I’m 68 yo, a retired vet.. Everything is paid off. So many of the people I know want to travel. I have literally lived all over the globe. One of my daughters went to six high schools. The wife and I are tired of travel. We plopped our butts down in a little house, in the country, on a river bank, coming out of the Smokies. I sit watching yard birds, beautiful, tiny Goldfinches, Cardinals, Sparrows, river critters, otters, Great Blue Herons, Canadian Geese, ducks and turtles. I mow my little yard and tend some flowers. And I go up, in the mountains. I don’t have any goals.
This is a great one I saw The other day. The '18-40-60 Rule': at 18 you care what everyone thinks, at 40 you don't care what anyone thinks and at 60 you realize no one ever cared about what you thought, they were busy worrying about themselves. Dr. Daniel Amen
I said that way back in '64 and that SOB Dr. Amen stole it from me. Although....... mine was slightly different. You may say it is the 18-40-50 rule, because if you wait until you're 60 to realize no one cared, you're rather slow.
My phone died 7-8 years ago, and I lost all my contacts. It was 5+ years before one person called. People are only around as long as you can provide something for them.
That's horseshit. It just means you didn't have close friends to begin with. Does your brain not function? You don't feel when you are connected to someone? You keep calling despite there is no connection? And then when your phone is gone then you wake up? Something is really fishy with your story....
I wish i learnt most of these principles about seven years ago. A lot of people have been trapped strongly in the matrix. Sometimes Protecting your capital is much more important than making money. Basically because if you lose your capital, making money is much harder. ''Missing the train'' vs. ''losing your money''. There are a lot of trains, but if your money is gone, it's over.
Nobody knows anything, you need to create your own process, manage risk and stick to the plan, through thick or thin ,While also continuously learning from mistakes and improving.
@@Rachadrian Many overlook that banks are return-driven businesses. I don't trust keeping a large sum in a bank. Instead, I invest with guidance, enjoy the benefits, and save for retirement.
After the '08 financial crisis, I've learned not to trust corporations. Since 2020, I've been investing with a financial advisor and have had no major losses, so I'm not going back to relying solely on banks.
Annette Christine Conte is the coach that guides me. She’s a verified coach and she helped me see that returns can be made in both bull and bear markets. She covers things like investing, insurance, making sure retirement is well funded and looking at ways to have a volatility buffer for investment risk, lots of things like that.
Don't care what other people think but care about what they do. Very true... especially if it affects your wellbeing negatively. So you can preempt and strike before they do.
The best advice I could ever give is keep your goals to yourself! People will sabotage you. Most people are envious and petty. Be your own best friend and let go of people who don't care.
That is terrific advice. You will avoid all the scrutiny & people ‘picking’ at you,bugging you and trying to sabotage you!! AND….like you say, in the end you find out they could care less, except if you fail at your goals…then, they are right there. Am I right? OK! So, let it go, try your best to tell no one what you are up to and live a peace filled life. The vast majority (VERY VAST!!) could not give a d-- about you, so face it, deal with it, and enjoy your life w/ VERY FEW “people”>. I am 72 and have done ilife both ways….trust me, the less ‘people’….the BETTER!! I have such a better life without tons of people draining my energy, my time and my good nature. It was my own fault for allowing it.I do not regret my super loving, giving and forgiving nature. However, at around age 60-65 I became VERY AWAKENED to some real life TRUTHS. Now, I am so grateful for my serenity & peace.The love and mercy of God have brought me to a new & wonderful place as I continue to grow and become wiser. I wish for everyone to have this experience. God bless you all.❤
I'm 38. I figured that one out 10 years ago. From 28 I never was honest abouy my intentions. Then I got rich. Now I just hold a big F Off sign to your face if you start to become a btch. Usually they just have to understand you're rich and they'll back off. Big dog vs small dog you know. But until you become rich, yes, you should be somewhat reserved about your plans.
That guy who talked about his coworker dying left out the part where no one cared and they were replaced in 2 weeks and everything moved forward as though nothing ever happened.
Two weeks?!? Ha! Everywhere I have worked the left or dead worker is forgotten the next day!! No matter how long they had been there, or how well regarded they were, poof! Next day it was like they never existed.
That's happened twice in my current job to guys around my age and my boss is mystified why I don't put in more effort, time and dedication so I can essentially put in even more time and effort. The thing I keep in the back of my mind for this sort of situation is imagine you are on your deathbed. What is it you will look back fondly to or wished you had done or done more of? It's not grinding out more hours at work is it?
@@gormanthomas8135 That was a little sneaky. Getting paid for something isn't necessarily a conventional job and just because you enjoy it, it doesn't necessarily give you purpose or meaning. You're speaking for yourself, no one else. Maybe you get enough from your job to say on your deathbed, I wish I'd spent more time at work. I have serious doubts this is actually the case.
The lesson I learned: Just because they are "family" doesn't mean they love you. And I've never had a 'socially acceptable' job because I walked away from the highest paid job I had (which was not a socially acceptable move) and spent the next 40 years working lesser paid but more enjoyable jobs (not a socially acceptable thing to do). I'm happy but have no social status whatsoever.
@@l.5832 Then find new people :o) If they are placing that much importance on something that doesn't matter to you, move on. Not sure what kind of "social status" you mean, or the implications. Are you shunned by some people, not invited to the right events and things like that? Again, dump 'em; find new people. I'm here in Christian, MAGA small-town Indiana. My two main friends are in that category, and are treading on thin ice. I'd rather have no friends than sit around with them pretending it's ok when it is NOT. But I have other acquaintances that keep me going. I can be happy alone or with people. Also, nothing is keeping me here. Anyway, best regards! I hope things get better for you!
In my 70 years, I would agree that you shouldn’t worry about the opinions of others but it is still an important life skill to learn how to make others feel good in your presence. Do not create enemies… especially ones who have power over you. It will create unnecessary strife in your life. In short, being nice will benefit you. Just don’t be so nice the you give up control over your needs and goals.
On the other hand, enemies are often people who simply find you a threat due to your accomplishments or personality or general togetherness as a human being. It doesn't take much for some people to become your enemy. I do agree with your advice not to create enemies but people pleasing and being nice all the time may also ensure you get nowhere in life. Long as one also has boundaries it is best to be "nice", but I prefer the word "kind", or even "compassionate" as to how we treat others. BTW, I am 73.
At age 62 I learned a lot from my own life. Learned the person that pays the bills is the important person (me). Stay healthy and humble. Stick to my values and principles. Don’t watch tv, stay away from social media. You reap what you sow. Treat others as equals. Works for me.
I disassociate with anyone who brings me down. If you're not fun and happy to be around, I want nothing to do with you. My life has no drama. It's wonderful! I avoid drama like the plague.
My father told me, kid, if they don't feed you, they don't cloth you, and they don't give you housing, their opinions are WORTHLESS. I never cared about people like that.
They may not be able to feed you, cloth you, give you housing but their opinions may be worth at least 2 cents and if they care about you, their opinion may be catered to you but at the end of the day, you have to decide for yourself what to do, you have to live with yourself all said and done at the end of the day. Someone else’s opinion maybe worth their weight in gold through their life experiences the hard way, so you don’t have to go through that. Some people inspire so you can keep going. Best to you in all life has to offer your journey!
@@KAT-dg6elhe’s talking about what other people think. He’s saying , don’t worry about the next guy because they don’t care for you . Only you can improve your life.
@@00mazone so you got nothing from the video, eh? I liked the last person who basically said not to waste your life doing a job you don't like. Seize whatever dreams you have and go for the gusto now.
@@sylviacarlson3561 My dreams cost money. I have to work to make money. I can't think of any jobs that I would enjoy at all. So what, just stop working and do the stuff I want to do and end up broke and homeless. Dumb advice unless you are already super rich.
@@sylviacarlson3561 My dreams are not tied to work, they cost money. So I have to work to make my dreams come true. I'm pretty sure this is true for most people unless you are already rich or there's a job available to you that you will love. It's one of those things that's pretty easy to say but isn't helpful at all. I quit my job because I don't like it, now what is step 2 because rent is coming up soon. 😂
Live your life and enjoy it, you don’t need much to be happy. Don’t over analyse everything. And don’t let your job swallow your life, it’s just a job.
I live in America & have seen YT hosts interview gang bosses, gang members, drug addicts, incarcerated persons, & ordinary “poor” citizens of their ‘hood. They are survivors of terrible circumstances, yet most have similar values: while compassionate, the elders don’t care what others think of them, the youth have dreams & goals, they all work hard to get the best for themselves & families, they have a neighborhood heirarchy that works but not perfect (like our government), and they want more helpful services like we all do, no matter our economic situations. We all want mutual respect, fairness & freedoms.
Old people are vulnerable. And your fellow human is seldom better than a two legged jackal. Recognise the worst scavengers and predators. Preserve you finances and your physical health and always hit back as hard as you're able.
*Larry Burkett's book on "Giving and Tithing" drew me closer to God and helped my spirituality. 2020 was a year I literally lived it. I cashed in my life savings and gave it all away. My total giving amounted to 40,000 dollars. Everyone thought I was delusional. Today, 1 receive 85,000 dollars every two months. I have a property in Calabasas, CA, and travel a lot. God has promoted me more than once and opened doors for me to live beyond my dreams. God kept to his promises to and for me*
It is the digital market. That's been the secret to this wealth transfer. A lot of folks in the US and abroad are getting so much from it, God has been good to my household Thank you Jesus
It's simple. If you are where you belong, regret nothing. It's taken everything that has happened to lead you to where you are. If something feels regretful, give greater wisdom time to reveal itself to you or self reflect until you learn something. It's not wasted time, yet.
If you are a parent and working particularly mums, don’t put your needs last, don’t ignore the things you want to do, because by the time you get to 63 you’ll have forgotten what it was that you used to love to do just because you people pleased your life away. My little life tip to guilty working mums ( ps stop feeling guilty for working, for not being everywhere, for not being everything you see or are told on social media and for just wanting to be you).
I’m 71 and happy. Thankful actually. I have to admit that I was saddened by the responses because I have come to see that this world is not my home and God has given me peace that passes all understanding. “We are spirits in the material world”.
lol I have nothing against fishing but now that I’m retired I like to learn how to fish but to me fishing is like watching grass grow. Honestly, being retired as like boring.
@@dormandavis2767 try fishing with lures and looking for the fish. Throwing a line out and waiting is only one way, lure fishing or fly fishing is much more engaging.
My in-laws "taught" me the importance of not caring about what others think. I figured out pretty early on that my wife's family was never going to like me. So I quit trying.
The old friends knew our past,the present friends know our presence .The only one who knew us entirely is ourselves.So there is no need paying too much attention on others' opinions.They don't know us,the won't understand us entirely.
That's good if it helps you. I still have my old friends in my life... the ones who were with me through the struggles and we have all evolved. It's nice to have that mutual understanding of a shared past. The friends who are stuck in the past and haven't grown along side me are the ones I needed to leave behind. Friends that you make at each stage in your life aren't necessarily stuck in that time capsule. They're humans who grow and learn the same way you do.
I find the opposite true. Old friends are the only real friends you will most likely ever have. There is nothing that can replace 30+yr friendships. I have several 40+yr friendships still and there is no way any person I could ever meet, would be that close and like family to me. I guess if you screwed up in the past and made poor choices of people you were friends with before.
I love your channel & your story as to how your channel came about. I share your channel w/ many. The most common take away from you polling people is them saying not to worry too much when you’re younger. When you’re going thru it. It’s hard NOT TO worry. But I do think it’s good advice to practice walking in faith - while striving to do well. Be a good person & treat others how you want them to treat your child. And try to live your life’s intended purpose. Thx U for your channel.
I wish that I had asked myself these questions when I was 25 years old. I'm 55 now and I'm evaluating my life and trying to figure out what I want to do for the next chapter. It's never too late. Always pursue your own happiness....defined by you and only you. Thank you for your videos!
Sometimes I think it is easier to list the things in life you don’t want. I have always found it challenging to figure out exactly what I want but pretty easy to list things I don’t want.
I never anticipated that I’d be so happy at 55, I downgraded ( upgraded in my mind) my job to one with low responsibilities and paid out my mortgage, I’m so calm and stress free, my high stress management job was killing me but I needed it for the mortgage, then I changed my life, I’m so grateful for my friends, family and home
Congrats! Eventually, my 27 & 30 yr old daughters will believe these invaluable life lessons. Social media attention is the worst! But for us in our 50’s, with maybe lesser time on earth, we MUST live the way we want to, responsibly AND all in. Congrats on your life upgrade!! 🎉
Unfortunately I have been the most unhappy in my life at 55 yo. I used to not care what others thought until now; I really don’t understand why. Hopefully it’s hormones. This too shall pass.
@@tonitonsofnutritionalinfor2140 I hear you. Pre, during & post menopause has altered my 56 yo mind & body for sure. Yes, this too shall pass, and certainly check in with your doctor for hormone inquiries.
Be congenial and strong in your conviction Fly by a solid moral compass don't break the 3 most important rules in life don't lie cheat or steal... You reap what you sow
I'm 73 and married to my love for 53 years. I was very poor as a child growing up and remember feeling sad that I did not have the simple pleasures that many of my peers enjoyed. My goal in life was simple and still is. Work hard and provide more opportunity and happiness for my children than I had. I was able to do that and my senior years are the best years of my life because I achieved that goal. I think about the people who live on this earth that endure abject poverty and cannot fathom the concept of goals or life fulfillment. I thank my lucky stars I was born into this life and even in my poor youth had more opportunities than most people in this world.
I grew up very poor as well. My young son gets to have a hot bath any time he wants and it makes feel like a king. The little things most people take for granted are seen as big wins for me. Its a ripple effect from poverty. I feel afwul for my wife sometimes because her husband's idea of success is tub water.
Hallelujah 🙌🏻!!!!! The daily jesus devotional has been a huge part of my transformation, God is good 🙌🏻🙌🏻. I was owing a loan of $49,000 to the bank for my son's brain surgery, Now I'm no longer in debt after I invested $11,000 and got my payout of $290,500 every month…God bless Mrs Susan Jane Christy ❤️
After I raised up to 525k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸and also paid for my son's surgery (Oscar). Glory to God.shalom.
It's hard to plan life, because you don't know how long you have. Everyone so worried about their retirement and 401ks etc, thinking that is the goal, retire rich. In reality, you are just trading today for tomorrow and that tomorrow you won't be like you are today and that tomorrow might not even get here. Enjoy every day. Plan for the future, but don't think that is the goal. Your money, when you retire, will go to your kids or a nursing home, you won't be enjoying it like you will now.
Counterpoint. Statistically speaking, you're probably going to live a very long time. Don't run out of money and become a burden to othes around you because you convinced yourself that tomorrow wasn't promised to you, or equally vapid pablum.
It's balancing things in life. Yes make plans for your future but don't make it the end all be all. None of us know how much time we have in this life so live like you were dying. don't wait for tomorrow to enjoy your life tomorrow may never come
It's hard to pinpoint the things that will make you happy because happy means something completely different for everyone else. I used to be an endocrinologist (quit this year, I am 42) and I invested all my money in real estate. I bought 2-bedroom apartments in Romania, and I rented them to pay the new ones. I started this when I was 23 and at 42, I own eight small apartments I rent. I quit my job and became a RUclipsr on a small niche: True Crime. And when I am done with this hobby, I will find something else. For me, happiness is spending time with my family, traveling, watching the world go by. I'm investing all my surplus in the stock market and hopefully, when I'm 60, my kids will get to experience a similar life to mine. But hey, my happiness is different from yours. I don't have a Lambo, I drive a Skoda Kodiaq 2019. I wear jeans and t-shirt, I eat at home most of the time, I have an iPhone 13 and a MacBook Pro M1. I wear a Casio, I go fishing, I go camping. No Dubai, no Maldives, no Milano. It really depends on what makes you happy.
Someone once told me, Your truth about yourself is what you know in your heart, while others' opinions are just ideas. Their perceptions are only projections, and they don’t have to affect your reality as long as you stay true to who you are.
That's a load of nonsense. The reality is that you are, to other people, what you project publically to the people around you. You can believe internally that you are the kindest, most caring individual. But if everyone around you thinks you're an A hole, it's almost certainly because you treat everyone like an A hole... and as a result, you would be in fact an A hole.
just live everyday , appreciate the moments given to you and look after your health . I am 64 and very happy / contented . Have been true to myself my whole life and I don't care about what others think at all
You could not be more correct or timely with this video. I retired at 59 from a job that was running me into the ground mentally and ultimately as a result, physically. Your graph of happiness indeed reflects the path I've followed. Blissfully, stupidly happy in my 20's followed by declining happiness and fulfillment through my 30's to 60's. Im about to turn 67 but am going to try a new path on which I'll do what i alone want to do. My family doesnt understand why i simply dont want to slip into decay. My son recently confided that he thought I was never happy in retirement, and he is right. Fine for others, not for me. The point is, ... if you want to keep trying new things, no matter your age, then find a way and stop listening to others. Dont fool yourself because it is very hard to face down the doubters. But as noted in the video, nobody really cares about your happiness, so you have to. Just trying is a victory. Good luck to you all.
Riding in a car one day with a sibling and our parents, I wanted to get it across to my sister that she need not be so concerned with her friends opinions of her life. Finally I blurted out, “everybody in the world who cares about you is sitting in this car right now”. An awkward silence fell over the conversation. Had I caused her pain? Possibly, but only temporary pain. The message sank in and delivered the intended effect.
I just retired in April this year at age 65, my first thought was I'm going to stay up late as I want to every night and sleep till noon the next day if I feel like it! because for 42 years of working I always had to follow a routine of going to bed at a certain hour to get up early or had to do what somebody else told me to do, The first month I did that staying up late watching TV then sleeping in, it was great for a while then it was like too much freedom and I felt weird like I needed that structure of a routine back to feel normal again, I'm still trying to find that balance but haven't yet, The days go by so quick too ! 4 months have gone by but it doesn't seem like that, When I was a teen working with some old guys after school,, they would say things like ,Yeah, life is too short, but I really didn't grasp that because when I was young it seemed like a Year lasted 5 years , One time I told the two old guys how I was really depressed because I didn't own a car, The two old guy laughed saying he's depressed! Damn kid you got the world by the ass right now and don't know it! At the time I didn't get it because at that age when you don't have money or a car it seems like all is lost, but now that I'm old ,I see what those guys meant,
l love the grounded reality of this channel!!! Retirement took a toll on my finances, but with my involvement in the digital market, $35,000 weekly returns has been life changing. AWESOME GOD
Wow.. I know her too she is a licensed broker and a FINRA agent she is popular in US and Canada she is really amazing woman with good skills and experience
Well, I am over 80; I have travelled over Europe, over North Africa, Latin America, Canada. I speak more than 3 languages. Life is NOT about accumulating a lot of money or working hard. Life is about family, great friends, sharing good times and bad times and sincerely caring about others.
@user-kd5ig3vc3s I think the downhill happened from social media and our smartphones. Basically the Mayan 2012 endd of the world date was actually the end of the world emotionally.
I also think everyone has a calling or a purpose in this life. Figuring that out is sometimes a problem. God is behind it all and without some connection to your Higher Power you can easily flounder. Your heart can lead you to your passion. Those are generally the happiest people. People who serve others and make life a bit easier are happy. I’m almost 79 years old and this is the happiest time of my life. I still work part time in a service industry and feel so blessed.
When I turned 60, it was a life bulb moment, as if someone had flipped a switch. I no longer cared what others said about me or what they thought about me. I make an effort never to hurt others, but they always took great delight in attacking me, even though I always put them first. My regret at 66...I never took the time to think about my dreams and it makes me sad that my best years are gone. I worked hard, never took a break, all for very little. My son lives in another country at the other side of the world and the thing that I wanted most, the love of family, I haven't got because I put others first. But I wouldn't want to be selfish either, so it's having the proper balance.
I understand what you are saying. I'm 60. The love you've given to others is eternal, a treasure, and is a legacy of a life well lived. Now, reflect on your dreams and go after a couple of them - a new hobby to learn, a place to visit, a passion project, and do it. You're not too old to make a couple dreams come true ♥
I hear you. We do for others and assume that they would want to return the gift of caring, but what often happens is they dismiss our actions as “just the way they are” and never return that level of care. We keep thinking that eventually (when they get the right job, when they get more sleep, when they obtain their goals…..) that they will feel fulfilled and turn their focus to others (us), but what we have really taught them is that we must be satisfied being of service to others (or why else would we keep doing it) and they continue to focus on themselves.
It's very human to sometimes expect others to pay more attention to us than we do to them, but it's important to realize that everyone has their own life, concerns, and priorities. If we are understanding of the limited attention others may give us, we can also learn to show more reciprocity and empathy. If you find yourself less focused on others, it can be an opportunity to reflect and consider whether you want to change that dynamic. In the end, it comes down to building healthy relationships where there's a balance of giving and receiving. And obviously, this can't be a whole lot of people...
Don’t expect anything of others. Spend time to find out who you are and where you fit in (your interests, talents, strengths, weaknesses, opportunities). Secure food, nourishment, and shelter, then pursue things that fit who you are as much as you can, as hard as you can. Reflect often, and change course when necessary.
I wished I had understood this before. I quit job because I couldn't socialise at work. I became broke because I found interacting with others at workplace very difficult. I failed to understand that securing just enough food, and money to pay rent should be the first priority and then we can try to pursue something which is fulfilling. Thank you for the motivation.
Not true, here's a list of things that everyone has the right to expect from everyone else whether its friendship or relationship: compassion, respect, consideration, time, interest, intimacy (not sexual intimacy, and generosity, these are all reasonable expectations
Just be. Live in the moment. Don't hurt anyone along the journey. Be kind but at the same time don't take any shit from anyone. Be fearless. Love as many people as you can. Journaling is a complete waste of time. In the moment, sit still and understand that your thoughts are not you (just watch and observe), they come out of nowhere and disappear into nothingness. Just be.
I disagree with you that "journaling is a complete waste of time". Journaling helps one clarify his or her goals and give one an undeniable visual of what we want, where we want to go in life, and who we really want to be. It's helped me immeasurably. Writing is healthy and therapeutic. It can help one reduce the chaos in his or her life and establish order. Nothing wrong with "just be" but true fulfillment takes action and appropriate intervention while just being suggests an apathetic, aimless way of living and could very well lead to an end of life full of regrets.
@@FriendofDorothy Back when I was married, my wife would interrupt my work and say "remember when you promised to do xxxxxx?" ME: Nope. If it isn't written down, it never happened.
Healthy reality checks happen for me when I visit a cemetery and I see rows of examples of people who had their moments in the sun, just as I am having now. They had it, they used it to one degree or another and for them, now, it is over. Someday, I will be there too. But not yet. Today is still my time, a gift, and I get to decide what to do with it.
I'm 56 and have had to start over. I've come to realise nobody cares. You can give your all to people and they're happy to take. But once it's the other way, the love and care you gave doesn't get reciprocated. It's sad but makes the message of your video more important and that is to love and live for yourself ❤
I’m almost 50 and have learned the same thing when I hit rock bottom and my “best friends” (who I did so much for and was always there for) didn’t care and never even reached out during my depression (not even a text) to check-in. I’ve learned that in Reality, most people are selfish, self-centered, petty or envious and may secretly be happy when you are doing worse than them or are hurting. Those are not friends. I believe there are caring and good people out there, but they are hard to find. If you are one of those people, don’t give endlessly or you will be sucked dry (with no reciprocation). Love yourself first and foremost and put yourself before others. Learn to be “selfish”.
@@user-ki8hb4he1o you are so right. People love it when others are down. I had a friend who was the same and she was like another person when my life got better! She showed me who she was and let's just say I don't need those people in my life. Hope you're okay and doing well.
think of it this way. The universe does not give 2 shits about you or your problems. You could die at any moment, or you can live another 25 years. SO LETS MAMBO.
I appreciate your videos because you are genuine and respectful with all the people you talk to. You really listen to your interview subjects and being an older person I appreciate that. Keep up the great work you are doing. This world needs more kindness, genuineness, and respectfulness.
You are wise beyond your years! It’s because you listen and actually implement what you’ve heard from people who’ve lived it. Great channel for me right now even at my 71 years that went so fast!
I am 70, and I concur with everything in this video. I never had these problems. I have never cared what other people think. Not at 20 or any other age. As the expression goes, I have never worked a day in my life -- all I did was play, doing things I would have done for free, such as programming. Fortunately, it paid well. There is a lot of talk about "finding what you love." Good advice, but be prepared to find out you love accounting, auto repair, selling fertilizer, hoses and plants, or some other work-a-day job that people assume is boring. It may not be boring from the inside. Focus your efforts on things outside yourself. Work to make the best program, or helping people find garden supplies. Work to make a lot of money if that's your thing. Do not "navel gaze" or worry about your internal life or whether you are happy. For me, making a complicated program work, or translating a difficult chemistry paper from Japanese (a hobby of mine) or some other challenging task is better than therapy. Happiness for someone like me is what you get from what you do. Always remember Satchel Paige's advice about looking back on life and second guessing yourself: "Don't look back. Something may be gaining on you."
Yes not worrying about what others think of you is important but being fulfilled is caring about others. A selfcentered person will reap what they sow so put others first. Who is greater, those that serve and care for you or those that do nothing for you and think only about themselves?
It's easy for older ppl to say they don't give a fuk about what other ppl think but when you are young, you are still forming your sense of identity, often taking clues from others. Those who are well grounded as kids, do much better at ignoring the opinions of others.
Never cared what other people thought of me, still don’t. As far as looking to others to form who you are, the role models in today’s society on a personal level or otherwise are not there. Society is a cesspool today.
Lovely! I will complete 60 yrs in Nov... understanding the universe... and myself is my sole objective... should have majored in cosmology but could not. Still, it continues to be my source of energy.
I think struggling is good for young people, it makes you appreciate lifes comforts when you achieve them. Also (I Think) it would be terribly boring to have everything always working out in the beginning of life.
In my opinion it totally depends on what happens to you, things that are way out of your control. I'm 66 years old, just retired. When I achieved goals in my life I didn't even consciously do it, in my 20s we didn't have conscious Goals. I have had lots of tragedy, lots of luck and privilege, lots of serious heartache, lots of serious love..... I wouldn't change a thing. When I was 23 I planned to move to a seaside town, now I'm 66 I just have lol...what a plan ❤
Best goals: Get an education, then get a good job, get into a relationship or not, and then it's all about your hobbies, add those back into your life from when you were a kid, like reading books, or add some new ones. For me it's reading books, finding a good place to go out to eat occasionally, and visiting a nearby falls, or just getting outside and doing what you like.
I am 66. For 40 years I invested everything and lived off fumes. All set to retire. Last year I got a sweet offer. It sounded great for about 2 days, then, to my utter astonishment I found myself bummed. Huh?! So I didn't retire. I never thought I would experience "careful what you wish for" but I am living it. (I do work from home and have a cool research gig)
Sometimes you have goals, and something happens to turn your life around, marriage breakup etc. it helps if you can just move on, otherwise you just sit and stagnate and are afraid to make decisions. Life is too short, to hang on to the past, so live everyday like it's your last, God bless 🙏
My love of my life wanted a divorce so i gave Edward what he wanted. I try to get thru each day by grace of God and do the best I can to get through and pray. We live in same NEIGHBORHOOD but rarely see each other. Divorce is like a death but worse ...no closure really not when you still love them😢
Awesome to see you've taken your experience and transformed the advice into a journal 🙂 If I can offer a word of refinement, we certainly shouldn't care about what 'everyone' thinks, but rather those of us who genuinely care about each other. Key word is 'genuine' which can be very difficult at first, because they may not be friends or family, but sometimes they are. So, rather than snub the world, be willing to give others a fair shake, but not guide your life according to their life. "What's it all for?" God, who wants everyone to know Him and live in joy of all He has done for us.
Absolutely....people dont give a damn, only if they can get something from you, in my experience...most of them do not bother to text...so dont waste any more time and effort on those that dont bother...
The guy with the Ferrari shirt is spot on!! I wanted a Ferrari. That was 1997. 11 Ferrari’s later. And currently have two. Was all about goals. I ALWAYS crush my goals!!!!
I think it’s more not to let the opinions of others affect you. I think it’s kind and nice to care what others think especially close friends & family, but in the end you are the one to live YOUR life and same goes for everyone else- so any judgement is not neccesary.
I’m 67. I stopped caring what other people think about me around 30 years ago. I saw this recently that might help others. I got it off RUclips somewhere. What other people think of me is none of my business! 😁
This video is the power of You Tube at its best, empowering people, not just providing gossipy trash, frivolous content, political rants, and sometimes tawdry, carnivalesque entertainment on the level of the National Enquirer.. If they gave the equivalent of an Oscar to You Tube creators this guy should be nominated!
I try not care what others think of me in a impressing them way . But , I do believe helping others live well and be happy makes us happy . We are wired for human connection to a point , it varies from person to person and if we are annoying or rude or others are rude that greatly hinders connection. Is being a thoughtful person caring what others think ? Maybe , but I’d prefer that over not caring for others . For myself , that’s being loving .
0:59 I disagree completely. I would say to pay attention to how people make you feel. If they leave you feeling happier, more uplifted, then they are keepers. If they knock you, give you back-handed compliments, downplay your accomplishments or show signs of jealousy instead of celebrating your wins, dump them as they are just users who will only drag you down.
@@doctorfritznoelBut, I think they’re not caring about what other people think was more broad. They weren’t limiting not care to just those who inflict harm.
I hope people don't confuse "living for yourself (narcissistic self serving attitude)" and "not caring what others think" as the same thing. You should definitely mind those around you as you are part of a community wherever you are but don't let the overall direction of your life be stopped by others that don't matter to your lived experience. But still be kind to all and behave with the "whole" in mind. Individualism is what got us into this societal mess where we don't care about one another and ONLY ourselves.
Exactly, we need to care about what people think, it's a social world we live in. It's when people start to care too much about trying to impress people, because they need their praise and admiration, that I becomes an issue. Like did you buy that Mercedes, because it was the car you liked best or are you hoping it will impress people?
@@micker9830 and some of the kindest people I know raised others. And abandoned their self serving dreams. But they've lived great lives nonetheless. 🙂
I like this video quite a bit…I was a people pleaser (as was my wife from our conversations)- we’re now both 60+ and really don’t care at all what people think of us. We did our work for others in the past and now it’s our turn. We live for us, exclusively at this point. I agree that ‘stuff’ is quite unimportant.
A unspoken thing which nobody dare say is the people they love are the ones who can give them something in return, and for the rare few who has appreciative good heart are the ones who have taken care of them before. This is is true regardless of blood ties or no. Thats all there is. In this world, majority are Every man for himself. Thats why other people opinions are cheap like dirt.
@@timothydempsey3763 Buddha said loving kindness and compassion to all sentinent beings, to love unconditionally, without selfishness or attachment, only a saint can do that. And who has ever seen a saint his her entire life?
This excellent video reminded me of a practice my grandfather impressed on me at an early age: write down your deeply considered Life Goals and stick them on your refrigerator door or other location where you will see tgem every day for reinforcement. The process should take at least 3 months and have very few changes over the years. Most people have not even planned their upcoming weekend let alone their lives... 😂
Great video, Sprouht! The wisdom shared here is invaluable. As a fellow RUclipsr also sharing positive and inspiring content, it's awesome to see the work you do.
As long as you're not hurting anyone - the its really important to detach yourself from what others think about you. First, what they think about you says more about them than it actually says about you. Second, chances are, they don't even think about you as much as you think they do.
Very few of us work jobs that fulfill our purpose in life. We walk or drive to work and see the homeless and know that we are a major illness, a massive layoff, an economic downturn, away from being them. Life for us is not an internal struggle for Zen balance. It is a battle to live. If we arrive at retirement and have not enough money then we will be ground up and spat out the system. No one will sacrifice their limited resources for us. Our joys are measured in moments. Significant travel is an unimaginable luxury. We work to eat, to shelter, to wake again tomorrow and work.
As you grow older you learn just how powerful age demographics are and always have been. They not only largely determine your experience, they also determine how your thoughts and consciousness changes. But only really getting by living it....
I’m 72 and was asked why old people seem negative at times. My answer was: The older you get, the more you realize how stupid people are. Once you realize how stupid people are, you quit caring about what they think of you. I asked a 90+ year old woman, when I was in my mid 30’s, what the key to happiness was. She explained in GREAT detail the three things you have to have to achieve happiness. First, you have to be honest. This simply means you have to be true to yourself. Second, you have to have love. This simply means you have to love yourself. Third, you have to be curious.
The Buddha said not to worry about what others think or say about you. Their words and thoughts can't hurt you unless you empower them. Sage advice. As for goal setting I disagree, you don't have to set goals to be happy. Having a plan makes sense, but having unrealistic goals is like swimming with rocks in your pockets!
Work hard to pay off your home and try hard to stay out of debt. At 62 I’m happily retired and debt free. My mantra now is I do what I want when I want. I don’t give a shit what other people think. My friends obviously like me or they wouldn’t stay my friends. I can look back now and realise the saying “you will only regret the things you don’t do” is true, even if I did things and failed I don’t regret trying. At 18 I applied for the navy and got through only to change my mind. I regret not joining. I regret staying in some relationships too long. My wife loves retirement because it’s the only time in your life you are truly free. You don’t have to go to school, you don’t have to go to work, you’re finished raising kids, you have no debt. After years of working hard now it is your time for you and we both love it. You know all those “friends” at work most, most of them you will never see again so who cares what they think. Caring about what other people think will turn you into someone you are not.
A true friend is hard to find. When you hit rock bottom you will know who your true friends are (and you will likely be disillusioned and hurt). And if you find that one in a million friend, cherish them and reciprocate.
@@user-ki8hb4he1o love your answer reciprocate is a good word in friendship. It shouldn't be one-sided all the time. This is what disappoints me most in people they'll take everything you have to give but they won't reciprocate one iota. Some can't they are sick and I understand that. Feeling used is a horrible feeling!!
Setting your goals is very important but it's not that simple sometimes. What goal will make you happy and satisfy you? Easier said than done for some but what you can do is get to know what options may be possible and may possibly suit you. I found mine later in life to get the full benefit from it but the satisfaction is still there. The other thing is that your goal should not involve or depend on another person. People change, your goal is too important to rely on someone else.
At 63 I am routinely reminded that I care a lot more about my adult kids than they do about me. Truth is, people make time for what or who is truly important to them…it’s that simple. How I wish I could just not care anymore.
I appreciate your comment. I recognized this too. Then feel guilty or think I must be negative or maybe I'm just too sensitive. I received a little validation here.
I'm 60+ years old and can count the number of people that truly care about me on one hand. Don't piss away your life for others.
That's true of everyone. Immediate family and maybe a couple of friends, is your circle. Everyone else is just ships passing in the night.
@@darylfoster7944IF you have decent, caring family members!
100%
I can count them on one finger, assuming I'm looking into a mirror
@@danielmart7940😢😔
I’m 68 yo, a retired vet.. Everything is paid off. So many of the people I know want to travel. I have literally lived all over the globe. One of my daughters went to six high schools. The wife and I are tired of travel. We plopped our butts down in a little house, in the country, on a river bank, coming out of the Smokies. I sit watching yard birds, beautiful, tiny Goldfinches, Cardinals, Sparrows, river critters, otters, Great Blue Herons, Canadian Geese, ducks and turtles. I mow my little yard and tend some flowers. And I go up, in the mountains. I don’t have any goals.
.... and you're a smart man. Thanks for your service.
We just moved. All I said was. Give me a view. Some land. And a slightly better kitchen. All is good.
That sounds like a perfect retirement! Good for you guys. I plopped my butt down in Florida. 😊
Looks like you actually achieved your goal
Learn the acoustic guitar. Trust me.
This is a great one I saw
The other day.
The '18-40-60 Rule': at 18 you care what everyone thinks, at 40 you don't care what anyone thinks and at 60 you realize no one ever cared about what you thought, they were busy worrying about themselves.
Dr. Daniel Amen
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I said that way back in '64 and that SOB Dr. Amen stole it from me.
Although....... mine was slightly different. You may say it is the 18-40-50 rule, because if you wait until you're 60 to realize no one cared, you're rather slow.
I lucky i realised this at 30
As somebody who turns 40 next year, I can attest to the first two.
Just your opinion does not make you right
My phone died 7-8 years ago, and I lost all my contacts. It was 5+ years before one person called. People are only around as long as you can provide something for them.
Wow
100% correct. People are users. Nothing more.
Same! So true!
It's not a 100% true
The best people are rare.
That's horseshit. It just means you didn't have close friends to begin with. Does your brain not function? You don't feel when you are connected to someone? You keep calling despite there is no connection? And then when your phone is gone then you wake up? Something is really fishy with your story....
I wish i learnt most of these principles about seven years ago. A lot of people have been trapped strongly in the matrix. Sometimes Protecting your capital is much more important than making money. Basically because if you lose your capital, making money is much harder. ''Missing the train'' vs. ''losing your money''. There are a lot of trains, but if your money is gone, it's over.
Nobody knows anything, you need to create your own process, manage risk and stick to the plan, through thick or thin ,While also continuously learning from mistakes and improving.
@@Rachadrian Many overlook that banks are return-driven businesses. I don't trust keeping a large sum in a bank. Instead, I invest with guidance, enjoy the benefits, and save for retirement.
After the '08 financial crisis, I've learned not to trust corporations. Since 2020, I've been investing with a financial advisor and have had no major losses, so I'm not going back to relying solely on banks.
my partner’s been considering going the same route, could you share more info please on the advisor that guides you.
Annette Christine Conte is the coach that guides me. She’s a verified coach and she helped me see that returns can be made in both bull and bear markets. She covers things like investing, insurance, making sure retirement is well funded and looking at ways to have a volatility buffer for investment risk, lots of things like that.
Don't listen to what people say, watch what they do.
thats a good thing to remember if you are on a date. If your date is treating the service or retail worker like crap then thats a red flag
Or do both
Don't care what other people think but care about what they do. Very true... especially if it affects your wellbeing negatively. So you can preempt and strike before they do.
Actions speak louder then words.
@@steve2736 yeah thats def a red flag there
The best advice I could ever give is keep your goals to yourself! People will sabotage you. Most people are envious and petty. Be your own best friend and let go of people who don't care.
That is terrific advice. You will avoid all the scrutiny & people ‘picking’ at you,bugging you and trying to sabotage you!! AND….like you say, in the end you find out they could care less, except if you fail at your goals…then, they are right there. Am I right? OK! So, let it go, try your best to tell no one what you are up to and live a peace filled life. The vast majority (VERY VAST!!) could not give a d-- about you, so face it, deal with it, and enjoy your life w/ VERY FEW “people”>. I am 72 and have done ilife both ways….trust me, the less ‘people’….the BETTER!! I have such a better life without tons of people draining my energy, my time and my good nature. It was my own fault for allowing it.I do not regret my super loving, giving and forgiving nature. However, at around age 60-65 I became VERY AWAKENED to some real life TRUTHS. Now, I am so grateful for my serenity & peace.The love and mercy of God have brought me to a new & wonderful place as I continue to grow and become wiser. I wish for everyone to have this experience. God bless you all.❤
You're so right!
I'm 38. I figured that one out 10 years ago. From 28 I never was honest abouy my intentions. Then I got rich. Now I just hold a big F Off sign to your face if you start to become a btch. Usually they just have to understand you're rich and they'll back off. Big dog vs small dog you know.
But until you become rich, yes, you should be somewhat reserved about your plans.
Couldn’t agree more!
Absolute truth
That guy who talked about his coworker dying left out the part where no one cared and they were replaced in 2 weeks and everything moved forward as though nothing ever happened.
Two weeks?!? Ha! Everywhere I have worked the left or dead worker is forgotten the next day!! No matter how long they had been there, or how well regarded they were, poof! Next day it was like they never existed.
@@barbarabrown9269that’s horrible.
That's happened twice in my current job to guys around my age and my boss is mystified why I don't put in more effort, time and dedication so I can essentially put in even more time and effort. The thing I keep in the back of my mind for this sort of situation is imagine you are on your deathbed. What is it you will look back fondly to or wished you had done or done more of? It's not grinding out more hours at work is it?
@@jelkel25The joy of life is fulfilling a purpose you find important. If that happens to be something you get paid for - regrets may be few.
@@gormanthomas8135 That was a little sneaky. Getting paid for something isn't necessarily a conventional job and just because you enjoy it, it doesn't necessarily give you purpose or meaning. You're speaking for yourself, no one else. Maybe you get enough from your job to say on your deathbed, I wish I'd spent more time at work. I have serious doubts this is actually the case.
The lesson I learned: Just because they are "family" doesn't mean they love you.
And I've never had a 'socially acceptable' job because I walked away from the highest paid job I had (which was not a socially acceptable move) and spent the next 40 years working lesser paid but more enjoyable jobs (not a socially acceptable thing to do). I'm happy but have no social status whatsoever.
Where did you work?
Who cares about status anyways
@@Staroy I certainly don't....but be prepared to be treated like crap by people who do.
Most families are trash
@@l.5832 Then find new people :o) If they are placing that much importance on something that doesn't matter to you, move on. Not sure what kind of "social status" you mean, or the implications. Are you shunned by some people, not invited to the right events and things like that? Again, dump 'em; find new people. I'm here in Christian, MAGA small-town Indiana. My two main friends are in that category, and are treading on thin ice. I'd rather have no friends than sit around with them pretending it's ok when it is NOT. But I have other acquaintances that keep me going. I can be happy alone or with people. Also, nothing is keeping me here. Anyway, best regards! I hope things get better for you!
I stopped caring what people think about me a few years ago. It’s been liberating.
@@Me97202 the best thing
Me too.
Me three.
There you go. Comments opinions are not always right just that simple
In the process this summer.
In my 70 years, I would agree that you shouldn’t worry about the opinions of others but it is still an important life skill to learn how to make others feel good in your presence. Do not create enemies… especially ones who have power over you. It will create unnecessary strife in your life. In short, being nice will benefit you. Just don’t be so nice the you give up control over your needs and goals.
True, but a razors edge to walk sometimes!
On the other hand, enemies are often people who simply find you a threat due to your accomplishments or personality or general togetherness as a human being. It doesn't take much for some people to become your enemy. I do agree with your advice not to create enemies but people pleasing and being nice all the time may also ensure you get nowhere in life. Long as one also has boundaries it is best to be "nice", but I prefer the word "kind", or even "compassionate" as to how we treat others. BTW, I am 73.
Yes! This is good advice.
Being nice = Kissing asses.
I watched 5 mins of the video inly to find out he wants to sell stuff 😂
Your health is the most important thing in your life.
@@VonBluesman so very true…. doesn’t matter how much money you have ,success, whatever if you’re not in good health life can be miserable
At age 62 I learned a lot from my own life. Learned the person that pays the bills is the important person (me). Stay healthy and humble. Stick to my values and principles. Don’t watch tv, stay away from social media. You reap what you sow. Treat others as equals. Works for me.
Very well said Tech. Wishing you fun projects and loads of sunshine......oh and spaghetti. Lots of spaghetti.
I'm 63, thanks for your story, it made me think 👍🏻
Very True!!!!
If only you lived by that. Tell me is Gen z your equal? 😈
I disassociate with anyone who brings me down. If you're not fun and happy to be around, I want nothing to do with you. My life has no drama. It's wonderful! I avoid drama like the plague.
All I can say is be careful who you let into your home! Starting with Family first!
My father told me, kid, if they don't feed you, they don't cloth you, and they don't give you housing, their opinions are WORTHLESS. I never cared about people like that.
This is so so so so true. My god.
So welfare is the way? Your comment doesn’t make any sense.
@@KAT-dg6el Yeah, who is "they"? The kids? The grandkids?
They may not be able to feed you, cloth you, give you housing but their opinions may be worth at least 2 cents and if they care about you, their opinion may be catered to you but at the end of the day, you have to decide for yourself what to do, you have to live with yourself all said and done at the end of the day. Someone else’s opinion maybe worth their weight in gold through their life experiences the hard way, so you don’t have to go through that. Some people inspire so you can keep going. Best to you in all life has to offer your journey!
@@KAT-dg6elhe’s talking about what other people think. He’s saying , don’t worry about the next guy because they don’t care for you . Only you can improve your life.
Have the strength to walk away from toxic friends and family.
I have a sister that's so self-absorbed if you don't talk about what she wants she shuts you down I didn't play into that and so she walked away
This is better and actually useful advice unlike anything in the video.
@@00mazone so you got nothing from the video, eh? I liked the last person who basically said not to waste your life doing a job you don't like. Seize whatever dreams you have and go for the gusto now.
@@sylviacarlson3561 My dreams cost money. I have to work to make money. I can't think of any jobs that I would enjoy at all. So what, just stop working and do the stuff I want to do and end up broke and homeless. Dumb advice unless you are already super rich.
@@sylviacarlson3561 My dreams are not tied to work, they cost money. So I have to work to make my dreams come true. I'm pretty sure this is true for most people unless you are already rich or there's a job available to you that you will love. It's one of those things that's pretty easy to say but isn't helpful at all. I quit my job because I don't like it, now what is step 2 because rent is coming up soon. 😂
Live your life and enjoy it, you don’t need much to be happy. Don’t over analyse everything. And don’t let your job swallow your life, it’s just a job.
Sprought, go into some of the lower income areas and ask the same questions of the elderly and youth. That would be interesting.
Well said.
Agreed.
That would be very interesting, I agree
I live in America & have seen YT hosts interview gang bosses, gang members, drug addicts, incarcerated persons, & ordinary “poor” citizens of their ‘hood. They are survivors of terrible circumstances, yet most have similar values: while compassionate, the elders don’t care what others think of them, the youth have dreams & goals, they all work hard to get the best for themselves & families, they have a neighborhood heirarchy that works but not perfect (like our government), and they want more helpful services like we all do, no matter our economic situations. We all want mutual respect, fairness & freedoms.
Old people are vulnerable. And your fellow human is seldom better than a two legged jackal. Recognise the worst scavengers and predators. Preserve you finances and your physical health and always hit back as hard as you're able.
*Larry Burkett's book on "Giving and Tithing" drew me closer to God and helped my spirituality. 2020 was a year I literally lived it. I cashed in my life savings and gave it all away. My total giving amounted to 40,000 dollars. Everyone thought I was delusional. Today, 1 receive 85,000 dollars every two months. I have a property in Calabasas, CA, and travel a lot. God has promoted me more than once and opened doors for me to live beyond my dreams. God kept to his promises to and for me*
There's wonder working power in following Kingdom principles on giving and tithing. Hallelujah!
But then, how do you get all that in that period of time? What is it you do please, mind sharing?
It is the digital market. That's been the secret to this wealth transfer. A lot of folks in the US and abroad are getting so much from it, God has been good to my household Thank you Jesus
Big thanks to Ms. Susan Jane Christy❤️✨💯May God bless Christy Fiore services,she have changed thousands of lives globally
How can I start this digital market, any guidelines and how can I reach out to her?
It's simple. If you are where you belong, regret nothing. It's taken everything that has happened to lead you to where you are. If something feels regretful, give greater wisdom time to reveal itself to you or self reflect until you learn something. It's not wasted time, yet.
If you are a parent and working particularly mums, don’t put your needs last, don’t ignore the things you want to do, because by the time you get to 63 you’ll have forgotten what it was that you used to love to do just because you people pleased your life away. My little life tip to guilty working mums ( ps stop feeling guilty for working, for not being everywhere, for not being everything you see or are told on social media and for just wanting to be you).
Happy birthday 🥰
I’m 71 and happy. Thankful actually. I have to admit that I was saddened by the responses because I have come to see that this world is not my home and God has given me peace that passes all understanding. “We are spirits in the material world”.
foolish responses are expected nowadays because mostly people are not seeking the kingdom of God, they are only thinking about temporary things
The whole time I was listening I was thinking of my relationship with Jesus. He has given me a life worth living.
Good song
@@jamesmack3314 Sting!
Amen
At age 36 my goal is to move to the Louisiana coast and kayak fish the rest of my life. Live frugal and fish.🎣
Why wait?
lol I have nothing against fishing but now that I’m retired I like to learn how to fish but to me fishing is like watching grass grow. Honestly, being retired as like boring.
@@dormandavis2767 try fishing with lures and looking for the fish. Throwing a line out and waiting is only one way, lure fishing or fly fishing is much more engaging.
Good 👍
You are very smart, go for it!
My in-laws "taught" me the importance of not caring about what others think. I figured out pretty early on that my wife's family was never going to like me. So I quit trying.
Yeah, mine thought only their noses were in the air, but really their whole heads were up their asses.
Same here it also turned out behind my back my wife was included in that camp
Same thing
My wife was the only one in her entire family that wasn’t a narcissist!!! Talk about toxic mf’s!
@@Rancanfish LOL
I got rid of everyone in my life that reminded me of my past struggles..new friends only know me from now..life is so much better
The old friends knew our past,the present friends know our presence
.The only one who knew us entirely is ourselves.So there is no need paying too much attention on others' opinions.They don't know us,the won't understand us entirely.
That's good if it helps you. I still have my old friends in my life... the ones who were with me through the struggles and we have all evolved. It's nice to have that mutual understanding of a shared past. The friends who are stuck in the past and haven't grown along side me are the ones I needed to leave behind.
Friends that you make at each stage in your life aren't necessarily stuck in that time capsule. They're humans who grow and learn the same way you do.
I find the opposite true. Old friends are the only real friends you will most likely ever have. There is nothing that can replace 30+yr friendships. I have several 40+yr friendships still and there is no way any person I could ever meet, would be that close and like family to me. I guess if you screwed up in the past and made poor choices of people you were friends with before.
@@micker9830 we all make choices I hope you continue on a healthy lifestyle
I love your channel & your story as to how your channel came about. I share your channel w/ many. The most common take away from you polling people is them saying not to worry too much when you’re younger. When you’re going thru it. It’s hard NOT TO worry. But I do think it’s good advice to practice walking in faith - while striving to do well. Be a good person & treat others how you want them to treat your child. And try to live your life’s intended purpose. Thx U for your channel.
ONCE YOU ARE LIVING YOUR LIFE FOR YOURSELF IT’S LIKE RELEASING YOUR SELF FROM A JAIL
Exactly❤
That's the way that I've always lived.
Great!
Amen to that 🎉
Fine sentiment as long as you don't have kids.
I wish that I had asked myself these questions when I was 25 years old. I'm 55 now and I'm evaluating my life and trying to figure out what I want to do for the next chapter. It's never too late. Always pursue your own happiness....defined by you and only you. Thank you for your videos!
Sometimes I think it is easier to list the things in life you don’t want. I have always found it challenging to figure out exactly what I want but pretty easy to list things I don’t want.
What advice do you have to a 23 yr old?
I never anticipated that I’d be so happy at 55, I downgraded ( upgraded in my mind) my job to one with low responsibilities and paid out my mortgage, I’m so calm and stress free, my high stress management job was killing me but I needed it for the mortgage, then I changed my life, I’m so grateful for my friends, family and home
I did this, too! I’ve never been happier w/my down-up grade❤
Congrats! Eventually, my 27 & 30 yr old daughters will believe these invaluable life lessons. Social media attention is the worst! But for us in our 50’s, with maybe lesser time on earth, we MUST live the way we want to, responsibly AND all in. Congrats on your life upgrade!! 🎉
A debt free life buys quality of life. I’m also mortgage free ❤💸
Unfortunately I have been the most unhappy in my life at 55 yo. I used to not care what others thought until now; I really don’t understand why. Hopefully it’s hormones. This too shall pass.
@@tonitonsofnutritionalinfor2140 I hear you. Pre, during & post menopause has altered my 56 yo mind & body for sure. Yes, this too shall pass, and certainly check in with your doctor for hormone inquiries.
This is the type of videos that I need to help me motivate in life.
Fffoooxxx
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Not caring what people think about you depends on who, and what the circumstances are. But overly thinking it is not good.
Be congenial and strong in your conviction Fly by a solid moral compass don't break the 3 most important rules in life don't lie cheat or steal... You reap what you sow
I'm 73 and married to my love for 53 years. I was very poor as a child growing up and remember feeling sad that I did not have the simple pleasures that many of my peers enjoyed. My goal in life was simple and still is. Work hard and provide more opportunity and happiness for my children than I had. I was able to do that and my senior years are the best years of my life because I achieved that goal. I think about the people who live on this earth that endure abject poverty and cannot fathom the concept of goals or life fulfillment. I thank my lucky stars I was born into this life and even in my poor youth had more opportunities than most people in this world.
I grew up very poor as well. My young son gets to have a hot bath any time he wants and it makes feel like a king. The little things most people take for granted are seen as big wins for me. Its a ripple effect from poverty. I feel afwul for my wife sometimes because her husband's idea of success is tub water.
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It's hard to plan life, because you don't know how long you have. Everyone so worried about their retirement and 401ks etc, thinking that is the goal, retire rich. In reality, you are just trading today for tomorrow and that tomorrow you won't be like you are today and that tomorrow might not even get here. Enjoy every day. Plan for the future, but don't think that is the goal. Your money, when you retire, will go to your kids or a nursing home, you won't be enjoying it like you will now.
Counterpoint. Statistically speaking, you're probably going to live a very long time.
Don't run out of money and become a burden to othes around you because you convinced yourself that tomorrow wasn't promised to you, or equally vapid pablum.
It's balancing things in life. Yes make plans for your future but don't make it the end all be all. None of us know how much time we have in this life so live like you were dying. don't wait for tomorrow to enjoy your life tomorrow may never come
It's hard to pinpoint the things that will make you happy because happy means something completely different for everyone else. I used to be an endocrinologist (quit this year, I am 42) and I invested all my money in real estate. I bought 2-bedroom apartments in Romania, and I rented them to pay the new ones. I started this when I was 23 and at 42, I own eight small apartments I rent. I quit my job and became a RUclipsr on a small niche: True Crime. And when I am done with this hobby, I will find something else. For me, happiness is spending time with my family, traveling, watching the world go by. I'm investing all my surplus in the stock market and hopefully, when I'm 60, my kids will get to experience a similar life to mine. But hey, my happiness is different from yours. I don't have a Lambo, I drive a Skoda Kodiaq 2019. I wear jeans and t-shirt, I eat at home most of the time, I have an iPhone 13 and a MacBook Pro M1. I wear a Casio, I go fishing, I go camping. No Dubai, no Maldives, no Milano. It really depends on what makes you happy.
No Milano? I thought u like traveling. Btw at what age did you have kids?
@@Staroymilano is expensive
@@Staroy 33 and 41. And no, Milano is too touristy for me :)
Sounds like it's quite fulfilling! Stay healthy !!
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Someone once told me,
Your truth about yourself is what you know in your heart, while others' opinions are just ideas. Their perceptions are only projections, and they don’t have to affect your reality as long as you stay true to who you are.
Agreed! The key is for people to become aware of who they are and then stay true to their identity
That's a load of nonsense. The reality is that you are, to other people, what you project publically to the people around you.
You can believe internally that you are the kindest, most caring individual. But if everyone around you thinks you're an A hole, it's almost certainly because you treat everyone like an A hole... and as a result, you would be in fact an A hole.
just live everyday , appreciate the moments given to you and look after your health . I am 64 and very happy / contented . Have been true to myself my whole life and I don't care about what others think at all
You could not be more correct or timely with this video. I retired at 59 from a job that was running me into the ground mentally and ultimately as a result, physically. Your graph of happiness indeed reflects the path I've followed. Blissfully, stupidly happy in my 20's followed by declining happiness and fulfillment through my 30's to 60's. Im about to turn 67 but am going to try a new path on which I'll do what i alone want to do. My family doesnt understand why i simply dont want to slip into decay. My son recently confided that he thought I was never happy in retirement, and he is right. Fine for others, not for me. The point is, ... if you want to keep trying new things, no matter your age, then find a way and stop listening to others. Dont fool yourself because it is very hard to face down the doubters. But as noted in the video, nobody really cares about your happiness, so you have to. Just trying is a victory. Good luck to you all.
Riding in a car one day with a sibling and our parents, I wanted to get it across to my sister that she need not be so concerned with her friends opinions of her life. Finally I blurted out, “everybody in the world who cares about you is sitting in this car right now”. An awkward silence fell over the conversation. Had I caused her pain? Possibly, but only temporary pain. The message sank in and delivered the intended effect.
Good luck!
I just retired in April this year at age 65, my first thought was I'm going to stay up late as I want to every night and sleep till noon the next day if I feel like it! because for 42 years of working I always had to follow a routine of going to bed at a certain hour to get up early or had to do what somebody else told me to do, The first month I did that staying up late watching TV then sleeping in, it was great for a while then it was like too much freedom and I felt weird like I needed that structure of a routine back to feel normal again, I'm still trying to find that balance but haven't yet, The days go by so quick too ! 4 months have gone by but it doesn't seem like that, When I was a teen working with some old guys after school,, they would say things like ,Yeah, life is too short, but I really didn't grasp that because when I was young it seemed like a Year lasted 5 years , One time I told the two old guys how I was really depressed because I didn't own a car, The two old guy laughed saying he's depressed! Damn kid you got the world by the ass right now and don't know it! At the time I didn't get it because at that age when you don't have money or a car it seems like all is lost, but now that I'm old ,I see what those guys meant,
@@bluemouse5039 This was so enlightening. Thank you sir for sharing this. How are you doing, really?
l love the grounded reality of this channel!!! Retirement took a toll on my finances, but with my involvement in the digital market, $35,000 weekly returns has been life changing.
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Well, I am over 80; I have travelled over Europe, over North Africa, Latin America, Canada.
I speak more than 3 languages.
Life is NOT about accumulating a lot of money or working hard.
Life is about family, great friends, sharing good times and bad times and sincerely caring about others.
I think once 2000 came around people stopped thinking that way
@user-kd5ig3vc3s I think the downhill happened from social media and our smartphones. Basically the Mayan 2012 endd of the world date was actually the end of the world emotionally.
@@SmartestDumbGuy agree
I don't know anyone that wants to be bothered entertaining other people. Everyone I know is happiest left alone.
Betrayal comes from family and friends.
Try to find love, and hold on tight! There is nothing more fulfilling than giving and receiving love from another person.
Love is letting go of FEAR.
Let go of fear and you’ll LOVE your life.
Not true
That makes a surprising amount of sense to me! Thanks!
I also think everyone has a calling or a purpose in this life. Figuring that out is sometimes a problem. God is behind it all and without some connection to your Higher Power you can easily flounder. Your heart can lead you to your passion. Those are generally the happiest people. People who serve others and make life a bit easier are happy. I’m almost 79 years old and this is the happiest time of my life. I still work part time in a service industry and feel so blessed.
When I turned 60, it was a life bulb moment, as if someone had flipped a switch. I no longer cared what others said about me or what they thought about me. I make an effort never to hurt others, but they always took great delight in attacking me, even though I always put them first. My regret at 66...I never took the time to think about my dreams and it makes me sad that my best years are gone. I worked hard, never took a break, all for very little. My son lives in another country at the other side of the world and the thing that I wanted most, the love of family, I haven't got because I put others first. But I wouldn't want to be selfish either, so it's having the proper balance.
I understand what you are saying. I'm 60. The love you've given to others is eternal, a treasure, and is a legacy of a life well lived. Now, reflect on your dreams and go after a couple of them - a new hobby to learn, a place to visit, a passion project, and do it. You're not too old to make a couple dreams come true ♥
I hear you. We do for others and assume that they would want to return the gift of caring, but what often happens is they dismiss our actions as “just the way they are” and never return that level of care. We keep thinking that eventually (when they get the right job, when they get more sleep, when they obtain their goals…..) that they will feel fulfilled and turn their focus to others (us), but what we have really taught them is that we must be satisfied being of service to others (or why else would we keep doing it) and they continue to focus on themselves.
Go to your son. No one is promised tomorrow❤
@@nangel270 Absolutely. Bless you.
That's a long time to realize it
It's very human to sometimes expect others to pay more attention to us than we do to them, but it's important to realize that everyone has their own life, concerns, and priorities. If we are understanding of the limited attention others may give us, we can also learn to show more reciprocity and empathy. If you find yourself less focused on others, it can be an opportunity to reflect and consider whether you want to change that dynamic. In the end, it comes down to building healthy relationships where there's a balance of giving and receiving. And obviously, this can't be a whole lot of people...
Don’t expect anything of others. Spend time to find out who you are and where you fit in (your interests, talents, strengths, weaknesses, opportunities). Secure food, nourishment, and shelter, then pursue things that fit who you are as much as you can, as hard as you can. Reflect often, and change course when necessary.
I wished I had understood this before. I quit job because I couldn't socialise at work. I became broke because I found interacting with others at workplace very difficult.
I failed to understand that securing just enough food, and money to pay rent should be the first priority and then we can try to pursue something which is fulfilling.
Thank you for the motivation.
Not true, here's a list of things that everyone has the right to expect from everyone else whether its friendship or relationship: compassion, respect, consideration, time, interest, intimacy (not sexual intimacy, and generosity, these are all reasonable expectations
I had a friend once tell me she never expected anything from anyone and she was never disapointed
Just be. Live in the moment. Don't hurt anyone along the journey. Be kind but at the same time don't take any shit from anyone. Be fearless. Love as many people as you can. Journaling is a complete waste of time. In the moment, sit still and understand that your thoughts are not you (just watch and observe), they come out of nowhere and disappear into nothingness. Just be.
Thank you for sharing! 💚
Just be, I like that. :)
I disagree with you that "journaling is a complete waste of time". Journaling helps one clarify his or her goals and give one an undeniable visual of what we want, where we want to go in life, and who we really want to be. It's helped me immeasurably. Writing is healthy and therapeutic. It can help one reduce the chaos in his or her life and establish order. Nothing wrong with "just be" but true fulfillment takes action and appropriate intervention while just being suggests an apathetic, aimless way of living and could very well lead to an end of life full of regrets.
@@FriendofDorothy Back when I was married, my wife would interrupt my work and say "remember when you promised to do xxxxxx?" ME: Nope. If it isn't written down, it never happened.
This was a great comment. So true
Healthy reality checks happen for me when I visit a cemetery and I see rows of examples of people who had their moments in the sun, just as I am having now. They had it, they used it to one degree or another and for them, now, it is over. Someday, I will be there too. But not yet. Today is still my time, a gift, and I get to decide what to do with it.
I'm 56 and have had to start over. I've come to realise nobody cares. You can give your all to people and they're happy to take. But once it's the other way, the love and care you gave doesn't get reciprocated. It's sad but makes the message of your video more important and that is to love and live for yourself ❤
Yes! Give, give and give to yourself.
Sounds like you’re living my life
I’m almost 50 and have learned the same thing when I hit rock bottom and my “best friends” (who I did so much for and was always there for) didn’t care and never even reached out during my depression (not even a text) to check-in.
I’ve learned that in Reality, most people are selfish, self-centered, petty or envious and may secretly be happy when you are doing worse than them or are hurting. Those are not friends. I believe there are caring and good people out there, but they are hard to find. If you are one of those people, don’t give endlessly or you will be sucked dry (with no reciprocation). Love yourself first and foremost and put yourself before others. Learn to be “selfish”.
@@user-ki8hb4he1o you are so right. People love it when others are down. I had a friend who was the same and she was like another person when my life got better! She showed me who she was and let's just say I don't need those people in my life. Hope you're okay and doing well.
think of it this way. The universe does not give 2 shits about you or your problems.
You could die at any moment, or you can live another 25 years. SO LETS MAMBO.
I appreciate your videos because you are genuine and respectful with all the people you talk to. You really listen to your interview subjects and being an older person I appreciate that. Keep up the great work you are doing. This world needs more kindness, genuineness, and respectfulness.
You are wise beyond your years! It’s because you listen and actually implement what you’ve heard from people who’ve lived it. Great channel for me right now even at my 71 years that went so fast!
thank you! 72 and very happy in Florida- have a great life!❤
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Don't let other people tell you what's best for you. Especially if they don't listen to you.
I am 70, and I concur with everything in this video. I never had these problems. I have never cared what other people think. Not at 20 or any other age. As the expression goes, I have never worked a day in my life -- all I did was play, doing things I would have done for free, such as programming. Fortunately, it paid well. There is a lot of talk about "finding what you love." Good advice, but be prepared to find out you love accounting, auto repair, selling fertilizer, hoses and plants, or some other work-a-day job that people assume is boring. It may not be boring from the inside.
Focus your efforts on things outside yourself. Work to make the best program, or helping people find garden supplies. Work to make a lot of money if that's your thing. Do not "navel gaze" or worry about your internal life or whether you are happy. For me, making a complicated program work, or translating a difficult chemistry paper from Japanese (a hobby of mine) or some other challenging task is better than therapy. Happiness for someone like me is what you get from what you do.
Always remember Satchel Paige's advice about looking back on life and second guessing yourself: "Don't look back. Something may be gaining on you."
Paige also said: "How old would you be if you didn't know how old you was?"
This is gold. Great wisdom
I am a pro navel gazer and I love it, as do the owners of those navels😅
Yes not worrying about what others think of you is important but being fulfilled is caring about others. A selfcentered person will reap what they sow so put others first. Who is greater, those that serve and care for you or those that do nothing for you and think only about themselves?
It's easy for older ppl to say they don't give a fuk about what other ppl think but when you are young, you are still forming your sense of identity, often taking clues from others. Those who are well grounded as kids, do much better at ignoring the opinions of others.
Good point! And as an older person I can agree.
In my 20s I was struggling to make a living; a very scary time without family taking care of me financially!
Never cared what other people thought of me, still don’t. As far as looking to others to form who you are, the role models in today’s society on a personal level or otherwise are not there. Society is a cesspool today.
And that’s exactly why the left has been able to create the WOKE.
If you're looking to others to define/find yourself, you're hopelessly lost
Lovely! I will complete 60 yrs in Nov... understanding the universe... and myself is my sole objective... should have majored in cosmology but could not. Still, it continues to be my source of energy.
I think struggling is good for young people, it makes you appreciate lifes comforts when you achieve them. Also (I Think) it would be terribly boring to have everything always working out in the beginning of life.
In my opinion it totally depends on what happens to you, things that are way out of your control.
I'm 66 years old, just retired. When I achieved goals in my life I didn't even consciously do it, in my 20s we didn't have conscious Goals.
I have had lots of tragedy, lots of luck and privilege, lots of serious heartache, lots of serious love.....
I wouldn't change a thing.
When I was 23 I planned to move to a seaside town, now I'm 66 I just have lol...what a plan ❤
Interesting first point. The influence of others.... true.
I personally don't care about what others think or say.
Good for you ! I was there once ....
I will work on that!
Be nice to people if you can,live your life the way you want to.
Best goals: Get an education, then get a good job, get into a relationship or not, and then it's all about your hobbies, add those back into your life from when you were a kid, like reading books, or add some new ones. For me it's reading books, finding a good place to go out to eat occasionally, and visiting a nearby falls, or just getting outside and doing what you like.
I am 66. For 40 years I invested everything and lived off fumes. All set to retire. Last year I got a sweet offer. It sounded great for about 2 days, then, to my utter astonishment I found myself bummed. Huh?! So I didn't retire. I never thought I would experience "careful what you wish for" but I am living it. (I do work from home and have a cool research gig)
Hope you enjoyed the fumes.
Sometimes you have goals, and something happens to turn your life around, marriage breakup etc. it helps if you can just move on, otherwise you just sit and stagnate and are afraid to make decisions. Life is too short, to hang on to the past, so live everyday like it's your last, God bless 🙏
Not easy for people who struggle with mental health issues such as depression, PTSD, etc
My love of my life wanted a divorce so i gave Edward what he wanted. I try to get thru each day by grace of God and do the best I can to get through and pray. We live in same NEIGHBORHOOD but rarely see each other. Divorce is like a death but worse ...no closure really not when you still love them😢
Awesome to see you've taken your experience and transformed the advice into a journal 🙂
If I can offer a word of refinement, we certainly shouldn't care about what 'everyone' thinks, but rather those of us who genuinely care about each other. Key word is 'genuine' which can be very difficult at first, because they may not be friends or family, but sometimes they are. So, rather than snub the world, be willing to give others a fair shake, but not guide your life according to their life.
"What's it all for?" God, who wants everyone to know Him and live in joy of all He has done for us.
Absolutely....people dont give a damn, only if they can get something from you, in my experience...most of them do not bother to text...so dont waste any more time and effort on those that dont bother...
The guy with the Ferrari shirt is spot on!! I wanted a Ferrari. That was 1997. 11 Ferrari’s later. And currently have two. Was all about goals. I ALWAYS crush my goals!!!!
I think it’s more not to let the opinions of others affect you. I think it’s kind and nice to care what others think especially close friends & family, but in the end you are the one to live YOUR life and same goes for everyone else- so any judgement is not neccesary.
Happiness while being humble , calm , allowing the rhythm of the clouds , the sun , the universe guide us ✨✨✨💕🎶🕊
Thank you
You are doing amazing @Sprouht..❤👍
Excellent job
Thank you so much 💚
I’m 67. I stopped caring what other people think about me around 30 years ago.
I saw this recently that might help others. I got it off RUclips somewhere.
What other people think of me is none of my business! 😁
This video is the power of You Tube at its best, empowering people, not just providing gossipy trash, frivolous content, political rants, and sometimes tawdry, carnivalesque entertainment on the level of the National Enquirer.. If they gave the equivalent of an Oscar to You Tube creators this guy should be nominated!
I try not care what others think of me in a impressing them way .
But , I do believe helping others live well and be happy makes us happy . We are wired for human connection to a point , it varies from person to person and if we are annoying or rude or others are rude that greatly hinders connection. Is being a thoughtful person caring what others think ? Maybe , but I’d prefer that over not caring for others . For myself , that’s being loving .
0:59 I disagree completely. I would say to pay attention to how people make you feel. If they leave you feeling happier, more uplifted, then they are keepers. If they knock you, give you back-handed compliments, downplay your accomplishments or show signs of jealousy instead of celebrating your wins, dump them as they are just users who will only drag you down.
I think you're saying the same thing. If they don't make you feel good, then dump that person (don't give a fu-k).
Wolves in sheep’s clothing
@@doctorfritznoelBut, I think they’re not caring about what other people think was more broad. They weren’t limiting not care to just those who inflict harm.
I’ve accomplished much! Peace is my search! Goals were my focus for many years. No more! Semper Fi
I hope people don't confuse "living for yourself (narcissistic self serving attitude)" and "not caring what others think" as the same thing. You should definitely mind those around you as you are part of a community wherever you are but don't let the overall direction of your life be stopped by others that don't matter to your lived experience. But still be kind to all and behave with the "whole" in mind. Individualism is what got us into this societal mess where we don't care about one another and ONLY ourselves.
Agreed. Narcissism can take over this mindset
Exactly, we need to care about what people think, it's a social world we live in. It's when people start to care too much about trying to impress people, because they need their praise and admiration, that I becomes an issue. Like did you buy that Mercedes, because it was the car you liked best or are you hoping it will impress people?
@@micker9830 and some of the kindest people I know raised others. And abandoned their self serving dreams. But they've lived great lives nonetheless. 🙂
Well said!
I truly appreciate the wisdom of this set of comments. A life of balance is what will give us peace and joy.
I like this video quite a bit…I was a people pleaser (as was my wife from our conversations)- we’re now both 60+ and really don’t care at all what people think of us. We did our work for others in the past and now it’s our turn. We live for us, exclusively at this point. I agree that ‘stuff’ is quite unimportant.
A unspoken thing which nobody dare say is the people they love are the ones who can give them something in return, and for the rare few who has appreciative good heart are the ones who have taken care of them before. This is is true regardless of blood ties or no.
Thats all there is. In this world, majority are Every man for himself. Thats why other people opinions are cheap like dirt.
Preacher said never love something that don't love you back.
@@timothydempsey3763 Buddha said loving kindness and compassion to all sentinent beings, to love unconditionally, without selfishness or attachment, only a saint can do that. And who has ever seen a saint his her entire life?
@@GuacamoleyNacho I concur ❤️
This excellent video reminded me of a practice my grandfather impressed on me at an early age: write down your deeply considered Life Goals and stick them on your refrigerator door or other location where you will see tgem every day for reinforcement. The process should take at least 3 months and have very few changes over the years. Most people have not even planned their upcoming weekend let alone their lives... 😂
Great video, Sprouht! The wisdom shared here is invaluable. As a fellow RUclipsr also sharing positive and inspiring content, it's awesome to see the work you do.
I don't worry about the future because I'm prepared for it. So I have the confidence to enjoy everyday.
You want to know the truth of society you need to speak to the poor and most vulnerable, not those who have had financial privilege
he's selling a journal and making dollars, that wouldn't sell
As long as you're not hurting anyone - the its really important to detach yourself from what others think about you. First, what they think about you says more about them than it actually says about you. Second, chances are, they don't even think about you as much as you think they do.
Very few of us work jobs that fulfill our purpose in life. We walk or drive to work and see the homeless and know that we are a major illness, a massive layoff, an economic downturn, away from being them. Life for us is not an internal struggle for Zen balance. It is a battle to live. If we arrive at retirement and have not enough money then we will be ground up and spat out the system. No one will sacrifice their limited resources for us. Our joys are measured in moments. Significant travel is an unimaginable luxury. We work to eat, to shelter, to wake again tomorrow and work.
This is meaningful and well written.
True
As you grow older you learn just how powerful age demographics are and always have been. They not only largely determine your experience, they also determine how your thoughts and consciousness changes. But only really getting by living it....
So true! Wealth has no shortcuts, here are ways to acquire it..🔥
I had decisions that grew my finances (gathered over 1M in 2yrs) with heIp of my financiaI pIanner. Living the dream, hoping to retire next year.g
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Many needs this lnfo. Good stuff
"Don't be an a$$hole". People will like you and you will like yourself. Everything else will fall into place.
I’m 72 and was asked why old people seem negative at times. My answer was: The older you get, the more you realize how stupid people are. Once you realize how stupid people are, you quit caring about what they think of you. I asked a 90+ year old woman, when I was in my mid 30’s, what the key to happiness was. She explained in GREAT detail the three things you have to have to achieve happiness. First, you have to be honest. This simply means you have to be true to yourself. Second, you have to have love. This simply means you have to love yourself. Third, you have to be curious.
The Buddha said not to worry about what others think or say about you. Their words and thoughts can't hurt you unless you empower them. Sage advice. As for goal setting I disagree, you don't have to set goals to be happy. Having a plan makes sense, but having unrealistic goals is like swimming with rocks in your pockets!
The book of Ecclesiastes holds great wisdom for life. I recommend it highly.
The definitive book on this subject ❤🙏🏼
Yeah
"There's nothing new under the sun." 🌞
What's the quote . . . . Don't worry about what other people are thinking about you. Odds are . . . . they aren't. Love that one.
Work hard to pay off your home and try hard to stay out of debt. At 62 I’m happily retired and debt free. My mantra now is I do what I want when I want. I don’t give a shit what other people think. My friends obviously like me or they wouldn’t stay my friends. I can look back now and realise the saying “you will only regret the things you don’t do” is true, even if I did things and failed I don’t regret trying. At 18 I applied for the navy and got through only to change my mind. I regret not joining. I regret staying in some relationships too long. My wife loves retirement because it’s the only time in your life you are truly free. You don’t have to go to school, you don’t have to go to work, you’re finished raising kids, you have no debt. After years of working hard now it is your time for you and we both love it. You know all those “friends” at work most, most of them you will never see again so who cares what they think. Caring about what other people think will turn you into someone you are not.
If you quit worrying about what other people think at 25, by 50 you will find yourself much more self actualized.
And, you may think you know who your friends are…. but in reality a lot of them will disappear when you need them the most.
Yeah most "friends" take more than they give back.
@@jamess8112So called family too
A true friend is hard to find. When you hit rock bottom you will know who your true friends are (and you will likely be disillusioned and hurt).
And if you find that one in a million friend, cherish them and reciprocate.
@@user-ki8hb4he1o love your answer reciprocate is a good word in friendship. It shouldn't be one-sided all the time. This is what disappoints me most in people they'll take everything you have to give but they won't reciprocate one iota. Some can't they are sick and I understand that. Feeling used is a horrible feeling!!
Setting your goals is very important but it's not that simple sometimes. What goal will make you happy and satisfy you? Easier said than done for some but what you can do is get to know what options may be possible and may possibly suit you. I found mine later in life to get the full benefit from it but the satisfaction is still there. The other thing is that your goal should not involve or depend on another person. People change, your goal is too important to rely on someone else.
At 63 I am routinely reminded that I care a lot more about my adult kids than they do about me. Truth is, people make time for what or who is truly important to them…it’s that simple. How I wish I could just not care anymore.
Sometimes even your adult children you have to set boundaries & let go. Give them to God in prayer. Protect your peace & guard your heart🙏🏽♥️
I appreciate your comment. I recognized this too. Then feel guilty or think I must be negative or maybe I'm just too sensitive. I received a little validation here.