I used hello fresh when I first gave birth and it was a life saver! (Not to mention I gave birth in the worst part of the pandemic lol) I would recommend it to anybody with a new baby
Hey Hannah, I've been watching your videos for months now, but somehow never subscribed. Having mentioned your goal, you can now count yourself one more subscriber closer to that 100k. 😉 One way that putting your goals put there *can* help you achieve them! ❤
My mom and I have often told each other, in times of intense uncertainty and stress, "Don't worry, it will all work out, it always does," and it generally does work out. We do this as a way to relinquish anxiety about things we can't control so we can move forward. It helps us have the courage to move on in the face of uncertainty, not manifest vacations in tropical locations.
I just had this same conversation with my mom this weekend! Sometimes when you’re facing tough shit, you need to say “we’ll get through it” just to hear that hope out loud. But then we buckle down and find ways to make it work, not just high-five and think the problem’s solved.
I had a few very, very hard years, lost a person I loved, my house, discovered some really nasty things about someone I trusted... and when someone asks me how I dealt with all that, my answer is always the same "I just repeated to myself that someday it would go better, it always does"
My friend and I were just talking about using positive thinking to get through times of high stress. I'm a recently diagnosed narcoleptic so I look back at what I've used positive thinking to get through and use those times to help me push through my new understanding of my hardships.
Right! It seems like we're jumping to the extreme opposite now and denying the benefits of a positive mindset. Being positive has never once done me wrong. At best, I get what I want; at worse, I'll be in a positive mindset regardless. Being negative, however... Never once served me
Red car theory is also really similar. If you focus on red cars, there are a lot of red cars. If you focus on being lucky, you suddenly see really small lucky things that you wouldn't have noticed previously.
So true, I once did an experiment where I tested the superstition of good luck happening if your top eyelid shakes and bad luck if it’s the bottom eyelid. My eyelids have never shaken more since😂😂😂😂😂
So true!! This happened to me while I was pregnant, all of a sudden in every corner I saw a pregnant woman or a woman with a baby and then I thought "How come everyone is having babies at the same time?" But then I realized that it was just that my mind was focusing more on that because it was something I was experiencing. I've also been told by people who are lonely that they see couples all the time, it's just what your mind selectively searches for.
It’s so toxic because there’s *nothing* wrong with thinking positive thoughts/doing things that make you feel hopeful, but you can’t get so obsessed with ~manifesting~ that you make yourself feel like it’s your fault when things don’t always fall into place, or that people who have a hard time deserve it.
+AND you can’t be so into manifesting that you do nothing to actually make the good things happen to you. Like, it’s fine to have affirmations about how good things will come, but if you do nothing to make them happen, or if you try and it still doesn’t work out, it can devolve into a really unhealthy obsession.
For real, I'm all for good vibes and prayers and mantras, but that kind of stuff has to inspire you to actually act as a force for good in your life and in the lives of those around you. Just expecting to be lucky won't actually do anything good.
RIght like I believe in ‘manifestation’ to the degree that I think that the energy and attitude and vibes you bring with you affect the people around you and how they treat you and how you interpret the things that happen. Like when I’m in a good mood, getting caught in the rain is fun instead of annoying. But like it’s not magic and bad stuff can still happen that has nothing to do with you and your vibes. There is no frequency of vibration that will prevent structural oppression or bad people who don’t give a fuck about your wellbeing doing bad things to you. Like have a good attitude and work towards your goals, but don’t think that you’re immune from the bullshit.
I think embracing a mindset of positivity in the original tiktok you show is actually a great way to live. It just makes you grateful for all the little things that bring you joy in life. It’s slightly irrelevant but clearly that girl studied for her spanish final, so she got this reinforcement that things work out if you do your best to prepare.
@stephanychocolate6227 but tiktok is by far the worst. There's still terrible stuff on there with terrible people, and nothing is done about it since it's mainly operated by ai at this point
Honestly, there is merit in reframing your experiences into a positive and cultivating gratitude for when small things go your way. I bet if the restaurant those girls went to was closed, they would have found something else to eat and found a reason that “everything works out for me.” Additionally, not worrying about things you CAN’T control can reduce distress. Can it be toxic? Absolutely. If you’re so positive that you can’t recognize you’re in a bad situation, that’s dangerous. All things in balance ❤
It also breeds a complete lack of empathy for other people who truly don’t have great luck or who are doing everything right but bad things happen anyway
@@Chels-fz5uqcame to say that. Too many times this mentality ends up evolving in some form of "I got xyz and you don't, so I'm rubbing it right in your face". No thanks.
I agree with you. Like, I used to be homeless a few years back, and when I was living in the shelter, I met people who had been in that situation for at least a DECADE, if not longer. Most of them desperately wished for life to be better and worked their butts off trying to make it so, but were severely depressed because nothing was working. Because disability, because discrimination, because the system simply failed them. "Manifestation," also known as wishful thinking, can't save you in that situation or create any major changes. Only action will, which means not only working hard, but also working to change this extremely broken/dysfunctionally designed system.
I feel like Lucky Girl Syndrome in some of these cases can actually be attributed to Rich Girl Syndrome and Nepo Baby Syndrome. They're just in denial.
Corrrct. They don’t want to attribute their success due to someone else, so they delude themselves into thinking that they did it all because they “manifested” it. It’s similar to the motivational speak that rich grifters use when they sell “how to get rich via mindset” courses to desperate people. And oh look… that’s EXACTLY what she did in the end. lol
It's this same mindset that is used against people with disabilities particularly those with invisible disablilties that if we thought more positively then our illnesses would go away. We are blamed for our disabilities because we have a "negative" attitude when in reality we are exhausted and resentful of navigating an ableist and inaccessible world that finds us expendable because of our inability to generate capital at the same level as abled people.
Or being told “Just be happy!” as a cure for mental health. Like no Karen, I have clinical depression. And you telling me to “just be happy” is not making me feel any better.
This is me with undiagnosed ADHD. I have been labeled lazy, unmotivated, undisciplined, and ungrateful ever since I was young. I struggled with maintaining focus while I was still in school and have had a lot of trouble finding and maintaining employment ever since, and this has caused me to develop anxiety and depression on top of ADHD from having my self-esteem get crushed repeatedly over the years.
I have ehlers danlos and I do as much work in the home that I can. My attitude and drive is good but my body is not consistently good enough for consistent work. I look healthy, fit, and slim. I can't manifest my body to keep up with my work ethic. And I still hear comments that I have to "get out there" and "just try a job". I've had a job and college before, trying to meet deadlines, and I have never felt more disabled in my life. I completely overworked my body trying to do what others expected of me.
Lol if I had a better attitude my Crohn’s would magically go away 😂😂 damn! I’d better tell my other friends with terrible intestines. I’ll keep my drugs/exercise/diet/therapy thanks ❤
I am the luckiest woman, but it all was because of hard work, failing, and trying again, and never stop loving my friends and family who help me day in and out!
As my dad told me “the harder you work, the luckier you get.” It’s always easy to look from the outside and miss all the hard work done by someone else.
BUT, the more positive your mindset, the more pleasurable you are to work with, to rent to, to associate with, to consult, to.... xyz. Nobody wants to deal with nay-sayers and people who are always pessimistic. One attracts the other. And when I do well, I am more motivated to do better, thus getting better results and more motivation.
Hmmmm! I think you don’t get lucky by walking harder. For me, a lot of things have to be place for luck to happen and hard work is just one of them. I know a guy who lost his dad and he took up the responsibility of being the provider for his mom and siblings, he was doing that by working hard and he was able to feed them but that’s just very basic. He dropped out of school to work harder cos it was really getting harder for him. That didn’t look like he was getting any luck to me. But on this day he met a friend of his dad’s and he just offered something better, he accepted the offer and then went on to start working with a startup company that later rewarded their longstanding workers with Better opportunities and he was a beneficiary of that meaning he moved up the ladder and started earning well and can now help his family with ease. The luck for me in this story is where he went on the day he met his dad’s friend and also the company deciding to just upgrade the workers that have been with them for long. He would have worked as hard as possible, but the right time, the right place and the right people, that’s luck and If we are being honest, we can’t control any of those. That’s when manifestation comes in.
In the world of business : the more you educate yourself the easier it is to spot opportunities and to have the knowledge of how to operate them for a specific outcome
My biggest issue with the theory (?) of the power of attraction, which I believe Lucky Girl to be...is the effect it has on those with unfortunate circumstances. Did the cancer or heart patient not have the right mindset? Are we to bear guilt of our misfortunes because we didn't want good fortune bad enough?
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Yeah, it implies that if things are going horribly is your fault. You weren't positive enough or something.
@@Julie-si3hi so sorry to read that. My husband got diagnosed last year. The amount of people that have looked for things to blame within our lives is unbelievable. Nobody asks for this. I wish you and your fiancee lots of strength and love!
This somehow reminds of something I read on Humans of NY about religion. "If a plane crashes and one person survives everyone thanks God. They say "God had a purpose for that person . God saved her for a reason". Do we not realize how cruel it is to say that if God had a purpose for that one person he also had a purpose in killing everyone else on that plane? And a purpose in starving millions of children ? For every time you say there's a purpose behind one's person success you invalidate billions of people."
What saddens me is that the Law of Attraction (what the Lucky Girl Syndrome is based on) does work when understood and done properly, but it's been oversimplified and sold as something ridiculous. At its core, it's simply some form of self-hypnosis that shifts your limiting beliefs and reduces your tendency to self-sabotage. Because unconsciously, we only accept opportunities that we feel we're worthy of. That's why you often see people ruining promising relationships because they don't feel they're worthy of being happy. Or they believe that "relationships are hard work'. LOA is also related to concepts like the placebo effect, mirror neurons, etc. I've used it a lot to build my self worth and it's worked great. But obviously, it's only an addition to concrete actions and deep self work.
Yes And it is not the same as saying we won’t move ourselves towards that direction we want to see either. People usually JUMP into that conclusion when you have faith in something/someone will bless you, being you the good things or opportunities you want to see happening to you. But it is WAY easier to plan and execute when we are not carrying a mountain of doubt, fear, shame, low self worth and limiting beliefs. It’s like they get bother when we take strength and inspiration from a religion or philosophy, to the point of trying to scorn you about it. But when you are speaking negative things over your ambitions and dreams, that is too hard, too unlikely, those people don’t put that same energy to motivate us and give as a better perspective.
LGS and success are definitely in a causal relationship. If you sell the grift of course. It's a pyramid scheme. Those that got in early could sell it for a profit. And the bloody idea isn't even new! It's manifestation over and over again. And of course it can work for you. If you have a positive outlook, you will focus on the positive things in your life and ignore the negative stuff. And having loads of money always helps, OBVIOUSLY. 😂
Girl walks in traffic and thinks I'm lucky that no cars hit me , meanwhile cars are just left in wreckage everywhere having crashed, trying not to hit her as she wanders blindly into traffic. Luck or lack of accountability?
4:38 this made me think of one of my favorite quotes by Sir Terry Pratchett from The Wee Free Men: "If you trust in yourself... and believe in your dreams... and follow your star... you'll still get beaten by people who spent their time working hard and learning things and weren't so lazy."
I don't think this is necessarily true BUT most common because I often think of people who were just scouted to become a star or met the right person - I think it's important to also not discredit how much luck plays a part in success. It is a necessity and you can create your own luck through hard work but you may still be beaten by someone who was simply lucky. That's life too. Of course after a lucky encounter you have to put in the hard work but not everyone fully does or is talented. I'm rambling but basically YES hard work but ALSO YES good luck. I think a lot of people buying into this lucky girl syndrome do lean too hard towards wanting things to fall into their lap but it stems from deeper issues of feeling like the world is out of their hands and helplessness.
To be honest with you, I really believe that the mindset can change a lot of things in your life. I used to have social anxiety, and then I met someone who never judged others and he himself was not scared to be judged. And I said to myself, if he can do it, then why can't I? And then my whole self-confidence got a boost, and my anxiety decreased to almost 0. I was much more open with others, starting conversations with people I was not close with, never had awkward moments, and I had a whole new mindset of: I can do this. I'm not saying that the lucky girl syndrome is correct, because of course you need to be in control of what is happening to you, but I do believe that a strong and positive mindset can change your life for the better. Mostly because the same things happen to you, but you just view them differently and in a more positive way. And that's what matters
I often tell myself: "Everything works out the way it's supposed to" because it really helps my anxiety to remind myself that I can't control certain things.
No, things don't always work out the way they are supposed to, and "the universe" doesn't have a consciousness, will, or agency so it doesn't give--or take away--anything. Both of you are engaging in magical, dysfunctional, toxic thinking.
except when you're a teacher in myanmar and the junta come and behead you cuz you aren't on their side, or like the five million children that die each year cuz they are living in shit conditions, or when you're that Chinese factory worker trying to end your own life cuz u stuck in this concrete building working 12 hours 6 days a week for nothing.@@kadeelacayo4806
@@kadeelacayo4806the universe was created by God, it has no power in itself to do anything for you. God is the One who blesses. All glory belongs to Him.
@@freeinJesusmy unpopular opinion is that “the universe” and all the “gods” are the same thing. It’s a higher power that works in mysterious ways and which we know nothing about, but it’s a higher power connected to us somehow
Same.... And now 268K. Imo, there can be a nice union of hard work, positive thoughts and true belief that good things are absolutely possible, even probable in life
I don't know but I just discovered you, Hannah, last March and I cannot stop watching your vids. I only follow vloggers who put so much intellect, effort, and concern towards their followers. I admire your way of speaking and the realized you are a teacher and discovered the answer as to why you are so articulate!!!! Thank you for creating these highly informative contents!!! Vloggers like you are the ones who should earn on RUclips. Kudos!
Well, it is not necessarily a non-MLM video. In order to join an MLM you need to suspend your critical disbelief. You need to overrule logic, dismiss alternative explanations and simply hope. This is why so many MLMs are working hard to convince you that sucess is down to mindset because without blind faith you won`t stick to what is blatantly a business model that doesn`t work for most.
I'm reminded of a lyric from a Starkid musical that's basically a Disney parody. "If you're good and you're attractive, no need to be proactive. Good things will just happen to you." It feels like there's also an element of privilege to Lucky Girl Syndrome without having to acknowledge that privilege. That's what feels slimy to me. Maybe everything doesn't work out for other people, not because of their mindset, but because the institutions we live in systemically disadvantage those people.
One thing about these mindsets like lucky girl syndrome and law of attraction that really gets me is: what do they think happens when two people’s desired outcomes are in direct conflict? What if two people who are trying to get the same job or apartment both tell themselves that they’re so lucky and they’ll get what they want? What decides which person’s “luck” is more important? Major loophole in my opinion
Reminds me of that scene from the first episode of friends when Ross says “I want to be married” and Rachel walks in in a wedding dress then Chandler says “and I want a million dollars!”
Well you shouldn't think about the other girl. You should believe you'll reach your goals, you shouldn't care about the obstacles, whether the obstacles are other girls or something else.
There's a real hubris in believing that everything you want, at whatever stage you are in your life, is what is actually the best thing for you just because you wanted it.
There is a fraction of truth in "lucky girl syndrome". A positiv outlook and mindset will grant you more opportunities than a pessimistic outlook and mindset, granted equal amounts of work. It's pretty simple, no one wants to be around someone always complaining about every tiny annoyance, I definitely wouldn't.
Affirmations do have a place in life, such as a reminder to notice the good stuff, but they don't "manifest" stuff. Affirmation just draws attention to more positive and comfortable thoughts. In my opinion as a therapist who does use affirmations with people.
The thing I hate about things like the Secret and Lucky Girl Syndrome is that there is an emphasis on changing all of your subconscious thoughts because those negative thoughts are why your life sucks. I have horrible intrusive thoughts and have had to learn how to manage them by letting them pass over me and not ruminating on them like I used to. It's so hard. Stuff like this emphasizes that if anything bad were to happen to me it would be my fault for these negative thoughts and even more my fault if I ruminate on them.
No that’s not how it works. The universe gives you whatever you need. If in a past life there was a situation that you have to fix before you’re able to leave earthskde that could be a reason . Y’all believe in your fairy tale Bible but not this lol
@@kadeelacayo4806 Who said that I believe in the bible? I believe in evidence-based science and not a book translated to whatever is needed at that point in time
@@kadeelacayo4806 This is toxic. The universe hasn’t given me a cure for my pain condition. So in a past life I must’ve done something wrong so it’s my fault? Sorry but fuck right off with that.
Ha! See, I consider myself a lucky girl because I've had so many near-death experiences and horrible things happen to me, but I'm *STILL ALIVE.* Any other mortal human would be 6 feet under by now. I mean, I'm battered and damaged and I've got some organs that aren't mine and I'm missing a couple vertebrae and I'm covered in scars at 35, but I can still do most of the things I love and I'm otherwise remarkably healthy.
I hardly think the problem with today’s teen girls is excessive happiness. I would much rather there be an excess of striving for cheerful gratefulness than anything else on offer out there.
“It’s lucky girl syndrome” but I also read a heap of self development and financial books, put effort into starting a business and looked for a new apartment. Girl you just told us how you did it 😂
@@MegaChadAnakin even worse she completely disregarded the actual work she did and called it luck 🤯 but I guess that’s what sells journaling tips or whatever she sells 😂
that’s what’s crazy though, is some of these “manifestation” girlies will post a tiktok about how they manifested all this stuff coming to them and then in the next one they’re like “my success didn’t just happen overnight i worked HARD for it”. which yes imo the purpose of manifesting is to motivate yourself to work toward a goal but the way they talk about it seems super contradictory.
This is the reason I didn’t see why it was toxic as first because I thought it was just people thinking positively then working on their lives…because that’s what she did. She read and educated herself, started her business, then found new living situations. And all the while she started thinking more positively. I didn’t see that as toxic at all but now I see how other people are getting the wrong idea about it.
Hi, therapist here! I am absolutely a fan of affirmations that lead to actionable change. I like when people say "this is going to be a good day" when they first wake up with the intention of seeing the best in people or having a positive mindset. You're absolutely right that the fact that it's gendered makes it so much more problematic. Lucky girl syndrome and manifestation, of course, doesn't work. No one ever would have thought it would have worked before something like tictok existed. I know very few people who have gotten good things from tictok. Also, I can't help but notice it is a certain type of girl that tell themself with a straight face that "everything works out for them". I honestly couldnt tell myself that with a straight face, too much proof to the contrary! I feel like most of the population would be in that group with me.
"I like when people say "this is going to be a good day" when they first wake up with the intention of seeing the best in people or having a positive mindset." That's not therapy, that's mindless platitudes that help no one. Yeah, being toxically positive and looking for the good in everyone feels nice until it gets you fucked over or leads to bad decisions because you just looked on the bright side. Talk therapists these days are such a joke.
@@ANPC-pi9vu I think the point is that you start the day with the affirmation, then follow through by actually trying to see the best in everything. My anxiety makes me catastrophise and assume the absolute worst if I let it run unchecked, but I'm lucky enough that I can claw back control by acknowledging the anxious thoughts and choosing to entertain positive interpretations of the same situations. Not everyone has the privilege of being able to do that (hell, I can't do it all the time -- even people with zero mental health issues can't). But yeah, it is hard work to get to that positive state and stay there while being kind to yourself if you can't.
Not true that this couldn't have convinced people before TikTok....the Secret got passed around as a DVD in the days of dial up. People friggin love this idea and will fall for it however it ends up in front of them.
@@ANPC-pi9vu It's akin to cognitive behavioral therapy and it's actually quite effective for depression and anxiety. You still have common sense and can take it too far into toxic positivity but it's absolutely affective in helping change someone's mindset and the way they see the world. You can be the complete opposite where paranoia and believing EVERYONE is out to get you, and that's not really all that great either. I speak from both my studies and also from what I've used for myself, positive mindsets aren't meant to blind you...they're meant to try and remind you that maybe life isn't actually as terrible and you aren't actually as awful as you think you are. This Lucky Girl manifestation nonsense is definitely not what I think the OP here was talking about in their statements on positive mindset and mindless platitudes.
This sounds so much like the things Zig Ziglar taught back in the 60s! Here's a quote: You were born to win, but to be a winner you must plan to win, prepare to win, and expect to win. -Sharon
I love how that $300+ check had to be cut and mailed days before she received it, but she credits her wishful thinking for its existence. Girl! It was already in the mail!
If she'd stopped before adding "they even gave me money for how long it took" I would have believed it but ain't no way anyone is paying you extra because they're THAT sorry.
She's straight up lying. It's only missing something like "and then the CEO of the bank showed up, announced that I'm a queen of the world now and I'm able to prosecute the scammer and then everybody clapped"
One of my favorite RUclipsr/Instagramers I’ve been following for over 5 years started doing this “lucky girl syndrome” trend and I feel like her entire personality and content is changing (and not in a good way) and I kinda stopped watching her because of this garbage she keeps pushing. Thank you for bringing this trend to light.
There are a few realities at play that are totally separate from luck but are a real result of mindset and emotions. If someone is more positive and more confident, they do tend to get more opportunities. They may get promoted at work, or get a date, etc because positive and negative emotion affect the way we act and speak. Ultimately, the way we act and speak affects how those around us interact with us. Pure cause and effect, not luck.
Based on experience, I’d say that one danger of telling yourself that you’re lucky or in a lucky streak is that it primes you to leap at “opportunities” or potential romantic partners who seem to pop up movie style, looking shiny and new. Maybe the job or the person is as free of flaws as you want to think and maybe not, but feeling lucky should not make you skip the critical thinking and investigation.
It sounds exactly like the book "The Secret" that was popular about 12 years ago. Also, "syndrome" sounds like an affliction, a disease or unhealthy condition. (Or the villain in The Incredibles. 😂😂😂) This video fits perfectly on your channel, Hannah! I'm very glad you addressed this! Hope you, your little one, and your husband are all doing well! ❤
Exactly the first thing I thought. And "The Secret" is already a new interpretation for the law of attraction. This is just old stuff being revived over and over again.
Thank you, Hanna, for the quality of your service. I seldom consume social media content, usually only tube videos (generally documentaries, some old Italian 50’s films and entertaining stuff) but you’ve got me twined with this socio/anthropological study of yours. The lucidity of your thoughts and criticism, the choice of the contents and your analysis is very helpful to understand what’s going on out there in this mad world. Also, your propriety of language is pretty stimulating into learning more and dive into English language. Keep up the good work! I have the feeling we are surrounded by people who has too much time and too less consistency and you are quite opposite for what I can see. Thanks again. All the best. Silvia P.S.: greetings from the Alps!
I feel bad for all my fellow OCD sufferers who fall into this thought trap. I literally JUST talked to my OCD therapist last week about how toxic this idea on social media can be especially for anxiety and OCD sufferers. It definitely was for me.
I have OCD and agree. I feel so guilty because the last year I put in practice this trend and others like subliminals for manifesting/LAO all that kind of stuff, the results was a high increment of anxiety and depression with horrible thoughts. This type of practice it's not for me and I feel bad for believe in that.
Yup, as a person with OCD my "manifestation" era (4+ years ago at this point) was very stressful and painful. It got real crazy when I caught myself thinking I was literally keeping my loved ones alive by "protecting" them with my thoughts
it works just the same as thinking negative thoughts all the time it attracts more crap, it’s so much better to think positive than negative in constant anxiety is a very bad habit that can stick in your mind for years so it’s so much better to practice this mind set young as possible
thoughts don't attract anything. why? because no one know can hear them. if you went to therapy for anxiety you would never say that. it has nothing to do with suppressing negative thoughts. thats just insulting don't use other peoples issues as justification for your own.
@@ayahlin no one has to hear them, a negative thought has a vibration or energy as does a positive thought and both send a different vibration to the universe, there was an experiment done on this using water you can check out Dr Emoto’s water experiment that documents the effects of thoughts and written words have on water.
Honestly, I love hearing your perspective on things and you always thoroughly research and educate yourself about whatever topic you're speaking on. By all means, I would adore more commentary type video such as this as long as you're comfortable and interested in making it
Hi Hannah! Thanks so much for talking about this. I'm a little older than you, and I fell for 'The Secret' circa the year 2000. Looking back on it now? It makes me angry that I was convinced that magical thinking would take care of my future. This thinking will help you keep a positive attitude, but it will not help you set and accomplish goals. I feel like this path held me back, because I had this belief that if I was a good person the Universe would provide. DO have a hopeful attitude (that part is good!), but please set goals and take steps to accomplish them. No one is going to 'discover' you and make your dreams come true. HELP YOURSELF!
Thank you for this dose of sanity, Hannah! The flip side of Lucky Girl Syndrome is that if you are unlucky, you just didn't want good things hard enough. If someone gets laid off, develops a serious illness, or has any other misfortune, is that their fault? Lucky Girl Syndrome is based on the idea that our desires control the universe. It's not only ridiculous, but insulting to suggest to someone who is struggling that all they need to do is be positive-- or buy someone's course-- in order to fix their real problems.
I remember people who told me after I had lost several pregnancies that, "well, manifestation is real so you just need to think more positively next time!" So toxic and SO cruel.
I’m all for a mantra and this is one I’ve loved saying this year. It helps me reframe my thought pattern. However, I don’t think that just repeating a sentence is going to make things happen for you. For me, it’s just a way of reminding myself that no matter what, everything is always working out for me exactly how it’s supposed to.
Precisely. It’s a believing you deserve xyz and you’ll work for it. If you don’t believe you deserve it or it will be too hard, but still try with a negative thought pattern, you may feel stuck.
Me too. I struggled for a long time with negative thought patterns and sometimes believing I deserve something is just a little out of reach. Adopting this mindset lets me start out my day or activity with the attitude that, by chance and without me having to be anxious about it, I'll have a good time. I can recognize that experience, education, work, and resources still go into achieving my goals while still living my life in a way that lifts my spirits without trying. Sometimes actively trying is too much for me that day! Of course it has the possibility of becoming toxic if taken too far, but so does literally everything else.
@@jennamagdalena6608 100% I relate. Keep thinking positive thoughts, because you do deserve a good life. And those positive thoughts make inspired action a little easier ❤️
Manifestation itself is not bullshit at all. TikTok just made a good thing toxic again. If you struggle with things in life it really helps to do affirmations IF you being consistent. Maybe you struggle in school. And you tell yourself every day "I am smart" "I am diligent" Even if your don't believe yourself at first you will after a few times. Same with you believed that your are NOT smart because you and other people told you so often. And you will start to act on this affirmations. There are logical explanations why affirmations help you alot. Many of our issues come from negative affirmations we tell ourselves every day like "I am not good enough" I really recommend doing affirmations to everyone who struggle with certain things in life. But PLEASE don't get your informations from TikTok. There are really good books about it. Even for the ones who think it's esoteric. Books where it's explanaed why this works and how it works in your mind.
The trend seems to be very naive. Their "luck" is either a common sense or coinsidence. It's all also connected to a privilege to be more "lucky" than others. The noodle video was hard to watch because of eating and talking over each other.
I love your point about how there is a certain privilege to this lucky girl mindset, because there are many people in disadvantaged situations who can’t just wish themselves out of it and it’s so harmful to have people telling them “oh, just wish it better!” 🙄
@@JaimeLeighArt Yeah, I feel like it's really telling that the people I've seen going on about "lucky girl syndrome" tend to be young, thin, and conventionally pretty. Yeah, of course things probably tend to work out okay for them. People tend to be nicer to you if you fall into those categories, cause, y'know, ageism and fatphobia are things. It is literally privilege.
A lot of the stuff pushed by the “manifestation girlies” can be so harmful to some people too. Not even just in a toxic positivity way, but as someone who deals with intrusive thoughts, being told “oh what you think will become real and the energy you put out will come back” is literally my worst nightmare, and when I’m dealing with those thoughts, that idea has caused me to spiral further into it. I think positive affirmations can be a useful tool, and trying to keep a positive mindset isn’t even an inherently bad thing. But when you start getting into “your thoughts will become real if you believe hard enough”, you start to get into some dangerous and low-key thoughtcrime-y feeling territory.
I saw this a couple months back and I kind of interpreted and utilized it on a different way. The positive self-talk definitely made me feel good which gives me boost to work on the things I need to work on. I didn't think that things will magically happen, it's the same as manifesting when you try to ground yourself when you were having the panic attacks. But for me, it was more of a starting point to act on the things I should be doing to get what I want. Never will I ever think that saying and imagining things will give me the results that I want and it will be an insult to attribute my success to me just saying things. It's always a variety of factors, it's just sad that it's being oversimplified.
The idea of manifestation ended up sending me spiralling from OCD recently! While homeless, I got really fixated on this idea that if I was too hopeful about something I’d lose out and be really disappointed, but if I wasn’t hopeful enough I’d be manifesting bad energy and lose out because of that - it was an absolutely horrific spiral and triggered by a friend who posts a lot of this positive mindset manifestation stuff
I'm so sorry to hear that, sometimes we tell ourselves that it's all our fault because at least that's better than not being in control at all. I hope you're doing better! ❤
I’m so beyond sick of law of attraction, manifestation, subliminals etc etc If you want something work for it - sitting around “feeling like you already have it, so it’s yours” is going to lead you down a path of sore disappointment. It’s also quite entitled to feel that you deserve everything and all you have to do is wish for it and it’s yours. Hard work and earning your achievements is how you end up feeling accomplished, not writing down “I will have my dream job by 2024”, shoving it under your pillow, “forgetting about it”, not doing any work to actually GET your dream job (just willing it into existence lmao)
@@LisaHarvey16 the thing I don’t get is, even if you practice LoA and end up getting what you’ve “manifested” wouldn’t you feel kinda undeserving knowing it wasn’t something you worked for, the “universe” just “handed it to you”? (It was luck lmao but for the sake of the people who practice LoA we’ll just say universe) I know I would feel totally undeserving of receiving something I hadn’t worked for! 🤷🏻♀️
Somewhere a single parent with chronic pain, working several jobs works harder than others just to get out of bed in the morning. "Hard work" is subjective.
@@lallana2882I understand what you’re saying but that woman you’re describing is still working and doing so to the best of her ability. That is hard work! Working hard at anything isn’t going 100% guarantee you’ll get something out of it, but the only other alternative is not working for anything and just hoping it lands on your lap. I know people are in difficult positions and doing their best, but that’s the point, they’re doing their best, therefore they deserve any reward they receive from that work (a paycheck, promotion etc), and if you don’t receive those things then you don’t, it doesn’t always mean you’re not working hard enough, it’s just life and sometimes you’re not always rewarded for the work you do, however it’s still commendable in comparison to those who sit around refusing to do ANYTHING to achieve a goal (and goals can even be something like rearranging your cupboards once a month, or going for a walk/run if you’re able to, reading a book a month etc) it doesn’t mean you have to go past your physical or mental capabilities, it just means doing your best, and that looks different for everyone!
Manifestation is a fancy word for the first step ofgoal setting: visualization. When done properly, goal setting begins with visualizing the end result. You don't just put it out in the universe, though... you actually take steps to work towards the goal. Proper manifesting starts with visualization and then requires planning and effort to take the next steps towards your goal. You can't just rely on luck and the universe. This is the antithesis of an MLM, which tends to say that no one just gets lucky, It's all hard work and everyone has the same opportunities. They are two completely different sides of the same coin... Lucky girl syndrome on one side and hustle culture on the other. Everyone has gotten to where they are thanks to a little bit of luck (sometimes good or sometimes bad luck) and some work (sometimes fruitful and sometimes fruitless work). To deny luck is to say that everyone is in charge of their own destiny which we know to not be true because bad things happen to good people. But to believe only in luck is equally ridiculous, because you have to put effort into achieving your goals. Why can't we have a middle ground people?!
My husband & I are gonna start saying we are so lucky, everything works out for us consistently for a few weeks. I'll let you guys know if his cancer or paralysis disappears 😂😂😂
It feels like the mirror image of 'i got everything through hard work, no luck or privilege or anything whatsoever'. imo most successful people are somewhere in the middle: some hard work ~and~ some good luck.
This kind of gives "I prayed that God would allow me to find a parking spot at the mall and one opened up, but he didn't help that kid who was praying to stop being abused"
Which is totally nonsense as the Bible says that bad things can happen to us ALL. Prayer for such personal things and benefits doesn’t work as they don’t align with Gods purpose. I know this from Bible study 😂😅
It started out as more of a count your blessings movement. At the end of each day looking back and saying out loud , " this thing happened today I am so lucky" like I got a free coffee or whatever
It’s fun to be watching this a year after you made it and hear you talking about hoping for 100k subscribers, now that you’ve flown past that goal. Good job manifesting all that success out of thin air! 😂
I don't hate this trend at its core. I used to study psychology so I have a smudge of knowledge on this topic. This way of thinking could reframe one's experiences and seems to be the antithesis of the "only bad things happen to me"-mindset, which is linked to learned helplessness and depression. As one of the girls mentioned: she used to believe that she wouldn't manage certain tasks (aka "jinx it") and that seemed to impact her motivation poorly. Thinking "hey, I *am* lucky and this *will* work" could help your motivation and reduce stress. The lucky girl syndrome sehr adjacent to positive psychology, which has many wonderful qualities. However, just like positive psychology, there can be some downsides. From what I learned at uni, the ideal way of thinking would be positive and believing one is in control - as Hannah says, you can't just sit back and do nothing. People without credentials selling courses/books/etc. on mental health will also always be a big red flag. But all in all, believing that good things will happen to you and treating the world and yourself accordingly (aka with kindness and enthusiasm) seems nice and a good break from hustle culture
When ”things work out for us” also doesn’t mention having advantages in life in general for those things to work out. Things like parental support, where they live, skin colour, where they went to school, the actual hard work……. Oh my
I was thinking this same thing. What a place of privilege those noodle girls must come from. Their top worries are getting the bedroom they want and that the noodle restaurant is still open. The lack of perspective is staggering.
I have recently discovered your U-tube channel. Your comments regarding the topics on MLM’s, influencers and tick-tock videos are well presented and make common sense. Honestly, I don’t understand why you don’t have a million subscribers!! I am a huge fan already ❤
I haven't finished the video yet but I want to put my two cents in anyways. "Everything works out in the end" is my mantra too because, in my life, that's how it goes. That does not mean I don't work for what I have and want; I do and it's hard but worth it. It's more of a reassurance for the difficult times: everything might not be okay right now, but if I keep working and going towards what I want, I'll get there. I'm not lucky but everything works out in the end because I work my ass off for it. Saying it just reminds me of how much things have changed for the better and how much they will in the future.
Lol! My thought was that she mentioned $10K in sales. Cool. And what is your PROFIT? Because if you're not factoring in operating costs and taxes, that number is going to sound way higher than it actually is.
At my last job I woke up one day and immediately was engrossed in a feeling of dread that the day was not going to be a good one. When I got to work it was just that, so much happened and it was terrible. I was telling a coworker how I had a strong feeling the day wasn’t going to be good and she told me that I manifested the toxicity 🙄
Totally agree, Hannah. Affirmations helped me overcome my panic attacks with driving after an accident. They never did anything to impact my financial and personal goals. In fact, affirmations about habits I wasn't doing mad me feel guilty and demotivated!
I started doing something “similar” to this because I had seen some manifest videos, but i literally just thought it was changing your mindset to look for the good in life instead of the bad all the time. So whenever I started getting angry or upset about things I start going through a list of things I’m thankful for in my life and why I’m so blessed and lucky.
The inverse is feeling like you're a magnet for bad luck. I've met a handful of people over the years who always seemed to be having bad luck, but then I finally realized they didn't take care of their stuff-whether that be possessions or just things you need to do in adult life. Doing nothing will get you nowhere!
That’s not exclusively why people run into hard times, but you’re correct. In psychology, this is referred to as the external locus of control. The person does not see themselves as the arbiters of their own fate, instead seeing massive outside forces beyond their control as the culprit for their misfortunes. In an extreme sense, this is the person who has an excuse for everything, or their social relationships suffer chronic collapse but it is always someone else’s fault. Men ain’t shit or these hoes ain’t loyal. The inverse is called the internal locus of control but this has a spectrum. It’s not inherently good. Someone with a primarily internal locus of control holds themselves responsible for their behavior and the outcomes they create. Someone with an extremely internal locus of control disproportionately blames themselves for everything that goes wrong. Balance is important. Sometimes shit happens. Sometimes you bring something on yourself. Embrace neither in habit, but continue to think critically and try to understand what is within your control despite even the most overwhelming circumstances.
19:48 how did this girl who said she was sick of struggling financially suddenly afford her dream apartment, open a clothing store, and have the funds to start traveling???
I think by believing you're inherently lucky you overcome the fear of trying new things, like starting your own business, because according to your new belief there are no risks, and if you try there's a chance you will succeed. and that's probably the only way this might have worked for her and for everyone who believes in this. Also she sells those ideas.
@@ayahlinMight depend in your starting point. An overthinker with no trust in themselves may need that leap of faith to actually start doing and not losing faith if failing.
I never realized people were actually taking this seriously. As someone who struggles with anxiety, my personal take away was always “hey, I’ve done all that I can with this situation and I can’t let myself fixate and worry about it anymore, it’s out of my hands.” Which is more of a therapeutic technique I’ve been using for years to help my anxiety.
Thank you for your service haha. I am not on tik tok and I am also European, but here are two things: I am literally struggling while watching those very short tiktok videos. this kind of so called ‘peer culture’ when creators talk like average people to average people about wishy washy concepts. My brain melts. The other thing is how they only talk about manifesting material things. They are not lucky to have the love or health but apartments and noodle. This is interesting point I think, how surface level this concept is.
its a great stress reliever tbh especially during tough times ... its like when someone points out a yellow car even though there is only one car but you start seeing several ... its a great outlook.
Your reaction to these videos on TT is hilarious. You're calling them out but in the most polite, logical way and I love that. "She's not just sitting Criss Cross Apple Sauce in the middle of a room manifesting....." HAHAHA
I just got a new job. I was under qualified but applied anyway, not because I'm "so lucky and get what I want", it was closer to "well I have nothing to lose and they won't call me anyway." But I worked hard on my interview, and I've worked hard in school to get to where I am so even though right now I don't have the qualifications, I will. This isn't me being lucky, it's work paying off.
The thing is, we live in a social stew. The woo woo bits about magnetism and “energy” can be dismissed as nonsense, but the fact that changing your mindset has social effect, including ones that benefit you and clear the path towards what you want to accomplish….that is observably true….and not because of woo woo stuff, but because we are social creatures and the people we interact with respond to the social signals we send out. If those signals are “I’m a sad disaster just waiting to fail again” people tend to not pull you into their fold, if you signals are “I’m s cheerful optimist looking for my next opportunity” people tend to gravitate towards you and want to help you succeed. That goes for jobs, apartments, dating, etc.
a bigger issue with this in my opinion is luck can’t be taught or created, but when someone doesn’t get what they want, they are taught they must not be trying hard enough or manifesting hard enough. And when oppressive systems make it impossible for someone to get what they want, it’s the individuals responsibility for their bad outcomes
The dopamine rush I get with a new Hannah video 🥰 Also, I "lucky girled" this video into existence... or maybe this is your routine video release schedule 😆😉
love your videos! ❤ i’m surprised that none of the videos you showed claimed that lucky girl syndrome can heal cancer or other diseases. because i have read that about the law of attraction and it is SO dangerous
My favorite podcaster talks about this. She would be considered to be in the manifestation world. I love her because she talks about manifestation is nothing if you don’t take actual action steps. The universe (or whoever you believe in) is a co creator with you. You have to work together. Affirmations also help me when I am feeling down and unworthy.
"For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11❣✝
Exactly. That's one of the most important markers of a decent teacher - they don't tell you that there won't be challenges and that you can forever be idle. You still have to do things, but with a different mindset
I'm going to start calling myself a Lucky Girl. I got my rent-controlled apartment because a friend worked for the company that owns my building. 15 years later I got laid off from my job. I told my landlord I would be out of town for two weeks and she asked why. Five minutes later she offered me a full time job. I'm now the bookkeeper for the company. My commute is about 30 seconds. So the luck has taken nearly two decades 😂
I feel like I have the same sort of "luck" (except I'm Christian so I attribute it to God's work) My husband chose between 2 similar apartment buildings. A year after moving in we had a baby and a year later my maternity leave was finishing up and we realized it was gonna be tight if I didn't go back to work. That's about when the landlords approached me asking if I was interested in taking over managing the building while I continued to stay home with my daughter. We moved across the hall into the manager unit (3 bedroom) had 2 more kids and I have been able to help our house financially by managing the building while still being home with our kids. I feel blessed but I guess it means I'm a "lucky girl" lol
Whatever you look for you find. For people who store up grievances, they will always find more examples in their life. This is what it reminds me of. If a girl focuses on all the examples of when life turned out well for her, maybe she is training herself to have a more positive mindset and/or also disregarding the times things don't work out. I don't believe in the "lucky girl" or "manifesting" an outcome, just wondering how much these two thought processes might contribute to it.
It feels like this could be a good thing for mental health if you flipped things around and had the affirmation AFTER the good thing, instead of trying to have it BEFORE. If you're someone who experiences depression or mood issues, then it can be really good to consciously recognise when good things happen to you - to stop and acknowledge them and reflect on them. So if you had a positive affirmation that you say to yourself after you experience good things (even if they are as mundane as the noodle place being open) it can help keep you from obsessing over everything that ever goes wrong in your life. The problem is trying to imply causality and suggesting that saying these magic phrases will MAKE the good stuff happen.
For sure! My therapist recommended that after something good happens, it’s nice to remind yourself that you put in the effort to help the good thing along.
Anything can become negative if critical thinking is not applied to it. Affirmations are about saying the things you want out loud until they become true, and a lot of hard work goes into both saying those things out loud and working hard to make them happen. Every person who's looked in the mirror and told themselves they're beautiful, for even a week will tell you that these things make a real difference. When I'm down and something good happens, even like finding a good parking spot, I tell myself I'm the luckiest girl in the whole world and it honestly changed how I approach every single aspect of my life. Sometimes I get lucky, but saying these things to myself has taught me to see a lot of things in my life as new opportunities and now I make my own luck. And it's taken a really long while and a lot of hard work to get here. Words just help and they're free!
Mindsets surrounding “manifestation” has always, in my experience, associated heavily with victim blaming type mentality and the insinuation that people deserve the bad things that come to them solely because their attitude etc. Practicing gratitude and not dwelling on the bad can certainly help your mental health and that is important but to equate that to moral high ground is really narrow minded. 39:14
As someone who believes in, and is struggling with, positive affirmations, this was well thought out and explained. Thank you. Also, you mention your goal of 100k followers in the video. 1 year later and now at 436k. Congrats on quadrupling + your goal... you lucky girl.
As someone who was DEEP in an MLM for 5 years, they love to push this “lucky girl, manifestation woowoo” crap. Although I believe that having a healthy and positive mindset can be beneficial, falling into this type of “lucky girl syndrome” territory can lead to so many negative effects. I’ve seen first hand this toxic positivity lead to the belief that I wasn’t good or “lucky” enough to succeed despite all my hard work in an MLM. Thank you for touching on this subject Hannah!
My now ex believed he should get whatever he wanted. If he didn't, for example being a big time sales person in real estate, he blamed me as not being positive. It abrogates personal responsibility.
I'm glad to see you do a video on this. As someone recovering from evangelical religious trauma and having adopted some pagan ideals all the way back in 2009. With the surge recently of witchy and pagan stuff I was excited that I might find some more resources and contacts and "my people." So, a couple of years ago I started looking on twitter and ... it was honestly the same type of stuff as I was raised with in my parent's religion. A lot of prosperity gospel and this, say what you want and it will come to you. I haven't finished your video yet, so I don't know if you say this but the worst part for me is: IF IT DOESN'T WORK FOR YOU, IT IS YOUR FAULT. This is the same thing the church taught me with praying. I was taught to ask god "in Jesus's name" and you'll get it. But if you don't it is because either A) god decided you weren't ready or worthy, or B) the devil is stopping you and it is because either you let him in by doing something wrong, or it is what you need to do in life and you need to work harder and ask harder to get it. Either way it all comes down to, if you get what you want it is because you are good enough in god's eyes. That is the same thing here. If you didn't get it, you didn't affirm right and you have some sort of negativity that is blocking you from it. It is all rooted in the same ideals, especially putting it onto girls and women, that if you have any negativity in your life be it emotional or otherwise, you will not get what you want. This is a long comment, sorry to anyone who reads it.
Yessss!!!! This! I grew up with a strong Muslim influence and was always told to have faith and that not doing so meant I didn't believe enough or properly and that it was an insult to God's power and love etc. This is reminding me of that but they just removed God from the equation basically. Same energy though.
@@TheYazmanian exactly! Its just a secular version of the same grift. Especially, in Christian evangelism prosperity gospel. They taught us if we wanted to have a big financial boon we had to donate to the church or tithe on a regular basis and proclaim "money cometh" and we would get rich. My parents who were scraping by were giving 15% of their income to multi millionaires in the hopes of getting rich.
Exactly, it’s a way to explain away why something good doesn’t happen when you manifest/pray for something and it doesn’t happen. It’s the whole ‘it can’t possibly be the system/god it must be you, it’s your fault that it didn’t happen’ so toxic and victim blaming.
I’m so glad you posted this, it was not too long. As someone who spent years (like since I found the LOA in 2015), thinking it was MY FAULT, I developed a very pessimistic, “I’m doomed to never get what I want” mindset. Hannah’s video and reading about your experience have finally helped me realize the fallacy of this attitude, and release some of the shame I’ve had for years. ❤
From a psychological stand point affirmations should be true. You reassuring yourself is just a reminder that you aren’t in any danger. This lucky girl syndrome is more of a hope and then you focusing all your attention on evidence that supports your hopes.
“Lucky girl syndrome” seems like a secular version of the prosperity gospel. Also can we talk about how it’s super weird this is being called a “syndrome”? Generally speaking syndromes have a negative health or mental health association. By the actual definition I know it wouldn’t have to be, but its colloquially true. But additionally if syndromes tend to be something that just happen to you, maybe that’s where it comes from in part. It’s very weird though.
I'm loving this video!!! I come here for the anti-mlm content, but I stay for Hannah and everything else she posts. I'd love to see another vlog sometime. Hannah is my all time favorite content creator, and I support everything she posts.
I think there may be a useful component of the “things always work out for me” affirmation. Our brains have a really strong negativity bias, so we remember negative things much better than positive things in general. That can be deleterious to mental health. But if you’re constantly saying to yourself “Things always work out for me”, then you are specifically looking for the ways in which things work out in your favor and leveraging confirmation bias to reinforce the belief. I bet that is really powerful as a tool for countering the negativity bias. But probably only when coupled with doing what you would be doing normally rather than just waiting for things to work out.
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Hey Hannah, I've been watching your videos for months now, but somehow never subscribed. Having mentioned your goal, you can now count yourself one more subscriber closer to that 100k. 😉
One way that putting your goals put there *can* help you achieve them! ❤
My mom and I have often told each other, in times of intense uncertainty and stress, "Don't worry, it will all work out, it always does," and it generally does work out. We do this as a way to relinquish anxiety about things we can't control so we can move forward. It helps us have the courage to move on in the face of uncertainty, not manifest vacations in tropical locations.
I just had this same conversation with my mom this weekend! Sometimes when you’re facing tough shit, you need to say “we’ll get through it” just to hear that hope out loud. But then we buckle down and find ways to make it work, not just high-five and think the problem’s solved.
I had a few very, very hard years, lost a person I loved, my house, discovered some really nasty things about someone I trusted... and when someone asks me how I dealt with all that, my answer is always the same "I just repeated to myself that someday it would go better, it always does"
"This, too, shall pass."
My friend and I were just talking about using positive thinking to get through times of high stress. I'm a recently diagnosed narcoleptic so I look back at what I've used positive thinking to get through and use those times to help me push through my new understanding of my hardships.
Right! It seems like we're jumping to the extreme opposite now and denying the benefits of a positive mindset. Being positive has never once done me wrong. At best, I get what I want; at worse, I'll be in a positive mindset regardless. Being negative, however... Never once served me
Red car theory is also really similar. If you focus on red cars, there are a lot of red cars. If you focus on being lucky, you suddenly see really small lucky things that you wouldn't have noticed previously.
right, that ties into confirmation bias
Very true!
So true, I once did an experiment where I tested the superstition of good luck happening if your top eyelid shakes and bad luck if it’s the bottom eyelid. My eyelids have never shaken more since😂😂😂😂😂
So true!! This happened to me while I was pregnant, all of a sudden in every corner I saw a pregnant woman or a woman with a baby and then I thought "How come everyone is having babies at the same time?" But then I realized that it was just that my mind was focusing more on that because it was something I was experiencing. I've also been told by people who are lonely that they see couples all the time, it's just what your mind selectively searches for.
Yes! This is actually a wholesome trend for the most part. If you find happiness in the most simple thing, then you are happier everyday
“Everything works out for us” as their phone falls off the dash 😂
That's the same thing I said too lol! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I really thought those two in the noodle video were taking the piss out of the whole thing. Can't believe they were serious!😂
My thoughts exactly
It’s so toxic because there’s *nothing* wrong with thinking positive thoughts/doing things that make you feel hopeful, but you can’t get so obsessed with ~manifesting~ that you make yourself feel like it’s your fault when things don’t always fall into place, or that people who have a hard time deserve it.
+AND you can’t be so into manifesting that you do nothing to actually make the good things happen to you. Like, it’s fine to have affirmations about how good things will come, but if you do nothing to make them happen, or if you try and it still doesn’t work out, it can devolve into a really unhealthy obsession.
Right? there is no way this won't lead to very unhealthy coping mechanisms. even if this does 'work', their mental health is fucked long term.
For real, I'm all for good vibes and prayers and mantras, but that kind of stuff has to inspire you to actually act as a force for good in your life and in the lives of those around you. Just expecting to be lucky won't actually do anything good.
RIght like I believe in ‘manifestation’ to the degree that I think that the energy and attitude and vibes you bring with you affect the people around you and how they treat you and how you interpret the things that happen. Like when I’m in a good mood, getting caught in the rain is fun instead of annoying. But like it’s not magic and bad stuff can still happen that has nothing to do with you and your vibes. There is no frequency of vibration that will prevent structural oppression or bad people who don’t give a fuck about your wellbeing doing bad things to you. Like have a good attitude and work towards your goals, but don’t think that you’re immune from the bullshit.
Whatever you put into the universe is what will come .
It's "The Secret" repackaged. This manifestation stuff is completely ridiculous and seems to recycle in some form every couple of years.
I was thinking the same. They sold it to the boomers and there selling it to gen z now to.
My thoughts as well. It just keeps going around in a different guise.
Right I was thinking this is just new age BS repackaged
There’s also a really clear link between times of financial struggle and rises in new age mysticism !
It's just gnosticism and the belief that you're a god.
I think embracing a mindset of positivity in the original tiktok you show is actually a great way to live. It just makes you grateful for all the little things that bring you joy in life. It’s slightly irrelevant but clearly that girl studied for her spanish final, so she got this reinforcement that things work out if you do your best to prepare.
Being a braggart is different than being positive. Luck always runs out
“TikTok…is a cesspool for toxic trends of all kinds.” Someone said it. 👏🏻
TikToxic…
I mean all social media is pretty toxic. Instagram and reddit are just as worse as TikTok
It's twitter for illiterate people.
Hmm i disagree. If you know how to use them, IG and Reddit are far less problematic in my opinion...@@stephanychocolate6227
@stephanychocolate6227 but tiktok is by far the worst. There's still terrible stuff on there with terrible people, and nothing is done about it since it's mainly operated by ai at this point
Honestly, there is merit in reframing your experiences into a positive and cultivating gratitude for when small things go your way. I bet if the restaurant those girls went to was closed, they would have found something else to eat and found a reason that “everything works out for me.” Additionally, not worrying about things you CAN’T control can reduce distress.
Can it be toxic? Absolutely. If you’re so positive that you can’t recognize you’re in a bad situation, that’s dangerous.
All things in balance ❤
Came here to make a similar comment. Having a positive outlook can be a good thing but like you said, it’s about balance.
Yes, this is what I wanted to say. You just said it better 💁♀️
100% agree! This was an incredibly well thought out and worded response!
It also breeds a complete lack of empathy for other people who truly don’t have great luck or who are doing everything right but bad things happen anyway
@@Chels-fz5uqcame to say that.
Too many times this mentality ends up evolving in some form of "I got xyz and you don't, so I'm rubbing it right in your face".
No thanks.
I agree with you. Like, I used to be homeless a few years back, and when I was living in the shelter, I met people who had been in that situation for at least a DECADE, if not longer. Most of them desperately wished for life to be better and worked their butts off trying to make it so, but were severely depressed because nothing was working. Because disability, because discrimination, because the system simply failed them. "Manifestation," also known as wishful thinking, can't save you in that situation or create any major changes. Only action will, which means not only working hard, but also working to change this extremely broken/dysfunctionally designed system.
manifestation and wishful thinking are two completely different things lolol
I feel like Lucky Girl Syndrome in some of these cases can actually be attributed to Rich Girl Syndrome and Nepo Baby Syndrome. They're just in denial.
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Not to mention Pretty Girl Syndrome...
Corrrct. They don’t want to attribute their success due to someone else, so they delude themselves into thinking that they did it all because they “manifested” it.
It’s similar to the motivational speak that rich grifters use when they sell “how to get rich via mindset” courses to desperate people.
And oh look… that’s EXACTLY what she did in the end. lol
😂😂
It's this same mindset that is used against people with disabilities particularly those with invisible disablilties that if we thought more positively then our illnesses would go away. We are blamed for our disabilities because we have a "negative" attitude when in reality we are exhausted and resentful of navigating an ableist and inaccessible world that finds us expendable because of our inability to generate capital at the same level as abled people.
Preach!
Or being told “Just be happy!” as a cure for mental health. Like no Karen, I have clinical depression. And you telling me to “just be happy” is not making me feel any better.
This is me with undiagnosed ADHD. I have been labeled lazy, unmotivated, undisciplined, and ungrateful ever since I was young. I struggled with maintaining focus while I was still in school and have had a lot of trouble finding and maintaining employment ever since, and this has caused me to develop anxiety and depression on top of ADHD from having my self-esteem get crushed repeatedly over the years.
I have ehlers danlos and I do as much work in the home that I can. My attitude and drive is good but my body is not consistently good enough for consistent work. I look healthy, fit, and slim. I can't manifest my body to keep up with my work ethic. And I still hear comments that I have to "get out there" and "just try a job". I've had a job and college before, trying to meet deadlines, and I have never felt more disabled in my life. I completely overworked my body trying to do what others expected of me.
Lol if I had a better attitude my Crohn’s would magically go away 😂😂 damn! I’d better tell my other friends with terrible intestines. I’ll keep my drugs/exercise/diet/therapy thanks ❤
I am the luckiest woman, but it all was because of hard work, failing, and trying again, and never stop loving my friends and family who help me day in and out!
As my dad told me “the harder you work, the luckier you get.”
It’s always easy to look from the outside and miss all the hard work done by someone else.
Love this. Tell your dad I'm stealing it. 🙂
BUT, the more positive your mindset, the more pleasurable you are to work with, to rent to, to associate with, to consult, to.... xyz. Nobody wants to deal with nay-sayers and people who are always pessimistic. One attracts the other. And when I do well, I am more motivated to do better, thus getting better results and more motivation.
Hmmmm! I think you don’t get lucky by walking harder. For me, a lot of things have to be place for luck to happen and hard work is just one of them. I know a guy who lost his dad and he took up the responsibility of being the provider for his mom and siblings, he was doing that by working hard and he was able to feed them but that’s just very basic. He dropped out of school to work harder cos it was really getting harder for him. That didn’t look like he was getting any luck to me. But on this day he met a friend of his dad’s and he just offered something better, he accepted the offer and then went on to start working with a startup company that later rewarded their longstanding workers with Better opportunities and he was a beneficiary of that meaning he moved up the ladder and started earning well and can now help his family with ease. The luck for me in this story is where he went on the day he met his dad’s friend and also the company deciding to just upgrade the workers that have been with them for long. He would have worked as hard as possible, but the right time, the right place and the right people, that’s luck and If we are being honest, we can’t control any of those. That’s when manifestation comes in.
In the world of business : the more you educate yourself the easier it is to spot opportunities and to have the knowledge of how to operate them for a specific outcome
THIS!
My biggest issue with the theory (?) of the power of attraction, which I believe Lucky Girl to be...is the effect it has on those with unfortunate circumstances. Did the cancer or heart patient not have the right mindset? Are we to bear guilt of our misfortunes because we didn't want good fortune bad enough?
Yeah, it implies that if things are going horribly is your fault. You weren't positive enough or something.
Exactly this! My fiance has stage 4cancer...we definitely didn't manifest that
@@Julie-si3hi so sorry to read that. My husband got diagnosed last year. The amount of people that have looked for things to blame within our lives is unbelievable. Nobody asks for this. I wish you and your fiancee lots of strength and love!
This somehow reminds of something I read on Humans of NY about religion. "If a plane crashes and one person survives everyone thanks God. They say "God had a purpose for that person . God saved her for a reason". Do we not realize how cruel it is to say that if God had a purpose for that one person he also had a purpose in killing everyone else on that plane? And a purpose in starving millions of children ? For every time you say there's a purpose behind one's person success you invalidate billions of people."
yup! It implies exactly that, over and over again in the Law of Attraction book I read! It makes me so sick!
What saddens me is that the Law of Attraction (what the Lucky Girl Syndrome is based on) does work when understood and done properly, but it's been oversimplified and sold as something ridiculous. At its core, it's simply some form of self-hypnosis that shifts your limiting beliefs and reduces your tendency to self-sabotage. Because unconsciously, we only accept opportunities that we feel we're worthy of. That's why you often see people ruining promising relationships because they don't feel they're worthy of being happy. Or they believe that "relationships are hard work'. LOA is also related to concepts like the placebo effect, mirror neurons, etc. I've used it a lot to build my self worth and it's worked great. But obviously, it's only an addition to concrete actions and deep self work.
Yes!!! So true 😊
Your so correct 💯
Yes
And it is not the same as saying we won’t move ourselves towards that direction we want to see either. People usually JUMP into that conclusion when you have faith in something/someone will bless you, being you the good things or opportunities you want to see happening to you.
But it is WAY easier to plan and execute when we are not carrying a mountain of doubt, fear, shame, low self worth and limiting beliefs.
It’s like they get bother when we take strength and inspiration from a religion or philosophy, to the point of trying to scorn you about it.
But when you are speaking negative things over your ambitions and dreams, that is too hard, too unlikely, those people don’t put that same energy to motivate us and give as a better perspective.
It should basically be work hard and stay positive. There is no magic, it boils down to hard work. But the RIGHT work.
You’re communing with demons. 🙏
Lucky girl syndrome is a perfect example of 'correlation does not equal causation'. Love this different type of video! I would definitely enjoy more 😊
Almost none of them are successful unless they are scammers.
I'm amazed and thrilled how many scientists are members of this community!
LGS and success are definitely in a causal relationship. If you sell the grift of course. It's a pyramid scheme. Those that got in early could sell it for a profit. And the bloody idea isn't even new!
It's manifestation over and over again.
And of course it can work for you. If you have a positive outlook, you will focus on the positive things in your life and ignore the negative stuff.
And having loads of money always helps, OBVIOUSLY. 😂
Girl walks in traffic and thinks I'm lucky that no cars hit me , meanwhile cars are just left in wreckage everywhere having crashed, trying not to hit her as she wanders blindly into traffic. Luck or lack of accountability?
@@ashleymitrick2575the mulan scene 😂 poor crickey
4:38 this made me think of one of my favorite quotes by Sir Terry Pratchett from The Wee Free Men: "If you trust in yourself... and believe in your dreams... and follow your star... you'll still get beaten by people who spent their time working hard and learning things and weren't so lazy."
Love sir T P...May he rest in peace
love that, thanks for that quote.
It makes me think of a very simple version of this "practice beats talent if talent doesn't practice"
Lol excellent 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
GNU Terry Pratchett
I don't think this is necessarily true BUT most common because I often think of people who were just scouted to become a star or met the right person - I think it's important to also not discredit how much luck plays a part in success. It is a necessity and you can create your own luck through hard work but you may still be beaten by someone who was simply lucky. That's life too. Of course after a lucky encounter you have to put in the hard work but not everyone fully does or is talented. I'm rambling but basically YES hard work but ALSO YES good luck. I think a lot of people buying into this lucky girl syndrome do lean too hard towards wanting things to fall into their lap but it stems from deeper issues of feeling like the world is out of their hands and helplessness.
To be honest with you, I really believe that the mindset can change a lot of things in your life. I used to have social anxiety, and then I met someone who never judged others and he himself was not scared to be judged. And I said to myself, if he can do it, then why can't I? And then my whole self-confidence got a boost, and my anxiety decreased to almost 0. I was much more open with others, starting conversations with people I was not close with, never had awkward moments, and I had a whole new mindset of: I can do this.
I'm not saying that the lucky girl syndrome is correct, because of course you need to be in control of what is happening to you, but I do believe that a strong and positive mindset can change your life for the better. Mostly because the same things happen to you, but you just view them differently and in a more positive way. And that's what matters
I often tell myself: "Everything works out the way it's supposed to" because it really helps my anxiety to remind myself that I can't control certain things.
Exactly because the universe gives you what you need and it’s dependent a lot on the energy you put out
No, things don't always work out the way they are supposed to, and "the universe" doesn't have a consciousness, will, or agency so it doesn't give--or take away--anything.
Both of you are engaging in magical, dysfunctional, toxic thinking.
except when you're a teacher in myanmar and the junta come and behead you cuz you aren't on their side, or like the five million children that die each year cuz they are living in shit conditions, or when you're that Chinese factory worker trying to end your own life cuz u stuck in this concrete building working 12 hours 6 days a week for nothing.@@kadeelacayo4806
@@kadeelacayo4806the universe was created by God, it has no power in itself to do anything for you. God is the One who blesses. All glory belongs to Him.
@@freeinJesusmy unpopular opinion is that “the universe” and all the “gods” are the same thing. It’s a higher power that works in mysterious ways and which we know nothing about, but it’s a higher power connected to us somehow
I am watching this in April 2024 and she is at 218k subs. Congratulations Hannah!! Hard work pays off 😊 Well deserved!
Me too - talk about self fulfilling destiny!
Just luck... 🤡
261k!!
@@JesusisliterallyHim 267k!!!
Same.... And now 268K. Imo, there can be a nice union of hard work, positive thoughts and true belief that good things are absolutely possible, even probable in life
I don't know but I just discovered you, Hannah, last March and I cannot stop watching your vids. I only follow vloggers who put so much intellect, effort, and concern towards their followers. I admire your way of speaking and the realized you are a teacher and discovered the answer as to why you are so articulate!!!! Thank you for creating these highly informative contents!!! Vloggers like you are the ones who should earn on RUclips. Kudos!
A non-MLM video?! Girl, I love this for you!
Im here for it!!
Right!!!!!
I agree, i love hearing hannah’s takes on many things
I feel it doesn't matter what the subject is if Hannah is presenting it.
Well, it is not necessarily a non-MLM video.
In order to join an MLM you need to suspend your critical disbelief. You need to overrule logic, dismiss alternative explanations and simply hope.
This is why so many MLMs are working hard to convince you that sucess is down to mindset because without blind faith you won`t stick to what is blatantly a business model that doesn`t work for most.
I'm reminded of a lyric from a Starkid musical that's basically a Disney parody. "If you're good and you're attractive, no need to be proactive. Good things will just happen to you."
It feels like there's also an element of privilege to Lucky Girl Syndrome without having to acknowledge that privilege. That's what feels slimy to me. Maybe everything doesn't work out for other people, not because of their mindset, but because the institutions we live in systemically disadvantage those people.
Maybe if we make everyone a princess, they’ll all be lucky girls…
Omg. Thank you. Yikes with this delusional trend. 🫣🙃🫠
Fully was gonna say , I see pretty privilege- that’s what is LUCKY for them. 😏
I'm dead!!! 😂😂 The way you look at the camera and get the big eyes is too hilarious!! 😂😂😂
One thing about these mindsets like lucky girl syndrome and law of attraction that really gets me is: what do they think happens when two people’s desired outcomes are in direct conflict? What if two people who are trying to get the same job or apartment both tell themselves that they’re so lucky and they’ll get what they want? What decides which person’s “luck” is more important? Major loophole in my opinion
this is such a good take on it that I have never thought about!
Nonon, no one decide which one have the better luck ; the one who get the job is the one who wanted its the most
True @@irina-ty1336
Take all your questions to someone named abraham hicks ❤
There is a philosophy believe is that we don’t live in the same reality as others, it seems like we are in the same world but we are not
Reminds me of that scene from the first episode of friends when Ross says “I want to be married” and Rachel walks in in a wedding dress then Chandler says “and I want a million dollars!”
😂😂😂😂
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It's all about changing your thought processes, cognitive behavioral therapy. There's no "luck" to it. Thank you for deep diving into this!
Imagine if two "lucky girls" come together with conflicting interests, who will win 😂
The luckiest, of course
@@lisarighetti5385LOLL
@@lisarighetti5385 well how can you measure smth that doesnt exist
Well you shouldn't think about the other girl. You should believe you'll reach your goals, you shouldn't care about the obstacles, whether the obstacles are other girls or something else.
@@90yasamin And If the other girl is also thinking the same? 🤷🏽♀️
There's a real hubris in believing that everything you want, at whatever stage you are in your life, is what is actually the best thing for you just because you wanted it.
I agree completly!
There is a fraction of truth in "lucky girl syndrome". A positiv outlook and mindset will grant you more opportunities than a pessimistic outlook and mindset, granted equal amounts of work.
It's pretty simple, no one wants to be around someone always complaining about every tiny annoyance, I definitely wouldn't.
As someone who’s been accused of having lucky girl syndrome, I agree when you say it negates the hard work behind your accomplishments.
Affirmations do have a place in life, such as a reminder to notice the good stuff, but they don't "manifest" stuff. Affirmation just draws attention to more positive and comfortable thoughts. In my opinion as a therapist who does use affirmations with people.
True. They’re almost acting like it’s magic. It can be a positive tool for sure but it’s not a predictable spell. Lol
@@KacieOrtiz-ho4ql it’s definitely magical . Whatever energy you put out you get in
The thing I hate about things like the Secret and Lucky Girl Syndrome is that there is an emphasis on changing all of your subconscious thoughts because those negative thoughts are why your life sucks. I have horrible intrusive thoughts and have had to learn how to manage them by letting them pass over me and not ruminating on them like I used to. It's so hard. Stuff like this emphasizes that if anything bad were to happen to me it would be my fault for these negative thoughts and even more my fault if I ruminate on them.
@@tiryaclearsong421yup. It's the worst kind of victim blaming.
I like that in all of your video you ask the logical question and also reveal truth. It's a service I appreciate.
This feels like the " You must have done something wrong to get cancer as a young adult" argument but the other way around
Exactly!! Toxic af.
No that’s not how it works. The universe gives you whatever you need. If in a past life there was a situation that you have to fix before you’re able to leave earthskde that could be a reason . Y’all believe in your fairy tale Bible but not this lol
@@kadeelacayo4806 Who said that I believe in the bible? I believe in evidence-based science and not a book translated to whatever is needed at that point in time
@@kadeelacayo4806 This is toxic. The universe hasn’t given me a cure for my pain condition. So in a past life I must’ve done something wrong so it’s my fault? Sorry but fuck right off with that.
Ha! See, I consider myself a lucky girl because I've had so many near-death experiences and horrible things happen to me, but I'm *STILL ALIVE.* Any other mortal human would be 6 feet under by now.
I mean, I'm battered and damaged and I've got some organs that aren't mine and I'm missing a couple vertebrae and I'm covered in scars at 35, but I can still do most of the things I love and I'm otherwise remarkably healthy.
It is literally impossible to remain happy all the time and be positive all the time it's just not realistic we are not machines
I hardly think the problem with today’s teen girls is excessive happiness. I would much rather there be an excess of striving for cheerful gratefulness than anything else on offer out there.
It’s an exhausting expectation
Exactly. Feelings of sadness, inadequacy etc are necessary for normal emotional growth
Yup it's toxic positivity no? I hate that stuff
Watching this in August 2024 when Hannah already has over 400k subscribers 🎉 you go girl!!!
“It’s lucky girl syndrome” but I also read a heap of self development and financial books, put effort into starting a business and looked for a new apartment.
Girl you just told us how you did it 😂
right ??? like manifesting is just working towards your goal 😭 no need to call it a fancy name
@@MegaChadAnakin even worse she completely disregarded the actual work she did and called it luck 🤯 but I guess that’s what sells journaling tips or whatever she sells 😂
that’s what’s crazy though, is some of these “manifestation” girlies will post a tiktok about how they manifested all this stuff coming to them and then in the next one they’re like “my success didn’t just happen overnight i worked HARD for it”. which yes imo the purpose of manifesting is to motivate yourself to work toward a goal but the way they talk about it seems super contradictory.
This is the reason I didn’t see why it was toxic as first because I thought it was just people thinking positively then working on their lives…because that’s what she did. She read and educated herself, started her business, then found new living situations. And all the while she started thinking more positively. I didn’t see that as toxic at all but now I see how other people are getting the wrong idea about it.
This is all some convoluted form of CBT. 🌟Now for the low price of....🌟
Hi, therapist here! I am absolutely a fan of affirmations that lead to actionable change. I like when people say "this is going to be a good day" when they first wake up with the intention of seeing the best in people or having a positive mindset. You're absolutely right that the fact that it's gendered makes it so much more problematic. Lucky girl syndrome and manifestation, of course, doesn't work. No one ever would have thought it would have worked before something like tictok existed. I know very few people who have gotten good things from tictok. Also, I can't help but notice it is a certain type of girl that tell themself with a straight face that "everything works out for them". I honestly couldnt tell myself that with a straight face, too much proof to the contrary! I feel like most of the population would be in that group with me.
"I like when people say "this is going to be a good day" when they first wake up with the intention of seeing the best in people or having a positive mindset." That's not therapy, that's mindless platitudes that help no one. Yeah, being toxically positive and looking for the good in everyone feels nice until it gets you fucked over or leads to bad decisions because you just looked on the bright side. Talk therapists these days are such a joke.
@@ANPC-pi9vu dude that’s what you got from that whole paragraph?
@@ANPC-pi9vu I think the point is that you start the day with the affirmation, then follow through by actually trying to see the best in everything. My anxiety makes me catastrophise and assume the absolute worst if I let it run unchecked, but I'm lucky enough that I can claw back control by acknowledging the anxious thoughts and choosing to entertain positive interpretations of the same situations. Not everyone has the privilege of being able to do that (hell, I can't do it all the time -- even people with zero mental health issues can't). But yeah, it is hard work to get to that positive state and stay there while being kind to yourself if you can't.
Not true that this couldn't have convinced people before TikTok....the Secret got passed around as a DVD in the days of dial up. People friggin love this idea and will fall for it however it ends up in front of them.
@@ANPC-pi9vu It's akin to cognitive behavioral therapy and it's actually quite effective for depression and anxiety. You still have common sense and can take it too far into toxic positivity but it's absolutely affective in helping change someone's mindset and the way they see the world. You can be the complete opposite where paranoia and believing EVERYONE is out to get you, and that's not really all that great either. I speak from both my studies and also from what I've used for myself, positive mindsets aren't meant to blind you...they're meant to try and remind you that maybe life isn't actually as terrible and you aren't actually as awful as you think you are. This Lucky Girl manifestation nonsense is definitely not what I think the OP here was talking about in their statements on positive mindset and mindless platitudes.
This sounds so much like the things Zig Ziglar taught back in the 60s! Here's a quote: You were born to win, but to be a winner you must plan to win, prepare to win, and expect to win. -Sharon
I love how that $300+ check had to be cut and mailed days before she received it, but she credits her wishful thinking for its existence. Girl! It was already in the mail!
And she got interest! Yea that didn't happen.
If she'd stopped before adding "they even gave me money for how long it took" I would have believed it but ain't no way anyone is paying you extra because they're THAT sorry.
or she was lying
@@masteringfibromyalgiaa genuine possibility
She's straight up lying. It's only missing something like "and then the CEO of the bank showed up, announced that I'm a queen of the world now and I'm able to prosecute the scammer and then everybody clapped"
One of my favorite RUclipsr/Instagramers I’ve been following for over 5 years started doing this “lucky girl syndrome” trend and I feel like her entire personality and content is changing (and not in a good way) and I kinda stopped watching her because of this garbage she keeps pushing. Thank you for bringing this trend to light.
It can be quite shocking when this sort of thing happens and so many people get sucked in by it.
Who?
There are a few realities at play that are totally separate from luck but are a real result of mindset and emotions. If someone is more positive and more confident, they do tend to get more opportunities. They may get promoted at work, or get a date, etc because positive and negative emotion affect the way we act and speak. Ultimately, the way we act and speak affects how those around us interact with us. Pure cause and effect, not luck.
Based on experience, I’d say that one danger of telling yourself that you’re lucky or in a lucky streak is that it primes you to leap at “opportunities” or potential romantic partners who seem to pop up movie style, looking shiny and new. Maybe the job or the person is as free of flaws as you want to think and maybe not, but feeling lucky should not make you skip the critical thinking and investigation.
It sounds exactly like the book "The Secret" that was popular about 12 years ago. Also, "syndrome" sounds like an affliction, a disease or unhealthy condition. (Or the villain in The Incredibles. 😂😂😂)
This video fits perfectly on your channel, Hannah! I'm very glad you addressed this!
Hope you, your little one, and your husband are all doing well! ❤
Exactly the first thing I thought. And "The Secret" is already a new interpretation for the law of attraction. This is just old stuff being revived over and over again.
Thank you, Hanna, for the quality of your service. I seldom consume social media content, usually only tube videos (generally documentaries, some old Italian 50’s films and entertaining stuff) but you’ve got me twined with this socio/anthropological study of yours. The lucidity of your thoughts and criticism, the choice of the contents and your analysis is very helpful to understand what’s going on out there in this mad world. Also, your propriety of language is pretty stimulating into learning more and dive into English language. Keep up the good work! I have the feeling we are surrounded by people who has too much time and too less consistency and you are quite opposite for what I can see. Thanks again. All the best.
Silvia
P.S.: greetings from the Alps!
"I went looking for confirmation bias and I found it" syndrome
I feel bad for all my fellow OCD sufferers who fall into this thought trap. I literally JUST talked to my OCD therapist last week about how toxic this idea on social media can be especially for anxiety and OCD sufferers. It definitely was for me.
I have OCD and agree. I feel so guilty because the last year I put in practice this trend and others like subliminals for manifesting/LAO all that kind of stuff, the results was a high increment of anxiety and depression with horrible thoughts. This type of practice it's not for me and I feel bad for believe in that.
I was thinking while watching that this “lucky girl” mindset lends well to magical thinking
Yup, as a person with OCD my "manifestation" era (4+ years ago at this point) was very stressful and painful. It got real crazy when I caught myself thinking I was literally keeping my loved ones alive by "protecting" them with my thoughts
Ocd girl here. I hear you ❤
it works just the same as thinking negative thoughts all the time it attracts more crap, it’s so much better to think positive than negative in constant anxiety is a very bad habit that can stick in your mind for years so it’s so much better to practice this mind set young as possible
thoughts don't attract anything. why? because no one know can hear them. if you went to therapy for anxiety you would never say that. it has nothing to do with suppressing negative thoughts. thats just insulting don't use other peoples issues as justification for your own.
@@ayahlin no one has to hear them, a negative thought has a vibration or energy as does a positive thought and both send a different vibration to the universe, there was an experiment done on this using water you can check out Dr Emoto’s water experiment that documents the effects of thoughts and written words have on water.
Honestly, I love hearing your perspective on things and you always thoroughly research and educate yourself about whatever topic you're speaking on. By all means, I would adore more commentary type video such as this as long as you're comfortable and interested in making it
This means a lot to me, thank you for your support!!
i agree!
Hi Hannah! Thanks so much for talking about this. I'm a little older than you, and I fell for 'The Secret' circa the year 2000. Looking back on it now? It makes me angry that I was convinced that magical thinking would take care of my future. This thinking will help you keep a positive attitude, but it will not help you set and accomplish goals. I feel like this path held me back, because I had this belief that if I was a good person the Universe would provide.
DO have a hopeful attitude (that part is good!), but please set goals and take steps to accomplish them. No one is going to 'discover' you and make your dreams come true. HELP YOURSELF!
It’s like words of affirmations and then concentrating on the things that are good in your life.
Thank you for this dose of sanity, Hannah! The flip side of Lucky Girl Syndrome is that if you are unlucky, you just didn't want good things hard enough. If someone gets laid off, develops a serious illness, or has any other misfortune, is that their fault? Lucky Girl Syndrome is based on the idea that our desires control the universe. It's not only ridiculous, but insulting to suggest to someone who is struggling that all they need to do is be positive-- or buy someone's course-- in order to fix their real problems.
Exactly this!
Yes, it's blaming the victim.
I remember people who told me after I had lost several pregnancies that, "well, manifestation is real so you just need to think more positively next time!" So toxic and SO cruel.
@@jillk4461 what an awful thing to tell you!
I’m all for a mantra and this is one I’ve loved saying this year. It helps me reframe my thought pattern. However, I don’t think that just repeating a sentence is going to make things happen for you. For me, it’s just a way of reminding myself that no matter what, everything is always working out for me exactly how it’s supposed to.
Precisely. It’s a believing you deserve xyz and you’ll work for it. If you don’t believe you deserve it or it will be too hard, but still try with a negative thought pattern, you may feel stuck.
Me too. I struggled for a long time with negative thought patterns and sometimes believing I deserve something is just a little out of reach. Adopting this mindset lets me start out my day or activity with the attitude that, by chance and without me having to be anxious about it, I'll have a good time. I can recognize that experience, education, work, and resources still go into achieving my goals while still living my life in a way that lifts my spirits without trying. Sometimes actively trying is too much for me that day! Of course it has the possibility of becoming toxic if taken too far, but so does literally everything else.
@@jennamagdalena6608 100% I relate. Keep thinking positive thoughts, because you do deserve a good life. And those positive thoughts make inspired action a little easier ❤️
Manifestation itself is not bullshit at all. TikTok just made a good thing toxic again. If you struggle with things in life it really helps to do affirmations IF you being consistent. Maybe you struggle in school. And you tell yourself every day "I am smart" "I am diligent" Even if your don't believe yourself at first you will after a few times. Same with you believed that your are NOT smart because you and other people told you so often. And you will start to act on this affirmations. There are logical explanations why affirmations help you alot. Many of our issues come from negative affirmations we tell ourselves every day like "I am not good enough" I really recommend doing affirmations to everyone who struggle with certain things in life. But PLEASE don't get your informations from TikTok. There are really good books about it. Even for the ones who think it's esoteric. Books where it's explanaed why this works and how it works in your mind.
The trend seems to be very naive. Their "luck" is either a common sense or coinsidence. It's all also connected to a privilege to be more "lucky" than others. The noodle video was hard to watch because of eating and talking over each other.
Dummies
I love your point about how there is a certain privilege to this lucky girl mindset, because there are many people in disadvantaged situations who can’t just wish themselves out of it and it’s so harmful to have people telling them “oh, just wish it better!” 🙄
@@JaimeLeighArt Yeah, I feel like it's really telling that the people I've seen going on about "lucky girl syndrome" tend to be young, thin, and conventionally pretty. Yeah, of course things probably tend to work out okay for them. People tend to be nicer to you if you fall into those categories, cause, y'know, ageism and fatphobia are things. It is literally privilege.
They triggered my misophonia so bad! Either talk, or eat, but don't shove a load of noodles in your gob and then try to talk.
@@Acquilla7 totally agree!
A lot of the stuff pushed by the “manifestation girlies” can be so harmful to some people too. Not even just in a toxic positivity way, but as someone who deals with intrusive thoughts, being told “oh what you think will become real and the energy you put out will come back” is literally my worst nightmare, and when I’m dealing with those thoughts, that idea has caused me to spiral further into it. I think positive affirmations can be a useful tool, and trying to keep a positive mindset isn’t even an inherently bad thing. But when you start getting into “your thoughts will become real if you believe hard enough”, you start to get into some dangerous and low-key thoughtcrime-y feeling territory.
I think this perspective is super important, thanks for sharing
Oh my god yes
I saw this a couple months back and I kind of interpreted and utilized it on a different way. The positive self-talk definitely made me feel good which gives me boost to work on the things I need to work on. I didn't think that things will magically happen, it's the same as manifesting when you try to ground yourself when you were having the panic attacks. But for me, it was more of a starting point to act on the things I should be doing to get what I want.
Never will I ever think that saying and imagining things will give me the results that I want and it will be an insult to attribute my success to me just saying things. It's always a variety of factors, it's just sad that it's being oversimplified.
The idea of manifestation ended up sending me spiralling from OCD recently! While homeless, I got really fixated on this idea that if I was too hopeful about something I’d lose out and be really disappointed, but if I wasn’t hopeful enough I’d be manifesting bad energy and lose out because of that - it was an absolutely horrific spiral and triggered by a friend who posts a lot of this positive mindset manifestation stuff
I'm so sorry to hear that, sometimes we tell ourselves that it's all our fault because at least that's better than not being in control at all.
I hope you're doing better! ❤
"Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you" (1. Peter 5:7)✝🤍
I’m so beyond sick of law of attraction, manifestation, subliminals etc etc
If you want something work for it - sitting around “feeling like you already have it, so it’s yours” is going to lead you down a path of sore disappointment.
It’s also quite entitled to feel that you deserve everything and all you have to do is wish for it and it’s yours.
Hard work and earning your achievements is how you end up feeling accomplished, not writing down “I will have my dream job by 2024”, shoving it under your pillow, “forgetting about it”, not doing any work to actually GET your dream job (just willing it into existence lmao)
If it was true we would all have exactly what we desire. I'm sick of it as well.
@@LisaHarvey16 the thing I don’t get is, even if you practice LoA and end up getting what you’ve “manifested” wouldn’t you feel kinda undeserving knowing it wasn’t something you worked for, the “universe” just “handed it to you”? (It was luck lmao but for the sake of the people who practice LoA we’ll just say universe)
I know I would feel totally undeserving of receiving something I hadn’t worked for! 🤷🏻♀️
Somewhere a single parent with chronic pain, working several jobs works harder than others just to get out of bed in the morning. "Hard work" is subjective.
Just a new twist on the health and wealth gospel fad.
@@lallana2882I understand what you’re saying but that woman you’re describing is still working and doing so to the best of her ability. That is hard work!
Working hard at anything isn’t going 100% guarantee you’ll get something out of it, but the only other alternative is not working for anything and just hoping it lands on your lap.
I know people are in difficult positions and doing their best, but that’s the point, they’re doing their best, therefore they deserve any reward they receive from that work (a paycheck, promotion etc), and if you don’t receive those things then you don’t, it doesn’t always mean you’re not working hard enough, it’s just life and sometimes you’re not always rewarded for the work you do, however it’s still commendable in comparison to those who sit around refusing to do ANYTHING to achieve a goal (and goals can even be something like rearranging your cupboards once a month, or going for a walk/run if you’re able to, reading a book a month etc) it doesn’t mean you have to go past your physical or mental capabilities, it just means doing your best, and that looks different for everyone!
Manifestation is a fancy word for the first step ofgoal setting: visualization. When done properly, goal setting begins with visualizing the end result. You don't just put it out in the universe, though... you actually take steps to work towards the goal. Proper manifesting starts with visualization and then requires planning and effort to take the next steps towards your goal. You can't just rely on luck and the universe.
This is the antithesis of an MLM, which tends to say that no one just gets lucky, It's all hard work and everyone has the same opportunities.
They are two completely different sides of the same coin... Lucky girl syndrome on one side and hustle culture on the other. Everyone has gotten to where they are thanks to a little bit of luck (sometimes good or sometimes bad luck) and some work (sometimes fruitful and sometimes fruitless work).
To deny luck is to say that everyone is in charge of their own destiny which we know to not be true because bad things happen to good people. But to believe only in luck is equally ridiculous, because you have to put effort into achieving your goals.
Why can't we have a middle ground people?!
"Good luck" is a mindset. If you're in a car accident, you're either A: lucky you weren't hurt or B: unlucky the accident happened; for example
My husband & I are gonna start saying we are so lucky, everything works out for us consistently for a few weeks. I'll let you guys know if his cancer or paralysis disappears 😂😂😂
I hope he gets better.
@jdelacruz1058 thank you!!! Oddly enough, we learned his Leukemia is in remission yesterday!!! Still in the wheelchair though. Lol
@@paigeharms1991That’s such great news!!!
@Alaeryn thank you!!! Hopefully this time it will last!!!
Keep a brotha posted 😂
It feels like the mirror image of 'i got everything through hard work, no luck or privilege or anything whatsoever'.
imo most successful people are somewhere in the middle: some hard work ~and~ some good luck.
This kind of gives "I prayed that God would allow me to find a parking spot at the mall and one opened up, but he didn't help that kid who was praying to stop being abused"
Which is totally nonsense as the Bible says that bad things can happen to us ALL. Prayer for such personal things and benefits doesn’t work as they don’t align with Gods purpose. I know this from Bible study 😂😅
God is not Santa.
He does both
And people who pray think is is totally different lol. I just can't... 😂
Praying doesn't work that way
It started out as more of a count your blessings movement. At the end of each day looking back and saying out loud , " this thing happened today I am so lucky" like I got a free coffee or whatever
It’s fun to be watching this a year after you made it and hear you talking about hoping for 100k subscribers, now that you’ve flown past that goal. Good job manifesting all that success out of thin air! 😂
I don't hate this trend at its core. I used to study psychology so I have a smudge of knowledge on this topic. This way of thinking could reframe one's experiences and seems to be the antithesis of the "only bad things happen to me"-mindset, which is linked to learned helplessness and depression. As one of the girls mentioned: she used to believe that she wouldn't manage certain tasks (aka "jinx it") and that seemed to impact her motivation poorly. Thinking "hey, I *am* lucky and this *will* work" could help your motivation and reduce stress. The lucky girl syndrome sehr adjacent to positive psychology, which has many wonderful qualities.
However, just like positive psychology, there can be some downsides. From what I learned at uni, the ideal way of thinking would be positive and believing one is in control - as Hannah says, you can't just sit back and do nothing. People without credentials selling courses/books/etc. on mental health will also always be a big red flag.
But all in all, believing that good things will happen to you and treating the world and yourself accordingly (aka with kindness and enthusiasm) seems nice and a good break from hustle culture
When ”things work out for us” also doesn’t mention having advantages in life in general for those things to work out. Things like parental support, where they live, skin colour, where they went to school, the actual hard work……. Oh my
This.
exactly. exactly!!
I was thinking this same thing. What a place of privilege those noodle girls must come from. Their top worries are getting the bedroom they want and that the noodle restaurant is still open. The lack of perspective is staggering.
This exactly
@@rebelbelle1388good point!
I have recently discovered your U-tube channel. Your comments regarding the topics on MLM’s, influencers and tick-tock videos are well presented and make common sense. Honestly, I don’t understand why you don’t have a million subscribers!! I am a huge fan already ❤
I haven't finished the video yet but I want to put my two cents in anyways. "Everything works out in the end" is my mantra too because, in my life, that's how it goes. That does not mean I don't work for what I have and want; I do and it's hard but worth it. It's more of a reassurance for the difficult times: everything might not be okay right now, but if I keep working and going towards what I want, I'll get there. I'm not lucky but everything works out in the end because I work my ass off for it. Saying it just reminds me of how much things have changed for the better and how much they will in the future.
This
Watch the video
This exactly
I would bet money that the “clothing company” the first girl talked about is an MLM.
Lol! My thought was that she mentioned $10K in sales. Cool. And what is your PROFIT? Because if you're not factoring in operating costs and taxes, that number is going to sound way higher than it actually is.
Ether that or just a Redbubble account or similar.
I'm guessing dropshipping bs actually
💯. I immediately didn’t believe her that she actually has companies 😂. There’s no way.
This kinda reminds me of Scientologists using Thetan Power to get good parking spots and make street lights change to green.😂😂
At my last job I woke up one day and immediately was engrossed in a feeling of dread that the day was not going to be a good one. When I got to work it was just that, so much happened and it was terrible. I was telling a coworker how I had a strong feeling the day wasn’t going to be good and she told me that I manifested the toxicity 🙄
More like you felt it coming 😂👌🏻
😂
Or the toxicity finally got to you.
That is more likely, in my opinion at least
Totally agree, Hannah. Affirmations helped me overcome my panic attacks with driving after an accident. They never did anything to impact my financial and personal goals. In fact, affirmations about habits I wasn't doing mad me feel guilty and demotivated!
Affirmations helped me too with my driving anxiety.
I started doing something “similar” to this because I had seen some manifest videos, but i literally just thought it was changing your mindset to look for the good in life instead of the bad all the time. So whenever I started getting angry or upset about things I start going through a list of things I’m thankful for in my life and why I’m so blessed and lucky.
The inverse is feeling like you're a magnet for bad luck. I've met a handful of people over the years who always seemed to be having bad luck, but then I finally realized they didn't take care of their stuff-whether that be possessions or just things you need to do in adult life. Doing nothing will get you nowhere!
That’s not exclusively why people run into hard times, but you’re correct. In psychology, this is referred to as the external locus of control. The person does not see themselves as the arbiters of their own fate, instead seeing massive outside forces beyond their control as the culprit for their misfortunes. In an extreme sense, this is the person who has an excuse for everything, or their social relationships suffer chronic collapse but it is always someone else’s fault. Men ain’t shit or these hoes ain’t loyal.
The inverse is called the internal locus of control but this has a spectrum. It’s not inherently good. Someone with a primarily internal locus of control holds themselves responsible for their behavior and the outcomes they create. Someone with an extremely internal locus of control disproportionately blames themselves for everything that goes wrong.
Balance is important. Sometimes shit happens. Sometimes you bring something on yourself. Embrace neither in habit, but continue to think critically and try to understand what is within your control despite even the most overwhelming circumstances.
19:48 how did this girl who said she was sick of struggling financially suddenly afford her dream apartment, open a clothing store, and have the funds to start traveling???
😅 you described me
I think by believing you're inherently lucky you overcome the fear of trying new things, like starting your own business, because according to your new belief there are no risks, and if you try there's a chance you will succeed. and that's probably the only way this might have worked for her and for everyone who believes in this.
Also she sells those ideas.
you're more likely fail by believing risks don't exist than someone who takes measures to avoid the same risks
@@ayahlinMight depend in your starting point. An overthinker with no trust in themselves may need that leap of faith to actually start doing and not losing faith if failing.
She’s a content creator
If you have read the book "power of your subconscious mind" , it is very interesting... but labeling it lucky girl syndrome is just 🤮🤮🤮
I never realized people were actually taking this seriously. As someone who struggles with anxiety, my personal take away was always “hey, I’ve done all that I can with this situation and I can’t let myself fixate and worry about it anymore, it’s out of my hands.” Which is more of a therapeutic technique I’ve been using for years to help my anxiety.
Agreed. I use similar mantas for positive reframing of what already exists in my life. Hopefully that’s what most people use this for.
Thank you for your service haha. I am not on tik tok and I am also European, but here are two things: I am literally struggling while watching those very short tiktok videos. this kind of so called ‘peer culture’ when creators talk like average people to average people about wishy washy concepts. My brain melts. The other thing is how they only talk about manifesting material things. They are not lucky to have the love or health but apartments and noodle. This is interesting point I think, how surface level this concept is.
its a great stress reliever tbh especially during tough times ... its like when someone points out a yellow car even though there is only one car but you start seeing several ... its a great outlook.
Your reaction to these videos on TT is hilarious. You're calling them out but in the most polite, logical way and I love that. "She's not just sitting Criss Cross Apple Sauce in the middle of a room manifesting....." HAHAHA
I just got a new job. I was under qualified but applied anyway, not because I'm "so lucky and get what I want", it was closer to "well I have nothing to lose and they won't call me anyway." But I worked hard on my interview, and I've worked hard in school to get to where I am so even though right now I don't have the qualifications, I will. This isn't me being lucky, it's work paying off.
The thing is, we live in a social stew. The woo woo bits about magnetism and “energy” can be dismissed as nonsense, but the fact that changing your mindset has social effect, including ones that benefit you and clear the path towards what you want to accomplish….that is observably true….and not because of woo woo stuff, but because we are social creatures and the people we interact with respond to the social signals we send out. If those signals are “I’m a sad disaster just waiting to fail again” people tend to not pull you into their fold, if you signals are “I’m s cheerful optimist looking for my next opportunity” people tend to gravitate towards you and want to help you succeed. That goes for jobs, apartments, dating, etc.
a bigger issue with this in my opinion is luck can’t be taught or created, but when someone doesn’t get what they want, they are taught they must not be trying hard enough or manifesting hard enough. And when oppressive systems make it impossible for someone to get what they want, it’s the individuals responsibility for their bad outcomes
Exactly! Thank you for saying so!
The dopamine rush I get with a new Hannah video 🥰 Also, I "lucky girled" this video into existence... or maybe this is your routine video release schedule 😆😉
love your videos! ❤
i’m surprised that none of the videos you showed claimed that lucky girl syndrome can heal cancer or other diseases. because i have read that about the law of attraction and it is SO dangerous
My favorite podcaster talks about this. She would be considered to be in the manifestation world. I love her because she talks about manifestation is nothing if you don’t take actual action steps. The universe (or whoever you believe in) is a co creator with you. You have to work together. Affirmations also help me when I am feeling down and unworthy.
What's the podcast called?
"For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11❣✝
Exactly. That's one of the most important markers of a decent teacher - they don't tell you that there won't be challenges and that you can forever be idle. You still have to do things, but with a different mindset
I'm going to start calling myself a Lucky Girl. I got my rent-controlled apartment because a friend worked for the company that owns my building. 15 years later I got laid off from my job. I told my landlord I would be out of town for two weeks and she asked why. Five minutes later she offered me a full time job. I'm now the bookkeeper for the company. My commute is about 30 seconds. So the luck has taken nearly two decades 😂
I feel like I have the same sort of "luck" (except I'm Christian so I attribute it to God's work)
My husband chose between 2 similar apartment buildings. A year after moving in we had a baby and a year later my maternity leave was finishing up and we realized it was gonna be tight if I didn't go back to work. That's about when the landlords approached me asking if I was interested in taking over managing the building while I continued to stay home with my daughter.
We moved across the hall into the manager unit (3 bedroom) had 2 more kids and I have been able to help our house financially by managing the building while still being home with our kids. I feel blessed but I guess it means I'm a "lucky girl" lol
@@kaitlinjohn3625I love when God moves in that way.
Whatever you look for you find. For people who store up grievances, they will always find more examples in their life. This is what it reminds me of. If a girl focuses on all the examples of when life turned out well for her, maybe she is training herself to have a more positive mindset and/or also disregarding the times things don't work out.
I don't believe in the "lucky girl" or "manifesting" an outcome, just wondering how much these two thought processes might contribute to it.
It feels like this could be a good thing for mental health if you flipped things around and had the affirmation AFTER the good thing, instead of trying to have it BEFORE. If you're someone who experiences depression or mood issues, then it can be really good to consciously recognise when good things happen to you - to stop and acknowledge them and reflect on them. So if you had a positive affirmation that you say to yourself after you experience good things (even if they are as mundane as the noodle place being open) it can help keep you from obsessing over everything that ever goes wrong in your life. The problem is trying to imply causality and suggesting that saying these magic phrases will MAKE the good stuff happen.
For sure! My therapist recommended that after something good happens, it’s nice to remind yourself that you put in the effort to help the good thing along.
Totally agree
Exactly! Like affirmations aren't magic spells they're mindsets
Anything can become negative if critical thinking is not applied to it. Affirmations are about saying the things you want out loud until they become true, and a lot of hard work goes into both saying those things out loud and working hard to make them happen. Every person who's looked in the mirror and told themselves they're beautiful, for even a week will tell you that these things make a real difference. When I'm down and something good happens, even like finding a good parking spot, I tell myself I'm the luckiest girl in the whole world and it honestly changed how I approach every single aspect of my life. Sometimes I get lucky, but saying these things to myself has taught me to see a lot of things in my life as new opportunities and now I make my own luck. And it's taken a really long while and a lot of hard work to get here. Words just help and they're free!
Mindsets surrounding “manifestation” has always, in my experience, associated heavily with victim blaming type mentality and the insinuation that people deserve the bad things that come to them solely because their attitude etc. Practicing gratitude and not dwelling on the bad can certainly help your mental health and that is important but to equate that to moral high ground is really narrow minded. 39:14
As someone who believes in, and is struggling with, positive affirmations, this was well thought out and explained. Thank you. Also, you mention your goal of 100k followers in the video. 1 year later and now at 436k. Congrats on quadrupling + your goal... you lucky girl.
As someone who was DEEP in an MLM for 5 years, they love to push this “lucky girl, manifestation woowoo” crap. Although I believe that having a healthy and positive mindset can be beneficial, falling into this type of “lucky girl syndrome” territory can lead to so many negative effects. I’ve seen first hand this toxic positivity lead to the belief that I wasn’t good or “lucky” enough to succeed despite all my hard work in an MLM. Thank you for touching on this subject Hannah!
It's great that you got out and can now recognize the signs.
My now ex believed he should get whatever he wanted. If he didn't, for example being a big time sales person in real estate, he blamed me as not being positive. It abrogates personal responsibility.
I'm glad to see you do a video on this. As someone recovering from evangelical religious trauma and having adopted some pagan ideals all the way back in 2009. With the surge recently of witchy and pagan stuff I was excited that I might find some more resources and contacts and "my people." So, a couple of years ago I started looking on twitter and ... it was honestly the same type of stuff as I was raised with in my parent's religion. A lot of prosperity gospel and this, say what you want and it will come to you. I haven't finished your video yet, so I don't know if you say this but the worst part for me is:
IF IT DOESN'T WORK FOR YOU, IT IS YOUR FAULT.
This is the same thing the church taught me with praying. I was taught to ask god "in Jesus's name" and you'll get it. But if you don't it is because either A) god decided you weren't ready or worthy, or B) the devil is stopping you and it is because either you let him in by doing something wrong, or it is what you need to do in life and you need to work harder and ask harder to get it. Either way it all comes down to, if you get what you want it is because you are good enough in god's eyes. That is the same thing here. If you didn't get it, you didn't affirm right and you have some sort of negativity that is blocking you from it. It is all rooted in the same ideals, especially putting it onto girls and women, that if you have any negativity in your life be it emotional or otherwise, you will not get what you want.
This is a long comment, sorry to anyone who reads it.
Yessss!!!! This! I grew up with a strong Muslim influence and was always told to have faith and that not doing so meant I didn't believe enough or properly and that it was an insult to God's power and love etc. This is reminding me of that but they just removed God from the equation basically. Same energy though.
@@TheYazmanian exactly! Its just a secular version of the same grift. Especially, in Christian evangelism prosperity gospel. They taught us if we wanted to have a big financial boon we had to donate to the church or tithe on a regular basis and proclaim "money cometh" and we would get rich. My parents who were scraping by were giving 15% of their income to multi millionaires in the hopes of getting rich.
Exactly, it’s a way to explain away why something good doesn’t happen when you manifest/pray for something and it doesn’t happen. It’s the whole ‘it can’t possibly be the system/god it must be you, it’s your fault that it didn’t happen’ so toxic and victim blaming.
I’m so glad you posted this, it was not too long. As someone who spent years (like since I found the LOA in 2015), thinking it was MY FAULT, I developed a very pessimistic, “I’m doomed to never get what I want” mindset. Hannah’s video and reading about your experience have finally helped me realize the fallacy of this attitude, and release some of the shame I’ve had for years. ❤
From a psychological stand point affirmations should be true. You reassuring yourself is just a reminder that you aren’t in any danger. This lucky girl syndrome is more of a hope and then you focusing all your attention on evidence that supports your hopes.
“Lucky girl syndrome” seems like a secular version of the prosperity gospel.
Also can we talk about how it’s super weird this is being called a “syndrome”? Generally speaking syndromes have a negative health or mental health association. By the actual definition I know it wouldn’t have to be, but its colloquially true. But additionally if syndromes tend to be something that just happen to you, maybe that’s where it comes from in part. It’s very weird though.
I'm loving this video!!! I come here for the anti-mlm content, but I stay for Hannah and everything else she posts. I'd love to see another vlog sometime. Hannah is my all time favorite content creator, and I support everything she posts.
Wow thank you! I’m so appreciative for your support!
100%
Same ❤ let's get #TeamHannah going!
I think there may be a useful component of the “things always work out for me” affirmation. Our brains have a really strong negativity bias, so we remember negative things much better than positive things in general. That can be deleterious to mental health. But if you’re constantly saying to yourself “Things always work out for me”, then you are specifically looking for the ways in which things work out in your favor and leveraging confirmation bias to reinforce the belief. I bet that is really powerful as a tool for countering the negativity bias. But probably only when coupled with doing what you would be doing normally rather than just waiting for things to work out.