You're a young pup, I'm a 103 years young and have no plans whatsoever, no destination, not much things to worry about, and I look forward for another 100 years. Yeehhhaaa!
It pays to follow Jesus! Give of yourself and your substance, but wisely. Work hard and get on the stick with your career. Develop useful talents. Listen. Plan for old age. Get financially educated. Stay out of debt. Live in different places. Marry your loving friend, not the hottie. Learn to do stuff for yourself. Stay off drugs and alcohol.
People don’t care about you at any age. Most friends will never be there for you in time of need. The few that do are the most important people in life.
Untrue. One of my friends at work moved on to a better job and made more money. A year later whenever they were hiring again he immediately messaged me and told me to apply and thought I would get the job.
I disassociate with anyone who brings me down. If you're not fun and happy to be around, I want nothing to do with you. My life has no drama. It's wonderful! I avoid drama like the plague.
I finally let all the drama queens go because they aren’t sharing their drama because they want to change, they’re sharing it because they won’t. They get too much attention and sympathy running their drama game.
That was me when I was younger. Thought I was supposed to help every person in need I came across. It took me a while to learn that the more you give to others, the more you are seen as a doormat and someone to be taken advantage of.
😢I am 85 now. I am happy and peaceful because I do not depend on any one and I am not obliged to any one. My slate is clean. Anything I can do, I do not ask others to do. This is my philosophy.
68 y/o here. I’ve learned that you can turn the fact that people don’t care about you and the invisibility that brings into a superpower. I do want I want, dress how I want, eat, sleep as I want, with not a care for how other people judge me because I know they don’t really care. I never go out of my way to be rude or inconsiderate to others, because that diminishes ME. But, I also take no bs and am not afraid to call out others when THEY are rude and inconsiderate. If you’re lucky, you learn as early as possible that very few people in the world actually care about you, and that number goes down the older you get. Let that be a liberating reality for you and love your life as YOU want, the best you can.
I am 63 years old and I have learned that most people are completely unaware of themselves. It never crosses their minds how much they might be hurting other people. People will take whatever they can from a kind person and then vanish once they get it. Kindness is usually repaid by cruelty. I have been completely drained by people. I am done. I will never allow myself to get close to anyone again.
Sadly my 80 year old mother still worries about how others see her, and pleasing others around her. As a kid and teenager, I was always helping friends and family move. I even helped friends of friends move, my mother could never say no to anyone. At 20 after my father died, and we moved out of the old house to anther. You know who came and helped me move, NO ONE.
Live your life and enjoy it, you don’t need much to be happy. Don’t over analyse everything. And don’t let your job swallow your life, it’s just a job.
The best advice I could ever give is keep your goals to yourself! People will sabotage you. Most people are envious and petty. Be your own best friend and let go of people who don't care.
That is terrific advice. You will avoid all the scrutiny & people ‘picking’ at you,bugging you and trying to sabotage you!! AND….like you say, in the end you find out they could care less, except if you fail at your goals…then, they are right there. Am I right? OK! So, let it go, try your best to tell no one what you are up to and live a peace filled life. The vast majority (VERY VAST!!) could not give a d-- about you, so face it, deal with it, and enjoy your life w/ VERY FEW “people”>. I am 72 and have done ilife both ways….trust me, the less ‘people’….the BETTER!! I have such a better life without tons of people draining my energy, my time and my good nature. It was my own fault for allowing it.I do not regret my super loving, giving and forgiving nature. However, at around age 60-65 I became VERY AWAKENED to some real life TRUTHS. Now, I am so grateful for my serenity & peace.The love and mercy of God have brought me to a new & wonderful place as I continue to grow and become wiser. I wish for everyone to have this experience. God bless you all.❤
I'm 38. I figured that one out 10 years ago. From 28 I never was honest abouy my intentions. Then I got rich. Now I just hold a big F Off sign to your face if you start to become a btch. Usually they just have to understand you're rich and they'll back off. Big dog vs small dog you know. But until you become rich, yes, you should be somewhat reserved about your plans.
I'm 72, what I've learned in that time is, If you're an independent person, who minds their own business, don't hardly ever need help of any kind from anybody, lives, and let others live, not needy, people think something is wrong with you. A lot of people like to make other people who they want them to be instead of who they are, that rarely, if ever works. People are who they are, if you can't accept that, move on. Lastly, be careful who you marry, a few minutes of pleasure, could cost you a lifetime of pain. 🙁
An old guy who drinks at a city tavern said that he married his ex wife for pleasure, simply because she gave him good head. He now does public speaking engagements on why people marry unwisely
This is a great one I saw The other day. The '18-40-60 Rule': at 18 you care what everyone thinks, at 40 you don't care what anyone thinks and at 60 you realize no one ever cared about what you thought, they were busy worrying about themselves. Dr. Daniel Amen
I said that way back in '64 and that SOB Dr. Amen stole it from me. Although....... mine was slightly different. You may say it is the 18-40-50 rule, because if you wait until you're 60 to realize no one cared, you're rather slow.
"People don't care about you." I used to feel this often and it would make me feel extremely despondent, sad, and angry (dare I say even a little misanthropic). But one day I thought, "hm, I don't really care about people." There was a certain liberation in realizing that I was also this version of humanity that I despise, and through that liberation I was able to set forth on a path of truly caring about others. And no, putting up with mistreatment is not how you care for someone.
My phone died 7-8 years ago, and I lost all my contacts. It was 5+ years before one person called. People are only around as long as you can provide something for them.
That's horseshit. It just means you didn't have close friends to begin with. Does your brain not function? You don't feel when you are connected to someone? You keep calling despite there is no connection? And then when your phone is gone then you wake up? Something is really fishy with your story....
I'm old enough to have seen many people, who worked very hard at pleasing others, die, and soon be forgotten. The next generation has no clue about them. With few exceptions, we will all soon be forgotten after we die. Those who are remembered best may be the ones who created havoc during their lives.
And those who are also remembered best wrote great books and shared their wisdom with their fellow human beings -- one such person was my in-person minister, Rev. Dr. Norman Vincent Peale who wrote THE POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING. I knew Dr. Peale and he died in 1993 at 95 and I STILL MISS HIM!
I have been thinking about this lately as my Great Aunt was 103 years old and just died. I realized that once me and my sister are gone there will be no one left that remembers her or her mother, my great grandma. My sister is 61 and I am 64. Life goes by so fast and this guy is right......no one really cares so enjoy every day!
I’m 68 yo, a retired vet.. Everything is paid off. So many of the people I know want to travel. I have literally lived all over the globe. One of my daughters went to six high schools. The wife and I are tired of travel. We plopped our butts down in a little house, in the country, on a river bank, coming out of the Smokies. I sit watching yard birds, beautiful, tiny Goldfinches, Cardinals, Sparrows, river critters, otters, Great Blue Herons, Canadian Geese, ducks and turtles. I mow my little yard and tend some flowers. And I go up, in the mountains. I don’t have any goals.
Don't care what other people think but care about what they do. Very true... especially if it affects your wellbeing negatively. So you can preempt and strike before they do.
Old people are vulnerable. And your fellow human is seldom better than a two legged jackal. Recognise the worst scavengers and predators. Preserve you finances and your physical health and always hit back as hard as you're able.
At 78 I live in an Old Town section of a beautiful city I moved to at 70. I don't let people take advantage of me but routinely I give to homeless people where I live a $20 and on rare occasion, a $100 bill and I live on Social Security in senior housing at a subsidized rent. I am generous and I am blessed. And even having lived 50 years in Manhattan previously I've met very few "jackals" in my life, in part, because I do not attract them. AND I move away quickly when I spot them to spend time with the mostly great folks I meet regularly.
For those that had goals and are happy with how things turned out, ask them something more personal, such as, did they get help along the way? Did their parents help them financially? Was college paid for? Did they inheritant any money? There is MUCH more to this than a simple question, because not everyone has the same experience while they are growing up even as a young adult.
Thank you! Some of us had very difficult childhoods, abusive parents and no opportunities afforded us that most are from their families. The fact that we are still here in our 60s, financially secure, independent and possessing our faculties says a lot!!!! Goals are great. Life many times gets in the way of said goals and simply takes over.
At 63 I've learned that there are two kinds of people. Those that don't set goals early in life and live for the moment and those that set goals early in life and live their best life when they get old. They both have advantages and vice versa. I chose to live my best life while young and have no regrets. There's no best way to be.
When you are older and retired you can not care what anyone thinks of you. You have money and time to do what you want and are independent. But when you are young, you have to care what certain people think about you: parents that can impart wisdom (and possibly financial support) to you; colleagues that you need to collaborate with to be successful at your job; higher ups in your company that control your future employment.
Don’t ever depend on other people for your well-being. However much they may love you, they WILL leave you, either voluntarily or through misfortune, death or disease. You must be prepared to take care of yourself. Your life literally depends on it.
I'm 57, I stubbornly followed my path throughout my life, from an abusive childhood, throughout a military career, two failed marriages, homeless parent, depression, alcoholism, cancer and now suffering from long covid since 2020. I've learnt you'll come across criticism, betrayal, fake friendships and abusers, you have to simple carry on and eventually you'll come out the other end and think geeezs did that really happen.
I came across your channel through this video-case studies are incredibly valuable, and I'm eager to see more in the future! Building wealth involves establishing routines, like consistently setting aside funds at regular intervals for smart investments.
You're correct. I think the smartest way to go is to spread out your investments. By putting your money into different asset classes like bonds, real estate, and stocks from other countries, you can lower the risk if one part of the market goes bad.
That sounds like a good plan. In the past two years, working closely with a financial market specialist, I've built a six-figure diversified stock portfolio. Now, I aim to diversify even more this year.
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People don’t like you for the person you are, but rather for how you make THEM feel. If you treat others with indifference, that’s how you will then be treated in return. I stopped caring about others’ opinions of me, and many of my “friends” soon filtered away. I’m happier without half-friends and acquaintances complicating my life, but if you are not comfortable with yourself or solitude, this can be a terrifying life change. Be prepared.
It's simple. If you are where you belong, regret nothing. It's taken everything that has happened to lead you to where you are. If something feels regretful, give greater wisdom time to reveal itself to you or self reflect until you learn something. It's not wasted time, yet.
You have to care about what others think when you are younger which is why you do. You are trying to get established, find a mate, get a good job, create an adult life with adult friends. What the people you date, the people who interview you, the people you socialize with think of you makes all the difference as to whether you achieve those goals or not.
Be congenial and strong in your conviction Fly by a solid moral compass don't break the 3 most important rules in life don't lie cheat or steal... You reap what you sow
The biggest waste of time that I've encountered is overstaying my assignment. It's the reason there's no joy in what I'm doing. My litmus test is based on joy, and when it's no longer present, it's time to leave my 9-5, because clearly I have finished my work. The challenges I encounter are simply because I've finished my assignment, but I keep showing up like I belong there. Timer served! It's time for me to be productive where I'm invited.
Since the 80’s I’ve found that laws and economic currents can drastically change the path to your goals. Be prepared to constantly tweak the way you get there, don’t procrastinate
everything has changed so much, baby boomer parents advise was actually the worst advise that any generation has ever given thanks to their mass exodus from Christianity
The lesson I learned: Just because they are "family" doesn't mean they love you. And I've never had a 'socially acceptable' job because I walked away from the highest paid job I had (which was not a socially acceptable move) and spent the next 40 years working lesser paid but more enjoyable jobs (not a socially acceptable thing to do). I'm happy but have no social status whatsoever.
@@l.5832 Then find new people :o) If they are placing that much importance on something that doesn't matter to you, move on. Not sure what kind of "social status" you mean, or the implications. Are you shunned by some people, not invited to the right events and things like that? Again, dump 'em; find new people. I'm here in Christian, MAGA small-town Indiana. My two main friends are in that category, and are treading on thin ice. I'd rather have no friends than sit around with them pretending it's ok when it is NOT. But I have other acquaintances that keep me going. I can be happy alone or with people. Also, nothing is keeping me here. Anyway, best regards! I hope things get better for you!
In my 70 years, I would agree that you shouldn’t worry about the opinions of others but it is still an important life skill to learn how to make others feel good in your presence. Do not create enemies… especially ones who have power over you. It will create unnecessary strife in your life. In short, being nice will benefit you. Just don’t be so nice the you give up control over your needs and goals.
On the other hand, enemies are often people who simply find you a threat due to your accomplishments or personality or general togetherness as a human being. It doesn't take much for some people to become your enemy. I do agree with your advice not to create enemies but people pleasing and being nice all the time may also ensure you get nowhere in life. Long as one also has boundaries it is best to be "nice", but I prefer the word "kind", or even "compassionate" as to how we treat others. BTW, I am 73.
Ive started a new job. I like working with my hands and my brain but this is a completely new career than what I've done for the past 23 years. I don't know if I will be happy with it or not. I hope so but in the end, it doesn't matter. It will provide a financial boost for my family. What I really would love to do everyday is what I do on my off time which is woodworking but that isn't going to be able to pay the bills,so I have to accept it for what it is and try to be happy. Make the best of it instead of complaining and move on.
I’m 54 and have had a long, winding, and wild ride to this point. I’ve lived in 5 countries, learned 2 foreign languages, earned Master’s and Doctorate degrees (nearly) by accident, and have met some truly interesting people. I currently live 7,000 miles away from my hometown of Washington, D.C. I can say this without hesitation. Had I concerned myself with what others thought none of what I would have mentioned would have come to pass. Social comparison and trying to please others is likely putting oneself in a socially-defined box. Meanwhile, the pursuit of self-actualization drives happiness for a lot of people. The two are at odds…! Live and love your life in the way that best suits you! If that means that others will disapprove, so be it. That’s their problem!
Haven’t seen my kids in 6 years. They’re only 4 hours away. Woke up 4 months ago changed my phone number, did not give it to them. Don’t f***ing care anymore. At 75 I’m at the short end of the stick.
I have three kids in their 50's. They live in different parts of the country. I occasionally hear from them, sometimes I get a Bday card from all of them, sometimes I don't. I have a different take on family. Humans are the only creatures to cling to grown children. Bears, lions, tigers, and virtually all other animals bare their young, teach them the skills they need to live, and then let them go. Humans cling for some crazy reason. I raised all of my children to be very successful. They all have great jobs, nice homes, and families. I don't need to have a close relationship with or be constantly visiting my grown children. I get great satisfaction in the fact that they are financially successful and happy.
@@ggeorge4144your comment is eye opening. Parents of adults need to understand their "kids" are living their busy lives with jobs, maybe raising kids. It's time consuming & every day you are on deck living life. Independent, responsible adult kids are a gift to a parent.
I just turned 50. If I had the mindset I have today in my 25 - 30 years, I would be much better in all aspects of my life. BUT, for me to have the mindset I have today, I HAD to go through everything I went through all those years. I'm greatfu to everything: the good and the bad moments. Let's just live. If we're alive and healthy, the rest is just a detail.
Re #2: Declaring and achieving goals. "A man's reach should always exceed their grasp". If one is "happy" because one has achieved one's "goals" before dying, well good for you... Some are more interested in chasing down paths that were not considered (or did not exist) when they set out on their own. There's no point to regretting anything. Recognise that the path not taken has its own set of regrets to fume over.
The graph is so true, I crashed at 47 , hit bottom. got out of the shark tank at 53. I say the same thing now , the best feeling is not caring what anyone thinks about you. My wife is a saint and there is a god!
At age 62 I learned a lot from my own life. Learned the person that pays the bills is the important person (me). Stay healthy and humble. Stick to my values and principles. Don’t watch tv, stay away from social media. You reap what you sow. Treat others as equals. Works for me.
I appreciate your videos because you are genuine and respectful with all the people you talk to. You really listen to your interview subjects and being an older person I appreciate that. Keep up the great work you are doing. This world needs more kindness, genuineness, and respectfulness.
In my opinion it totally depends on what happens to you, things that are way out of your control. I'm 66 years old, just retired. When I achieved goals in my life I didn't even consciously do it, in my 20s we didn't have conscious Goals. I have had lots of tragedy, lots of luck and privilege, lots of serious heartache, lots of serious love..... I wouldn't change a thing. When I was 23 I planned to move to a seaside town, now I'm 66 I just have lol...what a plan ❤
I wish that I had asked myself these questions when I was 25 years old. I'm 55 now and I'm evaluating my life and trying to figure out what I want to do for the next chapter. It's never too late. Always pursue your own happiness....defined by you and only you. Thank you for your videos!
Sometimes I think it is easier to list the things in life you don’t want. I have always found it challenging to figure out exactly what I want but pretty easy to list things I don’t want.
You have to care about what people think about you. You also have be able to pick and choose from the feed back without letting it effect you emotionally. That is the goldilocks lesson.
That guy who talked about his coworker dying left out the part where no one cared and they were replaced in 2 weeks and everything moved forward as though nothing ever happened.
Two weeks?!? Ha! Everywhere I have worked the left or dead worker is forgotten the next day!! No matter how long they had been there, or how well regarded they were, poof! Next day it was like they never existed.
That's happened twice in my current job to guys around my age and my boss is mystified why I don't put in more effort, time and dedication so I can essentially put in even more time and effort. The thing I keep in the back of my mind for this sort of situation is imagine you are on your deathbed. What is it you will look back fondly to or wished you had done or done more of? It's not grinding out more hours at work is it?
@@gormanthomas8135 That was a little sneaky. Getting paid for something isn't necessarily a conventional job and just because you enjoy it, it doesn't necessarily give you purpose or meaning. You're speaking for yourself, no one else. Maybe you get enough from your job to say on your deathbed, I wish I'd spent more time at work. I have serious doubts this is actually the case.
I'm 56 and have had to start over. I've come to realise nobody cares. You can give your all to people and they're happy to take. But once it's the other way, the love and care you gave doesn't get reciprocated. It's sad but makes the message of your video more important and that is to love and live for yourself ❤
I’m almost 50 and have learned the same thing when I hit rock bottom and my “best friends” (who I did so much for and was always there for) didn’t care and never even reached out during my depression (not even a text) to check-in. I’ve learned that in Reality, most people are selfish, self-centered, petty or envious and may secretly be happy when you are doing worse than them or are hurting. Those are not friends. I believe there are caring and good people out there, but they are hard to find. If you are one of those people, don’t give endlessly or you will be sucked dry (with no reciprocation). Love yourself first and foremost and put yourself before others. Learn to be “selfish”.
@@Orchid88-r6c you are so right. People love it when others are down. I had a friend who was the same and she was like another person when my life got better! She showed me who she was and let's just say I don't need those people in my life. Hope you're okay and doing well.
Well done video. My 20s were hell with education, debt pay off and sacrifices. My 30s are thriving with building relationships, marriage, home ownership and children. All worth it.
Item #1, about not caring what others think of me, made me laugh. I recall back in my 30s (I'm in my 60s now), a coworker and I were talking. I shrugged off something and he said, someone bitterly, "You don't care what other people think about you." and I realized that he was right. He was bitter because he obsessed about what others thought of him and I was almost serene about it. Taught me a valuable lesson and I've more or less stuck with that all these years. Only if I really care about someone, or someone has some kind of ability to hurt me (has happened mostly at work), do I worry about it. Goals are a double-edged sword. They can help you structure your life and focus your energy, but they can also dominate you in a way that can make you miserable. Set achievable goals when you have enough information and experience to know what direction you want to take.
Absolutely....people dont give a damn, only if they can get something from you, in my experience...most of them do not bother to text...so dont waste any more time and effort on those that dont bother...
I want to take a moment to admire your fantastic approach to interviewing seniors. Your ability to create a comfortable and engaging atmosphere is truly remarkable. The way you listen attentively and ask thoughtful questions not only shows your sincerity but also makes the interviewees feel valued and respected. Your gestures-whether it’s a warm smile or a nod of encouragement-further enhance the experience, allowing seniors to express themselves openly. It's clear that you genuinely care about their stories and insights. This level of empathy and professionalism is inspiring, and it sets a wonderful example for others. Keep up the incredible work!
Im 65 I babysit a dog while theyre on vacation with my own bow wow wow. Read books ,long walks with doggies, cook/bake new recipes, watch documentary programs like this.Keep my small condo clean , tidy in order wardrobes. Spring/summer clothes, shoes ,gadgets must be clean before storing them. its just hang them outside next season. Travel sometimes, change of invironment broaden the soul.
50 here. Just 2 people care about me. Im happy to know that. I love to get older. The "unknown" of Life its what drives me through happiness. Be grateful in the sad moments end you'l be free.
I think struggling is good for young people, it makes you appreciate lifes comforts when you achieve them. Also (I Think) it would be terribly boring to have everything always working out in the beginning of life.
Do the same study in recording studios. I spent 30 years there. Musicians don’t get old. They get older. They love their work. I’m talking about musicians, singers, and engineers. They enjoy their interaction with others and 99% of the time will do their absolute best. Sense of purpose is essential whether it’s gardening, sports, arts otr spirituality…or any other positive thing.
You are wise beyond your years! It’s because you listen and actually implement what you’ve heard from people who’ve lived it. Great channel for me right now even at my 71 years that went so fast!
I also think everyone has a calling or a purpose in this life. Figuring that out is sometimes a problem. God is behind it all and without some connection to your Higher Power you can easily flounder. Your heart can lead you to your passion. Those are generally the happiest people. People who serve others and make life a bit easier are happy. I’m almost 79 years old and this is the happiest time of my life. I still work part time in a service industry and feel so blessed.
The best advice I can give is protect your energy, put your health 1st, don't tell your plans or business, stay away from toxic people or family members, vibe with those on your Frequency. Live in the present tomorrow is not promised ✌the 60s was a fun era😂
I'm 73 and married to my love for 53 years. I was very poor as a child growing up and remember feeling sad that I did not have the simple pleasures that many of my peers enjoyed. My goal in life was simple and still is. Work hard and provide more opportunity and happiness for my children than I had. I was able to do that and my senior years are the best years of my life because I achieved that goal. I think about the people who live on this earth that endure abject poverty and cannot fathom the concept of goals or life fulfillment. I thank my lucky stars I was born into this life and even in my poor youth had more opportunities than most people in this world.
I grew up very poor as well. My young son gets to have a hot bath any time he wants and it makes feel like a king. The little things most people take for granted are seen as big wins for me. Its a ripple effect from poverty. I feel afwul for my wife sometimes because her husband's idea of success is tub water.
I am 71 and I was a consummate people pleaser probably up until around my early 30’s. Then, slowly but surely I began the mental process of caring less what other people thought of me. I mean I don’t tell people who disagree with me or who say negative things about me to f-- off but rather just disassociate myself from them as much as I am able to. The one exception to this is when a woman who I had known through a close friend who was very highly insecure and made herself feel better by putting others down including me. After one final unpleasant interaction with this woman I said as politely as I could muster (I’m paraphrasing a bit) , ‘Phylis (not her real name), frankly, I couldn’t care less what you think of me. I actually feel sorry for you because the only way you seem to make yourself feel better is by criticizing everyone else. I’m glad you’re so perfect that you can so frequently put other people down.’ And that was the last time I ever spoke to her. I’m sure she had lots of negative things to say about me to other people after our last conversation but so be it. Not everyone you interact with is going to like you and that’s alright and perfectly normal.
Healthy reality checks happen for me when I visit a cemetery and I see rows of examples of people who had their moments in the sun, just as I am having now. They had it, they used it to one degree or another and for them, now, it is over. Someday, I will be there too. But not yet. Today is still my time, a gift, and I get to decide what to do with it.
I totally agree with the stop worrying about what others think of you- great advice for young people or anyone. There is a great line in the Tao Te Ching: “Care too much for the opinions of others and you become their prisoner.” I would also ad- stand up for yourself but with kindness and respect- even if you believe the other party doesn’t deserve it.
I think it’s more not to let the opinions of others affect you. I think it’s kind and nice to care what others think especially close friends & family, but in the end you are the one to live YOUR life and same goes for everyone else- so any judgement is not neccesary.
Sometimes you have goals, and something happens to turn your life around, marriage breakup etc. it helps if you can just move on, otherwise you just sit and stagnate and are afraid to make decisions. Life is too short, to hang on to the past, so live everyday like it's your last, God bless 🙏
My love of my life wanted a divorce so i gave Edward what he wanted. I try to get thru each day by grace of God and do the best I can to get through and pray. We live in same NEIGHBORHOOD but rarely see each other. Divorce is like a death but worse ...no closure really not when you still love them😢
I think you'll find as time goes on that our plans and goals and roadmaps fall away and this is what matters through it all: 1- to know, love, and serve God with your whole mind, heart, body, soul, and strength and 2- to love your neighbor as yourself. 👑✝️🕊️♥️♥️
My journey has been different to those in the comments. When I had my first beautiful innocent baby I went through what’s it all about phase. I dreaded the thought of teaching her to be hardened to survive. I prayed about it and became a strong believer after I realised how real God is. Through all my life’s experiences and troubles my faith in Him has seen me through. Now an older widow, my relationship with Him has strengthened. Grasping onto the temporal is fleeting but to the eternal is joyous and fulfilling. Not many can relate to this and many will scoff, but this has been my destiny.
Best goals: Get an education, then get a good job, get into a relationship or not, and then it's all about your hobbies, add those back into your life from when you were a kid, like reading books, or add some new ones. For me it's reading books, finding a good place to go out to eat occasionally, and visiting a nearby falls, or just getting outside and doing what you like.
Great video. I'm so happy I stopped caring what people thought about me and that I took vacation, lots of them, while I was working. Now I'm retired, I have no regrets, I'm happy and I'm free.
I love your channel & your story as to how your channel came about. I share your channel w/ many. The most common take away from you polling people is them saying not to worry too much when you’re younger. When you’re going thru it. It’s hard NOT TO worry. But I do think it’s good advice to practice walking in faith - while striving to do well. Be a good person & treat others how you want them to treat your child. And try to live your life’s intended purpose. Thx U for your channel.
It's hard to plan life, because you don't know how long you have. Everyone so worried about their retirement and 401ks etc, thinking that is the goal, retire rich. In reality, you are just trading today for tomorrow and that tomorrow you won't be like you are today and that tomorrow might not even get here. Enjoy every day. Plan for the future, but don't think that is the goal. Your money, when you retire, will go to your kids or a nursing home, you won't be enjoying it like you will now.
Counterpoint. Statistically speaking, you're probably going to live a very long time. Don't run out of money and become a burden to othes around you because you convinced yourself that tomorrow wasn't promised to you, or equally vapid pablum.
It's balancing things in life. Yes make plans for your future but don't make it the end all be all. None of us know how much time we have in this life so live like you were dying. don't wait for tomorrow to enjoy your life tomorrow may never come
You are SO correct! I retired after a long career only to become a caregiver for a dying younger sister, then as a 3 year caregiver for a dying father. I loved them both! No regrets for being there for them, God knows they needed me. I am wealthy, so what?! I wish I had had more time for me…it was an act of love, but at a cost. Not talking about $$$…now I can “live” freely, but time is a ticking!
Yay I don't care what anyone thinks. I'm respectful but always just did what I want. My tips, being a good dad makes me happy. Dating sucks. Don't beat yourself up over goals, try but be happy to give up.
My father told me, kid, if they don't feed you, they don't cloth you, and they don't give you housing, their opinions are WORTHLESS. I never cared about people like that.
They may not be able to feed you, cloth you, give you housing but their opinions may be worth at least 2 cents and if they care about you, their opinion may be catered to you but at the end of the day, you have to decide for yourself what to do, you have to live with yourself all said and done at the end of the day. Someone else’s opinion maybe worth their weight in gold through their life experiences the hard way, so you don’t have to go through that. Some people inspire so you can keep going. Best to you in all life has to offer your journey!
@@KAT-dg6elhe’s talking about what other people think. He’s saying , don’t worry about the next guy because they don’t care for you . Only you can improve your life.
Quit manipulating your life to make it look the way you want, because you can’t see what’s uniquely destined for you. Let go, and let Life live itself through you. That’s when miracles happen.
This excellent video reminded me of a practice my grandfather impressed on me at an early age: write down your deeply considered Life Goals and stick them on your refrigerator door or other location where you will see tgem every day for reinforcement. The process should take at least 3 months and have very few changes over the years. Most people have not even planned their upcoming weekend let alone their lives... 😂
People care when you have something they want, even if its only advice. Once you realize that people dont give a shyt get a dog. They will care about you until the day they die.
Good video very insightful I'm retired now and 1. Caring too much about what others thought was consuming, resentful and crippling and led to regret and guilt I did not own. 2. Trying not to care at all made me a rude selfish piece of sht which led to guilt that I did own (no matter how much I denied it). 3. It's been hard enough to figure out what I wanted from me, because I lost myself in what I thought others expected from me. 4. I did not realize I was living as if: If 'they' believe it about me then maybe I can believe it about me. Find a middle, lean toward healthy selfishness (but don't be a dk) and set up healthy boundaries to live by.
@@00mazone so you got nothing from the video, eh? I liked the last person who basically said not to waste your life doing a job you don't like. Seize whatever dreams you have and go for the gusto now.
@@sylviacarlson3561 My dreams cost money. I have to work to make money. I can't think of any jobs that I would enjoy at all. So what, just stop working and do the stuff I want to do and end up broke and homeless. Dumb advice unless you are already super rich.
@@sylviacarlson3561 My dreams are not tied to work, they cost money. So I have to work to make my dreams come true. I'm pretty sure this is true for most people unless you are already rich or there's a job available to you that you will love. It's one of those things that's pretty easy to say but isn't helpful at all. I quit my job because I don't like it, now what is step 2 because rent is coming up soon. 😂
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I'm 52 and came to realize that there are only a few people that truly care about me. But to be fair, there are only a few people I really care about.
Don't tell everyone your plans, they want you to do good, just not better than them.
Jealousy is a disease
Unfortunately it’s true, that’s why you must close your mouth until you succeed
100%absolutely!!
Not even good!
All I can say is be careful who you let into your home! Starting with Family first!
LMFAO 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
It's called a "Threshold" for a reason.....
@@hotrox2112 Never thought of it that way! Ill keep that in mind
@@hotrox2112huh?
I'm 70 years old and still don't know what I want to be when I grow up.
Apparently, I want to be the person who says indigestible things to others. It gets easier to do that when you are a good listener.
You're a young pup, I'm a 103 years young and have no plans whatsoever, no destination, not much things to worry about, and I look forward for another 100 years. Yeehhhaaa!
That is great, please do not grow up.
WOW, I always said that😂 now I am retired and 72 and I love it! Acting like a grown-up is highly overrated!
At 65, me too!
I'm 60+ years old and can count the number of people that truly care about me on one hand. Don't piss away your life for others.
That's true of everyone. Immediate family and maybe a couple of friends, is your circle. Everyone else is just ships passing in the night.
@@darylfoster7944IF you have decent, caring family members!
100%
I can count them on one finger, assuming I'm looking into a mirror
@@danielmart7940😢😔
Also, money does not buy happiness, it only can buy comfort; happiness is up to you
It pays to follow Jesus!
Give of yourself and your substance, but wisely.
Work hard and get on the stick with your career.
Develop useful talents.
Listen.
Plan for old age.
Get financially educated.
Stay out of debt.
Live in different places.
Marry your loving friend, not the hottie.
Learn to do stuff for yourself.
Stay off drugs and alcohol.
Money does buy happiness. The only advice we give in this context is "Don't work yourself to death for something you will never get to enjoy".
Comfort is happiness 😊
If money buys happiness, why are there so many miserable rich people? I know several of them personally. Also, just look at celebrities.
THAT is real spill, real splash. Thank you Celtic Texan!
People don’t care about you at any age. Most friends will never be there for you in time of need. The few that do are the most important people in life.
Untrue. One of my friends at work moved on to a better job and made more money. A year later whenever they were hiring again he immediately messaged me and told me to apply and thought I would get the job.
So true.
I want people to know that the years go by so fast. Enjoy everyday. No matter what. I wish everyone that is reading this a long and beautiful life. ❤️
Wish you too also
Same to you brother 🙏🏽
Thank you. I’m trying and most days I’m a success.
I disassociate with anyone who brings me down. If you're not fun and happy to be around, I want nothing to do with you. My life has no drama. It's wonderful! I avoid drama like the plague.
I finally let all the drama queens go because they aren’t sharing their drama because they want to change, they’re sharing it because they won’t. They get too much attention and sympathy running their drama game.
Good way to live and good advice.
Smart
A woman who was a real downer still loved to French kiss
Good advice, but sometimes the drama comes looking for you with too much determination .
Read this the other day
I was prepared to cross oceans for people who would not cross the street for me.
That was me when I was younger. Thought I was supposed to help every person in need I came across. It took me a while to learn that the more you give to others, the more you are seen as a doormat and someone to be taken advantage of.
@GIGI30107 That's an excellent analogy!
😢I am 85 now. I am happy and peaceful because I do not depend on any one and I am not obliged to any one. My slate is clean. Anything I can do, I do not ask others to do. This is my philosophy.
You sound like you are doing awesome! 👍
68 y/o here. I’ve learned that you can turn the fact that people don’t care about you and the invisibility that brings into a superpower. I do want I want, dress how I want, eat, sleep as I want, with not a care for how other people judge me because I know they don’t really care. I never go out of my way to be rude or inconsiderate to others, because that diminishes ME. But, I also take no bs and am not afraid to call out others when THEY are rude and inconsiderate. If you’re lucky, you learn as early as possible that very few people in the world actually care about you, and that number goes down the older you get. Let that be a liberating reality for you and love your life as YOU want, the best you can.
I am 63 years old and I have learned that most people are completely unaware of themselves. It never crosses their minds how much they might be hurting other people. People will take whatever they can from a kind person and then vanish once they get it. Kindness is usually repaid by cruelty. I have been completely drained by people. I am done. I will never allow myself to get close to anyone again.
woow, I feel the same way, and I am 63 too.
@ Hi Maria, I don’t know what to do with this knowledge. It can be very lonely.
I feel exactly the same. I'm 62. Done being a door mat.
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"You can fail at the things you hate doing, so why not try to do the thing you love"- Jim Carey
Absolutely!!
Sadly my 80 year old mother still worries about how others see her, and pleasing others around her.
As a kid and teenager, I was always helping friends and family move. I even helped friends of friends move, my mother could never say no to anyone.
At 20 after my father died, and we moved out of the old house to anther. You know who came and helped me move, NO ONE.
no one
She is tender hearted?
I have helped people move many times..moved home myself 8 or so times..never had one offer of help
Live your life and enjoy it, you don’t need much to be happy. Don’t over analyse everything. And don’t let your job swallow your life, it’s just a job.
The best advice I could ever give is keep your goals to yourself! People will sabotage you. Most people are envious and petty. Be your own best friend and let go of people who don't care.
That is terrific advice. You will avoid all the scrutiny & people ‘picking’ at you,bugging you and trying to sabotage you!! AND….like you say, in the end you find out they could care less, except if you fail at your goals…then, they are right there. Am I right? OK! So, let it go, try your best to tell no one what you are up to and live a peace filled life. The vast majority (VERY VAST!!) could not give a d-- about you, so face it, deal with it, and enjoy your life w/ VERY FEW “people”>. I am 72 and have done ilife both ways….trust me, the less ‘people’….the BETTER!! I have such a better life without tons of people draining my energy, my time and my good nature. It was my own fault for allowing it.I do not regret my super loving, giving and forgiving nature. However, at around age 60-65 I became VERY AWAKENED to some real life TRUTHS. Now, I am so grateful for my serenity & peace.The love and mercy of God have brought me to a new & wonderful place as I continue to grow and become wiser. I wish for everyone to have this experience. God bless you all.❤
You're so right!
I'm 38. I figured that one out 10 years ago. From 28 I never was honest abouy my intentions. Then I got rich. Now I just hold a big F Off sign to your face if you start to become a btch. Usually they just have to understand you're rich and they'll back off. Big dog vs small dog you know.
But until you become rich, yes, you should be somewhat reserved about your plans.
Couldn’t agree more!
Absolute truth
I'm 72, what I've learned in that time is, If you're an independent person, who minds their own business, don't hardly ever need help of any kind from anybody, lives, and let others live, not needy, people think something is wrong with you. A lot of people like to make other people who they want them to be instead of who they are, that rarely, if ever works. People are who they are, if you can't accept that, move on. Lastly, be careful who you marry, a few minutes of pleasure, could cost you a lifetime of pain. 🙁
Truth 💯🫶🏼
@@Ms.noelp453 Thank you. 🙂
I agree, it all began in the "Garden of Eden".
Thank you,sir
An old guy who drinks at a city tavern said that he married his ex wife for pleasure, simply because she gave him good head. He now does public speaking engagements on why people marry unwisely
This is a great one I saw
The other day.
The '18-40-60 Rule': at 18 you care what everyone thinks, at 40 you don't care what anyone thinks and at 60 you realize no one ever cared about what you thought, they were busy worrying about themselves.
Dr. Daniel Amen
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I said that way back in '64 and that SOB Dr. Amen stole it from me.
Although....... mine was slightly different. You may say it is the 18-40-50 rule, because if you wait until you're 60 to realize no one cared, you're rather slow.
I lucky i realised this at 30
As somebody who turns 40 next year, I can attest to the first two.
Just your opinion does not make you right
"People don't care about you." I used to feel this often and it would make me feel extremely despondent, sad, and angry (dare I say even a little misanthropic). But one day I thought, "hm, I don't really care about people." There was a certain liberation in realizing that I was also this version of humanity that I despise, and through that liberation I was able to set forth on a path of truly caring about others. And no, putting up with mistreatment is not how you care for someone.
My phone died 7-8 years ago, and I lost all my contacts. It was 5+ years before one person called. People are only around as long as you can provide something for them.
Wow
100% correct. People are users. Nothing more.
Same! So true!
It's not a 100% true
The best people are rare.
That's horseshit. It just means you didn't have close friends to begin with. Does your brain not function? You don't feel when you are connected to someone? You keep calling despite there is no connection? And then when your phone is gone then you wake up? Something is really fishy with your story....
I'm old enough to have seen many people, who worked very hard at pleasing others, die, and soon be forgotten. The next generation has no clue about them. With few exceptions, we will all soon be forgotten after we die. Those who are remembered best may be the ones who created havoc during their lives.
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And those who are also remembered best wrote great books and shared their wisdom with their fellow human beings -- one such person was my in-person minister, Rev. Dr. Norman Vincent Peale who wrote THE POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING. I knew Dr. Peale and he died in 1993 at 95 and I STILL MISS HIM!
I have been thinking about this lately as my Great Aunt was 103 years old and just died. I realized that once me and my sister are gone there will be no one left that remembers her or her mother, my great grandma. My sister is 61 and I am 64. Life goes by so fast and this guy is right......no one really cares so enjoy every day!
I’m 68 yo, a retired vet.. Everything is paid off. So many of the people I know want to travel. I have literally lived all over the globe. One of my daughters went to six high schools. The wife and I are tired of travel. We plopped our butts down in a little house, in the country, on a river bank, coming out of the Smokies. I sit watching yard birds, beautiful, tiny Goldfinches, Cardinals, Sparrows, river critters, otters, Great Blue Herons, Canadian Geese, ducks and turtles. I mow my little yard and tend some flowers. And I go up, in the mountains. I don’t have any goals.
.... and you're a smart man. Thanks for your service.
We just moved. All I said was. Give me a view. Some land. And a slightly better kitchen. All is good.
That sounds like a perfect retirement! Good for you guys. I plopped my butt down in Florida. 😊
Looks like you actually achieved your goal
Learn the acoustic guitar. Trust me.
Don't listen to what people say, watch what they do.
thats a good thing to remember if you are on a date. If your date is treating the service or retail worker like crap then thats a red flag
Or do both
Don't care what other people think but care about what they do. Very true... especially if it affects your wellbeing negatively. So you can preempt and strike before they do.
Actions speak louder then words.
@@steve2736 yeah thats def a red flag there
Old people are vulnerable. And your fellow human is seldom better than a two legged jackal. Recognise the worst scavengers and predators. Preserve you finances and your physical health and always hit back as hard as you're able.
At 78 I live in an Old Town section of a beautiful city I moved to at 70. I don't let people take advantage of me but routinely I give to homeless people where I live a $20 and on rare occasion, a $100 bill and I live on Social Security in senior housing at a subsidized rent. I am generous and I am blessed.
And even having lived 50 years in Manhattan previously I've met very few "jackals" in my life, in part, because I do not attract them. AND I move away quickly when I spot them to spend time with the mostly great folks I meet regularly.
For those that had goals and are happy with how things turned out, ask them something more personal, such as, did they get help along the way? Did their parents help them financially? Was college paid for? Did they inheritant any money? There is MUCH more to this than a simple question, because not everyone has the same experience while they are growing up even as a young adult.
Thank you! Some of us had very difficult childhoods, abusive parents and no opportunities afforded us that most are from their families. The fact that we are still here in our 60s, financially secure, independent and possessing our faculties says a lot!!!! Goals are great. Life many times gets in the way of said goals and simply takes over.
At 63 I've learned that there are two kinds of people. Those that don't set goals early in life and live for the moment and those that set goals early in life and live their best life when they get old. They both have advantages and vice versa. I chose to live my best life while young and have no regrets. There's no best way to be.
When you are older and retired you can not care what anyone thinks of you. You have money and time to do what you want and are independent. But when you are young, you have to care what certain people think about you: parents that can impart wisdom (and possibly financial support) to you; colleagues that you need to collaborate with to be successful at your job; higher ups in your company that control your future employment.
Ya. Your job business depends on what others think of you. When young, your life and quality also depends on what your parents think of you
Very true. With age comes experience and wisdom and 20/20 hindsight.
Don’t ever depend on other people for your well-being. However much they may love you, they WILL leave you, either voluntarily or through misfortune, death or disease. You must be prepared to take care of yourself. Your life literally depends on it.
I'm 57, I stubbornly followed my path throughout my life, from an abusive childhood, throughout a military career, two failed marriages, homeless parent, depression, alcoholism, cancer and now suffering from long covid since 2020. I've learnt you'll come across criticism, betrayal, fake friendships and abusers, you have to simple carry on and eventually you'll come out the other end and think geeezs did that really happen.
Hang in there! I can relate.
Be nice to people if you can,live your life the way you want to.
I came across your channel through this video-case studies are incredibly valuable, and I'm eager to see more in the future! Building wealth involves establishing routines, like consistently setting aside funds at regular intervals for smart investments.
You're correct. I think the smartest way to go is to spread out your investments. By putting your money into different asset classes like bonds, real estate, and stocks from other countries, you can lower the risk if one part of the market goes bad.
That sounds like a good plan. In the past two years, working closely with a financial market specialist, I've built a six-figure diversified stock portfolio. Now, I aim to diversify even more this year.
Talking about a financial market specialist, do you consider anyone worthy of recommendations? I have about 100k to test the waters now that large cap stocks are at a discount... Thanks
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People don’t like you for the person you are, but rather for how you make THEM feel. If you treat others with indifference, that’s how you will then be treated in return. I stopped caring about others’ opinions of me, and many of my “friends” soon filtered away. I’m happier without half-friends and acquaintances complicating my life, but if you are not comfortable with yourself or solitude, this can be a terrifying life change. Be prepared.
It's simple. If you are where you belong, regret nothing. It's taken everything that has happened to lead you to where you are. If something feels regretful, give greater wisdom time to reveal itself to you or self reflect until you learn something. It's not wasted time, yet.
Your health is the most important thing in your life.
@@VonBluesman so very true…. doesn’t matter how much money you have ,success, whatever if you’re not in good health life can be miserable
Yep
yes it is
You have to care about what others think when you are younger which is why you do. You are trying to get established, find a mate, get a good job, create an adult life with adult friends. What the people you date, the people who interview you, the people you socialize with think of you makes all the difference as to whether you achieve those goals or not.
I'm 61 and all the people that truly cared about me are dead now. It SUCKS.
Same.
❤same
That`is happening to almost everyone. Time will tell...😉
It's true.... most people don't care about you..... so you must take care of yourself and create your best life possible
Be congenial and strong in your conviction Fly by a solid moral compass don't break the 3 most important rules in life don't lie cheat or steal... You reap what you sow
Sometimes I wonder if I will reap in heaven because it sure doesn’t look like my sowing has reaped
53 years old here. Always save a dollar. If you just made 10 bucks, save $1 of that. Get in the habit of saving 10%.
Pay yourself in the future.
You should save 5
Take that 10% and give it to tithing ;-)
The biggest waste of time that I've encountered is overstaying my assignment. It's the reason there's no joy in what I'm doing. My litmus test is based on joy, and when it's no longer present, it's time to leave my 9-5, because clearly I have finished my work. The challenges I encounter are simply because I've finished my assignment, but I keep showing up like I belong there. Timer served! It's time for me to be productive where I'm invited.
The greatest companion of my life has been solitude ~ Henry David Thoreau.
Today's world, FEW, care about anyone but themselves
Since the 80’s I’ve found that laws and economic currents can drastically change the path to your goals. Be prepared to constantly tweak the way you get there, don’t procrastinate
everything has changed so much, baby boomer parents advise was actually the worst advise that any generation has ever given thanks to their mass exodus from Christianity
The lesson I learned: Just because they are "family" doesn't mean they love you.
And I've never had a 'socially acceptable' job because I walked away from the highest paid job I had (which was not a socially acceptable move) and spent the next 40 years working lesser paid but more enjoyable jobs (not a socially acceptable thing to do). I'm happy but have no social status whatsoever.
Where did you work?
Who cares about status anyways
@@Staroy I certainly don't....but be prepared to be treated like crap by people who do.
Most families are trash
@@l.5832 Then find new people :o) If they are placing that much importance on something that doesn't matter to you, move on. Not sure what kind of "social status" you mean, or the implications. Are you shunned by some people, not invited to the right events and things like that? Again, dump 'em; find new people. I'm here in Christian, MAGA small-town Indiana. My two main friends are in that category, and are treading on thin ice. I'd rather have no friends than sit around with them pretending it's ok when it is NOT. But I have other acquaintances that keep me going. I can be happy alone or with people. Also, nothing is keeping me here. Anyway, best regards! I hope things get better for you!
Health, family most important and keeping stress to minimum
In my 70 years, I would agree that you shouldn’t worry about the opinions of others but it is still an important life skill to learn how to make others feel good in your presence. Do not create enemies… especially ones who have power over you. It will create unnecessary strife in your life. In short, being nice will benefit you. Just don’t be so nice the you give up control over your needs and goals.
True, but a razors edge to walk sometimes!
On the other hand, enemies are often people who simply find you a threat due to your accomplishments or personality or general togetherness as a human being. It doesn't take much for some people to become your enemy. I do agree with your advice not to create enemies but people pleasing and being nice all the time may also ensure you get nowhere in life. Long as one also has boundaries it is best to be "nice", but I prefer the word "kind", or even "compassionate" as to how we treat others. BTW, I am 73.
Yes! This is good advice.
Being nice = Kissing asses.
I watched 5 mins of the video inly to find out he wants to sell stuff 😂
Ive started a new job. I like working with my hands and my brain but this is a completely new career than what I've done for the past 23 years. I don't know if I will be happy with it or not. I hope so but in the end, it doesn't matter. It will provide a financial boost for my family. What I really would love to do everyday is what I do on my off time which is woodworking but that isn't going to be able to pay the bills,so I have to accept it for what it is and try to be happy. Make the best of it instead of complaining and move on.
Really great, practical advise, and most importantly, it sounds like you have achieved peace with it.
I’m 54 and have had a long, winding, and wild ride to this point. I’ve lived in 5 countries, learned 2 foreign languages, earned Master’s and Doctorate degrees (nearly) by accident, and have met some truly interesting people. I currently live 7,000 miles away from my hometown of Washington, D.C. I can say this without hesitation. Had I concerned myself with what others thought none of what I would have mentioned would have come to pass.
Social comparison and trying to please others is likely putting oneself in a socially-defined box. Meanwhile, the pursuit of self-actualization drives happiness for a lot of people. The two are at odds…!
Live and love your life in the way that best suits you! If that means that others will disapprove, so be it. That’s their problem!
Whoever is reading this comment, I wish you all the best in your life. May light fill your life. May God guide you to prosperity!
Thank you
Not caring what people think about you depends on who, and what the circumstances are. But overly thinking it is not good.
Haven’t seen my kids in 6 years. They’re only 4 hours away. Woke up 4 months ago changed my phone number, did not give it to them. Don’t f***ing care anymore. At 75 I’m at the short end of the stick.
I understand ungrateful children.
I have three kids in their 50's. They live in different parts of the country. I occasionally hear from them, sometimes I get a Bday card from all of them, sometimes I don't. I have a different take on family. Humans are the only creatures to cling to grown children. Bears, lions, tigers, and virtually all other animals bare their young, teach them the skills they need to live, and then let them go. Humans cling for some crazy reason. I raised all of my children to be very successful. They all have great jobs, nice homes, and families. I don't need to have a close relationship with or be constantly visiting my grown children. I get great satisfaction in the fact that they are financially successful and happy.
@@ggeorge4144your comment is eye opening. Parents of adults need to understand their "kids" are living their busy lives with jobs, maybe raising kids. It's time consuming & every day you are on deck living life. Independent, responsible adult kids are a gift to a parent.
My biggest fear
I just turned 50. If I had the mindset I have today in my 25 - 30 years, I would be much better in all aspects of my life. BUT, for me to have the mindset I have today, I HAD to go through everything I went through all those years. I'm greatfu to everything: the good and the bad moments. Let's just live. If we're alive and healthy, the rest is just a detail.
Re #2: Declaring and achieving goals. "A man's reach should always exceed their grasp".
If one is "happy" because one has achieved one's "goals" before dying, well good for you...
Some are more interested in chasing down paths that were not considered (or did not exist) when they set out on their own.
There's no point to regretting anything. Recognise that the path not taken has its own set of regrets to fume over.
Try to find love, and hold on tight! There is nothing more fulfilling than giving and receiving love from another person.
The graph is so true, I crashed at 47 , hit bottom. got out of the shark tank at 53. I say the same thing now , the best feeling is not caring what anyone thinks about you. My wife is a saint and there is a god!
At age 62 I learned a lot from my own life. Learned the person that pays the bills is the important person (me). Stay healthy and humble. Stick to my values and principles. Don’t watch tv, stay away from social media. You reap what you sow. Treat others as equals. Works for me.
Very well said Tech. Wishing you fun projects and loads of sunshine......oh and spaghetti. Lots of spaghetti.
I'm 63, thanks for your story, it made me think 👍🏻
Very True!!!!
If only you lived by that. Tell me is Gen z your equal? 😈
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I appreciate your videos because you are genuine and respectful with all the people you talk to. You really listen to your interview subjects and being an older person I appreciate that. Keep up the great work you are doing. This world needs more kindness, genuineness, and respectfulness.
In my opinion it totally depends on what happens to you, things that are way out of your control.
I'm 66 years old, just retired. When I achieved goals in my life I didn't even consciously do it, in my 20s we didn't have conscious Goals.
I have had lots of tragedy, lots of luck and privilege, lots of serious heartache, lots of serious love.....
I wouldn't change a thing.
When I was 23 I planned to move to a seaside town, now I'm 66 I just have lol...what a plan ❤
People don’t care about you just as you don’t care about people. Therefore live and let live
I wish that I had asked myself these questions when I was 25 years old. I'm 55 now and I'm evaluating my life and trying to figure out what I want to do for the next chapter. It's never too late. Always pursue your own happiness....defined by you and only you. Thank you for your videos!
Sometimes I think it is easier to list the things in life you don’t want. I have always found it challenging to figure out exactly what I want but pretty easy to list things I don’t want.
What advice do you have to a 23 yr old?
You have to care about what people think about you. You also have be able to pick and choose from the feed back without letting it effect you emotionally. That is the goldilocks lesson.
Yes it is a balance, rather than an absolutist “don’t care” approach.
That guy who talked about his coworker dying left out the part where no one cared and they were replaced in 2 weeks and everything moved forward as though nothing ever happened.
Two weeks?!? Ha! Everywhere I have worked the left or dead worker is forgotten the next day!! No matter how long they had been there, or how well regarded they were, poof! Next day it was like they never existed.
@@barbarabrown9269that’s horrible.
That's happened twice in my current job to guys around my age and my boss is mystified why I don't put in more effort, time and dedication so I can essentially put in even more time and effort. The thing I keep in the back of my mind for this sort of situation is imagine you are on your deathbed. What is it you will look back fondly to or wished you had done or done more of? It's not grinding out more hours at work is it?
@@jelkel25The joy of life is fulfilling a purpose you find important. If that happens to be something you get paid for - regrets may be few.
@@gormanthomas8135 That was a little sneaky. Getting paid for something isn't necessarily a conventional job and just because you enjoy it, it doesn't necessarily give you purpose or meaning. You're speaking for yourself, no one else. Maybe you get enough from your job to say on your deathbed, I wish I'd spent more time at work. I have serious doubts this is actually the case.
I'm 56 and have had to start over. I've come to realise nobody cares. You can give your all to people and they're happy to take. But once it's the other way, the love and care you gave doesn't get reciprocated. It's sad but makes the message of your video more important and that is to love and live for yourself ❤
Yes! Give, give and give to yourself.
Sounds like you’re living my life
I’m almost 50 and have learned the same thing when I hit rock bottom and my “best friends” (who I did so much for and was always there for) didn’t care and never even reached out during my depression (not even a text) to check-in.
I’ve learned that in Reality, most people are selfish, self-centered, petty or envious and may secretly be happy when you are doing worse than them or are hurting. Those are not friends. I believe there are caring and good people out there, but they are hard to find. If you are one of those people, don’t give endlessly or you will be sucked dry (with no reciprocation). Love yourself first and foremost and put yourself before others. Learn to be “selfish”.
@@Orchid88-r6c you are so right. People love it when others are down. I had a friend who was the same and she was like another person when my life got better! She showed me who she was and let's just say I don't need those people in my life. Hope you're okay and doing well.
This is the type of videos that I need to help me motivate in life.
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Well done video. My 20s were hell with education, debt pay off and sacrifices. My 30s are thriving with building relationships, marriage, home ownership and children. All worth it.
If you could give one piece of advice from someone your age or younger on living a good life, what would it be?
I stopped caring what people think about me a few years ago. It’s been liberating.
@@Me97202 the best thing
Me too.
Me three.
There you go. Comments opinions are not always right just that simple
In the process this summer.
Item #1, about not caring what others think of me, made me laugh. I recall back in my 30s (I'm in my 60s now), a coworker and I were talking. I shrugged off something and he said, someone bitterly, "You don't care what other people think about you." and I realized that he was right. He was bitter because he obsessed about what others thought of him and I was almost serene about it. Taught me a valuable lesson and I've more or less stuck with that all these years. Only if I really care about someone, or someone has some kind of ability to hurt me (has happened mostly at work), do I worry about it.
Goals are a double-edged sword. They can help you structure your life and focus your energy, but they can also dominate you in a way that can make you miserable. Set achievable goals when you have enough information and experience to know what direction you want to take.
Absolutely....people dont give a damn, only if they can get something from you, in my experience...most of them do not bother to text...so dont waste any more time and effort on those that dont bother...
I want to take a moment to admire your fantastic approach to interviewing seniors. Your ability to create a comfortable and engaging atmosphere is truly remarkable. The way you listen attentively and ask thoughtful questions not only shows your sincerity but also makes the interviewees feel valued and respected.
Your gestures-whether it’s a warm smile or a nod of encouragement-further enhance the experience, allowing seniors to express themselves openly. It's clear that you genuinely care about their stories and insights. This level of empathy and professionalism is inspiring, and it sets a wonderful example for others. Keep up the incredible work!
Im 65 I babysit a dog while theyre on vacation with my own bow wow wow. Read books ,long walks with doggies, cook/bake new recipes, watch documentary programs like this.Keep my small condo clean , tidy in order wardrobes. Spring/summer clothes, shoes ,gadgets must be clean before storing them. its just hang them outside next season. Travel sometimes, change of invironment broaden the soul.
50 here. Just 2 people care about me. Im happy to know that. I love to get older. The "unknown" of Life its what drives me through happiness. Be grateful in the sad moments end you'l be free.
I think struggling is good for young people, it makes you appreciate lifes comforts when you achieve them. Also (I Think) it would be terribly boring to have everything always working out in the beginning of life.
Do the same study in recording studios. I spent 30 years there. Musicians don’t get old. They get older. They love their work. I’m talking about musicians, singers, and engineers. They enjoy their interaction with others and 99% of the time will do their absolute best. Sense of purpose is essential whether it’s gardening, sports, arts otr spirituality…or any other positive thing.
You are wise beyond your years! It’s because you listen and actually implement what you’ve heard from people who’ve lived it. Great channel for me right now even at my 71 years that went so fast!
Money does not buy happiness. It can only buy comfort. Happiness is up to you.
I also think everyone has a calling or a purpose in this life. Figuring that out is sometimes a problem. God is behind it all and without some connection to your Higher Power you can easily flounder. Your heart can lead you to your passion. Those are generally the happiest people. People who serve others and make life a bit easier are happy. I’m almost 79 years old and this is the happiest time of my life. I still work part time in a service industry and feel so blessed.
The best advice I can give is protect your energy, put your health 1st, don't tell your plans or business, stay away from toxic people or family members, vibe with those on your Frequency. Live in the present tomorrow is not promised ✌the 60s was a fun era😂
I'm 73 and married to my love for 53 years. I was very poor as a child growing up and remember feeling sad that I did not have the simple pleasures that many of my peers enjoyed. My goal in life was simple and still is. Work hard and provide more opportunity and happiness for my children than I had. I was able to do that and my senior years are the best years of my life because I achieved that goal. I think about the people who live on this earth that endure abject poverty and cannot fathom the concept of goals or life fulfillment. I thank my lucky stars I was born into this life and even in my poor youth had more opportunities than most people in this world.
I grew up very poor as well. My young son gets to have a hot bath any time he wants and it makes feel like a king. The little things most people take for granted are seen as big wins for me. Its a ripple effect from poverty. I feel afwul for my wife sometimes because her husband's idea of success is tub water.
I am 71 and I was a consummate people pleaser probably up until around my early 30’s.
Then, slowly but surely I began the mental process of caring less what other people thought of me.
I mean I don’t tell people who disagree with me or who say negative things about me to f-- off but rather just disassociate myself from them as much as I am able to.
The one exception to this is when a woman who I had known through a close friend who was very highly insecure and made herself feel better by putting others down including me. After one final unpleasant interaction with this woman I said as politely as I could muster (I’m paraphrasing a bit) , ‘Phylis (not her real name), frankly, I couldn’t care less what you think of me. I actually feel sorry for you because the only way you seem to make yourself feel better is by criticizing everyone else. I’m glad you’re so perfect that you can so frequently put other people down.’
And that was the last time I ever spoke to her. I’m sure she had lots of negative things to say about me to other people after our last conversation but so be it. Not everyone you interact with is going to like you and that’s alright and perfectly normal.
Healthy reality checks happen for me when I visit a cemetery and I see rows of examples of people who had their moments in the sun, just as I am having now. They had it, they used it to one degree or another and for them, now, it is over. Someday, I will be there too. But not yet. Today is still my time, a gift, and I get to decide what to do with it.
I totally agree with the stop worrying about what others think of you- great advice for young people or anyone. There is a great line in the Tao Te Ching:
“Care too much for the opinions of others and you become their prisoner.” I would also ad- stand up for yourself but with kindness and respect- even if you believe the other party doesn’t deserve it.
I think it’s more not to let the opinions of others affect you. I think it’s kind and nice to care what others think especially close friends & family, but in the end you are the one to live YOUR life and same goes for everyone else- so any judgement is not neccesary.
I've fulfilled all of my goals with no regrets. Some worked out and some didn't but I tried.
Sometimes you have goals, and something happens to turn your life around, marriage breakup etc. it helps if you can just move on, otherwise you just sit and stagnate and are afraid to make decisions. Life is too short, to hang on to the past, so live everyday like it's your last, God bless 🙏
Not easy for people who struggle with mental health issues such as depression, PTSD, etc
My love of my life wanted a divorce so i gave Edward what he wanted. I try to get thru each day by grace of God and do the best I can to get through and pray. We live in same NEIGHBORHOOD but rarely see each other. Divorce is like a death but worse ...no closure really not when you still love them😢
I think you'll find as time goes on that our plans and goals and roadmaps fall away and this is what matters through it all: 1- to know, love, and serve God with your whole mind, heart, body, soul, and strength and 2- to love your neighbor as yourself. 👑✝️🕊️♥️♥️
My journey has been different to those in the comments. When I had my first beautiful innocent baby I went through what’s it all about phase. I dreaded the thought of teaching her to be hardened to survive. I prayed about it and became a strong believer after I realised how real God is. Through all my life’s experiences and troubles my faith in Him has seen me through. Now an older widow, my relationship with Him has strengthened. Grasping onto the temporal is fleeting but to the eternal is joyous and fulfilling.
Not many can relate to this and many will scoff, but this has been my destiny.
Best goals: Get an education, then get a good job, get into a relationship or not, and then it's all about your hobbies, add those back into your life from when you were a kid, like reading books, or add some new ones. For me it's reading books, finding a good place to go out to eat occasionally, and visiting a nearby falls, or just getting outside and doing what you like.
Great video. I'm so happy I stopped caring what people thought about me and that I took vacation, lots of them, while I was working. Now I'm retired, I have no regrets, I'm happy and I'm free.
Don't let other people tell you what's best for you. Especially if they don't listen to you.
I love your channel & your story as to how your channel came about. I share your channel w/ many. The most common take away from you polling people is them saying not to worry too much when you’re younger. When you’re going thru it. It’s hard NOT TO worry. But I do think it’s good advice to practice walking in faith - while striving to do well. Be a good person & treat others how you want them to treat your child. And try to live your life’s intended purpose. Thx U for your channel.
It's hard to plan life, because you don't know how long you have. Everyone so worried about their retirement and 401ks etc, thinking that is the goal, retire rich. In reality, you are just trading today for tomorrow and that tomorrow you won't be like you are today and that tomorrow might not even get here. Enjoy every day. Plan for the future, but don't think that is the goal. Your money, when you retire, will go to your kids or a nursing home, you won't be enjoying it like you will now.
Counterpoint. Statistically speaking, you're probably going to live a very long time.
Don't run out of money and become a burden to othes around you because you convinced yourself that tomorrow wasn't promised to you, or equally vapid pablum.
It's balancing things in life. Yes make plans for your future but don't make it the end all be all. None of us know how much time we have in this life so live like you were dying. don't wait for tomorrow to enjoy your life tomorrow may never come
You are SO correct! I retired after a long career only to become a caregiver for a dying younger sister, then as a 3 year caregiver for a dying father. I loved them both! No regrets for being there for them, God knows they needed me. I am wealthy, so what?! I wish I had had more time for me…it was an act of love, but at a cost. Not talking about $$$…now I can “live” freely, but time is a ticking!
Yay I don't care what anyone thinks. I'm respectful but always just did what I want. My tips, being a good dad makes me happy. Dating sucks. Don't beat yourself up over goals, try but be happy to give up.
My father told me, kid, if they don't feed you, they don't cloth you, and they don't give you housing, their opinions are WORTHLESS. I never cared about people like that.
This is so so so so true. My god.
So welfare is the way? Your comment doesn’t make any sense.
@@KAT-dg6el Yeah, who is "they"? The kids? The grandkids?
They may not be able to feed you, cloth you, give you housing but their opinions may be worth at least 2 cents and if they care about you, their opinion may be catered to you but at the end of the day, you have to decide for yourself what to do, you have to live with yourself all said and done at the end of the day. Someone else’s opinion maybe worth their weight in gold through their life experiences the hard way, so you don’t have to go through that. Some people inspire so you can keep going. Best to you in all life has to offer your journey!
@@KAT-dg6elhe’s talking about what other people think. He’s saying , don’t worry about the next guy because they don’t care for you . Only you can improve your life.
Quit manipulating your life to make it look the way you want, because you can’t see what’s uniquely destined for you.
Let go, and let Life live itself through you. That’s when miracles happen.
This excellent video reminded me of a practice my grandfather impressed on me at an early age: write down your deeply considered Life Goals and stick them on your refrigerator door or other location where you will see tgem every day for reinforcement. The process should take at least 3 months and have very few changes over the years. Most people have not even planned their upcoming weekend let alone their lives... 😂
goals are not always meant to be achieved they often serve as just something to aim at.
People care when you have something they want, even if its only advice. Once you realize that people dont give a shyt get a dog. They will care about you until the day they die.
Hello 👋Beautiful Lady 🌹..How are you and the weather condition like ?
Good video very insightful
I'm retired now and
1. Caring too much about what others thought was consuming, resentful and crippling and led to regret and guilt I did not own.
2. Trying not to care at all made me a rude selfish piece of sht which led to guilt that I did own (no matter how much I denied it).
3. It's been hard enough to figure out what I wanted from me, because I lost myself in what I thought others expected from me.
4. I did not realize I was living as if: If 'they' believe it about me then maybe I can believe it about me.
Find a middle, lean toward healthy selfishness (but don't be a dk) and set up healthy boundaries to live by.
Have the strength to walk away from toxic friends and family.
I have a sister that's so self-absorbed if you don't talk about what she wants she shuts you down I didn't play into that and so she walked away
This is better and actually useful advice unlike anything in the video.
@@00mazone so you got nothing from the video, eh? I liked the last person who basically said not to waste your life doing a job you don't like. Seize whatever dreams you have and go for the gusto now.
@@sylviacarlson3561 My dreams cost money. I have to work to make money. I can't think of any jobs that I would enjoy at all. So what, just stop working and do the stuff I want to do and end up broke and homeless. Dumb advice unless you are already super rich.
@@sylviacarlson3561 My dreams are not tied to work, they cost money. So I have to work to make my dreams come true. I'm pretty sure this is true for most people unless you are already rich or there's a job available to you that you will love. It's one of those things that's pretty easy to say but isn't helpful at all. I quit my job because I don't like it, now what is step 2 because rent is coming up soon. 😂