Today is my fifth day of the 30 day challenge. Haven’t seen much success in getting numbers but almost don’t care about rejection. Averaging 12 approaches a day so far.
@@gordodacat you could do 100 approaches in 30 days, or jut do a bunch of approaches each day for example. you gotta play the numbers and ask out as many girls as you can lol. you could just say "hey sorry to bother you I just thought you looked really cute" and you could follow up with saying your name and like "i don't know if this is too forward but i thought you seemed really interesting and i'd like to get to know you" and ask for their number or if they'd want to get drinks or whatever. and if you can stay for a couple minutes after getting their info just to talk a bit more. or the idea of momentum if you're nervous or rusty just say a compliment to a bunch of girls like "hey nice outfit i love the look" as you pass by with no plans to stop to talk to them, get that momentum
I'm not even kidding. I got this in my 4th day of going out. Just talk to everyone without needing anything from them. Share value and you shall be rewarded
Game is just like sales. If people were forced to do sales door to door or whichever it may be it would drastically improve their social skills and awareness with the ladies.
I don't think that's true. In sales you NEED something, which is money to live, and neediness is a repulsive behavior especially towards women. Nobody wants to make eye contact with the mall kiosk guy with shoe polish in hand or the mixtape CD guy. In approach you WANT something, which can be sex, a relationship, validation, none of which anyone actually needs. You just have DESIRE. You're like a random schmuck going up to the Tesla salesperson, not the other way around. You're a buyer looking for someone to sell their Rolex at a discount. The only thing I've sold is a used copy of a video game but those are the differences in social dynamics as someone who approaches every week.
My Top 5 1) You are guilty of being a weird guy until proven innocent (1st 30 seconds is crucial) 2) Awareness is key (e.g. notice if she has headphones in, wait till she crosses the road then approach, stop her an a decent distance etc...) 3) 90% of numbers you get you will never see that girl again 4) Listen to understand don't listen to reply 5) Boyfriend objection 50% of the time is a lie
This is very similar to old school Tyler material but you bring a lot to the table. You know the science behind it and you actually get out there hitting it hard. Keep it up man. You will have a fun time even into your 40’s and beyond.
One of the most practical guys in this space of dating and relationships .... just get the reps in and do it over and over learn from every interaction and make adjustments along the way.. You'll live
I found this super interesting. And I really appreciate your honesty, and I respect your courage. But there has gotta be a middle ground. Because going out approaching 20 women a night... and staying home approaching no one. Because even if I get laid...how many of them will become a relationship, will have similar interests to me? So is all that time (even though its fun to be in the flow).... really worth it? Because like you said in part 1, this won't make you happy. But we tend to think it will. So what is that middle way? between out doing approaches, and staying home approaching no one? That's my question. I think most guys aren't out there learning to approach because of fear, but maybe also because they know on some level that this could be consuming, and be addictive, and not likely to lead to anything lasting. (am I wrong?) Not down playing the value of what you're doing, I think guys do need to face fears of all kinds, and learn to show up, and lead. But I also think there will probably never be a day when guys will learn to cold approach in droves. I think most of us will probably continue building our career, going to the gym, and meeting friends through friends, or at a course, or local event. "Do you trust life? To bring you to the right person at the right time? Or do you think that it's up to you to *make* everything happen?" I think there is probably a middle way. Curious what you think.
The middle point... I think it exists, you can create many situations for you with women, but there is a percentage of life that you can't control, and in this last one it's where life surprises you
its so definitely "WORTH IT" man especially to this guy i honestly think that the roi you get frome this is more than worth it take A.G for example he approached 20 women orso that night right which honestly takes like an hour or somthing and he not only gets laid but also learns about this phenomenon called flowstate first hand so he has sex with probably a hot girl or cute girl or but also learns this crazy life lesson and discovers what we call god mode all in an hour why would you not do it is a batter question i guess different people value what he talks about to different degrees but i can tell you that it was not only worth it to me but it meant so much moreif your a guy whos happy with mediocrity (which is fine) then maybe its not if your a guy who is happy with his life in general and is content with the way things are then in that case i'd say maybe it's not worth it but for a lot of other people including myself it is worth it it really depends on what you value and what you want out of life if your more ambitious like myself then you would of answered this this question before it was even asked because for me action is in my blood like for example theres 2 types of people 2 me take the gym for example theres the person that thinks "i have to go to the gym?" then theres the person that thinks "i get to go to the gym" and if you resonate with the first one more then no it's not worth it not worth your time if you resonate more to the second one then is sure as shit is worth your time so its not for everybody and it may not be for you but it's definitely for me
Lots of great advice, especially about strong emotion, state, flow, and strong realities. Goes to show reality is very malleable and can be dictated by sheer emotional will out into the external environment. I guess a sort of superpower in itself.
Massive Approaching, and Massive Positive reactions = G O D MODE 🔥🔥🔥 🙌 The best way to collect positive references and experiences is to OFFER VALUE (If you are being an honest and authentic man showing genuine intent then you won't care about reactions) 💯
Strong message. Social momentum is absolutely key and sexual energy. Low fap helps with that. Side note: 2 camera setup is solid for pattern disrupt but make sure to get same quality camera. Main camera better quality than secondary
I can relate to him, I typically do 7-8 approaches a night, out of 8 approaches I typically get 90% of women to give me their number. I'm going start doubling to 15 a day.
I just read about momentum in Tom Torero's book this morning. You described it just as he did in his book word to word. I guess it's like some kind of levelling up when you reach a certain point in game.
I was a decent pickup artist in the 1970s. Everything I learned was by trial and error. I was a street racer in the 70s. I was in Pharmaceutical Sales and had an Amway business in the 80s. I am a ham radio contest operator (NASCAR for nerds.) All of these skills and traits run together. I am now 71 and was divorced a year ago. At the company Xmas party I "interviewed" every single woman there, even if they were with another man. I talked with most of the married women (and their husbands.) I didn't stop even to go to the bathroom for almost 6 hours. I could have scored that night with a 21 year old woman but I held back because I'm new with the company. Everything Hayden says in his videos is what works.
I hate the red pill and the game for as long as I can remember but there's one thing they are right about, you need taking action to improve the circumstances which means starting to approach and talk to girls and be comfortable rejected
have you heard of travelbum, he takes meditation and spirituality on another level where he was always in flow,using non duality shadow work, and embodiment psychotherapy back in the day was pulling 10's with ease. Any idea on how you do that where you don't even have thoughts you just say whats on your mind instantly no judgement and just naturally are calibrated and know how to escalate and everything. He claims humans are meant to be in flow all the time
Travelbum is fucking wild! His sexual energy is stronger than any outcome he could ever dream of. His intent shows in his approaches that rejection does not exist in his reality. Women live for and crave this!
You have better game than me (and rightfully so with all the work you have put in), but I guarantee you'd be disappointed in your amount of conquests you'd get living in my area. I definitely need to move to NYC, Las Vegas, L.A., or Miami. I am quite positive my results would be amazing compared to my current location. Unlike you Hayden, I don't really get social anxiety and immediately approach women when I'm out and about.
Why not live in a big city? Personally, I don’t see the advantage unless you’re in a phase of life where you’re raising a family and want peace of mind. Big cities have so much more opportunity for business, dating, meeting friends, and just activities to do
Porn and Dating Apps. Porn will damage you and kill you. Apps will destroy you and kill your social skills, ending up killing you. Both kill your dating and social life.
@@optimusprimee How is rejection personal? How much can any girl you approach even know about you to make it personal? If anything sales is more personal, because by not buying people are denying your will to live and dismissing the product or service you're devoting your life to. When a girl rejects you she's not wanting to make your dick wet. That's it dude.
There is no doubt a greater probability of finding a woman if a guy approaches a lot of women. So what is the advice to the guy that doesn't approach a lot of women? In theory if a guy doesn't approach a lot of women the guy pretty much has to do a more effective approach to find success. Maybe this can be covered in another video.
Could you do some videos on first dates? Like I get on dates and stuff but i really don't get to the point where I'm kissing the girl, even though I escalated through verbally and physically (like I regularly try to kiss her, but it's getting blocked every time)
Idk if you’ve ever said exactly but I was wondering what your lay count to total approach’s percentage is? I know Thomas Crownes is 5%, John Anthony’s is 15%,Tom Terros is about 12% and Tom said about 5% for beginners...maybe you could make a vid about the numbers..5% scares the f outta me, 10%-15 is more what I thought to expect . I’ve been at game for awhile and wanted to know your thoughts
Lately it’s been about 1 out of 20 approaches. But that’s not including phone number leads I don’t see what’s wrong with 5% you can easily do 20 approaches per night. Plus, that’s with me being picky and not trying to pull every girl I approach
If you do 10 approaches per hour for 10 hours per week consistently, you will exceed 10,000 approaches within two years. Looks like A.G. hits 20 approaches or more per hour. But that's likely not a long term average. If it were, he could have hit 10,000 approaches in one year.
on one hand you say that pick up is a serious sport and "students" have to make a lot of approaches to gain the result. on another you claim that you help guys with zero experience in just 3 days. how come?
Approaching is impulsive, the opposite of having control. Be more clever, thats my only advice. Picture someone approaching a woman. Now see how thirsty that looks. Im telling you guys, let it come to you and get wise enough to see the signs before you stick your neck out there another 10000 times
You’re assuming im single and haven’t been in long term relationship. you’re also assuming that everyone wants to get in a relationship as if it’s the measure of success.
50 women per night, make about 12 women per hour, which means you dedicate 5 minutes to every girl you find even mildly attractive... come on dude, you are a master at this no doubt. Just be honest with your numbers.
Not sure what you’re trying to say. Some interactions last ten seconds because the girl has a boyfriend or whatever. I do not spend more than 5-10 minutes with a girl unless I’m trying to pull her . Being efficient with your time is key
Great advice, but you are approaching girls at clubs. I dont think most of the girls at clubs are quality women, and its easier to approach girls at clubs. What about day to day life like grocery stores, mall, parks, gym, just walking around places like that...
Last girl I dated from a club was a phd from Oxford who served for the peace corp. Every type of girl goes to clubs occasionally except super shy ones but they’re not fun to be around anyway imo
Today is my fifth day of the 30 day challenge. Haven’t seen much success in getting numbers but almost don’t care about rejection. Averaging 12 approaches a day so far.
What’s the 30 day challenge??
@@gordodacat you could do 100 approaches in 30 days, or jut do a bunch of approaches each day for example. you gotta play the numbers and ask out as many girls as you can lol. you could just say "hey sorry to bother you I just thought you looked really cute" and you could follow up with saying your name and like "i don't know if this is too forward but i thought you seemed really interesting and i'd like to get to know you" and ask for their number or if they'd want to get drinks or whatever. and if you can stay for a couple minutes after getting their info just to talk a bit more. or the idea of momentum if you're nervous or rusty just say a compliment to a bunch of girls like "hey nice outfit i love the look" as you pass by with no plans to stop to talk to them, get that momentum
I'm not even kidding. I got this in my 4th day of going out. Just talk to everyone without needing anything from them. Share value and you shall be rewarded
The main thing
Game is just like sales. If people were forced to do sales door to door or whichever it may be it would drastically improve their social skills and awareness with the ladies.
It's different selling a product that's good looking vs selling yourself if you're short and ugly.
So true! 100% true.
I don't think that's true. In sales you NEED something, which is money to live, and neediness is a repulsive behavior especially towards women. Nobody wants to make eye contact with the mall kiosk guy with shoe polish in hand or the mixtape CD guy. In approach you WANT something, which can be sex, a relationship, validation, none of which anyone actually needs. You just have DESIRE. You're like a random schmuck going up to the Tesla salesperson, not the other way around. You're a buyer looking for someone to sell their Rolex at a discount. The only thing I've sold is a used copy of a video game but those are the differences in social dynamics as someone who approaches every week.
Game is sales. You’re selling yourself..
@@sfrealestatedealmaker6001 i agree
This man is a living legend this is so true
Facts💯🤑
My Top 5
1) You are guilty of being a weird guy until proven innocent (1st 30 seconds is crucial)
2) Awareness is key (e.g. notice if she has headphones in, wait till she crosses the road then approach, stop her an a decent distance etc...)
3) 90% of numbers you get you will never see that girl again
4) Listen to understand don't listen to reply
5) Boyfriend objection 50% of the time is a lie
"You are guilty of being a weird guy until proven innocent (1st 30 seconds is crucial)" and you cannot let it stop you. You have to embrace the weird.
Bloody unbelievable how few made it to part two. This is top tier content
I don't remember how I found your videos, but they are the only ones that helped me. You're changing more lives than you realize.
Definitely one of the most useful videos I have ever seen about approaches. Thank u man
This is very similar to old school Tyler material but you bring a lot to the table. You know the science behind it and you actually get out there hitting it hard. Keep it up man. You will have a fun time even into your 40’s and beyond.
who is Tyler?
I was referring to RSD Tyler, Owen Cook. He used to have an alright message but he fell off in the last few years. Too much California.@@yakasi2030
Great info dude. Approaching is very hard at the beginning, but it gets easier the more you do it.
One of the most practical guys in this space of dating and relationships .... just get the reps in and do it over and over learn from every interaction and make adjustments along the way.. You'll live
Les goo! Found you a week ago and I'm learning more than ever before. Keep it up Avery!
I found this super interesting. And I really appreciate your honesty, and I respect your courage.
But there has gotta be a middle ground. Because going out approaching 20 women a night... and staying home approaching no one. Because even if I get laid...how many of them will become a relationship, will have similar interests to me? So is all that time (even though its fun to be in the flow).... really worth it?
Because like you said in part 1, this won't make you happy. But we tend to think it will.
So what is that middle way? between out doing approaches, and staying home approaching no one? That's my question. I think most guys aren't out there learning to approach because of fear, but maybe also because they know on some level that this could be consuming, and be addictive, and not likely to lead to anything lasting. (am I wrong?)
Not down playing the value of what you're doing, I think guys do need to face fears of all kinds, and learn to show up, and lead. But I also think there will probably never be a day when guys will learn to cold approach in droves. I think most of us will probably continue building our career, going to the gym, and meeting friends through friends, or at a course, or local event.
"Do you trust life? To bring you to the right person at the right time? Or do you think that it's up to you to *make* everything happen?"
I think there is probably a middle way.
Curious what you think.
The middle point... I think it exists, you can create many situations for you with women, but there is a percentage of life that you can't control, and in this last one it's where life surprises you
its so definitely "WORTH IT" man especially to this guy i honestly think that the roi you get frome this is more than worth it take A.G for example he approached 20 women orso that night right which honestly takes like an hour or somthing and he not only gets laid but also learns about this phenomenon called flowstate first hand so he has sex with probably a hot girl or cute girl or but also learns this crazy life lesson and discovers what we call god mode all in an hour why would you not do it is a batter question
i guess different people value what he talks about to different degrees but i can tell you that it was not only worth it to me but it meant so much moreif your a guy whos happy with mediocrity (which is fine) then maybe its not if your a guy who is happy with his life in general and is content with the way things are then in that case i'd say maybe it's not worth it but for a lot of other people including myself it is worth it it really depends on what you value and what you want out of life if your more ambitious like myself
then you would of answered this this question before it was even asked because for me action is in my blood like for example
theres 2 types of people 2 me take the gym for example theres the person that thinks "i have to go to the gym?" then theres the person that thinks "i get to go to the gym" and if you resonate with the first one more then no it's not worth it not worth your time
if you resonate more to the second one then is sure as shit is worth your time so its not for everybody and it may not be for you but it's definitely for me
dont get laid then. just ask her to accompany you while having a dinner at some fancy restaurant/cafe and then call it a night.
Lots of great advice, especially about strong emotion, state, flow, and strong realities. Goes to show reality is very malleable and can be dictated by sheer emotional will out into the external environment. I guess a sort of superpower in itself.
Massive Approaching, and Massive Positive reactions = G O D MODE
🔥🔥🔥 🙌
The best way to collect positive references and experiences is to OFFER VALUE
(If you are being an honest and authentic man showing genuine intent then you won't care about reactions)
💯
Strong message. Social momentum is absolutely key and sexual energy. Low fap helps with that. Side note: 2 camera setup is solid for pattern disrupt but make sure to get same quality camera. Main camera better quality than secondary
been watching your videos for a couple months, and I was in vegas for the weekend and I deadass saw you pull up on a girl in front of me at omnia. LOL
This is enough info for taking action for everybody. Just approach 100x in 10 days and see for yourself. Good luck
I can relate to him, I typically do 7-8 approaches a night, out of 8 approaches I typically get 90% of women to give me their number. I'm going start doubling to 15 a day.
Terrible
The weights analogy was hilarious
I Simply cut out all the clutter and got ur book the method.
Damn you A.G., the last one is so TRUE
The 3rd point is so true almost no one is taking action .
Some amazing points here man, cheers Avery.
I think you should make a red pill chad goes on a pickup rampage part 2. Much more inspirational
huge value, and motivation booster. thank you so much bro, I'm happy that I ran into your videos
💯 Good video man. Love this stuff
One of the best channels on pick up
I just read about momentum in Tom Torero's book this morning. You described it just as he did in his book word to word. I guess it's like some kind of levelling up when you reach a certain point in game.
Where can I find out the info about your boot camp tour brotha? Coming to Phoenix/Dates? Im hyped 😎😎😎
Great video man
I was a decent pickup artist in the 1970s. Everything I learned was by trial and error. I was a street racer in the 70s. I was in Pharmaceutical Sales and had an Amway business in the 80s. I am a ham radio contest operator (NASCAR for nerds.) All of these skills and traits run together. I am now 71 and was divorced a year ago. At the company Xmas party I "interviewed" every single woman there, even if they were with another man. I talked with most of the married women (and their husbands.) I didn't stop even to go to the bathroom for almost 6 hours. I could have scored that night with a 21 year old woman but I held back because I'm new with the company. Everything Hayden says in his videos is what works.
This is an excellent video with Great Advice !
Thank you for sharing 💗💕..I really appreciate it a lot 💯🔥
Educational but motivational also. You have a beautiful mind for sure
Great content as always
I hate the red pill and the game for as long as I can remember but there's one thing they are right about, you need taking action to improve the circumstances which means starting to approach and talk to girls and be comfortable rejected
Awesome advice!
Great insights, thanks for the advice
have you heard of travelbum, he takes meditation and spirituality on another level where he was always in flow,using non duality shadow work, and embodiment psychotherapy back in the day was pulling 10's with ease. Any idea on how you do that where you don't even have thoughts you just say whats on your mind instantly no judgement and just naturally are calibrated and know how to escalate and everything. He claims humans are meant to be in flow all the time
Travelbum is fucking wild! His sexual energy is stronger than any outcome he could ever dream of. His intent shows in his approaches that rejection does not exist in his reality.
Women live for and crave this!
@@illuminati666 did u learn from him. I'm trying to learn his stuff for free. His workshops are too expensive
Excellent talk, you are very humble. Does Nofap affect your daygame results? If you could do a video on this I will be grateful. Thank you.
Good stuff man 👋
I heard: put in the reps. Great advice
Nice video man! Question about the last part, isn't it kind of shitty for the girl to approach if you aren't attracted? What if she comes on to you?
Man, I feel your perspective
Not easy to find places especially in South Orange County where you can approach women.
Most are either in school, working or out in nightlife places.
It’s like that saying from a war vet. Moderation is for cowards. Gotta grind for results.
You have better game than me (and rightfully so with all the work you have put in), but I guarantee you'd be disappointed in your amount of conquests you'd get living in my area. I definitely need to move to NYC, Las Vegas, L.A., or Miami. I am quite positive my results would be amazing compared to my current location. Unlike you Hayden, I don't really get social anxiety and immediately approach women when I'm out and about.
Why not live in a big city?
Personally, I don’t see the advantage unless you’re in a phase of life where you’re raising a family and want peace of mind.
Big cities have so much more opportunity for business, dating, meeting friends, and just activities to do
@@aghayden It's just where I grew up and don't want to move too far away from mom. Yes, I will always be a momma's boy. She's up there in age.
Sales also gives you a sense of urgency that internet porn and apps do not.
Nobody wants to get rejected with girls/dating because it's personal. Who cares if you're doing sales and they don't want to buy your product.
@@optimusprimee learn to detach and be more stoic
Porn and Dating Apps. Porn will damage you and kill you. Apps will destroy you and kill your social skills, ending up killing you. Both kill your dating and social life.
@@optimusprimee How is rejection personal? How much can any girl you approach even know about you to make it personal? If anything sales is more personal, because by not buying people are denying your will to live and dismissing the product or service you're devoting your life to. When a girl rejects you she's not wanting to make your dick wet. That's it dude.
The link for Boot Camp does not work for me
Where can I find Bootcamp info?
There is no doubt a greater probability of finding a woman if a guy approaches a lot of women.
So what is the advice to the guy that doesn't approach a lot of women? In theory if a guy doesn't approach a lot of women the guy pretty much has to do a more effective approach to find success. Maybe this can be covered in another video.
Take his bootcamp, or spam approach, if you have $1500.00 invested. You will definitely take A C T I O N😎
Great information.
Part 3 ?
I think it's funny how some of your students even copy your Miami Vice flowered shirts.
Could you do some videos on first dates? Like I get on dates and stuff but i really don't get to the point where I'm kissing the girl, even though I escalated through verbally and physically (like I regularly try to kiss her, but it's getting blocked every time)
Hey hayden, I remember u have a website with a forum and field reports and stuff, is it gone now?
Idk if you’ve ever said exactly but I was wondering what your lay count to total approach’s percentage is?
I know Thomas Crownes is 5%, John Anthony’s is 15%,Tom Terros is about 12% and Tom said about 5% for beginners...maybe you could make a vid about the numbers..5% scares the f outta me, 10%-15 is more what I thought to expect . I’ve been at game for awhile and wanted to know your thoughts
Lately it’s been about 1 out of 20 approaches. But that’s not including phone number leads
I don’t see what’s wrong with 5% you can easily do 20 approaches per night.
Plus, that’s with me being picky and not trying to pull every girl I approach
Thank you, man
You're just giving all the secrets away for free 😄👌
How long (years) did it take you to reach that number?
If you do 10 approaches per hour for 10 hours per week consistently, you will exceed 10,000 approaches within two years. Looks like A.G. hits 20 approaches or more per hour. But that's likely not a long term average. If it were, he could have hit 10,000 approaches in one year.
At ca 8:30, I have the impression that you are seriously underestimating how bad AA is for most men. Like, almost all men.
Great videos
Pure pick up
Not self help bs
How many approaches should you do in the span of 3 hours let's say when you go out?
More than zero.
Comment for the algorithm!
this man is god of dating
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Nice!
I am betting if I wasn't too old for niight clubs that I would succeed a lot more than meeting mostly married women at Target. 😆 🤣
on one hand you say that pick up is a serious sport and "students" have to make a lot of approaches to gain the result. on another you claim that you help guys with zero experience in just 3 days. how come?
9:32 🤣🤣🤣😭😭
Great video
Approaching is impulsive, the opposite of having control. Be more clever, thats my only advice. Picture someone approaching a woman. Now see how thirsty that looks. Im telling you guys, let it come to you and get wise enough to see the signs before you stick your neck out there another 10000 times
Approaching requires willpower and therefore is not impulsive.
It’s like saying going to the gym or working on a business is impulsive.
Excellent video. Time to act and stop being a dabbler.
where do you find 20 girls to approach in an hour aaaaaaahhhhh
This is some real shit
No lies you feeling like it's not real
I think you learned that you're still single
You’re assuming im single and haven’t been in long term relationship.
you’re also assuming that everyone wants to get in a relationship as if it’s the measure of success.
@@aghayden so are you or not? why be cryptic about it
Nice video except the "b*tch" comment. We can do better buddy. Otherwise nice video.
A comment.
An approach.
50 women per night, make about 12 women per hour, which means you dedicate 5 minutes to every girl you find even mildly attractive... come on dude, you are a master at this no doubt. Just be honest with your numbers.
Not sure what you’re trying to say. Some interactions last ten seconds because the girl has a boyfriend or whatever.
I do not spend more than 5-10 minutes with a girl unless I’m trying to pull her .
Being efficient with your time is key
😂
Great advice, but you are approaching girls at clubs. I dont think most of the girls at clubs are quality women, and its easier to approach girls at clubs. What about day to day life like grocery stores, mall, parks, gym, just walking around places like that...
Last girl I dated from a club was a phd from Oxford who served for the peace corp.
Every type of girl goes to clubs occasionally except super shy ones but they’re not fun to be around anyway imo
Thats the ugiliest shirt i have seen in my whole life - is it for a challenge to get rejected ?
Confidence allows you to wear stuff insecure normies wouldn’t dream of wearing
Avery, what’s the email to get in contact with you? I wanted to know if you had a hard copy of, “The Method.” I bought your digital version.