Excellent content! It validated my feelings in my own situation with my MIL. She moved in with us 6 months ago. She is able to care for herself, but maintaining her property and needs became a burden for my husband, so we offered a generous space for her in our own home (she has the master suite/office all to herself). She is miserable. She expected us to "keep" her, provide for her every need, not just the physical needs. This created us to distance from her. It was consuming us. Her unrealistic expectations are unmet. I gently reminded her that we love her and we want her here, but that SHE is responsible for her own happiness. This isn't a nursing home, nor is it a vacation. My husband and I have daily work and responsibilities. Her presence is so demanding that I have created my own private living and working space in the lower level of our home so I am not barraged with small talk, gossip and unnecessary neediness. Her passive aggressive demands and expectations for us to make her happy are taking a toll on our marriage. Yes, I am resentful, but I try to be understanding and hope we can work it out in a loving, compassionate way. Good luck to all.
You’re handling a tough situation with so much grace and love. Setting boundaries while maintaining compassion is no easy feat-wishing you strength and understanding as you work through this.
I am 70 and live on my daughters property in a seperate section of the house. My 2 year old grandson is an absolute joy for me but my daughter respects my time and asks if he can visit. I too stay out of their house and cook for myself and have my own time. We all respect each others privacy and time. For me it’s a blessing to be close to them but often don’t even see each other for a few days. I have my own time and freedom and go out as I please. 🌺🌸💐🌷 I believe it takes respect and boundaries. 😊
We didn’t move close to our children - our grown children and grandchildren settled just a couple miles away from us. One of the downsides is that our 50+ year old son is constantly getting in our business, judging what we don’t do, and offering unsolicited advice on how we ‘should’ be getting out more, why we don’t put up Xmas decorations anymore - we should go to this or that event. Interfering in our lives and choices we make in our late 70’s! The granddaughter expects us to attend sporting events her children are involved in, etc. We just want to be left alone and do what we feel like doing. And the unannounced drop-ins are not always welcome. So please consider this if you desire to be close. There is a downside.
Living close to family can have its challenges, but it’s okay to set gentle boundaries and communicate your needs. You’ve earned the right to live your life your way. 😊
Learn something new everyday, occupy yourself with useful and satisfying activities, keeping yourself busy and connected. Stay independent as long as you are able, don't make yourself dependent on anyone. That may be a source of disappointment, leaving you vulnerable to abuse or manipulation. There are good parent-adult children relationships with healthy boundaries and I've seen toxic and harmful ones too. Everyone should have boundaries and respect each other's privacy. Not healthy when people live in each others pockets.
This is far-fetched and unproven. I have watched Hindu families in the Wet who respect and care for their elders more then themselves and look at their success as entrepreneurs in Murica, ditto for the Chinese in the USa. Overseas: Ditto for Russians in the Oblasts, who care about their country and their children' future (despite the 17,000 sanctions against them by the collective West) much more then any soccer mom in the collective woke west who cares more about her BMW then her kids. These former people have connection of history which is lacking in the USA (which this Wise Advise guy only knows as he has 0 global perspective n is mostly BS). This is great advice for the Silicon Valley/Fleet St./Gateway Virginia crowd of greedy self-centred individuals but lacks any dimension for 99% of the rest of the human race.
Different cultures have unique ways of caring for elders, and it’s inspiring to see those deep family connections. Thanks for sharing your perspective! 🌍
I absolutely don't agree with you a bit. My mother lives with us all her life. I'm very happy. My children are very happy. My mother is very happy. Everybody is very happy.
If you don't live with your children, where else would you live? Nursing home? With relatives/ friends? Bullshit!!! You don't know how to live with your children, don't tell others not to..... other than children, no one else would ever take care of us. I've tried living with friends, they only expect rewards from me, living with relatives, they want to know how much I have in my bank account, how much I can give them monthly. I had to pay their utilities bills. I'm living with my daughter who doesn't expect anything from me, doesn't want me to do anything except take care of my health, go for regular health check ups, keep myself as happy as possible. There's no pressure of any kind, I live peacefully. Please don't interfere with their lives, understand their problems, help wherever necessary. Don't put negative thoughts into other people's minds. Keep your unhappiness with yourself 😅😅😅😅
It’s wonderful that you’ve found peace and support with your daughter. Every family dynamic is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. Balance and understanding are key. ❤️
I totally agreed with you. Parents and childrens love is a beautiful connection from the heart. We don't demand from our childrens. Research study not 100% correct.
Excellent content! It validated my feelings in my own situation with my MIL. She moved in with us 6 months ago. She is able to care for herself, but maintaining her property and needs became a burden for my husband, so we offered a generous space for her in our own home (she has the master suite/office all to herself). She is miserable. She expected us to "keep" her, provide for her every need, not just the physical needs. This created us to distance from her. It was consuming us. Her unrealistic expectations are unmet. I gently reminded her that we love her and we want her here, but that SHE is responsible for her own happiness. This isn't a nursing home, nor is it a vacation. My husband and I have daily work and responsibilities. Her presence is so demanding that I have created my own private living and working space in the lower level of our home so I am not barraged with small talk, gossip and unnecessary neediness. Her passive aggressive demands and expectations for us to make her happy are taking a toll on our marriage. Yes, I am resentful, but I try to be understanding and hope we can work it out in a loving, compassionate way. Good luck to all.
You’re handling a tough situation with so much grace and love. Setting boundaries while maintaining compassion is no easy feat-wishing you strength and understanding as you work through this.
I am 70 and live on my daughters property in a seperate section of the house. My 2 year old grandson is an absolute joy for me but my daughter respects my time and asks if he can visit.
I too stay out of their house and cook for myself and have my own time.
We all respect each others privacy and time. For me it’s a blessing to be close to them but often don’t even see each other for a few days.
I have my own time and freedom and go out as I please. 🌺🌸💐🌷 I believe it takes respect and boundaries. 😊
We didn’t move close to our children - our grown children and grandchildren settled just a couple miles away from us. One of the downsides is that our 50+ year old son is constantly getting in our business, judging what we don’t do, and offering unsolicited advice on how we ‘should’ be getting out more, why we don’t put up Xmas decorations anymore - we should go to this or that event. Interfering in our lives and choices we make in our late 70’s! The granddaughter expects us to attend sporting events her children are involved in, etc. We just want to be left alone and do what we feel like doing. And the unannounced drop-ins are not always welcome. So please consider this if you desire to be close. There is a downside.
Living close to family can have its challenges, but it’s okay to set gentle boundaries and communicate your needs. You’ve earned the right to live your life your way. 😊
Learn something new everyday, occupy yourself with useful and satisfying activities, keeping yourself busy and connected. Stay independent as long as you are able, don't make yourself dependent on anyone. That may be a source of disappointment, leaving you vulnerable to abuse or manipulation.
There are good parent-adult children relationships with healthy boundaries and I've seen toxic and harmful ones too.
Everyone should have boundaries and respect each other's privacy.
Not healthy when people live in each others pockets.
Staying independent and setting healthy boundaries is so important. It’s great advice to focus on mutual respect and meaningful connections. 🌟
I found this video helpful.
Glad you found the video helpful! 😊 It’s great when content resonates with us.
Well said. I always believed this
It’s wonderful to hear your perspective. Your determination and faith are inspiring. Wishing you continued strength and peace!
Thank you for not using an AI voice. It is much appreciated.
You're welcome!
Great advice!💯
Glad it was helpful!
This is far-fetched and unproven. I have watched Hindu families in the Wet who respect and care for their elders more then themselves and look at their success as entrepreneurs in Murica, ditto for the Chinese in the USa. Overseas: Ditto for Russians in the Oblasts, who care about their country and their children' future (despite the 17,000 sanctions against them by the collective West) much more then any soccer mom in the collective woke west who cares more about her BMW then her kids. These former people have connection of history which is lacking in the USA (which this Wise Advise guy only knows as he has 0 global perspective n is mostly BS). This is great advice for the Silicon Valley/Fleet St./Gateway Virginia crowd of greedy self-centred individuals but lacks any dimension for 99% of the rest of the human race.
Different cultures have unique ways of caring for elders, and it’s inspiring to see those deep family connections. Thanks for sharing your perspective! 🌍
I absolutely don't agree with you a bit. My mother lives with us all her life. I'm very happy. My children are very happy. My mother is very happy. Everybody is very happy.
That’s beautiful! A happy, multigenerational household is such a blessing. 💕
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Thank you ❤️
If you don't live with your children, where else would you live? Nursing home? With relatives/ friends? Bullshit!!! You don't know how to live with your children, don't tell others not to..... other than children, no one else would ever take care of us. I've tried living with friends, they only expect rewards from me, living with relatives, they want to know how much I have in my bank account, how much I can give them monthly. I had to pay their utilities bills.
I'm living with my daughter who doesn't expect anything from me, doesn't want me to do anything except take care of my health, go for regular health check ups, keep myself as happy as possible. There's no pressure of any kind, I live peacefully. Please don't interfere with their lives, understand their problems, help wherever necessary. Don't put negative thoughts into other people's minds. Keep your unhappiness with yourself 😅😅😅😅
It’s wonderful that you’ve found peace and support with your daughter. Every family dynamic is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. Balance and understanding are key. ❤️
I totally agreed with you. Parents and childrens love is a beautiful connection from the heart.
We don't demand from our childrens. Research study not 100% correct.
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