The Dreaded Relapse With Dan & Kirk
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- Опубликовано: 21 авг 2024
- Dan and Kirk discuss the topic of relapse in the context of sobriety. They share their personal experiences with relapse, highlighting the different ways it can manifest and the challenges it presents. Kirk opens up about his own relapses, detailing the triggers and emotions that led him back to substance use. He reflects on the disappointment and self-blame that accompanied his relapses, as well as the impact they had on his relationships and overall well-being. Kirk and Dan also touch on the importance of support and understanding during the recovery journey, emphasising the need for compassion and self-reflection when addressing relapse.
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Menace II Sobriety Live brings the up & coming podcast to the live stage; hosted by Daniel O'Reilly and a special guest, no topic is off-limits. Combining humour with stories and issues which both Daniel and the audience will have experienced, whether first hand or through someone they know. Offering an environment for people to openly discuss their struggles was Daniel's main focus behind starting the podcast, as well as his M.A.T.E group; so now he also brings it to the stage and to the public.
What can people expect at the live podcast:
Join Daniel at Menace II Sobriety Live, as he discusses all things sobriety, ADHD, mental health and more. The podcastwill be recorded live with a special guest, including audience interaction and finishing with an open Q&A.
Daniel will not only be discussing sobriety, but everything life throws at us, and he would love for you to join him. Bring your tissues and your sense of humour, because we have no idea what topics will be discussed, but whatever the conversation, it'll be a supportive environment and may contain some dad jokes.
Story behind the podcast:
The Menace II Sobriety podcast was set up after Daniel faced his own battles with sobriety, ADHD, mental health and certain life scenarios. He set up a M.A.T.E group on Facebook, so that men could support men in an accessible, open and friendly environment. Upon seeing the responses from men around the world to some of the posts on the group, Daniel was blown away by the kindness and support of strangers. This led him to create the podcast, inviting a range of guests from different backgrounds, sharing his own personal experiences & struggles; and now, opening up to the public in a live environment, where people can come along and watch in-person, or get involved in the audience interaction.
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Dan, in Kirks absence next week get your wife Shelley on as the guest and make the topic ‘living with an addict’ or something that explains things from her perspective, both pre and post you being a user
Such a good idea, really really good idea.. Love that im going to ask her..
I used to think Kirk was a bit of a muppet on Towie, (though weren’t we all in our 20s?) but he’s grown into a really decent guy that’s super engaging and relatable.
Love that, we was all a bit of muppets know I was lol - TV painted him a certain way too
I’m currently on a work trip in Medellin colombia. I flushed my gear down the sink while listening to this podcast. No more. ❤
I am a 26 year old recovering addict, currently 4 days back in after a relapse in Marbella, I have had 7 months of sobriety prior to this and this podcast is amazing
Stay strong mate use the memory for good, onwards abd upwards
Don’t go to Marbella
Keep going mate, you're doing well x
This is exactly what I needed. 3 months sober and I’ve found myself romanticising about having a blow out and blagging myself that I can have 1 or 2 nights out.
I’ve found that if I “fast forward the tape” from that first drink, it helps. Asking myself “if I have 1 pint, where and what will I be doing in 4 hours”
In my house. On my own. Sniffing. Hiding from the world. Great work guys. LOVE the podcast and helping so many 👌🏼
fast forward is the key !! I always do that
Kirk’s description of a panicked relapse was so good. That’s exactly how I felt with heroin after i’d quit. I’d literally have to run away from places before I snapped. It fades over time, but it’s not nice.
Yer it sounded horrible.
My second viewing of Dan and Kirk. What a brilliant podcast. To be honest I didn't know what a Podcast was but I knew I wanted to watch this. My view of Kirk has gone 180. I used to think he was an arrogant little shi t but he's a star in my eyes now. A normal bloke with demons and vulnerabilities and i love his honesty. I saw too many suicides as a retired Met officer of 32 years and your message to other men is brilliant honest and powerful. Please please guys, nothing is as bad as you think at that dark moment. Listen to this in the darkest night and talk and reach. Kirk and Dan, you've got another follower and Kirk, you are a credit to your dad. X
This podcast is needed its helping ppl see there is a future beyond the powder
Yer man thank you
Kirk what you said about you know youve got one more relapse but not one more recovery is prob the best advice to anyone sober. Once youve had that last big bender where youve lost everything and hit rock bottom to regain that mental strength to live laugh and love again takes huge power. I can only speak from experience of being homeless and now having life and all its joys 3 yrs later the thought of losing it all again would surely be ⚰️. Thank you brothers youve created somehing special here which gives your listeners great strength 👊
Powerful, yes I agree and well done my brother
10 weeks sober today.
Podcasts have helped, thanks.
Kirk if your reading this buddy my old man also took his life back and yeah it's not easy but well done mate, seeing you now Vs those old pics we saw on an earlier episode when you was a rake is inspirational.
Hope to get down to the London show later this year and we can all rack up some lines! (JOKE)
Fellas fellas fellas. You’ve nailed it again. Listened to this ep on my walk this morning, once again kept me out the battle cruisers. Dan I messaged you on Instagram a few weeks back when I was at a low point, I know you’ve got a lot on and can’t reply to everyone so I don’t have a problem with you not replying, the good news is your other content (this podcast mainly) has helped me realise there are addicts out there just like me (not necessarily necking a bottle of whisky for breakfast like in the films). You two have saved my relationship with my family really. Give yourselves all the love and credit you deserve
Love that Ricky, whats your insta ill have a look, some days I stay out of my inbox for my nut but ill have a look
@@menacetosobrietypodcast honestly fella it’s fine mate, it was a few weeks ago and I’ve turned a corner since then. I don’t expect you to be able to read every message you get. I was just at a low ebb and now I’m through it.
Thanks again to the pair of ya. Couple a legends.
I am a recovering addict (c**e and alcohol) I absolutely love this podcast! It’s real and true! I’m 8 years into sobriety now and laughing and having humility is a positive thing!! 👏🏼👏🏼 well done guys. Keep staying true 😊
Please Please don't stop the podcast. It has changed my life.
Wishing you continued sobriety and serenity in your life Kirk......it takes a strong man to speak openly like you have, and it's helping many other people. Thank you! ❤
He's brilliant aint he
Spot on Kirk …. Manipulation. to yourself…. Also lying to yourself…. I always planned my relapses…. You 2 are my recovery. From your 74 year old fan …. Just your honesty is powerful.
Can relate so much to your relapse stories man.... hang in there keep the sober lifestyle 😀. Had 3 or 4 relapses , each one ends worse , and always starts by my alcohol demon inside telling me one social beer will be okay , or a cheeky 4 pack after work normal , few weeks later always back to dark place . Such a horrible thing man, stay strong
Yer mate thats how it starts, glad your on your journey though mate
Thanks boys , the pods make you feel part of a team ❤
Best name for a sobriety podcast. Hands down 👇. Keep up the good work guys, helped me out alot n I'm sure thousands of others. Praise be to God.
This is all the conversations we need but never hear without having to leave the comfort of our house in front of strangers
I'm 30, 21 days Sober & when I'm having days where I think oh could have a beer I come straight to your videos and helps me 😊
Watch these religiously dapper the way unexplained you are I’m bang on the same I’m only a month sober but u and Kirk are helping every week and podcast is 100% better since u bourght him on thanks lads
Love that mate thank you
Love you 2!! Watching with my son who has a 15 year on and off problem.......he's listening!! 😢❤....thank you xx
I love that he's listening and you too. Love that
One of the best podcasts for sobriety and in general! Love hearing and relating to you and Kirk. Amazing podcast guys Thankyou 🙏🏻..hope you guys know just how much I respect and appreciate hearing what you have been through and opening up.
I'm glad i found this. Its really helping me deepen my understanding of addiction. Big props to Kirk - I know that his dad would be so proud of his recovery and using these platforms to help others. Big Mick was the only reason I ever watched towie and I have no doubt he's smiling at Kirk being a "proper" dude. Much love lads.
nearly two months sober many relapses. This podcast is helping for sure.
Absolutely love kirk 😂 brutally honest with everything
Only just found u guys on this , I'm starting my recovery now I feel the same boys, my dad died a year ago too who run our family business. I click alot with you both😢 it's helping me watching you and it helps me through the day.
I’ve been watching your podcasts every day the last week, apart from really enjoying listening to everyone’s experiences and information they have to share, I just wanted to say I think the pair of you could both be responsible for saving many lives, especially men who struggle to open up and talk. You should both be proud ❤
Thank you for my therapy session… what’s more it is free. What a lovely humble pair you are ….
Don’t listen to those haters. Wasting their energy on negativity. Love your podcast I hope you get the success you deserve.
Thank you Terry mate really appreciate it
We are back Gentleman ❤ thanks 👍
Brilliant again lads. Real good advice and tips for anyone in recovery. I'm 3yr away from it and I still struggle with the mental battles but day at a time. I wish anyone struggling the best and hope you get the help needed. God bless you 👍💙
Cracking episode as usual lads... funny psychosis story for yous.
Up all night on the bag and was looking out my mums bedroom window. (She wasn't home ofcourse). Out the back there is a field which is usually pitch black at night. Paranoi hit massively and then the psychosis picked up rapidly. There was a man laying on his belly, at the bottom of the field pointing a machine gun at me laying dead still. 6 hours later and just as the light started to appear I was so tired from looking through my binoculars at the gun wielding guy. After numerous attempts to wake up my girl asking for the "bigger" binoculars and her telling me to get a grip I realised that this guy was actually an empty blue barrel minding it's own business next to a Hay bail. 7 years later now and I've been t total for 3!! Never going back. Stay strong lads
Lol Jesus it’s mad ain’t it, good to laugh but remember - congrats
This is the best podcast iv come across telling it how it is . Im struggling second time round and this is realy helping. Keep up the great work guys 👍
Thanks for the content❤ in fact its more support than content. I'm going through a bad relapse,I'm going to join N/A meetings but I don't know if its for me..... Love you guys 🎉🎉❤
Got to try the aint ya, and thank you for the message, give the meetings a good go
Great pod boys. Maybe invite some of the callers on to hear more about their sobriety journey? Especially the lad who got his wife and kids back 😇 God bless boys ❤
There's so many sober podcasts and channels and stuff and usually they are just about the ego of the person presenting. This podcast is definitely different and really authentic and real. Big thanks to everyone involved. Keep doing what you're doing.
I defo relate to Dan's side of the story with the ridiculous benders and only wanting coke when drunk etc , but honestly you both are a unique combo! Great to hear your helping others , as well as myself love this podcast every week! 🏴🇬🇧
Thank you guys, loved the podcast.
Kirk I use my dad as my higher power and the fact you get emotional I love it! And Daniel I love you sense of humour, been following this for ages and I love every single video you do together is raw, emotional and funny all at same time! Keep it coming guys defo making recovery fun and attractive!!! 🙏🙏💪💪❤️❤️
Just subscribed but been watching the shorts on here for a little while, thanks for sharing lads, this was great, both super relatable, ignore all the daft comments , this has been super helpful. cheers lads.
Great work lads. Love that you are now foscusing on the positive comnents rather than negatives 🎉❤
Yep, made a decision to do that! Going to read some out every episode
Hiya lads,
Came across your podcast through reels on Instagram around 6 months ago and have listened ever since. You've inspired me to cut down massively on my cocaine and alcohol use, with a view of hopefully stopping all together in the next few months. I was just like Dan, once I started on the weekend I couldn't stop.
So many examples you give like getting aggy with your Mrs when she was just trying to help you and being their financially but not emotionally really hit home for me and have made me much more self aware despite the fact the relationship couldn't be saved in time.
I wait for Fridays just so I can listen to you guys on the train, you are saving lives and 100% saved mine
I relaped at the 7yr itch first time
7 yrs next Yr gonna go on a sober retreat to stop a second .
Thank you 4 this pod cast
I've walked with a crutch from the age of 14, im 47 now, relapse every 2 weeks. Divorced, lost a business but still keep earning to supply my addiction, im very lonely but the outside world thinks im the funniest and happiest bloke on the planet.......if only they knew .
Again such incredible honesty! I have very luckily never experienced relapsed however I’ve help several people back on the recovery programme after! So many things I want to write (be here all day) top quality work guys and hope you’re well
Thank you for watching Andrew mate appreciate it!
Most accurate account I’ve ever heard of the imminent onset of an relapse, and the thinking and rationalisation associated with it. Nice one, Kirk.
Don’t worry about this podcast being perfect lads, go off track who cares! Brilliant watch as always with a brilliant message. Constant reminder of what I need to put into action to be more like you two
this is a perfect time on a friday to upload
Yer makes sense dont it, this is what we are sticking too now
love when a new pod comes out boys easy entertaining listen
Don’t even know why you address the negative comments. For every negative comment you lads are helping so many people. Keep up the great work
Yer im going to try not to, its the ego isn't it lol
Been struggling a lot recently lads thanks very much for talking about the things you’ve went through, very relatable
Brilliant podcast. Please don’t stop doing this
Thank you we wont I love it and need it too!
Love these podcasts. Two propa fellas telling it how it is. Can relate so much to what Kirk has been through. Keep it up lads!
Hid experience is really helping win on this podcast, he is so open and articulate, love it.
Loving your work boys keep doing what your doing I love the podcasts very positive and the double entendres crack me up 😂 I can relate a bit with you Dan I wouldn’t class myself as an addict now but I’ve been through the binge drinking phase sitting in peoples kitchens at 9am and since having kids I’ve knocked it all on the head . I lost my mum a few months back which broke my heart and listening to you guys cheers me up 🫶🏼
Watching this feels like five minutes not an hour so relatable the boys talk the truth and good advice on how to keep on the straight and narrow keep up the good work lads
Thanks Dan really appreciate it!
I honestly think you two have saved my life. I know you are aimed at men but I fucking needed this. I’m a pick me girl deep down and need some lads lads to show me life on the other side xx
Stay strong and glad your watching penny x
Don't stop please 🙏🙏🙏 you guys are unreal!!!
Thank you!Love that, appreciate the positivity
Really wanna see more of Kirk man, big love for him and you dapper. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I’ve been massive fans of both you lads for a long time! Keep up the brilliant work Dan & Kirk! Love Muzza from Aus
Go on lads!!! Great stuff. Important
Dan and Kirk you are legends for these pods.
Keep up the amazing work.
Another great chat dan and kirk. Thank you both soo much for continuing to raise awareness concerning these issues. SO much ignorance and discrimination with any form of addiction. You offer hope to those that feel hopeless.
Thabks Tony mate appreciate it
Thank you for taking the time out to reply.
So greatful for this episode 🙏
Thank you Alice hope you are ok x
Watched the first episode, and never seen it again. Dapper and Kirk are the best combination 🥰
The best voice notes EVER!! I got tears in my eyes listening to Alex. Smashing it lads 👊
Hi Dan, kirk and John,
I just wanted to say thank you so much for doing the podcasts, every week your talkshow inspires me through my sobriety and your little nuggets of information really hit home and stick with me,
So I have a few of my own quotes that I would like to share with you and I hope it also helps others that are struggling.
First one is that it's easier to say no to drinking than it is to stop drinking
Second is
I find like Dan I only have a problem once I've started drinking
So
If you have a psychological addiction to alcohol but then have that first drink it becomes a physical addiction so if we don't have that first drink then we have already eliminated that physical addiction
I hope that sticks and keep going with your sobriety, can't wait to see you in colchester next year Dan.
Cheers
Chris
This is brilliant thank you so much guys ! Totally different perspective on the pair of you !
It’s mental how your ego gets the better of you and tricks you into thinking using again is deserved after clean time
Yer the ego is the killer
Kirk, that same happened to my Dad your really brave to talk about it ❤
Love you guys, thank you so much for what you do ❤️🙏
You both rule & this helps me by serving as a reminder that 1 drink or puff will set it all back in motion again. Thanks guys. Kirk is strong as fuck
Love this chat lads, all from the heart
Always!
In my own limited experience, recently I've had 2 relapse in the last half year and I felt really bad about them. Even when I was in the moment I was thinking I don't really want to do this. I see that as a positive step because in the past I didn't care enough or see at as negatively as I should've done. I feel a lot more aware now that I REALLY don't want to do it. I think that's an important milestone.
Kirk - “I woke up!!” 😂😂😂 still laughing at that bit
Needed this tonight, thank you lads
Thank you mate, glad your watching and its helping
Can so relate to all kirks experiences.
Triggers -'life'!! "What's your triggers? I woke up" 🤦🤣😭😭
it sounds funny when I hear it said out loud but the reality is that it's very real and very sad.😢
Anyway, Brilliant pod cast as always lads.
Love listening in.
Keep up the good work. God bless you both and everyone fighting their battles 🙏❤️🙏
Totally! Love that ha ha yer it tickled me too
I bloody love you guys. You are both looking bright eyed, glowing and full of bants (especially Kirk 😉 oi oi).
Keep up the good work, your journey has led you to this. 💜
Two really solid guys , use there platform for proper good , I’m not an addict but I still relate to a lot of what they say , i grew up with an addict and I suppose I have seen it all first hand so some of there stories are really relatable to me
Thank you for your comment!
Many thanks, this podcast is inspiring me to go sober.
When you ready all the info is here
Great episode looking forward to the new format with guests
Yer lets mix it up a bit!
Forget the bullshit people gobbing off. You’re helping hugely
Yer focusing on the positives now
Its encouraging to hear from you guys.
Thanks ❤
keep up the work. watched every episode!
Thanks John.
Keep spreading the positive Vibes.❤👍✝️
Thanks.
Brothers in Arms.Sisters Mend Our Sails ❤✝️
83 days..na and this pod cast as been out this world 🌎
Thank you for being brave enough to share such a personal experience kirk. Sendyou so much love xxx my relapse waS 5months and started taking seizures more and more resulting in s epilepsy diagnosis so yeah that was my scare, giving myself epilepsy 🤦
Love these chats lads keep it up 👍👍👍👍
You guys are doing so much good so much.keep up the good work.
Dapper x Kirk what a duo 🤌🏻 great podcast
Thanks for listening 🎉🎉
Hi Dan, haven't seen any posts from you in a while, i hope you are ok ? So i first listened to one of your podcasts a while back and it started my sober journey. Im coming up for 500 days of sobriety and this week i opened my own CA meeting in my local area . Just a message to say thanks and hope your well. If you're struggling or relapsed please reach out . godbless x
You need to get Danny Christie on your podcast his story is unbelievable. I would love to see him on your show
I will look him up for sure!
We Got Back up to Help ✝️💪
Love to see this always buzzin to see this on my recommended
So glad it’s showing on peoples time line 🎉
Great episode guys keep up the good work
Top stuff, be proud
We didn't bloody cry .😊
Two bloody minutes sober...
Congratulations.
Thanks Amy ❤
An Attitude of Gratitude ♥️✝️🇬🇧👊