I'll never understand why it's greedy to keep what you worked hard to have. If you work to obtain money it is no one's business what you do with that money..
@@journalsfromdavid well considering I know in my area there is a shelter that can help them but it requires them to stay off drugs. Meaning he is making the choice to actively not help himself. Meaning he doesn't want to get off drugs. Which means if I keep giving him money he's going to keep coming up to people and asking them for money reinforcing that bad behavior that nobody likes to see when he already has a shelter he can go to but he refuses to follow the rules. So you're telling me that I have to follow the rules in my own life and have personal responsibility but yet someone can keep bugging me yet I don't bug other people? Thank you for allowing him to have double standards and me not to have double standards. You're starting to piss me off in this conversation
that just happened to me today! some poor woman did just that and now i'm prejudice and racist. plus she claims to be half-asian and she knows somebody that looks like me who can help out than me. i should've say, if you know him, then go ask for his help! geez.
Pamela Satterfield I’ve had to work two jobs to make rent, bills, food, insulin, etc. If I just give money to every panhandler I encounter, I’d probably end up along with them. Am I still a heartless bastard for taking care of myself first? Stop assuming that we’re rich just because we’re not homeless
@@jonathanpascual5353 no i see your point but i HAVE SEEN HOMELESS GIVE A REGULAR PERSON MONEY GO OUT OF THEIR WAY TO HELP OTHERS WHEN THEY HAD NOTHING THEMSELVES KEPT A YOUNG GIRL FROM FREEZING IN HER BROKE DOWN CAR GAVE HER HIS ONLY MONEY HE HAD TO HELP HER ITS A FUCKING SHAME THAT SILVER SPOON NASTY FUCKS THAT ARE DOING WELL FOR THEMSELVES THINK ONLY OF THEMSELVES WITH THEIR NASTY FUCKING ASS
Here's a tip to make sure they don't buy drugs. You buy them food, and give it to them. If they politely say 'Thank you' then that means they're not out begging for money for drugs.
I don’t like homeless people why can they just get jobs my parents where immigrants and they were 14 and settled a life and now they have 2 kids in college not me tho am only 13
I saw one homeless lady outside Walmart, sitting on wheelchair, with a board, asking for 'help'. I went inside Walmart, got her ham sandwich, and water. I gave it to her, she said 'she doesn't eat ham'. After that I realized, most of the homeless don't want food, they want money to buy cigarettes or beer.
Thanks for your insights. I quit giving money a few years back. One time I was in Chicago and I had a left over deep dish Pizza and I thought it would be nice to give left overs to a homeless person. He said thank you. About two hours later, I ran into the same guy again and he asked me for money "for food". I said "Didn't I already give you a left over Pizza?" He said, "Yeah but I gave that to my friends'. I have noticed that most homeless people will not take food when you offer it to them, they just want money. Totally not people who are doing everything they can to better themselves. I donate money, but I have found that by giving money to beggars I am just enabling.
A former homeless beggar said she worried about people spitting or worse in the food. Which is why she didn't accept food when her sign read, "will work for food". In the past, I've offered pre-packaged food like homeless advocates suggest, but no one wants that. Had one particularly pestering guy, my boss gave him cash too often, who tried to hit me up as a soft touch too. When I mentioned food kitchens nearby he'd grunt and say he didn't like what they were serving or tell me I should try it out. I felt how ungrateful can a guy be? I'm eating spaghetti and homemade bread tonight so I can stretch my food budget and this guy's trying to pick and chose where to eat.
The last time I gave money to a homeless person was a couple years ago he was holding a sign at the end of the freeway later that week I saw the same guy standing in line at my bank 😐
I drove up to Steak N Shake in Tampa, FL tonight to get a well deserved shake after a long shift waitressing tonight. I was approached by a man in the drive thru asking me for money and I was just thinking..... This man thinks he deserves some of my money that I spent hours on my feet for. I dealt with rude customers, customers who don't tip, my feet hurt, it's 2 am and I'm tired.... And this man, who is always asking for money at this Steak N Shake, thinks my ass is going to give him a DIME of the money I busted my ass for tonight?!?! Hell. No.
Agree, except, don't cry about customers not leaving you tip. Your employer should give you livable wage. Customers are not responsible to pay your bills. If you are not making enough, switch to another job. We don't tip gas station workers, teachers, nurses.
@@seemana26 Then maybe your cheap ass shouldn't ever go to a restaurant again. Here is a tip for you: all of your friends think you are a stingy dirtbag and talk trash behind your back and are deeply embarrassed you don't tip
I could go on and on about this for hours after living in a shelter, but I will say that if you want to give money to the homeless then donate it to a shelter, a food kitchen, or a closet. Heck, go find a "on the streets" organization and just ask what they need then go buy it somewhere. So yeah there are jerks out there that pretend to be homeless and are very good at panhandling.
Yes theres also is are real homeless and real people with real problems u know why because charities are a fucking joke asshole they line their pockets and fuck everyone else why dont u try it u rich stuck ip the ass fuck boy
@@pamelasatterfield3407 that's why u do something called research before donating to a shelter or charity. it's easy to choose a shelter that will invest a high percentage of the donations into helping those in need. these charities rly help get money into the right hands. your pretty ignorant to think that all charities are corrupt
Some beggers are sincere? I mean in this world though it is sad, if you don't even try to make friends with one, two persons perhaps you just keep on walking, forever..
Getting a job is so tough as a homeless dude. Even minimum wage jobs require background checks, addresses and what the fuck not! Subway ticket or a ride to get to the interview, good clothes!
Struggling with this some dude always wants me to take him to go buy cigs and help is addictions like drugs and always asking for rides I shouldn’t be helping him what if he looses his mind and kills me im pretty sure some one has died for helping a drug addicted
Yup my sister falls into this category. Before my dad died from cancer for 15 years she would come crying to him every fall from some sort of emergency or need. He would give her 3-5k every time. After which I see all these social media post of a vacation from her.
I will never foroget when I was in Romania as tourist with friends and in train for long 8 hour ride and gypsy kid come selling crosses and so and they told me it goes to alc. What stroke me is parents who sends a kid alone in the train... What I also understand being in Roamania weeks that THIS IS the way they live. I saw a family with little children and 8 year old boy given a cigarette by his mother.. I mean let the people create their OWN destiny! Get away from bad situations by changing associations...
I once saw a beggar with a sign outside the mall once and then a few minutes later I saw him get in the back of a Mercedes that pulled up to him. He just got in like he knew the person driving and was expecting them. Ever since then I don't pay attention to beggars.
So you’re saying that homeless people are too low on the totem pole to possibly have friends with money? Maybe the guy with the Mercedes was just a kind, caring citizen. Maybe he maintained some empathy even through his success. Sadly, most successful people don’t have that empathy anymore.
Just because you have been lucky enough to find employment and shelter and support, doesn't mean everyone is. Get out from under your rock, look at the real world and try to help.
One time i stopped to give a few bucks to an older man asking for money on the side of a busy roadway. I said id find some more for them but didnt want to stop traffic, they said dismissively "thats what you have insurance for". Another time, a lady at a gas station got $5 from me, gave me a cancer story. Saw her 2 weeks later, asked her how her cancer treatments were going, and they said "cancer?" .... needless to say, i dont give these leeches any more of my hard earned oney. Lesson learned.
The best way to be a blessing to the homeless or anyone else is to bless them with the knowledge of how to get out of the situation they are currently in and directing them to social service programs.giving them money does nothing but prolong there stay on the streets.
A few years ago I would give homeless beggars in my gas station $1 dollar each which was like 3 people every time I would stop to fill up my car and even develop a friendship with them hearing them out on their problems and laughing about stuff, but then I realized that here I am, stressing about progressing in life, working a crappy Uber job while finishing my accounting degree, having little money left in my bank after all my college and rent expenses and it really started to piss me tf off every time I see a bum asking for free money because I’m having a hard time trying to progress in life to achieve all my goals and become successful but they’re just sitting in a corner everyday, all day asking for free handouts for not doing shi*. They earn no respect from my part!
I 100% agree. I've live in the richest area of Tennessee since May 2018, and almost every time I get off interstate 65 on the bypass, I see tge same guy with a sign that says 'Lost job, lost truck, lost home, family needs a miracle'. He is clearly healthy enough to do this. A lady who has lived close to me for 12 years says she seen that same man with the same story for the whole 12 years and doesn't know how many years he has done this. He'll have his dog there and sometimes I see him with expensive shoes. One day he cut me off in a new Dodge Demon that is about $90,000 or maybe more. I couldn't believe the beggar had a car like that. He got mad at me for taking a picture of him and his sign and was really rude to me the next few times I drive through to my hard earned residence. I moved to a nice area to get me and my family away from loosers.
I have no sympathy for the homeless in my city, especially how aggressive they are. If I ignore them I get called a dickhead or some other expletive(I just don't want to be bothered by anyone unnecessarily). If I say I have no money I'm usually met with the same response and I'm just like wow sorry I guess?? Really grinds my gears.
Not every homeless person deserves to be ignored but most do. If they’re on drugs it’s one thing but if they’re doing everything they can trying to be good people you’re the one that’s the asshole.
This one time I was in Melbourne city and I walked past a homeless person he asked me for some money and i gave him 5 bucks,then the ungreatful bastard had the nerve to ask me for 20 bucks pissed me off.
Completely agree. Vast majority of homeless people are drug addicts and the number one cause of homelessness is drug addiction and I don’t feel comfortable being complicit in their drug addiction. That being said, homeless people who actively are looking for work or are being productive to society in any way are those that I will help, but I won’t help those who are not trying to help themselves.
I never give to beggars. Some beggars are manipulative and will remember you and then keep begging everytime they run into you. The people claiming "thats harsh!" do not understand not all homeless people fall on hard times through no fault of their own. Many of them waste their money on drugs, alcihol and even abuse their children. Also, some beggars will get angry if you dont give them "enough." Ive seen people who fell for the "please help, I need food" scam. You try giving them 2 slices of pizza or 2 mcchickens and they will scream and say "BITCH I WANTED A 10 DOLLAR COMBO!"
It's way of life. I read in Guardian Weekly also, some who were given apt. are back to the street, it is a 'rush' but I will never understand this kind of adrenaline rush :))
Whenever homeless people ask for food money, I always offer to buy them something super cheap from McD’s. I’d say 90% of them turn it down and say something like “No no, money’s fine”. Be wary of giving money to homeless because I’m not interested in enabling bad habits
You aren't doing anyone favors by feeding them McD food. Give them something that won't have easily predictable negative consequences, where whatever harm done is something that's not so obvious.
@@jonathanpascual5353 I wouldn't. Doing that is opening up an entire new can of worms. Better to just leave them be than to feed them stuff that'll just make them sick. And that's precisely what'll happen if you do it too often and it gets to be a habit. Leave them to someone else or give them something better suited for frequent human consumption that doesn't have clear harmful impact. Try to give good and useful advice. It's like allowing children to have dessert when it's not necessary. Let them have it when they can afford it.
In Mexico there are a lot of homeless people trying to sell stuff like the women and child typically sell handmade bracelets, candies, chips, or some sort of toy. They double the price than from what they brought it. Ex: a small bag of chips that costs $1 and they sell it for $1.50 or $2:00 (well in pesos) And you can see where their little tents are where them and their children sleep. My parents tell me to not give people holding up a sign begging for help. The only time my parents gave money to a person holding up a sign was because she was really old and well at her age she should not be even working. There is another “homeless” guy that holds up a sigh asking for help. My mother went to the bank he was there. My mom asked the lady that was helping him and she said “don’t tell anyone but, he has his own good bank account with some good money to pay rent” ( something like that) So holding up a sign asking for money was his “job” If anyone read all of that you are a legend!
I feel so stupid and angry. I should’ve never given this street begger money just earlier today. Dude used his charisma and my kindness to take advantage of me. I thought about what happened deeply even tho it’s about $25. That money could’ve been used for many other things. Now regardless of whom I won’t be helping them. Us hard working people shouldn’t feel obligated to help. Regardless if we’re hard working or not it’s our money. At least I could reflect and grow from this situation. But for now I’m very disappointed in myself. Even if it was $5.
One time I was in a mall and a guy came up to my dad asking if he has money and my dad offered to buy him food or take him to a restraunt but the guy denied and a said he just wanted money! The guy probably just wanted to buy cigarettes or something smh. I’m not saying don’t give money to someone just make sure they need it or buying them food is better
Oh shit I live in Tampa too, had a problem with a homeless guy coming up to me after work and wasn’t sure if giving him money was the right thing to do. Totally never giving money away again.
At least the guys who have the Street Sheet Newspapers are offering something. The ones with the signs are the biggest scammers. Most of them are making a lucrative living. I've seen people roll down their windows and give them $20 even $50 dollars at a time.
A lot of homeless people have mental problems which is an obstacle to getting a newpaper selling job or a sign holding job. A lot of homeless people also aren't homeless and scam up a bunch of money and then go home each day.
It’s not whether they’re homeless, it’s the fact that people in general are begging and panhandling. Homelessness is a waaaay larger situation, in comparison to street beggars. Street beggars give homeless people a bad reputation because there are definitely tons of people without homes who are completely clean, good human beings. The problem is that it’s intimidating to be expected to work in order to obtain anything in life. Some people just aren’t made to work, let alone get far in life. I think a solution would be to inform larger masses of people on why we shouldn’t be giving our money away to strangers. It’s never a good idea.
This a professional insight about donating your money. I donate my money to an actual cause, I donated $10 to orphans and kids in the Philippines because of the typhoons and war.
I discovered that although you think you are helping you are actually hurting them because you are making it easy for them. I stopped doing that shit when I gave one dude $5 and he didn't even say thank you. I was like ok , he expects people to give him something in life. He appreciates nothing because he didn't earn it
How about all these lazy folks begging for money on the internet, using Patreon to get a free vacation? Support the local folks, helping homeless cats and dogs!
trolltothebank not true you do save for example I give to my local knights they get 1 and I save .25 cents this would have been redirected to many functions that be if it the community and myself. Now if I spent that dollar it would not do anything if I invest it I get .07 cents back ... when you have a lot of money like bill gates why do you think they create a nonprofit ... it helps people and themselves be honest with yourself no one doesn't do something for the kindness of doing it unless your mother Theresa.
I got scammed out of $20 and I feel stupid. Yea, I have a similar opinion about giving money to people that work for it as opposed to giving it to somebody who probably doesn't deserve it.
There was a documentary on Tv uk, you may've seen it, where a "homeless" man was begging on the streets, then he went back to his flat! He was dumb enough to show it on Tv.
When I was 22 I used to go around with a friend and she specifically looked at beggars, and one we bought 2 sandwiches to, know what he did? he sat there smoked and he tossed it away said I need smokes! When I was student I was sooo very poor I was nearly homeless but you know a person without friends without anybody is a warning sign and there is reason he is there, alone, begging. Also the psychology of "beggarism" is that people in this case beggers who are given money WILL NEVER stop sitting there! You actually help them maintain this LIFESTYLE. I never give beggars, I saw Romas, I saw some in Norway etc.. Jesus never begged, his disciples too never in the Bible in general it was BAD thing..But you do not help people to maintain bad habits..
Does the $5 rule apply here? lol just kidding John I also have been giving 10% as a Christian for several years now even when my wife and I were struggling greatly. I truly believe that its come back tenfold since I began doing it. Now we are giving closer to 15% and I have zero regrets about it.
I like your position because I've been thinking about what I should do when I see people begging for money, and once this little girl asked me for money and I saw that the lowest I had was a $5 so I gave it since I already took my wallet out, and she just asked for more and that she has sisters and it really annoyed me thinking "I just wasted $5" and she was still trying to make me feel guilty. Bs. Then she ran around the corner of the mall to idk. Also, the people who camp out at the ENTRANCE of fast food restaurants only to trade in change and leave ... With your method I don't have to worry about that stuff anymore.
I use to care about helping the poor alot in my youth but when i got to meet someone of the people living on the streets while working with my church’s mission groups i realized that 90% of the people where poor because of their own bad choices such as drug and alcohol abuse or simply being bad with money after awhile i just gave up on helping them and ever since than i never gave money to the poor i rather help people who are working poor like waitresses at a dinner or my barber ill give really generous tips or leave them a ridiculous tip on their birthday if i know them but as for beggars im done with helping them
Hm, you’re a Christian though? What would Jesus do? How many “beggers” did “Jesus” help. This is why, while I’m a spiritual person, I’m not a Christian cult member. Hypocrites, it’s so sad.
@@melaniedebrow455 Hey there! 2 THESSALONIANS 3:10 For even when we were with you, this we commanded you: that if any would not work, neither should he eat. There is a difference between those who are poor/homeless and those who are just looking for a free handout. Yes Jesus wants us to help those who are weak. But ask yourself is giving money to them helping them? Rather how about you give your money to outreach programs? How about giving your time/energy to giving them a ride to a place they need to travel to? Or what about giving them food/time to listen to them and their problems. Money is not going to solve their problems, its going to make it worse. How would you feel if you gave a homeless person 50 bucks and he went out and got drugs and overdosed? You were the one who enabled that... You didnt help him at all. Be charitable but smart with your money.
Was in nyc the other day I grabbed a slice of pizza for lunch. I notice a mumbling homeless man walks in and goes right to the register and asks the guy for some money. The guy behind the register gave him 2 dollars. Then he walks over to me and starts asking me for money I just ignored him. I figure 2 dollars can get you a bag of 99cent plantain chips and a bottle of water. I am just thinking where is this person gonna spend the money? I just kept ignoring him bc he could be on drugs and wants to score again.
I'm currently in an in between spot in life. My entire 20s I was a single mom to a severely disabled child. I was a devout Christian and gave too much. I also took my dad in with no help other than the help I hired so I could continue to work at my sons school. I did my best to stay off the govts dime though there were times when I did need foodstamps for emergencies. But I tried my best. Now my son is with his father and I have two other kids and married to a soldier. Im conflicted on whether I'm too harsh about this principle. Like today, the reason I came to this video was because a single mom with 3 kids went on a buy sell group on fb asking for food for the next 10 days. I asked if shed went to food banks and got emergency food stamps first and she said the food bank didn't give enough and that they would take out what extra they give her in foodstamps from her next payment. I told her yes because it's not supposed to be a handout, just a temporary fix. This prompted backlash from her and another woman calling me judgemental. My thing is, at least exhaust all other resources before you go asking individual strangers if you're truly in need. That's what they're there for
I had my 1st encounter with a supposed panhandler in 2006 who had a fairly decent (groomed with a nice jacket) appearance & I can't decide whether it was right or wrong to give him $5.00 (he claimed he was out of gas). But I never gave anyone anything since (after my Dad said to me "A lot of these guys are just lowlifes looking for free handouts") + I try not to make eye contact or enter/exit a parking lot where panhandlers with signs are standing. Twice earlier this year, I encountered a guy in 2 separate towns (& 2 separate counties) who tried asking me for money, but I gave him none. 1st excuse he used was he was homeless & hungry which was during the 1st encounter, but I managed to get away. The 2nd encounter was when I was leaving the gym in the evening. That same guy came up to me again, claiming his car ran out of gas in a nearby Dairy Queen parking lot & he asked if I could give him a ride. I declined to give him a ride since I don't trust strangers (even his claims of being a good honest Christian weren't enough to persuade me), especially people like him (I'll explain why in a bit), but I offered to go to the nearby Wal-Mart & get a gas container & buy him gas at a nearby station (he was to go back to his car to wait for me). This was a trick my Grandpa once taught to my younger brother & I when he told us that someone came up to him once asking for $0.10 to get a cup of coffee, which my Grandpa offered to buy for him, but the guy wanted money (so obviously, this guy was most likely either a druggie or a boozehound). But the guy declined & then he asked if I could go to the ATM in the plaza & get some money out for him, which I lied & told him I don't go to that bank, but then he said "You can still take money out". I told him I was running late for a meeting & he was like "Please, can't you do it?" & after I implied no again, he was like (with more of a tone) "(sigh) PLEASE, can't you do it? Come on, it'll only take you a few minutes. Help me! I'm having a bad day! I have a daughter at home!" Then I quickly got in my car & then he swore at me, so I thought (pardon my language) "Piss on him. He can go fuck himself" & I drove off. Anyway, I later found out this guy's an aggressive panhandler who's well known throughout my section of the state I live in who goes from town to town between 2 counties & often manages to avoid police (will hightail it if he knows they're coming), but I heard he has been caught & arrested several times (thanks to the idiotic bail reform, he doesn't stay in lockup). There's at least 1 whole Facebook page dedicated to this guy (like people post his whereabouts as a warning to others if they encounter him) + some local radio shows have talked about (& people have called in) about the guy which supposedly triggered a relative of the panhandler. People have shared this relative's post stating that her brother is not only a drug addict, but is also mentally ill + she is pissed that people talk about beating up or even shooting the guy & fears she'll 1 day get a call saying that her brother, the panhandler is dead (OD or murdered most likely). I'm aware some of these people have tragic pasts, but I still refuse to cater to these sob stories & even so much as give them a penny for their thoughts as I don't know which ones are real needy & which ones are just scam artists looking to pay for their next bottle of booze or bag of marijuana. I admit, I joked about giving this guy (the local aggressive panhandler) an envelope full of play money (not Monopoly money, but play money you can get at grocery stores, dollar stores or mini marts), but I wouldn't actually do it. Also, I guess people have suggested he get a job, but he prefers to panhandle, stating he makes more money in a day than some do in a week + he doesn't have to pay taxes. I donate a dollar when stores run charity donations & I give some small change in the Salvation Army bins, but that's about it.
First, in my city there’s so many panhandlers you’ll learn to start ignoring them. I’ve also noticed the homeless that truly need help, don’t beg or ask for money or sit with signs every other day. Personally I don’t believe in giving to panhandlers, won’t do it, if anything maybe food or water, but I don’t hand out money I worked for, to someone doing nothing.
When you u see small children begging for money then immediately call the police. They will arest the person who Whenis forcing them for begging. There may be some kidnapped kids too.
If people try to beg from me.. They have to tell me what they need to use the money for..lots of People say they're hungry... So I usually offer to buy them a meal...I've done it a few times ... even though I'm homeless myself... Me even though I'm homeless I've never asked a penny from anybody I'm homeless going on three 1/2 years... You couldn't tell I'm homeless and I've been homeless for a while..I'd say since I've been homeless I've given meals to atleast 15 people and watch them eat it and then sometimes giving them a few dollars.... there are people out there that genuinely need it .. Why would you give money to the guy that's holding a sign on the sidewalk for a business they're getting paid By that business... i usually never give money directly I've sat down with people as they eat..Or gone into the store with them and tell them to get a few items that they need... And never leaving them the receipt..
I agree with you John. And I also realized that when you help those people out and give them money you are actually encouraging them to keep doing nothing. And probably those people will end up wasting the money you gave because they didn't work hard for it!. Imagine if no one gave those people money then they would start working there butt off.
Usually when my heart says yes, i give them a little money. But Today i was not in the right mood. And i was buying coke, suddenly a girl put a chocolate beside my coke and said can you pay this. I said No. I don't eat chocolate, you don't need to eat chocolate too. She didn't look homeless but she looks poor. Also after me. She paid for the chocolate. But I don't know if i did the right things or not!
The only type of homeless ppl I give money to are either extremely old ppl or physically/mentally crippled ppl, who are literally physically/mentally unable to work. The rest of those homeless ppl who are still very young with perfectly healthy and capable bodies and minds, YES I DO AGREE WHOLEHEARTEDLY should work towards finding a minimum wage job. Contrary to popular belief, not all companies require you to dress like a millionaire to do well in an interview and land a job. Companies like goodwill, Amazon, manufacturing companies, warehousing companies. They literally don't care what you wear (as long as you are wearing SOMETHING to cover up your stank-ass body) because physical appearance does not matter as you will never deal with outsiders, they only care if you can do the job. Besides. Once you get a job and you're first paycheck, you can clean yourself afterwards. You see, when we keep giving them money, whether they be a disgusting alcoholic or smoker or weeder, when we keep giving money they will think "OH HEY. I DON'T FUCKING NEED A JOB! I LITERALLY GET MONEY FOR FREE FROM DONATIONS EVERYDAY! I'M SET FOR LIFE!" So SAY NO TO GIVING ABLE-BODIED HOMELESS PPL MONEY! That way, it will FORCE their lazy bitch ass to find work, otherwise they will un-sadly literally starve to death.
So you think they risk their lives every day living on the streets because "they can't be bothered to work"? Try and see other people's problems just a little bit before you rant about them on your computer in your nice warm home.
Anya Tindall I think that, I KNOW it. Short of severe mental illness a majority of the homeless can’t be bothered to work because it doesn’t fit their lifestyle and I’ve been a addict and I hung with quite few homeless. A job doesn’t understand that the local drug dealer just told you he “has fire”(good drugs) so you have to leave. A job won’t understand you need a beer RIGHT NOW a job isn’t going to understand those things and while these homeless are suffering from mental illness, chemical dependency, and/or other issues .... for most working a honest job isn’t something they have interest in sure they would like to earn the money but for many getting there on time, behaving as expected and just fulfilling the roll needed is something many can’t do and a lot of that comes down to the very reason they’re homeless. And I’ve known homeless who work but they don’t stay homeless very long , they can stay in shelter because they’re behavior hasn’t got them kicked out ... but the average day after day running the streets and panhandling type of homeless generally have no interest in a job.
This happens to me all the time, it’s like some of these folks have a radar, I only give to those spirit urges me to give too, but young guys hanging in front of 7-11 all day with black n milds hanging out of their mouth, is an absolute turn off to me sitting their begging when they appear to be able bodied. Before I was able to use my discernment I would get hustled left and right, by gypsies, so called homeless people and etc. I know first hand what it’s like being homeless, I was homeless back in 2019. But I never fixed my lips to hold up no sign or go begging anyone for anything. I got up, stood up on my own two feet and made something happen. Now I’ll always give food or buy food and water for anyone that’s law, but giving money, yeah no! Especially those who you can sense aren’t being genuine.
Since they passed that law against panhandling here in nashville tenn.its really dropped off alot,sameway in st petersburg florida,but with that being said in nashville most of them ended up in memphis and st petersburg they the homeless that is ended up in tampa now both memphis and tampa are trying to get laws passed making it illegal,bad thing the scammers are making hard for the ones who do need help.great vid and topic.
Went to the store and 3 people approached me, the first person was a genuine person that had to wait for the next train after partying and I had a chat then he asked a cigarette without asking anything else. Then a beggar appeared with the focused approach from miles away to look for everything from money to cigarettes what was a different experience to see another beggar 5 minutes later that approached looked straight at me to quickly change course. Couple minutes later the 2nd and the 3rd person where chatting and scanning all people walking by and it was almost like the 3rd person knew from the 2nd person that there was nothing to gain. The first person did not ask for anything else than cigarettes while he needed the most after hearing the story where he came from and why he in the city where I live. The difference in approach was clear and the beggars appear quick to leave even quicker, the person who asked a smoke started with a chat.
I don't do it often. Rarely even. I need to be in a good mood. I go into Walmart and find a steal of a deal on movies, I am quite happy. As I'm pulling out of the parking lot, the old guy standing at the exit gets the $3 change in my car. I have have given only guy a $10 bill. Just now I went for a job interview which went well, extremely well (I just got the job, actually). I stopped in a grocery store for some medium cheddar and a bag of chips for a chicken sandwich with a breast. I've been planning to make today. I picked up 2 for $8, 200g Reese's Pieces With Peanut just because. I love those. Woman sitting at the exit intersection light, looking down, I rolled down the window, said "hey...." and gave her a bag. She went "aww, thank you... :)" which kind of made me feel good tbh. Its not money, it might not even be a big deal as far as nourisment but I made me feel good and probably her too. I've done that with Cliff Bars at a grocery store for a guy standing outside the don't I think I gave him a pack of cigarettes too.
I go to work every day, barley making ends meet and nobody gives me squat, but I can't just pass over the man saying he's hungry. I guess I'm a sucker. A poor sucker
Aren't charity donations disappearing from the tax forms ? I was thinking of donating again to NPR and my tax preparer told me that can no longer be deducted ! 🤔
i also agree to not giving to anyone who is able to do something with his life but what if the begger is disabled, i mean blind or anything of the same kind. please i need your answer. thanks
Starting this video I thought there was going to be no way we agree on this topic but after hearing your reasoning, it makes more sense than the other way of Thinking
Well judge sorry my friend. I am a homeless building inspector, not a con, use no drugs and have lost almost everything I have. Because of a work injury I worked 20 years missed 3 days. But I follow the judge not less you be judged. I gave money away to hundreds of people in Mexico and the U.S. I have no regrets. Also when someone offers to buy me something to eat I always except.
Donating to kids in India seems to me also like black hole. I am kind of person who donates to science and believes that if science make progress in society, everyone will get better even the poor ones. There needs to be balance. Maybe compare Elon Musk. He is pro science and pouring all the money to advance technology. Mark Zuckenberg would rather cure disease in Africa. Both are valid. I prefer Musk way.
In before titles on PC blogs "John Sonmez the hater of fat people,beggars and kittens". All jokes aside, how do you know that your money goes to people in need? Even with research you can't be sure unless you visit those people frequently. Is that system also based on trust or is there some assurance that those people are really getting your money?
I agree with u on thinking twice before approaching a homeless person however what most of us don't know is a homeless person needs your time more than your cash. Yes it's a good idea to giveaway your cash to someone who works his ass off under the sun because as you said they sure can use that money. Just giving away your money to a homeless person wont help them at all because it is just a quick fix and it might encourage them in a wrong way so next time you approach a homeless person I highly suggest to donate some of your time first, ask him about his story and talk to him and remind him this wont really help him and it will be just a quick fix then go on and donate some cash if you feel like. By doing this you know that you have done your part and the rest is up to them.
Been struggling with this as well and I know that a lot of the people in my community I live on the border of a really literally great town and then if you go about 2 miles down the road and cross the railroad tracks it’s a really not so great part of town. I happen to work in the hospital and that part of town that’s not so great we see the same people begging on the street corners that we see coming in and out of the emergency rooms in on our hospital drug overdose heroin overdose they might not even have clothes to put on to get home when the clothes are being ripped off by the EMS people because they have overdosed and falling out of the bus stop completely unconscious and unresponsive so will gather up money to get them clothes and then they’ll be back in emergency room that night overdosing on something. So they find money somehow.
True, i just gave out 20$ to some lady outside Ralph's that supposedly needed it for her child's Tylenol, buf after seeing this im not going to hand out anymore.
Saw a lady with her boyfriend and two kids in the social grant line at the store. On their way out after receiving their grant money,they stopped at the cigarette counter. They barely have two coins to rub together but still smoke. I mean really there are much better things to spend your handout on. Like food. I would say contraceptives as well, but people can get that for Free where I come from. They smoke drink and procreate, but heck, how about some work???
Twenty dollar bill? You sure are steep under the hypothetical circumstance of feeding the homeless. I don't support beggars myself, but I surely would not give more than one buck. Money does not grow on trees nor fall from the sky like rain. Being stingy and miserly is a better course of life.
When you seem like you’re the type of person that works hard and does good for yourself these homeless guys and crackheads going to think you got money, you’re a target. I always tell them no, life isn’t about handouts you gotta work.
My favorite is the ones that ask for money smoking an 8 dollar pack of cigarettes. Um no!
I'll never understand why it's greedy to keep what you worked hard to have. If you work to obtain money it is no one's business what you do with that money..
They're the greedy ones for asking
@@braxfan683 lol, they’re greedy for asking ? This world is messed up o
@@Keepupthecardio dude just help out the littlest you can, you don't know what happened to them to put them in that predicament
@@journalsfromdavid well considering I know in my area there is a shelter that can help them but it requires them to stay off drugs. Meaning he is making the choice to actively not help himself. Meaning he doesn't want to get off drugs. Which means if I keep giving him money he's going to keep coming up to people and asking them for money reinforcing that bad behavior that nobody likes to see when he already has a shelter he can go to but he refuses to follow the rules. So you're telling me that I have to follow the rules in my own life and have personal responsibility but yet someone can keep bugging me yet I don't bug other people? Thank you for allowing him to have double standards and me not to have double standards. You're starting to piss me off in this conversation
@@Keepupthecardio the fact that you're getting all worked up about this makes you the problem
The problem is people in general want something for nothing, Stop feeling sorry for people who aren’t motivated to do good for themselves.
I helped a family, that stole and burned my home down, after being homeless themselves. I had insurance, and Karma did not lose their address.
You are so right. Those same people will literally try or will stab you in the back.
Got to love it when you say no and they get mad. They asked super nicely but once they hear the answer they don't want they show their true colors.
that just happened to me today! some poor woman did just that and now i'm prejudice and racist. plus she claims to be half-asian and she knows somebody that looks like me who can help out than me. i should've say, if you know him, then go ask for his help! geez.
No you show what a heartless bastard u are
Pamela Satterfield I’ve had to work two jobs to make rent, bills, food, insulin, etc. If I just give money to every panhandler I encounter, I’d probably end up along with them. Am I still a heartless bastard for taking care of myself first? Stop assuming that we’re rich just because we’re not homeless
@@jonathanpascual5353 no i see your point but i HAVE SEEN HOMELESS GIVE A REGULAR PERSON MONEY GO OUT OF THEIR WAY TO HELP OTHERS WHEN THEY HAD NOTHING THEMSELVES KEPT A YOUNG GIRL FROM FREEZING IN HER BROKE DOWN CAR GAVE HER HIS ONLY MONEY HE HAD TO HELP HER ITS A FUCKING SHAME THAT SILVER SPOON NASTY FUCKS THAT ARE DOING WELL FOR THEMSELVES THINK ONLY OF THEMSELVES WITH THEIR NASTY FUCKING ASS
HIDE AND WATCH BITCH BOY
Here's a tip to make sure they don't buy drugs. You buy them food, and give it to them. If they politely say 'Thank you' then that means they're not out begging for money for drugs.
and if they turn down the food you offered them you feel like a complete idiot.
I don’t like homeless people why can they just get jobs my parents where immigrants and they were 14 and settled a life and now they have 2 kids in college not me tho am only 13
I saw one homeless lady outside Walmart, sitting on wheelchair, with a board, asking for 'help'. I went inside Walmart, got her ham sandwich, and water. I gave it to her, she said 'she doesn't eat ham'.
After that I realized, most of the homeless don't want food, they want money to buy cigarettes or beer.
You cannot put all the homeless people in one category! Give when God puts it in your heart!
Thanks for your insights. I quit giving money a few years back. One time I was in Chicago and I had a left over deep dish Pizza and I thought it would be nice to give left overs to a homeless person. He said thank you. About two hours later, I ran into the same guy again and he asked me for money "for food". I said "Didn't I already give you a left over Pizza?" He said, "Yeah but I gave that to my friends'. I have noticed that most homeless people will not take food when you offer it to them, they just want money. Totally not people who are doing everything they can to better themselves. I donate money, but I have found that by giving money to beggars I am just enabling.
A former homeless beggar said she worried about people spitting or worse in the food. Which is why she didn't accept food when her sign read, "will work for food". In the past, I've offered pre-packaged food like homeless advocates suggest, but no one wants that. Had one particularly pestering guy, my boss gave him cash too often, who tried to hit me up as a soft touch too. When I mentioned food kitchens nearby he'd grunt and say he didn't like what they were serving or tell me I should try it out. I felt how ungrateful can a guy be? I'm eating spaghetti and homemade bread tonight so I can stretch my food budget and this guy's trying to pick and chose where to eat.
The last time I gave money to a homeless person was a couple years ago he was holding a sign at the end of the freeway later that week I saw the same guy standing in line at my bank 😐
I drove up to Steak N Shake in Tampa, FL tonight to get a well deserved shake after a long shift waitressing tonight. I was approached by a man in the drive thru asking me for money and I was just thinking..... This man thinks he deserves some of my money that I spent hours on my feet for. I dealt with rude customers, customers who don't tip, my feet hurt, it's 2 am and I'm tired.... And this man, who is always asking for money at this Steak N Shake, thinks my ass is going to give him a DIME of the money I busted my ass for tonight?!?! Hell. No.
Lmao. No matter how much money you give him, he will be back up there begging tomorrow
No one exspects your money u nasty bitch
@@pamelasatterfield3407 beggar spotted. Fuck you
Agree, except, don't cry about customers not leaving you tip.
Your employer should give you livable wage. Customers are not responsible to pay your bills. If you are not making enough, switch to another job. We don't tip gas station workers, teachers, nurses.
@@seemana26 Then maybe your cheap ass shouldn't ever go to a restaurant again. Here is a tip for you: all of your friends think you are a stingy dirtbag and talk trash behind your back and are deeply embarrassed you don't tip
I could go on and on about this for hours after living in a shelter, but I will say that if you want to give money to the homeless then donate it to a shelter, a food kitchen, or a closet. Heck, go find a "on the streets" organization and just ask what they need then go buy it somewhere. So yeah there are jerks out there that pretend to be homeless and are very good at panhandling.
+Christopher Johnson Truth.
Agreed Christopher. Thanks for sharing your insight from your experiences.
Yes theres also is are real homeless and real people with real problems u know why because charities are a fucking joke asshole they line their pockets and fuck everyone else why dont u try it u rich stuck ip the ass fuck boy
@@pamelasatterfield3407 that's why u do something called research before donating to a shelter or charity. it's easy to choose a shelter that will invest a high percentage of the donations into helping those in need. these charities rly help get money into the right hands. your pretty ignorant to think that all charities are corrupt
Some beggers are sincere? I mean in this world though it is sad, if you don't even try to make friends with one, two persons perhaps you just keep on walking, forever..
if no one gave them money, they would eventually stop begging and get jobs
I agree. They make $50-200 a day. It should be illegal to give homeless people money in NYC.
Getting a job is so tough as a homeless dude. Even minimum wage jobs require background checks, addresses and what the fuck not! Subway ticket or a ride to get to the interview, good clothes!
@@mactastic144 it is illegal everywhere. The law isn't enforced
Thats bullshit if u got cancer and cant awhile
Lets get a job and wait three weeks to eat retards
You should do a video about friends and family who ask for money, because I think that's another thing a lot of people struggle with.
+OrbGoblin Great idea. Video coming.
Glad he did one! Just watched it a few minutes ago.
Only one family member, and I have helped but thank God, it has been 3 years of no contact on that person's part. lol
Struggling with this some dude always wants me to take him to go buy cigs and help is addictions like drugs and always asking for rides I shouldn’t be helping him what if he looses his mind and kills me im pretty sure some one has died for helping a drug addicted
Yup my sister falls into this category. Before my dad died from cancer for 15 years she would come crying to him every fall from some sort of emergency or need. He would give her 3-5k every time. After which I see all these social media post of a vacation from her.
I always wanted to dress up real nice and have a sign saying "Please help me make the Mercedes payment!"
Its funny you said that because i had that EXACT SAME idea for a youtube video.
so why don't you do it if your serious then do it
I will never foroget when I was in Romania as tourist with friends and in train for long 8 hour ride and gypsy kid come selling crosses and so and they told me it goes to alc. What stroke me is parents who sends a kid alone in the train... What I also understand being in Roamania weeks that THIS IS the way they live. I saw a family with little children and 8 year old boy given a cigarette by his mother.. I mean let the people create their OWN destiny! Get away from bad situations by changing associations...
I once saw a beggar with a sign outside the mall once and then a few minutes later I saw him get in the back of a Mercedes that pulled up to him. He just got in like he knew the person driving and was expecting them. Ever since then I don't pay attention to beggars.
So you’re saying that homeless people are too low on the totem pole to possibly have friends with money? Maybe the guy with the Mercedes was just a kind, caring citizen. Maybe he maintained some empathy even through his success. Sadly, most successful people don’t have that empathy anymore.
If a person can write up a sign, that person can easily fill out a job application.
Just because you have been lucky enough to find employment and shelter and support, doesn't mean everyone is. Get out from under your rock, look at the real world and try to help.
@@anyatindall5678 nah I’ll help the African kids that are actually in need of my help, not some dumb homeless bozos who fell off.
One time i stopped to give a few bucks to an older man asking for money on the side of a busy roadway. I said id find some more for them but didnt want to stop traffic, they said dismissively "thats what you have insurance for". Another time, a lady at a gas station got $5 from me, gave me a cancer story. Saw her 2 weeks later, asked her how her cancer treatments were going, and they said "cancer?" .... needless to say, i dont give these leeches any more of my hard earned oney. Lesson learned.
Liar. What a shame. Yeah, there are swindlers out there
The best way to be a blessing to the homeless or anyone else is to bless them with the knowledge of how to get out of the situation they are currently in and directing them to social service programs.giving them money does nothing but prolong there stay on the streets.
Yup. Knowledge is key.
A few years ago I would give homeless beggars in my gas station $1 dollar each which was like 3 people every time I would stop to fill up my car and even develop a friendship with them hearing them out on their problems and laughing about stuff, but then I realized that here I am, stressing about progressing in life, working a crappy Uber job while finishing my accounting degree, having little money left in my bank after all my college and rent expenses and it really started to piss me tf off every time I see a bum asking for free money because I’m having a hard time trying to progress in life to achieve all my goals and become successful but they’re just sitting in a corner everyday, all day asking for free handouts for not doing shi*. They earn no respect from my part!
I 100% agree. I've live in the richest area of Tennessee since May 2018, and almost every time I get off interstate 65 on the bypass, I see tge same guy with a sign that says 'Lost job, lost truck, lost home, family needs a miracle'. He is clearly healthy enough to do this. A lady who has lived close to me for 12 years says she seen that same man with the same story for the whole 12 years and doesn't know how many years he has done this. He'll have his dog there and sometimes I see him with expensive shoes. One day he cut me off in a new Dodge Demon that is about $90,000 or maybe more. I couldn't believe the beggar had a car like that. He got mad at me for taking a picture of him and his sign and was really rude to me the next few times I drive through to my hard earned residence. I moved to a nice area to get me and my family away from loosers.
I have no sympathy for the homeless in my city, especially how aggressive they are. If I ignore them I get called a dickhead or some other expletive(I just don't want to be bothered by anyone unnecessarily). If I say I have no money I'm usually met with the same response and I'm just like wow sorry I guess?? Really grinds my gears.
*You get reminded you are a dickhead
probably because of your attitude towards them
Not every homeless person deserves to be ignored but most do. If they’re on drugs it’s one thing but if they’re doing everything they can trying to be good people you’re the one that’s the asshole.
@@frog382 nah fuck those lazy fucks, they ought to get off their asses and get jobs.
This one time I was in Melbourne city and I walked past a homeless person he asked me for some money and i gave him 5 bucks,then the ungreatful bastard had the nerve to ask me for 20 bucks pissed me off.
It happened to me too. The lady never said thank you but kept asking for more after giving her a fiver
probably needed the money to pay for something he needed that cost 20 bucks
Completely agree. Vast majority of homeless people are drug addicts and the number one cause of homelessness is drug addiction and I don’t feel comfortable being complicit in their drug addiction. That being said, homeless people who actively are looking for work or are being productive to society in any way are those that I will help, but I won’t help those who are not trying to help themselves.
I gave away money less than an hour ago and I feel bad that I possibly contributed to this man's destruction. Never again.
When you're right... you're right.
I never give to beggars. Some beggars are manipulative and will remember you and then keep begging everytime they run into you. The people claiming "thats harsh!" do not understand not all homeless people fall on hard times through no fault of their own. Many of them waste their money on drugs, alcihol and even abuse their children. Also, some beggars will get angry if you dont give them "enough." Ive seen people who fell for the "please help, I need food" scam. You try giving them 2 slices of pizza or 2 mcchickens and they will scream and say "BITCH I WANTED A 10 DOLLAR COMBO!"
It's way of life. I read in Guardian Weekly also, some who were given apt. are back to the street, it is a 'rush' but I will never understand this kind of adrenaline rush :))
Sense of entitlement... Beggar's can't be choosers.
I’ll give food away not money
Whenever homeless people ask for food money, I always offer to buy them something super cheap from McD’s. I’d say 90% of them turn it down and say something like “No no, money’s fine”. Be wary of giving money to homeless because I’m not interested in enabling bad habits
You aren't doing anyone favors by feeding them McD food. Give them something that won't have easily predictable negative consequences, where whatever harm done is something that's not so obvious.
TheNotverysocial Me buying cheap food with _my_ money for a homeless person isn’t helpful? I’m not a food bank
@@jonathanpascual5353 I wouldn't. Doing that is opening up an entire new can of worms. Better to just leave them be than to feed them stuff that'll just make them sick. And that's precisely what'll happen if you do it too often and it gets to be a habit. Leave them to someone else or give them something better suited for frequent human consumption that doesn't have clear harmful impact. Try to give good and useful advice. It's like allowing children to have dessert when it's not necessary. Let them have it when they can afford it.
In Mexico there are a lot of homeless people trying to sell stuff like the women and child typically sell handmade bracelets, candies, chips, or some sort of toy. They double the price than from what they brought it. Ex: a small bag of chips that costs $1 and they sell it for $1.50 or $2:00 (well in pesos) And you can see where their little tents are where them and their children sleep.
My parents tell me to not give people holding up a sign begging for help.
The only time my parents gave money to a person holding up a sign was because she was really old and well at her age she should not be even working.
There is another “homeless” guy that holds up a sigh asking for help.
My mother went to the bank he was there.
My mom asked the lady that was helping him and she said “don’t tell anyone but, he has his own good bank account with some good money to pay rent” ( something like that)
So holding up a sign asking for money was his “job”
If anyone read all of that you are a legend!
You don’t get to educate a homeless guy. Just give them some money to make their horrible life a little better for a second.
I feel so stupid and angry. I should’ve never given this street begger money just earlier today. Dude used his charisma and my kindness to take advantage of me. I thought about what happened deeply even tho it’s about $25. That money could’ve been used for many other things. Now regardless of whom I won’t be helping them. Us hard working people shouldn’t feel obligated to help. Regardless if we’re hard working or not it’s our money. At least I could reflect and grow from this situation. But for now I’m very disappointed in myself. Even if it was $5.
One time I was in a mall and a guy came up to my dad asking if he has money and my dad offered to buy him food or take him to a restraunt but the guy denied and a said he just wanted money! The guy probably just wanted to buy cigarettes or something smh. I’m not saying don’t give money to someone just make sure they need it or buying them food is better
then you could always ask would you rather have the money or the thing that cost money upfront?
Oh shit I live in Tampa too, had a problem with a homeless guy coming up to me after work and wasn’t sure if giving him money was the right thing to do. Totally never giving money away again.
yeah but what about gift cards to grocery stores that's what I'd do if i was in a position of the beggar not panhandler
At least the guys who have the Street Sheet Newspapers are offering something. The ones with the signs are the biggest scammers. Most of them are making a lucrative living. I've seen people roll down their windows and give them $20 even $50 dollars at a time.
As someone who is not a city person, this is very good advice, thank you
A lot of homeless people have mental problems which is an obstacle to getting a newpaper selling job or a sign holding job. A lot of homeless people also aren't homeless and scam up a bunch of money and then go home each day.
T Nitram rude stop cussing
@ yeah you're right. A larger percentage of them are drug addicts and alcoholics.
It’s not whether they’re homeless, it’s the fact that people in general are begging and panhandling. Homelessness is a waaaay larger situation, in comparison to street beggars. Street beggars give homeless people a bad reputation because there are definitely tons of people without homes who are completely clean, good human beings. The problem is that it’s intimidating to be expected to work in order to obtain anything in life. Some people just aren’t made to work, let alone get far in life. I think a solution would be to inform larger masses of people on why we shouldn’t be giving our money away to strangers. It’s never a good idea.
@@tylerharris9303 I've never heard of your perspective so thank you for sharing. It's refreshing
This a professional insight about donating your money. I donate my money to an actual cause, I donated $10 to orphans and kids in the Philippines because of the typhoons and war.
I discovered that although you think you are helping you are actually hurting them because you are making it easy for them. I stopped doing that shit when I gave one dude $5 and he didn't even say thank you. I was like ok , he expects people to give him something in life. He appreciates nothing because he didn't earn it
How about all these lazy folks begging for money on the internet, using Patreon to get a free vacation?
Support the local folks, helping homeless cats and dogs!
Many of them are content creators so if anything your comparison is flawed but okay lol
Lol ikr
@@LipstickSuccubus homeless people create content as well, right? It’s all begging.
If I wasn't already giving away 25% of my income, I'd gladly donate 10% of every paycheck. Taxes make my donation budget so easy to manage.
dont u save on taxes when u give to a charity
trolltothebank not true you do save for example I give to my local knights they get 1 and I save .25 cents this would have been redirected to many functions that be if it the community and myself. Now if I spent that dollar it would not do anything if I invest it I get .07 cents back ... when you have a lot of money like bill gates why do you think they create a nonprofit ... it helps people and themselves be honest with yourself no one doesn't do something for the kindness of doing it unless your mother Theresa.
Lmao amen
If the money is taken from you before you get your paycheck, guess what, it's not a donation. You were robbed.
I know that this is an older video, but I feel the need to comment that he is spot on!
Pamela Satterfield
Someone's angry. You deserve to be homeless
I got scammed out of $20 and I feel stupid. Yea, I have a similar opinion about giving money to people that work for it as opposed to giving it to somebody who probably doesn't deserve it.
Having a Career imo would make you even bigger of a Target for Beggars because of how much you make a Fortune/ Net Worth from your Career
I still remember this one time I was eating in KFC and this begger came around to every table. Funny thing is she has a gucchi bag. I said no.
Divergence OMG A WOMAN WITH A RICH BAG ASKING FOR MONEY? DUMB IDEA!
Half these beggers are not homeless
There was a documentary on Tv uk, you may've seen it, where a "homeless" man was begging on the streets, then he went back to his flat! He was dumb enough to show it on Tv.
When I was 22 I used to go around with a friend and she specifically looked at beggars, and one we bought 2 sandwiches to, know what he did? he sat there smoked and he tossed it away said I need smokes! When I was student I was sooo very poor I was nearly homeless but you know a person without friends without anybody is a warning sign and there is reason he is there, alone, begging. Also the psychology of "beggarism" is that people in this case beggers who are given money WILL NEVER stop sitting there! You actually help them maintain this LIFESTYLE.
I never give beggars, I saw Romas, I saw some in Norway etc..
Jesus never begged, his disciples too never in the Bible in general it was BAD thing..But you do not help people to maintain bad habits..
Does the $5 rule apply here? lol just kidding John
I also have been giving 10% as a Christian for several years now even when my wife and I were struggling greatly. I truly believe that its come back tenfold since I began doing it. Now we are giving closer to 15% and I have zero regrets about it.
+Tom Johnson awesome!
Good for u !
Good for you John
Tom Johnson y
I like your position because I've been thinking about what I should do when I see people begging for money, and once this little girl asked me for money and I saw that the lowest I had was a $5 so I gave it since I already took my wallet out, and she just asked for more and that she has sisters and it really annoyed me thinking "I just wasted $5" and she was still trying to make me feel guilty. Bs. Then she ran around the corner of the mall to idk.
Also, the people who camp out at the ENTRANCE of fast food restaurants only to trade in change and leave ...
With your method I don't have to worry about that stuff anymore.
Now they use those kids they do need to go to jail not pass go
I use to care about helping the poor alot in my youth but when i got to meet someone of the people living on the streets while working with my church’s mission groups i realized that 90% of the people where poor because of their own bad choices such as drug and alcohol abuse or simply being bad with money after awhile i just gave up on helping them and ever since than i never gave money to the poor i rather help people who are working poor like waitresses at a dinner or my barber ill give really generous tips or leave them a ridiculous tip on their birthday if i know them but as for beggars im done with helping them
Hm, you’re a Christian though? What would Jesus do? How many “beggers” did “Jesus” help. This is why, while I’m a spiritual person, I’m not a Christian cult member. Hypocrites, it’s so sad.
@@melaniedebrow455 Hey there! 2 THESSALONIANS 3:10
For even when we were with you, this we commanded you: that if any would not work, neither should he eat. There is a difference between those who are poor/homeless and those who are just looking for a free handout. Yes Jesus wants us to help those who are weak. But ask yourself is giving money to them helping them? Rather how about you give your money to outreach programs? How about giving your time/energy to giving them a ride to a place they need to travel to? Or what about giving them food/time to listen to them and their problems. Money is not going to solve their problems, its going to make it worse. How would you feel if you gave a homeless person 50 bucks and he went out and got drugs and overdosed? You were the one who enabled that... You didnt help him at all. Be charitable but smart with your money.
Here's a tip: don't give money to anybody unless you expect something in return.
Was in nyc the other day I grabbed a slice of pizza for lunch. I notice a mumbling homeless man walks in and goes right to the register and asks the guy for some money. The guy behind the register gave him 2 dollars. Then he walks over to me and starts asking me for money I just ignored him. I figure 2 dollars can get you a bag of 99cent plantain chips and a bottle of water. I am just thinking where is this person gonna spend the money? I just kept ignoring him bc he could be on drugs and wants to score again.
Theyre junkies. I have no urge to give them money.
I'm currently in an in between spot in life. My entire 20s I was a single mom to a severely disabled child. I was a devout Christian and gave too much. I also took my dad in with no help other than the help I hired so I could continue to work at my sons school. I did my best to stay off the govts dime though there were times when I did need foodstamps for emergencies. But I tried my best. Now my son is with his father and I have two other kids and married to a soldier. Im conflicted on whether I'm too harsh about this principle. Like today, the reason I came to this video was because a single mom with 3 kids went on a buy sell group on fb asking for food for the next 10 days. I asked if shed went to food banks and got emergency food stamps first and she said the food bank didn't give enough and that they would take out what extra they give her in foodstamps from her next payment. I told her yes because it's not supposed to be a handout, just a temporary fix. This prompted backlash from her and another woman calling me judgemental. My thing is, at least exhaust all other resources before you go asking individual strangers if you're truly in need. That's what they're there for
I had my 1st encounter with a supposed panhandler in 2006 who had a fairly decent (groomed with a nice jacket) appearance & I can't decide whether it was right or wrong to give him $5.00 (he claimed he was out of gas).
But I never gave anyone anything since (after my Dad said to me "A lot of these guys are just lowlifes looking for free handouts") + I try not to make eye contact or enter/exit a parking lot where panhandlers with signs are standing.
Twice earlier this year, I encountered a guy in 2 separate towns (& 2 separate counties) who tried asking me for money, but I gave him none.
1st excuse he used was he was homeless & hungry which was during the 1st encounter, but I managed to get away.
The 2nd encounter was when I was leaving the gym in the evening.
That same guy came up to me again, claiming his car ran out of gas in a nearby Dairy Queen parking lot & he asked if I could give him a ride.
I declined to give him a ride since I don't trust strangers (even his claims of being a good honest Christian weren't enough to persuade me), especially people like him (I'll explain why in a bit), but I offered to go to the nearby Wal-Mart & get a gas container & buy him gas at a nearby station (he was to go back to his car to wait for me).
This was a trick my Grandpa once taught to my younger brother & I when he told us that someone came up to him once asking for $0.10 to get a cup of coffee, which my Grandpa offered to buy for him, but the guy wanted money (so obviously, this guy was most likely either a druggie or a boozehound).
But the guy declined & then he asked if I could go to the ATM in the plaza & get some money out for him, which I lied & told him I don't go to that bank, but then he said "You can still take money out".
I told him I was running late for a meeting & he was like "Please, can't you do it?" & after I implied no again, he was like (with more of a tone) "(sigh) PLEASE, can't you do it? Come on, it'll only take you a few minutes. Help me! I'm having a bad day! I have a daughter at home!"
Then I quickly got in my car & then he swore at me, so I thought (pardon my language) "Piss on him. He can go fuck himself" & I drove off.
Anyway, I later found out this guy's an aggressive panhandler who's well known throughout my section of the state I live in who goes from town to town between 2 counties & often manages to avoid police (will hightail it if he knows they're coming), but I heard he has been caught & arrested several times (thanks to the idiotic bail reform, he doesn't stay in lockup).
There's at least 1 whole Facebook page dedicated to this guy (like people post his whereabouts as a warning to others if they encounter him) + some local radio shows have talked about (& people have called in) about the guy which supposedly triggered a relative of the panhandler.
People have shared this relative's post stating that her brother is not only a drug addict, but is also mentally ill + she is pissed that people talk about beating up or even shooting the guy & fears she'll 1 day get a call saying that her brother, the panhandler is dead (OD or murdered most likely).
I'm aware some of these people have tragic pasts, but I still refuse to cater to these sob stories & even so much as give them a penny for their thoughts as I don't know which ones are real needy & which ones are just scam artists looking to pay for their next bottle of booze or bag of marijuana.
I admit, I joked about giving this guy (the local aggressive panhandler) an envelope full of play money (not Monopoly money, but play money you can get at grocery stores, dollar stores or mini marts), but I wouldn't actually do it.
Also, I guess people have suggested he get a job, but he prefers to panhandle, stating he makes more money in a day than some do in a week + he doesn't have to pay taxes.
I donate a dollar when stores run charity donations & I give some small change in the Salvation Army bins, but that's about it.
First, in my city there’s so many panhandlers you’ll learn to start ignoring them.
I’ve also noticed the homeless that truly need help, don’t beg or ask for money or sit with signs every other day.
Personally I don’t believe in giving to panhandlers, won’t do it, if anything maybe food or water, but I don’t hand out money I worked for, to someone doing nothing.
Do not give to those pretending to live in car, van etc.
they don't need the money. People giving them money is the problem, if no one gave them anything they would have some motivation to do something
Thank u!!! Your video is pretty much what I think about panhandlers
What do you do if you’re waiting on the bus stop in a panhandler harassing you?
And how do people possibly know how much money I have?
I personally don’t give to homeless but I always give to street performers.
They deserve this. They work hard. Being poor is not bad but being a beggar is bad
When you u see small children begging for money then immediately call the police. They will arest the person who Whenis forcing them for begging. There may be some kidnapped kids too.
EVEN THE BIBLE says, IF A MAN SHALL NOT WORK, HE SHALL NOT EAT
If people try to beg from me.. They have to tell me what they need to use the money for..lots of People say they're hungry... So I usually offer to buy them a meal...I've done it a few times ... even though I'm homeless myself... Me even though I'm homeless I've never asked a penny from anybody I'm homeless going on three 1/2 years... You couldn't tell I'm homeless and I've been homeless for a while..I'd say since I've been homeless I've given meals to atleast 15 people and watch them eat it and then sometimes giving them a few dollars.... there are people out there that genuinely need it .. Why would you give money to the guy that's holding a sign on the sidewalk for a business they're getting paid By that business... i usually never give money directly I've sat down with people as they eat..Or gone into the store with them and tell them to get a few items that they need... And never leaving them the receipt..
What if the person is completely broke down. Can not do anything
I agree with you John. And I also realized that when you help those people out and give them money you are actually encouraging them to keep doing nothing. And probably those people will end up wasting the money you gave because they didn't work hard for it!. Imagine if no one gave those people money then they would start working there butt off.
Usually when my heart says yes, i give them a little money. But Today i was not in the right mood. And i was buying coke, suddenly a girl put a chocolate beside my coke and said can you pay this. I said No. I don't eat chocolate, you don't need to eat chocolate too. She didn't look homeless but she looks poor. Also after me. She paid for the chocolate. But I don't know if i did the right things or not!
Just never give strangers cash lol
*strangers* .. I think that says it all. I get a desperate situation can change things but it’s costly to put every homeless person you see first.
The only type of homeless ppl I give money to are either extremely old ppl or physically/mentally crippled ppl, who are literally physically/mentally unable to work.
The rest of those homeless ppl who are still very young with perfectly healthy and capable bodies and minds, YES I DO AGREE WHOLEHEARTEDLY should work towards finding a minimum wage job. Contrary to popular belief, not all companies require you to dress like a millionaire to do well in an interview and land a job.
Companies like goodwill, Amazon, manufacturing companies, warehousing companies. They literally don't care what you wear (as long as you are wearing SOMETHING to cover up your stank-ass body) because physical appearance does not matter as you will never deal with outsiders, they only care if you can do the job.
Besides. Once you get a job and you're first paycheck, you can clean yourself afterwards.
You see, when we keep giving them money, whether they be a disgusting alcoholic or smoker or weeder, when we keep giving money they will think "OH HEY. I DON'T FUCKING NEED A JOB! I LITERALLY GET MONEY FOR FREE FROM DONATIONS EVERYDAY! I'M SET FOR LIFE!"
So SAY NO TO GIVING ABLE-BODIED HOMELESS PPL MONEY! That way, it will FORCE their lazy bitch ass to find work, otherwise they will un-sadly literally starve to death.
So you think they risk their lives every day living on the streets because "they can't be bothered to work"? Try and see other people's problems just a little bit before you rant about them on your computer in your nice warm home.
Anya Tindall I think that, I KNOW it. Short of severe mental illness a majority of the homeless can’t be bothered to work because it doesn’t fit their lifestyle and I’ve been a addict and
I hung with quite few homeless.
A job doesn’t understand that the local drug dealer just told you he “has fire”(good drugs) so you have to leave.
A job won’t understand you need a beer RIGHT NOW a job isn’t going to understand those things and while these homeless are suffering from mental illness, chemical dependency, and/or other issues .... for most working a honest job isn’t something they have interest in sure they would like to earn the money but for many getting there on time, behaving as expected and just fulfilling the roll needed is something many can’t do and a lot of that comes down to the very reason they’re homeless.
And I’ve known homeless who work but they don’t stay homeless very long , they can stay in shelter because they’re behavior hasn’t got them kicked out ... but the average day after day running the streets and panhandling type of homeless generally have no interest in a job.
How do you deal with them? They start harassing people if they get rejected
This happens to me all the time, it’s like some of these folks have a radar, I only give to those spirit urges me to give too, but young guys hanging in front of 7-11 all day with black n milds hanging out of their mouth, is an absolute turn off to me sitting their begging when they appear to be able bodied. Before I was able to use my discernment I would get hustled left and right, by gypsies, so called homeless people and etc.
I know first hand what it’s like being homeless, I was homeless back in 2019. But I never fixed my lips to hold up no sign or go begging anyone for anything. I got up, stood up on my own two feet and made something happen. Now I’ll always give food or buy food and water for anyone that’s law, but giving money, yeah no! Especially those who you can sense aren’t being genuine.
he is like that guy from the first jurrasic park that hid in thr toilets from the T-Rex. damn bro
Broly yes yes he is
I just turned down a panhandler outside a store. I used to give to them but if I’m a woman working, you as a stronger man can work too.
THANK YOU! There is something aggravating about a grown-ass able-bodied man asking another man for a handout because he doesnʻt want to work.
Since they passed that law against panhandling here in nashville tenn.its really dropped off alot,sameway in st petersburg florida,but with that being said in nashville most of them ended up in memphis and st petersburg they the homeless that is ended up in tampa now both memphis and tampa are trying to get laws passed making it illegal,bad thing the scammers are making hard for the ones who do need help.great vid and topic.
I will admit I've been swindled twice by professional beggars. Never again, I utterly loathe them
Went to the store and 3 people approached me, the first person was a genuine person that had to wait for the next train after partying and I had a chat then he asked a cigarette without asking anything else. Then a beggar appeared with the focused approach from miles away to look for everything from money to cigarettes what was a different experience to see another beggar 5 minutes later that approached looked straight at me to quickly change course. Couple minutes later the 2nd and the 3rd person where chatting and scanning all people walking by and it was almost like the 3rd person knew from the 2nd person that there was nothing to gain. The first person did not ask for anything else than cigarettes while he needed the most after hearing the story where he came from and why he in the city where I live. The difference in approach was clear and the beggars appear quick to leave even quicker, the person who asked a smoke started with a chat.
I don't do it often. Rarely even. I need to be in a good mood. I go into Walmart and find a steal of a deal on movies, I am quite happy. As I'm pulling out of the parking lot, the old guy standing at the exit gets the $3 change in my car. I have have given only guy a $10 bill.
Just now I went for a job interview which went well, extremely well (I just got the job, actually). I stopped in a grocery store for some medium cheddar and a bag of chips for a chicken sandwich with a breast. I've been planning to make today. I picked up 2 for $8, 200g Reese's Pieces With Peanut just because. I love those. Woman sitting at the exit intersection light, looking down, I rolled down the window, said "hey...." and gave her a bag. She went "aww, thank you... :)" which kind of made me feel good tbh. Its not money, it might not even be a big deal as far as nourisment but I made me feel good and probably her too. I've done that with Cliff Bars at a grocery store for a guy standing outside the don't I think I gave him a pack of cigarettes too.
I go to work every day, barley making ends meet and nobody gives me squat, but I can't just pass over the man saying he's hungry. I guess I'm a sucker. A poor sucker
im in az homless dude her sells chips and drinks out a cooler in 120 degree weather i give momey to him every time
If you really want to give money to the less fortunate, donate to charitable causes. There are plenty of children that need help.
You gotta earn your money not sell your pride by begging
Donate to a charitable organization and get credit for a tax rebate for your philanthropy like a normal person.
Aren't charity donations disappearing from the tax forms ? I was thinking of donating again to NPR and my tax preparer told me that can no longer be deducted ! 🤔
i also agree to not giving to anyone who is able to do something with his life but what if the begger is disabled, i mean blind or anything of the same kind. please i need your answer. thanks
Starting this video I thought there was going to be no way we agree on this topic but after hearing your reasoning, it makes more sense than the other way of Thinking
Well judge sorry my friend. I am a homeless building inspector, not a con, use no drugs and have lost almost everything I have. Because of a work injury I worked 20 years missed 3 days. But I follow the judge not less you be judged. I gave money away to hundreds of people in Mexico and the U.S. I have no regrets. Also when someone offers to buy me something to eat I always except.
Donating to kids in India seems to me also like black hole. I am kind of person who donates to science and believes that if science make progress in society, everyone will get better even the poor ones.
There needs to be balance. Maybe compare Elon Musk. He is pro science and pouring all the money to advance technology. Mark Zuckenberg would rather cure disease in Africa. Both are valid. I prefer Musk way.
how about disabled homeless or mother with kids?
People in Oklahoma come to your door at night, not just hold the sign.
Ha!
In before titles on PC blogs "John Sonmez the hater of fat people,beggars and kittens". All jokes aside, how do you know that your money goes to people in need? Even with research you can't be sure unless you visit those people frequently. Is that system also based on trust or is there some assurance that those people are really getting your money?
+bojanbr Let's just put it this way. I'm deeply involved with where my money goes. I make sure to check it out 100%.
I agree with u on thinking twice before approaching a homeless person however what most of us don't know is a homeless person needs your time more than your cash. Yes it's a good idea to giveaway your cash to someone who works his ass off under the sun because as you said they sure can use that money.
Just giving away your money to a homeless person wont help them at all because it is just a quick fix and it might encourage them in a wrong way so next time you approach a homeless person I highly suggest to donate some of your time first, ask him about his story and talk to him and remind him this wont really help him and it will be just a quick fix then go on and donate some cash if you feel like.
By doing this you know that you have done your part and the rest is up to them.
+Nima Bagheri Yes. Right on.
I don't give to beggars because I don't want them to think that's ok behavior.
Had no idea you were in Tampa lol. That's awesome
Oh, it's been a long time!
I no longer give anything other than certain services that can help these people because many are not lucky. But I never give money directly
Been struggling with this as well and I know that a lot of the people in my community I live on the border of a really literally great town and then if you go about 2 miles down the road and cross the railroad tracks it’s a really not so great part of town. I happen to work in the hospital and that part of town that’s not so great we see the same people begging on the street corners that we see coming in and out of the emergency rooms in on our hospital drug overdose heroin overdose they might not even have clothes to put on to get home when the clothes are being ripped off by the EMS people because they have overdosed and falling out of the bus stop completely unconscious and unresponsive so will gather up money to get them clothes and then they’ll be back in emergency room that night overdosing on something. So they find money somehow.
Give a man fish you give him food for a day: teach a man how to fish you give him his whole life food.
MY MOM SERIOUSLY DIDNT LISTEN TO ME.
Giving the homeless ppl money is like giving money to drug dealers
True, i just gave out 20$ to some lady outside Ralph's that supposedly needed it for her child's Tylenol, buf after seeing this im not going to hand out anymore.
Well, the beggar might have just watched your video and is trying to make some passive income😂
Thank you so much for your advice
Saw a lady with her boyfriend and two kids in the social grant line at the store. On their way out after receiving their grant money,they stopped at the cigarette counter. They barely have two coins to rub together but still smoke. I mean really there are much better things to spend your handout on. Like food. I would say contraceptives as well, but people can get that for Free where I come from. They smoke drink and procreate, but heck, how about some work???
Twenty dollar bill? You sure are steep under the hypothetical circumstance of feeding the homeless. I don't support beggars myself, but I surely would not give more than one buck. Money does not grow on trees nor fall from the sky like rain. Being stingy and miserly is a better course of life.
When you seem like you’re the type of person that works hard and does good for yourself these homeless guys and crackheads going to think you got money, you’re a target. I always tell them no, life isn’t about handouts you gotta work.
You’re correct. Same as tipping, but I still tip.