Therapist Reacts to Taylor Swift - All Too Well: The Short Film | The Truth Doctor
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- Опубликовано: 9 июл 2024
- Taylor Swift - All Too Well: The Short Film is a hot topic on everyone's mind these days. Taylor Swift
Red (Taylor’s Version) which was "Re-recorded in meticulous detail, along with a dozen songs cut from the 2012 original, Taylor Swift’s most pivotal album has still more to say about growing up and moving forward," says Pitchfork Magazine. Speculated to be about Taylor Swift and her Ex Jake Gyllenhaal's breakup in 2010, today, Dr. Courtney Tracy takes the film and breaks down some of the key elements from the piece.
00:00 - 00:46 Intro
01:46 - 02:44 Wanting Two Different Things at The Same Time
03:02 - 03:46 Gaslighting
03:59 - 04:25 Calling People "Crazy"
04:46 - 05:24 Projection in Arguments
06:04 - 06:53 Resolving Fights too Fast
07:16 - 08:43 Age and Emotional Dysregulation
09:18 - 10:46 Truth Doctor's Final Thoughts
10:46 - 11:33 Outro
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What did you think of the short film? What came up for you when you watched it? Let me know in the comments! 👇
Folklore album reaction?
You should react to her song "Mad Woman"
It was a trigger of how things started with my husband who is abusive emotionally, etc.
I can now see how I started becoming trauma bonded to him. He is so much worse now and has caused so much devastating pain.
I can relate to what you said about not getting the time or space to process what happened or to process my emotions in reaction to what he’s done. Nothing is ever really resolved and you end up being so confused and doubt yourself all the time. I hope young women learn from this video to recognize some red flags and not end up being stuck in a horrible marriage for decades. God Bless
I think the film is a little more subtle about the fight. She was already one of the most popular stars in the world at the time of the party with his friends. So she almost certainly wasn’t totally accurately seeing the interaction feeling alone. So during the fight he is overreacting to her misperception. So they both weren’t really connecting with what was going on.
I really liked hearing your take on this song/film, but I wish we could have seen the whole thing. I didn't like the cuts. I like seeing how people react in certain, specific moments.
Hey! Loved the reaction! You mentioned saying that if him calling her crazy made her more mad and how that was an appropriate response and based on that I think you may like her song Mad Woman!
YES PLEASE DO MAD WOMAN
Thank you!!
agreed, mad woman would be amazing!
I was going to type the same thing!!!
Cool reaction and analysis! It's interesting seeing this video from a therapist's point of view.
I will say that not liking Taylor's music is okay, but you don't need to justify it by saying you aren't a girly girl. (it's a little 'I'm not like other girls' energy here)
I'm friends with all kinds of taylor fans, and the thing we all have in common is an emotional connection to her art.
This is great feedback. You’re right. It doesn’t make sense to say that. It’s not that I’m not a girly girl (again, not even something I should have said), but it’s more because I think I used to be the one who would be the hurtful one in a relationship versus the one who got hurt and so I didn’t turn to this type of music. Thanks for commenting!
@@the.truth.doctor yeah I don't think it was your intention, it's just what the outcome was. I just wanted to point that out because it's one of the things I love most about being a Swiftie. I avoid relationships and tend to self sabotage, so I understand where you're coming from. I usually take the feelings from these songs and switch the receiver of the message to whomever non-romantically matches the role in my life lol she makes really amazing songs to cry to and also dance and cry to
She also has songs where she hurt her partner too if you're interested in that perspective (afterglow, Back to December, champagne problems (not autobiographical), etc) Her songs aren't all breakup songs, she's known for capturing close vignettes of emotions in the moment of lots of different relationships and stages of love.
(I tend to ramble when I talk about music I love, so I hope you don't mind the long comment)
@@megimihaylova98 Thank you! That was really nice to read and digest. I appreciate it. I’m feeling like I will definitely listen to the songs you mentioned.
@@the.truth.doctor I went to the comments to say something similar about the "girly" comment and saw someone beat me to it, but let me commend you on your reaction. I probably shouldn't be surprised given the "therapist reacts" lens, but you don't often see that level of listening and maturity in RUclips or other social media comments/replies. I used to shy away from hyped artists/works for whatever reason, especially Taylor Swift and I deeply regret letting the media and the opinions of other people keep me from exploring her discography. Now, she's one of my favorites.
(Side note: based on some of your speaking points, you may want to check out "mad woman," "exile," and "my tears ricochet" from folklore and "happiness" from evermore. I mean, both albums are worth every ounce of the critical acclaim they've received, but in terms of your comments and reaction focus). Sorry for the length. Great video.
@@CrackedFandoms Thank you for this comment. It means a lot. I care a lot about other people’s opinions and viewpoints (not in a self-conscious way, but in an ability to grow and see different perspectives way) and I have no problem being wrong or correcting myself. I think people are afraid to be wrong, or to have acted out of character, so they defend that poor character when they could just reflect and learn. I will definitely look into those other songs. Thanks again!
I wasn't on the Taylor train until I had the song Cardigan stuck in my head for like a month so finally got the album Folklore and I am blown away by her ability to articulate emotional experiences in a relatable way. Other songs you could like are Happiness, My Tears Ricochet, Tolerate It, Seven and Marjorie - she just is able to describe and tap into really universal feelings and experiences in ways no other writer I've encountered does. I was always dismissive of her because of the soap opera fantasy quality her life seems to be, but I've really only seen that through the lens of tabloid entertainment. She lives fantastical experiences because of her wealth and fame, yes, but her writing shows she's a real person who gets the struggles to be human. If you want to understand her more, Miss Americana is also pretty eye opening. Lots of content to explore and Swifties tend to blow up channels that cover her work.
The moment she says "Why I am feeling so emotional?" conjured up in my head that "She makes me feel things!" "She makes all of us feel things!" scene from Brooklyn 99 😂
That scene is the freaking BEST. 💖
Honestly when you put it into the context of coming off of VMAs 09 that she stated in her documentary Miss Americana made her feel like an imposter “you’re only successful bc you work hard and you’re nice to ppl” - after that line they showed a clip of her playing this at the Grammys as she said “it led me to some dark places”. Imagine feeling like an imposter and then a cool, older, serious actor who seems like a nice guy wants to date you and deems you “worthy”. He doesn’t listen to your music bc “he’s more into indie stuff” and he goes to shows with only “fifty ppl- really underground”. Did he just make you feel uncool for having thousands of ppl at your shows? After he ends things and it’s “🎶three months in the grave” he comes back and acts like nothing has changed (I think baiting her with “love” and worthiness).
He’s responsible for his actions but she was also in a place emotionally where it led to the perfect storm for emotional manipulation and gaslighting.
Yes exactly!!! Thank you for sharing and commenting!
I only became a fan because of my young daughter (if you can't beat em, join em!) and I just think Taylor is a lyrical genius. Her turns of phrase have the ability to incite such empathy, she is a maestro.
As a single father, when my daughter was 12-13 she started playing Taylor all the time. I have taken her to many concerts and I too have become a fan. My daughter is now a registered ER nurse and just turned 23. When the album dropped, she rung me within an hour to ask if I had listened to any of the tracks. When this video was released she dropped over to my place and watched it with me (both of us cried - could not help it). It's been a great bonding 'thing' for us after her mother walked out when she was nine. I always made time to listen to Taylor's new songs and we would discuss the songs on the way to school. As she got older and had new friends, it has always been a connection that her and I share. Her brother who is 18 months older has no interest in Taylor, but we bond over motorbikes, fishing etc. For me, if we did not have Taylor in common, it would have been very hard for me to have stayed connected to her during her teenage years.
@@Mark.Brindle this is one of the sweetest things I’ve ever read
@@breico8535 Thank you so much! I had a lot of strange looks from people the last 10 years, I don't care, having a deep connection with my son and daughter was the only thing I cared about.
Yes! She’s really impressive.
@@Mark.Brindle Why did you stop posting your aerial/bird's eye videos? Is it okay to repurpose them on Social Media?
I’ve been in a relationship like this. He’s compartmentalizing her. He doesn’t want her to be part of the other parts of his life. He wants to use her to feel good, and is mirroring her to give her what she wants so that he can use her. So while she falls in love with him because he’s pretending to be mister perfect, he’s not falling in love and he puts up bullshit boundaries to maintain his “space” and intentionally hurts her to keep her in this compartmentalized space he’s created. Like ditching her on her birthday, ignoring her around his friends etc.
I’m actually surprised she still trusts people after this
After being in a year long relationship with a much older guy when I was 17, this video hit me so so hard because you don’t see the manipulation when it’s happening to you a lot of the time. I didn’t realize until months after we broke up. And the actors did such an incredible job portraying all of those emotions ❤️ thank you for your reaction!!
How old was that guy if I may ask.
You’re welcome!
@@bella.m266 30 and the girl is 19 I believe
@@acetales148 Bella was asking Pagie for the age...
Fun fact: that fighting scene was improvised. Taylor just couldn't stop the camera and kept filming them as their performance was so magnetic
The way that she told Taylor it’s ok and normal to get angrier - Mad Woman (great song)
Oh my God you just made me realize some thing that never fully occurred to me. How many times I gave in in an arguments… To take all the blame… Just because I wanted that emotional comfort from my former partner. And throughout our entire relationship he kept being in denial about his part because I would always give in because I craved that comfort from him.
It’s such a difficult battle when the one who hurts us can be the one who comforts us :(
You know as a swiftie, when i read these stories i cannot help but think of her songs that tackle these exact points...
So I would recommend you to listen to Better Man and tolerate it by taylor...
some men are just bastards with emotional manipulation. With that said, women do it too.
@@davepastern Well I was doing thing that were toxic too. It is just I was usually the one to admit it and take all the blame. So Every time something happens it was always 100% my fault and I was always the issue and it was rarely ever him. Or anytime he would take blame he would say well I only did that because of how you were acting. I don't know if he was being manipulative or if he was just very distorted in his thinking
On another note: I feel like Folklore and Evermore would be a goldmine for reaction videos from a therapist's point of view. Some songs that come to mind: This Is Me Trying, My Tears Ricochet, Illicit Affairs, Champagne Problems, Tolerate It ("I know my love should be celebrated / But you tolerate it"), Happiness.
On Folklore, there's also a trilogy of songs that essentially tell the story of a love triangle from each person's perspective ("Cardigan," "Betty," and "August") which could also be interesting for a video from your POV.
The thing that gets me is that this about a relationship that was only 3 months old and they'd spent time apart in those months. I just know that this kind of attachment after such a short time would cause me to be wary about love bombing and what might happen when that period ends, and cause me to withdraw emotionally. I would probably react in a similar way as him to push them away to a more 'safe' distance.
When she said “I’ll eat a gummy to get through this” I did, as a swiftie, get a little mad. But I got over it because I watched the miss Americana vídeo too
Loved hearing your take on this! I had the same thoughts throughout the fight, but I’ve been seeing a bunch of guys taking Dylan’s characters side and completely missing the red flags in it and I was starting to think I was CRAZY lol
I was never a Swiftie...
Not really... Liked a couple of her songs... I'm almost 59 years old by the way...
But then I watched her short movie.. it really moved me... And now I find myself watching more of her videos...
She's really special..
I LOVE THIS VIDEO!
I became a Swiftie overnight, after hearing this song and seeing this video. Absolute emotional masterpiece. Her lyrics and way of bringing us there while we all feel this in our own lives and memories is unparalleled. I’m so with you
He is 100% absolutely gaslighting her.
I'M SO GLAD YOU DID THIS!!! I think you'd be so pleasantly surprised with more of her work. And I think you'd love listening to her song Mad Woman
Taylor has a song, Mad Woman, with the lyrics:
Every time you call me crazy
I get more crazy
What about that?
And when you say I seem angry
I get more angry
And there's nothin' like a mad woman
What a shame she went mad
No one likes a mad woman
You made her like that
And you'll poke that bear 'til her claws come out
And you find something to wrap your noose around
And there's nothin' like a mad woman
Think that's about KK and her over the phone thing myself. I have always taken the "Mad Woman" to be Taylor in this instance.
If this film, coupled with Dylan's excellent acting, closely represent one of Taylor's old boyfriends (and I have no reason to think it doesn't), then the guy was a manipulative, gaslighting, insensitive, selfish jerk (at least part of the time). I feel so very awful and sad for Taylor that she experienced such horrible events and terrible feelings as part of her relationship with this guy. It was a gut wrenching story to watch. Even a somewhat stoic guy like me couldn't help but get emotional.
I love how you're interacting with people in the comments and taking everything so reasonably and positively.
Your points in the video definitely co-relate with her song Mad Woman and the documentary Miss Americana A LOT! as the people here already mentioned 💙
I really liked this short film! I started as not really a Swiftie too but this video changed my mind. ♥️
❤️❤️
aaaa you should listen to this is me trying. it’s entirely about struggling with one’s mental health and somehow keeping it together. it would be very nice to see an actual therapist’s perspective/opinion on it!
i’ll link the live version of it where she briefly describes the theme of the song as well in case you would be interested in giving it a listen!
ruclips.net/video/yL_bdb3PtaM/видео.html
Thank you so much!!
Taylor's lyrics are pure art
Thank you Truth Doctor for your reaction. I like at the beginning of your video, you're like "I'm not a Taylor Switft Fan" and then later you ask "Swifties, am I supposed to be this emotional?" That was classic. I have not always been a Taylor Swift fan but as I hear more and more about what a great story-teller she is, I am getting more into her music. I really like that she stuck the middle finger to the dudes who kept her masters and she re-recorded her old stuff and added BONUS content, e.g. Red which I still need to get. Go Taylor! I do have a question for you, Truth Doctor. When a guy gaslights you like that and makes you think you are taking things way out of proportion, can there be truth in that? My guess is yes to some degree. But I wonder what the perfect comback would be in the moment. Cynthia
LOVED your commentary on this video, but so bored of the 'I'm not a girly girl' statements that seem to go hand in hand with liking Taylor Swift. Not on that internal misogyny vibe, that suggests that loving Taylor is inherently 'girly' and therefore a bad thing, because we've been conditioned to believe that Taylor is being 'emotional' when she sings about her past loves - and that 'showing emotion' is a feminine trait that is not cool and something to be distanced from.
You wouldn't say that about any other male artist that sings about their breakups - 'I'm not a girly girl', you only say that about Taylor because she's a woman. The 'I'm not a girly girl' goes hand in hand with the 'I'm not like other girls' PICK ME vibe.. All of it sexist at its roots, to pit women against each other.
Taylor is an incredible lyricist and storyteller. Her music is so honest, it feels like you've lived it. That's why I'm a so-called 'Swiftie'. Girly, or otherwise
Hi! Thank you for the commentary. I have addressed this in several other comments. You’re right! I’m excited to react to another Taylor video because I am now so impressed with her music and see it as art. Reflecting on it more, when Taylor’s music first came out, I was really young and there was completely a “only girly-girls” like this music vibe out there, and I completely fell for it. I was a teenager the last time I spoke about Taylor Swift at all (like 15 years ago) and so the language just came out. I don’t really feel that way, in general, about any music these days. I’m usually such a nuanced person (as you can see in all my other videos). I regret this statement and you’re right to comment on it. I’ll be sure to clear it up more in the future. Thank you 🙏🏼
and there are male fans of Taylor too, not just females. Sure, we are outnumbered, but we do exist. And no, we're not all gay as some would imply. I've been a fan of Taylor's music since 2008, and I'm an older fan (52). I know of several other male fans my age, or even older.
Audrey, this comment was the sh*t! Couldn't agree more.
I’m not a girly girl and I LOVE her music, so I don’t get that reasoning at all.
get on twitter and instagram. there are an insane amount of men and boys that listen to her.
i came to make jokes about needing therapy after watching the short film, but i actually really really enjoyed your insight. you reminded me of things my own therapist has said to me, especially with what you said about emotional dysregulation. even though my own situation isn't really like taylor's, i think hearing you use it in this context kind of gives me a little bit different of an understanding of how it relates to me and my own break up
Thank you so much!
I actually love that someone with an understanding of mental health, relationships and such has made a video about this short film. It’s seriously a brilliant breakdown of a packed film
I agree with everything you said. I listened to her songs on the radio but when Folklore came out, I fell in love with it and started listening to her older music. I completely related to this situation - dated an older guy who gaslit me.
Taylor has written a lot of songs about relationships but I think the reason why this one stands out is because, again like me, Jake was probably her first love and serious adult relationship. If that was the case, how can that effect future relationships?
I'm only half way through. And like this is so interesting. Obviously every relationship is different. My partner has autism so there is difficulties with understanding emotional needs at times. But we always talk it out.
YES! Thank you! I was truly looking forward to a therapist's reaction to the fight scene. Loved this reaction!! 💗💗💗
I love watching reactions, and seeing people who are not necessarily Taylor fans realize and choke up like you did. Well done, lol. The woman is really a genius and one of the hardest working people out there. I really wasn't a super fan until "Reputation". I was aware of her, but it was all teenage stuff to me, but once Rep came out, I was really intrigued about the story behind the rage, and stated going down all the Swiftie rabbit holes. Then came the following albums, which just got better and better. Enjoy the journey! -SDK
I think as a therapist, you'll actually like how well articulated she makes songs
During the secrion when you were taking about calling people crazy, and said something along the lines of "if someone called you crazy and it made you more wild after that" it reminded me of "mad woman" by ts so much! She has a lyric that says, "Every time you call me crazy, I get more crazy" and how you explained it really tied the whole of it together. I love your reactions and commentary, Nice Job!!
Taylor and Jake, by all accounts, had an on/off relationship spanning at least 6 months. There are other songs on RED that are rumoured to be about Jake (We are never ever getting back together for example). At One point, Jake said he'd turn up to Taylor's 21st Birthday party, and didn't show. incommunicado. Absolutely unacceptable and selfish on his part and it shows that he wasn't really invested in the relationship. You missed a key part too - up until around the middle of the short film, Taylor's character was wearing a purity ring, but that is missing from the 2nd half of the short film, suggesting that she lost her virginity to Jake - a very important part in a person's life.
You also missed the important lyric:
"And I was never good at tellin' jokes, but the punch line goes
"I'll get older, but your lovers stay my age""
Jake is 40 and his current girlfriend is 25 - they've been together for 3 years now (meaning she was ~22 years of age when they got together and Jake was 37). I think this about sums up Jake's character- he's effectively using his fame to prey on younger women, using them and disposing them when it suits him (John Mayer, another ex of Taylor's is doing the same thing. Actually, so is Calvin Harris, who is another ex of Taylor's for that matter). I think this lyric has a broader, overreaching commentary, in that famous men use women, especially younger women, as trophies and prey on them, in what is, in most cases, an unhealthy relationship.
The gaslighting is a sure sign, imho, of an egotistical individual who is a control freak, specialising in manipulating their partner(s).
So will a therapist need a therapist after watching the short film?
Haha most therapists need a therapist.
The Truth Doctor Show that’s really interesting! Is that because *everyone* probably needs a therapist, or is it because your job is so emotionally draining from absorbing other people’s issues?
While the song as a whole is fantastic and super emotional...I feel it perfectly describes all of the emotions you go through from beginning to end of a relationship... the film had me in tears. The detail in the scene with his friends of him not wanting to hold her hand hit hard for me. Regardless of the situation whether it be like the one in the film for needing comfort or just sitting on the couch when it's just the two of you....those little gestures of non-intimate intimacy (if that makes any sense) are so important. Having expressed the need for that many times in my own relationship and to this day still needing it, that part of the film connected to me on a very deep emotional level.
Thank you like i was bawling my eyes out at this song and was thinking all the thing you just say and it makes me sooooo good!!!!! THANKSSSSSS!!!!!!
i really want to become a therapist so wish me good luck🥺🥺
This was a great reaction to the song and video & an amazing perspective/ assessment of the relation which ultimately is what everyone can resonate with at least one time in their life. That’s why the song is hitting people in a way that it is… especially non-Taylor Swift fans. Plus her storytelling is so on point. Thank you for sharing! Glad I came across your video, I’m now a new fan… just hit the subscribe button to follow you!
this film made me flash back to most of my breakups. but mostly my 1st relationship. i guess i had the opposite experience. i was 18 and dating a 27 year old. it was the first time a guy took interest in me and i thought an older guy meant he had his shit together and was financially independent. this was all true. he never pressured me to be intimate, never ONCE made me feel bad about anything. I did breakup with him because of age. my friends and family gave me shit. i wasn't in love with him so i thought their approval was more important. im 34 now and for all those years, he has contacted me on and off asking if im single or trying to friend request me on social media. (so when people say Taylor shouldn't be upset after 3 months of dating because it's too short, it's not true, my ex was!)
everytime you call me crazy I get more crazy- mad woman
"if that made you act more crazy," you should hear Mad Woman by Taylor
I really enjoyed your analysis. So insightful.
Some of her songs you might want to check out: Mad Woman, Tolerate It, Happiness... all from Evermore.
Could you plz do more of how to navigate relationships and partnerships ! How to recognize a healthy relationship ? how to have arguments in a healthy way ? Like marriage now or relationships look like it's oh im a just try , and a lot dont work out .
Loved your analysis!!! What you said reminded me of another Taylor's song, "Mad Woman": Every time you call me crazy, I get more crazy, What about that? And when you say I seem angry, I get more angry. There's nothin' like a mad woman, what a shame she went mad. No one likes a mad woman, You made her like that
I'm the same. I'm also shocked to now be a Taylor fan!! Never had an issue with her and always knew she was talented...but now!!! Woo!
Hi!
I was wondering what your take is on where the girl in this short could have potentially been misguided/in the wrong in some ways with the dinner scene interaction.
I think you made a great point when you said they both wanted something different (him to see his friends and her to be comforted).
While I think his reaction was clearly hurtful because he didn’t try to see her side of things or empathize in any way, I also see how her actions weren’t the best in that she was relying on him maybe too much for her own emotional regulation?
I’ve been in/seen relationships where one member is insecure/maybe emotionally immature a bit and used their partner as a comfort in an unhealthy way, causing their partner to loose friends and family because all of their energy goes towards being the comfort for them.
When I originally watched this short I thought, “Wow, Taylor is really showing how they both messed up with this scene.” But then I haven’t really seen anybody else mention how the girl character had some issues there too.
I agree!!
I'd love to know your take on the role insecurity plays into the fight scene as I think Taylor's side stems from her insecurities and seeking validation and love. I also think age plays a role in the level of one's insecurities; Jake may not have understood her perspective because 1. he's a man and is not used to needing outright affection and 2. he is secure in himself at his age so that if he were surrounded by her friends, he wouldn't have acted how Taylor did.
Loved this reaction. Something to mention is the lyrics themselves and I think a big one being "you keep me like a secret but I keeped you like an oath" That feeling of from Taylor's perspective caring more about the relationship and being more open with it, really hit me hard and how profound that is...just brilliance
You should react to "This is me trying" by Taylor Swift. She has a video where she talks about the song and explains what it means.
the amount of people (specially girls) i'm seeing relate so personally with this film is... concerning
she was dating jake Gyllenhal when she was 20 and he was 29. Now he's 40 dating a 25 year old. there is definitely a trend of him dating younger women, so him using her age as a weapon like that feels pretty gaslight-y. I'm not a swifty but I do love her ability to tell her stories with so much emotion so well
That's rediculous. You don't have to be a girly girl to be a Taylor swift fan. A lot of straight guys love Taylor. You seem like one if those people who feel like they are too good to be a Taylor fan and those people who make judgements about Taylor without even listening about her.
Also when you are talking about making women crazy just listen to Mad woman or The Man.
Hi! I addressed this in another comment already. You’re right! It wasn’t appropriate or even the truth about why I didn’t listen. Check out my other response. And thanks for the suggestion on the song!
“Am I supposed to be feeling this emotional?” Oh, absolutely, YES! This song is one of her BEST, in my opinion. It’s the heartbreak song to end all heartbreak songs. The emotion in it is just *chef’s kiss* ❤️❤️❤️❤️
One of the big deals about the “friends dinner” scene… she was like 10 years younger than everyone at the dinner, knew no one, and he ignored her, the only person she knew
Wish you always react to Taylor Swift songs and videos because Taylor Swift is the music industry Taylor Swift everything she makes has sense and related to each other and related to her life experiences the Easter Eggs hidden messages behind her songs and videos Taylor Swift is the developer of the music theory Taylor Swift is the Shakespeare of our generation she writes most of her songs Her lyrics are iconic and meaningful and I liked your reaction from A Swifty Taylor Swift Fan
Thank you so much! This is so interesting!
Thank you for your video! Do you think the kitchen scene was a major red flag? Can someone who gaslit recognize it, make amends and not do it anymore? Can that person be trusted again?
I love the song. IMHO easily her greatest work. I have paid little interest in the video based upon TS's memories of over a decade ago. But you have offered some insights into relationships in general.
Awesome video
I'd love to hear your thoughts on the line, "You kept me like a secret, but I kept you like an oath." I think I shouted the first time I heard it because it hit so hard.
P.S. -- As someone who became a Taylor Swift fan over the course of the last year thanks to her pandemic albums (Folklore & Evermore) and who previously also thought her music was a little too girly-girl for my tastes (boy was I wrong), yes, that's what happens to new Swifties. Haha!
I really appreciated your reaction to the film. Your professional approach to the presentation is refreshing. As a video professional There was a theme that worked through the video I haven't seen others express and I hope you can comment upon. The "HIM" seems to constantly try to keep her and his feelings for her a secret. If you look at the number of shots that show their hands with fingers intertwined (which I take as a show of intimacy) while in private versus the "dropping her hand" while with his friends. And the lyric "We were always skipping town" which shows he didn't want anyone to see them together as well as "you kept me like a secret but I kept you like an oath" which I think indicates he kept her as something to be ashamed of while she felt he was something sacred. Your thoughts on these themes would be appreciated.
It would have interesting to see you breakdown the lyrics along with the scenes as they were going on.
Oh to be Sadie Sink
She did so good in this! What a great actress. ❤️
@@the.truth.doctor absolutely! :)
the therapist will need a therapist after listening to this song
Yes! Gaslighting to the extreme! Taylor Swift is actually pretty amazing - listen to more of her music and videos. They’re all good!
you would really enjoy some of her lyrics.
mad woman, forever winter, dear john, would've could've should've, theyre all lyrically incredible and have a lot of discussion of mental health, suicide awareness, mourning, grooming, its wild.
Hoping for another reaction with her recent album like folklore and evermore!
He was older in years but younger emotionally so I call him a man-child.
I call him a man-newborn LMAOOO
This short film All Too Well song about Taylor Swift story with her ex famous actor and it is written and directed by Taylor Swift The actress playing as Taylor Swift
This is very true. I would love to see one showing his perspective!
I'm a big fan of Taylor (AKA A Swiftie) I already loved the song from the first "Red" album. You wld think it cldnt get better but then you get the 10 min version....then this film! I love it because it's heartbreakingly beautiful! It's so real! Yes, there was definitely gaslighting going on. I've had it done to me in the past but I learned from it. I wld pretty much say this short film is perfection!
Lol I just watched your reaction to Miss Americana and the ending you said you're a fucking Swiftie. That and the breaking down of the video is what led me to sub so I thought I'd start from the beginning. I love seeing people actually take the time to listen to her lyrics and become a fan. Those are the types of reactions we love to see. I'm excited to get into your reactions.
I’ve been in a relationship with all these problems, with my boyfriend being eerily similar to this. What I struggled with then and still do now, is my want to make them realise what they’re doing/saying is wrong (and then stupidly backing down just for the sake of peace). The relationship is over and I still think about all the things he did that where manipulative etc and how badly I want him to realise it. It’s super hard to just accept i don’t have any control over getting ‘justice’ for that time in my life and it’s my job to move on and grow and not accept that from anybody else.
The guy sounds like a narcissistic predator, based on the age difference and his inability to understand her feelings, calling her crazy, etc.. She seemed inexperienced and it was very painful for her to go through this relationship
Me, at 21 fell in love with someone in their 29's. First real love. I as "kept like a secret" to. My age was use against me to...
Some people tried to warn me but of course I didn´t care cause I as in love. And this song just gotta me... "Cause I'm in a new hell every time you double crosse my mind".
I think the hardest part it's that because all the gaslighting I wasn't able to express all of my anger to this person. And it was like you said I was only "gaven space to undersand all of those emotions" after it was over. And thene was to late to do it...
But yes, my only regret in the relationship was not to have the oportunity to expresse my anger (ALL of my anger). But I guess in this situations "the narcisisit or whatever" doesn't give you the oportunity to do that...
If you were to expresse it they would just try gaslighting you all over again, so I guess I spared myself a headache... But..
I realy wished I had a chance to do it , it would had felt so good to get it out of my chest! (OMG!)
Cause I feel that part of why it's hard for me to let it go it's because of it, I wasn't given the oportunity to do it!
But I guess that is also what he wanted, to still have some power over me... And it is just sad that are people like that out there...........
Great perspective from you by the way, Dr. Courtney. I felt like you realy listen to the argument which from my experience not all therapist do.. Wish you great luck/ sucess.
Loved it.
Same! ❤️
Loved ur point of view. Could u pls react to her song happiness
“Is this supposed to happen, Swifties?” Yeah, that’s supposed to happen. Blondie gets us every time. There’s a part in the Reputation Tour in the I Did Something Bad performance that is just top notch in how it plays out. Highly recommend that performance.
I Love this
Enjoyed this very much. I would love your reaction to one on Kelly Clarkson's songs from her Chemistry album.
About the age gap, the age gap between Taylor and the guy this song is about was of *10 years*!! She was 20/21 and he was 30/31. (Btw he said that and his current girlfriend is 16 years younger than him)
It also shows the narcissist never really let’s go and “may” reach out for supply, Many years later.
sounds to me like she wanted to not be invisible during the night and he made her feel that way by even acknowledging she's there.
I love watching people turn into Taylor's fan
This video is old but I’m wondering if you’ve listened to Mad Woman by Taylor? “Every time you call me crazy I get more crazy…”
Are you planning on reacting to any songs off Midnights? Maybe Would've Should've Could've
Love this reaction. Swiftie here. haha
The way I loved you by Taylor Swift!!
Yassssss get on board
When you analyze Taylor Swift song and videos just figure out each simple message and detail she sends the Easter Eggs hidden messages
You should collab with Dr. Elliot Carthy
You can discuss the differences between the UK psychiatric health system and the US psychiatric health system
Since he covers a lot of American shows but views them through a British lens if you know what I mean
I came here to say she is now a "100 fcking %" a swiftie 👀 ❤
“I am not a Taylor Swift fan”
5 minutes later
*cries*
Yes you’re supposed to get emotional. That’s the Taylor effect
If you want to react to a song, I recommend the artist Aesthetic Perfection with their song Bark at the Moon
she is genius
This is based on her relationship with Jake Gyllanhal. Did you actually watch the whole video and listen to the words in the song? How can you comment before watching it through first?