When I like someone... I ask God to lower the sound of my inner desire, heighten His voice and reveal the person's character. Never took it further than that because I genuinely didn't want a romantic relationship until recently. I have to be better 😆. I'm really good at ignoring my feelings but am now willing and ready to date.
I've shunned dating for so long, I don't know when to move forward or not. I'm 20 and in college, about to move out. Praying about if I should try to get to know a guy I like better, but it's hard to decide if I think I'm ready or not.
@@CareenasAdventures Honestly, don’t rush it and wait on God’s timing. But be obedient in praying and ask God what you feel He deserves is best for you to do. I’m certain that He’ll direct your steps just like the Proverbs says. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.” Proverbs 3:5-6 NLT
My natural impulse when I like someone is to find out as much information as I can about them (from others or online), in order to understand them better ... but maybe when I do this, I am not listening to God for possible plans of action instead of envisioning my own by collecting as much data as I can
You can find out a lot about people’s character online by how they reply to things and what they post… I think there’s a balance. It has helped me see things and move on…
1) ask God 2) knowing from fruits 3) make a plan for god glory 4) keep listen to God if there is new information (exmple:he is not from God) 5) God can allow u to be with him at first just to let u know about him (his character) God also can told u "ok it's enough, done with him"
إن خلق الله لعيسى من غير أب مثله كمثل خلق الله لادم من غير أب ولا أم ، إذ خلقه من تراب الارض ، ثم قال له :،" كن بشرا" فكان . فدعوى إلهية عيسى لكونه خلق من غير أب دعوا باطلة . فآدم عليه السلام. خلق من غير أب ولا أم ، واتفق الجميع على انه عبد من عباد الله
1. Pray about it and consult the word of God. Pray about how God wants you to apply those principles. 2. Create a tentative plan from what was learned from the word and prayer, and follow through on that plan. Plan can be changed based on any new information revealed as time goes on. We need to be humble enough to admit we may have heard God wrong, or God can change the plan/situation as He wills. Be willing to assess and adjust the plan. Hold things loosely. 3. If you feel God is giving you a green light to proceed, then do something. Talk to them. Invite them out. Then gather information on reality by doing this. I really like this strategy of remaining very close to Jesus through the whole process, because feelings/emotions can tend to take over and pull us away from God. Has happened to me countless times. Thanks!
Im kinda new with my walk with christ, ive lived like a hell cat most of my life, and lead a destructive and promiscuous lifestyle, this is great information tht can be backed by the word of God, and this is the foundation i want to build a relationship/marriage with the woman i like..... thank you
I closed my heart to relationships due to 2 toxic and abusive marriages. 4 years separated and 7 months out of the divorce I swore I'd never be interested in men. Then God gave me a dream. Powerful and it touched me deeply. It totally awakened a desire for a godly marrige. Within a week I'm seeing a man show me interest. And what do you know, the enemy runs hard at me to cause fear and anxiety. I prayed about it due to him backing off and the Lord told me to "open up to love". I smiled at this man and talked to him and it created a massive spark in me. What a difference it makes when we pursue the lord with all our hearts...
إن خلق الله لعيسى من غير أب مثله كمثل خلق الله لادم من غير أب ولا أم ، إذ خلقه من تراب الارض ، ثم قال له :،" كن بشرا" فكان . فدعوى إلهية عيسى لكونه خلق من غير أب دعوا باطلة . فآدم عليه السلام. خلق من غير أب ولا أم ، واتفق الجميع على انه عبد من عباد الله
When God truly reveals your soul mate He will confirm it over and over and over in many different ways. He also forgot pray pray pray ask God for confirmation over and over.
NarnianLady wow they really got married early? The first time I got this revelation I thought we were gonna get married early too, but the guy doesn’t know. Did the guy know in that situation?
NarnianLady oh okay thank you! I’ve been praying and praying about this since I found out in February and I asked the LORD to help me not idolize it coz I’d already began. When I posted that reply I was desperate for help and I was tired of being uncertain and always thinking about marriage. But I thank GOD that He carried me through it and He’s ordained everything that is to come, even if it’s not the guy He showed me. Thank you so much for taking this time to chat with me, GOD bless you! 🤗♥️
These are the best tips I've ever gotten. I'll take my time, try to befriend this one girl and if it's God's will, this girl will be my future wife :) I know I have to be careful with my heart, to not fall after possible rejection. Still, I have this feeling in my guts, this is something quite different than my other infatuations. I'm actually stopping myself from taking action too fast. I want to know this person better and prepare myself for a role of a husband in biblical way. God bless you all! :)
I want to share mine ‹[^_^]› I can relate to you. I have friends with this one girl who I have a crush on, we support each other and she's causing me to become a better person and inspires me to stand up for myself. Even if she's good looking, her personality and kindness stands out the most, importantly for the long term. She's the best one from my past crushes, and I want her to be the last one. She's the one who made me closer to God. She's the best girl I've ever met. We're still studying and I wanted to be friends with her first. And then after patiently waiting for the right time, I will never let her go anymore. p.s. I might screwed up a bit and missed some points at this comment so... God bless you and I wish it will turn out right!
This sort of happened to me recently, I felt strongly that an encounter was designed by God, but this man quickly turned out to have ungodly afflictions. But I would constantly feel God’s presence when talking to him nonetheless. Then I had very clear signs I should back out, but by then, I had had an intensely spiritual experience through this man and when the moment came to end it, I also listened promptly. It lasted all of 8 days, but I gained a wealth of spiritual information through this encounter and I’m glad God was with me through this trial!
I needed to hear step 3 at the 6:30 mark. It's a scary step because it's easier to sit around and wish for something to happen and fantasize about a potential relationship
Thanks Mark for another wonderful word! I've prayed for months about the specific person I like, and feel like I should wait a little bit mainly because of our ages and getting to know each other better, but that doesn't mean I shouldn't do little things like talk to them and take a genuine interest in that person and making connections with them. The only real plan I've come up with is trying to talk to them or even say 'hi' every time I see them, and to text them once a month so they don't get annoyed lol! I'll now readjust my plan to what God wants for me and my life, as well as his life. And yes, when God tells you to do something, go out and do it! My biggest fears about this though is if God told me to tell him that I've had feelings for him is rejection, ruining our friendship our my other friends judging me. May God rest upon this, give me revelation! God bless if you've read my whole paragraph! 🙏
You seem to be a good decent Christian man and I applaud you in what you do. There is one glaring problem... I am 61 years old and have been single for 10 years..attend church regularly and have always been faithful to God's words and and commandments... All of your videos seem to be aimed at people in your age... It is entirely different in people in my age... It would be so wonderful if you could address singles that are seniors...
I've been talking to a sister at my church... since taking to her continuously, we both agreed we would be friends, as I had gotten out of a relationship... but recently I have started to have a fondness for her. She shows maturity and intent in healthy spiritual growth with God and the church, as we both encourage each other in our dreams and goals... pray that I not rush this or fumble this. I pray God guide me and quinch any lies from Satan and the Flesh.
God bless you. Yes God could tell you someone is for you and change plans around.But also if the other person dont respond to what God has in plan God is not going to force that person. Sometimes we destroy our own blessings. You should be waiting around for anyone. You should continue on. Cause you could be missing out on your happiness.
To be honest I’m done trying to find someone. Always get hurt to matter if I guard my heart. I don’t think I will have anyone I’m just done with love. No point keep getting hurt and so much pressure 😔 I give up
There’s a guy at church that I see we have this special connection for this past year and he just waves at me with a very big smile saying hi but still hasn’t approached me and now I see that he’s now avoiding me with all costs.
10 months later, I'm back to rewatch this! Thanks for the tips as always, they are very helpful! I agree on consult God through His word and prayer, make a plan, and do something. I really like what you said about how circumstances can help you determine and gain new knowledge. Once I make a plan, I stick to it, so I'll try to be more open and flexible. Thanks! 👍
Consult the word of God Consider the people around them and the way they act Look for the Godly attributes in their character. Initiate with clarity And lastly, with most importance apart from number 1, is patience.
Great advice, I will try to do it. Father Lucio told me to read the Bible 1 Corinthians 13 than that's it but I didn't pray. But avoided him when we met physically. So, I will apply the advice through it.
I think you should start an Instagram page. Would really help with getting your content out there. Really love your videos. A solid place to come for me when I need some good Christian advice. Thanks for all this. God bless.
"Yes, be open to date that guy... but then nothing happened." I think this is my and my parents' biggest fear. Maybe I'm so stuck on only dating "the one" that I miss the opportunity to form guy friendships and grow in that experience even if he's not my future husband.
Thanks so much for this insight as I needed this in the moment I would have made a decision I would regret later at least with initial approach😊 May God continue to bless you & your family & I’m thankful for your obedience!
hi mark! i know i’m three years late😅 i currently have a crush on this guy that i’ve known for a couple years but only recently got to know better. at the start, i told God that i will let Him do his thing and that i will offer our possible relationship to Him and whatever His will was for us. i asked Him to tell me whether or not he is meant to be but i heard God say “no” or “not yet”. i’m not sure if God said not yet him or not yet now, or if i just heard God wrong. i don’t know if i should still like the guy either or if i should still put in effort to get to know him better even if i feel like he’s not interested. i’ve just been so affected by the whole situation since i haven’t liked anyone like this for a long time and i just need advice. hope you see this soon!
Hey it was a day my friend and I was hanging out reflecting on past events so I said I wish I had a second chance with a girl I liked and the next day I saw another girl I liked and i was like woow is God intervening
Thank you. I am very extroverted. But as soon as I like someone I am total shy. I basically hide within myself and ignore them at all cost. I know thats an awful approach. How do you make friends with the opposite gender? I go to a conservative small church so making friends with the opposite gender creates alot of excitement. I would not want to hinder any ones image or mine. I try to even protect appearances because our character impacts our testimony. Hmmm pray than do something? Is just saying hi enough? Is it brasen as a woman to ask a guy out? Am I too old fashion? This is why I am shy. I am clueless. Right now I am actually grateful there is no one at my church. I wouldn't know what to do if there was.
Just be yourself focus on God first and keep all your relationships holy and it takes all the pressure off you and the othere person God bless Jeremy carpenter.
Thanks for this video. Usually wondering what message God is sending through certain circumstances. Oh someone just came to thought. Off to give it a try😅
Pray, plan and execute then you're rejected! Because you like a person doesn't mean God has planned to bring you two together. I believe God will bring together the people who are right for each other. There are biblical examples in the scriptures.
Thank you so much, Mark! This advice directly answers a completely different issue in my life because of how general it is, I can apply it very easily to this other situation. This is definitely an answer to prayer. Thanks again!
In ny experience when God brings someone to your attention and you start liking them it means they need prayer and he wants you to pray for them so every time my kids tell me they like someone I tell them this and then after a while they end up not liking them...recently my daughter liked someone else and I asked her if she prayed for them yet and she said no. I asked her why and she said because I don't want to stop liking them. 😂
Awesome video🌺thank you for this information for my future Mark it's very helpful and motivating. I'm not currently dating and have been single and celibate for years can you please talk about celibacy in one of your videos while being single until marriage thanks. God bless you and your family.🌼
It would be wonderful if there was a Christian dating site and when I say that I mean people living in the as a Christian now. Walking living in his word. They have a site but it's not the same, they believe in God but there not putting him first there still walking in sin, Bars smoking etc, not judging just saying it would be nice to met people that left there old self and honestly growing and walking in his word.. Good advice.
You're a good guy. I bless God for your work. You're an asset to the kingdom and I pray all that concerns you be a priority to our Father and that your feet remain planted in truth all your days in Jesus Name, Amen.
I've been watching your videos for a while and I find them very informative and succinct. I recently got out of a relationship that I know God didn't want for me in the long term and have been using this time to prepare myself in singleness for the one God has for me. Could you please pray for me that God reveals anything I still need to fix, that he brings the right man into my life, and just in general some encouragment? Thank you and God bless! Keep up the awesome videos!
I've had a crush on a guy for over a year now and finally had the chance to meet him less than a month ago. I fear rejection and I know that's weak. He's a strong Christian, and I'm a newbie - not even baptized yet and reading the Bible every day as I didn't grow up learning Gods word . Part of me just wants to let things happen naturally. We talk occasionally when we see each other, no flirting . First time in my life I'm afraid to take the lead when I always use to . And if he hasn't been , it tells me more to just focus on praying and reading more ... :/ only time will tell I suppose. I'm afraid to tell him about my lack of growing up in a home where Gods word wasn't talked about.... but he is studying to be a minister ... I know he would understand. But would he turn away from a woman like me?
Doesn't matter how much longer he has been with God than you sis,the desire of a godly man is a woman genuinely pursuing Christ so that should be attractive enough, nothing wrong with one being stronger than the other ,at least he can teach you As long as your a Christian just like him that's all that matters,I don't think your lack of years in an issue sis 🙂❤️God bless you
إن خلق الله لعيسى من غير أب مثله كمثل خلق الله لادم من غير أب ولا أم ، إذ خلقه من تراب الارض ، ثم قال له :،" كن بشرا" فكان . فدعوى إلهية عيسى لكونه خلق من غير أب دعوا باطلة . فآدم عليه السلام. خلق من غير أب ولا أم ، واتفق الجميع على انه عبد من عباد الله
I've been trying to date this girl at for about a year. I've never felt this way about anyone, but she's always got an excuse for not hanging out. I know she's Interested, because of the way she acts around me. I found out today that she struggles with social anxiety, which would explain why she doesn't like to get out much. How can I date someone who's afraid to date?
Ryan Stewart, perhaps try to be friends longer than you normally would to make her feel comfortable with you. Some people need extra assurance before committing in dating. This may help too ruclips.net/video/Vgi_ElUZHbk/видео.html
Did you ask this young lady out yet?? How are you sure that she certainly likes you? not to sound harsh but I have major social anxiety as well and if a guy who I like ask me out I'm definitely going to go on the date with him.
I am often confused by what a godly relationship is supposed to look like because I have never been in one before. But God is not a fortune teller and He doesn't promise us that our desires will always align with his will for your life. I think that both people have to yes, be attracted to each other and like spending time together but if God is not at the center it will probably not work out. I have been through some pretty dark and lonely times but l can't let that push me into a relationship that wasn't meant to be. If there is no love there is no light.
How about walking by faith and not by sight? Even if the circumstances suggest they may not be interested, shouldn't one believe what God told them is true?
I’ve been praying about someone I know & not sure about him. There’s a few things I normally wouldn’t be open to about him so just trying to see where God leads. I’ve kinda felt the “go ahead” but this morning I was praying & just felt like he’s not the one. I could be wrong but idk. I haven’t seen anything in circumstances or in him yet so idk yet since it’s only been a few weeks since I’ve been interested & I still don’t know him well.
God would always want us to know a person before involving our self with the person, i think it’s better to strive for a friendship with him first, know his heart, and how he is, Love awakens when it wants to as the Bible says . You Said You haven’t known him for that long, so work on that first , or else even if the Lord was saying “Go ahead” and “He’s the One” to you, Bcs you barely know him, he won’t go anywhere.
@@vanessaa6555 I’ve actually known him for years, just not very well. I only mean that I feel like God has given me the go ahead by wanting me to continue to pray about it, nothing else. Well maybe to just be open to it. I’m in no rush & want to get to know anyone as a friend first.
@@nappyfries oh okey, now I understand. my bad for misunderstanding, but when I read what u said I kinda interpreted it according to the situation I’m going through , so in my response, I might’ve been convicting my self a bit , so if it didn’t align with what u was saying sorry on that 😂. But yes continue to pray about it,maybe the Lord is looking to see if yours eyes can be on him concerning the confusion. Stay prayed up bout && don’t stop, God bless you.
Thanks for your great advice ! Actually,I like someone in my church I feel that I would like to marry him but I have trust issu,because I was hurt already.Please what should I do?
Hey Mark! Should Christian guys be concerned about how skilful they are at attracting girls/building connection and romance with them? The reason I am asking is because I fear my ability to attract females may become a barrier in finding a spouse I like...Would greatly appreciate your help brother!
Amen! Loved these videos, what if the circumstances are favorable, and you kinda hold onto the promise as per say but he's not pursuing you after the tentative plan? Gbu
Hi Mark...how about like in my case, i met him on online dating site (im from PH and he is from US)... we've been chatting for 2 months. He really liked me...but im praying for it. Im patiently waiting for God's approval...so im just keep replying to this guy.
TL;DR: There's this guy that I really like (who goes to the same uni and has the same major as me) and I've been praying about him these past months. It seems that God is giving me confirmations through my numerous encounters with him (that are too big to be considered a coincidence) that always happens after I pour my heart out to God, but I'm worried that I could be merely reading too much into things since I have never talked to this guy yet. He's going to graduate real soon, and I might never see him again. There's a part of me that wants to just go up to him, and introduce myself - there's a part of me that wants to do something about it. But there's also a part of me that tells me to stay patient, to wait on God, even when I feel like time is running out. What should I do? There's this guy that I reaaaaaally like, who goes to the same uni and has the same major as me. The first time I saw him, he really captured my attention, but around that time I thought I might never see him again. A few weeks later, my friend starts gushing about this guy who she thinks is really cute, and then I realize it's him. That was when I started to develop a teeny tiny crush on him. I was always looking forward to seeing him (even though it's almost impossible, because he's graduating soon and I just started college this year, we have diff schedules and it's a big university). I prayed to God about my feelings of course, telling Him to help me guard my heart and to not lose sight on Him and His will. I asked for advice from a Christian friend, and she told me that it would probably be best wait on the Lord about it. Weeks went by, I decided to add him on Facebook. I got to know more about him (through browsing of course, my bad), and I think I started developing deeper feelings for him when I discovered that he's a Christian. From that point, I really began asking God if this could probably be a part of His will for me, I don't know, all the guys that I've liked before weren't Christians, and I've never felt closer to the Lord since I started liking this guy. From these prayers and from always coming across particular verses, I knew that God was telling me to wait on Him and to stay patient. I actually really like this guy now, though I haven't talked to him (not even once), so I'm worried that I could be investing so much of my feelings into someone who isn't even a part of God's will for me. I would always ask God to take these feelings away from me if they aren't from Him, and to give me *explicit* confirmations that this person is for me. I know it sounds weird, because he probably doesn't even know me. God has given me confirmations, numerous times, through my circumstances. Every time I would pour my heart out to the Lord and pray about this person and for confirmations, I get encounters with this guy that are too big to be a coincidence. It's almost impossible to see him, but when I do, it's always after I've poured my heart out to God. So I took those circumstances as confirmations coming from God. What worries me is he's going to graduate real soon, and I might never see him again. There's a part of me that wants to just go up to him, and introduce myself - there's a part of me that wants to do something about it. But there's also a part of me that tells me to stay patient, to wait on God, even when I feel like time is running out. What should I do? Help me outtttt!
I am trying to dissect everything you said. First and foremost running into someone is and I repeat Is Not Confirmation God is putting someone in your life. Second you should be pouring your Heart out to God for God. Not a relationship. It’s seems you are unclear about Gods direction for your life. So my ultimate advice get to know God, Pursue God! And He makes everything clear in His perfect time. Don’t let your focus be a relationship. Let it be God, and when and if it’s time. You will experience true Confirmation.
Im 24yrs I really like a guy that I've went to school with since 2nd grade all the way through high school. I trusted Christ 2yrs going on 3yrs in 2022, and I've been going to church. I didn't know it but this guy that I've went to school with all these years goes to my same church. I've been praying about it and asking for Gods direction, but I found myself really self conscious because I'm overweight and this guy I like is skinnier than me. Any advice? This has been really weighing on my Heart I'm afraid to be honest.
I know this is 9 months late. But read proverbs 31. The guy will love you because of your fear for the Lord not because of your body. Yes, attraction to someone is important. But the number one thing is their love for Jesus. So do not fear if God wants you two to be together to glorify Him He will do it!!! Lmk any updates by now!
Hi Mark, I do need some advice. I recently got a date whom I found is a really caring and loving person. But 3 weeks ago, he stopped dating and said that he’s got little time for me. I wrote him several times after he said goodbye to invite him out for a talk, but he didn’t reply. If I wrote other type of message, he still replied. What i feel about the reason of breaking up is that I got bit oppressive in this dating relationship since I would be upset if he didn’t reply quickly or in a certain way... 😔 I realized that, but it’s a bit too late. My question is: what should I do if I still want him back? Can I pray to God for that? Thanks a lot...
Yes, this can be very hard. This video may help some. It won't apply completely but the general truths should help I hope: ruclips.net/video/QTXex0wQ5LY/видео.html
Mark what about if you find yourself in situations where you only started liking or developing an attraction for someone because of how well they know the Word or how well they pray, how deep they are in ministry and how often they go to church etc but then you realise that you have no real attraction or connection to them outside of this. Should i then take a step back and ask myself if the only reason i like this person is because of the abovementioned reasons then is something wrong with that? Shouldnt your liking for someone go deeper than this? If you cant connect outside of these things and outside of the church and you have different personalities and likes and dislikes and not much in common outside of church should i question if i really do want to pursue something with them? (Hope im making sense) lol
Renata Joseph, I agree. You can check all the biblical boxes but there needs to be a personal connection too. Romance is not a command in the Bible, it's an option for those who desire it. Therefore you should have a personal desire for this person. Hope that helps :)
Renata Joseph OH MY GOSH, I am on the same boat as YOU. But, I believe that this infuation or interest in someone is something the devil would prey and play tricks in your mind. It cause me to overthink, feel insecure and uncomfortable. So I am STOPPING myself from delving deeper into temptation before it’s too late, the battle of temptation is won even before it begins, distraction leads to detour , detour leads to death.
You are making perfect sense. There are Christians who have gotten married & they're unhappy or at least one spouse is, because their compatibility was as a brother & sister in the Lord. They have nothing or very little in common as husband & wife: likes, values, goals, expectations, personality. They love the Lord but they are not in love with eachother. They admire the Christian attributes the other may demonstrate or possess, and got along better as friends than as a married couple. Christians have married a fellow Christian to avoid being unequally yoked, only to find themselves in the very dilemma you are highlighting.
Was friends with her in kindergarden and we crushed on eachother also back then :) We even got a picture together so we had quite the friendship going. Then we sorta split off since I'm a year older and now we are in middle school and I think we still may have those same feelings. I want to become friends with her first and take it slow like u said, but it seems someone is trying to talk me out of it (the devil) making me think of negative ways it can all turn out. Any advice to become friends with her again for my age group? (Gr7-8)
I have a question I like a Christian girl I’m started to get strong attraction and feeling of love for her, I sent her some passages of the Bible and I try to write her or sent a text message bc I’m shy and a little nervous to talk to her and she replied most of them well almost all of them and told her my testimony but what should I do when this christian girl has a crush on other guy I mean what I do, I prayed to God more and more this is like the time I have never felt so empowered to face my fears overall about loving myself the way the god made me ( bc I didn’t feel so charmed a charming guy ). But I asked god for guidance and wisdom I always sent a message asking he can’t bless it for her and he does but idk if keep doing it and saying or keep texting at her or talk to her if she has another guy on the mind, I know god has plans for everyone and for my life and he has everything in control but I really love her I’m just like idk help
Eagles In The Storm can you send her a text asking to grab coffee sometime? I mean if you’re already talking via message anyway it’s not like it’ll be out of the blue that you’re texting her. It’s worth a shot at least!
I have texted him, and he did reply for the first 4 messages, after that, he only seen my text. How about that? Is it mean a No from God? Should I wait or just move on? Thank you.
Okay. Question. What if I liked this pretty gal at church. I had prayed about it many times asking God if it's okay to date that person. I asked her out but nothing happened. Although 3 people from church had spoken to me about possibly dating her. So should I ask her again? Bc i really don't want to sound desperate.
I have a crush on a guy who goes to a different church. I don’t even want to like him honestly. I told God the only person I want to like is my future husband and I know this guy isn’t it. Not anything on him but more on my part. I’m like out of his league and the thought of me even wanting to hang out with him makes me so distressed. I am asking the Lord to take all desires away but I keep replying scenarios in my head and I hate it………how the heck do you even get over a crush!!!!!!!!
I like the video, it's really nice and insightful but there was one thing you got wrong. You said "God could tell you something and then he could change that" that's simply not true James 1:17 talks about how God "does not change like shifting shadows" and Numbers 23:19 says "God is not a man, that He should lie, nor a son of man, that He should change his mind. Does He speak and than not act? Does He promise and not fulfill?" so from these verses given, no, God can NOT change His mind on anything He says.
I think he is trying to say that God's plan for us can go in a direction that we did not expect. Not that God changed but that our idea of what the plan was, changed.
Always Seek the LORD with all our heart Then you will hear Him and know His will If you seek after your own desires instead you CANNOT hear God loud and clear because you put your choice before God and start to second guess whether it is from Him /Did God say yes? or No? That's when confusion will be loud and personal desires walked ahead of God!
Hi mark, Iam a Christian, but some how I got attracted to non believer and Iam sure that it is not God's will. But it became idol and Iam unable to come out of this sin. Iam praying to god that because of this sin Iam blocking God to give his blessing on my life? Iam getting afraid and discouraged. Would you please suggest what can o do
I understand how you feel i'm getting my walk right with god and i had to let go of my friend who is not a believer it hurts so bad but god was telling me too let him go...
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Do Not walk ahead of God
Wait for His Leading
God's Amazing Grace yeah! Amen 🙏🏽
Yeah it kinda scares me that I'm over shooting it or just waiting to long 😟
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Amen!! Reading the comments are really blessing me God bless you !!
When I like someone... I ask God to lower the sound of my inner desire, heighten His voice and reveal the person's character. Never took it further than that because I genuinely didn't want a romantic relationship until recently. I have to be better 😆. I'm really good at ignoring my feelings but am now willing and ready to date.
Your first sentence couldn't have been said any better. That really hit home!
Wow so powerful God bless you !!
Hi Kim, What you said here is really good and very meaningful. I’m hoping that God has lead you to the man He feels is right for you.
I've shunned dating for so long, I don't know when to move forward or not. I'm 20 and in college, about to move out. Praying about if I should try to get to know a guy I like better, but it's hard to decide if I think I'm ready or not.
@@CareenasAdventures Honestly, don’t rush it and wait on God’s timing. But be obedient in praying and ask God what you feel He deserves is best for you to do. I’m certain that He’ll direct your steps just like the Proverbs says.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.”
Proverbs 3:5-6 NLT
Pray and ask God for Confirmation by giving you His Peace that surpasses all understanding to Guard your heart and mind in Christ Jesus!
Wonderful
Amen Amen Amen!
Amen!
“Father, if it is Your will _________. Not my will, but Your will be done.” Luke 22:42
Pray about it
Come with a plan
Do something about it
The do something is the hardest part.
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Doesn't guarantee success. If it's God's will you will date that person.
Do what? Stick with a corporate 9-5 job and suck it up?
My natural impulse when I like someone is to find out as much information as I can about them (from others or online), in order to understand them better ... but maybe when I do this, I am not listening to God for possible plans of action instead of envisioning my own by collecting as much data as I can
Well said, I think many can relate to this
Both are important I think.. 🔑
You can find out a lot about people’s character online by how they reply to things and what they post… I think there’s a balance. It has helped me see things and move on…
1) ask God
2) knowing from fruits
3) make a plan for god glory
4) keep listen to God if there is new information (exmple:he is not from God)
5) God can allow u to be with him at first just to let u know about him (his character) God also can told u "ok it's enough, done with him"
هناك سؤال هل بإمكانك أن تجيبي عليه لو أجبتي عليه حتمن ستكونين ذكيه جدن
هل تعلمين أن المسيح عيسى هو نبي وان الله خلقه كما خلق آدم من تراب وأنه كان لديه معجزات جعلها له الله
إن خلق الله لعيسى من غير أب مثله كمثل خلق الله لادم من غير أب ولا أم ، إذ خلقه من تراب الارض ، ثم قال له :،" كن بشرا" فكان . فدعوى إلهية عيسى لكونه خلق من غير أب دعوا باطلة . فآدم عليه السلام. خلق من غير أب ولا أم ، واتفق الجميع على انه عبد من عباد الله
I am going to tell her today guys, please pray for me guys 🙏🏽
What happen..did she accept..😄
“When you do something, you gain information on reality” 🙌🙌🙌🙌
i cant express on how many levels I appreciate this!!!
هل تعلم شيئ عن المسيح
I really like how practical you are in presenting your tips. It's very encouraging and promotes action unlike most advice which are vague.
Amen, so glad you found it helpful :)
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indeed!
1. Pray about it and consult the word of God. Pray about how God wants you to apply those principles.
2. Create a tentative plan from what was learned from the word and prayer, and follow through on that plan. Plan can be changed based on any new information revealed as time goes on. We need to be humble enough to admit we may have heard God wrong, or God can change the plan/situation as He wills. Be willing to assess and adjust the plan. Hold things loosely.
3. If you feel God is giving you a green light to proceed, then do something. Talk to them. Invite them out. Then gather information on reality by doing this.
I really like this strategy of remaining very close to Jesus through the whole process, because feelings/emotions can tend to take over and pull us away from God. Has happened to me countless times. Thanks!
Im kinda new with my walk with christ, ive lived like a hell cat most of my life, and lead a destructive and promiscuous lifestyle, this is great information tht can be backed by the word of God, and this is the foundation i want to build a relationship/marriage with the woman i like..... thank you
Best wishes.
I closed my heart to relationships due to 2 toxic and abusive marriages. 4 years separated and 7 months out of the divorce I swore I'd never be interested in men. Then God gave me a dream. Powerful and it touched me deeply. It totally awakened a desire for a godly marrige. Within a week I'm seeing a man show me interest. And what do you know, the enemy runs hard at me to cause fear and anxiety. I prayed about it due to him backing off and the Lord told me to "open up to love". I smiled at this man and talked to him and it created a massive spark in me. What a difference it makes when we pursue the lord with all our hearts...
What happened next???
#GodisSoveriegn and He is in control of that plan..... YAASS
Yes Orlando Cardenas!
You have a lot of wisdom on this topic. I'm glad you're making these videos.
السلام عليكم
هناك سؤال هل بإمكانك أن تجيب عليه لو أجبت عليه حتمن ستكون ذكي جدن
هل تعلم أن المسيح عيسى هو نبي وان الله خلقه كما خلق آدم من تراب وأنه كان لديه معجزات جعلها له الله
إن خلق الله لعيسى من غير أب مثله كمثل خلق الله لادم من غير أب ولا أم ، إذ خلقه من تراب الارض ، ثم قال له :،" كن بشرا" فكان . فدعوى إلهية عيسى لكونه خلق من غير أب دعوا باطلة . فآدم عليه السلام. خلق من غير أب ولا أم ، واتفق الجميع على انه عبد من عباد الله
When God truly reveals your soul mate He will confirm it over and over and over in many different ways.
He also forgot
pray
pray
pray
ask God for confirmation over and over.
What if He reveals at a really young age (15)??? And kinda confirms it but doesn’t do the ultimate confirmation (tells the respective soulmate)??????
NarnianLady wow they really got married early? The first time I got this revelation I thought we were gonna get married early too, but the guy doesn’t know. Did the guy know in that situation?
NarnianLady oh okay thank you! I’ve been praying and praying about this since I found out in February and I asked the LORD to help me not idolize it coz I’d already began. When I posted that reply I was desperate for help and I was tired of being uncertain and always thinking about marriage. But I thank GOD that He carried me through it and He’s ordained everything that is to come, even if it’s not the guy He showed me. Thank you so much for taking this time to chat with me, GOD bless you! 🤗♥️
These are the best tips I've ever gotten. I'll take my time, try to befriend this one girl and if it's God's will, this girl will be my future wife :)
I know I have to be careful with my heart, to not fall after possible rejection. Still, I have this feeling in my guts, this is something quite different than my other infatuations. I'm actually stopping myself from taking action too fast. I want to know this person better and prepare myself for a role of a husband in biblical way.
God bless you all! :)
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I can relate to you. I have friends with this one girl who I have a crush on, we support each other and she's causing me to become a better person and inspires me to stand up for myself. Even if she's good looking, her personality and kindness stands out the most, importantly for the long term. She's the best one from my past crushes, and I want her to be the last one. She's the one who made me closer to God. She's the best girl I've ever met. We're still studying and I wanted to be friends with her first. And then after patiently waiting for the right time, I will never let her go anymore.
p.s. I might screwed up a bit and missed some points at this comment so... God bless you and I wish it will turn out right!
Recently I was just broken up with, but I believe it was for a reason. God knows things I don’t .
Me too
Thank you !
I feel like you have a father's heart from our father in heaven.
You will be a great teacher,
Already you are.. 😊
Hi
This sort of happened to me recently, I felt strongly that an encounter was designed by God, but this man quickly turned out to have ungodly afflictions. But I would constantly feel God’s presence when talking to him nonetheless. Then I had very clear signs I should back out, but by then, I had had an intensely spiritual experience through this man and when the moment came to end it, I also listened promptly. It lasted all of 8 days, but I gained a wealth of spiritual information through this encounter and I’m glad God was with me through this trial!
هناك سؤال هل بإمكانك أن تجيب عليه لو أجبت عليه حتمن ستكون ذكي جدن
هل تعلم من خلقك
I needed to hear step 3 at the 6:30 mark. It's a scary step because it's easier to sit around and wish for something to happen and fantasize about a potential relationship
Thanks Mark for another wonderful word!
I've prayed for months about the specific person I like, and feel like I should wait a little bit mainly because of our ages and getting to know each other better, but that doesn't mean I shouldn't do little things like talk to them and take a genuine interest in that person and making connections with them. The only real plan I've come up with is trying to talk to them or even say 'hi' every time I see them, and to text them once a month so they don't get annoyed lol! I'll now readjust my plan to what God wants for me and my life, as well as his life. And yes, when God tells you to do something, go out and do it! My biggest fears about this though is if God told me to tell him that I've had feelings for him is rejection, ruining our friendship our my other friends judging me. May God rest upon this, give me revelation! God bless if you've read my whole paragraph! 🙏
You seem to be a good decent Christian man and I applaud you in what you do. There is one glaring problem... I am 61 years old and have been single for 10 years..attend church regularly and have always been faithful to God's words and and commandments... All of your videos seem to be aimed at people in your age... It is entirely different in people in my age... It would be so wonderful if you could address singles that are seniors...
I've been talking to a sister at my church... since taking to her continuously, we both agreed we would be friends, as I had gotten out of a relationship... but recently I have started to have a fondness for her. She shows maturity and intent in healthy spiritual growth with God and the church, as we both encourage each other in our dreams and goals... pray that I not rush this or fumble this. I pray God guide me and quinch any lies from Satan and the Flesh.
God bless you. Yes God could tell you someone is for you and change plans around.But also if the other person dont respond to what God has in plan God is not going to force that person. Sometimes we destroy our own blessings. You should be waiting around for anyone. You should continue on. Cause you could be missing out on your happiness.
هناك سؤال هل بإمكانك أن تجيب عليه لو أجبت عليه حتمن ستكون ذكي جدن
هل تعلم من خلقك
Very important bc there are so many marriage courses. But, I haven’t yet seen a singles seminar. How to do “single” right and do it Gods way...
To be honest I’m done trying to find someone. Always get hurt to matter if I guard my heart. I don’t think I will have anyone I’m just done with love. No point keep getting hurt and so much pressure 😔 I give up
You probably looking at it in the wrong places and at the wrong time
There’s a guy at church that I see we have this special connection for this past year and he just waves at me with a very big smile saying hi but still hasn’t approached me and now I see that he’s now avoiding me with all costs.
He needs to be a man and ask! I wouldn't hesitate!! He's avoiding you indicates that he is not confident and possibly insecure?
So what happened its been 2 years
Yes, this is Exactly what has happened to me he waves smiles says ,,',hi" but haven't approached me at church it's been 5 months!!!
what happened now, it's been 3 years
@@sikret8672 nothing happened and I never saw him again!!
10 months later, I'm back to rewatch this! Thanks for the tips as always, they are very helpful! I agree on consult God through His word and prayer, make a plan, and do something. I really like what you said about how circumstances can help you determine and gain new knowledge. Once I make a plan, I stick to it, so I'll try to be more open and flexible. Thanks! 👍
Amen, nice tips, I've been praying for that girl but it is hard to do the first move, 😀😊
Consult the word of God
Consider the people around them and the way they act
Look for the Godly attributes in their character.
Initiate with clarity
And lastly, with most importance apart from number 1, is patience.
Great video as always! Exactly what I needed to hear and what I have been thinking about lately.
Nice! Glad to hear it :)
هناك سؤال هل بإمكانك أن تجيب عليه لو أجبت عليه حتمن ستكون ذكي جدن
من خلقك
Great advice, I will try to do it. Father Lucio told me to read the Bible 1 Corinthians 13 than that's it but I didn't pray. But avoided him when we met physically. So, I will apply the advice through it.
I don't know about anyone else but I would like to see a video in regards to dating after divorce and any biblical wisdom
I think you should start an Instagram page. Would really help with getting your content out there.
Really love your videos. A solid place to come for me when I need some good Christian advice. Thanks for all this. God bless.
Ikr!
"Yes, be open to date that guy... but then nothing happened." I think this is my and my parents' biggest fear. Maybe I'm so stuck on only dating "the one" that I miss the opportunity to form guy friendships and grow in that experience even if he's not my future husband.
look, before daiting u should be sure that u wanna marry that person eventually
هناك سؤال هل بإمكانك أن تجيب عليه لو أجبت عليه حتمن ستكون ذكي جدن
هل تعلم من الذي خلقك
@@tblazer4932 God is the creator of everything
@@tblazer4932 Christ is a prophet sent by God
Thanks so much for this insight as I needed this in the moment I would have made a decision I would regret later at least with initial approach😊 May God continue to bless you & your family & I’m thankful for your obedience!
So glad this was helpful!
-Mark
All these videos are super helpful Huge blessing for real!
Amen Guayaba GirL, that's my hope, so thanks for the encouragement :)
hi mark! i know i’m three years late😅 i currently have a crush on this guy that i’ve known for a couple years but only recently got to know better. at the start, i told God that i will let Him do his thing and that i will offer our possible relationship to Him and whatever His will was for us. i asked Him to tell me whether or not he is meant to be but i heard God say “no” or “not yet”. i’m not sure if God said not yet him or not yet now, or if i just heard God wrong. i don’t know if i should still like the guy either or if i should still put in effort to get to know him better even if i feel like he’s not interested. i’ve just been so affected by the whole situation since i haven’t liked anyone like this for a long time and i just need advice. hope you see this soon!
Brother! Great video and has anyone ever told you that you look like CHristian version of Jake Gyllenhall? LOL!
lol! I have got that before :) So glad you enjoyed the content!
Hey it was a day my friend and I was hanging out reflecting on past events so I said I wish I had a second chance with a girl I liked and the next day I saw another girl I liked and i was like woow is God intervening
Thank you. I am very extroverted. But as soon as I like someone I am total shy. I basically hide within myself and ignore them at all cost. I know thats an awful approach. How do you make friends with the opposite gender? I go to a conservative small church so making friends with the opposite gender creates alot of excitement. I would not want to hinder any ones image or mine. I try to even protect appearances because our character impacts our testimony. Hmmm pray than do something? Is just saying hi enough? Is it brasen as a woman to ask a guy out? Am I too old fashion? This is why I am shy. I am clueless. Right now I am actually grateful there is no one at my church. I wouldn't know what to do if there was.
Just be yourself focus on God first and keep all your relationships holy and it takes all the pressure off you and the othere person God bless Jeremy carpenter.
Thank you SO much for filling in the margin of a everyday practical but significant topic. Especially for a Christian.
هناك سؤال هل بإمكانك أن تجيب عليه لو أجبت عليه حتمن ستكون ذكي جدن
هل تعلم من خلقك
Thanks for this video. Usually wondering what message God is sending through certain circumstances. Oh someone just came to thought. Off to give it a try😅
Pray, plan and execute then you're rejected! Because you like a person doesn't mean God has planned to bring you two together. I believe God will bring together the people who are right for each other. There are biblical examples in the scriptures.
GOD bless you too 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much, Mark! This advice directly answers a completely different issue in my life because of how general it is, I can apply it very easily to this other situation. This is definitely an answer to prayer. Thanks again!
In ny experience when God brings someone to your attention and you start liking them it means they need prayer and he wants you to pray for them so every time my kids tell me they like someone I tell them this and then after a while they end up not liking them...recently my daughter liked someone else and I asked her if she prayed for them yet and she said no. I asked her why and she said because I don't want to stop liking them. 😂
Awesome video🌺thank you for this information for my future Mark it's very helpful and motivating. I'm not currently dating and have been single and celibate for years can you please talk about celibacy in one of your videos while being single until marriage thanks. God bless you and your family.🌼
هل تعلم من الخالق الحقيقي للبشر
Thank you! God bless you 😊🙏🏽
God bless you too!
Thank you! I really really needed this one. Especially step 2.
keep givin us the good content! love it! looking forward to see more from your channel bro!
Mark I really needed this but i need help to not be shy anymore lol
Thank you!
Great information. What if a mature Christian is attracted to a non Christian?
Glenys Jones no no no no no
Then that Christian is not called a mature Christian
Phuchay Network truth!
It would be wonderful if there was a Christian dating site and when I say that I mean people living in the as a Christian now. Walking living in his word. They have a site but it's not the same, they believe in God but there not putting him first there still walking in sin, Bars smoking etc, not judging just saying it would be nice to met people that left there old self and honestly growing and walking in his word.. Good advice.
Glad you enjoyed the video :)
Fills in the gap between Prayer and Action in Romance or Liking.
Thank you Mark :)
Cheers for this vid, my brother! 💖👍👑
You're a good guy. I bless God for your work. You're an asset to the kingdom and I pray all that concerns you be a priority to our Father and that your feet remain planted in truth all your days in Jesus Name, Amen.
This was great! So encouraging
So glad to hear that!
Very powerful message ! 🔥🔥🔥God has truly blessed you with the wisdom of his word. Thank you !
God bless!
هناك سؤال هل بإمكانك أن تجيب عليه لو أجبت عليه حتمن ستكون ذكي جدن
هل تعلم من خلقك
I've been watching your videos for a while and I find them very informative and succinct. I recently got out of a relationship that I know God didn't want for me in the long term and have been using this time to prepare myself in singleness for the one God has for me. Could you please pray for me that God reveals anything I still need to fix, that he brings the right man into my life, and just in general some encouragment? Thank you and God bless! Keep up the awesome videos!
هناك سؤال هل بإمكانك أن تجيب عليه لو أجبت عليه حتمن ستكون ذكي جدن
هل تعلم من خلقك
when I like someone I make up a whole personality of them in my mind not good. oh boi i need to socialize more
I've had a crush on a guy for over a year now and finally had the chance to meet him less than a month ago. I fear rejection and I know that's weak. He's a strong Christian, and I'm a newbie - not even baptized yet and reading the Bible every day as I didn't grow up learning Gods word . Part of me just wants to let things happen naturally. We talk occasionally when we see each other, no flirting . First time in my life I'm afraid to take the lead when I always use to . And if he hasn't been , it tells me more to just focus on praying and reading more ... :/ only time will tell I suppose. I'm afraid to tell him about my lack of growing up in a home where Gods word wasn't talked about.... but he is studying to be a minister ... I know he would understand. But would he turn away from a woman like me?
Doesn't matter how much longer he has been with God than you sis,the desire of a godly man is a woman genuinely pursuing Christ so that should be attractive enough, nothing wrong with one being stronger than the other ,at least he can teach you
As long as your a Christian just like him that's all that matters,I don't think your lack of years in an issue sis 🙂❤️God bless you
هناك سؤال هل بإمكانك أن تجيب عليه لو أجبت عليه حتمن ستكون ذكي جدن
هل تعلمين من خلقك
هل تعلمين أن المسيح عيسى هو نبي وان الله خلقه كما خلق آدم من تراب وأنه كان لديه معجزات جعلها له الله
إن خلق الله لعيسى من غير أب مثله كمثل خلق الله لادم من غير أب ولا أم ، إذ خلقه من تراب الارض ، ثم قال له :،" كن بشرا" فكان . فدعوى إلهية عيسى لكونه خلق من غير أب دعوا باطلة . فآدم عليه السلام. خلق من غير أب ولا أم ، واتفق الجميع على انه عبد من عباد الله
Thank you
Pretty useful Intel! Loved it!
Good stuff!
God bless!
What can I do if I like a girl but she's not Christian and I want to convert her?
Amen brother
Awesome video. Thank you and God Bless you. 🌻
Thank you, this helps a lot 😊🙏
Amen, so glad it was helpful!
هناك سؤال هل بإمكانك أن تجيب عليه لو أجبت عليه حتمن ستكون ذكي جدن
هل تعلم من خلقك
I like your videos brother and they make me smile and laugh all the time, I only sometimes sad, This video cheers me up thanks!!
But I know he is not interested. I am a little interested.
I've been trying to date this girl at for about a year. I've never felt this way about anyone, but she's always got an excuse for not hanging out. I know she's Interested, because of the way she acts around me. I found out today that she struggles with social anxiety, which would explain why she doesn't like to get out much.
How can I date someone who's afraid to date?
Ryan Stewart, perhaps try to be friends longer than you normally would to make her feel comfortable with you. Some people need extra assurance before committing in dating. This may help too ruclips.net/video/Vgi_ElUZHbk/видео.html
Thanks for the advice Mark. This really helps.
Ryan Stewart maybe ask her if you can sit with her at church. Going in baby steps will help tons.
Did you ask this young lady out yet?? How are you sure that she certainly likes you? not to sound harsh but I have major social anxiety as well and if a guy who I like ask me out I'm definitely going to go on the date with him.
Be a friend
Glad to have found this video (:
Thank you. God bless.
I am often confused by what a godly relationship is supposed to look like because I have never been in one before. But God is not a fortune teller and He doesn't promise us that our desires will always align with his will for your life. I think that both people have to yes, be attracted to each other and like spending time together but if God is not at the center it will probably not work out. I have been through some pretty dark and lonely times but l can't let that push me into a relationship that wasn't meant to be. If there is no love there is no light.
Awesome work Mark, please keep it up man, it really helps. God bless
How about walking by faith and not by sight? Even if the circumstances suggest they may not be interested, shouldn't one believe what God told them is true?
Walk by faith and not by sight is a very misunderstood verse, here's a video on it ruclips.net/video/JSEGMEpaYzE/видео.html
I’ve been praying about someone I know & not sure about him. There’s a few things I normally wouldn’t be open to about him so just trying to see where God leads. I’ve kinda felt the “go ahead” but this morning I was praying & just felt like he’s not the one. I could be wrong but idk. I haven’t seen anything in circumstances or in him yet so idk yet since it’s only been a few weeks since I’ve been interested & I still don’t know him well.
God would always want us to know a person before involving our self with the person, i think it’s better to strive for a friendship with him first, know his heart, and how he is, Love awakens when it wants to as the Bible says . You Said You haven’t known him for that long, so work on that first , or else even if the Lord was saying “Go ahead” and “He’s the One” to you, Bcs you barely know him, he won’t go anywhere.
@@vanessaa6555 I’ve actually known him for years, just not very well. I only mean that I feel like God has given me the go ahead by wanting me to continue to pray about it, nothing else. Well maybe to just be open to it. I’m in no rush & want to get to know anyone as a friend first.
@@nappyfries oh okey, now I understand. my bad for misunderstanding, but when I read what u said I kinda interpreted it according to the situation I’m going through , so in my response, I might’ve been convicting my self a bit , so if it didn’t align with what u was saying sorry on that 😂. But yes continue to pray about it,maybe the Lord is looking to see if yours eyes can be on him concerning the confusion. Stay prayed up bout && don’t stop, God bless you.
Thanks for your great advice ! Actually,I like someone in my church I feel that I would like to marry him but I have trust issu,because I was hurt already.Please what should I do?
Hey Mark! Should Christian guys be concerned about how skilful they are at attracting girls/building connection and romance with them? The reason I am asking is because I fear my ability to attract females may become a barrier in finding a spouse I like...Would greatly appreciate your help brother!
هناك سؤال هل بإمكانك أن تجيب عليه لو أجبت عليه حتمن ستكون ذكي جدن
هل تعلم من خلقك
Amen! Loved these videos, what if the circumstances are favorable, and you kinda hold onto the promise as per say but he's not pursuing you after the tentative plan?
Gbu
Pursue him, let him know your interested but not in a desperate way
A G women shouldn’t pursue its men that should
So awesome :)
Hi mowgli
The girl I liked before didn't like me but this one said she liked me so is she from Gof
Hi Mark...how about like in my case, i met him on online dating site (im from PH and he is from US)... we've been chatting for 2 months. He really liked me...but im praying for it. Im patiently waiting for God's approval...so im just keep replying to this guy.
TL;DR: There's this guy that I really like (who goes to the same uni and has the same major as me) and I've been praying about him these past months. It seems that God is giving me confirmations through my numerous encounters with him (that are too big to be considered a coincidence) that always happens after I pour my heart out to God, but I'm worried that I could be merely reading too much into things since I have never talked to this guy yet. He's going to graduate real soon, and I might never see him again. There's a part of me that wants to just go up to him, and introduce myself - there's a part of me that wants to do something about it. But there's also a part of me that tells me to stay patient, to wait on God, even when I feel like time is running out. What should I do?
There's this guy that I reaaaaaally like, who goes to the same uni and has the same major as me. The first time I saw him, he really captured my attention, but around that time I thought I might never see him again. A few weeks later, my friend starts gushing about this guy who she thinks is really cute, and then I realize it's him. That was when I started to develop a teeny tiny crush on him. I was always looking forward to seeing him (even though it's almost impossible, because he's graduating soon and I just started college this year, we have diff schedules and it's a big university). I prayed to God about my feelings of course, telling Him to help me guard my heart and to not lose sight on Him and His will. I asked for advice from a Christian friend, and she told me that it would probably be best wait on the Lord about it. Weeks went by, I decided to add him on Facebook. I got to know more about him (through browsing of course, my bad), and I think I started developing deeper feelings for him when I discovered that he's a Christian. From that point, I really began asking God if this could probably be a part of His will for me, I don't know, all the guys that I've liked before weren't Christians, and I've never felt closer to the Lord since I started liking this guy. From these prayers and from always coming across particular verses, I knew that God was telling me to wait on Him and to stay patient. I actually really like this guy now, though I haven't talked to him (not even once), so I'm worried that I could be investing so much of my feelings into someone who isn't even a part of God's will for me. I would always ask God to take these feelings away from me if they aren't from Him, and to give me *explicit* confirmations that this person is for me. I know it sounds weird, because he probably doesn't even know me. God has given me confirmations, numerous times, through my circumstances. Every time I would pour my heart out to the Lord and pray about this person and for confirmations, I get encounters with this guy that are too big to be a coincidence. It's almost impossible to see him, but when I do, it's always after I've poured my heart out to God. So I took those circumstances as confirmations coming from God.
What worries me is he's going to graduate real soon, and I might never see him again. There's a part of me that wants to just go up to him, and introduce myself - there's a part of me that wants to do something about it. But there's also a part of me that tells me to stay patient, to wait on God, even when I feel like time is running out.
What should I do? Help me outtttt!
I am trying to dissect everything you said. First and foremost running into someone is and I repeat Is Not Confirmation God is putting someone in your life. Second you should be pouring your Heart out to God for God. Not a relationship. It’s seems you are unclear about Gods direction for your life. So my ultimate advice get to know God, Pursue God! And He makes everything clear in His perfect time. Don’t let your focus be a relationship. Let it be God, and when and if it’s time. You will experience true Confirmation.
Im 24yrs I really like a guy that I've went to school with since 2nd grade all the way through high school. I trusted Christ 2yrs going on 3yrs in 2022, and I've been going to church. I didn't know it but this guy that I've went to school with all these years goes to my same church. I've been praying about it and asking for Gods direction, but I found myself really self conscious because I'm overweight and this guy I like is skinnier than me. Any advice? This has been really weighing on my Heart I'm afraid to be honest.
I know this is 9 months late. But read proverbs 31. The guy will love you because of your fear for the Lord not because of your body. Yes, attraction to someone is important. But the number one thing is their love for Jesus. So do not fear if God wants you two to be together to glorify Him He will do it!!! Lmk any updates by now!
Hi Mark, I do need some advice. I recently got a date whom I found is a really caring and loving person. But 3 weeks ago, he stopped dating and said that he’s got little time for me. I wrote him several times after he said goodbye to invite him out for a talk, but he didn’t reply. If I wrote other type of message, he still replied. What i feel about the reason of breaking up is that I got bit oppressive in this dating relationship since I would be upset if he didn’t reply quickly or in a certain way... 😔 I realized that, but it’s a bit too late. My question is: what should I do if I still want him back? Can I pray to God for that? Thanks a lot...
Yes, this can be very hard. This video may help some. It won't apply completely but the general truths should help I hope: ruclips.net/video/QTXex0wQ5LY/видео.html
Wdym when you say that God told you something
Mark what about if you find yourself in situations where you only started liking or developing an attraction for someone because of how well they know the Word or how well they pray, how deep they are in ministry and how often they go to church etc but then you realise that you have no real attraction or connection to them outside of this. Should i then take a step back and ask myself if the only reason i like this person is because of the abovementioned reasons then is something wrong with that? Shouldnt your liking for someone go deeper than this? If you cant connect outside of these things and outside of the church and you have different personalities and likes and dislikes and not much in common outside of church should i question if i really do want to pursue something with them? (Hope im making sense) lol
Renata Joseph, I agree. You can check all the biblical boxes but there needs to be a personal connection too. Romance is not a command in the Bible, it's an option for those who desire it. Therefore you should have a personal desire for this person. Hope that helps :)
ApplyGodsWord.com/Mark Ballenger thanks Mark very helpful answer. God bless you!
Confusion is not of God stand back ,be a friend ,
Renata Joseph OH MY GOSH, I am on the same boat as YOU. But, I believe that this infuation or interest in someone is something the devil would prey and play tricks in your mind. It cause me to overthink, feel insecure and uncomfortable.
So I am STOPPING myself from delving deeper into temptation before it’s too late, the battle of temptation is won even before it begins, distraction leads to detour , detour leads to death.
You are making perfect sense. There are Christians who have gotten married & they're unhappy or at least one spouse is, because their compatibility was as a brother & sister in the Lord. They have nothing or very little in common as husband & wife: likes, values, goals, expectations, personality. They love the Lord but they are not in love with eachother. They admire the Christian attributes the other may demonstrate or possess, and got along better as friends than as a married couple. Christians have married a fellow Christian to avoid being unequally yoked, only to find themselves in the very dilemma you are highlighting.
Was friends with her in kindergarden and we crushed on eachother also back then :) We even got a picture together so we had quite the friendship going. Then we sorta split off since I'm a year older and now we are in middle school and I think we still may have those same feelings. I want to become friends with her first and take it slow like u said, but it seems someone is trying to talk me out of it (the devil) making me think of negative ways it can all turn out. Any advice to become friends with her again for my age group? (Gr7-8)
How's it going, a year on..?
I have a question I like a Christian girl I’m started to get strong attraction and feeling of love for her, I sent her some passages of the Bible and I try to write her or sent a text message bc I’m shy and a little nervous to talk to her and she replied most of them well almost all of them and told her my testimony but what should I do when this christian girl has a crush on other guy I mean what I do, I prayed to God more and more this is like the time I have never felt so empowered to face my fears overall about loving myself the way the god made me ( bc I didn’t feel so charmed a charming guy ). But I asked god for guidance and wisdom I always sent a message asking he can’t bless it for her and he does but idk if keep doing it and saying or keep texting at her or talk to her if she has another guy on the mind, I know god has plans for everyone and for my life and he has everything in control but I really love her I’m just like idk help
Eagles In The Storm can you send her a text asking to grab coffee sometime? I mean if you’re already talking via message anyway it’s not like it’ll be out of the blue that you’re texting her. It’s worth a shot at least!
Christine Peterson I will try it! Thanks for the comment :)
Preach
I have texted him, and he did reply for the first 4 messages, after that, he only seen my text. How about that? Is it mean a No from God? Should I wait or just move on? Thank you.
Okay. Question. What if I liked this pretty gal at church. I had prayed about it many times asking God if it's okay to date that person. I asked her out but nothing happened. Although 3 people from church had spoken to me about possibly dating her. So should I ask her again? Bc i really don't want to sound desperate.
I have a crush on a guy who goes to a different church. I don’t even want to like him honestly. I told God the only person I want to like is my future husband and I know this guy isn’t it. Not anything on him but more on my part. I’m like out of his league and the thought of me even wanting to hang out with him makes me so distressed. I am asking the Lord to take all desires away but I keep replying scenarios in my head and I hate it………how the heck do you even get over a crush!!!!!!!!
I like the video, it's really nice and insightful but there was one thing you got wrong. You said "God could tell you something and then he could change that" that's simply not true James 1:17 talks about how God "does not change like shifting shadows" and Numbers 23:19 says "God is not a man, that He should lie, nor a son of man, that He should change his mind. Does He speak and than not act? Does He promise and not fulfill?" so from these verses given, no, God can NOT change His mind on anything He says.
I think he is trying to say that God's plan for us can go in a direction that we did not expect. Not that God changed but that our idea of what the plan was, changed.
Always Seek the LORD with all our heart
Then you will hear Him and know His will
If you seek after your own desires instead
you CANNOT hear God loud and clear because you put your choice before God and
start to second guess whether it is from Him /Did God say yes?
or No?
That's when confusion will be loud and personal desires walked ahead of God!
Hi mark, Iam a Christian, but some how I got attracted to non believer and Iam sure that it is not God's will. But it became idol and Iam unable to come out of this sin. Iam praying to god that because of this sin Iam blocking God to give his blessing on my life? Iam getting afraid and discouraged.
Would you please suggest what can o do
I understand how you feel i'm getting my walk right with god and i had to let go of my friend who is not a believer it hurts so bad but god was telling me too let him go...