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Unsustainable society and totally economy driven nation are the cause . Now only rich could afford kids just like how they have turned this world into more unequal world
Women all over the world HATE MEN! so many women in China, Japan, Australia, Canada, USA and Europe are disgusted and absolutely despise most men on this planet! WOMEN LOVE THEIR PETS MORE THAN PEOPLE!! CHEERS TO FEMINISM!
Dont just ask avg worker people, also go ask rich young too, their perspective are different, since most of biggest probelm 90%are money 10%are freedom
"Young people should have kids" and "young people should work 12hr days and be thankful they get to keep their jobs and live in a one bedroom apartment" do not mix
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
Unsustainable society and totally economy driven nation are the cause . Now only rich could afford kids just like how they have turned this world into more unequal world
@@Waterbug1591 well in china theres way more men than women so its just common sense for women to stick w the top 10%. And they cannot give up their income to have a family unless they find a guy capable of covering the entire family's needs on a single salary which was the standard in the 60s but now its impossible to find. So really, their standards arent up, men quality just went way down.
@@verybarebones you're proving my point, there are more men to go around and more options for women to choose from in China, yet women are still single.... hmmmmmm that has something to do with most women waiting for Mr. Perfect to show up until they become leftover women in their 30s?
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
@@thefinanceguy4059 The men are often emotionally immature and expect the women to pick up where their mother left off, they have an attitude that they don't need to bring much to the table other than money, they're often abusive since domestic abuse goes largely unpunished in China, and they have outdated ideas like considering women aged 28+ as "leftover" and undesirable. The last one is less to do with women justifiably raising their standards and more to do with the culture shooting itself in the foot. So you have a shortage of women, but you're going to label any of them older than 28 undesirable? Weird approach to solving the issue.
@@asianprince8718 definitely, we all want the very best for our kids, and since the world isn't doing good economically, it affects the broth rate because kids are expensive. Just a few years ago, my country's birth rate was 4%. Now it's 2.8%, it's predicted to drop to 1.5% by next 40 years.
Would say its more of a ethno-cultural phenomena. In multi-ethnic societies of Canada, Chinese and Koreans have one of the lowest, if not the lowest birth rates amongst other ethnicities. The statscan report states: "One person belonging to a visible minority groups in four (25%) was South Asian in 2006; that proportion could rise to approximately 28% in 2031. The proportion of Chinese persons would evolve differently, declining from 24% to approximately 21% between 2006 and 2031, even though the contribution of immigration would be similar to that of South Asians. The reason for this is that unlike South Asian women, Chinese women have one of the lowest fertility rates in Canada."
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
Their insights are profound and well constructed. Asian Boss as a team are fairly consistent with these thought-provoking street interviews. Their topics are always interesting to listen to and even talk about.
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
except when some of them said that ppl need to have kids to help them in the future or to take care of them when they’re old, like that’s the stupidest reason to have a kid like just hire a house maid instead of having kids 🙄 ppl need to realize that you have kids bcs you want to and you’re able to take care of them, not bcs you want them to take responsibility of taking care of you later smh
@@idk8828 whats wrong with not wanting to die alone in agony because you don't have nobody? If we are family we help ourselves or is caring for some other than yourself too big of a concept to be understood by Developed Nation people?
@@Random17Game bcs that’s a selfish reason, don’t you get it? you have kids bcs you want to, not bcs you’re gonna burden them with responsibilities. also you’re not gonna die in agony bcs you’re alone, you’re gonna die in agony if you have chronic diseases EVEN IF you have families. and there’s no guarantee that your family/kids are not gonna abandon you, especially in a busy, challenging, highly competitive life these days a lot of ppl are putting their parents in nursing homes. so what’s the difference?
@@idk8828 why do you see it as a burden??? And the difference is the keeping an eye, if you ever seen poor people nursing homes you can see ants on old people open wounds and they are unable to move because no one cares for them. You really don't get it im not talking about loneliness I'm talkig abou physially people not beeing able to function alone and die from starvation because they tripped at home fell down and their body is too weak to get up and they die from hunger. You never seen or been around this kind of pain and it shows
My friends and I have talked about this and a few reasons that were said were that it is too expensive/can't afford, bad health that makes them feel like they wouldn't be good moms and/or fear the child would inherit the health issue, climage change is a big one too worrying what kind of suffering their child would have to endure, and the constant underpaid teachers that drop off working as teachers because of the high stress and low salary. One didn't want kids because she became phobic by the alien movies. Cost though is number 1. Being able to afford the hospital bill, food, clothes, formula, etc.
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
Unsustainable society and totally economy driven nation are the cause . Now only rich could afford kids just like how they have turned this world into more unequal world
that's fantastic how you've combined perspectives on the same topic from three different countries - brilliant concept, it allows us to discern more nuances and shades of the asian reality 😊👍 congrats Asian Bosses, I'm looking forward to more of similarly combined materials
To make it simple: 1. Too much economic stress. 2. Too many jeopardies to career, especially to female. 3. Too little time to accompany kid(s). 4. Too hard to take care babies before kindergarten. No socialised babycare service at all.
@@Lee-ic8ln The only reason having a kid is such a burden to them it's because the goverment and the culture. How can it be excuses if the factors that hinder having a family are outside of their control?
Sometimes I wonder if the falling fertility rate in most of the world is in some way our species subconsciously correcting for the population explosion in those same places in the 19th and 20th century. Obviously lower infant mortality + increased freedom for women + economic anxiety + lacking support for parents is the real reason, but it’s interesting that the end result is a soft population decline following immense growth. In nature, population explosions are usually followed by collapse and mass starvation as resources are used up. In that context, it would actually be really beneficial (not to mention more humane) if our species instinctively slows down reproduction after a period of growth. Better to have fewer kids than to have everyone die horribly.
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
Actually this is very true. There was a study in average litter size in pet dogs and stray dogs and found pet dogs have on average smaller litter sizes ( less puppies ) than stray dogs. It could be since puppies born into a human household have lower mortality rate than puppies born on the streets/wild, it is not necessary to give birth to more puppies. This is a result of evolution
I also see this as a correction, or at least, a necessity in response to improved living standards that require so many resources per person compared to the past. The transition might be painful, but eventually the stabilized population will find things easier to maintain, and I'd prefer that.
You can't imagine the pain that will follow a sharp aging in population, you never worked around old people without children who have no one that cares about them leaving them to rot in a room with bugs
Honestly even I don't wanna have kids in this day and age. Economy is terrible, society is terrible, job opportunities are terrible. What I make is enough to keep myself alive and to help my family out. Kids at this point is a luxury. Edit: I can see that my comment has sparked a debate. For context, I'm a single (in civil status at least, but I'm in a long-term relationship). I have a job that earns less than ideal despite my skills and promotions depend on who you know and which superior you can suck up to. Hence, my comment. I come from a large family and this was heartbreaking enough to admit, more so since I'm in a 7yr relationship and we're getting married in a few years. I'm also a Southeast Asian if it helps understand my point of view.
True same for my county as well ! Everything is so expensive rn and everything in the world is going down hill Why should i get kids if i can't even feed my own ass ?
If you’re happy with not having a baby, just go for it. If you love kids and you’re a responsible human being, go for it! It’s a preference, don’t get pressured by the society to follow the norms. Just do what you want!
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
@@shinratensei5305 Then go become a baby spawner and breed a few thousand babies for the society. What others decide to do with their lives is none of your business, I’m sorry.
I have watched quite a few Asian boss videos and I feel the China correspondent have done a good job in crafting the questions and choosing the interviewees to be edited into the video, which give the viewers a more rounded views of the issue. Also props to the interviewees for being so articulated to give their views on the questions asked.
Really great interview! Damn! The fact that the average citizen that you stop on the street is this informed is really encouraging 😊 I'm 32 myself, living in Sweden, and I wouldn't want children myself. It's so interesting, and reassuring, to see that fellow millennials, living on the other side of the world, have the same thoughts, issues and challenges as me. Life is crazy, but kinda cool at the same time 😊
I am a college graduated person in US. I have one kid and also working full time. I waited to have to make sure I am financially stable. Having kid is the most mentally and tiring thing I experience. It is 10x more work than a job. Once you have a kid, u fully responsible for it schooling, full time care taker (shower, vomit when he sick, sick in middle of nights, teeth care, etc), nutritionist to make sure he eat well or slave when it is a picky eater, etc… I often think death is a relief. It tough being parents in this modern world. US does not live in community as other country to provide baby support within family members. Resentment is the truth most parents hide their true feeling to others.
"slave if he is a picky eater" yeah... As a kid if I didn't eat what my parents prepared, they would simply let me be without food. I'm gonna do the same with my kids one day, lol.
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
@@Waterbug1591 but women have a right to decide whether they want to work or have a family, and they are also entitled to their standards like everyone else is
It’s worth noting that the culture in China has heavy filial piety. There is pressure especially for women to find a partner, bear children, raise those children, be a homemaker, a good housewife to their husbands, take care of their own parents and at times their partner’s parents, and at times even grandparents. All while having their own dreams and careers they pursue in their lives. It’s difficult, and I’m sure many women can relate on a global scale.
I forgot to mention, china and many Chinese men can be misogynistic. So one can imagine the combined struggle, some women may live with gratitude or misery depending on their outlook and responsibilities.
There will be an increasing elderly population as the low birth rates continue. So who will care for these elderly with less population? The government, just like any other, need to make incentives. However, it is possible that this is something world leaders may want, as resources are also becoming more scarce in the world.
I'm not sure how prevalent that still is tho, I have heard that the introduction of Communism has really changed people's perception of women in society. At least for the Chinese in my social circle, I see that household chores are divided pretty evenly between men and women and it's actually usually the dad that is better at cooking. My mom is a housewife, but that is actually pretty rare in our social circle, most women have their own careers.
8:15 admire the response of this mother; she considered that she has to be fair to both her children, she did not want to make that sacrifice to her career and made a responsible decision to not have a second child because she knows she couldn’t commit fully to raising him/her. in contrast to say parents who just want more kids for the sake of having them without considering if they could provide a similar quality of life to all their children, or try to give the same amount of attention and effort to raising them… and some children end up receiving less love and attention growing up :(
My chinese friends, either they choose cohabitation or childless marriage. They have good income, just dont want to deal with having children. They said, it too much because their parents live with them as well.
Not really, in the old days some parents may live with married kids, but nowadays things have changed dramatically, even in the rual areas, many married kids now have their separate home close to the parents.
@@lyttlebee you miss the point from what i write. I am only saying what my friends told me why they choose not to have children, not a general public 😬
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
Unsustainable society and totally economy driven nation are the cause . Now only rich could afford kids just like how they have turned this world into more unequal world
The falling birth rate goes hand in hand with the falling marriage rate, which has hit a all-time low this year, falling something like 20% from last year. Being a regular consumer of Chinese social media myself, I think the proportion of truly DINK (married w no kids) couples is low compared to people just NOT in relationships. Several of the interviewees said that people have no kids cuz they don't have a partner. Many factors contribute to people remaining single--higher education raises the bar for a potential mate, negative experiences with bad partners, and most importantly, the realization that life as a single person can be just as fulfilling. So many young Chinese people view relationships and by extension, marriage and kids, as a burden. Especially in big cities like Shanghai, they struggle to provide for themselves, so they can't imagine having to support a family.
Childcare costs are very high, especially in top-tier cities. The cost of education and extracurricular activities is also very high in big cities compared to outside of China. My family moved to Guangzhou a while ago, but we also go back home to Spain once in a while. We have discovered a school year in China at an international school (we are foreigners and can’t go to a local school, to my knowledge) costs much more than an equivalent or top-tier school in Spain. Maybe because Chinese families have fewer children so all these services catered to families and kids can ask for higher prices.
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
This is sad in reality. Everything is so based around a hard work ethic. There has to be a balance between work and free time and family time. You can be the number one producer for your company working all the overtime, but how will you have time to create and sustain a stable family at home?
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
The problem is government making it harder to live by creating high prices for things. Which forced people to have to work more to make ends meat or some type of life for them selves. You need a healthy economy and that’s by ending government regulations, restrictions and going towards a free market system so the economy gets fixed and people won’t have so must street and be able to afford a child.
@@Jglabel262 Don't blame it on the government for women's unrealistic standards in dating. If anything, the government should punish single leftover women with higher tax rates to encourage them to marry younger.
Unsustainable society and totally economy driven nation are the cause . Now only rich could afford kids just like how they have turned this world into more unequal world
@@Waterbug1591 what if that guy is playboy Do u know him They aren't getting any mate may be because they don't wanna commit with single person in this new era now
I love the practical and understanding perspectives here. Especially from the lady who described herself as more "traditional". Improve the quality of life for those already living it. The faster children can become successful adults, the sooner they can settle and consider children. The mindset has already shifted.
Interesting that a few of the interviewees blatantly admit that they have discriminatory HR practices. My partner who is Chinese admits that in his work, they will not hire someone who is likely to have kids soon. I always tell him off for that, it's so unfair. We're trying to have a baby and how would he feel if I hadn't been able to get my job a few years ago because of my age/stage in life. Sucks.
Agree with the mother expecting her second child. Others also give very interesting thoughts. This is in Shanghai, one of the lowest birth rate in China. It shows people are fully aware and think through this societal issue. So good to know that population crisis will not happen in China.
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
At least they can articulate a logical and individual explanation about the birth rate issue. Which says a lot about the misconception surrounding China and freedom of thought we have in the west. Many European countries have the same problem, but it's like some kind of self censorship has been applied to the subject of birth rate. I think it's the first time (at least where I live) political parties have started talking about policies to help young couples making kids like there's no tomorrow. One thing we have in common is the fact that having a job and being married is something our "bosses" don't seem to like.
They don’t have freedom of thought however. If the question had been something regarding the government they would’ve never spoken out of turn, or would’ve been severely punished for doing so
@@JN-wn1kw It is not true at all. Do you know what old retired people do everyday for fun? Criticizing government. My father is one of those. If you have ever taken taxi in Beijing, the 90% taxi driver will bring the subject about politics and government. And in this interview, they do talk about the update children policy from government.
@@llg4116 thank you LL G we should ask ourselves if freedom or not and how we personally embrace its nature, our Governments, in the East and in the West, should force the use of alcohol to promote fertility and peace.
@Nereo Salimbene A few years ago I went to Tiananmen square with an American guest from a US company we do business with, and he said "That's different from what I saw in our news, where's the tank?" and after a half day walk in Beijing, he found China is just another boring country with Starbucks and McDonald's everywhere.
AsianBoss doesn't translate what they say literally instead they translate it in a more articulate way. For example, they might have said, "I don't want to have a kid because..." and Asian Boss will translate it to "I chose not to have children due to...".
I'm not surprised to hear some of the reasons; generally being similar to Japan. It's more of a situational thing. So unless governments can do things effective immediately like working out the rising costs of living (housing, food, utilities) and making it more favorable for couples to have children, we're going to keep seeing the trend of declining population. More often than not, the issue these days is that people are weighing the pros & cons of working or taking the time & money for a relationship, and then with marrying, and then again later having children or not. Given the current state of the global economy (in general) more people would prefer financial stability over dating/marrying/having children. If someone cannot support themselves at all/well enough, how can one expect to be able to support a family? Sure both can work while being married (which many do) but even then it might be barely enough to get by unless family helps financially or with the kids. Sometimes, some couples don't have that luxury of help so that's something else to many people consider. The whole marriage and traditional social expectations related to it is not as viable these days for many people. It's just a situation of the times. If people get married later in life, they're not as likely to have children at all; let alone even 1 child. So I think even having 1 child should be sought after as a goal for those that do date and marry. People shouldn't expect/assume things though. It's best not to force people about things like marriage & children; especially not bringing up that so so married and has x amount of children. That will just discourage people from even dating; let alone marrying. Also, even though China, Japan, etc has a declining population, the global population as of now is overpopulated. We don't have enough resources to support the global population in the long term. So in a sense, this declining population might be seen as disastrous for a country. But as a whole it's actually beneficial in a sense.
Appreciate the video, but I'd like to see Asian Boss do China content outside of Shanghai. Why haven't you done any interviews recently in Shenzhen or Guangzhou?
@@Azaneo07 The staff from Shanghai could catch a fast train and reaching Anhui, Hubei, Fujian in less than 3 hours.... same day travel and few hundreds RMB expenditure.
@UCZL4wzWuBlIYiAaWDfStxeA here if you reach 25 y.o and ain't married you'll be questioned a lot especially for woman sometimes it considered as old virgin which is crazy to me
If it's your calling to have a family then go for it. You'll find ways to adjust how you live and it all be worth it when you come home everyday with a family. This requires a lot of thinking though. So it would be good to spend time alone and feel what is it you really want in your life.
Not sure if anyone mentioned it, but the biggest factor is educational/workplace opportunities, especially for women. Simply put, this gives alternatives to being a homemaker that are oftentimes viewed as superior. Raising children requires significant time investment and money even if your work does have accommodations in place. If you have kids your independence and ability to follow certain dreams you might have is simply limited even in the most resourceful and supportive society. Many people pointed out the economic situation, but this does little to explain the long term trend. It can certainly be used to understand the fall in births during covid, but the drop in birth rate preceded that and has been going on during prosperous times too. Simply comparing poorer and richer countries or poorer and richer people within a country makes this even clearer. The less means you have to raise children the more often you do raise children. As contradictory as this might seem, it’s a trend that applies almost everywhere on earth.
And what come out of it? See ethiopia, somalia, rural india etc? With poverty and many crimes because overpopulations? Why bring a child in those kind of environment?
@@nurlindafsihotang49 Well, there are some people here who seem to be concerened about extinction of human kind if we don't all have kids. They call it selfish.
I think that this is probably the best explanation I have heard so far explaining why people of lower income tend to have more children than those of higher income. My explanation would have been that in poorer countries where child labour is unfortunately still prevalent and farm work is still manual, children are often considered a financial asset as they are free workers who can provide more capital to the family. However, in richer areas, children are a financial liability as they do not work which leaves the parents to cover their living expenses whilst also paying for additional things like education (especially in academically competitive countries like China).
Great work by the Asian Boss Team! Is it possible tho to hear the opinions of Chinese people from other cities as well? Like Guangzhou, Shenzhen and so on...
Everybody asks for this but here’s the thing (just my opinion). Asian boss knows their channel stats and where their community is watching from. I bet a lot of it are people in cities, interested in other cultures, open minded, younger. This often means “metropolitan people “. So if I’m a person that’s the “target” , then honestly I don’t care what people in a small(er, less open minded) city thinks. I care about what people who are like me, but in a different country, to get their perspective. Just my two yen
@@TheTinKunt I would actually love to hear opinions from other places (I'm a new mom, so there's that). I live in a fairly diverse urban environment and I prefer to hear perspectives from outside a specific bubble. Otherwise it's an echo chamber of sorts, how can I learn if I keep seeing/hearing the same things?
@@Femchan I totally get what you’re saying and it’s nice to have a counter discussion. I follow a Russian channel that does street interviews like Asian boss and people were asking them to go to other cities outside the big ones so they did. The thing is, the answers people were giving there were very “expected” and not a lot of reasoning why (America is evil, Russia is the best, etc). If someone can come up with a reasoned argument and explain why they feel that way, then it’s a really good ‘interview’ and I just noticed that the people in the cities were able to do that. Of course there are exceptions to the rule! I guess it would be interesting to see Asian boss go outside of the cities to places and see if there’s a difference…
I do agree we should be consider since the environment itself has changed, and raising a child need a lot of responsibility and money. Asian parents tend to burden their child with the custom ("since we already spent a lot of money for you, you have to take care of us") and I don't want to be that type of parents.
Unsustainable society and totally economy driven nation are the cause . Now only rich could afford kids just like how they have turned this world into more unequal world
The current people who recently married came from one child if they have two children the couple has to take care of 4 parents and 2 children that's a heavy burden for the couple.
I think it says a lot about a society's underlying "Collective systematic mental health" (what I like to call it, at least) when a country's birth rate starts to decline. There is something wrong with the soul of the nation and it's people and something deep down must fundamentally shift and change in a drastic way to break free of this "culture" and "aura" of declining birth rate.
When more and more young people choose not to have children in the future, they actually choose to say “no” to the question “If you have the choice, are you willing to be born to this world”. And this is concerning.
Asian Boss, thank you for the topic. This is an interesting one.🌟。 Regarding topic, It depends on their income as well as their perspectives on their environments. Parents hope their kids have babies, but everyone has different plans for their future. Divorce rate is also higher in recent years, another reason people may not want to have babies, because they want their kids to grow up in good environment. 是不是想要小孩跟收入及環境有很大關係。很多人的父母很想抱孫子，但每個人在生涯規劃都不同。還有，離婚近幾年越來越多，這也導致大家不想生，因為還是希望小孩再健全的家庭下長大啊！ 台灣這邊很多人都沒生，房價太高了。
This isn't a problem with China, its a problem with all the Asian countries. As Chinese Canadian, I can speak to two main reasons for this: 1. Raising a child is too expensive. Due to the size of the Asian country and high average population, the competition interms of school is exponentially harder than it is here in the west. Like literally I went to a top 30 university in the world. And I tried the grade 12 exam, and I would say I could barely get 600 point. You need over 650 to get to a top school in China. This means parent would need to not only invest way more money on tutor lessons, but also gave up valuable work time to bring their kids to these lessons. On top of that even if a Child graduates from a top university in China, the competition in the job market is just as intense. 2. Traditional ideology around marriage. I am not sure if this only occurs in other Asian countries, but I can speak for China. In China female who gave birth must stay in the bed for 30 days to recover from childbirth. It is believed that if they do any intense exercise it would severely harm the body, that is why a baby nanni is usually hired dirty the first 30 days when the child is born, in families that are better off, the nanni is hired for 60-90 days. This is so engraved in Chinese society that if a husband makes the wife do any work, like literally any work, the wife will consider that you don't care about her body, the wife will literally divorce the husband if she feels like she was not well taken care of during the 30 days. Its all over the news in China, where the wife feels like she wasn't taken care of during the first 30 days of child birth, and she ran back to her own parents house and divorced the husband ASAP. These ideologies paired with the fact that most Chinese companies does not allow for maternity of paternity leave, usually means that the wife must quit her job in order to have kids.
I'm from the U.S. and i don't want to have kids because I think it's unethical. We've all been essentially forced on this earth through no decision of our own and we're forced into circumstances that we never chose to be born into. We don't even get to choose something as trivial as the way we look. In my opinion these are all things that i've struggled and continue to struggle with. In addition to this, i just don't want to force another human being to live on this planet under these corrupt systems. Furthermore, human beings can't even get over something as trivial and insignificant as skin color, I have no reason to believe that humans will be able to find solutions to bigger and much more significant issues. Even the fact that we age until our bodies are completely useless pisses me off. Perhaps if my way of thinking changes as I grow older I'll have children, but I honestly can't see that happening. I'm very resentful towards the world and humanity as a whole and frankly I hate existing in a world like this. I don't care about the narrative of "oh but look at all the progress we've made", some things should've never happened period. In short, I hate life, and if there's a God I despise him even more for creating everything the way it is.
I am Chinese, my English is not good, I agree with your point of view. I think human beings are disgusting creatures. The so-called 'gods' and 'civilization' are lies fabricated by the rulers. The purpose of most people coming to this world is to serve the rulers, especially the poor in China. The wealth gap and human rights issues are very unequal. If you have to experience a lifetime of pressure and pain when you come to this world, then there is no need to come to this world. Interestingly, if there is a god in this world, then I don't understand why the god doesn't destroy such evil creatures as humans? Instead, save humanity? If there are really 'demons' in this world, I can't think of any creature that is more suitable for the title of 'demons' than humans.
Why does our species have a very short fertility life especially the women? God's creations for humans are soooo tiring for fertility issues. You know what? Let's focus on innovation instead like IVG and Artificial womb so we don't have to worry about anything for fertility as we get older. Women are the biggest issue here since they have short fertility span.
I have the same thought as you about not wanting to bring any human to the earth as I would feel sorry for them. Now I'm trying to view life from the good side and hope so do you.
I think the same. Some people are genuine nonetheless and probably I will have kids when it will be urgent and Africa will stop breeding like rabbits.
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If only kids were like amazon packages: after a certain period of time you can return if you can‘t live with it anymore but nooo. Children is a massive commitment. Time, money, all that. It costs WAY too much nowadays.
I watched a film recently about people not having kids in the future because it was considered sadistic and suicidal. To be honest we aren't that far off, it's already considered selfish...
I truly believe that having children is a choice. I'd rather people don't have kids than have them and neglect them. Logicaly if you can't afford to raise a child you should think twice before bringing one into the world. That being said I believe that children are a gift from God, not the " burden " that some might believe they are. I have no doubt some will regret thier decision in later years, careers and success ( materialism ) isn't everything.
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
This is not about people choosing materialism over family for the most part. It is impossible for your average person to have kids without raising them in poverty due to insane costs of living and jobs that don’t keep up with inflation.
@Boo! Why wouldn't I give up on a hectic job that I won't be happy with when I lose my fertility and youth (My primary agency for attracting a competent man) focusing on a career up to my 30s appeasing some random male boss at the workplace instead of my own husband and children? If you aren't willing to sacrifice for a family due to a lack of commitment and the need for personal enjoyment with freedom and material wealth, then don't complain about being single, leftover and unwanted in your 30s and 40s. Single leftover women in their 30s and 40s are the most unhappy demographic and taking anti-depressant pills more than ever. What does that tell you?
@Boo! Nope, you're being selective with the types of marriages that turned sour and bad, and that is mostly due to women's fault because 70%-80% of divorces are initiated by women, mainly caused by financial reasons and not domestic abuse. What about happy nuclear families consisting of healthy parenthood and socially recognized children? The fact that you even exist here is thankfully due to a grounded family structure you grew up in without realizing you're dismissing the merit of a good marriage. And corrections for you, an overwhelmingly high number of individuals taking anti-depressant pills are single leftover women with no children. These women are among the most unhappy demographic in the US. Men and women are committing suicides at an identical rate, just that men are more efficient at guaranteeing their own deaths while women are less efficient at killing themselves. Lol I know my stuff, you better come up with something good otherwise you're just another clown. You better cite your sources because I have a whole bunch waiting for you at my disposal.
One issue is probably that people expect more from romantic relationships where it might not have been as much of a personal choice in the past. And you had more family support in the past too. A lot of people just weren't raised to know how to flirt well. And if they aren't confident enough to learn themselves (like their parents or grandparents maybe didn't need to be) then where in the past they might have had kids, today they won't.
I don't know why people feel low birthrate is a bad thing. Low birthrate is a sign of progress. The problems faced by large population are more difficult than those faced by low population.
Japan and Korea are believed to have low birth rate. Aging population is something they are dealing with. Some afraid not enough young people to take care of older people.
@@asianprince8718 still, they are leading peaceful and happy lives. They can always get workers from overseas. In large population countries, average person has to go through so much competition to do anything in life.
@@asianprince8718 as cruel as it sounds there are things like old age homes. I have been to Germany before and one of my colleagues parents live in an old age home. For me it was quite a cultural shock. I think this will be the case in other countries too. I would never want to keep my parents in such places but I know there are quite the number of people who are already considering such options.
The COVID-19 just make our economy worse, i am college student gonna graduate next year, i rellay worried about whether I can get a job For me, i just want a house, with my girlfriend, and have some fun with my friends on weekends, and that's it. But now I found it's hard to realize in the future.
Did anyone mentioned the population size disparity between the genders due to their one child policy and the traditional preference of having sons over daughters? One guy mentioned women's expectations are higher... But work environment does not gives women the assurance to leave her job for a few years to raise her child (HR discriminate the ppl over 35 is often mentioned by Chinese netizens.) like what one of the woman described. Ppl who thinks it is a huge problem when a female colleague is pregnant and moan and groan about the workload and the HR who asks female job seekers if they plan to marry or have kids in the next x amount of years, these are all signals that pregnancies are not welcomed and would affect your job seeking chances. Even if she takes that risks and leave a good job job for 2-4 years, are their mates' single salary sufficient? So why would women willingly marry down and still have to bear most of the childbearing and child rearing burden? Another is these ppl went thru the education system and job seeking environment, their children are under tremendous pressure to get into good high schools and universities, and their yearly amount of graduates are huge and job market competition is stiff, employers can have their pick, and can keep entry level salary low. These are not attractive prospects.
2-3 child policy... You'd need some major rewards for having kids. In general, it's just easier to stop people from taking action (with punishments) than it is to make people do things that will take a ton of effort (like raising children)
Good interview, and it shows that most Chinese does want children, it's just the property price(now it's finally decreasing) and competition in education that's making people to second guess So the government policies should target on making housing more affordable, and invest more in education resources. You see this is why Asian Boss is such a valuable channel, every other channels talking about Chinese demographics is all about doom and gloom, and the views of the Chinese people are always ignored. Asian Boss gives the world insights into countries they operate in.
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
@@Waterbug1591 I agree that unrealistic expectations are part of the problem. However many people are still getting married and made the conscious decision to not have children. So I do not think that it is the main reason for the decreasing birth rates in certain countries.
@@redguy9945 Wrong. Marriage rate is also declining at a drastic speed, and 80% of divorces are initiated by women, and mostly because of financial reasons. Women are killing marriages and child births with abortions too.
Government is the problem for making the price of living worst. Having government fund more things will only make it worst. You need government out of the market and allow a free market to work and you’ll see a better economy where people don’t have to make themselves work non stop just to live.
One of the biggest issue for China is the one child policy that was implemented previously...resulting into 4 grandparents -> 2 parents --> 1 child situation.
They spoke standard mandarin with good accent, why it need chinese sub titles, sounds abit weird. For Cantonese speakers, I guess most of people understand English sub titles
@@itshry So we can see direct translations. Some English translations are colloquial, and for those still learning chinese, we dont know which chinese word is being used, just by hearing it alone.
This world is just becoming more and more expensive and uninhabitable by the day it’s scary. It’s probably best to just live our short lives to the fullest and be happy with no children, than to bring one in and have them grow up just to suffer and clean up the mess of a dying world.
Overpopulation you mean... Some suggest moving home to outer space, could it happen this century ? Like DBZ, some people and Goku lived in another planet.
A key factor might be that the country killed too many female infants 30 years ago during the one child policy era due to their patriarchy culture, and there are now fewer females than before.
Good content. As a 30-year-old woman, I am scared of men, don't even want to be in a relationship, I am battling with the fear of losing my job, scared of going outside because of insecurity and sexual assaults on women that we hear all the time. How could I even consider wanting kids? I'm barely surviving myself.
Menurut saya, punya anak di zaman sekarang tuh gak sama seperti di zaman dulu. Punya itu gak cuma soal nikah-making love-lahirin baby. Tapi gimana mendidik anak yang akan menemui tantangan yang lebih besar dari zaman sekarang. Biaya juga harus dipertimbangkan. Anak itu gak cuma butuh dikasih makan doang. Pendidikan, kesehatan, lingkungan pertemanan, pokoknya banyak hal. Jangan sampe anak itu kelak cuma jadi beban orang lain
The birth rate in Afghanistan is above 3 while the majority of their people are living in extreme poverty. The Taliban government is not allowing ladies to go to school in some parts. There are no more reasons for a country to decline.
Naturally birthrates will be higher in countries that have a more old model of the family where the man works and the woman stays home, when both parents have to work it negatively effects the birthrate because many women will put career before having kids and by the time they consider having kids they might be to old by that time.
I don't think I can feed another person. Plus, I know myself, I'm not a caring person. can't imagine myself being with anyone, or even taking care of someone else.
When people value career or money more than children, which is the norm in eastern Asian countries, a decline in birth rate is what you get. Because of Confucius teachings, people place too much emphasis on personal success or they think success is what defines a person. People will envy you for having a great career or lots of money, but not when you have lots of kids. Most people want what other people have, if people start valuing children more than career or put less emphasis on personal success, then the declining birth rate may reverse. Many people hold the views that they do not want to bring children to this terrible world, have they read history? They have no idea how much worse our ancestors had it, but still our ancestors had children and that ‘s why we exist today.
I've been married 4 years now, at 34, and I don't think I want babies. Since economy and inflation is crazy nowadays. I can barely support myself and wife.
@@asianprince8718 Energy crisis so the price of electricity and natural gas have gone up, other methods of heating costs have risen in tandem. Food has become way more expensive as a result of the energy crisis and the war. Landlords increasing the rent because their cost of living has also gone up. There are still production shortages because of corona. Shipping has become way more expensive.
A lot of great insights and well thought out answers. Except the guy saying that high quality women have higher expections than what the reality is. I'm sorry no dude. Women put up with a lot of bad behaviours in the past and they're just tolerating less of it as society progresses. It's not a bad thing at all. Just be more mindful of your actions towards your partner.
Don't worry, this dude will stay single forever. The numbers aren't on his side anyway after years of one-child policy. Looks like he's going to have to continue to washing his own underwear and cooking his own food lol
Actually, his meaning is woman always expects a man who is better than herself.Anyway, the population of rich people are least, the male can accept a woman who earns less, but the female can't accept a man who earns less. That's the fact has happened in China.
Unsustainable society and totally economy driven nation are the cause . Now only rich could afford kids just like how they have turned this world into more unequal world
It is simple math 2 people married produce 1 child means negative 2 children mean netral 3 children mean positive. Now... which job can have earnings to support 5 people?
These days I think younger people (generally speaking) just simply have different values than people from previous generations. It's not simply a matter of money (although sometimes it is). There are sooo many things going on these days that are diverting peoples' attention that people back then didn't have - like having access to the internet/social media, streaming services (like Netflix and Disney Plus), videogames, and so forth. I'm a firm believer that if we didn't have these things today then there would be a lot more babies popping out. Understand that having children isn't just expensive, but they also take away much of your free time from being able to enjoy these kind of things.
We can all agree falling economics is a significant factor with the youth not wanting kids ( rightly so ), combined with the idea that you’re supposed to finish your education and overachieve which is difficult with a baby. I feel like the rich who can financially support a baby even though there’s economic crisis is another stab in a back to the “poor” because your ability to have children shouldn’t be jeopardised because of your financial state. If only they paid people what they deserve instead of exploiting them and providing more support financially and mentally for both parents
As an Indian most modern generation indians also not wanting to have children or just stick to one! The amount of responsibility and the sacrifice woman have to put through to their health and jobs makes them not to have more than one else none also due to the horrible future these generations might see due to natural destructions also make people not wanna bring a life... This is gonna be the way henceforth henceforth .. won't be soon that it will decline here too.
You can thank capitalism, difference back than even not that long ago in terms of history like 1800s and further back many people built their own homes and just lived in multi generational homesteads but that has changed capitalism has turned everything absolutely into a product. Everything is also more expensive again thanks to capitalism, even if you inherit a home from your parents all the things you need to raise a family are now much more expensive compared to just few generations ago.
If you want to build a stone house in a desert with no plumbing, running water, electricity, heating, and company of your fellow man, then go ahead it is indeed free
It’s urbanisation. It hits every country. In rural areas, children are assets, they can work in the fields, take care of the chickens and pigs, help cook and clean in urban areas children are expenses, yiu need a bigger apartment, day care, schooling, activities. All societies that urbanise show dramatic reductions in birth rates. China had the biggest fastest urbanisation we’ve in history. In 2000 2/3 of Chinese lived in the countryside. By 2016 that flipped to 2/3 living in cities.
Their plan went very well to this point. The men began to soften and the women began to strengthen. There will come a time where they are really in one straight line. And that's when the second phase of the plan will begin.
40Million of Chinese in the world lives outside of China as their family moved 50years, Todays China is not the China from then when poverty was rampant. Should China offer incentives for them to move back to motherland?
@@ucchau173 not the same. Europe is not loosing population overall, just the natives getting replaced. Though If China wants to stay above 1B even if all 40million moved back probably will not do much to help.
it's always the same everywhere. poor people want to have truckloads of kids, more well to do people want to have few/no kids coz of the cost of living, cost of education blah blah blah.
Some people have lots of Kids so they can use them later on. Like Free child labor, kids will pay for their parents needs etc.When they work they get Money from them. They expect something in return in future.
. I'm from philippines. I obsessed about Chinese girls , because for me Chinese girl is so looking feminine and beautiful in western asian , compare japanese and korean.
@@hurryhurry7026 Lot of African women don't work which is a big part of it, and if they do work it's usually in a rural farming community which is much different than corporate city life. When a young woman is part of something like 996 culture she is naturally going to have less sex with her husband if she is lucky enough to have one in such a overworked society. Women in the workforce naturally will lower birthrates, they won't have the time to be proper mothers there is already 2 generations that were barely raised by their mothers and more so daycares/schools this has had a big effect on many countries.
I went to China this summer and am rlly feeling the low birthrate and population getting more old. Its rlly not just Japan that has a increasing older population. Especially in my hometown, in a span of two months I went to 3 funerals and witness several other funerals happening. Every morning I am disturbed awake by the loud firecrackers and gongs belonging to a funeral parade. And another thing ive been seeing a lot online is girls' losing faith in married life and a husband. The ladies doesnt want an alpha husband and scars from pregnancy anymore. I heard someone say that everytime they heard someone say; they "want to go home afyer work to a warmly lit house and a gentle wife saying "welcome home" as dinner cook in the kitchen" they feel cold in the heart. From the receiver who benefit from such a situation, it sounds indeed nice. But as the person making that situation happen, its not so happy joy anymore. Most guys like to be the alpha male in charge and ladies doesn't want to deal with that anymore. We finally realize marriage and kids isnt the only route anymore. Kids will only pull us down without a good husband. How many of them can be like the male leads on tv?
Although childbirth is necessary, China's reasoning behind not wanting kids is understandable. Overpopulation can pose a threat given they hold the No.1 spot for most populated nation, as opposed to Japan, the government really screwed over a lot of the citizens in terms of jobs that make people overwork themselves😤.
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Unsustainable society and totally economy driven nation are the cause .
Now only rich could afford kids just like how they have turned this world into more unequal world
East Asia have very low fertility rate
Women all over the world HATE MEN! so many women in China, Japan, Australia, Canada, USA and Europe are disgusted and absolutely despise most men on this planet! WOMEN LOVE THEIR PETS MORE THAN PEOPLE!! CHEERS TO FEMINISM!
Dont just ask avg worker people, also go ask rich young too, their perspective are different, since most of biggest probelm 90%are money 10%are freedom
J eezus Christ, you're OUTSIDE, ffs: take OFF your masks!
"Young people should have kids" and "young people should work 12hr days and be thankful they get to keep their jobs and live in a one bedroom apartment" do not mix
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
Unsustainable society and totally economy driven nation are the cause .
Now only rich could afford kids just like how they have turned this world into more unequal world
@@Waterbug1591 well in china theres way more men than women so its just common sense for women to stick w the top 10%. And they cannot give up their income to have a family unless they find a guy capable of covering the entire family's needs on a single salary which was the standard in the 60s but now its impossible to find. So really, their standards arent up, men quality just went way down.
@D R 50 years ago a salary covered housing, food and a family. Now it barely covers rent in squalor.
@@verybarebones you're proving my point, there are more men to go around and more options for women to choose from in China, yet women are still single.... hmmmmmm that has something to do with most women waiting for Mr. Perfect to show up until they become leftover women in their 30s?
These are all very thoughtful, with high level of social awareness, and intelligent answers.
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
@@Waterbug1591 Having lived in China, I understand completely why they are raising their standards.
@@generalmartok3990 what's that?
@@generalmartok3990 So it's women's fault for China's declining birth rate.
@@thefinanceguy4059 The men are often emotionally immature and expect the women to pick up where their mother left off, they have an attitude that they don't need to bring much to the table other than money, they're often abusive since domestic abuse goes largely unpunished in China, and they have outdated ideas like considering women aged 28+ as "leftover" and undesirable.
The last one is less to do with women justifiably raising their standards and more to do with the culture shooting itself in the foot. So you have a shortage of women, but you're going to label any of them older than 28 undesirable? Weird approach to solving the issue.
This low birthday rate is global. The youth don't wanna bring kids they can't fully take care of into this world. I think that's wise and responsible.
Do you think it could be that everyday needs become super expensive and not enough lands to sustain population ?
@@asianprince8718 definitely, we all want the very best for our kids, and since the world isn't doing good economically, it affects the broth rate because kids are expensive. Just a few years ago, my country's birth rate was 4%. Now it's 2.8%, it's predicted to drop to 1.5% by next 40 years.
Yeah watch everything become more expensive because the shortage of manpower
Would say its more of a ethno-cultural phenomena. In multi-ethnic societies of Canada, Chinese and Koreans have one of the lowest, if not the lowest birth rates amongst other ethnicities. The statscan report states: "One person belonging to a visible minority groups in four (25%) was South Asian in 2006; that proportion could rise to approximately 28% in 2031. The proportion of Chinese persons would evolve differently, declining from 24% to approximately 21% between 2006 and 2031, even though the contribution of immigration would be similar to that of South Asians. The reason for this is that unlike South Asian women, Chinese women have one of the lowest fertility rates in Canada."
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
Their insights are profound and well constructed. Asian Boss as a team are fairly consistent with these thought-provoking street interviews. Their topics are always interesting to listen to and even talk about.
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
except when some of them said that ppl need to have kids to help them in the future or to take care of them when they’re old, like that’s the stupidest reason to have a kid like just hire a house maid instead of having kids 🙄 ppl need to realize that you have kids bcs you want to and you’re able to take care of them, not bcs you want them to take responsibility of taking care of you later smh
@@idk8828 whats wrong with not wanting to die alone in agony because you don't have nobody? If we are family we help ourselves or is caring for some other than yourself too big of a concept to be understood by Developed Nation people?
@@Random17Game bcs that’s a selfish reason, don’t you get it? you have kids bcs you want to, not bcs you’re gonna burden them with responsibilities. also you’re not gonna die in agony bcs you’re alone, you’re gonna die in agony if you have chronic diseases EVEN IF you have families. and there’s no guarantee that your family/kids are not gonna abandon you, especially in a busy, challenging, highly competitive life these days a lot of ppl are putting their parents in nursing homes. so what’s the difference?
@@idk8828 why do you see it as a burden??? And the difference is the keeping an eye, if you ever seen poor people nursing homes you can see ants on old people open wounds and they are unable to move because no one cares for them. You really don't get it im not talking about loneliness I'm talkig abou physially people not beeing able to function alone and die from starvation because they tripped at home fell down and their body is too weak to get up and they die from hunger. You never seen or been around this kind of pain and it shows
My friends and I have talked about this and a few reasons that were said were that it is too expensive/can't afford, bad health that makes them feel like they wouldn't be good moms and/or fear the child would inherit the health issue, climage change is a big one too worrying what kind of suffering their child would have to endure, and the constant underpaid teachers that drop off working as teachers because of the high stress and low salary. One didn't want kids because she became phobic by the alien movies. Cost though is number 1. Being able to afford the hospital bill, food, clothes, formula, etc.
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
Unsustainable society and totally economy driven nation are the cause .
Now only rich could afford kids just like how they have turned this world into more unequal world
Big welfare state in the US - government will pay for most of the costs. 🤣
Excuses that's it
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To make it simple:
1. Too much economic stress.
2. Too many jeopardies to career, especially to female.
3. Too little time to accompany kid(s).
4. Too hard to take care babies before kindergarten. No socialised babycare service at all.
5. High pressures on education. The GaoKao will break most people.
6. 996 culture (I'm surprised they didn't mention this)
All terrible excuses. They should just admit they just don't want the burden that comes with having a kid.
@@Lee-ic8ln Extra burden is a fact, yes. But shouldn't it be the gov's responsibiliy to ease it, if they do care the birth rate?
@@Lee-ic8ln The only reason having a kid is such a burden to them it's because the goverment and the culture. How can it be excuses if the factors that hinder having a family are outside of their control?
@@weiyixia599 Exactly. Want more prople to exploit but will spend the minimum for them.
Sometimes I wonder if the falling fertility rate in most of the world is in some way our species subconsciously correcting for the population explosion in those same places in the 19th and 20th century. Obviously lower infant mortality + increased freedom for women + economic anxiety + lacking support for parents is the real reason, but it’s interesting that the end result is a soft population decline following immense growth. In nature, population explosions are usually followed by collapse and mass starvation as resources are used up. In that context, it would actually be really beneficial (not to mention more humane) if our species instinctively slows down reproduction after a period of growth. Better to have fewer kids than to have everyone die horribly.
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
@@Waterbug1591 Are you okay man? You've copied and pasted this on like 20 comments (so far). Seems like this triggered something in you.
Actually this is very true. There was a study in average litter size in pet dogs and stray dogs and found pet dogs have on average smaller litter sizes ( less puppies ) than stray dogs. It could be since puppies born into a human household have lower mortality rate than puppies born on the streets/wild, it is not necessary to give birth to more puppies. This is a result of evolution
I also see this as a correction, or at least, a necessity in response to improved living standards that require so many resources per person compared to the past. The transition might be painful, but eventually the stabilized population will find things easier to maintain, and I'd prefer that.
You can't imagine the pain that will follow a sharp aging in population, you never worked around old people without children who have no one that cares about them leaving them to rot in a room with bugs
Honestly even I don't wanna have kids in this day and age. Economy is terrible, society is terrible, job opportunities are terrible. What I make is enough to keep myself alive and to help my family out. Kids at this point is a luxury.
Edit: I can see that my comment has sparked a debate. For context, I'm a single (in civil status at least, but I'm in a long-term relationship). I have a job that earns less than ideal despite my skills and promotions depend on who you know and which superior you can suck up to. Hence, my comment. I come from a large family and this was heartbreaking enough to admit, more so since I'm in a 7yr relationship and we're getting married in a few years.
I'm also a Southeast Asian if it helps understand my point of view.
Yes I agree.
True same for my county as well !
Everything is so expensive rn and everything in the world is going down hill
Why should i get kids if i can't even feed my own ass ?
Kids aren't luxuries lol. They're responsibilities.
@@hinatashoyo2999 yeah it’s getting expensive everywhere sadly 😭
Big gov't and corporations would not like your mindset - who is going to pay taxes and buy stuff in the future?
If you’re happy with not having a baby, just go for it. If you love kids and you’re a responsible human being, go for it! It’s a preference, don’t get pressured by the society to follow the norms. Just do what you want!
Yes
It is wrong to have kids. Don't create suffering and death. Don't have kids.
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
we have responsibilities towards the society we live in, very selfishness isnt a good thing
@@shinratensei5305 Then go become a baby spawner and breed a few thousand babies for the society. What others decide to do with their lives is none of your business, I’m sorry.
I have watched quite a few Asian boss videos and I feel the China correspondent have done a good job in crafting the questions and choosing the interviewees to be edited into the video, which give the viewers a more rounded views of the issue. Also props to the interviewees for being so articulated to give their views on the questions asked.
Which video is your favorite ?
Really great interview! Damn! The fact that the average citizen that you stop on the street is this informed is really encouraging 😊
I'm 32 myself, living in Sweden, and I wouldn't want children myself. It's so interesting, and reassuring, to see that fellow millennials, living on the other side of the world, have the same thoughts, issues and challenges as me. Life is crazy, but kinda cool at the same time 😊
Men can do whatever they want😎after getting rid of burdensome family.
I hate that we have very short lives. Sometimes, I wish God can give us the chance to prosper a bit longer. Fertility can wait.
you are still young ejoy your life life is short
I am a college graduated person in US. I have one kid and also working full time. I waited to have to make sure I am financially stable. Having kid is the most mentally and tiring thing I experience. It is 10x more work than a job. Once you have a kid, u fully responsible for it schooling, full time care taker (shower, vomit when he sick, sick in middle of nights, teeth care, etc), nutritionist to make sure he eat well or slave when it is a picky eater, etc… I often think death is a relief. It tough being parents in this modern world. US does not live in community as other country to provide baby support within family members. Resentment is the truth most parents hide their true feeling to others.
"slave if he is a picky eater" yeah... As a kid if I didn't eat what my parents prepared, they would simply let me be without food. I'm gonna do the same with my kids one day, lol.
@@fedyx1544 haha same
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
@@Waterbug1591 but women have a right to decide whether they want to work or have a family, and they are also entitled to their standards like everyone else is
@@fedyx1544 of course, that's why the birth rate is declining, it's mostly women's decisions that caused it.
It’s worth noting that the culture in China has heavy filial piety. There is pressure especially for women to find a partner, bear children, raise those children, be a homemaker, a good housewife to their husbands, take care of their own parents and at times their partner’s parents, and at times even grandparents. All while having their own dreams and careers they pursue in their lives. It’s difficult, and I’m sure many women can relate on a global scale.
I forgot to mention, china and many Chinese men can be misogynistic. So one can imagine the combined struggle, some women may live with gratitude or misery depending on their outlook and responsibilities.
There will be an increasing elderly population as the low birth rates continue. So who will care for these elderly with less population? The government, just like any other, need to make incentives. However, it is possible that this is something world leaders may want, as resources are also becoming more scarce in the world.
Yeah women are tired of that BS . It is that simple .
I'm not sure how prevalent that still is tho, I have heard that the introduction of Communism has really changed people's perception of women in society. At least for the Chinese in my social circle, I see that household chores are divided pretty evenly between men and women and it's actually usually the dad that is better at cooking. My mom is a housewife, but that is actually pretty rare in our social circle, most women have their own careers.
8:15 admire the response of this mother; she considered that she has to be fair to both her children, she did not want to make that sacrifice to her career and made a responsible decision to not have a second child because she knows she couldn’t commit fully to raising him/her. in contrast to say parents who just want more kids for the sake of having them without considering if they could provide a similar quality of life to all their children, or try to give the same amount of attention and effort to raising them… and some children end up receiving less love and attention growing up :(
My chinese friends, either they choose cohabitation or childless marriage. They have good income, just dont want to deal with having children. They said, it too much because their parents live with them as well.
Not really, in the old days some parents may live with married kids, but nowadays things have changed dramatically, even in the rual areas, many married kids now have their separate home close to the parents.
@@lyttlebee you miss the point from what i write. I am only saying what my friends told me why they choose not to have children, not a general public 😬
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
Unsustainable society and totally economy driven nation are the cause .
Now only rich could afford kids just like how they have turned this world into more unequal world
how the hell do you know they're well off??? what a stupid comment
The falling birth rate goes hand in hand with the falling marriage rate, which has hit a all-time low this year, falling something like 20% from last year. Being a regular consumer of Chinese social media myself, I think the proportion of truly DINK (married w no kids) couples is low compared to people just NOT in relationships. Several of the interviewees said that people have no kids cuz they don't have a partner. Many factors contribute to people remaining single--higher education raises the bar for a potential mate, negative experiences with bad partners, and most importantly, the realization that life as a single person can be just as fulfilling. So many young Chinese people view relationships and by extension, marriage and kids, as a burden. Especially in big cities like Shanghai, they struggle to provide for themselves, so they can't imagine having to support a family.
Also, school and work take so many hours of the day in life. There is no time for culture, human relationships to become a bigger part of life.
Childcare costs are very high, especially in top-tier cities. The cost of education and extracurricular activities is also very high in big cities compared to outside of China. My family moved to Guangzhou a while ago, but we also go back home to Spain once in a while. We have discovered a school year in China at an international school (we are foreigners and can’t go to a local school, to my knowledge) costs much more than an equivalent or top-tier school in Spain. Maybe because Chinese families have fewer children so all these services catered to families and kids can ask for higher prices.
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
International schools are expensive everywhere
in the world
This is sad in reality. Everything is so based around a hard work ethic. There has to be a balance between work and free time and family time. You can be the number one producer for your company working all the overtime, but how will you have time to create and sustain a stable family at home?
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
The problem is government making it harder to live by creating high prices for things.
Which forced people to have to work more to make ends meat or some type of life for them selves.
You need a healthy economy and that’s by ending government regulations, restrictions and going towards a free market system so the economy gets fixed and people won’t have so must street and be able to afford a child.
@@Jglabel262 Don't blame it on the government for women's unrealistic standards in dating.
If anything, the government should punish single leftover women with higher tax rates to encourage them to marry younger.
Unsustainable society and totally economy driven nation are the cause .
Now only rich could afford kids just like how they have turned this world into more unequal world
@@Waterbug1591 what if that guy is playboy
Do u know him
They aren't getting any mate may be because they don't wanna commit with single person in this new era now
I love the practical and understanding perspectives here. Especially from the lady who described herself as more "traditional". Improve the quality of life for those already living it. The faster children can become successful adults, the sooner they can settle and consider children. The mindset has already shifted.
Sorry confused...do you mean better that kids mature faster?
Interesting that a few of the interviewees blatantly admit that they have discriminatory HR practices. My partner who is Chinese admits that in his work, they will not hire someone who is likely to have kids soon. I always tell him off for that, it's so unfair. We're trying to have a baby and how would he feel if I hadn't been able to get my job a few years ago because of my age/stage in life. Sucks.
Great video with very candid people who mostly elaborate on the economic difficulties of raising children in China, and, the resulting low birthrate.
Agree with the mother expecting her second child. Others also give very interesting thoughts. This is in Shanghai, one of the lowest birth rate in China. It shows people are fully aware and think through this societal issue. So good to know that population crisis will not happen in China.
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
China is still overpopulated.
At least they can articulate a logical and individual explanation about the birth rate issue.
Which says a lot about the misconception surrounding China and freedom of thought we have in the west.
Many European countries have the same problem, but it's like some kind of self censorship has been applied to the subject of birth rate.
I think it's the first time (at least where I live) political parties have started talking about policies to help young couples making kids like there's no tomorrow.
One thing we have in common is the fact that having a job and being married is something our "bosses" don't seem to like.
They don’t have freedom of thought however. If the question had been something regarding the government they would’ve never spoken out of turn, or would’ve been severely punished for doing so
@@JN-wn1kw lol as if Chinese ppl don’t shitpost about their government every day
@@JN-wn1kw It is not true at all. Do you know what old retired people do everyday for fun? Criticizing government. My father is one of those. If you have ever taken taxi in Beijing, the 90% taxi driver will bring the subject about politics and government.
And in this interview, they do talk about the update children policy from government.
@@llg4116 thank you LL G we should ask ourselves if freedom or not and how we personally embrace its nature, our Governments, in the East and in the West, should force the use of alcohol to promote fertility and peace.
@Nereo Salimbene A few years ago I went to Tiananmen square with an American guest from a US company we do business with, and he said "That's different from what I saw in our news, where's the tank?" and after a half day walk in Beijing, he found China is just another boring country with Starbucks and McDonald's everywhere.
2:58 it’s double-salary 「雙薪家庭」family not two-parent family
Working hours is also one of the main reason. Getting a maternity leave is hard. So people don't want to take trouble to avoid being fired.
I'm always impressed at how intelligent and well spoken Chinese people are!!
Always in Shanghai, Asian boss should try to expand its interviewee beyond SH
@@JL_hahaha0303 So you can say:
"See? They are not that inteligent"
Yeah Shanghai is like interviewing in Manhattan and thinking that's how most Americans are
@@slee2695 We got a lot of crazies in Manhattan. Crime is at an all time high.
AsianBoss doesn't translate what they say literally instead they translate it in a more articulate way. For example, they might have said, "I don't want to have a kid because..." and Asian Boss will translate it to "I chose not to have children due to...".
Population doesn’t matter. It’s the Quality of ppl 👍🏽👍🏽✅
Overpopulation is an issue
@@americanpatriot3710correct...the world is correcting its mistake.
I'm not surprised to hear some of the reasons; generally being similar to Japan.
It's more of a situational thing. So unless governments can do things effective immediately like working out the rising costs of living (housing, food, utilities) and making it more favorable for couples to have children, we're going to keep seeing the trend of declining population.
More often than not, the issue these days is that people are weighing the pros & cons of working or taking the time & money for a relationship, and then with marrying, and then again later having children or not. Given the current state of the global economy (in general) more people would prefer financial stability over dating/marrying/having children. If someone cannot support themselves at all/well enough, how can one expect to be able to support a family? Sure both can work while being married (which many do) but even then it might be barely enough to get by unless family helps financially or with the kids. Sometimes, some couples don't have that luxury of help so that's something else to many people consider.
The whole marriage and traditional social expectations related to it is not as viable these days for many people. It's just a situation of the times. If people get married later in life, they're not as likely to have children at all; let alone even 1 child. So I think even having 1 child should be sought after as a goal for those that do date and marry. People shouldn't expect/assume things though. It's best not to force people about things like marriage & children; especially not bringing up that so so married and has x amount of children. That will just discourage people from even dating; let alone marrying. Also, even though China, Japan, etc has a declining population, the global population as of now is overpopulated. We don't have enough resources to support the global population in the long term. So in a sense, this declining population might be seen as disastrous for a country. But as a whole it's actually beneficial in a sense.
I think it’s a world problem,not just in China and East Asian.
Appreciate the video, but I'd like to see Asian Boss do China content outside of Shanghai. Why haven't you done any interviews recently in Shenzhen or Guangzhou?
i thing its because they have no staff outside of Shanghai
@@Azaneo07 The staff from Shanghai could catch a fast train and reaching Anhui, Hubei, Fujian in less than 3 hours.... same day travel and few hundreds RMB expenditure.
@@giacomopetrolo9485 maybe thats like a part time job bro
中国是精英治理国家，这些人代表了大多数中国人的想法，只是农村人或其他地区不一定表达能力都像视频里的强
Please make indonesian people interview. I'm sick of my people always glorifying married in young age without financial consideration for the future
@UCZL4wzWuBlIYiAaWDfStxeA here if you reach 25 y.o and ain't married you'll be questioned a lot especially for woman sometimes it considered as old virgin which is crazy to me
@@linaamuliah7513 The optimum biological age to reproduce is 19, women's eggs are the healthiest around that age.
@@cernejr where r u from?
@@linaamuliah7513 USA. I see the sickly kids born to old mothers. Autism, Down Syndrome, overall lack of vitality/creativity - zombie/vegetable kids.
Setuju!
If it's your calling to have a family then go for it. You'll find ways to adjust how you live and it all be worth it when you come home everyday with a family. This requires a lot of thinking though. So it would be good to spend time alone and feel what is it you really want in your life.
Not sure if anyone mentioned it, but the biggest factor is educational/workplace opportunities, especially for women. Simply put, this gives alternatives to being a homemaker that are oftentimes viewed as superior.
Raising children requires significant time investment and money even if your work does have accommodations in place. If you have kids your independence and ability to follow certain dreams you might have is simply limited even in the most resourceful and supportive society.
Many people pointed out the economic situation, but this does little to explain the long term trend. It can certainly be used to understand the fall in births during covid, but the drop in birth rate preceded that and has been going on during prosperous times too. Simply comparing poorer and richer countries or poorer and richer people within a country makes this even clearer. The less means you have to raise children the more often you do raise children. As contradictory as this might seem, it’s a trend that applies almost everywhere on earth.
And what come out of it? See ethiopia, somalia, rural india etc? With poverty and many crimes because overpopulations?
Why bring a child in those kind of environment?
I agree with you. I don't have children yet for the same reason - I enjoy my life and I don't want to rush into having kids and being old I guess
@@nurlindafsihotang49 Well, there are some people here who seem to be concerened about extinction of human kind if we don't all have kids. They call it selfish.
I think that this is probably the best explanation I have heard so far explaining why people of lower income tend to have more children than those of higher income. My explanation would have been that in poorer countries where child labour is unfortunately still prevalent and farm work is still manual, children are often considered a financial asset as they are free workers who can provide more capital to the family. However, in richer areas, children are a financial liability as they do not work which leaves the parents to cover their living expenses whilst also paying for additional things like education (especially in academically competitive countries like China).
Asian Boss : Do you have any children ?
Me : none that I know of ? 🤣
Great work by the Asian Boss Team! Is it possible tho to hear the opinions of Chinese people from other cities as well? Like Guangzhou, Shenzhen and so on...
Everybody asks for this but here’s the thing (just my opinion). Asian boss knows their channel stats and where their community is watching from. I bet a lot of it are people in cities, interested in other cultures, open minded, younger. This often means “metropolitan people “. So if I’m a person that’s the “target” , then honestly I don’t care what people in a small(er, less open minded) city thinks. I care about what people who are like me, but in a different country, to get their perspective. Just my two yen
@@TheTinKunt I would actually love to hear opinions from other places (I'm a new mom, so there's that). I live in a fairly diverse urban environment and I prefer to hear perspectives from outside a specific bubble. Otherwise it's an echo chamber of sorts, how can I learn if I keep seeing/hearing the same things?
@@Femchan I totally get what you’re saying and it’s nice to have a counter discussion. I follow a Russian channel that does street interviews like Asian boss and people were asking them to go to other cities outside the big ones so they did. The thing is, the answers people were giving there were very “expected” and not a lot of reasoning why (America is evil, Russia is the best, etc). If someone can come up with a reasoned argument and explain why they feel that way, then it’s a really good ‘interview’ and I just noticed that the people in the cities were able to do that. Of course there are exceptions to the rule! I guess it would be interesting to see Asian boss go outside of the cities to places and see if there’s a difference…
I don't think get why ppl so obsessed with another China cities. When you mentioned America, the first thing people know is NYC. Not Boston or Texas.
I do agree we should be consider since the environment itself has changed, and raising a child need a lot of responsibility and money. Asian parents tend to burden their child with the custom ("since we already spent a lot of money for you, you have to take care of us")
and I don't want to be that type of parents.
Unsustainable society and totally economy driven nation are the cause .
Now only rich could afford kids just like how they have turned this world into more unequal world
The current people who recently married came from one child if they have two children the couple has to take care of 4 parents and 2 children that's a heavy burden for the couple.
It's tough, and it happens in many countries.
Such thoughtful answers. It seems like urban China is encountering the same kinds of pressures and challenges to families as in the West.
Comme toujours, très intéressant. Merci pour ce reportage. 👍😉
This year one of the most popular catchphrase in China is "we are the last generation".
I think it says a lot about a society's underlying "Collective systematic mental health" (what I like to call it, at least)
when a country's birth rate starts to decline. There is something wrong with the soul of the nation and it's people and something deep down must fundamentally shift and change in a drastic way to break free of this "culture" and "aura" of declining birth rate.
you're clever
When more and more young people choose not to have children in the future, they actually choose to say “no” to the question “If you have the choice, are you willing to be born to this world”. And this is concerning.
Asian Boss, thank you for the topic. This is an interesting one.🌟。
Regarding topic, It depends on their income as well as their perspectives on their environments. Parents hope their kids have babies, but everyone has different plans for their future.
Divorce rate is also higher in recent years, another reason people may not want to have babies, because they want their kids to grow up in good environment.
是不是想要小孩跟收入及環境有很大關係。很多人的父母很想抱孫子，但每個人在生涯規劃都不同。還有，離婚近幾年越來越多，這也導致大家不想生，因為還是希望小孩再健全的家庭下長大啊！
台灣這邊很多人都沒生，房價太高了。
Your first
台湾房价也很高吗？ 大陆这边一线城市房价真的太贵了。🤷🏻♂️
@@johnyqu5745
年輕人要工作三十年才有可能買房。
@@asianprince8718 看来哪都贵的要死🥲
台湾房价和一二线比还是很便宜的，只不过台湾收入低，说这个台湾人是不同意的，但实际就是这样，台湾和在一二线城市里就是收入比较低的。
This channel is always my favourite. They provide so much awareness about global topics.
This isn't a problem with China, its a problem with all the Asian countries.
As Chinese Canadian, I can speak to two main reasons for this:
1. Raising a child is too expensive. Due to the size of the Asian country and high average population, the competition interms of school is exponentially harder than it is here in the west. Like literally I went to a top 30 university in the world. And I tried the grade 12 exam, and I would say I could barely get 600 point. You need over 650 to get to a top school in China. This means parent would need to not only invest way more money on tutor lessons, but also gave up valuable work time to bring their kids to these lessons. On top of that even if a Child graduates from a top university in China, the competition in the job market is just as intense.
2. Traditional ideology around marriage. I am not sure if this only occurs in other Asian countries, but I can speak for China. In China female who gave birth must stay in the bed for 30 days to recover from childbirth. It is believed that if they do any intense exercise it would severely harm the body, that is why a baby nanni is usually hired dirty the first 30 days when the child is born, in families that are better off, the nanni is hired for 60-90 days. This is so engraved in Chinese society that if a husband makes the wife do any work, like literally any work, the wife will consider that you don't care about her body, the wife will literally divorce the husband if she feels like she was not well taken care of during the 30 days. Its all over the news in China, where the wife feels like she wasn't taken care of during the first 30 days of child birth, and she ran back to her own parents house and divorced the husband ASAP. These ideologies paired with the fact that most Chinese companies does not allow for maternity of paternity leave, usually means that the wife must quit her job in order to have kids.
I'm from the U.S. and i don't want to have kids because I think it's unethical. We've all been essentially forced on this earth through no decision of our own and we're forced into circumstances that we never chose to be born into. We don't even get to choose something as trivial as the way we look. In my opinion these are all things that i've struggled and continue to struggle with. In addition to this, i just don't want to force another human being to live on this planet under these corrupt systems. Furthermore, human beings can't even get over something as trivial and insignificant as skin color, I have no reason to believe that humans will be able to find solutions to bigger and much more significant issues. Even the fact that we age until our bodies are completely useless pisses me off. Perhaps if my way of thinking changes as I grow older I'll have children, but I honestly can't see that happening. I'm very resentful towards the world and humanity as a whole and frankly I hate existing in a world like this. I don't care about the narrative of "oh but look at all the progress we've made", some things should've never happened period. In short, I hate life, and if there's a God I despise him even more for creating everything the way it is.
I feel the same way like this world is disgusting
I am Chinese, my English is not good, I agree with your point of view.
I think human beings are disgusting creatures. The so-called 'gods' and 'civilization' are lies fabricated by the rulers. The purpose of most people coming to this world is to serve the rulers, especially the poor in China. The wealth gap and human rights issues are very unequal. If you have to experience a lifetime of pressure and pain when you come to this world, then there is no need to come to this world.
Interestingly, if there is a god in this world, then I don't understand why the god doesn't destroy such evil creatures as humans? Instead, save humanity?
If there are really 'demons' in this world, I can't think of any creature that is more suitable for the title of 'demons' than humans.
Why does our species have a very short fertility life especially the women? God's creations for humans are soooo tiring for fertility issues. You know what? Let's focus on innovation instead like IVG and Artificial womb so we don't have to worry about anything for fertility as we get older. Women are the biggest issue here since they have short fertility span.
I have the same thought as you about not wanting to bring any human to the earth as I would feel sorry for them.
Now I'm trying to view life from the good side and hope so do you.
I think the same. Some people are genuine nonetheless and probably I will have kids when it will be urgent and Africa will stop breeding like rabbits.
If only kids were like amazon packages: after a certain period of time you can return if you can‘t live with it anymore but nooo. Children is a massive commitment. Time, money, all that. It costs WAY too much nowadays.
I watched a film recently about people not having kids in the future because it was considered sadistic and suicidal. To be honest we aren't that far off, it's already considered selfish...
What is the film's name?
It is wrong to have kids. Don't create suffering and death. Don't have kids.
Movie name?
I truly believe that having children is a choice. I'd rather people don't have kids than have them and neglect them.
Logicaly if you can't afford to raise a child you should think twice before bringing one into the world.
That being said I believe that children are a gift from God, not the " burden " that some might believe they are.
I have no doubt some will regret thier decision in later years, careers and success ( materialism ) isn't everything.
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
This is not about people choosing materialism over family for the most part. It is impossible for your average person to have kids without raising them in poverty due to insane costs of living and jobs that don’t keep up with inflation.
@Boo! Why wouldn't I give up on a hectic job that I won't be happy with when I lose my fertility and youth (My primary agency for attracting a competent man) focusing on a career up to my 30s appeasing some random male boss at the workplace instead of my own husband and children?
If you aren't willing to sacrifice for a family due to a lack of commitment and the need for personal enjoyment with freedom and material wealth, then don't complain about being single, leftover and unwanted in your 30s and 40s.
Single leftover women in their 30s and 40s are the most unhappy demographic and taking anti-depressant pills more than ever. What does that tell you?
@Boo! Nope, you're being selective with the types of marriages that turned sour and bad, and that is mostly due to women's fault because 70%-80% of divorces are initiated by women, mainly caused by financial reasons and not domestic abuse.
What about happy nuclear families consisting of healthy parenthood and socially recognized children? The fact that you even exist here is thankfully due to a grounded family structure you grew up in without realizing you're dismissing the merit of a good marriage.
And corrections for you, an overwhelmingly high number of individuals taking anti-depressant pills are single leftover women with no children. These women are among the most unhappy demographic in the US.
Men and women are committing suicides at an identical rate, just that men are more efficient at guaranteeing their own deaths while women are less efficient at killing themselves.
Lol I know my stuff, you better come up with something good otherwise you're just another clown. You better cite your sources because I have a whole bunch waiting for you at my disposal.
@@Waterbug1591 To be fair, if I had a job I really enjoyed and got decent income I wouldn’t want to give that all up for a child and a man either 💀
One issue is probably that people expect more from romantic relationships where it might not have been as much of a personal choice in the past. And you had more family support in the past too.
A lot of people just weren't raised to know how to flirt well. And if they aren't confident enough to learn themselves (like their parents or grandparents maybe didn't need to be) then where in the past they might have had kids, today they won't.
Because cost of living getting higher so more ppl choose to be single and don't want child
I don't know why people feel low birthrate is a bad thing. Low birthrate is a sign of progress. The problems faced by large population are more difficult than those faced by low population.
Japan and Korea are believed to have low birth rate. Aging population is something they are dealing with. Some afraid not enough young people to take care of older people.
@@asianprince8718 still, they are leading peaceful and happy lives. They can always get workers from overseas. In large population countries, average person has to go through so much competition to do anything in life.
@@Banana_917
I see. What if you get old in future and no kids with you? You have to take care of yourself and friends.
@@asianprince8718 as cruel as it sounds there are things like old age homes. I have been to Germany before and one of my colleagues parents live in an old age home. For me it was quite a cultural shock. I think this will be the case in other countries too. I would never want to keep my parents in such places but I know there are quite the number of people who are already considering such options.
I don't want india to see in first place as a native. It's really embarrassing
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India's overall population is declining actually, Only some states like Bihar, MP, UP have very high birth rate.
Nahh!! it's not embarrassing at all. It's a good thing to lot of ppl
@@tomorrow. you don't give them fckin employment.
That's why I support criminalizing maritial rape law and abortion of unmarried women
I never had kids because I just didn't want the heavy workload. They make you exhausted.
Ok
The COVID-19 just make our economy worse, i am college student gonna graduate next year, i rellay worried about whether I can get a job
For me, i just want a house, with my girlfriend, and have some fun with my friends on weekends, and that's it. But now I found it's hard to realize in the future.
And the origin of the virus is China itself.
Don't have kids, bosses. Just live your life to the fullest. And I mean to the FFCKING FULLEST!
They would actually have to see a bright future for their children in China and they don't.
I see a future body in a coffin when I see a baby. It is wrong to have kids. Don't create suffering and death. Don't have kids.
Did anyone mentioned the population size disparity between the genders due to their one child policy and the traditional preference of having sons over daughters?
One guy mentioned women's expectations are higher... But work environment does not gives women the assurance to leave her job for a few years to raise her child (HR discriminate the ppl over 35 is often mentioned by Chinese netizens.) like what one of the woman described. Ppl who thinks it is a huge problem when a female colleague is pregnant and moan and groan about the workload and the HR who asks female job seekers if they plan to marry or have kids in the next x amount of years, these are all signals that pregnancies are not welcomed and would affect your job seeking chances. Even if she takes that risks and leave a good job job for 2-4 years, are their mates' single salary sufficient? So why would women willingly marry down and still have to bear most of the childbearing and child rearing burden?
Another is these ppl went thru the education system and job seeking environment, their children are under tremendous pressure to get into good high schools and universities, and their yearly amount of graduates are huge and job market competition is stiff, employers can have their pick, and can keep entry level salary low. These are not attractive prospects.
😂 and the men dont help with chores. please show themselves to the door😂
2-3 child policy... You'd need some major rewards for having kids.
In general, it's just easier to stop people from taking action (with punishments) than it is to make people do things that will take a ton of effort (like raising children)
Good interview, and it shows that most Chinese does want children, it's just the property price(now it's finally decreasing) and competition in education that's making people to second guess
So the government policies should target on making housing more affordable, and invest more in education resources.
You see this is why Asian Boss is such a valuable channel, every other channels talking about Chinese demographics is all about doom and gloom, and the views of the Chinese people are always ignored.
Asian Boss gives the world insights into countries they operate in.
6:45 Guy hit the nail square on the head with women's standards for a suitable dating partner skyrocketing to unrealistic heights because they have become so "strong and independent" with an income they don't want to give up on over having a family. Guy at 5:18 has made it clear twice that he has no partner to mate with.
@@Waterbug1591 I agree that unrealistic expectations are part of the problem. However many people are still getting married and made the conscious decision to not have children. So I do not think that it is the main reason for the decreasing birth rates in certain countries.
@@redguy9945 Wrong. Marriage rate is also declining at a drastic speed, and 80% of divorces are initiated by women, and mostly because of financial reasons. Women are killing marriages and child births with abortions too.
Government is the problem for making the price of living worst. Having government fund more things will only make it worst.
You need government out of the market and allow a free market to work and you’ll see a better economy where people don’t have to make themselves work non stop just to live.
@@Jglabel262 The market decides the price of goods, not the government, what are you even on about?
One of the biggest issue for China is the one child policy that was implemented previously...resulting into 4 grandparents -> 2 parents --> 1 child situation.
Can you add chinese subtitles as well? This would be excellent study material
They spoke standard mandarin with good accent, why it need chinese sub titles, sounds abit weird. For Cantonese speakers, I guess most of people understand English sub titles
@@itshry So we can see direct translations. Some English translations are colloquial, and for those still learning chinese, we dont know which chinese word is being used, just by hearing it alone.
@@Kevin-xz4jq They spoke standard Mandarin (Putonghua).
@@itshry i know they are speaking mandarin.
where are you from? Chongqing?
im surprised, none of the chinese mentioned that the culture works too much. Cost of living and no work life balance is the major factors.
This world is just becoming more and more expensive and uninhabitable by the day it’s scary. It’s probably best to just live our short lives to the fullest and be happy with no children, than to bring one in and have them grow up just to suffer and clean up the mess of a dying world.
Overpopulation you mean...
Some suggest moving home to outer space, could it happen this century ?
Like DBZ, some people and Goku lived in another planet.
Ok dad
A key factor might be that the country killed too many female infants 30 years ago during the one child policy era due to their patriarchy culture, and there are now fewer females than before.
Good content. As a 30-year-old woman, I am scared of men, don't even want to be in a relationship, I am battling with the fear of losing my job, scared of going outside because of insecurity and sexual assaults on women that we hear all the time. How could I even consider wanting kids? I'm barely surviving myself.
"one who fears suffering already suffers from fear"
It’s tough for women no matter what they decide, unfortunately.
Menurut saya, punya anak di zaman sekarang tuh gak sama seperti di zaman dulu.
Punya itu gak cuma soal nikah-making love-lahirin baby. Tapi gimana mendidik anak yang akan menemui tantangan yang lebih besar dari zaman sekarang. Biaya juga harus dipertimbangkan. Anak itu gak cuma butuh dikasih makan doang. Pendidikan, kesehatan, lingkungan pertemanan, pokoknya banyak hal. Jangan sampe anak itu kelak cuma jadi beban orang lain
Tp kita hidup di negeri konoha yg tau sendiri orang2nya gimana
The birth rate in Afghanistan is above 3 while the majority of their people are living in extreme poverty. The Taliban government is not allowing ladies to go to school in some parts. There are no more reasons for a country to decline.
Naturally birthrates will be higher in countries that have a more old model of the family where the man works and the woman stays home, when both parents have to work it negatively effects the birthrate because many women will put career before having kids and by the time they consider having kids they might be to old by that time.
It is a Muslim country, nonetheless
@@americanpatriot3710 Not because of specific religion. Muslim, Christian(not now), Hindu, Budhhist religion have these kind of problems.
I don't think I can feed another person. Plus, I know myself, I'm not a caring person. can't imagine myself being with anyone, or even taking care of someone else.
When people value career or money more than children, which is the norm in eastern Asian countries, a decline in birth rate is what you get. Because of Confucius teachings, people place too much emphasis on personal success or they think success is what defines a person. People will envy you for having a great career or lots of money, but not when you have lots of kids. Most people want what other people have, if people start valuing children more than career or put less emphasis on personal success, then the declining birth rate may reverse. Many people hold the views that they do not want to bring children to this terrible world, have they read history? They have no idea how much worse our ancestors had it, but still our ancestors had children and that ‘s why we exist today.
Do you mean in the past, the world situation was worse yet many people still had many kids?
@@asianprince8718 At least they had kids, not like many people these days won't even consider having at least one kid
I've been married 4 years now, at 34, and I don't think I want babies. Since economy and inflation is crazy nowadays. I can barely support myself and wife.
Foods too expensive...?
@@asianprince8718 literally everything is overpriced nowadays
@@asianprince8718 Energy crisis so the price of electricity and natural gas have gone up, other methods of heating costs have risen in tandem. Food has become way more expensive as a result of the energy crisis and the war. Landlords increasing the rent because their cost of living has also gone up. There are still production shortages because of corona. Shipping has become way more expensive.
@@luziaflone1951 what country do you live, may I ask?
A lot of great insights and well thought out answers. Except the guy saying that high quality women have higher expections than what the reality is. I'm sorry no dude. Women put up with a lot of bad behaviours in the past and they're just tolerating less of it as society progresses. It's not a bad thing at all. Just be more mindful of your actions towards your partner.
Don't worry, this dude will stay single forever. The numbers aren't on his side anyway after years of one-child policy. Looks like he's going to have to continue to washing his own underwear and cooking his own food lol
Actually, his meaning is woman always expects a man who is better than herself.Anyway, the population of rich people are least, the male can accept a woman who earns less, but the female can't accept a man who earns less. That's the fact has happened in China.
@@satoshi9704 women can accept men who earn less
Unsustainable society and totally economy driven nation are the cause .
Now only rich could afford kids just like how they have turned this world into more unequal world
@@sb8095 That's the fact in China.没有调查就没有发言权，你可以去婚恋市场看一看真实数据。
I really like the perspective of the woman with blue sunglasses on her head. Her points are exactly how I think
The translation in 2:56 may be wrong? I think the woman is saying "dual-earner family".
Wow, HR in China can just ask you if you’re married w kids as a criteria for employment 😮
It is simple math
2 people married produce 1 child means negative
2 children mean netral
3 children mean positive.
Now... which job can have earnings to support 5 people?
Needs to be 2 point something to account for people who died early due to health issues, accidents, war, etc.
Work 5 jobs.
@@demonslayer9772 Well... it just make it worse...
Without those variables, the growth already in negative...
Fantastic interview ✨️✨️✨️💫☀️💫✨️✨️✨️
These days I think younger people (generally speaking) just simply have different values than people from previous generations. It's not simply a matter of money (although sometimes it is). There are sooo many things going on these days that are diverting peoples' attention that people back then didn't have - like having access to the internet/social media, streaming services (like Netflix and Disney Plus), videogames, and so forth. I'm a firm believer that if we didn't have these things today then there would be a lot more babies popping out. Understand that having children isn't just expensive, but they also take away much of your free time from being able to enjoy these kind of things.
This just isn't true lol
You conducted the interview in a single place of a particular city. How authentic can it be?
I'm a 35 year old Chinese and I never thought of having kids. Oh, that's partly because I'm gay.
Gay or not, it is wrong to have kids.
@@antinataliz9633 exactly!
We can all agree falling economics is a significant factor with the youth not wanting kids ( rightly so ), combined with the idea that you’re supposed to finish your education and overachieve which is difficult with a baby.
I feel like the rich who can financially support a baby even though there’s economic crisis is another stab in a back to the “poor” because your ability to have children shouldn’t be jeopardised because of your financial state.
If only they paid people what they deserve instead of exploiting them and providing more support financially and mentally for both parents
As an Indian most modern generation indians also not wanting to have children or just stick to one!
The amount of responsibility and the sacrifice woman have to put through to their health and jobs makes them not to have more than one else none also due to the horrible future these generations might see due to natural destructions also make people not wanna bring a life... This is gonna be the way henceforth henceforth
.. won't be soon that it will decline here too.
It's said that the population in India is going to surpass China just this year in 2022
@@stevenkyle9426 India's daily birth is around 70000 while death is approx. 30000. That's actually dangerous.
@@stevenkyle9426 India is atleast a democracy while China is a communist dictatorship.
@@americanpatriot3710 I thought we were talking about population. Go learn some English dude
@@stevenkyle9426 I know English. Am not Chinese.
When the cost of raising kids is 7x the average GDP per capita, do you even really need to ask why people aren't having as many kids?
Kind of hard for them to do with the 2 child policy
it used to be worse with the 1 child policy.... what's the excuse now?
3 child policy now, and restrictions will be further lifted in the future
Very interesting video with unique perspectives.
isn't house free in ancient world?? why it cost 30 year of labory nowadays??? slavery??
Capitalism.
You can thank capitalism, difference back than even not that long ago in terms of history like 1800s and further back many people built their own homes and just lived in multi generational homesteads but that has changed capitalism has turned everything absolutely into a product. Everything is also more expensive again thanks to capitalism, even if you inherit a home from your parents all the things you need to raise a family are now much more expensive compared to just few generations ago.
If you want to build a stone house in a desert with no plumbing, running water, electricity, heating, and company of your fellow man, then go ahead it is indeed free
It’s urbanisation. It hits every country. In rural areas, children are assets, they can work in the fields, take care of the chickens and pigs, help cook and clean in urban areas children are expenses, yiu need a bigger apartment, day care, schooling, activities. All societies that urbanise show dramatic reductions in birth rates. China had the biggest fastest urbanisation we’ve in history. In 2000 2/3 of Chinese lived in the countryside. By 2016 that flipped to 2/3 living in cities.
Young people are broke. It is that simple. Also why would we bring our kids to this world only to let them suffer with us?
Their plan went very well to this point. The men began to soften and the women began to strengthen. There will come a time where they are really in one straight line. And that's when the second phase of the plan will begin.
If you plan for one year, cultivate rice. If you plan for a decade, plant trees. If you plan for a lifetime, educate people - Chinese proverb.
@@Banana_917 Job pressure
I like this proverb 💪💪💪
40Million of Chinese in the world lives outside of China as their family moved 50years, Todays China is not the China from then when poverty was rampant.
Should China offer incentives for them to move back to motherland?
Why move back to mother home ,just like say 23 million in united states go back to england,or tell Australia and canada go back to Europe....
@@ucchau173 not the same. Europe is not loosing population overall, just the natives getting replaced. Though If China wants to stay above 1B even if all 40million moved back probably will not do much to help.
it's always the same everywhere.
poor people want to have truckloads of kids, more well to do people want to have few/no kids coz of the cost of living, cost of education blah blah blah.
Some people have lots of Kids so they can use them later on. Like Free child labor, kids will pay for their parents needs etc.When they work they get Money from them. They expect something in return in future.
. I'm from philippines. I obsessed about Chinese girls , because for me Chinese girl is so looking feminine and beautiful in western asian , compare japanese and korean.
How about Japanese or Korean girls? Isn't K Drama popular in there?
@@asianprince8718 I guess he prefers no makeup girls Chinese girls usually don’t wear such makeups like Japanese or Korean
每次看中国人的街访都只有一个感觉：中国国民素质太高了，看问题很多面，很客观，很深入，而且很有自己的见解！比如那个说人口下降并不一定是个危机，真的很高！
Yep, but this video is not accessible from China😁😁😁😁
@@curtisalex456 everyone and their mother has a VPN and can access anything in China.
@@curtisalex456 so
,who am I ? location Zhenjiang China
@@curtisalex456 F***ing idiot still sitting at the bottom of your well thinking what you see is the whole sky.
No what they think is just what everybody else is thinking, too much groupthink. Most people in China want no kids or very few kids
I was a surrogate for a friend, but I don't want to have my own children. If I want kids when I'm older, I will foster or adopt.
So many people hold similar view as you
More kids? In this economy?
these's nothing to do with economy since Africa has the highest birth rate
@@hurryhurry7026 Lot of African women don't work which is a big part of it, and if they do work it's usually in a rural farming community which is much different than corporate city life. When a young woman is part of something like 996 culture she is naturally going to have less sex with her husband if she is lucky enough to have one in such a overworked society. Women in the workforce naturally will lower birthrates, they won't have the time to be proper mothers there is already 2 generations that were barely raised by their mothers and more so daycares/schools this has had a big effect on many countries.
I went to China this summer and am rlly feeling the low birthrate and population getting more old. Its rlly not just Japan that has a increasing older population. Especially in my hometown, in a span of two months I went to 3 funerals and witness several other funerals happening. Every morning I am disturbed awake by the loud firecrackers and gongs belonging to a funeral parade.
And another thing ive been seeing a lot online is girls' losing faith in married life and a husband. The ladies doesnt want an alpha husband and scars from pregnancy anymore. I heard someone say that everytime they heard someone say; they "want to go home afyer work to a warmly lit house and a gentle wife saying "welcome home" as dinner cook in the kitchen" they feel cold in the heart.
From the receiver who benefit from such a situation, it sounds indeed nice. But as the person making that situation happen, its not so happy joy anymore. Most guys like to be the alpha male in charge and ladies doesn't want to deal with that anymore. We finally realize marriage and kids isnt the only route anymore. Kids will only pull us down without a good husband. How many of them can be like the male leads on tv?
Although childbirth is necessary, China's reasoning behind not wanting kids is understandable. Overpopulation can pose a threat given they hold the No.1 spot for most populated nation, as opposed to Japan, the government really screwed over a lot of the citizens in terms of jobs that make people overwork themselves😤.
Japan is a failing nation, they will cease to be a world power if they don't change fast.
Based on scale, China has the largest overworked population in the world, especially young people.
@@stevenkyle9426 Everyone is overworked, if it's not physically it'll be mentally, trust me
@@SukottoX true but some countries take it to more extremes than others
@@xvenacavax Also true
The effect of china's one child policy is what we see now.