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My boyfriends would always say I couldn't have male friends because they know how men think, but they would have female friends because "they're not like that"... yeah, sure, okay buddy 👍🏼
I recently had to break communication with a male friend from high school. We're both single, but I felt like he was trying to occupy a space in my life meant for a significant other. His conversation started to feel weird and manipulative, and I couldn't ignore it.
The term "Friend" is used so loosely in society that ppl don't even know what it means anymore. Most ppl aren't your "Friend", but they're most likely an acquaintance or something of that nature. Thanks for the reminder, Tony.
An Acquaintance also brings a spiritual spouse if not careful OR the Spiritual spouse will be exposed in the presence of a believer changing through repentance. I've learned to say no to many women friends. You can't always be friends with a person whos "friendly" .If a man or woman catches feelings there's a problem there if not addressed. You can't be just friends if you two conversate all the time..
This is 100% true what Tony’s saying. Even when we as women view that man as just a harmless friend, best believe that he does NOT view us in that way.
Yes the only long term male friends I have are gay. The ones that were straight always ended up getting frustrated eventually when I wouldn’t date them.
Tony is unintentionally hilarious. I was laughing to tears this whole video. It’s a combination of his facial expressions and wording that is full of comedic effect. Message received.
I was laughing non stop at one of his videos about the other women and women who see married men. It was hysterical, I had to pause the video I was laughing so hard.
IKR....I had a friend start dating her male bff....after a night of too much liquor....he turn to a fatal attraction on her....per he knew all of her secrets....so he didn't trust her.
Sis, so did mine, I was like what!!! Because when we were married I had to give up all my male friends now he's in the boat he wants me to treat him differently. The devil is a liar!😂
@EvelynCruz I won't be friends with my Narcissist wazband because, I have Restraining Order in place as he pulled out a gun on me. No, there's no friendship. He's 5150!!
When I got married, I demanded that my so called husband cut ties with his so called female friends. One girl several years ago texted him and said pray for me I’m having surgery. I said what type of surgery, he said a breast reduction 🤦🏽♀️ I said why is she telling you, a married man to pray for her breast reduction 🤦🏽♀️ Boy who do you think I am. He claimed he blocked her since then🤔
Absolutely true. I grew up in church with a guy and was having a vulnerable moment and I saw his energy go from brotherly and sisterly energy to a tempted lion. I quickly realized his change and quick ly EXITED. It was unbelievable that my church friend childhood best friend was indeed a MAN!!! He was the most Godly person I knew. Believe me ladies they will POUNCE in the right opportunity. You can be exactly OPPOSITE of his TYPE as well!!
I thought I had a “male friend”. When I broke up with my ex and came to him for support, he made his move - basically tried to kiss me and grabbed my booty. I was like “Whaattt? Come on now!”. The friendship was over.
@@beefaye6861 same happened here. I've known mine since college (15 years), he waited until I wound up temporarily homeless and living with him during the pandemic for a few months to mAke his move under the same roof as his Cleo CHILDREN and Fiance!!!! Like wtf!! He only let me stay with them so he could play on my vulnerability and FINALLY try conquer the 😻 which he felt entitled to back in the day. He even cockblocked his homeboy And I, who I actually took an interest in, from going on a date!!!
@@yipeedo372 He literally sexually abused this woman and you are sitting there blaming her for him acting out of line. Going over to a male friend's house for support does not mean she deserved to be touched sexually without her permission, you creep.
@@LuxeGlobalLifestyle thank you. Tony is giving best case scenario insurance policy. Only but so many humans will really do what they're supposed to do, many more would try to get what they want at near any cost.
This convo always makes me chuckle because there’s always that person who thinks they’re the exception to the rule 😂. Like that’s good for you, but 9/10. That man ain’t yo friend. Men know this to be true, but for some reason a lot of women are in denial.
Im not....never will be....it happen to me too many times.....plez believe they waiting in the wings for that venerable moment.....u blink yo eyes n u will be gettn tossed up. 😂😂😂
Tony 1000 percent correct. My parents were married 19 years. My dad started cheating with his co worker confiding in each other about there relationship issues. They are married now so my future husband will not have lady friends!
I am cracking up bruh😂 he ain’t lying though. And the gay/bisexual men wait around too. It’s a perverse world we living in. Have to be really careful. Wise as serpents, gentle as doves.
My ex husband had a lot of female friends who he went to lunch with and visited him at his work. I caught him surprisingly with his arm around a friend when I stopped by his work to get a set of keys. He said she had just got dumped by her boyfriend of 5 years. He told me he was trying to build her confidence back and help her and he said I was being jealous and petty!!! We were only married around 1 or 2 years at the time. We were married 31 years and I now realize that he cheated on me the whole 31 years!!! Thanks Toni my eyes are open now!👀👀👀
My sister and I come here for the accent and the laughs. Tony is right though. I know A LOT of men and I have seen it happen right before my eyes. That man ain't yo friend!
Oh yeah! That so called male friend will definitely try you 😂🤣🤣. My married male friend of 20 years tried me after my break up, he thought I was so vulnerable. That he can get in. He asked me to meet him somewhere and I declined..he got so mad 😡 and became so disrespectful. I saw his true colors that day. All the years of confiding in him, he didn’t care at all! It was all fake! That was 9 months ago, haven’t spoken to him since
This the most truest and realist topic Tony has spoken on. Ladies, hear Tony and hear me when I say, I thought a guy of 15 YEARS was my family who I called a brother who was secretly in love AND borderline obsessed with me, unbeknownst to me until his true feelings started to leak out when I rejected him. My mom kept saying "I think he is secretly in love with you " I didn't listen and boy did he show me who he really was. Yes, everything Tony is saying is true. You cannot have male friends. After that incident and death of a friendship, I had to dead yet another one of my guy "friends" after 10 YEARS who began to show similar behavior patterns like ol boy. If a guy is rejected he can become angry, disrespectful, controlling, manipulative and down right RUDE when he is rejected. These guy "friends" think you are their property lowkey. Especially if you ain't had a man in a while. Create clear boundaries ladies and quit calling these guys your friends because a lot (not all) are predators who are just waiting in the wings for years and years and years to catch you off guard or in a vulnerable state to POUNCE! Be alert and aware. Keep that block hand strong too.
@@Marvelous_M he was waiting for me to be "ready" 😬 we only dated 6 months bc even though he's a great guy, i still saw him as a friend more than partner. . Jus like Tony said in the video 🤦🏽♀️
I have never had a male “friend” not like me 😂😂😂 I have no reason to hang around a man I’m not attracted to . Best believe if I’m friends w a man we both want something 😂
I learned this is true men are not your friend I don’t care how innocent he seem !! They be waiting their turn and a lot of times it’s because he know you out his league ‼️
Unfortunately I learned this lesson too. For many years as a young woman I was blind to this fact thinking just because I ONLY saw them as “a friend” and strictly platonically I did not realize that men see it differently. Some are ok with thinking they a place holders waiting for the minute they can be in like Flynn. I had to come to this realization early in my marriage. I believe it can actually ruin your marriage. As my husband told me, “Unless he/she is are mutual friend then it’s not happening Captain!
I will definitely take heed to Tony's message. Check myself, when I become too trusting. These "friends" are still men. Keep that respect & boundary at the forefront.🧐
I hate when they do that. They wait years not knowing it's a chance you'll reject them so it's best to let them know up front because waiting years and creating some fantasy about her thinking she'll say yes, and she ends up saying no will almost or will break his heart.
I think many if not most women already know their male friends would like to be more than friends, either because they already said so or they act like it.
That’s why I keep my friends’ boyfriends at a distance because…these men out here are interesting to say the least. Like Toni said even if they are with someone or after they breakup they will still shoot their shot and I’m NOT about it; we are not “friends”. I don’t hug and hang out and keep their numbers in my phone like that…NOOOO!!!! Plus I want I my own man not somebody else’s leftovers tbh
You are saying some good stuff! If I have a lunch/meeting with a man by myself because there isn't a third party, I always bring up his wife in the conversation.
My brother Tony knows what he is talking about. But I can't help but laugh at the way he explains these types of scenarios. I'm hollering over here 🤣 🤣
Tony told not one lie I had a “Best Friend” 14 year strong but when them lines crossed we became worse of lovers. We had so much back and forth now the friendship has been tarnished to the point of resentment we both would give anything to go back. Wish I had this knowledge before hand but lessons we learn in life! This hits so personal thanks for the wisdom ❤️
Tony said he will have you on your back lmaooo omg I can't stop laughing -- so true though.. I don't believe in male friends.. got rid off all of them.. all of them..
It's so disappointing and disingenuous... I don't enjoy being "hit on" by men and certainly not by those I view as friends or family. I've even been secretly resented by some of my male friends who I know have been attracted to me for years as you said. I've NEVER given them an ounce of encouragement, remained normal and never discussed what I knew. I rarely hear from them now. They have remained in the 'friend zone."
this is so true! i know for sure because it happened to me! He was my husband, 17 years of marriage! working with her mom and she was helping her mom and next thing you know! there having affair and she was married also! they were supposedlyFRIENDS! when i found out i confronted both of there butts! 2 years later i’m loving myself and listening to Tony Gaskin and living my life! this has been a awful experience for me! i pray for anyone that goes through something like this! Men and woman don’t need to be friends, especially if they are married! Big No No! 👍👍👍
I had a friend from the age of 6 for nearly 40 year relationship and he never ever violated me ,or ever tried to , it may be that his preference was for white women so I would never have been looked at that way , only the grave separated us . There was no one like him, to many men are fuelled by ego , and he was no different as a man in certain respects , but he was my real friend .he gave he supported , he criticised, he loved , he pushed me and though he showed his disdain at some things he never judged me. What I have learnt in my recent season a man would be lucky to get my love , so it’s reserved for my god and my children , Not entertaining no clowns , no narcissistic,and no men that are deluded and value the shell of a women, and not the contents of ones character , when God is present he will always separate the wheat from the chaff .
This is so true. Smh! Some will still justify the bs. Thats one of the reasons why I divorced my ex husband. Didn't see nothing wrong with a lot of single female "friends", yet didnt want me to converse with the opposite sex at all. I didnt need any new "friends" period but him? Felt he could do whatever he wanted eith no accountability. Hum, I dropped him like a bad habit. Then his so called "female friends" disappeared. Smh! Straight stupid!
So true. Even if it starts innocently, I will start to like the man after being around him. Even if y’all once crossed that line and remained cool, it will be flirting or touching or the possibility for it.
hmmm I think I need to put my male friends in the associate box. I know good men who I don't believe would ever try me, but these videos make me wonder! Makes me wonder when they say you mean a lot to me, and here I am thinking "that's just my friend" lol. These videos make me wonder now
I’ve had guys friends for over 25yrs and they all literally flipped the switch at the same time a couple years ago. Energy completely changed and I didn’t realize what was going on. It wasn’t until one came out and said he wanted to meet who I was dating and I was like “you’ve never cared before…” And then I sat there looking dumb because it all hit me lol
This is FACTS. Either a man has shot his shot while we were cool and interacting on a regular basis……or years later, I get “you know I used to have a crush on you.” 😭 I also have exceptions to the rule though. I have been cool with men that never tried me.
this is so true, i had an office mate like this who i thought was a friend, and looking back, i remember he was always trying to test my boundaries--he was 20 years older than me and still trying to get with me
I had a few male friends and realized early on I couldn’t have male friends. I had one male friend he was attractive but as a women I can still be friends with an attractive man and not feel any sexual feelings for him. One day I got drunk accidentally and he took care of me while drunk. I sat on his lap and started crying. He told me I was drunk and he didn’t feel comfortable with any contact. I thought he was a real friend for that but then the following day he said since you’re sober now you can sit on my lap and we can do some other things. I never spoke to him again. I’ve also had women befriend me because they liked me sexually
@@jofann7370This is funny but I really didn't though. I was crying and drunk and he came to comfort me. When he embraced me while he was sitting and me standing i sat on his lap
I just want to say thank you Tony ... you have really changed my outlook on how I view men over the last few years. You are honestly the ONE & ONLY man on the tube I even trust to listen to because you speak nothing but facts & don’t sugar coat anything ! Your family deserves WORLD WIDE recognition cause y’all are truly are changing lives with your word & the way you deliver is POWERFUL ! 🙏🏽 And yes white ppl are always hugging all over each other... idk why this is but its true. We are taught to trust the men in our ‘circle’ from an early age & i think with the women it just spreads out unknowingly... the men know what they are doing. Just like you talk about girls sitting in these grown men laps ... to me that’s always been weird but for whatever reason I see it way more in my own race while I notice my black friends, relatives, in-laws don’t even go there. They are not all hugging up on you at church or family events. My half sister is mixed and her husband is black... I use to think he was just stand offish with us but over the years I’ve learned that he’s acting accordingly. This topic was truly insightful in a Lot of ways ... I personally don’t have male friends & am not a big “hugger” but I’m about to apply a “no hug” approach to all men besides mine ASAP. 🙌🏽 Also, I would love to hear more videos on colorism. I had my daughter watch everyone and the one where your brought your ‘historian’ (I think that’s what they are called) friend on to talk about the history of slaves ect. They don’t teach these things in school unfortunately. I mean they teach ‘black history’ but not to the extent they should & I love to hear from someone who actually can relate and teach on the topic accordingly ... not no text book. 🙄 Wishing Many blessing to you Tony, Sheri & the boys! 🙏🏽✨
I’m 23 my “best friend “ of 7 years started dating it only lasted 4 months I regret even allowing it because we were better off as friends platonic to me clear. He became obsessed and if we couldn’t be together then we couldn’t be nothing. We don’t speak anymore I’m just glad know the truth now . Wasting years thinking someone is my friend and now he talks about me crazy as if he never respected me.
I've recently been there. My good guy friend have told me about his passing in women and then all of a sudden he made a pass at me. I thought I put down ground rules and boundaries, but he tried me!! I was very upset about it and didn't talk to him for 7 months. Now, our friendship is no more and things are just different. I still see him on social media but it's just him liking my post or vice versa. He's now in a relationship and I'm happy for him.
This is so True!!! I had a male best friends for years. He use to tell me who was right for me and who wasn’t. We would laugh about it and find it funny. But then when I finally got with the love of my life whom I’m now married to. He was hating on my then boyfriend and when he seen we were having a baby. Then he was like I have had a crush on you my whole life and I always was in love with you. Once he said that I cut all ties because he made the friendship weird. I no longer looked at him the same.
Bro Tony you say we better learn about a man, am relearning all over since I've been staying with your teaching. you're helping me to learn. trust me it's helping me. God bless you 🙏🏾❤️😊
Truth is truth whether people agree or not...Never lose the truths of your heart Tony. We truth sayers mostly walk alone with Lord... separately from most who are lost... Sometimes it's a lonely journey when we have no human to share God's gift of insight and love.....
"You got a friend in Jesus." 🤣
Absolutely
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That “friend” will hold u up from who you’re really meant to be with. 🎯🎯🎯🎯
If you allow it to happen.
She right!
My boyfriends would always say I couldn't have male friends because they know how men think, but they would have female friends because "they're not like that"... yeah, sure, okay buddy 👍🏼
Lol
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The female friends they were keeping were probably ugly
This is exactly why I don’t want male friends anymore lol they are NEVER joking when they say things. They’re just trying to gauge your reaction.
Even the gay one's if your not careful. They might use you as a cover.
I recently had to break communication with a male friend from high school. We're both single, but I felt like he was trying to occupy a space in my life meant for a significant other. His conversation started to feel weird and manipulative, and I couldn't ignore it.
Understood 💕!!!
@@tjaspire good for you 💯🙌
@@tjaspire as a muslim woman I can just 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻.
Protect yourselves sister and again props to you having self awareness .
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yes good for catching it
The term "Friend" is used so loosely in society that ppl don't even know what it means anymore. Most ppl aren't your "Friend", but they're most likely an acquaintance or something of that nature.
Thanks for the reminder, Tony.
Amen amen
if you had a male friend throughout your 23 year marriage and then got a divorce that explains a lot.
I exposed an act of deception and the ex ran. Came back yesterday acting Ike a wrong number.
An Acquaintance also brings a spiritual spouse if not careful OR the Spiritual spouse will be exposed in the presence of a believer changing through repentance. I've learned to say no to many women friends. You can't always be friends with a person whos "friendly" .If a man or woman catches feelings there's a problem there if not addressed. You can't be just friends if you two conversate all the time..
You don’t even know them! You think you do! Hell I don’t know anyone I’ve been playing a character for 46 years.
Those best friends be waiting in the wings 😂😂😂Point Blank PeriAhd
Right.....I use to beg the differ until it happen to me 😵 yuck !
🤣🤣🤣👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
This is 100% true what Tony’s saying. Even when we as women view that man as just a harmless friend, best believe that he does NOT view us in that way.
True, we aren't the same at all...
agree
Yes the only long term male friends I have are gay. The ones that were straight always ended up getting frustrated eventually when I wouldn’t date them.
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@@la6136 same! The only male best friend I have is an openly gay male. That’s it literally lol
I learned this at an early age. I had so many guys as “friends” and each one has tried to hit on me. I have told this to my friends on many occasions.
Yeeeeeep
Have you a moment of weakness, a moment of vulnerability, that man will try you. Yup. Facts 💯
Facts . It’s funny to see them try and then fail
Tony is unintentionally hilarious. I was laughing to tears this whole video. It’s a combination of his facial expressions and wording that is full of comedic effect. Message received.
I definitely agree. I’m like he funny without even trying lol
So true! 😂😂😂 I try so hard not to laugh at serious issues. But I can't help it
I swear his facial expressions be sending me downnn 😂😂😂 😂😂😂 😂😂😂
Yes! Like when he said " Point blank and the perioooddd!!🤣🤣
I was laughing non stop at one of his videos about the other women and women who see married men. It was hysterical, I had to pause the video I was laughing so hard.
You make me wanna leave the one I’m with & start a new relationship with you - Usher
The more I think about it .. Usher never been issh because he also told men not to leave their girl around him ask his ni99a Pharrell…
Sometimes when people cross the friendship line and decide to be lover's, it does not work; everything is not what it seems.
IKR....I had a friend start dating her male bff....after a night of too much liquor....he turn to a fatal attraction on her....per he knew all of her secrets....so he didn't trust her.
Can men and women just be friends if they planned to have sex but one of them ruin it or didn’t work out could they go back to being friends 🤔
My Ex husband got upset with me because I don't want to be his friend after marriage. I also don't believe in men friendship. Thanks for the truth 🙂
Sis, so did mine, I was like what!!! Because when we were married I had to give up all my male friends now he's in the boat he wants me to treat him differently. The devil is a liar!😂
@@simonespencer2244😂😂
@EvelynCruz I won't be friends with my Narcissist wazband because, I have Restraining Order in place as he pulled out a gun on me. No, there's no friendship. He's 5150!!
When I got married, I demanded that my so called husband cut ties with his so called female friends. One girl several years ago texted him and said pray for me I’m having surgery. I said what type of surgery, he said a breast reduction 🤦🏽♀️ I said why is she telling you, a married man to pray for her breast reduction 🤦🏽♀️ Boy who do you think I am. He claimed he blocked her since then🤔
“Don’t let this stuff discourage you, let it prepare you.” TG. So many gems!! Thank you Tony Gaskins.
Sis that was a great Gem given to us today!!
Absolutely true. I grew up in church with a guy and was having a vulnerable moment and I saw his energy go from brotherly and sisterly energy to a tempted lion. I quickly realized his change and quick ly EXITED. It was unbelievable that my church friend childhood best friend was indeed a MAN!!! He was the most Godly person I knew. Believe me ladies they will POUNCE in the right opportunity. You can be exactly OPPOSITE of his TYPE as well!!
See....like my mom use to say " they will screw a snake if sombdy hold its head" 😂😂😂😂
@@beefaye6861 indeed 🤣😂😂 yeah it was very strange when my male best friend came on to me. Needless to say I don’t have male friends anymore.
@@beefaye6861 hilarious 😂, I have to share with my daughter 🤣
@@MsLibra-fo8tw 😂😂😂
@@beefaye6861 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
“We know what we want each other for when we meet.” TG
I thought I had a “male friend”. When I broke up with my ex and came to him for support, he made his move - basically tried to kiss me and grabbed my booty. I was like “Whaattt? Come on now!”. The friendship was over.
Why do you think young women are so naive to believe men are our friends?
Right....yuck 😵.....took advantage of yo vulnerability....smh
@@beefaye6861 same happened here. I've known mine since college (15 years), he waited until I wound up temporarily homeless and living with him during the pandemic for a few months to mAke his move under the same roof as his Cleo CHILDREN and Fiance!!!! Like wtf!! He only let me stay with them so he could play on my vulnerability and FINALLY try conquer the 😻 which he felt entitled to back in the day. He even cockblocked his homeboy And I, who I actually took an interest in, from going on a date!!!
D in a box & waiting on an opportunity
@@yipeedo372 He literally sexually abused this woman and you are sitting there blaming her for him acting out of line. Going over to a male friend's house for support does not mean she deserved to be touched sexually without her permission, you creep.
Yeah, we be in love with some of our female friends. The only thing holding us back, if any, is our respect that she is married or has a relationship.
Finally the truth!! Much Respect.
Thanks for your honesty
@@LuxeGlobalLifestyle thank you. Tony is giving best case scenario insurance policy. Only but so many humans will really do what they're supposed to do, many more would try to get what they want at near any cost.
Or she won't spread eagle...😂😂😂
@@beefaye6861 that too. "There are very few men..." who would object. 😆
This convo always makes me chuckle because there’s always that person who thinks they’re the exception to the rule 😂. Like that’s good for you, but 9/10. That man ain’t yo friend. Men know this to be true, but for some reason a lot of women are in denial.
Im not....never will be....it happen to me too many times.....plez believe they waiting in the wings for that venerable moment.....u blink yo eyes n u will be gettn tossed up. 😂😂😂
I already seen one comment talking about they’re the exception 😂
So moral of the story is STAY SINGLE! 😫😤
EXACTLY!
I've had two male friends break the friend code and destroy our friendship by confessing they had feelings for me.
I know you are feeling better cuz you are back with antics that make all us laugh 😂
A man is trying to mate and create.
Exactly.....tell em again JT 👈
Exactly
This is the honest truth, Feelings will develop with time spent together
Tony 1000 percent correct. My parents were married 19 years. My dad started cheating with his co worker confiding in each other about there relationship issues. They are married now so my future husband will not have lady friends!
I am cracking up bruh😂 he ain’t lying though. And the gay/bisexual men wait around too. It’s a perverse world we living in. Have to be really careful. Wise as serpents, gentle as doves.
This is so hilarious!! I can’t stop laughing!! The way he says things.
My ex husband had a lot of female friends who he went to lunch with and visited him at his work. I caught him surprisingly with his arm around a friend when I stopped by his work to get a set of keys. He said she had just got dumped by her boyfriend of 5 years. He told me he was trying to build her confidence back and help her and he said I was being jealous and petty!!! We were only married around 1 or 2 years at the time. We were married 31 years and I now realize that he cheated on me the whole 31 years!!! Thanks Toni my eyes are open now!👀👀👀
31 years??? Omg
Not the thick tongue story again 😅😅😅. That always makes me laugh every time!
My sister and I come here for the accent and the laughs.
Tony is right though. I know A LOT of men and I have seen it happen right before my eyes. That man ain't yo friend!
Oh yeah! That so called male friend will definitely try you 😂🤣🤣. My married male friend of 20 years tried me after my break up, he thought I was so vulnerable. That he can get in. He asked me to meet him somewhere and I declined..he got so mad 😡 and became so disrespectful. I saw his true colors that day. All the years of confiding in him, he didn’t care at all! It was all fake! That was 9 months ago, haven’t spoken to him since
This the most truest and realist topic Tony has spoken on. Ladies, hear Tony and hear me when I say, I thought a guy of 15 YEARS was my family who I called a brother who was secretly in love AND borderline obsessed with me, unbeknownst to me until his true feelings started to leak out when I rejected him. My mom kept saying "I think he is secretly in love with you " I didn't listen and boy did he show me who he really was. Yes, everything Tony is saying is true. You cannot have male friends. After that incident and death of a friendship, I had to dead yet another one of my guy "friends" after 10 YEARS who began to show similar behavior patterns like ol boy. If a guy is rejected he can become angry, disrespectful, controlling, manipulative and down right RUDE when he is rejected. These guy "friends" think you are their property lowkey. Especially if you ain't had a man in a while. Create clear boundaries ladies and quit calling these guys your friends because a lot (not all) are predators who are just waiting in the wings for years and years and years to catch you off guard or in a vulnerable state to POUNCE! Be alert and aware. Keep that block hand strong too.
Tony is telling the Truth! my "friend" waited 19 yrs to date me, played it cool the whole time
See 👈
When you asked him what took so long what did he say? 😂
@@Marvelous_M he was waiting for me to be "ready" 😬 we only dated 6 months bc even though he's a great guy, i still saw him as a friend more than partner. . Jus like Tony said in the video 🤦🏽♀️
@@HealingHoney do you feel like he’s one of the good ones that got away? Or do you feel you both made the right choice?
@@Marvelous_M :) he was a good one, just not the one for me! I had love for him, but we were better as friends cause we have diff mentalities
I have never had a male “friend” not like me 😂😂😂 I have no reason to hang around a man I’m not attracted to . Best believe if I’m friends w a man we both want something 😂
THIS!!! 💯
I love when you do these 😂😂😂. My favorite one was "he don't want you". I watched that thing like 5x
Sis you ain’t lying…. That was sooo harsh but needed to be heard 😮😂
@@BrooklynBaby-1 exactly!
He don’t want you is the best one
I learned this is true men are not your friend I don’t care how innocent he seem !! They be waiting their turn and a lot of times it’s because he know you out his league ‼️
Unfortunately I learned this lesson too. For many years as a young woman I was blind to this fact thinking just because I ONLY saw them as “a friend” and strictly platonically I did not realize that men see it differently.
Some are ok with thinking they a place holders waiting for the minute they can be in like Flynn.
I had to come to this realization early in my marriage. I believe it can actually ruin your marriage.
As my husband told me, “Unless he/she is are mutual friend then it’s not happening Captain!
I will definitely take heed to Tony's message. Check myself, when I become too trusting. These "friends" are still men. Keep that respect & boundary at the forefront.🧐
Tony you are right. I have had a male friend for the past 20 years. He has now started to confess his feelings for me and I am uncomfortable.
I hate when they do that. They wait years not knowing it's a chance you'll reject them so it's best to let them know up front because waiting years and creating some fantasy about her thinking she'll say yes, and she ends up saying no will almost or will break his heart.
I don’t have friends bc people get weird. Women and men.
I think many if not most women already know their male friends would like to be more than friends, either because they already said so or they act like it.
I knew this at an early age, 100% agree with everything he said- it’s all common sense !
Yes mam
Common sense. I knew this at 13 with my first boyfriend. Men and women aren't friends lol.
That’s why I keep my friends’ boyfriends at a distance because…these men out here are interesting to say the least. Like Toni said even if they are with someone or after they breakup they will still shoot their shot and I’m NOT about it; we are not “friends”. I don’t hug and hang out and keep their numbers in my phone like that…NOOOO!!!! Plus I want I my own man not somebody else’s leftovers tbh
You are saying some good stuff! If I have a lunch/meeting with a man by myself because there isn't a third party, I always bring up his wife in the conversation.
yes smart move
Facts❤️I used to believe that men and women could be JUST friends🤕🥺Well. I DONOT believe we can be friends period😭
All of my male “friends” tried me after my separation…THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS!!!!
that man will break your back and not help you on crunches! lol🤣🤣🤣🤣
Made that mistake. Tony right on this one. He was catching feelings never expressed to me.
I agree Completely. Which is why I dont have male friends. I dont believe in friendship between men and women.
SAME
My brother Tony knows what he is talking about. But I can't help but laugh at the way he explains these types of scenarios. I'm hollering over here 🤣 🤣
Tony told not one lie I had a “Best Friend” 14 year strong but when them lines crossed we became worse of lovers. We had so much back and forth now the friendship has been tarnished to the point of resentment we both would give anything to go back. Wish I had this knowledge before hand but lessons we learn in life! This hits so personal thanks for the wisdom ❤️
That's why once they're placed in the friend zone and stay there if they can't respect it I cut them off.
I think you’re correct. Supposed friend trying to move in after I got ghosted by long time guy.
Tony said he will have you on your back lmaooo omg I can't stop laughing -- so true though.. I don't believe in male friends.. got rid off all of them.. all of them..
It's so disappointing and disingenuous... I don't enjoy being "hit on" by men and certainly not by those I view as friends or family. I've even been secretly resented by some of my male friends who I know have been attracted to me for years as you said. I've NEVER given them an ounce of encouragement, remained normal and never discussed what I knew. I rarely hear from them now. They have remained in the 'friend zone."
This is the truth and deep down we all know it.
Tony, You are telling the WHOLE truth! The MARRIED MEN at my job seeking out single women is ridiculous.
this is so true! i know for sure because it happened to me! He was my husband, 17 years of marriage! working with her mom and she was helping her mom and next thing you know! there having affair and she was married also! they were supposedlyFRIENDS! when i found out i confronted both of there butts! 2 years later i’m loving myself and listening to Tony Gaskin and living my life! this has been a awful experience for me! i pray for anyone that goes through something like this! Men and woman don’t need to be friends, especially if they are married! Big No No! 👍👍👍
I had a friend from the age of 6 for nearly 40 year relationship and he never ever violated me ,or ever tried to , it may be that his preference was for white women so I would never have been looked at that way , only the grave separated us .
There was no one like him, to many men are fuelled by ego , and he was no different as a man in certain respects , but he was my real friend .he gave he supported , he criticised, he loved , he pushed me and though he showed his disdain at some things he never judged me.
What I have learnt in my recent season a man would be lucky to get my love , so it’s reserved for my god and my children ,
Not entertaining no clowns , no narcissistic,and no men that are deluded and value the shell of a women, and not the contents of ones character , when God is present he will always separate the wheat from the chaff .
This is so true. Smh! Some will still justify the bs. Thats one of the reasons why I divorced my ex husband. Didn't see nothing wrong with a lot of single female "friends", yet didnt want me to converse with the opposite sex at all. I didnt need any new "friends" period but him? Felt he could do whatever he wanted eith no accountability. Hum, I dropped him like a bad habit. Then his so called "female friends" disappeared. Smh! Straight stupid!
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It looks like his female friends lowkey liked him
So true. Even if it starts innocently, I will start to like the man after being around him. Even if y’all once crossed that line and remained cool, it will be flirting or touching or the possibility for it.
“Living for the Lord in the LIGHT and the DARK” Keep serving the Lord Tony and don’t grow weary in well doing. You’re appreciated.
Wisdom with laughter!
Amen!
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Ppl don't like to accept this truth
hmmm I think I need to put my male friends in the associate box. I know good men who I don't believe would ever try me, but these videos make me wonder! Makes me wonder when they say you mean a lot to me, and here I am thinking "that's just my friend" lol. These videos make me wonder now
Unfortunately it's true. I had to find out in a disrespectful manner. Saddened me but now I know.
It’s the “Hey and Bye” 👋🏽 🤣😂😅🤪
I’ve had guys friends for over 25yrs and they all literally flipped the switch at the same time a couple years ago.
Energy completely changed and I didn’t realize what was going on.
It wasn’t until one came out and said he wanted to meet who I was dating and I was like “you’ve never cared before…” And then I sat there looking dumb because it all hit me lol
This is FACTS. Either a man has shot his shot while we were cool and interacting on a regular basis……or years later, I get “you know I used to have a crush on you.” 😭
I also have exceptions to the rule though. I have been cool with men that never tried me.
this is so true, i had an office mate like this who i thought was a friend, and looking back, i remember he was always trying to test my boundaries--he was 20 years older than me and still trying to get with me
Gross 😝....they will try..try..try......
I had a few male friends and realized early on I couldn’t have male friends. I had one male friend he was attractive but as a women I can still be friends with an attractive man and not feel any sexual feelings for him. One day I got drunk accidentally and he took care of me while drunk. I sat on his lap and started crying. He told me I was drunk and he didn’t feel comfortable with any contact. I thought he was a real friend for that but then the following day he said since you’re sober now you can sit on my lap and we can do some other things. I never spoke to him again. I’ve also had women befriend me because they liked me sexually
I've had women try me, too, and be even more aggressive than any man.
@@quoteme.goddess6957 Funny
You got drunk and sat on his lap
" crying"? You wanted him don't Play yourself, you're not Slick🤮
@@jofann7370 😂😂😂😂
@@jofann7370This is funny but I really didn't though. I was crying and drunk and he came to comfort me. When he embraced me while he was sitting and me standing i sat on his lap
Bro Tony you say we got to be prayed up, you got to be stayed up and not layed up . 🗣️ You better say it for the ones in the back
I just want to say thank you Tony ... you have really changed my outlook on how I view men over the last few years. You are honestly the ONE & ONLY man on the tube I even trust to listen to because you speak nothing but facts & don’t sugar coat anything ! Your family deserves WORLD WIDE recognition cause y’all are truly are changing lives with your word & the way you deliver is POWERFUL ! 🙏🏽 And yes white ppl are always hugging all over each other... idk why this is but its true. We are taught to trust the men in our ‘circle’ from an early age & i think with the women it just spreads out unknowingly... the men know what they are doing. Just like you talk about girls sitting in these grown men laps ... to me that’s always been weird but for whatever reason I see it way more in my own race while I notice my black friends, relatives, in-laws don’t even go there. They are not all hugging up on you at church or family events. My half sister is mixed and her husband is black... I use to think he was just stand offish with us but over the years I’ve learned that he’s acting accordingly. This topic was truly insightful in a Lot of ways ... I personally don’t have male friends & am not a big “hugger” but I’m about to apply a “no hug” approach to all men besides mine ASAP. 🙌🏽 Also, I would love to hear more videos on colorism. I had my daughter watch everyone and the one where your brought your ‘historian’ (I think that’s what they are called) friend on to talk about the history of slaves ect. They don’t teach these things in school unfortunately. I mean they teach ‘black history’ but not to the extent they should & I love to hear from someone who actually can relate and teach on the topic accordingly ... not no text book. 🙄
Wishing Many blessing to you Tony, Sheri & the boys! 🙏🏽✨
I’m 23 my “best friend “ of 7 years started dating it only lasted 4 months I regret even allowing it because we were better off as friends platonic to me clear. He became obsessed and if we couldn’t be together then we couldn’t be nothing. We don’t speak anymore I’m just glad know the truth now . Wasting years thinking someone is my friend and now he talks about me crazy as if he never respected me.
I don’t have any male friends, only associates and I keep them at a distance and I don’t hang out with them outside of a group setting
I've recently been there. My good guy friend have told me about his passing in women and then all of a sudden he made a pass at me. I thought I put down ground rules and boundaries, but he tried me!! I was very upset about it and didn't talk to him for 7 months. Now, our friendship is no more and things are just different. I still see him on social media but it's just him liking my post or vice versa. He's now in a relationship and I'm happy for him.
I can only watch you when I work from home! It's so hard to suppress laughter. You are so right on this!🎯
The truth will set you free and make you laugh! Thanks for the gems, TG! 😂😎
This is so True!!! I had a male best friends for years. He use to tell me who was right for me and who wasn’t. We would laugh about it and find it funny. But then when I finally got with the love of my life whom I’m now married to. He was hating on my then boyfriend and when he seen we were having a baby. Then he was like I have had a crush on you my whole life and I always was in love with you. Once he said that I cut all ties because he made the friendship weird. I no longer looked at him the same.
Bro Tony you say we better learn about a man, am relearning all over since I've been staying with your teaching. you're helping me to learn. trust me it's helping me. God bless you 🙏🏾❤️😊
That laugh in the beginning took me out! 😂😂 Too funny
I lost all my soul @ 22:12 😂😂😂 “that mane a break yo byke” 😂
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"Well Tony I'm waiting on a man of God"😂😂 thanks for all your teachings!✨
Thank you, TG! I needed this knowledge & laughter!
Thank you.🙌. Great video as usual. Amen
You helped us today!! 💯
I’m so glad you stated this fact I will share this to the masses
So much wisdom Tony. Watched it 3 times.
Thank you for the wisdom brother Tony!! God bless 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Thank you for this Tony. Listening 👂🏽
I am hollering!!! But you’re so right!
Truth is truth whether people agree or not...Never lose the truths of your heart Tony. We truth sayers mostly walk alone with Lord... separately from most who are lost... Sometimes it's a lonely journey when we have no human to share God's gift of insight and love.....
You got me coughing, laughing and🤣🤣😂😂 This is real talk! Love it!
Everything he's saying is the truth, lol💯
Wisdom. Learning how powerful silence is. 🔥
The way you got me over here hollering!!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂 Good stuff Tony Gaskins!!!!
ABSOLUTE WORDS OF WISDOM......THANK YOU SO MUCH SIR.
Boy, Bro Tony you truly Keep it real with us that's why I love this channel . you're spot on ‼️💯 🙏🏾
Tony Gaskins is Always spitting out Gems of TRUTH... Thank You Tony👏🏽💯👏🏽💯👏🏽
This gave me so much clarity to situation I was dealing with. Thank you so much! God Bless you and your family!