I've tried going out of my way and going into different new spaces and trying new hobbies. But I never have been asked out in-person. So, I feel like there's no choice, but to be on the apps. Best of luck on your experiment, though, Delphine!
Our culture/generation[s] have really seemed to have lost this art of flirting! I completely understand your conundrum and you are not alone - this has become a societal issue.... Men not asking women out. There's a stat that 55% of 18-30 year old men have not approached a woman within the last year, yet 77% of women the same age wished they were approached more. It seems that 'dropping the hanky' might not be enough anymore! I'm going to look into how we can 'give a green light' and even do the initial approach to encourage a man to chase/pursue us. Gosh, it's a jungle!
How long does it make sense to wait for the physical attraction / passion? I feel like I need an emotional connection with someone before that happens.
I totally agree! I think for women especially, it makes sense that we want to feel emotionally safe with someone before we can let that physical attraction really grow - but I do (personally) think you'd know within 3 months absolute max. I think you'd be able to tell within a few dates (say 3-5) too.
Of course! Family Life by Fr Anselm Viano www.amazon.com/Family-Life-Fr-Anselm-Viano/dp/1930873565 Men, Women and the Mystery of Love by Dr. Edward Sri www.eden.co.uk/christian-books/the-church/men-women-and-the-mystery-of-love-practical-insights-from-john-paul-iis-love-and-responsibility?site_id=162595&adtype=pla&device=c&product_id=4701560&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjw2dG1BhB4EiwA998cqIOMoxdzIX7VJ-H7VvVDR44Jnj2I3Vws-7gze0YaDd4-9GEOIIxkehoCXd0QAvD_BwE Three to get Married by Venerable Fulton Sheen www.wob.com/en-gb/books/fulton-j-sheen/three-to-get-married/9780933932876?gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjw2dG1BhB4EiwA998cqE37cVlcjlDvpRbi4yxhdIiQHn-3f3H1gLCJhLUYkHW0C1G0yRKjQBoCro8QAvD_BwE#GOR002865328
Gurdjieff said relationships are based on polarity and type. Esoteric Christianity is both challenging and rewarding. I find it very interesting to see the acceptance of the enneagram among Christian groups because in the end if their is not enough external impetus of group, community and tribe polarity and type becomes very important. OTOH, if a girl has been on the C. carousel for twelve years probably no fixing that and She should consider single parenthood.
human beings have the choice to be animal or angel. love is a rational response to values but attraction isn't. animals will always prefer the tasty tub of ice cream to the healthy bowl of salad.
I've tried going out of my way and going into different new spaces and trying new hobbies. But I never have been asked out in-person. So, I feel like there's no choice, but to be on the apps.
Best of luck on your experiment, though, Delphine!
Our culture/generation[s] have really seemed to have lost this art of flirting! I completely understand your conundrum and you are not alone - this has become a societal issue.... Men not asking women out. There's a stat that 55% of 18-30 year old men have not approached a woman within the last year, yet 77% of women the same age wished they were approached more.
It seems that 'dropping the hanky' might not be enough anymore! I'm going to look into how we can 'give a green light' and even do the initial approach to encourage a man to chase/pursue us.
Gosh, it's a jungle!
You're deep!
Ha, I'll take that as a compliment!
How long does it make sense to wait for the physical attraction / passion? I feel like I need an emotional connection with someone before that happens.
I totally agree! I think for women especially, it makes sense that we want to feel emotionally safe with someone before we can let that physical attraction really grow - but I do (personally) think you'd know within 3 months absolute max. I think you'd be able to tell within a few dates (say 3-5) too.
Great video 💝can you please link the books you mentioned.
Of course!
Family Life by Fr Anselm Viano
www.amazon.com/Family-Life-Fr-Anselm-Viano/dp/1930873565
Men, Women and the Mystery of Love by Dr. Edward Sri
www.eden.co.uk/christian-books/the-church/men-women-and-the-mystery-of-love-practical-insights-from-john-paul-iis-love-and-responsibility?site_id=162595&adtype=pla&device=c&product_id=4701560&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjw2dG1BhB4EiwA998cqIOMoxdzIX7VJ-H7VvVDR44Jnj2I3Vws-7gze0YaDd4-9GEOIIxkehoCXd0QAvD_BwE
Three to get Married by Venerable Fulton Sheen
www.wob.com/en-gb/books/fulton-j-sheen/three-to-get-married/9780933932876?gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjw2dG1BhB4EiwA998cqE37cVlcjlDvpRbi4yxhdIiQHn-3f3H1gLCJhLUYkHW0C1G0yRKjQBoCro8QAvD_BwE#GOR002865328
Gurdjieff said relationships are based on polarity and type. Esoteric Christianity is both challenging and rewarding. I find it very interesting to see the acceptance of the enneagram among Christian groups because in the end if their is not enough external impetus of group, community and tribe polarity and type becomes very important. OTOH, if a girl has been on the C. carousel for twelve years probably no fixing that and She should consider single parenthood.
human beings have the choice to be animal or angel. love is a rational response to values but attraction isn't. animals will always prefer the tasty tub of ice cream to the healthy bowl of salad.