Thankful for this ministry, Mark. I’m a 33 year old man (not quite middle aged haha), super introvert, never dated, still praying for and faithfully trying to take steps to find the right beautiful godly woman (and become the right godly man!!). It’s a hard and confusing season that triggers a lot of doubt. My rallying cry and prayer for myself these days is Paul’s prayer in Ephesians 3:14-19, to know in my KNOWER, how much God loves me, and live out of that identity… that’s hard when He seems silent.
I am forming a habit of saying frequently throughout the day “God loves me and I know it” no matter what it looks like or feels like. So don’t get discouraged! God wants you to live life as a confident, rooted-in-love man, husband, and father even more than *you* do, so keep taking the steps and He will help you (Psalm 37:23) 😊
It’s encouraging seeing your comment. I am a 33 year old Christian woman. It feels like our age is that awkward not very young, not yet middle aged season. It’s nice to see that there are men out here my age waiting for the right one, while becoming a godly future spouse, focusing on God. It gives me hope that I’ll cross paths with the right handsome godly man one day 🕊
@Parker Lewallen Same here, 33y/o and introverted lady. As an introvert it's really hard to meet someone who I can relate with; I know one but he's already married to an extroverted lady😅😊 I tried online dating but still nobody has messaged or taken interest with me, maybe because I wrote "introverted" in my description haha. But I'm not counting much on it. I think everyone will go through questioning ourselves about our singleness once we hit 30 when everyone else has been engaged or married. But now I've reached 33, God is making me realize many things, and that is to enjoy life and service to Him and to His people thru ministry.
1 Don't try to meet people like a younger person. Be more intentional. 2 Don't use courting principles. 3 Eliminate conflicting desires. When you want everything, oftentimes you end up with nothing. 4 Learn to be more accepting of others and emotionally self-sufficient. Pray about having a healthy acceptance of others. Only Jesus is perfect. 5 Change something. Try another way. 6 Stop Yoyo-dating (being extremely active or extremely passive) 7 Don't get bitter. Keep enjoying your life.
In my experience I’ve met so many Christian men who push my boundaries and do not care about purity. They will be extremely forward and say they want to have sex or I find myself trying to keep their hands off me. For now I’m just staying in submission to God and if he’s willing in his time he will make it happen.
One truth people are no longer taught in todays feminist society is on the topic of sexual market value (SMV) which is different for men and women. Women are primarily valued for their you and fertility while men are primarily valued for resource acquisition and leadership.
probably not real Christians. Premarital sex is the basics. If a man doesn't know that is a sin, it's highly likely he's not a real Christian and never reads the Bible
I’m reading through these comments and it helps me feel like I am not alone. I am not the only person going through the challenges of being a single Christian and middle aged. Dating has been frustrating. Even talking to other believers about dating can be frustrating if they have been married for like 30 years and you know they cannot relate to what it’s like dating in 2022. I even get frustrated when someone says “pray about it” and I’m like duh I’m praying about it. Or when someone thinks it’s okay to ask me why I am still single. Anyways so I try to just focus on God and my own personal growth and happiness. For example picking up new hobbies that I’ve always been interested in and traveling
I'm a 38 year old woman who was briefly married and divorced long back. I kept trying and doing all the right things I thought would help me find the right partner. It was an utterly painful process. I never got close to someone who could be a potential partner. But this jan I finally clicked with someone who I met on an online site. I truly believe God blessed this for me. As it just flowed naturally and I dint have to push it or worry about it. There is a thing that God's timing is on spot. Everything I did previously dint work. The minute i prayed and said I'm not going to worry about this, I'll wait for you to tell me- everything fell into place. I know how painful waiting can be, but God does wonders and surprises us a lot.
I think celibacy is for me. After going through bad sinful relationships with lost women AFTER I was saved, I'm done. I pray for the best for my Christian brothers to find a mate later in life.
I believe that people apply labels to people who are single. It is good if people are in a relationship but we should examine our hearts and be open to God's will for ourselves, and if it is not God's will, we should be content with being single. I believe if we direct our hearts to the Saviour, He knows what is best. We should not ridicule those who like being single everything we do is to please our Lord and Savior Jesus.
Valuable advice! As a 45 year old single woman (no kids) who went through divorce 14 years ago and is open to marriage again, I know what I want and what I don’t want in a relationship/marriage. It is difficult to find Christian men who are dedicated to Jesus and want to wait until marriage to have sex. It’s important to obey God in this area (and all areas) because it causes so much heartache if/when it doesn’t work out. It’s not worth it to bring sex into the relationship if that person will not marry you. After all these years of seeking God’s will, I still believe that He knows what is best for me and will lead me on the right path, even though it is very challenging. I don’t want to lose hope in my Godly husband finding me, but I need to keep working on my emotional self sufficiency and stability. I’ve come a long way and God is still working on me. Working on improving yourself during the waiting season is key.
I must warn you that the Bible clearly states in three different places that a woman who marries is never allowed to marry another man unless her ex-husband is dead. Jesus said that any man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery and causes her to commit adultery as well. The Apostle Paul reiterates this, saying that a woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive. 1 Corinthians 6:9 guarantees that people who live in adultery WILL NOT be part of the Kingdom of Heaven, so don't do it! Don't forfeit your soul!!
Stop. You have unrightfully thrown out this scripture and you have no idea the details of this situation. It is written that divorce is allowed for sexually immorality....which makes sense because sex joins two as one. Secondly, it is written that if an unbelieving spouse leaves the left behind spouse is no longer under bondage. That makes sense because God has spoken multiple times that two must walk together in agreement. So you can't pull out a scripture out of context like that and blanketly tell a person you have never met what they should do. You've made yourself legalistic and spirit of error has come upon you....and in that you've become a tool of the enemy like the Pharisees. Please don't do that. It hurts people.
I’m 63 and a fantastic lady was introduced to me by mutual friends whom we had both known for decades. She could not possibly be more perfect for me, and she says the same about me. Our mutual friends have all vouched for us to each other and confirmed that we should have been together many years ago.
I gave up trying to find a relationship last year. Every time I tried, I was miserable. I can't date. So I stopped trying, and I felt great. I have peace. I live by myself now and enjoy the hobbies and activities I like.
They say it happens when you stop paying attention. It's better to have a relaxed vibe and with that I lost count of how many Male acquaintances I have had along the way. I have made some friends, but in our Modern Day it is tough to admit if I am supposed to just live a Single Life that makes me available to more people with Christian love. It would be great to have a good life partner, but I wait because I can do bad all by myself.
Thank you so much for this video, it really hit the nail on the head. im 41 and sometimes really struggle to connect with your content because it's mostly for a much younger age group. Please do more for us oldies. 🙏
Thank you for this message. I needed to hear this. I'm still looking in the same ways I was when I was 20... but I'm over 50 now. I need to change methods. This has blessed me. 🙌🏽
I'm 59 and widowed. Been with the same man 32yrs. Talk about it being tough! Most men just want sex... even those who know the Bible and know how to worship. Very difficult dating in these times. Prayers for all of us. Thank you for the video. Great information.
After losing my husband more than two years ago and opening up with meeting people again I realized that dating over 40 is not the same when I was in my 20s. And the dating scene has changed as well. But because of my experience from my late husband to be loved and loved unconditionally I could incorporate that experience when I meet new men that could potentially be my future husband. Most importantly, I am putting God in control with all my decisions in my life. For now, I’m enjoying my singleness and develop great quality relationships. I don’t want to waste my time just moping around and be bitter because I’m sure my late husband in heaven would want me to be happy and follow my calling while I’m still here in this planet earth ❤😊..
We have different “seasons” in life. Being single for a while after divorce is one we may face. As you say, I think it’s important to learn to be self-sufficient and happy in your singleness before committing to another person. Otherwise, you’ll just end-up being codependent.
This is a good point but it is really scary. I married at age 20. I am 45 now. I never learned how to change my oil or a tire or mow the lawn or fix things around the house. Now I am in a position where I am getting a divorce due to my husband's infidelity. I am so so scared to do life on my own.
Great advice. It's tough being single, but I'll keep trusting the Lord. I agree with the part about being intentional. Otherwise, there's a good chance nothing will happen.
I'm so happy you addressed the traditional view of courting and how that does not apply to us older folk. I think back to when we were 18 they told us to go out only in groups of friends, go have pizza together etc. Then you and the person you were sweet on would be making eyes at each other across the table. Lol.
Thank you for this great video. The timing could not have been better given how God has been speaking to me lately. Being single and never married at 50...has been a Struggle for me. There's a decision I need to make. Either I can stay miserable (and alone) over how nothing in my life up to this point has led to marriage, or I can choose to explore and change some things while trusting God to work things out. Blessings-
Pray, and get to church where you can study the Bible in a group setting, make Christian friends, fellowship, and let God lead the way. These things will bring you joy! I'm 59, never married and there is so much I've learned from God, scripture, these videos (Mark)... But it's all for my betterment. Be faithful and trust our Father!
I love your content, Mark. I began listening to it, because I'm 59-years old and have a friendship developing with a older gentleman. We are definitely spiritually compatible for sure. As I've listened to you, this gentleman 'is' taking all the appropriate steps that you have listed in many of your videos. However, he's just been diagnosed with prostate cancer and refuses to go any further in the relationship, until he finds out what the outcome is. It has bonded us in our friendship even more though. This has changed my whole perspective on any form of relationship in what is 'important' and what is not. Life is way too short to live arguing, being caught up in petty things, not serving God together, and loving eachother as He loves us. Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, but what I do know is that I will live each day, (as if it was my last), with my friend making memories to hold on to should he cross over.
Prayers for healing in Jesus Name. This is a good time to put faith in GOD and prayer about counting the relationship and given a chance to walk in faith and not fear. Praying 🙏✨
My ex father in law had prostate cancer. He went into remission 15 years. If this man loves you and the Lord. If you can cope with diagnosis he should propose. He sounds fearful.
Thank you so much for this message. I needed this. Funny thing is everything I thought was what I should do, you said it’s not good to do. I guess I am now considered middle aged at 48🫤. I spent 20 years of my life in an abusive, sinful relationship that the Lord used to break me. After 3 years by myself I honestly don’t know if I want to be bothered anymore. It just seem as if there is no godly men out here. I know my desire is to become married before I leave this earth. Praying that the Lord gives me a husband some day soon.
Very helpful video! Very respectful, non-judgmental! Is a very delicate subject for me. Being single at 40 and praying and waiting on God, I have tried online. But still haven’t met anyone that speak my interest.
Very sound biblical and reasonable advice. I was a successful movie producer and became disabled (albeit am walking again and am showing improvement over the past decade) and I have a 15 yr old son who's dad passed away and is with the Lord since my boy was 9 years old. I never dated anyone bc I did not want my son to be confused about having any male figure that he would fear is trying to replace his daddy. I chose to raise him alone with the men in his life, influencing him being his grandaddy, uncle and pastor. I own my own home pif and have no financial need nor desire to be takrn care of, however as my son gets closer to being a young man, I consider maybe dating someone to have companionship. I am not sure what my expectations should be as I never considered ever marrying or even dating, but I've considered this lately. Even if I don't move forward with that, this advice was very sound. Thank you
In about 2 weeks I will be attending a church retreat where I will get to meet new people from different levels of their faith journey. This is the most "proactive" venture that I can muster (for now) as I am very much introverted and not really putting myself "out there". Although my main reason for joining this event is to learn about the biblical perspective on work, I am secretly praying that this will be a venue for me to eventually meet my future spouse (lol). Nevertheless, please pray for and with me on this. Whatever God has planned as I join this event, may it come to pass for His glory.
I am 62, and my last two relationships ended with them cheating on me. They both claimed to be Christians, came from Christian homes, and both were sons of pastors. So I am not seeking a relationship, I am leaving it in Gods hands. I am O.K. with remaining single, and I think it is what God wants as well. I feel that if God wants me to have a Christian man, he will bring him into my life, but after those last two; I will not be easily fooled again. 😊
I'm 47, divorced twice, two kids. I gave my heart to Jesus when I as 19, but never noticed radical change in my walk (very slow and gradual changes) and made countless mistakes through the years. About three months, as if I was knocked off my horse like Paul was, my faith drastically changed with a teary eyed reflection on my past 20 plus years. I re-gave my life to Christ, all of it, full surrender. Immediately, something changed in me. My desire to follow Jesus was intense, I hated my old lifestyle (all of it), I have strived and been successful at being super obedient, denying myself, praying consistently, reading scripture, etc. It has taken a whole new level and people close to me have taken notice. I feel very completely different than before. So here in lies my dilemma. I have been dating a wonderful woman for two years, she is incredible is so many ways except that her Christian faith is on par with what mine was 2 years ago, somewhat lukewarm. I'm faced with a decision on whether to stay with her or leave her. I was planning to propose to her, but now with all my recent changes, I'm beyond stressed. I am fearful to lose her, yet fearful we are not spiritually on equal joke. Welcome any advice...
What is her reaction to these changes in you? Therein lies the answer. If she's open, responding positively, even if it's a muted response, I would say there is hope. If she's responding in an aggressive or negative manner, I would say that there is no future in the relationship. Keep praying about it. Most likely the Lord has already revealed the answer to you.
@@KB-jo8ld Thank you KB, very good advice. I would say she views me like an alien took me, so that is telling alone. I will keep praying and make a decision soon, hoping for a miracle.
@@danielrblend this might also be something to fast about. One word of warning I would say: if she will be a detriment to your walk with the Lord, it's better to gouge out your eye. Painful in the short term but the Lord would bless you for it. I say that fully admitting that there are things in my life that I have yet to surrender fully. But your partner would have an ability to damage your walk like no other thing. All the best with your decision Brother :)
@@danielrblend any wisdom I have given you is from the Lord :) but definitely pray about it because my sinful cynical heart could be in there too. God bless you :)
Thank you for the video I was widowed at 52 its been a gut punch and after 2 yrs tried dating its been a nightmare..Ive really been asking the lord why 3 yrs Im so lonely and depressed..Im praying for my Boaz every day Idont know why the lord is allowing this ..please pray for me
Mark, thank you for what I call "balanced wisdom." This is greatly needed because a lot of singles put themselves in a box when it comes to the issues you're describing. I commend you for your willingness to help singles. I'm in my 41st year of serving the Lord. I have grown children--but they suffered growing up because it's a rarity to find a church that has a ministry for singles, single parents, and their children. I hope you have many opportunities to encourage pastors to begin a singles ministry. You are a blessing! I'm on your email list and I'd like to know how to make a donation to your ministry. Jeremiah 32:27--I am the Lord, the God of all flesh. Is there anything too hard for me?
Thank you so much for this video. I’m not quite hitting 40 but I will be in a couple of years. I am grateful for this ministry. You know, there are not many churches who have a ministry for single people. Most ministries are for married couples, children, seniors, men and women which I guess maybe singles could fall under that category but you never see a ministry for singles. Thanks again, Mark. I have learned so much from you, your channel and your latest book.
I firmly encourage to find someone attractive to you like you said. If people chose ppl like that there would be less husbands with impure gaze and wives that taint the reputation of these women that are'nt interested in their spouses. Thank you for these advices🙏🏼
Please pray for me. I have been far from God and backsliding. I entered a relationship with a non believer out of frustration of being single in my 30s. It ended in heartbreak today bc of infidelity. I need God’s grace and perspective and Him to bring healing so I don’t fall into despair. I appreciate any prayer 🙏🏼
Thank you for this. I'm 37. I was saved unequally yoked unmarried at 35 so became single. I have two young children and it's really hard to meet anyone as I'm with my children and only go to my church where other Christians are. I've tried some dating apps that are Christian but I found most aren't even Christian on them. I definitely need to be more consistent. 😂😬😬
I have been single since August of 1993. I have dated women and hit dead ends. A lot of it was my fault. I haven't even tried to date since 2011. At this stage of my life, I think it has become moot. I am 70 and retired. I don't view myself as having much of a future. I will do what I can for my children and grandchildren. I do want to build relationships but I don't see anything beyond friendships for me.
Thought i'd share a personal story. I don't know what God has planned for you or if He is leading you down another path. Never count God out. My friend lost her husband of 45 years about two years ago. Me and another friend used to go over their house for Bible study on Tuesday evenings. December 2021 she was still single and not doing well with online dating. She met a lot of duds. By April 2022 i'm attending her wedding with her British husband who was a reverend and, owns his own business in Britain which is where they are living now. To rewind a little on her life. She is the daughter of missionaries. and, has a cousin that already lives in Britain. Now she is in her mid 70's and her husband in his 80's.
You’re still alive so you definitely have much of a future! God planned and wrote all your days before you were even born (Psalm 139:16). You have a purpose-a specific reason why God needs you on this Earth. Don’t let your age hinder you in any way. Moses was 80 when he led the Israelites out of Egypt. Abraham was “well advanced in age” and still married a second time after Sarah died. If you shift your thinking to “I will get married again” then you enable God to fulfil that desire in your life! 😇
Agreed, but... let's always remember we can't do anything about height, but "waist size", as you put it, can be managed and the person's complete responsability.
This is really true. I'm single and in my early 40s and actively working on my health and appearance. I think it's wrong for women to fall into the easy trap of letting themselves get very overweight and obese. Many will claim to desire marriage but dismiss the physical element of attractiveness.
I’m only 27 but that man I love is 39. He was hurt in a past relationship and is jaded. He doesn’t want marriage or commitment. The sad thing is that he’s in love with me too but we dance around our feelings for each other😞
Thank You for Sharing I am 65 and circumstances have made me wonder if there is a possible future out there Still working and healthy and active Blessings to You on Your Journey 😊
I had a man come into my office and a voice said, " This is your husband". I have not dated for years... not even thinking about a man. But, I was confused. I thought, " Is this a sign from God?" I tried to be obedient, but finding a mate right now was not on my radar. As I began to ponder if there was "something" there, I began finding faults. Maybe his eyes are too close or his ears are too big. And then I felt this immense shame come over me. Who do I think I am!!! Not in a relationship and I am already trying to sabotage it. I have to protect my heart somehow. If this is my blessing, I just threw it back at God. How do you give back a gift that God has given you? Wow. Forgive me God.
Brother, have you any Biblical guidance for seniors who are single and want to find a follower of Christ for marriage? Thank you for your work and videos. May God bless your ministry and family.
Really great advice in this video. Starting with being intentional about meeting people. How important is it to "meet people" especially to those of us who are "middle age" or little bit past middle age 🤭. It could be the change that is needed.
As he stated, you can do all these things and still be single. If you're middle aged and watched every single person around you get married and you're STILL single... Its by God's doing... Not yours. God is sovereign and providential and he has the power to run you into whomever it is that he has pre-ordained for you to marry... Whether its at church, work, the grocery store or the gym 🤷🏾♀️ If it hasn't happened... Don't be hard on yourself... Its a part of God's unknown plan.
Yes. The Lord's ways are higher than ours. I feel blessed to remember that in heaven, we will all be more closely connected to each other than the best relationship on earth. So, whether we get married down here or not, in the next life, we all win.
Considering what I've done with my free will in the past, I'm content (mostly), to give God the wheel and count in Him to create my love story. So far He's working wonderful things in my life.
It so many fake online. I took a break from online. A lot of people just want cheat, use people, don’t know what they want, and look for sexual experience only. It a lot of hurting people haven't overcome issues from past relationships. You got to do the self development and trust God for healing, wisdom, and discernment. It gets lonely sometimes I rather be alone than deal with drama person. Some people say they want know you how you going to know someone if u don’t communicate regularly. I know people are busy. It got a priority for it be a win win situation. I'm believe God for a godly spouse.
What if God doesn’t want me to find a partner? What if I need to get rid of this desire to find a partner and have connection? I’m a new Christian, I am 35, I am divorced and at this point all I pray is for God to get rid of my desire to remarry. Please God take away this desire. Provide me with fulfillment in other ways.
Thank you for this. My first wife and unborn son died fifteen years ago. I remarried about four years later in 2011, to a woman who had three kids from her previous marriage. I raised them as my own, and divorced in 2017. I’m realizing we did not put G-d first. Honestly, it sucks to feel as though one’s love has peaked when one was 27 years old (I’m 42 now). I believe G-d wants me to marry again, however, the older I am, my options are limited.
I really am sorry to hear. But if it is in your heart, having a wife anf a family, why do you think your heavenly father would not want it for you? He knows you, because he is your father. So keep hope, his mercy should be though enogh, which does not mean, you have to resign. Keep your hope. The Lord will give you, what you needs brother. I keep praying for all of us. Your sis
That’s the issue a lot of men attracted to me are in there early or middle 30’s or a little over 40. They are either leaving a marriage or getting out a relationship. I’m 40 and divorced for over 5 years and a certified mental health life coach
It so many fake online. I took a break from online. A lot of people just want chest, use people, don’t know what they want, and look for sexual experience only. It a lot of hurting people haven't past from past relationship. You got to do the self development and trust God for healing, wisdom, and discernment. It gets lonely sometimes I rather be alone than deal with drama person. Some people say they want know you how you going to know someone if u don’t communicate regularly. I know people are busy. It got a priority for it be a win win situation. I'm believe God for a godly spouse.
Because of the destruction of family, religion, and no provided direction for either the average person or believer in the West they have been left to simply “figure things out on their own”. Feminism has conned the general populace into believing there are no differences between men and women and that males preferences for a mate simply don’t matter. In my opinion churches should be involved in vetting young people for marriage (if that’s what they wish to pursue), such as providing a true matching service rather than providing counseling after the couple has already decided to marry. This passive mentality of families and churches has led to this situation of sheer directionlessness in mate selection.
I LOVE and admire all of your informative videos (HOWEVER) I simply dont think you are qualified on this topic to give advice on it. I am 55, and the first discouraging thing is that middle-aged people will meet fewer people or have less opportunity?? This is something a young person would say! Its simply (NOT) true, depending on where you live. Also, do you realise that 40's 50s is QUITE YOUNG in 2023!! I am not sure where you live, but in Manhattan, there is almost no difference except you naturally become more responsible as you get older. And of course tastes change, also your making it sound like we need to be spoken to and treated in a very "precious" delicate way because we are so close to pasture-this is completely Bizzare to me because Most people (without the help of parents early on) etc..become successful around that age! It's as if (you) are speaking from an old-school remote type of area, while the rest of us "Middleagers" are seriously living our best life! I am 55, I have had no cosmetic surgeries, Botox, fillers, and dont use filters on my photos on purpose, its (because) Of my values, and Spiritual beliefs, that I am a product of Gods good grace, I sincerly think you may need to catch up with the times, and I'm not boasting here, but I am still getting proposed to by young men in thier 20's 30's, and they are told my age right away! Not to say. I am interested in marriage to someone who is so young, but it's not as much of a stigma as you're making it out to be. Therefore, I am just suggesting for you speak on things that you (know or you have actual knowlege in) just because you (know) the bible well, does not give you authoirty to speak on things you really know nothing of, Big Blessings! C
Just wondering. Are these guys in their 20s and 30s purposing to you after being friends with you for a while? Just curious for different reasons like future's sake. I'm in my 30s. How do you let them down?
5:43, I wish more people would learn this concept, Christian and non-Christian alike. This is a big reason behind how we wound up with the highest single rate in U.S. history.
❤😂 In early 2020, I was fit with and athletic muscular body strength/shape and super healthy, now I’m sick/healing and a Rollie Polly!😂. Men have stopped looking at me which I’m ok with that because I’m making my comeback and I’d love it if I could meet someone that doesn’t care for my waist size then get to enjoy the fit and healthy me! He does have to have some level of healthy lifestyle.😊. Most men say they want a woman of God that’s in fire for Jesus, then when they meet me they’re questioning why I’m always serving the Lord and attending church and small Bible study groups. While I don’t expect this level of service to continue when Inget married, I do want a man that’s devoted to the Lord. Therefore, I’m 52 and still single.😂❤
It's a great point that you don't meet people as easily when you get older and i personally don't meet sny contenders in church. The logistics and issues are different with age.
Some men like older women due to having gone through bad relationships they want an older woman, my bro married a woman 27 yrs younger then him. They are very happily married.
Beings that I am 69 it's been very hard to find somebody that's truly interested in me. I keep getting DM's from much younger women. It sounds like they just want someone to take care of them not be a partner in life and love. I've tried the dating app and they love keep chatting and running up the costs. I'm looking online in the usually places like Instagram or Facebook. I've learned to ask a lot of questions to see what they truly want. Then they ask for money which is a turn off. I'm not giving up however I'm being cautious about the conversation with them. I know God has a plan for me and my life. I have to be honest and open-minded and patient with the process of his will.
The comments here show too many women who have no clue that their market value declines each year. If you price yourself out of the market, plan to expire.
Just rest in christ I'm 49 working on self I'm to guarded because I been hurt a lot by women looking for a proverbs 31 women . Trying my best to be a 1 timothy 3 man .
What do you think about dating agencies for Christians? It's been on my heart and I may join one later in the year...seems like people are more serious than on dating apps.
Learn to deal with loss. You have to accept you won't get everything you want in life. So embrace that and then spend your energy pursuing what is most important. Many wan it all and can't be happy with anything but everything.
Hi, I'd like to share my experience regarding this issue. I've always been critical of myself and others, to a fault. But after an extended season ( years) of loss and pain from the wrong relationship, I've been free to realize what's most important in my life. I have a different eye for everything I see now, even people lol. Focusing on a few extremely valuable traits in a person, really makes it easier to let go of the minute details that might not be so great. Blessings and hope to you
Tbh despite healing I'm still afraid of getting hurt or asking a new girl out.I met her at church and for some reason I'm afraid of both possible rejection or getting hurt if we do date
Not trying to be negative but it will happen, it's up to you on how you deal with it. Rejection is universal not just in dating but in job interviews, etc...
Thankful for this ministry, Mark. I’m a 33 year old man (not quite middle aged haha), super introvert, never dated, still praying for and faithfully trying to take steps to find the right beautiful godly woman (and become the right godly man!!). It’s a hard and confusing season that triggers a lot of doubt. My rallying cry and prayer for myself these days is Paul’s prayer in Ephesians 3:14-19, to know in my KNOWER, how much God loves me, and live out of that identity… that’s hard when He seems silent.
I am forming a habit of saying frequently throughout the day “God loves me and I know it” no matter what it looks like or feels like. So don’t get discouraged! God wants you to live life as a confident, rooted-in-love man, husband, and father even more than *you* do, so keep taking the steps and He will help you (Psalm 37:23) 😊
It’s encouraging seeing your comment. I am a 33 year old Christian woman. It feels like our age is that awkward not very young, not yet middle aged season. It’s nice to see that there are men out here my age waiting for the right one, while becoming a godly future spouse, focusing on God. It gives me hope that I’ll cross paths with the right handsome godly man one day 🕊
@@christinelong2407 I say that to myself and my womb. I say that my womb is blessed.
My advice is to just push yourself and try something new. It get's easier the more you do it!
@Parker Lewallen Same here, 33y/o and introverted lady. As an introvert it's really hard to meet someone who I can relate with; I know one but he's already married to an extroverted lady😅😊
I tried online dating but still nobody has messaged or taken interest with me, maybe because I wrote "introverted" in my description haha. But I'm not counting much on it.
I think everyone will go through questioning ourselves about our singleness once we hit 30 when everyone else has been engaged or married. But now I've reached 33, God is making me realize many things, and that is to enjoy life and service to Him and to His people thru ministry.
I am 61 and single. Very difficult at this age to find a man who has worked on their issues and are willing to get married again. Very heart breaking.
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Most men will never remarry if divorced. It is very difficult. Prayers for us 🙏
1 Don't try to meet people like a younger person. Be more intentional.
2 Don't use courting principles.
3 Eliminate conflicting desires. When you want everything, oftentimes you end up with nothing.
4 Learn to be more accepting of others and emotionally self-sufficient.
Pray about having a healthy acceptance of others. Only Jesus is perfect.
5 Change something. Try another way.
6 Stop Yoyo-dating (being extremely active or extremely passive)
7 Don't get bitter. Keep enjoying your life.
In my experience I’ve met so many Christian men who push my boundaries and do not care about purity. They will be extremely forward and say they want to have sex or I find myself trying to keep their hands off me. For now I’m just staying in submission to God and if he’s willing in his time he will make it happen.
One truth people are no longer taught in todays feminist society is on the topic of sexual market value (SMV) which is different for men and women. Women are primarily valued for their you and fertility while men are primarily valued for resource acquisition and leadership.
probably not real Christians. Premarital sex is the basics. If a man doesn't know that is a sin, it's highly likely he's not a real Christian and never reads the Bible
Church guys , some not all, are just as worst as unbelievers. No difference at all almost in this generation.
Very wise decision!
From all of my experience, I do believe there are more Christian woman than men.
I’m reading through these comments and it helps me feel like I am not alone. I am not the only person going through the challenges of being a single Christian and middle aged. Dating has been frustrating. Even talking to other believers about dating can be frustrating if they have been married for like 30 years and you know they cannot relate to what it’s like dating in 2022. I even get frustrated when someone says “pray about it” and I’m like duh I’m praying about it. Or when someone thinks it’s okay to ask me why I am still single. Anyways so I try to just focus on God and my own personal growth and happiness. For example picking up new hobbies that I’ve always been interested in and traveling
What infuriates names when other women tell me maybe God wants you to be alone but then they're going home with their husbands😡
Thank you for this much needed message. It's tough being single and hoping for marriage when you're over 40! Amen
You are so welcome, so glad it was helpful!
P4:8 your not alone. I'm 62 never been married. Yet I have that burning desire for that Proverbs 31 wife.
Ditto!!! Tho I must admit I'm not keen on the term middle-aged!!!!!!!!!!! AHHHHH!!!!!!
@@vincentortega4284 hmuuu have u found one now
still praying for that blessed wife.
As a 48 yr old, We needed this.
I'm a 38 year old woman who was briefly married and divorced long back. I kept trying and doing all the right things I thought would help me find the right partner. It was an utterly painful process. I never got close to someone who could be a potential partner. But this jan I finally clicked with someone who I met on an online site. I truly believe God blessed this for me. As it just flowed naturally and I dint have to push it or worry about it. There is a thing that God's timing is on spot. Everything I did previously dint work. The minute i prayed and said I'm not going to worry about this, I'll wait for you to tell me- everything fell into place. I know how painful waiting can be, but God does wonders and surprises us a lot.
God bless!
I think celibacy is for me. After going through bad sinful relationships with lost women AFTER I was saved, I'm done. I pray for the best for my Christian brothers to find a mate later in life.
Singleness is a high calling too :)
I've gone years without being in romance with someone.
I believe that people apply labels to people who are single. It is good if people are in a relationship but we should examine our hearts and be open to God's will for ourselves, and if it is not God's will, we should be content with being single. I believe if we direct our hearts to the Saviour, He knows what is best. We should not ridicule those who like being single everything we do is to please our Lord and Savior Jesus.
Middle Age is the ages of 45 to 65. Love can be found in Any stage!!⭐❤️⭐👑🎉✌️❤️⭐
aww, maybe God change your desire.
Valuable advice! As a 45 year old single woman (no kids) who went through divorce 14 years ago and is open to marriage again, I know what I want and what I don’t want in a relationship/marriage. It is difficult to find Christian men who are dedicated to Jesus and want to wait until marriage to have sex. It’s important to obey God in this area (and all areas) because it causes so much heartache if/when it doesn’t work out. It’s not worth it to bring sex into the relationship if that person will not marry you. After all these years of seeking God’s will, I still believe that He knows what is best for me and will lead me on the right path, even though it is very challenging. I don’t want to lose hope in my Godly husband finding me, but I need to keep working on my emotional self sufficiency and stability. I’ve come a long way and God is still working on me. Working on improving yourself during the waiting season is key.
I must warn you that the Bible clearly states in three different places that a woman who marries is never allowed to marry another man unless her ex-husband is dead. Jesus said that any man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery and causes her to commit adultery as well. The Apostle Paul reiterates this, saying that a woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive. 1 Corinthians 6:9 guarantees that people who live in adultery WILL NOT be part of the Kingdom of Heaven, so don't do it! Don't forfeit your soul!!
Stop. You have unrightfully thrown out this scripture and you have no idea the details of this situation. It is written that divorce is allowed for sexually immorality....which makes sense because sex joins two as one. Secondly, it is written that if an unbelieving spouse leaves the left behind spouse is no longer under bondage. That makes sense because God has spoken multiple times that two must walk together in agreement. So you can't pull out a scripture out of context like that and blanketly tell a person you have never met what they should do. You've made yourself legalistic and spirit of error has come upon you....and in that you've become a tool of the enemy like the Pharisees. Please don't do that. It hurts people.
I’m 63 and a fantastic lady was introduced to me by mutual friends whom we had both known for decades. She could not possibly be more perfect for me, and she says the same about me. Our mutual friends have all vouched for us to each other and confirmed that we should have been together many years ago.
In many years of being single going through several Churches this has NEVER happened to me...congrats
Best best wishes!!!
Did you propose?
I gave up trying to find a relationship last year. Every time I tried, I was miserable. I can't date. So I stopped trying, and I felt great. I have peace. I live by myself now and enjoy the hobbies and activities I like.
Wow, good for you! I wish that worked for me! haha I could never have genuine peace just deciding to not try.
@@selohcin We all have different personalities and interests. My personality is one that prefers solo living.
They say it happens when you stop paying attention. It's better to have a relaxed vibe and with that I lost count of how many Male acquaintances I have had along the way. I have made some friends, but in our Modern Day it is tough to admit if I am supposed to just live a Single Life that makes me available to more people with Christian love. It would be great to have a good life partner, but I wait because I can do bad all by myself.
@@cathymartel9397 That's a great strategy if you're a woman, but it's completely ineffective as a man.
@@selohcin There's no strategy here. I plan on remaining single permanently. Dating is not for me.
Thank you so much for this video, it really hit the nail on the head. im 41 and sometimes really struggle to connect with your content because it's mostly for a much younger age group. Please do more for us oldies. 🙏
So glad you found this helpful :)
Am also 34 single mother of one boy buh believing God for a Godly loving respectful man
I find that I can see hope from those videos but you’re right on this also
I'm 41 too and need more content for people our age.
Thank you for this message. I needed to hear this. I'm still looking in the same ways I was when I was 20... but I'm over 50 now. I need to change methods. This has blessed me. 🙌🏽
So glad this was helpful! All glory to God!
Hi there I know how you feel it's been a struggle for me since my husband passed away I'm In my fifties and it's been my struggle
I'm 59 and widowed. Been with the same man 32yrs. Talk about it being tough! Most men just want sex... even those who know the Bible and know how to worship. Very difficult dating in these times. Prayers for all of us. Thank you for the video. Great information.
Help us older adults we are sort of lost!
God bless!
After losing my husband more than two years ago and opening up with meeting people again I realized that dating over 40 is not the same when I was in my 20s. And the dating scene has changed as well. But because of my experience from my late husband to be loved and loved unconditionally I could incorporate that experience when I meet new men that could potentially be my future husband. Most importantly, I am putting God in control with all my decisions in my life. For now, I’m enjoying my singleness and develop great quality relationships. I don’t want to waste my time just moping around and be bitter because I’m sure my late husband in heaven would want me to be happy and follow my calling while I’m still here in this planet earth ❤😊..
We have different “seasons” in life. Being single for a while after divorce is one we may face. As you say, I think it’s important to learn to be self-sufficient and happy in your singleness before committing to another person. Otherwise, you’ll just end-up being codependent.
YES!
In most cases, divorced people are not supposed to remarry, as it is immoral. The church doesn’t usually talk about this though…
This is a good point but it is really scary. I married at age 20. I am 45 now. I never learned how to change my oil or a tire or mow the lawn or fix things around the house. Now I am in a position where I am getting a divorce due to my husband's infidelity. I am so so scared to do life on my own.
It's important to BECOME the type of person you want to be married to/ marry.
Thanks for looking out for Gen Xers
Isn't it crazy how we got skipped over in the world? People talk about boomers and zelennials, but never GenX
@@P4Eight Absolutely! So true...
I got you :)
@@P4Eight yes, it’s a shame. We’re a happy, prosperous, dependent and reasonable bunch. We’re the diamonds in the rough
Hi! Thanks for thinking of us. We are an amazing, resourceful bunch!
Great advice. It's tough being single, but I'll keep trusting the Lord. I agree with the part about being intentional. Otherwise, there's a good chance nothing will happen.
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I'm so happy you addressed the traditional view of courting and how that does not apply to us older folk. I think back to when we were 18 they told us to go out only in groups of friends, go have pizza together etc. Then you and the person you were sweet on would be making eyes at each other across the table. Lol.
God bless!
Thank you for this great video. The timing could not have been better given how God has been speaking to me lately. Being single and never married at 50...has been a Struggle for me. There's a decision I need to make. Either I can stay miserable (and alone) over how nothing in my life up to this point has led to marriage, or I can choose to explore and change some things while trusting God to work things out. Blessings-
So glad you found this helpful!
Pray, and get to church where you can study the Bible in a group setting, make Christian friends, fellowship, and let God lead the way. These things will bring you joy! I'm 59, never married and there is so much I've learned from God, scripture, these videos (Mark)... But it's all for my betterment. Be faithful and trust our Father!
I love your content, Mark. I began listening to it, because I'm 59-years old and have a friendship developing with a older gentleman. We are definitely spiritually compatible for sure.
As I've listened to you, this gentleman 'is' taking all the appropriate steps that you have listed in many of your videos.
However, he's just been diagnosed with prostate cancer and refuses to go any further in the relationship, until he finds out what the outcome is. It has bonded us in our friendship even more though.
This has changed my whole perspective on any form of relationship in what is 'important' and what is not. Life is way too short to live arguing, being caught up in petty things, not serving God together, and loving eachother as He loves us.
Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, but what I do know is that I will live each day, (as if it was my last), with my friend making memories to hold on to should he cross over.
Prayers for healing of his prostrate in Jesus name amen.
Prayers for healing in Jesus Name. This is a good time to put faith in GOD and prayer about counting the relationship and given a chance to walk in faith and not fear. Praying 🙏✨
My ex father in law had prostate cancer. He went into remission 15 years. If this man loves you and the Lord. If you can cope with diagnosis he should propose. He sounds fearful.
Thank you Mark! Every rule in this presentation is worth their weight in gold 🙏❤️ God bless you!
So glad you think so Luba!
Thank you so much for this message. I needed this. Funny thing is everything I thought was what I should do, you said it’s not good to do. I guess I am now considered middle aged at 48🫤. I spent 20 years of my life in an abusive, sinful relationship that the Lord used to break me. After 3 years by myself I honestly don’t know if I want to be bothered anymore. It just seem as if there is no godly men out here. I know my desire is to become married before I leave this earth. Praying that the Lord gives me a husband some day soon.
Singleness is a high calling too :) You don't have to pursue marriage if you aren't happy to :)
Don’t give up ok? Kind of in the same boat and that life was before Christ was in my heart.
Big hugs
Very helpful video! Very respectful, non-judgmental! Is a very delicate subject for me. Being single at 40 and praying and waiting on God, I have tried online. But still haven’t met anyone that speak my interest.
Very sound biblical and reasonable advice. I was a successful movie producer and became disabled (albeit am walking again and am showing improvement over the past decade) and I have a 15 yr old son who's dad passed away and is with the Lord since my boy was 9 years old. I never dated anyone bc I did not want my son to be confused about having any male figure that he would fear is trying to replace his daddy. I chose to raise him alone with the men in his life, influencing him being his grandaddy, uncle and pastor. I own my own home pif and have no financial need nor desire to be takrn care of, however as my son gets closer to being a young man, I consider maybe dating someone to have companionship. I am not sure what my expectations should be as I never considered ever marrying or even dating, but I've considered this lately. Even if I don't move forward with that, this advice was very sound. Thank you
Please pray that I find a good Christian man to spend my life with
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In about 2 weeks I will be attending a church retreat where I will get to meet new people from different levels of their faith journey. This is the most "proactive" venture that I can muster (for now) as I am very much introverted and not really putting myself "out there". Although my main reason for joining this event is to learn about the biblical perspective on work, I am secretly praying that this will be a venue for me to eventually meet my future spouse (lol). Nevertheless, please pray for and with me on this. Whatever God has planned as I join this event, may it come to pass for His glory.
I Am 65 years Young And I Want To Get Married , I Haven't Given Up Hope . I Trust GOD . Thank You For Your Videos. GOD BLESS 🙏😊
I am 62, and my last two relationships ended with them cheating on me. They both claimed to be Christians, came from Christian homes, and both were sons of pastors.
So I am not seeking a relationship, I am leaving it in Gods hands. I am O.K. with remaining single, and I think it is what God wants as well. I feel that if God wants me to have a Christian man, he will bring him into my life, but after those last two; I will not be easily fooled again. 😊
I'm 47, divorced twice, two kids. I gave my heart to Jesus when I as 19, but never noticed radical change in my walk (very slow and gradual changes) and made countless mistakes through the years. About three months, as if I was knocked off my horse like Paul was, my faith drastically changed with a teary eyed reflection on my past 20 plus years. I re-gave my life to Christ, all of it, full surrender. Immediately, something changed in me. My desire to follow Jesus was intense, I hated my old lifestyle (all of it), I have strived and been successful at being super obedient, denying myself, praying consistently, reading scripture, etc. It has taken a whole new level and people close to me have taken notice. I feel very completely different than before. So here in lies my dilemma. I have been dating a wonderful woman for two years, she is incredible is so many ways except that her Christian faith is on par with what mine was 2 years ago, somewhat lukewarm. I'm faced with a decision on whether to stay with her or leave her. I was planning to propose to her, but now with all my recent changes, I'm beyond stressed. I am fearful to lose her, yet fearful we are not spiritually on equal joke. Welcome any advice...
What is her reaction to these changes in you? Therein lies the answer. If she's open, responding positively, even if it's a muted response, I would say there is hope. If she's responding in an aggressive or negative manner, I would say that there is no future in the relationship. Keep praying about it. Most likely the Lord has already revealed the answer to you.
@@KB-jo8ld Thank you KB, very good advice. I would say she views me like an alien took me, so that is telling alone. I will keep praying and make a decision soon, hoping for a miracle.
@@danielrblend this might also be something to fast about. One word of warning I would say: if she will be a detriment to your walk with the Lord, it's better to gouge out your eye. Painful in the short term but the Lord would bless you for it. I say that fully admitting that there are things in my life that I have yet to surrender fully. But your partner would have an ability to damage your walk like no other thing. All the best with your decision Brother :)
@KB Thank you so much, appreciate your wisdom and insight!
@@danielrblend any wisdom I have given you is from the Lord :) but definitely pray about it because my sinful cynical heart could be in there too. God bless you :)
Thank you for the video I was widowed at 52 its been a gut punch and after 2 yrs tried dating its been a nightmare..Ive really been asking the lord why 3 yrs Im so lonely and depressed..Im praying for my Boaz every day Idont know why the lord is allowing this ..please pray for me
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Mark, thank you for what I call "balanced wisdom." This is greatly needed because a lot of singles put themselves in a box when it comes to the issues you're describing. I commend you for your willingness to help singles. I'm in my 41st year of serving the Lord. I have grown children--but they suffered growing up because it's a rarity to find a church that has a ministry for singles, single parents, and their children. I hope you have many opportunities to encourage pastors to begin a singles ministry. You are a blessing! I'm on your email list and I'd like to know how to make a donation to your ministry. Jeremiah 32:27--I am the Lord, the God of all flesh. Is there anything too hard for me?
Thank you so much for this video. I’m not quite hitting 40 but I will be in a couple of years. I am grateful for this ministry. You know, there are not many churches who have a ministry for single people. Most ministries are for married couples, children, seniors, men and women which I guess maybe singles could fall under that category but you never see a ministry for singles. Thanks again, Mark. I have learned so much from you, your channel and your latest book.
I firmly encourage to find someone attractive to you like you said. If people chose ppl like that there would be less husbands with impure gaze and wives that taint the reputation of these women that are'nt interested in their spouses.
Thank you for these advices🙏🏼
God bless! So glad you found this useful!
A very nice message. I am 45 years old. I never been married and also I'm an introvert. And a single mom. So it is difficult.
Please pray for me. I have been far from God and backsliding. I entered a relationship with a non believer out of frustration of being single in my 30s. It ended in heartbreak today bc of infidelity. I need God’s grace and perspective and Him to bring healing so I don’t fall into despair. I appreciate any prayer 🙏🏼
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Thank you for this. I'm 37. I was saved unequally yoked unmarried at 35 so became single. I have two young children and it's really hard to meet anyone as I'm with my children and only go to my church where other Christians are. I've tried some dating apps that are Christian but I found most aren't even Christian on them. I definitely need to be more consistent. 😂😬😬
I just turned 66 and I'm disabled. I've been told a few times no one will want me. I'm not able to get out because I don't drive. Still praying 🙏
I have been single since August of 1993. I have dated women and hit dead ends. A lot of it was my fault. I haven't even tried to date since 2011. At this stage of my life, I think it has become moot. I am 70 and retired. I don't view myself as having much of a future. I will do what I can for my children and grandchildren. I do want to build relationships but I don't see anything beyond friendships for me.
You can stay busy for God until your last day on this earth. I think we find our mate while we’re on our path and while keeping our eyes on Jesus
Thought i'd share a personal story. I don't know what God has planned for you or if He is leading you down another path. Never count God out. My friend lost her husband of 45 years about two years ago. Me and another friend used to go over their house for Bible study on Tuesday evenings. December 2021 she was still single and not doing well with online dating. She met a lot of duds. By April 2022 i'm attending her wedding with her British husband who was a reverend and, owns his own business in Britain which is where they are living now. To rewind a little on her life. She is the daughter of missionaries. and, has a cousin that already lives in Britain. Now she is in her mid 70's and her husband in his 80's.
You’re still alive so you definitely have much of a future! God planned and wrote all your days before you were even born (Psalm 139:16). You have a purpose-a specific reason why God needs you on this Earth. Don’t let your age hinder you in any way. Moses was 80 when he led the Israelites out of Egypt. Abraham was “well advanced in age” and still married a second time after Sarah died. If you shift your thinking to “I will get married again” then you enable God to fulfil that desire in your life! 😇
God bless Jesse as you follow the Lord, whatever his will is :)
Hello jesse can we be friends
Agreed, but... let's always remember we can't do anything about height, but "waist size", as you put it, can be managed and the person's complete responsability.
This is really true. I'm single and in my early 40s and actively working on my health and appearance. I think it's wrong for women to fall into the easy trap of letting themselves get very overweight and obese. Many will claim to desire marriage but dismiss the physical element of attractiveness.
I’m only 27 but that man I love is 39. He was hurt in a past relationship and is jaded. He doesn’t want marriage or commitment. The sad thing is that he’s in love with me too but we dance around our feelings for each other😞
I'd move on. You want a jaded man?He's not grounded in Christ.
I am 70, widowed and would love to be married again.
Thank You for Sharing
I am 65 and circumstances have made me wonder if there is a possible future out there
Still working and healthy and active
Blessings to You on Your Journey 😊
I had a man come into my office and a voice said, " This is your husband". I have not dated for years... not even thinking about a man. But, I was confused. I thought, " Is this a sign from God?" I tried to be obedient, but finding a mate right now was not on my radar. As I began to ponder if there was "something" there, I began finding faults. Maybe his eyes are too close or his ears are too big. And then I felt this immense shame come over me. Who do I think I am!!! Not in a relationship and I am already trying to sabotage it. I have to protect my heart somehow. If this is my blessing, I just threw it back at God. How do you give back a gift that God has given you? Wow. Forgive me God.
Thank you for this message, God bless you.
Brother, have you any Biblical guidance for seniors who are single and want to find a follower of Christ for marriage? Thank you for your work and videos. May God bless your ministry and family.
Online dating is probably your best option
Really great advice in this video. Starting with being intentional about meeting people. How important is it to "meet people" especially to those of us who are "middle age" or little bit past middle age 🤭. It could be the change that is needed.
Thank you, Mark! Right on time to hear this message. ❤️
God bless!
This blessed me greatly! Thank you for taking the time to create this video AGW!
Great advice, to take advice with a pinch of salt & let God be God.
As he stated, you can do all these things and still be single. If you're middle aged and watched every single person around you get married and you're STILL single... Its by God's doing... Not yours.
God is sovereign and providential and he has the power to run you into whomever it is that he has pre-ordained for you to marry... Whether its at church, work, the grocery store or the gym 🤷🏾♀️
If it hasn't happened... Don't be hard on yourself... Its a part of God's unknown plan.
Yes. The Lord's ways are higher than ours. I feel blessed to remember that in heaven, we will all be more closely connected to each other than the best relationship on earth. So, whether we get married down here or not, in the next life, we all win.
Philippians 1:6!
Considering what I've done with my free will in the past, I'm content (mostly), to give God the wheel and count in Him to create my love story. So far He's working wonderful things in my life.
Thank you for this video! I really like how you come off. Very humble. God bless you!
So glad you enjoyed the video!
This is good advice. Thank you.
Thanks for the great info😊
reality check from Holy Spirit, im stuck on #6 lol great video brother Godbless🙏✝️
God bless!
Wonderful advice !! As always
So glad it was useful!
"If you never tried online dating and think it's of the devil..." 😂
It so many fake online. I took a break from online. A lot of people just want cheat, use people, don’t know what they want, and look for sexual experience only.
It a lot of hurting people haven't overcome issues from past relationships.
You got to do the self development and trust God for healing, wisdom, and discernment.
It gets lonely sometimes I rather be alone than deal with drama person.
Some people say they want know you how you going to know someone if u don’t communicate regularly. I know people are busy. It got a priority for it be a win win situation. I'm believe God for a godly spouse.
hi, this was so very much helpful. thank you for this video.
Glad it was helpful!
This video was very useful. Thank you very much for it.
So glad to hear that!
I can tell you are walking with the Lord. Thank you for this.
What if God doesn’t want me to find a partner? What if I need to get rid of this desire to find a partner and have connection? I’m a new Christian, I am 35, I am divorced and at this point all I pray is for God to get rid of my desire to remarry. Please God take away this desire. Provide me with fulfillment in other ways.
Great video. I was molested at thirteen years old; I probably have trust issues.
How timely 🙌🏼🙏🏼
God bless!
Thank you for this.
My first wife and unborn son died fifteen years ago. I remarried about four years later in 2011, to a woman who had three kids from her previous marriage. I raised them as my own, and divorced in 2017. I’m realizing we did not put G-d first.
Honestly, it sucks to feel as though one’s love has peaked when one was 27 years old (I’m 42 now). I believe G-d wants me to marry again, however, the older I am, my options are limited.
I really am sorry to hear. But if it is in your heart, having a wife anf a family, why do you think your heavenly father would not want it for you? He knows you, because he is your father. So keep hope, his mercy should be though enogh, which does not mean, you have to resign. Keep your hope. The Lord will give you, what you needs brother.
I keep praying for all of us.
Your sis
That’s the issue a lot of men attracted to me are in there early or middle 30’s or a little over 40. They are either leaving a marriage or getting out a relationship. I’m 40 and divorced for over 5 years and a certified mental health life coach
Isn’t that a good thing , a guy in his 30s?
It so many fake online. I took a break from online. A lot of people just want chest, use people, don’t know what they want, and look for sexual experience only. It a lot of hurting people haven't past from past relationship. You got to do the self development and trust God for healing, wisdom, and discernment.
It gets lonely sometimes I rather be alone than deal with drama person.
Some people say they want know you how you going to know someone if u don’t communicate regularly. I know people are busy. It got a priority for it be a win win situation. I'm believe God for a godly spouse.
Because of the destruction of family, religion, and no provided direction for either the average person or believer in the West they have been left to simply “figure things out on their own”. Feminism has conned the general populace into believing there are no differences between men and women and that males preferences for a mate simply don’t matter. In my opinion churches should be involved in vetting young people for marriage (if that’s what they wish to pursue), such as providing a true matching service rather than providing counseling after the couple has already decided to marry. This passive mentality of families and churches has led to this situation of sheer directionlessness in mate selection.
Wow, this was a great video with some great wisdom. Thank you.
this is your best video so far.
I LOVE and admire all of your informative videos (HOWEVER) I simply dont think you are qualified on this topic to give advice on it. I am 55, and the first discouraging thing is that middle-aged people will meet fewer people or have less opportunity?? This is something a young person would say! Its simply (NOT) true, depending on where you live. Also, do you realise that 40's 50s is QUITE YOUNG in 2023!! I am not sure where you live, but in Manhattan, there is almost no difference except you naturally become more responsible as you get older. And of course tastes change, also your making it sound like we need to be spoken to and treated in a very "precious" delicate way because we are so close to pasture-this is completely Bizzare to me because Most people (without the help of parents early on) etc..become successful around that age! It's as if (you) are speaking from an old-school remote type of area, while the rest of us "Middleagers" are seriously living our best life! I am 55, I have had no cosmetic surgeries, Botox, fillers, and dont use filters on my photos on purpose, its (because) Of my values, and Spiritual beliefs, that I am a product of Gods good grace, I sincerly think you may need to catch up with the times, and I'm not boasting here, but I am still getting proposed to by young men in thier 20's 30's, and they are told my age right away! Not to say. I am interested in marriage to someone who is so young, but it's not as much of a stigma as you're making it out to be. Therefore, I am just suggesting for you speak on things that you (know or you have actual knowlege in) just because you (know) the bible well, does not give you authoirty to speak on things you really know nothing of, Big Blessings! C
Just wondering. Are these guys in their 20s and 30s purposing to you after being friends with you for a while? Just curious for different reasons like future's sake. I'm in my 30s. How do you let them down?
5:43, I wish more people would learn this concept, Christian and non-Christian alike. This is a big reason behind how we wound up with the highest single rate in U.S. history.
Thank you Mark! I found it difficult to accept I am not from a conservative background.
This is very great and I need to know more about it
❤😂 In early 2020, I was fit with and athletic muscular body strength/shape and super healthy, now I’m sick/healing and a Rollie Polly!😂. Men have stopped looking at me which I’m ok with that because I’m making my comeback and I’d love it if I could meet someone that doesn’t care for my waist size then get to enjoy the fit and healthy me! He does have to have some level of healthy lifestyle.😊. Most men say they want a woman of God that’s in fire for Jesus, then when they meet me they’re questioning why I’m always serving the Lord and attending church and small Bible study groups. While I don’t expect this level of service to continue when Inget married, I do want a man that’s devoted to the Lord. Therefore, I’m 52 and still single.😂❤
Trying to concentrate in God and praying. I cannot search a partner anymore. If he wants, he has someone for me.
Middle age and divorced. I can't see me getting married again. I waited my turn and never got a chance.
Great vid, thanks.
Glad you liked it!
Thank You Mark!
My pleasure!
It's a great point that you don't meet people as easily when you get older and i personally don't meet sny contenders in church. The logistics and issues are different with age.
Thank you Mark for doing.....I asked you to do this a while back.......I hope it's God's will to be married.....if it's not i hope lurn to accept it
God bless!
thank you!!!
God bless!
Some men like older women due to having gone through bad relationships they want an older woman, my bro married a woman 27 yrs younger then him. They are very happily married.
Love this
not looking anymore
I love rule number 5.
Im a 52m.never married or dated.
Never want to try online stuff. It’s too scary
Beings that I am 69 it's been very hard to find somebody that's truly interested in me. I keep getting DM's from much younger women. It sounds like they just want someone to take care of them not be a partner in life and love. I've tried the dating app and they love keep chatting and running up the costs. I'm looking online in the usually places like Instagram or Facebook. I've learned to ask a lot of questions to see what they truly want. Then they ask for money which is a turn off. I'm not giving up however I'm being cautious about the conversation with them. I know God has a plan for me and my life. I have to be honest and open-minded and patient with the process of his will.
If youre talking to someone online that youve never met in person and they ask you for money, you are talking to a guy most likely.
BRILLIANT ❤
The comments here show too many women who have no clue that their market value declines each year. If you price yourself out of the market, plan to expire.
Gross thing to say
😭 this is exhausting
Which part ???
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Blessings to You on Your Journey 😊
Just rest in christ I'm 49 working on self I'm to guarded because I been hurt a lot by women looking for a proverbs 31 women . Trying my best to be a 1 timothy 3 man .
#7 ....... Yes ....... 😊
What do you think about dating agencies for Christians? It's been on my heart and I may join one later in the year...seems like people are more serious than on dating apps.
Thank youuu
If I may ask, how does one "get rid of" those lesser desires so that the important desires can be the deciding factor?
Learn to deal with loss. You have to accept you won't get everything you want in life. So embrace that and then spend your energy pursuing what is most important. Many wan it all and can't be happy with anything but everything.
This will help too: applygodsword.com/how-to-have-good-motives/
Hi, I'd like to share my experience regarding this issue. I've always been critical of myself and others, to a fault. But after an extended season ( years) of loss and pain from the wrong relationship, I've been free to realize what's most important in my life. I have a different eye for everything I see now, even people lol. Focusing on a few extremely valuable traits in a person, really makes it easier to let go of the minute details that might not be so great. Blessings and hope to you
Waist size vs height is a poor comparison. You can control your waist size. You can't control your height.
Tbh despite healing I'm still afraid of getting hurt or asking a new girl out.I met her at church and for some reason I'm afraid of both possible rejection or getting hurt if we do date
Not trying to be negative but it will happen, it's up to you on how you deal with it. Rejection is universal not just in dating but in job interviews, etc...