It isn't but can happen to anyone given the right circumstances, emotional state, time and place. It's just a matter of when and how rather than if. Obviously that does not make it right but it something we have to consider when we cast judgment
@tejmondwurie5474 how did you come to that conclusion, all I said was "Don't Cheat, nothing more,nothing less. Having been cheated on , lied to, gas lit I have a little bit of insight into a very shitty situation. Heaven forbid you ever have to experience this. Again, it was a conscious decision made by two adults that definitely knew better and trashed two marriages, trashed two careers
@@kengarvin5341i’ve had the experience. I also cheated after I was cheated on and went to therapy and uncovered a PLETHORA of underlying mental issues that led to me doing it. Most people who’ve said “don’t cheat” have in fact cheated decades after saying it
Ex wife cheated 15 years ago. I still feel bad about it. But I guess from this video she shouldn't. Interesting. I won't forgive so easily. She chose to do the literal worst thing she could do to her husband. Absolutely nothing more disrespectful. She did this with forethought. She did it in on purpose. She literally gave me PTSD. So yeah. Just forgive yourself and " move on". Meanwhile I have a life sentence mentally so that seems fair.
Yea some cheaters either attempted or committed suicide because of the guilt, that and many of them are actively in therapy to become better people. You see it as disrespectful instead of a psychological anomaly and behavioral pattern that needs correcting
@@Masterdebernailed it.. unfortunately i am dealing with the thoughts of death and attempting to talk to a therapist. Cheating on someone making them feel horrible makes anyone sane feel awful. Being the bad guy is not easy. And the past cannot be changed. It sucks.
Some cheaters don't feel guilty. Mine didn't. He blamed me like he always did. It was a TNT and I internally said, fuck you abd goodbye. Blocked, dumped and left him. May he enjoy dating scene, it's very difficult out there😂 Once you cheat you're out of the fucking window. If someone wants open relationship then state it but crossing boundaries is not an option. Equality or he can eat grass which he is now😂
He's still running from himself lovorka and he will run with the next one but each time it'll scar him more torment him more he might feel backed against the walls and the survival instincts come through there is no peace in that it's sad all around
@@FlorencioVillain true my friend. Veey wise, indeed. They actually have a really empty and sad life. Thank you for lovely words. Hope life is treating you well 🍀
@@Jakedrawart yes I had head injury and my ex did not help. He was busy on Facebook dating wgere I was blocked so 🤷 I also believed him. He was loyal but it was just an act . He comes from abusive household and it took him so long to go to therapy and the whole process has hurt me a lot. I was blamed so much that I started to hit my head after all the angry words and ibsults he said. I couldn't leave because he got me so under his control that I was convinced that it's all my fault. After he blocked me and after I sent him messages why did you cheat he finally confessed that he had to because woman he loves so much is in too mych darkness. Friends helped me to be sane and after that I blocked him and wwnt to spiritual retreat and now therapy. I am feeling better after chakra work and spiritual cleansing it's like he had his energetical cords on me. I took myself out of it, claimed my power, threw him out of my aura and life and he will never be able to crawl back again. And in therapy I will learn how to recognise red flags sooner, set up boundaries and heal my pain. Im staying single and feeling much better. I trust god to heal me and I am happy. When my soul mate comes I will know and will be very equipped because no more trash in my life that's what he taught me. I am my prioroty.
You did the action? You feel the bite. You literally made a choice to cheat. In the year of 2024, I think we has fully working adults know that there is a chance that drinking can lead to cheating so that’s not even an excuse anymore. Call that a one sided view point if you want, the fact of it is, you made that choice.
I support the idea of healing guilt from cheating when the cheater is repentant, not likely to do it to anyone else ever again, and makes amends. Cheaters steal and lie. They lack self control and often get off on hiding things from their partners. Most cheaters aren’t going to take responsibility for their actions. Their actions are someone else’s fault. The best way for them to forgive themselves is for them to have real consequences for destroying their partner’s trust. The best consequence is loss of the relationship. Cheating is not “ONE” mistake. It’s not a “slip up.” It’s deliberate and despicable behavior. But, hey, let them gaslight themselves into forgiveness. It’s the same method they used to get into the cheating and lying to begin with.
*Folk, cheating is never a mistake. Cheating is a series of planned conscious decisions, the cheater justifies it, they determine that it’s worth risking their current relationship to do so, then after further consideration- they move forward with the act of infidelity.* When you forgive a cheater and remain with them, they interpret that as a slap on the wrist. A man or a woman with no self control is a liability. *I can’t think of anything more degrading, humiliating and pathetic than getting emotional over or fighting to remain in a relationship with a known cheater.* - I you have the ability to cheat, you definitely have the ability to get over your guilt.
You are so wrong…i cheated 25 years ago that was first and last time…im still with my husband and we have very happy marriage better than others…but i still feel guilty and time to time i use antidepressants…sometimes i have suicidal thoughts
@@queenbee02 I’m right. Just because you’re happy that he stayed with you doesn’t mean that he’s happy. He likely got his revenge getback long ago and you’re unaware. The idea that someone would refer to a cheater’s carefully executed plan of betrayal “a mistake” is an insult to their hard work, dedication and best efforts to avoid detection. The mistake is them getting caught. Cheaters are nervous, embarrassed, trying to escape, not poised, not confident or articulate when they’re busted. I bet they don’t exhibit those qualities while engaging in their infidelity. Cheaters are likely excited, poised, confident, enjoying themselves, passionate, etc, while betraying their significant other. Therefore, the mistake is them getting exposed and they’re probably sad that they’re no longer able to do so, but they’ll attempt to convince you that they’re sad because they wronged you and they’re remorseful, lol. You can’t help but give cheater credit for their ability to deceive, *it’s almost masterful.* Either way, people should forgive cheaters, dump them and move on with their life. He could have let you find redemption and become a better person in your next relationship but he agreed that an unfaithful partner who lacks integrity was his best option at the time. Consider yourself lucky.
@@standground7956 first of all he didn’t “caught” me but I confessed to him.The amount of pain that I suffered was unbelievable…i told him to divorce me because I didn’t deserve him…he didn’t want to consider that option because we had perfect relationship…and he was my first boyfriend i was soo young when we met…i also had very bad childhood trauma…From that time till this day i NEVER cheated on him again…he is love of my life…and of course he is happy because he had plenty of other options but he choose me….i understand your anger because not everyone can have this
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Thanks for this, its a really taboo topic but i definitely think it needs to be talked about more.
Cheating is not righht it comes back in the end to bit you
It isn't but can happen to anyone given the right circumstances, emotional state, time and place. It's just a matter of when and how rather than if. Obviously that does not make it right but it something we have to consider when we cast judgment
Repent and be righteous
Don't cheat....problem solved
Are u perfect
@tejmondwurie5474 how did you come to that conclusion, all I said was "Don't Cheat, nothing more,nothing less. Having been cheated on , lied to, gas lit I have a little bit of insight into a very shitty situation. Heaven forbid you ever have to experience this. Again, it was a conscious decision made by two adults that definitely knew better and trashed two marriages, trashed two careers
@@kengarvin5341i’ve had the experience. I also cheated after I was cheated on and went to therapy and uncovered a PLETHORA of underlying mental issues that led to me doing it. Most people who’ve said “don’t cheat” have in fact cheated decades after saying it
Ex wife cheated 15 years ago. I still feel bad about it. But I guess from this video she shouldn't. Interesting. I won't forgive so easily. She chose to do the literal worst thing she could do to her husband. Absolutely nothing more disrespectful. She did this with forethought. She did it in on purpose. She literally gave me PTSD. So yeah. Just forgive yourself and " move on". Meanwhile I have a life sentence mentally so that seems fair.
Yea some cheaters either attempted or committed suicide because of the guilt, that and many of them are actively in therapy to become better people. You see it as disrespectful instead of a psychological anomaly and behavioral pattern that needs correcting
@@Masterdebernailed it.. unfortunately i am dealing with the thoughts of death and attempting to talk to a therapist. Cheating on someone making them feel horrible makes anyone sane feel awful. Being the bad guy is not easy. And the past cannot be changed. It sucks.
Some cheaters don't feel guilty. Mine didn't. He blamed me like he always did. It was a TNT and I internally said, fuck you abd goodbye. Blocked, dumped and left him. May he enjoy dating scene, it's very difficult out there😂
Once you cheat you're out of the fucking window.
If someone wants open relationship then state it but crossing boundaries is not an option.
Equality or he can eat grass which he is now😂
He's still running from himself lovorka and he will run with the next one but each time it'll scar him more torment him more he might feel backed against the walls and the survival instincts come through there is no peace in that it's sad all around
@@FlorencioVillain true my friend. Veey wise, indeed. They actually have a really empty and sad life.
Thank you for lovely words.
Hope life is treating you well 🍀
How about just not cheat? You should feel guilty for deceiving your partners.
Sure but not indefinitely. Guilt can be paralyzing and counterproductive
I was hospitalized for attempted suicide after cheating. Because I agreed with you. I still do.
@@Jakedrawart yes I had head injury and my ex did not help. He was busy on Facebook dating wgere I was blocked so 🤷 I also believed him. He was loyal but it was just an act . He comes from abusive household and it took him so long to go to therapy and the whole process has hurt me a lot. I was blamed so much that I started to hit my head after all the angry words and ibsults he said. I couldn't leave because he got me so under his control that I was convinced that it's all my fault.
After he blocked me and after I sent him messages why did you cheat he finally confessed that he had to because woman he loves so much is in too mych darkness.
Friends helped me to be sane and after that I blocked him and wwnt to spiritual retreat and now therapy. I am feeling better after chakra work and spiritual cleansing it's like he had his energetical cords on me.
I took myself out of it, claimed my power, threw him out of my aura and life and he will never be able to crawl back again. And in therapy I will learn how to recognise red flags sooner, set up boundaries and heal my pain. Im staying single and feeling much better. I trust god to heal me and I am happy. When my soul mate comes I will know and will be very equipped because no more trash in my life that's what he taught me.
I am my prioroty.
@@JakedrawartI attempted suicide as well after cheating. The OPs comment is definitely from somebody with little experience with life
@@Masterdeberhow are you doing now?
You did the action? You feel the bite. You literally made a choice to cheat. In the year of 2024, I think we has fully working adults know that there is a chance that drinking can lead to cheating so that’s not even an excuse anymore. Call that a one sided view point if you want, the fact of it is, you made that choice.
What if my ex still calls me in a very resentful and accusing way?even if i have proved it through my actions?
Then the EX part is the biggest factor there. You can change yourself, not someone else.
This video really caught my attention, congratulations.
Thanks so much
I support the idea of healing guilt from cheating when the cheater is repentant, not likely to do it to anyone else ever again, and makes amends. Cheaters steal and lie. They lack self control and often get off on hiding things from their partners.
Most cheaters aren’t going to take responsibility for their actions. Their actions are someone else’s fault.
The best way for them to forgive themselves is for them to have real consequences for destroying their partner’s trust. The best consequence is loss of the relationship.
Cheating is not “ONE” mistake. It’s not a “slip up.” It’s deliberate and despicable behavior.
But, hey, let them gaslight themselves into forgiveness. It’s the same method they used to get into the cheating and lying to begin with.
*Folk, cheating is never a mistake. Cheating is a series of planned conscious decisions, the cheater justifies it, they determine that it’s worth risking their current relationship to do so, then after further consideration- they move forward with the act of infidelity.* When you forgive a cheater and remain with them, they interpret that as a slap on the wrist. A man or a woman with no self control is a liability. *I can’t think of anything more degrading, humiliating and pathetic than getting emotional over or fighting to remain in a relationship with a known cheater.*
- I you have the ability to cheat, you definitely have the ability to get over your guilt.
You are so wrong…i cheated 25 years ago that was first and last time…im still with my husband and we have very happy marriage better than others…but i still feel guilty and time to time i use antidepressants…sometimes i have suicidal thoughts
@@queenbee02 I’m right. Just because you’re happy that he stayed with you doesn’t mean that he’s happy. He likely got his revenge getback long ago and you’re unaware.
The idea that someone would refer to a cheater’s carefully executed plan of betrayal “a mistake” is an insult to their hard work, dedication and best efforts to avoid detection. The mistake is them getting caught. Cheaters are nervous, embarrassed, trying to escape, not poised, not confident or articulate when they’re busted. I bet they don’t exhibit those qualities while engaging in their infidelity. Cheaters are likely excited, poised, confident, enjoying themselves, passionate, etc, while betraying their significant other. Therefore, the mistake is them getting exposed and they’re probably sad that they’re no longer able to do so, but they’ll attempt to convince you that they’re sad because they wronged you and they’re remorseful, lol. You can’t help but give cheater credit for their ability to deceive, *it’s almost masterful.* Either way, people should forgive cheaters, dump them and move on with their life. He could have let you find redemption and become a better person in your next relationship but he agreed that an unfaithful partner who lacks integrity was his best option at the time. Consider yourself lucky.
@@standground7956 first of all he didn’t “caught” me but I confessed to him.The amount of pain that I suffered was unbelievable…i told him to divorce me because I didn’t deserve him…he didn’t want to consider that option because we had perfect relationship…and he was my first boyfriend i was soo young when we met…i also had very bad childhood trauma…From that time till this day i NEVER cheated on him again…he is love of my life…and of course he is happy because he had plenty of other options but he choose me….i understand your anger because not everyone can have this
Cheaters are LIARS first- remember that.
If a person cheats ONCE, there is a 350 per cent chance they’ll do it again.
RUN!!
This is shameful