Newlywed Struggles: Top 6 Difficult Topics Couples Face

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  • Опубликовано: 10 сен 2024
  • Saying "I do" is the fun part, but marriage comes with its own challenges! We spill the tea on the 6 toughest topics new couples have to tackle, from jealousy to money meltdowns. Get ready for some real talk (and maybe a few laughs) about keeping the love alive after the honeymoon phase!
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    Following our 'steps': how did we get here?
    We are Adam (North American) and Bernardo (Brazilian) and we are husbands whose paths crossed back in 2016, when we both still lived in Brazil. Since the very beginning, we shared a common passion for travel and nature, which has only grown over the years and led us to this unexpected journey on RUclips, which has allowed us to connect with an amazing community that we’re beyond grateful for. “Go out and make memories” is our motto of living and a constant reminder for us that true happiness doesn’t come from the material wealth we accumulate, but from the memories we create and share with our loved ones throughout our existence. We invite you to join us in our crazy journey in life and hopefully we can inspire you to go out and make some memories on your own. Welcome aboard!

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  • @Stepsof2Foreigners
    @Stepsof2Foreigners  5 лет назад +365

    Happy Tuesday everyone! We're back and we wanted to do a sit down video with you. We haven't done one of these in a while, besides the challenges and the question and answers.
    We aren't therapists here (clearly) but we had fun explaining how these subjects impacted our relationship. It's like we have a therapy session in front of the camera, haha.
    Just curious, do you all talk about these in your relationship? Are they uncomfortable to talk about? We didn't think so. We think they might be at the start of a relationship.
    We have a surprise for next week's video. If you don't follow us on Instagram, follow us. You'll see on Saturday :)

    • @thonyfothergill
      @thonyfothergill 5 лет назад +13

      Loved this guys. Your banter is lovely to see. Lots of love x

    • @andrewgreen9264
      @andrewgreen9264 5 лет назад +8

      A really sweet,insightful clip,I think the best thing about you both is that you are each others best friend , this is the basis that your relationship is growing stronger ,and tbh your 'pet peeves' aren't that bad 😁
      The arguments is the one that resonates with me,my late husband was the 'Bernardo' ,he wanted everything settled ...he was the sort of person who didn't want to go to bed if we had argued whereas I just wanted things to calm down 🤔.
      It's good to see you are still evolving in making the clips and as you said in the live chat Sunday when you start travelling again you want to increase content across You Tube/Patreon then different styles of clips will no doubt help ...
      End of Chapter 1 😂😂😂
      P.S. when the subjects came up at the beginning I think you spelt arguments wrong ...(sorry) lol
      AJG 🇬🇧

    • @darriontunstall3708
      @darriontunstall3708 5 лет назад +7

      Stepsof2Foreigners great video guys!! Y’all are cute Husbands together! Keep praying for me and my best friend to become friends again thanks

    • @wagnersansuy2865
      @wagnersansuy2865 5 лет назад +3

      Vocês se completam como a lua e o mar. Sinto que o Senhor Bernardo Vespermann é mais razão do que coração, acho que tens mais paciência para ouvir do que o Senhor Adam Pate que é muito metódico, organizado e que não consegue sintetizar bem as emoções e para evitar conflitos desnecessários prefere sair à francesa como no dizem aqui no Brasil, destaco que o próprio Adam evita fazer isso hoje pois evoluiu. Sou um pouco assim, evito discussões e saio. O auto-conhecimento de vocês como casal está evoluindo bem e isso é nítido. Continuem assim, só desejo o melhor nas vossas vidas. Parabéns pelo canal mais uma vez, e mais uma coisa ensina o Adam Pate a rebolar ele está bem travado, muito engraçado está parte do vídeo. Abraço grande!!!

    • @claramarianongtraw5030
      @claramarianongtraw5030 5 лет назад +5

      Like the new addition of bloopers.. its funny.. God bless you both.. you guys should try doing like a challenge video ( spin the wheel with different things..)

  • @ayushshukla9348
    @ayushshukla9348 5 лет назад +224

    It seems like you are telling a story to the children, damn that's so cute , I really appreciate you guys , you both are awesome ❤️ huge love from India 🇮🇳

    • @Stepsof2Foreigners
      @Stepsof2Foreigners  5 лет назад +18

      How kind of you to say that Ayush. Thank you. Big hugs from Portland :)

    • @vinaysharma1369
      @vinaysharma1369 5 лет назад +5

      You both awesome. Love u guys

    • @bigcock582
      @bigcock582 5 лет назад +1

      ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤Guys! You just have to fuck more !!! Even more!

    • @BMW-je4xn
      @BMW-je4xn 4 года назад

      Ayush are you looking for partner

    • @infphere1890
      @infphere1890 4 года назад +1

      The moment i saw flag of india i knew there will be a guy(s) asking for being in a relationship.

  • @kalanipagan3581
    @kalanipagan3581 5 лет назад +17

    One thing I learned, the key to a successful marriage is to keep the option of a divorce out of the picture. Once you let that be an option you bring it to life. Don’t keep that as an option.

  • @Jiozinu
    @Jiozinu 5 лет назад +352

    If you get divorced,I'll never believe in love again.

  • @aldrummond4061
    @aldrummond4061 5 лет назад +4

    Love you guys. How do 2 people so bonded find each other ? It' truly a rare thing in life. Your videos show it so well . You guys are so real, like old friends I've had. You both have helped so many people see what real love is. Continue loving each other ! LOVE and PEACE .

  • @speronocte7516
    @speronocte7516 4 года назад +8

    My boyfriend and I, just had our one year boyfriendversary, are not married yet but going through the same exact things right now. It’s good to know that we aren’t alone in our issues and progress. Thank you guys for shedding light! We appreciate you both.

  • @kennethjefferywade9527
    @kennethjefferywade9527 4 года назад +11

    Adam and Bernardo I want to share something with you that my grandmother shared with me when I was little. When loved ones get into an argument never let the sun set on it try and resolve it before the sun sets. Some arguments might take a little time to get resolved. It's good to stop think about what you're going to say, before saying it because you can say something and not be able to take it back and feelings are hurt words are said and it's a lot more damage.

  • @leoacosta3315
    @leoacosta3315 5 лет назад +36

    It’s refreshing to see two awesome gay guys having such a healthy relationship. It’s very inspiring. I wish you and your respective families love, health, and prosperity 🙃

    • @jieognare7936
      @jieognare7936 5 лет назад

      Leo Acosta for now. wait till 1 year..

    • @eternalgemini
      @eternalgemini 4 года назад +6

      @@jieognare7936 They've already been together for multiple years, I think they'll be just fine! ❤️👍

  • @AJD323
    @AJD323 4 года назад +3

    I love how you guys put bloopers on your video because it shows that you guys are a realisitc couple and not just faking it for the views.

  • @rodell100
    @rodell100 5 лет назад +6

    Marriage and relationships are difficult. I have lived together with my partner for 8 years. MarrIed for 3 years. Divorced for 3 years. Back together now for 3 years and with all the struggles we are happier now than ever. Never give up and know the grass is never greener on the other side.

  • @laurapickman9415
    @laurapickman9415 5 лет назад +4

    You are my Zen after a long work day. You two bring light and love to so many. We need that now. Much Love.
    Also, you two will be awesome dads!

  • @Sky-fr4sj
    @Sky-fr4sj 5 лет назад +3

    You both reminded me so much of my big brother and my brother-in-law, in the early stages of their marriage relationship... Now 16 years later with 3 kids, they are still the same, except the fact that they are more in love with each.
    Plus the love between you both is so beautiful. May you both be together until the end of this journey, and in the next.

  • @gsusan11
    @gsusan11 5 лет назад +3

    Great video you guys. You two really seem to have your act together and that’s very refreshing. As long as you can sit down and talk about a subject you should be able to work it out between the two of you. Life is a learning experience and the best thing you can do is learn and grow together. And I loved the bloopers at the end!

  • @joshbaker430
    @joshbaker430 5 лет назад +6

    My husband and I shared an account( equal amount deposited monthly) and kept our individual accounts if we wanted to buy personal items or surprise each other with gifts. My pet peeves were that he would shave and leave the hairs in the sink. The worst was not replacing the toilet paper. Remember in the long run life is short and these little things really don’t matter. I miss all those silly things. Love you guys. 😀❤️❤️😘

  • @micsph8657
    @micsph8657 5 лет назад +12

    I nominate you for an Emmy Performance for this particular episode. My fav quote unquote Adam sliding your hands on Bernardo's face "I love how he talks about dishwasher but he really doesn't even do the dishes" that ending was so Perfect...it's should be added as a future sitcom...ohh love the soundtrack really smoooth...Abiento Guys...

  • @Asklu1
    @Asklu1 3 года назад +1

    You are so funny, even over difficult topics! By arguments don't put pressure, don't reaction in heat, be responsible, argue with the love not out an emotion. Breath deeply! I'm not married!

  • @psremington
    @psremington 5 лет назад +5

    Love watching you guys take this journey through life. It’s so refreshing seeing two guys willing to work at their relationship. Blessings to both of you. ❤️❤️

  • @raemundvp1153
    @raemundvp1153 5 лет назад +18

    This is such a good video. It shows that you have a normal loving relationship. It is not just a therapy for you but a therapy to ther couples who watch you. Awesome job! Love it!❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @RBS_
      @RBS_ 5 лет назад +1

      ....I AGREE! ; )

    • @Stepsof2Foreigners
      @Stepsof2Foreigners  5 лет назад +1

      Thanks so much Raemund. We just don't feel like we have any credentials for people to listen to us. Our pasts are CRAZY! haha. What we can say what has worked for us and yes, we've had some problems in some areas but that's the fun part of a relationship. Watching the other person overcome an obstacle with your help. What an amazing feeling.

  • @harrietcarr307
    @harrietcarr307 5 лет назад +1

    I really enjoyed the way you chose to discuss these important couples relationship topics. I know in my own 2 marriages, some of these were hard to talk about w/o getting defensive. My last husband didn't ever want to have a disagreement. He called it fighting, which I thought was stupid! He never saw his parents disagree, (!!) while mine were very vocal. So he would get upset if I wanted to discuss something. You can't have an honest relationship in my opinion, if you won't be open with your partner. You two have that willingness to talk about any needs or issues. I think that strengthens any relationship. Your videos are a nice mix of activity, discussion, games, travel. That makes them ever fresh! You editing, photography and music choices are always improving, and show the time and effort you put into each one. This was great. Love you, Harriet

  • @Gay224
    @Gay224 4 года назад +5

    I love you two! Huge goal to be in a relationship similar to what you’ve created together! So joyful and loving. Ugh one day! So happy for you in your life journey. This video was so real and raw. Thanks for sharing your successes and struggles and what it means to be in a relationship and committed. And for being so open for all of us. It may not feel like it at times but you’re doing everything right! Have each other’s backs and take care of each other’s hearts. I know you will. And if it wasn’t already obvious, gay relationships are not unlike straight ones. Love is love is love.

  • @attilaszabados7431
    @attilaszabados7431 4 года назад +4

    I watch an episode of yours every single night like guys how can you make me feel those happy tears in my eyes? Keep doing this, much love from Hungary ❤️

  • @nutcaseneo191
    @nutcaseneo191 5 лет назад +18

    It is our 5 yr anniversary tomorrow, you guys have helped us a lot in our struggle.
    Love u guys 😘😘🍎🎂🌟

    • @Stepsof2Foreigners
      @Stepsof2Foreigners  5 лет назад +2

      Wow! Happy Anniversary guys. Congrats. That is amazing. We love you too!

  • @lelandpeck4585
    @lelandpeck4585 5 лет назад +1

    thanks guys for your openness. Just remember never to let the sun go down before you've cleared up any arguments!

  • @curivo8
    @curivo8 5 лет назад +17

    Remember guys we love people for their qualities but we love them for their shortcomings

  • @stevec404
    @stevec404 5 лет назад +1

    I get it - your 'stable place' right now is...with each other! The world is your playground; as it should be for everyone. XOXO

  • @isangblacktupa
    @isangblacktupa 5 лет назад +50

    Hahahaha OMG on the towel and the falling asleep and snoring when watching a movie 😂✌️I can totally relate with mine

    • @Stepsof2Foreigners
      @Stepsof2Foreigners  5 лет назад +6

      haha, I think pretty much all couples can relate to those :)

    • @Jenny-wv1fb
      @Jenny-wv1fb 5 лет назад

      Check out this cutie ruclips.net/video/0z8sxhkZmZQ/видео.html

  • @williamallman8330
    @williamallman8330 5 лет назад +4

    Love your openly sharing your most intimate relationship. Honesty, communication and respect are the major facets to a successful long-term relationship. I speak from experience with two failed ones under my belt.

    • @Stepsof2Foreigners
      @Stepsof2Foreigners  5 лет назад

      Thanks so much William. We agree with you. Big hugs to you.

  • @eddieyyy3
    @eddieyyy3 4 года назад +8

    I agree finances is the hardest thing to go through in a relationship. Even with my bf of 7 years I still struggle to find the balance between “spending based on emotion and not reality.”

  • @nancyborden5860
    @nancyborden5860 5 лет назад +1

    You guys are the bombs. Just stay true to each other and on your 50h anniversary, you can rewatch this post and smile.

  • @Droolingmutt
    @Droolingmutt 5 лет назад +16

    YES! I'm so glad you two posted a video. These videos have become a part of my daily routine and everytime I see a new video I just get so excited. 😂❤ Thank you for making our days brighter!

    • @RBS_
      @RBS_ 5 лет назад +2

      ....us, TOO! ; )

    • @Stepsof2Foreigners
      @Stepsof2Foreigners  5 лет назад +3

      Quarantine, you are too kind. Thank you. We will continue to post new videos every Tuesday but watch out for 2020. We might be making some changes :)

    • @Stepsof2Foreigners
      @Stepsof2Foreigners  5 лет назад +3

      Always so sweet :) Thanks!

    • @Droolingmutt
      @Droolingmutt 5 лет назад

      Oh my goodness, can't believe you replied to this! My cousin says I'm overreacting when I screamed at the notification, but I say otherwise. I can't wait to see what changes you two are going to make! You have the support of your devoted followers no matter what. ❤

  • @b4804514
    @b4804514 5 лет назад +2

    Bernardo is really on point with the first comment. Identity is critical. We have watched you guys grow closer and closer clearly working on your shortcoming with each other and making a relationship to be very proud of. Having the courage to talk about these very personal subjects shows us just how much confidence you have in each other. Well done guys Your videos are always like having a conversation with friends

    • @RBS_
      @RBS_ 5 лет назад

      ......yeah, and I'M that chatty-ass guest that won't leave the damn Party!! ...ha-HAA! 🥴 ....and you're RIGHT about the Boys....VERY inspirational, they ARE!! 👬💕

  • @jimboland4161
    @jimboland4161 3 года назад +8

    My partner and I have our own bedrooms. I can’t imagine sharing my bed for anyone. We had separate bedrooms for 17 years.

    • @user-dd8rl4ej5d
      @user-dd8rl4ej5d 3 года назад

      How do you have sex?

    • @rafwd1968
      @rafwd1968 3 года назад

      Woww how y'all become a real partner when you're not sharing your bed together ? I can't even imagine

  • @genesiesky3756
    @genesiesky3756 5 лет назад +1

    Boys, my therapy advice to you
    1. Fix the small things before they balloon into big things. (You gave some good examples)
    2. Don't be afraid to talk about things that affect the relationship. Research indicates that one of the biggest predictors of marital satisfaction is communication. If necessary, set a time and day when you can come back together to resolve things. Not talking about things tends to breed deeper dislike over time, but allow the other person time to deal with their emotions/reactions and collect their thoughts. (Rushing to talk when the other person needs some time speaks of the person's insecurity/anxiety if problems are not resolved immediately.)
    3. Jealousy will weaken the foundation of the relationship. Reassure each other what the other person means to you and why they do not have to fear that you will weaken the commitment to the partner.

  • @samyoung2260
    @samyoung2260 5 лет назад +5

    I love this video! U guys r perfect for each other! I appreciate u smashing the fantasy that a relationship with your perfect guy is not going to b with some issues. The great thing is u guys try to work it out with humor and understanding. Keep enjoying the energy u both exude! Thanks for another humorous and revealing video! It s all true, once the honeymoon stage is over, u notice some the habits of your partner that annoys u! If u r able to overcome these annoyances, the relationship will get stronger. I have no doubts u r able to work the issues out and make your relationship even more special. Sam

  • @WDrafa-el
    @WDrafa-el 5 лет назад +2

    Beautiful what they shared. There are differences in two people but if they are based on love and understanding there are successes in the couple. I love you guys, you are special

  • @josephpatrick4375
    @josephpatrick4375 5 лет назад +161

    I can hear all of America letting out one big "awe....."

  • @marth9660
    @marth9660 5 лет назад +2

    Love this. You have already achieved a great balance between organically growing into each other but still deliberately making time to focus on where you’re at with each other and where/how you want to move forward. You don’t over analyse but you still reflect and share. Insecurity and jealousy have always been the pitfall for me - because of serious trust issues. And as for a wet towel on the bed......that would push me right over the edge 😂😂❤️❤️ Love you both xx

  • @missaires9831
    @missaires9831 4 года назад +4

    I’m jst too addicted to you two, i jst wanna keep watching you cz i admire the love you have for each other. Luv y’all 😍

  • @terryjohn4567
    @terryjohn4567 5 лет назад +1

    A good marriage is two individuals who have things in common, and interests apart, who choose to be together because they want to be. You choose to share your individual lives, with core common goals.

  • @amirnisar4959
    @amirnisar4959 5 лет назад +14

    The whole world goes on and on about love. Poets spend their lives writing about it. Everyone thinks it's the most wonderful thing. But, when you mention two guys in love, they forget all that and freak out..love you #stepsof2foreigners ♥

  • @justthedailythings6892
    @justthedailythings6892 5 лет назад +2

    Happy almost coming out day which is the 11th I feel like you guys have inspired people that have trouble with expressing their real feelings and I appreciate that because not every person that people talk to have gone through what you guys have gone through if that makes since

  • @secretperson1396
    @secretperson1396 4 года назад +4

    Hey, I'm a new subscriber and a new fan :D
    I'm a 21 y.o. gay man from Indonesia. We have 34 provinces here and 33 out of 34 provinces don't criminalize homosexuality. Even tho it's not criminalized in most of our provinces, it's still really hard to be openly gay. If you are openly gay, you may get "social" punishment from your surroundings.
    I've dated two guys before and the first one only lasted for 1 month, the second one only lasted for 4 months. How pitiful I was haha. Kinda hopeless romantic here now. But I love watching you guys. You guys both are really amazing :")
    So happy for you, guys. I do really mean it!
    Keep being amazing. Love from Indonesia

    • @alexdjuan5641
      @alexdjuan5641 4 года назад +1

      I'm form Indonesia too , that really sad and bad fact and put us into hard feeling being gay 😔

  • @galev3955
    @galev3955 5 лет назад +2

    Lately I wasn't watching your guys as much because I admit I was a bit envious of your happiness, I wasn't sure if maybe it would just make me feel more lonely.
    But this video is just so wholesome and it is so great to see and hear you be true with each other and be open and vulnerable and talking about these things. It warmed my heart :) There is really not much out there to know what to expect from a healthy gay relationship, or if one is even possible. So for that reason I think it is very useful to see your example.

  • @tplmic5866
    @tplmic5866 5 лет назад +11

    I smiled and laughed so much. Thanks for showing your love for each other.

  • @stevenescover7251
    @stevenescover7251 4 года назад

    LOL. Benard and Adam you are working through the small bumps that a loving couple experiences. However, the key is communication based on understanding, respect and satisfying individual expectations. Its balance with love holding the equilibrium in the relationship. Now having said that, I love your sharing on each of the videos. In one way you are being courageous because humans like to make judgement on many aspects in others but never use self-reflection to gain their own insights to their weakness, strengths and deficiencies. So thank you for be sharing and modeling how we can be better humans.
    Being honest if you were living in the same community i definitely would want you in my inner circle. 😊😊😊

  • @hydeemangubat6249
    @hydeemangubat6249 5 лет назад +6

    I like the Argument topic its cute everytime Adam agreed what Bernardo said .."he does"..bloopers are fun ..Thank you again guys for sharing this kind of video..Godbless😊

    • @Stepsof2Foreigners
      @Stepsof2Foreigners  5 лет назад +1

      Thanks so much Hydee. Yes, our argument subject, we were interested to hear what the other would say. I'm glad Bernardo mentioned those points :) Big hugs to you.

  • @lawrenceharris7369
    @lawrenceharris7369 3 года назад +1

    You guys are hilarious, but real, and true to yourselves, and one another.

  • @jezzaqc
    @jezzaqc 5 лет назад +11

    Love the blooper reel. Before that I hadn’t quite appreciated how much work goes into these videos and making them so good!

    • @Stepsof2Foreigners
      @Stepsof2Foreigners  5 лет назад +3

      Hey! Haha, yes, the videos do take some time. Especially when you have to memorize something, haha.

    • @jezzaqc
      @jezzaqc 5 лет назад

      Stepsof2Foreigners Well thank you! The effort is really appreciated. The videos are awesome. Really cheer me up! Thank you!

  • @garygreely7782
    @garygreely7782 5 лет назад

    Very enjoyable; it was great seeing you both being honest. One has to continue to communicate to each other to keep honesty and respect for each other. It's never good to keep things bottled up. Keep up the great work and I really enjoy watching your journey with each other.

  • @dh6418
    @dh6418 5 лет назад +3

    You two still together after doing this episode? lol ! You both are just great. I think your future together is gonna be awesome. The fact that you two are willing to work together and not let things bug each other so much makes me feel really good about your marriage. But then again, I'm no therapist either ! lol love you guys, take care .

  • @leleguich5355
    @leleguich5355 5 лет назад +1

    Hi guys! wow, I can exactly recognize my relationship with my husband! we met 16 years ago and we immediately started to live together. We married two years ago (in Italy it was not allowed before). these are the same subjects we talk about, and sometimes it's a little unconfortable. Thanks so much, I love you!

    • @leleguich5355
      @leleguich5355 5 лет назад

      @Levent A it's called "civil union" , obviously religious marriage isn't allowed... but it's enough for civil rights

  • @thetravellinghobitt
    @thetravellinghobitt 5 лет назад +55

    Hello my lovelies! I think my personality is sooo like Adam’s! Apparently I leave the dishes on top of the dishwasher which drives him nuts! Talking about arguments, me and my partner don’t go to sleep not settling it and say I love you and a kiss in the end. I think that makes it more better for us and keeps us in a tight bond. I would love a dog in the future! Hahaha! Good acting guys! Loving the bloopers! 👍🏼😂😊 I love you guys! 😍❤️😘👍🏼

    • @RBS_
      @RBS_ 5 лет назад +2

      ....a DOG!? ...for them, or for YOU!? ....WELL, we all know Adam is not one for 'pussy' (13:32) ...ha-HAAAA!!! 😾❎ / 🐕‍✅

    • @denningselan2830
      @denningselan2830 5 лет назад +2

      Lovely couple

    • @Stepsof2Foreigners
      @Stepsof2Foreigners  5 лет назад +4

      How are you? Yes, we agree that going to sleep when you're in an argument isn't good. We solve any problems before sleeping. We hope you guys are doing well. Glad you liked the acting :) Big hugs.

    • @Stepsof2Foreigners
      @Stepsof2Foreigners  5 лет назад +4

      That's certainly right :)

    • @RBS_
      @RBS_ 5 лет назад +1

      @@Stepsof2Foreigners ....🙀!! ...ha-HAAA!!

  • @JohnMartinez-sm1sk
    @JohnMartinez-sm1sk 4 года назад

    You don’t have to agree on everything, just be respectful of the other person. You guys are a hoot. Cheers buddies

  • @chc4002
    @chc4002 5 лет назад +5

    You are irresistible ...really !!!
    ..You release the joy of living... You are so beautiful because so much in love...
    You can approach all facets of the life of a couple....
    Thank you so much to exist :)))

  • @waltervelasquez6834
    @waltervelasquez6834 4 года назад

    Alan and Benardo. I greet you from my great admiration and the greatest joy of my heart, his love fills me with laughter and dreams, I love you very much from El Salvador, many blessings and they continue to grow.

  • @iqtanmendro9549
    @iqtanmendro9549 5 лет назад +6

    My favorite couple on youtube ... Huge Love from Indonesia 🇮🇩

  • @jacquelinevicars4235
    @jacquelinevicars4235 5 лет назад +1

    Love this video! For every couple, they will have their ways that work for them, but the one thing that all couples absolutely have to have is honest communication. If you don't talk about what makes you happy, sad, expectations etc.. then it won't work!!

  • @massing_august
    @massing_august 5 лет назад +79

    I'm already loving this..😂😂♥️♥️

    • @enzomartinez8083
      @enzomartinez8083 5 лет назад +4

      Me too just with the beggining...i was like "ok I already love this"...😃😃😃

    • @Stepsof2Foreigners
      @Stepsof2Foreigners  5 лет назад +4

      How sweet. Thank you. We tried something new with the intro.

  • @GregRBaird
    @GregRBaird 5 лет назад

    You two continue to impress me on your relationship and your journey. I appreciate you and your honesty and sharing your world with so many...you are educating and opening so many hearts and minds. Hugs and love from me.

  • @latabernadelduende
    @latabernadelduende 3 года назад +6

    13:54 Bernardo: We can’t have much stability in our lives
    Corona: u staying home darling

  • @richardblackwell1230
    @richardblackwell1230 5 лет назад

    Great video - loved the bloopers at the end - more please. Relationships are hard and you do have to understand the other person very well. The pet peeves one is something that you try to change in the other person but sometimes you realise that you will just have to accept it.

  • @alfonsomoser
    @alfonsomoser 5 лет назад +4

    Thanks for sharing this amazing video guys! Even if you talked about trust I think that also respect is a very important value in a couple life. Respect is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. But what exactly is respect? Respect means in my opinion that you recognize that your partner is a whole person, and not just a way to get something that you want. It means that you know your partner has different experiences and opinions from you, and that's ok. Furthermore you desire to love his experiences and to share them so that the relationship can grow towards an unexpected happiness.
    A massive hug from Trentino Italy 🇮🇹
    Have good days together and hopefully for ever. Alf 😊

    • @RBS_
      @RBS_ 5 лет назад

      .....lovely saying, lovely meaning, and, from an ITALIAN, TOO!?
      ...well, AWLRITE! 😉👍

  • @noven100
    @noven100 4 года назад

    I only wish you guys more love, good health and happy marriage. You guys are made for each other. Watching the videos and see the way you talk and interact with each other is PURE LOVE!!!. I have been with my partner for over 21 years and I can't imagine myself without him.

  • @calvindavis3641
    @calvindavis3641 5 лет назад +7

    On that subject of jealousy. You know it's healthy in early relationships to look at another man and say he's attractive. Own up to the fact that your are NOT the only two handsome men on the planet. Appreciating other things of beauty, including men, is nothing to be jealous about. You're still only going home with each other. The more you remember that, the easier it will get.

    • @RBS_
      @RBS_ 5 лет назад

      ....and HOW! ; )

    • @Stepsof2Foreigners
      @Stepsof2Foreigners  5 лет назад +1

      Calvin, you are EXACTLY right. We have been working on that and it has been working. Thanks for the input :)

    • @calvindavis3641
      @calvindavis3641 5 лет назад +2

      @@RBS_ How is appreciation and acceptance for other beauty in the world. Take Brazil for instance. So many beautiful men there. If you're not honest with your partner that there are beautiful men that has you looking at them, then there's a part of your relationship that is not being honest.

    • @RBS_
      @RBS_ 5 лет назад +2

      @@calvindavis3641 ....true, and even 'harder' (so to speak), with all those Hot Brazilians.....that I don't HAVE!! 😥 ..do me a favor, and get me one, willya, so I can stay outta the comments section!? ...ha-HAA!!

    • @Stepsof2Foreigners
      @Stepsof2Foreigners  5 лет назад +1

      Haha. Yes, we started to text who we were attracted to in the gym. It's been working.

  • @hiphopboy29
    @hiphopboy29 5 лет назад

    All relationships take commitment and trust and constant work. And no relationship is perfect🙂
    Love the bloopers 😄

  • @petermacleod7509
    @petermacleod7509 5 лет назад +8

    I like this video,it shows how much you both trust each other.❤️❤️❤️✌🏻

    • @Stepsof2Foreigners
      @Stepsof2Foreigners  5 лет назад +1

      Thanks so much Peter. We're glad to hear you enjoyed this video.

  • @bretvegan
    @bretvegan 5 лет назад

    Great job bringing the videos to the next level. This video brings a new perspective of who you are and what you both bring to the relationship. The way you engage with each other is a fantastic formula. As with any medium, film, TV, or RUclips videos, if the content draws you in then you'll return for more. Your personalities and senses of humor are a nice escape from the challenges of the day.

  • @briansherrod1916
    @briansherrod1916 5 лет назад +3

    Every Tuesday, I get what I’ve been waiting all week for! ❤️

    • @a.2169
      @a.2169 5 лет назад

      What's your @? You cuuute

  • @derekvandeventer9524
    @derekvandeventer9524 5 лет назад +1

    You guys are adorable. It’s cute how real you get with each other and how you laugh and acknowledge the things about yourselves. It’s inspiring. And Adam, I’m with you: keep your eyes and your hands off my man.

    • @RBS_
      @RBS_ 5 лет назад

      .....well, I see Derek doesn't play! ...ha-HAA! 😡👊😲

    • @derekvandeventer9524
      @derekvandeventer9524 5 лет назад

      RBS got that right!

  • @CassDunham
    @CassDunham 5 лет назад +33

    The opening sequence of this video was perfect and hilarious! I have a solution for your dirty laundry hamper. Get a hamper without a lid, it's life changing! Those hamper lids are tricky, no lid, no problem! lol

    • @Stepsof2Foreigners
      @Stepsof2Foreigners  5 лет назад +5

      Hey Cassee, thank you very much. We tried something a little new to the intro. Most of the time the hamper doesn't have the lid on it because it's mixed in with the clothes, haha. Lid or no lid, the clothes would be on the floor :)

  • @vallebm9844
    @vallebm9844 5 лет назад

    Hi! Appreciate that you do not try to pretend that all is perfect in a relationship and, good thing you take things with sense of humour. That is the key! Thanks for the video! 😍😍😍

  • @O0oRnPo0O
    @O0oRnPo0O 4 года назад +4

    It’s so adorable, love watching your videos! You always make me smile, don’t lose this passion you got between each other! 😉

  • @djb6313
    @djb6313 5 лет назад

    We’ve been together for 20 years and your 7 months can be just as long if you continue to communicate. Share your likes, dislikes, fear, joy, pain, hurt, love, truth, needs, wants, and accept each other for who you are. After 20 years we have been through many pet peeves but never have we forgotten how much we love each other. We still tease each other about the dishwasher loading which I’m starting to believe is a universal couples issue. 😄.
    Keep trusting each other, believing in each other, remember to laugh together even when times are tough. Love is wonderful and you two look like you’re deep in it.

  • @susiew.9012
    @susiew.9012 5 лет назад +18

    Happy tuesday boys. I really enjoyed this intimate insight into your relationship. I think you both did your fair share of squirming haha! You both put your points across with good humour tho which is a good thing, as is compromise and discussion. Kudos to you for this open and honest vlog guys, love and hugs 😍💋😍💋🏳️‍🌈

    • @Stepsof2Foreigners
      @Stepsof2Foreigners  5 лет назад +2

      Thank you. We wanted to be as honest as we could. Glad you enjoyed this video. Big hugs to you Susie :)

  • @curivo8
    @curivo8 5 лет назад +2

    Life will always give us things to enjoy, sometimes they will be good others not so much, they can be sad or moments of great joy, but the fun thing is knowing how to take advantage of each of them and understand that they help us grow and mature.

    • @RBS_
      @RBS_ 5 лет назад +1

      ....lovely saying, just....lovely.... ; )

  • @wesleyoliveira6975
    @wesleyoliveira6975 5 лет назад +10

    Nossa, adorei o "papo cabeça" de hoje, vocês são maravilhosos juntos e estão em perfeita sintonia, mesmo com pequenas discordâncias vocês conseguem chegar a um denominador comum. Uma sugestão, ficou bem legal os bastidores do vídeo no final poderiam manter nos próximos. 😘😘😘😘

  • @humanityin1minute898
    @humanityin1minute898 5 лет назад

    Dear Adam and Bernardo, what a great video! 😊🙏🏻 more than the answers itself, I truly believe that the inspirational content of the video is your cumplicity. This video is such an amazing example of expanding consciousness through your own internal things: I felt like Adam is not going to stop being jealous suddenly but I get the feeling he is not trapped in his jealousy anymore. That is such an amazing message of freedom and kindness ! 😊🙏🏻 thank you, guys! Hugs (abraços) from Portugal

  • @jimjefftube
    @jimjefftube 5 лет назад +9

    Being able to laugh is so important, regardless of the issue. We can always see the love for one-another and the laughter is so endearing & heartwarming! Best wishes to both of you and never stop working together to solve issues!

  • @michaela8614
    @michaela8614 5 лет назад

    My partner and I have been together for 17 1/2 years. Not married but committed in the same way. Maybe some day we will do it. We have all of the same issues but have worked through them over time. Love your channel. Wishing you all of the best.

  • @asminhasvisoesdomundojunio6694
    @asminhasvisoesdomundojunio6694 5 лет назад +9

    Na parte das discussões só faltou a "vozinha" de reconciliação " baby I'm Sorry" kkkkkkkkkkkk

  • @rubberdc
    @rubberdc 5 лет назад

    The lack of trust ..I feel , is the bit that I felt at the start , but that is something personal to me , something from my past .

  • @helieldias3551
    @helieldias3551 5 лет назад +10

    Meninos,
    Super incrível, que mesmo com as diferenças vocês conversa abertamente; isso uma das coisas que acho mais incrível, que todos estamos longe da perfeição, sempre com uma ótima conversa podemos chegar em um
    Consenso.
    Obrigado,
    Ótima semana há vocês.
    Abraços 🧡

  • @kevinmcbein7795
    @kevinmcbein7795 3 года назад

    Once you met the true one for you... You never wanted to hurt them in any way for any reason. We need to stand for Loyalty & Faithfulness on top of Love.... I believe in a monogamous relationship. Once you say the I Love You...make it sure that you mean it and you stick by it... Love you two ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @stevengordillo5623
    @stevengordillo5623 5 лет назад +5

    I know how Bernardo feels about trying to fix arguments at the moment 😂 I'm the same way with my bf and hes just like adam because he steps away from the situation because he doesnt want to say anything bad just because he's angry

  • @patgrant8881
    @patgrant8881 4 года назад

    I love u guys!!! On the argument if it’s really heated, best to walk away settle down then agree to sit and talk when calmer.

  • @alexandernascimento6889
    @alexandernascimento6889 5 лет назад +39

    Vocês são tão fofos que nada parece abalar a relação, se existe alma gêmea vocês representam bem o esteriótipo. Tenho a impressão que os veremos velhinhos fazendo vídeos, é muito lindo ver a sintonia e o amor entre vocês...
    😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

    • @Stepsof2Foreigners
      @Stepsof2Foreigners  5 лет назад +8

      Fazendo challenge de cueca aos 80 anos e postando no RUclips. Já pensou?! 😂😂😂😂
      Nem tudo é fofura num relacionamento, mas o melhor é conseguirmos rir das burradas que fazemos no caminho. hahaha
      Obrigado por sempre estar aqui com a gente! ❤️
      Um imenso abraço!

    • @alexandernascimento6889
      @alexandernascimento6889 5 лет назад +3

      @@Stepsof2Foreigners de cueca aos 80 anos? Acho digno!!! 😂😂
      Sem dúvidas, nem tudo são flores mas a sintonia entre vocês é o reflexo do dia-a-dia e isso acaba passando para nós que assistimos, fofos!!!
      Muito amor pra vocês... 😍😍😍

    • @johnmarkquarre8291
      @johnmarkquarre8291 5 лет назад

      @@alexandernascimento6889 hi

    • @leonardoaraujo4943
      @leonardoaraujo4943 4 года назад +2

      Realmente são fofos,deixa sem uma lição amar sem limite!

    • @alexandernascimento6889
      @alexandernascimento6889 4 года назад +1

      @@leonardoaraujo4943 😍😍😍

  • @robertcrundwell2782
    @robertcrundwell2782 5 лет назад

    Thank you both for showing the world just how much a normal married couple you are. Actually much more honest and normal than when I got married in 1973. Back then you were expected to behave a certain way, and there were things just never mentioned, which created unnecessary tensions in relationships. I applaud you both for not being afraid to show your love.

    • @RBS_
      @RBS_ 5 лет назад

      ...and I applaud you, for being married since 1973; those were some WIIIILD times you weathered, and you're here, with us, and The 'Foreigners' ...BRAVURA!! ; )

  • @othnandleosteven1992
    @othnandleosteven1992 5 лет назад +3

    I don't know why but I can't stop watching your RUclips video 😩😩you guys are just too cute together ❤️❤️❤️

  • @paulkeating9950
    @paulkeating9950 3 года назад +1

    Another incredibly well done video. I’m still catching up on old videos but I feel like a kid at Christmas because I have so many yet to watch.

  • @beatlejuice1340
    @beatlejuice1340 5 лет назад +16

    3:47 oh dear Lawd!!!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣 The best twerking the internet has ever seen😂😂❤️

    • @Stepsof2Foreigners
      @Stepsof2Foreigners  5 лет назад +1

      Don't you be making fun of my amazing twerk. I want to be this drunk again :) - Adam writing!

    • @beatlejuice1340
      @beatlejuice1340 5 лет назад +1

      @@Stepsof2Foreigners you guys made my day🤣🤣🤣 Adam the way you lifted you leg when you were on the floor made me laugh harder, luckily there was nobody in the bus with me. The driver said, "I wanna be watching that too" 🤣🤣🤣

    • @beatlejuice1340
      @beatlejuice1340 5 лет назад +1

      @@Stepsof2Foreigners I usually wait till I get home to watch your videos but the amount of excitement I feel when I get a notification from you, makes me act like a kid who just got a bunch of candy🤣🤣🤣

    • @Stepsof2Foreigners
      @Stepsof2Foreigners  5 лет назад +2

      Wow, you're too cute. Thanks. Yeah, I was a bit wasted at that moment. I normally lift my legs up when I'm a bit tipsy :) haha.

    • @Stepsof2Foreigners
      @Stepsof2Foreigners  5 лет назад +1

      Don't read into that "I normally lift my legs up".... that means nothing :)

  • @hasankhansherani5921
    @hasankhansherani5921 4 года назад +1

    Finally you got married love you bro ...
    I give a big hug both of you...

  • @rubberdc
    @rubberdc 5 лет назад +21

    when you Adam have a shower , why cant Bernardo just walk in and hang his towel ? My husband always puts the towels back the way he wants to, I like them folded and put on the heated towel ladder neatly . It infuriates me when he repeats it .

    • @Stepsof2Foreigners
      @Stepsof2Foreigners  5 лет назад +6

      The door is unlocked. That excuse of me being in the shower is lame. (Yawn). I'd prefer it if he walked in on me every now and then but no, the towel stays on the bed :)

    • @DragonLightz
      @DragonLightz 5 лет назад +6

      @@Stepsof2Foreigners Hey, Bernardo! Adam said he prefers it if you WALK IN on him every now and then. Get the hint? ;-)

  • @alparish4989
    @alparish4989 5 лет назад

    My two cents. #1. solution, communication. Always talk about your feelings, wanna get mad, do it, but remember to discuss the problem AND the solution. The pet peeves can be solved by assigning the pet peeves as chores, one person manages the laundry, one person manages the kitchen etc. It is obvious you guys love each other, make your relationship the most important thing. You are now each others family, the extended family is no longer the priority. Each other comes first, do not let your families determine your relationship.

  • @atharvajadhav8337
    @atharvajadhav8337 4 года назад +3

    Adam being jealous is just so cute😂 I love you both💗 stay the same💗

  • @davidblegen5182
    @davidblegen5182 5 лет назад +1

    Happy Tuesday! Great Video. I love your honesty with each other and with us! You guys provide us with a glimpse that no relationship is "perfect", and we all the opportunity to have a purposeful conversation for a Win-Win! Hugs! David

  • @alexxolo
    @alexxolo 5 лет назад +6

    You two make me believe in love...

  • @briandunne4473
    @briandunne4473 4 года назад

    Guys, thank you for all your vlogs. I have been watching now for around twelve months, I love the relationship you have, thank you for sharing. Realisation of my true sexuality came much later in life due to church and family brainwashing. You are such beautiful guys, not just physically but for the people you are as well. I find the topics of you vlogs very interesting especially when you travel. Thank you again, you help me rationalise my confused life.

  • @duutdes
    @duutdes 4 года назад +3

    I'm rewatching this just cause it's Tuesday now and I'm waiting for your notification🤣🤣

  • @jean-marcpatron9389
    @jean-marcpatron9389 3 года назад +1

    you are so cute!!! Your hapyness is contagious ! THANK YOU !!!

  • @texanrob
    @texanrob 5 лет назад +6

    Great Video guys, This one made me laugh! 😅I notice details, Adam is that a passion mark on your neck? LOL 😲