PTSD, C-PTSD and BPD - Posttraumatic Stress Disorder, Complex Posttraumatic Stress Disorder, & BPD
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- Опубликовано: 30 дек 2021
- Posttraumatic Stress Disorder, Complex Posttraumatic Stress Disorder, & BPD
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In this video we discuss the overlap and confusion related to PTSD, C-PTSD, and BPD. These three disorders cause so many individuals, professionals and non-professionals, to be uncertain as to what is driving their symptoms and what is adversely impacting their lives. Learn the cause to influence the outcome.
In order to change the issues that keep you stuck, you have to know what they are first.
Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 15 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.
He has published several articles in these areas and is the author of:
Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:
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Antisocial, Narcissistic, and Borderline Personality Disorders: A New Conceptualization of Development, Reinforcement, Expression, and Treatment. Available at: tinyurl.com/2anv8dww
The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook: An Integrative Program to Understand and Manage Your BPD. Available at: goo.gl/LQEgy1
Antisocial, Borderline, Narcissistic and Histrionic Workbook: Treatment Strategies for Cluster B Personality Disorders (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Gold Award Winner): goo.gl/BLRkFy
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Dr. Fox has given numerous workshops and seminars on ethics and personality disorders, personality disorders and crime, treatment solutions for treating clients along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum, emotional intelligence, managing mental health within the prison system, and others. Dr. Fox maintains a website of various treatment interventions focused on working with and attenuating the symptomatology related to individuals along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum (www.drdfox.com).
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🤔 How many with BPD also suffer with complex PTSD? That must be like living in literal hell.
It’s very difficult and that’s a big reason why accurate diagnosis is so important.
I can say from experience that it’s a challenging life for damn sure. It’s really great for everyone that new and better information is being presented which over time will hopefully change the conversation and ultimately more support and understanding will be available.
Yup for everyone involved
Dread DOOM nightmares
That's how I described it to my bestfriend today. Like living in hell. 😢
I have complex ptsd, borderline personality disorder, major depressive, OCPD, Anxiety.
When I was in high school I was dealing with the incarceration of my abusive father and through truancy court, was referred to a therapist. The therapist told me she believed I has PTSD. I thought that was a weird call. I didn't relate to any of the symptoms, none of the support groups were ever for people who experienced prolonged abuse, usually PTSD groups were advertised as being for veterans.
Back then, I thought my dad had bipolar disorder- later he was in therapy while incarcerated where he was told he had PTSD from his dad's abuse.
In adult life, I went back to therapy for major depressive disorder. I was told by this therapist she believed I had bipolar disorder or had BPD. I started to research both and while BPD seemed much more plausible than bipolar disorder, I found C-PTSD in a small section reading about BPD titled "commonly misdiagnosed as".
I have never felt like I did in that moment. I cried from feeling like I understood myself. I felt like for the first time in my life everything made sense.
That was a very profound moment for me.
As someone with PTSD, C-PTSD and BPD, this video was great! I identified with so much of it! I also really appreciate the differentiations between the 3. This video is helpful for both people diagnosed and family and friends of those people who want to better understand the root of these conditions and how they individually operate and interact with one another.
I’m so glad you found it helpful. Be well.
Sometimes I feel like a prisoner of my harmful behaviour, thoughts, action and depressive past in general but the difference is I don’t jump into it like an idiot. Sometimes I am able to stop and think before I do sth stupid but I am still learning it. The worst part of bpd is doing stuff I regret and later doing it again and again, is there anybody who has the same?????
@@edytaraczek27 definitely
I have borderline personality disorder complex ptsd and anxiety too. I'm surprised I'm still alive
I have complex PTSD and not one therapist told me I was being abused or in a dangerous relationship would mess me up and my kids and my family protected the abuser too! I do my own healing and research now becsuse the system is broken and wrong! It’s sad but I have come to the conclusion that the system wants money and not health wether we are speaking of mental or physical medicine! It’s to keep us sick not fixing!
I’m sorry to hear you’ve had such negative experiences. I wish you well.
I went through about 5 different therapists and each one gave me a different diagnosis. One said I was Borderline, one said I had schizophrenia, one told me I was manic depressive, one told me I was severely depressed and had anxiety, another one even told me I had multiple personalities disorder which is currently called Dissociative Identity Disorder. Each one wanted to put me on a different pill(s) that would help me with whatever they labeled me of having. After each label I was given I would go to the library (no computers back then so I had to do it the old fashioned way) and research the hell out of out of that label but non of them (the labels) seemed to really describe what it was I was going through. I would go back to my therapist(s) and tell them that what I was going through did not match up with the symptoms I was having. And all of them did agree on two things, 1) I was severely depressed and didn't want to admit to myself of what I was dealing with 2) The fact that I am denying the diagnosis means that I do have it because what we deny the most is what we need the most to work on 3) "You have to trust "me" because I have had over 20 years of experience......blah blah blah" With the therapist who said I had depression I did take an anti-depression pill which made me really depressed to the point that I wanted to kill myself after just a week of having been put on it. So I stopped because I knew that if I took one more pill I would not want to live anymore. I told my therapist and she advised me that I need to keep taking them which I refused. Which brings me up to another point that all therapists agreed on, 4) If I don't take medication I will have no hope of healing and/or "If you don't take medication then there's no sense in me treating you as you cannot heal, or at least manage your symptoms, without meds." Still I would not take meds especially after my experience of taking antidepressants.
I knew something was going on, like feeling stressed in situations that weren't stressful, the nightmares, the strong feelings I was feeling that seemed out of place and inappropriate in a certain situations like being angry when I was in a relationship when I should have been happy and other symptoms. I knew if I could just find the right therapist that wasn't a pill pusher then I could heal. FINALLY!! Finally , the 6th therapist I went to diagnosed me with Complex Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome. And BINGO!! The heavens opened up and the birds were singing. This was when I began to heal. She did recommend me taking some pills but I refused but she still treated me anyway. By the way, I told her what the other 5 therapists labeled me and she said that there was no way those labels were true in my case. In fact she was shocked when I told her especially the split personality one. You see, I wasn't having split personality I was remembering bits and pieces of my past but I wasn't getting the whole memory and the therapist said that I was remembering another personality. So crazy!!
Anyway, great information in this video and spot on too!! Dr. Fox, the information in your videos is not just for people struggling with the issues you describe in any of your videos, it's also great information for any therapist because some of them just don't know and there is so much mis-diagnosis that people are blindly believing whatever therapists tell them because the therapist knows more then the client because the therapist has "20 years experience.....blah blah blah"
I would love for you to do a video on how symptoms are misdiagnosed. How does a person know if they are getting the right diagnosis when they first start going to a therapist and before they slam you with medication?
With that all said, great job on the video!! Thank you!!!!
Thank you for sharing this! Glad you met the 6th one.
Hi, I was wondering because I have been through somewhat of the same thing however, I had stopped seeing a regular therapist and started seeing my psychiatrist for therapy.. that was my first mistake. Never put your life into someone else’s hands unless you totally trust them, and I didn’t! After a year of therapy with him he labeled me Bipolar, much to my surprised and wanted to put me on different medication, I said I would try it for three months. That didn’t have the desired effect he or I wanted. After two more sets of meds, I started looking for a psychologist. Once I found one I clicked with my new psychologist, I titrated down on the bipolar meds and just stayed on my anxiety and depression meds at the time. I have been with my psychologist ever since, and on occasion see my psychiatrist. As you said, blah, blah, blah. I wholehearted agree! You go girl, I only wish the best for you!😊❤️
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I pretty much went through the same thing from the age 12-43. Finally stopped all medication & therapy 3 years ago. Gotta get back into therapy, but I also won't get back on medication. I've used marijuana most my adult life. It's the only thing that helps many Borderline.
A fantastic comment!
“Broken, dirty and incomplete. . .” Yep. Oh, Dr. Fox - what a blessing you are for us. The only real help and comfort I’ve had for years has come from you. Maximum love and gratitude always. ❤️🙏🏻
Thanks 😊
@@DrDanielFox "Thanks". Really? That's it?
Broken, check 😭
This video is an eye opener. The one trauma that I was reminded of still haunts me to this day. When in a car with my dad at the wheel, he always threatened to kill me. He thought it was funny, but I was scared to death so to speak. To this day, it's hard for me to be in a car with anyone. I fear something will happen to me. When I drive myself, this isn't so bad because I feel in control. So what I do is tell the people who are driving, my fears of being in a car. Some understand, some don't, and others think I'm crazy. But this is me and how I take care of myself not to be triggered.
Thank you Dr. Fox for such great insight.
EFT could help neutralize that. See gold standard EFT.
I had an ex dead love,that would scare me RANDOMLY at night while no headlights whew!! So I'm about to start driving again 3yrs I'm scared sheitless, 😱 night driving um ??wish me luck I wish you all the best
@@jospeaches8533 jo, I do wish you the best while moving forward with courage in overcoming your trauma. Baby steps at first. You can do it.
@@ramonaklassen9280 my Many. 😊 😊 🫂
I'm sorry you went thru that. I understand what that kind of trauma does to you...for life...Bless your heart
Thank you so much, my psychiatrist doesn't take my PTSD seriously and it's really severe... happy new year, Dr. Fox!
🙏Hoping that your therapist will begin addressing your PTSD.
Find another psychiatrist who does take it seriously
I don’t give people life advice, but a psychiatrist who doesn’t take their patient’s trauma seriously, can be deadly. Hoping you find the ear you need to inspire you to keep going. This is hard work, and we’re not meant to do it alone.
@@TheMzDowell Indeed, thank you so much!
I was miss diagnostic w BDP. I’m a burn survivor. I survived a propane explosion. Finally my doctor diagnostic me w c ptsd. Thank you so much for your video
How did they misdiagnosed that!? I’m so sorry!!!
I have C-ptsd, OCD and severe autoimmune chronic illness . I'm an intellectual who is now dependent on a carer because I'm so physically and emotionally suffering. My undeserving beliefs come in the form of mystical thinking and karma. As a kind person I can't wrap my head around the intense suffering so it was easy for me to buy New Age guilt trips about past life karma or victim blame. I've healed a lot, but being physically disabled hampers my ability to do happy and constructive things to impact mood. I love exercise but often I'm so ill I need a shower seat to bathe...so I don't get to do what I want. It's not empowering.
I have C-PTSD and autoimmune diseases. The autoimmune has destroyed other parts of my health. Dealing with my kids traumas too from a very messed up relationship that is beyond the understanding of regular abuse. It was narcassici but covert. It is hard to feel empowered when so sick! I get it!!! Hang in there and focus on your healing as that is the empowering part! Your freedom from the traumas you went thru is your win!!!!
I have felt like…why did my brother die? Why not me? Things in life don’t make sense sometimes. I’m surprised I haven’t died of that broken heart stuff! It’s hard to understand but honestly the after life is where it’s at! It is not here! This place is hell and heaven is why we fight to be good people in a world that can turn you cold.
I was in the same spot six or seven years ago. Focus on love and the depths it reaches, even in you, and especially you, because that is healing you. And do not believe the ones who do not believe you. You know the truth and you do have the power to separate the lies from it. Wishing you the very best with love. ❤
😞 I just want to feel normal and be able to trust what I’m feeling and know who I am… thanks for the video, Dr Fox
Thank you Dr. Fox, this was very helpful to me. I have all 9 BPD traits, schizoaffective disorder with MDD and PTSD. I am definitely going to buy your book and just want to tell you that since I started watching your videos, I have learned so much about BPD and myself. Thank you so very much.
You’re welcome and thank you very much.
Blessing brave one.
This is very helpful, I have official dignosis of Complex PTSD with high borderline traits. It's still very confussing to me but this video definitely makes things a little more clear. Thank you 👍PS OMG, "If we don't know what we are dealing with, how can we know how to deal with it?" was my mantra to push for a diagnosis! It shocked me hear you say that!
Great minds… be well
ivyou have abandonment wounds from a toxic family it might just be cptsd without bpd. therapists conflate abandonment trauma with bpd but it's just not the same thing
Anxious attachment, cptsd, bpd cuz I was raised by two narcissists & ptsd from a traumatic brain injury at 15. Was asleep in passenger seat. Raised my head up in time to see the trees we hit at 60mph. Out cold for hours. For the next month I couldn’t hold a thought or a conversation longer than a few minutes. Damaged synapsis go off like solar flares when they finally get back online, it’s wild. My brain would suddenly regain access to a random chunk of time I’d forgotten about. They came back out of order, too. Took a while to straighten it out, but I did it. Every time I’ve been startled awake since I remembered seeing the tree coming, my brain thinks there’s a tree coming. I react before I wake up. I’ve attacked people. Sprained my back. I woke up one time & I was standing on the bed swinging my lamp at my idiot husband for bursting in there. I mean, dealing with all the bpd fallout & insecure abandonment crap is a walk in the park compared to this extreme panic attack rage thing I do in my sleep is the worst. It’s rather bad for everyone else, too. This vid is marvelous, Ty
I have CPTSD and BPD. The workbook was so helpful. I want to order the new version. Wow! I didn’t realize that I have complex BPD. I’ve been having nightmares almost nightly. I also decided to journal about my multiple traumas over my life. A few years back I did EMDR for 8 months. It was intense but I did it right after my husband died. The therapist decided to stop because it was too much. Now I really do well with your workbooks. Thank you so much.
I’m so glad that you find my material helpful and I wish you all the best.
With your help along with talking to my therapist about this is moving me forward to my better self. Thank you again.
My complexities are compounded with a brain injury when six years old. From A plus to a D minus student overnight. Turning 69 years old next month. Just now starting to figure out some things.
I think the important thing is that you are figuring things out and making changes which I think is valuable at any time in our life. I wish you all the best one want to encourage you to stay on this path.
literally sitting here crying after a rage episode. helped me learn more. Im really thankful for your videos. All of us are
I feel you, and honor your courage. Readers Digest once said, Humans are made of a miracle fiber called courage.
Did you see the one about hormones playing a roll ??? The one about Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS)! It is very interesting! I have had PCOS, crazy!
I feel like I fit every category. My pyschiatrist doesn't think I have PTSD or cptsd, but my therapist does. They agree I have bpd plus depression and anxiety. I struggle with "getting better " I feel like my mind and body is resisting change. I still experience trauma daily. I have a narcissist mom. I want to get better and be able to live again. But nothing seems to work.
Sounds to me like your are living in a narcissist hell. No contact with the mom when you can and good luck! They will keep you in trauma until you die if your let them.
I appreciate you and all of your videos. I do wish that more therapists would watch your videos for insight. I’m lucky that I have a therapist who specializes in BPD but all of the therapists before her (even those specializing in personality disorders) need to learn so much more about BPD and it’s causes as a whole. Thank you so much for everything. Happy New Years!
As always incredible video!
This video is a blessing but living with BPD and CPTSD is a curse. I am trying my best to navigate and heal from a lifelong struggle and recent realization that these disorders are the reason I am now at 58 years old self aware and committed to healing but I am so very exhausted… I don’t know how much longer I can continue with hope that I will ever heal I have very little support from others. This is very difficult to navigate alone thank you for this channel and four I hope particular like literally in the very moment I am watching this when I can barely lift my head up and face the day from fear of triggers facing them it’s just too much sometimes particularly without consistent professional help and love and support of others. The best way I can explain my exhaustion from it is like treading water in a tsunami or constantly swimming upstream at some point you wonder how much longer can you keep your head above water.
Dr. Fox, would you consider making a video about preemptive abandonment?
I'm so happy you're talking about all of this
Thank you, very helpful as always
Thank you Dr. Fox.
Wishing you a wonderful, happy new year, Dr. 🦊! Thank you for all you do.💕🎊🎉
thank you for this video
Thank you for this important conversation and explanation.
Happy New Year Dr. Fox, thank you for posting this video 🤗
Thank You so much for this work.
Thanks Doctor fox!
Happy new year Dr Fox. I feel grateful to be given the opportunity to learn more about CPTSD. 🙏
Thank you so much Dr, every time I hear you, you hit a nail!!💗💗💗 God bless you!
Good Content!
Thanks for the video. It's quite helpful the way you simplify & explain things. Thanks
Your videos have been so helpful, and this one covered things I've been trying to work out myself for months! Thank you, and happy New Year!
Good sound and fantastic content!! Thank you
Thanks 😊
Thank you very much for your work😊
Thanks Dr. Fox
Can't wait to read your book, Dr. I just ordered it. Greetings from Norway.
I already ordered your book. came in last night been reading it. it's super interesting
Thank you for your gift. Grateful to hear this for the first day of 2022. God bless you and Happy New Year
A little more insight into myself to start the new year. Never a bad thing. Thank you again, so much! ❤️
Great explainations and to know about complex PTSD and Adaptive strategies
I ordered your BPD workbook!! It arrived this morning. Thank you for providing things like this to help us. I would be so lost without your videos and resources!
Thank you for your video's they help me understand a little more about myself and my diagnosis of BPD. Since my diagnosis I have had no support and these videos really help. 🙏🏻
This was very helpful and i plan on bringing this up in my session of CPTST
Good explanation 👍👍
I am blanking out and dissociating while watching your video!
Thank you very much for the work you put in this channel, it helped me very much to understand my condition and accept and find answer for fundamental questions and I think I could not have done it alone. Much appreciate!
I appreciate these videos so much as my eyes are being opened really for the first time about not only my C-PTSD but also my 19 year old daughter having C-BPD and how we relate to one another.
Oh this is so useful and I love it that it's actually longer than the other videos. I'd love to listen to podcasts by you on Spotify!!
Thanks 😊
Thank you Dr.Fox for starting 2022 off with a bang! A new video and a new book. Your video explains my experiences with Bipolar 1 and C-BPD to a tee! Again, I can't tell you enough what a difference you and your video's have made in my life. I only wish I could have you as my therapist.
Purchased your workbook. I’ve found your videos very helpful and I’ve learnt a lot about myself and what triggers I have. More than I’ve ever really learnt from any therapist in the UK. Thank you so much
Always wonderfully made for everyone to understand and take in. Thanks again, Doc. You help me more than anyone else.
I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.
Daniel would you please consider getting a better microphone? Thank you as always for everything.
I seriously need this book and I wanted to say thank you for all the materials as there are no therapy centers or counseling programs in my area.
The videos help reset.
Thanks Doc.
You’re welcome.
Awesome Thankyou for the knowledge 🙏
You’re welcome ☺️
Eternally grateful for your ability to convey such complex thoughts and emotions in a way that many can understand. I have c-ptsd, bpd and MDD along with symptoms from other illnesses. I believe I’m fairly insightful, but your videos really challenge me to look deeper at what’s causing the pain that still keeps me awake at night… decades of therapy/medication later. Thank you Dr. Fox
RESEARCH BASED PSYCHOLOGY!! Thank you, Doctor.
How in the world did I miss this one?? This is exactly the video I’ve been wishing you would do, and you had already made it. I promise I will pay better attention in the future Dr. Fox. 😁 Now, back to the video!
This video was very enlightening. I have C-PTSD, rapis cycling bipolar 1 and 2, BPD, severe anxiety and depression. I also suffer from a lot of serious physical disabilities too. It is very difficult to get motivated. I can't remember much of my past but I can remember feelings. It's like being afraid of the dark all day. I appreciate the way you explained these diagnosis. It has helped me understand myself so much better. Thank you
Understanding yourself is a step in the right direction, unfortunately it can mess you up even more, because it brings out the deeper thoughts, memories and feelings from our subconscious, but eventually it will set you free. It’s a long road with a difficult terrain, but worth it.
I really appreciate your work and your thorough explanations. I look forward to reading your book, and having it to refer back to in my recovery and therapy. So many therapists just don't understand why my PTSD and BPD are seemingly impossible to control for me. I do t have words to explain it to them, but you just gave me the ice breaker for my next session on Wednesday! You might have just saved my life and possibly opened up the road to success for me. I know you can open it, but I have to walk it!
This is well Said Sir.
Also Your Melodic speech Feels Calming to my System, and your Adorable Expressions makes my Heart Smile.
I Feel Safe *Gratitude
Awesome channel I've learned a lot. So thanks for that! I'm not fully any of those but definitely do have a pinch of a few.
Glad you like them!
Thank you so much for your videos. It is truly hard to hear about the stigma of BPD as much as I do, almost especially with a lot of mental health professionals. Thank you.
You’re very welcome!
Thank you!!!! ❤️🙏. This is so informative! I have complex PTSD and have heard it is misdiagnosed
Excellent.
I developed PTSD whilst serving in the US Military. Now that I'm older, I live in my own little world. I just stopped communicating with the larger society in general. Although I do well talking with people on the telephone, I have severe Agoraphobia . I am extremely close to my husband & my children, but that is it. Although I have a huge amount of sympathy & compassion for all other people. I am extremely dependent on my husband. If I lost him, I'd me completely lost.
Thank you so much
I've recently been diagnosed by BPD w/ PTSD & Depression.
I can certainly be scary, but remember that you can get a handle on these disorders, and still achieve your goals. Never lose hope! I wish you well.
Thank you so much for this video. I had never really heard of borderline personality disorder, but had been thinking that we were dealing directly with PTSD with my now 15 1/2 year old daughter for years. Now I feel like it’s quite clear that BPD is actually more likely.❤
My daughter is struggling with BPD and we’ve been benefiting from your videos since we first discovered them on RUclips, thank you for all the valuable information you provide. My daughter recently completed a DBT course but she is still haunted by past trauma. We are currently seeking treatment for CPTSD in order to address this. Recently she is obsessed with an ex-boyfriend , a thug really, who promises to completely destroy her life with drugs and violence. Is this attachment to one’s abusers and past trauma typical?
Certainly hard to discern from just this information, I would encourage you to process it with a mental health provider. Take care.
I thank the Lord to put your video on my way today. Could have not be more needed then right now.
Thank you for your work.
From Canada.
I'm so glad my video came at the perfect time for you! Thank you for your kind words and support.
It’s nice to listem to you. You are translating me, what I feel everyday. I feel a bit stronger as the time is running and I am getting older Please don’t lose hope, better days are waiting for you!
Love 🥰
Thanks 😊
As someone who has adhd depression anxiety ptsd cptsd bpd, thank you for these videos, becoming aware feels alot like escaping hell only to find yourself in purgatory
Im a strong believer of treating symptoms vs focusing on my diagnosis. Officially I’m diagnosed with C-ptsd, ADHD and PME/PMDD after 2decades of misdiagnosis and doctors being focused on the title and category (which can be extremely important for the type of medication and type of therapy people should receive) if you are self aware enough and have become stable with medication and therapy you find work (even if it’s prescribed off label for another disorder) there can be major overlap of symptoms that also mimic many other disorders such as BPD, GAD, Cyclothymia etc. And I find it really helpful to research treatment options for those as well such as some of your videos because I recognize which symptoms have similar treatments and can be approached with similar coping mechanisms. I think letting go of the labels except when needed for my medical history has been incredibly helpful and eye opening
Happy New Year from the Netherlands >< Dr. Fox
2022 and the video is 22:02 long, That's something isn't it.
I don't feel entirely elated yet, The last two years have been confusing and exhausting and new years always seems to be such an emotional ordeal with family especially. But that's the thing, I want to learn how I can give a few fucks less and bounce back quicker. Thank you for the guidance you offered thus far !
Yes. All if these. My whole day seems centered around trying to keep my anxiety symptoms away. I’m slowly learning with my new therapist to let the symptoms come. It’s extremely hard but really the only thing I feel will work. I think what’s hard is still feeling the trauma in my body. I feel the past few years it really took a toll. I stopped running because it was too much for he with the anxiety but I recently started going for walks and it really helps. I think I’m so afraid of everything, even things that are supposed to make me feel better.. my therapist recommended EMDR but I’m scared to do it. Maybe it just means I’m not ready yet. My goal this year is to be more kind to myself and not feel like I’m doing everything wrong. Thank you Dr. Fox. Happy new year! 💚
Thanks for this video..it's really helpful..i am in therapy for both cptsd and bpd..it's really difficult.
Thank you x
Hi Dr Fox! Thanks for yet another great, informative video!
I'm suspecting my 17 year old daughter having CPTSD with some BPD traits. Unfortunately I live in a country where this disorder hasn't been researched much yet. She's been taken antidepressant and anti psychotic medicine for about 5 months. I've just found out now that CBT is not available. Have u got any advice for me or suggestions on where to research to at least be able myself to help her.
The visits at the psychiatrist and psychologist are not really addressing her troubles. Esp concerning her bulimia and cutting.
I really appreciated that you mentioned selfharm not only being a symptom of BPD even though not yet officially recognised. I've come across this issue on another disorder as well - ADHD in women and girls with tendency to selfharm by Dr Stephen Hinshaw, UC Berkeley.
I'd really deeply appreciate if you or anyone reading my comment could give me some advice!
Wishing everyone healing and strength to move on to a better future :)
I’m 26 now, and I have bpd. As a teenager I also cut myself, had an eating disorder and presented as depressed. I lacked an identity, and dated a guy who was very abusive. Nobody cared or caught on to the signs. Or my extreme emotions either.
I would say the best thing you can do is validate your daughter. Remind her that her feelings matter, but don’t tolerate abuse. Make sure to keep healthy boundaries, and do not yell or get nasty as that will only trigger her. Another big one that I know would’ve helped me is to show her as much love as possible. Every single day in every way you can. Do not underestimate your power as a loving mother!
Learn more about bpd and cptsd, and ask her what she thinks of some of the symptoms. Ask if she relates to having intense feelings. Explore this with her and together look for ways to overcome it. I am in DBT therapy and it’s been life changing for bpd. And I’ve done talk therapy for 4 years. Both these things were VITAL for my sanity. If I could’ve started at 17 my life would be very different now. You are proactive and doing the right thing by your child, I hope any of these thing can be helpful to you both.
Warm regards,
-Angel. 🧡✨🧡
@@aubreygraham981 thank you for your kind reply!
I am trying what you are suggesting, even though she's very closed up with me. She sees me as one of the reason why she's in that state now so she doesn't accept help from me or her dad at the moment.
As I've written in my first post, there is no cbt here where I live but I keep up good hope that there will be change and progress.
Could you elaborate a bit more with setting healthy boundaries, as I've had trouble with this with all my three kids.
Note, I've done some research regarding childhood emotional neglect which was in my own time growing up. Just recently I discovered why I've got certain behaviors which are annoying me cos of CEN. One being enabling with my own kids.
Again really appreciate your kind reply. Sarah :)
I can’t tell you how much your videos mean to people like me that can’t afford psychologists. Thank you so so much for everything you do and the time you put into these informative videos ❤
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm really glad that my videos can be of help to you. Remember, you're not alone and there are always resources available to support you. take care!
Thank you 🙏
You’re welcome
I am out here by myself with my bpd & I'm the last alive from my dysfunctional family. Divorce & foster care. I've suffered my entire life. I'm 65 & I just take it day by day. I'm disabled now & it's so challenging to get tasks done. I'm highly anxious. I take many meds for my conditions. I just lashed out at 2 people & they dropped out of my life. So.... sometimes I wish that I could just go to sleep & not wake up. I have overstock of oxy but suicide is not the answer. My life is void. I feel as if I've accomplished nothing in my life. I was involved with narccissists my entire life. Yes, I had trauma in childhood. I was mother to my two siblings until the divorce & I'm the oldest of three. We went to different foster homes. My mother left town, without saying goodbye. I feel like I'm beyond help. It's 16 years I'm alone now & yes I'm broken. I will try to find your book. There was only one book available on bpd when I had therapy (6 weeks) many years back. I'm so isolated & alone. I'm really a kind hearted person who's been abused.
I emailed you about getting an assessment done. I haven’t heard from you in awhile but I’m interested in hiring you as soon as possible. Happy new year 💙
Yaaay new book!
Thanks
Thank you, and Happy New Year! I really like how you described each one. I have been a little confused as I have been diagnosed with PTSD and BPD. Actually, BPD first, and PTSD after my son’s death at eight month’s after open heart surgery. I do definitely see the difference. Thank you for all the good work you do for all of us! 😊.
So sorry for your loss.
@@Noname-hs5lx Thank you so much, that is very kind of you. I say that because people we knew were afraid to say that to us, so I appreciate it very much. ❤️
@@WhitePelicansareReal I can’t imagine losing my sons.’of course
Sorry for your loss
Sending you a hug. 🕯 ❤✌🏼🙏🏼
the heart surgery hence broken heart energy sorry for loss
I have PTSD from dealing with my partner's drug addiction to pain meds. Luckily he saw his issues and is working with his doctor to overcome the addiction. He is on controlled doses every day and these are being reduced regularly. The day to day dealings of when is he going to overdose or have a seizure because of toxic medication levels. Every day hyperalert and on edge, put me into a very stressed state, which brought up memories from childhood that I had processed and hadn't thought about in years. I couldn't deal with being around him or certain rooms in the house where he had had seizures. I also have dealt with an abusive childhood, involving sexual abuse and psychological/mental abuse from my mother. I fully understand the confabulation, I have very little memory of ages 6 - 8 years of age. And other vivid memories I am missing certain details. Thanks to much therapy over the last 20 +years I have come to a good place. I was orginally diagnosed with BPD which was later changed to CPTSD. One very important symptom I was missing was the splitting or hero or to zero.
This is the first time Ive heard explained the way I think and feel daily
Hello Dr. Fox. Your videos and advice have helped me greatly. Do you have any videos that might help with understanding how a lack of free time and availability in some relationships (romantic or otherwise) might affect a person with BPD, especially in a favorite person relationship?
I'm in Oklahoma and I so wish you were my therapist
I have been fighting to try and get help here but have had minimal to no luck as my referrals keep not coming in among other things?
Your videos are the most and best therapy I've gotten my entire life
Thank you so so much for doing what you do!!!!
You’re welcome and I wish you well.
So accurate explaining BPD. Ive been diagnosed with BPD, Depression, anxiety, agoraphobia and ADHD. I have all the symptoms of trauma and BPD but ive never figured out what the actual trauma was. Nothing really bad happened to me growing up. Ive always felt neglected at school from the age of 4 till i left at 16. The way the teachers used to make me sit outside the classroom by myself all the time, not having a clue about what i was meant to be doing, i put down to the lack of knowledge back them for ADHD. Idk if thats where my abandonment issues stemmed from as well as my self loathing. I used to self harm before i started using drugs, but when i got into needles, it wasnt the drug itself that always made me feel better but the needle itself and seeing the blood pour out. Since ive quit drugs in the last 8 months, the self harm has started again, so im assuming theres a relation between the two. I have some new counselling coming up, so hopefully can try to get to the bottom of it. Your video was very helpful tho.
Me too … i m lonely at 41 i blamed everything on me all this while but now its getting clear
I was diagnosed with bpd , but stumbling upon this has opened my eyes ! I tick every box for CPTSD ! I think I might have a both
Me two, was diagnosed with BPD the other week. Went in with ComplexPTSD and was also told ive got Covid PTSD. Still trying to come to terms but getting the support put in place now. ❤✌🏼🙏🏼
Dr. Fox, right around13:48 I started feeling impatient with myself because I wasn’t understanding right away, and I usually learn quickly. Then I started having self judgments, so thank you for reminding me to practice self compassion.
Do you know much about dissociative disorders such as DID/OSDD and if those disorders might be comorbid with the conditions in the video on which I am posting? Just curious from a clinical perspective. Thank you so much for this channel, it has helped me help myself so much.
Yes, often comorbid.
I have all the labels diagnosis of bdp, cptsd etc. Dr Fox help me to understand no matter what
I'm 61 n have BPD ,diagnosed 10 yrs ago n now I know y because of my childhood. WOW I WOULD LOVE TO B IN A ROOM FULL OF US LISTENING TO THIS MAN!...👏👏👏🙏 NICE WORK DOC!.💖✌ I'm going to look for a fella like u in my area, BOY I STILL NEED SOME EXPAINATIONS ON MYSELF!. N I've ended most contact with family members, IVE HAD ENOUGH N THE ONLY ONES IN MY LIFE I LOOK OUT FOR, is my beautiful wife n my 2 big 4 legged BUDDIES!...😎✌
Please talk about Chronic pain and multiple trauma
Finding a counselor/therapist, that can help a person to heal is a challenge. And if you have been further traumatized or injured by certain types of Counselors (in my case social workers) it is even more challenging. What I have been doing lately is to write down all the traumas and abuses I have had over the course of my lifetime. Do all people have numerous traumas and abuses? Through my writing down of the events of my childhood, I have realized, I was always made to feel second best, and because of the abuse and trauma I received as a child, I have felt great self loathing and a hatred of myself. I have been the scapegoat several times in my life for the mistakes of others, and I have suffered much from being the scapegoat. But what is crazy, is that I really didn't realize all my traumas and abuses until I got into my latter years. Being abused can make it feel like it is your fault. Being abused can convince a person that they are broken and damaged beyond redemption or at least beyond ever excelling or achieving one's dreams in one's life.
Wonderful video! I'm in Houston and wish I could see you because you're not to far out, but I don't have insurance. I have BPD, CPTSD, and have had clinical depression since I was a pre-teen. I have lots of built up trauma stemming as early as infancy through present day that I'm still sifting through.
Hope you get some help soon. ❤✌🏼🙏🏼