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Same here. He did all of this. After two months he finaly told me that he is not into me, he wants be just a friend because there is no atraction from his side. My point is, that "likes" will not always lead to serious relationship. As you say, pay attention to patterns and actions (and context).
My crush always replies my text quickly n excitedly n ofc we could talk alot. *But he never initiating a convo first. So we won't texting if I'm not starting it.* We r in the same school but whenever we meet we always walked away as tho we didn't know each other lmaoo😂 (both us feel nervous but I believe he likes me back tho). It gets me indeed confused and exhausted 😞😞🤡
Michelle Kahlez he’s just scared. Do something obvious to let him know you’re interested. Make sure it is super obvious, as most guys don’t get those signs.
Michelle Kahlez most guys like that tbh. I recently stepped away from someone, and honestly it’s far better to try than to not. Worst thing that could happen is he doesn’t like you like that and you stay friends. Just go for it.
Zenitha Murrie I wonder why the fk I clicked it too, it’s like.... are we seriously looking for advice from a dude on how to decode dudes?! What about just being transparent about your feelings lol
Yes normally its someone telling women all the stuff we are doing wrong and how we must kiss their a## to keep them. So yes i agree i really like this guy. He looks at both sides
Liliana Tavera, sure it’s simple. Relationships involve vulnerability and should flow two ways. The traditional stereotypical old school dating patterns still apply but to a carried degree. Therefore ladies should expect a man to both initiate and respond to communication equally. In my experience women still appreciate a gentleman but do not appreciate 100 percent traditional old school relationships. Consider this how is a strong silent male expected to survive in an online dating culture ?
Still I feel that a woman should start the texts too because if you never start texts with him it leaves him feeling like you don't care about him. Which then leads to him ghosting you, or at least that is why I ghost girls.
This man knows it ALL! Ladies, take notes, seriously! I learned I was totally wasting my time with a Breadcrumbing asshole. And now I’m dating an amazing man. Thank you sooo much!
Before my boyfriend and I started seeing each other he texted me one evening out of the blue. He said, " do you have time to talk? I miss talking to you." It melted my heart, and pushed me to reveal my feelings for him during that conversation. We started exclusively dating in December, and it's a dream come true!!
Many times they're doing all those things "by the book" just to mess up with your thinking, to make you feel like they're genuinely interested in you, whereas in reality after they "cracked your code" they show off their real intentions and take advantage of you mentally as you've fallen for them. Beware of that. Many people like to play a game to satisfy their own ego. Sorry to debunk but that's just being real with y'all from my own experience.
I prefer phone conversation and he prefers text. I told him we need better communication because text does not replace the intimacy a call can give. I'm at the point of putting him in the friend category or nothing at all.
Exactly. Back in the day I had a boyfriend that had a really nice sexy voice and a goofy laugh. That's the type of thing that is missing if you text all of the time.
d r this is what he did to me. Just texts no calls. Always an excuse for not calling. I’d get good morning how’s my day and good night. Tons of kiss and hug emojis. I said when will I hear your voice again I got hmmm soon hopefully. Gtfo bud.
I recently started going out with a guy who said he didnt do calls because he had a lot of social anxiety etc. i decided that he wasnt for me. I love communication and staying connected and definitely talking on the daily. He wasnt for me.
Not really most guys are more simple especially than women. If he is interested he is going to show value, if not he will treat you like a hook up, or not show interest what so ever. We women who really need to understand that our mind gets us in more trouble than anything.
A man who knows a tragedy has happened with her or even that she is facing something difficult, he will text and ask about how she is or offer words of encouragement. I LOVE this.
For me when I ghost girls (I'm a male) it's because they never start conversations with me. I always start them, and then after that it takes them at least 20 minutes to text me back. Hell, some of them take hours to text me back only to tell me that they can't talk right now.
@@themaninmyprofileisachad6888 sounds like you need to learn patience What a turn off to read that a man ghosts girls because it takes 20mins to reply!! 20hours I'd understand but 20mins you have an expectation for her to reply. Omg entitled brat 🙄
Fi usually I wouldn't ghost them JUST because it's a 20 min wait. 😅😅😅 I didn't clarify that. Usually it's a mix between a 20 min wait, also they never start the conversations with me and they barley talk over text with me. Also I don't need to "learn patience" if you liked a guy, I mean really liked him, and every single time you texted him, he took anywhere from 20 minutes to an hour to reply. Wouldn't you be annoyed, also when he finally replied he told you that he couldn't talk at the moment, and that he would text you each later, and he never did? I think after all that you would ghost them too. (This is me thinking you are a girl and I apologize if you are not).
He texted me "I love your laugh, it means so much to me to hear you laugh." And then he texted " You ground me." Like I make him feel safe or something? I don' t know. But then we were supposed to chat on the phone and he blows me off for 4 days. I'm so confused. He is only a friend, not a romantic interest so maybe I should just not be worried about any of this. Ugh.
I started chatting to a guy online. We are going to meet Friday night - today is Monday. He has started with good morning and goodnight messages. Last night I told him I was going to buy new joggers because I've just joined a gym. Late this afternoon he texted asking if I found a pair I liked. I thought that was a great sign. Also he said he was going to have a poppy (grandfather) nap, to which I replied that love a nanna nap! So interest and vulnerability 👍❤
All true. A guy texted me as mentioned in this video, for sure he was interested. However, he acted very slowly in terms of setting dates (when he did arrange date, he planned them well, those were the best I had). I was confused but later on it was clear that he was not ready to have something serious yet. So in short what I learned, whether someone likes you, whether you two are compatible, and whether you two can be together are three different things...No need to get over excited when he shows interests at beginning, or you find someone extremely intriguing, everything takes time...Keep calm and carry on...
"Things A Guy Will Text You When He's REALLY Into You" or when he wants you to think that he's into you so that he will have someone to entertain him while he's looking for what he really wants. Don't take anything a guy says at face value; watch his actions and his patterns.
Great video! I always love the non-sexual compliment text messages or anytime he remembers to ask about something I am doing. My favorite was after I got out of doing a speech for a non-profit group he checked in with me to see how it went (he knew I was really nervous). His “I’m so proud of you!” text really meant a lot since it showed he had an invested interest in my professional abilities and passions.
Hey Ryan. I'm taking this opportunity to write a general message and thank you. I discovered your channel a few weeks ago with "The 7 Stages How Men Fall In Love" and ever since I've been binge watching through your catalogue of videos. You're my new favourite dating coach and your advice has changed my life! I've been putting guys off for years, guys who were ridiculously interested at first. I'm so disappointed it's taken me this long to find out how to approach dating so as to maintain the relationship. I look forward to continuing to learn from you and even more so, having a lasting relationship because I've learnt to slow down and let him take the lead. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. (And I totally agree with your texts of course!! Good confirmation. Just wanted to post on your most recent video.)
This made my day, Bethany!! Thank you so much for taking the time to write this message! 🙂I'm so happy to hear these videos are helping you in this way. You're most welcome and I'm very glad to have you as part of this awesome group 🙏🏼
I'm always the one who asked questions, did greetings, start the conversation and have the last words in our discussion. He keeps me hanging. Now I know. I just wasted and wasting my time if I still continue.😔
You know what Ryan ..... I am WAYYY older than you (nearly 50 years old) and happily engaged to elope this summer, so I don't really "need" your videos so to speak ... but stumbled across your channel recently as I am off work from my little retirement mall job during the pandemic. Your videos have given me some insight on how to improve my communication with my honey! Good content for single folks and old crusty soon to be married folks alike. Great job! -- A retired 23 year veteran child protective services investigator
I have a question for you, Ryan. I know how you said that NOT “putting all your eggs in one basket” and not being available to a guy 24/7 raises your value, how it’s okay to talk to other guys as well while this guy is initiating talking. So my question is, what about from the guy’s perspective? Is it okay for him to be talking to more girls than one at a time? Or is that considered leading girls on? What are your thoughts on this? I guess my thought is, it shows he doesn’t want to commit, and I wouldn’t even want to waste my time with someone who just wants attention from multiple girls.
For me (imma a male) I talk to multiple women, not because I want attention from them, but because they are genuinely my friends. For me (dunno bout other guys) if a girl got mad at me because I was talking to other girls (who are my friends and who I am not interested in) it would make me frustrated. Also for me (again don't know about other men) I doesn't mean I don't want to commit it means I just want more people as my friends (I don't have very many friends as of now so I'm always trying to make new ones).
Everyone is free to talk to him whom they want to until there's a commitment.women take things so seriously they think one date means you're headed down the aisle for marriage... We need to learn to relax and still have our standards... Things will happen organically and naturally not Forced...don't sleep around and yet don't wait by the phone..find a balance 😊
People, this is sad. Texting is not real communication. If a person won't meet you IRL from the initial meet be it online or IRL, move on. Avoid texting in general. Real life, phone calls, even e-mail is more authentic.If all he does is text then he isn't interested, he just needs instant gratification, acknowledgement and"likes". Women with self-esteem don't participate in text dependency.
Well tell me, i just started seeing someone🤗, but now due to covid19 we just sent textmassages. Why is it that sometimes he ends our texting with an😘 and other times with an 😉?
Lol.....that's not hard to discern at all. However it doesn't mean much in the long run. A guy like you can use this short term to get a girl chatting back but it doesn't mean much if someone is inherently dishonest in real life.
I appreciate your opinions shared here! I am dating a guy for about a month now and it seems he is interested, as am I! Fingers crossed it continues this way!
Also I’ve noticed when guy likes you he always say your name in conversation but also over texts.. that really works for me and i can easily see if he likes me
My newish bf likes to text me pics of things I said I liked , that he sees during the day. EG I love T-rex 🦖 and when he sees it in any book he texts a pic. Just shows he remembers and thinkin of me ....
Everyday saying "Good morning gorgeous" with no conversation. No other text or stimulating conversations. I wonder how many other he's texting "Good morning gorgeous""...i know it's a list of other women. 😂
Him: Hey, checking in Me in my mind: (What am I? a Hotel?) Him: How you doing? Me in my mind: (Who do you think you are... Joey of Friends??) Real me: (does not answer till the next day)
I think his checking in is sweet. Why the need to play games? Sure you can respond the next day if he texts you in the middle of the night, but otherwise why not respond when you get his message? I don’t understand.
Thank you. I can see he was into me, but then he ghosted me and gave me the, ,",you deserve better speech" I've found that's not worth the decoding, so I gave it an honest effort and now we're still friends. Wasn't meant to be, but we had a lot of fun. We're not internet friends, I don't text.
My crush texted me after a thunderstorm and asked me if I ended up toasting 100,000 pieces of bread, which I previously pointed out you can perfectly do with a single bolt of lightning 😅
I was dating a highly influential doctor and he way overused the imojis. I just felt like he wasn't willing to communicate. He did turn out to be a player and I dumped his ...
I've definitely found that people can be SOO different from their texts! I wish I got the check in text sigh, but alas it's usually in a sexual context
Unfortunately, it's easy for guys to fire off those sexual texts, because he doesn't have to actually sit in front of you to catch your reaction and suffer any negative consequences if you didn't like it; he can just move on to the next girl. The upside is huge tho if you're into it because...well, he might get some! 🤷🏻♂️
Fantastic advice as always! I did it after watching last week's video...I let the guy go! 😊 In the last week I've followed up on a dream by buying a kayak, I'm starting to feel better in myself, & I'm excited about what might come next - so thank you 🙏
Thanks for confirming a guy friend of mine likes me. He even sent me a box of sculptures for my birthday that he made. They were so amazing. Plus drawings. He asks about my family and heavy emoji usage.
What are your views on text conversations that continues until the next day(many days)? When both parties don’t end the conversations each day but someone answers the next morning and continuing this for multiple days?
At some point one of you most likely the guy will get bored because texting can only do so much. you're probably telling him way too much info about yourself which doesn't leave any mystery or much to talk about on a date. He has no incentive to call you. When it comes to texting less is best. You want him to progress to voice messages, phone calls, video chat, and then a date
I'd say *you* need to be the one to interrupt the on-going pattern of the "never-ending text" to slow its roll. Letting it continue on this way gives it a serious opportunity to fizzle out and crash-n-burn fast, so I'd suggest not being readily available to respond to him(keep up with all other areas of your life) and maybe suggest you guys do a virtual date to "level up" the conversation. You always want to get to that next level of commitment from him; otherwise things go idle and stale. If you're not getting the next level and stuck in one gear too long, on to the next guy 😉
Break up the flow and just don't be super predictable with your response times. Have other things going on (and let him know you're a busy girl) and genuinely *be* busy so he doesn't become too much of a focus for you too soon 👍🏼
@@datingcoachryanpatrick Thank you for your lengthy reply Ryan! I appreciate you taking the time to consistently reply to your viewers' comments. It makes you stand out from other dating coaches 😊 I just hope breaking up the flow and replying after a longer amount of time won't seem as though I'm playing games/messing around with the guy (even if I'm busy)
Really appreciative that you here have done some real studying on yourself and other guys to get content and also put it all together to make such descriptive videos. Not everyone can do this.
They are just as confused. It's a people thing. Just pray for the right person to enter your life and keep the rest away. Use your spirit of discernment. 😉
You’ll have the same problems. People are people are people. We should all be so lucky to meet our soulmates. In the meantime, I’m my own soulmate and I never ghost me.
I usually don’t follow these ! But I’m glad I did. I’m married with a 3 month old. An lawd this made me feel better. It’s sad that texting has got this far 😒😞😭. I can say I’m blessed. He doesn’t leave me alone an I’m blessed for that!
Any advice on this text? Him: "Sorry. I just haven't really wanted to get out much this week. I'm trying not to eat out much. I just came home and crashed" Me: Yeah I understand about the not wanting to eat out as much. Honestly I just wanted to spend some time with you 😊. Him: I know. I'm just not feeling particularly social
am getting before and after I met him.. he never gets tired of letting me know that he is doing okay and checking if am doing okay. Even on his busy hours driving he will use his side chick (siri) just to make sure he can communicate with me. I hope he wont change cause am loving it.
My Co-worker messaged this to me, leaving me confused. I am glad you reached out. I do have a lot of fantastic relationships with people I enjoy talking with and I definitely include you in that category! You feel free to reach out anytime you understand lol! 😊 I would appreciate if someone could decode this for me please 🙏🏼
Haha, Well, I just know that my online crush and I we have been texting daily for 6 months. We actually met once in person after 4 months and still chat and sometimes speak everyday (couldn't meet up again because of the lockdown😭) what an accomplishments! 95% of the time he sends me good morning and good night text with hugs emoji and sometimes with a 😘. It's been pretty consistent and I am still feeling good about us and we occasionally talk naughty but never dirty and sexting.
I get good morning, in the morning I think it's first thing for him it's usually around 6.30am before he heads off to work, I get during the day if he's not too busy, what's doing, and I get photos of some of his work, , um, we haven't met yet but plan to in about 1 week
My man friend who I like as more than friend started calling me every day in the last month or so. He never called in the past. We’ve been friends awhile. He brings me food, supplies, got my prescriptions for me. Idk if this is him being a friend or him feeling more. I was in the hospital last year for 3 weeks and he didn’t act this way. He visited and called but not all the time.
@@berryjames3756 he is attractive, called me Every Day and now lives with me. Planning to get married next year on an island. This is it, he is it and it is amazing! 🎉🎊🎊
"Good morning, got a late start but wanted you to know I dreamed about you last night, and it was good" we r meeting Saturday!! Finally Ryan a guy that checks all the good boxes. Thanks for all ur advice
fights should always have to be talked over and forgiven. The rest will show with time, I guess, like if efforts are made to keep in contact, for example
Recently a guy told me I was a bit intimidating and the first time he met me I walked up to him and his friends 'and that took balls' -- and "I knew I had to kiss you that night" -- this was a year and a half after that night we recently reconnected and it was our second date when he said that. Prior we only went out that one night and I didn't hear from him.
I straight out asked him OVER THE PHONE “where is this going? We text more than me & my best friend” and he said he saw us more as just friends bc our career paths didn’t line up. By me asking, I got to move on and knew the truth. And it hurt because I knew that I had convinced myself to like him from the very beginning when I knew we weren’t compatible. So don’t waste time ladies
AdaBekee He is going to be a doctor and I’m an entrepreneur and my family owns several businesses. I won’t be able to be home & home-school the kids nor do I want to
The best way to do this is making a guy feel *great* and saying "thank you!" the first time he compliments you on something (even if you don't necessarily agree with the particular thing he's chosen to highlight). Doing that will encourage him to say more nice things because he now realizes it makes you feel good 😉
Wow! My guy has done ALL of these kinds of texts, including showing off and heavy emoji use! My favorite emoji use was when I was very late to birthday party of a mutual friend. It said, "There's an ariel sized absence here! :(" Aww, that turned my heart into pudding. He also asked me about the walker I was using because apparently he was speaking to another mutual friend who saw me with it! He's done plenty of quick draw texts and usually does the "last text." He also thanked me by text for a picnic I put together for us and repeated his desire to treat me.
I might be naive but I think it’s just easy to tell when a guy likes you - when I look back at my serious boyfriends there was never really a period where I wondered does he like me, beyond initial meeting. If he likes you he’ll be in contact, he willl be asking you on dates and you won’t fret or wonder where he’s disappeared off to. Compare that with guys who I have had a crush on who were in intermittent contact etc where I did wonder - they didn’t like me or we would have been together properly!
Wow! Had no idea about the last word. Interesting......you know all your videos have made me become more aware....even watching movies I am like “oh he called her crazy” that means he likes her! 😂😂😂😂😂
A guy I knew did almost all of these and still wasn’t crushing on me or anything 🤔. But that was just a one time thing and I think these are all true for most guys
Met a new guy about 3 weeks ago. We chatted through text for about a week before we met. We had a long conversation in a parking lot (thanks Coronavirus) and he literally texted me before I even made it back home telling me that I smelled good and his truck now smelled like me. We’ve been chatting every day and have plans to meet in a couple of days again. He’s very nice and attentive so far, not clingy but he does check in with me several times a day just to let me know I’m on his mind. There have also been numerous days of good morning and goodnight texts. I’m sooo eager to see where this goes!
I just watched this and the one of him not liking... He is a jumbled mess of both. :/ Edit: 9/18/2020, I forced him to admit he didn't like me the same way. A year of pain later. He apologized. Admitted he was in the wrong and should have done it a long time ago... So, I explained how much more he hurt me by just unintentionally toying with my emotions vs just rejecting me long ago.
Interestingly enough some guys don't like texting.Had a guy say he turned my volume down. So I stopped texting for 2days,then he calls me out of the blue seeing what I was up too. He came right over to help me with a project. I agree guys are wanting to chase you. And sometimes they get moody or have been hurt. Relax, keep yourself on his mind,but give space when you need. Guys are complicated as much if not more then women. And this guy definitely gets a lot correct
I guess it depends on which song and why. Make him explain more to see if that’s actually true or if he’s just giving you a bogus line to keep you strung along 👍🏼
Great content! The decoding tutorials definitely come in handy for someone who at times has a bit of, what I call, stubborn-challenge and not accepting the reality of the situation. Oh, by the way, you possess a beautiful smile. I’m impressed by your overall informational videos, so thank you.
That explains why he never lets me text lastly... like he always have to be the last one.. when I asked him about it, he says he feels more comfortable that way so I just leave it at that 😅
Mel that’s what I’m worried about! I think my situation could be more but we are friends. What if he’s interested in texting me because we are friends, not because he sees me romantically
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My boyfriend sent me the message: "even if I don't write you so much, you have to know that you are always in mind.." I found it just sweet.
It'a sweet indeed
Aweeei love that
He is so sweet and pure:(
What are his actions? How often do you see him? How often does he actually text? Please do not buy blindly into every fluff an excuse he gives you.
I also received this kind of message from my bestfriend does it mean that he likes me?
They can text all these and still ghost you in every minute.
say it louder sist
Exactly!!!!!
Yep that is true
These are all words. Watch his actions.
Check ✔️🙈
Texts can mean anything, it is a lazy manner of communication. If he CALLS you, then he has made a real effort.
And a FaceTime nightly is huge!!! 🥰
a lot of people prefer to text first to ask if they can call, though
That’s true
I love that my guy regularly video chats with me :) we don’t even really use audio-only calls. Love that he wants to actually see me!
Yay!!! My crush makes an effort to talk to me!! 🥰🥰🥰
He did all of this but he still turned out toxic. Just pay attention to patterns and actions.
Yes!! Sometimes their actions don't align with their words. Big let down :/
Same here :/
Was confusing af.
Same here. He did all of this. After two months he finaly told me that he is not into me, he wants be just a friend because there is no atraction from his side. My point is, that "likes" will not always lead to serious relationship. As you say, pay attention to patterns and actions (and context).
Lmfao
Yup yup. The texting game is only part of the entire equation. Texts are easily to manipulate, but *word tone* and *body language* are not 😉
guys are so confusing i don’t even know anymore
Girly, dating is hard and confusing.
My crush always replies my text quickly n excitedly n ofc we could talk alot. *But he never initiating a convo first. So we won't texting if I'm not starting it.* We r in the same school but whenever we meet we always walked away as tho we didn't know each other lmaoo😂 (both us feel nervous but I believe he likes me back tho). It gets me indeed confused and exhausted 😞😞🤡
Michelle Kahlez he’s just scared. Do something obvious to let him know you’re interested. Make sure it is super obvious, as most guys don’t get those signs.
@@MesoMania hell yeaaa. But Im just afraid he'd think that i seem to chased him so much xd :(
Michelle Kahlez most guys like that tbh. I recently stepped away from someone, and honestly it’s far better to try than to not. Worst thing that could happen is he doesn’t like you like that and you stay friends. Just go for it.
Why tf do I watch stuff like this
Lol dating is interesting topic
Zenitha Murrie I wonder why the fk I clicked it too, it’s like.... are we seriously looking for advice from a dude on how to decode dudes?! What about just being transparent about your feelings lol
Zenitha Murrie Curiosity.🤣😂 Its all BS if he can’t pick up the phone and call. Wait! Exam? This is a youngsters video. My bad.
It is all youtube recommendation fault
it's interesting to watch and make you feel like you're not alone
finally a guy who seems extremely genuine and wants to help us with serious advice❤
Thanks for that, Kath! 🙂
Yes normally its someone telling women all the stuff we are doing wrong and how we must kiss their a## to keep them. So yes i agree i really like this guy. He looks at both sides
Well said
If he's into you he will keep initiating the text and will make things clear. The effort he put in is the key to how into you he is.
Ani Wey not always true
John Burton can you explain pls lol
Liliana Tavera, sure it’s simple. Relationships involve vulnerability and should flow two ways. The traditional stereotypical old school dating patterns still apply but to a carried degree. Therefore ladies should expect a man to both initiate and respond to communication equally. In my experience women still appreciate a gentleman but do not appreciate 100 percent traditional old school relationships. Consider this how is a strong silent male expected to survive in an online dating culture ?
Still I feel that a woman should start the texts too because if you never start texts with him it leaves him feeling like you don't care about him. Which then leads to him ghosting you, or at least that is why I ghost girls.
If he's interested in you he will give you a call.
This man knows it ALL! Ladies, take notes, seriously! I learned I was totally wasting my time with a Breadcrumbing asshole. And now I’m dating an amazing man. Thank you sooo much!
Love it, Emily! 🙌🏼Glad you've connected with a great guy! Thanks for your kind words 🙂
Before my boyfriend and I started seeing each other he texted me one evening out of the blue. He said, " do you have time to talk? I miss talking to you." It melted my heart, and pushed me to reveal my feelings for him during that conversation. We started exclusively dating in December, and it's a dream come true!!
Aww 🥰 🥺🦋
Congratulations🎉🥰 I pray me and the guy Im talking to works out!🥹
Many times they're doing all those things "by the book" just to mess up with your thinking, to make you feel like they're genuinely interested in you, whereas in reality after they "cracked your code" they show off their real intentions and take advantage of you mentally as you've fallen for them. Beware of that. Many people like to play a game to satisfy their own ego. Sorry to debunk but that's just being real with y'all from my own experience.
ohh.. that's so sad! 🥺
I had this experience. Hurt af. But now im stronger than ever!
Yeah that's so truee
I prefer phone conversation and he prefers text. I told him we need better communication because text does not replace the intimacy a call can give. I'm at the point of putting him in the friend category or nothing at all.
Exactly. Back in the day I had a boyfriend that had a really nice sexy voice and a goofy laugh. That's the type of thing that is missing if you text all of the time.
d r this is what he did to me. Just texts no calls. Always an excuse for not calling. I’d get good morning how’s my day and good night. Tons of kiss and hug emojis. I said when will I hear your voice again I got hmmm soon hopefully. Gtfo bud.
I recently started going out with a guy who said he didnt do calls because he had a lot of social anxiety etc. i decided that he wasnt for me. I love communication and staying connected and definitely talking on the daily. He wasnt for me.
OH MY GASH - THIS WAS ME !!!
OH what a bummer. I met one like that.
I’m getting so many texts from old tinder dates I had in January....
Not today, corona, not today.
😂😂😂
I swear it's really hard to understand guys 😒
True!
Lol, it's hard to understand humans in general 😂
Sometimes, we don't even understand ourselves
Nah women blink a man think that he got it 🤣🤣
Not really most guys are more simple especially than women. If he is interested he is going to show value, if not he will treat you like a hook up, or not show interest what so ever. We women who really need to understand that our mind gets us in more trouble than anything.
Not at all!!
It is you who do not want to see him as he is!
A man who knows a tragedy has happened with her or even that she is facing something difficult, he will text and ask about how she is or offer words of encouragement. I LOVE this.
He did almost all of these, but still ghosted me after 3 weeks. I started to open my heart to him, then boom he's gone. Idk anymore what to trust.
Trust your Gut/your instinct.
And my honest opinion is that he isn't not worth it
Update plz
For me when I ghost girls (I'm a male) it's because they never start conversations with me. I always start them, and then after that it takes them at least 20 minutes to text me back. Hell, some of them take hours to text me back only to tell me that they can't talk right now.
@@themaninmyprofileisachad6888 sounds like you need to learn patience
What a turn off to read that a man ghosts girls because it takes 20mins to reply!!
20hours I'd understand but 20mins you have an expectation for her to reply. Omg entitled brat 🙄
Fi usually I wouldn't ghost them JUST because it's a 20 min wait. 😅😅😅 I didn't clarify that. Usually it's a mix between a 20 min wait, also they never start the conversations with me and they barley talk over text with me. Also I don't need to "learn patience" if you liked a guy, I mean really liked him, and every single time you texted him, he took anywhere from 20 minutes to an hour to reply. Wouldn't you be annoyed, also when he finally replied he told you that he couldn't talk at the moment, and that he would text you each later, and he never did? I think after all that you would ghost them too. (This is me thinking you are a girl and I apologize if you are not).
The feeling that you're gonna observe your conversation with the guy if he really wants you but you forgot that you deleted your conversation hahahaha
Probably better off! Trust your gut and on to the next! 👉👉👉
Same sis.....same
Lol. It's easy to overanalyse text covos. Real live conversations are best.
“If I wasn’t texting you that doesn’t mean that I don’t care” ❤️
Okayy this is wild. I feel very confident that my crush might like me back.
Michelle Sutton and I’m thinking bout doing the til took challenge kiss by best friend don’t know how that’ll go 🤔⁉️
iluvC0TT0NC9NDY16 ooooh yes do it!
Oh gosh, then my best friend likes me!!
He texted me "I love your laugh, it means so much to me to hear you laugh." And then he texted " You ground me." Like I make him feel safe or something? I don' t know. But then we were supposed to chat on the phone and he blows me off for 4 days. I'm so confused. He is only a friend, not a romantic interest so maybe I should just not be worried about any of this. Ugh.
I feel you :(. I have the same situation too at this point i think everything is ridiculous
I started chatting to a guy online. We are going to meet Friday night - today is Monday. He has started with good morning and goodnight messages. Last night I told him I was going to buy new joggers because I've just joined a gym. Late this afternoon he texted asking if I found a pair I liked. I thought that was a great sign. Also he said he was going to have a poppy (grandfather) nap, to which I replied that love a nanna nap! So interest and vulnerability 👍❤
All true. A guy texted me as mentioned in this video, for sure he was interested. However, he acted very slowly in terms of setting dates (when he did arrange date, he planned them well, those were the best I had). I was confused but later on it was clear that he was not ready to have something serious yet. So in short what I learned, whether someone likes you, whether you two are compatible, and whether you two can be together are three different things...No need to get over excited when he shows interests at beginning, or you find someone extremely intriguing, everything takes time...Keep calm and carry on...
great comment, but patience is what i lack in my life XD
You'll blow it if you don't have patience. If you really want the possibility of a relationship, you have to train yourself in what it takes.
Oh gosh, now I know the guy likes me 😂. Now I need to figure out whether I like him
Same haha
"Things A Guy Will Text You When He's REALLY Into You" or when he wants you to think that he's into you so that he will have someone to entertain him while he's looking for what he really wants. Don't take anything a guy says at face value; watch his actions and his patterns.
Great video! I always love the non-sexual compliment text messages or anytime he remembers to ask about something I am doing. My favorite was after I got out of doing a speech for a non-profit group he checked in with me to see how it went (he knew I was really nervous). His “I’m so proud of you!” text really meant a lot since it showed he had an invested interest in my professional abilities and passions.
Oooo love that! Yes, those are the winners for sure 🙌🏼Thanks for sharing, Kimberly!
The reason I am single. Who has the time to psychoanalysis texts when you have a full time job. Men are beyond complicated and annoying!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hey Ryan. I'm taking this opportunity to write a general message and thank you. I discovered your channel a few weeks ago with "The 7 Stages How Men Fall In Love" and ever since I've been binge watching through your catalogue of videos. You're my new favourite dating coach and your advice has changed my life! I've been putting guys off for years, guys who were ridiculously interested at first. I'm so disappointed it's taken me this long to find out how to approach dating so as to maintain the relationship. I look forward to continuing to learn from you and even more so, having a lasting relationship because I've learnt to slow down and let him take the lead. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. (And I totally agree with your texts of course!! Good confirmation. Just wanted to post on your most recent video.)
This made my day, Bethany!! Thank you so much for taking the time to write this message! 🙂I'm so happy to hear these videos are helping you in this way. You're most welcome and I'm very glad to have you as part of this awesome group 🙏🏼
I'm always the one who asked questions, did greetings, start the conversation and have the last words in our discussion. He keeps me hanging. Now I know. I just wasted and wasting my time if I still continue.😔
Same 😔
You know what Ryan ..... I am WAYYY older than you (nearly 50 years old) and happily engaged to elope this summer, so I don't really "need" your videos so to speak ... but stumbled across your channel recently as I am off work from my little retirement mall job during the pandemic. Your videos have given me some insight on how to improve my communication with my honey! Good content for single folks and old crusty soon to be married folks alike. Great job! -- A retired 23 year veteran child protective services investigator
Love that, Heather! Glad the videos are enhancing your communication with him! 😀Thanks for checking out the channel!
@Spooky Spectre .... correct! I will turn 49 in June .... 49 years YOUNG. I like that!
I have a question for you, Ryan. I know how you said that NOT “putting all your eggs in one basket” and not being available to a guy 24/7 raises your value, how it’s okay to talk to other guys as well while this guy is initiating talking. So my question is, what about from the guy’s perspective? Is it okay for him to be talking to more girls than one at a time? Or is that considered leading girls on? What are your thoughts on this? I guess my thought is, it shows he doesn’t want to commit, and I wouldn’t even want to waste my time with someone who just wants attention from multiple girls.
I believe you answered your own question dear
For me (imma a male) I talk to multiple women, not because I want attention from them, but because they are genuinely my friends. For me (dunno bout other guys) if a girl got mad at me because I was talking to other girls (who are my friends and who I am not interested in) it would make me frustrated. Also for me (again don't know about other men) I doesn't mean I don't want to commit it means I just want more people as my friends (I don't have very many friends as of now so I'm always trying to make new ones).
Everyone is free to talk to him whom they want to until there's a commitment.women take things so seriously they think one date means you're headed down the aisle for marriage... We need to learn to relax and still have our standards... Things will happen organically and naturally not Forced...don't sleep around and yet don't wait by the phone..find a balance 😊
You got to think of it like this... do you grab the first avocado you see? No you feel around for the one that's the best..ripe?
(I think) everyone needs to keep their options open in dating until they're ready to be in a mutually exclusive relationship.
People need to grow up and take things as they come
How does that apply here, Sam?
People, this is sad. Texting is not real communication. If a person won't meet you IRL from the initial meet be it online or IRL, move on. Avoid texting in general. Real life, phone calls, even e-mail is more authentic.If all he does is text then he isn't interested, he just needs instant gratification, acknowledgement and"likes". Women with self-esteem don't participate in text dependency.
Well now it’s pretty obvious he doesn’t like me anymore.
I feel you lol
Hang in there girlie! We're all in the same boat honestly
My boyfriend did literally all of this when we first started texting 😁🎉
Older men don't use emoji that much, one reason is because they really don't know what many of them mean
So true
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So true Ryan! Coming from a guy behind those kinds of texts, I have to say Ryan nailed it. You're letting out our secrets here bro! :D :D :)
Well tell me, i just started seeing someone🤗, but now due to covid19 we just sent textmassages. Why is it that sometimes he ends our texting with an😘 and other times with an 😉?
Thanks @Spooky Spectre!🤗 Yes, it is possitive, his texts and the emoji's as well ! 😁👍
Lol.....that's not hard to discern at all. However it doesn't mean much in the long run. A guy like you can use this short term to get a girl chatting back but it doesn't mean much if someone is inherently dishonest in real life.
Boom! Uh oh, the guys are on to me! 😄A couple secrets never hurt I suppose. Thank you!
Both great ways to end a text convo, I'd say. Why not try and kick it up to a virtual date with him? 🤷🏻♂️
I appreciate your opinions shared here! I am dating a guy for about a month now and it seems he is interested, as am I! Fingers crossed it continues this way!
Also I’ve noticed when guy likes you he always say your name in conversation but also over texts.. that really works for me and i can easily see if he likes me
RYAN. You always look so happy. I love that!!
I'm pretty darn happy Marlee, thanks for noticing! 😝
That moment you realize you, a girl, send the texts this guy talks about in his vids. Damn must I really be the guy in my efforts hhh 😔
My newish bf likes to text me pics of things I said I liked , that he sees during the day. EG I love T-rex 🦖 and when he sees it in any book he texts a pic. Just shows he remembers and thinkin of me ....
Aww that's so sweet
@@Euphoria7777 hii army 💜
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How sweet! Lucky you 🍀
My crush did this to me too. But then again he ended up only using me for his ego lol
Everyday saying "Good morning gorgeous" with no conversation. No other text or stimulating conversations. I wonder how many other he's texting "Good morning gorgeous""...i know it's a list of other women. 😂
I said the same thing. I am probably like girl number 5 on that gud morning beautiful text..
Him: Hey, checking in
Me in my mind: (What am I? a Hotel?)
Him: How you doing?
Me in my mind: (Who do you think you are... Joey of Friends??)
Real me: (does not answer till the next day)
LOL 😂. I love it! 👍🏽 ♥️
Lol. That's the real FORCE and it may be with all of us ladies :D
"What am I a hotel?"😂😂
@@swiftkarma4436 LMAO! NOW I GET IT! 😁
I think his checking in is sweet. Why the need to play games? Sure you can respond the next day if he texts you in the middle of the night, but otherwise why not respond when you get his message? I don’t understand.
Thank you. I can see he was into me, but then he ghosted me and gave me the, ,",you deserve better speech" I've found that's not worth the decoding, so I gave it an honest effort and now we're still friends. Wasn't meant to be, but we had a lot of fun. We're not internet friends, I don't text.
I got a kind text the other day: You made my heart happier the day I met you.
😊 that made me really happy.
My crush texted me after a thunderstorm and asked me if I ended up toasting 100,000 pieces of bread, which I previously pointed out you can perfectly do with a single bolt of lightning 😅
I was dating a highly influential doctor and he way overused the imojis. I just felt like he wasn't willing to communicate. He did turn out to be a player and I dumped his ...
I love the enthusiasm of Americans 👍🏼
Lots of love,
A Brit!
WORDS MEAN NOTHING, ACTIONS DO!!!! Later on in a relationship!! 👌🏼
I get mixed feelings 😅😂
I've definitely found that people can be SOO different from their texts! I wish I got the check in text sigh, but alas it's usually in a sexual context
Unfortunately, it's easy for guys to fire off those sexual texts, because he doesn't have to actually sit in front of you to catch your reaction and suffer any negative consequences if you didn't like it; he can just move on to the next girl. The upside is huge tho if you're into it because...well, he might get some! 🤷🏻♂️
Omg I can't even imagine firing off that text to a woman... 😖😖
It can be just the opposite too. A guy might text u a lot, but see other girls at the same time. Words dont mean a lot nowadays unfortunately
Fantastic advice as always! I did it after watching last week's video...I let the guy go! 😊 In the last week I've followed up on a dream by buying a kayak, I'm starting to feel better in myself, & I'm excited about what might come next - so thank you 🙏
Yay!
Great job, Kate! WOW *making moves*!!! So inspiring to read this and I'm sure you've got some superb things coming your way 😎🙌🏼 Keep it up!
Whoop Whoop! 🙌🏼🙌🏼
Thanks for confirming a guy friend of mine likes me. He even sent me a box of sculptures for my birthday that he made. They were so amazing. Plus drawings. He asks about my family and heavy emoji usage.
Love your videos. They are straight to the point with no fluffing to extend the video.
And the advice is clear and easy to understand 👌🏼 thank you.
Thanks Kriistyyanne! 😀
Okay so I realized I'm the one who does these not him he replies late 😑😭 imma find a new crush now 😭😭😭😭
What are your views on text conversations that continues until the next day(many days)? When both parties don’t end the conversations each day but someone answers the next morning and continuing this for multiple days?
I need the answer to this as well! It's just one continuous conversation
At some point one of you most likely the guy will get bored because texting can only do so much. you're probably telling him way too much info about yourself which doesn't leave any mystery or much to talk about on a date. He has no incentive to call you. When it comes to texting less is best. You want him to progress to voice messages, phone calls, video chat, and then a date
I'd say *you* need to be the one to interrupt the on-going pattern of the "never-ending text" to slow its roll. Letting it continue on this way gives it a serious opportunity to fizzle out and crash-n-burn fast, so I'd suggest not being readily available to respond to him(keep up with all other areas of your life) and maybe suggest you guys do a virtual date to "level up" the conversation. You always want to get to that next level of commitment from him; otherwise things go idle and stale. If you're not getting the next level and stuck in one gear too long, on to the next guy 😉
Break up the flow and just don't be super predictable with your response times. Have other things going on (and let him know you're a busy girl) and genuinely *be* busy so he doesn't become too much of a focus for you too soon 👍🏼
@@datingcoachryanpatrick Thank you for your lengthy reply Ryan! I appreciate you taking the time to consistently reply to your viewers' comments. It makes you stand out from other dating coaches 😊 I just hope breaking up the flow and replying after a longer amount of time won't seem as though I'm playing games/messing around with the guy (even if I'm busy)
I think this guy cares and has more consideration than most. Every guy I've met was about themselves.
He was texting me every morning and when I busy at the work,he said have a nice day!
How do I understand the guy.
Really appreciative that you here have done some real studying on yourself and other guys to get content and also put it all together to make such descriptive videos. Not everyone can do this.
Oh dear, I'm done with men. I'm ready to be with a lesbian
They are just as confused. It's a people thing. Just pray for the right person to enter your life and keep the rest away. Use your spirit of discernment. 😉
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You’ll have the same problems. People are people are people. We should all be so lucky to meet our soulmates. In the meantime, I’m my own soulmate and I never ghost me.
Ugh fr I’m not bi no more 😔 girls here I come 😂 but fr doe why do guys have to be so confusing
Sara Sike baby girl tell me about it, I am done with all these mind games😩
I usually don’t follow these ! But I’m glad I did. I’m married with a 3 month old. An lawd this made me feel better. It’s sad that texting has got this far 😒😞😭. I can say I’m blessed. He doesn’t leave me alone an I’m blessed for that!
Any advice on this text?
Him: "Sorry. I just haven't really wanted to get out much this week. I'm trying not to eat out much. I just came home and crashed"
Me: Yeah I understand about the not wanting to eat out as much. Honestly I just wanted to spend some time with you 😊.
Him: I know. I'm just not feeling particularly social
Casey, he's not interested. NEXT! 👉👉👉
am getting before and after I met him.. he never gets tired of letting me know that he is doing okay and checking if am doing okay. Even on his busy hours driving he will use his side chick (siri) just to make sure he can communicate with me. I hope he wont change cause am loving it.
I'm pretty sure I'm being "Love bombed" right now. Only because this is exactly what my ex husband did. Sad but good cause I now know the signs. 🙄
My Co-worker messaged this to me, leaving me confused.
I am glad you reached out. I do have a lot of fantastic relationships with people I enjoy talking with and I definitely include you in that category! You feel free to reach out anytime you understand lol! 😊 I would appreciate if someone could decode this for me please 🙏🏼
Haha, Well, I just know that my online crush and I we have been texting daily for 6 months. We actually met once in person after 4 months and still chat and sometimes speak everyday (couldn't meet up again because of the lockdown😭) what an accomplishments! 95% of the time he sends me good morning and good night text with hugs emoji and sometimes with a 😘. It's been pretty consistent and I am still feeling good about us and we occasionally talk naughty but never dirty and sexting.
Hey buddy thanks for opening the week with the texts...
Thank you...good job😋👌🖒
My pleasure, Nicol 😊
I can easily get any guy I want , but only problem is that I don’t know how to keep his interest.. with time it fades away!
Well maybe you have to re-evaluate what can you give to the table. If every guy keep losing interest then the problem isnt in them.
Omg.... This is so true. All this happened to me. It feels nice to hear it and confirm it in this video. Thanks a lot. 💕
I get good morning, in the morning I think it's first thing for him it's usually around 6.30am before he heads off to work, I get during the day if he's not too busy, what's doing, and I get photos of some of his work, , um, we haven't met yet but plan to in about 1 week
This was SO helpful. Didn’t know if he likes me…now I know he does!! :)
He would send me songs or RUclips videos like every other day and ask what I thought about them 😁
Glad I watched this! Now I know no guy has ever liked me 😂
The best text to me:
The guy I date now CALLS me every night. 😇 It's hot
My man friend who I like as more than friend started calling me every day in the last month or so. He never called in the past. We’ve been friends awhile. He brings me food, supplies, got my prescriptions for me. Idk if this is him being a friend or him feeling more. I was in the hospital last year for 3 weeks and he didn’t act this way. He visited and called but not all the time.
Just talk about it with him maybe! Then there is nothing to regret 😘
Don’t expect it to happen every night...because it won’t. Especially if he is a physically attracting dude.
Nice
@@berryjames3756 he is attractive, called me Every Day and now lives with me. Planning to get married next year on an island. This is it, he is it and it is amazing! 🎉🎊🎊
"Good morning, got a late start but wanted you to know I dreamed about you last night, and it was good" we r meeting Saturday!! Finally Ryan a guy that checks all the good boxes. Thanks for all ur advice
I don’t know if you’ve talked about this but how do you know someone wants to continue a relationship after a breakup/fight?
fights should always have to be talked over and forgiven. The rest will show with time, I guess, like if efforts are made to keep in contact, for example
Recently a guy told me I was a bit intimidating and the first time he met me I walked up to him and his friends 'and that took balls' -- and "I knew I had to kiss you that night" -- this was a year and a half after that night we recently reconnected and it was our second date when he said that. Prior we only went out that one night and I didn't hear from him.
The guy I was messaging before CV19 is giving me all this, we've just got to meet now but we have to wait! Its driving me mad!!
I’m in the same situation. It SUCKS.
I straight out asked him OVER THE PHONE “where is this going? We text more than me & my best friend” and he said he saw us more as just friends bc our career paths didn’t line up. By me asking, I got to move on and knew the truth. And it hurt because I knew that I had convinced myself to like him from the very beginning when I knew we weren’t compatible. So don’t waste time ladies
I’m curious as to what exactly he meant by ‘your career paths didn’t line up’
AdaBekee He is going to be a doctor and I’m an entrepreneur and my family owns several businesses. I won’t be able to be home & home-school the kids nor do I want to
Nora Peace
So he wants a wife who will be at home to homeschool the kids? Lol
AdaBekee yes.. that’s how he was raised
What if he puts an exclamation point at the end of every text !!! lol
Awwww --- my guy does all 8! XOXO ~~~smiling~~~
I would like more compliments like I’m beautiful. How do I get him to do that. He’s doing many of the other things. Lots of good points thank you.
The best way to do this is making a guy feel *great* and saying "thank you!" the first time he compliments you on something (even if you don't necessarily agree with the particular thing he's chosen to highlight). Doing that will encourage him to say more nice things because he now realizes it makes you feel good 😉
I get a hey beautiful...or gm gorgeous and it makes my day
..I always thank him ..and I call him handsome ..or wise guy ...hes from New York ..
Wow! My guy has done ALL of these kinds of texts, including showing off and heavy emoji use! My favorite emoji use was when I was very late to birthday party of a mutual friend. It said, "There's an ariel sized absence here! :(" Aww, that turned my heart into pudding. He also asked me about the walker I was using because apparently he was speaking to another mutual friend who saw me with it! He's done plenty of quick draw texts and usually does the "last text." He also thanked me by text for a picnic I put together for us and repeated his desire to treat me.
These are all dead on as always Ryan🏆
If a guy sends consistent Quick Draws🤯 he's probably a future Husband🌟🤵🏽.
#HolyGrail🏺 #Unicorn🦄 #DoesntExist
Thanks K Dub! 😄
I might be naive but I think it’s just easy to tell when a guy likes you - when I look back at my serious boyfriends there was never really a period where I wondered does he like me, beyond initial meeting. If he likes you he’ll be in contact, he willl be asking you on dates and you won’t fret or wonder where he’s disappeared off to. Compare that with guys who I have had a crush on who were in intermittent contact etc where I did wonder - they didn’t like me or we would have been together properly!
Best part of Monday mornings!!
OMG Casy that's incredibly sweet of you to say! 😊Thanks for watching my vids all this time 👊🏼
Wow! Had no idea about the last word. Interesting......you know all your videos have made me become more aware....even watching movies I am like “oh he called her crazy” that means he likes her! 😂😂😂😂😂
Hahaha yup we guys can become pretty transparent after I end up spilling all our secrets 😆😁
Ryan Patrick 😂🙌
A guy I knew did almost all of these and still wasn’t crushing on me or anything 🤔. But that was just a one time thing and I think these are all true for most guys
Met a new guy about 3 weeks ago. We chatted through text for about a week before we met. We had a long conversation in a parking lot (thanks Coronavirus) and he literally texted me before I even made it back home telling me that I smelled good and his truck now smelled like me. We’ve been chatting every day and have plans to meet in a couple of days again. He’s very nice and attentive so far, not clingy but he does check in with me several times a day just to let me know I’m on his mind. There have also been numerous days of good morning and goodnight texts. I’m sooo eager to see where this goes!
I just watched this and the one of him not liking... He is a jumbled mess of both. :/
Edit: 9/18/2020, I forced him to admit he didn't like me the same way. A year of pain later. He apologized. Admitted he was in the wrong and should have done it a long time ago... So, I explained how much more he hurt me by just unintentionally toying with my emotions vs just rejecting me long ago.
Interestingly enough some guys don't like texting.Had a guy say he turned my volume down. So I stopped texting for 2days,then he calls me out of the blue seeing what I was up too. He came right over to help me with a project. I agree guys are wanting to chase you. And sometimes they get moody or have been hurt. Relax, keep yourself on his mind,but give space when you need. Guys are complicated as much if not more then women. And this guy definitely gets a lot correct
What if a guy, out of nowhere, told me that a song he heard reminds him of me?
I guess it depends on which song and why. Make him explain more to see if that’s actually true or if he’s just giving you a bogus line to keep you strung along 👍🏼
@@datingcoachryanpatrick oh, okay thanks!! 🤭🥺
If a guy likes you he's gonna double or triple text you no matter what, he's gonna check up on you like mad.
Loved your insight and tips!
Thanks Christiana! 🙂
Great content! The decoding tutorials definitely come in handy for someone who at times has a bit of, what I call, stubborn-challenge and not accepting the reality of the situation. Oh, by the way, you possess a beautiful smile. I’m impressed by your overall informational videos, so thank you.
That explains why he never lets me text lastly... like he always have to be the last one.. when I asked him about it, he says he feels more comfortable that way so I just leave it at that 😅
I love all these tips. I wish i watched this kind of videos 7 yrs ago before i wasted so many yrs on the wrong guy
My situation is we are friends. And have ticked most of these boxes. So sounds like maybe there could be something more!?
Mel that’s what I’m worried about! I think my situation could be more but we are friends. What if he’s interested in texting me because we are friends, not because he sees me romantically
Sometimes I wonder that myself but a couple of things he’s said I’m unsure of like ‘it’s good to see you!!’