On god bro, if I dont like you I wont even acknowledge you until I see something I think im interested in you or you seem interesting to me if not you dont even exist to me but ill still collect info on you from others just incase anything pops up lol.
Yeah if I’m not interested in a relationship or friendship I’m probably not gonna talk to you... it’s just a waste of energy and time. Most people would find this rude, I find it to be efficient.
Not really. I have a harder time talking to someone I have a crush on than someone who I like as a potential friend. I get nervious and I sound retarded.
I’m an INFP. Thanks to this channel, and comments, I’m pretty sure my INTP coworker likes me. He is 19 years younger than me. I think it could be a match made in heaven except for the age difference. Are INTPs blind to age differences?
@@BobbieChicken there is a 20 year age difference between my parents... and I have a cousin who married a man 15 years older. Age difference isn't insurmountable, but if you pursue him, talk about it. intps LOVE to talk about facts, especially with someone they like.
How to tell that I (an INTP) like you: I will go out of my way to actually leave my house/normal routine and go to places or events that I know you will also be at.
Ahhahaa I do that 😩 like never even talked to the guy but I started getting the bus instead of the train so he could see me after school. Like I was subliminally trying to enter his conscience. Eye contact is all I’m willing to do lmao
A few things that tend to be problematic for us INTPs in crushes/relationships: 1) Since we spend a lot of time in our own worlds, the number of people aware of our existence can be limited. 2) We don't really do the "love at first sight" thing, and need to spend a lot of time around someone before we know them well enough to develop an interest in them. 3) If a person we potentially have an interest in develops an interest in us first, we're in an awkward situation, because we haven't finished analyzing them to determine suitability, so we might push them off until we can make up our mind--then if we do later decide we are interested, they've already written us off because we didn't express interest immediately. 4) The whole dating thing can be severely stressful.
God forbid we do have "love at first site" and the other person doesnt reciprocate. We'll study them and try to get to know them anyway and it just goes down hill from there and we end up in an unrequited love type situation.
Im an INTP and #3 situation happened to me exactly the way you described it. It really sucked because I think I could’ve dated her for a very long time. We were very compatible, she’s a teacher now.
@@christopherpoblete8562 I don't think I've ever fallen in love at first sight, but I've definitely been attracted at first sight--in one case, to someone I started dating about a year later. I was awed by her outgoing, charismatic personality (not sure of her type, maybe ESTJ?)
cinoy paul I know! Right?! I feel like we get a rough deal sometimes. I try very hard to be a normal person, but people can always tell that I’m strange. Even when they enjoy my company. Frankly, it’s exhausting. It’s easier to be alone.
I'm an intp but I've had a crush on someone for multiple years and haven't approached them BC I don't trust that I have a chance with them due to the information I have collected
But you know that you are just one collection point of information. Don't forget that other people have their own realities and that without actually communicating those realities you just can not know. But look at it like this: you want this person. You've learnt a lot about them, but all that information is coloured by your perspective. The only way to progress is to try and talk to this person, to find out whether they're as cool as you think they are. If not, that doesn't matter. You may not be compatible, but you may be super compatible at the same time. And if you aren't you can actually move on. Knowledge is power man, go get that knowledge.
I think maybe INTP women behave a little differently than men... I related to all of these except for the part where you said that I would approach my crush😂 Maybe it's because I'm younger still, but when I have a crush on a guy I try so hard to keep acting normal around them that sometimes I end up avoiding them...
INTP men won't approach their "crush" either. But if the interaction has been initiated already, and we know they're open to talking, INTP men will focus an extraordinary amount of attention on the object of their desire.
I dunno, maybe its how people go about it. Normally I avoid anything romance but there was one dude in a couple of my classes I ended up crushing on and I thought "fuck it let's see what happens." It took me four months of talking before I was absolutely certain this was a person I wanted to be with. I liked him so much I asked him out twice. And the first time had been in front of other people x)
I’m INTP too. When I’ve decided that I have a crush on someone, I approach them about it at the first opportunity, but my heart is beating super fast and I get sweaty and uncomfortable.
Being an itnp is not always easy too . Problems going to sleep because my tornado brain won't shut down. Asking yourself why others don't see the logics of things. Being misunderstood most of the time. Social isolation if you don't watch out. World expects extrovert behaviour .
@@lovewho i know but time goes so fast, before you know it a year has past and you still think i should go out sometime or call. Spending to mutch time inside instead then outside my head.
@@lovewho i speak for myself here... the problem is while you study the girl that you like on a club for example what it comes to mind is the decision making of going to talk to the girl or or keep your girl studies.... while I think in this game go or stay in position, reality outside doesnt stop.... most of the times the stay mode wins because you are not prepared for the consequences of your move and when you finally finish your studies and you are ready to go, the reality is way much quicker than you and other random dude who doesnt have those issues takes the girl way from you.... i have been struggling with decisions since math problems in school a long way back... usually I was stucked in the very first problem of the test because I allways saw multiple ways to solve the problem and I was never sure what the correct path to follow.... Being stuck in your head is a huge problem in this extroverted world if you talk about social live... take the club example again, the excitement of the people is huge and you cannot feel what they feel. You feel a party inside your brain and you dont feel the real one.... so its really hard not to feel an outsider in this social world and thats why even though sometimes is still good you to get out of your home to take fresh air and go in this case to the club to check how is the world going, i feel a lot better in my room doing the stuff i like and living my inside party 24/7..... could it be better? Sure. But inside reality also has is pros and in terms of personal realization my strenghts can play very well with my future.... the world is not only about personal relationships.... thats a lot of other things to conquer in life and Im happy to say that im working on it✌ Ps: very nice channel btw😉
I am level 2 intp. People are imperfect, and i realized that. So i never ask why they dont think things logically, rather i ask why they think the way they do. Also i am in bed writing this comment.
Are the 'INTP crushing' traits THIS common?! This is spot on! Stage 1: Staring. Staring. Staring. Stage 2: Awkward eye contacts because of staring Stage 3: looking for signs of subtle allowance from the crush Stage 4: Going out of the way to contact the crush Stage 5: Sparkling eyes every single time the crush is in front an INTPs eyes.
"If you have an INTP in your life, do not take them for granted." Yeah, because if you do take us for granted for too long, we become very apathetic towards you. Once we've put energy into "consuming" you, if you'd like to use that term from the video, and you retract from us or ignore us, we wonder why we even BOTHERED with you in the first place. Unfortunately, some of us (myself included) are pushovers and may let you back in our life, but, seriously, don't think that erases how we feel. If we do this, we do it with a grain of salt and you'll never know how our feelings towards you have turned for the worse. It's not a good thing for you because you may think we care, but we actually care even less about you than other people we just write off in the first place. We talk about you behind your back and become like the gossipy, shallow people we hate. Taking an INTP for granted turns them into the worst person they can be. They go like, full demon mode. Not to mention the fact that we beat ourselves up for trusting the people we've chosen to "consume" too much..... INTPs are type that experience happiness and depression in near-equal quantities, because they are just so prone to being rejected right from the get-go (but we're hypocrites because we reject people from the get-go, so its a double-edged sword).
As an INTP, I can't really say I relate to the part where we turn into demons. I would like to believe that I hardly turn into one, seeing that my top values are honesty, kindness and straightforwardness. I, too, am a pushover, not exactly because others take me for granted, but because once they do so, they won't bother trying to get the friendship evolve and continue healthily in time. I mean, I am not an ornament, and no person should be. I am an incredibly solitary person and socialising is somewhat hard, but once I see that previous friends and I don't share fundamental values, hobbies and whatnot, I can't find a common ground in the conversations, so I leave. I'd like to call myself a free bird. Unfortunately, though, once I leave, people get very "sour" and offensive, something that I will never understand. Friendships are not supposed to be cages, and even though there may be secrets shared while still in friendship, me leaving doesn't mean that they will be spread. So far, I cannot say I've had any real friends at all, because I tried for them, I bled for them and in the end I was immensely ignored. I don't see how that's friendship at all. Friends are supposed to want the best for each other and be mature throughout, but acting like a primary schooler doesn't make any sense. In the end, I only feel confused. All I hope right now is that things in the uni will be better (I'm currently in 12th grade).
@@dreamxweaverr im referring to C. S. Joseph's term "demon function" Also, no person is entirely INTP. Everyone can exhibit traits of extroversion if they are an introvert in their nature. People can also be feelers occasionally even if they are naturally thinkers, etc. Our superego is the ISFP. Its where we go into the darkest part of our mind as a last resort and the other personality comes into the picture to deal with the *most* (i mean the things that really REALLY set us off, not simple things) difficult struggles we have in life. Here is his video on INTPs. He studies personalities and types people. I find this video very intrusive, since he gets everything right about us. Lol ruclips.net/video/WZBEuKPPEx0/видео.html
Ashley Krystin So true, my ex tried to inbox me and I laughed hysterically before I deleted the text without looking any further and it gave me something to laugh about throughout the day
It’s really weird that they’re all INTP’s, because they all seem exactly the same... I thought we were supposed to be like the ones who try to like be unique and all that
@@major_havok7854 That's when I start to question free will. We _seem_ more unusual because there's less _of_ us, & we rarely know any others of our kind, irl. So an NT, maybe particularly an intp, & then the other N's at some level are more apt to be into LOTR, or Star Wars. Or logical debate, or MBTI, or following Lu Anne ;P
Correction: Her INTP husband is using her to gather an INTP army. 😉 (though that's more an INTJ move - but an INTP would do this just for shits'n'giggles too, just to see what interesting and spontaneous things might happen.)
As an INTP I completely relate to this, and saying we become "obsessed" makes it sound a bit creepy but it is true.. I will go out of my way to talk to someone only if i'm truly interested. I think ti and ne become hungry for more information about them, curious to figure them out, understand them, to see every possible facet in their minds/personality. This becomes addicting too because everyone is a little complex in their own way and one thing leads to the next. Although I'm pretty sure that instinctual variants would definitely play a part in this too.
1. They light up when you're around. 2. They study you & remembers stuff about you. 3. Attached for life = loyal 4. Will pursue you once they decide you are the one 5. Allow you into their mind, values, & thoughts 6. Will start to care for you by suggesting healthier alternatives 7. Will not allow you to be unkind to others.
I’m an INTP female who fell in love with an INTP guy I met at work. It took 2 and a half years for him to work up the courage to make a move but we got there eventually. It’s been 10 years now, we’re married with kids living our weird little lives together.
INTP’s and ENTJs mesh perfectly. The NT function causes them to look at things the same way. The J is quick to judge , but the P causes them to step back and look at things a bit more slowly
@插入笑声. s Since you recently commented on this video I would like to talk to you because you're most likely to respond. I need some advice on what to do if I've become attached to the person I was "obsessed" with even though she doesn't like me anymore. It tears me apart because we were together once and I miss everything about it but now she doesn't like me anymore and I don't know what to do.
@插入笑声. s Well if I have a lack of self love then it's for good reason. I've done bad things in the past and I've specifically done bad things to her way before our relationship so I feel I owe her something. In fact, I know I owe her but I can't give whatever it is I owe. I hope this makes sense, I really do want to get over it but I still feel like I need to give her something.
Im INTP and this is extremely accurate. Theres some girls ill like for a while and "gather information" as i interact with them, but if i come across something that suggests that we arnt compatible or it wont work out all my interest disappears.
Fellow INTP and I know what you mean 100%. I just recently stopped talking to a girl who I was sort of prodding for compatibility because she didn't engage my mind.
I have this very same problem with men too. I'll drop em like they're hot if I've reason to suspect we are incompatible. Probably why I don't actually make it on any dates.... no one is interesting to me 😪
@@lovewho What is up with the music because I went on a 2nd date with an INTP man who said he was btw coz we had a chat about this. I am an ISTP. He wanted to cook med dinner on our 2nd date. When I arrived at his apartment we had a discussion about music and singers. I actually told him tho I enjoy music, I am not familiar or well informed about things happening withe celebrities and singers. He asked why, I said I like to feed my brain with more substantial information. Apparently celebrity isn't substantial enough for me LOL! I didn't really care if he think i am weird or not because that's my truth LOL!
Does anyone else think like: im going to say this and this and that and talk a lot to the people at the party, but when you are there you just hope they will not start talking to you
Haha. I can't even count the number of times when I've lived out an entire encounter in my head, so certain that I've got a plan or idea of how it'll go down and how to counteract certain negative outcomes, then when I'm actually at said encounter I shrivel up and look for the nearest shadow to cower in. We're so brave in our heads, but when it's time to stop thinking and act...well, it's a bit pathetic.
As an INTP female I actually have a book. A literal record of everything. All things said, did, done.... I don't really study my boyfriend but I definitely watch him a lot. I watch how his eyes move and how often he blinks and what he looks like when he sleeps and when his voice changes tones... And I lied...apparently I am studying him...but is it obsession? I have 600 pics of him on my phone including when he is sleeping... Does this count? His eyes look like dragon eyes... They have islands of gold around his pupil like a solar eclipse over a green galaxy... And they alternate in color too. When he is upset the get greener and when he is mad they look blue... And I'm going to stop now. Edit: this was my first bf and he became abusive. I'm in a better relationship and I no longer obsess. So that's good. Edit: I still obsess... still constantly observing lol.
So like me. Like I have a few photos of him but always begging him to have a selfie like I need to see any difference on his facial features.. I just stare at them like a lovesick puppy when I'm alone. Haha
Omg and i thought i was weird for "stalking" people haha it's a little comforting to know others take pictures and note all these details too Also... my current crush has the most GORGEOUS cornflower blue eyes I've ever seen. I want to look into them more but that'll definitely come across as being a creep 😂
I agree with absolutely everything except approaching. As a young female INTP, whenever I see my crush- AVOID. And then admire from afar with longing heart eyes.
0:50 Me, an INTP: * gets flashbacks of trying to learn every little thing about this person I didn't even talk to * No this can't be- oh goD- *starts hyperventilating*
More hugs? I wouldn't call them crushes, but I've nearly-stalked so many people in my life that I don't even remember them all. I think it also applies to friends and people we wanna be friends with. Tldr; she's not the INTP. We decide whether it not that's a crush.
Have you ever realized that "I want not just one extra arm, not just two, but two new arms, two new legs, a body, a brain, a heart, and a soul GRAFTED onto mine - for an eternity"? You should probably gather enough information before doing such, and be quite content with the decision once made. So we... "obsess", and gather information. And then we graft you onto our everything, so we better have a pretty good idea what all the buttons and dials do and mean, and how to fix whatever is broken because "You" are now "Us!" :D We're committed to "Us!" (How can you not be? Gah!) And now we can share our brains, and our feelings, and as long as you keep contributing to the fantastical "Us!" you're a fantastic addition! Why would NOT doing that be a better plan? :) I like you. I don't want to discard you. I've already decided/determined that you are wonderful! Was I wrong? Is there a fault in my judgement algorithm? Am I broken? I don't feel broken? (And then I'll get back to examining you - again) ^^^ And all this sh!t's pretty much unremarkably routine 24/7/365/forever. To us. To INTPs. Wheee!!! It's fun being an INTP!
After quite a bit of reverse searching, reassured that I'm not accidentally quoting some niche show, I have screenshotted this and am planning to use this to (someday in the far futures) confess and I hope you are okay with this. Everyone please pray it doesn't go disastrously. (dear crush, erm, sorry in advance for the second hand embarrassment WAIT WHAT ARE YOU HOLD-)
From my INTP experience, when I come to the conclusion that I’m crushing on someone, then I suddenly don’t want to be around them anymore. When I am around them, it becomes a game of “am I acting weird? Did I say something wrong? Do I look bad today?” Ultimately, that person just isn’t worth the effort or stress being around them induces, so I just avoid being around them until I get over it. And this is just a natural, unintentional process that I go through. It’s sometimes worse being that only into girls ( lesbian... but I hate that word) and I go through all of my thoughts of “maybe they like me?!” but I am fully aware that there is roughly a 0.1% chance they actually reciprocate any feelings. And I feel relatively comfortable talking to guys, and a lot of time that translates to flirting apparently, which just makes everything messy....
I've never met a "balanced" INTP lmao.... I know exactly what you mean. And also i've heard what a bunch of INTP's do when they decide they like somebody (true for me also) and they bring you candy. From my perspective, it's just that Si child wanting to share what brings them comfort. Good vid, thanks for sharing.
The INTP guy I am dating literally asked me if I wanted him to put the salad on my plate when I wanted seconds. I looked at him with a cheeky smile and said , "I have hands!" We started laughing! It felt like I was treated like a kid making sure I had enough food. We even had a whole discussion about food when we were young like did you complain about your mom's cooking. I told him I was traumatized with eating eggs because I was forced to eat them back in the day.
I saw someone in the comment section say "How to tell if an INTP likes you: They actually talk to you" _but I beg to differ lol_ When I like someone I become so obsessed with the details and the anxiety of messing up that I actively avoid said person, I bet an ENTP would be much more likely to talk to their crush
I am an INTP and I always talk first if I'm interested because introverted and extroverted actually doesn't have to do with how much you like talking to people. It actually has to do with where the thinking happens. An extrovert will be more likely to have conversations with people because when they do something or experience something that's all they think about. The introverts on the other hand will start thinking about something other than the conversation so they tend to try to steer away from conversations. I am an INTP who loves talking to people but I tend to mess up my speech a lot and get left behind on one thing they said and think about that while they keep talking and I lose track of what they've said. As an INTP it is genuinely very hard to have a working conversation or arguement because I have to spend time to analyze everything they're saying. In conclusion, you can be introverted and like talking to people and you can be extroverted and hate talking to people.
Bingo! I have worked hard at small talk. But what I really want to know are your deepest thoughts. I had to figure out how to argue when I got older. Arguing was not allowed in our house growing up. You could disagree but no complaints,tantrums or yelling.
It's amazing that you're not an INTP and all you said is right. I always try to eat healthily, I don't curse and I set rules before arguing too. Suddenly I don't feel as original as I thought I was :'v
@Celty Sturluson Yeah, it's a really great thing to be in the 3%, people call you "special" and "particular". All those great compliments, or at least that's the way they might think you take them, because in reality, you know they are just a bunch of euphemisms for "that weird thing over there that nobody understands" :'v
@Celty Sturluson Oh, I'm pretty grown up already, and it seems that that "special" "compliment" is not going anywhere. And how that hurts... And how that hurts I couldn't tell because I almost have no feelings at all. Ah~~ What a blessing being in that 3% :'v
One problem with dating as an INTP is we do study you and want to know what makes you tick which scares some women off thinking we are clingy. Personally, I want to find character and the value of a person before my feelings get in the way. The downside on the other end is once we are comfortable that you are a good fit for our life we relax a bit and our passion for deep dives of study go to other things the person that thrived on the attention feels taken for granted. While we are extremely loyal it may not feel that way to others as new ideas are often more compelling passions than a sharp focus on our partner. It simply means that we've come to thing of you as a part of us and we are back to enriching the wisdom of our unit. While some types focus on taming the world as providers of money for family, we work smarter and not harder and want to make our lives more comfortable through life hacking our way to an easy life. That makes me very minimalistic.
I'd say as an INTP, "we allow you into our mind", THAT, is the ultimate form of trust from an INTP as you can get. The INTP'S mind is the INTP'S most prized possession, and to allow you into their world, especially if it's all the way into their mind palace, then you are a very very lucky and special person. That is probably a once or twice in a lifetime event for an INTP.
I’m a huge INTP and whenever I’m interested in someone, I take the time to learn things about them that most other people don’t bother to, and I reveal my emotions that I rarely ever talk about to them on an almost frequent basis
I feel like us INTP’s have pretty high standards, which is why they get excited when they like someone because they know it’s difficult to find someone that they actually like. Edit: also “when they realize you are their person in life, they will want you to share your main thoughts, ideas, and values. So they will share that with you.” Actually we just like the truth a lot, we treat everyone like this weather we have a crush on them or not. Friends or even enemies we will always tell the truth to. We like everyone to know everything always, including ourselves. Which also explains why we are so nosy sometimes lol. Even though “knowing everything” is an exaggeration of course incase you didn’t realize. Because we know nobody knows everything since it’s impossible, which is the whole reason why we want ourselves and other people to have as much knowledge as possible.
fucking true, i don't like most people in life, i tolerate them because u know, thats life, so when I find someone I actually like im like yoo all the fuck in!! that scares them off, well that's what I use to do at least, not sure how I will handle the next ones, probabaly try to be less intense i guess haha
I feel as an INTP that I used to obsess more over my crushes. Perhaps that part of me broke along the way somehow. I don't find most people interesting anymore.
I love INTP’s so much! They are truly one of the only types that really values me for my mind & see me for me, and values me. Kudos to you for marrying one 😻😻😻
It is so amazing to watch someone, particularly a wonderful woman, who so genuinely adores an INTP as an INTP who has had trouble finding people who "get me". I had a mom who left me as a toddler & along w/ other circumstances that have made it so that I feel that my unbalanced self is not "made to be in a relationship". I've had some opportunities but usually blow them before anything gets serious. Thanks for giving some degree of hope.
My fiance is an INTP, which makes so much since when I look back at our years in high school. We took the Meyers Briggs test during the beginning months of college. Hes an INTP-T and I'm an INFP-T!
I've pursued people once I've (finally) decided that I'm interested, but I often feel like I have so many dogs barking up my tree that fending them off distracts me from pursuing what I really want. Something about wanting to be left alone and being stingy with your praise makes people crave your attention and approval.
It's more than just liking to know about you. It's *a vital need.* If you don't feed an INTP person information, you make them *sad* or *interested in anything else* that can satisfying their curiosity.
I'm an INTP, my crush story is still on till this moment. but yeah here it is: I liked a girl - one of my bestfriends in collage - that she is smart, gentle, white-heart, never drama queen and she is good annalistic one (I think she is ESTJ or ENTJ) and my story began ones I knew that she is the one that my heart beat when I see.. my reaction to this fact was not good at all, the last thing I want is thinking using my heart, and since I'm still young with no certification yet neither money and my culture is kinda rough about that I kept my crushness in the shadows.. I went crazy analyzing why her? nothing was clear and for me - because of my culture - I needed to shut my mouth up and keep going in my life, AND I'm still driving myself crazy "why would I let someone control my mood? why do I love her? why.. why.. why..". SIX MONTHS trying my best to not show her what I really feel ! after this period I could calm myself and focus on my life again and ignore my heart since I finally learned the pattern of how my heart feelings works.. but that's not the end LOL.. That one late night with those vibes smoking on the balcony, I let that crush feel shine again, and the next day I couldn't handle myself, so it was the time to do something real in the physical world! I picked the best moment to talk to her in private, we talked a lot with one main subject in my head "I want her to hate me" (Guys im not psycho, my circumstances is making me to do this ).. sooo I told her as much as I can of stories of mine that could let her hate me yet breaking our friendship so I can catch the fact in my head "you will not get her anymore so shut up".. the surprise was when she respected that i'm telling her... *GOD DAMN I REALLY LIKE HER!!!*... but it was that moment that I told her.. " Eey, You remember last summer? I was acting weird sometimes.. you know why right? *small laugh* " she said: "I KNEW IT!!! *Both Laughing* " I said while laughing: " WELL NOT ANYMORE :"D " she said while still laughing: "You better be you dump :"D " And that's how I dealt with my crush.. we are still good friend nothing changed, actually maybe we got closer but what I'm sure about is that for her I'm the last guy she would think about a relationship with. And I'm still thinking about her. :( but at least I can shut myself with facts these days "she don't want you". And what I like here is now I know how my heart works :D even if you say I'm stupid... In my own circumstances, I did the right thing.
It doesnt matter if u are intp or anyother type you should always persue what u love if u know its right ..i'm an entj woman and if i know hes the one im going after him ..no matter how complicated or weird any relation can get making someone hate u is not that smart at least when u wanna get rejected ..you would want them to reject u bc of who u are and not because of some pseudo-image !
as an INTP, this is very accurate. When you say "obsessed" that's quite creepy but also creepy how true this is. I have gone out the way to approach and talk to my crush, i will have a crush on one person for years. "and don't take them for granted" Is also a very true statement, Once we got ignored by the person we're interested in , we would start to wonder why we approach you first. We can cut you out of our lives so fast that even usain bolt is slower, but we would still think about you or maybe feelings too!
Yeah... the last girl I had a crush on told me I was exhausting to be around because I asked so many questions and wanted her to explain why she did certain things. The obsession thing is pretty spot on too
As for a "crush story," it's essentially what you've described. It boils down to something akin to an obsession, and a neverending desire to "mentally mate." This is very impressive. I'd never seen that "obsessive" aspect brought out in reference to an INTP and his/her love interests, but it's practically altogether consuming. It's something one has to work at, to arrive at some sort of a balance.
I'm an INFJ and have a crush on my best friend who's an INTP, and I can never tell if he likes me as a friend or as something more... nonetheless he's an amazing person and I'm so grateful that he's in my life. you INTPs are truly something special, I love you guys :)
Yes! I can agree with most of what you said. Especially about the information sharing part. I recently had a conversation with my potential partner that I need information, otherwise the relationship is non-existent. And I learn them all like a book. Thanks for the video!
INTP’s along with other rationals are often seen as cold distant and unfeeling but it is my belief that, (as an INTP myself) we feel just as much as our idealist counterparts e.g. _NF_. We process things at the same deep level it’s just that our emotional energy level is so low that this is reserved for those who we truly like. Basically being around people that we don’t particularly enjoy (most people) takes a lot out of us and so we are eternally in low power mode and emotions are what saps that power the most, so we turn it off so we can survive. When around people we genuinely like, I have seen rationals be able to be misconstrued as artisans, because we are genuinely so happy to be around someone that doesn’t exhaust us.
A message to other INTPs including my younger self: the biggest mistake you can make is failing to acknowledge the value of testing the systems you designed against the real world. Some INTP commenters here expressed that they fall in love with their conception of a crush but only had a small amount of real interaction with them. In this context, testing your system means allowing your crush to reveal their true selves to you directly, and delaying the conclusion about your potential relationship until you have more direct empirical data. This will not be a pleasant experience at first, like the feeling of scrubbing until your skin is raw. You must develop this tool and use it on your most valuable systems to unlock your potential, but do so with care to avoid hurting yourself. Godspeed and good luck my friends.
Great comment. It’s so very easy to get sucked into the loop of thinking and make that person into a better and more rich person than can ever be. Make sure to delay time to get to know all that you can before you commit!
All my crush stories have ended in distaster. Or rather, never progressed to anything beyond a crush. It turns out that all the time it takes to acquire sufficient data is also the same time it takes for a girl to lose interest in me. And most of the time I have no clue they are interested.
I am currently in love with someone and you just perfectly describe how I feel about this person, but I don't have the guts to pursue someone and if I did I don't have the guts to share my inner thoughts. So, I'll just be stuck in my own shell. Forever.
Wow. Hearing things about me, which are actually about your guy, is enlightening. We are NOT balanced and need someone to provide the things we lack and vice versa. From my experience being an INTP the thing to watch out for in a relationship with one is when we are hurt we shutdown and become apathetic to those that hurt us and we won't just get over it. Left unchecked that will tear the relationship apart. We take words to heart so never say anything you can't take back.
Also INTPS when they love someone will feel it to the bottom of their soul and will literally die or kill for that person without hesitation because of the implicit trust between these two. That’s in my opinion is another reason why we are so closed off, because people who aren’t good for us can genuinely take control of us in ways we didn’t know were possible.
Watching your videos is a relief. I have always been told to be weird, straightforward, private, and exclusive. I really thought there was something wrong about me until I found videos like yours.
When you said that INTPs start studying their crushes like they study info is something i can relate to because a couple months ago (before i knew about MBTI) I started INTERROGATING my crush, I HAD A WHOLE PAGE FULL OF INFO ON THEM. Favorite color, hobby, what they can or can’t do, other friends of theirs, etc. 👀 Now that i think about it, it sounds creepy.
Hi there from another INTP, I really feel that (and yes, an INTP who talks with feeling😅🙄) emotional intelligence is a very needed skill for an INTP. Unlike XNTP, most xSTP have emotional intelligence skills and I admire that about them👍👍👍.
I‘m just gonna leave this messenge from the INFPs who might have a crush on you, to all the INTPs out there: WHY CAN I RELATE TO YOU SO WELL, BUT AT THE SAME TIME YOU‘RE SO CONFUSING, BUT SOMEHOW THAT MAKES YOU SO INTERESTING AHHH....Man haha no seriously, please tell us more about your thought processes, I could literally listen to my crush talk about their interests, random facts, opinions on things, and their questions that they have in life, for hours. Seriously, most of the times we are really overwhelmed with...existence and at the same time we‘re terribly bored and disappointed with life, so when someone challenges our minds and helps us grow as a person, we really appreciate them and if possible never want to let them go again. And if you like an INFP, the most important thing you gotta do is, make them feel safe. We get hurt really easily and feel everything too much. We don‘t need you to fully get our feelings, we just need you by our side, to show us that the world can be nice as well.
I'm actually an INFP with no INTP crush, but I watched this video out of sheer curiosity. (Also, I just in general love introverted NT's. When I meet an INTP or an INTJ, I just find myself drawn to them) (yeah, like a magnet :)
How to tell if an INTP likes you. Basically we will start talking to you. We refuse to talk to anyone else outside people we like, so that's the major hint. Note: If we stop talking to you it's because we were waiting for reciprocation. If you wait too long we get in our own heads that the feelings of interest were not mutual. This is probably a more mature INTP way of thinking. Younger INTP's probably won't get the hint.
I am an intp woman and this is completely correct. Also, for me, if I like you, you'll know it because I will tell you. Very openly, as soon as I realize it and I'm sure of it. No games played.
@@hibiscus902 LOL... i am dating an INTP now as an INFJ, maybe i should make a video... i mean, there's definitely a magnetism, but we work very differently.
As an INTP, I often know the people around me super well. I analyze things like common reactions, speech patterns, and emotional reactions to everything. This process is often a lot quicker than most people would think, and others are often surprised at how well I know them in such a short time.
As an INTP, I I've already become obsessed with you, created my internal universe/idea of you, and then come up with reasons as to why it won't work... or will.
As an INTP, I'll say that you are 100% spot on, and are awesome. I love that you are willing and good with being "posessed" (consumed?) by your INTP and recognize that is a place of honor and not some kind of domination. If you're at that place, the INTP has let you inside their walls and trust you complicitly.
As an INTP I keep my crushes very secret I don't tell anyone, but you're right we do really study the person we are obsessed with, we naturally do things like remembering middle names or birthdays or their favorite color, random things they've mentioned before about their past ect. however when you've studied someone like that enough and you know you can't be in a relationship with them it sucks. INTP's think constantly, so when we find out we can't be with them we have to train ourselves to stop our own brains from reminding ourselves of them. It's obvious this has happened to me. I love to dream and I dream a lot sometimes, I would dream about this person I was obsessed with as if they were my best friend, or I would have a brief encounter with them, like they were a receptionist or something. A fact I still can't forget about the person I had a crush on, was that they never remembered their dreams, which personally I think would suck, but I guess they don't really know the difference, anyways, that was my experience as an INTP with a crush. The last point I disagree on, even though you may have experienced being wanted to change the way you do things like argue or eat, I think that is specific to him and not generally INTP Edit: damn this had a lot of mistakes in it, I hardly knew what I was trying to say half of the time.
As an INTP who's suffering a recent break-up, this is exactly what I needed to hear! I was emotionally distraught over the break-up for a long while, to the point even my best friend thought I was acting strangely. Even more recently, I re-developed a crush on someone I met before my ex, and started engaging in this behavior towards him. I knew that I was obsessing over this person and I thought it was strange myself how quickly I wanted to befriend him. I would have thought that actively seeking someone would be endearing, but in my experience, it seems more off-putting, and those around me would rather I stay in my quiet place and engage less frequently with them. Perhaps I'm surrounding myself with people inherently opposed to my personality, but I can't seem to find where I fit best...
As an intp, I’m currently obsessed with somebody... I can’t do anything about it but with the amount of thinking it through I’ve done to reach certainty about their value as a possible companion I can’t bare it. I can tell it’d be as close to perfect as is humanly reasonable
I'm an INTP married to another INTP. Neither of us had dated at all before we met. We were friends, and gradually got to know each other for 2+ years before we started dating. Over the course of those 2+ years, we found we were spending more and more time talking with each other. We had excellent conversational chemistry. Once we started dating, we knew pretty quickly that we had found our person. We dated for almost 2 years before we became "officially" engaged, but that was because we'd decided ahead of time when we wanted to get married, and we calculated how long ahead of that date we wanted to let the rest of the world know that it was going to happen.
Loved how it progressed from "INTPs" to "my INTP" and finally "Carl". You started a semi-scripted video, and ended up just getting invested in it and giving your own insight. Also you seemed touched by it (the whole "I'm not allowed to be unkind"), which was kind of emotional (whether it was because directly this or the retrospective of you growing up in a certain environment). This is a very true point btw, I've always had very firm beliefs in terms of moral values and developed sort of 'rules' around it, and people we care about have to somehow also respect it, as when people don't they just lose our esteem to the point where we don't even see them anymore, they just are not worth our interest and as such we (instictively, it's not a calculated thing) just won't consider them anymore. You understand your SO very well, I'm sure you guys are an healthy couple and God knows (actually I guess he doesn't, we're on an INTP video after all, what kind of concept is even God?) how important it is to the development of a mature INTP. Wish you guys the best!
@@lovewho This was a literal question, not sarcasm. Implying as INTP we are lead to question everything, God included, and even something as little as a way of saying such a "God knows" can launch us in a spiral of thoughts "but does he? so that would mean he is omniscient, but that raises this issue and this question, and also...". I guess that would be the reason INTP are statistically the least religious of any MBTI type.
The closest I’ve gone to having a crush on someone is when this guy in my class gave this speech and I was like, “woah! He’s really smart and funny!” And then he gave a presentation on this experiment and I was like “Welp, he’s the smartest person in the class.” Then, I started thinking about him more, then I just did nothing and continued being a hermit :) I’m only thirteen though. I only find people attractive when they’re really intelligent and charismatic lol
I'm an ESTP woman, I love INTPs so much, they're so precious and I can spot one in a room instantly. I have an INTP friend and I absolutely adore him and always show him appreciation for everything BC I realise he's grown up w/o that, and omw the way he lights up/becomes more confident with himself is my favourite thing ever. He basically never compliments me/thanks me in the same way I do but he doesn't need to bc he treats me with respect and care and I think that's his way of expressing appreciation. I think INTPs are severely under-appreciated/noticed for their efforts, BC their efforts are usually in the little things and often not verbal. Thankfully as an ESTP I have Se hero and notice everything (well, most things xD) and I'm sure he appreciates this in his own way(':
How to tell that an INTP likes you:
I'll actually talk to you.
On god bro, if I dont like you I wont even acknowledge you until I see something I think im interested in you or you seem interesting to me if not you dont even exist to me but ill still collect info on you from others just incase anything pops up lol.
Lol
Yeah if I’m not interested in a relationship or friendship I’m probably not gonna talk to you... it’s just a waste of energy and time. Most people would find this rude, I find it to be efficient.
Not really. I have a harder time talking to someone I have a crush on than someone who I like as a potential friend. I get nervious and I sound retarded.
facts
It's a video teaching others about INTPs but I guarantee you 90% of the viewers here are INTPs (yes, I'm an INTP)
Lol exactly
Same
I’m an INFP. Thanks to this channel, and comments, I’m pretty sure my INTP coworker likes me. He is 19 years younger than me. I think it could be a match made in heaven except for the age difference. Are INTPs blind to age differences?
@@BobbieChicken there is a 20 year age difference between my parents... and I have a cousin who married a man 15 years older.
Age difference isn't insurmountable, but if you pursue him, talk about it. intps LOVE to talk about facts, especially with someone they like.
Amber Howard 😊 Thank you!
“They become OBSESSED with you.” .... So you’re just gonna expose us out like that?
Ikr 🤣🤣🤣
Right? So mean.
So toxic
@@devlinantwi3098 Guilty 😋
Nahhhhh...ok yes xD
As an INTP I become so obsessed with a girl that I start to fall in love with the idea of her then her herself.
Daniel B *glass shatters in my brain* fuck 😂😂😂
Happened to me as a teen, it was like going through a break up from the idea of the person rather than the person themselves (we never dated).
Jonah P exactly. I literally had the same experience as a sophomore
@Sherlyn awe crap it happened again
I was obsessed with a boy like that. I moved away though so I guess that problem solved itself.
How to tell that I (an INTP) like you: I will go out of my way to actually leave my house/normal routine and go to places or events that I know you will also be at.
I will also wear nicer clothes, makeup, deodorant, etc, if there’s even the smallest chance I might see you.
Exactly 😥 I feel so stupid doing that, but can't help it
Then they'll say I'm being the "pick me girl"
Or im looking for attention
Or im being obvious about it
I'm a male but this is in a weird way useful
Ahhahaa I do that 😩 like never even talked to the guy but I started getting the bus instead of the train so he could see me after school. Like I was subliminally trying to enter his conscience. Eye contact is all I’m willing to do lmao
A few things that tend to be problematic for us INTPs in crushes/relationships: 1) Since we spend a lot of time in our own worlds, the number of people aware of our existence can be limited. 2) We don't really do the "love at first sight" thing, and need to spend a lot of time around someone before we know them well enough to develop an interest in them. 3) If a person we potentially have an interest in develops an interest in us first, we're in an awkward situation, because we haven't finished analyzing them to determine suitability, so we might push them off until we can make up our mind--then if we do later decide we are interested, they've already written us off because we didn't express interest immediately. 4) The whole dating thing can be severely stressful.
@@lovewho thanks for the responses. Wishing much happiness to you and the INTP in your life!
God forbid we do have "love at first site" and the other person doesnt reciprocate. We'll study them and try to get to know them anyway and it just goes down hill from there and we end up in an unrequited love type situation.
I'm an INTP and i have fallen in love at first sight many times. Or maybe I'm an INFJ who knows
Im an INTP and #3 situation happened to me exactly the way you described it. It really sucked because I think I could’ve dated her for a very long time. We were very compatible, she’s a teacher now.
@@christopherpoblete8562 I don't think I've ever fallen in love at first sight, but I've definitely been attracted at first sight--in one case, to someone I started dating about a year later. I was awed by her outgoing, charismatic personality (not sure of her type, maybe ESTJ?)
God bless you for being so nice to INTPs
Lol idk how my girl still loves me
@Cata INTPs are my favorite ppl, you guys are amazing (I'm an INFP)
We are special boys we need special attention
cinoy paul I know! Right?! I feel like we get a rough deal sometimes. I try very hard to be a normal person, but people can always tell that I’m strange. Even when they enjoy my company. Frankly, it’s exhausting. It’s easier to be alone.
WHY DO I FEEL SO REPRESENTED AH
I'm an intp but I've had a crush on someone for multiple years and haven't approached them BC I don't trust that I have a chance with them due to the information I have collected
stop being a pussy and integrate your ENTJ shadow xD
But you know that you are just one collection point of information. Don't forget that other people have their own realities and that without actually communicating those realities you just can not know.
But look at it like this: you want this person. You've learnt a lot about them, but all that information is coloured by your perspective. The only way to progress is to try and talk to this person, to find out whether they're as cool as you think they are. If not, that doesn't matter. You may not be compatible, but you may be super compatible at the same time. And if you aren't you can actually move on.
Knowledge is power man, go get that knowledge.
@@RedstonerD this action requires confidence
Alpie Internet take a chance brother ! Fellow intp
Same
I think maybe INTP women behave a little differently than men... I related to all of these except for the part where you said that I would approach my crush😂 Maybe it's because I'm younger still, but when I have a crush on a guy I try so hard to keep acting normal around them that sometimes I end up avoiding them...
INTP men won't approach their "crush" either. But if the interaction has been initiated already, and we know they're open to talking, INTP men will focus an extraordinary amount of attention on the object of their desire.
I dunno, maybe its how people go about it. Normally I avoid anything romance but there was one dude in a couple of my classes I ended up crushing on and I thought "fuck it let's see what happens." It took me four months of talking before I was absolutely certain this was a person I wanted to be with. I liked him so much I asked him out twice. And the first time had been in front of other people x)
Being an INTP guy I too act the same way.
Well, im a man and dont approach anyone
I’m INTP too. When I’ve decided that I have a crush on someone, I approach them about it at the first opportunity, but my heart is beating super fast and I get sweaty and uncomfortable.
Being an itnp is not always easy too . Problems going to sleep because my tornado brain won't shut down. Asking yourself why others don't see the logics of things. Being misunderstood most of the time. Social isolation if you don't watch out. World expects extrovert behaviour .
@@lovewho i know but time goes so fast, before you know it a year has past and you still think i should go out sometime or call. Spending to mutch time inside instead then outside my head.
@@lovewho there are always reasons enough not to go out. He's lucky to have you 😘
@@lovewho could you answer one question for me ? Are all intps exceptional good in reading people ?
@@lovewho i speak for myself here... the problem is while you study the girl that you like on a club for example what it comes to mind is the decision making of going to talk to the girl or or keep your girl studies.... while I think in this game go or stay in position, reality outside doesnt stop.... most of the times the stay mode wins because you are not prepared for the consequences of your move and when you finally finish your studies and you are ready to go, the reality is way much quicker than you and other random dude who doesnt have those issues takes the girl way from you.... i have been struggling with decisions since math problems in school a long way back... usually I was stucked in the very first problem of the test because I allways saw multiple ways to solve the problem and I was never sure what the correct path to follow....
Being stuck in your head is a huge problem in this extroverted world if you talk about social live... take the club example again, the excitement of the people is huge and you cannot feel what they feel. You feel a party inside your brain and you dont feel the real one.... so its really hard not to feel an outsider in this social world and thats why even though sometimes is still good you to get out of your home to take fresh air and go in this case to the club to check how is the world going, i feel a lot better in my room doing the stuff i like and living my inside party 24/7..... could it be better? Sure. But inside reality also has is pros and in terms of personal realization my strenghts can play very well with my future.... the world is not only about personal relationships.... thats a lot of other things to conquer in life and Im happy to say that im working on it✌
Ps: very nice channel btw😉
I am level 2 intp. People are imperfect, and i realized that. So i never ask why they dont think things logically, rather i ask why they think the way they do. Also i am in bed writing this comment.
Are the 'INTP crushing' traits THIS common?! This is spot on!
Stage 1: Staring. Staring. Staring.
Stage 2: Awkward eye contacts because of staring
Stage 3: looking for signs of subtle allowance from the crush
Stage 4: Going out of the way to contact the crush
Stage 5: Sparkling eyes every single time the crush is in front an INTPs eyes.
The awkward eye contacts are even more awkward for me since I'm gay and my crushes are always heterosexuals. Lol
Actually me IRL, oh boy... x)
Oh boi this deserves 77M likes lol, I laughed so hard at the "akward eye contact because of staring"
Sparkling eyes, so true 😂
Yes! The sparkle eyes 👀
"If you have an INTP in your life, do not take them for granted."
Yeah, because if you do take us for granted for too long, we become very apathetic towards you. Once we've put energy into "consuming" you, if you'd like to use that term from the video, and you retract from us or ignore us, we wonder why we even BOTHERED with you in the first place.
Unfortunately, some of us (myself included) are pushovers and may let you back in our life, but, seriously, don't think that erases how we feel. If we do this, we do it with a grain of salt and you'll never know how our feelings towards you have turned for the worse. It's not a good thing for you because you may think we care, but we actually care even less about you than other people we just write off in the first place. We talk about you behind your back and become like the gossipy, shallow people we hate.
Taking an INTP for granted turns them into the worst person they can be. They go like, full demon mode. Not to mention the fact that we beat ourselves up for trusting the people we've chosen to "consume" too much.....
INTPs are type that experience happiness and depression in near-equal quantities, because they are just so prone to being rejected right from the get-go (but we're hypocrites because we reject people from the get-go, so its a double-edged sword).
As an INTP, I can't really say I relate to the part where we turn into demons. I would like to believe that I hardly turn into one, seeing that my top values are honesty, kindness and straightforwardness. I, too, am a pushover, not exactly because others take me for granted, but because once they do so, they won't bother trying to get the friendship evolve and continue healthily in time. I mean, I am not an ornament, and no person should be. I am an incredibly solitary person and socialising is somewhat hard, but once I see that previous friends and I don't share fundamental values, hobbies and whatnot, I can't find a common ground in the conversations, so I leave. I'd like to call myself a free bird. Unfortunately, though, once I leave, people get very "sour" and offensive, something that I will never understand. Friendships are not supposed to be cages, and even though there may be secrets shared while still in friendship, me leaving doesn't mean that they will be spread. So far, I cannot say I've had any real friends at all, because I tried for them, I bled for them and in the end I was immensely ignored. I don't see how that's friendship at all. Friends are supposed to want the best for each other and be mature throughout, but acting like a primary schooler doesn't make any sense. In the end, I only feel confused. All I hope right now is that things in the uni will be better (I'm currently in 12th grade).
@@dreamxweaverr im referring to C. S. Joseph's term "demon function"
Also, no person is entirely INTP. Everyone can exhibit traits of extroversion if they are an introvert in their nature. People can also be feelers occasionally even if they are naturally thinkers, etc.
Our superego is the ISFP.
Its where we go into the darkest part of our mind as a last resort and the other personality comes into the picture to deal with the *most* (i mean the things that really REALLY set us off, not simple things) difficult struggles we have in life.
Here is his video on INTPs. He studies personalities and types people. I find this video very intrusive, since he gets everything right about us. Lol
ruclips.net/video/WZBEuKPPEx0/видео.html
@@ashleykbarks I see. I will check it out, thanks a lot for the recommendation!
Ashley Krystin this is so accurate
Ashley Krystin
So true, my ex tried to inbox me and I laughed hysterically before I deleted the text without looking any further and it gave me something to laugh about throughout the day
You seem to be gathering a small INTP army. ;P
It’s really weird that they’re all INTP’s, because they all seem exactly the same... I thought we were supposed to be like the ones who try to like be unique and all that
@@major_havok7854 That's when I start to question free will. We _seem_ more unusual because there's less _of_ us, & we rarely know any others of our kind, irl. So an NT, maybe particularly an intp, & then the other N's at some level are more apt to be into LOTR, or Star Wars. Or logical debate, or MBTI, or following Lu Anne ;P
@@Severienne Kind of like convergent evolution?
@@cinoypaul9262 Kind of.. that's an interesting thought. A very interesting thought.
Correction: Her INTP husband is using her to gather an INTP army. 😉
(though that's more an INTJ move - but an INTP would do this just for shits'n'giggles too, just to see what interesting and spontaneous things might happen.)
As an INTP I completely relate to this, and saying we become "obsessed" makes it sound a bit creepy but it is true.. I will go out of my way to talk to someone only if i'm truly interested. I think ti and ne become hungry for more information about them, curious to figure them out, understand them, to see every possible facet in their minds/personality. This becomes addicting too because everyone is a little complex in their own way and one thing leads to the next. Although I'm pretty sure that instinctual variants would definitely play a part in this too.
I’m an Infp and I become super curious and try to go figure out everything about my crush. Maybe it’s an Ne thing?
1. They light up when you're around.
2. They study you & remembers stuff about you.
3. Attached for life = loyal
4. Will pursue you once they decide you are the one
5. Allow you into their mind, values, & thoughts
6. Will start to care for you by suggesting healthier alternatives
7. Will not allow you to be unkind to others.
#6 wow. spot on
a true love from an intp is when they actually want to speak to you.
Hahaha exactly! 🤣🤣
But also, how strange! I love it! Lol
😘
Lu
I’m an INTP female who fell in love with an INTP guy I met at work. It took 2 and a half years for him to work up the courage to make a move but we got there eventually. It’s been 10 years now, we’re married with kids living our weird little lives together.
That's adorable!
-INTP
Hello INTPs. It is nice to see people like me.
Who's Tamim?
You're welcome B')
Muffin Man emir of Qatar haha
Right
@@muffinman2946 Arabian tribe
I’m an ENTJ and about to marry my INTP she is freaking amazing the way her mind works and so beautiful I’m the luckiest man alive
I misread that as "I'm the fuckiest man alive"
That is SO sweet ! As an INTP woman, I hope if I ever find a guy, they appreciate my quirks like you seem to for your lady. Good for you two !
INTP’s and ENTJs mesh perfectly. The NT function causes them to look at things the same way. The J is quick to judge , but the P causes them to step back and look at things a bit more slowly
Congrats!
@@mutantmacrophage6653 That may also be true. I'm a good way. 😋
I'm a girl INTP and I would NEVER talk to my crush, I'm way too introverted for that
@插入笑声. s Since you recently commented on this video I would like to talk to you because you're most likely to respond. I need some advice on what to do if I've become attached to the person I was "obsessed" with even though she doesn't like me anymore. It tears me apart because we were together once and I miss everything about it but now she doesn't like me anymore and I don't know what to do.
@插入笑声. s Well if I have a lack of self love then it's for good reason. I've done bad things in the past and I've specifically done bad things to her way before our relationship so I feel I owe her something. In fact, I know I owe her but I can't give whatever it is I owe. I hope this makes sense, I really do want to get over it but I still feel like I need to give her something.
@插入笑声. s I don't think it's that I don't love myself. I don't love that part of myself that's gone now but the effects are still there.
@插入笑声. s If you knew what I'd done you'd know I owe her and if you still disagreed you'd be delusional.
@插入笑声. s no
Im INTP and this is extremely accurate. Theres some girls ill like for a while and "gather information" as i interact with them, but if i come across something that suggests that we arnt compatible or it wont work out all my interest disappears.
Fellow INTP and I know what you mean 100%. I just recently stopped talking to a girl who I was sort of prodding for compatibility because she didn't engage my mind.
oh man, thats what happened? dangit
I have this very same problem with men too. I'll drop em like they're hot if I've reason to suspect we are incompatible.
Probably why I don't actually make it on any dates.... no one is interesting to me 😪
3 thing's 1. Your husband sounds awesome 2. You have a deep understanding I'm assuming that due to time 3. As an INTP I appreciate you
You left out that she's hot. She's hot - you left that out.
I'm an INTP, if I send you some musics recommendation and if I know everything about you it means I love you lmao
Listen, just look after baby Yoda and then we'll talk about music ~ Nathan
Why is this so true for me 😂
@@lovewho What is up with the music because I went on a 2nd date with an INTP man who said he was btw coz we had a chat about this. I am an ISTP. He wanted to cook med dinner on our 2nd date. When I arrived at his apartment we had a discussion about music and singers. I actually told him tho I enjoy music, I am not familiar or well informed about things happening withe celebrities and singers. He asked why, I said I like to feed my brain with more substantial information. Apparently celebrity isn't substantial enough for me LOL! I didn't really care if he think i am weird or not because that's my truth LOL!
When an intp likes you. They actually honestly truly do like you
Does anyone else think like: im going to say this and this and that and talk a lot to the people at the party, but when you are there you just hope they will not start talking to you
I like wearing earphones so people don't talk to me. They end up thinking I'm listening to music when I'm actually listening and observing them haha
Haha. I can't even count the number of times when I've lived out an entire encounter in my head, so certain that I've got a plan or idea of how it'll go down and how to counteract certain negative outcomes, then when I'm actually at said encounter I shrivel up and look for the nearest shadow to cower in. We're so brave in our heads, but when it's time to stop thinking and act...well, it's a bit pathetic.
If you’re a true INTP you try to avoid going to parties with unfamiliar people at all costs
@@crow1628 yes, but at same point you want to yourself to improve.
Me.too ;-;
As an INTP female I actually have a book. A literal record of everything. All things said, did, done.... I don't really study my boyfriend but I definitely watch him a lot. I watch how his eyes move and how often he blinks and what he looks like when he sleeps and when his voice changes tones...
And I lied...apparently I am studying him...but is it obsession? I have 600 pics of him on my phone including when he is sleeping... Does this count? His eyes look like dragon eyes... They have islands of gold around his pupil like a solar eclipse over a green galaxy...
And they alternate in color too. When he is upset the get greener and when he is mad they look blue...
And I'm going to stop now.
Edit: this was my first bf and he became abusive. I'm in a better relationship and I no longer obsess. So that's good.
Edit: I still obsess... still constantly observing lol.
Oh God. I wish someone talked liked this about my eyes... ಥ‿ಥ
Woah, that's neat
So like me. Like I have a few photos of him but always begging him to have a selfie like I need to see any difference on his facial features.. I just stare at them like a lovesick puppy when I'm alone. Haha
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Omg and i thought i was weird for "stalking" people haha it's a little comforting to know others take pictures and note all these details too
Also... my current crush has the most GORGEOUS cornflower blue eyes I've ever seen. I want to look into them more but that'll definitely come across as being a creep 😂
I agree with absolutely everything except approaching. As a young female INTP, whenever I see my crush- AVOID. And then admire from afar with longing heart eyes.
So true!!!
Me an INTP: WRITE THAT DOWN!
lmao I’m an INTP and I have to reel in the obsession because it might scare potential friends
0:50
Me, an INTP:
* gets flashbacks of trying to learn every little thing about this person I didn't even talk to *
No this can't be- oh goD-
*starts hyperventilating*
_hugs_
I'm debating with myself to do this
Every time I think about my past crushes, the stalking memories give me major brain cringe
More hugs? I wouldn't call them crushes, but I've nearly-stalked so many people in my life that I don't even remember them all. I think it also applies to friends and people we wanna be friends with.
Tldr; she's not the INTP. We decide whether it not that's a crush.
@@that_dam_baka Are you an Indian? Because i haven't seen Indians in this kind of mbti videos.
@@knowledgeBoosterkb123 You have. We just don't use our real makes most of the time. 🤷♀️
Have you ever realized that "I want not just one extra arm, not just two, but two new arms, two new legs, a body, a brain, a heart, and a soul GRAFTED onto mine - for an eternity"? You should probably gather enough information before doing such, and be quite content with the decision once made. So we... "obsess", and gather information.
And then we graft you onto our everything, so we better have a pretty good idea what all the buttons and dials do and mean, and how to fix whatever is broken because "You" are now "Us!" :D
We're committed to "Us!" (How can you not be? Gah!)
And now we can share our brains, and our feelings, and as long as you keep contributing to the fantastical "Us!" you're a fantastic addition!
Why would NOT doing that be a better plan?
:)
I like you.
I don't want to discard you.
I've already decided/determined that you are wonderful!
Was I wrong? Is there a fault in my judgement algorithm?
Am I broken?
I don't feel broken?
(And then I'll get back to examining you - again)
^^^
And all this sh!t's pretty much unremarkably routine 24/7/365/forever. To us. To INTPs.
Wheee!!! It's fun being an INTP!
Agreed. It's an analytical process.
So much fun. Wouldn't trade it for anything.
After quite a bit of reverse searching, reassured that I'm not accidentally quoting some niche show, I have screenshotted this and am planning to use this to (someday in the far futures) confess and I hope you are okay with this. Everyone please pray it doesn't go disastrously.
(dear crush, erm, sorry in advance for the second hand embarrassment WAIT WHAT ARE YOU HOLD-)
From my INTP experience, when I come to the conclusion that I’m crushing on someone, then I suddenly don’t want to be around them anymore. When I am around them, it becomes a game of “am I acting weird? Did I say something wrong? Do I look bad today?” Ultimately, that person just isn’t worth the effort or stress being around them induces, so I just avoid being around them until I get over it. And this is just a natural, unintentional process that I go through. It’s sometimes worse being that only into girls ( lesbian... but I hate that word) and I go through all of my thoughts of “maybe they like me?!” but I am fully aware that there is roughly a 0.1% chance they actually reciprocate any feelings. And I feel relatively comfortable talking to guys, and a lot of time that translates to flirting apparently, which just makes everything messy....
Ngl look into adhd and similarities between this personality type
Hahahaha
I had never seen so many INTP in one place
because they are studying hahahaha
"One thing I'm not allowed to do is be unkind to anyone".
Mah Man!
I've never met a "balanced" INTP lmao.... I know exactly what you mean. And also i've heard what a bunch of INTP's do when they decide they like somebody (true for me also) and they bring you candy. From my perspective, it's just that Si child wanting to share what brings them comfort. Good vid, thanks for sharing.
Well this cant be true i give everyone candy... that would mean 🤔🤔😂😂
The INTP guy I am dating literally asked me if I wanted him to put the salad on my plate when I wanted seconds. I looked at him with a cheeky smile and said , "I have hands!" We started laughing! It felt like I was treated like a kid making sure I had enough food. We even had a whole discussion about food when we were young like did you complain about your mom's cooking. I told him I was traumatized with eating eggs because I was forced to eat them back in the day.
I saw someone in the comment section say "How to tell if an INTP likes you: They actually talk to you" _but I beg to differ lol_
When I like someone I become so obsessed with the details and the anxiety of messing up that I actively avoid said person, I bet an ENTP would be much more likely to talk to their crush
Cause we're introvert we wont talk first
I am an INTP and I always talk first if I'm interested because introverted and extroverted actually doesn't have to do with how much you like talking to people. It actually has to do with where the thinking happens. An extrovert will be more likely to have conversations with people because when they do something or experience something that's all they think about. The introverts on the other hand will start thinking about something other than the conversation so they tend to try to steer away from conversations. I am an INTP who loves talking to people but I tend to mess up my speech a lot and get left behind on one thing they said and think about that while they keep talking and I lose track of what they've said. As an INTP it is genuinely very hard to have a working conversation or arguement because I have to spend time to analyze everything they're saying. In conclusion, you can be introverted and like talking to people and you can be extroverted and hate talking to people.
Bingo! I have worked hard at small talk. But what I really want to know are your deepest thoughts. I had to figure out how to argue when I got older. Arguing was not allowed in our house growing up. You could disagree but no complaints,tantrums or yelling.
It's amazing that you're not an INTP and all you said is right. I always try to eat healthily, I don't curse and I set rules before arguing too. Suddenly I don't feel as original as I thought I was :'v
@Celty Sturluson Yeah, it's a really great thing to be in the 3%, people call you "special" and "particular". All those great compliments, or at least that's the way they might think you take them, because in reality, you know they are just a bunch of euphemisms for "that weird thing over there that nobody understands" :'v
@Celty Sturluson Oh, I'm pretty grown up already, and it seems that that "special" "compliment" is not going anywhere. And how that hurts... And how that hurts I couldn't tell because I almost have no feelings at all. Ah~~ What a blessing being in that 3% :'v
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"They start studying you." Yep. If an INTP pulls out the notebook and starts writing notes then you've got a "secret" admirer.
We don't need to take notes. When we are interested about something our memory becomes prodigious.
I MP ikr
@@Ignasimp true dat
One problem with dating as an INTP is we do study you and want to know what makes you tick which scares some women off thinking we are clingy. Personally, I want to find character and the value of a person before my feelings get in the way. The downside on the other end is once we are comfortable that you are a good fit for our life we relax a bit and our passion for deep dives of study go to other things the person that thrived on the attention feels taken for granted. While we are extremely loyal it may not feel that way to others as new ideas are often more compelling passions than a sharp focus on our partner. It simply means that we've come to thing of you as a part of us and we are back to enriching the wisdom of our unit. While some types focus on taming the world as providers of money for family, we work smarter and not harder and want to make our lives more comfortable through life hacking our way to an easy life. That makes me very minimalistic.
I'd say as an INTP, "we allow you into our mind", THAT, is the ultimate form of trust from an INTP as you can get. The INTP'S mind is the INTP'S most prized possession, and to allow you into their world, especially if it's all the way into their mind palace, then you are a very very lucky and special person. That is probably a once or twice in a lifetime event for an INTP.
You're making us sound like creeps
So true, I would stalk their social media to get more info. No wonder I'm a INTP
Lune 415 doesn’t everyone do that though ?
i google the heck out of them. name, city they were born in then i search their name and the city they currently live in like it's a process
@@madelinereyes3631 Same and I'm not even a INTP lmao
It's so nice to see so many fellow INTPs here.
Right?! It's rare
I’m a huge INTP and whenever I’m interested in someone, I take the time to learn things about them that most other people don’t bother to, and I reveal my emotions that I rarely ever talk about to them on an almost frequent basis
I can tell you're married to an INTP. There's no way you would ever be able to describe us so perfectly. Great job
you can 'tell' ? and if it isn't so perhaps he is joined at the hip as one
I feel like us INTP’s have pretty high standards, which is why they get excited when they like someone because they know it’s difficult to find someone that they actually like.
Edit: also “when they realize you are their person in life, they will want you to share your main thoughts, ideas, and values. So they will share that with you.” Actually we just like the truth a lot, we treat everyone like this weather we have a crush on them or not. Friends or even enemies we will always tell the truth to. We like everyone to know everything always, including ourselves. Which also explains why we are so nosy sometimes lol. Even though “knowing everything” is an exaggeration of course incase you didn’t realize. Because we know nobody knows everything since it’s impossible, which is the whole reason why we want ourselves and other people to have as much knowledge as possible.
fucking true, i don't like most people in life, i tolerate them because u know, thats life, so when I find someone I actually like im like yoo all the fuck in!! that scares them off, well that's what I use to do at least, not sure how I will handle the next ones, probabaly try to be less intense i guess haha
It's true that I am just as truthful to my enemies as I am my friends.
that color blue top really lights up the blue from your eyes!
Yesss my repetitive thought watching this video
How to tell if an INTP likes you:
They actually notice you around and think your opinions matters.
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Or maybe I'm a bad person lol, nice video
My bf is same
Im female INTP and yes, this is accurate 🙂🙂
The whole “obsession” tendency that we have is completely spot on!😂
I feel as an INTP that I used to obsess more over my crushes. Perhaps that part of me broke along the way somehow. I don't find most people interesting anymore.
i understand and relate to your comment
Just work really hard at it, and you'll find someone, and experience things you never thought possible! Trust me. As an INTP, I understand.
I love INTP’s so much! They are truly one of the only types that really values me for my mind & see me for me, and values me. Kudos to you for marrying one 😻😻😻
What type are you?
I'm trying to figure out what personality types would be the most compatible to INTP as I always go into the wrong ones 🤦🏻♂️
@farral INFJ and INTP are referred to as the golden pair.
It is so amazing to watch someone, particularly a wonderful woman, who so genuinely adores an INTP as an INTP who has had trouble finding people who "get me". I had a mom who left me as a toddler & along w/ other circumstances that have made it so that I feel that my unbalanced self is not "made to be in a relationship". I've had some opportunities but usually blow them before anything gets serious. Thanks for giving some degree of hope.
My fiance is an INTP, which makes so much since when I look back at our years in high school. We took the Meyers Briggs test during the beginning months of college. Hes an INTP-T and I'm an INFP-T!
I've pursued people once I've (finally) decided that I'm interested, but I often feel like I have so many dogs barking up my tree that fending them off distracts me from pursuing what I really want. Something about wanting to be left alone and being stingy with your praise makes people crave your attention and approval.
My cat is that way too. Ha ha! Me: get off me cat Cat: now I MUST have all of your attention
It's more than just liking to know about you. It's *a vital need.* If you don't feed an INTP person information, you make them *sad* or *interested in anything else* that can satisfying their curiosity.
Lol, As an INTP myself I find it very funny to see how others deal with the quirks of the warmest robots. Lol.
I'm an INTP, my crush story is still on till this moment. but yeah here it is:
I liked a girl - one of my bestfriends in collage - that she is smart, gentle, white-heart, never drama queen and she is good annalistic one (I think she is ESTJ or ENTJ)
and my story began ones I knew that she is the one that my heart beat when I see.. my reaction to this fact was not good at all, the last thing I want is thinking using my heart, and since I'm still young with no certification yet neither money and my culture is kinda rough about that I kept my crushness in the shadows..
I went crazy analyzing why her? nothing was clear and for me - because of my culture - I needed to shut my mouth up and keep going in my life, AND I'm still driving myself crazy "why would I let someone control my mood? why do I love her? why.. why.. why..".
SIX MONTHS trying my best to not show her what I really feel !
after this period I could calm myself and focus on my life again and ignore my heart since I finally learned the pattern of how my heart feelings works..
but that's not the end LOL.. That one late night with those vibes smoking on the balcony, I let that crush feel shine again, and the next day I couldn't handle myself, so it was the time to do something real in the physical world!
I picked the best moment to talk to her in private, we talked a lot with one main subject in my head "I want her to hate me" (Guys im not psycho, my circumstances is making me to do this ).. sooo I told her as much as I can of stories of mine that could let her hate me yet breaking our friendship so I can catch the fact in my head "you will not get her anymore so shut up".. the surprise was when she respected that i'm telling her... *GOD DAMN I REALLY LIKE HER!!!*... but it was that moment that I told her.. " Eey, You remember last summer? I was acting weird sometimes.. you know why right? *small laugh* "
she said: "I KNEW IT!!! *Both Laughing* "
I said while laughing: " WELL NOT ANYMORE :"D "
she said while still laughing: "You better be you dump :"D "
And that's how I dealt with my crush.. we are still good friend nothing changed, actually maybe we got closer but what I'm sure about is that for her I'm the last guy she would think about a relationship with.
And I'm still thinking about her. :( but at least I can shut myself with facts these days "she don't want you".
And what I like here is now I know how my heart works :D
even if you say I'm stupid... In my own circumstances, I did the right thing.
It doesnt matter if u are intp or anyother type you should always persue what u love if u know its right ..i'm an entj woman and if i know hes the one im going after him ..no matter how complicated or weird any relation can get making someone hate u is not that smart at least when u wanna get rejected ..you would want them to reject u bc of who u are and not because of some pseudo-image !
as an INTP, this is very accurate. When you say "obsessed" that's quite creepy but also creepy how true this is. I have gone out the way to approach and talk to my crush, i will have a crush on one person for years. "and don't take them for granted" Is also a very true statement, Once we got ignored by the person we're interested in , we would start to wonder why we approach you first. We can cut you out of our lives so fast that even usain bolt is slower, but we would still think about you or maybe feelings too!
INTP squad checking in. I've got quite a few ESTP friends.
Idk why they don't get together more often. Great video!
Yeah... the last girl I had a crush on told me I was exhausting to be around because I asked so many questions and wanted her to explain why she did certain things. The obsession thing is pretty spot on too
As for a "crush story," it's essentially what you've described.
It boils down to something akin to an obsession, and a neverending desire to "mentally mate."
This is very impressive. I'd never seen that "obsessive" aspect brought out in reference to an INTP and his/her love interests, but it's practically altogether consuming.
It's something one has to work at, to arrive at some sort of a balance.
I'm an INFJ and have a crush on my best friend who's an INTP, and I can never tell if he likes me as a friend or as something more... nonetheless he's an amazing person and I'm so grateful that he's in my life. you INTPs are truly something special, I love you guys :)
Yes! I can agree with most of what you said. Especially about the information sharing part. I recently had a conversation with my potential partner that I need information, otherwise the relationship is non-existent. And I learn them all like a book. Thanks for the video!
INTP’s along with other rationals are often seen as cold distant and unfeeling but it is my belief that, (as an INTP myself) we feel just as much as our idealist counterparts e.g. _NF_. We process things at the same deep level it’s just that our emotional energy level is so low that this is reserved for those who we truly like.
Basically being around people that we don’t particularly enjoy (most people) takes a lot out of us and so we are eternally in low power mode and emotions are what saps that power the most, so we turn it off so we can survive.
When around people we genuinely like, I have seen rationals be able to be misconstrued as artisans, because we are genuinely so happy to be around someone that doesn’t exhaust us.
A message to other INTPs including my younger self: the biggest mistake you can make is failing to acknowledge the value of testing the systems you designed against the real world.
Some INTP commenters here expressed that they fall in love with their conception of a crush but only had a small amount of real interaction with them. In this context, testing your system means allowing your crush to reveal their true selves to you directly, and delaying the conclusion about your potential relationship until you have more direct empirical data.
This will not be a pleasant experience at first, like the feeling of scrubbing until your skin is raw. You must develop this tool and use it on your most valuable systems to unlock your potential, but do so with care to avoid hurting yourself.
Godspeed and good luck my friends.
Great comment. It’s so very easy to get sucked into the loop of thinking and make that person into a better and more rich person than can ever be. Make sure to delay time to get to know all that you can before you commit!
All my crush stories have ended in distaster. Or rather, never progressed to anything beyond a crush. It turns out that all the time it takes to acquire sufficient data is also the same time it takes for a girl to lose interest in me. And most of the time I have no clue they are interested.
I'm somewhat glad that my personality type is fetishized... Gives me more hope in finding someone
I am currently in love with someone and you just perfectly describe how I feel about this person, but I don't have the guts to pursue someone and if I did I don't have the guts to share my inner thoughts. So, I'll just be stuck in my own shell. Forever.
Wow. Hearing things about me, which are actually about your guy, is enlightening. We are NOT balanced and need someone to provide the things we lack and vice versa. From my experience being an INTP the thing to watch out for in a relationship with one is when we are hurt we shutdown and become apathetic to those that hurt us and we won't just get over it. Left unchecked that will tear the relationship apart. We take words to heart so never say anything you can't take back.
Also INTPS when they love someone will feel it to the bottom of their soul and will literally die or kill for that person without hesitation because of the implicit trust between these two. That’s in my opinion is another reason why we are so closed off, because people who aren’t good for us can genuinely take control of us in ways we didn’t know were possible.
Watching your videos is a relief. I have always been told to be weird, straightforward, private, and exclusive. I really thought there was something wrong about me until I found videos like yours.
When you said that INTPs start studying their crushes like they study info is something i can relate to because a couple months ago (before i knew about MBTI) I started INTERROGATING my crush, I HAD A WHOLE PAGE FULL OF INFO ON THEM. Favorite color, hobby, what they can or can’t do, other friends of theirs, etc. 👀 Now that i think about it, it sounds creepy.
oh, this makes me so happy!!! everyone says INTPs and ESTPs don't work, but I really like ESTPs. Thank you for the encouragement
Hi there from another INTP, I really feel that (and yes, an INTP who talks with feeling😅🙄) emotional intelligence is a very needed skill for an INTP. Unlike XNTP, most xSTP have emotional intelligence skills and I admire that about them👍👍👍.
I‘m just gonna leave this messenge from the INFPs who might have a crush on you, to all the INTPs out there:
WHY CAN I RELATE TO YOU SO WELL, BUT AT THE SAME TIME YOU‘RE SO CONFUSING, BUT SOMEHOW THAT MAKES YOU SO INTERESTING AHHH....Man haha no seriously, please tell us more about your thought processes, I could literally listen to my crush talk about their interests, random facts, opinions on things, and their questions that they have in life, for hours. Seriously, most of the times we are really overwhelmed with...existence and at the same time we‘re terribly bored and disappointed with life, so when someone challenges our minds and helps us grow as a person, we really appreciate them and if possible never want to let them go again.
And if you like an INFP, the most important thing you gotta do is, make them feel safe. We get hurt really easily and feel everything too much. We don‘t need you to fully get our feelings, we just need you by our side, to show us that the world can be nice as well.
I'm actually an INFP with no INTP crush, but I watched this video out of sheer curiosity. (Also, I just in general love introverted NT's. When I meet an INTP or an INTJ, I just find myself drawn to them) (yeah, like a magnet :)
INFP here😹
How to tell if an INTP likes you.
Basically we will start talking to you. We refuse to talk to anyone else outside people we like, so that's the major hint.
Note: If we stop talking to you it's because we were waiting for reciprocation. If you wait too long we get in our own heads that the feelings of interest were not mutual. This is probably a more mature INTP way of thinking. Younger INTP's probably won't get the hint.
I am an intp woman and this is completely correct.
Also, for me, if I like you, you'll know it because I will tell you. Very openly, as soon as I realize it and I'm sure of it.
No games played.
After watching this, I could only wish to be pursued by an INTP. -sincerely, some random INFJ
They say that INFJ and INTP make the golden pair
@@hibiscus902 That's...kind of depressing in my case, the way my life is. But I guess no one knows what the future holds.
@@hibiscus902 LOL... i am dating an INTP now as an INFJ, maybe i should make a video... i mean, there's definitely a magnetism, but we work very differently.
As an INTP, I often know the people around me super well. I analyze things like common reactions, speech patterns, and emotional reactions to everything. This process is often a lot quicker than most people would think, and others are often surprised at how well I know them in such a short time.
As an INTP, I I've already become obsessed with you, created my internal universe/idea of you, and then come up with reasons as to why it won't work... or will.
I am INTP, I found the guy that I liked, studied him and pursued him straight away, unfortunately, I was turned down. Haha
You're an Intp,you'll find someone better for sure.
And of course you must have forgotten him,so pardon ...
As an INTP, I'll say that you are 100% spot on, and are awesome. I love that you are willing and good with being "posessed" (consumed?) by your INTP and recognize that is a place of honor and not some kind of domination. If you're at that place, the INTP has let you inside their walls and trust you complicitly.
As an INTP I keep my crushes very secret I don't tell anyone, but you're right we do really study the person we are obsessed with, we naturally do things like remembering middle names or birthdays or their favorite color, random things they've mentioned before about their past ect. however when you've studied someone like that enough and you know you can't be in a relationship with them it sucks. INTP's think constantly, so when we find out we can't be with them we have to train ourselves to stop our own brains from reminding ourselves of them. It's obvious this has happened to me. I love to dream and I dream a lot sometimes, I would dream about this person I was obsessed with as if they were my best friend, or I would have a brief encounter with them, like they were a receptionist or something. A fact I still can't forget about the person I had a crush on, was that they never remembered their dreams, which personally I think would suck, but I guess they don't really know the difference, anyways, that was my experience as an INTP with a crush.
The last point I disagree on, even though you may have experienced being wanted to change the way you do things like argue or eat, I think that is specific to him and not generally INTP
Edit: damn this had a lot of mistakes in it, I hardly knew what I was trying to say half of the time.
We really don't do loud arguments or loud disagreements!
Countinue loud or fail to understand how right we are and we walk never to return.
The way you described that made me realize why I'm single, INTPs are controlling af and no one in their right mind wants to be treated like that.
She looks so touched by her INTP's deeds that she could burst into tears any time.
As an INTP who's suffering a recent break-up, this is exactly what I needed to hear! I was emotionally distraught over the break-up for a long while, to the point even my best friend thought I was acting strangely. Even more recently, I re-developed a crush on someone I met before my ex, and started engaging in this behavior towards him. I knew that I was obsessing over this person and I thought it was strange myself how quickly I wanted to befriend him. I would have thought that actively seeking someone would be endearing, but in my experience, it seems more off-putting, and those around me would rather I stay in my quiet place and engage less frequently with them. Perhaps I'm surrounding myself with people inherently opposed to my personality, but I can't seem to find where I fit best...
As an intp, I’m currently obsessed with somebody...
I can’t do anything about it but with the amount of thinking it through I’ve done to reach certainty about their value as a possible companion I can’t bare it.
I can tell it’d be as close to perfect as is humanly reasonable
Then do it! Stop waiting!
This coming from a fellow INTP
@@ThomasRussell-xo1gl I did it. We had a three year relationship and it ended. Good experience
“I’m going to consume you like I consume information.” I’m so using this now 😂
Omg I love the new intro background!!!!!!
Agreed!
Yeah, it's great!
Nathan probably likes iOS, more specifically some of the live wallpapers 😁
Do you want more INTP husbands concurrently?
I have a Welsh middle name. 😀
I'm an ENFJ and my husband is an INTP, and all that you says is true... he studied me for months, we are so lucky to find us each other 😍😍😍💕💕💕
I'm an INTP married to another INTP. Neither of us had dated at all before we met. We were friends, and gradually got to know each other for 2+ years before we started dating. Over the course of those 2+ years, we found we were spending more and more time talking with each other. We had excellent conversational chemistry. Once we started dating, we knew pretty quickly that we had found our person. We dated for almost 2 years before we became "officially" engaged, but that was because we'd decided ahead of time when we wanted to get married, and we calculated how long ahead of that date we wanted to let the rest of the world know that it was going to happen.
How old were you when you got married?
@@MaryamPirzada I was 28.
The healthy eating habits and the arguing, is exactly what I do as an intp, crazy.
I become cold towards my crush 😂.
Loved how it progressed from "INTPs" to "my INTP" and finally "Carl". You started a semi-scripted video, and ended up just getting invested in it and giving your own insight. Also you seemed touched by it (the whole "I'm not allowed to be unkind"), which was kind of emotional (whether it was because directly this or the retrospective of you growing up in a certain environment). This is a very true point btw, I've always had very firm beliefs in terms of moral values and developed sort of 'rules' around it, and people we care about have to somehow also respect it, as when people don't they just lose our esteem to the point where we don't even see them anymore, they just are not worth our interest and as such we (instictively, it's not a calculated thing) just won't consider them anymore. You understand your SO very well, I'm sure you guys are an healthy couple and God knows (actually I guess he doesn't, we're on an INTP video after all, what kind of concept is even God?) how important it is to the development of a mature INTP. Wish you guys the best!
@@lovewho This was a literal question, not sarcasm. Implying as INTP we are lead to question everything, God included, and even something as little as a way of saying such a "God knows" can launch us in a spiral of thoughts "but does he? so that would mean he is omniscient, but that raises this issue and this question, and also...". I guess that would be the reason INTP are statistically the least religious of any MBTI type.
The closest I’ve gone to having a crush on someone is when this guy in my class gave this speech and I was like, “woah! He’s really smart and funny!” And then he gave a presentation on this experiment and I was like “Welp, he’s the smartest person in the class.” Then, I started thinking about him more, then I just did nothing and continued being a hermit :) I’m only thirteen though. I only find people attractive when they’re really intelligent and charismatic lol
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I'm an ESTP woman, I love INTPs so much, they're so precious and I can spot one in a room instantly. I have an INTP friend and I absolutely adore him and always show him appreciation for everything BC I realise he's grown up w/o that, and omw the way he lights up/becomes more confident with himself is my favourite thing ever. He basically never compliments me/thanks me in the same way I do but he doesn't need to bc he treats me with respect and care and I think that's his way of expressing appreciation.
I think INTPs are severely under-appreciated/noticed for their efforts, BC their efforts are usually in the little things and often not verbal. Thankfully as an ESTP I have Se hero and notice everything (well, most things xD) and I'm sure he appreciates this in his own way(':