The 1SX really sounds like another guy I used to work with. Unfortunately, he passed away last year, but he was a legend within the company, which is quite an accomplishment for a line worker. He was known for being amazing at what he did, but also often yelling at people when things weren't run the way he thought they should be. He had a lot of creative ideas, and was the only one to consistently keep his supplies organized 100% of the time. He was hilarious though, one of the last people that you'd expect to have a sense of humor, but if he didn't hate you too much you got to see it.
1w9 SO/SP. I'm glad I watched this because I test as a 1w9 sx but I don't really relate a lot to the sx, I do in some ways but I big time related to the SO I thought I was type 5 for a long while. You basically summed me up. I related a lot to SP as well but not as much as SO. I'm so grateful for your knowledge and videos 💖
Thank you Hillary!! You’ve brought so much clarity into my newly founded type. After watching most of the vids on the type 1 playlist, I found out I’m a 1w9, SO/SX. Thought I was a 7 for a while, but I realized I want to be a 7 because I seek growth & want to improve & let go (sooo type 1). I also realized I’m a combo of unhealthy 9 & 1. Thanks again for helping me figure this stuff out!! Makes so much more sense now!!! 😁😁😁
Hi Hillary, I wanted to thank you for your various videos on the Enneagram. All of them have been extremely helpful to figuring out my Enneagram type, wing, and subtypes. I am a SP/SX 1w2 and an INFP. I typed with the Enneagram with 1, 4, and 5 being my biggest scoring types. Learning about the Enneagram has given me a whole different lens to myself that I've been nervous to accept. For a little while I didn't know if I was a 1 or a 4. Your videos talking about the fears and desires of the 1 resonated deeply with me (to the point of tears in some instances). In particular, your video on the childhood wounding really hit home for me. When I was a kid, I developed a deep fear of making mistakes even though my living situation was fine. My parents implemented an honor roll allowance for my older brother, eldest sister, and I if we did really well in school. Early on, I didn't really care about the honor roll. I was just very good in school, but eventually I began to become attached to being right. My siblings would always tell me how annoyed they were that I was such a natural and it soon stuck. My attachment to being right also got so bad that I vividly remember sobbing my eyes out as a kid as a result of a light punishment. My parents had something they called "Wicker Work Camp" and if we ever did anything bad we'd have to do a certain number of hour of chores around the house before playing. I was terrified of being punished, rarely got punished, and my sentences were usually light, but one time I was sentenced to an hour of cleaning my bookshelf. I was sobbing my eyes out throughout the whole thing to the point that my parents eventually dropped the remainder of my sentence. I am a fairly emotional person and I like to explore my feelings to some extent. I think me wondering if I was a 4 was a way of trying to avoid the truth. The truth is that I am currently intensely critical about doing the right thing and to me the right thing involves following my ideals/values with a mantra that goes something like "I can claim to have a value only if I live in accordance with it." For a while, I have misused my knowledge about my MBTI type and created an ideal about acting like an INFP and would be really hard on myself when I didn't live up to it. Enneagram has helped me undo this habit and I'm taking a mixture of pleasure and embarrassment undoing my bad habits. I look forward to learning and growing more and want to thank you again for all your help! :D
Hi Bradford! Thank you for sharing your journey with the Enneagram. I loved getting to know you a bit. Can't wait to dig into all this and help you next week :)
@@enneagramandcoaching Thank you for your feedback! I apologize for not being as certain as I thought I was. However, I greatly look forward to digging into all this more in detail next week. :D
I was so happy that you explained how 6 SO can look like one and how they can do the same things but have different motivations (fear vs. resentment). When my family was on vacation this year, both of my kids were convinced that my Mom must be a 1. It was the most hilarious thing when they both descibed to me, my mom waching my son-in-law load the dishwasher,.Okay so yes, I've seen that look before and I guess I have to admit that she can really look like a 1 because this was definitely the look of "I know the right way to do this and you aren't doing it". I was getting ready to say even as a 7 I can have that look on occasion but of coulrse I can since 1 is where I go under stress. I used to be convinced, especially regarding the dishwasher that my kids only loaded it badly so I would stop asking them to load it....yep...true story...and no I didn't ask them to stop loading it. Thanks for the video, My boss is a 1 so I am always trying to get more insight on 1's. I was sure she was SP when you were descibing that type but then when you got to SO....I don't know I can see some of both pf those pretty clearly in her
Yes, so many people don't realize how much subtypes play a part in things. And how subtypes can make us resemble other types. I love that you are watching video to help you understand your boss better. Thanks so great! Thank you for sharing Lorrie! I always love hearing from you!
I’ve taken a lot of tests and I think I’m a 1w9 SX/SP. I used to type as an 8 for a long time but I was always confused about their inner motivations. I was typed as 8 because usually I’m extremely quick to anger and intense with my morals. As a kid I tended to have tantrums when others would do something in a new way because “it’s just not right!” and whatnot. I’ve gotten healthier with that over time, but I never really related to the One idea of “repressing anger”, as in my mind, the only way to reform injustice and achieve the perfection that most ones seek is by expressing it and confronting it head on. This all makes sense now, and I’m glad of it cus I know I’m no longer an 8, thanks! (I also think I relate to SP a bit more than SO because “leading by example” is like, the least relatable thing ever to me haha. Much more interested in leading by inspiring and reforming others.)
laughed all through the SX explanation cause that's me. haha. i sometimes feel i appear like an 8 because i thrive in chaos and uncertainty and don't need black/white in every situation cause I have creative, principled and actionable problem-solving solutions and in my mind it all works out in the end so what's the fuss and need for order/immediate resolution? and if people don't follow them well that's their loss cause its freaking amazing. but yes the expectations of others are sky high, that's true. And let's get real, there's always uncertainty and imperfection in life, embrace it, not everything is black/white and that's perfectly okay. I believe in principles that govern things in life more than a black/white in every situation. Not many get this.
I would say the primary instinct gives tranquility and thus causes the most stress when not attended. Secondary instinct gives satisfaction and we seek matters related to it, but we can stay away from it for a while and be ok. It is the most balanced in that sense. It is for play/creation. And the blind spot even when it can feel developed, it feels like a chore and does not give that much satisfaction. We wish we shouldn't have to deal with it. Based on this, I believe I am so/sx.
Hey Hillary. You mentioned how sx 1 is not afraid of confrontation and that is oftentimes true. I'm quite belligerent however I always suffer the recoil and that makes me crawl into myself and withdraw. I become afraid of their reactions - that they will be angry with me - after the fact, after I've gone on attack. Much due to that pesky 9wing... I readily attack the opinions of others or assert my own counterculture ideas ...but I feel the strain of it afterwards.
I'm really struggling to settle on my dominant subtype and feel like I'm getting lost overthinking where my priorities end up (1w9 here!). Any tips on how to narrow my focus and stop second-guessing things? I often find the broad language of an outside perspective on numbers/subtypes/etc doesn't feel relatable to my exact experience, so I have trouble identifying with it as a result (which is...probably the most 1 thing ever. "Didn't pick the exact perfect words to describe an experience? CLEARLY that's not the correct choice then." YEESH.)
I have taken tests and I come out predominantly social but I identify with self preservation. I grew up in an alcoholic family and as the oldest of six, I was constantly expected to act as an example. Could I have developed the social part because of this? I am 56 so do we develop these aspects similar to the way we develop our wings? My 2 wing is nearly as developed as my 9
Truthfully, I'm not sure how accurate the tests are regarding subtypes. They never get mine correct. The instincts are developed when they are needed. So yes you could have developed it because of the environment you were in. Thank you for sharing!
I guess 1 sx/sp. Except I have ADHD and ADHD and perfectionism and generally disability and perfectionism doesn't mix well. I was, like 26 when I started to be able to set semi-realistic plans for myself. Like for example "somehow get by" instead of "I'm going to do everything perfectly".
im so in doubt between 1 and 3 (a tritype test gave me 3-7-1) because became both apathic and angry and moody when anxious, in my childhood i focused more of on being the best and special to made up for me being me, i became a chaos when i realized that my achievements were useless, like, i felt so bad. maybe im in doubt between those tho hecause my grandma teached me a lot with right and wrong thing and i build the worth of my goals basead on the people around me so. ..yeah. i dont relate to things that say that enneagram 3 have no morals or something because yes, i usually dont give a shit about it but the most counter productive thing is doing things wrong. mistakes are not something i let go easily (i understand them and try to see them and fix them but if i fail that means im a failure so. ..)
I don't have high expectations of others it is the low points in others that I object to. And not many people stand the cut to remain in my life after I've cut out all the drunks, cheaters, fools and hopeless cases!
I really should pay to take a test since I can't figure out if I'm an 8 or 1. Both of these end up with just a few points between them on the tests I take with 8 coming out ahead. I relate so much to both but the 8 is the one that originally made me feel like I had been exposed, but I don't feel like I match up to any of the 8 subtypes. The one subtypes for me would be sx/so.
I am the same a lot of people think I'm an 8, I now see where they come from because align with a1 SX. 8 came in second for me on the test. I do have a need for control my primary driver is my feeling of worth.
The 1SX really sounds like another guy I used to work with. Unfortunately, he passed away last year, but he was a legend within the company, which is quite an accomplishment for a line worker. He was known for being amazing at what he did, but also often yelling at people when things weren't run the way he thought they should be.
He had a lot of creative ideas, and was the only one to consistently keep his supplies organized 100% of the time.
He was hilarious though, one of the last people that you'd expect to have a sense of humor, but if he didn't hate you too much you got to see it.
Awww...sorry to hear he passed away. Thank you for sharing ❤️
She gives some background at the beginning so if you want to jump straight to the 3 types you can go to 5:09
Thanks! I need to put chapters on the video!
I’m a SP1W2 and 100% had a chaotic childhood where I felt the most responsible.
That makes so much sense.
1w2 SX/SO here. Thank you, Hillary.
Now I understand why 8 was so high in my test results 😂😅
1w9 SO/SP. I'm glad I watched this because I test as a 1w9 sx but I don't really relate a lot to the sx, I do in some ways but I big time related to the SO I thought I was type 5 for a long while. You basically summed me up. I related a lot to SP as well but not as much as SO. I'm so grateful for your knowledge and videos 💖
Thank you Hillary!! You’ve brought so much clarity into my newly founded type. After watching most of the vids on the type 1 playlist, I found out I’m a 1w9, SO/SX.
Thought I was a 7 for a while, but I realized I want to be a 7 because I seek growth & want to improve & let go (sooo type 1). I also realized I’m a combo of unhealthy 9 & 1. Thanks again for helping me figure this stuff out!! Makes so much more sense now!!! 😁😁😁
I love this! Thank you for sharing! yay! Love that you have landed on your type!
Hi Hillary, I wanted to thank you for your various videos on the Enneagram. All of them have been extremely helpful to figuring out my Enneagram type, wing, and subtypes. I am a SP/SX 1w2 and an INFP. I typed with the Enneagram with 1, 4, and 5 being my biggest scoring types. Learning about the Enneagram has given me a whole different lens to myself that I've been nervous to accept. For a little while I didn't know if I was a 1 or a 4. Your videos talking about the fears and desires of the 1 resonated deeply with me (to the point of tears in some instances).
In particular, your video on the childhood wounding really hit home for me. When I was a kid, I developed a deep fear of making mistakes even though my living situation was fine. My parents implemented an honor roll allowance for my older brother, eldest sister, and I if we did really well in school. Early on, I didn't really care about the honor roll. I was just very good in school, but eventually I began to become attached to being right. My siblings would always tell me how annoyed they were that I was such a natural and it soon stuck. My attachment to being right also got so bad that I vividly remember sobbing my eyes out as a kid as a result of a light punishment. My parents had something they called "Wicker Work Camp" and if we ever did anything bad we'd have to do a certain number of hour of chores around the house before playing. I was terrified of being punished, rarely got punished, and my sentences were usually light, but one time I was sentenced to an hour of cleaning my bookshelf. I was sobbing my eyes out throughout the whole thing to the point that my parents eventually dropped the remainder of my sentence.
I am a fairly emotional person and I like to explore my feelings to some extent. I think me wondering if I was a 4 was a way of trying to avoid the truth. The truth is that I am currently intensely critical about doing the right thing and to me the right thing involves following my ideals/values with a mantra that goes something like "I can claim to have a value only if I live in accordance with it." For a while, I have misused my knowledge about my MBTI type and created an ideal about acting like an INFP and would be really hard on myself when I didn't live up to it. Enneagram has helped me undo this habit and I'm taking a mixture of pleasure and embarrassment undoing my bad habits.
I look forward to learning and growing more and want to thank you again for all your help! :D
Hi Bradford! Thank you for sharing your journey with the Enneagram. I loved getting to know you a bit. Can't wait to dig into all this and help you next week :)
@@enneagramandcoaching Thank you for your feedback! I apologize for not being as certain as I thought I was. However, I greatly look forward to digging into all this more in detail next week. :D
Yes relatable
-1w9 sp/so .
I was so happy that you explained how 6 SO can look like one and how they can do the same things but have different motivations (fear vs. resentment). When my family was on vacation this year, both of my kids were convinced that my Mom must be a 1. It was the most hilarious thing when they both descibed to me, my mom waching my son-in-law load the dishwasher,.Okay so yes, I've seen that look before and I guess I have to admit that she can really look like a 1 because this was definitely the look of "I know the right way to do this and you aren't doing it". I was getting ready to say even as a 7 I can have that look on occasion but of coulrse I can since 1 is where I go under stress. I used to be convinced, especially regarding the dishwasher that my kids only loaded it badly so I would stop asking them to load it....yep...true story...and no I didn't ask them to stop loading it. Thanks for the video, My boss is a 1 so I am always trying to get more insight on 1's. I was sure she was SP when you were descibing that type but then when you got to SO....I don't know I can see some of both pf those pretty clearly in her
Yes, so many people don't realize how much subtypes play a part in things. And how subtypes can make us resemble other types. I love that you are watching video to help you understand your boss better. Thanks so great! Thank you for sharing Lorrie! I always love hearing from you!
I’m a 1w2 SX/SO! Love your videos!
Thank you!!! So Sweet!
I believe I am living with two type ones so this was really really helpful!
Awesome! Thank you!
amazing! I am 1w2SO. It helps me a lot. Thank Hillary, Good job!
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Starts at 0:55
I’ve taken a lot of tests and I think I’m a 1w9 SX/SP. I used to type as an 8 for a long time but I was always confused about their inner motivations. I was typed as 8 because usually I’m extremely quick to anger and intense with my morals. As a kid I tended to have tantrums when others would do something in a new way because “it’s just not right!” and whatnot. I’ve gotten healthier with that over time, but I never really related to the One idea of “repressing anger”, as in my mind, the only way to reform injustice and achieve the perfection that most ones seek is by expressing it and confronting it head on. This all makes sense now, and I’m glad of it cus I know I’m no longer an 8, thanks! (I also think I relate to SP a bit more than SO because “leading by example” is like, the least relatable thing ever to me haha. Much more interested in leading by inspiring and reforming others.)
laughed all through the SX explanation cause that's me. haha. i sometimes feel i appear like an 8 because i thrive in chaos and uncertainty and don't need black/white in every situation cause I have creative, principled and actionable problem-solving solutions and in my mind it all works out in the end so what's the fuss and need for order/immediate resolution? and if people don't follow them well that's their loss cause its freaking amazing. but yes the expectations of others are sky high, that's true.
And let's get real, there's always uncertainty and imperfection in life, embrace it, not everything is black/white and that's perfectly okay.
I believe in principles that govern things in life more than a black/white in every situation. Not many get this.
Thanks for sharing! This was great!
You sound just like a seven.
Type 1 wing 9 sx/sp. Thank you for making your content.
❤️❤️❤️ thanks for sharing!
This is a helpful resource.
Thank you, Hillary ☺️.
You are so welcome!
Definitely 1 SX here. People often mistake me for an 8. Even my therapist thought it was an eight and it came second on the test.
I like how you don't just talk about the unhealthy version.
I would say the primary instinct gives tranquility and thus causes the most stress when not attended. Secondary instinct gives satisfaction and we seek matters related to it, but we can stay away from it for a while and be ok. It is the most balanced in that sense. It is for play/creation. And the blind spot even when it can feel developed, it feels like a chore and does not give that much satisfaction. We wish we shouldn't have to deal with it. Based on this, I believe I am so/sx.
Hey Hillary.
You mentioned how sx 1 is not afraid of confrontation and that is oftentimes true. I'm quite belligerent however I always suffer the recoil and that makes me crawl into myself and withdraw. I become afraid of their reactions - that they will be angry with me - after the fact, after I've gone on attack. Much due to that pesky 9wing...
I readily attack the opinions of others or assert my own counterculture ideas ...but I feel the strain of it afterwards.
I'm a 1w9 and can relate to all but I think SP sounds more like me (tho I'm not always punctual hehehehe). Your videos are really helpful! Keep it up!
Thank you!
Great information! Thank you for sharing!
Thanks Margaret!
Awesome! I found this info quite helpful.
Yay! I’m so glad!
Oh my god... thank you so much I finally know what my subtypes are😳😳😳
INFP 1w9 so/sx it is!
starts 4:20 sp 5:18
Oh wow...... ok so i might be a sx 1 or so 1. Those sound reeeaaal accurate
I know I'm 1w9 sp but idk sp/what. I kind of relate to both so and sx...
Thank you so much for this video, Hillary! 💕🙌🏻
You are so welcome Abby!!!
Im a 1w2 sx/so/sp
I'm really struggling to settle on my dominant subtype and feel like I'm getting lost overthinking where my priorities end up (1w9 here!). Any tips on how to narrow my focus and stop second-guessing things? I often find the broad language of an outside perspective on numbers/subtypes/etc doesn't feel relatable to my exact experience, so I have trouble identifying with it as a result (which is...probably the most 1 thing ever. "Didn't pick the exact perfect words to describe an experience? CLEARLY that's not the correct choice then." YEESH.)
I'm definitely the social type
I have taken tests and I come out predominantly social but I identify with self preservation. I grew up in an alcoholic family and as the oldest of six, I was constantly expected to act as an example. Could I have developed the social part because of this? I am 56 so do we develop these aspects similar to the way we develop our wings? My 2 wing is nearly as developed as my 9
Truthfully, I'm not sure how accurate the tests are regarding subtypes. They never get mine correct. The instincts are developed when they are needed. So yes you could have developed it because of the environment you were in. Thank you for sharing!
I guess 1 sx/sp. Except I have ADHD and ADHD and perfectionism and generally disability and perfectionism doesn't mix well. I was, like 26 when I started to be able to set semi-realistic plans for myself. Like for example "somehow get by" instead of "I'm going to do everything perfectly".
Thank you for the informative video.
I am 1w9 sx/sp and I feel like I am boiling most of time...
im so in doubt between 1 and 3 (a tritype test gave me 3-7-1) because became both apathic and angry and moody when anxious, in my childhood i focused more of on being the best and special to made up for me being me, i became a chaos when i realized that my achievements were useless, like, i felt so bad. maybe im in doubt between those tho hecause my grandma teached me a lot with right and wrong thing and i build the worth of my goals basead on the people around me so. ..yeah. i dont relate to things that say that enneagram 3 have no morals or something because yes, i usually dont give a shit about it but the most counter productive thing is doing things wrong. mistakes are not something i let go easily (i understand them and try to see them and fix them but if i fail that means im a failure so. ..)
I don't have high expectations of others it is the low points in others that I object to. And not many people stand the cut to remain in my life after I've cut out all the drunks, cheaters, fools and hopeless cases!
I really should pay to take a test since I can't figure out if I'm an 8 or 1. Both of these end up with just a few points between them on the tests I take with 8 coming out ahead. I relate so much to both but the 8 is the one that originally made me feel like I had been exposed, but I don't feel like I match up to any of the 8 subtypes. The one subtypes for me would be sx/so.
I am the same a lot of people think I'm an 8, I now see where they come from because align with a1 SX. 8 came in second for me on the test. I do have a need for control my primary driver is my feeling of worth.
i came here from a comment on personality database about an anime character named after a dead writer ;-;
im such a so 1