I’m watching this so I can better understand my bf and how I can help him, we’re both in our mid 20s and I know this is a hit to his confidence and sometimes mine but I try to remind myself that it isn’t about me, it’s about him and nothing I’ve done or he’s done caused this.
I'm struggling with PIED. During the process of dealing with the issue I stopped dating because of the embarrassing experiences. I feel like dealing with it alone is less painful than with a partner. Any thoughts?
This is really different from person to person. On one hand, it requires a lot of vulnerability if you want to date someone because you would have to choose someone nurturing who will make you feel safe around this issue, they might also help keep you accountable and give you something to look forward to if you abstain from porn. On the other hand, porn addiction is something that some people aren't okay with and could lead to some really uncomfortable conversations. When you're dealing with PIED there isn't really a right way. Being single and being in a relationship both have their advantages and disadvantages. Once you get past the porn part if your ED isn't gone, this HAS to be worked through in a relationship.
@@JDWAYNEE Is that the only way? No, but it's a lot easier to work through it in a relationship because if you have something deeper than just sex, there is less pressure on sex. A big part of healing ED is just learning how to make yourself more comfortable in sexual situations. Stop doing the things that make you feel anxious and do more things that make you feel comfortable.
But how do i know if i am the reason why he has this problem? He told me its a mind thing. We are new in the relationship but of course i am starting to get insecure about it because i dont know if he thinks something about me is ugly? He tells me he is happy, in love and that i am beautiful but still what if he has this problem because i am not attractive enough?
I've been through this myself and I've worked with a LOT of men going through this. I can promise it's not about you. A good way to think about this would be to imagine he is in a similar state to if he was being attacked by a tiger while he is trying to have sex with you. You wouldn't expect him to get an erection while being attacked. He isn't scared of you, but he is scared. What he needs is to be comforted, and what you need is to stop worrying yourself about whether you aren't attractive enough. Most likely he is very attracted to you and is frustrated that he can't have sex with you the way he wants. The more you can worry less about your role in his ED (because it's not at all your fault) and focus on helping to comfort him, the better off you will both be.
Definitely not you. You are not the problem and while it’s difficult for him, it’s very frustrating for you as well. Guys talk and just by researching you will see how you are not to blame. Some guys don’t want to take pills but if it’s a mind thing, a pill could help. Get a prescription and I’ve heard of how some guys start with a pill, then half a pill, then a small bite and then no pill at all. Worth a try. Good luck
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I’m watching this so I can better understand my bf and how I can help him, we’re both in our mid 20s and I know this is a hit to his confidence and sometimes mine but I try to remind myself that it isn’t about me, it’s about him and nothing I’ve done or he’s done caused this.
Thank you for sharing this, are you finding things have changed or improved? I'm researching how to best support my partner
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I'm struggling with PIED. During the process of dealing with the issue I stopped dating because of the embarrassing experiences. I feel like dealing with it alone is less painful than with a partner. Any thoughts?
This is really different from person to person. On one hand, it requires a lot of vulnerability if you want to date someone because you would have to choose someone nurturing who will make you feel safe around this issue, they might also help keep you accountable and give you something to look forward to if you abstain from porn. On the other hand, porn addiction is something that some people aren't okay with and could lead to some really uncomfortable conversations. When you're dealing with PIED there isn't really a right way. Being single and being in a relationship both have their advantages and disadvantages. Once you get past the porn part if your ED isn't gone, this HAS to be worked through in a relationship.
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@@JDWAYNEE Is that the only way? No, but it's a lot easier to work through it in a relationship because if you have something deeper than just sex, there is less pressure on sex. A big part of healing ED is just learning how to make yourself more comfortable in sexual situations. Stop doing the things that make you feel anxious and do more things that make you feel comfortable.
But how do i know if i am the reason why he has this problem? He told me its a mind thing. We are new in the relationship but of course i am starting to get insecure about it because i dont know if he thinks something about me is ugly? He tells me he is happy, in love and that i am beautiful but still what if he has this problem because i am not attractive enough?
I've been through this myself and I've worked with a LOT of men going through this. I can promise it's not about you. A good way to think about this would be to imagine he is in a similar state to if he was being attacked by a tiger while he is trying to have sex with you. You wouldn't expect him to get an erection while being attacked. He isn't scared of you, but he is scared. What he needs is to be comforted, and what you need is to stop worrying yourself about whether you aren't attractive enough. Most likely he is very attracted to you and is frustrated that he can't have sex with you the way he wants. The more you can worry less about your role in his ED (because it's not at all your fault) and focus on helping to comfort him, the better off you will both be.
Definitely not you. You are not the problem and while it’s difficult for him, it’s very frustrating for you as well. Guys talk and just by researching you will see how you are not to blame.
Some guys don’t want to take pills but if it’s a mind thing, a pill could help. Get a prescription and I’ve heard of how some guys start with a pill, then half a pill, then a small bite and then no pill at all. Worth a try. Good luck
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