Blocked My Baby Daddy + Single Mom Struggles | Jasmine Defined

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  • Опубликовано: 17 авг 2023
  • Long distance co-parenting isn't going to well, but that's really the least of my single mom problems.
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Комментарии • 26

  • @tgrant414
    @tgrant414 11 месяцев назад +16

    First of all….yay, you’re back vlogging!!! You look so great!!! I’m so proud of you because you are being honest with yourself and you have an outlet. It’s good that you have Kia but it is hard when you are sharing with someone who may not fully get the situation because they haven’t been there. But, she seems like a great sounding board. I have so many points:
    1. You can’t force Z’s dad to be in his life. Like you said, he knows how to reach you.
    2. If you have to block him, for your own sanity, there’s nothing wrong with that. You are ultimately doing that for Z. Don’t sleep on these kids. They know when we’re stressed, sad, angry. It affects them.
    3. As a co-parent, you have to extend the opportunity for the other parent to be involved. They have to make the effort. When they don’t, we want to try hard because we want it for the kids but that puts too much pressure on us. Nah….stop it. He has to do his part. You can’t do it for him.
    4. Yes..ugh. Not having your own space is tough and even harder with kids. I’ve never experienced that but I can only imagine. That takes a lot of patience and tolerance because it’s not your space.
    I’m also in a place in my life where I would never have imagined that I’d be here but we have to keep moving forward, pick ourselves up and work to get where we want to be. It’s not easy but it’s not impossible.
    You got this!!!! Even when you think you don’t, you do!!!!!😊😊

  • @ginamauzone3591
    @ginamauzone3591 11 месяцев назад +10

    Life is living, don't feel defeated? You will make it through the rough times and by time he's 5yr old, it will be much easier and you will be happy. God gives babies❤

  • @dawnjones1954
    @dawnjones1954 11 месяцев назад +10

    Although this is my first time seeing you. I come to tell you, U R AMAZING!! U R BEAUTIFUL! U R BOLD! I C GOD IN U!! You will be better than ever. Work on you by working out, draw, write. U CAN DO IT!! ❤

    • @JasmineDefined
      @JasmineDefined  9 месяцев назад

      🥰thank you for this! I’m definitely feeling better and working on me. 💕

  • @user-fc9mu6ng2c
    @user-fc9mu6ng2c 10 месяцев назад +5

    Go to court and file for joint custody and child support. This way you both will get time with the baby and you will have time to work on yourself when the baby is with the father. Also you should be receiving child support if you have the baby full-time. Filling joint custody will force the father to take care of his part of the responsibility. Both of you made this precious baby. You should not be the only one carrying the load. This is the biggest misconception. It is not your fault. Make him take responsibility. bring him to court. I am not a lawyer but I think you should consult one. There are a lot of free resources.

  • @ajafatoubah3881
    @ajafatoubah3881 10 месяцев назад +5

    Idk why your videos are helping me so much, we are in completely different places in life and I came by your videos by chance but I can relate to every thing you’re saying, why does it have to be this hard , we gon be ok, I wish I had a good support system tho, life is really kicking my ass, I don’t even wanna do this anymore, am so tired. We will get there

    • @JasmineDefined
      @JasmineDefined  5 месяцев назад

      We absolutely will! Hope you’re doing & feeling better. 💕

  • @makalahthompson4042
    @makalahthompson4042 7 месяцев назад +2

    I hate that it took so much for me to leave. I had to see it for my own eyes and I actually thank god for it. I kept begging him to show me I wasn’t where I was suppose to be. My child’s father put me in jail and on top of that lied about me hitting him. I feel so disgusted thinking about it but that is what made me leave and finally see so much. I was holding onto something that I can get all on my own. I’m finally making that effort to just be better for me and my son. I wasted 5 years and I refuse to do it again. Hang in there, I know this was a few months ago so I hope you’re feeling better❤

  • @lifewithlacy7190
    @lifewithlacy7190 6 месяцев назад +2

    I did the same the that you were doing for a while. But once I saw that he was putting in 0 effort, I started matching his energy. I quickly realized it wasn’t my job to make him be a father. Christmas made four years since she has heard his voice. She doesn’t know who he is anymore. I removed all pictures. I stopped showing her videos. It will be on him to find her one day. Houston isn’t that big. It’s his loss. Good luck. I hope you find what makes you happy. You and your son deserve it.

    • @JasmineDefined
      @JasmineDefined  5 месяцев назад +2

      It’s hard because you feel like you’re doing it for your child, but seeing my son be such a happy baby has made it easier.

    • @lifewithlacy7190
      @lifewithlacy7190 5 месяцев назад +1

      @@JasmineDefined Definitely agree. As long as your baby is hat, that is all that matters. I know it’s idea to raise a child in a two parent household and that is what everyone dreams of. But when it’s toxic, it is not worth the emotional damage for yourself or your child.

  • @ladynefertitibk
    @ladynefertitibk 10 месяцев назад +3

    I know your going to make the right decision and your going to be alright. Hang in there.

  • @longashl
    @longashl 7 месяцев назад +1

    Yo, this is my exact situation. I’ve learned to not force anyone to be involved. If you’re not struggling financially, block him and love on. Courts will be complicated. I’m in Houston, Harris County family court is overcrowded and inefficient

    • @JasmineDefined
      @JasmineDefined  7 месяцев назад

      Our first court date (or his) is in Houston next week…more than a year after me filing. Smh

  • @jewlzn7130
    @jewlzn7130 9 месяцев назад +1

    You're talented and beautiful, you will be fine! Don't let someone's inability to partner witn you make you fear intimacy. Also, let him be in contact with his child. A child needs relationship with both parents.
    Just set boundaries. Ensure that you can limit your contact with him, especially if you can see he will be a responsible parent!
    Good luck

  • @makalahthompson4042
    @makalahthompson4042 7 месяцев назад

    And to reply to what you said towards the end. Do what you need to do right now for you. He won’t be cut off like that forever but for you to heal I feel like it’s ok to distance yourself. When you start to feel better then I would allow small steps depending on how your child’s father is.

  • @tarahatcher1592
    @tarahatcher1592 8 месяцев назад +1

    Hey 👋🏼 honey I completely been there and understand what your feeling, it’s gonna get better you just keep on taking care of you/ your son let him reach out / your doing great, yeas it can be confusing, I’m here mama you don’t know me I know but you can talk to me. I’m here if it helps ♥️ Reach out!

  • @Onlyoneannamara
    @Onlyoneannamara 8 месяцев назад +2

    Thanks for your story, I'm in a dark place right now and I'm not happy with my life choices as well and don't really know how to make myself feel better. But side note...what is wrong with men? You look like a good catch..the heck is his problem smh. But one thing you can count on is change, things won't be like this forever.

    • @JasmineDefined
      @JasmineDefined  5 месяцев назад

      Lol I can only speak to and be accountable for my decisions, and I’ll leave it at that… hope you’re feeling better! 💕

  • @planetjoi
    @planetjoi 11 месяцев назад +1

    💜

  • @Maliki777
    @Maliki777 5 месяцев назад +1

    You one of them kinda baby mamas huh

    • @JasmineDefined
      @JasmineDefined  5 месяцев назад

      And is… ☺️

    • @Maliki777
      @Maliki777 5 месяцев назад +1

      You not the dudes family, the kid is

    • @Maliki777
      @Maliki777 5 месяцев назад +1

      Being a father and a mother is a family dynamic,
      If you not about WE or family,
      Being a parent ain't really for you
      And you find yourself trying to live out conflicting ideas and you go insane

    • @Maliki777
      @Maliki777 5 месяцев назад +2

      Sex is about connections and relationships,
      If you not about WE and you about yourself,
      Don't have sex cause you not cut like that, same with marriage

  • @ginamauzone3591
    @ginamauzone3591 11 месяцев назад +1

    Do you need therapy?