My husband and I wanted an intimate wedding and then just a dinner for family. We were getting married in his European country. MIL insisted on throwing us a wedding. Ended up inviting all her friends-I actually had no one come as they couldn’t afford it. It was horrible. I felt like the only reason I was there was because the bride is necessary for a wedding. I wasn’t even allowed to say my vows in English-I had to memorize them in a foreign language. I don’t even have any photos from it up in my house. 30 years on and I still feel angry about it.
Why not repeat the wedding ceremony for you two and maybe some friends of yours? Doesn't mean to be as expensive as the first wedding, just a reminder of how you love each other and maybe even some late photos of bride and groom ;)
Why do some weddings bring out the beast in mothers - of both the bride and the groom. Seems so often the mother of the groom thinks she's in a competition with the bride. And the MOB thinks it's her wedding all over again. If the couple is old enough to get married, they're old enough to decide what they want. Period.
Often the moms want to feel needed and useful, which they fear to lose when their kids marey or move out. Happens rather often. More often even when the husband died or they got divorced, so they fell lonely on top of that
@@rickraber1249 It's nothing about growing up and getting a life. Feeling lonely is normal when your're divorced or widowed and all your children moved out. Just because you don't have that feeling doesn't mean it's ridiculous. Start caring about your mom if she's atill alive and then you know that this is often enough to show her you won't leave her alone forever. That's also why many old people have pets, to have at least some company while their family only visits once a year or so
@@lisap2405 Okay, let me rephrase. I can certainly understand loneliness. But women in that situation need to take responsibility for their own lives. Nowhere is it written your children are supposed to remain that big a part of your life forever. Most grown children keep up some contact with their parents, and usually a lot more than once a year. Is this perhaps your experience?
@@rickraber1249 Not my experience. My grandma got depression and suicidal thoughts once her children both moved out. She didn't have anyone left that needed her to care for them and that was horrible for her. never recovered from that, she will take anti depressants forever. And this is something that you can't undo or change just because she takes responsibility for her own life. She always had that but she felt useless once she had no one left to care for. Instead she now becomes the one that needs to be cared for, another horror for her because she wants to be as independent as possible.
Have a small wedding that both the groom and bride can afford and then, there is NO strings attached but as soon as the bride and groom agree to have family members pay for their wedding, photographer, flowers, wedding dress, etc. etc. it's now a 'family' wedding and they lose control. If the bride and groom want a small wedding, then they need to pay for it all themselves. A small wedding in a backyard that the groom and bride can afford, is just as special, as a large wedding in huge venue paid for by controlling and toxic family members.
Your videos are good except you get the volume wrong about 50% of the time, if your audience can't hear what your saying without turning up the volume, then forgetting they did, they won't both with you. simple fix.
And that's how you handle a momzilla.😊
My husband and I wanted an intimate wedding and then just a dinner for family. We were getting married in his European country. MIL insisted on throwing us a wedding. Ended up inviting all her friends-I actually had no one come as they couldn’t afford it. It was horrible. I felt like the only reason I was there was because the bride is necessary for a wedding. I wasn’t even allowed to say my vows in English-I had to memorize them in a foreign language. I don’t even have any photos from it up in my house. 30 years on and I still feel angry about it.
Why not repeat the wedding ceremony for you two and maybe some friends of yours? Doesn't mean to be as expensive as the first wedding, just a reminder of how you love each other and maybe even some late photos of bride and groom ;)
Why do some weddings bring out the beast in mothers - of both the bride and the groom. Seems so often the mother of the groom thinks she's in a competition with the bride. And the MOB thinks it's her wedding all over again. If the couple is old enough to get married, they're old enough to decide what they want. Period.
Often the moms want to feel needed and useful, which they fear to lose when their kids marey or move out. Happens rather often. More often even when the husband died or they got divorced, so they fell lonely on top of that
@@lisap2405 All I can say is, they need to grow up and get a life.
@@rickraber1249 It's nothing about growing up and getting a life. Feeling lonely is normal when your're divorced or widowed and all your children moved out. Just because you don't have that feeling doesn't mean it's ridiculous. Start caring about your mom if she's atill alive and then you know that this is often enough to show her you won't leave her alone forever. That's also why many old people have pets, to have at least some company while their family only visits once a year or so
@@lisap2405 Okay, let me rephrase. I can certainly understand loneliness. But women in that situation need to take responsibility for their own lives. Nowhere is it written your children are supposed to remain that big a part of your life forever. Most grown children keep up some contact with their parents, and usually a lot more than once a year. Is this perhaps your experience?
@@rickraber1249 Not my experience. My grandma got depression and suicidal thoughts once her children both moved out. She didn't have anyone left that needed her to care for them and that was horrible for her. never recovered from that, she will take anti depressants forever. And this is something that you can't undo or change just because she takes responsibility for her own life. She always had that but she felt useless once she had no one left to care for. Instead she now becomes the one that needs to be cared for, another horror for her because she wants to be as independent as possible.
I see trouble ahead. Lots of it and either a grand showdown or a divorce.
Have a small wedding that both the groom and bride can afford and then, there is NO strings attached but as soon as the bride and groom agree to have family members pay for their wedding, photographer, flowers, wedding dress, etc. etc. it's now a 'family' wedding and they lose control. If the bride and groom want a small wedding, then they need to pay for it all themselves. A small wedding in a backyard that the groom and bride can afford, is just as special, as a large wedding in huge venue paid for by controlling and toxic family members.
sounds right to me.
Absolutely!! Couldn't agree more...No In-Law, "I did this, I did that", Bull💩...
Your videos are good except you get the volume wrong about 50% of the time, if your audience can't hear what your saying without turning up the volume, then forgetting they did, they won't both with you. simple fix.
I’ve never had a problem with the volume.
Me neither