New York 70 Year Olds Share Advice for Younger Self
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We asked New York's elders in their 60s, 70s, and 80s to share advice for their younger self, offer advice to young people, and much more.
If you've ever been interested in hearing about wisdom from those much older than you, this is the video.
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What is one piece of advice that YOU would give to your younger self? 💭
Invest more time, love, and recreation on yourself than those around you.
I'm 45 now and I would go back in time and go for the things that I really wanted instead of what I thought was expected of me. I would put away me fears and go for what I wanted. I guess it's not too late 😊
I'm 67 and I would not get married. I'm very independent, did not want children, and would not be a traditional wife. I was married for 10 years. My husband did not want children either which is one of the reasons I married him. But in the end I think he really wanted a traditional wife that would kow tow to him and wait on him 24/7. So I tell all young people to have the conversation BEFORE they get married about what their future husband/wife expects from marriage. Talk about the hard stuff before you are living it.
Let that little girl go and do not marry her when i was 21 years old.
Big learning process and now building up my second part of my life here on earth...
Trust only your ideas of what is right and true. Other people, no matter how much they think otherwise, do not understand your life and your goals. Don't listen to them. And keep your plans to yourself or they will try and shoot yours down if your plans don't agree with theirs....which is almost all the time. Just go about your business quietly. Be pleasant to the people around you. But don't give them anything to shoot at.
I’m 65. My financial advice is don’t spend money trying to keep up with others. Forget them and be frugal. And my most import advice is about personal relationships. Pay attention to red flags in people and walk away forever if you see red flags. Doesn’t matter if they are a blood family member, a friend, a spouse or life mate. No, I’m not suggesting walking away if someone is imperfect. We’re all human. But we all know what true red flags are. People don’t change. Love yourself enough to walk away from anyone who aren’t treating you as they should.
@FP65 your advice is spot on. Spotting red flags in relationships is so important.
Agreed. At 67 I say be frugal and be ready to walk away.
But the Jones just got a new Mercedes.
Thank You for this life changing advice.
Your message ,like this video is golden all we have to do is put it to practice 🙏
Yes I have finally got away from a toxic girl who had an unhappy childhood but won't admit she needs counciling
My best decision was being open to the prospect of always being single. The older I got, the more I knew that I was on the right path. Here I am at 72, comfortable, healthy and I live my life doing what brings me pleasure and fulfillment. I wouldn't change a thing and certainly no regrets.
The single guy says he didn’t have kids but lord knows how many kids he impacted as a teacher with his compassion. Great advice from them all ❤
See "Goodbye, Mr. Chips."
Its true he had his own kids in the classroom. He didn't need more at home
Facts. I didn’t think of that. He probably knows more kids than most people who had kids.
Could he been a woman? I thought it was a woman.
Out of all of them, the school teacher and the 80 year old women were the most “real” and seemed like they had genuine answers and understanding of life. The rest of them had NPC answers and they probably came from privilege and were clueless
I have one advice :
Please surround yourself with good people. When you realise someone is expoloiting you emotionally, spiritually, financially cut them away does not matter who they are to you. Life is already really difficulty do not let people you surround yourself with become another warzone. If you do not find good people be alone. Involvement with wrong people willl ruin your peace,money,health and youth. Be brave enough to distance yourself and say no ,fight for your happiness and peace.
Your comment is the smartest of all. I wrote a similar comment but think I accidentally deleted it or it hasn’t posted yet for some reason. But you nailed it perfectly.
Couldn’t agree more 👍👍👍.
Best comment so far.
Sadly some people will only be good to get something and discard you letter. My advice do not take too much risk with people only give what you can afford to live with later. Use your time efforts and energy economically.
Yeah...but loneliness (or being alone and not having a friend) is the worst torture one can allow to him/herself.
Mentally not healthy...
Don't take more responsibility than you want to take. Keep life simple!
I read that an astonishing 45 percent of pregnancies in the United States each year are unintended.
So much for not taking on more responsibility than you want to take! 😅
@@audreymay9378or how about taking on massive hospital debt for not wanting to die, or all those student debts 😂
I see this all the time with couples keep having kids they can’t afford. Or single men and women keep having kids with multiple partners.
Intelligent man.
YES..in other words, "Keep it simple stupid", Lol
It's easy to say "money's not important"...when you have money. Money is VERY important. It gives you power, freedom, options.
Of course they are retirees with pension.
It’s important, but don’t let it be your only purpose in life is what they mean. Yeah things are tougher now for us younger people but it’s still key to find happiness in other things. I’m not blind to the fact that money does still help to some degree with that which is why we’re trynna make it out there
Yes yes yes.
@@graveripper69 This is Manhattan in this video. When you see old people in NYC chilling, you can assume they are filthy rich. NYC is not an even remotely affordable city and to remain there in retirement, things have to be going REALLY well.
"enough" money is important.
I’m 71 years old…never married, no kids… no big regrets…best thing I ever did was save and invest 20% of my gross income since I was 24 years old… I have good health and can travel and do anything I want now….
Good for you 👍👏.
What did you invest in?
Oh my goodness, what a kindred spirit you are. I knew from the time I was old enough to know what marriage was that I would never do it. I came from a toxic, alcoholic, abusive home like so many others and I just knew I never wanted to be a part of something like that system ever again. I was terrified I would not be able to break the abuse cycle if I were to marry or if I were to have children so I chose neither and they are the two best decisions in my entire life as well as saving and saving and saving and investing and investing and investing. I’m just like you and so happy. Oh my goodness I feel such gratitude. It’s wonderful. ❤️
No regrets? No kids, grand kids to take care of you when older? BTW, I am in same position just wanted others feedback...
@@TopTopTopD43 here. Never married, no kids and a self made millionaire that travels the World. I still work too, but I couldn’t do all of that with extra stress and kids. So glad. Don’t care about when I’m older. These are my great years. My Golden Years and I will have done everything I wanted to do when I’m old.
You are so lucky that you are healthy and can enjoy life
I'm 71 too, born in 1953. Just don't let the curse of cancer strike you and puts you out of everything in your life. So, don't take life for granted. I didn't when I was diagnosed with Stage 2 HER2 positive breast
Cancer in March 2023😢 I'm a fighter and survivor !!!
When people show you who they are, believe them. It’s not your job to “fix” them, that’s on them.
yes it is a job its called giving a shit aka caring plus love
"Never get married" isn't bad advice. I don't regret doing it because my daughter came out of it, but marriage to the wrong person can definitely be hell.
Seems like most marriages don't work out very well. I never wanted to but a good companion would work.
Don’t depend on others for security/happiness. Be happy and secure in your own company
JESUS CHRIST IS THE ANSWER TO LIFE
@@jacksmith-vp3goyou can't force anyone to believe in religion, mate😅 I personally don't believe in God or spiritual stuff. Most people in Japan are atheists. For me, we are just mammals with developed brain and turn to soil after death. I read the story and Christ seems like such a nice peace loving guy, though.
yeah, snort coke
I feel that nothing else can be more rewarding but this however need a bit of taming of the mind which is possible.
Thank you for your advice 🙂
Love yourself is more important !
I am 78 years old. My advice is to always be kind to everyone. You never know what a person is going through or has gone through. Above all love Jesus and live for Him.
Amen
Thanks for your wisdom. Amen.
The world really needs more of this!
Love it❤
Try to be kind and help when you can. A person never knows when he may need the same kindness and help in their life.
Money doesn’t buy happiness but it removes life taking stress and gives you security and the option to create happiness
Exactly. Am guessing none of these individuals face today’s crushing housing costs. Their properties were paid off years if not decades ago. Of course it was partly due to the times they grew up in (far cheaper) and good decisions they likely made as professionals.
yeah well, "creating happiness" is the thing people don't know about, cocaine gives happiness for example, are you going to snort it all the time?
Enough money can and does buy happiness no limit yours is your limit
Even with money there are many stresses that it cant protect against like bad relationships (romantic, family, friends) or health problems
@@davestewart2067ppl in Africa, South America find happiness in poverty, we can all be happy, it’s we’re consumers and need things to be happy. That’s okay but we need to understand that
That Pennsylvania Dutch proverb is right: "We grow old too soon and wise too late".
These people are living proof of it.
BANG! 💥
At 52 I agree time goes so quickly - worry less laugh more ❤
I am 43 and the best thing I learned (luckily as a a very young man) was to live for yourself as you only get one life. It doesn't mean be a jerk to others rather it means, pursue what you want to pursue, totally ignore social-pressures and social-norms, never worry what others think about you and never compare yourself to others. If you always worry what others will think and are afraid to let yourself do what you truly would like in life, you will be very miserable like most people unfortunately.
I have traveled all over the world, lived in other countries, had a family in my late 30's and run my own business. I definitely am not as financially successful as I would have liked but am financially comfortable. I could have stayed single and I could have stayed at my last job but neither of those options appealed to me. I also could have gone with my original plan and become a psychologist which would have meant I would be further ahead financially but I never would have gotten to experience living in Asia as a young man nor would I have learned to speak the language fluently nor would I have learned a new culture. Learning another culture and language allowed me to see myself and people through a different lens.
Above all, my life is my life and mine alone. Do not take my life or anybody else's and copy it just because I am happy with it overall rather write your own story. Don't waste your time caring what others think ever or worrying about being part of something rather focus on your own individuality and do what makes sense to you.
Every relationship has an expiration date whether you want or not, and yes, even family.
I love my family and friends, but Being independent and strong is #1 goal of my life.🙏
I'm just like that retired teacher sitting on that bench in the sense that I wholeheartedly believe that you shouldn't take on more responsibilities than you want to. Don't do stuff to keep up with others, or to please your parents, etc., but do what you want to do. Life is too short to live someone else's life.
Literally
Therefore:
1. Follow your dreams
2. Keep Life Simple
3. Respect & Be Kind to yourself
Use Birth Control
and dont get married
@@naren9201that should be number one
A the single guy is my hero. Keep things simple, minimize your risks, retire early and live life on your own terms. 🏆
Don't feel the need to have tons of friends. Appreciate Yourself. It is far easier than getting others to appreciate you! Be comfortable with yourself and your lifestyle (unless you are hurting others). Do not need the approval of others.
I agree 100% with the guy who said don't make self-destructive decisions. Lots of people do, especially when they are young, and it is disastrous!
I′ve been seing that shit everyday. People don′t think about the future
Yes, don't get anyone's name tattooed, let alone a couple 😑 it is ten times more expensive and painful to remove the tattoo than to do it.
Are you really choosing to make self destructive decisions? Can you really make good decisions if you are raised by wolves?
???
My dad just WhatsApp me mins ago and gave me some golden nuggets too, I thought I ll share.
“Hi sweetie , always remember that grapes need to crushed to make wine , diamonds form under pressure , seeds grow in darkness . So whenever you feel crushed , under pressure or in darkness , you are in a powerful place for transformation and growth . trust the process .. Big hugs . Dad”
Seeds grow in darkness?
Interesting. Cheers.
@@ianerickson2210yup. They germinate under the soil.
Amen
Awww this is great! Thank you for sharing! ❤
@@skygaz3r pleasure is mine my YT friend ;)
The advice about finding the right life partner and taking the time to really get to know each other before having kids is gold. It won’t guarantee that you will never get divorced, but it minimizes the chances.
I retired at 57, 6+ years ago. A key message I would communicate to others is don't delay retirement if you have the financial wherewithal to do so. Too often I have seen many people delay retirement and then experience health issues which constrain the very things they wanted to do post-retirement.
Moreover, the most significant benefit of retirement for me is that I no longer have to deal with people I do not want to. That has proved to be the ultimate blessing.
I love my job
@@christaylor8337 No reason to leave it then. If one is happy doing what they are doing, more power to them. I just have seen too many people hang on too long and not enjoy the fruits of their efforts. Wishing you and your family all the best.
Very few LOVE their jobs
100% agree.
This is excellent advice! And I'm going to take it a step further. Don't wait until retirement to do the fun or epic stuff you always wanted to do. You might encounter financial hardships later on, or have to deal with inevitable physical and health setbacks. You're better off hiking in the hinterlands of the Yukon in your 40's or 50's when your knees can still handle it and have the funds to cover it. Take that trip to Svalbard, The Torngats, or Jasper now. Don't put it off.
My wisdom is this: I very, very rarely regret the times I had a choice and I chose kindness.
So glad to hear that 👏🙏
I'm in my 50s. I'd tell my younger self to listen to her instincts if something felt wrong, and get the hell out 😅 I'd also say, never compromise who you truly are to keep a relationship going because you're scared of losing the other person. If you can't be yourself with them, they're not worth it.
This times a thousand ❤
That sudden socially normalized trend of promoting selfishness and rejection is particularly repulsive.
Life was the saddest, most painful experience for me,I wished it had never happened. I'm happy for people that found happiness
🥹🤗❤️✊
Yeah. I agree with you. Life for me has been so very hard. I think the wrong people got interviewed. Let’s hear from so folks who have known catastrophic loss and survived.
I am maybe, if I am lucky, about halfway through my life (38) - The first 22yrs were full of pain, trauma, suffering, neglect and utter hopelessness. The second half of my life has brought me the joy of raising 2 kids, and experiencing love, something I was not lucky enough to experience before they came along. Unfortunately, the past 7yrs have been full of sadness and pain, because, the first 22yrs came crashing down and, the body does keep score. My body has begun failing me, my nervous system is spent. I both simultaneously fear death, yet am tired of living. I don’t want to die, but sometimes I truly feel like I can’t live much longer. I do have 2 sons who are in their teens now, and I will remain alive so long as I am blessed to, for the sake of them. But life for me, has been hard. Lonely, full of pain, full of sadness, and if I am honest I envy people who seem to find living so much easier.
@@siobhanrose1680write a book, do meditation and train strength in a gym with a barbell (avoid stupid machines, elastic bands etc)
"i want you to love me but i don't need you to love me." that's so beautiful
Immature love says: “I love you because I need you.” Mature love says: “I need you because I love you.”” Erich Fromm
That's so sad!
I like the way the school teacher thinks. He seems like a very genuine and relaxed person. Keeping up with people is so pretentious and leads to more unhappiness
He looks like a big looser to me.
“Invest into yourself” is the biggest gem I took from this! … you have to look out for you at the end of the day and realize no one is coming to save you or give you anything. You have to be passionate and consistent in whatever it is you’re pursuing. 🙏🏾
Where the heck do they sell that passionate juice? I need me some passion
Ive been married for 37 years. Oh we've had a lot of rough patches, we were even divorced once. However, im
Now 57, him 62 and im so glad we made it to this point.
When he leaves for the day I wonder what my life would be like if he didnt come back, he feels the same when im gone
We take walks in the woods, we have picnics at the park, go for country rides, and out for ice cream every Monday night after dinner. ❤
We've settled into a quiet life and a deep appreciation of each other
Glad to hear that 👏
How did you rekindle post divorce
@@SK-le4lj Thanks for the question. My husband didn't treat me very well for many years. He didnt want to be around me and our son, he wanted to party. Plus he was verbally abusive
After 10 years of trying, I completely gave up and filed for divorce. After, and during he blamed me and treated me terrible. I didn't care, I was free! After a year he realized it was him and not me. He did a lot of work on himself, we talked a lot during that time then when I trusted he was sincere we remarried.
It has not been perfect but we worked it all out. Everybody's marriage is different, but one thing I do know is when I stopped accepting abuse to the point where I could walk away is when it all changed for the better
@@Eileen49654 usually what it takes. good for you for putting yourself first! Glad it worked out
Did you ever cheat on him?
As a single man in my 30’s; I look at the teacher and married guy giving out all this wisdom. Makes me feel that whichever way I go, I’ll probably still be ok. That goes for everyone in the single boat contemplating which direction to go. If you find yourself wanting a family and partner and can’t find one to want to be with you; it’s not the end of the world. Some of us are destined to be alone, that’s ok.
and you are better alone than with someone that makes your life miserable. All the married persons when they are unhappy look at single men and women with envy
The wise words of the old man sitting next to the reporter saying:"there are no guarantees. to make good money. Even if you do a job that is your passion". That one hits home.
people say you need to take risks in life, what they don't say is that risk can lead to failure... no guarantees.
@@heedmywarning2792maybe yes, maybe no
I'm 76, so I would like to add my own 2 cents. First of all, I would tell my younger self not to be afraid to try and fail. And try again. And fail again. Because you will eventually succeed. I went bankrupt at 57 ! How is that any better than if I'd tried my wild ideas for 35 years???! Eh? It's not! Try. Work hard. Believe in yourself, but don't hesitate to change. Follow your bliss. At least then you'll enjoy the journey.
Thank you for sharing this!
Thank You 👍
Follow your bliss. I love that! ❤
Yep
Don't chase $$
Spend it! 😮
My one piece of advice:
It doesn't matter what you do for an income/career, but, since you have only one life that means you have only one shot, so do what you love, what makes you happy; follow your dreams. Never, ever sacrifice your dreams for anyone. That means, if the people around you that are trying to run with you can't keep up, don't slow down for them because all they'll do, either consciously or subconsciously, intentionally or unintentionally, they are going to slow you down and make you run at their pace, which will make you appear to be just like them. And then, all of your extra capability, all of your excellence, all of your faster running speed isn't visible to people anymore, and your extra capabilities won't matter anymore. You won't be excellent or high speed because you just made yourself just as slow as the group. Don't do that. Run on. Run on, so you can find the group that you can run with at your speed. And, in the group that you find that you can run with, you'll discover the right person to share your life with. And, IMHO, don't ever get married. You don't need marriage to live a happy life. But, commonsense practicality dictates that you absolutely need a good [enough] income and a good [enough] lifestyle to be happy, be it alone or with someone, married or unmarried. Loneliness and regret is a luxury when compared to being cold, hungry, and displaced.
My two cents as a recent 60 year old retiree. Pursue your interests with passion and enjoy the process. While you do that, be your best, be kind, laugh often, and simply be yourself. Don't look to others for validation.
The school teacher out there laying it down for real. Don't make self-destructive decisions. It's worked out remarkably well for me, too.
Getting married was my biggest mistake.
Edit: For those who claim this is a troll. Both of us were not mature enough to marry. It was not love but infatuation that drew us. If I had to do it again, I would definitely wait till I was sure I was ready.
I'm sorry to hear that, I hope you're doing much better now!
@@gandrew5363I hope you’re joking..
@gandrew5363 you're not
@gandrew5363 bro, do you want me to give you a slap in the face? 😂
@@gandrew5363Run. And don't look back.
However I think you're just looking for attention with that comment 😂
These are opinions based on an individuals life experience. The money issue is real for young people...we should not tell them "it's not important ". It is VERY important!! Please talk to people who are in their 70s who don't have enough.
It would be interesting if he interviewed people who are not rich.
@@noreenn6976 He did. Did you see the NYC schol teacher? LIke his answers or not, he is a very wise man.
My takeaway from the richer people was money although needed of course to pay bills etc, isn’t what makes life worthwhile.
The money issue is real for mostly every age group nowadays, not just young people.
Money has always been an issue, no matter what decade you grew up in, especially for those in lower and middle classes.
@@neilc.2045 I did see the school teacher, he was interesting but most of his interviews are with rich people.
I agree 100% with the 'don't get married' advice. I was married 32 years, and when I think back on it, I'm always reminded of the song "Cold Rain and Snow" performed by the Grateful Dead, which starts with the lyrics, "Well I married me a wife, she's been trouble all my life..."
My first 5 years was ok with some hiccups. It took until year 10 to realize that it’s time to position myself for separation. The woman grew cold and negative after our time together and two kids.
I feel the golden key 🗝️ similar to unlocking the journey to success, similar to being like saint Peter where your life is that infinite space of joy is to stay SINGLE.
Noting else is more important in my opinion.
The person you once knew is no long the same after 5 years. This is when you regret the signing that contract it's similar to the noose around the neck with it getting tighter as time goes by.
@@daym8that was Paul
I wish women would answer as to why men cannot recognize them years after marrying them.
I'm favoured, Getting my own Truck has always been my Dream for my business. I just acquired 2 recently, earning $32K weekly has been really helpful. I can now give back to the locals in my community and also support Charity Organizations.
I'm in a similar situation where should I look to increase income? Do you have any advice? What did you do? Thank you
Thanks to Mrs Mary Joanne Terry
She's a licensed broker here in the states.
Sounds familiar, I have heard her names on several occasions.. And both her success stories on wall street journey!
Wow.. I know her too she is a licensed broker and a FINRA agent she is popular in US and Canada she is really amazing woman with good skills and experience
I just turned 70.
1) Don't get married. Rent it (sex) if need be.
2) Don't collect things.
3) Collect experiences.
4) Hold your friends close, but don't grieve too long when they die, and they will.
I think all your advice is spot on expect one, renting. If you compare the cost of a mortgage 20 years ago to today’s rental prices, you realize that it is the one thing that makes sense to buy. A home, even if it is just for you.
@julittok I was not talking about renting a domicile. I was talking about sex.
@@akahina You know, right after I wrote my comment I started doubting what you really meant lol.
@@julittok😅
Experience in life are the 3 F's & 5 S's
3 F's
If it floats (boat)flies (plane), fo*ks (hoe) just rent it, never buy it ....
5 big S's are found in the gym
Steam
Sauna
Shit
Shave
Shower
😂
Thumbs up for that retired high school teacher, I respect that old gentleman 👍.
Yep, plenty of people derail their lives through all kinds of stupid actions.
He is brilliant! The only smart one and is blatantly happy! I'm sure he has no debts and financial liquidity!
He could be capping lol, secretly might be unhappy or have regrets
He gave me much hope today.
An obese guy saying he has no bad habits. Hilarious!
Advice to my younger self - Compound, compound, & compound interest.
The central message of this video is live a life of peace a life you are content with and not a life that someone else wants for you.
I would tell my younger self one of the same pieces of advice that one of the interviewed said, and that is to not worry so much about things. I'm 52 and I think back to worrying about situations that never occurred or really weren't that big of a deal
I get that! Worrying my life away for what? Most of my worries didn't happen.
As an Old Fellow , i would say .
Try to Learn, Of Other Peoples Mistakes , where Possible .
It can Save you !
that man who never get married..am seeing myself in him in the future
haha same
Personal choice.I was married once,it didn't work out,we both got married for the wrong reasons. But,once I was outta the marriage I got to do the things I REALLY wanted to do.Like-volunteer to go fight in Iraq with the Texas Guard in mid-2004-and all of 2005-at Camp TQ.I was with an infantry unit and did joint missions with the marines,I volunteered to do 4 deployments total,also did 2 tours back-to-back. Arrested and detained countless Iraqee citizens and insurgents,did countless raids,had some fire-fights lasting 3/4 hrs,etc,etc,..I was bored working 2 full time jobs ( did this for 10 months )wanted a challenge with high risks and danger.So,I offered my services to the guard ( I was already in the Texas Guard ) so,off to Iraq I went. LOL. Just the risky job I needed. I have no kids and never really wanted any of my own. LOL. SEMPER-FI
@@user-be7tc2bd6e Great story man, have you thought of taking a bigger challenge: fighting Russia in Ukraine as opposed to skinny men without shoes heading goats?
I was married for 25 years. I raised a step son....that was hell. I had three natural children, they are fantastic. We divorced....best thing I ever did. She was diagnosed BiPolar later which answered a lot of questions. All those years I thought it was me. I have a great relationship with my natural kids, the narcissistic step son is completely out of my life, thank God! In hindsight, I would have never gotten married but would have adopted children being single. Stay single, live below your means, invest from day one (Read Rich Dad Poor Dad and follow Warren Buffett) in strong companies and keep them forever. Keep building your portfolio and NEVER cash it in. Have an emergency fund of at least 2K and grow it to 10K and you will never have credit card debt if you choose not to. STAY OUT OF DEBT!!! If you start your own business, do it yourself. Partnerships are worse than marriages in most instances. If you start a business with your wife, remember that if you get divorced you are stuck with each other because of the business. The last one is probably the worst scenario in my opinion!
I'm 73 and that is what I would say: DONT GET MARRIED!!!!! DO IT ALL FOR YOU, MAKE SURE YOU ARE HAPPY, ONLY DO WHAT YOU WANT, ONLY SPEND WHAT YOU WANT, YOU, YOU YOU!!!
YOU SIR NEED JESUS
@@jacksmith-vp3go Better yet, I have his Mother.
@@jacksmith-vp3go Oh, stop. I think he has Jesus already.
This guy has the right idea, life is too short
I hear more ME, ME, ME!!! The level zero of humanity.
The guy is right about finding the right partner.
I should have listened to my parents they could see what I couldn't, that we weren't suited, hence we divorced.
It caused them a lot of undue suffering, and made my life very difficult.
I can never forgive myself for what they were put through towards the end of their days. All because I was pig headed not to listen and thinking I knew better.
When adult children dismiss their parents opinion they likely are missing out.
If you have 2 parents who are 50 years old - that is 100 years of life experience between the two of them!
They don’t usually make suggestions because they ‘don’t have a life’ or because want to ‘control’ you -
they just have seen many things over many decades, they have insights that come with time, they love you and want the best for you.
More often than not, you’d save yourself a heck of a lot of trouble if you would heed their advice.
You could save yourself some serious regrets.
💕
Advice from parents is not always good. My issue with my parents' advice is that it mixes actual personal wisdom with a lot of religious superstition, and it's not always easy to evaluate the quality of their advice because of that. I'm an atheist myself, and while I believe religion encapsulates a lot of centuries worth of wisdom, I also think it has many outdated ideas and superstitions that are not suited for our time.
Funny I’m in an opposite situation. My dad gave the WORST advice to me and my sister. Both of us would be happier and in better positions if we hadn’t listened to him and if we did what we wanted. Now I’m rebuilding my life at 34z
Yes you can forgive yourself, you had no control whatsoever over any of your decisions, you didnt choose your parents, you didnt choose your gender, you didnt choose your genes, you didnt choose where you grew up. If you want a better explanation watch a youtube of sam harris explaining how we have no free will
Nobody can ever know how life will turn out and what will happen. It just so happened your parents were right, but being yourself and following your gut or wants is also part of life and part of being you. I like to learn from things that didn't go well and try not to repeat bad mistakes that hurt me rather than waste any time sitting with regret.
“Never underestimate your power to change yourself. Never OVERestimate your power to change someone else.”
That quote changed my life! Live the life YOU want to live…only YOU live with your own regret.
Such great advice. I look back and wish i had more self confidence within me, more with my personal life. I married the wrong person, i cared too much about what other people thought, and lived trying to please other people and not myself.
I made a couple of bad decisions because of not wanting to be embarrassed or humiliated by what other people would think.
Dont miss any opportunity. Don't hurt people that you love. Don't hurt people that loves you. Stop over thinking. Take actions. Get over things as quickly as possible. Stop watering dead flowers.
will retired at 35. ahead of time, 37 now and love it
As someone of 65 I would say Stay on your Own. All your life . Mostly people are No good.Help others a lot , but keep a huge Distance . Get a Dulux Dog .
I'm younger than you and not in total agreement. You can't build a great institution( be it a private corporation or a thriving county, state, or country) in isolation. You need to learn to engage others, manage conflicts, accept people with dichotomy of views, manage the villains, embrace and celebrate the virtuous, etc....Staying totally on your own is not remotely realistic.
Glad we had two happy single and married persons. So you define what makes you happy.
The South African bloke is absolutely spot on with everything!
The retired teacher is very wise. I wish I had him as my teacher. I am ready to read if he writes a book ❤
Very intelligent man that retired teacher, he knows that in life freedom is the highest virtue.
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“Finding the right partner” hit home with me. That’s a hard one until you get years under your belt with them. I was very young & I thought I found someone who was going to be successful & a good provider which was very important to me since my father was the very opposite. I always worked & never had a problem keeping a job. All went well for about 2 years & found he struggled to keep a job more than a year or two. Time went on & it improved to maybe 5-7 years tops. Thought it was always the companies he chose to work for but over the years found it was him making stupid mistakes. Was in my late 30’s & for the first time in my life I asked myself “what is wrong with him?” But I kept being supportive until he had an affair.
I’m 70 now & I vote to never get married. Rely on yourself & have friends. 😊
Damn, I'm sorry to hear that you went through all of that. I hope you're doing much better now after that experience. Solid advice and some authentic experience right here.
I was just reading about the "myth of the male provider". It seems it has always been hogwash. Women used to be able to "garnish" a man's wages (maybe I got the word wrong) because otherwise he would drink all the money away on payday. Men provide for themselves. My dad used to eat his lunch at a fancy restaurant every day as we had very little food at home. He had a company car and his own golf membership. The rest of the family were second class. Then he lost the house to the bank. Staying single in the best advise. Boyfriends are great. Also get a dog.
I love such videos. Why? because smart person learns from own mistakes, but the smartest learn from other people's mistakes.
What I’ve learned through the death of my Mom and sister is that you need to live for today, follow your dreams, work to live don’t live to work. Buy the pony, eat the occasional dessert, exercise, live well. Remember that your job will post a job opening the moment after you are no longer there, they are not family no natter how many times they say they are family. Always be able to financially take care of your own bills, don’t ever rely on someone else for that, my father’s death (at 12) was an eye opener for that. Don’t say you will travel in retirement, you may not be heathy enough to do that.
Nothing is permanent learn to flow in and out of experiences, as nothing lasts forever....with that knowledge priorities the love of a fluid changeable lifestyle
Nothing is indeed permanent! I learned that the hard way when it came to finding jobs and just work in general. That's why you need to be able to pivot!
I love that guy's advice, quote, "I want you to like me!" I don't need you to like me!"
Family is important, make your family (including extended family) your priority. Be kind, helpful, positive, and sincere to everyone. Save money, two pennies today will be more valuable in 40 years if you save it the right way. Be a conscientious citizen and do good things in your community.
I’M 50 YEARS OLD AND LIVING IN CANADA ALBERT I'M WILLING TO RETIRE AT 55 IF THINGS KEEP GOING THE WAY I PLANNED I BOUGHT MY FIRST HOUSE LAST MONTH AND I COULDN'T BE MORE PROUD THAT I AM NOW I'M GLAD I MADE PRODUCTIVE DECISIONS THAT HAS TO CHANGE MY LIFE FOREVER...
🌹Every family has that one person who breaks the family's financial struggles I hope you become that one and are successful in life
Assets that can make you rich
1. Real estate
2. Crypto
3. Bonds
4. Stock
@@MaryHughes520You're right a lot of people remain poor due to ignorance
Thank you, Lord Jesus, for the gift of life and blessings to me and my family $8,120.47 weekly profit Our lord Jesus has lifted my Life!!!🤲🙌🙏❤
I have been looking for ways to be successful, please how
I relate to the teacher guy so much. He is a true role model❤ What he said about addiction is very true. If you want a peaceful life, don't start any harmful addictions, like drugs, smoking or drinking and so on. There are some relatively harmeless addictions that you can have temporarily to cope with stress, especially in your twenties, when there is a ton of stress that society puts on you
3:55 bro killed it and he is the happiest guy here 😂😂. Money buys happiness
You interviewed vibrant intelligent people. So nice to hear their ideas
We often care others what they want us to be. Several years I had experienced painful things who my sibling died of accident.He kicked off at his twenties.I was almost mad ,couldn’t sleep overnight for 3years.Eventually I got over this painfulness.I figure out Life is short, keep a peaceful life.Walk away from bad people. Keep you positive attitudes.I hope your guys are ok always.
Remember to always be your authentic self.
Develop the skills that will allow you to spend more time on what makes you happy. For 20 years, I have spent $5K-10K every year on becoming more valuable to the marketplace. I'm 43, single, never-married, no kids. I play golf everyday for 12 years. Don't get married until you've earned and saved 100K. Stay debt-free. Show up on time and show up everyday. Consistency and stick-to-itiveness is the key to success.
"Until you've earned and saved 100K", at which age you will marry then? 45?40? How realistic is this advice?
@@freecreator6426 The most important piece of information here is to build your skill set so that the market will pay you 100K. A person can build a skill set that will garner 100K and more in 3-5 years. Sales, electrician, welders, plumber, accounting, etc.
The guy from South Africa was so wise.
Some of us are not 4 year university students. I wish I had just gone to a 1 year Technical School.
Don’t have children until after 32/33.
Always buy Used vehicles!
Is this from Dave Ramsey?
BUY A TOYOTA 4 RUNNER MADE IN JAPAN TAKE CARE OF IT AND IT WILL LAST YOU 20 YEARS. ITS GOOD FOR OVER 300,000 MILES
I’m 61. I wish I would have gotten help for my childhood trauma earlier. It affected so many areas of my life. I did try to get help but therapy was not enough. I only recently found out about specific modalities of trauma therapy and came to understand to impact of narcissistic abuse. What has been life changing for me was ayahuasca.
I appreciate that you showed diverse perspectives instead of just a typical "follow your passion" message - passion is important and good if you have it, but as mentioned in the video, it's not a guarantee that you will make it big by following it, and some people never find a true passion. There are people who end up doing something they don't particularly love, but it pays the bills and allows them to live comfortably and securely, and there are people who will take risks to chase a dream and either make it big or fail. Both are valid forms of fulfillment.
I also like that we were able to hear from someone who stayed single and happy as well as those who are happily married. Thanks for sharing these messages with the world!
Don't be stupid worry about yourself and stop trying to please everybody else do what makes you happy❤
I am 60 and looking back, I wished I hadn't got married, he was emotionally abusive. I should have stayed in my rented flat and kicked him out!
Sorry that happened to you. Trouble is women pass up decent guys for the bad boys and in the end have your experience!
It’s alright hun you gave it whirl! Better to have loved than to never have loved at all❤
That's the sudden new trend, promoting rejection and loneliness based on bitterness. You are so banal nowadays. You were never in control of your life and your current feelings and as much enslaved than the previous ones. You are not a free person. You just follow the trends.
Thanks, I really appreciate that you've interviewed elderly people
Follow your own star, not what society tries to dictate to you and don't be a people pleaser. Follow your own calling, your own bliss. Only you can find out who YOU really are...
To Young People:
Don’t give your time to people that don’t give YOU anytime to listen.
Don’t always be quick to give advice to young people. Listen to them. Just because you’re old it doesn’t necessarily make you wise.
Whatever it is you think about in a daily basis. That’s your PATH follow that one.
If you make it, ‘Whatever that means’, always remember you will have Joyful days and not so Joyful, and that’s okay.
The People you see although they are no longer Young with a glow and sparkle in their eyes; those are the ones that listened to their little voice and not someone else’s voice.
Beautiful. Insightful. Life changing information from those that have lived it. I always appreciate your videos.
At 67, I look back and say: leave the boys alone, don't believe their lies. See your grandparents much more, follow your dreams, and invest early.
Thank you for what you do!!! So Important!!!♥️
Some Do’s & Don’ts
Don’t depend on the opinions of others, or let them compromise your dreams or passion.
Don’t be afraid to fail or take chances if it feels right to you.
Don’t get lost in your regrets.
Don’t quit or give up when the going gets tough.
Don’t only be motivated by money.
Don’t forget to treat others as you would expect to be treated.
Do have Gratitude each day.
Do find a balance in your life.
Do always try to help others along the way.
Do value your relationships.
Do have a plan and foster discipline.
Do forgive others & yourself.
Do be sure to take timeout, to appreciate all the wonders of life around you.
That one poor guy that played it safe his whole life, no wife, no kids, retired early just to sit on a park bench all day all alone all by himself. He justifies it by saying he played it so safe and took no chances that he never made a mistake. That's a miserable existence in my book. What's one piece of advice I'd give? Figure out what makes you happy and go for it. And that happiness is different for everyone. One mans heaven is another mans nightmare.
No he's absolutely correct. You're incorrect.
Poor fella😂
Great clip! love hearing people in 60s-70s. As a 48y old dad, don't rush into relationships. don't put a timeline on how a relationship should progress. Let it play out.
Money is important. Be patient with other people.
In 2024 - after health , Money is everything
@@spirg no its not
Money is important but after awhile... Let it go! 😮
This is one of the best videos of this type that I've seen - No obnoxious and intrusive interviewing and the nuggets dropped by everybody (especially the retired teacher), was just *MWAH! *chef's kiss* 👌
I'm 37 and my biggest regret is having kids young and getting married. My advice is after high school focus on yourself, while setting goals. Reach those goals whatever they may be and then think about a family. Also, don't get married without a prenuptial agreement.
And then it will never happen. You will spend your money for the rest of your life buying emotions from strangers. It is really sad to regret to have had kids. Seriously pick yourself up and go talk to your kids.
I married early. Big mistake...
Video full of wisdom ! Just found out on my feed and I appreciate it
Sprouht... Nice piece. Very good questions, AND VERY GOOD FOLLOW-UP QUESTIONS TOO. ... Excellent video!
Excellent advice,from experience. Take it or leave it, it’s up to you.
My greatest success was to convince my wife to marry me. There is no way in hell I would have been this successful without her and her support. Finding that special someone is truly a gift worth treasuring. I know I won’t grow old alone, because being alone is extremely boring and lonely. I wake up everyday looking at my true love and thinking how awesome she is and how lucky I am 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️
Wow!!! Congrats
Talk about co-dependency and being needy!
Exactly! I’m married to my husband over 35 years now. It’s wonderful to share your success with your spouse. Sharing your life with someone you love is the greatest joy.❤
@@mibelloaleman
Exactly 💯
@@mibelloaleman
No - that’s not codependency.
That’s a healthy, interdependent relationship.
I’ve been married 28 years and it works very well.
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being around people you admire is amazing advice! So good
Wow, great video from the real OG of life. Great piece of wisdom. More of this please, thanks for the post 🤙
I would say to my younger self: Don’t defer to your husband when he poo poos your ideas. That investment property was practically free and ended up worth a fortune, but oh no, he didn’t think it was the right time or the right area……..Well I was right about the property and we ended up divorced anyway. I could have been financially secure very young but I didn’t want to upset my husband and where is he now? Pissing on some other woman’s dreams 😂.
Also I would plant more trees while young. I didn’t start gardening until later on and now I don’t have enough time to appreciate them in their maturity.
Can we be spared of that systemic misandry? Nobody cares about your problem with your husband.
Hey to the single guy on the bench I love you. 💜
The man/woman at 5:13 made the utmost sense and meaning to me, very wise words of advise and life's lessons well-learned.
“Waiting a bit to have kids” really love that.
Great knowledge to be learn as a young adult. Thanks so much. I love the interview so much.