8:29 ^Anyone that already knows their enneagram, wing (optional) and what sp, so and sx mean, that's where she starts to explain what the sub types look like at 7's
wow. i am definitely an sx 7. 100%. i feel like i have always been an sx 7w8 and its always caused me to kinda be looked down on by my parents and family because they never understood how a girl could be so outspoken, rebellious (i got in trouble so much as a kid haha), and out there. and i have always had those 4 qualities because of how emotional and deep i can be and it makes total sense that the 4 is also like the mistype for the sx 7 and its helped me out so much! thank you!
I'm TOTALLY a SO type 7 (7w8)! I love that you mentioned the "counter-type" and that each type has one. This really helped me zero in on my dominant instinct being "social". My next one is probably "self-preservation". Thanks, Hilary!
This makes so much sense. Side note: Does anyone else feel resistance to claim they are a "sexual" 7? Im like an middle schooler afraid to say the word outloud and I think that has held me back from reading or listening to what other enneagram coaches have been saying. I am absolutely looking for the most interesting person in the room and trying to see how I can sneak away to get a really deep conversation. It feeds my soul. I cannot handle small talk. I get bored. But.... with all of these things I have felt the need to supress, dont be too excited. Dont be too needy. Dont be annoying. So theres a desperation for the excitement to be reciprocated and if it isnt I really really struggle. .... and this has become too long for a comment. Maybe Im just trying to get a 1-1 convo with hillary here lol. I better go journal.
I fully relate to your post. I've dealt with suppressing my energy for most of my life as I'm often considered "too much". I've heard some refer to the sx as the 1:1 (one on one) instinct because so many people are uncomfortable with calling themselves "sexual". I hope that helps a little. 💕
I'm a 7 w6 SX. I'm always looking for that interesting person in the room. At the exact moment you said that, I found that person in the reflection in the picture on the wall in the background at 7:11.
I’m definitely so and sx thank you for this it really helped me understand this, I’m new to the enneagrams and I love your channel. That you put biblical approach to it helps so much!!
Wow! Okay, Well, thank you for making this easier to understand. I still think I am SO but hearing you talk about it SX is way up there too. My SP is basically off my radar most of the time. Once in a great while I will do that but most of the time those things certainly aren't on my mind at all.
Thank you for explaining this! I was actually wondering if I was a 7 or a 2, but after you explained this, I know I'm a 7, So. Then I'm pretty tied for 2nd type. I definitely think about helping in the kitchen right away and I pay close attention to food options, but then I also want to deeply connect to others instead of surface level communication.
You’re so welcome! This makes total sense. It can get confusing when your 1st instinct is to help but your motivations are not the type 2s motivations. But, it Sounds like you landed on your type and the instincts that are developed 🎉.
Thank You So much for this video. sx 7w8 ALL the way. I have been trying to change myself to please other people. And I am tired of being called gullible and innocent. I do not want to spend time anymore with people who do not like me for who I Am. Huge breakthrough. Thank You.
I scored highest as a 2 but also high as a 7 and as I've been learning more I def felt I identified more with 2. This makes sense! I think I'm a so/sx 7.
Thank you for this video. I'm a 7w6 sx/sp. I'm really bothered by the fact that I'm often perceived as being lazy, which I'm not. I do however escape into my mind quite often. Especially when I'm bored.
I love how you explain the enneagram, finally i can get some concepts crearly... :) I considered myself an 7w6 Sx, but after seeing this video i can relate more with the Sp instinct . I am a one-to-one person, but i need to put my interests, my passions and my needs first. I love spending time with a single person, but i tent to push the other people to share with me the things and actitivies that i like most. I need new experiences, but always with my goals and interests first. I am a home person, i dont enjoy traveling that much, and i prefer to stay home, having a snack, watch a good movie, read a book. This lead me to consider if i could be a 9 type, but i dont avoid conflict, and i am super aware of my needs, what i like, and, as a said, i can be pushy with other people, like "Let's do this, let's do that!"... and if they don't follow me, i'd spend time alone, i am totally ok with being by myself (but not for too many hours lol). My secondary instict would be SX, so that explains how sometimes i feel like a type 4 too. My gluttony, it feels like the urge to have more and more of what i love: new books, new movies, oh i can't miss this new movie on Netflix, oh i started to read 2 books but i neet to buy some more new books so this weekend i could have something new on my hands lol :) I am very childish, and very connected with my inner 5 core (integrated). Thank you for your videos Hillary, hugs!!!
The 7 social is me!! I thought I was a until I found this video. I would always score high on 2s and 7 on test and couldn't figure out why. And 2s wings didn't match me. Now I get it. I am a social 7w6. Sx is my second, Self preservation is last and very underdeveloped but I learning to care for myself.
Thanks for this. I know sp is my dominant but I thought I would be SO and then SX. However, listening to your explanation SX actually resonated with me much more. So I believe I am an SP/SX 7.
Wow, I guess it’s good that I can kind of relate to all three? But I guess in order I would be SX, SP, then SO (which is NOT the order I would have thought before watching this video!)
I always test top 3 in Beth's questionnaire 2, 3 and 7. After all three subtype videos 🤯. I know my stack has SO and SX, but that is about it. I know confusion between 3 and 7 is so common. And 7sx looks like 2. And my MBTI is ENFJ. So we have Fe dom but with Ni. And I'm more Fe-Se jumper. Which makes me loooove anything 7. Tritypes do help.
I think my sister might be a 7. She is athletic, spontaneous, gullible, and during 2020 stress is totally acting 6. I don’t relate to her at all, except for the 6 for preparedness, but I am always prepared for emergencies (my upbringing with a 6 Aunt around) But my sister during 2020 has gone down the Qanon rabbit hole hard. How do we save the 6 from Qanon????
Interesting! I misread the idea of a Social 7 so much. I am definitely a sx, so 7 - not sp at all pretty much. Something I'm excited to work on, and probably the very reason I married a strong, sp 6 to have by my side! :-)
Thank you for sharing! yes, I bet your spouse being a Strong SP 6 is great for you! I think having the opposite instincts can be good. We can help each other.
7 w 6 sx checking in here. She didn't even have to describe it. I knew what it was and that it would be my first instinct.😂 Followed closely by sp but being a 7w6 hard work is not a fave but yet I am surrounded with luxury.🤣 I have a daughter who is a 7w8 sp followed by so. She's incredible.🥰
SO - 7 all day. I closely identify with 2 though. I am literally type two mixed with type 7 which is very odd but …. I have never been so sure about anything lol I’m 2&7! I’m very in tune with peoples emotions. I have always been very in tune with people! I am well rounded and can see the reason in every situation. Even the worst situations. I’m a 2 on the side of empathy and romance. But unfortunately I have been traumatized by people and the inviting part of myself has become avoidant and optimistic to a fault. I’m ALWAYS saying no now and i never used to do that until I woke up and realized that I was letting people take advantage of me. I’m very much a 7 when I am doing well and healthy. I’m a 2 when I am home alone getting in touch with myself but nothing satisfies me & I hate being bored so I thrust myself into productivity and socializing. 🤦🏾♀️ im literally both. I dreamed of being a counselor or veterinarian when I was younger but I am very much so UNsatisfied with what that look be like for me. I crave excitement so much to the point where Broadway seems it will be the only career that will fulfill my longing for adventure. I love to perform! I feel i am helping when I do❤️. I’m moving to NYC. For practicality, I’m leaning towards product management and sales. Maybe I will offer counseling/life coach services on the side. If not I will make a great stay at home mom working and acting at the community theatre.🤷🏽♀️
It can be hard to land on your type sometimes...I have a series called 10 signs you might be...I'd watch the type 2 (comes out today) and the type 7. And if you still need help I have a typing session that would help you land on your type. :) Thanks for sharing.
I can't decide between Sp/Sx 3w2 or 7w8. I'm leaning to 7w8 after watching this video. To me I'm at the fair...and I need tickets to get on the ride (money) Losing/wasting money angers me and it's what I tend to criticize in others. I don't tend to take on SO responsibilities unless they are necessary to get what I'm seeking.
8:29
^Anyone that already knows their enneagram, wing (optional) and what sp, so and sx mean, that's where she starts to explain what the sub types look like at 7's
Came down to the comments looking for this. Thanks!
I thought I was a 2 or a 4, but the 7 SX really spoke to me
Me 3
wow. i am definitely an sx 7. 100%. i feel like i have always been an sx 7w8 and its always caused me to kinda be looked down on by my parents and family because they never understood how a girl could be so outspoken, rebellious (i got in trouble so much as a kid haha), and out there. and i have always had those 4 qualities because of how emotional and deep i can be and it makes total sense that the 4 is also like the mistype for the sx 7 and its helped me out so much! thank you!
So good! Thanks for sharing!
I relate to this 100%. I always want super deep conversations with people, even in parties. And I am quite eccentric in many people's eyes.
I'm TOTALLY a SO type 7 (7w8)! I love that you mentioned the "counter-type" and that each type has one. This really helped me zero in on my dominant instinct being "social". My next one is probably "self-preservation". Thanks, Hilary!
Awesome! Thanks for sharing!
Social type with 8 wing is wild
I thought I was a 2 for the longest time, but after researching a bunch, I am starting to realize I'm likely a 7w6 so/sx
I think that’s me too!
This makes so much sense. Side note: Does anyone else feel resistance to claim they are a "sexual" 7? Im like an middle schooler afraid to say the word outloud and I think that has held me back from reading or listening to what other enneagram coaches have been saying. I am absolutely looking for the most interesting person in the room and trying to see how I can sneak away to get a really deep conversation. It feeds my soul. I cannot handle small talk. I get bored. But.... with all of these things I have felt the need to supress, dont be too excited. Dont be too needy. Dont be annoying. So theres a desperation for the excitement to be reciprocated and if it isnt I really really struggle. .... and this has become too long for a comment. Maybe Im just trying to get a 1-1 convo with hillary here lol. I better go journal.
I fully relate to your post. I've dealt with suppressing my energy for most of my life as I'm often considered "too much". I've heard some refer to the sx as the 1:1 (one on one) instinct because so many people are uncomfortable with calling themselves "sexual". I hope that helps a little. 💕
This was so informative! I’m definitely a self-pres 7 with an 8 wing. My secondary is probably sx. I LOVE me some self-care and self-improvement!
I'm a 7 w6 SX. I'm always looking for that interesting person in the room. At the exact moment you said that, I found that person in the reflection in the picture on the wall in the background at 7:11.
I’m definitely so and sx thank you for this it really helped me understand this, I’m new to the enneagrams and I love your channel. That you put biblical approach to it helps so much!!
I’m so glad it helped you! Thanks for sharing!
I'm the same, and your explanations were fantastic! I hadn't realised how much of a sx 7 I was. I knew the so 7 resonated a lot but now I'm like 🤔🤔🤔😏
Wow! Okay, Well, thank you for making this easier to understand. I still think I am SO but hearing you talk about it SX is way up there too. My SP is basically off my radar most of the time. Once in a great while I will do that but most of the time those things certainly aren't on my mind at all.
Sx 7 is me 100%. Before this video I thought I was sx/so, but I relate more closely to your description of SP and think I might be Sx/Sp. Thank you!
Yay! You’re welcome!
Thank you for explaining this! I was actually wondering if I was a 7 or a 2, but after you explained this, I know I'm a 7, So. Then I'm pretty tied for 2nd type. I definitely think about helping in the kitchen right away and I pay close attention to food options, but then I also want to deeply connect to others instead of surface level communication.
You’re so welcome! This makes total sense. It can get confusing when your 1st instinct is to help but your motivations are not the type 2s motivations. But, it Sounds like you landed on your type and the instincts that are developed 🎉.
I could totally see myself in 7sx so, probably is my dominant subptype, love your content
My husband is a type 7w8. Drives this type 9 crazy, makes me envious of his joyousness, makes me pull my hair out, and laugh at him. 😉😍😉
😂😂😂
7w8 Sx/So here!
Woot! Woot!
Great video I learned a lot!
Turns out I’m a 7w8 Sx/Sp/So
My husband, sister, and dad are all 7’s - thanks for the information!
You’re so welcome!
@@enneagramandcoaching also you should do the type 6 subtypes next (I believe I’m a 6w5 SP)
Thank You So much for this video. sx 7w8 ALL the way. I have been trying to change myself to please other people. And I am tired of being called gullible and innocent.
I do not want to spend time anymore with people who do not like me for who I Am. Huge breakthrough. Thank You.
Thank you for this video I haven’t been able to figure out my subtype yet and this helped a ton! I’m pretty sure I’m a SX then SP and SO last.
Sweet! So glad this video helped you out 🎉
I scored highest as a 2 but also high as a 7 and as I've been learning more I def felt I identified more with 2. This makes sense! I think I'm a so/sx 7.
Awesome!
Yes! I’ve done the same. I connected with the 2 yet saw much in the 7 that was me as well.
I am a 7w8 and it sounds like my subtype is SX, SO. Thank you! Your videos are super informative
Awesome! Thank you!
Thank you for this video. I'm a 7w6 sx/sp. I'm really bothered by the fact that I'm often perceived as being lazy, which I'm not. I do however escape into my mind quite often. Especially when I'm bored.
hey, im struggling with deciding between 7w6 sx/sp and sp/sx. did you ever have this issue? if so, how did you decide on the one?
I’m definitely a 7w8 sx/sp (social instinct super low!)
Awesome! Great self awareness!
I am the same! Are you an enfp as well?
@@TintinMinh yes I am!!
Interesting, bc from Chestnut’s subtypes, sp 7 seeks to be *interdependent* with their network for resources, as opposed to being independent.
Just coming here once again to crosscheck the info after encountering Beatrice chestnut
Great information! Thank you for sharing!
Thank you! ❤️
I love how you explain the enneagram, finally i can get some concepts crearly... :) I considered myself an 7w6 Sx, but after seeing this video i can relate more with the Sp instinct . I am a one-to-one person, but i need to put my interests, my passions and my needs first. I love spending time with a single person, but i tent to push the other people to share with me the things and actitivies that i like most. I need new experiences, but always with my goals and interests first. I am a home person, i dont enjoy traveling that much, and i prefer to stay home, having a snack, watch a good movie, read a book. This lead me to consider if i could be a 9 type, but i dont avoid conflict, and i am super aware of my needs, what i like, and, as a said, i can be pushy with other people, like "Let's do this, let's do that!"... and if they don't follow me, i'd spend time alone, i am totally ok with being by myself (but not for too many hours lol). My secondary instict would be SX, so that explains how sometimes i feel like a type 4 too. My gluttony, it feels like the urge to have more and more of what i love: new books, new movies, oh i can't miss this new movie on Netflix, oh i started to read 2 books but i neet to buy some more new books so this weekend i could have something new on my hands lol :) I am very childish, and very connected with my inner 5 core (integrated). Thank you for your videos Hillary, hugs!!!
Are you me?
@@Stoffendous maybe LOL :D
@@luismartinezart Seriously I could have written that word for word almost.
@@Stoffendous wow let's keep in touch then :)
I feel like all 3 I relate to
The 7 social is me!! I thought I was a until I found this video. I would always score high on 2s and 7 on test and couldn't figure out why. And 2s wings didn't match me. Now I get it. I am a social 7w6. Sx is my second, Self preservation is last and very underdeveloped but I learning to care for myself.
Glad it helped!
as a 7 i related to all the types but i think 7 suits me most lol
Awesome!
I totally thought I was a so/sx7 but after this I realize I’m a sx/so7! Thank you!
Sweet!
Thanks for this. I know sp is my dominant but I thought I would be SO and then SX. However, listening to your explanation SX actually resonated with me much more. So I believe I am an SP/SX 7.
8:32: sp
9:38: so
11:50: sx
Thank you sm
@ Np :)
The SX sounds just like one of my best friends, and I would not be surprised if she were a 7!
Awesome!
Great explanation
Wow, I guess it’s good that I can kind of relate to all three? But I guess in order I would be SX, SP, then SO (which is NOT the order I would have thought before watching this video!)
I always test top 3 in Beth's questionnaire 2, 3 and 7. After all three subtype videos 🤯. I know my stack has SO and SX, but that is about it. I know confusion between 3 and 7 is so common. And 7sx looks like 2. And my MBTI is ENFJ. So we have Fe dom but with Ni. And I'm more Fe-Se jumper. Which makes me loooove anything 7. Tritypes do help.
ohhh im definetly 7w6 sx.. still not sure about whether my secondary is so or sp :-)
I used to think I was an SP3, but I am actually a SO7!
You really make this stuff make sense and easy to understand.
Thank you!!!
7w6 sx\so , 728 Thanks for your video
Thanks for watching!
self preservation 7. thought I was 5....!!! even tests. but I knew for a fact I wasn't cuz theres no way Im an ISFP 5 makes no sense
7w8, SP/SO!!!!!
Dominant sx secondary sp
I'm confused if I'm sp7 or sx7, I do prioritize my comfort and basic needs but also a dreamer and more people-oriented than goal-oriented.
7w6 SX/SO
Awesome!
I think my sister might be a 7. She is athletic, spontaneous, gullible, and during 2020 stress is totally acting 6. I don’t relate to her at all, except for the 6 for preparedness, but I am always prepared for emergencies (my upbringing with a 6 Aunt around) But my sister during 2020 has gone down the Qanon rabbit hole hard. How do we save the 6 from Qanon????
Interesting! I misread the idea of a Social 7 so much. I am definitely a sx, so 7 - not sp at all pretty much. Something I'm excited to work on, and probably the very reason I married a strong, sp 6 to have by my side! :-)
Thank you for sharing! yes, I bet your spouse being a Strong SP 6 is great for you! I think having the opposite instincts can be good. We can help each other.
7 w 6 sx checking in here. She didn't even have to describe it. I knew what it was and that it would be my first instinct.😂
Followed closely by sp but being a 7w6 hard work is not a fave but yet I am surrounded with luxury.🤣 I have a daughter who is a 7w8 sp followed by so. She's incredible.🥰
This is awesome! Thank you for sharing!
I think, first so, second sp😅
Thank you for video 🔥 hello from Ukraine 💙💛
So/sx/sp 7w8 took me forever to decide between 7w8 or 8w7.
I'd say first is sexual, then sp, then social.
I'm a 7w6 SX/SO!
🎉🎉🎉
I meditate
SO - 7 all day. I closely identify with 2 though. I
am literally type two mixed with type 7 which is very odd but …. I have never been so sure about anything lol I’m 2&7! I’m very in tune with peoples emotions. I have always been very in tune with people! I am well rounded and can see the reason in every situation. Even the worst situations. I’m a 2 on the side of empathy and romance. But unfortunately I have been traumatized by people and the inviting part of myself has become avoidant and optimistic to a fault. I’m ALWAYS saying no now and i never used to do that until I woke up and realized that I was letting people take advantage of me. I’m very much a 7 when I am doing well and healthy. I’m a 2 when I am home alone getting in touch with myself but nothing satisfies me & I hate being bored so I thrust myself into productivity and socializing. 🤦🏾♀️ im literally both.
I dreamed of being a counselor or veterinarian when I was younger but I am very much so UNsatisfied with what that look be like for me. I crave excitement so much to the point where Broadway seems it will be the only career that will fulfill my longing for adventure. I love to perform! I feel i am helping when I do❤️. I’m moving to NYC. For practicality, I’m leaning towards product management and sales. Maybe I will offer counseling/life coach services on the side. If not I will make a great stay at home mom working and acting at the community theatre.🤷🏽♀️
I thought I was a 2, but thinking I might be a SO 7 ~ I feel so conflicted
It can be hard to land on your type sometimes...I have a series called 10 signs you might be...I'd watch the type 2 (comes out today) and the type 7. And if you still need help I have a typing session that would help you land on your type. :) Thanks for sharing.
I can't decide between Sp/Sx 3w2 or 7w8.
I'm leaning to 7w8 after watching this video. To me I'm at the fair...and I need tickets to get on the ride (money)
Losing/wasting money angers me and it's what I tend to criticize in others. I don't tend to take on SO responsibilities unless they are necessary to get what I'm seeking.
So helpful! I think I’m 7Sx but I can’t tell the next one. I don’t I’m a counter 7 tho so it must be the sp, right?
Im a type 7 wing 8 and I have trouble deciding between if I am dominant SP or SX.
Type 7 wing 8 subtype SP/SX
Awesome!
How do you tell between a social 5 and a sp 7? I'm stuck between those two.
I don't know if I'm a social 7 or a 2 :')
Type 7 So, Sx, SP
SP, SX here
I think I'm a 7 sx/so 🎊
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🎉
SP 7w6
I can’t figure out my subtype still! :(
I cannot work out if I’m a sx4 or sx7! Help! Do you coach??
I do! Here’s the link! www.enneagramandcoaching.com/discover-your-type
7w8 Sx/So ESFP 😀🖤
I'm type 7 sx
7x8 sx/???
Sexual and then self pres.
Sexual 7.
Heavy sx. So blindspot
👍👍👍
SX then SO then SP. I THINK