After three years of public school we decided to homeschool. A most startling observation was that we went about a month without needing anything at Walmart. While in public school, we were there twice a week. Between special projects, clothes and convenience foods we were endless consumers! In homeschool circles clothes were a non issue. No one showed up in designer anything. Most of the time together we were outdoors or getting messy - most shopped at thrift stores so we had more money for books and activities. Healthiest decision we made all around!
Thanks for bringing this up. I work full time, i have an 8 hear old son, and i feel like I have three jobs, the third one being housework. In order to have some time for myself I go to bed late and I never sleep more than 6 hours, which makes me chronically sleep deprived. But that hour in the evening is what saves me mentally. Big dilemma for me.
I am a grandparent and I appreciate you bringing up the topic of parental burnout. Watching my children raise their own children I can really empathise with their struggles in parenting. I like the perspective of being 'good enough' and that is not easy, as you said. We grandparents have a role in that we can support our adult children by reminding them that they are good parents doing a demanding job, and its okay for them to ease up on their expectations of themselves. As for reading books to grandchildren, it is one of the great but simple pleasures of life. I do think simple pleasures are the key to contentment.
When being a parent of a younger child, you can just lay on the floor and they love to climb over you. This is a win win, personal, close AND RELAXING.
Parent burned out is so true but we have no choice we have to keep on going. As a single mother I had a triple responsibility: mother, father and professionally working person. I did it all and survived stress and everything that goes with it with love for my child. Time goes fast, my daughter graduated college and is an independent person now. I would sacrifice my life again for her with no second thought. Being a parent it is a wonderful thing, challenges always be there. I like to listen to man what they think about being a parent, I wish my child had a father in her life.
When I had my firstborn the doc said I’m burnt out and encouraged me to get paid support (cleaner etc) as no family close by. It’s a shock to the system having to work everything around a new human in your household.
What a thought provoking video on a subject I’ve never heard aired previously. I think we just ‘got on with it’ accepting total exhaustion as a way of life and probably winging it with a mix of bloody mindedness and adrenaline when trying to fulfill a demanding professional career as I did. Fortunately, with no known catastrophes in my case. I truly believe that ensuring a high quality diet and plenty of exercise can make a big difference. We can only do our best with our children with giving them as much love and stability in their lives as we can. Perfection is not an option!
Child's Play is no longer child's Play; when I was growing up I would walk and cycle to get about and play games like hide and seek. Now children are in cars all the time because it's perceived to be too dangerous for them to walk or cycle because everybody is in cars all the time, when they play they don't seem to have the same kind of physical games that children used to have it seems to be very computer-based now. I wonder if the children now are going to grow up with a lot of overuse Injuries from using mobile phones and computers excessively or whether their bodies will adapt to it because they've been doing it from such a young age.
After three years of public school we decided to homeschool. A most startling observation was that we went about a month without needing anything at Walmart. While in public school, we were there twice a week. Between special projects, clothes and convenience foods we were endless consumers! In homeschool circles clothes were a non issue. No one showed up in designer anything. Most of the time together we were outdoors or getting messy - most shopped at thrift stores so we had more money for books and activities. Healthiest decision we made all around!
Thanks for bringing this up. I work full time, i have an 8 hear old son, and i feel like I have three jobs, the third one being housework. In order to have some time for myself I go to bed late and I never sleep more than 6 hours, which makes me chronically sleep deprived. But that hour in the evening is what saves me mentally. Big dilemma for me.
I am a grandparent and I appreciate you bringing up the topic of parental burnout. Watching my children raise their own children I can really empathise with their struggles in parenting. I like the perspective of being 'good enough' and that is not easy, as you said. We grandparents have a role in that we can support our adult children by reminding them that they are good parents doing a demanding job, and its okay for them to ease up on their expectations of themselves. As for reading books to grandchildren, it is one of the great but simple pleasures of life. I do think simple pleasures are the key to contentment.
When being a parent of a younger child, you can just lay on the floor and they love to climb over you. This is a win win, personal, close AND RELAXING.
Parent burned out is so true but we have no choice we have to keep on going. As a single mother I had a triple responsibility: mother, father and professionally working person. I did it all and survived stress and everything that goes with it with love for my child. Time goes fast, my daughter graduated college and is an independent person now. I would sacrifice my life again for her with no second thought. Being a parent it is a wonderful thing, challenges always be there. I like to listen to man what they think about being a parent, I wish my child had a father in her life.
When I had my firstborn the doc said I’m burnt out and encouraged me to get paid support (cleaner etc) as no family close by. It’s a shock to the system having to work everything around a new human in your household.
Wow, what a great podcast. Dr. John Campbell brought me here.
What a thought provoking video on a subject I’ve never heard aired previously. I think we just ‘got on with it’ accepting total exhaustion as a way of life and probably winging it with a mix of bloody mindedness and adrenaline when trying to fulfill a demanding professional career as I did. Fortunately, with no known catastrophes in my case. I truly believe that ensuring a high quality diet and plenty of exercise can make a big difference. We can only do our best with our children with giving them as much love and stability in their lives as we can. Perfection is not an option!
Wondering about your other fav books, perhaps in a video sometime?
My partner and I agree
Child's Play is no longer child's Play; when I was growing up I would walk and cycle to get about and play games like hide and seek. Now children are in cars all the time because it's perceived to be too dangerous for them to walk or cycle because everybody is in cars all the time, when they play they don't seem to have the same kind of physical games that children used to have it seems to be very computer-based now. I wonder if the children now are going to grow up with a lot of overuse Injuries from using mobile phones and computers excessively or whether their bodies will adapt to it because they've been doing it from such a young age.
What has happened to the good Doctor???? Nothing for over 2 months. I hope you are OK?