My boyfriend and I had an open relationship from the beginning of our 7 years together. The only problem is that he was the only one of us who knew about it.
They are a joke. I have never seen a open relationship that was successful. Especially in a gay relationship! A lot of gay men I know want a open relationship so they can sleep around without being categorized as a cheater!
I think this is very interesting, I personally am not a fan of open relationships. Due to the fact that I believe that you risk your emotional health and physical health. If you like someone I believe the ultimate goal is to settle down with them. When you open up your relationship you risk your partner engaging with someone else and that person could eventually win your partner over, leaving you alone and hurt.
I agree with you. An open relationship will never feel the way a monogamous one does. One sacrifices the emotional warmth of complete commitment and loyalty for physical pleasure. I think gay men that open their relationships are mainly looking for that rush of vitality that comes with a sense of freedom. I think there are better ways to acquire that within an exclusive one.
I completely agree to that. Sex is something super intimate and brings partners close. The moment you open it and if your partner catches feelings for one of the hookups, then it's the end of the relationship. If you're in love with someone, you should love that person emotionally and sexually. If you wanna experience, then you're not ready for a relationship. There's no such thing as having an outdated mindset when you're monogamous.
These discussions are always abstract, talking about the issue without anyone actually involved in an open relationship. Have couples on who can speak to these issues.
What a fantastic topic and great discussion. As a fellow therapist, I'm often telling my clients that there is no one size fits all rule when it comes to relationships. It needs to be about what feels right and comfortable for both people involved and, as you've wisely said, what is the intention behind it. I think the flipside of this is the shaming that can go on for people who are finding themselves being judged by others and who become the fodder of gossip. That is a whole other topic but one that I think has an impact on the relationship too.
And you said this as a friend or as their therapist? And I ask because obviously I’m a gay single Scorpio and-ohhh I GOT it. I see. Wow ok just saw u said this 7 yrs ago😅😂yikes Oops! Nvrmind!
I often wonder are gay relationships more inclined open relationships or just more open to admitting it? It is not something I think I could ever be comfortable with but that has more to do with me and not being able to stop feeling it is a failing in me.
Without haven't seen the entire show yet I think the reason why gay men might be more open to an open relationship is because both partners are male ;) ask straight guys in private and a lot will tell you they would be up for it but think their girlfriends won't do it ...
most men are not programmed to be monogamous but when you act on that you get judgment scrutiny etc. character assisination and relationship armegeddon so it goes underground just like opinions about religion,sexuality, politics etc. the more you judge people the more they are secretive and close up like a sea shell on the bottom of the ocean it only opens up when it feels it is safe to do so
My boyfriend and I had an open relationship from the beginning of our 7 years together. The only problem is that he was the only one of us who knew about it.
They are a joke. I have never seen a open relationship that was successful. Especially in a gay relationship! A lot of gay men I know want a open relationship so they can sleep around without being categorized as a cheater!
This is so hurtful and unfair. I experienced similar in one of my relationships. Hugs.
It takes more work to be in open relationship than staying single. Never saw the point in it. But to each their own!
I think this is very interesting, I personally am not a fan of open relationships. Due to the fact that I believe that you risk your emotional health and physical health. If you like someone I believe the ultimate goal is to settle down with them. When you open up your relationship you risk your partner engaging with someone else and that person could eventually win your partner over, leaving you alone and hurt.
I agree with you. An open relationship will never feel the way a monogamous one does. One sacrifices the emotional warmth of complete commitment and loyalty for physical pleasure. I think gay men that open their relationships are mainly looking for that rush of vitality that comes with a sense of freedom. I think there are better ways to acquire that within an exclusive one.
I completely agree to that. Sex is something super intimate and brings partners close. The moment you open it and if your partner catches feelings for one of the hookups, then it's the end of the relationship. If you're in love with someone, you should love that person emotionally and sexually. If you wanna experience, then you're not ready for a relationship. There's no such thing as having an outdated mindset when you're monogamous.
there is always that risk
This is a really good discussion. So many couples need to discuss issues, and explore what works for them.
These discussions are always abstract, talking about the issue without anyone actually involved in an open relationship. Have couples on who can speak to these issues.
What a fantastic topic and great discussion.
As a fellow therapist, I'm often telling my clients that there is no one size fits all rule when it comes to relationships. It needs to be about what feels right and comfortable for both people involved and, as you've wisely said, what is the intention behind it.
I think the flipside of this is the shaming that can go on for people who are finding themselves being judged by others and who become the fodder of gossip. That is a whole other topic but one that I think has an impact on the relationship too.
And you said this as a friend or as their therapist? And I ask because obviously I’m a gay single Scorpio and-ohhh I GOT it. I see. Wow ok just saw u said this 7 yrs ago😅😂yikes Oops! Nvrmind!
@@travro227 I'm neither their friend or their therapist... just someone watching the video and complimenting them on their content.
Bringing home monkeypox is definitely going to close an open relationship.
I often wonder are gay relationships more inclined open relationships or just more open to admitting it? It is not something I think I could ever be comfortable with but that has more to do with me and not being able to stop feeling it is a failing in me.
Most gay men are more sexually liberal than gay women. Men in general are more horny.
Without haven't seen the entire show yet I think the reason why gay men might be more open to an open relationship is because both partners are male ;) ask straight guys in private and a lot will tell you they would be up for it but think their girlfriends won't do it ...
00Licorne00 exactly! Omg!
Why does no one seem to understand this!
That's actually misogynistic
What is the point of relyshnsheeps without loyelty what defind it as rela.?
I liked this discussion
If you don't feel that gay men can be monogamous what are your views on marriage the commitment they make to each other?
No one is claiming that all gay men can't be monogamous. It works for some people and doesn't for others.
@@Mns_87 nah some people have issues and deal with them and the people who cheat have shit they need to deal with
Do you have this on Spotify?
None too little self-control, most men are not programmed to be monogamous.
most men are not programmed to be monogamous but when you act on that you get judgment scrutiny etc. character assisination and relationship armegeddon so it goes underground
just like opinions about religion,sexuality, politics etc. the more you judge people the more they are secretive and close up
like a sea shell on the bottom of the ocean it only opens up when it feels it is safe to do so
after only a 5 seconds I can tell these 2 flamers have nothing meaningful to say.
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