3 Helpful Relationships to Have | A Monk's Perspective
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- Опубликовано: 17 июл 2024
- 3 Helpful Relationships to Have | A Monk's Perspective
For those who are on the spiritual path or the path of improving oneself, there are different types of relationships we need along that journey. We need support because the road is not easy. So in this video, I share with you 3 types of relationships/support system that can assist you. I hope this is helpful. #monks #buddhism #mentalhealth
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0:00 Intro
1:06 Good friends
6:58 Teachers & mentors
9:56 Models & heroes
13:12 Why am I sharing this? (Part 1)
22:05 Why am I sharing this? (Part 2)
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What type of a support system do you currently have?
Thank you for this video, Nick, it resonates with my current questioning!
@@Acidicju you’re welcome ☺️
I decided to leave my unhealthy friendships behind a few years ago and have yet to make new close friendships. I currently have a lot of good teachers and mentors where I'm studying, healthy work-friendships, a caring boyfriend, and a good relationship with my child. Sometimes I feel a bit lonely but, overall, I'm okay with where I'm at.
I appreciate you sharing this video. It helped me to think about the people in my life I do have.
My Support system is Lots of structure... Meditation 3 Times a day, Meeting with Friends, I have a honest and CHALLENGING Work that I love .....and I visit your wonderful Platform....I am very blessed and the Spiritual way ist very DIFFICULT but EXTREMLY REWARDING....
25:00 Its not a Book, its a phone Nick.
#Long #Range
#Lock #Locking #Locked
I believe I am on a spiritual journey. However when I talk about it.. What friends I have think I am crazy. They dont want anything to do with it. My husband is a lay minister of religion and he doesnt like what I talk about. He doesn't see what I see. I have read Eckhart Tolle's books over and over. I am learning about present and ego. I don't know where I would find new friends. My family all think I am weird. They don't want to listen to me. So for now I am content to be alone spiritually. I am content to work on myself. I am the only one I can control
I can relate to your experience when I first started also. It’s unfortunate but I’m glad you have some good resources 😊
Yes, I know how it is. I am in just the same situation my husband, he does not take my efforts seriously. However, I do belong to a church. And although I don’t believe everything how it says, I am a follower of Eckhart Tolle as well, I have some spiritual friendships. I don’t share many of my feelings, or the details of my beliefs, but they are friends for me and they care about me and I care about them. I also find, that writing here on RUclips and reading the messages, that serves some of the purpose.
Remember this very important quote...
"Those who fly SOLO have the strongest wings!"
You've got this my friend!!
🌷🙏🥰❤️
Same here, I def get the crazy feeling if I mention anything like mediation or self awareness. It’s very discouraging and can be even harder sometimes to keep going. When I do feel that way I remind myself I’m not doing this for anyone except me. Wishing you all the best on your journey and stay beautiful ❤
I believe, that perhaps you may want to find a church. Find a Christian church or a Buddhist one that is open minded. I am Catholic, not too many people are open minded. Then also I make a habit of listening To Eckhart tool, I have a CD of a few of his talks and his power of now, I make a habit of listening to him every single day no matter what. I have power of now on in my car, and I listen to it no matter what, wherever I go. I have made a commitment to myself not to enjoy the radio or listen to other CDs while I am driving. Also, every single day I listen to a talk by venerable Nick or ET or somebody else on RUclips with that type of spiritual talk. Also, I spend all day, every single day, doing my very best to follow Eckhart Tolle’s teachings. I am as close to always present as I can be. I avoid ever talking to myself. That inner blab, it is unnecessary.
This guy is actually a hard taskmaster. He's so gentle, you don't notice it. It's very skillful communication though. I admire it .
Just finished a 10 day stay at Papae Meditation Retreat and it was a blissfully magical & peaceful experience. 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Beautiful Paul! I’m glad you had that in person experience 😊😊😊
Wonderful! I would love to do this one day soon.
I learn so much from you and appreciate no background music. With ADD it allows me to focus. I hope to meet you someday. I first learned about the four noble truths and eightfold path when 55 years old! Nothing has helped my life and inner peace as much!
ขอให้ปราศจากศัตรู ภยันตราย ทุกข์ทางใจ ทางกาย และทางใจ ขอให้สรรพสัตว์ทั้งที่มองเห็นและมองไม่เห็นในทุกมิติและทุกภพทุกชาติอำนวยพรแก่ท่าน ขอให้สรรพสัตว์ทั้งหลายสัมผัสได้ถึงความสงบและความสุขภายใน สาธุ สาธุ สาธุ
Wonderful my friend 😊
Thank you Nick, I have missed you, so thank you again.
You’re welcome! Thank you so much Nancy 😊
Sometimes I will go back and re- watch your videos over and over as it brings me peace😊
Oh wonderful! I’m glad it’s helpful 😊
I am 37, and just starting to become self aware. I am grateful for good friends. Your second point about finding mentors, elders has really been true for me. My mother has passed on, and my Father is quite senile now. It is challenging to feel the urge for a mentor, but not know where to turn. I miss the presence of elders, and want to make a change to have some in my life , but where do I find them?
It may be the reason I am a subscriber here. I have authors and their books to some extent, but it isn't a dialogue. It isn't the embrace of loving kindness in the physical world.
Where do we find them, as adults?
What has helped me is this: Approach every platonic relationship as an opportunity to mentor or be mentored by example and by advice when solicited. I have had 5 serious life mentors and they all found me, not the other way around. Respect the advice of others and try not to be judgmental.
Thank you Ajahn, you are one of my models! I am inspired by your story, journey and teachings which are very well and clearly presented. Sadhu sadhu sadhu 🙏
Therapy & meditation has been life changing for me. I truly believe I am starting my spiritual path. Many many thanks Nick 🙏
Beautiful! Please keep it up 😊
you have the best laugh!!
Haha! Thank you so much Beth 😊😊😆
Your videos are very helpful to me. I am starting to change and started to attend Buddhist meditation every Sundays 🙏 thank you so much. I am glad that a lot monks are now on RUclips. These will change the world soon. God bless 🙌 🙏
So many beautiful jewels throughout this message. Thank you for these gifts.
Thank you, Brother Nick, for your good intentions. They are always heartfelt.
Thank you so much 😊
I felt like you were talking right to me, I can see where this lesson could help me with a fear I have with meeting new people..thank you Nick😌
Oh beautiful my friend! Yes definitely use it as a tool to help 😊 please keep us updated on your progress
I chose you as my Teacher Nick so Wise My Friend
Sadhu sadhu! 😊😊
Dhamma of the Buddha's
Sadhu🙏🏻Sadhu🙏🏻Sadhu🙏🏻
Sadhu sadhu 😊
Thank you very much for this video ❤ this is exactly what I needed to hear today ❤
Thank you you always give us something to think about 😊❤
Thank you so much for your videos ❤
Thank you for the video 😊
Good day dear Nick, I just want to lett you know that you are my inspiration and that since the past year you really changed my whole life for the better and I am so grateful for that, thank you so much and I hope to continue to hear from you❤ I wish you the best of times and energies
Thanks Nick. Thanks for share with us and your availability. We are so blessed to have access to this knowledge and life style.
Thank you Nick for sharing your knowledge from your experience and that of your brother monks.
I really like your videos and everytime I'm stuck your videos really help me. Thank you so much.
Love-Love-Love this! Thank you! ❤️
Thank you so much Louise 😊
Another inspiring and timely video from you Ven. Nick. Many thanks.
Thank you so much! I have saved this video to replay as some times I just loose the new path I have chosen and this will help to guide me back. I sometimes feel overwhelmed when I become derailed as I begin to focus on trying to fix everything in one go . This video will help me to slow things down and look at sections rather then the whole. I am blessed with a wonderful counsellor who has held my hand along my new path for the last three years. I have sadly lost friends and family along the way because of the new journey I have chosen and the is definitely some grief and sadness with this but being removed from these relationship has been a huge release. I am blessed to have God in my life. I am blessed that my husband has seen the work I have done and has chosen to walk the same path and find his peace too. Unfortunately as of yet I have not found friendships that feel safe and true but I am hopeful and trust in my journey that I will one day meet them. Thank you nick 🙏❤
Thank you 🙏💖
Rare positive influence out there. Thank you from the bottom of my heart 🙏
Thank you for sharing. Peace Brother.
Thank you for all your words of wisdome. Once again, I love love listening to you. Thank you, Mr. Nick’s.
Thank you. I’m so blessed that I have found this channel. 🙏
Thank you so much. Glad you’re here 😊
Hello venerabl Nick i want you to know that you are one of my happy pill one of my life changing mentor. Thank you. God bless you. Our great buddha bless us 🙏
Awe thank you so much for your kind words 😊
Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us. When times get through I come here and listen to your guidance.
Thank you so much. I’m glad it’s helpful 😊
Thank you for releasing content like this.
It’s my pleasure! Thank you so much 😊 glad you enjoy it
Thank you Venerable Nick. Your video is so timely. Im presently problematic about my relationship with a friend. Seeing and watching this video helped eased my mind and got me relaxed.
More power. May the Buddha continue to enlighten you.
Thank you Nick!
My pleasure! Thank you 😊
Thank you so much for your beautiful advice always 🙏❤️
You’re welcome. It’s my pleasure. Thank you so much zina 😊
As always, thanks for sharing your wisdom ❤
You’re welcome ☺️ thank you
💝 I have to smile because I know how tempting these traps are - so thank you for being patient with us!
you have helped so many people, myself included. This is your life's work. Thank you so very much. I have my son listen to you as well, so much wisdom.
Brother Nick! I feel like this message is for me Thank you brother 💖
Oh great! I’m glad to hear it’s helpful 😊😊
One of your best, deep and on the spot, thank you
Thank you so much Kate 😊
Great message as always. I really appreciate the wisdom that you share!
Thank you so much my friend 😊
Thank you Nick. your video lifted my spirits and reminded me of that true change and fulfillment is done with little baby steps. It makes the concept of growth much more approachable and gives me the tools to reflect, but not dwell. And meditation has been such an amazing reaource for me, and your video reminded me of how important it is for my daily and lifelong will being. ❤
Aww beautiful! You fully got it. That’s such an important thing to understand. Well done 😊
Thank you again for your wonderful openminded advise. I am an older person and I just wish young people would find you and learn from your wisdom.
"Mind games with ourselves"- Yes! That's a confirmation regarding myself within the last 24 hours. I caught that, detected what it was, and eliminated it. Thank you 😊🙏
Venerable Nick - A beautiful video! I might say that it is the best.
Aww thank you so much my friend for your kind words 😊
Hey Nick! I’ve been watching your videos for a little while now, and I would just like to thank you so much for the love and light that you share. I’ve taken many things to heart that you’ve taught. I try every to implement those things in my life. Blessings to you, continue to do what you’re doing🙏✨♥️
Aww thank you so much jasmine! I’m glad you’re able to use these teachings. Keep it up 😊
As always you speak right to my heart. So near and yet so far away
Lots of love and compassion to you my friend ❤️😇🙏
Thank you so much monika 😊
great nick! saludos!!
Thank YOU.
You’re welcome ☺️
This is so helpful Venerable Nick. For me it takes the Dharma and gives me a roadmap to use in my daily life. Blessings to you!
Wonderful! I’m glad it’s helpful. Thank you so much Michele 😊
Thank you ven. Nick.
1. Good friends
2. Good teachers
3. Good role models
Referring to a different video you did, I have been meditating at night on the things I am grateful for that happened during the day. You said that the last thing we think about is the first thing we think about.....I had never realised this. This has been a game changer for me. I used to wake up feeling really bad emotionally, but now I feel very different in the mornings (I do the morning meditation also). Thanks again 🙏
Thank you nick
You’re welcome ☺️
I have been applying some of your wisdom, thank you ☺
That’s so wonderful! Please keep it up 😊
Thanks Nick, glad you address the excuses. I instantly heard my brain come up with everything u said. Or should I say thanks mentor/hero ❤
Thank you so much 😊
Many many thanks....
You’re welcome Marlene 😊😊 thank you
Step by step day by day .....
Thank you ,Sadhu
Thank you Ajahn Keomahavong 🙏 I am trying to get back to the roots of Buddhism and your messages are very relatable particularly in regards to productivity and living a wholesome life despite socioeconomic challenges. I often feel that I can’t be a good Buddhist living in the US but the principles of Buddhism can be applied to any profession or culture. Please continue to share your wisdom and positivity. Your message is helping so many others across the globe.
Thank you so much Christine and yes please utilize the wisdom to apply for your situation. You can be a great model for others 😊
What a calming rant! 🙂
😆😆😆 thank you so much
Love to listen to your speech in a calm atmosphere with closed eyes, so good always ขอบคุณนะครับ🙏
Thank you so much Klaus 😊
Thank you for sharing this! Until I live somewhere with a spiritual place I can feel comfortable attending, I am watching a video every morning on wisdom and meditating for 30 minutes. Ven. Nick’s videos have been so helpful to me and since I’ve been doing this, my anger and distraction have dissipated so much. Sending good thoughts to all of us on this spiritual journey!
Aww wonderful Susanna! Please keep doing the practice. That’s so great to hear that your anger continues to decrease. Keep it up! You’ll continue to be an inspiration to others 😊
Thank you 🙏
You’re welcome ☺️
Thank you much.
You’re welcome ☺️
thank u for sharing Nick, peace
It’s my pleasure. Thank you so much Sheryl 😊
I have no friends, but I go to a women's Buddhist retreat periodically which keeps me on the straight and narrow.
Wonderful Hazel. I’m glad you have that community 😊
Thank you for this video.
You’re welcome ☺️ thank you
.....firs of all, we have to seek for them, seek and you shall receive....i'm speaking by experience....
Thankyou thankyou thankyou Nick for all you do... Always lifting our spirits, guideding us with your wisdom & knowledge. Thankyou for reminding me about friends I've negated alot of them due too grieving for my beloved dad🙏I'm blessed too have many beautiful teachers, mentors including you. Thankyou. Blessings from a cold uk😇🙏💗💫
Aww thank you so much Tracey and yes please utilize your support during this time 😊
@@nickkeomahavong01 thankyou Nick I will 🙏💗
Thank you!
You’re Welcome robin 😊
ฟังพระอาจารย์พูด ได้ฝึกภาษาอังกฤษ (ฟังบ่อย ๆ หลาย ๆ ครั้ง / 🙏 มีประโยชน์มาก ๆ ค่ะ)
Sadhu sadhu thank you so much 😊
Find good friends. Such good advice. But one problem being able to define what is "good". Sometimes a "good" friend will challenge us respectfully. But if we aren't in a mood to be challenged we might consider them "bad" friends .
"The model that we strive towards..." I love that. Very inspiring. If we bear that in mind, we can continue to persevere despite the challenges.
Wonderful my friend 😊
@@nickkeomahavong01 🙏
thanks Nick , clearly taught
Thank you so much 😊
Vandami 🙏 You are very fortunate to be in monastery. Thanks for taking efforts for us to make such good video..There is strong established support system. Here in world of lay people, there is no such system. In today's self centered & over diplomatic world, it's difficult to get good supportive friends. One need to depend upon self. Atta hi attano natho. I am not aware about others. But my strong support system in Dhamma books, vipassana meditation, Mahabodhi Society all monasteries in India..whose all programs I attend online as it's very far to go there always. In my city or near my city there is no monastery or Buddhist temple. So i attend maximum online programs & dhamma discourse. Thrice in a year go for 10 days meditation retreat where we just meditate whole day. Morning & evening one hour each meditation..These helped me a lot. I am very thankful to it & express my gratitude towards all these.. Apart from these being clinical psychologist & mental health counsellor helps me a lot too..Namo Buddhay 🙏💐 with lots of love & Metta to everyone to develop in right way.
That is beautiful! I love what you have been able to create for yourself. Keep up the great work 😊
Very helpful! like always.
Thank you so much 😊
Thank you venerable Nick for your best speech want to let you know you are my best friend in the spiritual path they say when the disciple is ready the master appears
Sadhu sadhu thank you so much 😊
Your videos are fantastic, Nick. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Eckhart Tolle woke up a lot of people. I’ve also read both of his books and listen to his videos on RUclips. However, in the USA, 99.99% of the people are in the state of insanity which Eckhart describes very clearly. So that leaves the .01% of people on a spiritual journey very isolated. We have RUclips to watch you and Eckhart or Mooji…a person may literally have to do exactly what you’ve done in order to find the friends you are telling us to find. Otherwise we’re on our own watching Nick on RUclips. I’m also born and raised in California.
May all beings be happy
Sadhu
Hi Nick,
First let me say thank you and that I love you! Everything you say is said so well and profoundly deep.
This is what bothers me the most as an INFJ-T, HSP, empath PLUS Cancer ♋️....humanity!
This world is so very messed up! It breaks my heart! I am trying so hard to not watch any news or read any news. I feel lost, anxious and scared knowing what is going on AND not knowing what is going.
Having my traits is a blessing and a curse.
As soon as I wake up my mind say "Hello!" and doesn't turn off until I fall asleep. I am always having a conversation with myself in my brain
I will admit I have to drug myself to turn my brain off.
I at 59 have had one heck of a very stressful life however no matter what I am grateful for my blessings and always have a smile on my face and in my heart IF I am not anxious or crying. There is no in-between for me.
Anyway. I admire you so much and I respect you even more!
So far I haven't heard you address the issue of how to live a happy healthy good fun life when we as a nation - here in America - are completely destroying it ALONG with the rest of the world....honestly I KNOW it is only going to get worse.
I will take your advice, pray, and vote!
Thank you so much for you being YOU!!
🌷🙏🥰❤️🩹💪🙌 ✌️ ✌️
Thank you so much and I can relate to the sensitivity. Thank you for the suggestion. I’ll have to address this soon 😊
Seeking help of a professional is nothing to be ashamed of if you chose to find one..the world is both beautiful and scary..its your choice which window to look out...as always ,we can vote to voice our individual support of our beliefs, then continue living. All the best to you😌✌️
@@rollandjoeseph yes definitely
Great lesson 🙏
Thank you so much 😊
Well done. As always, very inspiring 🙏
Thank you so much 😊
@@nickkeomahavong01 🙏
You are my mentor 😉 thanks so much for this video venerable Nick , and say hello to venerable Mickael 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Will do. Thank you so much and hope you are doing well
@@nickkeomahavong01 I'm fine but I often feel alone and misunderstood by my family, they don't understand why I'm doing all this... meditation, singing, books on Buddhism, but it doesn't matter, because it makes me feel good 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
G'evening Venerable Nick, you seem to be doing well. I only have music 🎵🎶 and meditation. I should be journaling. I don't trust anyone, not even my family or my beau... buuuuuuut they can trust me tho. You are my mentor Venerable Nick.
My grandmother is my model, she was OG (gangsta). She always gave me great advice and I truly miss her. Sometimes I can hear her voice and sometimes corrects me
Aww that’s very sweet with your grandmother. Yes please utilize her wisdom. She sounds like a wonderful women 😊
Thanks a lot for this video, Nick! There is a saying from Lǎozǐ: “Even a path of a thousand li starts right under your foot (or with the first step, depending on the translation)!” However, I still have to figure out how to keep going.
You’re welcome my friend 😊
Great topic and informative. Love your videos which are very helpful. Too bad I do not have good friends to confide or hang out with. If i try to talk to a friend, they dismiss me like I am wasting their time, so what to do?
4:59 ... "Lumpy Michael?" 😆😆😆 At least, that's what the closed caption said his name was. 🤣
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Thank you Nick😊. My support system is my Ju Jitsu club and boxing🥊🥋. IMO to become a good martial artist takes discipline, hard work mentally and physically, eating healthy foods, abstaining from drugs, alcohol and tobacco, having good role models and destroying my ego. Is this perhaps a spiritual journey?
Yes that’s wonderful! All those aspects are all extremely important 😊
The spiritual path is never easy because it's like being in a flowing river with us swimming against the current.
The moment that we cease our effort, the torrent immediately takes us.
Fortunately, this river hasn't the same magnitude of force everyday but it's still a river. May we never forget that.
Nick , maybe you could do a short video on a few books you recommend for all levels, starting at beginners.
"Look at who are not good friends"- Yes! My advice is prune them before circumstances force you to do so. It's less painful that way. The one positive about the painful pruning is that your new wisdom has taught you what not to do in the future.
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It’s nice that you’re making all these videos and teachings available, but who edits these videos since I know monks have a routine etc..?
sadhu! sadhu! sadhu! 😇
Nick,you are a REAL influencer. Too much BS today in YT.
Hope more and more (specially young) people are attracted to your channel and get benefit.
Thank you so much for your kind words 😊
Ven. Nick, we are thought as weak when we are simple and kind. One cannot get away from such people who think we are weak because they are close family members we cannot choose not to interact with. Please guide us.
Thank you for this. Speaking of support how can we connect, do you use meditation 🧘♂️ cushion?
Whether a friend's or our own, wisdom and its implemention, which is vital, is the key component for our success. It will prevent a lot of bumps and bruises.
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