemingly off topic points in my comment! Good day to you. :)
This video is so insightful and has given me a lot to think of! I never really understood Fe critic and Ti trickster but your explanation of these two is super helpful! I see the things you bring up in my own life and I’m so glad you spent the time to make this video! -ENFP
The first time I watched this Im quite defensive but as I watch this again it's so accurate. I'm an ENFP and I can be very selfish when I feel others don't care about me as much as I care about them. I always expect the same kindness that I offer, when I didn't get that I will stop caring. Usually people will be so clueless about it because they thought we are genuinely care for them, its true that we care for them but maybe deep down we did that to make us feel like a good person (some kind of self validation I guess). Thus when anyone violate us, or when we feel like we are not being appreciated, we will leave and we can appear to be really selfish but the truth is we are just protecting ourself from potential harm. So please don't depraved us. Thank you for this video, its a new perspective of ENFP that many didn't notice. ENFP are very complex, we are not those pixie unicorns and all rainbows, we are the grim too. Sorry for bad english
I am so excited to stumble upon your channel! Honestly, I kind of feel embarrassed by the comments made by my fellow ENFPs. Not sure what experience made me to always tried to look more into my dark side than anything, but that's what I prefer. I don't like when people calling me bubbly, it actually triggers some guilt because I think I presented myself that way when I really don't feel bubbly inside. I feel that knowing my weaknesses and try to overcome them is my strongest power. I agree with everything you said in the video and really am embarrassed at the thought that maybe 10-15 years ago I would have been thinking the same as some people in the comments below. Thank you for being honest. I perceived your honesty even when you would be blunt about it. Not everything should be coming in a pretty package and I am trying to teach myself that everyday.
Christiana Lester this guy is an expert who has dedicated years and years on the subject, sure he is a random guy but he definitely knows more about certain types than this other “random person” she has either got her type wrong (much more likely option) or she is in complete denial of her weaknesses, which in other words makes her extremely narcissistic and ignorant
ENFP's afraid to do new things??? Did you forget that we're Ne dom? We LOVE new experiences and hate seeing people resist them. We spend tons of energy trying to get others to try our latest discovery. We are the explorers! And I never buy books and absolutely don't read fast... but that could just be me... I read online all the time but I want the exact info I'm looking for... commiting to a whole book is way out there for me. I've never felt not smart. It feels like you have a lot of things confused between us and ESFP's and you're bias in their favor. The majority is accurate but there are a few things that just seem super left field. We're the most manipulative? Pretty sure you're thinking of ENFJ. We're liars? I think ESFP owns that title don't they? I've never heard anyone attibute all these nasty attributes to us that you do. Maybe you just know a lot of low class ENFP's? Thanks for the rest. Cheers!
Jeremy Christmas I respectfully disagree. Perhaps you have Se mixed up with Ne? Ne is not about giving other people new experiences, that is Se. However, after having an experience or taste of something for oneself, an Ne user would share it with others be cultivating their desires to do it. It’s all about what do you want? Vs. the Se approach: “Hey you should do this.” I recommend looking at my ENFJ vid, for comparison purposes.
C.S. Joseph No confusion. Perhaps a better way to put it is we try to enlighten people. No, we don't try to control people because we want them to do want we want like the ESFP does... we try to encourage and wake them up to the possibilities they're not seeing because we hate to see them in a rut or blind to what we were once blind to. I have an INTP son and as you accurately describe, he'll aviod unknown territory because it's safe. I did some of that early on due to not trusting the adults around me... but once I got out on my own and tried some stuff I found that I'd been missing out and have therefore embraced new experiences and wanted to help bring others out of their shell too. I've read this is common for us so I don't see what you mean that we're afraid of new experiences. Finding new ways to do things is what we're all about.
Jeremy Christmas Typically ENFPs can be agents of change for others not so much for themselves. Their insecurity in doing new things comes from their need to be comfortable. If doing something they haven’t done before causes them to be uncomfortable, then they become insecure. I recommend you watch the ENFJ vid for a nice comparison because they are closer to what you are describing.
C.S. Joseph I will but my mom is an ENFJ so I am familiar. They probably don't quite know who they are because they're so in tune with YOU and their Ni can see your future so clearly that they know just what you need to do at all times... and they'll manipulate or sabotage you (whatever it takes) to see to it that you follow that path for your own good. They mean well, but it's control and that's different from we ENFP's. We don't think we know the "right way" or if there even is truly such a thing... we hope not... and we don't like to control or be controlled. ENFJ's sort of seem to want to protect people... but we want to free them. We love exploring all options and are very open to different ways of doing things... they are not. I find ENFJ's funny and we can usually laugh together but they will sometimes just up and get offended by something I say that isn't meant to be offensive and isn't taken to be by other types. It always comes as a surprise to me and they usually seem to feel that I'm calling them stupid when I'm pointing out something that's interesting or funny like I've been doing our whole visit. Yes, it's usually something about them... but 85% of the time it's okay to laugh at them and be light hearted... but all of sudden they'll just get insecure (inferior Ti) and I'll have to smooth their feathers for them. We ENFP's do like to be comfortable, I'll give you that... but I would suggest that Ne dominant eventually demands change over comfort as stagnation is more uncomfortable than anything else. This is why we are great entrepreneurs and terrible employees... we have to have change and we have to innovate.
Jeremy Christmas your description of ENFJs sounds more ISFJs. Also, Ni cannot see into others futures, just their own. Ne is what is used to see into others futures. I recommend you review the INFJs type video as well. Thanks.
I'm an ENFP. I disagree with the statement that we don't value the truth. I agree we can be selfish, but I disagree with not feeling empathetic. I've allowed my empathy to keep me from moving forward. I agree with getting inside people's heads and controlling people's perceptions. I agree with feeling stupid though. I love to read, but I don't feel like I have enough time to get into them. I don't know how to speed read though.
If ENFPs feel rejected and not accepted as part of another group then that's when we become depraved, b/c what does it matter if other people don't want us?
Hmm, I do agree with him on this actually, I do very much believe that truth is unobtainable, and that we are just grasping at straws of things that we can never comprehend. However, despite that I can't escape that 2 + 2 = 4, there is truth in this realm of existence, albeit not the truth I search for.
Exactly I don't wanna a miss of info so I don't really make good judgments about it affect the world until a random moment occurs that gets me thinking bout ut
I have never felt so confused about being an enfp in my life. Somethings matched up but the selfishness and taking advantage of someone. The being to predict how someone is going to act. The branding confused the hell out of me. Truth is so important to me, the real truth. I have on multiple times been taken advantage of because I have taken what was face value and didn't read fine print.
Thank you for telling people the emotionally detached truth. • • The beauty of this guys content (primarily this video) is that there’s no pandering. To just say the same a generic description: Energetic, Warm, quick thinking; surface level functions, actually devalue the Enfp type into a mold that makes them LESS unique & sophisticated. To show the full cognitive spectrum: standard stack 1-4, shadow functions, (infj) reverse functions (istj) & *Super* *iD* (Estp) gives us a better understanding, and appreciation of what happens to this type under pressure. If the ENTJ/ESTJ type can be criticized for crass mannerisms, (lack of emotional consideration) then EVERY type should be afforded the same level of scrutiny. Last point (as though this wasn’t long already 😏) notice how no RUclipsr presents a critique of this personality type. I always say, if someone is telling you what your doing wrong, that means everyone else is seeing it, but not telling you. At least you *NOW* know from someone who has nothing to gain by telling you an inconvenient truth.
hehehe I'm an INFP and found chase in a small NT server, I was the only one who gave him benefit of the doubt and after a year still follow all his videos 😌
I really appreciate this comment. It will do none of us any good to have fairy dust blown up our ass. I have an istj husband and an estj daughter and they are a joy. Thank God the world has them. We would not want our society in the hands of ENFPs by and large.
In all honesty, I don't find this description to be all that far off. I believe this is my mothers personality type. My mother is most definitely a selfish woman but, also very surprisingly giving and she expresses her charity side gloriously. Which I quite admire. She's indeed manipulative at times and indeed was abusive towards her children. It's important to remember that even though our personality types can sound awful and horrid, that doesn't mean this is set in stone. For simplicity sake, I guess you could look at it as a personality who is more PRONE to this behavior and thought pattern IF they don't reach within and tap/use other available cognitive functions. If WE as a people don't watch ourselves and don't put forth efforts to be the best we can be, we are ALL prone to our NATURAL negative personality patterns. So, no need to feel "attacked" or "offended" by this. I didn't like my own "weaknesses" but, this is something we must face if we want to be our best. -INFJ
if i had a nickel for every time anyone called me biased on anything NFP, I would be richer than bezos. I am not here to not be biased by the way. Take it all with many grains of salt, while simultaneously trying to prove me wrong... because you can't.
@@CSJoseph I feel like people in these comments have very strong opinions of themselves and just got a bit butt hurt, you gave a lot of positive opinions about the ENFPs and it seems like everyone is dwelling on the negatives. I'm an INTP and comparing the comments of the ENFP and INTP videos are honestly a bit comical how differently it was taken.
@@oliviarock3127 Yeah, really. ISFP here, and his video on ISFPs was harsher than this, but we, for the most part, took it pretty well from what I saw compared to here, even though we have Te inferior. Do people not know what tough love is? Self-improvement requires accepting hard truths, which CS Joseph is more than happy to provide for our good.
@@oliviarock3127 I'm an ENFP and my husband is an INTP, I can see that too. But I watch a lot and read alot on ENFP and INTJ and INTP they are all very similar in a lot of ways that I think the way he explains his opinions doesn't resonate with a lot of ENFPs only because of they way he expressed them. As an ENFP, I will point out something if i think it's incorrect but just to state a different perception not meant to be rude or inconsiderate. I think that's where a lot of us ENFPs come from but are misinterpreted.
Got to say.... Your awesome! I really appreciate your honesty. I am an enfp and I seriously loved your perspective of how I think. Alot of our mistrust and inability at times to be 100 percent trusting... Has alot to do with deeply engraved betrayal by the education system at a very vulnerable time in our upbringing. The way we learn doesn't translate well in grade school. A resentment for authority and a mistrust for anyone trying to help us gets created. I personally had great family support. But we get so many labels, inattentive, lazy, said to have a learning disability. I honestly was intune with people around me so I never felt inferior and there were penalties for not learning like the rest. So when we get older and our knowledge pool never quits growing. We are extremely generous but also carry a chip on our shoulder. You never have to tell an enfp how to learn, or to seek knowledge. It's a very natural and unconscious commitment that we do it. We also have to do it on our terms. Perspective, knowledge, refinement of our own logical systems and the ability to correlate. Give us a view of the world and an Intuition unlike any other. It was a very respectful and effective approach of keeping conscious of the potentially manipulative side I've my personality that rarely comes to the surface. But I know it's TRUE and definitely exists. I'll be saving this video to keep myself in check. Well done. Best enfp video I've seen by far. Thank you
Will watch the video through, just to adress the comments: As a fellow ENFP I definitely agree manipulation IS something we might do, but we DONT do it out of malice. We aren‘t schemers, we‘re way too high energy, positive and interested in people and way too easily bored to even think of *plotting* something mean or manipulative. I‘d never do that. However! However! As I think people and their lives are super interesting i‘ve definitely been in this situation: Me: Do you think you‘ll stay working in this field? Other person: Starts to open up, but I can tell they are still a little in their shell Me: Furiously thinks how I can get them to open up in a different way, in a second has found another route of conversation that works better. Honesty time; I have done this (this sounds so bad lol) just because I found someone interesting, or their life, their outlook interesting while I definitely didnt really care about them. I guess some people could find that very mean and very selfish. But it‘s out of the pure intention of wanting to *understand* people and their motives, it‘s like building a constant puzzle piece of the world. If we don‘t get a piece every hour at least, we get bored. But honestly, think what you want, I am PROUD that I am always the first one to assure people to know their valuable and good and cool. Anyway, i just can‘t stand people being sad around me, or being unhappy with themselves.
I think the manipulation part is very true for us. It doesn’t have to mean we’re manipulating you to do things, it could be even in just seeing us in a certain way. I feel maybe sometimes we lack our own identity due to it because we’re in a fight to be admired, and we use whatever little skills we have or more skills we develop over time to manipulate people into viewing us as a specific person.
I don't know about you but since childhood, I've been on a quest for Truth and freedom from societal pressures and lies that keep us imprisoned. I know in my teens and possibly even in my 20's I looked at approval, acceptance, and admiration from others but come 30, it was like a light switch went off. The ultimate freedom is to not care about other people's opinion about you. Do the right thing but don't care if anyone sees it or admires it or labels you as good. Be good & Do good for the sake of making yourself proud, no one else.
As an INFP who came here trying to figure his girlfriend out and help her be happier this whole videos a hard pill to swallow. This whole branding thing is just wow. To me I can’t see anyone being happy unless people are recognizing them for who they are but if who someone is is how people perceive them then it doesn’t matter who you actually are as long as they are seen the way they want to be seen. This kills my whole “morality is objective and must think like me cause I’m an introverted idealist” vibe.
On point about manipulation + selfishness. 👍 It’s something that ENFPs must watch out for. Ps: I’m so thankful for Ti users. Your criticism is good for the soul. I find it encouraging.-ENFP
We can become “evil” only when attacked. Public shaming (unacceptable), social manipulation on us (yes, we are aware, accepted sometimes anyway), any type of taking advantage of us- triggers to defend ourselves by any means. We love people too much to do that otherwise. I’m starting to read more books though. Thank you for that 😀
@@CSJoseph Yeah... I am sorry for that. That was initial shock for criticism I guess. It was before realising that I really do not mind to be in charity or depravity mode as other thing are important to me and I am looking for some guides in your videos. Thank you for your reply, I am honoured, I am big fan of your work.
Heyyyy! Ik it's been a while since you posted this, but I would like to apologize on behalf of the ENFP who hurt you. I promise not all of us are like that. Speaking from experience, most of us ENFPs can be very naive because of our empathy and give too much of ourselves without setting boundaries, which almost always ends up backfiring and makes us wanna run away. Another thing I can say about us is we don't like making promises we can't keep, so when we make a promise, we'll state all terms and conditions so that you know exactly what to expect. You're right on some of the things you said, like us always leaving a door open in case we feel uncomfortable. The way out is almost always something we didn't mention in the terms and conditions of the promise. (notice how I've said "almost" always twice - there's always going to be exceptions or things we're unsure of. We absolutely do not condone lying unless it's a white lie, something innocent and fun that can't hurt or that we strongly believe can't hurt)
I choose to look at it like this though: if he wants to deliberately focus on a person's worst qualities, to make an entire demographic the bad guys, that is just going to have to be his problem. If, with his intelligence he decides that he is going to focus only on a group's worst case scenario traits, he is not likely going to appreciate the good when he sees it. I know who I am, he does not.
I had an encounter with an ISTJ, this were the time I wasn't aware of the Myer-Briggs Personality types. It was my first time encountering this type of person and now It makes me so curious even though we don't communicate anymore. and I'm so glad I was able to learn about myself and others as well. This is truly an eye opener.
I figured out for certain I'm an INFJ, and that's why I've always felt so misunderstood by literally everyone I know. Literally everything you said in your INFJ video resonates deeply for me, so much so that it made me cry for feeling so understood for once.. but at first I thought for sure that I was an ENFP.. but then figured out that I'm the intuitive judging type, and a see it through type, and an introvert.. So my question is.. How can an INFJ think they are an ENFP? I kind of get it..but at the same time the shadow thing doesn't make sense to me >. < Also.. the reason I am obsessed with watching your videos might have something to do with being INFJ. Like you said, you as an ENTP teach INFJ's
I listened to this episode again in a month. Since it was too much to digest the first time. I have to agree with almost everything he said in this vid. THere's always a corner in my mind that's worrying about what I'm gonna get in whatever scenario I'm in. And I'm secretly knowing how to gain slightly more advantage in whatever situation I'm in all the time. It takes me a while to truly admit it. Thank for cs Joseph making these videos, I will keep those warnings in mind and I truly hope I can humble myself and be a great person.
I find the video intriguing, and I realise I have a lot more to learn and watch out for. I definitely relate to some things mentioned, while some of the examples are roughly opposite to my experience. Some of the people and characteristics closely describe the only kinds of people I have real difficulty being around, find toxic, and can't relate to-"salesy"/"businessy" people that never stop trying to convince you that their mission is better than whatever you want, manipulating you into submission as their grateful student. You can never relax and enjoy their company, as they're constantly trying to get you to affirm to yourself that you agree with them, and you always have to be on your guard, trying to read them so as to avoid agreeing to sell them your soul by accident. To hear that someone so narcissistic and draining could have the same MBTI type as me is mind-boggling and something I really need to learn more about. Thanks for the video.
May I ask how did you come to these findings on ENFPs? Some of your thoughts on the type is very atypical to what I have read or what I have experienced with myself as an ENFP or my ENFP friends and acquaintances. Is your perception of ENFP based from your interaction with the ENFPs you met in your life? It’s so interesting how different ENFPs can be from one person to another.
Wut Suthirachartkul I came to these findings as A result of combining the cognitive functions and expressing the data flow between each function with in the four sides of the mind of an ENFP. My type profiles do not come from other sources. However I do use Linda Berens to explain the interaction styles and Plato to explain the temperaments. As far as people being different yes some people are mature versus immature or more developed than others. Also people who take the test and up getting the wrong results which just leads to confusion and then no one in general is able to know how a type would typically behave.
I think it could be his high focus on "sales" in this video. If you replace that with "convincing" --which is basically what sales is-- you have an ENFP who could convince you of anything. This is something I really recognise (and love, and love to hate) about ENFPs. For instance, I know a lot of ENFPs who have moral problems with sales, marketing, consumerism, capitalism etc and therefore dislike sales but they can be very convincing / advocating for a cause they do feel morally aligned with. I also know a lot of ENFPs who don't have a moral problem with sales or certain aspects of capitalist society and they seem to be more inclined with this view of marketing and branding. It's the same concept of convincing others but sometimes it expresses itself differently.
Joy B SUPER-TRUE!!! You really said it: my problem with Corporations/consumerism/sales&marketing : i find the current state of affairs re this stuff to be pretty abhorent. thanx
I'm not saying everything you said is false, but I see lots of bias and extreme language here :/. Can you make a video where you focus on more neutral view of the ENFP? I just don't see how this video can be truly useful except to put people in a defensive state with ENFP. I think you're focused on your perception of the ENFP, rather than focusing on the cognitive as you claim. I was deeply discouraged by this and hope you can use your videos to encourage people. I hope this encourages you to know maybe others aren't as bad as you make them out to be.
andreae3 I mean the extreme language is still factual and the point of the video is to tell you what enfps are all about and not to make you feel better. He does the same with other types
Some of the stuff he said I don't think many ENFPs would recognise. That stuff about being good at law and 'reading the fine print' is weird. We are notoriously bad with detail.
@Gigi P: I'm an ENFP - i admit I am enthusiastic about things and can make anything sound good if I truly believe in it. BUT (and this is big but), the profession of sales does not feel genuine to most ENFPs. We are all about authenticity. Our Fi HATES it if we're not being genuine / true to ourselves. So, OK, there are some ENFPs who have been lucky enough to find something they truly believe in (with their own businesses that sell ideas of whatever) and they can passionately sell that. But I would argue that a VERY SMALL pecentage of ENFPs fall into that bracket. Selling for something we don't believe in (which is the majority of things, especially to ENFPs, let's be honest) would overwhelm us with anxiety. I speak from experience.
This is the most accurate ENFP video I have ever come across especially about their manipulative sales tactic. No other ENFP videos speak the brutal truth about them. I’ve always wondered if I was the only one who sees through the ENFPs illogical lies and their status driven attitude - if I was the bad guy in seeing a different perspective of them whereas many dismiss ENFPs as the happy go lucky people who have so much empathy for people. They can never do harm and are always cheerful. No, ENFPs are imperfect people just like everyone else who have extremely dark sides to them at times. Tired of ENFPs always justifying their selfish actions as wholesome without any facts to back it up. Now I have a better understanding of their thinking. Thank you for this video!
I think you may have had a bad experience with an ENFP. There is bad in all personality types. Absolute truths do not exist, except for good coffee.... good coffee exists.
I lost my dad to a heart attack 13 years ago, so I wondered for a long time about what his type could've been. So to satisfy my curiosity I gathered my mom and my sister together, and we went through your personality test from the perspective of my dad. He was typed as an ENFP, which at the time had me scratching my head. This video pretty much confirms that test result. The man lived in the library. Lived in it. He would go 4 or sometimes even 5 days a week. We actually made fun of him for it a lot when I was a kid, because he would come back with a stack of books from each visit, and he'd read every single one of them. Holy sh!t. I almost feel bad about that now.
It seems like a love/hate relationship. He hates em cuz he has a lot of experience w em. But the mass of experience indicates an attraction to them that led to the culminated experiences, I think.
The fact that I'm an ENFP that no one listens to makes me not relate to this video, cause the ENFP described is an ENFP in charge, a buisnessman ENFP, a leader ENFP 🤷♂️ Those ENFP are actually lucky that ppl listen to them. Maybe the reason why ENFP appear so kind is bc no one listen to them, so no one can trigger their bad sides? (Theory)
When he said ENFPs can read and retain I was shocked. I have a very bad memory and the few ENFP I have met have bad memories, especially during adulthood.
enfps have really great memories in my experience.They have Si inferior.If your enfp is having issues with memory that badly then its probably cuz they are not getting challenged enough to develop their inferior function which is necessary to be at peace with yourself and explore other sides of you.Or else they might just be mistyped or underestimating themselves .
we are horrible at recalling short term obligations related issues. but our long term memories are very strong. i can recall my childhood like it was just yesterday (i'm 32 by the way) but can't for the love of gawd remember to what i wanted to do this afternoon even though i have been meaning to do it since the last two weeks! and worse, it needed to be done because without it, i'll get in trouble! but noooo.... i'd still forget. but! i'd remember that song i haven't listen to in 10 years, no problem.
Hey, I remember really liking to read when I was a child and going through books quickly, but now in my adulthood I don’t read anymore. I think I stopped finding novelty in fiction and for anything intellectual, there’s always a really good podcast or video somewhere. Also later I discovered that I was chronically ill and my brain is spotted like a newborn Dalmatian, which is were the lack of attention for reading might come from. I am also extremely forgetful so even if I read something, I am likely to forget it. New information last in my head about 3 days before I have to refresh them. And I also don’t know how much of it is the illness and how much it’s just me. But I think even if you’re hundred percent healthy, you can still be forgetful. That could do with your childhood (weather you were encouraged to read, or like me, constantly being told to “snap back into the real world and socialise”. Weather you were praised for explaining your parents what you’ve read, or ridiculed for reading the wrong things), or with your attitude towards being stupid. For example I know that it’s not going to get better now (not because of the illness, I just reached a conclusion that reading won’t make me permanently smart. Only smart for about 3 days), so I just came to term with being stupid. Everyone has their place in society, there are smart people, and there are stupid people and it there weren’t stupid people smart people would never know they are smart. Hopefully my strength lies somewhere else. Maybe in making sales deals like Chase said :) .
@@ImmortalGaming551 pretty sure he actually meant short term memory. I often forget what I ate for my breakfast the other day but have a quite vivid memory of some childhood moments.
I’m an ENFP and have been aware of my potential to manipulate. It is an area I put conscious effort to make sure that my efforts don’t have much manipulation. But that being said I have typed all my staff members and my boss and I go though their personality profile before conversation to make sure I communicate well and persuade them well. But I always make sure I check in with myself to evaluate how morally appropriate I have been.
Just another comment, the whole video had a negative spin to it......outside of your personal criminal friend who was an ENFP gone wrong did you have other encounters with ENFP's? My perception is that since your video is the only one so far that describe ENFPs in a bad light that perhaps you had a bad personal experience. The people I have encountered in my life who view me unkindly are usually people of either a narcissistic personality or someone who really didn't like being read because the ENFP could tell when they were lying. So which MBTI personality are you? And have you had any other personal encounters with ENFPs besides the criminal friend of yours?
I have had many encounters with ENFPs. THe problem is that most people who believe they are ENFPs are not ENFPs because mistyping is well over 50% of people in general because of how flawed the tests are. I recommend verifying their types through the Berensian model taught in my lecture playlist titled: "How to type yourself and others" Also, watch my most recent lecture on ENFPs in the ENFP playlist and tell me if you judgments of me still ring true.
I love this content. Thank you for pointing out the superpower behind reading to gain insight, knowledge, and wisdom. I'm studying nutrition in the hopes of being a help to others but the broader goal is to help others find direction and their paths. So the fact you said ENFP's are pathfinders made me excited. Seriously not offended at all
ENFP through and through. Status is the last thing on my mind and I’ve always seen people who value status as vacuous. I don’t think status is an ENFP value because it is antithetical to authenticity, which is one of our highest core values.
this was a very interesting video. as an ENFP I definitely did identify with a lot of it including the negative elements. I am certainly selfish at times. and I do have a tendency to surround myself with people who are smarter than I am deliberately, because I am always wanting to gain more knowledge to better myself and to better the world around me. I find bettering myself to be a positive way I can make a contribution to the world. I can pay forward the good knowledge I retained and pass it on. I am also an Avid Reader who researches any subject I find interesting to death. but I don't agree or feel that I am necessarily the type of individual who others would ever have a need to read the fine print with. I am actually quite generous and would rather walk away from a friendship or relationship leaving them with everything and I can leave empty-handed feeling no malice toward them. I have no vindictive bone in my body! I am not a materialistic person also. The only thing I would want to protect is my heart from being hurt by someone taking advantage of my kindness and generosity. this is not the kind of safeguarding that requires any retaliation however. any personality type can become a Bad Apple. but that doesn't mean that one is predisposed to being worse than another kind. we all have different weaknesses and strengths. a bit of the commentary seems biased. still, it was fun to watch and I appreciate your contributions to the subject, as I am new to understanding my personality through the Myers-Briggs lens.
As someone who has gone to war against an unhealthy, totally depraved ENFP, I think this is spot on. You have have tremendous composure and plan all the way to the end.
you have had bad experiences with some unhealthy ENFPs (which i am sorry about it) but a lot of things that you said are not facts but personal thought based on your harsh experiences .you are biased.
I wont deny bias.. ever. But at the same time, most people who criticize me for knowing unhealthy ENFPs instead of healthy ones are usually not ENFPs themselves due to mistypes and poor test taking. Is it possible that this happened to you? How would you describe a healthy ENFP?
Honestly I found everything to be true. But perhaps I’m used to being self-critical and self developing so I genuinely like hearing my bad side. He’s right- critical Fe whips me into shape so fast. And drives me. It’s almost like Fi wants Fe really but forgets on the rare occasion. I’ve also only now understood why I’m in the one who is usually obsessed with fine print and building contracts in business. I seem to care about that way more than most. This explanation goes beyond stereotypes and into the functions. So I see it. Also the majority of this was very positive in my eyes?!? World changers for a better future? Persuasive? Logical? Speed readers? Cares about others but needs self-care in order to do so? Profound grasp on “truth”? It’s good to be an ENFP :)
I don't understand why so many ENFPs are getting so defensive! This video is the truth. Maybe it's the point you brought up about not liking truth. (I personally SEEK truth) This shows what ENFPs can become when unhealthy. As an ENFP I agree with the video. Maybe not the whole business talk, felt a little bit too grounded for this unicorn 🦄 😂
I'm an ENFP, I am trying my best to get out of the habit of lying to try and make myself sound smarter, keep a conversation interesting, or hiding shame. It's intresting how I can be unashamedly myself and open with people, yet try to manipulate others to make them have a higher opinion of me.
Got here because of Alex Jone's typing. That made me confused(probably because of sleep deprivation my brain can't process it anymore). Posted this comment before watching lol. -INTP Edit: I saw a lot of complains again about how you talked. You did it to everyone and I don't know why would they want to be comforted by you. Everyone have imperfections, you're just explaining how their cognitive function works and they think you're criticizing them lol.
Patata Their whining proves his point. (Fe criticism gets the job done) There’s no logical rebuttal, only pushback saying he must’ve had bad experiences with *some* #Enfp The problem is, nobody else cares enough to tell this type how they come off. So when they hear the slightest condemnation/putdown the tears & accusations fly! (Who hurt you?) 😂🤣
I wonder how many miss the point that you giving your own advice and little pushes is still manipilation, so CS is still correct. Manipulation doesn't have to be malicious.
Was hoping to watch a video that could help me better understand myself and others. Seems that you have let your experiences jade your view of this personality type. There are many videos of I have watched on ENFP and this one has been the least informative. You talked mainly about your perception as opposed to the unbiased strengths, weaknesses, and functions of them. Talking about ENFP's enthusiasm for experience, contemplative nature, need for fun, intuition to read between the lines, deep empathy for others that draws their value system, creativity, communication skills, and affection while also conveying the weaknesses of their intensity for being deep, lack of focus, seclusion from others, and emotional reactive tendencies would have been a lot better...there were many characteristics that you labeled as an ENFP that were off, keep in mind associating with crappy immoral people will always get you burned no matter the personality type.
Totally agree. This guy seems to have a very commercial, American, corporate interpretation, and been burned in that. I have seen many more effective readings. Like many on here, an English teacher of over 20 years , that's an interesting thread in itself. Also burned out by workload and out.
ENFP here. I’ve struggled before, morally, with my manipulative ability. Because I'm so in tune with others, i dont need to think about it to make them sing a tune i like. Easily, i can spot a person who'll do what i want and get them to do it. It happens unconsciously because I've grown up doing so to keep myself safe. For a while, i identified as a villain (Insane by Gryph0n describes the energy well). I rationalized that doing what is good for me and not others is what a villain would do. I wouldnt stop thinking about others, i simply shifted from using that info for their benefit to using it for my benefit. THIS ISNT EVIL, ive now grown to understand. Hurting others purposely? Yes, bad. Though sometimes necessary. Moving the pieces strategically to befriend someone you like and manipulating them into letting you help them out? You've just created a nurturing environment with your insight. Take pride, not shame, in that. Sure you did it cuz YOU wanted the friendship, but its not bad to want and they benefited too I was a very anxious person for a LONG time. We gud now tho 🤪
I have spent the last six months believing that I am an INFP but bc of your videos, they have helped me realize that I think I’m an ENFP - still not for sure, but this hits closer to home even more for me than the INFP video did.
I think this is near spot on especially for myself as an enfp typed person. When Ive considered the worst possible versions of myself, the person I've grown into & the good/bad potentials I still hold, this seems accurate enough.
ENFP here - I've never seen a more negative, sinister review of ENFP's. "Bad" ENFP's are out there just like all other types. I'm not a salesperson type and actually steer clear of sales people....and certainly don't think I'm a "brand". I DO value freedom and authenticity above all else and am frequently described as "magical" in my understanding of people and the prism with which I look at the world. But I strive very, very hard at using my "powers" for good. We have the ability to influence, yes. But influence doesn't translate to "manipulate".
The Video was pretty freaky I won’t lie. It spoke very truly about myself. The points about reading and absorbing were spooky. I have tirades where I take one subject and absorb and consume everything about it and move on to the next. Keeping long term knowledge especially. I brushed over Romeo and Juliet one day and 2 years later in class I was leading by answering every very question as though I read it the night before. My reputation is everything to me. Cultivating a brand as you spoke. Making sure what I offer is sought after. I’m monster competitive with people who try and offer what I do. I’ve needed a friend to keep talking to me in order to not try and destroy one of my best friends because of how uncomfortable he was making me. How foreign it was. The truth thing is spot on. I have never considered myself lying at all in my life. I just said what people wanted to hear or expected to hear or what lined up. I find myself convincing people to do this and that without any trouble. I’m not a psychopath. I don’t make a conscious effort to do this stuff it just oozes out naturally if I don’t have a reminder to not be self focused on my own growth. When I am empathetic I get everyone to push past their best in the gym. Or to heal from trauma or prevent suicide. The counterbalance of both sides is real spooky. Thanks for the video mate it was amazing to watch
"in the absence of evidence or explanation, perception becames reality"... Well you say we intjs jump to conclusions fast. Wouldn't judging by mere perceptions be even faster than searching the real "whys"?
You can literally grasp types on how for example INTP take criticism by Chase (laughing and blushing that ooops someone finally got them) vs ENFP (who by the way were not more under the loop as others) many of whom get subjectively offended :) Love the videos and comments as well, so clear.
Idk if you mix something up, cause normally the infj is the advocate and the enfp is the Champigner. An I as an enfp do care about the truth! That IS one of the things that do extrem matter to me! I am very confused and sad about the things you are saying cause it doesn't feel like matching to me while other videos about the enfp talk different and other things than you do
Hi Chase, Love yourself first and foremost. It’s the one rule to rule them all. The one truth that leads to everyone’s individuation/enlightenment. ❤ BTW, I’m from Sacramento and hope you’re doing well in the Bay. Thanks for making your videos! 🙏
I believe I have developed my FE so I always try to help others. I control my bluntness now to not hurt others. However, in the past, I have been unhealthy and have been a bit self-centered so I understand where the criticism is coming from. Don’t think I’ve ever manipulated anyone for bad though. Thanks for the video!
Being an enfp you nailed it...yes I've handed out my share of beat-down over the years and now am understanding myself better recently...HA!..thanks for the spot-on analysis...loved it!..much love to you and whomever reads this thread ♡..empathy...yes,important...
As an ESTP, I did sort of got run over like that by an ENFP. She made a campaign against me because I wronged her, and she already or quickly had everything prepared where I first had to put myself into what was going on. So I lost the case, failing to fully acknowledge and get control of all of it. This brings so much clarity to how that happened haha. Thanks, man. (By the way, one of my best friends now whom I consider a soulmate is an ENFP, and we really bring out the best in each other such as I call out on her mistakes and where she can improve with others, and make her feel not depressed, whereas she makes me kinder and goes along on most journeys I introduce. Funny how that works.)
I’m an enfp and i can’t lie but i can manipulate lol.. My ex husband is an ENTP and he became a self made millionaire by basically reading about getting grants for business. He however does lie on the regular ugh love this video!
Bath Krak Unlimited LLC LOL while you're theoretically at odds compatibly! Your Ne makes you wonderful metaphysical dancers :) & you must have a beautiful emotional experience
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*C.S. Joseph is the type of guy that'll correlate the way you sneeze to your Meyer's Brigg test*
if I plug my nose to hold the sneeze what kind I am?
@@moremorettmoretto200 My guess is INFJ. Was I close?
@@moremorettmoretto200 dead
Meyer's Brigg
@@TheBittenBullet I've done that before, good guess.
Are ENFP's manipulative? They certainly have the means to be, but I don't think the vast majority act on it. The central tool that an ENFP can use to become a skillful manipulator is, ironically, their well-honed empathy. They can immediately see the deepest, most personal desires of others and step into the skin of another person almost effortlessly. If an ENFP remains healthy, they will stay in a field of work that inspires them to be soulful, compassionate, and creative in a way that utilizes their overflowing empathy positively. But if an ENFP directs that empathy to tap into the materialistic, superficial wants of modern society (as I feel someone like Tai Lopez and other super gurus do), they can read the cravings of the masses in a way no other type can, and will reap a very lucrative but ultimately dark harvest. I think a much more positive, everyday example of an ENFP would be your stereotypical English teacher who is creative and quirky, helped you discover your favorite author and the joy of reading, and inspired you to reach your potential in life.
Enfp here. Thank you for bringing this my attention. I 100% agree it’s this strong empathy we have that can make us manipulative. I think it’s prob stated better that we are EXTREMELY INTUITIVE and because Of that power we then can manipulate situations. So, it’s not that we’re manipulative it’s just that we’re able to manipulate situations, Im not sure if that makes sense but that’s what’s connecting with me. The word “Manipulative” has such a bad connotation.
i am insanely good at picking up what another person needs/wants because I’m so hypersensitive to another’s energy, verbal & non verbal cues. And i can sense what they need or are wanting. this has made me HIGHLY successful. & being able to read & absorb so much has expanded my skill set &knowledge.
I think Tai Lopez really is inspiring others to achieve, his tactic prob is manipulative, however, I think he is doing more good than harm. Same with Tony Robbins and other gurus.
XD I'm a stereotypical friendly English teacher ENFP but I don't think, after experience, that teaching suits ENFPs
@@achilleaben4761 ENFP teacher and I hate teaching. I have many reasons behind this but it does not fit me at all, way too constrictive.
@@tomb3869 same with me !
I'm an ENFP but never have I ever been manipulative. Nor am I selfish. I've watched many videos as well and this has never been said in any of them. I really think he is mixing this up with another type because ENFP is the campaigner not the advocate. The advocate is INFJ and my best friend is one, he is describing her to a T!
Damn, what did I ever do to you. -ENFP
ehat did u do?
Emo manipulation 😂
Trust it's not you it's him.
I feel like I’m being called out. But I can’t deny it. At my worst I can be manipulative and very cruel with my words. Like how he said ENFPs can sell you anything for being persuasive. ENFPs can also chew you up and spit you out with their words. If you hurt them enough and they feel it’s justified they can really cause some damage and point out every insecurity in another individual. It’s rare but when it happens we don’t hold back.
"point out every insecurity in another individual" why is this so trueeee dksnxjs
Yes! I just hold all that I have inside, but I do say it, holy shit..... I did this to my mom who used to always say bad stuff to me and to put me down. When I finally answered her properly, she was just 😶😶😶😶 QUIET!!!!!
You sure that's not because you're a woman? Women specialize in being cruel with their language. Not an expert in enfps, so idk.
@@mango38628 Im a male enfp and i feel this way too. I kinda feel like i know peoples weak spot but I try to never use this.
Alot of thi stuff belongs to a negative ENFP , when a enfp is positive and balanced. They are generous, value oriented, sensitive, original and great leaders. They are not organized or too logical more emotional than anything
Agreed. Please review the virtue and vice vid for the ENFP where I talk about how charitable they are.
Vani Perez
The funny part about what your saying is, you’re not factoring in that most people can’t tell mature, immature, healthy, or damaged, all they see if the image in front of them, Sensing types are less inclined to look beyond what’s presented to them.
So it’s best to have someone (an Ne Dominate no less) let us know how Enfp’s can come off, because An SJ type will not look beyond the crazy behavior.
@@jtotheohn1253 exactly, that's true for all types.
I am pretty damn sure I have Joker from Batman as demonic archetype and Laughing Buddha as angelic archetype.
I'm an INTJ (i.e ESFP subconscious)
My twin flame is an ENFP she is awesome but most just see her as crazy. I myself am a INFJ. We are both born on the same day one year apart and fit every sign of twin flame including our MBTI 🤣
@@XxxXxx-gq2qy The enfp lawyer I know does personal injury commercials, poses in front of an empty courtroom, and has 50 fake positive reviews. One of those.
‘These people are brands”
Me: Russell Brand is an ENFP
Me too!
Russel Brand is an ENTP that knows how to market himself to the NFs. See his pank call of an old man (Andrew Sachs who played Manuel in Fawlty Towers) to tease him about his grand-daugher being a stripper. Fi Allergic like Jonathan Ross.
I didn't think this description is negative at all and I am an ENFP. Every MBTI personality has the potential of having a "dark side". Depends on whether or not we are actively trying to be a good person. The qualities in our personality types, no matter what they are, have the potential of being used for good or bad. It's part of what makes it so fascinating! Thank you for putting the video together and giving me some items to think about.
Isn't Enfp called the "campaigner"? He keeps saying "advocate". When I look up the "advocate", I see INFJ.
John Otterstedt Yes
ENFP is consider to be Champions. That is the hero / villain he is talking about.🤣🤫 we know it ok to have bumps in the road.
Yes, the ENFP is the campaigner he is mixing them up and causing confusion. I stopped watching on account of his lack of expertise. But hey, he's doing more than i am right now. I just can't trust it because of this disconnect. But that's just me...
@@leanngoeken7144 He likely got mixed up because INFJ is the ENFP unconscious. What a shitty way to discredit someone. Go look in the mirror man.
Different sites just call it different things..nothings set it stone, except for the cognitive functions ofc
Completely agree with you about the library bit! I read A LOT as an ENFP. I love gathering information, ideas, research etc.
StarlightnDust aw!!!! that's so cute and beautiful ~ what do you like to read & what are you reading now?
@@空内 sorry didn't see your response. I'm currently reading "Mythos" by Stephen Fry. 😀 It's well-researched. All about Greek Mythology.
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I am an Intp and an Enfp is literally my favorite person in the world, she can understand me so well.
*[FeelsRestricted]* what makes you feel understood?
Also an INTP and my ex girlfriend is an ENTP. I really enjoyed being with her at the time, but she realized we were not a good fit. I think that I made her feel stupid when we would debate because her arguments would consist of appeals to authority and I wasnt convinced unless she could cite hard data. Or if I questioned the methodology or credibility of her sources, she would run out of steam. My only experience with this type is that they want to convince you that their way is the right way, but they use emotional arguments or guilt or shame tactics.
It did seem like reputation was really important to her as well. She put a lot of pressure on me to "perform" in front of her family and openly told me several times that she was worried her family wouldn't like me.
Collin C I wasn’t talking about an Entp but an Enfp(my cousin actually), in any case my father is an Entp and what you wrote about your relationship with the Entp in your life sounds very familiar. Tons of arguments from authority and emotional guilt-tripping. Not a lot of concern for finding the truth, but confirming their “truth”. Anyways I hope you’ve found a better girlfriend.
@@therealcoolc No No No......... *facepalms* that is the most un- ENTP thing I have ever heard. You're describing an FP. You literally described loads of Te,Fi and low Ti. Sounds like Fe critic so EFP
@@Entyipo Actually I think he means to write ENFP.
Enfp here. First time I heard this I hated it. I think it’s because I felt I was being criticized & it is very hard for me to take criticism...unless it’s delivered appropriately and it’s constructive criticism lol. Second time I watched it..i do understand what he’s saying. He’s just a tad more blunt than I would’ve liked to hear it.
I do think he has had a bad run in w/enfps HOWEVER he makes some very solid points. I think it comes down to our FEELINGS. Our feelings can be so tied to a belief it’s unreal. Example, most of us probably believe we are good people so this video saying we’re manipulative goes against that belief so initially it’s off putting.
I look back at when I was in my early 20s & it’s like i had blinders to how I was acting/responding when people would hurt my feelings. I felt so sure of my actions at the time because I was strongly driven by my emotions. NOW that I’m older, my life is so different. I got HUGE into meditation, mindfulness & studying the law of attraction. All of this taught me how to CONTROL & MANAGE my thoughts. Thoughts used to effect my emotions. When we learn to control our THOUGHTS it will control our FEELINGS which will control our ego self. Then we start living from the heart and become our best selves. I agree that I love reading. If you’re a true Enfp & don’t read you’re doing yourself a disservice. Read, read, read (try audiobooks) & take some meditation classes :) it’ll change your life! Tony Robbins is also an enfp. #enfplove
I agree that we all have room to grow and can see that by observing our own progression from past experiences. I agree with many points and appreciate the effort put into making this video, but I also agree that it is far too blunt and negative. I feel that the selfish/unhealthy ENFPs like Tai Lopez who are addicted to success and are willing to exploit others financially through pyramid schemes are not a fair representative of the majority.
ENFPs do naturally develop a identity/brand by connecting research(Ne) to their beliefs(Fi), however myself and most ENFPs find those that exploit this tool to be repulsive.
In the same way, while all INFJs are constant empathizers, some are very selective about in who is deserving of this empathy, while others disagree with this behavior and are more charitable with it.
From my experience, the sleazy salesperson behavior is also very common in ESTPs. They can lead with selfish convenient/financial reasons(Ti) and use their understanding of others’ situations(Fe) as a manipulation tool to get what they want. In sales, they tend to use facts to convince the other person it is a good purchase, as opposed to soliciting theoretical advise like Tai Lopez. I find it interesting you notice that certain qualities of these two personalities can balance each other out.
All of this said, I also understand the approach of this video is meant to be more critical to combat the other fluffy videos out there. In the end, I’m just another typical helpless emotionally reactive ENFP that was too selfish to realize that this video isn’t just for me, but for others learning to better handle my erratic behaviors... Cheers!
I agree what you said ..also I'm starting to read more books now ..and as for manipulative part ..I have to say I was pointed out for being manipulative pretty early in life by a friend and I DID NOT took it very well at that time it really hurt my ego and I did not believe them as I believed I was totally innocent ...but as the time passed I accepted the fact and I accept that I can be selfish and manipulative sometimes (of course I believe I am not a bad person ..but I do question that a lot too ) I guess I will know more about me as I grow up. I'll try meditation as you said a I really need to focus .
Meditation is cool and all, but how and what am I supposed to read? Aside from comics and video game subtitles...
@@jadaleewallace8566 Read any and everything you currently give a damn about. I'm am ENFP and I find that I can get completely immersed in ANYTHING! Whenever that happens I read everything i can about it and watch tons of videos about it until I eventually get burned out or move on. I always have that knowledge with me. Annoyingly so at points. I find myself constantly spewing facts about shit I no longer care about anymore 😂
Google User Your point is exactly how I perceived this info about the ENFP’s. However I always felt misunderstood by most people who thought they knew me. I seldom felt understood by other people. The arrogance I had to put up with was shocking me. When I was in my 20’s I didn’t exactly know myself that well, but my high standarts and morals did not Change over time and I have always been honest and true about them. The only thing that was difficult for me was that I stood on my own with them and that made me difficult to be around with I guess, because no one shared my values back then. I on the other hand, felt guilt tripped by others who were offened by them in some way.
Over time I grew out of my naivity and became to know myself even beter which Is why I have better boundaries and can built better foundations that are more healthy. That’s the core here for the ENFP’s I believe.. The problem for ENFP’s is, people that take advantage of the lighthearted or naive nature of ENFP’s. In my 20’s, some people sure were offended when I became aware of myself more and more...and so...what other things I found important than only THEIR lives. They blamed me for persuing self awareness and other people than them. I have done things for these people out of complete submission to them (forgetting myself or out of contact with myself)....and many so called friends tried to buy my goodwill or my presence with them, back when I started being my own person more and more.
I did not force them to do give me anything else than friendship and love, but they were making me feel guilty for them giving money and stuff I didn’t ask for, and blaming me for having my own thoughts and feelings. ......They did this, I guess because they needed my approval for something or they wanted to OWN me. Maybe I have been somewhat naive with these types, or maybe I have never been understood. The people that do understand me however, have also stood beside me all the while, but Hey, So did I stand next to them all the while, as well. And these contacts have only become stronger and more beautiful with time. The connections grew in freedom. Which I love so much. These people DO really know me and my quirky weird ways. More so, they love that about me....and can make me laugh about myself with them.
Most so called past friends seemed to have had an incredible blind spot in the way I have been myself, and the way I have been there for them. They did not see it. See what I did for them. That is scarry you know? This made me ask for confesions about how I have been perceived by others for a long time. Now I know I AM a good person....as I was then. I have had many parasites in my life in the past who have made me feel unworthy and bad about my ways of personal living, who could only point out what I lacked and or wasn’t giving to them. So that is what I read between the lines about ENFP’s also. I think that most people don’t understand the ENFP (just like they don’t understand the INFJ). I have very good connections with the ISTJ and ESFJ’s (they teach me A LOT and balance me our in such a good way...they are so different from me and just because of that, very good for me). The ENFJ, very good friends, they SEE me and understand my ways.
The INFJ in my life is my souls mirror, could not wish for a better partner than him. Every type has its beauty, but I realize that because of what I metioned, I’m more apt to people who feel familiar or safe to me....
*Edited in later: There are bad people in every type. I myself just can not relate to the manipulation part the way he explained it in this video. I have used white lies when I was younger. But only to make things more beautiful, to get myself out of difficult situations and to fulfill my imagination (I did this for my own survival as a child). Not by all means to do harm, or play nasty tricks on people. I have been played like that myself by others, like I said before (maybe by some other ENFP’s who knows). But, Manipulation is inbreaded in us all, you know? Namely to survive and get what we want in life. It begins with being a baby. They manipulate to survive, to get love from the parent.
But about the ENFP. The questions are though, do you play people for a fool and harm them in any way by it? or do you want to make peoples worlds better by sharing something magical that they can use for their own lives? I’m disgusted by cruelty, gossip and hard lies, or the use of manipulation to do harm and it has always been that way. But I love magic (spirituality) and the imagination. These are totally different things. But I get the idea that they might be confused often for manipulation. If people (not only ENFP’s) see the value in the beauty of imagination and if they want to know the levels in there, it is up to them to connect with such levels.
I'm an ENFP, and I've noticed that the ESFJ is caring to everyone, but for some reason cruel to me, while the INTP (the animus of ESFJ) , conversely, is cruel to everyone but for some reason caring to me. Fun. ;)
This is so true to me
@@gianinnaelainelabicane4741 Elaborate??
Se demon triggers Se critic
Intp just won’t say anything
@@raedjamal5779 you describing ENFP with INTP, while the comment above critiquing ESFJ in favor of INTP.
My man, you must really have some dark history with ENFPs. You said ‘be careful’ a million times. :) Joke aside, great content, thank you!
everyone does, but then again everyone does with everyone
ENFP here. I agree with a lot of the video. And can see the reasoning on why he feels so strongly towards enfp types.
Learning from my interactions with other enfp’s we can actually be very different. So though I think he was spot on describing how we use our cognitive functions I don’t think it describes every Enfp.
I have seen completely selfish enfps and selfless ones. And also how some of our actions can be deemed selfish.
One thing I feel like only other enfps I’ve talked with can understand is in conversations I would always talk about how I feel about things. And it’s not to talk about myself it’s to show the other person how we relate and connect. And that’s why I love talking with other enfps. I JUST WANNA KNOW HOW YOU FEEL AND HOW IT ALL CONNECTS hahaha.
In conclusion I think enfp is being really misunderstood in this video. It all depends on how developed a persons cognitive functions are on how that person acts.
You are building perception
@whit3ric3 I agree with you, thank you so much for connecting with other ENFPs, we need it so much. I guess in a hard world like this, we ENFPs have got to stick together 💞
C.S. Joseph,
I recently discovered your videos, and I must say I'm impressed. Typically, I don't think anyone does a great job at representing the strengths and weaknesses of each type, or how these would relate to the given function stack. You do a great job, and with an impressive level of accuracy.
I especially appreciate how you've made these videos, that you're honest, and that you don't shy away from sharing both the potential good, and the potential bad. People need to hear both, and the fact that everyone takes it personally instead of a learning opportunity is a bit embarrassing.
As an INFJ, I appreciated the weaknesses that you shared, including the negative *personal experiences that you have had with INFJs. I think it's beneficial for people to hear the examples of what their weaknesses look like in a circumstance.
Much appreciated
I don't think ENFPs initially are covering themselves with contracts. I think we often were burned so badly from our charitable side that we begin protecting ourselves. (And yes, I'm watching the virtue and vice video next.)
awesome comment. You bring up a good point. I will make sure to put it forth in the future.
Yes exactly
Damn, he wasn't wrong with the branding thing. Just look at your profile.
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Same with INTJs and our trusty side.
I think it’s untrue to call a healthy enfp a sales man and not to call them a diplomat we rally for the people not ideas, when an enfp stops putting Love first then they aren’t being authentic to themselves, because we love, love. An enfp that doesn’t love is something else because childlike with out love is not childlike at all.
We do rally for a cause we believe in…. It’s just who we r!!!
INFP here, keeping the peace. I feel like when I watch CS's video, I search the comments about how much he dislikes this or that type. I feel like his information and the way he communicates is more realistic and true. He might not be saying what people want to hear but what they need to hear. And I think that is why I appreciate his videos so much because I can honor that he is willing to share all angles and not just the ones people want to receive. My sister is ENFP and this video has really opened a door for me to relate to her and who she is. Bad or good. I still love her.
Much appreciated
Enfp is good at campaigns, coz thats their role in d world, everyone has a shadow function, depending on the environment, it doesn't have to be triggered though, we call it buttons, everyone has. This ENTP guy is just explaining the worst and best tendencies, it's up to the individual how he can handle himself. So kudos to C.S. for being truthful about this.
I am thankfully a very empathetic ENFP, and I'm grateful for the way you did this video. You've mirrored to me several things I didn't see about myself, and some that I did see and have been working on.
awesome
Hmmm... ENFP here... So, I'm well aware that ENFP has strong ability to influence others. I agree with many points of this analysis, but the general characterization of ENFP as an overall dark personality type that needs to be constantly reminded and prodded to lean away from the dark side is neither accurate nor fair. This appears to be more of a perception of the presenter based on what he has admitted himself to be some of his personal encounters with certain individuals. Unhealthy people - Liars, cheaters, bullies, narcissists, etc... come in all personality types. Now if the presenter claimed that it can be particularly dangerous when an ENFP is determined to deceive/cheat because of our ability to sway the perception and therefore the actions of large numbers of people - that I whole heatedly agree with! But, to paint a picture that this is ENFP's natural tendency unless steared in a positive direction is completely misleading.
What I did appreciate: The discussion of the psychology behind ENFP insecurities and people pleasing tendencies is good and (from my perspective) accurate. Also, the fact that ENFP's can and do practically inhale knowledge and information is accurate. As an ENFP in technology, I had to learn early to embrace my "Si" in order to thrive in my career.
I also understand what the presenter means by ENFP's being afraid to do new things. It just was not stated clearly. It's not actually that we are afraid of doing new things, it's that we're hesitant about acting on new potentially life altering paradigms for which we have no personal precedent of successes. ENFP Fi parent has to figure out and put safety nets in place before we venture forth so we can make sure that we'll be able to retreat/return to safety if the new world is not as we thought.
Finally, I'm definitely a live and let live person - totally none violent. I have not been in a single fight in my life, not even as a child (I'm an adult over 40 right now). However, I have had some experiences where I've been deeply wronged as an adult, and I won't lie - the thoughts of what I would have liked to do for revenge were pretty severe - it takes an awful, awful lot to make an ENFP truly enraged - this is a seriously last, last, last resort for an ENFP because we ourselves know more than anyone how truly dangerous we can be. I think it's way less likely to be a physical altercation, and much more likely that we will destroy you (your business, job, social standing). We will also be careful that we are able to live well after the dust settles, hence our preference for handling things legally (presenter also got that part right).
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THIS
As a fellow ENFP, thank you for leaving this comment, it's very informative. The presenter seems like he's being subjective, given his bad past experiences. It's saddening to see...
I’m enfp and unless I’m missing some serious self analysis I don’t identify with 80% of this. I can’t read fast, I don’t absorb everything I read haha and I love trying new things :)
You are missing SOME information. I'm an ENFP also, and what he doesn't fully explain in this particular video is that ENFPs do have a slow processing speed.
...and ENFPs being "the ultimate novelists" makes them super open to new things, yet they can also be afraid of actually having new experiences in real life.
It's a very nuanced thing.
Then you're not an enfp...
I’m an ENFP too and same same same! Don’t think this video is a very accurate portrayal at all
It is what I call “honest guilt free manipulation”. Everyone regardless of personality type manipulate to achieve their goals in life in some way. Many lie. As an ENFP, I feel we do it open and honest, to allow you to chose to be manipulated. We just get our way most the time. You’re welcome
This man gets it.
As an ENFP I know myself, I know my dark side, I know what I'm capable of and the effort I put forth to be a good person. This rundown is pretty spot on. This is actually really helpful as the bs unicorn and glitter stereotyping in most profiles for ENFP is enough to make me question the typing.
Selma thank you for being honest, we love that!
i only have one 'I was born to sparkle' T-shirt + only 1 unicorn shirt! ... but i'm shopping for another; and glitter is everywhere here....... yeah: fluffy-bunny ENFP here. but i HAVE been a badass...........
@@CSJoseph Hey ENFP here, Can you talk about how to get out of my family's guilt tripping? Every idea or career path that I see forward they shoot it down. Saying your no good at that, what good are you . And every time I think of leaving to go live out my dreams or ideas. They guilt trip me about how I am abandoning the family and being a bad son. I honestly feel trapped, like nothing I can ever do will fix the situation.
@@CSJoseph I should add that this is do to my predominantly STJ family
This guy is wrong about anything having to do with Fi. He's just right enough about part of it to actually mess everyone's perceptions up. And he thinks I'm all about perception? Dude. Status? He thinks we care about status? We ACTUALLY care about the truth... much more than this guy.
I'm an ENFP, and I think I don't really care about "popularity", but I do care about what the people I care about think of me to the point that if I feel like I've said ANYTHING wrong I start to overthink and I have a tendency to believe people hate me/ think I'm stupid. I also tend to try and be lowkey about service (which i love to do) because I don't want people to think I'm only doing it to gain favor in the eyes of others. I do agree with the fact that ENFPs twist the truth. I tend to do that to keep people happy (making and keeping people happy is probably one of my main focuses..?)
I also agree with the fear of trying new things, unlike some people in this comment section. I LOVE learning and learning about new things and experiencing new things, but there have been PLENTY of times where new things have been kind of terrifying and the idea of doing them makes me uncomfortable. Sometimes I just want to stay in my own little comfort zone.
the contracts thing is ABSOLUTELY true. I tend to be VERY afraid someone will "screw me over" if I don't pay attention to what they're REALLY saying.
I also have a tendency to talk about myself and I HATE it, because I feel like I should be listening to other people and not taking up all the time making everything about me.
A very insightful video and while I don't agree with absolutely EVERYTHING, you make very good points and you present a lot of quality information. Sorry for some of the odd, seemingly off topic points in my comment! Good day to you. :)
This video is so insightful and has given me a lot to think of! I never really understood Fe critic and Ti trickster but your explanation of these two is super helpful! I see the things you bring up in my own life and I’m so glad you spent the time to make this video! -ENFP
I think an emotionally
developed, self-assured, self-aware ENFP is like:
Yeah, that true.
I love this.
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The first time I watched this Im quite defensive but as I watch this again it's so accurate. I'm an ENFP and I can be very selfish when I feel others don't care about me as much as I care about them. I always expect the same kindness that I offer, when I didn't get that I will stop caring. Usually people will be so clueless about it because they thought we are genuinely care for them, its true that we care for them but maybe deep down we did that to make us feel like a good person (some kind of self validation I guess). Thus when anyone violate us, or when we feel like we are not being appreciated, we will leave and we can appear to be really selfish but the truth is we are just protecting ourself from potential harm. So please don't depraved us. Thank you for this video, its a new perspective of ENFP that many didn't notice. ENFP are very complex, we are not those pixie unicorns and all rainbows, we are the grim too. Sorry for bad english
I am so excited to stumble upon your channel! Honestly, I kind of feel embarrassed by the comments made by my fellow ENFPs.
Not sure what experience made me to always tried to look more into my dark side than anything, but that's what I prefer. I don't like when people calling me bubbly, it actually triggers some guilt because I think I presented myself that way when I really don't feel bubbly inside.
I feel that knowing my weaknesses and try to overcome them is my strongest power.
I agree with everything you said in the video and really am embarrassed at the thought that maybe 10-15 years ago I would have been thinking the same as some people in the comments below.
Thank you for being honest. I perceived your honesty even when you would be blunt about it.
Not everything should be coming in a pretty package and I am trying to teach myself that everyday.
I feel like I just watched a video of someone explaining how much they're wrong about me.
Jobelly Welly or how much you’re not willing to accept the truth?
Or how well she knows herself versus some random person on the internet.
Christiana Lester this guy is an expert who has dedicated years and years on the subject, sure he is a random guy but he definitely knows more about certain types than this other “random person” she has either got her type wrong (much more likely option) or she is in complete denial of her weaknesses, which in other words makes her extremely narcissistic and ignorant
@@christianalester8752 is this a pathetic crutch you hold on yourself?
You’re butthurt because its true
ENFP's afraid to do new things??? Did you forget that we're Ne dom? We LOVE new experiences and hate seeing people resist them. We spend tons of energy trying to get others to try our latest discovery. We are the explorers! And I never buy books and absolutely don't read fast... but that could just be me... I read online all the time but I want the exact info I'm looking for... commiting to a whole book is way out there for me. I've never felt not smart. It feels like you have a lot of things confused between us and ESFP's and you're bias in their favor. The majority is accurate but there are a few things that just seem super left field. We're the most manipulative? Pretty sure you're thinking of ENFJ. We're liars? I think ESFP owns that title don't they? I've never heard anyone attibute all these nasty attributes to us that you do. Maybe you just know a lot of low class ENFP's? Thanks for the rest. Cheers!
Jeremy Christmas I respectfully disagree. Perhaps you have Se mixed up with Ne? Ne is not about giving other people new experiences, that is Se. However, after having an experience or taste of something for oneself, an Ne user would share it with others be cultivating their desires to do it. It’s all about what do you want? Vs. the Se approach: “Hey you should do this.” I recommend looking at my ENFJ vid, for comparison purposes.
C.S. Joseph No confusion. Perhaps a better way to put it is we try to enlighten people. No, we don't try to control people because we want them to do want we want like the ESFP does... we try to encourage and wake them up to the possibilities they're not seeing because we hate to see them in a rut or blind to what we were once blind to. I have an INTP son and as you accurately describe, he'll aviod unknown territory because it's safe. I did some of that early on due to not trusting the adults around me... but once I got out on my own and tried some stuff I found that I'd been missing out and have therefore embraced new experiences and wanted to help bring others out of their shell too. I've read this is common for us so I don't see what you mean that we're afraid of new experiences. Finding new ways to do things is what we're all about.
Jeremy Christmas Typically ENFPs can be agents of change for others not so much for themselves. Their insecurity in doing new things comes from their need to be comfortable. If doing something they haven’t done before causes them to be uncomfortable, then they become insecure. I recommend you watch the ENFJ vid for a nice comparison because they are closer to what you are describing.
C.S. Joseph I will but my mom is an ENFJ so I am familiar. They probably don't quite know who they are because they're so in tune with YOU and their Ni can see your future so clearly that they know just what you need to do at all times... and they'll manipulate or sabotage you (whatever it takes) to see to it that you follow that path for your own good. They mean well, but it's control and that's different from we ENFP's. We don't think we know the "right way" or if there even is truly such a thing... we hope not... and we don't like to control or be controlled. ENFJ's sort of seem to want to protect people... but we want to free them. We love exploring all options and are very open to different ways of doing things... they are not. I find ENFJ's funny and we can usually laugh together but they will sometimes just up and get offended by something I say that isn't meant to be offensive and isn't taken to be by other types. It always comes as a surprise to me and they usually seem to feel that I'm calling them stupid when I'm pointing out something that's interesting or funny like I've been doing our whole visit. Yes, it's usually something about them... but 85% of the time it's okay to laugh at them and be light hearted... but all of sudden they'll just get insecure (inferior Ti) and I'll have to smooth their feathers for them. We ENFP's do like to be comfortable, I'll give you that... but I would suggest that Ne dominant eventually demands change over comfort as stagnation is more uncomfortable than anything else. This is why we are great entrepreneurs and terrible employees... we have to have change and we have to innovate.
Jeremy Christmas your description of ENFJs sounds more ISFJs. Also, Ni cannot see into others futures, just their own. Ne is what is used to see into others futures. I recommend you review the INFJs type video as well. Thanks.
I'm an ENFP. I disagree with the statement that we don't value the truth. I agree we can be selfish, but I disagree with not feeling empathetic. I've allowed my empathy to keep me from moving forward. I agree with getting inside people's heads and controlling people's perceptions. I agree with feeling stupid though. I love to read, but I don't feel like I have enough time to get into them. I don't know how to speed read though.
If ENFPs feel rejected and not accepted as part of another group then that's when we become depraved, b/c what does it matter if other people don't want us?
Hmm, I do agree with him on this actually, I do very much believe that truth is unobtainable, and that we are just grasping at straws of things that we can never comprehend. However, despite that I can't escape that 2 + 2 = 4, there is truth in this realm of existence, albeit not the truth I search for.
Exactly I don't wanna a miss of info so I don't really make good judgments about it affect the world until a random moment occurs that gets me thinking bout ut
Joseph Smith yeah the guy making this video is a complete tool and has no idea what he is talking about
Well, you either are entirely insincere or you have no clue what the truth is. Since you did not even provide a single logical argument. (INTP here)
I have never felt so confused about being an enfp in my life. Somethings matched up but the selfishness and taking advantage of someone. The being to predict how someone is going to act. The branding confused the hell out of me. Truth is so important to me, the real truth. I have on multiple times been taken advantage of because I have taken what was face value and didn't read fine print.
Maybe your an infp
Thank you for telling people the emotionally detached truth.
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The beauty of this guys content (primarily this video) is that there’s no pandering.
To just say the same a generic description: Energetic, Warm, quick thinking; surface level functions, actually devalue the Enfp type into a mold that makes them LESS unique & sophisticated.
To show the full cognitive spectrum: standard stack 1-4, shadow functions, (infj) reverse functions (istj) & *Super* *iD* (Estp) gives us a better understanding, and appreciation of what happens to this type under pressure.
If the ENTJ/ESTJ type can be criticized for crass mannerisms, (lack of emotional consideration) then EVERY type should be afforded the same level of scrutiny.
Last point (as though this wasn’t long already 😏) notice how no RUclipsr presents a critique of this personality type. I always say, if someone is telling you what your doing wrong, that means everyone else is seeing it, but not telling you.
At least you *NOW* know from someone who has nothing to gain by telling you an inconvenient truth.
NO PANDERING ALLOWED
hehehe I'm an INFP and found chase in a small NT server, I was the only one who gave him benefit of the doubt and after a year still follow all his videos 😌
I really appreciate this comment. It will do none of us any good to have fairy dust blown up our ass. I have an istj husband and an estj daughter and they are a joy. Thank God the world has them. We would not want our society in the hands of ENFPs by and large.
In all honesty, I don't find this description to be all that far off. I believe this is my mothers personality type.
My mother is most definitely a selfish woman but, also very surprisingly giving and she expresses her charity side gloriously. Which I quite admire.
She's indeed manipulative at times and indeed was abusive towards her children.
It's important to remember that even though our personality types can sound awful and horrid, that doesn't mean this is set in stone.
For simplicity sake, I guess you could look at it as a personality who is more PRONE to this behavior and thought pattern IF they don't reach within and tap/use other available cognitive functions.
If WE as a people don't watch ourselves and don't put forth efforts to be the best we can be, we are ALL prone to our NATURAL negative personality patterns.
So, no need to feel "attacked" or "offended" by this.
I didn't like my own "weaknesses" but, this is something we must face if we want to be our best.
-INFJ
This is the best take from the video.
True.
I entered this with an open mind, assuming people in the comments were exaggerating or sensitive but this is truly very biased and on occasion, rude.
if i had a nickel for every time anyone called me biased on anything NFP, I would be richer than bezos. I am not here to not be biased by the way. Take it all with many grains of salt, while simultaneously trying to prove me wrong... because you can't.
@@CSJoseph I feel like people in these comments have very strong opinions of themselves and just got a bit butt hurt, you gave a lot of positive opinions about the ENFPs and it seems like everyone is dwelling on the negatives. I'm an INTP and comparing the comments of the ENFP and INTP videos are honestly a bit comical how differently it was taken.
@@oliviarock3127 Yeah, really. ISFP here, and his video on ISFPs was harsher than this, but we, for the most part, took it pretty well from what I saw compared to here, even though we have Te inferior. Do people not know what tough love is? Self-improvement requires accepting hard truths, which CS Joseph is more than happy to provide for our good.
MLE 64 people that can’t recognize faults in themselves will never improve on a deeper level
@@oliviarock3127 I'm an ENFP and my husband is an INTP, I can see that too. But I watch a lot and read alot on ENFP and INTJ and INTP they are all very similar in a lot of ways that I think the way he explains his opinions doesn't resonate with a lot of ENFPs only because of they way he expressed them. As an ENFP, I will point out something if i think it's incorrect but just to state a different perception not meant to be rude or inconsiderate. I think that's where a lot of us ENFPs come from but are misinterpreted.
Love is the answer. It’s the root of consciousness and the path to enlightenment. 😌
I'm an ENFP, this is spot on. The people disagreeing with this video- I dunno what to say. Maybe you don't know much about yourself.
Kozy mm we all as types fall in middles & extremes with great power comes great responsibility
Got to say.... Your awesome! I really appreciate your honesty. I am an enfp and I seriously loved your perspective of how I think. Alot of our mistrust and inability at times to be 100 percent trusting... Has alot to do with deeply engraved betrayal by the education system at a very vulnerable time in our upbringing. The way we learn doesn't translate well in grade school. A resentment for authority and a mistrust for anyone trying to help us gets created. I personally had great family support. But we get so many labels, inattentive, lazy, said to have a learning disability. I honestly was intune with people around me so I never felt inferior and there were penalties for not learning like the rest. So when we get older and our knowledge pool never quits growing. We are extremely generous but also carry a chip on our shoulder. You never have to tell an enfp how to learn, or to seek knowledge. It's a very natural and unconscious commitment that we do it. We also have to do it on our terms. Perspective, knowledge, refinement of our own logical systems and the ability to correlate. Give us a view of the world and an Intuition unlike any other. It was a very respectful and effective approach of keeping conscious of the potentially manipulative side I've my personality that rarely comes to the surface. But I know it's TRUE and definitely exists. I'll be saving this video to keep myself in check. Well done. Best enfp video I've seen by far. Thank you
Will watch the video through, just to adress the comments: As a fellow ENFP I definitely agree manipulation IS something we might do, but we DONT do it out of malice. We aren‘t schemers, we‘re way too high energy, positive and interested in people and way too easily bored to even think of *plotting* something mean or manipulative. I‘d never do that. However! However! As I think people and their lives are super interesting i‘ve definitely been in this situation: Me: Do you think you‘ll stay working in this field? Other person: Starts to open up, but I can tell they are still a little in their shell Me: Furiously thinks how I can get them to open up in a different way, in a second has found another route of conversation that works better. Honesty time; I have done this (this sounds so bad lol) just because I found someone interesting, or their life, their outlook interesting while I definitely didnt really care about them. I guess some people could find that very mean and very selfish. But it‘s out of the pure intention of wanting to *understand* people and their motives, it‘s like building a constant puzzle piece of the world. If we don‘t get a piece every hour at least, we get bored. But honestly, think what you want, I am PROUD that I am always the first one to assure people to know their valuable and good and cool. Anyway, i just can‘t stand people being sad around me, or being unhappy with themselves.
I think the manipulation part is very true for us. It doesn’t have to mean we’re manipulating you to do things, it could be even in just seeing us in a certain way. I feel maybe sometimes we lack our own identity due to it because we’re in a fight to be admired, and we use whatever little skills we have or more skills we develop over time to manipulate people into viewing us as a specific person.
Yes!
I don't know about you but since childhood, I've been on a quest for Truth and freedom from societal pressures and lies that keep us imprisoned. I know in my teens and possibly even in my 20's I looked at approval, acceptance, and admiration from others but come 30, it was like a light switch went off. The ultimate freedom is to not care about other people's opinion about you. Do the right thing but don't care if anyone sees it or admires it or labels you as good. Be good & Do good for the sake of making yourself proud, no one else.
We r super loving and we do not mean to manipulate But we subconsciously do and it’s out of goodness
@@BreezeofBlissinteresting. I wonder if you also developed into the infj Quadra as one can at that age according to csj
As an INFP who came here trying to figure his girlfriend out and help her be happier this whole videos a hard pill to swallow. This whole branding thing is just wow. To me I can’t see anyone being happy unless people are recognizing them for who they are but if who someone is is how people perceive them then it doesn’t matter who you actually are as long as they are seen the way they want to be seen. This kills my whole “morality is objective and must think like me cause I’m an introverted idealist” vibe.
On point about manipulation + selfishness. 👍 It’s something that ENFPs must watch out for. Ps: I’m so thankful for Ti users. Your criticism is good for the soul. I find it encouraging.-ENFP
We can become “evil” only when attacked. Public shaming (unacceptable), social manipulation on us (yes, we are aware, accepted sometimes anyway), any type of taking advantage of us- triggers to defend ourselves by any means. We love people too much to do that otherwise.
I’m starting to read more books though. Thank you for that 😀
Is that the imperial we?
@@CSJoseph Yeah... I am sorry for that. That was initial shock for criticism I guess. It was before realising that I really do not mind to be in charity or depravity mode as other thing are important to me and I am looking for some guides in your videos.
Thank you for your reply, I am honoured, I am big fan of your work.
Heyyyy! Ik it's been a while since you posted this, but I would like to apologize on behalf of the ENFP who hurt you. I promise not all of us are like that.
Speaking from experience, most of us ENFPs can be very naive because of our empathy and give too much of ourselves without setting boundaries, which almost always ends up backfiring and makes us wanna run away. Another thing I can say about us is we don't like making promises we can't keep, so when we make a promise, we'll state all terms and conditions so that you know exactly what to expect. You're right on some of the things you said, like us always leaving a door open in case we feel uncomfortable. The way out is almost always something we didn't mention in the terms and conditions of the promise. (notice how I've said "almost" always twice - there's always going to be exceptions or things we're unsure of. We absolutely do not condone lying unless it's a white lie, something innocent and fun that can't hurt or that we strongly believe can't hurt)
You’re cute
@@CSJoseph I'm frustrated and sad:(
Enfp timestamps for me:
Manipulation
3:50-4:52-5:06-
Manipulation part 2 (recommend for me)
9:40-
13:40-14:25
Enfp quote
12:17-13:12
How enfps are useful
5:50-7:43
Random
21:30-22:06
SE Demon and te child
23:33-25:24-25:51
Half the video about manipulation 😂 bro decided to vent against enfps
@@xMarikiyep I forgot I was either tired or bored I will update it
Also it's surprising I now noticed this comment till now 🤦
Well, this video pretty much left me feeling like crap about myself.
The dude hearted your response lol
@@Backhand77 yeah, not really sure about this guy's intentions.
@@jon4661 you're right.
I choose to look at it like this though: if he wants to deliberately focus on a person's worst qualities, to make an entire demographic the bad guys, that is just going to have to be his problem. If, with his intelligence he decides that he is going to focus only on a group's worst case scenario traits, he is not likely going to appreciate the good when he sees it. I know who I am, he does not.
@@jon4661 uh? You should be taking this video as a way to focus on these weaknesses and improve on them. That's the whole point of it
I feel personally attacked by this relatable content. now I have to read more about it to really get it :p
I had an encounter with an ISTJ, this were the time I wasn't aware of the Myer-Briggs Personality types. It was my first time encountering this type of person and now It makes me so curious even though we don't communicate anymore. and I'm so glad I was able to learn about myself and others as well. This is truly an eye opener.
I figured out for certain I'm an INFJ, and that's why I've always felt so misunderstood by literally everyone I know. Literally everything you said in your INFJ video resonates deeply for me, so much so that it made me cry for feeling so understood for once..
but at first I thought for sure that I was an ENFP.. but then figured out that I'm the intuitive judging type, and a see it through type, and an introvert..
So my question is.. How can an INFJ think they are an ENFP? I kind of get it..but at the same time the shadow thing doesn't make sense to me >. <
Also.. the reason I am obsessed with watching your videos might have something to do with being INFJ. Like you said, you as an ENTP teach INFJ's
I listened to this episode again in a month. Since it was too much to digest the first time. I have to agree with almost everything he said in this vid. THere's always a corner in my mind that's worrying about what I'm gonna get in whatever scenario I'm in. And I'm secretly knowing how to gain slightly more advantage in whatever situation I'm in all the time. It takes me a while to truly admit it. Thank for cs Joseph making these videos, I will keep those warnings in mind and I truly hope I can humble myself and be a great person.
And two of my ISTP friends taught me a lotttt about how to be responsible and not taking advantage of others even it's not a big deal.
I find the video intriguing, and I realise I have a lot more to learn and watch out for. I definitely relate to some things mentioned, while some of the examples are roughly opposite to my experience. Some of the people and characteristics closely describe the only kinds of people I have real difficulty being around, find toxic, and can't relate to-"salesy"/"businessy" people that never stop trying to convince you that their mission is better than whatever you want, manipulating you into submission as their grateful student. You can never relax and enjoy their company, as they're constantly trying to get you to affirm to yourself that you agree with them, and you always have to be on your guard, trying to read them so as to avoid agreeing to sell them your soul by accident. To hear that someone so narcissistic and draining could have the same MBTI type as me is mind-boggling and something I really need to learn more about. Thanks for the video.
May I ask how did you come to these findings on ENFPs? Some of your thoughts on the type is very atypical to what I have read or what I have experienced with myself as an ENFP or my ENFP friends and acquaintances. Is your perception of ENFP based from your interaction with the ENFPs you met in your life? It’s so interesting how different ENFPs can be from one person to another.
Wut Suthirachartkul I came to these findings as A result of combining the cognitive functions and expressing the data flow between each function with in the four sides of the mind of an ENFP. My type profiles do not come from other sources. However I do use Linda Berens to explain the interaction styles and Plato to explain the temperaments. As far as people being different yes some people are mature versus immature or more developed than others. Also people who take the test and up getting the wrong results which just leads to confusion and then no one in general is able to know how a type would typically behave.
I think it could be his high focus on "sales" in this video. If you replace that with "convincing" --which is basically what sales is-- you have an ENFP who could convince you of anything. This is something I really recognise (and love, and love to hate) about ENFPs.
For instance, I know a lot of ENFPs who have moral problems with sales, marketing, consumerism, capitalism etc and therefore dislike sales but they can be very convincing / advocating for a cause they do feel morally aligned with. I also know a lot of ENFPs who don't have a moral problem with sales or certain aspects of capitalist society and they seem to be more inclined with this view of marketing and branding. It's the same concept of convincing others but sometimes it expresses itself differently.
Joy Bomer true that
Tai says he tested ENTP
Joy B SUPER-TRUE!!! You really said it: my problem with Corporations/consumerism/sales&marketing : i find the current state of affairs re this stuff to be pretty abhorent. thanx
I'm not saying everything you said is false, but I see lots of bias and extreme language here :/. Can you make a video where you focus on more neutral view of the ENFP? I just don't see how this video can be truly useful except to put people in a defensive state with ENFP. I think you're focused on your perception of the ENFP, rather than focusing on the cognitive as you claim. I was deeply discouraged by this and hope you can use your videos to encourage people. I hope this encourages you to know maybe others aren't as bad as you make them out to be.
I do not deny the bias and the extreme language. I made the virtue and vice lecture for ENFPs and hoped it would be more balanced.
andreae3 I mean the extreme language is still factual and the point of the video is to tell you what enfps are all about and not to make you feel better. He does the same with other types
Some of the stuff he said I don't think many ENFPs would recognise. That stuff about being good at law and 'reading the fine print' is weird. We are notoriously bad with detail.
Also all that stuff about 'sales' - no. Just no.
@Gigi P: I'm an ENFP - i admit I am enthusiastic about things and can make anything sound good if I truly believe in it. BUT (and this is big but), the profession of sales does not feel genuine to most ENFPs. We are all about authenticity. Our Fi HATES it if we're not being genuine / true to ourselves. So, OK, there are some ENFPs who have been lucky enough to find something they truly believe in (with their own businesses that sell ideas of whatever) and they can passionately sell that. But I would argue that a VERY SMALL pecentage of ENFPs fall into that bracket. Selling for something we don't believe in (which is the majority of things, especially to ENFPs, let's be honest) would overwhelm us with anxiety. I speak from experience.
This is the most accurate ENFP video I have ever come across especially about their manipulative sales tactic. No other ENFP videos speak the brutal truth about them. I’ve always wondered if I was the only one who sees through the ENFPs illogical lies and their status driven attitude - if I was the bad guy in seeing a different perspective of them whereas many dismiss ENFPs as the happy go lucky people who have so much empathy for people. They can never do harm and are always cheerful. No, ENFPs are imperfect people just like everyone else who have extremely dark sides to them at times. Tired of ENFPs always justifying their selfish actions as wholesome without any facts to back it up. Now I have a better understanding of their thinking. Thank you for this video!
you are most welcome
I think you may have had a bad experience with an ENFP. There is bad in all personality types. Absolute truths do not exist, except for good coffee.... good coffee exists.
Oops this was meant for Sarah Spade . And that's the truth ☺
I lost my dad to a heart attack 13 years ago, so I wondered for a long time about what his type could've been. So to satisfy my curiosity I gathered my mom and my sister together, and we went through your personality test from the perspective of my dad. He was typed as an ENFP, which at the time had me scratching my head. This video pretty much confirms that test result. The man lived in the library. Lived in it. He would go 4 or sometimes even 5 days a week. We actually made fun of him for it a lot when I was a kid, because he would come back with a stack of books from each visit, and he'd read every single one of them. Holy sh!t. I almost feel bad about that now.
As soon as you said all our deals have strings attached I decided I must watch the rest, very nice analysis.
Ive watched the Infp and Enfp and this dude really doesnt like any of the Nfp types
It seems like a love/hate relationship. He hates em cuz he has a lot of experience w em. But the mass of experience indicates an attraction to them that led to the culminated experiences, I think.
yup
As an ENTP I have the same it's a love/hate relationship. Really weird dynamic between ENTPs and ENFPs
And an ISTP married to an ENFP this is 10000% true
actinodiscus2 woah what are your love languages & favorite activities together? I would love to know 💚
The fact that I'm an ENFP that no one listens to makes me not relate to this video, cause the ENFP described is an ENFP in charge, a buisnessman ENFP, a leader ENFP 🤷♂️ Those ENFP are actually lucky that ppl listen to them. Maybe the reason why ENFP appear so kind is bc no one listen to them, so no one can trigger their bad sides? (Theory)
Don't believe his bullshit or you'll have a bad self image.
@@davecross4493 why not?
When he said ENFPs can read and retain I was shocked. I have a very bad memory and the few ENFP I have met have bad memories, especially during adulthood.
@@ImmortalGaming551 Yeah ENFP's have amazing (long term) memories unless faced with trauma.
enfps have really great memories in my experience.They have Si inferior.If your enfp is having issues with memory that badly then its probably cuz they are not getting challenged enough to develop their inferior function which is necessary to be at peace with yourself and explore other sides of you.Or else they might just be mistyped or underestimating themselves .
we are horrible at recalling short term obligations related issues. but our long term memories are very strong. i can recall my childhood like it was just yesterday (i'm 32 by the way) but can't for the love of gawd remember to what i wanted to do this afternoon even though i have been meaning to do it since the last two weeks! and worse, it needed to be done because without it, i'll get in trouble! but noooo.... i'd still forget. but! i'd remember that song i haven't listen to in 10 years, no problem.
Hey, I remember really liking to read when I was a child and going through books quickly, but now in my adulthood I don’t read anymore. I think I stopped finding novelty in fiction and for anything intellectual, there’s always a really good podcast or video somewhere. Also later I discovered that I was chronically ill and my brain is spotted like a newborn Dalmatian, which is were the lack of attention for reading might come from. I am also extremely forgetful so even if I read something, I am likely to forget it. New information last in my head about 3 days before I have to refresh them. And I also don’t know how much of it is the illness and how much it’s just me. But I think even if you’re hundred percent healthy, you can still be forgetful. That could do with your childhood (weather you were encouraged to read, or like me, constantly being told to “snap back into the real world and socialise”. Weather you were praised for explaining your parents what you’ve read, or ridiculed for reading the wrong things), or with your attitude towards being stupid. For example I know that it’s not going to get better now (not because of the illness, I just reached a conclusion that reading won’t make me permanently smart. Only smart for about 3 days), so I just came to term with being stupid. Everyone has their place in society, there are smart people, and there are stupid people and it there weren’t stupid people smart people would never know they are smart. Hopefully my strength lies somewhere else. Maybe in making sales deals like Chase said :) .
@@ImmortalGaming551 pretty sure he actually meant short term memory. I often forget what I ate for my breakfast the other day but have a quite vivid memory of some childhood moments.
I’m an ENFP and have been aware of my potential to manipulate. It is an area I put conscious effort to make sure that my efforts don’t have much manipulation. But that being said I have typed all my staff members and my boss and I go though their personality profile before conversation to make sure I communicate well and persuade them well. But I always make sure I check in with myself to evaluate how morally appropriate I have been.
We all manipulate! Even CSJ said "socially manipulation is normal folks!" It's just ENFP are the only types who are evil about it. 😂
thank you for the truthful overview of enfps. good bad all in between!
Just another comment, the whole video had a negative spin to it......outside of your personal criminal friend who was an ENFP gone wrong did you have other encounters with ENFP's? My perception is that since your video is the only one so far that describe ENFPs in a bad light that perhaps you had a bad personal experience. The people I have encountered in my life who view me unkindly are usually people of either a narcissistic personality or someone who really didn't like being read because the ENFP could tell when they were lying. So which MBTI personality are you? And have you had any other personal encounters with ENFPs besides the criminal friend of yours?
I have had many encounters with ENFPs. THe problem is that most people who believe they are ENFPs are not ENFPs because mistyping is well over 50% of people in general because of how flawed the tests are. I recommend verifying their types through the Berensian model taught in my lecture playlist titled: "How to type yourself and others" Also, watch my most recent lecture on ENFPs in the ENFP playlist and tell me if you judgments of me still ring true.
I'm an ENFP.
I am an ENFP.
Agree with you Marsha "people of either narcissistic personality or someone who didn't like being read" :)
he tells the good and bad about every type... nfps just get salty
I love this content. Thank you for pointing out the superpower behind reading to gain insight, knowledge, and wisdom. I'm studying nutrition in the hopes of being a help to others but the broader goal is to help others find direction and their paths. So the fact you said ENFP's are pathfinders made me excited. Seriously not offended at all
Thank you for this super mature comment
ENFP through and through. Status is the last thing on my mind and I’ve always seen people who value status as vacuous. I don’t think status is an ENFP value because it is antithetical to authenticity, which is one of our highest core values.
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@@ashleyching7894 😂😂😂😂 muito bom!
There's nothing about wanting status that's inherently at odds with being authentic...
Liar
Very true , especially as a 4w5 esfp
Super duper good video. Thanks for making this!! It always makes me feel better to watch CS Joseph videos. Like a counseling.
this was a very interesting video. as an ENFP I definitely did identify with a lot of it including the negative elements. I am certainly selfish at times. and I do have a tendency to surround myself with people who are smarter than I am deliberately, because I am always wanting to gain more knowledge to better myself and to better the world around me. I find bettering myself to be a positive way I can make a contribution to the world. I can pay forward the good knowledge I retained and pass it on. I am also an Avid Reader who researches any subject I find interesting to death. but I don't agree or feel that I am necessarily the type of individual who others would ever have a need to read the fine print with. I am actually quite generous and would rather walk away from a friendship or relationship leaving them with everything and I can leave empty-handed feeling no malice toward them. I have no vindictive bone in my body! I am not a materialistic person also. The only thing I would want to protect is my heart from being hurt by someone taking advantage of my kindness and generosity. this is not the kind of safeguarding that requires any retaliation however. any personality type can become a Bad Apple. but that doesn't mean that one is predisposed to being worse than another kind. we all have different weaknesses and strengths. a bit of the commentary seems biased. still, it was fun to watch and I appreciate your contributions to the subject, as I am new to understanding my personality through the Myers-Briggs lens.
Amazing! You have described me to the T... its really remarkable!
I'm ENFP who love to read. I have just notice that my reading is not in normal speed😂. I always get some life answers when i read.
As someone who has gone to war against an unhealthy, totally depraved ENFP, I think this is spot on. You have have tremendous composure and plan all the way to the end.
Wow, that was a lot to take in. This is my daughter. "Facts and empathy" ♥
you have had bad experiences with some unhealthy ENFPs (which i am sorry about it) but a lot of things that you said are not facts but personal thought based on your harsh experiences .you are biased.
I wont deny bias.. ever. But at the same time, most people who criticize me for knowing unhealthy ENFPs instead of healthy ones are usually not ENFPs themselves due to mistypes and poor test taking. Is it possible that this happened to you? How would you describe a healthy ENFP?
Honestly I found everything to be true. But perhaps I’m used to being self-critical and self developing so I genuinely like hearing my bad side. He’s right- critical Fe whips me into shape so fast. And drives me. It’s almost like Fi wants Fe really but forgets on the rare occasion.
I’ve also only now understood why I’m in the one who is usually obsessed with fine print and building contracts in business. I seem to care about that way more than most.
This explanation goes beyond stereotypes and into the functions. So I see it.
Also the majority of this was very positive in my eyes?!?
World changers for a better future? Persuasive? Logical? Speed readers? Cares about others but needs self-care in order to do so? Profound grasp on “truth”? It’s good to be an ENFP :)
@@kirstywragg6308 You're awesome.
I don't understand why so many ENFPs are getting so defensive! This video is the truth. Maybe it's the point you brought up about not liking truth. (I personally SEEK truth) This shows what ENFPs can become when unhealthy. As an ENFP I agree with the video. Maybe not the whole business talk, felt a little bit too grounded for this unicorn 🦄 😂
Because a lot of it is incorrect.
@@davecross4493 how?
Its not the truth.A lot of his observations are plain wrong.
I LOVE YOU. This video helps so much and makes so much sense!!! ~ENFP
grats on 11k
I'm an ENFP, I am trying my best to get out of the habit of lying to try and make myself sound smarter, keep a conversation interesting, or hiding shame. It's intresting how I can be unashamedly myself and open with people, yet try to manipulate others to make them have a higher opinion of me.
By listening to your video I realized that you are basically saying that Enfps are "magicians".....
maja vidova touché lol
Oh my gosh I love your insight! I'm really enjoying sucking in your knowledge like a vampire! You crack me up too, with your harsh honesty. Thanks!
Got here because of Alex Jone's typing.
That made me confused(probably because of sleep deprivation my brain can't process it anymore).
Posted this comment before watching lol.
-INTP
Edit: I saw a lot of complains again about how you talked.
You did it to everyone and I don't know why would they want to be comforted by you. Everyone have imperfections, you're just explaining how their cognitive function works and they think you're criticizing them lol.
Patata
Their whining proves his point. (Fe criticism gets the job done)
There’s no logical rebuttal, only pushback saying he must’ve had bad experiences with *some* #Enfp
The problem is, nobody else cares enough to tell this type how they come off. So when they hear the slightest condemnation/putdown the tears & accusations fly!
(Who hurt you?) 😂🤣
@@jtotheohn1253 What do you expect? This is the type that created SJW culture.
I wonder how many miss the point that you giving your own advice and little pushes is still manipilation, so CS is still correct. Manipulation doesn't have to be malicious.
Was hoping to watch a video that could help me better understand myself and others. Seems that you have let your experiences jade your view of this personality type. There are many videos of I have watched on ENFP and this one has been the least informative. You talked mainly about your perception as opposed to the unbiased strengths, weaknesses, and functions of them. Talking about ENFP's enthusiasm for experience, contemplative nature, need for fun, intuition to read between the lines, deep empathy for others that draws their value system, creativity, communication skills, and affection while also conveying the weaknesses of their intensity for being deep, lack of focus, seclusion from others, and emotional reactive tendencies would have been a lot better...there were many characteristics that you labeled as an ENFP that were off, keep in mind associating with crappy immoral people will always get you burned no matter the personality type.
You seem to not quite understand how this psychology actually works then
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Totally agree. This guy seems to have a very commercial, American, corporate interpretation, and been burned in that. I have seen many more effective readings. Like many on here, an English teacher of over 20 years , that's an interesting thread in itself. Also burned out by workload and out.
ENFP here. I’ve struggled before, morally, with my manipulative ability. Because I'm so in tune with others, i dont need to think about it to make them sing a tune i like. Easily, i can spot a person who'll do what i want and get them to do it. It happens unconsciously because I've grown up doing so to keep myself safe.
For a while, i identified as a villain (Insane by Gryph0n describes the energy well). I rationalized that doing what is good for me and not others is what a villain would do. I wouldnt stop thinking about others, i simply shifted from using that info for their benefit to using it for my benefit. THIS ISNT EVIL, ive now grown to understand. Hurting others purposely? Yes, bad. Though sometimes necessary. Moving the pieces strategically to befriend someone you like and manipulating them into letting you help them out? You've just created a nurturing environment with your insight. Take pride, not shame, in that. Sure you did it cuz YOU wanted the friendship, but its not bad to want and they benefited too
I was a very anxious person for a LONG time. We gud now tho 🤪
Thank you for this and sharing your understanding and thoughts
I have spent the last six months believing that I am an INFP but bc of your videos, they have helped me realize that I think I’m an ENFP - still not for sure, but this hits closer to home even more for me than the INFP video did.
I think this is near spot on especially for myself as an enfp typed person. When Ive considered the worst possible versions of myself, the person I've grown into & the good/bad potentials I still hold, this seems accurate enough.
Watching this again after just having finished it. In other words I'm immediately re-watching it.
ENFP here - I've never seen a more negative, sinister review of ENFP's. "Bad" ENFP's are out there just like all other types. I'm not a salesperson type and actually steer clear of sales people....and certainly don't think I'm a "brand". I DO value freedom and authenticity above all else and am frequently described as "magical" in my understanding of people and the prism with which I look at the world. But I strive very, very hard at using my "powers" for good. We have the ability to influence, yes. But influence doesn't translate to "manipulate".
Well said Amy! 🙏
The Video was pretty freaky I won’t lie. It spoke very truly about myself. The points about reading and absorbing were spooky. I have tirades where I take one subject and absorb and consume everything about it and move on to the next. Keeping long term knowledge especially. I brushed over Romeo and Juliet one day and 2 years later in class I was leading by answering every very question as though I read it the night before. My reputation is everything to me. Cultivating a brand as you spoke. Making sure what I offer is sought after. I’m monster competitive with people who try and offer what I do. I’ve needed a friend to keep talking to me in order to not try and destroy one of my best friends because of how uncomfortable he was making me. How foreign it was. The truth thing is spot on. I have never considered myself lying at all in my life. I just said what people wanted to hear or expected to hear or what lined up. I find myself convincing people to do this and that without any trouble. I’m not a psychopath. I don’t make a conscious effort to do this stuff it just oozes out naturally if I don’t have a reminder to not be self focused on my own growth. When I am empathetic I get everyone to push past their best in the gym. Or to heal from trauma or prevent suicide. The counterbalance of both sides is real spooky. Thanks for the video mate it was amazing to watch
you are most welcome. Thank you for having thick skin.
C.S. Joseph
You’re spreading the right info. Not just the same good and “bad” things you usually see with this.
"in the absence of evidence or explanation, perception becames reality"... Well you say we intjs jump to conclusions fast. Wouldn't judging by mere perceptions be even faster than searching the real "whys"?
After a few of your ENFP videos, it doesn’t seem like you know us all that well in a real-world basis.
You can literally grasp types on how for example INTP take criticism by Chase (laughing and blushing that ooops someone finally got them) vs ENFP (who by the way were not more under the loop as others) many of whom get subjectively offended :) Love the videos and comments as well, so clear.
A half hour ENFP diss video 🙄🙄🙄 thanks for the compliments tho lol 😆
Idk if you mix something up, cause normally the infj is the advocate and the enfp is the Champigner. An I as an enfp do care about the truth! That IS one of the things that do extrem matter to me! I am very confused and sad about the things you are saying cause it doesn't feel like matching to me while other videos about the enfp talk different and other things than you do
Hi Chase,
Love yourself first and foremost.
It’s the one rule to rule them all. The one truth that leads to everyone’s individuation/enlightenment.
❤
BTW, I’m from Sacramento and hope you’re doing well in the Bay.
Thanks for making your videos! 🙏
I am no longer in CA
I believe I have developed my FE so I always try to help others. I control my bluntness now to not hurt others. However, in the past, I have been unhealthy and have been a bit self-centered so I understand where the criticism is coming from. Don’t think I’ve ever manipulated anyone for bad though. Thanks for the video!
Being an enfp you nailed it...yes I've handed out my share of beat-down over the years and now am understanding myself better recently...HA!..thanks for the spot-on analysis...loved it!..much love to you and whomever reads this thread ♡..empathy...yes,important...
As an ESTP, I did sort of got run over like that by an ENFP. She made a campaign against me because I wronged her, and she already or quickly had everything prepared where I first had to put myself into what was going on. So I lost the case, failing to fully acknowledge and get control of all of it. This brings so much clarity to how that happened haha. Thanks, man. (By the way, one of my best friends now whom I consider a soulmate is an ENFP, and we really bring out the best in each other such as I call out on her mistakes and where she can improve with others, and make her feel not depressed, whereas she makes me kinder and goes along on most journeys I introduce. Funny how that works.)
The fact that this guy still gives heart to 3year old video's comment box, great!
Lol yes
Te child can speed read
Me: watching the video in x2 speed while reading the subtitles
I’m an enfp and i can’t lie but i can manipulate lol.. My ex husband is an ENTP and he became a self made millionaire by basically reading about getting grants for business. He however does lie on the regular ugh love this video!
Bath Krak Unlimited LLC LOL while you're theoretically at odds compatibly! Your Ne makes you wonderful metaphysical dancers :) & you must have a beautiful emotional experience
Truthfully most of my longest lasting friends are ENTPS and INTPs ~