I'm not surprised. This is what her church, and our broader society, teaches women. Do you think ANY fucking man would stand for what Shay did if it was in reverse?! Fucking never.
And she has it. Shay has been an awesome husband. The part where she was unrealistic was where she assumed nothing should ever go wrong and he's a prince charming and it would be this perfect flawless love story. Then life hit her and Shay's struggle with alcohilism comes and makes that unrealistic dream die. That's a good thing for her. She is maturing.
who else watched the shaytards when they were younger and were obsessed w them and when she said hi and u heard it for the first time in a couple years almost cried
SMWD 123 yeah dawg i grew up watching them and they made me believe in real love n shit n like watching them crumble really like shows me how shit everyone is
Shane was going through something, Something else was happening. And I know you all want to but in but I think Collette is strong enough to fight for it herself
Collette is the victim. Don't bash her. It's her choice to stay and work on her marriage. Don't have to agree with her decison, but don't be so rude. She's clearly hurting. Shay was selfish. Just remember everything you see on the internet is most likely not as happy and perfect as it seems.
Chiyori Nakanishi I know but almost 10 years, this girl has no wrinkles. A lot of things can happen, aging wise, in 10 years. Let the girl have the compliment
@@TeoZMuff313 she definitely is not. She is completely capable of sitting down and having a well-spoken and well-thought-out conversation with people. She is Mindful and thoughtful and kind. She was able to give birth to several children and be strong and raise them to be kind and thoughtful individuals. She also knows how to be goofy and laugh and have fun. You're off your rocker if you think she's dumb.
who is here, rewatching this in 2020 because everything has gone to shit and Colette is literally the queen of keeping it together and turning shit into confetti... I miss her :(
I have wondered at random wagers this family went..... this is my first time watching a vlog about their family I just watched the skip school snow day with the dad and two boys around Christmas time.... I could never imagine this kind of life being out there for everyone to pick on and the world coming at them and then the world getting into their family. I have plenty to catch up on.
Hello Colette. My name is Sophia and I am fourteen years old. Recently my parents had split up. My father, who I love dearly, unfortunately was not the best husband towards my mother. He was manipulative and a cheater. Even though he did all these things, I still find ways to find the good and I struggle with how I could not resent him. However, though I still tend to find love towards him, I look at my mom and see strength. My mother left him. No matter how hard she wanted things to work out, no matter how much therapy sessions and books she read about fixing her marriage, it just couldn't happen. She stayed with my father for years, for her children, till eventually she realized something. She realized that she loved her kids more than anything, and that staying with a man who disrespected her wasn't setting a good example. She wanted to be strong for us, and show us what an unhealthy relationship was, and how to leave it. She wanted to show me, she could make it on her own. So thats what she did. I am so thankful for my mom and what she did. It hurts me to see you like this, because my family has been through it. I hope you can realize what example you are setting for your children and change for them. Show them that you're strong too, and through this video I can see that you are. Best of luck.
That is a great amount of insight you've got there, I'm glad you shared it and I hope Colette reads it! We will never know 100% how things are in her life but hearing her talk about letting her dream of a perfect marriage die was pretty sad. Not that most marriages are perfect but she deserves someone who is faithful to her.
Queen Mia_ T yes but she is an adult and is able to cope with this. the kids are still growing, and their home environment that is supposed to protect them got ripped apart. it’s infinitely more damaging to them
I never comment on videos, but this really affected me. I've been following this family since I was 16 (I'm now 24) and Collette's strength and courage really touched and inspired me. You can tell that she is still hurting but it takes a lot of guts to stand up to your issues and not let them define you. I feel like I would have handled her situation in a very different manner which only inspires me more! I cannot condone Shay's actions and to be honest, I'm not sure I can be as accepting as some and welcome him back into my life (as weird as that sounds, I feel like I grew up with him) but I am so happy to have Collette back as a positive role model - she's the best XXX
When she said she was reading a book about co-dependency, and letting go of that bad habit, I was so relieved. I was always concerned about the dynamic of their relationship, and it's such a weight off to know that she's trying to exist as her own person, without the influence of her marriage so much. She always came across as Colette, the mum; Colette, the wife; Colette, the daughter. In this video, I saw Colette, the person. I hope this journey she's on keeps giving her strength and independence and motivation and self-love. So proud of you, Colette. Keep being brave, 'cause you seem to be really good at it
Sian Hancock I hope your comment gets more likes because she needs to see this. I too felt glad she picked up a book like that - she is working on herself for sure
I just feel for their children... Like Shay put all of them out there to the world through their whole lives. Now they have to hear about it constantly at school, from friends, bully, online etc...
Having a husband who's faithful to you isn't a unrealistic dream , it should be an expectation , if you're letting go of that expectation you're just giving him another chance to do this again
Zunara96 Very well said. You shouldn’t change your dreams or lower your standards or decide crappy treatment is ok just to please your partner/anyone else.
I don't think that's what she means by letting her dream go. Everyone has the dream of a perfect life, including her. When life doesn't go perfectly, you don't give up. That being said, I don't know why any spouse would ever cheat on the person they committed themselves to in marriage that they love. How can anyone be so cruel? If you want to be with someone else, get a divorce, and end it. Don't sneak around behind someones back - it will tear people apart when they find out.
Here's my take. I've been in a relationship with a man who cheated. I was early 20s, I forgave him and stayed in a relationship with him. It. Was. Torture. I was constantly paranoid that he was cheating all the time. It took time away from things that I wanted to do, because I was afraid to leave him alone. I didn't feel free until I finally put my foot down and LEFT. GUESS WHAT? he got another girlfriend, AND HE CHEATED ON HER TOO. SURPRISE! I know that Shay was exposed, I saw what he said, and I wonder...how many times did he do this before, before he was exposed? Caught? If she chooses to stay with him, she has to let go of ALL PREVIOUS EXPLOITS. I couldn't. I had to leave. I pray for her to have clarity.
Long story short, shay cheated on his wife and she's apparently just "accepting" it... I feel so bad for her and their kids. I hope she doesn't blame herself because it kind of sounds like she thinks it's partially her fault :(
From the first day that I saw a Shaytards video, I got obsessed with your family. I loved the dynamic of your family. Sure I only got to see 20 minutes of a day in your life but I still loved it. Your relationship with Shay become my "relationship goals". I wished that when I have a family, it would be as amazing as yours. Now, honestly, despite everything that has gone on, I feel nothing has changed. Sure life happens but I still admire you and your family for your strength and love and I still support you guys as much as I did the first time I watched a Shaytards video. Much love to you, Colette!
Colette. There hasn’t been a day I haven’t thought of you. My heart continues to go out to you. Your strength is inspiring. It is so good to see you. ❤️
You can see how much she has hurt and struggled in the past few months. Even the makeup can not hide the way the under part of her eyes are. Not really bags it's something else and I've had them before. When she truly heals from her pain that sunken in look will go away. She is still beautiful
Watching this is so... different. Watching this, I find myself thinking that this is not the Colette I remember. The Colette I am seeing now is stronger, wiser, and confident in her words. I can’t wait to hear how the kids are, and learn from you and your life experience throughout these videos. I am so glad you are back. Continue to be true to yourself. You are such a bright light. ❤️
Her dream didn't just die. Her dream was murdered, as harsh as that sounds. She has to accept her dream was murdered because her husband made mistakes? I don't know how you really forgive someone for doing that to you. I don't know how realistic that level of forgiveness is.
FireFliesNeverDie maybe not forgive but like she said accept..aspecialy sinds it was so public ...you know if you find out yoir husband cheats on you it hurts so much but to read what he saying an doing to the other girl must have been devastating..i still can't understand what happened..yet I think it's very strongthat she staying with him
I've accepted that my husband was a liar and a cheater and backed a few bags for the kids and I and LEFT!!! It was the hardest and best decision I ever made.
I still occasionally come on here to listen to this once or twice and I just sob.. thank you for posting this. Thank you 100x man has it truly helped me
This video meant so much to me. So much of what you said resonates with my heart as well. I know how hard it must be to put yourself back out there, but by doing it, you're helping others heal right along with you guys. Take care Colette.
I hope you're doing okay josh and hope that you have found happiness within yourself, there's someone that will always care, whether its one or hundreds x
I'm so glad that you open up... it hope it helped you. It sure did relieve me. We're all humans and have our flaws, but luckily we have more greatness! You and your family are awesome!
I have no comment towards Shay, my feelings for him now aren’t what they use to be. But I can see the hurt in her eyes. This woman and her kids deserve 100% happiness. She’s the most selfless mom I’ve seen on youtube, constantly putting EVERYONE first. She needs to be first for once.
Dear Young Women, Life is messy but it doesn't mean that you have to accept it. Know your worth. Know what you deserve. If your partner continuously disrespects you. Leave. IF you have children, set an example. Let them know that they should keep company with people who treat them with respect. Do not accept mess. Please.
Growth/process= happiness. People go through tough trials because they are capable of overcoming it and to get stronger. Trials are meant for an individual. It's like what Les Brown said when people complain about their problems and say why me? "Why not you? Have any suggestions for somebody else?"
literally years ago somehow she became a second mom to me in a way because of how wonderful she genuinely is and that’s what i wanted in a mom .. that has not changed
Selina Ram Me too! I even kissed the phone screen!! It's so crazy you love someone so much who doesn't even know you! I lovw them all... They were my family for years.. They helped me get through the day..
Colette you remind me a lot of my mom, and yet even more about myself and how strong I used to be. I lately doubt myself and fear that I would never be able to do what I wish. I love you and you inspire me to keep dreaming and one day achieve it! love from *Romania* 💕
Couldn't have clicked this video faster. You're a strong, amazing woman. There isn't a woman here who doesn't admire your honesty and your grace. You're an inspiration in every way. We are here for you no matter what! One day at a time. Love you Colette! Can't wait for new videos!
It's okay to accept the reality you live in, but never to give up on a dream. The person you've become has helped you grow Colette. That should only encourage you to pursue bigger and greater things that includes your relationship.
She's such a whole person. Like she's so smart, not many people can be self reflective and be able to bring themselves to self heal in a healthy way that works for them. She's such a warm and solid person, She deserves so much better.
The amount of personal growth Collette has experienced over the last seven months is substantial. Although she didn't leave Shay it's evident that she is an independent woman who is in no way dependant on Shay. She is redefining herself, the Collette we knew in the Shaytards vlogs never displayed this level of strength or resilience. She is still with Shay because she didn't let this break her or the relationship she wants. She isn't overlooking his indiscretion, she is processing it and picking herself up again to work toward her goals. If one of her goals is to achieve a healthy marriage with Shay then all the power to her. She isn't naive or forgiving a cheater, she is working through her relationship problems and shamelessly acknowledging them to the public. That takes guts. Kudos to Collette.
MIkayla yess. I just realized that for the longest I thought too about a prince charming and how perfectly things will be. Disney has really taught us a fairytale and how perfect its suppose to be. This is reality nothing will be perfect. Love grows and will continue to get stronger. Accepting that there is no fairy tale dream is hard, but it's a process in coming into reality that will also help you having healthy relationships because I would be upset and break up w my ex's because it's not a fairy tale. Living with that expectation has hurt me and hurt others and a bit embarrassed about it, but now I've come into reality. Moral, qualities, humble, respect, love ect. Is what I'm looking for not necessarily a prince charming. :)
She is such an innocent beautiful wife and mother and doesn't deserve any of this. I truly feel bad for every single person in their family and sending my prayers towards them and their family.
Just because you dream of perfection, doesn't mean you have to settle for a mess. You still deserve something as good as possible instead of settling with something you're not fully behind
midge0214 Yesss. I've been watching this family for so long and I grew so accustomed to the daily uploads and seeing their beautiful faces.. especially Colette's. She has that kind of personality that can just brighten anyone's day, no matter how bad it is. It made my heart so happy to finally see her face again 💜
Waited for this day for so long!! Collette is the most selfless, brave, humble, amazing human. She deserves nothing but happiness!! So happy to see her back on RUclips❤️❤️
She has some basic flaws, that prevent her leaving. Firstly, she's hugely dependent on Shay. She lives in the middle of nowhere, with no work. She figured it would be her place to grow old while not working. She has too many kids, left alone with them she struggles to the point of despair. Shay is better with the kids (when he's sober) yes he's lazy, but he's the authority figure who restores calm and peace. Colette falls apart at the seams with 5 kids solo (Watch their vlog where she gets a flat tire and orders pizza to feed the kids cus she cant deal. she lies on her sofa with her hand over her face while the kids fight over the food. It's mayhem. she does NOTHING but give up, shay comes in and restores peace in seconds) Secondly, from a child Colette's been brain washed by religion into believing some truly f*ked up things. She thinks she has to stay with her husband or face the wrath of jesus, that kind of shit. She also is repeatedly told by Shay they will be together in the afterlife FOREVER. Imagine thinking that's true??! If she leaves, she has to find a money source (she cant live on shays cut forever with 5 kids, some still small) she has to find a new house, near a city or town so she can work, she needs babysitters, she needs a nanny cus she sure has heck can't deal solo, and then, then, if she manages all that she has to deal with her religious beliefs. She's trapped. Shay knows it, Collette has no back bone. She will stay with him forever, no matter how badly he behaves. She's given him the go ahead to keep going basically.
I'm really sorry to see some people here telling you what you should or should not do, instead of respecting your choices. I can tell you've been struggling, but I can also tell you've grown a lot into a much stronger woman with firmer convictions. Life never turns out they way we dreamed as kids, but, even though you're going through a rough patch at the moment, there is a lot of beauty in your life. I'm very happy to see that you believe it's worth saving, and that you're willing to fight for it. But I would understand and respect the alternative choice as well.
KKortez Agreed. People like to give advice that they likely wouldn't even follow themselves if they were in the other person's shoes. There is always so much more to the situation than anyone outside of it will never know, so we have no right to dictate or judge people for their choices.
*I really TRULY feel like you could not have approached this video in a more perfect, empowering, most importantly HONEST & truthful way. You look so free & renewed. Such a powerful message.*
I never really knew what to expect your first video back was going to be, but can I just say that this video is perfect. Please know that you we are so grateful for your spirituality and that you are helping so many.
Thank you so much for sharing what has been on your heart. I know it was very hard for you to share. I needed to hear this today and you're so right! You are seriously one of the strongest most beautiful souls I've ever had the pleasure of meeting. You're a true gem and I'm so happy that you're back! Love you, girl! 💕💕
Coming back to this.. and I got to say, you are the strongest woman I’ve ever listened to. Your family is so strong. Sometimes rock bottom is the best place to build a new foundation. Thank you for keeping this video up, you and your family have come so far and it’s beautiful and real.
You are such a wonderful woman, a fighter, a lover, a seeker! I admire you! Many people would walk out of situations like yours but is this the solution? Thank you for coming back, tears stream down my face, I have so many warm feeling toward your whole family! I love you
Turquoise Cheetah You don't know her, you can't say that she isn't happy. Breaking up a family isn't "the sane thing to do". Please don't speak to what someone should or shouldn't do in their own life and relationships. Everyone is different, every situation is different.
You think if Colette left would be breaking up the family? I don't think you realize what Shay did. Shay broke up the family. Yes, maybe she is happy and maybe she isn't, we'll never know. But don't make a woman feel bad if she wanted to leave her husband because of the shitty decisions he made and then call it "breaking up the family". He fucked it up. That family will NEVER be the same ever again and that's all his fault.
A woman like you is rare. Dreams die. Things happen. The unrelenting force that is time will break us all. Some sooner than others. Only you can put yourself back together
@@oliviagrace1930 yep I did, it is porn, and he was talking to a pornstar, while he was drunk. I wouldn’t necessarily call that cheating. He is an alcoholic and he is better now and they are United agian
@@Thehannahweknow I don’t cause the person I am going to marry is gonna be equally yoked and In the same mindset lol.... keep being an insecure pussy though
I’m crying right now because I never thought a family on the internet would impact and have such a effect on my life but I am so glad it does...Colette, I wish the best for your family, for your marriage, and for you 😭💜
I can't speak for others, but I can say for myself that I, as a fan, will support you, Colette, in whatever decisions you make now and in the future. You are the one who knows what is best for your life and happiness. Thank you for sharing what you've been going through, we truly appreciate it ❤️
So happy to see you back! Must be weird from being gone for so long! I love how you make everything positive. We learn the most during hard times. Love you! ❤️❤️
Jamie Monroe you’re right, we don’t. There’s a lot of factors we don’t know about. As long as Colette is happy, that’s all that matters really. She knows what’s right for her
Guys, she's waited and looked forward to talking to us and sharing with us for months, imagine/think about that! So don't act entitled, like you're her mother. She can make her own decisions, and she's making and has made them. Just show your support & be kind always. I can tell she gets energy/happiness from interacting with us so let's make that a good thing for her. Collette, we've missed you and we're so glad you're back!!!
Accepting and forgiving are powerful tools. But remember to not use acceptance as a mask for what you actually want or value. It's okay to accept, forgive and move on or let go.
Hanna exactly my thoughts...she could totally forgive and move on..and I don't see her doing it..she is very dependant on Shay and stability with 5 kids is a major factor. 😕😕 prayers for her and her beautiful kids.
I love you, Colette. 4 years ago I was 19 and I named my first daughter Avia, because your family love was so beautiful to me. But no one and nothing is perfect. I can still find strength and inspiration through your very real, very human journey. Thank you for sharing even through these hard bits. It makes me feel like if even you have to go through such things snd can pull through, we can too. Keep shining bright. A part of me is scared Shay felt like he could get away with it cuz you wouldn't leave him over it. But it's not fair for me to judge, and always I will be praying for you and your family, and all your loves, even the dumb-butt.. I believe in you Colette. Stay strong. Also the whole ordeal turned you into a hippie it kind of gave me a chuckle but I'm glad if it helps bring you understanding and calm.
Every single ounce of respect for you, Colette. This is hard enough to go through without having an audience, but the way you've decided to take control of this is incredible. It doesn't have to be the way that I would handle it, and I think it's important for this point to be made clear: my empowerment isn't the same as your empowerment. The point is that we each feel empowered, so more power to you, you amazing woman.
Oh, Colette 😞 I've been in your shoes. I had a cheating husband, I was trying to work it out so badly. As unhappy as I was I tried and tried. I read the self help books. I read the forums. But at the end of the day... or the months it took me to come to the conclusion, I decided my dream wasn't dead, it was just dead with him. I am so much happier now. And I have someone now who is my dream. I've been codependent, I've been terrified, I didn't even have my own car, and I walked away. I pray in my heart that staying with him will turn out okay for you. But I also pray that if you choose staying is not your destiny that you find so much happiness. I know you would.
Veronica many people are different actually some do work out, but majority it is best to leave when it just seems more draining and unhappiness. Glad you're happy now :)
Lily Hare yea I do. But Katilette is a combination of her first and middle name right? And she uses it in this channel so I don't think it really matters :)
Underwoodish I get it and I understand how you feel. I think no one should be numb of what they're supposed to feel. I think just what makes it different for her in this vid is that she ACKNOWLEDGE the pain. She's not trying to hide it. I was quite surprised she mentioned it in public anyway. I feel that if she's trying to numb her feelings, she's gonna pretend it did not happen. She's gonna say "oh let's forget about it" But she know it did happen and they're working on it as a FAMILY. Sorry for the long post. All love 💕
There is no such thing as a prefect marriage but there is a thing as a faithful marriage, its also ok to leave him to show your kids its not okay to be cheated on.
ky cabello As far as I can tell there is no evidence that he cheated. All there is is a bunch of screenshots and an interview with the alleged cam girl. I call bullshit. The screenshots are fake and photoshopped. And I don't buy her words.
frosty there was a video leaked. and also she posted a video of her showing the dms. and he posted on his own twitter that he made mistakes because of alcohol the day that it got leaked. that’s proof.
She is so amazing like she has been through so much and yet forgives but never forgets so thank you for being this inspirational figure for us to look up at
Even though it's made you who you are, you don't need to accept abuse and mistreatment. I know that may sound harsh, but if someone you love continues to behave badly and hurts you and emotionally abuses you and your trust, then you shouldn't accept it. Maybe you can work through it, but it's not on you. You cannot accept someone who doesn't respect you, so please keep that in mind.
Thank you so much for sharing, it's wonderful to hear from you again and what you said in this video really resonated with me - you're one of my biggest role models and I'm so grateful for your wisdom! Lots of love x
Show some compassion. She has acknowledged HER problem is co dependency. She does not control Shay, although she is allowing his alcoholism to control her. All she can do is focus on gratitude and allow her highest self to align with her highest good by releasing what no longer serves her. The rest will follow. Colette IS growing because of this, she is enlightened and strength follows an awakened soul. She has made a breakthrough and she will always have love for Shay as the father of her children.
This is the second time I've watched this video. I get it. My dream was basically the same. To meet my prince charming, to have lots of kids, to be that family who laughs together and shares their hearts. It didn't turn out that way. We've had children with disabilities and mental illness. The dynamics of our family life is forever changed and shifted. I never thought that I was strong enough to deal with the things that I've dealt with. But at the end of the day I have become a different person. Someone who I can say I'm proud to know.. Thanks for sharing Colette.
Susan- I can't believe how similar our dreams and our real lives are! I had the same exact dream as you- and instead of a million kids lol- I was very very blessed to be given three living children- one who was born with no immune system and basically we jokingly call him bubble boy- and his life so far of 17 years has been filled with illness and diseases that have almost killed him multiple times. My next child my beautiful daughter who is now 16, was born with autism and at age 8 we finally found why she would randomly throw up- she had massive kidney stones blocking her little kidneys and she couldn't tell us that her tummy hurt! That started a life full of pain surgeries hospital admissions frequently and passing kidney stones every single day- with no cure. Around age 12 ..she blossomed as far as the autism- goes and most people would never know she has it. She is incredible, full of grace and faith, never complains about pain or her situation and is generally an incredible example to our family. Then theirs my youngest daughter- she used to be a littlr fireball- of joyful fun energy- but a couple of years ago she was in a minor car accident that caused severe PTSD and a massive anxiety disorder. Life is pretty wild- definitely not what i dreamed of! But im so thankful that its my life ands right now the reason I came Back ti this video- was because i'm in the midst of trying to change many things about myself so that I can be proud of who I am. Your comment gives me so much hope that you have had the same hopes and dreams and you've been given the same type of difficult exhausting sometimes scary life that I've been given- but we are blessed and you have become a woman that you are proud of and I have hope that i can become that too. ❤
@@jaelleericaAutism isnt a disease, and it is something you WANT to be able to "show", since it can be so invisible. I have autism and I hate when people think I'm "cured" one day when I'm communicating better or not stimming as much ect. That is not healthy for me or anyone to try to hide it. But as far as the other struggles in your comment goes, I can definitely understand that all that must have been very scary and hard to go through, you sound like a strong mommy and you can be proud of yourself❤
You've always been far superior to your husband in every way. You're too good for him, but I respect your choice whatever you do. Just remember you could easily meet another man - you're beautiful, a great mother and truly kind. Been watching since 2008 so I feel like I know you. All the best ❤️
This is the problem with society, and why there are so many divorces. Leave her alone she maid the right choice to stay and fix her problems rather then just leave
If one makes a humane mistake then you shouldn’t continue something that has been thoroughly talked about. Will his actions ever be justified for him cheating on his wife? No, but he forgave his sin. Whether are not of what you say of his forgiveness, you don’t know his emotional being and how he will react to a traumatic moment. I forgive him, but it’s not an excuse and he knows it’s not. He’s working hard and going to rehab. He is working hard to do whatever he can to become a better human being. Its her opinion whether or not she wants to get back together with him. I don’t think she should but whatever they choose I will go with.
Haven’t even watched yet but I have to say WELCOME BACK!! Missed you so so much!!! Okay...off to watch now. 💕💕💕💕 - Candi Okay, I watched and now have to comment---> Amazing comeback. You know you are a strong woman and have so many people that admire you and feel like you're one of their friends (like me!) even though we've never met. The struggles you have gone through the past year just make you that much more relatable to people. We all have struggles and have gone through hard times and it's how we react to them that matters most. You've picked yourself up, dusted yourself off, and are ready to be vulnerable to the world again. It's harsh here in RUclips land, you know that. But you will always have your true supporters who love you and have missed you so much!! Can't wait for The Mom's View next week!
Wishing you all the best. Your right life isn't perfect. I imagine as a mother of 5 and a husband struggling with alcoholism it's not easy to find time to work on yourself. But you are and you truly deserve all the happiness you can give to yourself. It's easiest to blame and point fingers but not easy to accept what is. This will all hopefully be just a big bump in the road and hopefully it smooths a bit for a breather soon. There will always be big bumps and little bumps, enjoy the breaks in between, take in the moments of simple bliss.
DanielleBabyBliss The first problem between them was about the cheating, second one was alcoholism. Shay might say, I cheated on you because I was drunk! Bull 💩
I still continue to come back to this video so many times over the years. I think for the same reason Collette says, that we're all going through the same and this video resonates so much i've probably watched it a hundred times. This video is so powerful as she speaks with such strength and grace she is amazing.
having a husband that respects you and shows you the love that you deserve isn’t an unrealistic dream.
kaseyshen THIS! She's letting a dream of having respect from her spouse die? She's an idiot
I'm not surprised. This is what her church, and our broader society, teaches women. Do you think ANY fucking man would stand for what Shay did if it was in reverse?! Fucking never.
And she has it. Shay has been an awesome husband. The part where she was unrealistic was where she assumed nothing should ever go wrong and he's a prince charming and it would be this perfect flawless love story. Then life hit her and Shay's struggle with alcohilism comes and makes that unrealistic dream die. That's a good thing for her. She is maturing.
@frosty Shay has been an awesome husband?? He sexted with a porn star. I don't call that awesome.
he admitted to it lul
who else watched the shaytards when they were younger and were obsessed w them and when she said hi and u heard it for the first time in a couple years almost cried
SMWD 123 DUDE THIS WAS LITERALLY ME
For sure
SMWD 123 yeah dawg i grew up watching them and they made me believe in real love n shit n like watching them crumble really like shows me how shit everyone is
ME TOOOOO
Me I loved them
Why would anyone cheat on her she is beautiful and kind
He didn't cheat...
iEnvyHD ikr
@@TheSoloAsylum Sending nudes and talking dirty to someone who isn't your significant other is cheating. What are you talking about?
@@TheSoloAsylum Nope; he just TRIED to which makes it not only wrong but PATHETIC. But you keep defending that goofy brute if it makes you happy!
Shane was going through something, Something else was happening. And I know you all want to but in but I think Collette is strong enough to fight for it herself
She gets better looking as years go on wtf
She had a lot of stress that works down a person but I still think she is a beautiful person in and out.
She is smoking
She's wearing heaps of makeup nigga
@@dommywommy4837 ikr lmao
@@dommywommy4837 pretty much
Collette is the victim. Don't bash her. It's her choice to stay and work on her marriage. Don't have to agree with her decison, but don't be so rude. She's clearly hurting. Shay was selfish. Just remember everything you see on the internet is most likely not as happy and perfect as it seems.
so well said, thank you Kittycatmeow
Kittycatmeow Iiqaqq
It's her choice even though it's the opposite of a good one I hope he cheats again until she realizes she deserves better smh
Kittycatmeow Big difference, she's continuing to be a victim.
Lauren Peralta she giving him another chance probably, but I'm sure that if there's a next time she will leave and know it's ok to leave xxx
I swear I haven’t seen her since I was 13 (22 now) and she STILL LOOKS THE SAME!! Honey you look amazing!!!
Christian Maynard almost the same lol I think the last time I watched was when I was 13 or 14 now I’m 19 almost 20
You won’t look vastly different in 9 years either, at 31
It just seemed like a long time because it’s half your life
Chiyori Nakanishi I know but almost 10 years, this girl has no wrinkles. A lot of things can happen, aging wise, in 10 years. Let the girl have the compliment
Me too
@@christianaube3810 *You sound like a stupid kid. People in their early 30s SHOULDN'T have wrinkles. That's meth head shit.*
It’s crazy how perfect she is, literally the wife everyone wants lol
literally
@@TeoZMuff313 and ur just being a bitch
Robitussin Ethanol literally no depth I think that’s why she’s staying tho, she thinks she wouldn’t be anything without him 😂
I definitely want to be like her
@@TeoZMuff313 she definitely is not. She is completely capable of sitting down and having a well-spoken and well-thought-out conversation with people. She is Mindful and thoughtful and kind. She was able to give birth to several children and be strong and raise them to be kind and thoughtful individuals. She also knows how to be goofy and laugh and have fun. You're off your rocker if you think she's dumb.
who is here, rewatching this in 2020 because everything has gone to shit and Colette is literally the queen of keeping it together and turning shit into confetti... I miss her :(
She has the most beautiful soul
She's a strong women
I respect Collette SO much! She's truly amazing ❤️
I have wondered at random wagers this family went..... this is my first time watching a vlog about their family I just watched the skip school snow day with the dad and two boys around Christmas time.... I could never imagine this kind of life being out there for everyone to pick on and the world coming at them and then the world getting into their family. I have plenty to catch up on.
Greta Goodworth shay posted a new vid recently
Hello Colette. My name is Sophia and I am fourteen years old. Recently my parents had split up. My father, who I love dearly, unfortunately was not the best husband towards my mother. He was manipulative and a cheater. Even though he did all these things, I still find ways to find the good and I struggle with how I could not resent him. However, though I still tend to find love towards him, I look at my mom and see strength. My mother left him. No matter how hard she wanted things to work out, no matter how much therapy sessions and books she read about fixing her marriage, it just couldn't happen. She stayed with my father for years, for her children, till eventually she realized something. She realized that she loved her kids more than anything, and that staying with a man who disrespected her wasn't setting a good example. She wanted to be strong for us, and show us what an unhealthy relationship was, and how to leave it. She wanted to show me, she could make it on her own. So thats what she did. I am so thankful for my mom and what she did. It hurts me to see you like this, because my family has been through it. I hope you can realize what example you are setting for your children and change for them. Show them that you're strong too, and through this video I can see that you are. Best of luck.
My dad is kinda like that too. They got divorced about 4 months ago and I just turned 13
That is a great amount of insight you've got there, I'm glad you shared it and I hope Colette reads it! We will never know 100% how things are in her life but hearing her talk about letting her dream of a perfect marriage die was pretty sad. Not that most marriages are perfect but she deserves someone who is faithful to her.
Sophia Forte there is so much I can relate to you hang in there boo❤️❤️
I just feel bad for the kids
Kurt31 same
Kurt31 Me Too.
Same
Kurt31 sooo you don’t feel bad for her... her kids aren’t the only ones sad
Queen Mia_ T yes but she is an adult and is able to cope with this. the kids are still growing, and their home environment that is supposed to protect them got ripped apart. it’s infinitely more damaging to them
I never comment on videos, but this really affected me. I've been following this family since I was 16 (I'm now 24) and Collette's strength and courage really touched and inspired me. You can tell that she is still hurting but it takes a lot of guts to stand up to your issues and not let them define you. I feel like I would have handled her situation in a very different manner which only inspires me more! I cannot condone Shay's actions and to be honest, I'm not sure I can be as accepting as some and welcome him back into my life (as weird as that sounds, I feel like I grew up with him) but I am so happy to have Collette back as a positive role model - she's the best XXX
“if my dream came true, i wouldn’t be who i am today” wow. so powerful. i love her.
she deserves for it to have come true.
When she said she was reading a book about co-dependency, and letting go of that bad habit, I was so relieved. I was always concerned about the dynamic of their relationship, and it's such a weight off to know that she's trying to exist as her own person, without the influence of her marriage so much. She always came across as Colette, the mum; Colette, the wife; Colette, the daughter. In this video, I saw Colette, the person. I hope this journey she's on keeps giving her strength and independence and motivation and self-love. So proud of you, Colette. Keep being brave, 'cause you seem to be really good at it
Sian Hancock I hope your comment gets more likes because she needs to see this. I too felt glad she picked up a book like that - she is working on herself for sure
The best comment here!
Hey, great comment! I'm seeing too much hate in this comment section and seeing yours was a relief. I agree.
Can we all just take a minute to appreciate how amazing Colette is and how much she has been missed these past 7 months ♥️♥️♥️♥️
"I would not be who I am today if my dream came true" I can 100% relate!
You made my day by uploading thank you so much I have happy tiers
I just feel for their children... Like Shay put all of them out there to the world through their whole lives. Now they have to hear about it constantly at school, from friends, bully, online etc...
Never support family vloggers!
His fault. I wouldnt never talk to my dada if he did that
I hope they’d come out & talk once they got older but I’m starting to doubt it.
Having a husband who's faithful to you isn't a unrealistic dream , it should be an expectation , if you're letting go of that expectation you're just giving him another chance to do this again
Zunara96 Seeing as how she just accepted his infidelity he will do it again because he wasn't punished for it
Agreed
Zunara96 Very well said. You shouldn’t change your dreams or lower your standards or decide crappy treatment is ok just to please your partner/anyone else.
I don't think that's what she means by letting her dream go. Everyone has the dream of a perfect life, including her. When life doesn't go perfectly, you don't give up.
That being said, I don't know why any spouse would ever cheat on the person they committed themselves to in marriage that they love. How can anyone be so cruel? If you want to be with someone else, get a divorce, and end it. Don't sneak around behind someones back - it will tear people apart when they find out.
Here's my take. I've been in a relationship with a man who cheated. I was early 20s, I forgave him and stayed in a relationship with him. It. Was. Torture. I was constantly paranoid that he was cheating all the time. It took time away from things that I wanted to do, because I was afraid to leave him alone. I didn't feel free until I finally put my foot down and LEFT. GUESS WHAT? he got another girlfriend, AND HE CHEATED ON HER TOO. SURPRISE! I know that Shay was exposed, I saw what he said, and I wonder...how many times did he do this before, before he was exposed? Caught? If she chooses to stay with him, she has to let go of ALL PREVIOUS EXPLOITS. I couldn't. I had to leave. I pray for her to have clarity.
What I got from this 💔
1. She is still healing
2. Maybe Shay is working on getting better
3. Long road ahead for all of them
The 7 Henry's haven’t watched shaytard shit in years, what went down?
that is amazing
Long story short, shay cheated on his wife and she's apparently just "accepting" it... I feel so bad for her and their kids. I hope she doesn't blame herself because it kind of sounds like she thinks it's partially her fault :(
She still had her wedding band on so i would assume they are working things out.
I still don't quite understand what's going on with the shaytards xx I mean I used to watch them everyday but then they stopped xx what happened?!
From the first day that I saw a Shaytards video, I got obsessed with your family. I loved the dynamic of your family. Sure I only got to see 20 minutes of a day in your life but I still loved it. Your relationship with Shay become my "relationship goals". I wished that when I have a family, it would be as amazing as yours. Now, honestly, despite everything that has gone on, I feel nothing has changed. Sure life happens but I still admire you and your family for your strength and love and I still support you guys as much as I did the first time I watched a Shaytards video. Much love to you, Colette!
Shay had everything at one point loving family,loving wife,loving kids and getting to do an amazing job but then throwing it all away in one act
except she stayed which is sad for her.
@@nfvjgrofgjvoldlkgvlo They are doing great
Colette. There hasn’t been a day I haven’t thought of you. My heart continues to go out to you. Your strength is inspiring. It is so good to see you. ❤️
You can see how much she has hurt and struggled in the past few months. Even the makeup can not hide the way the under part of her eyes are. Not really bags it's something else and I've had them before. When she truly heals from her pain that sunken in look will go away. She is still beautiful
Racheal Lewis I totally agree!! It looks like she’s suddenly gotten so much older.. Stress and pain will do that to you sometimes
I was thinking the same thing. She still looks absolutely beautiful, but you can see the pain.
Watching this is so... different. Watching this, I find myself thinking that this is not the Colette I remember. The Colette I am seeing now is stronger, wiser, and confident in her words. I can’t wait to hear how the kids are, and learn from you and your life experience throughout these videos. I am so glad you are back. Continue to be true to yourself. You are such a bright light. ❤️
Katie Allen I thought the same thing! There's something different about her but in a good wau
Katie Allen - I totally agree with you. I was afraid she would be a lot more insecure but seeing how extremely strong she is makes me so happy 😁
strong....but she stays with a cheater ?
Katie Allen so true
Sometimes I come back to this video to remind myself what resiliency looks like.
Her dream didn't just die. Her dream was murdered, as harsh as that sounds. She has to accept her dream was murdered because her husband made mistakes? I don't know how you really forgive someone for doing that to you. I don't know how realistic that level of forgiveness is.
FireFliesNeverDie maybe not forgive but like she said accept..aspecialy sinds it was so public ...you know if you find out yoir husband cheats on you it hurts so much but to read what he saying an doing to the other girl must have been devastating..i still can't understand what happened..yet I think it's very strongthat she staying with him
I've accepted that my husband was a liar and a cheater and backed a few bags for the kids and I and LEFT!!! It was the hardest and best decision I ever made.
Just the title "Letting a dream die" is so tragic.
Alexis Weathersby when reality hits
I still occasionally come on here to listen to this once or twice and I just sob.. thank you for posting this. Thank you 100x
man has it truly helped me
This video meant so much to me. So much of what you said resonates with my heart as well. I know how hard it must be to put yourself back out there, but by doing it, you're helping others heal right along with you guys. Take care Colette.
So true and my heart gose out to all hurt by these types of situatons❤
I hope you're doing okay josh and hope that you have found happiness within yourself, there's someone that will always care, whether its one or hundreds x
Josh! It made me so happy to see you comment on this video! I hope you're doing well.
Josh
Daniela she didnt cheat
I will never see Shay Carl the same anymore .. Colette is such a beautiful soul and you don't deserve her...
I'm so glad that you open up... it hope it helped you. It sure did relieve me.
We're all humans and have our flaws, but luckily we have more greatness! You and your family are awesome!
I’m crying so much, I miss my childhood and this makes me so sad. Yes I’m watching this during quarantine.
same im literally reviewing all my childhood memories and i just want to go back
I have no comment towards Shay, my feelings for him now aren’t what they use to be. But I can see the hurt in her eyes. This woman and her kids deserve 100% happiness. She’s the most selfless mom I’ve seen on youtube, constantly putting EVERYONE first. She needs to be first for once.
That's what she's doing now. Putting herself first. It's awesome.
Are you still doing the shaytards channel
Agree 100%. ❤️
Agree 100%. ❤️
Dear Young Women,
Life is messy but it doesn't mean that you have to accept it.
Know your worth.
Know what you deserve.
If your partner continuously disrespects you. Leave.
IF you have children, set an example. Let them know that they should keep company with people who treat them with respect.
Do not accept mess.
Please.
Amen.
AMEN!!!
A little louder please!!
One more time for the people in the back!
AMEN
Why do the best people go though the worst things?
jesskateboyd because god only picks the good flowers
Growth/process= happiness. People go through tough trials because they are capable of overcoming it and to get stronger. Trials are meant for an individual. It's like what Les Brown said when people complain about their problems and say why me? "Why not you? Have any suggestions for somebody else?"
"god only picks the good flowers" don't you say that when someone dies and goes to heaven?
jesskateboyd there are MUCH MUCH worse things than what she's going through. TRUST me.
frosty yep there sure is. That still doesn't mean what she's going through isn't terrible.
literally years ago somehow she became a second mom to me in a way because of how wonderful she genuinely is and that’s what i wanted in a mom .. that has not changed
I'm crying. I missed Colette so much.
Selina Ram Me too! I even kissed the phone screen!!
It's so crazy you love someone so much who doesn't even know you!
I lovw them all...
They were my family for years.. They helped me get through the day..
Selina Ram me too ❤️
Sameeeeeeeeee Love youColette just seeing you has helped me a lot xxx
Selina Ram I am crying too!! 😭😍
we will support you guys no matter what 😭😭💜
My heart dropped when I saw that you had uploaded!! Love you!
MiBay ME TO
MiBay ikr
SAME
MiBay same here
What happened to them?!?
Colette you remind me a lot of my mom, and yet even more about myself and how strong I used to be. I lately doubt myself and fear that I would never be able to do what I wish. I love you and you inspire me to keep dreaming and one day achieve it! love from *Romania* 💕
Stefania Livya n7
Shay ruined everything
What did he do?
Mimi Simon idk if you already figured it out but he cheating on his wife and yyeeaahhhh there’s a bunch of videos ab it/:
@@christalordonez2470 really? Did they get a divorce?
@@ByMariaSimon they're back together now :)
jaylen gordon I wouldn’t say that’s good..their morman so I’m pretty sure it’s only for religious purposes
Couldn't have clicked this video faster. You're a strong, amazing woman. There isn't a woman here who doesn't admire your honesty and your grace. You're an inspiration in every way. We are here for you no matter what! One day at a time. Love you Colette! Can't wait for new videos!
shayleeandbaby couldn't have said it better myself. She is such an inspiration
Me too!!!! Super click!! Lol
It's okay to accept the reality you live in, but never to give up on a dream. The person you've become has helped you grow Colette. That should only encourage you to pursue bigger and greater things that includes your relationship.
You mean so much to us! Welcome back! Don't doubt yourself, ever! 💕
VirtualSunshine amen
She's such a whole person. Like she's so smart, not many people can be self reflective and be able to bring themselves to self heal in a healthy way that works for them. She's such a warm and solid person, She deserves so much better.
xsenii tk wholesome*
@@NicosW0rld No...pretty sure they meant "whole". As in she's a complete person. She knows who she is. She is whole on her own.
Dude, my wife and I are so proud of you! What you just did was a HUGE step to heal. I wish you, Shay and your entire family the best!
So true! She didn't give up on her marriage. In good times and In bad means you don't give up. You try and it's obvious she is.
realitychangers 💯
So proud! I got the chills!
Im amazed by her strength!
The amount of personal growth Collette has experienced over the last seven months is substantial. Although she didn't leave Shay it's evident that she is an independent woman who is in no way dependant on Shay. She is redefining herself, the Collette we knew in the Shaytards vlogs never displayed this level of strength or resilience.
She is still with Shay because she didn't let this break her or the relationship she wants. She isn't overlooking his indiscretion, she is processing it and picking herself up again to work toward her goals. If one of her goals is to achieve a healthy marriage with Shay then all the power to her. She isn't naive or forgiving a cheater, she is working through her relationship problems and shamelessly acknowledging them to the public. That takes guts. Kudos to Collette.
Generic Name This comment sums it all up. Yes!!
Generic Name very well said
Generic Name well said
Generic Name This! Exactly this! You said it perfectly.
Generic Name Amen. More people need to have your thinking! :)
She sounds so powerful and she has grown up and standing her ground being confident and not caring what people think.... and I love it.
MIkayla yess. I just realized that for the longest I thought too about a prince charming and how perfectly things will be. Disney has really taught us a fairytale and how perfect its suppose to be. This is reality nothing will be perfect. Love grows and will continue to get stronger. Accepting that there is no fairy tale dream is hard, but it's a process in coming into reality that will also help you having healthy relationships because I would be upset and break up w my ex's because it's not a fairy tale. Living with that expectation has hurt me and hurt others and a bit embarrassed about it, but now I've come into reality. Moral, qualities, humble, respect, love ect. Is what I'm looking for not necessarily a prince charming. :)
She is such an innocent beautiful wife and mother and doesn't deserve any of this. I truly feel bad for every single person in their family and sending my prayers towards them and their family.
None of Shay’s victims deserve this ruclips.net/video/GtwkZdTlwUY/видео.html
Just because you dream of perfection, doesn't mean you have to settle for a mess. You still deserve something as good as possible instead of settling with something you're not fully behind
Lisa Preece you said it so perfect.
Anyone else just love Colette's laugh and realizing how much you've missed that and the familiarity of it?
midge0214 yes that's Collette :) 💟
yes omg during this video I thought like: woah it feels so comforting to see her again and I didn't realise how much I needed to see her laugh
yea... when i heard her laugh i just started crying because of how much i knew it... and it being gone for so long... and hearing it again.
midge0214 nyes
midge0214 Yesss. I've been watching this family for so long and I grew so accustomed to the daily uploads and seeing their beautiful faces.. especially Colette's. She has that kind of personality that can just brighten anyone's day, no matter how bad it is. It made my heart so happy to finally see her face again 💜
You can see the pain she feels in her eyes
“You are not any less if you’re dream does not come true” Thank you
This is heartbreaking. You deserve everything you ever wished for. You are too good for him.
Can't believe I watched you guys since 2008
JoshPalerLin your content is fucking shit
Wing true...
JoshPalerLin I can't believe you slept through all that shit
JoshPalerLin me to 😭😭😭
JoshPalerLin i havent watched then since 2015 and now I can't belive there back
So happy for you! I respect the fact your putting in the work and effort for your family. You are a good woman!
These “dreams” are brought on by society. Relationships are hard and never perfect. Do what works for YOU. These hard times make you who you are.
Waited for this day for so long!! Collette is the most selfless, brave, humble, amazing human. She deserves nothing but happiness!! So happy to see her back on RUclips❤️❤️
Why would anyone cheat on her she is such a great mother and wife Shay is blind
Blind maybe, stupid definitely.
brother?
She has some basic flaws, that prevent her leaving. Firstly, she's
hugely dependent on Shay. She lives in the middle of nowhere, with no
work. She figured it would be her place to grow old while not working.
She has too many kids, left alone with them she struggles to the point
of despair. Shay is better with the kids (when he's sober) yes he's
lazy, but he's the authority figure who restores calm and peace. Colette
falls apart at the seams with 5 kids solo (Watch their vlog where she
gets a flat tire and orders pizza to feed the kids cus she cant deal.
she lies on her sofa with her hand over her face while the kids fight
over the food. It's mayhem. she does NOTHING but give up, shay comes in
and restores peace in seconds) Secondly, from a child Colette's been
brain washed by religion into believing some truly f*ked up things. She
thinks she has to stay with her husband or face the wrath of jesus, that
kind of shit. She also is repeatedly told by Shay they will be together
in the afterlife FOREVER. Imagine thinking that's true??! If she
leaves, she has to find a money source (she cant live on shays cut
forever with 5 kids, some still small) she has to find a new house, near
a city or town so she can work, she needs babysitters, she needs a
nanny cus she sure has heck can't deal solo, and then, then, if she
manages all that she has to deal with her religious beliefs. She's
trapped. Shay knows it, Collette has no back bone. She will stay with
him forever, no matter how badly he behaves. She's given him the go
ahead to keep going basically.
He was drunk
Pinhead wtf wow
I'm really sorry to see some people here telling you what you should or should not do, instead of respecting your choices. I can tell you've been struggling, but I can also tell you've grown a lot into a much stronger woman with firmer convictions. Life never turns out they way we dreamed as kids, but, even though you're going through a rough patch at the moment, there is a lot of beauty in your life. I'm very happy to see that you believe it's worth saving, and that you're willing to fight for it. But I would understand and respect the alternative choice as well.
KKortez Agreed. People like to give advice that they likely wouldn't even follow themselves if they were in the other person's shoes. There is always so much more to the situation than anyone outside of it will never know, so we have no right to dictate or judge people for their choices.
KKortez beautifully said!
she's so badass
*I really TRULY feel like you could not have approached this video in a more perfect, empowering, most importantly HONEST & truthful way. You look so free & renewed. Such a powerful message.*
Kayla Riggs amen
Kayla Riggs how do you make your text bold like that?
I agree 100%!!
I got that vibe aswell, I hope we are right!
Tbh she looks so done with life omg
I never really knew what to expect your first video back was going to be, but can I just say that this video is perfect. Please know that you we are so grateful for your spirituality and that you are helping so many.
Thank you so much for sharing what has been on your heart. I know it was very hard for you to share. I needed to hear this today and you're so right! You are seriously one of the strongest most beautiful souls I've ever had the pleasure of meeting. You're a true gem and I'm so happy that you're back! Love you, girl! 💕💕
Perfectly well said Maureen!!! I'm excited that Colette is back!!!
Coming back to this.. and I got to say, you are the strongest woman I’ve ever listened to. Your family is so strong. Sometimes rock bottom is the best place to build a new foundation. Thank you for keeping this video up, you and your family have come so far and it’s beautiful and real.
I hope his other victims can recover from this as well #IStandWithDanna ruclips.net/video/GtwkZdTlwUY/видео.html
You are such a wonderful woman, a fighter, a lover, a seeker! I admire you! Many people would walk out of situations like yours but is this the solution? Thank you for coming back, tears stream down my face, I have so many warm feeling toward your whole family! I love you
Turquoise Cheetah You don't know her, you can't say that she isn't happy. Breaking up a family isn't "the sane thing to do". Please don't speak to what someone should or shouldn't do in their own life and relationships. Everyone is different, every situation is different.
You think if Colette left would be breaking up the family? I don't think you realize what Shay did. Shay broke up the family. Yes, maybe she is happy and maybe she isn't, we'll never know. But don't make a woman feel bad if she wanted to leave her husband because of the shitty decisions he made and then call it "breaking up the family". He fucked it up. That family will NEVER be the same ever again and that's all his fault.
Magi San she's incredible :')
A woman like you is rare. Dreams die. Things happen. The unrelenting force that is time will break us all. Some sooner than others. Only you can put yourself back together
This is the most defeated thing I've ever seen. Watching Colette broke me. She doesn't know she has worth. She will never leave him.
anna kate devastating isn't it.
It's one thing to be a housewife, it's another to be a blind housewife.
Having a husband that doesnt cheat on you isnt an inrealistic dream
He didn’t really even cheat for one... and second addiction is real and marriage is meant to be for better and for worse highs and lows...
@@aiden395 yes he definitly did cheat have you seen the dms
@@oliviagrace1930 yep I did, it is porn, and he was talking to a pornstar, while he was drunk. I wouldn’t necessarily call that cheating. He is an alcoholic and he is better now and they are United agian
@@aiden395 lol ew. I feel bad for whoever marries you.
@@Thehannahweknow I don’t cause the person I am going to marry is gonna be equally yoked and In the same mindset lol.... keep being an insecure pussy though
I’m crying right now because I never thought a family on the internet would impact and have such a effect on my life but I am so glad it does...Colette, I wish the best for your family, for your marriage, and for you 😭💜
You have such a beautiful soul and energy Colette. I wish all the best for you
Get your own fucking life. What's wrong with you?
frosty You get a life instead of commenting of some ones opinion
I can't speak for others, but I can say for myself that I, as a fan, will support you, Colette, in whatever decisions you make now and in the future. You are the one who knows what is best for your life and happiness. Thank you for sharing what you've been going through, we truly appreciate it ❤️
So happy to see you back! Must be weird from being gone for so long! I love how you make everything positive. We learn the most during hard times. Love you! ❤️❤️
And you still look as gorgeous as EVER!
I agree. Although I’m not sure the example it sets for younger girls. But we don’t know th whole story
Jamie Monroe you’re right, we don’t. There’s a lot of factors we don’t know about. As long as Colette is happy, that’s all that matters really. She knows what’s right for her
its 2024 and I still feel horrible for you
Time to move on.
@ she was done so dirty!!!
Guys, she's waited and looked forward to talking to us and sharing with us for months, imagine/think about that! So don't act entitled, like you're her mother. She can make her own decisions, and she's making and has made them. Just show your support & be kind always. I can tell she gets energy/happiness from interacting with us so let's make that a good thing for her. Collette, we've missed you and we're so glad you're back!!!
Christy Watung yes I agree 😍
Christy Watung - I agree 100%
Colette, despite what you say, we still see the true sadness in your eyes.
That being said, I hope you eventually find ultimate happiness and peace.
You are an angel. God bless you. ❤
GamingMermaid
Omg I love your channel!!!😭😁❤️
I love you videos so much and she is a 😇 😇 😇 😇 😇
McDnish Really on this video!
GamingMermaid love you
I love that both my fav RUclipsrs are friends!!😘
Bro she looks younger and younger every year tho😂
This is a Prime example of proof that no family is perfect, even though we think they are.
That is so ture
Know your worth honey because you deserve better you stuck by that man when he had nothing and he still hurt you.
Accepting and forgiving are powerful tools. But remember to not use acceptance as a mask for what you actually want or value. It's okay to accept, forgive and move on or let go.
Hanna very well said .
Hanna exactly my thoughts...she could totally forgive and move on..and I don't see her doing it..she is very dependant on Shay and stability with 5 kids is a major factor. 😕😕 prayers for her and her beautiful kids.
Turquoise Cheetah Never heard or read about that limit... as far as I can see that limit is up to the individual.
I love you, Colette. 4 years ago I was 19 and I named my first daughter Avia, because your family love was so beautiful to me. But no one and nothing is perfect. I can still find strength and inspiration through your very real, very human journey. Thank you for sharing even through these hard bits. It makes me feel like if even you have to go through such things snd can pull through, we can too. Keep shining bright. A part of me is scared Shay felt like he could get away with it cuz you wouldn't leave him over it. But it's not fair for me to judge, and always I will be praying for you and your family, and all your loves, even the dumb-butt.. I believe in you Colette. Stay strong. Also the whole ordeal turned you into a hippie it kind of gave me a chuckle but I'm glad if it helps bring you understanding and calm.
Every single ounce of respect for you, Colette. This is hard enough to go through without having an audience, but the way you've decided to take control of this is incredible. It doesn't have to be the way that I would handle it, and I think it's important for this point to be made clear: my empowerment isn't the same as your empowerment. The point is that we each feel empowered, so more power to you, you amazing woman.
i love this comment so much
frankiegetup 😢
I didn’t realize how much I missed your laugh!!!
Oh, Colette 😞 I've been in your shoes. I had a cheating husband, I was trying to work it out so badly. As unhappy as I was I tried and tried. I read the self help books. I read the forums.
But at the end of the day... or the months it took me to come to the conclusion, I decided my dream wasn't dead, it was just dead with him. I am so much happier now. And I have someone now who is my dream. I've been codependent, I've been terrified, I didn't even have my own car, and I walked away. I pray in my heart that staying with him will turn out okay for you. But I also pray that if you choose staying is not your destiny that you find so much happiness. I know you would.
Veronica many people are different actually some do work out, but majority it is best to leave when it just seems more draining and unhappiness. Glad you're happy now :)
J San Oh yes I know! And I hope it didn't seem as though I was bashing those who do choose to reconcile!
well said
Her inner beauty radiates. What a messy situation.
Okay, I know Katilette is already mature but the vibe in this video is a whole new different mature and I LOVE IT. Welcome back Katilette ❤
Mhysa to me shes putting on a brave face. This is numb not caring anymore giving in and giving up. I've been there I know how this feels.
Mhysa you know her name is Colette right?
Lily Hare yea I do. But Katilette is a combination of her first and middle name right? And she uses it in this channel so I don't think it really matters :)
Underwoodish I get it and I understand how you feel. I think no one should be numb of what they're supposed to feel. I think just what makes it different for her in this vid is that she ACKNOWLEDGE the pain. She's not trying to hide it. I was quite surprised she mentioned it in public anyway. I feel that if she's trying to numb her feelings, she's gonna pretend it did not happen. She's gonna say "oh let's forget about it" But she know it did happen and they're working on it as a FAMILY. Sorry for the long post. All love 💕
Mhysa
There is no such thing as a prefect marriage but there is a thing as a faithful marriage, its also ok to leave him to show your kids its not okay to be cheated on.
Except Shay never cheated. Everyone assumed he did, but it was an online rumor intended to make some cam girl famous.
frosty you’re incredibly naive if you think he didn’t cheat.
No , he did cheat on her
ky cabello As far as I can tell there is no evidence that he cheated. All there is is a bunch of screenshots and an interview with the alleged cam girl. I call bullshit. The screenshots are fake and photoshopped. And I don't buy her words.
frosty there was a video leaked. and also she posted a video of her showing the dms. and he posted on his own twitter that he made mistakes because of alcohol the day that it got leaked. that’s proof.
Watching this reminded me of a quote from the movie the perks of being a wallflower- "We accept the love we think we deserve."
aneesah eysha exactly. i love that movie sm
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dammnm I hope she reads this quote!!! its soo true
She is so amazing like she has been through so much and yet forgives but never forgets so thank you for being this inspirational figure for us to look up at
Even though it's made you who you are, you don't need to accept abuse and mistreatment. I know that may sound harsh, but if someone you love continues to behave badly and hurts you and emotionally abuses you and your trust, then you shouldn't accept it. Maybe you can work through it, but it's not on you. You cannot accept someone who doesn't respect you, so please keep that in mind.
the book she is reading is about codependency ... and staying with an abuser is an example of codependency.
Thank you so much for sharing, it's wonderful to hear from you again and what you said in this video really resonated with me - you're one of my biggest role models and I'm so grateful for your wisdom! Lots of love x
CBas _ wtf is wrong with you
Summer Jones uhh u ruined it
Summer Jones Do you know what freedom of speech is?
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SuriGee Z what did she do?
Colette is WOKE. We missed your love and light. You shine bright ❤️❤️
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Show some compassion. She has acknowledged HER problem is co dependency. She does not control Shay, although she is allowing his alcoholism to control her. All she can do is focus on gratitude and allow her highest self to align with her highest good by releasing what no longer serves her. The rest will follow. Colette IS growing because of this, she is enlightened and strength follows an awakened soul. She has made a breakthrough and she will always have love for Shay as the father of her children.
This is the second time I've watched this video. I get it. My dream was basically the same. To meet my prince charming, to have lots of kids, to be that family who laughs together and shares their hearts. It didn't turn out that way. We've had children with disabilities and mental illness. The dynamics of our family life is forever changed and shifted. I never thought that I was strong enough to deal with the things that I've dealt with. But at the end of the day I have become a different person. Someone who I can say I'm proud to know.. Thanks for sharing Colette.
Susan- I can't believe how similar our dreams and our real lives are! I had the same exact dream as you- and instead of a million kids lol- I was very very blessed to be given three living children- one who was born with no immune system and basically we jokingly call him bubble boy- and his life so far of 17 years has been filled with illness and diseases that have almost killed him multiple times. My next child my beautiful daughter who is now 16, was born with autism and at age 8 we finally found why she would randomly throw up- she had massive kidney stones blocking her little kidneys and she couldn't tell us that her tummy hurt! That started a life full of pain surgeries hospital admissions frequently and passing kidney stones every single day- with no cure. Around age 12 ..she blossomed as far as the autism- goes and most people would never know she has it. She is incredible, full of grace and faith, never complains about pain or her situation and is generally an incredible example to our family. Then theirs my youngest daughter- she used to be a littlr fireball- of joyful fun energy- but a couple of years ago she was in a minor car accident that caused severe PTSD and a massive anxiety disorder. Life is pretty wild- definitely not what i dreamed of! But im so thankful that its my life ands right now the reason I came Back ti this video- was because i'm in the midst of trying to change many things about myself so that I can be proud of who I am. Your comment gives me so much hope that you have had the same hopes and dreams and you've been given the same type of difficult exhausting sometimes scary life that I've been given- but we are blessed and you have become a woman that you are proud of and I have hope that i can become that too. ❤
@@jaelleericaAutism isnt a disease, and it is something you WANT to be able to "show", since it can be so invisible. I have autism and I hate when people think I'm "cured" one day when I'm communicating better or not stimming as much ect.
That is not healthy for me or anyone to try to hide it.
But as far as the other struggles in your comment goes, I can definitely understand that all that must have been very scary and hard to go through,
you sound like a strong mommy and you can be proud of yourself❤
Your strength and resilience is so inspiring!
I'm glad to hear you and the kids are alright ❤️
You've always been far superior to your husband in every way. You're too good for him, but I respect your choice whatever you do. Just remember you could easily meet another man - you're beautiful, a great mother and truly kind. Been watching since 2008 so I feel like I know you. All the best ❤️
Leave him honey. You deserve so much better.
This is the problem with society, and why there are so many divorces. Leave her alone she maid the right choice to stay and fix her problems rather then just leave
Alfred Ulaj until next time he cheats...
If one makes a humane mistake then you shouldn’t continue something that has been thoroughly talked about. Will his actions ever be justified for him cheating on his wife? No, but he forgave his sin. Whether are not of what you say of his forgiveness, you don’t know his emotional being and how he will react to a traumatic moment. I forgive him, but it’s not an excuse and he knows it’s not. He’s working hard and going to rehab. He is working hard to do whatever he can to become a better human being. Its her opinion whether or not she wants to get back together with him. I don’t think she should but whatever they choose I will go with.
Alfred Ulaj the problem with society is that people think relationships are supposed to last a lifetime
Allie G I called shay out? Did you even read my comment?
I’m going through a breakup and this made me cry I need to let my dream die. Thank you Colette you’re so strong
Haven’t even watched yet but I have to say WELCOME BACK!! Missed you so so much!!! Okay...off to watch now. 💕💕💕💕 - Candi Okay, I watched and now have to comment---> Amazing comeback. You know you are a strong woman and have so many people that admire you and feel like you're one of their friends (like me!) even though we've never met. The struggles you have gone through the past year just make you that much more relatable to people. We all have struggles and have gone through hard times and it's how we react to them that matters most. You've picked yourself up, dusted yourself off, and are ready to be vulnerable to the world again. It's harsh here in RUclips land, you know that. But you will always have your true supporters who love you and have missed you so much!! Can't wait for The Mom's View next week!
If you look at her twitter, she actually hates her subs.
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Wishing you all the best. Your right life isn't perfect. I imagine as a mother of 5 and a husband struggling with alcoholism it's not easy to find time to work on yourself. But you are and you truly deserve all the happiness you can give to yourself. It's easiest to blame and point fingers but not easy to accept what is. This will all hopefully be just a big bump in the road and hopefully it smooths a bit for a breather soon. There will always be big bumps and little bumps, enjoy the breaks in between, take in the moments of simple bliss.
DanielleBabyBliss The first problem between them was about the cheating, second one was alcoholism. Shay might say, I cheated on you because I was drunk! Bull 💩
DanielleBabyBliss what did I miss
Hi Daniella I watch your vlogs it was so nice to see you post such a sweet comment.
Thank you for sharing this, it's touching.
You've helped me get through so much BS. I'm glad to see you again
I still continue to come back to this video so many times over the years. I think for the same reason Collette says, that we're all going through the same and this video resonates so much i've probably watched it a hundred times. This video is so powerful as she speaks with such strength and grace she is amazing.