Surviving Conversion Therapy (twice): my personal experience
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- Опубликовано: 23 сен 2017
- In this deeply personal video, I share my journey through conversion therapy, not once, but twice. Growing up in a strict Christian family, coming out as gay was met with attempts to 'cure' me. This is the story of my struggle with my identity, the painful experiences of conversion therapy, and how I eventually found the strength to embrace who I am. I share overcoming the challenges of being forced into therapy designed to change who I am and how I came to celebrate my true self. If my story can help even one person feel less alone, then sharing it will have been worth it.
*2021 UPDATE* The mental health issues I've suffered thus far are something I am still discovering. You will see later on in our videos where a scary night in Mexico led us to get help. I am with a licensed psychiatrist where I have learned I have cPTSD, OCD, intrusive thoughts and depression. Whether it is viewed by a parent with a gay child or someone who is battling acceptance within themselves.
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We are Adam (North American) and Bernardo (Brazilian) and we are husbands whose paths crossed back in 2016, when we both still lived in Brazil. Since the very beginning, we shared a common passion for travel and nature, which has only grown over the years and led us to this unexpected journey on RUclips, which has allowed us to connect with an amazing community that we’re beyond grateful for. “Go out and make memories” is our motto of living and a constant reminder for us that true happiness doesn’t come from the material wealth we accumulate, but from the memories we create and share with our loved ones throughout our existence. We invite you to join us in our crazy journey in life and hopefully we can inspire you to go out and make some memories on your own. Welcome aboard!
Thank you for this story. I cried because my father told me he would kill me if he ever found out I was truly gay. I waited till he died before coming out. I’m 73 now and there are still times I struggle with who I am. Your story really helped me. Thank you again
Wow. Your life was full of struggles too. I hope you're happy now🙏🏻.
Чакаць смэрцы айца гэта жах,ўжо вы мяне прабачце гэта дзіка
🦢❤🦢❤ Congrats even though I am a little late!
Stay strong Garydevine7137. I was 56 when I came out, after 35 years of marriage and having 2 grown sons. I started living my true life , then I had a severe stroke at 62j just as I started being true to myself my family has been very supportive now I’m 18 months into stroke recovery, life lesson; be true to yourself, live while you can, you’ll have no regrets… you never know what tomorrow will bring🌈
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Those parents who put their children through "gay conversion therapy" should apologize to their kids for doing these hurtful things to their kids.
No, they should be prosecuted!
Amen to that.
Sag mal lebt ihr da drüben in der neuen Welt noch im Mittelalter??
The parents who did that should be: in jail.
@@haglasu1468 nagut, man muss sich nur mal anschauen, was für Leute von Europa da rüber gegangen sind. Bei den meisten Weißen in den USA ist mir absolut klar, was für Vorfahren sie hatten und warum die aus Europa weg sind. Es ist ja auch wissenschaftlicher Konsens, dass die meisten Auswanderer üble Unterschicht waren und viele eben auch evangelikal.
I spent 17 years in ex-gay reparative therapy (all of my own accord). I went to Exodus conferences for years. I went to ex-gay support groups. I went to Love in Action's live-in program in Memphis (the adult program). I went to a therapist for 15 years. Your story resonates with me. I just begged God to make me straight for years... it was never my parents (they didn't even know). I tried everything. And none of it worked of course. Took me to the age of 40 to "come out" to myself even. Thank you for sharing your journey.
That it is terrible for what you went .Campaing again that sicekening Exodus or other like that.
@Rulya קארן Mórrigan Ard Mhacha I was already in my 20s and 30s. I was out of the house. My parents didn't know I was in ex-gay therapy. Even when I went to Love in Action, my parents thought I was going to some sort of "retreat" at first. Only after a time there did I reveal to them why I was there.
My parents were sheltered. Heck, my mother didn't know what the word "masturbation" meant. She'd never heard that word before. She didn't know what "pornography" was. She'd never heard that word before.
@@graperonto Hi, I know it's a bit late but I'll say this. So I went to your channel and watched your recent videos and it's quite sad of what you had to go through but when you kept saying same sex attraction it kinda felt to me that you still haven't fully accepted that you are gay and i kinda noticed you still have some kind of trauma with conversion therapy which I understand. It's perfectly ok to be a virgin or a celibate and stay single forever but don't let religious people or the church tell you that doing the act is wrong because it's not since it's your private life and your choice to do it with someone of the same sex or not. Just say that your a gay Christian and love yourself dear.
God bless you.
I’m a mom and I’m proud of you. My son came out at 16. I hugged him and reassured him he’d always have my love.
I survived conversion therapy. I want to give you the biggest hug, Adam.
I want to give you a big hug as well :) Big hug!!!
so glad u did...NEVER let anyone tell you how to be.......
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This has brought me to tears, I am nearly 60 and still cannot have the courage to tell people I'm gay! You are wonderful my friend x
its okay. perhaps not everyone has to come out. Unless if you are so obvious and people are laughing behind your back and think you are a coward. if not, it may be fine to stay closeted. i have yet to come out too.
You grew up in a different era. Society was much less tolerant back in the 70’s and 80’s. That made coming out much more difficult back then. What you do in your own bedroom is your own business. You don’t need to tell anyone anything if you don’t feel like doing so. Quite frankly, since you are close to 60 yr old, unless you are married to a woman, otherwise your family and friends probably have figured out that you might be gay already, so why bother telling them now.
Bobbert:my name is Joe, I'm 57, so if you posted that about a year ago, I'm basically your age.
My mom was extremely religious and anti-gay while I grew up, knowing I was gay.
I was 32 before I came out to my father. It was in a very bad way, but I'm not sure coming out is ever done "the correct way".
But, in order to do so, and here's the crucial aspect: I FINALLY reached a point where I over "living my life (very miserably) to OTHER'S EXPECTIONS", And decided "if my parents disowned me and disinherited me, I WOULD SURVIVE"!
I was sick and tired of being sick of hiding who I really was-just because I was afraid of my parent's reaction s..
I cannot adequately express how much the "weight was lifted off my shoulders" after that!!! I could breathe, I could START ACTUALLY LIVING!
My mother was accepting (passed), my father is tolerant with the attitude of "you're still my son, and I love you". It's better than nothing. When I married my partner legally, my father refused to come to the wedding, and did my future FIL, and all my/our relatives of that generation likewise refused.
In short, Bobbert, you need to do what is RIGHT for you, if that means staying in the closet, fine.
But in your death bed, Please, please don't have regrets for your stance. If you don't think YOU, yourself, will be accepting of the closeted person you have been, then seriously think about coming out.
If it's not safe where you are to do so, MOVE to where it is.
Remember: you only live once, and on your death bed YOU have to be happy with the stance you took.
BEST wishes as you decide..
But if you come out from the closet into the light, you might be thrilled (or disappointed, granted) with life!
Bless...
Joe
@@kevinhamilton6256 Thank You Joe for your kind and inspirational words, they are much appreciated and respected. I remain 'closeted' and the current Covid restrictions on meeting like minded guys (or anyone for that matter) is an additional 'spanner in the works' for ones social life, yep I brok through the '60' year last May, still feel like I was as a 20 year old gay guy, in a world then which was even more homophobic, I was in my 40's before I had my first gay sexual encounter, after I plucked up the courage to take my feeble and weedy physique to a gay sauna, up until that point I remained celibate!
Have a great 2021 with hopefully a renewed spirit of hope. Bob x
@@kevinhamilton6256 That is one of the BEST responses man! You have done a great service to others with your lived insightfulness.
I couldn't believe what my mother said to me when I came out: "I'm not sure if this is right or not, but we've always trusted you and let you be yorself, and there hasn't been a moment when you have disappointed us, so if you feel it is ok, then is alright, I can trust your decisions"
Except, of course, that it isn't a decision.
@Rulya קארן Mórrigan Ard Mhacha Keep your hair on. Don't go all ballistic because there are differences of opinion.
@Rulya קארן Mórrigan Ard Mhacha You must be all bald now.
@@danhanqvist4237 it is
@@danhanqvist4237 thank you! The larger conversation that is not being had is : why is it important to view homosexuality as a lifestyle, ? The description of homosexuality as a lifestyle is a blatent oversimplification of human sexuality in general and homosexuality in particular. The purpose of this indoctrination of the collective societal psyche is paramount to the self validating delusion of heterosexuality possessing moral validity. The reason that we never hear the term " heterosexual lifestyle " is because there is no need to catogorize heterosexuality with such descriptively inherent connotative oversimplification in order to subconciously justify contempt and hatred. Thoughts anyone?
"And I can’t change，Even if I tried, Even if I wanted to. "
Parabéns jovem lindo vídeo
You shouldn't change be who you are be proud of you. I AM.
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Kyle G you are gorgeous. I would marry you Kyle G
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I am convinced that any person that says they "turned straight" were really just bisexual all along. Gay conversion "therapy" should be banned nationwide (worldwide preferably).
I agree! I can only dream that.
There's no such thing as "Bisexual" when most clearly know their sexual PRIMARY attraction. There's more "confused until clear" people sexually. Straight folks are such idiots in general, thinking they are the "only" RIGHT sexuality.
You are right about that! Conversion therapy should be banned from old Europe as well. We, in Europe, have supporters of these perverted converion therapies in Italy, Germany and even in the Netherlands. To put the matter in a nutshell, these therapies should be made illegal in the whole world.
@@deepblue188 On one hand I'm glad the US isn't the only country with conservative religious crazies but I'm also disappointed that these people exist in the progressive countries of the EU. How many LGBTQ youth will have to be mentally scarred in order to ban "conversion therapy" ?
I do totally agree, fortunately now it is forbidden in Germany!
I am SOBBING! You don’t understand how much this can help someone in the same or similar situation!! I adore you x
Jack, wow, thanks for actually watching this video. It means a lot. I hope it can help people in the similar situation.
I wish I had listened to this thirty years ago. It would have solved many problems in my life. I was in denial and kept my sexuality a secret. I admire you for your openness and honesty, and admire you for your bravery. You faced your demons, I hid them.
@@Stepsof2Foreigners Christianity is DISGUSTING religion, I sympathize with you, I am from Ukraine, now I live in Belgium because I fled from my country and asked for asylum, I was granted refugee status under the Geneva Convention, now I can live freely, not be afraid every day that people find out that I'm gay , society causes a lot of suffering, without even realizing that their homophobia spoils the lives of innocent people
@@Stepsof2Foreigners I'm happy for you, that your parents accept you, you are very good person
The twisted part is, the parents really believe they are doing something “good or right” I’m so sorry this happened to you. You are so strong… thank you for having the courage to share your story. We love you.
I am 71 years old and this story brought me to tears. God bless you young man!
Watching this video, I saw you regress back to that scared confused kid. Then I watched you return to the man you are. Amazing!
Awe, thank you. The video was a bit difficult to do but glad it's out there now :)
Stepsof2Foreigners I'm blushing..., You're welcome. It's nice to see someone at peace with himself. And so in love!
I’ve sent this video to nearly everyone in my whats app ! I’ve been watching you and your husbands videos. The love you have for each other is beautiful. Back to the coming out video this made me so mad 😡 and very happy by the end . Just so up setting that up had to go though that crazy shit to be the beautiful human being you are today. Am really happy that your parents love a support so much as you said they had to change the mind set not an easy thing to do ! Thank you for making this video really touched my heart we need more couples like you two in the world 🏳️🌈❤️❤️❤️❤️👍👍👍👍👍
This has got to be the realest and most heart felt coming out story I have ever heard.
Wow, that's such a nice compliment. Thank you! I'm glad you think that and it's a great compliment to hear.
I’m sitting here, sobbing. You didn’t deserve ANY of this! You are perfect the way you are!
Thank God your parents came around. ❤️🌈
I agree Diane :)
Dad didn't though. Not really. Well no. He didn't go to the wedding. That would have hurt a lot and it shows that it was about him (dad,) and his conditions of loving.
Absolutely ! Love yourself and be who you are.it took me 48 years to accept who I was , and become the person I am today :-)
Thank you so much TV. I agree with you completely and I'm glad I can accept myself at the age of 33.
AL Lucas im 46 and I cannot accept myself who i am. This feeling gets so hard to hide it
@@hectorabcdefg9076 The sooner you learn to accept yourself, the better your life will become. I came out to my parents when I was 16 and to everyone else as well. Since then my life has become so much better. I had to learn how to say FCK you to all the haters and the people that didn't approve and to accept that not everyone will approve of my sexuality but I had to do it for myself in order to truly be happy and lift that weight off of my shoulder. You can't please everyone in this world but you can come to terms with and love yourself. That's what really counts!
I'm 58 and still working on it.
I watched your video with tears in my eyes. I felt like I wanted to put my arms around you, hold you and make all this pain just go away. I'm 65 years old, live in the Netherlands and never had such problems coming out, even in those days when I was about 19. Disgraceful that being gay is still such an issue and people have to go through so much pain to sort this out for themselves. You're a beautiful, loving, sensitive man and I'm so happy for you you've found a great guy like Bernardo to share your life with! I wish you both a happy, loving and fulfilling life together! And thank you for sharing your story!
So sorry you had to go through this! No one should ever have to go to! You deserve nothing but peace and happiness from here on out 🙏🙏🙏
Im so touched by your coming out story . Your wounds and pain means a lot . I cried . Thank you so much for sharing , I was so touched , inspired, influenced more than you imagine . I really love you by the way who you are , by the way you live , by the huge sincerity I feel from you I really love to see your whole video I’m so happy to see you two love each other you two are such a great example for true love .
My parents ran conversion therapy at the local church. To cure me they bought me a female prostitute. It had the opposite effect they were striving for.
Wow!!! They brought a female prostitute, not minding that she could possibly infect you with STD. Just goes to show how homophobic some parents can be. This is sad. Hope you are doing Okay though?
@@feyiplus4500 I'm fine. They dont like me and I dont like them. They have selective memory and wanted to change history rewrite what they did. I said no. So they dont talk to me because I'm a horrible person and they believe they are the only sane people left in the world. You can't reason with that. They are miserable in their life nobody wants to talk to them.
@@corxiiifelinike2643 I moved out long ago. They still are mad about things that happened when I was a child. They hold grudges against all people. They are miserable and no one wants to speak to them.
Ali Sarsour صرصور they are narcissists. These kind of people have a mental disorder. I’m not joking. They have an enzyme in their brain that prevent them to be open minded. And they won’t be able to comprehend that they are wrong.
Wow, sorry to hear that. Mine didn't go that far but I'm sure they might have thought about it. You doing okay now?
I have this feeling about you being a great human being! You deserve all the happiness and joy of this damaged world.
I grew up in New York and kn ew I was different at the age of 6. It was scary and wanted to like girls. I am 72 years old and was so difficult back in the 50s nd 60s. I am so glad you are doing this presentation for others. I was at the Stonewall in June 69. It took me a while to come out at age 17. I admire your relationship and have been in a relationship for 51 tears. Sorry you had to go through what you did but you are stronger for it. Congratulations be proud and out and about.
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Hola, chicos. Nunca había visto este video, aunque varias veces estuve tentado a hacerlo. Hoy me atreví a verlo porque el título era llamativo para mí: Terapia de CONVERSACIÓN gay. Creí que muy atinadamente este título había sido elegido para todos a quienes nos ingresará escuchar su testimonio; sin embargo, quedé más sorprendido, pues ahora que leo la descripción veo que "conversación" se repitió, lo cual me hace suponer que no fue intencional. Con esto quiero decir que por pura coincidencia (si es que no me equivoco) la tradución que este chico hizo (conversión=conversación) resultó en una curiosa y agradable fórmula retórica para los hispanohablantes: en lugar de una equivocada terapia de CONVERSIÓN, el producto fue una terapia de CONVERSACIÓN gay, algo que hace falta en nuestros contextos machistas, y por lo visto no sólo latinoamericanos. Espero que este muchacho pueda leer esto, pues me gustaría que se enterara de que tanto su testimonio como su traducción aportan a la lucha de una o varias personas más.
Además de lo anterior, también considero hacer la observación sobre los algoritmos de RUclips que clasifican este producto audiovisual: está clasificado como "explicación" biológica, lo cual me parece un error, producto de las clasificaciones semánticas de la programación, pero también de la "programación" lingüístico-cultural de la que estamos hechos. Hay que abogar por cambios más profundos en nuestros esquemas de pensamiento, y sería maravilloso hacerlo juntos y desde nuestras trincheras a la vez.
Gracias a este chico por su testimonio.
Me paso lo.mismo lo ignore vomo 3 veces al video 😂
I'm not a crier Adam but you made me cry...thanks for sharing your story. It really touched my heart.
Cadê a legenda Adam?
Legenda por favor
Adam, I'm highly impressed by your being so honest, so sincere and si elegant. Honest to God, you are touching. Really. That video should be available in all Senior High Schools all over USA and Canada as well. Congratulations and bravissimo. May God bless, protect and keep you two in His love for ever. 👍👋👍
"I'm gay again."
It hurts to hear him say that.
I'm looking for partner
What a great story, thank you for sharing, Adam. Giving parents the time to understand and accept is so important, and your parents sound amazing. My husband and I were also lucky to have conservative but accepting parents. In fact, all our straight siblings are sadly divorced, and we're the only intact marriage among all us kids. Love is love. What matters is that we treasure it when we find it.
'Be proud of who I am not who you want me to be' 🥀🥀🥀🥀
I agree my friend... be who you are and love who you want.
I'm so happy for you and Bernardo. Really happy that you found YOU and accepted YOU. All the best.
Thanks so much Bob. I'm so glad I found myself as well. I went through some years where I had no idea who I was. Big hugs to you.
After following you guys for so long, I only watched this video now for the first time, and I was so incredibly moved by your experience and how you were able to tell it to us. Much of it was hauntingly familiar, having grown up in a Christian Brethren home, and going through counselling/conversion therapy with the Church elders myself...feeling the guilt of shame on my family and the years of confusion. Now happily married for 11 years, my parents love my husband and accept him as their son... I could never have dreamed it's possible. In fact, I never allowed myself to dream it to be possible. People fear what they don't know, interaction itself helps people accept and understand. After all, I came from a place of not accepting myself, but now I wouldn't change it for an easier adolescence. Thank you again for the honesty and realness.
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it’s been 15 years and my parents still have the same mindset, no matter how happy i am, no matter my personal and professional achievements. i never gave up on myself though, i love me
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This was a very moving video Adam. I appreciate the fact that you shared so much of your story with all of us. Of course I was born in a very different time and could never come out to my mother and father. After their deaths I cam out to my brother and he severed all ties with me along with his wife and children. When I was in my twenties most gay men were abandoned by their family almost 100% of the time. As you already know from my past comment on you and Bernardo's channel that I am now married to my partner and I now have a very happy life. The pain and powerful feelings that you talked about still being strong after all this time will never go away completely. But this is a good thing because you remember where you came from and the journey that you have made. I was also raised in a strong southern Baptist home so I have complete understanding from where you came from. I think that you are so lucky to have the parents and siblings that you have because they seem to be so strong to be able to look past their religious beliefs and see you in a clear light and not see you as something different or wrong. I wish only the best for you and BL and I look forward to you two moving to the USA. By the way I am also looking forward to B's coming out story and the part that his sister played in that. Bless you both.
I remember when my brother came out gay. My country is severely homophobic so when he came out to my mother she was was shock and as a Christian had a hard time accepting it. I ask my mother what my brother said to her and she said ask him. When i called my brother he said to my me' i have something to say to you' and i said 'what, you're gay?' I told him I already knew a long time ago and I don't have a problem with it. I am probably the only one who immediately accept my brother for who he is in my family.
Shanice, thank you. We wish we had more people like you. Keep being that wonderful person you are.
This is the part that I don't understand. "As a Christian" how can someone have a "hard time accepting" other people for who they are? Sounds like your mother isn't really a true Christian. You were the only one in your family who acted truly Christian, so good on you for that. I'm sure he was so happy to have you during that time in his life.
If you have problems for religious/cultural reasons, read “On Human Suffering and the Concept of God” - the psychological basis of religious belief
homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2018/06/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html
This guy is so BEAUTIFUL , and such a nice person within. Nice to see he is with a partner and that his family accepts and loves him.
You’re adorable! I do hope you’ve fully realised what a light you are! Keep loving yourself man; it gets better as you know! Very proud of you! ❤️
This is one of the most amazing and inspiring videos I have ever since in a long time, it almost made me cry. People judge too much without having no idea what we need to go through.
Wow, so sweet Edwar. Thanks so much for watching it. Big hugs from Brazil.
Stepsof2Foreigners Thank you so much for sharing your story. It helped me gain more confidence for coming out to important people in my life!
Awesome. I'm so glad it helped you. Big hugs.
Hi Adam! It is a great video :) Thank you for sharing your story. Regards from Boston!
Good evening Wiluve, thank you very much for watching the video. Regards all the way from Brazil.
Finalmente consegui assistir a sua historia, pois não sei nada de inglês
, chorei bastante pq é a história de muitos que estão por esse mundo há fora.
Eu graças a Deus não pessei pelo que você passou Adam, mais claro tive os momentos
principalmente no Ensino Médio de tormento, pelas piadas sem graça, olhares e igonarancia dos meninos,
ainda mais do crush, que era o pior, acabando me fazer sentir horroroso.Mas enfim superamos, que bom deu tudo certo em nossas familias e hoje somos livres, beijos, sucesso e muitas felicidades para os dois. Vocês são meu exemplo de casal.
This actually made me cry. This is really emotional! I’m so glad that you’re happy now and you found the love of your life. ❤️ 😞 😢
the moment you say "Baptist" -damn! I already know what's coming! I feel you...
Adam, your such a fine man. God bless you son.
How kind of you Mark. I really appreciate it :)
Some gay people are good people. since I'm gay myself, I know what I'm talking about
and a cutie, too :-)
Vital viewing for so many with a shared experience, and also for those that care about them. Thanks Adam, even years later, for sharing this journey, and I am so ecstatic about where you are now, what you have achieved, the inspiration that you have been (to millions!), and the wonderful, beautiful, absolutely heart-warming relationship that you have with Bernardo, and with your parents. You guys always make me smile, even through tragedy. Thank you both for this channel. ❤
Adam, I congratulate you. I can only tell you that you are an example for many of us to follow. It is difficult to go through that situation that you lived. Most of us have lived it. The important thing is to live and feel proud of who you are. And live well, without harming anyone. God bless you and your husband. I always follow your posts and you are two wonderful men.
Thank you! you are a beautiful man. Peace to your soul!
Thanks so much Karim. That means a lot to me. Big hugs from Brazil.
hello you two love. I admire you two you exude such a heart warmth, since I am gay myself, I would like to tell you that I have you two immediately closed in my heart. i wish you chew still love all the luck of this earth. Of course, understandable
I can hear the nervousness in your voice, I'm glad you're open to sharing your story. Hugs and kisses from Palestine ❤️
Thanks so much Kareeem. Big hugs from USA and Brazil
Adam , I'm listening to this in April,, '20. I greatly respect you for your willingness to expose your story to us. I am happy for you, and for your parents. Thank you.
I am sending you a big hug from Berlin!!!! Thanks for sharing your story!
I'm for the LGBT community I think your courageous 🌹God bless you
That was sool much more intense than I was expecting. 😮 I have so much more respect for you after hearing this.
Wow, thanks so much Simon. Thanks for watching this special video.
I have cried a lot. Your story means resilience and strength. Congratulations and thank you so much for sharing with us. ♥️
I am giving you a huge hug from the bottom of my heart! I love you both!
You r frank enough Adam to confess ur story.... thanx a lot.... wish u a very happy life....
Thank you. I thought the story was important.
That was so sad. The world just need more love. Real love. Im happy to see that you end up being a happy man. I wish you the best S2
Thanks so much for watching and commenting Renato :)
Things have changed so much since I was a teen. THANK GOD. It's still hard for parents to accept things about a child that contradict their notions of who their offspring should be.
People should focus on what kind of person their kid is, not who they love. It's not a choice. The fact is God made you just as you are. Accept the gift of life and be the best you you can be.
Some things in life are easy to say but hard to do bro
Adam, thank you SO MUCH for sharing. Cannot even begin to imagine the pain and confusion that you must have lived, and cannot imagine the number of guys who are living with such fear and suffering, like me, for example. Your video gives hope and the MUCH NEEDED confidence and ENCOURAGEMENT in being PROUD of WHO we are --- NOT who we love. Thank YOU!
Will Bernardo do a coming out story? I'm really curious how gays are treated in Brazil, specially in the previous decades. If not then it's still fine. I adore you guys no matter what. Adam, im really impressed of how strong of a person you've become. Thanks for sharing your story.
Crosby Ragnar thank you for watching and commenting Crosby. I've asked him about his coming out video but he is a little hesitant. He thinks his coming out story is "normal". I think everyone's coming out story is important to other people.
It would be great to watch "normal" coming out story. it would be even better to show how it could be in normal way. I'm serious. My coming out stroy is also normal and sometimes I think that I'm not normal that it was so normal. Maybe you think that is crazy but I really thought in youn age that it's not normal to be gay without this crazy shit. And because people can watch only dramatic stories think that it has to be dramatic and a lot of shitty things.
Adam we do not know one another but I grew up Roman Catholic your story really hit Home and I am so proud of you on what you had to endure but in the end you found and became comfortable with your self. I have watched many of your videos together and the live caring respect you have for one another and the display of affection is like myself as I am ITALiAN and always have been touchy freely and talked with my hands. You certainly get the drift of my thoughts so I will leave it at many Blessings much love many hugs between you both forever and ever.
Adam, this story about your decision is Amazing, because you can choose, first time, for your life, your feelings, of course you have a Great Family, because they don´t care about your fears, they gave to you a support and understood everything.
Adam,
Thank you so much for sharing your moving and beautiful life experience. It brought tears to my eyes at certain points. Wishing you and Bernardo all the best. Be proud and hold you head sky high!
Adam, baby, I'm in tears watching your story! I gripped my heart the whole way through. I cannot imagine what that must have been like for you, but it's so great to hear your parents changed, and accepted you for the amazing human being your are.
Thanks so much Rob for the beautiful comment. I didn't mean to make you cry. It was a difficult period of my life but I'm thankful for it. I learned so much about myself during this period.
Adam, it's fine. Your story is truly touching, and it's so inspirational to the younger generation to show them that it's not all doom and gloom when coming out. Yeah, it started out tough, but it all worked out in the end. I feel sad for those who don't have such happy endings. And I feel sickened for the parents who choose to disown their children for their sexuality. One day, maybe not in our lifetime, there will be change and much more acceptance.
Thank you for sharing your story. It's very important. Hugs from Portugal 👍👍🤗🤗
powerblades thank you very much powerblades. I hope it can help other young people and parents out there as well.
Adam, thank you for taking the time to sharing your story. It is a powerful one and will certainly help many in their journey.
I'm too choked up...I can't comment but really appreciate your sharing & glad you have found Bernardo to share your life with.
Am proud of you and I don't even know you.
That's so sweet, thank you!
Amo voces muinto meu sonho e conhecer vocês mas não sei falar ingles
Bernardo talking in the background is so cute and adorable. I can't get enough of you guy's love for each other. Im SOOOOOO happy for u two and am sending a big hug to u guys😘❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thanks so much. Bernardo is one adorable man. I won the lottery.
you two are made for each other. so happy for you :) I cam out to my parents last May, it is hard and yours is harder. hugs
Thank You !!! For taking the opportunity to share your painful story …It was most affective and soooo not necessary for your sanity … From the Mississippi Delta as a Southern Baptist at 23 I came out to myself … but no one else … At 31 … I attempted suicide and had to “ come out” to my family … It took them years to accept me … and just before my parent’s death … they finally admitted that I was born this way …kind and loving … Those were their adjectives for me … Thank God …
Back to you … I Admire you Soooo Much for your tenacity to be who you and I were born to be …. Un
You are beautiful inside and out! Loving yourself allows you to love others. Thank you for sharing your story! ❤️
Adam, i understand you co my two sons is also a gay . when my son accept and confess that hes a gay i cry at at first but later on i accept them with all my heart .your on my side Adam.
Oh thanks for accepting them Sara. We just need people to have acceptance.
why did you cry?
that is so beautiful. thanks for accepting 😭👍👍
don't get why people cry...be happy his real life not his fake one is just starting
@@hyakintos she realized what her sons were dealing with and it made them sad so it probably made her sad at the time.
My coming out story.. Mum my boyfriend is coming over... the end
Mysterious Girl But you’re not gay you’re a girl
Mysterious Girl LoL!
@@Songsthesecond coming out as str8 be like
A friend did the same thing. He noticed how his older brother introduced to his parents the girl he was dating and introduced friends who just happened to be girls. Older brother never said the words "girlfriend" or "jpst a friend". It was clear from context. My friend did the same with the guys he knew. His parents figured it out. :-)
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Not even 3 min in and this is answering questions about myself thank you.
Gary, I’m so glad that this video is helping you. ❤️
I’m glad your family came around. So much to say on this topic. Let me just say your happy ending to the situation isn’t everyone’s. But I take joy in your & anyone’s family situation that turns around for the better.
This is such a touching and heartfelt story. Thank you for sharing it, and I am sure that it will help many people as they deal with coming out. You and your partner are both amazing, and i LOVE your videos! :)
Wow, thanks so much Robert. Thank you for watching this special video and thanks for enjoying our videos. It means a lot to read comments such as yours.
Que relato lindo ! Tive que parar o vídeo por algumas vezes pra respirar, e enxugar as lagrimas que insistiam em rolar dos olhos. Eu TENHO MUITO ORGULHO DE VOCÊ, ADAM. !
A legenda bugou 😫😫😫
Very moving and very touching story, thank you Adam.
The spirit of your story become a light that light up my darkness a little bit. Thank you ,really. November 16,2020,China.
OMG. I see Adam so differently now. At first when I started following this couple I thought another handsome couple, sexy, and white (did not know Bernardo (misspell I know it) was Brazilian until after watching the first vlog) gay couple, but now after hearing Adam’s coming out story he looks so different to me now. He came through so much. He deserves to have a happy and successful life with his boyfriend. Cheers to you Adam and your relationship good luck to the both of you :)!!
This is a great video. Wow, this is making me cry. There are still 36 states in the US that have no bans on conversion therapy. Let's try to make that number 0.
Devyn, that is my goal. :)
Que linda história Adam. Parabéns pela superação. É a história de muitos meninos gays que não assumem quem são por medo do que os outros pensam, principalmente medo de decepcionar os pais. Eu me orgulho de você
That was a beautiful story. I am extremely excited for you and your family. I wish you all nothing but much happiness and love and joy.
This was a well done video. You should be proud of yourself.
So kind of you to say that John. Thanks so much!
اهلا ناس
مرحبا بكم
The only words that i can say... WoW and God blessed you both...👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Thank you again :)
I just found your channel two days ago and I have been hook on your videos for these past two days. I have seen other coming out stories on RUclips but definitely this is my favorite video. Thanks for being so open about your experience, it's encouraging for me.
Adam, I have discovered SO2F videos quite by accident during the hard time we are all having during lockdown. I am compelled to comment, this is a really heartfelt and honest appraisal and I am so so impressed by your delivery and frankness. Those that were laughing- are they laughing now? I seriously doubt it! You are a mighty fine guy and I thank you and your partner for bringing so much light into an often dull and troubled world. Eyes forward, never look back!! Thank you so so much from a humble farmer in the UK.
I Can't speak English. I hope you understands my messy English. ......But your eyes ... .....My tears don't stop falling....your so sweet and Strong man..very good man...
you and bernardo make me happy~smile.
Thank you so so so so much.
I will always support you.
God bless you♡♡
Hi Adam, many thanks for your coming out story. I am still very touched and have tears in my eyes. You are a great person and I wish you all the best from my heart.
Greetings from Germany
Salvo
I'm very sorry for what you went through. Stay strong ,stay true to yourself
Such a powerful story! Your transparency is inspiring thousands. I came out to the world in an autobiographical work at age 41, and I told my story my way. Doing what we and other highly evolved souls (e.g., sharing our stories and living our truths) we shine love & light into the darkeat spaces of humanity. Stay authentic! You're healing more and more each day.
Feel so proud and honoured for you Adam letting us know your story, it's so relatable.
Wow JEmilio, thank you for watching this special video. I've come a long ways since I told my parents about my sexuality.
This was a very sad and upsetting video which had a very positive ending. Thank you for being brave enough to share your story with us. We look forward to hearing Bernardo's coming out story when he is ready.
Thanks Rob for watching the video. The beginning and middle are sad but the ending is full of happiness. He will do his when he is confident and ready.
I’m so proud of you! Your story is so important to share. God Bless You.
thank you so much for sharing of yourself. I could feel your pain in sharing. You reminded me of me. but, I never had fun. I stayed in my pain. I came out when I was 26 after being married and having 2 kids as I had NO idea what I was doing. Again I stayed in the pain. Do not forget to have fun. let others hear you even if its painful and walk through it. I went it conversion therapy twice. Meditate on Gods grace. Its HUGE. His love for you is endless
I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU that it worked out for you and your parents!
YOU GUYS MAKE AN AWESOME COUPLE .
Thanks so much Gordon. I'm so blessed and grateful for my family.
I watch all of your videos. This one taught me a lot. Thanks so much.
Thank you. This video is special to us. Glad it could teach you something.
You are a brave man sharing your story...and have a lovely eyes...they capture all the attention ! Blessings !
Thanks for sharing your story. It was really moving & I'm so glad you found yourself! ❤️
I'm proud of you. I know it wasn't easy for you but your brave enough to conquer that fear. Thank you for sharing your story.
Dro Paradise thanks so much Dro for watching our video. It wasn't easy as you can see from the video but I can only hope it can help others if they are going through what I went through hit hopefully a parent might see this and see how damaging this therapy is.
Quando falamos de feridas abertas, acredito que inconscientemente temos muitas questões que sequer pensamos racionalmente. Por isso, hoje, tento respeitar todas as pessoas, independentemente do que elas estão passando. Não sabemos o que se passou na vida dela. Ouvir mais, principalmente nesses casos, é o melhor a ser feito.
Obrigado por compartilhar conosco.
Torço muito pela felicidade de vocês, Adam e Bernardo. 👬
Thank you for sharing your story. I applauded your bravery for opening up about your story. I was touched and cried when I saw the pain on your face when you were telling what you went through at the conversion therapy. I am glad that your parents have been so accepting of what you are. Please do not stop spreading your happiness and love together with Bernardo. Love conquers everything.
I’m loving the first 21 seconds..........priceless. Love your story and journey! ❤️