10 Biggest Turn-Ons For Men You're Just Getting To Know
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- Опубликовано: 30 июн 2024
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In this video, dating coach Ryan Patrick highlights the 10 biggest turn-ons for men you're just getting to know, how to turn on a guy and how you can subtly attract him to you without really having to do anything special at all.
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I now offer self-guided *online courses* to help women of ANY age and experience level CRUSH those single streets FASTER and more efficiently! 🙂
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I ask a guy sitting at a bar if he was married and he said no, I asked him if he wanted to be and he said "can we go out first" and I said, "if you must". We were married 8 months later. You just don't know what will turn a guy on.
"If you must" 😂😂 Love it!!
Usually that scares men away. They don't want to think of marriage when you first meet. You just got lucky.
@@gracehall9199 clearly, he was into her, it wasn't luck.
@@louisemc3680 both.
@@gracehall9199 Yes, I did.
The anticipation of sex by delaying sex is so so important! Cannot stress enough.
So powerful with the right people! 🤗
Still anticipating, after 5 months. Pandemic and living situations....
Yep
yes i agree
Yesssss!!!
On the third date, I told him I wasn't ready for sex until I was in a relationship, and he took the initiative to actually respect that and court me.
I told him that we should form a friendship first
Like laying down that boundary from the get-go! Nice! ✊
I did the same thing and he asked me to marry him
@@datingcoachryanpatrick 0
@Diana milliard, supermega respect for you !
Amanda Bowers wow congratulations are you guys married now?
It's all about the good vibes. If you're a happy person you will naturally attract a happy mate. Guys compliment me on my positive energy -- "it's refreshing" and my smile is "infectious," as per them. Also allowing them to be in their masculine while I remain in and celebrate my feminine energy. And being fully present and making a man feel they have my attention and making them feel uplifted and special whenever they're in my presence.
Love it!! 🤗
Mandy I just subscribed to your page because of your comment here. ☺️
Yeah stay skin deep see how long that lasts
@@datingcoachryanpatrick ☺✌🏼
@@chelsearyan5955 aw thanks girl! ☺
The sarcasm is both a gift and curse
A curse only with the *wrong* guys, honestly 😉
I hate sarcasm sometimes. It's a total turn off to me.
I think this is Ryan's thing not every guy's thing. lol
Ryan, I knew I captured a guys attention. When we had been texting for a little bit and I asked him to call me on the phone. He was avoiding it for a while and I told him that it couldn’t go any further with us if he wasn’t willing to at least call me. So he asked me if I wanted him to call me. I told him I was going to give him a typical girl answer. I said I want you to want to call me, I don’t want you to call me because you think I’m forcing you. He laughed and then my phone was ringing 30 seconds later. After an hour of conversation. I said to him hey I really appreciate you calling me I know you’re not a A phone guy so I’m just going to say thank you so much I enjoyed the conversation and let you hang up and relax for the rest of the evening. He pause for a moment and said no we can talk a little bit longer. That’s when I knew I had them. Or at least I think I did.
This type of live feedback to those you like is PRICELESS 🙏🏽 Thanks for sharing, Pamela!
I have zero interest in going out with a man until we have been texting, chatting and videoing for a couple months. If we are sure there is chemistry, then look out when we meet! He wont have a chance.
kknh
I prioritize myself, my needs, my schedule, my self care. Pretty much everything!
Powerful list!! 🙏
But I also think it's quite selfish to prioritize ourself (as we should tho) and not respect that man has its own priorities as well, so we kind of have in our brain "ok he can't meet me, when I have time, what a jerk." Just thinking that we're the only one thing in his life. What I mean is that I think value ourselves but also respect his life.
Yep. 💓
I met a guy at an outdoor Christmas market I was working at last year. Whenever people walked by my booth, I'd smile and say hello. I caught his attention as he walked by, we made small talk, and exchanged names & phone numbers. My boss (gay man) tried to pressure me into texting him right after he left. I stood my ground. I DO NOT chase men. Besides, he said he would call. It was a test to see if he'd follow through. Sure enough, he did call me... 2 days later! Due to his profession (commercial airline pilot), we set up a date a week later. We've been going strong ever since!
Know your worth, ladies! Don't put up with crap! The men will smell it, and behave accordingly. See my next comment on how to weed out men with the wrong intentions!
Beautiful! 👏🏼
So true I’m the same way and some of my ppl call me picky I don’t care I’m not chasing no man.
Indeed..... Applause for you !!
so happy for you. 🧡
My husband pursued me. I made him wait for the goods because I didn't want him to leave, had to make sure. 14 1/5 years later. 10 years married 💞
I'm an eye contact master when a flirty stare at my eyes I stare back with no emotions , until he looks embarrassed, it's like a challenge.
wish i could relate. cant hold eye contact at all 😭
I thought I was the only that does this even with strangers
I have been totally happy with myself, my career as an art director in an art museum. I loved being free, still do. I had 7 marriage proposals in one year with no sex. I ended up sailing with a friend to the Bahamas. Met the love of my life there where he put me in my own house on the ocean.
I'm so happy for you you're living the dream i hope my situation is similar to yours. I feel pressure to have sex a bit lol
I used your advice! I asked him what he was wearing, he told me and then asked why. I said, "Because I was wondering what I would have to take off of you if I were there." He literally said, "Ok. You've got my attention!" Lol I couldn't believe it! Thank you for that! 😊
Great job! That'll do it! 😅
"Slow your roll" has got to be the best advice ever! I recently met a guy I really like, who is also really into me. This has happened to me before in life, but I'm romantic and passionate and have a tendancy to rush things and overshare. This time I've followed your advice of leaning back - not seeing him more than once a week for the first six weeks and no sex for 30 days. Things are unfolding as I've always wanted. He's initiating dates, he's escalating contact and we're slowly building an intense, organic intimacy. Thanks for the insight, this could be a game-changer.
"hey look at me, look at me, am over here" That had me rolling in tears😂😂Also love the faces he made
I would call it witty instead of sarcastic. It takes talent to do it well as some people think they’re being sarcastic when it just comes across as rude.
I've been dating since the quarantine in video calls and in texting and he's coming to meet me in 2 weeks. He's all in already. He's hooked already
Beautiful! Have fun with this one, Kim! 👌🏽
HOW TO MAKE HIM TURN OFF IN A SECOND :
- Tell him you want babies
- Tell him you want to get married with him as soon as possible
lol
That's true 😅🤣
@@Stevinpj 🤣🤣🤣
Not true, it makes them see that you know what you want and take you seriously. From my experience.
😂😂😂
I have no "wait to be intimate" rule but surprisingly all the longer relationships I've had were the ones that intimacy was delayed.
I went over to his house the second time we met, brought dessert and we chatted. I was being very matter of fact about my knowledge of some of his habits and asking him questions. At one point he commented that I had HIM giggling like a girl! It was so cute. For the first time with a new guy, I felt powerful and confident in myself and it showed. He texted me after and told me he had a surprisingly good time (lol) and that he wasn’t scared that he felt he clicked with me pretty early. He also said he’d like to have me over again, cook dinner and talk shit while laughing, soon. Winning!!
I'm not actively looking for a guy but I can't stop watching your videos to see your eyes and facial expressions when you talk, Ryan. Especially when the vid and sound slows down - those are the best faces ... oh my god, it's so good!
Tease him. Create lil scenarios. Get him all worked up... That shows you're comfortable in your own skin as well as a lil adventurous. Most guys love this!
And then after 3-4 months now it’s a relationship, the guy knows that he had her, there’s no excitement for the guy. Bc he pursued her and he had her. End of the adventure.
But never make the guy think that he has you. Even when you marry him. Never.
I literally never expect a guy to be interested in me. One time my dad told me someone was interested in me because I was clueless! That describes me! I am clueless.
I always thought my sarcasm was a turn off! 🤣😂
NOPE! It's the perfect way to screen out guys who don't get sarcasm is all 👌🏽
Ignored him, chased me everywhere😂😂
They love chasing
You aint lying..I do all that. I grew up hanging around guys and I took wat I learned and I used it to my advantage. I like your content and personality because you know your stuff. Much love💯😉
Love these tips - I’m definitely going to try the sunglasses “eye contact” tip!
Hi, I started to follow you some days ago, I just wanted to tell you that you are a godsend!
I really appreciate your videos and you're helping me understand and learn every day more about the "man universe", the psychology it's another thing that I like!
Thank you so much! ❤
Wow, thank you!! Glad to have you here, Adina! 😀
Love your smile Ryan! Thank you for all the advice, it’s helped me try things differently. Here’s hoping!
Hi Ryan .
I’m just coming out of a marriage. I’ve had the same man for 30yrs.
Your advice has certainly helped me to notice stuff about myself that I had ignored for so long
I’m still getting to know who I am again and what I want from life , but when I do start to get bored of being single and I’m ready to really mingle , I’ll definitely feel more clued up than I did in my 20’s 🙏🏼🙋🏻♀️
I too am back in the dating scene at almost 50. I have dated a few. This last week my player AKA friend wanted to see me and i told him i was busy. I was not, but boy the texts moved from not as sexual to more of an actual conversation. The texts are longer and more meaningful and he called. Now, am I falling for this, absolutely not. It is what it is.
I am back in dating after 34 years.
@@suzanne5971 I know this sounds corny, but its kind of comforting to know there are others my age starting over. Sometimes I feel so out of place.❤
Cynthia Ziegler
I was actually terrified of putting myself out there again , but having watched several of Ryan’s videos , I felt a little more at ease if meeting someone .
I’m not a swipe left , swipe right person . I don’t have time to do endless chat about my likes and dislikes on the swipe sites .
So these short videos have made me feel more at ease with what I could do
Ooooh, I feel you sister friend! ❤️
Finally, a guy who actually has some valid points!
Thanks Victoria! 🙂
I JUST LOVE THE FACES YOU MAKE 😂😂
Looking forward to your course, Ryan, so I can surround myself with men to practice this on! 😉
Aww yay! It contains my *very best* stuff for sure! Can't wait for you to see what's inside 👀
New to your page and I am OBSESSED❤️
Love this ♥️ A new point of view compared to other video's about relationships 🙂
Such great advice again Ryan, thank you! I'm personally SUPER guilty of operating by the "scarcity paradigm" you mention, so I need to work on that. One time where I know I captured a guy's attention and turned him on was when he was making a semi-long speech to a group of us about a semi-obscure area of expertise of his (Revolutionary War history type stuff) and I flipped a comment he'd just made into a relevant joke, sort of showing that I was knowledgeable about it as well but didn't take it super seriously. Guy wouldn't stop staring at me for the rest of the night and pursued me for weeks afterward!
Triggering that mental attraction indeed! Nice work, Lauren! 👌🏽
Excellent Tips as always it’s Paramount to keep a man interested ! You are so wise to educate all of us ladies , I been single for so many years because I am very selective and found myself picking up a lot of hints ( Advice ) from a very wise Dating Coach 😍😍😍
Mine is about when I met a friend of mine for coffee last week. Keep in mind we both know there is something between the two of us but it is unspoken of and unofficial. Anyway once we got our coffee and sat down he handed me a stuffed wolf and said "I saw this and thought of you." I thanked him and told him it was cute then asked what I should name it. His reply was that it was up to me. I told him then the plush's name is the same as yours. My friend laughed and blushed. 💙
Damn, dating is so much harder now than when my parents were dating! One bad move (it wasn't even my fault), and I was outta there lol so but thank you Ryan for this great help! It's help me bring my self-worth back up!
Abundance paradigm is very well put!
Thanks Lucy! I appreciate that! 😀
What has happened to men that they seem to have lost their active role? It's all about women hunting men, l don't believe a woman can be really happy with a man she had to hunt.
I agree Maria. I believe in giving him signs that you're open to getting to know him, but after he does the chasing.
My ex found me. But then he lost me. He could have still had me had he played his cards right. But he didn’t think he had to.
Crazy 8’s and Solitaire is not for me. C’est la vie.
Actually, in most cases, I think its the man having to hunt the women (ask her out, propose to her, etc). Men feel the same way too.
Years back when I always went out with my boyfriend at breakfast I would allso put the cream and sugar in his coffee. Twenty years later he told me, "he always loved that and no other woman ever did that" Thank you for your great videos. I signed up to be on your new show.
I really appreciate the sunglasses tip I’ve struggled with eye contact all my life but I’ve met someone who I can comfortably do it with.
I wanted to say how awesome it is of you to use all types of women in this video! Representing everyone! That's fantastic, Ryan (but not unexpected). You're amazing. 😊🤗
Aww thanks! I try to keep representation balanced when I have the footage to do so 🙂🙌
Ticked off all the boxes with this one guy without even knowing it myself 😂😂😂 and now I'm like what the hell??
I told him to stfu when he got too bossy with me. He was used to quiet submissive women bc he's Mexican and they are the bossy macho and I let him know that ain't flying with me! He fell on love with me and respects me more...
congratulations you got a new subscriber ! your channel is really interesting and im stjll trying to learn all these just in case there's someone im interested in !
You have more subscribers now and that means that more and more girls and women are learning these tricks so the competition is growing :-D
It's true! 🙏🏽
Hello Ryan....its been along time since I joined you oline...
But thanks for video...its been great watching it...
Great job....🖒🖒👌👌
The compliments that are specific and well thought out are a ringer for sure! Loved this video, Ryan! As always, you are SPOT ON! Thank you!
Thanks so much, Michele! 😎
Hello, does it applies to all status of women like widow ????
@@chandasoriano4188 Most certainly 🙂
Comment 500: When I watch videos like this -- long lists of all the subtle, precise, magical ways we're supposed to be and act -- I feel very discouraged. I know lists get clicks, and I realize the hyper specific instructions are meant to make these suggestions concrete and actionable. I can also easily see how all of these traits and behaviors would be very appealing. I just don't see myself in any of it, and that makes me sad. Just hearing phrases like "be outspoken but in a subtle way" baffles me, and I can feel my stomach tighten and my soul start to wrap itself into a pretzel as I imagine myself trying to evoke any one of these styles (let alone all 10!). I know that none of these women are me, and I know I could never pull off a single one of these attitudes for more than an hour or two regardless of how much I might want to. I had a good cry after watching this video. I think the sheer magnitude of it is what really did me in. It might as well be called "All the Many Things You Lack That Keep You From Being Loved'. If this is what it takes to be cherished forever by a man, that explains why I've never been proposed to, and at 48 (almost 49) , still find myself alone. I guess I'm going to have to start buying chocolate in bulk, get a dog, and call it a good life as it is.
I love to make anyone go from a frown to a smile by showing them my smile and recognition that I see them. I have seen too many people afraid to smile because the smile might be seen by some as only flirting. In this time and age, I see a smile show positively implement that is needed in everyones daily life.
Love it, Cassandra! Never fear the almighty SMILE 😁
Really honest information, thanks for sharing!
thought i was going to learn something new in this video, but it turns out i'm already knocking it out of the park, thanks to your help Ryan!
(btw ur hair looks really good lol 😘)
Glad to hear it, Melissa! And thanks for the compliment on my hair too 😄
Letting him know I wasn't looking for sex. He texted often and got to know my personality
I love your videos, they’re so helpful!!! Thank you Ryan 😊 your wife is a lucky woman
Love the commentary ❤️
Watching my guy ryan while doing minute wall sits...learning and blocking the pain😂
Is he doing the wall sits or are you, Casy? 😂😂
Good job, Casy! :D
Thanks for the info Ryan. It really helps.
You bet Tonika! 😋
I said that things are hard for you right now, you have been through a lot, you are missed but I support you in your accomplishments, I'll be so proud of you when you've completed these things as I'm so proud of you now!
Ahhhh nothing beats some good ol' acknowledgement of his mission, passion or purpose. Good call! 😎
Thank you, yes, in fact he is calling me more, even wanting to connect with me on his 10 minute break at work just to say Hi.
We've not seen each other for 18 months, but we connect as best friends, also neither of us are seeing anyone else! He lives the other side of Canada but will be back sometime!
We took a photo together and the next day I printed and brought him a copy- he was hooked!
You're adorable, i follow all your advices 😊 thank you Ryan!
You're so welcome, Caro! Thank you! 🙂
Reallllly perfecccct🙏🏻🙏🏻💐💐
Sweet!! 😄
Loved this advice! Thank you!
So nicely put out
I open up and am honest about where my intentions are at the beginning. If he’s interested and senses a spark, then I leave the ball in his court to make a move. It has worked so far with this guy I have been talking and seeing since May. He has had a lot on his plate but still managed to set up time for us to spend getting to know each other. Also foreplay in text and in person has worked in my favor so far.
YES!! Foreplay in texts builds that anticipation to see one another *perfectly.* Thanks for sharing, Leslie! 😀
Thanks Ryan this video is so helpful x
When I have a carefree & confident attitude.
I was happy because I was shopping at good will for the holloween custom I was building from scratch...something I LOVE to do each year. I drew him in by asking him his opinion. I really wasnt looking for "trouble"...and it did turn into him asking me for my number...I really wasnt looking or wanting a boyfriend...but he did turn into the Best Boyfrined
I'm oblivious. If the guy won't tell me, I won't know 😂😂
Needed this one tanzzzz ryan 👍🏼🌸🌸🌸
I started hiding my sarcasm at one point because I just grew tired of explaining what I meant. But you are right, it should be a sign we are just not on the same page. Btw, love your videos!ty!
Totally! Use it as a screener! 👌🏽And thank you! 🙂
Hi 👋 I like this, very helpful, I need to work on all of this 😜👍😘 thanks 😊
You are so welcome! 🙏🏽
I loved it!! 🙏 Ryan ;)
Is it weird i always like the video before I listen because I know I'm going to enjoy it anyways🙂
Hey Ryan. Great video. Me being sarcastic is a part of my charm. I have a guy at work who always seeks me out and no matter how bad I get sarcastic with him he keeps coming back to me.
It can be an addictive drug! Sarcasm conveys so many wonderful things 😌
@@datingcoachryanpatrick The best part Ryan is he gives it right back to me and follows me around like a lost puppy
@@Misfit9405 Ahhh LOVE when the other person can dish it right back to ya 😋
I liked the video before watching😂😂❤✌
Double LOVE THAT! 😂
I told my guy friend who had a crush on me that he makes me happy (I texted that because he had to go have a “chat” with his abusive dad and I wanted to make him smile or feel better) and he sent a lot of blush’s emojis and said that if I were with him he would have kissed me.
why are your videos so good? I can't find a good guy, you single? lol thanks for all your good advice!
I didn’t realize how big eye contact was but I realize it’s the same with women. And after watching a number of videos, and even random interviews, guys say eye contact! That’s hard when I’m not trying to come off too desperate when I like a guy!
Thanks for the advice you're a treasure
Watching this as a guy, this is pretty true.
You are well articulated.
Amazing video
Thanks Rittika! 🙂
Who else in the intro heard him say "heey everyone im dating your relationship coach"
I almost spit my tea!
I’m a bicycle mechanic and I ride really cool bikes. He did a double take over my bike and said “what a pretty bike!” Then he looked up at my smile and said “wow and you’re pretty” which I don’t think he meant to say outloud lol
*I do all these things, basically on accident. I'm a people person and an extrovert, but now I noticed why guys ask me out after a day of knowing me. I'm hella busy, compliment guys on random things a lot, encourage them ...I think I need to be more rude shoot. But I encourage everyone!*.
Well done!
Hello Mr. Ryan! 🙌🙌🙌 I hope we can talk soon ❤️ godbless you always and more power in your career 🙏🙏🙏
I hope so too! Thanks Brenda! 🙂
@@datingcoachryanpatrick just call me Van it's okay hahah kidding 😂
@@brendavanessapring7946 OK Van! Lol
Hello, and thanks for your amazing tips!
It's my first time to comment and I hope I get a chance to be in one of your videos!.. I do have a suggestion.. would you please speak about how to attract a co-worker, a study colleague (work partners in general)? it's difficult you know? as you need to be formal not fired lol..I hope you consider.. and thanks again!
Aya from Libya (Yes, you're well known in some Arabian countries )
Gawd, I love your channel 👍🏾🧡
Thank you so much 🤗
Went on a great date but then he was a little ghost, a day or two just to respond to a text. I am over 40 and don't hold my tongue back much more. I basically told him, hey this is the first and last long text I am going to send you. In a nutshell, I told him I know my self-worth and have no time to waste with games. I told him I like him and respect him and expect the same in return. Then I said NOT to reply if he doesn't see a future with me. This way I can move on. Fast forward we have a great relationship, he knows I won't tolerate any games and I feel better putting my feelings out there with no expectations.
When you're advising women to delay sex, keep in mind that we like it, too. Navigating that boundary isn't just about fending off a guy's advances and manipulative tactics or our "ideas" about what we think will make him happy. It's also about controlling our own impulses. Some of us "new age, liberated feminists" run into a values conflict here: How can I delay sex and make this relationship special without repressing my own desires and just shutting down in the process." For me, personally, if I can resist a guy for 30 days, I can resist him forever. 🤷♀️
Yes. Exactly this. I'm not just fighting him off, I'm trying desperately to keep my knees together.
I think the pandemic makes it easier. You want to know him well enough that you know he isn't going to crowded parties every weekend. Plus you can do video dates first and build things up slow.
That's a ho problem.
Me too!
What a great idea to wear sunglasses and make eye contact with everyone you see. For a person who's too shy to make eye contact with someone they are interested in, that would really make it eventually more comfortable in real life 😎
Yup! I love this little trick! Works like a charm 😋
Ryan, i really liked this video!!! Very clever made. One question: Could you maybeeeeee do a video about, how to get someone to leave you alone in a nice but working way. I am really bad at that. Either I am still to nice, that they don’t get the hint, or I become over protecting and try to scare them away.
Hey Melina! Thanks for the suggestion! I'm not sure I'd create a video on this topic because it would probably be such a short video (less than 30 seconds) as I would simply advise the direct approach if someone isn't getting the hint to back the heck off. At some point, nice has to go out the window, especially if you feel the interactions are heading down a dark road. Be firm, be clear, and be consistent 👌🏽
Just say, ' how do I tell you to leave me alone in the nicest way, hmmm? How do you prefer to hear it? while looking innocent the whole time 🤣. Should work like magic...
Thanks Ryan for sharing about these facts and advices. I learned a lot from them. I was constantly watching your videos because I am dating a man and I am so serious about him. (To the extent I wanna propose to him rn. LOL)
Well, at the start of our relationship, I was like a little kid begging for attention to him. I was getting mad at him when he doesn't chat or call me. (LDR thing😔)
But you were like a can opener to me. Gosh. I did a lot of turn off 😔😔
So I started letting him do whatever he wanted to do. I silently waiting. Not letting him know that I was waiting for him the whole time. Because I NEED TO HAVE MY OWN LIFE aside from him.
And just yesterday when we video call, he told me " before you're always mad when I go outside for too long. Or when my brother's here beside me (we're not legal yet 😔) but now, you didn't get mad. You just lemme do my stuff. Thank you for understanding me. "
Thanks Ryan! You help me a lot ❤️
You rock, Judith! I think you're getting the hang of this thing very nicely 😎Keep it up!
Im new on you channel 😅 but dudeeeeee all of your tips? Gosh i all did it to my man before without knowing 🤣 but honestly i think it work if your dating a man and not a boy
I'm sarcastic sometimes, but he will only figure out after knowing me better, but it still depends on guys. I actually feel since different guy has different personality, the dynamic with him would be different. The pace in a relationship is also depending on individuals, but I think no matter what, just act after we get ready and comfortable. I honestly would like follow my thoughts at the early stage to reduce the anxiety or something unsettled.