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How to build emotional intimacy in a relationship
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- Опубликовано: 15 авг 2024
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Intro music: Smooth and Cool by Nico Staf
Outro music: Lensko Let’s Go
Time Stamps:
0:00 Intro
0:29 1. Decide whether you trust this person
1:59 2. Be vulnerable
2:48 3. Express your needs
4:13 Akiflow
6:35 4. Work through conflict
8:04 5. Practice radical acceptance toward them, fully
10:46 Conclusions
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Hi love your videos.
Can you do a video on how to be a supportive partner to someone with mental illness ?
this is so fire ! i just switched about a week ago myself and seeing that you have as well is immensely cool
My cat is outgoing like a dog, but I like to think it's because the vast majority of her interactions with humans are with cat lovers who give her strong evidence that people are safe to open up to. Cats are more human than people let on.
That's so sweet :')
Mine is the same, he has no survival instinct. Anyone could walk through my front door and he’s purring and jumping up on their lap immediately haha
About this - 8:10 - A strong relationship requires choosing to love each other even in those moments when you struggle to like each other.
This explains why I never had a close relationship w my mother: not trustworthy, no authentic vulnerability, or acceptance of me. Excellent summary. TY.
My idea of conflict resolution is avoiding people until they forget we had a problem.
Does that work for you? (I realize this sounds sarcastic but I promise I am not intending it that way, I'm genuinely curious)
@@AnaPsychology I know that sometimes this is a method of letting small, mole-hill matters just go away and be forgotten. Which is fine. But not good for the bigger topics.
I have never had a conflict. Can someone give an explanation or example. I’m wondering why it’s so common for others and I don’t even know what it is
i get furious from people who run away bc it solves nothing and i find them super weak in their personality to not look into my face and try to find the best solution so we can both calm down quick as possible
@@moderngoblin Either you don't interact much, you're suppressing most or all negggative emotions, or maybe you've learned to dissipate any type of "Bad" emotions that you encounter very well. Let me know if maybe one of those sound close
yup.. all my longest friendships last because we can vent without judgement. even if i dont agree with her takes, i still believe in her. we shared our dark life stories and understand each other.
11:15 I guess the big problem I've had with developing deeper, more intimate relationships is that sometimes it feels like nobody I meet wants to reciprocate on that level, or if they do, it's only for a short, brief window of time. Not sure what to do about that.
Relatable. These people are few and far between.
Too many scared to be real!!! Too weak! My thoughts! I do see it’s a ton to lose also but life is a gamble!
Because people suck
same here. i'm wondering if i'm subconsciously choosing people that i feel won't like me, or if society has really gotten that shallow.
same
The cat/dog analogy made me giggle because people in my life have described me as like a cat in the same way as the analogy illustrates.
im just now realizing how much of this happens in therapy, even though the relationship with a therapist is a bit different
Absolutely! How well a client is able to open up to their therapist is usually indicative of how they treat intimacy outside the therapy room
@@AnaPsychology On: "How well a client is able to open up to their therapist is usually indicative of how they treat intimacy outside the therapy room". How does a therapist go about encouriging this in a client? I'm a layman. I like how you explain these subjects, but in my experience you aren't given an understanding of such matters in therapy. Where you end up seems a matter of chance, almost.
I grew up not talking about my emotions or really expressing myself so when a friend of over 20 years was a mid rude to me I tried to talk to her about it but she just got defensive and it ended our friendship.
Love that I’m learning these lessons in my mid 30s hahaha better late than never
30s is definitely not too late! I don't know that it ever is too late :)
I struggle to express my needs cause i grew up being taught to learn how to be fine wirh fulfilling your own needs. That fit my personality. It's good but it wasn't balanced with learning to be comfortable with asking for your needs to be met.
A doctor just used the word copium in a sentence correctly. I love this generation 😂❤
💪 I'm very proud of myself: I failed before step 1. There are no trustworthy people.
Completely what I’ve been trying to express to my roommates! Thank you for sharing this information. I think I’m going to help it with my response to them.
Can you talk about how to convince myself to be open to a relationship if i think my current self shouldn't be on a relationship? Love your videos!
Thanks!
I'm a little confused by the radical acceptance since it seems to conflict with authenticity. How do we handle the situation if we see the other person displaying behaviour which we might deep as self-destructive or even just something we disagree with? Do we not express to them how we truly feel, keep our opinions to ourselves, and feign acceptance? Maybe I'm misunderstanding something here.
I think this is a good question
Does acceptance mean agreement?
You can accept that something is happening without agreeing with it
Hearing more about the shadow self would be nice! Thank you. :)
Hey Ana!! I really like your videos and I usually don't comment but I was wondering if there could be spanish subtitles for some of your vids, since I wanna send them to some of my friends but they don't understand english 😅
Muchas gracias! Lo siento, no tengo los recursos por subtitulos en español en este momento :(
Thank you for sharing. That was so helpful.
Do you have any tips for dealing with PNES and chronic fatigue as well CPTSD?
You’re wonderful ❤
Great video! Akiflow is exactly what I need! I will check it out. I have been reading about the Shadow, however, your explanation helped me to understand the concept! Thank you dearly!
I have a more in-depth video on the shadow/persona polarity coming in the next few weeks! :)
Hi. I love your videos, keep doing them. I'm really interested in this topic and haven't found much information realted aside from you. Is there any book to learn more about it?
Greetings from Argentina
Appreciate your take on this! Great advice.
Welp....time to take some notes ✍️✍️✍️✍️
Haha yess
Great videos🎉 thanks for sharing
Also, what is “emotional intimacy” what even is “intimacy” no one ever explains and the dictionary doesn’t help
Intimacy = closeness. Emotional intimacy = letting a person get close enough to be let into your inner world, to hear about your emotions, past, opinions, values, hopes, dreams, struggles, etc.
@@AnaPsychology thank you
Watched this and everything you said I agree with. Too bad I broke up with him already
You must accept the light AND the DARK side?
"I've learned a terrible truth. I think Dr. Ana is a sith lord"
At 9:21 you said you would never tell a friend what they are doing is immoral , I thought a good friend would speak their truth and make their friend better, I’m not saying shame them but, I am saying that you can’t let your friend make bad decisions, amoral decisions and continue their life like that a friend wants what’s best for you and if telling you the harsh truth means telling them what their doing is bad then so be it . What are your thoughts on this?
THANK YOU
Step 1 have same sense of humor and interests
Thank you for your video Dr. Yudin. I have a question about the relationship between emotional intimacy and sexual desire. I've seen an author state that the increase in the former decreases the latter; is this consistent with your experience/research you're familiar with? Thank you. PS. I've left the name of the author out to not make it about them, but about what they've stated.
I strongly disagree with that author! In most cases, emotional intimacy increases sexual desire, unless the person in question is anxious-avoidant in their attachment style.
@@AnaPsychologyThank you!!
Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️❤️
thanks i need this
I’m down with vulnerability bro
Thank you anna
You’re good
not me watching all of your relationship's videos but i have never been in one and i am not even able to get past the first date..
Can Akiflow generate intimacy?
Interesting video! However, I think it missed some examples. I believe some of the points you made needed examples because they could easily be misinterpreted or applied inappropriately. For instance, when you said to accept the other person as a whole, some might take this as a reason to accept things that shouldn’t be acceptable. Also, when you mentioned not judging a person for thoughts or actions that might be morally wrong, there are obviously limits to this (e.g. I personally believe that you *should* judge a friend if they do something like cheating on their partner) which might not be clear to everyone. So it would have been very useful if you had provided examples of what you do mean and do NOT mean by this advice.
I would not judge a friend for cheating on their partner; I would try to understand them and treat them with the same compassion I hope they would afford me when I make a big mistake. The only situation that would cross a line for me is any form of abuse or violence.
Love you 💓
Thanks for the thought-provoking subject matter, Ana. Would you say that admonishing a partner against faux pas, with the intention of protecting them and/or helping them grow as individuals, is always bound to impede intimacy? Or should we always allow those we love to make mistakes, regardless of perceived risks?
As with anything in psychology, context and nuance are important. There are definitely times when expressing room for improvement can further the other person's development, and I think it can be done in a compassionate way that preserves intimacy. :)
Thank you for saying that "if you and your partner never fight... all couples fight, that´s normal and good" is a bunch of bullshit!!!!!! People are just normalizing toxicity in relationships.
forrrr real
What if I don't know what I need, or what I want?
😂😂.
@@Dimitris_Halfugh!!! Do we really need to listen!!!!!???? What if we don’t like the answers
ok work on urself first
@@Portia620then live a lie now and later regret the time you wasted living a lie. for some people, they don't realize this until it's too late to change it, i.e. they've run out of time. listening to yourself now sounds a lot better doesn't it?
@@saltyriz7734what does that mean?
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What should I do if I trust someone and they're telling things to people I don't trust?
Tell them u don't like it at all
figure out why they're talking to people you don't trust. you could be trusting the wrong person
i use ipostal too haha
Yay! For once, I'm early
Hi Ana, you mentioned you wanted more work life balance in your life right now. if you are interested in hiring an video/thumbnail editor (if you don't have one already), I would love to get in contact with you!
If you think earning a cat’s trust is difficult, try making a Chihuahua trust you. This Chihuahua lives with me for over a decade, and she still hates my guts. Even after I saved her life twice! 😂
Your videos have slowly made me realize I'll never make it work with my wife. I don't wanna give up, but even more so I don't want her to waste her life with me.
You cut your hair!!
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Can you give an example of a conflict and an example of a fight? Trying to understand the difference.
I break down exactly that in this video: ruclips.net/video/IVI-5DqEJrQ/видео.html
I’m naturally more like a dog tho
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Just trust people and be vulnerable? oh is it that easy? LMAO. I'm teasing. You never said it would be easy. The best things take practice sometimes
Where are u from pretty? educated ladies struggle to find love am here your crush
1-dont be ugly
Not related in the slightest
@@AnaPsychology that is very bluepilled
@user-sf5iq2fl1l you think you know more than a Doctor of Clinical Psychology?
Step down from your pedestal, and get some confidence that isn't solely rooted in looks or superiority.
I disagree with your sentiment, and this has nothing to do with what's being discussed on the video. But be honest with yourself, would you choose a woman who is ugly? I bet not. It's often men who are way more superficial in terms of women's looks. There are many, many women who choose men who are not typically attractive, more so than men do. But I know something that is definitely a turn-off for many women - a shitty personality.
Why would that be relevant?