@@doclinny im sure they have editing, brand deals, contracts, planning videos and whatever else we don’t know about that would count as the traditional male gender role. You don’t have a point since you’re not in their marriage.
People really do forget that feminism fought for women to have the CHOICE to be a housewife or a working woman or a combination of the two. Women who choose traditional lifestyles get shit on a lot
@@cowboy8474 Exactly, people fought for choice, that's what feminism is. It doesn't mean everyone wants to become a lawyer or some shit. This is going against what most of them "stand" for.
@@azraorucevic2438 there's a difference between showing a child's every move and documenting you're life. They're videos aren't showing their baby every single second. Why can't people document their lives?
@@gooddoggo523 first of all, children shouldn't be seen on the internet. They can't consent to be seen. There are many pedophiles, you endanger child by exposing them. There are many children who spoke up about hell they went through by having yt parents. ACE family is one example. So yeah, they are shitty parents who exploit children for money.
Yea..well they sold thier soul. They get stuck In it. They start moving into bigger houses, cars get nicer...they can't stop cause it all goes away. It's strange to me cause these people aren't specifically yet they get attention. I don't get it. They are you and me.. they aren't showing a talent ... just strangers.
@@marikiemarie7622 yeah but just because they 'sold there souls' doesn't mean that people can give them abuse online. Noone would say anything to their face but they will abuse them online. It's bizarre behaviour and absolutely pathetic 😂
She had the BEST response to all the negativity. Their marriage is already heading in the right direction. Not many couples grasp that concept and end up spilt.
@@ue2267 talk to him. My grandmother had a similar issue and she had him sit down and listen then have him recite everything she said . He didn't listen so she pulled the divorce papers as a "warning" and he decided to listen , didn't work out even after that because the compability was really low . You can try something similar if you like , I don't recommend it though just thought I'd see if you were interested din the idea. Sometimes people aren't meant to be, if your alright woth how things are that's also good!
Paying the bills is also once a month task whereas abby’s tasks are all day everyday tasks, make it make sense? And it’s both their money, they earn together, it’s not like he earns alone.
@@dialogues4144 plus in the video where they talk about how the water was turned off he says “I’m sorry I thought I set up autopay”. So it’s not even a once a month thing, it’s a once thing
Having different roles honestly makes things so much easier. I do stuff my bf doesn’t like to do and he does the stuff I don’t like/can’t do. We will of course step into each others roles if ever needed in case one of us was down for a bit. I also ask to learn some of the stuff he does and he shows me and vice versa but there’s nothing wrong with having different roles
Exactly it’s the best way to do it in my opinion. Like I personally hate being the one to always clean so when either of us sees dishes in the sink we do it. Sometimes he wants to cook and it’s awesome. It’s about balance and feeling a purpose in being productive through out the home.
I don’t consider myself a traditional woman by any means, but my bf and I do tend to lean towards the more traditional roles just because of how each of us is. I do all the grocery shopping and cooking, because his parents never taught him anything about a kitchen. The most he can cook is a pack of ramen. So I take care of all of that for him. I can do the yard work, but because I do all the cooking, my bf handles all the yard work for us. (I do typically still help him with weed eating because I feel bad for the physical labor lol)
What concerns me is where she said she doesn’t really feel competent in the roles he performs - business and financial duties? That’s hella important for a woman to know. Imagine if her husband said that he didn’t know how to clean, cook, or care for an infant. That would rightfully earn him flack, because these are duties we should expect of a competent adult. Dividing everyday duties is fine, but not when it creates a disproportionate level of dependence. If something happened and this girl needed to strike out on her own, how exactly could she handle that without knowing how to do half of the adult tasks required in supporting a household? She needs to educate herself so she can assume an equal role in those duties at least in theory, so that she can handle them if she’s ever required to. At the very least, she should know how to pay their bills and handle their insurance. That’s so basic it’s scary that she doesn’t feel like she’s competent enough to handle it.
@@smithsunleashed Why are you being so aggressive? I’m saying it’s a privilege that she gets some time for herself because she has lots of responsibilities, so the fact that she had the chance to do something for herself and got to do it alone is good because she doesn’t always have time to do that.
@@Alici_EvansThe question is: Why are these moments so rare? Does he spend time alone with the kids regularly, so she has some quality her-time? Doesn't sound like it at all. Sounds like he wants a medal for watching *his* very own kids.
I remember laughing at her explaining that he does the finances, aka payments, etc cause he didnt get that they had to pay for water when they bought a house
That wasn’t the issue of the video, the issue was how big a deal he made it that he doesn’t clean, especially since she had just had a baby and was not feeling well at all. The previous video had been her doing laundry just a few days after getting home and his response to people being concerned about her to was to make that video about him cleaning while explaining that he never cleans? It was just a little ridiculous to see him being like, “I decided to do something nice for my wife right after she had a baby by CLEANING OUR HOUSE 😱” like that’s what you’re supposed to do dude, but it’s really not that big of deal
I think that video came off wrong bc apparently he was just trying to emphasize how much Abby does since people had been criticizing her. And instead it made it seem like he does nothing due to bad choice of words. In other videos he can be seen cleaning and taking care of their kids, so it’s pretty clear to see that he does help out
@theford their job is literally posting private personal content revolving around their marriage and kids. they don’t want criticism but are influencers? not how it works.
@@goeticfolklore they never complained about getting criticism. If you want a real argument you actually have to use facts. I think the issue is that they are facing criticism over nothing considering they are both happy in the roles they carry.
@@goeticfolklore oh people can criticize but even if it’s public you still don’t know the relationship because you aren’t in it 😂 even friends dk the full extent of your life cause they have there own. Even if they do know a huge chunk. Also a lot of this criticism sounds like bitterness lmao. Idk how you can watch this and be mad at it lmao
@@Itsselis mad abt wht? I think they have an easier life than most ppl just because their job is their passion. the equivalent to the "traditional working man" being an influencer is the equivalent of Patrick going to work under his rock to watch a coconut fall on someone's head.
traditional roles in a marriage are fine!! what isn't fine: matt scheduled horseback riding for them both after abby got an IUD (PAINFUL), would prank her by trying to make her upset (giving her really cold water after she had tooth sensitivity following a surgery), his comments on how he doesn't like parts of her post-partum body under the cover of brutal honestly, not cleaning or taking care of her when she was recovering from surgery, getting her pregnant when she was still recovering from surgery (that's both of them being stupid), etc. he would do the bare minimum and get applause (he turned on the TV for her when she was post-op). he's not a traditional husband--he doesn't have a job outside of the job she is also doing. traditional: man is the breadwinner and helps with kids and home part-time, while woman primarly takes care of the house and kids. she works and is the breadwinner...but also does the vast majority of the childcare and household chores with help from family. obviously i dont know them and no one but them knows them, but the videos they post paint a very unflattering light.
I’d hate to walk on eggshells. I don’t know how they do it every single time, especially when someone jumps to conclusions. You only see a couple of seconds of their day either every day or every other day, these people don’t even know this couple irl and their whole dynamic.
They don't owe anyone an apology or explanation, I agree, but neither do the people who comment these things. If you're going to put your life out there for the world to see and make your money from people viewing you and having their opinions, then expect that people will think and say things you don't agree with. I'm sure they know this and it can't be such a problem for them it they make money off it.
I agree with your sentiment but when both your livelihood depends on pleasing your audience I think it is a little different. It's not like one of them has a job outside the house that can provide fully if they get cancelled by their fickle followers. No one is perfect and living your life in full view has some serious drawbacks.
@@Puppies-z9h having an opinion is different from harassment. These people made assumptions about a relationship they take no part in and started harassing the man. Influencers put their lives out for you to see but it's also your choice if you want to see them or not. Just because they make money off of us, doesn't mean they give up their fundamental human rights of respect and privacy.
And give a choice to eveyone and respect to everyone Why am i getting awe and looks of praise in public when i as a woman go to a lidl after work in my construction clothes But a sahm /sahf is getting shit on Its a real job and labour And a lot times its unapreciated I get breaks at work and when im off work im off work A sahm/sahf doesent Also bouth parents should be involved in a kid cuz then you get "single mother/father " /child with daddy/mommy issues eaven thou they had one (Like me) my father was absent all my life but existed, didnt really care etc And now at age 47 he decided hes gonna be a father And blamed me for not being close to him When he as an adult never came to me or cared when he eaven was in the house? And acts like my moralities is because he raised me eaven thou... Its not i raised myself being locked in a room alone and abused by my mother... You need bouth parents to parent a kid.... Not one Yea.. You gotta work But if you have a kid u gotta take care of it, you wanted it And dont act like a amazing parent after neglecting all their life and being suprised they cut contact with you....
@@levtieart3409i do agree with you. And I was in a similar situation, where my dad was absent, but there when it suited him, and now he is trying to be a father to someone else's kid, because he want to do better and decided that it was to late to fix anything with his bio kids. I think tho, kids can evolve depending on the situation, if you know who your parent is, but they decide to not be present, it's harder then if you don't know who one parent is, and you never met them in your life. But with that I could also be wrong. But I think we need to also bring up women no matter what they choose to do, if they want to stay home or go to work, that should be fine. Feminism was created to let women choose what to do with their life, as well as men
Yes i agree. But that wasn’t why people were calling him out. He doesn’t even help around the house especially since she’s pregnant and he made a big deal about cleaning up the house cuz his wife had a baby like that’s literally his duty as well. He is basically a big baby and he literally said that sex with his wife isn’t the same when she literally gave birth
This video aged so well. It’s so interesting to see the comments where people defend him a year ago and now it’s so clear that this relationship is so toxic
Uhhh I was under the impression people mostly had issues with how BACKHANDED Matt is to Abby, posting all of her personal postpartum struggles (when she doesn’t seem to be involved in the voice over…) and how they do activities where she is clearly uncomfortable (like after she had an IUD and they went HORSEBACK RIDING WTF) ect ect. Especially when you listen to their podcasts, Matt is just weird. Saying degrading things about Abby’s postpartum body. There is more going on.
Oh yes and also how they posted regretting having their second son so soon and yet didn’t use protection postpartum?? How will the son feel when he knows his parents didn’t want him born then? - they post all of their child problems and drama for views.
That’s a given. I don’t think this was worth backlash to begin w tho kinda ridiculous. Them: “We have a healthy, functioning relationship where we play into our natural strengths to better take on life” brain dead tiktok users: “omg that is so misogynistic wtf >:(((“
@@kaia6584 you're right. The most innocent comment can be made, and you best believe certain idiots..um.. I meant.. people lol, will rip it to shreds. I've never put myself on social media bf, but I'm sure I would try to ignore the ignorant trouble makers.
I am gonna say. I’ve been married for 4 years, and my husband and I got married at 19yo just like this couple- and I also though that I LOVED cooking and cleaning every day while my husband had other tasks that weren’t daily like the yard or car maintained. (Edit: both have always worked full time) I got burned out. It took a lot of communication and compromise but we have a better routine now. The people saying “only lonely people have an issue with watching a women do all the chores and the husband do the bare minimum”- no. Probably a lot of wives in the mix of people chiming in.
Yeah I think you're right that is probably burnt out wives. But the issue with this "controversy" was people assuming that the guy was forcing his wife to have this role, that she's just some little girl who wasn't speaking up for herself when she's unhappy, that she isn't capable of saying "hey I'm getting burnt out," it's just so infantilizing and ironically, sexist. She is fully capable of choosing which tasks she wants to do and what she doesn't. Just because they're traditional roles doesn't mean she should inconvenience herself to change. I do most of the cleaning too, because I'm a cleaner and I want things to be a certain way and instead of forcing my husband to do those things a certain way, I do it myself. And also because it's satisfying to me. I'm fully capable of telling my husband if I need help. It's just nobody's business how couples are choosing to delegate tasks, I don't care if they're influencers. That doesn't make it the watchers decision to make. They are witnesses who have no power or control over those who have been generous enough to be vulnerable and let us into their lives, their homes and their families. I just can't imagine the ego it takes to tell others how they should run their relationships and families.
each family can have different roles and you can tell that they aren’t doing it because of the phrase “Women. Belong in the kitchen” and are simply doing it because they want to and enjoy it and that’s completely fine
@@azraorucevic2438i hate family channels for this exact reason but they are HUGELY successful bc most ppl don’t see it this way unfortunately. that also had absolutely nothing do to with the video or the point this person was making lol people were angry bc a woman preferred to do certain things seen as a stereotypical “gender role” and vice versa. bc people are dumb and like to get mad over nothing. most family dynamics are this way lol it’s just pathetic lonely miserable people who pick apart things like this. got nothing better to do.
Yea, my happily married self is soooo jealous of young, naive couples whose brains have melted from attention and money, (which can happen to anyone, no one no matter how amazingly kind is immune) and will continue to exploit their children (who cant even speak to give consent) for their livelihood. Babies on the internet are big bucks, and i dont care how great a parent you are, that WILL influence your decisions with your child and it wont be for the best. When huge amounts of money are involved, parenting kinda goes haywire. Every grown up child of old familly vloggers resents their parents and have a bunch of other problems. ALL OF THEM. These kids wont be any different. It's a very obvious and distinct pattern that is easily observed, but hey, get that bag! I dont care how much you love your child or say you want the best for them, having them grow up online and having them be performative all the time (spoiler, everything is planned and takes time to film. It isnt as easy breasy and on the fly as it looks.) so mom and dad can make money is NOT healthy or what is best for your child. Aside from that, matt is sex obsessed, and shows really obvious signs of arrogance with a smidge of narcissism, and tbey are both painfully empty headed with holier than though attitudes. Im not lonely or jealous, im just old and experienced, but their demographic is very young and simply doesn't know better. It's perfectly fine to like them, and i certainly dont wish them ill will, but to say every instance of cristism is jealousy is just insane. Those of us who see through these two arent commenting on their outfits, lifestyles, and looks, we are calling out blatantly bad behavior and hugely arrogant and out of touch speech.
She also DOESN’T HAVE A REAL JOB and also has THREE OTHER ADULTS living in her home who ALSO DON’T WORK to help her with childcare and chores. Of course she has time to work out that most moms don’t.
I have a bone to pick with that couple that’s even more disgusting, he posted a video of her distraught distressed, under the influence of strong pain medication, because she had just had a C-section and he on purpose made her more upset. Granted it was about ice cubes in her water, but he knew it would upset her and he did it on purpose for views for clout, and that just makes me feel so disgusted. I can’t even. This poor woman is showing signs of being a battered woman, and he’s showing signs of being a narcissist.
@@as19J01 yes, we know this and if you’d read the other comments, you just seen my response to this. It doesn’t matter that she gave him permission to post it. It matters that he did it in the first place.
@@as19J01 If a man hits his wife and then in retrospect, the wife says oh I deserved it and it was OK that he hit me. Are people supposed to say oh OK it’s OK now because you say it’s OK.? Hell no!it’s still abuse!
But if you go a few videos up there's one where they talk about having their water taken away cause they find out they never paid the bill, which was his responsibility 😂 Everyone can make mistakes, I'm not judging, I just found it funny cause I saw the water bill video right after the traditional role gender one from Abby and it was a funny coincidence 😂
Eh, I’d cut him some slack because they do have a whole child together, she had to get surgery, and she’s pregnant again. They’re probably just really stressed.
she understands omg. i hate math, i hate finances. yes i can do it but please don’t make me do it. if you’re an accountant then i literally want to marry you omfg
@@birdbird1 I thought it was just me, feel so vad for his wife as I truly believe in my bones that he's batting fir the other team, which, BTW is absolutely fine provided you don't marry the opposite sex.
It is a huge cultural point of contention where once a couple are married, traditional gender roles resume, 'women's work' consists on daily tasks that add up to a 60 hour work week, while typical 'mens work' are weekly or seasonal and add up to maybe 14 hours of work. There is a reason for this tension, and when two people have the same job and one person is working a lot more than the other, inevitably, that imbalance is going to cause disfunction. I think Matt and Abby are in denial about this, Abby doesn't realize how easy 'finances' are, but it's their relationship. If they are getting defensive about people commenting on their relationship, why would they build a buisness advertising it?
They’re getting defensive over people harassing him and claiming that she’s in an abusive relationship with him, even though they’re not the ones in it and don’t know what’s going on.
It’s BS. Most men work a lot more hours than women when it comes to jobs though. Also they don’t have traditional jobs, so he spends a lot of time with kids.
I don’t watch them but I always see them on my RUclips reels and that guy is the most supportive husband I’ve ever seen on the internet lol people just wanna complain and hate as usual
@@missbeaussie or from both of their responses to one another? Or the fact that they have like 2 kids together? Or the fact that they’ve been together since they were kids? If this wasn’t a loving relationship, it wouldn’t have worked out as long as it has.
Exactly. I don't understand, if someone enjoys cleaning and enjoys taking care of a baby why should they not?? I know it wouldn't be for me even though I am a woman but that doesn't mean that other woman feel the same...
It’s not a traditional lifestyle if they’re both working and bringing in income but just she’s the one that is doing most of the childcare and household tasks.
@@morgan2690 exactly….she works the same as him but she still has the bulk of the house? Ummm no! She thinks paying bills is as hard as maintaining a home??? He has everything on auto pay!!! Lmao she’s desperate for us to believe she’s happy like this
He helps around the house, involves in his kid’s life, and do the work that his wife finds challenging (like she said financial stuff)… I NEED this type of partnership and relationship. I bet that they’re both not burnt out from life because they’re both helping each other out! Fucking amazing!
People who have been watching them for a long ti me know that Matt was only joking, and that they really do have a partnership and if you guys don’t believe me, you should watch the videos Matt made of cleaning the house in surprising her by cleaning the house when she got surgery
@@Venvanelessthe bare minimum that majority of men don’t do? That ain’t the bare minimum at all. You are the type of person that causes families like this to be hurt and scared because they get cancelled or back lash for literally everything. Grow up
@@Leti_10 Why can't a husband do something nice for their wife? They are a family channel but they aren't an exploiting one. You clearly know nothing about their goal for their channel. To be real, not fake.
I stopped liking them when they talked shit about Liana and Conners babies name when they couldn’t even figure out how to not get pregnant right after having a baby.
Why are you being so jealous? He also edits all their content, he cares about his son, you should watch their videos, he is so supportive, he always helps her, compliments her. They truly are a good, loving couple, and good parents. Obviously I don’t know them personally and all I see is their content online, but when you watch somebody for a long time you can tell if their a good person or not, most of the time. You shouldn’t judge him like that, you think you’re sassy with your "girly", but it’s just giving mean girl vibes.
@juliad417 this! I don't even follow them. They just pop up on my reels sometimes, and he seems so supportive. He's always taking care of the baby, and he takes care of her when she needs it. Idk why some people are so miserable that they hope for others' misery. It's weird af.
I don’t get it when married people take on more traditional tasks people find a problem with it. How is that problematic? It obviously makes sense that a women will clean the house and take care of the baby. I’m not saying that women shouldn’t work I’m saying that’s what most women do and men do the financial work what is so wrong about that, we live in a generation that if a woman stays at home and takes care of her child, it’s problematic because the man is not doing it , her husband seems so nice and cares for her and his child just because he has a more traditional role it doesn’t make him a terrible husband it’s funny because the people who have more traditional rules. They’re the most healthy as they’re doing things that they’re good at and when people see a healthy marriage where the couple take on more traditional roles they get mad no wonder why people in healthy relationships end up breaking up because of this generation…this generation is getting more and more interesting😑
I watched them before they blew up and they were so different. Now they are just like every other tiktoker following the trends especially with how they edit. No matter how many times I try do not recommend it never works.
Apparently it was on auto pay, like all their bills, and was just an auto pay issue….but for me, that just makes it worse. He has everything on auto pay but somehow “paying bills” is an equal task to making sure the house stays clean. So stupid. She sounds desperate for us to believe she’s happy with this dynamic. But so did Steven crowders wife and she’s divorcing him now so…..
1) A traditional role would mean she wouldn't be working. Most of their income is probably coming from her. 2) A traditional role only extends to earning and household tasks. Both parents are still expected to take care of the baby/kids. A whole living human being (and they have at least 2 btw) is completely separate from taking care of the cleaning/cooking etc. and it is infinitely more work than the majority of jobs. It's also detrimental to the kids if the father is uninvolved.
1. They have 1 kid, the 2nd is in the womb soo 2. Exploiting youtube channels show their children's every move, matt and abby don't do that, they only show bits and pieces 3. Matt and abby are just trying to document their life, why can't they show their child? Again, they aren't showing their child's every move, they probably have sooo many videos of Griffen and them that they aren't sharing to RUclips. Let people live.
@@gooddoggo523 1. quit exploiting kids in general. 2. There is no excuse. 3. If you can’t get views and likes without your kids, you are exploiting them. Facts over feelings friend.
@@geauxtigers4852 I do agree we should stop exploiting kids in general. But again, exploiting kids is showing their every move, and it's when the kids are the main focus of your channel. Matt and Abby don't have their kid in every youtube short, so I wouldn't say they're exploiting their kid for money. But I do agree we should stop exploiting kids in general.
@@gooddoggo523 key word, yet. They don’t yet. This is the route they all go. I used to be a huge fan of family vloggers, until they start crossing the line and talking about disabilities, personal stuff, PERIODS, etc. we all know we wouldnt have wanted our personal stuff out there for the world to see when we were younger, so why do these people (generally speaking) think it’s ok? It’s not their child’s responsibility to society to be the spokesperson for whatever disability they may have. And we have ZERO idea how many p3dos are out there. They are everywhere and you can see which videos they love. And parents just keep feeding in it because of money and greed. We all keep memories in our phones of our children, family, etc. but the majority of us it is for our memories and it STAYS in our photos. There seems to be no boundaries for social media fams anymore.
@@geauxtigers4852 1) Matt and Abby were blowing up long before she first got pregnant 2) They don’t have their kid in every one of their posts and they don’t remotely exploit them. They’ve already said that they wouldn’t be sharing that type of personal info about their children and as soon as their kids are old enough to say they don’t want to be in videos they will completely respect that and that’s something they take very seriously. Stop acting as if all family creators are the exact same, just because some people exploit their kids for views that doesn’t mean all of them do. And as for pedos, pedos are everywhere. That’s not strict to the internet. That’s like saying children should never go out in public spaces because pedos exist. You can publicly have a child and still protect them.
i don’t understand why people are giving them backlash for how they literally cooperate in a healthy manner like honestly i literally strive to be a stay at home mother some day❤❤❤❤
i still can’t believe people got so upset over that video. i remember watching it like an hour after it came out and just loving it and loving that they had a good routine but that they’re not ashamed to ask for help when they need it!
It wasn’t just the gender stereotyping, it was the whole “watch me surprise her with a clean house!” The house is messy - CLEAN IT. It shouldn’t be a surprise that you did a chore 🙄 “Like at me, I’m awesome, I cleaned the house.” And? Edit: *watches as people ignore the gender stereotypes aspect of the conversation because they want to defend the couple. Most likely because they identify with them and don’t want to face facts they might also be helping to perpetuate harmful gender stereotypes. So instead of educating themselves they just have angry little rants and attack others*
It's about appreciating the work you've put in and showing appreciation to the person who usually does it. He took on more work to show his appreciation and give her a break. She didn't ask for him to do it and she said that she herself enjoys it. Why are you getting offended when the person themselves aren't? It's weird how easily yall get offended and how yall try to push your own values on other people relationships. You see a happy couple living their life and decide that they are doing something wrong. If you're miserable, just say that.
@@getfitwithkatelyn It was more than that, he made some comments that were rather demeaning about his wife’s role. Also, there is an argument that both parties should take part in rearing a child, because both are the parents. Don't fully know their dynamic nor do I care, but I hate when people misrepresent one side to make their counterargument easier.
@anal2150 The thing is she personally doesn't have a problem with their roles and they themselves have decided how to run their household. Who are you or anyone else to tell them they are wrong for living their life the way they want to? I believe everyone haves a right to live the way they want and the way that works best for them. I didn't see anything wrong with the remarks made in the og video, so is this based on comments made under it or in another video? As a stay at home mom and wife, I get so much flack for choosing to stay home with my kids that it's unreal. People need to stop pushing their own beliefs on other people. Live and let live.
My grandparents live an extremely traditional marriage and they’re some of the happiest people I know. My grandma cooks and cleans while my grandpa used to work, and is now retired, but does renovations, is fixing an old car, and does most of the outdoor work when he’s in good health.
@@merder1414 Well, she does still do that just because someone has to, but my grandpa still does repairs and renovations around the house when he can. After her kids (my mom, aunts, and uncles) grew up, she worked as a secretary part time for a while, and now she no longer does that.
All that being said, she should pay close attention to the financials in their business, whether she enjoys it or not. Crap happens. People change, people get addictions, people find other people, people over spend and worst of all people die. Know where your money is at. This goes for her and everyone who is in a relationship with shared finances. .
Honestly I like she addressed and phrased it. It really put it in perspective for people, and when I explained to my friends how I would like to go about my future family I’m literally using her example😊 she also mentioned their a team and in a team on the field, you both can’t play the same position/role, but she of course phrased it differently and better
Abby you sound like a robot saying a prepared speech? It is evident that Matt is controlling and he’s into himself? I really wish that you both had the chance to experience relationships with other people so you might be better prepared for marriage. Did Matt honestly think that household chores and looking after your child was all your responsibility?
I was wondering why she posted that because I didn’t see a problem with the video he posted people are wild. It’s OK to be traditional and it’s OK to live your life that way they’re not pushing that on anybody else
People will always hate dads for “working too much” or “not helping enough” and people will always hate moms for “not doing enough.” People will ALWAYS hate. But it takes a couple to make a baby for a reason, we’re not asexual creatures. It takes two people to raise a child well. (No I’m not hating on single parents, I commend those for taking on both roles and stretching yourself so thin. I hope you’re okay.)
I don't get why people think it is their place to criticize other people's lifestyle. I went to high school with Matt and he is one of the sweetest person I have met.
It’s literally no one else’s business and if anyone actually wants to judge you, they desperately need a life and/or hobby. The only thing that matters in the end, and the thing everyone should always be focused on, is the simple fact that you two are amazing humans and parents with amazing hearts, sharing your lives with all of us by choice. ❤ Luckily you both are clearly strong enough to always stay true to yourselves, thank you for that!! 💕🙌🥹 do your thang! 🤘🥳
The problem is they are making it everyone’s business by posting their lives on RUclips and TikTok! If they didn’t want people in their lives, it would be really easy to stop posting videos but instead they are inviting people in inviting people’s opinions and then they get pissed off when people don’t agree with them and people point out their bullshit? No. Just no.
I don’t know why traditional families get so much hate the whole point of feminism , was to have a choice, and when people choose a thing people don’t like they say it’s oppression .
People will find ANYTHING to hate on. Their dynamic works for them and they're not hurting anyone or themselves, but people find something to complain about either way.
She responded perfectly. My own parents have been the EXACT same way, where they take on “traditional” roles. My mom is more comfortable cleaning, cooking, taking care of the kids, while my dad handles bills, insurance, etc.. And I actually asked my mom when I was going into junior high if I would have to be “such a mom” like she is, and after I elaborated, she just laughed and said, “Well, you don’t HAVE to. If you want to and that’s what makes you and your partner comfortable, then sure, go ahead. But if you don’t enjoy it or it doesn’t work for you and your family, then you can figure something else out. I love doing what I do for our family, and so does your dad. We all spend time together, we all love each other, and it works.” And that was that. People are so hypocritical nowadays. If someone says something about how a family is too “modern”, that’d be rude. The same thing goes for a “tradition” family.
No the only thing I personally didn’t understand is how she was surprised to get pregnant again. She cries, he says they didn’t plan it, she says they didn’t plan it and then say it was an accident. They’re both shocked and completely didn’t understand how🤔 So here comes another baby into the world that was ‘unplanned’ and an ‘accident’. All because of two irresponsible people. It’s 2023 and you’re still not educated on birth control?
Yeah she assumed because she was still nursing that she would be protected. It has been found that while nursing, your period can take a while to go back to normal and some women get no period at all, hence the theory that nursing protects from pregnancy. So stupid 🙄 if she didn’t want to get pregnant she should have kept her legs closed 🙄
Mothers who breastfeed don't like going straight back on those drugs because it can affect the milk. And its not required and the doctors that judge or push that shit are evil. I have never used birth control for many reasons including how it messes with women's hormone levels and weight so much.
@@leighirvine okay but they are happy regardless, its not like she's crying cause she's mad, she's scared. Thats normal. And how do you tell a MARRIED AND HAPPY WIFE TO KEEP HER LEGS CLOSED! You are crazy! Idk if you know but thats healthy actually for husband and wives to enjoy sex .....wow crazy.
@@tamarar7156 Are they married? Yes. Is she Happy? Lol how do you know? They’re recording and could easily be putting up a facade. Also, who said anything about Healthy or enjoying sex? All Leigh said was to keep her legs closed if she didn’t want to get pregnant. Abstinence works 100% of the time and there are many other forms of birth control. If they were on birth control and then posted that video of getting accidentally pregnant, THEN I’d believe it. THAT is an accident. Don’t try to excuse them. Don’t glamorize their irresponsibility by saying they are a married happy couple and crying because they are scared and that it’s normal. It’s not. Being married is not an excuse to have no consequences for your actions. For example, me. I don’t want children right now. I am married. I had the Skyla put in October 2020. My dr. Told me to have it replaced by October 2023 since it only protects 3 years. So If I don’t get it replaced by October 2023 and have sex, I am aware I can get pregnant. Married or not. It wouldn’t be an accident. It would just mean I am an irresponsible, sexually active adult.
@@priscillaflores7656 people that believe in marriage and having kids and obviously don't use birth control because we all have the same knowledge. That marriage is a good thing, no kid is an accident but a wonderful surprise and sex with your spouse should always happen regardless of what fools like you say or judge. Okay? There are many people that disagree with you and how you live also and why are you so mad and pressed over this? Just move on you're snorful and probably need to go have sex with your husband, you'll feel better. Lmaooo
It’s not the marital roles that get me, it’s the way he literally has no empathy for her and publicly insults her and basically tells the whole world that he doesn’t find her as attractive as he used to, and he exploited her at her lowest moments during pregnancy and purposely did things to get a reaction out of her for views
If someone looked at what I did everyday they would think I baby my husband. If they look at what he does they would think I’m useless. Together we have a GREAT Relationship and partnership. At the end of the day that’s what’s important.
Or people can stop turning into wild animals when they get on the internet and continue to treat others like they're actual human beings like when they are in the physical world? Being a content creator doesn't mean other people are allowed to disrespect, bully or be condescending to you, it doesn't mean you asked for it so you're not allowed to complain about it. That's such a weird, toxic mentality to have. Start putting the responsibility on those doing wrong and not people just living their lives and being vulnerable enough to let others in. It's so messed up I even have to say that.
Did she lie? I knew there was some drama concerning this but I didn’t see every detail of it. I’m just curious what was said. Sorry I’m late to this topic 😂 this video just popped up for me.
Traditional gender roles are not problematic when both the husband and wife want to be in those roles
ok but the point is that they arent in those roles because matt doesnt go to work lol they both are influencers
@@doclinny im sure they have editing, brand deals, contracts, planning videos and whatever else we don’t know about that would count as the traditional male gender role. You don’t have a point since you’re not in their marriage.
I was finding the words to say this. Some people assume that when one does the more traditional roles they're being "forced".
People really do forget that feminism fought for women to have the CHOICE to be a housewife or a working woman or a combination of the two. Women who choose traditional lifestyles get shit on a lot
@@cowboy8474 Exactly, people fought for choice, that's what feminism is. It doesn't mean everyone wants to become a lawyer or some shit. This is going against what most of them "stand" for.
People really see a happy, healthy family and hate it. How gross.
Yes
Seriously like what the actual..
In healthy family - people don't exploit their children for views.
@@azraorucevic2438 there's a difference between showing a child's every move and documenting you're life. They're videos aren't showing their baby every single second. Why can't people document their lives?
@@gooddoggo523 first of all, children shouldn't be seen on the internet. They can't consent to be seen. There are many pedophiles, you endanger child by exposing them. There are many children who spoke up about hell they went through by having yt parents. ACE family is one example. So yeah, they are shitty parents who exploit children for money.
Man I would hate doing this for a living. Where I have to explain every little fart in miscommunication. People getting offended. Ugh.
They love money. They love it even more than child's privacy and safety.
Yea..well they sold thier soul. They get stuck In it. They start moving into bigger houses, cars get nicer...they can't stop cause it all goes away. It's strange to me cause these people aren't specifically yet they get attention. I don't get it. They are you and me.. they aren't showing a talent ... just strangers.
@@marikiemarie7622 yeah but just because they 'sold there souls' doesn't mean that people can give them abuse online. Noone would say anything to their face but they will abuse them online. It's bizarre behaviour and absolutely pathetic 😂
Why do you guys care so much about their family business it’s their family not yours.
@@notiamashley4042 probably because it actually is everyone business. Duh. They tell you they want you in thier business! Lol
She had the BEST response to all the negativity. Their marriage is already heading in the right direction. Not many couples grasp that concept and end up spilt.
Yup like me and my husband. He doesn’t understand what team work is and expects the female to do everything.
@@ue2267 sry to hear that
@@ue2267 talk to him. My grandmother had a similar issue and she had him sit down and listen then have him recite everything she said . He didn't listen so she pulled the divorce papers as a "warning" and he decided to listen , didn't work out even after that because the compability was really low . You can try something similar if you like , I don't recommend it though just thought I'd see if you were interested din the idea. Sometimes people aren't meant to be, if your alright woth how things are that's also good!
@@ue2267 you didn’t get any glimpse of that before marriage?
I think they know each other since high school.
One of his tasks is paying the bills and they had their water and electricity shut off because he forgot to pay them for 6 months
What? Geez. It would be funny if it wouldn't be that sad.
What kind of "traditional husband" forgets to pay bills and gives her wife silent treatment after giving birth? Matt sucks
7 months actually
Paying the bills is also once a month task whereas abby’s tasks are all day everyday tasks, make it make sense?
And it’s both their money, they earn together, it’s not like he earns alone.
@@dialogues4144 plus in the video where they talk about how the water was turned off he says “I’m sorry I thought I set up autopay”. So it’s not even a once a month thing, it’s a once thing
Having different roles honestly makes things so much easier. I do stuff my bf doesn’t like to do and he does the stuff I don’t like/can’t do. We will of course step into each others roles if ever needed in case one of us was down for a bit. I also ask to learn some of the stuff he does and he shows me and vice versa but there’s nothing wrong with having different roles
Exactly it’s the best way to do it in my opinion. Like I personally hate being the one to always clean so when either of us sees dishes in the sink we do it. Sometimes he wants to cook and it’s awesome. It’s about balance and feeling a purpose in being productive through out the home.
I don’t consider myself a traditional woman by any means, but my bf and I do tend to lean towards the more traditional roles just because of how each of us is.
I do all the grocery shopping and cooking, because his parents never taught him anything about a kitchen. The most he can cook is a pack of ramen. So I take care of all of that for him.
I can do the yard work, but because I do all the cooking, my bf handles all the yard work for us. (I do typically still help him with weed eating because I feel bad for the physical labor lol)
What concerns me is where she said she doesn’t really feel competent in the roles he performs - business and financial duties? That’s hella important for a woman to know. Imagine if her husband said that he didn’t know how to clean, cook, or care for an infant. That would rightfully earn him flack, because these are duties we should expect of a competent adult. Dividing everyday duties is fine, but not when it creates a disproportionate level of dependence. If something happened and this girl needed to strike out on her own, how exactly could she handle that without knowing how to do half of the adult tasks required in supporting a household? She needs to educate herself so she can assume an equal role in those duties at least in theory, so that she can handle them if she’s ever required to. At the very least, she should know how to pay their bills and handle their insurance. That’s so basic it’s scary that she doesn’t feel like she’s competent enough to handle it.
Keep trying to rationalize
@@RocketKira your boyfriend is an overgrown child and you’re just enabling him . I wish you a very long life with him ❤
It's the way he phrased it like it was a privilege for her to get a day to herself lol
Well, it probably is a privilege-considering that they have a baby and tend to be together as a family for most of the day.
We don't really think of men getting a day off from dealing with their wives as being socially acceptable. 😕
@@Alici_Evansno. It’s both of their duty to take turns and clean. Especially when she’s pregnant. Don’t call it a fucking privilege.
@@smithsunleashed Why are you being so aggressive? I’m saying it’s a privilege that she gets some time for herself because she has lots of responsibilities, so the fact that she had the chance to do something for herself and got to do it alone is good because she doesn’t always have time to do that.
@@Alici_EvansThe question is: Why are these moments so rare? Does he spend time alone with the kids regularly, so she has some quality her-time? Doesn't sound like it at all. Sounds like he wants a medal for watching *his* very own kids.
I remember laughing at her explaining that he does the finances, aka payments, etc cause he didnt get that they had to pay for water when they bought a house
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That wasn’t the issue of the video, the issue was how big a deal he made it that he doesn’t clean, especially since she had just had a baby and was not feeling well at all. The previous video had been her doing laundry just a few days after getting home and his response to people being concerned about her to was to make that video about him cleaning while explaining that he never cleans? It was just a little ridiculous to see him being like, “I decided to do something nice for my wife right after she had a baby by CLEANING OUR HOUSE 😱” like that’s what you’re supposed to do dude, but it’s really not that big of deal
I think that video came off wrong bc apparently he was just trying to emphasize how much Abby does since people had been criticizing her. And instead it made it seem like he does nothing due to bad choice of words. In other videos he can be seen cleaning and taking care of their kids, so it’s pretty clear to see that he does help out
@@so_obsessed_ well, he filmed himself (!) while cleaning (once)... so that doesn't mean much
@@xyincognito there are plenty of other videos where he cleans up
He forgot to pay the electric bill for six months
Probably because she stopped reminding him... What the heck.
They have been together since they were kids, it's safe to say they know their relationships and how it works for them better than y'all do.
@theford their job is literally posting private personal content revolving around their marriage and kids. they don’t want criticism but are influencers? not how it works.
@@goeticfolklore they never complained about getting criticism. If you want a real argument you actually have to use facts. I think the issue is that they are facing criticism over nothing considering they are both happy in the roles they carry.
@@goeticfolklore oh people can criticize but even if it’s public you still don’t know the relationship because you aren’t in it 😂 even friends dk the full extent of your life cause they have there own. Even if they do know a huge chunk. Also a lot of this criticism sounds like bitterness lmao. Idk how you can watch this and be mad at it lmao
@@elmosworld1237 its social media, people complain about nothing all the time
@@Itsselis mad abt wht? I think they have an easier life than most ppl just because their job is their passion. the equivalent to the "traditional working man" being an influencer is the equivalent of Patrick going to work under his rock to watch a coconut fall on someone's head.
Like when he didn't pay their water bill for months and it got shut off? Sounds like he's struggling with his few allocated tasks 🙃
traditional roles in a marriage are fine!! what isn't fine: matt scheduled horseback riding for them both after abby got an IUD (PAINFUL), would prank her by trying to make her upset (giving her really cold water after she had tooth sensitivity following a surgery), his comments on how he doesn't like parts of her post-partum body under the cover of brutal honestly, not cleaning or taking care of her when she was recovering from surgery, getting her pregnant when she was still recovering from surgery (that's both of them being stupid), etc. he would do the bare minimum and get applause (he turned on the TV for her when she was post-op).
he's not a traditional husband--he doesn't have a job outside of the job she is also doing. traditional: man is the breadwinner and helps with kids and home part-time, while woman primarly takes care of the house and kids. she works and is the breadwinner...but also does the vast majority of the childcare and household chores with help from family.
obviously i dont know them and no one but them knows them, but the videos they post paint a very unflattering light.
Influencers need to know that they don’t owe anyone an apology or explanation. People need to learn to mind their business.
Right. But when a misunderstanding becomes an issue. People will start attacking the influencer. And it got worse since the cancel culture arise.
I’d hate to walk on eggshells. I don’t know how they do it every single time, especially when someone jumps to conclusions.
You only see a couple of seconds of their day either every day or every other day, these people don’t even know this couple irl and their whole dynamic.
They don't owe anyone an apology or explanation, I agree, but neither do the people who comment these things.
If you're going to put your life out there for the world to see and make your money from people viewing you and having their opinions, then expect that people will think and say things you don't agree with.
I'm sure they know this and it can't be such a problem for them it they make money off it.
I agree with your sentiment but when both your livelihood depends on pleasing your audience I think it is a little different. It's not like one of them has a job outside the house that can provide fully if they get cancelled by their fickle followers. No one is perfect and living your life in full view has some serious drawbacks.
@@Puppies-z9h having an opinion is different from harassment. These people made assumptions about a relationship they take no part in and started harassing the man. Influencers put their lives out for you to see but it's also your choice if you want to see them or not. Just because they make money off of us, doesn't mean they give up their fundamental human rights of respect and privacy.
Feminism should empower women, ALL WOMEN. Not just the ones who break the traditional gender stereotypical roles.
And give a choice to eveyone and respect to everyone
Why am i getting awe and looks of praise in public when i as a woman go to a lidl after work in my construction clothes
But a sahm /sahf is getting shit on
Its a real job and labour
And a lot times its unapreciated
I get breaks at work and when im off work im off work
A sahm/sahf doesent
Also bouth parents should be involved in a kid cuz then you get "single mother/father " /child with daddy/mommy issues eaven thou they had one
(Like me) my father was absent all my life but existed, didnt really care etc
And now at age 47 he decided hes gonna be a father
And blamed me for not being close to him
When he as an adult never came to me or cared when he eaven was in the house? And acts like my moralities is because he raised me eaven thou... Its not i raised myself being locked in a room alone and abused by my mother...
You need bouth parents to parent a kid.... Not one
Yea.. You gotta work
But if you have a kid u gotta take care of it, you wanted it
And dont act like a amazing parent after neglecting all their life and being suprised they cut contact with you....
@@levtieart3409i do agree with you. And I was in a similar situation, where my dad was absent, but there when it suited him, and now he is trying to be a father to someone else's kid, because he want to do better and decided that it was to late to fix anything with his bio kids. I think tho, kids can evolve depending on the situation, if you know who your parent is, but they decide to not be present, it's harder then if you don't know who one parent is, and you never met them in your life. But with that I could also be wrong. But I think we need to also bring up women no matter what they choose to do, if they want to stay home or go to work, that should be fine. Feminism was created to let women choose what to do with their life, as well as men
Yes i agree. But that wasn’t why people were calling him out. He doesn’t even help around the house especially since she’s pregnant and he made a big deal about cleaning up the house cuz his wife had a baby like that’s literally his duty as well. He is basically a big baby and he literally said that sex with his wife isn’t the same when she literally gave birth
It’s not wise to let just one spouse handle all of the finances.
This video aged so well. It’s so interesting to see the comments where people defend him a year ago and now it’s so clear that this relationship is so toxic
Yeah he definitely does a good job at making sure their bills are paid 😂😂
Neither is Matt. 6 months NOT paying your water bill. hmmm He dropped the ball there. By the way, you should be aware of where your money goes.
Uhhh I was under the impression people mostly had issues with how BACKHANDED Matt is to Abby, posting all of her personal postpartum struggles (when she doesn’t seem to be involved in the voice over…) and how they do activities where she is clearly uncomfortable (like after she had an IUD and they went HORSEBACK RIDING WTF) ect ect. Especially when you listen to their podcasts, Matt is just weird. Saying degrading things about Abby’s postpartum body. There is more going on.
Oh yes and also how they posted regretting having their second son so soon and yet didn’t use protection postpartum?? How will the son feel when he knows his parents didn’t want him born then? - they post all of their child problems and drama for views.
🤔💭
Whenever you decide to put your life on social media, you have to be ready for the backlash. There's no way around it
That’s a given. I don’t think this was worth backlash to begin w tho kinda ridiculous. Them: “We have a healthy, functioning relationship where we play into our natural strengths to better take on life” brain dead tiktok users: “omg that is so misogynistic wtf >:(((“
@@kaia6584 you're right. The most innocent comment can be made, and you best believe certain idiots..um.. I meant.. people lol, will rip it to shreds. I've never put myself on social media bf, but I'm sure I would try to ignore the ignorant trouble makers.
@@kaia6584they don’t have a healthy relationship though. That poor woman has to deal with a baby. Which is her awful husband
I am gonna say. I’ve been married for 4 years, and my husband and I got married at 19yo just like this couple- and I also though that I LOVED cooking and cleaning every day while my husband had other tasks that weren’t daily like the yard or car maintained. (Edit: both have always worked full time)
I got burned out.
It took a lot of communication and compromise but we have a better routine now.
The people saying “only lonely people have an issue with watching a women do all the chores and the husband do the bare minimum”- no. Probably a lot of wives in the mix of people chiming in.
Yeah I think you're right that is probably burnt out wives. But the issue with this "controversy" was people assuming that the guy was forcing his wife to have this role, that she's just some little girl who wasn't speaking up for herself when she's unhappy, that she isn't capable of saying "hey I'm getting burnt out," it's just so infantilizing and ironically, sexist. She is fully capable of choosing which tasks she wants to do and what she doesn't. Just because they're traditional roles doesn't mean she should inconvenience herself to change. I do most of the cleaning too, because I'm a cleaner and I want things to be a certain way and instead of forcing my husband to do those things a certain way, I do it myself. And also because it's satisfying to me. I'm fully capable of telling my husband if I need help. It's just nobody's business how couples are choosing to delegate tasks, I don't care if they're influencers. That doesn't make it the watchers decision to make. They are witnesses who have no power or control over those who have been generous enough to be vulnerable and let us into their lives, their homes and their families. I just can't imagine the ego it takes to tell others how they should run their relationships and families.
They only have an issue when they think a woman is being slighted (even if so trivial at the surface)…..
each family can have different roles and you can tell that they aren’t doing it because of the phrase
“Women. Belong in the kitchen” and are simply doing it because they want to and enjoy it and that’s completely fine
They are a cute couple, and lonely people are jealous.
Bingo🎯
Ugh, people are so jealous because they don't get to exploit their children and personal life for views.
@@azraorucevic2438i hate family channels for this exact reason but they are HUGELY successful bc most ppl don’t see it this way unfortunately. that also had absolutely nothing do to with the video or the point this person was making lol people were angry bc a woman preferred to do certain things seen as a stereotypical “gender role” and vice versa. bc people are dumb and like to get mad over nothing. most family dynamics are this way lol it’s just pathetic lonely miserable people who pick apart things like this. got nothing better to do.
Yea, my happily married self is soooo jealous of young, naive couples whose brains have melted from attention and money, (which can happen to anyone, no one no matter how amazingly kind is immune) and will continue to exploit their children (who cant even speak to give consent) for their livelihood. Babies on the internet are big bucks, and i dont care how great a parent you are, that WILL influence your decisions with your child and it wont be for the best. When huge amounts of money are involved, parenting kinda goes haywire. Every grown up child of old familly vloggers resents their parents and have a bunch of other problems. ALL OF THEM. These kids wont be any different. It's a very obvious and distinct pattern that is easily observed, but hey, get that bag! I dont care how much you love your child or say you want the best for them, having them grow up online and having them be performative all the time (spoiler, everything is planned and takes time to film. It isnt as easy breasy and on the fly as it looks.) so mom and dad can make money is NOT healthy or what is best for your child. Aside from that, matt is sex obsessed, and shows really obvious signs of arrogance with a smidge of narcissism, and tbey are both painfully empty headed with holier than though attitudes. Im not lonely or jealous, im just old and experienced, but their demographic is very young and simply doesn't know better. It's perfectly fine to like them, and i certainly dont wish them ill will, but to say every instance of cristism is jealousy is just insane. Those of us who see through these two arent commenting on their outfits, lifestyles, and looks, we are calling out blatantly bad behavior and hugely arrogant and out of touch speech.
Just because someone is critical doesn't mean they are lonely jealous or bitter.
She also DOESN’T HAVE A REAL JOB and also has THREE OTHER ADULTS living in her home who ALSO DON’T WORK to help her with childcare and chores. Of course she has time to work out that most moms don’t.
Someone's jealous 😂
No kiddos ,I'm not jealous. It's common sense with tht many adults I don't blame them traveling so much. Lol
@@reneecarol2130 you're yapping to NO ONE !!
@@laceyy.vyou sound dumb. Jealous? Lmao have fun at school
Ugh that comment that person made about custody is disgusting 😭 this isn't YOUR relationship everyone relationship has differences.
don’t make your job posting personal family and marriage related content and won’t be an issue. they signed up for this when they became influencers.
I have a bone to pick with that couple that’s even more disgusting, he posted a video of her distraught distressed, under the influence of strong pain medication, because she had just had a C-section and he on purpose made her more upset. Granted it was about ice cubes in her water, but he knew it would upset her and he did it on purpose for views for clout, and that just makes me feel so disgusted. I can’t even. This poor woman is showing signs of being a battered woman, and he’s showing signs of being a narcissist.
I agree I never really liked him, sometimes I think he is fake.
She gave him permission to post.....
@@as19J01 yes, we know this and if you’d read the other comments, you just seen my response to this. It doesn’t matter that she gave him permission to post it. It matters that he did it in the first place.
@@as19J01
If a man hits his wife and then in retrospect, the wife says oh I deserved it and it was OK that he hit me. Are people supposed to say oh OK it’s OK now because you say it’s OK.? Hell no!it’s still abuse!
@@lil8579 he is fake, it’s incredibly obvious that he is a very different person off camera
In ten years we'll see just how happy she truly was
They’ve been together since the beginning of high school and have known each other since 8th grade.
The comments here are so positive, its been a year guys. I wanna know your opinion after all of those drama.
But if you go a few videos up there's one where they talk about having their water taken away cause they find out they never paid the bill, which was his responsibility 😂
Everyone can make mistakes, I'm not judging, I just found it funny cause I saw the water bill video right after the traditional role gender one from Abby and it was a funny coincidence 😂
Eh, I’d cut him some slack because they do have a whole child together, she had to get surgery, and she’s pregnant again. They’re probably just really stressed.
@@annieromero145 yeah sure it happens
He said all of their bills are on auto pay and somehow it wasn't going though(I can't remember way)
@@leighsweetmelody5085 I know but I would still argue it was his responsibility to make sure everything is working
If you actually watched the full video then you'll know the reason why tho 🤔
she understands omg. i hate math, i hate finances. yes i can do it but please don’t make me do it.
if you’re an accountant then i literally want to marry you omfg
Bulk of the financial tasks, but he forgot to pay the water bill for months....
Lol, too busy making up dances, this man is as camp as Christmas, not a judgement, purely a personal observation of mine.
So sad, you're mad about someone else's man. I'm sure there fine.
@@freetheehumans Actually, I could give 2 fucks about Matt. It's Abby I'm worried about.
@Angela MacaKelly hahaha you're right radar is going off
@@birdbird1
I thought it was just me, feel so vad for his wife as I truly believe in my bones that he's batting fir the other team, which, BTW is absolutely fine provided you don't marry the opposite sex.
It is a huge cultural point of contention where once a couple are married, traditional gender roles resume, 'women's work' consists on daily tasks that add up to a 60 hour work week, while typical 'mens work' are weekly or seasonal and add up to maybe 14 hours of work. There is a reason for this tension, and when two people have the same job and one person is working a lot more than the other, inevitably, that imbalance is going to cause disfunction. I think Matt and Abby are in denial about this, Abby doesn't realize how easy 'finances' are, but it's their relationship. If they are getting defensive about people commenting on their relationship, why would they build a buisness advertising it?
They’re getting defensive over people harassing him and claiming that she’s in an abusive relationship with him, even though they’re not the ones in it and don’t know what’s going on.
It’s BS. Most men work a lot more hours than women when it comes to jobs though. Also they don’t have traditional jobs, so he spends a lot of time with kids.
I don’t watch them but I always see them on my RUclips reels and that guy is the most supportive husband I’ve ever seen on the internet lol people just wanna complain and hate as usual
You're judging that from non candid 1 minute videos?
@@missbeaussie or from both of their responses to one another? Or the fact that they have like 2 kids together? Or the fact that they’ve been together since they were kids? If this wasn’t a loving relationship, it wouldn’t have worked out as long as it has.
@@missbeaussieuh everyone hating on them sending Matt death threats judged literally one video???
No they aren’t he rlly is an amazing father. He is better than most fathers just by appearance
Miss B
Its the fact that were not saying hes a horrible dad, were saying hes a horrible husband. She missed the plot (respectfully)
There’s literally nothing wrong with their dynamic. It’s beautiful.
Ya know sometimes people wanna lead more traditional lifestyles. It’s completely fine- my husband and I do and we BOTH wouldn’t have it any other way.
Exactly. I don't understand, if someone enjoys cleaning and enjoys taking care of a baby why should they not?? I know it wouldn't be for me even though I am a woman but that doesn't mean that other woman feel the same...
It’s not a traditional lifestyle if they’re both working and bringing in income but just she’s the one that is doing most of the childcare and household tasks.
@@morgan2690 exactly….she works the same as him but she still has the bulk of the house? Ummm no! She thinks paying bills is as hard as maintaining a home??? He has everything on auto pay!!! Lmao she’s desperate for us to believe she’s happy like this
Dude I watch their videos and Matt also takes care of griffin and Abby is cool cleaning wtf is you guys problem
He’s not SUCH a good dad he’s just a dad a man who is taking time to care for his child is the bare minimum
Girlie, most men are not doing the bare minimum!
He helps around the house, involves in his kid’s life, and do the work that his wife finds challenging (like she said financial stuff)… I NEED this type of partnership and relationship. I bet that they’re both not burnt out from life because they’re both helping each other out! Fucking amazing!
The fact that she’s the one having to apologize
People who have been watching them for a long ti me know that Matt was only joking, and that they really do have a partnership and if you guys don’t believe me, you should watch the videos Matt made of cleaning the house in surprising her by cleaning the house when she got surgery
That is only and ONLY because she got surgery, if she didn`t she would still have to do all that shit alone because he is a lazy idiot.
A surprise by cleaning the house? It’s bare minimum.
@@Venvanelessthe bare minimum that majority of men don’t do? That ain’t the bare minimum at all. You are the type of person that causes families like this to be hurt and scared because they get cancelled or back lash for literally everything. Grow up
They just do those things for the camera. Narcissists youtube family vloggers love to show off.
@@Leti_10 Why can't a husband do something nice for their wife? They are a family channel but they aren't an exploiting one. You clearly know nothing about their goal for their channel. To be real, not fake.
I love how they literally do what works for them, and the people can't stand it
Exactly, every couple can have their own dynamic. This shouldn’t have been a issue really.
I stopped liking them when they talked shit about Liana and Conners babies name when they couldn’t even figure out how to not get pregnant right after having a baby.
They didn't even mention their baby....
Confidence is quiet, insecurity is loud.
She explained it so well, I am kind of gonna copy her answer when trying to explain my own relationship because she just worded so perfect. ❤👏🏼
Babe got her man autopsying their car note and insurance once a month, acting like he’s doing SOMETHING 🤧🤣 it’ll catch up girly. It’ll catch up.
Why are you being so jealous? He also edits all their content, he cares about his son, you should watch their videos, he is so supportive, he always helps her, compliments her. They truly are a good, loving couple, and good parents. Obviously I don’t know them personally and all I see is their content online, but when you watch somebody for a long time you can tell if their a good person or not, most of the time. You shouldn’t judge him like that, you think you’re sassy with your "girly", but it’s just giving mean girl vibes.
@juliad417 this! I don't even follow them. They just pop up on my reels sometimes, and he seems so supportive. He's always taking care of the baby, and he takes care of her when she needs it. Idk why some people are so miserable that they hope for others' misery. It's weird af.
I don’t get it when married people take on more traditional tasks people find a problem with it. How is that problematic? It obviously makes sense that a women will clean the house and take care of the baby. I’m not saying that women shouldn’t work I’m saying that’s what most women do and men do the financial work what is so wrong about that, we live in a generation that if a woman stays at home and takes care of her child, it’s problematic because the man is not doing it , her husband seems so nice and cares for her and his child just because he has a more traditional role it doesn’t make him a terrible husband it’s funny because the people who have more traditional rules. They’re the most healthy as they’re doing things that they’re good at and when people see a healthy marriage where the couple take on more traditional roles they get mad no wonder why people in healthy relationships end up breaking up because of this generation…this generation is getting more and more interesting😑
She mentioned a couple of the things he does and you really ran with it huh 😂
And everything is on autopay girl!!! So sad…lol
They literally brought so much hate on themselves when they started dishing it out first! You reap what you sow.
What do you mean?
As long as no one is being mistreated, how their marriage is set up is their business. They are happy and it works for them.
Mat didn't pay the water bill for what? A good amount of time.
These teo just have that....off vibe
I watched them before they blew up and they were so different. Now they are just like every other tiktoker following the trends especially with how they edit. No matter how many times I try do not recommend it never works.
Apparently it was on auto pay, like all their bills, and was just an auto pay issue….but for me, that just makes it worse. He has everything on auto pay but somehow “paying bills” is an equal task to making sure the house stays clean. So stupid. She sounds desperate for us to believe she’s happy with this dynamic. But so did Steven crowders wife and she’s divorcing him now so…..
they also addressed it in a recent podcast episode
I’m so glad their baby will have a good and involved father
1) A traditional role would mean she wouldn't be working. Most of their income is probably coming from her.
2) A traditional role only extends to earning and household tasks. Both parents are still expected to take care of the baby/kids. A whole living human being (and they have at least 2 btw) is completely separate from taking care of the cleaning/cooking etc. and it is infinitely more work than the majority of jobs. It's also detrimental to the kids if the father is uninvolved.
she let ‘em know real quick 👏🏻
Quit exploiting your kids….
1. They have 1 kid, the 2nd is in the womb soo
2. Exploiting youtube channels show their children's every move, matt and abby don't do that, they only show bits and pieces
3. Matt and abby are just trying to document their life, why can't they show their child? Again, they aren't showing their child's every move, they probably have sooo many videos of Griffen and them that they aren't sharing to RUclips. Let people live.
@@gooddoggo523 1. quit exploiting kids in general. 2. There is no excuse. 3. If you can’t get views and likes without your kids, you are exploiting them.
Facts over feelings friend.
@@geauxtigers4852 I do agree we should stop exploiting kids in general. But again, exploiting kids is showing their every move, and it's when the kids are the main focus of your channel. Matt and Abby don't have their kid in every youtube short, so I wouldn't say they're exploiting their kid for money. But I do agree we should stop exploiting kids in general.
@@gooddoggo523 key word, yet. They don’t yet. This is the route they all go. I used to be a huge fan of family vloggers, until they start crossing the line and talking about disabilities, personal stuff, PERIODS, etc.
we all know we wouldnt have wanted our personal stuff out there for the world to see when we were younger, so why do these people (generally speaking) think it’s ok? It’s not their child’s responsibility to society to be the spokesperson for whatever disability they may have.
And we have ZERO idea how many p3dos are out there. They are everywhere and you can see which videos they love. And parents just keep feeding in it because of money and greed.
We all keep memories in our phones of our children, family, etc.
but the majority of us it is for our memories and it STAYS in our photos. There seems to be no boundaries for social media fams anymore.
@@geauxtigers4852 1) Matt and Abby were blowing up long before she first got pregnant 2) They don’t have their kid in every one of their posts and they don’t remotely exploit them. They’ve already said that they wouldn’t be sharing that type of personal info about their children and as soon as their kids are old enough to say they don’t want to be in videos they will completely respect that and that’s something they take very seriously. Stop acting as if all family creators are the exact same, just because some people exploit their kids for views that doesn’t mean all of them do. And as for pedos, pedos are everywhere. That’s not strict to the internet. That’s like saying children should never go out in public spaces because pedos exist. You can publicly have a child and still protect them.
i don’t understand why people are giving them backlash for how they literally cooperate in a healthy manner like honestly i literally strive to be a stay at home mother some day❤❤❤❤
I’ve loved them for a while now, they are wonderful people
wonderful people don’t exploit their children
What's worse was the death threats and people driving by their house
i still can’t believe people got so upset over that video. i remember watching it like an hour after it came out and just loving it and loving that they had a good routine but that they’re not ashamed to ask for help when they need it!
It’s not your household so unless she or he are being abused or mistreated in anyway , it’s really none of anyone’s business.
People that are just jealous of them because they have a relationship that other people dream of
It wasn’t just the gender stereotyping, it was the whole “watch me surprise her with a clean house!” The house is messy - CLEAN IT. It shouldn’t be a surprise that you did a chore 🙄 “Like at me, I’m awesome, I cleaned the house.” And?
Edit: *watches as people ignore the gender stereotypes aspect of the conversation because they want to defend the couple. Most likely because they identify with them and don’t want to face facts they might also be helping to perpetuate harmful gender stereotypes. So instead of educating themselves they just have angry little rants and attack others*
It's about appreciating the work you've put in and showing appreciation to the person who usually does it. He took on more work to show his appreciation and give her a break. She didn't ask for him to do it and she said that she herself enjoys it. Why are you getting offended when the person themselves aren't? It's weird how easily yall get offended and how yall try to push your own values on other people relationships. You see a happy couple living their life and decide that they are doing something wrong. If you're miserable, just say that.
Ya most of the comments had no problem with them taking on traditional roles, if ur gonna address backlash, at least five the proper reasons for it. 🙄
@@getfitwithkatelyn It was more than that, he made some comments that were rather demeaning about his wife’s role. Also, there is an argument that both parties should take part in rearing a child, because both are the parents. Don't fully know their dynamic nor do I care, but I hate when people misrepresent one side to make their counterargument easier.
@anal2150 The thing is she personally doesn't have a problem with their roles and they themselves have decided how to run their household. Who are you or anyone else to tell them they are wrong for living their life the way they want to? I believe everyone haves a right to live the way they want and the way that works best for them. I didn't see anything wrong with the remarks made in the og video, so is this based on comments made under it or in another video? As a stay at home mom and wife, I get so much flack for choosing to stay home with my kids that it's unreal. People need to stop pushing their own beliefs on other people. Live and let live.
@@getfitwithkatelyn I’m not gonna read all of that because ur not responding to anything I actually said. 🤦♀️
My grandparents live an extremely traditional marriage and they’re some of the happiest people I know. My grandma cooks and cleans while my grandpa used to work, and is now retired, but does renovations, is fixing an old car, and does most of the outdoor work when he’s in good health.
Does your grandma still cook and clean or is she also retired?
@@merder1414 Well, she does still do that just because someone has to, but my grandpa still does repairs and renovations around the house when he can. After her kids (my mom, aunts, and uncles) grew up, she worked as a secretary part time for a while, and now she no longer does that.
Omg!!! Best response! Worst thing to be attacked for. You two are great!
All that being said, she should pay close attention to the financials in their business, whether she enjoys it or not. Crap happens. People change, people get addictions, people find other people, people over spend and worst of all people die. Know where your money is at. This goes for her and everyone who is in a relationship with shared finances. .
It’s fine if you do traditional marital roles. It’s also fine if you don’t. Do what’s best for you and your family.
Aged like milk. The man cant even pay their water bill.
Honestly I like she addressed and phrased it. It really put it in perspective for people, and when I explained to my friends how I would like to go about my future family I’m literally using her example😊 she also mentioned their a team and in a team on the field, you both can’t play the same position/role, but she of course phrased it differently and better
Family channels are predatory. That baby did not consent to its whole life being filled so you can stay home and make tik toks. Sick.
People are all about supporting women until the woman WANTS traditional roles. Then all that’s left to do is attack the husband. Find a new hobby!
Why cant people mind their own business and let a happy couple live? Absolutely gross.
YOU ONLY HAVE 700 SUBS!?!?! your commentary and editing is actually too tier. new sub
I used to like them but they have gotten two To stuck on themselves and think they're better than everybody else
Abby you sound like a robot saying a prepared speech? It is evident that Matt is controlling and he’s into himself? I really wish that you both had the chance to experience relationships with other people so you might be better prepared for marriage. Did Matt honestly think that household chores and looking after your child was all your responsibility?
😂😂 you're making it more dramatic than it is- everyone reads scripts that they create PERSONALLY.
@@laceyy.vwhy are you commenting without fat checking?
They are one of the few YT couples I feel are genuine & fun people!
Congratulations Abby. Most of us were too busy actually watching our children at 3 months postpartum.
…she had a hernia after birth and had to have surgery.
She was taking medication and not lifting anything for the recovery period.
I was wondering why she posted that because I didn’t see a problem with the video he posted people are wild. It’s OK to be traditional and it’s OK to live your life that way they’re not pushing that on anybody else
People will always hate dads for “working too much” or “not helping enough” and people will always hate moms for “not doing enough.” People will ALWAYS hate. But it takes a couple to make a baby for a reason, we’re not asexual creatures. It takes two people to raise a child well. (No I’m not hating on single parents, I commend those for taking on both roles and stretching yourself so thin. I hope you’re okay.)
I don't get why people think it is their place to criticize other people's lifestyle. I went to high school with Matt and he is one of the sweetest person I have met.
That phase when u start explaining yourself....
It’s literally no one else’s business and if anyone actually wants to judge you, they desperately need a life and/or hobby. The only thing that matters in the end, and the thing everyone should always be focused on, is the simple fact that you two are amazing humans and parents with amazing hearts, sharing your lives with all of us by choice. ❤ Luckily you both are clearly strong enough to always stay true to yourselves, thank you for that!! 💕🙌🥹 do your thang! 🤘🥳
The problem is they are making it everyone’s business by posting their lives on RUclips and TikTok! If they didn’t want people in their lives, it would be really easy to stop posting videos but instead they are inviting people in inviting people’s opinions and then they get pissed off when people don’t agree with them and people point out their bullshit? No. Just no.
I don’t know why traditional families get so much hate the whole point of feminism , was to have a choice, and when people choose a thing people don’t like they say it’s oppression .
People will find ANYTHING to hate on. Their dynamic works for them and they're not hurting anyone or themselves, but people find something to complain about either way.
She responded perfectly. My own parents have been the EXACT same way, where they take on “traditional” roles. My mom is more comfortable cleaning, cooking, taking care of the kids, while my dad handles bills, insurance, etc.. And I actually asked my mom when I was going into junior high if I would have to be “such a mom” like she is, and after I elaborated, she just laughed and said, “Well, you don’t HAVE to. If you want to and that’s what makes you and your partner comfortable, then sure, go ahead. But if you don’t enjoy it or it doesn’t work for you and your family, then you can figure something else out. I love doing what I do for our family, and so does your dad. We all spend time together, we all love each other, and it works.” And that was that. People are so hypocritical nowadays. If someone says something about how a family is too “modern”, that’d be rude. The same thing goes for a “tradition” family.
No the only thing I personally didn’t understand is how she was surprised to get pregnant again. She cries, he says they didn’t plan it, she says they didn’t plan it and then say it was an accident. They’re both shocked and completely didn’t understand how🤔 So here comes another baby into the world that was ‘unplanned’ and an ‘accident’. All because of two irresponsible people. It’s 2023 and you’re still not educated on birth control?
Yeah she assumed because she was still nursing that she would be protected. It has been found that while nursing, your period can take a while to go back to normal and some women get no period at all, hence the theory that nursing protects from pregnancy. So stupid 🙄 if she didn’t want to get pregnant she should have kept her legs closed 🙄
Mothers who breastfeed don't like going straight back on those drugs because it can affect the milk. And its not required and the doctors that judge or push that shit are evil. I have never used birth control for many reasons including how it messes with women's hormone levels and weight so much.
@@leighirvine okay but they are happy regardless, its not like she's crying cause she's mad, she's scared. Thats normal. And how do you tell a MARRIED AND HAPPY WIFE TO KEEP HER LEGS CLOSED! You are crazy! Idk if you know but thats healthy actually for husband and wives to enjoy sex .....wow crazy.
@@tamarar7156 Are they married? Yes. Is she Happy? Lol how do you know? They’re recording and could easily be putting up a facade. Also, who said anything about Healthy or enjoying sex? All Leigh said was to keep her legs closed if she didn’t want to get pregnant. Abstinence works 100% of the time and there are many other forms of birth control. If they were on birth control and then posted that video of getting accidentally pregnant, THEN I’d believe it. THAT is an accident. Don’t try to excuse them. Don’t glamorize their irresponsibility by saying they are a married happy couple and crying because they are scared and that it’s normal. It’s not. Being married is not an excuse to have no consequences for your actions. For example, me. I don’t want children right now. I am married. I had the Skyla put in October 2020. My dr. Told me to have it replaced by October 2023 since it only protects 3 years. So If I don’t get it replaced by October 2023 and have sex, I am aware I can get pregnant. Married or not. It wouldn’t be an accident. It would just mean I am an irresponsible, sexually active adult.
@@priscillaflores7656 people that believe in marriage and having kids and obviously don't use birth control because we all have the same knowledge. That marriage is a good thing, no kid is an accident but a wonderful surprise and sex with your spouse should always happen regardless of what fools like you say or judge. Okay? There are many people that disagree with you and how you live also and why are you so mad and pressed over this? Just move on you're snorful and probably need to go have sex with your husband, you'll feel better. Lmaooo
She uses brushes too aggressively
It’s not the marital roles that get me, it’s the way he literally has no empathy for her and publicly insults her and basically tells the whole world that he doesn’t find her as attractive as he used to, and he exploited her at her lowest moments during pregnancy and purposely did things to get a reaction out of her for views
If someone looked at what I did everyday they would think I baby my husband. If they look at what he does they would think I’m useless. Together we have a GREAT Relationship and partnership. At the end of the day that’s what’s important.
Let’s just not film ourselves for the hope of gaining an audience anymore
Or people can stop turning into wild animals when they get on the internet and continue to treat others like they're actual human beings like when they are in the physical world? Being a content creator doesn't mean other people are allowed to disrespect, bully or be condescending to you, it doesn't mean you asked for it so you're not allowed to complain about it. That's such a weird, toxic mentality to have. Start putting the responsibility on those doing wrong and not people just living their lives and being vulnerable enough to let others in. It's so messed up I even have to say that.
@@deathbloom27 it’s not that deep, Megan.
I couldn’t trust that man if my life depended on it…
How come?
Tf did Matt do to you?
Instinct, grow some..
Idk why they feel bad about her, he's literally doing a tone of work, constant care for her and the baby ,and the house.
Dealing with her voice is committed enough.
This girl is a really rude person
Abby?
Huh?
They also addressed this in their unplanned podcast. The title has something about being canceled in it.
the fact that some people's first response was for them to divorce says a lot.
Amen sister!! I tend to take on the housework, cooking & homeschooling ECT... & My husband will do all that also, but we love our roles & homes..
I just don't like she felt she had to lie about it 🤣 he said what he said
Did she lie? I knew there was some drama concerning this but I didn’t see every detail of it. I’m just curious what was said. Sorry I’m late to this topic 😂 this video just popped up for me.
He couldn’t even remember to pay one bill
People shook that a mom wants to be a mom and that a dad is involved but also providing for them too. People need to calm down
can't wait for Abby to have a meltdown in 10 years when Matt leaves her for a dude and she can't take care of herself financially
Why don’t you try working 40-50 hours a week, outside of the house, and then find the time for everythingggggg else…..