Lol SP is definitely my blindspot. As a 5, I am capable of learning all about and becoming experts in obscure topics. I have a degree in philosophy. I can spend a long time figuring out complicated puzzles. When I start talking about something I'm interested in and knowledgeable about, I often have others people's jaw on the floor. I'm the person all my friends ask when they don't know the meaning of a word or phrase. However, "everyday" tasks have always been hard for me, and a major source of embarrassment. Staying on top of housework, taking care of my own nutrition, managing correspondence, keeping a sleep schedule, meeting deadlines, managing my finances, etc are all things I really struggle with. It's frustrating because it comes so easily to other people! If I'm so smart how come I can't organize my drawers?! Haha
I think that SP is somehow both my dominant and my blind spot. My home is my castle and I need my space, but I constantly forget about eating and sleeping.
Probably because they're not the thing you focused on, it's not something you put your eyes on. I bet you did whatever your hobby it's as if they're the only breath you seek.
You explain the instincts so well. I'm a 5w4 sx/sp and relate a lot to your sx 5 description. The part about focusing on a task and getting deeply drawn into it makes so much sense!
i think as a 5w4 im more on SO, with SP second and SX last (bc intimate connections aren't my primary focus; i need to be financially independent and secure first). i first seek recognition, comfort and knowledge. i do share ideas and thoughts and prefer alone time over people,. i desire power and money to feel safe, to feel that i can live my life freely, not constrained or limited by finances, in order to achieve my goals or enjoy my hobbies. i said sp second bc i stay up late and sometimes forget to eat.
As a 5w4 I feel like I relate to all these instincts strongly, for myself it really depends on the situation which instinct I lean on most. But my first instinct is probably SP as I spend most of my time alone and I enjoy it that way.
Hi! I am 5SX and I channel it into art as an actor/writer. This helped me understand myself better. I'm always mislabeled as a 4. Maybe 5w4, but I relate most to 5SX. I don't necessarily always do art for attention. I do it to serve and share my knowledge on story, relationships, and chemistry between characters.
5w6, SP/SX here. You were pretty spot on about the SP 5 wanting alone time and only surrounding themselves with a few select people. I do find a majority of people draining to be around after an extended period of time and retreat to my main domain so I can recharge. The only downside would be my social/people skills being on a subpar.
Okay I am a strong 5 and I swear I have all 3 instincts equally. I am definitely SP, definitely SO and definitely SX. Is it possible that they are equal? I have always cherished a ton of alone time and refer to my home as my sanctuary. I can be alone for days/weeks and am perfectly content, actually, it's heaven for me. But I'm also very intimate with my close friends and family. I enjoy deep meaningful connections with my family and have about 4 "best friends" and also enjoy having deeper, one-on-one talks with coworkers. Although I an also do the small-talk thing, I enjoy the one-to-one deeper talks, the vulnerable connections most of all. And I am very much an SO. I love to share my knowledge, ideas and values and do this ALL THE TIME (I might actually have "blast" from the OP theory) but my space, time and resources are precious and only given to those close to me.
Sounds like you have SO last. 5 SO being much more about uncovering the truths of the world and understanding it and all its processes whether esoterically or scientifically or both, abstract oriented toward those sorts of grand scale theories.
Hearing her talk about the sx 5 I felt very exposed lol. Getting lost in a project for hours on end? Yes! Craving deep conversation? Yes basically sums me up haha
I heard also depending on how healthy you are, you could actually do things that goes opposed to your dominant subtype (ex. Normal SPs= their consellor is themselves; Unhealthy SPs= self-neglection) Also heard that if a SX 5 can't click to anyone they can sometimes just look like an sp 5, but feeling so much loneliness and getting bothered by it than a SP 5 would (they still like alone time, but don't like feeling all lonely). Which makes sense, because they are SX but they are 5s. Good or bad, they are :) But they're still SX because eventually too much loneliness can end up killing them too :( I think I'm personally a SP/SX or an SX/SP but my SP and SX is just equally way too high it's almost impossible for me to indicate which I am actually :( Because I do consider my home as an castle and I would definitely 100% perfore to stay in my castle then go ourside (groceries? Just call a service to buy it and bring it to me), but I also get really really lonely sometimes and fantasies having a s/o or a best friend were a can talk about ANYTHING and get really REALLY close to that person SO MUCH. I think I do have some SO a bit developed (not as high as my SP or SX) because I do care about reputation a bit and share what I know to people a lot. Of course, although I think it's just me refusing to get into 'human-relationship-related troublesome' shiz. hahaha
Thanks for the video! I have always been inside of my head analyzing everything, but at the same time very social and emotional. What I had read, made me think all 5s were loners, but thanks to you, I figured out that I was just a social 5. Thank you very much!
I’d say my first instinct is social since I like to share my knowledge. At work, I enjoy helping people. I’ve also shared my passion for music through DJing, concert promotion, organization that promotes the music genre, DJing in clubs, radio show, and podcast. Second is one to one and then third self-preservation.
5w4 and I hate this because I relate to all. I am a homebird and I spend most of my time at home but also go out with my friend group of eight who are all like minded people and have a good time, and I still haven't found my ideal partner and I am very one to one with 2 close friends with whom I share my everything and I can hyperfocus on writing an essay and studying for 6 hours straight. I also have the negative parts of all and which one is more dominant just changes depending on the day or circumstances.
Hey Hillary, I just watched some of your videos and enjoy your talks. You just got a new subscriber too :) I am an ISTP and this weekend I started down the rabbit hole of Enneagram lol. It turns out that I am a type 5. The jury is still out on which wing I am since I relate to aspects of both. I haven't tapped into my creative side (writing) in a while but it is definitely there. But I am into analyzing technical stuff too (example: fantasize in my head what parts I'm going to pick to build an engine). So I guess that makes me more of a 6 wing. For subtypes, I think SP is my dominant. I really do feel that my home is my sanctuary. I just moved into my own place again after living with roommates/shared spaces the last few years. I'm now feeling an inner peace that I haven't felt in a long time. It was absolute hell not feeling safe in my own home. I'm not sure about SO or SX though. What I do know is that I generally feel more comfortable when I am in smaller groups (1-3 people plus myself) and tend to close myself off in larger gatherings and feel like a fly on the wall - which makes me equally uncomfortable. Creating and maintaining relationships (romantic especially) has always been a struggle for me. I would like to change this while remaining genuine. I know this contradicts what I just said, but I wasn't always like this. I did have a decent group of friends when I was in school and university. However, I think things started to go downhill after I finished university. So does this mean that SX is my blindspot or SO? This is a much longer post than I originally intended, but you got me fired up lol Thanks! - James
Thank you so much! I love connecting with subscribers! It does sound more like a 6 wing. I have a tons of type 5 videos! They will help you with this. Thank you for sharing!
I'm primarily an SP because I'm home a lot and find my safe place in doing comfortable things I can enjoy without emotional involvement. On the occasion when I'm feeling up to going out and having fun, I very easily switch to an SO and can talk to anyone and be extroverted and I love listening to challenging new ideas, but only on my own terms (I do not like people trying to engage ME). When I find the rare person or thing I can dare to invest myself in (which is difficult to allow because of wanting to conserve my emotional energy) I become an SX because I can talk or craft or work on something for hours and that becomes my only care in the world. Also, I'm a 5w4, so I can be very sensitive, creative and lost in my own world a lot.
Definitely helped. I doubted whether I was SP or SX, but now I see quite clear it's SX. I'm sensitive, romantic, I can get enthusiastic and I love deep 1to1 conversations, but I'm also very introverted. I thought it's just my dominant 4wing.
As long as it has nothing to do with people, I am all good. As a 5 with my own issues, I'd rather not hear about Timmy's theory on how we are all buttered toast in a jar floating in a gravy universe. Time is a resource, the only resource. Thanks for breaking that down. I've listened to 20+ people try to explain the exact same thing and they failed. You made me get it. Thanks!
Do you think the dominant subtypes and wings change from time to time? When I'm in a low mood I'm a 5w4 When my mood is high I'm a 5w6 When I've lost all my friends or just in a very low mood my dominant is SP When I find open minded logical people who are interested in what I have to offer or I'm interested in what they have to offer my dominant is SO When I have a crush on someone for a long time my dominant is SX 😭🤷🏾♀️lol
you explain these topics so well. i thought i was sp but it turns out i was confusing sp with being an introvert LOL bc i definitely forget to eat and sleep!! and intensity is important to me! i used to seek intense one-on-one intimacy with people but it was unfulfilling. it never seemed like people could give me enough of what i wanted so i felt like i had to be completely independent and seek passion in activities. i've always loved learning so i started to learn music theory and now i'm finally fulfilled. the world of music is so vast and rich that it NEVER bores me and gives me things I wanted (but couldn't get) from people. my relationships got better too because i required less of people. it's enough that they're there for me, i don't need them to intellectually stimulate me anymore. and i think i'm 5w4 which adds even more of a passionate, artistic flair to the "pure" 5 image. i don't care about being unique but i have to be true. i think that's why i'm interested in learning but not in tech, which is stereotypically 5.
I used to think I was a four and I still might be but this hit home harder than the four ever. With the four, over half of the time I either didn't relate or just couldn't understand it. This, I relate and understand more. I'll have to look into this more but damn.
Sx/Sp 5 (but likely used to be sx/so as a young child, I have been working on my self preservation skills). This video was very accurate! I absolutely relate to the "intensity" aspect especially when dealing with my closest relationships, creative projects and goals.
I would add: all fives are "searching". I think our instincts will often guide us in a direction, but what has helped me is learning when to stop searching and enjoy the mystery.
Thanks for mentioning SX being related to excitement and intensity, even to things that are not related to another person. I'm a SP/SO 5 (INFP). SX is definitely a blind spot for me, but also a bit of a void that I feel. My SP comes from growing up feeling a lot of anxiety. It made me worry for my own safety a lot and when my health got compromised in early adulthood it developed into a strong focus on my health and also finances. For me SO comes from a real focus on how others perceive me. I have a need to be admired and appreciated and image and social graces mean a lot to me. However I would not call myself a social person, I'm just aware of roles and status and have a desire to "have a place" and "be worthy". SX is something I've struggled with my whole life. I don't feel close or bonded to anyone. The way I imagine relationships in my head never really matches up with how they turn out. I get disappointed. I may want to reach out to someone, but get frustrated or lose interest soon after doing so. I don't understand how people can relate themselves to another. To say "this is my person". This doesn't mean I don't care about others, I just have a hard time caring FOR others. It's very lonely and being with others only makes it feel worse, so I just distract myself.
great video! when I look back at my life I started as 5sx, always had one best friend and this went in to relationships. as I got older and more focused on knowledge (this is also when I started teaching) I turned in to 5so which is still my strongest instinct and I really had to learn to develop the SP part and remember to to eat / get enough sleep etc
This actually does make a lot of sense. I think it's why I don't appear very 5-like. I think sx is probably my highest because I do tend to go very deep into one thing or with one person, but I have to trust them first. Frequently, I've been so engrossed in the thing I'm doing that I will forget to do things like eat or drink water, so I think sp is probably my blind spot, though I do have pretty good boundaries. I also wonder if I might be so instinct, as I do really gravitate towards gaining knowledge from others and sharing the knowledge I have in return and ever since I was young, I have always looked for the "why" behind how things work. If it's relevant, I've mistyped as both 4 and 8 before, but I've looked at the motivations for all three numbers and the 5 is the one that resonates the most.
I feel like I’m SO or SX. I seek deep relationship and share myself and can do things for hours and hours and invest a lot into an interest. Though I do love sharing information with people. So I would say SX overall.
Hi ! I'm a social five so/sx. I used to mistype myself for a seven, but I didn't relate with some aspects and this makes way more sense actually. I literally relate to everything. she. said. Wow
Definitely a SO 5. I have built my career around prestige, but this does not necessarily mean the chief. I am highly intrinsically motivated by intellectually stimulating work. The more I learn about being a five, the more it makes sense to me. Relatively new to eneagrams so this has been fun. Enjoyed watching the videos to learn more.
Thank you for the video! I learned that my Social Instinct is my blind spot, hands down. However, I'm not sure if I'm more of a self-preservation 5 or a sexual 5... Because, I do get lost in projects sometimes, but, I usually stop to eat during that process... However, sometimes, I've thought "should I go and eat or should I skip it" and I skipped it, like, one time. If anyone reading this has ever been in the same boat, how did you finally figure it out? Thanks :)
I’m a 5w4 and I know for sure my blind spot is SP. I’m fairly sure my dominant instinct is SX but the SO occasionally feels like it could be my top one as well.
Now I understand why I felt so distant and disconnected from my friends of 9 years. lmao I'm a sp/so/sx 5 i guess but my wing is 4 and i think it's sp too... then what should i do? My enneagram with suptypes it can't be 5w4 sp/sp after all.
Thanks for the video, Hillary! I had been waiting for this one and I can totally relate to what you said about these subtypes. I just have a question, I heard that 5sx is the countertype of this kind of personality but don't understand fully what that means. Do you have a video explaining these countertypes? I would love to see it! Keep up the great work!
You’re so welcome! Yes the 5sx is the counter type. This means that they don’t look like the typical 5 stereotype. The typically cool, analytical Five connects to passion in this sx subtype, focusing that passion on one or two people in an otherwise reserved life. I think that a great idea to do a video on all the counter types! Thank you!
I can't decide if I'm a self-preservation or social 5. Like a self preservation 5, I like my solitude and yeah, to me it's pretty important to work alone in my goals that will take me to a better secure life where I lack nothing, plus status, power, success, etc... my spare time is always learning something new, but always knowledge that has a practical use and that will improve my life, career, side hustles and once I learnt something very well I love to share that information with the people I care about so they may find some use in it, what ends up more in the social subtype . Damn, I need help
As a sx 5, I’ve accidentally found myself approaching one-to-one connection more as research rather than a mutual romantic or sexual attraction. I’m frequently more studying my sx fixation than anything, which is probably why my relationship with my fixation is often severed once they realize that-
I finally understand why it's kinda hard for people to differentiate what instinct they were in, It's because there is not that much information about it: Instinctual variant, is more about where your attention goes: 1. Self- preservation: it goes to yourself and your interest, 2. Sexual: it's towards one or two people that close to you, 3. Social: it's towards large amount of people. You can only have 2, and it's usually ranked on your priorities (i.e: Sp/So, Sx/So) The last one, is a blind spot and as a blind spot it's actually the main problem in your life. Example: you are Sp/Sx and your blind spot is So. So you're a person that cannot stay in crowd for too long or else you lose your energy, but because Sx is on your secondary you can allow some people to come into your world as long as you comfortable with it. Another example, you're a 5 Sx/So. You want somebody to get closer with and for you to tell the secret about your mind, but as Sp blind you feel the must to share what you got to the world as a secret is for people to uncover. You can't stay idle while people doesn't understand what is it. So, you need to understand to understand this things better you must not only rely on instinctual variant only. Your tritype and enneagram is the fuel to this subtypes, and how you actually thinking (mbti) is to make you understand yourself more.
i'm a 5w4 with SX dom, SP middle, SO blindspot. but i think SP and SO are fairly close; the SX is just so intense it drowns out everything! i have a tendency to forget to eat and sleep as well as a tendency to forget to socialize or conform to social niceties when i am really invested in an artistic or intellectual pursuit or in a specific person. but when it comes down to it i will always choose to eat and sleep first lol
I’m pretty sure I’m a typical 5 sp. but I’m not a hoarder when it comes to anyone or anything I care about. My children, husbands, friends, and bosses/coworkers all have described me as “one of the most generous people I know “... I do feel the need to protect my alone time and I will say no if I can not summon the energy. I could care less about impressing people but I care about their hearts. I currently live with my husband and two roommates in a 3 bed apartment and I spend 95% of my days in my room with our dog. Reading, learning, praying, journaling.
I've taken some tests online and almost everytime scored the highest in 5, close scores have always been 7 and 9. I'm 100% sure I'm definitely not a 7, but after some research I've been having small doubts that i might be a 9? tests have always told me I'm a 5w4 (with the exception that I've gotten 9w1 once) which I'm pretty certain is correct and with your explanation of the 5 subtypes I can see I'm definitely a sx dominant, I can be extremely sensitive and I lean a lot to my 4 wing. At the same time many of the type 9 characteristics resonate with me. I wouldn't say I have the basic fear of a nine (loss of separation) but I resonate a lot with their desire (to have inner stability) and their need to avoid conflicts! I'm not the most harmonious and spiritual (as I believe most 9s are) and I can be extremely argumentative but I try to not get into conflicts and maintain the peace because I don't want to lose my energy on trivial matters (which for the most part fails miserably because i just cant keep my mouth shut) , on the other side I'm also not the most investigative? I love researching and learning new things (especially about psychology) but most of the time my (many) daily questions remain unanswered because I've been procrastinating and lazy the whole day. Could it be that this is because I'm a 59x tritype? Don't have much info on the matter of tritypes but I'd like to believe that's the case. Anyways, thanks for the video.
I relate to all of this! I am an ennagram coach who has studied with great teachers and still have trouble with this distinction in myself, between sx5 and sx9.
I'm not sure if Im a 5w4 or a 4w5, but I'm positive I'm a sx dom. I'm not sure about the order of the other two though. I don't really think either of them are a blindspot. I don't forget to eat or sleep, and I definitely feel I need people (but I'm not sure if that's just me needing the intimate connections). I'm not aware of my surroundings but I fixate on things like having enough money and physical security. But I do care what the group thinks of me, and I do need people.
So after much internal deliberation, I concluded that my dominant is SX, middle is SO, and blind spot is SP. SX as dominant: I chose this as my dominant because I like relationships that are in a deeper level. Even though I'm kind of talkative, I only have one friend that I contact with and we are very intimate considering that we share our deepest secrets, beliefs, and principles with each other. It's not that I don't have other friends, it's just that i don't think I connect to them in a much deeper level, like to the soul kind of connection. SO as middle: Well, yep that explains why I like socializing even though I'm a type 5... I was pretty confused bcoz people keep on saying that type 5s are not talkative and yet here I am :). well only for the topics that interest me though.. aside from that, I'll probably be awkward as hell🤧 Also, I identified it as my middle instinct because although I like sharing information with other people and tend to please others (especially when we have a task to accomplish so that there will be no conflict that will get in the way of getting the job done), I don't really seek for recognition from others. like i wanna be myself and you ain't stopping me (I have wing 4 so yeah😅). SP as blindspot: lol i laughed at this one because it's so true... I even set alarms for breakfast, lunch, and dinner because i always forget to eat when I need to.. as for sleeping... well, my normal sleeping sched before is 4 to 5 am so I think that explains that?🤣🤣.. it kind of got better now coz I sleep 12 am... not that it's healthy but at least there's lot of improvement ☺️ btw, I took the mbti test and I tested as an INFP, but then I am also a 5w4... some people say that infp 5w4s exist and some say that they don't... they haven't come up with a conclusion yet sooo, can I hear your opinion about this matter?😁
Video is coming! But here is a couple of books I'd recommend. One of my favorites is "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" by By Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson and another great one is The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut.
Interesting. I still can not figure out my instinctual variant, i passed several inst. variant tests and got so/sp, but i'm rather towards sp/so honestly.
Im a 5 but I know Im not a SP 5. Im a bit more extroverted for a 5 and I don’t sleep or eat cause I forget to do it or don’t care. I always thought I was a Sx 5 but based on your descriptions I sound kinda like a So 5. It’s tough. 😬
Hm... When you describe the instincts themselves, I feel like I'm SX dominant and SP is my blindspot. But when you describe the 5 subtypes, I feel like I identify fairly equally with 5sp and 5sx (slight lean towards SP) and my blindspot is *definitely* SO. 🤔🤔 For context, I'm an Aspergian ADHDer so I'm HEAVY on the passionate hyperfocus to the detriment of my health (like literally I need my family to remind me to do things like eat & sleep on the daily I'm not even joking); but also I'm HEAVILY introverted, socially awkward and constantly having to stand up for myself & my needs to the detriment of my social life (also, couldn't care less about things like power).
I really want to say same to this. I can be super hyperfocused and my executive functions can tank but my motivations. But I dont want power I just want to be self sufficient and as for friends I want my people taken care of so I'm not going to hold knowledge over their heads. Enneagram is fascinating and has many facets but the more I dig the more confused I get in some aspects. What about nerodivergence and how does it play into personality and the enneagram?
Thank you for sharing this. Its so helpful, other people might feel the same way. I tried to keep this video short and sweet but there is so much more to the subtypes. Here are two books that I'd recommend if your want to go even deeper :) "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" by By Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson and The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut. Thanks again for letting us be apart of your journey!
5w4. Can’t tell you how much I find jobs/career to be nothing but time, and energy thieves oppressing my independence and flow, despite providing the security I seek. That sort of hate/need frustration dynamic is draining. It shocks me that I remain gainfully employed. My only savior is the natural lean toward expertise. I know it’s not my breezy disposition and leadership skills. Ideally I would be this niche expert and I get a request for information via some portal. Drop knowledge and solution, then disappear back into the maze-like archives. Or traverse new planets taking observational notes without the need for food, oxygene, etc. the detached Silver Surfer. That said I think I lean SO because I do crave connection with nerds that hold similar interest. Everyone else is an NPC.
You are on the right track by watching this video...Are you a type 5? To figure out your instinct you need to take notice of what your 1st instinct tends to be. When you walk into a room full of people...what is your instinct?
Hillary im new to your channel. im an infj 5w6 sp/so. i have some questions and i hope U could answer them: 1. is ennegream genetic. 2. u said our instincts develop through past experiences.does that mean it can change or is it just genetic too. 3. is it natural for an infj like me to seem cold to other ppl.and how to become better at..not being cold?(i was trying to find a more suitable word but my English is not that strong) Thats all for now.if you've already explained these things in another video pls share a link.
So I'm a 5w4 sx type... I'm wondering if the type 4 would make me more sexual by nature since it is already about being individualist so prefers one to one interactions by default?
Can you switch which one is dominant if young enough? Both SX and SO were blind-spots up until I was about 15, but since they've gradually seemed to grow beyond SP.
basically the whole video I couldn't figure out why it felt like you were waaaaaaay to close to the camera even though you are pretty well in frame. you might want to allow for just a bit more space above your head in frame. I think that is making the shot feel way to close for comfort.
I absolutely forget to take care of myself though. But that’s because I have a gage on how in control of the situation I am. I forget to eat but in the back of my mind I know it’s not a bad thing because my blood sugar isn’t too low.
2:27 - Instincts Breakdown
5:56 - Self-Preservation (sp) Five
6:54 - Social (so) Five
7:59 - Sexual/One-To-One (sx) Five
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Lol SP is definitely my blindspot. As a 5, I am capable of learning all about and becoming experts in obscure topics. I have a degree in philosophy. I can spend a long time figuring out complicated puzzles. When I start talking about something I'm interested in and knowledgeable about, I often have others people's jaw on the floor. I'm the person all my friends ask when they don't know the meaning of a word or phrase. However, "everyday" tasks have always been hard for me, and a major source of embarrassment. Staying on top of housework, taking care of my own nutrition, managing correspondence, keeping a sleep schedule, meeting deadlines, managing my finances, etc are all things I really struggle with. It's frustrating because it comes so easily to other people! If I'm so smart how come I can't organize my drawers?! Haha
I think that SP is somehow both my dominant and my blind spot. My home is my castle and I need my space, but I constantly forget about eating and sleeping.
Probably because they're not the thing you focused on, it's not something you put your eyes on. I bet you did whatever your hobby it's as if they're the only breath you seek.
Dude, I could never forget to eat or sleep.
Sounds like I’m an sx 5. Thought I was a 4w5 until I heard that the sx 5 looks a lot like a 4. Seems to be a better fit!
Me to it’s taken me a long time to find that the sexual 5 is 100% me and I kept typing as a 4 because my 4 wing is heavy
You explain the instincts so well. I'm a 5w4 sx/sp and relate a lot to your sx 5 description. The part about focusing on a task and getting deeply drawn into it makes so much sense!
i think as a 5w4 im more on SO, with SP second and SX last (bc intimate connections aren't my primary focus; i need to be financially independent and secure first). i first seek recognition, comfort and knowledge. i do share ideas and thoughts and prefer alone time over people,. i desire power and money to feel safe, to feel that i can live my life freely, not constrained or limited by finances, in order to achieve my goals or enjoy my hobbies. i said sp second bc i stay up late and sometimes forget to eat.
“SP blindspot may forget to eat and sleep.”
Yup. Definitely me when I get deep into something.
Love these videos!
LOL! Thank you!
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I am a 5w4 SO dominant and SP blind....It makes so sense now! Thank you
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I love your videos on type 5! Parenting a 5 challenges me so the more I can understand the better. Thank you!
Thank you! I can relate. I’m so thankful for the insight and tools of the Enneagram when parenting!
As a 5w4 I feel like I relate to all these instincts strongly, for myself it really depends on the situation which instinct I lean on most. But my first instinct is probably SP as I spend most of my time alone and I enjoy it that way.
I'm 5w4, sx/sp/so, and I also had a real hard time differentiating the instincts. I can relate.
Exactly in the same situation
U think I will never find
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I am 5SX and I channel it into art as an actor/writer. This helped me understand myself better. I'm always mislabeled as a 4. Maybe 5w4, but I relate most to 5SX. I don't necessarily always do art for attention. I do it to serve and share my knowledge on story, relationships, and chemistry between characters.
Me too, sx5 who has a background in theater and now writes. I was mislabeled a 4 for years.
5w6, SP/SX here. You were pretty spot on about the SP 5 wanting alone time and only surrounding themselves with a few select people. I do find a majority of people draining to be around after an extended period of time and retreat to my main domain so I can recharge. The only downside would be my social/people skills being on a subpar.
Okay I am a strong 5 and I swear I have all 3 instincts equally. I am definitely SP, definitely SO and definitely SX. Is it possible that they are equal? I have always cherished a ton of alone time and refer to my home as my sanctuary. I can be alone for days/weeks and am perfectly content, actually, it's heaven for me. But I'm also very intimate with my close friends and family. I enjoy deep meaningful connections with my family and have about 4 "best friends" and also enjoy having deeper, one-on-one talks with coworkers. Although I an also do the small-talk thing, I enjoy the one-to-one deeper talks, the vulnerable connections most of all. And I am very much an SO. I love to share my knowledge, ideas and values and do this ALL THE TIME (I might actually have "blast" from the OP theory) but my space, time and resources are precious and only given to those close to me.
Great I'm not alone then. I resonate with yourself
Sounds like you have SO last. 5 SO being much more about uncovering the truths of the world and understanding it and all its processes whether esoterically or scientifically or both, abstract oriented toward those sorts of grand scale theories.
Read the detailed descriptions of the subtypes.
An SO/SX 5 - super helpful because I mistyped as a 3 but my core motivation is that a 5, so the ‘recognition and prestige’ aspect made sense
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Hearing her talk about the sx 5 I felt very exposed lol. Getting lost in a project for hours on end? Yes! Craving deep conversation? Yes basically sums me up haha
Love this!
I heard also depending on how healthy you are, you could actually do things that goes opposed to your dominant subtype (ex. Normal SPs= their consellor is themselves; Unhealthy SPs= self-neglection)
Also heard that if a SX 5 can't click to anyone they can sometimes just look like an sp 5, but feeling so much loneliness and getting bothered by it than a SP 5 would (they still like alone time, but don't like feeling all lonely).
Which makes sense, because they are SX but they are 5s. Good or bad, they are :)
But they're still SX because eventually too much loneliness can end up killing them too :(
I think I'm personally a SP/SX or an SX/SP but my SP and SX is just equally way too high it's almost impossible for me to indicate which I am actually :(
Because I do consider my home as an castle and I would definitely 100% perfore to stay in my castle then go ourside (groceries? Just call a service to buy it and bring it to me), but I also get really really lonely sometimes and fantasies having a s/o or a best friend were a can talk about ANYTHING and get really REALLY close to that person SO MUCH.
I think I do have some SO a bit developed (not as high as my SP or SX) because I do care about reputation a bit and share what I know to people a lot.
Of course, although I think it's just me refusing to get into 'human-relationship-related troublesome' shiz. hahaha
Exacly this is what I feel
Thanks for the video! I have always been inside of my head analyzing everything, but at the same time very social and emotional. What I had read, made me think all 5s were loners, but thanks to you, I figured out that I was just a social 5.
Thank you very much!
I’d say my first instinct is social since I like to share my knowledge. At work, I enjoy helping people. I’ve also shared my passion for music through DJing, concert promotion, organization that promotes the music genre, DJing in clubs, radio show, and podcast. Second is one to one and then third self-preservation.
5w4 and I hate this because I relate to all. I am a homebird and I spend most of my time at home but also go out with my friend group of eight who are all like minded people and have a good time, and I still haven't found my ideal partner and I am very one to one with 2 close friends with whom I share my everything and I can hyperfocus on writing an essay and studying for 6 hours straight. I also have the negative parts of all and which one is more dominant just changes depending on the day or circumstances.
Very informative, Thank you! I'm a 5w4, just now learning about the subtypes and I'm pretty sure I'm SP.
Hey Hillary, I just watched some of your videos and enjoy your talks. You just got a new subscriber too :) I am an ISTP and this weekend I started down the rabbit hole of Enneagram lol. It turns out that I am a type 5. The jury is still out on which wing I am since I relate to aspects of both. I haven't tapped into my creative side (writing) in a while but it is definitely there. But I am into analyzing technical stuff too (example: fantasize in my head what parts I'm going to pick to build an engine). So I guess that makes me more of a 6 wing.
For subtypes, I think SP is my dominant. I really do feel that my home is my sanctuary. I just moved into my own place again after living with roommates/shared spaces the last few years. I'm now feeling an inner peace that I haven't felt in a long time. It was absolute hell not feeling safe in my own home.
I'm not sure about SO or SX though. What I do know is that I generally feel more comfortable when I am in smaller groups (1-3 people plus myself) and tend to close myself off in larger gatherings and feel like a fly on the wall - which makes me equally uncomfortable. Creating and maintaining relationships (romantic especially) has always been a struggle for me. I would like to change this while remaining genuine. I know this contradicts what I just said, but I wasn't always like this. I did have a decent group of friends when I was in school and university. However, I think things started to go downhill after I finished university. So does this mean that SX is my blindspot or SO?
This is a much longer post than I originally intended, but you got me fired up lol Thanks! - James
Thank you so much! I love connecting with subscribers! It does sound more like a 6 wing. I have a tons of type 5 videos! They will help you with this. Thank you for sharing!
I'm primarily an SP because I'm home a lot and find my safe place in doing comfortable things I can enjoy without emotional involvement. On the occasion when I'm feeling up to going out and having fun, I very easily switch to an SO and can talk to anyone and be extroverted and I love listening to challenging new ideas, but only on my own terms (I do not like people trying to engage ME). When I find the rare person or thing I can dare to invest myself in (which is difficult to allow because of wanting to conserve my emotional energy) I become an SX because I can talk or craft or work on something for hours and that becomes my only care in the world. Also, I'm a 5w4, so I can be very sensitive, creative and lost in my own world a lot.
I'm definitely a sx/sp 5w4. Also an INFP
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5w4 sp/sx
Interesting, so I'm an SX dom, SO middle, with SP blindspot. We INTJs got it hard.
@Marybeth McAndrews haha thank you!
same but as an INTP
I'm a 5, SX and INTJ also, what are the odds
@@iamgraci_ me too!!!
INTJ 5w4 sx here :)
Definitely helped. I doubted whether I was SP or SX, but now I see quite clear it's SX. I'm sensitive, romantic, I can get enthusiastic and I love deep 1to1 conversations, but I'm also very introverted. I thought it's just my dominant 4wing.
As long as it has nothing to do with people, I am all good. As a 5 with my own issues, I'd rather not hear about Timmy's theory on how we are all buttered toast in a jar floating in a gravy universe. Time is a resource, the only resource.
Thanks for breaking that down. I've listened to 20+ people try to explain the exact same thing and they failed. You made me get it. Thanks!
Wow! Thank for sharing this. You made me laugh!
That made sense.
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Helpful explanation.
Thanks.
Sweet!
You couldn't have been more accurate to my SO 5. It described me exactly.
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Do you think the dominant subtypes and wings change from time to time?
When I'm in a low mood I'm a 5w4
When my mood is high I'm a 5w6
When I've lost all my friends or just in a very low mood my dominant is SP
When I find open minded logical people who are interested in what I have to offer or I'm interested in what they have to offer my dominant is SO
When I have a crush on someone for a long time my dominant is SX
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I do think they can change.
you explain these topics so well.
i thought i was sp but it turns out i was confusing sp with being an introvert LOL bc i definitely forget to eat and sleep!!
and intensity is important to me! i used to seek intense one-on-one intimacy with people but it was unfulfilling. it never seemed like people could give me enough of what i wanted so i felt like i had to be completely independent and seek passion in activities. i've always loved learning so i started to learn music theory and now i'm finally fulfilled. the world of music is so vast and rich that it NEVER bores me and gives me things I wanted (but couldn't get) from people. my relationships got better too because i required less of people. it's enough that they're there for me, i don't need them to intellectually stimulate me anymore.
and i think i'm 5w4 which adds even more of a passionate, artistic flair to the "pure" 5 image. i don't care about being unique but i have to be true. i think that's why i'm interested in learning but not in tech, which is stereotypically 5.
I used to think I was a four and I still might be but this hit home harder than the four ever. With the four, over half of the time I either didn't relate or just couldn't understand it. This, I relate and understand more. I'll have to look into this more but damn.
I’m INFJ 5w4 SP/SX for sure. My SO is super underdeveloped, it seems.
I'm INFJ 5w4 too, and I was thinking I was sp/sx too but I just found out I'm sx/sp. I'm totally SX.
Sx/Sp 5 (but likely used to be sx/so as a young child, I have been working on my self preservation skills). This video was very accurate! I absolutely relate to the "intensity" aspect especially when dealing with my closest relationships, creative projects and goals.
I would add: all fives are "searching". I think our instincts will often guide us in a direction, but what has helped me is learning when to stop searching and enjoy the mystery.
@@NorthToSouthChannel great advice for a five
Thanks for mentioning SX being related to excitement and intensity, even to things that are not related to another person.
I'm a SP/SO 5 (INFP). SX is definitely a blind spot for me, but also a bit of a void that I feel.
My SP comes from growing up feeling a lot of anxiety. It made me worry for my own safety a lot and when my health got compromised in early adulthood it developed into a strong focus on my health and also finances.
For me SO comes from a real focus on how others perceive me. I have a need to be admired and appreciated and image and social graces mean a lot to me. However I would not call myself a social person, I'm just aware of roles and status and have a desire to "have a place" and "be worthy".
SX is something I've struggled with my whole life. I don't feel close or bonded to anyone. The way I imagine relationships in my head never really matches up with how they turn out. I get disappointed. I may want to reach out to someone, but get frustrated or lose interest soon after doing so. I don't understand how people can relate themselves to another. To say "this is my person".
This doesn't mean I don't care about others, I just have a hard time caring FOR others. It's very lonely and being with others only makes it feel worse, so I just distract myself.
great video! when I look back at my life I started as 5sx, always had one best friend and this went in to relationships. as I got older and more focused on knowledge (this is also when I started teaching) I turned in to 5so which is still my strongest instinct and I really had to learn to develop the SP part and remember to to eat / get enough sleep etc
You’re welcome! So good! I love that you are so aware and knew you needed to develop the Sp instinct and now use all 3. 👏🏼
This actually does make a lot of sense. I think it's why I don't appear very 5-like. I think sx is probably my highest because I do tend to go very deep into one thing or with one person, but I have to trust them first. Frequently, I've been so engrossed in the thing I'm doing that I will forget to do things like eat or drink water, so I think sp is probably my blind spot, though I do have pretty good boundaries. I also wonder if I might be so instinct, as I do really gravitate towards gaining knowledge from others and sharing the knowledge I have in return and ever since I was young, I have always looked for the "why" behind how things work.
If it's relevant, I've mistyped as both 4 and 8 before, but I've looked at the motivations for all three numbers and the 5 is the one that resonates the most.
I feel like I’m SO or SX. I seek deep relationship and share myself and can do things for hours and hours and invest a lot into an interest. Though I do love sharing information with people. So I would say SX overall.
Interesting! So im a social 5w4 with a 583 TriType I believe.
This was so helpful! I'm definitely an SP 5.
Awesome!
Hi ! I'm a social five so/sx. I used to mistype myself for a seven, but I didn't relate with some aspects and this makes way more sense actually.
I literally relate to everything. she. said. Wow
Thanks for sharing!!
DOMINANT: SX, MIDDLE:SO and BLINDSPOT: SP
Definitely a SO 5. I have built my career around prestige, but this does not necessarily mean the chief. I am highly intrinsically motivated by intellectually stimulating work. The more I learn about being a five, the more it makes sense to me. Relatively new to eneagrams so this has been fun. Enjoyed watching the videos to learn more.
Thank you for the video! I learned that my Social Instinct is my blind spot, hands down. However, I'm not sure if I'm more of a self-preservation 5 or a sexual 5... Because, I do get lost in projects sometimes, but, I usually stop to eat during that process... However, sometimes, I've thought "should I go and eat or should I skip it" and I skipped it, like, one time. If anyone reading this has ever been in the same boat, how did you finally figure it out? Thanks :)
I’m a 5w4 and I know for sure my blind spot is SP. I’m fairly sure my dominant instinct is SX but the SO occasionally feels like it could be my top one as well.
I find your videos helpful; thank you! I think I am a 5w6 SX. SO is my blindspot. :)
You’re so welcome!!! This makes me so happy!
Great information! I know some 5s and my son is a 5. Thank you for sharing.
Way to go! Watching videos to help you understand the people in your life better! Love it.
Now I understand why I felt so distant and disconnected from my friends of 9 years. lmao
I'm a sp/so/sx 5 i guess but my wing is 4 and i think it's sp too... then what should i do? My enneagram with suptypes it can't be 5w4 sp/sp after all.
Thanks for the video, Hillary! I had been waiting for this one and I can totally relate to what you said about these subtypes. I just have a question, I heard that 5sx is the countertype of this kind of personality but don't understand fully what that means. Do you have a video explaining these countertypes? I would love to see it! Keep up the great work!
You’re so welcome! Yes the 5sx is the counter type. This means that they don’t look like the typical 5 stereotype. The typically cool, analytical Five connects to passion in this sx subtype, focusing that passion on one or two people in an otherwise reserved life. I think that a great idea to do a video on all the counter types! Thank you!
INTJ 5 Sp/So RLOEI with 5w6-9w8-4w5 tritype.
Awesome!
I can't decide if I'm a self-preservation or social 5. Like a self preservation 5, I like my solitude and yeah, to me it's pretty important to work alone in my goals that will take me to a better secure life where I lack nothing, plus status, power, success, etc... my spare time is always learning something new, but always knowledge that has a practical use and that will improve my life, career, side hustles and once I learnt something very well I love to share that information with the people I care about so they may find some use in it, what ends up more in the social subtype . Damn, I need help
Your description was excellent, from a sexual 5
Thank you so much for this video ^_^
I think i am 5w4 with dominant SP secondary SX ... your presentation is so accurate ... Thank you so much ^_^
As a sx 5, I’ve accidentally found myself approaching one-to-one connection more as research rather than a mutual romantic or sexual attraction. I’m frequently more studying my sx fixation than anything, which is probably why my relationship with my fixation is often severed once they realize that-
I finally understand why it's kinda hard for people to differentiate what instinct they were in,
It's because there is not that much information about it:
Instinctual variant, is more about where your attention goes:
1. Self- preservation: it goes to yourself and your interest,
2. Sexual: it's towards one or two people that close to you,
3. Social: it's towards large amount of people.
You can only have 2, and it's usually ranked on your priorities (i.e: Sp/So, Sx/So)
The last one, is a blind spot and as a blind spot it's actually the main problem in your life. Example: you are Sp/Sx and your blind spot is So. So you're a person that cannot stay in crowd for too long or else you lose your energy, but because Sx is on your secondary you can allow some people to come into your world as long as you comfortable with it.
Another example, you're a 5 Sx/So. You want somebody to get closer with and for you to tell the secret about your mind, but as Sp blind you feel the must to share what you got to the world as a secret is for people to uncover. You can't stay idle while people doesn't understand what is it.
So, you need to understand to understand this things better you must not only rely on instinctual variant only.
Your tritype and enneagram is the fuel to this subtypes, and how you actually thinking (mbti) is to make you understand yourself more.
Thank you!
I'm a 5w6. SP all the way also a little SO. As for SX, after my 20's, I decided to eliminate/stay away from it.
i'm a 5w4 with SX dom, SP middle, SO blindspot. but i think SP and SO are fairly close; the SX is just so intense it drowns out everything! i have a tendency to forget to eat and sleep as well as a tendency to forget to socialize or conform to social niceties when i am really invested in an artistic or intellectual pursuit or in a specific person. but when it comes down to it i will always choose to eat and sleep first lol
I’m pretty sure I’m a typical 5 sp. but I’m not a hoarder when it comes to anyone or anything I care about. My children, husbands, friends, and bosses/coworkers all have described me as “one of the most generous people I know “... I do feel the need to protect my alone time and I will say no if I can not summon the energy. I could care less about impressing people but I care about their hearts. I currently live with my husband and two roommates in a 3 bed apartment and I spend 95% of my days in my room with our dog. Reading, learning, praying, journaling.
This makes sense for a heathly 5 be to generous. Love it.
I've taken some tests online and almost everytime scored the highest in 5, close scores have always been 7 and 9. I'm 100% sure I'm definitely not a 7, but after some research I've been having small doubts that i might be a 9?
tests have always told me I'm a 5w4 (with the exception that I've gotten 9w1 once) which I'm pretty certain is correct and with your explanation of the 5 subtypes I can see I'm definitely a sx dominant, I can be extremely sensitive and I lean a lot to my 4 wing. At the same time many of the type 9 characteristics resonate with me. I wouldn't say I have the basic fear of a nine (loss of separation) but I resonate a lot with their desire (to have inner stability) and their need to avoid conflicts! I'm not the most harmonious and spiritual (as I believe most 9s are) and I can be extremely argumentative but I try to not get into conflicts and maintain the peace because I don't want to lose my energy on trivial matters (which for the most part fails miserably because i just cant keep my mouth shut) , on the other side I'm also not the most investigative? I love researching and learning new things (especially about psychology) but most of the time my (many) daily questions remain unanswered because I've been procrastinating and lazy the whole day.
Could it be that this is because I'm a 59x tritype? Don't have much info on the matter of tritypes but I'd like to believe that's the case. Anyways, thanks for the video.
oh sheesh that's alot of words
I relate to all of this! I am an ennagram coach who has studied with great teachers and still have trouble with this distinction in myself, between sx5 and sx9.
I'm not sure if Im a 5w4 or a 4w5, but I'm positive I'm a sx dom. I'm not sure about the order of the other two though. I don't really think either of them are a blindspot. I don't forget to eat or sleep, and I definitely feel I need people (but I'm not sure if that's just me needing the intimate connections). I'm not aware of my surroundings but I fixate on things like having enough money and physical security. But I do care what the group thinks of me, and I do need people.
5w6 SX
So after much internal deliberation, I concluded that my dominant is SX, middle is SO, and blind spot is SP.
SX as dominant:
I chose this as my dominant because I like relationships that are in a deeper level. Even though I'm kind of talkative, I only have one friend that I contact with and we are very intimate considering that we share our deepest secrets, beliefs, and principles with each other. It's not that I don't have other friends, it's just that i don't think I connect to them in a much deeper level, like to the soul kind of connection.
SO as middle:
Well, yep that explains why I like socializing even though I'm a type 5... I was pretty confused bcoz people keep on saying that type 5s are not talkative and yet here I am :). well only for the topics that interest me though.. aside from that, I'll probably be awkward as hell🤧
Also, I identified it as my middle instinct because although I like sharing information with other people and tend to please others (especially when we have a task to accomplish so that there will be no conflict that will get in the way of getting the job done), I don't really seek for recognition from others. like i wanna be myself and you ain't stopping me (I have wing 4 so yeah😅).
SP as blindspot:
lol i laughed at this one because it's so true... I even set alarms for breakfast, lunch, and dinner because i always forget to eat when I need to..
as for sleeping... well, my normal sleeping sched before is 4 to 5 am so I think that explains that?🤣🤣.. it kind of got better now coz I sleep 12 am... not that it's healthy but at least there's lot of improvement ☺️
btw, I took the mbti test and I tested as an INFP, but then I am also a 5w4... some people say that infp 5w4s exist and some say that they don't... they haven't come up with a conclusion yet sooo, can I hear your opinion about this matter?😁
I'm INFP 5w4 and I'm talkative asf when my friends are around
otherwise I'm a ghost lol
and yes I exist
@@arisukuroruwa owemjii, it's my first time seeing an INFP 5w4 aside from myself😳🥺 halooooo thereee👋👋
@@nikkijp4120 hallo!! and yea we're pretty rare lol
Well... I'm an ENTP 5w6 sx/so 592 SLI Phlegmatic
@Hilary McCaskey can you please recommend some good books that tell all about the enneagram? the types, subtypes, arrows, stances and triads?
Video is coming! But here is a couple of books I'd recommend. One of my favorites is "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" by By Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson and another great one is The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut.
Yes my SX edges out my SP barely though but my social is pretty balanced I would say my SP is my weakest but not a blind spot
I think im dom. sp, then sx, and lastly so
A little unsure about this one. Either SX or SP. SO is my blind spot.
So well explained i didn't need note.
Me INTJ 5W6 sp/sx/so
Wow! Love this!
definitely a social 5, that's why I confused myself a 7 ennea, but actually a so/sp 5, my sx kinda sucks though
I love how I am sp/so and the names of this instincts sounds like they can't exist at the same time becouse hehe self preservant and social hehe
Thought i was an sp up until a moment ago. I think my sp is secondary while sx is primary
Interesting. I still can not figure out my instinctual variant, i passed several inst. variant tests and got so/sp, but i'm rather towards sp/so honestly.
Im a 5 but I know Im not a SP 5. Im a bit more extroverted for a 5 and I don’t sleep or eat cause I forget to do it or don’t care. I always thought I was a Sx 5 but based on your descriptions I sound kinda like a So 5. It’s tough. 😬
Hm... When you describe the instincts themselves, I feel like I'm SX dominant and SP is my blindspot. But when you describe the 5 subtypes, I feel like I identify fairly equally with 5sp and 5sx (slight lean towards SP) and my blindspot is *definitely* SO. 🤔🤔
For context, I'm an Aspergian ADHDer so I'm HEAVY on the passionate hyperfocus to the detriment of my health (like literally I need my family to remind me to do things like eat & sleep on the daily I'm not even joking); but also I'm HEAVILY introverted, socially awkward and constantly having to stand up for myself & my needs to the detriment of my social life (also, couldn't care less about things like power).
I really want to say same to this. I can be super hyperfocused and my executive functions can tank but my motivations. But I dont want power I just want to be self sufficient and as for friends I want my people taken care of so I'm not going to hold knowledge over their heads.
Enneagram is fascinating and has many facets but the more I dig the more confused I get in some aspects. What about nerodivergence and how does it play into personality and the enneagram?
Thank you for sharing this. Its so helpful, other people might feel the same way. I tried to keep this video short and sweet but there is so much more to the subtypes. Here are two books that I'd recommend if your want to go even deeper :) "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" by By Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson and The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut. Thanks again for letting us be apart of your journey!
5w4. Can’t tell you how much I find jobs/career to be nothing but time, and energy thieves oppressing my independence and flow, despite providing the security I seek. That sort of hate/need frustration dynamic is draining. It shocks me that I remain gainfully employed. My only savior is the natural lean toward expertise. I know it’s not my breezy disposition and leadership skills. Ideally I would be this niche expert and I get a request for information via some portal. Drop knowledge and solution, then disappear back into the maze-like archives. Or traverse new planets taking observational notes without the need for food, oxygene, etc. the detached Silver Surfer. That said I think I lean SO because I do crave connection with nerds that hold similar interest. Everyone else is an NPC.
I relate to both so and sx. How to know which one I am? 😒
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Still can't decide if I'm so/sp or sp/so
How do you find your instincts
You are on the right track by watching this video...Are you a type 5? To figure out your instinct you need to take notice of what your 1st instinct tends to be. When you walk into a room full of people...what is your instinct?
@@enneagramandcoaching oh ok thank you
When i walk into a room full of people, (where i dont have the option to walk out of it) my first instinct is not to have eye contact.
Hillary im new to your channel. im an infj 5w6 sp/so. i have some questions and i hope U could answer them:
1. is ennegream genetic.
2. u said our instincts develop through past experiences.does that mean it can change or is it just genetic too.
3. is it natural for an infj like me to seem cold to other ppl.and how to become better at..not being cold?(i was trying to find a more suitable word but my English is not that strong)
Thats all for now.if you've already explained these things in another video pls share a link.
Actually my MIDDLE is SP and SO my BLINDSPOT
So I'm a 5w4 sx type... I'm wondering if the type 4 would make me more sexual by nature since it is already about being individualist so prefers one to one interactions by default?
100% a social 5
Love it!
Im SO all the way
I'm intj5. 🎉1 to 1
Can you switch which one is dominant if young enough? Both SX and SO were blind-spots up until I was about 15, but since they've gradually seemed to grow beyond SP.
would say sx
just not sure if a 5 or a 4
I'm 5w6 531 sp
I'm pretty sure my dominant is ex or one to one
Hi! What are the core differences between 4w5 and 5w4?
basically the whole video I couldn't figure out why it felt like you were waaaaaaay to close to the camera even though you are pretty well in frame. you might want to allow for just a bit more space above your head in frame. I think that is making the shot feel way to close for comfort.
Thanks for the feedback. I always appreciate it. This whole filming and editing thing I’ve had to learn from the ground up 😅
5w6 sp
what if all 3 are undeveloped? lol
SO CONFUSING
Good info, but this girl is Way Too Excited about 5s, lol.
I’m a type 5 with severe ocd… I think I know what subtype I am. 😂
I absolutely forget to take care of myself though. But that’s because I have a gage on how in control of the situation I am. I forget to eat but in the back of my mind I know it’s not a bad thing because my blood sugar isn’t too low.
Yeah..sx
ммм короче я со/сх