As a BPD the black and white thinking resonates. Even knowing about it doesn't stop me from doing it. I try to think on a scale of 1 to 10 when I remeber.
Dr. Rami, I cannot thank you enough for the work you are doing! Thankyou so much for helping me out, everything you mentioned about is what I am doing to myself. I am so grateful that I came across your channel. Please never stop uploading videos. PLEASE! Love from India! 🇮🇳
Thank you for your kind words. I'm really glad to hear that you have found the videos helpful. Please support the channel by sharing the videos with anyone you think might find them useful. I wish you all the best in your efforts to feel better.
Thank you, this is how i am. For 3yrs and half of my theraphy it seems not matter its i guess i did filtered it. Doesnt matter what im doing i dont have a joy at all.😢😢
So many of these topics I've touched on during therapy in my 30s. Even though I worked through many there's still some that remain. My therapist used to tell me therapy was like peeling an onion, as you peel back one layer, there's often other layers before you get to the issue. Thank you for your help
Thanks Dr. Rami, extremely helpful. My traumatic departure from my career job, has put me into grief and depression. All 10, im in need of correction. Learning & becoming aware of these, would have helped me SO much in my earlier life!,... I'll be Learning there now,.. for helping to get out of this horrible depression., and to better myself from here on... 🙏
@DrRamiNader pls. 4½months, since departure from my job. O always think of the mistake of retirement,.. and ALL I want is to return, but I cannot. I'm unable to let go.... It's all I want,.. so I don't do anything at all anymore,... I'm dying. I lost interest in life. I want to figure a way, to let this go. I cannot find anything on this unique problem or attachment. ?🙏
Thank you for these videos they are helping me so much. Yesterday I went to the dentist after avoiding it for 4years. I am focusing on facing and accepting my intolerance of uncertainty i. Well the treatment was a bit painful but I managed to remain reasonably calm and realised that the pain now wAs probably saving me from worse pain later if I avoided the treatment.. Another small step towards sanity.
I've been filtering. I lost a dearly beloved dog after she struggled a long time with a disease. It was horrible. Now I can't look at a dog without seeing a sick, suffering and dying dog. I will never get another dog.
Very helpful Doctor Rami, i have anxiety disorder and this is very useful because i do some of these things unconsciously and now i understand how to respond differently ❤
Hi Dr. Rami, thank you for all of these videos. I sure wish you could or would put together a workbook or even write a book about all these things like how you have to change behavior and the other thing lol whatever that is I can't remember, what you really have to do to increase "motivation" and energy, All of the steps and features of setting appropriate goals for improving habits, etc. I have a ton of notes, but it's kind of a mess, and I feel like all the answers are here - it would just be such a help to have a written kind of guide book/outline/workbook or something. Just a thought, and thanks again for all the videos!
Thank you once again for bringing clarity to these topics. I have reAd and tried the CBT worksheets but I fing listening to your explanations much more more h lpful. I wonder label myself as having brain fog or osenior moments.
Re: all or nothing mindset. This is a good one as we get closer to US election day. Many bridges were burned in 2016 election and its ramping up again. There is something to be said for discernment during election years. We can and do find out our philosophical differences,which affect day to day living, and if the divide is too vast then maybe the association was not meant to last. Want also to comment that certain cultures and ethnicities are more prone to negativity, the one I was brought up in, for instance. It can be quite difficult to overcome when the ancient script or narrative is installed into the brains of each new generation. Some excuse such ways of acting and thinking as "tradition", to me, some of it verges on erroneous and fear-based "superstitious behavior"
How do you accurately do CBt when you most likely have high functioning g well masked autism and started visibly sliding downhill after high school until your fifties, but everyone thinks it’s laziness or depression Bnb or being spoiled. You’ve been diagnosed w ADD…. The only help you can afford is meds and books- but you need more . The neurodiversity aspect TRULY affects what works and doesn’t. Also been diagnosed bipolar 2, but some think that’s not really it Point is- it’s about ACCURATELy seeing what’s going on and doing differently with the specific right supports- IF they even exist. This is versus CBT aspects of just seeing your thought patterns at sabotage and attributing everything- even misunderstood neurodiversity etc as only that I’ve been trying to tease this apart for the past 7 years and can NOT go back to trying what o used to and getti mg the same results Help?!? Help me get oBJECTIVELY clear. I also know some of this seems xatastrophizinng, black and white and generalizing, but you do have to see some black and white in order to get clear
You wouldn't like the British judicial system that makes findings on evidence 'plainly wrong'. Just because there are two sides to things doesn't mean there isn't an absolute 'wrong'?
Also if xatastrophizinf, it’s there for a TEASOn!!! Say my parents will drop me or this or that if I And if you have issues, you cannot cope with that unless prepared and IF… So you worry about that because it’s what Alwaus happened?!?
Like I said at the beginning of the video, this is a compellation video combining a number of prior videos I've made into one, so that's why it's so long. I think RUclips will generate automatic time stamps, but I'll try to add them now.
@@DrRamiNader subbed. thanks - Im up to mind reading.. .yes, it tends to be all negative things but.... these things seemed to all be correct.... = people were gossiping, that person wasn't my real friend, yes, I was going to get fired.... yes that person was lying....
@@royfr8136 Some of the negative things you though may be technically correct, at least in some small way. They can still get distorted. Even if a friend was gossiping in some way, that doesn't mean they aren't your friend too. You could have esp. high boundaries about what people share about you and your life, they might have loose boundaries, but they could still be your friend. There could be some all or nothing thinking involved. Unfortunately, many people lie, so we have to give grace. We don't want chronic liars as our close circle, but accepting that people are weak will help for much of life.
As a BPD the black and white thinking resonates. Even knowing about it doesn't stop me from doing it. I try to think on a scale of 1 to 10 when I remeber.
Dr. Rami, I cannot thank you enough for the work you are doing! Thankyou so much for helping me out, everything you mentioned about is what I am doing to myself. I am so grateful that I came across your channel. Please never stop uploading videos. PLEASE! Love from India! 🇮🇳
Thank you for your kind words. I'm really glad to hear that you have found the videos helpful. Please support the channel by sharing the videos with anyone you think might find them useful. I wish you all the best in your efforts to feel better.
Thank you, I can definitely relate to all the Thinking Errors, which is quite difficult for me to admit.
Thank you, this is how i am. For 3yrs and half of my theraphy it seems not matter its i guess i did filtered it. Doesnt matter what im doing i dont have a joy at all.😢😢
So many of these topics I've touched on during therapy in my 30s. Even though I worked through many there's still some that remain. My therapist used to tell me therapy was like peeling an onion, as you peel back one layer, there's often other layers before you get to the issue. Thank you for your help
Amazing!!!!! Best video on the internet!!!!!
Thanks Dr. Rami, extremely helpful. My traumatic departure from my career job, has put me into grief and depression. All 10, im in need of correction. Learning & becoming aware of these, would have helped me SO much in my earlier life!,... I'll be Learning there now,.. for helping to get out of this horrible depression., and to better myself from here on... 🙏
Never too late to recognize and challenge these types of thinking.
@DrRamiNader pls. 4½months, since departure from my job. O always think of the mistake of retirement,.. and ALL I want is to return, but I cannot. I'm unable to let go.... It's all I want,.. so I don't do anything at all anymore,... I'm dying. I lost interest in life. I want to figure a way, to let this go. I cannot find anything on this unique problem or attachment. ?🙏
Thank you for these videos they are helping me so much. Yesterday I went to the dentist after avoiding it for 4years. I am focusing on facing and accepting my intolerance of uncertainty i. Well the treatment was a bit painful but I managed to remain reasonably calm and realised that the pain now wAs probably saving me from worse pain later if I avoided the treatment.. Another small step towards sanity.
That's really great to hear. I wish you all the best in your continued efforts to feel better.
I've been filtering. I lost a dearly beloved dog after she struggled a long time with a disease. It was horrible. Now I can't look at a dog without seeing a sick, suffering and dying dog. I will never get another dog.
Sorry for your loss.
Very helpful Doctor Rami, i have anxiety disorder and this is very useful because i do some of these things unconsciously and now i understand how to respond differently ❤
Glad you found the video helpful.
As a student of psychology and cognitive sciences, I find your videos interesting and helpful. Thank you !
You're very welcome. I wish you all the best in your studies.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for this.
Thank you for the video ❤ I needed this
Glad you found it helpful!
Merci, doc
2:30 never be attached to the outcome. Read ‘meditations’ by Marcus Aeuraleous
Omg!!! So many of these thinking points are thoughts I have I've never been aware of the damage until this video.
Glad you found it helpful.
I love your advice and tools, which I'm trying to put into practice. You've got a good calming voice, too.
Thank you for your kind and encouraging words. I'm glad you have found the videos helpful.
So many thanks for the compendium!!!
Dealing with many
You're very welcome.
This video was very informative, something I'd definitely get back to watch multiple times. Thank you!
Glad you found it helpful!
Great video!!!!!!!! I will try to pay better attention to what I am thinking!!!!!!!
Glad it was helpful. Awareness is the first key step!
I took away a lot from this, thank you so much for sharing!
You're very welcome. Glad it was helpful.
Hi Dr. Rami, thank you for all of these videos. I sure wish you could or would put together a workbook or even write a book about all these things like how you have to change behavior and the other thing lol whatever that is I can't remember, what you really have to do to increase "motivation" and energy, All of the steps and features of setting appropriate goals for improving habits, etc. I have a ton of notes, but it's kind of a mess, and I feel like all the answers are here - it would just be such a help to have a written kind of guide book/outline/workbook or something. Just a thought, and thanks again for all the videos!
Thank you once again for bringing clarity to these topics. I have reAd and tried the CBT worksheets but I fing listening to your explanations much more more h lpful. I wonder label myself as having brain fog or osenior moments.
I'm glad you have found the videos helpful.
Very useful advice. Thank you for your video
Re: all or nothing mindset. This is a good one as we get closer to US election day. Many bridges were burned in 2016 election and its ramping up again. There is something to be said for discernment during election years. We can and do find out our philosophical differences,which affect day to day living, and if the divide is too vast then maybe the association was not meant to last.
Want also to comment that certain cultures and ethnicities are more prone to negativity, the one I was brought up in, for instance. It can be quite difficult to overcome when the ancient script or narrative is installed into the brains of each new generation. Some excuse such ways of acting and thinking as "tradition", to me, some of it verges on erroneous and fear-based "superstitious behavior"
Thank you for your time on making these videos
Hi Allie, you're very welcome. Thank you for supporting the channel.
Thank you!!
You're very welcome!
Very generous mashallah may you be blessed
Glad you found it helpful!
6:32 called “splitting “
Sorry for being so private, but where are you originally from ,doctor rami
Balance
How do you accurately do CBt when you most likely have high functioning g well masked autism and started visibly sliding downhill after high school until your fifties, but everyone thinks it’s laziness or depression Bnb or being spoiled.
You’ve been diagnosed w ADD…. The only help you can afford is meds and books- but you need more .
The neurodiversity aspect TRULY affects what works and doesn’t.
Also been diagnosed bipolar 2, but some think that’s not really it
Point is- it’s about ACCURATELy seeing what’s going on and doing differently with the specific right supports- IF they even exist.
This is versus CBT aspects of just seeing your thought patterns at sabotage and attributing everything- even misunderstood neurodiversity etc as only that
I’ve been trying to tease this apart for the past 7 years and can NOT go back to trying what o used to and getti mg the same results
Help?!? Help me get oBJECTIVELY clear.
I also know some of this seems xatastrophizinng, black and white and generalizing, but you do have to see some black and white in order to get clear
You wouldn't like the British judicial system that makes findings on evidence 'plainly wrong'. Just because there are two sides to things doesn't mean there isn't an absolute 'wrong'?
Dr are you from the middle east originaly ?
Who cares? If he's giving accurate advice what does his origin matter? I think your question says more about you.
@@cmdrpandittDude chill, it was an innocent question
Also if xatastrophizinf, it’s there for a TEASOn!!!
Say my parents will drop me or this or that if I
And if you have issues, you cannot cope with that unless prepared and IF…
So you worry about that because it’s what Alwaus happened?!?
❤❤❤❤
I re Wired my Brain-
now
I have no Brain anymore
helps!
get rid of your brain
and be happy without your brain
works for 8 Billion Persons...
even you!
OK i do all these things lol
Couldnt you have done this in less time...? the length of this depresses me. (maybe put time stamps)
Like I said at the beginning of the video, this is a compellation video combining a number of prior videos I've made into one, so that's why it's so long. I think RUclips will generate automatic time stamps, but I'll try to add them now.
Have now added timestamps in the video description. Hope that helps.
@@DrRamiNader subbed. thanks - Im up to mind reading.. .yes, it tends to be all negative things but.... these things seemed to all be correct.... = people were gossiping, that person wasn't my real friend, yes, I was going to get fired.... yes that person was lying....
@@royfr8136 Some of the negative things you though may be technically correct, at least in some small way. They can still get distorted. Even if a friend was gossiping in some way, that doesn't mean they aren't your friend too. You could have esp. high boundaries about what people share about you and your life, they might have loose boundaries, but they could still be your friend. There could be some all or nothing thinking involved. Unfortunately, many people lie, so we have to give grace. We don't want chronic liars as our close circle, but accepting that people are weak will help for much of life.
Nah... I always notice the rainbow. It's become like a talisman for me.
Merci beaucoup doc
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