My best friend and I speak similarly. People can confuse us sometimes. I think we just picked up on it from spending so much time together. We are definitely not related!
First story: Rinse the yard with a hose until it’s diluted after every time he goes out there to pee. If he really does want to save water and is a penny pincher, it’ll completely defeat the purpose of him going out there instead of using the toilet inside. Plus, the increased water bill will encourage the change
Story #2: OP’s bf needs to watermark the video. Since the wedding photographer works for the bride’s mother, she could lie to promote her mom’s business instead.
For the lady that her 'friend' couldn't find her a seat at the wedding. I'd tell the boyfriend to send the 'friend' a very short, basically preview of the wedding video. And say if she wants the rest of it, she had to pay for it. Cuz honestly wtf man.
Yes dude! Some girl joked in a hamster group that I should have watermarked a pic I took of my pet and it went viral lol so yes and it's for his actual job
I agree, her husband/boyfriend can find another wedding to add to his portfolio. He needs to stand up for his lady this time, add a watermark, send a preview and charge for the video.
Story 2 definitely sounds like she used this person and is hoping for a smooth and easy recovery. A simple solution would be to bring the chairs from the other room to another table and have them squeeze in. I would tell my boyfriend not to give her the video. Say "oops!" the same way the bride did.
Yup. Let him feel the same humiliation you feel plus hopefully they’ll shame him ending stopping that nonsense. Lot of dipshit husbands don’t listen to their wives but will listen to their friends. Frustrating as that is
I work as an assistant wedding coordinator and it’s happened before where a guest doesn’t have a seat and we have just gotten more chairs and squeezed them in at a table. It’s such a simple fix
Exactly. I’m an Event Coordinator and I feel like it could have been so easy to get another table setting and chair. I think the event coordinator was not doing their job either and being petty.
for the gamer husband one: she needs to ask herself why he feels the need to connect with others, and she doesn’t. she didn’t force him into this relationship, they could’ve stayed friends.
This is literally something i commented as well!!! I was like, why does this dude "needs to" have a gateway into a stage he "missed" in his life but she doesn't? it's not fair on her side and it has never been.
It sounds like she agreed on a swinger situation. Like 1x stand type of thing but all feeling are for wife. He's trying to do like a polyamourous life and have feelings for both. If she's not good w that, reset that boundary asap!
Funny thing that is most likely to be... is the "girl" is actually a guy. Guys do this a lot of the time, playing as a female as they get more attention.
24:29 When it comes down to the bride not telling the co-ordinator about her ‘friend’ making the favours and desserts might be because she knows that her friend was talented. She probably wanted them to think that they had ‘paid’ a lot for that as I have noticed a lot of people want their guests to think that they’ve spent a huge amount on their wedding. So maybe if she had said that it was her friend that had made it for her, people would have thought less of her by assuming she got it as a gift or got a discount for it. I also honestly think that maybe the bride definitely did not see OP as a friend, she was just using her.
Story #3: it sounds to me like the husband wanted to have his cake and eat it too. He strikes me as someone who wasn’t fully ready to commit to one person but did anyway, and they both should have acknowledged that and taken time away to date around.
What is wrong with cake and wanting to eat it too? You want me buying a gorgeous cake and just watch it decompose in the fridge? If I want cake, I usually want it for eating... Dunno about you.
it sounds to me like the boyfriend is communicating honestly and openly, and op is hiding her true feelings from him. She should start being honest with him about how she feels. There are so many things that can be saved with honest communication, and that can't just come from one side.
Polyamory is a thing. He may never fall out of love with her - it’s possible to love more than one person simultaneously. And it’s messy in the beginning. She needs to communicate. And if she prefers monogamy then yes, they’ll need to split up.
the wedding story is so crazy to me because when I went to a wedding with my boyfriend there hadn't been room at the table he was sitting at for me so they just..moved a chair and made room for me, how did someone doing so mych for the couple get less accommodation than I did at the wedding of a couple I don't even know very well?
For story #1 - OP should stop flushing when she goes #2 to “save water” and let him experience how unpleasant it is to smell someone else’s waste. It gets the point across without being a relationship ender.
@@softsound13 could that be a good way to find out if it is actually to save water? If it is he's going to be happy she's saving water if it's not, it's going to be unpleasant for him.
No she’s right. It’s pneumonia. And it’s very present in cat pee (more so than humans) which is why you should never clean with bleach because you could make toxic gas and accidentally un-alive yourself
Story 3: Break up! You deserve better. He wants to chase her as she is new and attractive as she's more mysterious. He is going to keep emotionally cheating and then eventually cheat on you. You need to protect your mental and physical health. I recommend STI testing to be safe. Story 4: Holy heck. He is controlling. Please get away from him. He is trying to control you. It is your body and your life. He isn't supporting you. Please leave. Story 5: I think he is married or he doesn't care about you. It is early. Find someone else. Yay! You're saving yourself!
Story 3: I gave my husband space when it came to his female friends & it bit me in the butt. 10 months into our marriage he "slipped up" I stupidly forgave only for him to tell me at my darkest times that he "needed more than 1 woman" now we are working on a divorce. A step in the wrong direction only leads to a run down the wrong road
If him being around the other gender leads to cheating, he’s a cheater. That’s the issue, not the fact that he had female friends. It’s not that everyone cheats as soon as they’re given permission to be around other people, it’s just cheaters that do that. I wouldn’t take the lesson to be “don’t give SOs the freedom to be around people they could develop feelings for”, the lesson would be “some people suck and they’ll find a way to be shitty either way”.
After a decade, I gave my husband space when he needed it in his forties. He gave me space too later when I needed it. I have many loving people in my life now, and just thinking about it makes my heart overjoyed. As a couple, we appreciate each other even more than before, and try our best every day to show love. It helped a lot that I have friends that are polyamorous, it helped us navigate the waters. We never fell "head first in love" with other people, and made our primary relationship and kids a priority. We chose very carefully the people that we added to our life, that know and understand the situation and are not aiming for a relationship and to break the marriage, but to share love and experiences.
I would definitely say, age and kids also helps. If everyone involved is in their 40s, is a sane balanced adult with their shit together, confident and knows their traumas, financially stable, priority is on work and kids and being a loving kind person... Everything is so much easier. Of course, would the easiest solution to just be a couple? I admire those people that are fulfilled with that, and it definitely does sound like a very good solution when it works! So in the end, every person has to muddle through life to find the things that work for them.
Honey it's not a step in the wrong direction, you just married someone who wasn't worth it and you are way too valuable, why are we giving men "space" to do that sort of shit or have those behaviors? it's not healthy because since the beginning they don't want a stable relationship, otherwise they "slip up" or are "missing out" .
Umm no 😂 like if he can't stand up for his marriage has nothing to do with him being around women 🙄 Let me put it this way if I have to muzzle an aggressive dog so it doesn't bite ppl it isn't my fault for not muzzleing it it is my fault for having an aggressive dog the muzzle deos not change the situation
I'm irritated with the boyfriend from Story 2. Fine, we get it, you're building your professional portfolio.... But what does that have to do with the watermark? It's basic copyright/IP enforcement and the bride is NOT a paying customer. The bride did NOT provide an in-kind trade off of a seat at the reception dinner, and therefore isn't entitled to a wedding gift. Boyfriend and OP were severely taken advantage of by the bride, so I struggle to understand why he wants to further lay himself down to be walked over like a doormat. Have your girlfriend's back and have some self respect, dude.
story 1 - 4:00 story 2 - 15:47 story 3 - 37:10 story 4 - 53:31 story 5 - 1:11:47 story 6 - 1:30:28 YAY just in time for my rainy cleaning day! 🥳 Edit: I’m too early for timestamps, so I went ahead and did it!
Wow really? I think Morgan has such a uinique voice, Lauren and Alejandra were the ones I always confused lol (when listening on Spotify). But now I can tell them apart easily, eventhough they all sound equally lovely :)
If its yellow let it mellow! If its brown flush it down! My ELEMENTARY school used to enforce this!! So weird. It also gave me poop anxiety because i knew if i flushed, everyone knew I pooped!!😂
As far as the 3rd story goes- my ex and I broke up after 5 years and his reasoning was exactly to see what else was out there after promising to spend his life with me. The kicker was though I broke up with him when I saw the switch- bc I won’t be with someone who doesn’t want me and only me forever. If I’m going to love someone in that way I deserve it back. That being said the idea of allowing it knowingly is a sign of extreme insecurity and desperation. I agree with Justin she kind of put herself in a bad position. If you have to lend your partner out to keep them happy they don’t love you? If you are not enough for your partner they are not the one. Let.them.go! You’ll be better for it and you won’t be holding someone hostage in a relationship they clearly don’t want to be in- they don’t have to say it for you to see it. Don’t fool yourselves people if your partner isn’t into you- you will know- delusion is one hell or a drug that keeps people miserable for long periods of time if not all their lives.
I agree. My husband and I got engaged after just 4 months and it never felt like a "chase" to either of us. We met and everything felt right and happy. Now we've been married for over a year and neither of us could ever imagine wanting to open the relationship. When you truly love someone, any missing feelings should be made up together. Sounds like he just wanted to touch the grass on the other side while having the security of not being alone every night. She deserves better.
I have to disagree with you, based on my education in Psychology and Human Sexuality. Humans are not strictly monogamous or polyamorous. Individuals fall everywhere on the spectrum. What you have in this incident is one person in the relationship not 100% happy with what they have, but seeking out a resolution to fix that. He communicates the problem with his partner, this discuss resolutions, and come to an agreement. They have moved their relationship from strictly monogamous to open. It doesn't mean he doesn't love her any less. One person will not fill every need and want you have. This is why we as humans establish relationships in various forms (intimate, familial, platonic). What we see here is the OP of this story uncomfortable with the newly established boundaries of their relationship. Its at this point in time where open communication with her partner is important. She doesn't want to say anything because she doesn't want to hurt her partner, but she'll sit by let herself feel hurt and possibly grow resentful? That's not healthy either and far worse. Communication and continuous lines of dialogue is key to success and better understanding for each member of this relationship. If this agreement isn't working out then she needs to talk about it with her partner and they can find a new resolution that will work best for both parties. It's very easy to say "dump him" and proclaim how she deserves better, but its on her and her partner to lay out the ground rules and boundaries of their relationship and it's clear that this wasn't done and needs to be done immediately to salvage the relationship.
The wedding one absolutely breaks my heart. Effffff that chick! And yes ONLY WATERMARKED VIDEO! Ugghhhh girl. I’m sorry that happened to you. But you did learn a valuable life lesson and hopefully you only have REAL friends from now on. I promise you I’ve gone through some bs like this too- and making my boundaries very clear have helped me love a much more beautiful healthy and stress free life. 💕
cat is 💯 worse 😂 i'd know, I used to live in a household with cats and now i'm pregnant and I go pee like 8-10 times a night, and I don't flush every time to not wake up my other kid because we have a toilet right next to his room🫣😂 it's only temporary, 10 more days thank god, but rather that for the rest of my life, than having a cat again 😂😂
Maybe I'm just more used to cat pee cause to me men's pee smell is soooo much worse. Especially those guys who don't drink enough water (basically any dude I've ever lived with lol)
@@meghanhenderson8417 I agree! I don't know what it is about men's pee, but it has this really heavy (idk how else to describe it) smell to it and it makes me gag. Cat pee is bad but in my experience men's pee is worse.
I just wanted to make a comment about story 5. In my experience, most professional/legit photographers will allow and even encourage you to bring someone you trust to a photoshoot, especially when it's a nude/lingerie/bikini shoot. Unfortunately you can't always know if a photographer is a pervert or just shady in general so it's best not to go alone for safety reasons.
I thought it was a mix of insecurity, but build on a huge fear of the significant other getting hurt in any way. I have seen some really creepy modeling stories and can totally understand why he would be concerned. Ultimately it is just a weird mix of her wanting to be outgoing with her body and making a statement and him being insecure and anxious that it will end bad for her. They definitely have some communication issues, because I can not comprehend how could one person have a huge voice like op and in the same time feel so limited, because of their partner, while the other person is not really getting the other's dreams.
@@duqial I should have been more clear. The boyfriend sounds totally insecure. I would never bring an insecure partner to a shoot like that. I meant to argue Morgan's point that bringing an extra person to a photoshoot would be unprofessional.
Thank you for sharing!! It's good to know that good photographers would allow it and probably even encourage a guest. Totally down to bring a friend or assistant to a shoot if they can remain "professional". Boyfriend just felt unprofessional given the circumstance.
Chocolatier story- when my best friend & maid of honor designed my invites, shipping labels & closure stickers- I told EVERYONE. She did something above & beyond, saved me money & made absolutely beautiful invites. Even if it was truly a mistake, the bride not showing her appreciation to her friend is enough of a reason to reevaluate that friendship.
The last story was my write in and never in a million years did I think it would get on the podcast. I never thought I’d get their input. But I’m so grateful for Reddit and Morgan, Justin, and Uncle Jimmy’s input. I’m still seeing him and honestly it hasn’t gotten better. Questioning it heavy now.
I highly encourage you to end it...life happens, but failing to tell you anything until the next day is super inconsiderate of your time. You deserve more respect than that
sounds like a lot of convenient excuses to me, red flags for sure. He doesn't seem to respect you as he comes up with an excuse the day after you were meant to meet up, seems suspicious to me and I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with anyone who doesn't respect me.
Yeah I agree with Morgan, he's married or has a baby name he lives with. This guy is a walking red flag. Just ghost him. He doesn't have a social he's in a relationship. Run girl 🏃🏽♀️
For the wedding story, Idk how it's in the US, but where I live, you have to pay every meal of every guest, so I'm assuming the bride didn't want to pay for them and that's why she sent them to a separate room. She got a deal on the dessert table and a photographer for free
For the wedding story, My toxic self, I would of have left the wedding, thrown away the desert and never gave her the video that was filmed. Shame that she got treated that way.
The bride honestly expected OP to realize she wasn’t wanted and to quietly slink away instead of cluelessly thinking it was an actual mistake. That’s what was happening there. It’s horrible mean girl user bs and that bride deserves to get a bill for the full price of the chocolates and the videography.
re boyfriend uncomfortable with gf modeling swimsuit/lingerie: the ball is in his court. this is not a her problem. this is not a “he set a boundary” thing. it’s not his boundary to set. he needs to decide if his insecurities and jealousy issues are going to take precedence over their relationship, and her freedom. i don’t see this relationship going the long haul given his complete and total lack of trust and support for his partner’s clear passion.
Story 5: The jealous boyfriend and the modeling thing makes me feel a little uncomfortable. I'm pretty secure in my marriage but I could see him feeling uncomfortable with me doing something like this. I think we should be careful not to conflate control issue with insecurities, and with boundaries. He is absolutely valid in being uncomfortable and setting this sort of boundary in what he's uncomfortable with. She is valid in pursuing her interests. What is not okay is either of them violating the other's boundaries or autonomy. They need to either come to a compromise or break-up. But I wouldn't say him simply being uncomfortable is being controlling. I've had a lot of trauma in my past that has created some uncommon boundaries in my relationship but it doesn't make me controlling. If my partner is uncomfortable with those boundaries we shouldn't be together. She should be allowed to model but he should be allowed to be uncomfortable. Like your guest said, she has to decide which will be her priority. She should either help him understand, agree not to do bikinis, or break-up. But "change your mindset" and "stop being controlling" is not a very trauma-informed perspective here.
The model story: I immediately got the creeps from the boyfriends comment of “thats how men are”. If a boyfriend said that to me I would take it as a confession that HE objectify women this way and that would be a deal breaker for me. Maybe that’s why I’m still single, because if that’s “how men are” I’d rather not honestly.
Agree! Granted I grew up taking art classes and being around artist, so I have an anatomical view of the human body. Also my dad was a nudist back in the 80s, went to nudist camps, and it was never for the reason to look at other naked people (glad I wasn't around for that, I'd be embarrassed as a kid).
Story 3: there's a power imbalance here and it's very similar to what my ex did to me. The wife knows that deep down if she denies him any of this, he might resent her for it. Putting the onus on her to call off the situationship is unfair to her; she knows how happy it makes him and she's going to feel the pressure to make him happy because she doesn't want to lose her relationship with him. He's an adult and knows what he's doing is outside of what they agreed upon. The onus should be on him to reel in his own behavior, not demand that his wife scold him like a rebellious child. Honestly, they need to break up ASAP.
Your uncle is wonderful! He has the most thoughtful takes and opinions and I really enjoyed listening to all of what he had to say. I hope he is a recurring guest!
For the bio dad story.. be careful what you wish for! I spent 30 years wondering where my dad was and wanting to know him.. turns out he’s a narcissistic garbage human. My dad that raised me isn’t perfect, of course, but he was there and loves me. It took me 30 years to figure out the dad I wanted, I already had! However, I can understand the unknowing eating away at someone. I will say although everything I went through wasn’t pleasant, I did get closure out of it.. and I found out I have four.. possibly five siblings from him.
Regarding the situationship: Something else that I noticed is that this couple is falling again for this sort of ideology of "men need to have this sort of stage in their lives to flirt and have hookups every weekend before getting attached to one single person the rest of their life" and first of all, despite him "checking in with her every step of the way" I don't see him extending the same deal out to her, she technically can say that she missed that stage of her life as well so, let's see how she feels in a similar situation. Second, I just think that if you meet the person that you really want to spend the rest of your life with, there's nothing out there that you are missing out on, you already have it at home. If your "needs" are not fulfilled or you NEED to flirt and hook up with other people to scratch that ick or whatever, then I'm sorry, but the relationship is not stable or worth it, why would you want to be with someone like that? and it takes me back to my point, why does he need that but she doesn't?.....
That’s still emotional cheating. And that’ll lead to so much more. And you gave him the green light. It’s one thing to open the relationship sexually- or even emotionally-it’s another to essentially be unwillingly pushed from your relationship. I’ve been with my fiancé since our sophomore year of high school, he has never once said that he wants a « one night stand » or was « missing out » ever. Nearly 10 years, starting very young and growing together. Which if that’s your relationship that’s that- but boundaries in any relationship are the most important thing. If someone doesn’t respect your or your relationships boundaries they don’t respect you. She needs to tell him how she’s feeling- this sounds like bad building resentment or a recipe for disaster.
For story #5. Many people in the model industry maybe professional, but there could be a rotten bunch who go into industries specifically to harm/abuse others. A huge portion of child predators are teachers because it gives them access to their target victim.
@@lizb.7774 But that wasn't his problem. She said it wasn't a safety issue. If it was I'd be more understanding, but it seems more about control and his insecurities than modeling being a potential safety hazard.
Story #3: I also never had a go to the bar and hook-up moment in my life, mostly due to social anxiety, and my husband and I plan to do some role play on our next vacation to flirt with each other at the bar, and pretend we don't know each other. Then I get that experience, and he has to try wooing me all over again (lol)
Story 1: you fix it by not covering for him anymore. Give him a warning. “If you won’t stop this disgusting behavior, I’m going to tell everyone who asks what that smell is that you won’t stop pissing in the back yard because you’re a penny pinching skinflint who wants to save water.” I bet he stops real quick once everyone knows how gross he’s being.
I started dating my bf when he was 31 and I was 23. Now we’re 39 and 31. We’ve both changed *considerably* over the last 8 years, but in the best way. The age gap isn’t the problem. It’s the individuals in the relationship and whether or not it works out between them.
With story 3, (disclaimer: I don’t have any experience with polyamory or open relationships) I thought one of the whole things was being in love with someone and still wanting either to keep dating or just carnal relations or something, but still liking and wanting to date your primary partner. If being with you and only you was making him miserable, why even continue at all? /gen Him getting a crush on the “Rachel” is catching feelings, a direct assault to your guidelines that you set up originally. He wanted more “experiences” you said fine, but no feelings. He didn’t find sex (to your knowledge), but instead has created an emotional connection to “Rachel”. No sex available since she’s so far away, just feelings. Emotional/intellectual connection. Did you only agree to an “open” relationship to keep him? Is it open only on one-side (which does not really work out a lot of the time)? Why are you okay with staying with someone who is miserable if they are with you? Sunk-cost fallacy is never a good enough reason to stay with someone.
Hey! Your take is spot on! He's totally violating the boundary she put up, and she's allowing it in hopes to keep him. I'm open and married. My husband and I have our boundaries and we do lots of check ins so we're on the same page. Poly can be emotional, romantic or just sexual, or even all of the above. It's not just making up for an area you might be missing in a relationship. If someone thinks somethings missing or they "lost out" that is not a great reason to open a relationship. I'm more of a fling person due to not being easily connected with people and my husband loves making connections and seeing where that goes. We love each other so much but we also like being open. It's all about communication, as Justin would say. I hope this helps some!
For the 2nd story, I'll keep this simple: she's embarrassed of her. She's the oldest childhood friend there and this girl didn't want anyone to know they were friends, not even the coordinator. She did that and made sure their names were nowhere. She treated her like the "help". It's disgusting, but my sister is exactly like that. I became disabled (and my mom is disabled) and my sister acted so embarrassed of us. She picked any excuse to uninvite us from the wedding and even when we were still invited, she gave us a list of who we could and couldn't talk to (especially our mom). She eventually said that my little bro and I were inconsiderate because we our momma was having emergency surgery on a tumor and we told her, as our mom's caregivers, that we couldn't give her a definite answer about our attendance. She knew about this surgery because it was supposed to be the week after the wedding and was scheduled a bit in advance. The Dr called us and said that it was too dangerous and he didn't feel it was safe to leave it, so it was moved to the week of the wedding (a couple days before the wedding). I know it's shocking to believe people can do stuff like that, but selfish people are obsessed with self-image
Number Five: RUN RUN RUN. If you think he’s controlling and insecure now, it’s only going to get worse. This literally sounds borderline abusive. You won’t be happy in this relationship if you’re with someone who is holding back your dreams. He is the human embodiment of red flags. Next he will say what she can’t and can wear with everyday outfits, and it will only get worse from there.
THIS. His comments now are only the beginning. They’re not even MARRIED! Imagine how much worse this will get if they get married and he feels completely possessive of her. There’s a high chance this is just going to spiral and get worse and worse over time. He’s showing her a peek of the future and now is the chance to get out.
Story two makes me so sad, knowing how much work goes into creating whether it’s a video or her dessert table people are so unappreciative it makes me sad
It’s incredibile how dad and uncle speak exactly the same. I was listening without watching the screen and I didn’t even recognise him! 😂 love them!!!!
Justin can’t compute the bride story (the first story in the podcast) because it’s both selfish, and illogical. Two opposites to what he is. Not only is the woman seemingly malicious/selfish for no reason, she’s also dumb. I totally think Morgan hit the nail on the head. The bride doesn’t want the OP there at all. She’s hoping she leaves. It doesn’t make sense to Justin because it actually DOESN’T make sense.
I was heated at the wedding! Almost all our vendors were friends of the family, all were paid and had a seat to eat! So rude of this shitty bride! Also my husband and I are open in our marriage. It involves at lot of communication and trust. This girl needs to talk to her fiance. Especially if it was because he wanted "to experience life".
Story #3 I can relate to. I was with someone where we were high school sweethearts and I was his first everything. However, he wanted more than just me like this guy and so I was so low I did the exact same thing she did for him. I at the time was just so scared of loosing this person I thought I loved and I thought he loved me that I didn't realize at the time how much we just were not meant to be together. Leave him, he doesn't love you and he needs to live his life the way he really deep down wants to. You both deserve happiness and from experience you will not find it by allowing him to disrespect you just because you're afraid of losing him. We were together for almost 6 years and honestly, I now regret all of it because I wasted so many years where we both could have been happier without each other. There's better people out there who won't do this to you and so don't waist your time with someone who will.
The "situationship" one pulled on my heart strings. When I was in my early 20's I had my bf tell me that he thought he had feelings for another, a supposed best friend of ours. It was heartbreaking but I was young, naïve and didn't know better so thought we could work through it. It lead to a lot of drama and pain. I know better know and with 20/20 hindsight I would have taken different actions. I wish all the best for the OP and agree, she should put her foot down and reinforce boundaries.
Yea, having a social media “throw away” account, fake name, no pics of me, no relationship status, single on the profile, but in a relationship over 3 years, I found out about while he was “sleeping talking”… double life vibes 😂 he was so adamant about me not having any type of social media, now I know why 😂
No way!!! That’s crazy I’ve never heard of someone finding out about their partners cheating that way. What did he say? Did you wake him up right away? How did you confront him? And did he lie? I’m so sorry this happened to you, and I’m also very interested and I hope that’s not offensive to you.
Thanks for the episode! I'm in the middle of finding out if my dad has terminal cancer. Should get the call today. So thanks for the small distraction while I wait! :]
Dude the whole peeing in a dry, hot dessert really put me off. There's this music festival, where I am from, that is notoriously known for poor toilet facilities so people just pee around the festival grounds. It's in the summer and if the festival is during a hot streak where we get no rain, usually you will be able to see from outside the festival grounds a dust cloud we call "the urine cloud" above the festival grounds and that shit smells so bad of ammonia and hangs onto your clothes. I would honestly tell the guy to either piss in a toilet or piss of.. No way I would accept this "to save water" or flush every other time you pee!? 😭😭
I work in a hospital lab and own cats… human pee is worse. I’m currently sitting with 15 cups of human urine in front of me as I’m listening, and it’s bad
The one with the friend being moved from the other room in the wedding is absolutely unacceptable. I just got married a couple months ago, I can not EVER imagine treating anyone who helped in my wedding this way!! Let alone a friend!! I had the seating organized flawlessly for my ceremony and reception. That was MY responsibility. I even had an extra table, cloth, and decorations on standby in case any circumstance at all arose where I needed extra seating. I didn’t, but you never knew!! How dare she take advantage of someone this way! Makes me sooo angry.
Story 6 gave me vibes he might still have something going on with the kid’s mother or maybe even another woman and just be using the kids as an excuse Yes, things can always happen when you have kids, but it takes 20 seconds to text someone Idk something is fishy ETA: i wrote this before morgan read the comments lol
For the wife of the peeing husband. Just use simple cause and effect. He pees outside and without rain, it stinks. Use your hose to thoroughly clean your backyard, maybe some soap, get it cleaned up and use as much water as you need. Do this consistently enough he’ll probably get annoyed with how much water is being used. Then bring it up to him that cleaning his piss out of the grass takes a lot of water, where as a toilet is engineered to use a small amount efficiently and that’s why as civilized people we use them. He’s not solving a problem. He’s creating one.
Story #5: a hot take maybe, idk, but I do not think it’d be “extremely unprofessional” for her to bring her bf to a shoot with her (I mean, I don’t think she should, but that’s a different point). Some shoots are friendly to ppl visiting, some are not, totally depends on the set. So if the photographer/producers are open to someone visiting and she’s asks beforehand, I think she’d be totally fine 🤷🏻♀️ I only bring this up b/c it felt like Morgan was really harping on how unprofessional bringing a bf along would be, when I’ve worked plenty of sets where talent brought along a friend and no one cared 😂
Story 2. Wedding photographer here. That’s how we are treated 99% of the time. Most don’t even give us food (usual a caterer issue). We are there longer than any vendor. It’s very frustrating. Bride in this story didn’t want to pay for their meals.
In my opinion everyone is entitled to do whatever they want with their body but also kinda your partner is allowed to be uncomfortable with you posing barely covered for many people to see. But maybe it’s just me because I’m only comfortable in revealing my body to my partner. Maybe I’m just too conservative/traditional…. But as crappy as it sounds she could find someone who supports her passion and he needs to find someone who is okay with not wearing revealing clothes
It just gives me a bad feel... I don't think he (specifically) will stop. To the point of not wanting her to go anywhere in any clothes without him But you're right
Naked bodies are sexual. You can’t get around it. Doesn’t mean you can’t be sexual, but don’t be deluded Edit to add: there are tons of stories about perverted and predatory “photographers “ and I know one personally and it was just a sub for pornography and a way to get his jollies and have the photos afterwards to keep enjoying. I don’t think she should not do it, but again, don’t be gaslighting and delusional
Naked bodies per se are not sexual. I'm from Finland and we are naked a lot (as kids, in saunas, on the beach). The sexual tension comes from the viewer. The viewed can try and increase the probability of others having sexual thoughts: wear fishnets, high heels, flirt a lot, strong makeup... Some people see almost all young/youngish women sexually, no matter what they are wearing, because they have a very strong hormonal response. This is not their fault, but it is their responsibility to learn to deal with having strong hormones. Best case would be that anyone could wear anything they wanted, but the reality is, it's asking for trouble to wear clothes that might provoke a lot of people, as some people are not good with dealing with sexual thoughts.
I've done some modelling and here's my experience: When you're on set, there's like 20 other people there, when you take into account photographer and team, makeup artist and team, stylist and team, hairstylist and team, other models, personal assistants, etc etc. THERE ARE SO MANY PEOPLE THERE, even on small shoots, there's at least photographer, makeup artist, stylist, hair stylist, and creative director (or brand rep) As a model, you're very much in a work environment where you really don't care about stripping down to change if you need to. Personally I havent shot nude, but have been on set when other models have and everyone is extremely respectful (model gets a cover-up until literally stepping on set, and even then is usually posed in a modest way that covers private parts) This dude needs to CHILLLLL Edit: ALSO while you're shooting, there's so much going on (other models getting makeup done, hair done, getting styled, etc etc) that really only a few people are actually watching you shoot (a makeup artist might pop over to adjust eyebrows, or hair person might run over to brush a strand of hair into place), but really it's an extremely chill 5-10 minutes depending on what you're doing and no one is getting horny
That controlling boyfriend one reminds me of my very first boyfriend I was 16. He was also 16. He was so jealous and emotionally manipulative and narcissistic. I was with him for 1.5 years then he dated my so-called “best friend”. Lol
2nd Story: The bride definitely knew what she was doing, being that she was using them for their services. Never in the x amount of weddings I've been to or associated with has the bride not been involved in the seating chart. Dare I say that's one of the most important planning tasks because certain placements hold significance. The fact that she tried throwing the wedding coordinator under the bus who probably was also overworked and underpaid is baffling to me.
I find it funny how people confuse Lorren and Alejandra (i really really hope i spelt your names right if not i apologize) but for me, uncle jimmy and your dads voices sound similar, maybe how they speak as compared to sound but i find they sound the same hahaha
I still think the main problem with that one background check story was the guy doing it on people the person hadn't been in contact with for years AND keeping them for long periods of time.
Ok you say Uncle Jimmy is just your dads life long friend, but their voices and looks are so similar. They need to do some DNA testing 😂👀
My best friend and I speak similarly. People can confuse us sometimes. I think we just picked up on it from spending so much time together. We are definitely not related!
Literally I thought it WAS Morgan’s dad by just listening !!
Omg! I literally thought he was Jerry's brother!! hahahaha
I thought he was her dad at first! Lol
I came here to comment that
story 2: they should send the bride full service fees & not give the full wedding film. that’s so messed up.
yeppppp!!!!
First story: Rinse the yard with a hose until it’s diluted after every time he goes out there to pee. If he really does want to save water and is a penny pincher, it’ll completely defeat the purpose of him going out there instead of using the toilet inside. Plus, the increased water bill will encourage the change
Brilliant
I said the same thing! He’ll learn this isn’t saving water.
This only get a lawn feed sprayer that attaches to the hose and fill it with bleach. That's the only way to get rid of the pee smell.
Love it.
Also men don't have to use tp when they pee they can just leave it in the toilet to save water 🌊
Just start explaining to his friends and family why it smells like piss😂
Uncle and Dad look alike and sound alike! Loved the episode like always. If the outdoor bathroom man was my neighbor, id be PISSed.
right? when she said they weren’t related i was like “HUH?? how???”
came to comment how they sound EXACTLY alike
I really thought it was her dad at first till she said “uncle Jimmy”
Also you have a great name 😎
I also thought it was Jerry at first! I'm shooketh
I only realized it wasn't Jerry when I saw this comment 😂
Story #2: OP’s bf needs to watermark the video. Since the wedding photographer works for the bride’s mother, she could lie to promote her mom’s business instead.
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For the lady that her 'friend' couldn't find her a seat at the wedding. I'd tell the boyfriend to send the 'friend' a very short, basically preview of the wedding video. And say if she wants the rest of it, she had to pay for it. Cuz honestly wtf man.
Yes!! With a huge watermark on that too ofc!
Yes dude! Some girl joked in a hamster group that I should have watermarked a pic I took of my pet and it went viral lol so yes and it's for his actual job
I agree, her husband/boyfriend can find another wedding to add to his portfolio. He needs to stand up for his lady this time, add a watermark, send a preview and charge for the video.
Absolutely! 💯💯‼️
@@alexahowmanyhamsters1312 I NEED to know which hamster it is lmao
it’s so cute how best friends end up having a similar cadence/way of speaking. uncle and dad clearly are besties ❤
yess they sound so similar 🥹
they even look alike lowkey lol. they could def pass as brothers
I had to double take because I could’ve sworn it was Morgan’s dad talking!
Lol I am still not convinced it's 2 different people honestly...
I legit thought they were brothers wth. hahaha
Story 2 definitely sounds like she used this person and is hoping for a smooth and easy recovery. A simple solution would be to bring the chairs from the other room to another table and have them squeeze in. I would tell my boyfriend not to give her the video. Say "oops!" the same way the bride did.
Story 1: when guests come over, tell them you can't let them outside because your husband pees everywhere.
Exactly what I thought. Or let them out there, and when they ask why it smells like pee, turn to the husband and tell him to explain.
So many L takes on men
Yup. Let him feel the same humiliation you feel plus hopefully they’ll shame him ending stopping that nonsense. Lot of dipshit husbands don’t listen to their wives but will listen to their friends. Frustrating as that is
Can we get a episode called End of Story? All posts with all updates and the solution figured out. I hate not knowing the updates 😭😂
I work as an assistant wedding coordinator and it’s happened before where a guest doesn’t have a seat and we have just gotten more chairs and squeezed them in at a table. It’s such a simple fix
Exactly. I’m an Event Coordinator and I feel like it could have been so easy to get another table setting and chair. I think the event coordinator was not doing their job either and being petty.
Exactly, I thought this would be an obvious thing to prepare for...
I wish the one about the weeding were a petty revenge one and she'd just take the dessert and leave the wedding
That wedding story got me HEATED 😤😤😤
for the gamer husband one: she needs to ask herself why he feels the need to connect with others, and she doesn’t. she didn’t force him into this relationship, they could’ve stayed friends.
This is literally something i commented as well!!! I was like, why does this dude "needs to" have a gateway into a stage he "missed" in his life but she doesn't? it's not fair on her side and it has never been.
It sounds like she agreed on a swinger situation. Like 1x stand type of thing but all feeling are for wife. He's trying to do like a polyamourous life and have feelings for both. If she's not good w that, reset that boundary asap!
Funny thing that is most likely to be... is the "girl" is actually a guy. Guys do this a lot of the time, playing as a female as they get more attention.
24:29 When it comes down to the bride not telling the co-ordinator about her ‘friend’ making the favours and desserts might be because she knows that her friend was talented. She probably wanted them to think that they had ‘paid’ a lot for that as I have noticed a lot of people want their guests to think that they’ve spent a huge amount on their wedding. So maybe if she had said that it was her friend that had made it for her, people would have thought less of her by assuming she got it as a gift or got a discount for it. I also honestly think that maybe the bride definitely did not see OP as a friend, she was just using her.
Morgan's face when Justin talked about the guys peeing outside the studio is HILARIOUS
Yeah she had no idea that happened before 😂
had me SCREAMING lmao
Just. Why do men. Why do they...why.
😂😂😂😂
“I’m sorry, WHAT?” 😂😂😂
Story #3: it sounds to me like the husband wanted to have his cake and eat it too. He strikes me as someone who wasn’t fully ready to commit to one person but did anyway, and they both should have acknowledged that and taken time away to date around.
What is wrong with cake and wanting to eat it too? You want me buying a gorgeous cake and just watch it decompose in the fridge? If I want cake, I usually want it for eating... Dunno about you.
it sounds to me like the boyfriend is communicating honestly and openly, and op is hiding her true feelings from him. She should start being honest with him about how she feels. There are so many things that can be saved with honest communication, and that can't just come from one side.
Polyamory is a thing. He may never fall out of love with her - it’s possible to love more than one person simultaneously. And it’s messy in the beginning. She needs to communicate. And if she prefers monogamy then yes, they’ll need to split up.
The way he's complaining about missing out on the hookups and stuff as if she didn't miss that stuff too
the wedding story is so crazy to me because when I went to a wedding with my boyfriend there hadn't been room at the table he was sitting at for me so they just..moved a chair and made room for me, how did someone doing so mych for the couple get less accommodation than I did at the wedding of a couple I don't even know very well?
Either Jimmy is Jerry in disguise or they are brothers, they are so similar 😂
For story #1 - OP should stop flushing when she goes #2 to “save water” and let him experience how unpleasant it is to smell someone else’s waste. It gets the point across without being a relationship ender.
He would probably be happy that shes saving even more water lol poor woman
@@softsound13 could that be a good way to find out if it is actually to save water? If it is he's going to be happy she's saving water if it's not, it's going to be unpleasant for him.
we love a 2 hour pod!!! even if it was 5 hours i still feel like i would want it longer😂
Literally same
Same at work whenever I listen so yeah I’d watch a whole 5 for sure
For sure!!
The bride from the second story is somehow embarrassed of her friend and she didn’t want her to stay
i thought this too! orrrr jealous. maybe her friend is beautiful and she’s insecure
does leaving pee in the toilet give you pneumonia or was morgan talking about AMmonia? 😂😭
Haha you can get pneumonia from ammonia but I was so brain fried this night I can’t even tell you what one I meant 😂
You meant ammonia hahaha
No she’s right. It’s pneumonia. And it’s very present in cat pee (more so than humans) which is why you should never clean with bleach because you could make toxic gas and accidentally un-alive yourself
Fumes would definitely indicate ammonia. It's all good though, I think we got it.
Story 3: Break up! You deserve better. He wants to chase her as she is new and attractive as she's more mysterious. He is going to keep emotionally cheating and then eventually cheat on you. You need to protect your mental and physical health. I recommend STI testing to be safe.
Story 4: Holy heck. He is controlling. Please get away from him. He is trying to control you. It is your body and your life. He isn't supporting you. Please leave.
Story 5: I think he is married or he doesn't care about you. It is early. Find someone else. Yay! You're saving yourself!
Story 3: I gave my husband space when it came to his female friends & it bit me in the butt. 10 months into our marriage he "slipped up" I stupidly forgave only for him to tell me at my darkest times that he "needed more than 1 woman" now we are working on a divorce. A step in the wrong direction only leads to a run down the wrong road
If him being around the other gender leads to cheating, he’s a cheater. That’s the issue, not the fact that he had female friends. It’s not that everyone cheats as soon as they’re given permission to be around other people, it’s just cheaters that do that. I wouldn’t take the lesson to be “don’t give SOs the freedom to be around people they could develop feelings for”, the lesson would be “some people suck and they’ll find a way to be shitty either way”.
After a decade, I gave my husband space when he needed it in his forties. He gave me space too later when I needed it. I have many loving people in my life now, and just thinking about it makes my heart overjoyed. As a couple, we appreciate each other even more than before, and try our best every day to show love.
It helped a lot that I have friends that are polyamorous, it helped us navigate the waters. We never fell "head first in love" with other people, and made our primary relationship and kids a priority. We chose very carefully the people that we added to our life, that know and understand the situation and are not aiming for a relationship and to break the marriage, but to share love and experiences.
I would definitely say, age and kids also helps. If everyone involved is in their 40s, is a sane balanced adult with their shit together, confident and knows their traumas, financially stable, priority is on work and kids and being a loving kind person... Everything is so much easier.
Of course, would the easiest solution to just be a couple? I admire those people that are fulfilled with that, and it definitely does sound like a very good solution when it works! So in the end, every person has to muddle through life to find the things that work for them.
Honey it's not a step in the wrong direction, you just married someone who wasn't worth it and you are way too valuable, why are we giving men "space" to do that sort of shit or have those behaviors? it's not healthy because since the beginning they don't want a stable relationship, otherwise they "slip up" or are "missing out" .
Umm no 😂 like if he can't stand up for his marriage has nothing to do with him being around women 🙄
Let me put it this way if I have to muzzle an aggressive dog so it doesn't bite ppl it isn't my fault for not muzzleing it it is my fault for having an aggressive dog the muzzle deos not change the situation
Totally thought unc was dad from a distance.. until it was mentioned I would’ve thought it was dad for a hot minute. They even sound similar😂
I'm irritated with the boyfriend from Story 2. Fine, we get it, you're building your professional portfolio.... But what does that have to do with the watermark? It's basic copyright/IP enforcement and the bride is NOT a paying customer. The bride did NOT provide an in-kind trade off of a seat at the reception dinner, and therefore isn't entitled to a wedding gift. Boyfriend and OP were severely taken advantage of by the bride, so I struggle to understand why he wants to further lay himself down to be walked over like a doormat. Have your girlfriend's back and have some self respect, dude.
story 1 - 4:00
story 2 - 15:47
story 3 - 37:10
story 4 - 53:31
story 5 - 1:11:47
story 6 - 1:30:28
YAY just in time for my rainy cleaning day! 🥳
Edit: I’m too early for timestamps, so I went ahead and did it!
Thank you!
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@@cacklinggooseandco you’re welcome! sorry if they’re slightly off, I’ve never posted them before!
Thank uuu
Thank you! I don’t like anything with bathroom talk 🤢😂
i love listening to these while doing my schoolwork then ditching my school work with each unhinged story😂
I can finally tell Morgan and Laurens voice is apart easily and now I have to try to figure out Jimmy and Morgan's dad's voices apart lol
Wow really? I think Morgan has such a uinique voice, Lauren and Alejandra were the ones I always confused lol (when listening on Spotify). But now I can tell them apart easily, eventhough they all sound equally lovely :)
If its yellow let it mellow! If its brown flush it down! My ELEMENTARY school used to enforce this!! So weird. It also gave me poop anxiety because i knew if i flushed, everyone knew I pooped!!😂
As far as the 3rd story goes- my ex and I broke up after 5 years and his reasoning was exactly to see what else was out there after promising to spend his life with me. The kicker was though I broke up with him when I saw the switch- bc I won’t be with someone who doesn’t want me and only me forever. If I’m going to love someone in that way I deserve it back. That being said the idea of allowing it knowingly is a sign of extreme insecurity and desperation. I agree with Justin she kind of put herself in a bad position. If you have to lend your partner out to keep them happy they don’t love you? If you are not enough for your partner they are not the one. Let.them.go! You’ll be better for it and you won’t be holding someone hostage in a relationship they clearly don’t want to be in- they don’t have to say it for you to see it. Don’t fool yourselves people if your partner isn’t into you- you will know- delusion is one hell or a drug that keeps people miserable for long periods of time if not all their lives.
I agree. My husband and I got engaged after just 4 months and it never felt like a "chase" to either of us. We met and everything felt right and happy. Now we've been married for over a year and neither of us could ever imagine wanting to open the relationship. When you truly love someone, any missing feelings should be made up together. Sounds like he just wanted to touch the grass on the other side while having the security of not being alone every night. She deserves better.
This was perfect and I completely agree, I literally just commented smth similar because that was my train of thought as well.
I have to disagree with you, based on my education in Psychology and Human Sexuality. Humans are not strictly monogamous or polyamorous. Individuals fall everywhere on the spectrum. What you have in this incident is one person in the relationship not 100% happy with what they have, but seeking out a resolution to fix that. He communicates the problem with his partner, this discuss resolutions, and come to an agreement. They have moved their relationship from strictly monogamous to open. It doesn't mean he doesn't love her any less. One person will not fill every need and want you have. This is why we as humans establish relationships in various forms (intimate, familial, platonic). What we see here is the OP of this story uncomfortable with the newly established boundaries of their relationship. Its at this point in time where open communication with her partner is important. She doesn't want to say anything because she doesn't want to hurt her partner, but she'll sit by let herself feel hurt and possibly grow resentful? That's not healthy either and far worse. Communication and continuous lines of dialogue is key to success and better understanding for each member of this relationship. If this agreement isn't working out then she needs to talk about it with her partner and they can find a new resolution that will work best for both parties. It's very easy to say "dump him" and proclaim how she deserves better, but its on her and her partner to lay out the ground rules and boundaries of their relationship and it's clear that this wasn't done and needs to be done immediately to salvage the relationship.
@@maewinter1531 you're a pretty poor psychologist. Cause you clearly cannot tell what her boundary was
Uncle Jimmy's advice and commentary was so perfect and on point. I would enjoy seeing him in future episodes.
The wedding one absolutely breaks my heart. Effffff that chick! And yes ONLY WATERMARKED VIDEO! Ugghhhh girl. I’m sorry that happened to you. But you did learn a valuable life lesson and hopefully you only have REAL friends from now on. I promise you I’ve gone through some bs like this too- and making my boundaries very clear have helped me love a much more beautiful healthy and stress free life. 💕
My videographer is 4k and my desserts are like 2k. This bride is extremely disrespectful
no way that she says human pee smells worse than cat pee 😂😂 if that’s the case whoever’s pee you’re smelling needs to see a doctor
RIGHT - like, all pee is smelly and gross, but the ammonia in cat pee is literally a biological weapon 😂
To be fair she did work in a hospital I'm assuming that's where she smelt human pee 😂
cat is 💯 worse 😂 i'd know, I used to live in a household with cats and now i'm pregnant and I go pee like 8-10 times a night, and I don't flush every time to not wake up my other kid because we have a toilet right next to his room🫣😂 it's only temporary, 10 more days thank god, but rather that for the rest of my life, than having a cat again 😂😂
Maybe I'm just more used to cat pee cause to me men's pee smell is soooo much worse. Especially those guys who don't drink enough water (basically any dude I've ever lived with lol)
@@meghanhenderson8417 I agree! I don't know what it is about men's pee, but it has this really heavy (idk how else to describe it) smell to it and it makes me gag. Cat pee is bad but in my experience men's pee is worse.
I just wanted to make a comment about story 5. In my experience, most professional/legit photographers will allow and even encourage you to bring someone you trust to a photoshoot, especially when it's a nude/lingerie/bikini shoot. Unfortunately you can't always know if a photographer is a pervert or just shady in general so it's best not to go alone for safety reasons.
I thought it was a mix of insecurity, but build on a huge fear of the significant other getting hurt in any way. I have seen some really creepy modeling stories and can totally understand why he would be concerned. Ultimately it is just a weird mix of her wanting to be outgoing with her body and making a statement and him being insecure and anxious that it will end bad for her. They definitely have some communication issues, because I can not comprehend how could one person have a huge voice like op and in the same time feel so limited, because of their partner, while the other person is not really getting the other's dreams.
@@duqial I should have been more clear. The boyfriend sounds totally insecure. I would never bring an insecure partner to a shoot like that. I meant to argue Morgan's point that bringing an extra person to a photoshoot would be unprofessional.
Thank you for sharing!! It's good to know that good photographers would allow it and probably even encourage a guest. Totally down to bring a friend or assistant to a shoot if they can remain "professional". Boyfriend just felt unprofessional given the circumstance.
Chocolatier story- when my best friend & maid of honor designed my invites, shipping labels & closure stickers- I told EVERYONE. She did something above & beyond, saved me money & made absolutely beautiful invites.
Even if it was truly a mistake, the bride not showing her appreciation to her friend is enough of a reason to reevaluate that friendship.
Same, my sister did so much for my wedding and I literally told everyone EVERYONE. I can’t imagine not gushing about my talented friends/family.
The last story was my write in and never in a million years did I think it would get on the podcast. I never thought I’d get their input. But I’m so grateful for Reddit and Morgan, Justin, and Uncle Jimmy’s input. I’m still seeing him and honestly it hasn’t gotten better. Questioning it heavy now.
I highly encourage you to end it...life happens, but failing to tell you anything until the next day is super inconsiderate of your time. You deserve more respect than that
sounds like a lot of convenient excuses to me, red flags for sure. He doesn't seem to respect you as he comes up with an excuse the day after you were meant to meet up, seems suspicious to me and I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with anyone who doesn't respect me.
@@k3upikachu ended it last night 😊
If you're not comfortable with it, tell him and either give him the chance to end it, or move on.
Yeah I agree with Morgan, he's married or has a baby name he lives with. This guy is a walking red flag. Just ghost him. He doesn't have a social he's in a relationship. Run girl 🏃🏽♀️
For the wedding story, Idk how it's in the US, but where I live, you have to pay every meal of every guest, so I'm assuming the bride didn't want to pay for them and that's why she sent them to a separate room. She got a deal on the dessert table and a photographer for free
For the wedding story, My toxic self, I would of have left the wedding, thrown away the desert and never gave her the video that was filmed. Shame that she got treated that way.
The bride honestly expected OP to realize she wasn’t wanted and to quietly slink away instead of cluelessly thinking it was an actual mistake. That’s what was happening there. It’s horrible mean girl user bs and that bride deserves to get a bill for the full price of the chocolates and the videography.
re boyfriend uncomfortable with gf modeling swimsuit/lingerie: the ball is in his court. this is not a her problem. this is not a “he set a boundary” thing. it’s not his boundary to set. he needs to decide if his insecurities and jealousy issues are going to take precedence over their relationship, and her freedom. i don’t see this relationship going the long haul given his complete and total lack of trust and support for his partner’s clear passion.
Story 5: The jealous boyfriend and the modeling thing makes me feel a little uncomfortable. I'm pretty secure in my marriage but I could see him feeling uncomfortable with me doing something like this.
I think we should be careful not to conflate control issue with insecurities, and with boundaries. He is absolutely valid in being uncomfortable and setting this sort of boundary in what he's uncomfortable with. She is valid in pursuing her interests.
What is not okay is either of them violating the other's boundaries or autonomy. They need to either come to a compromise or break-up.
But I wouldn't say him simply being uncomfortable is being controlling. I've had a lot of trauma in my past that has created some uncommon boundaries in my relationship but it doesn't make me controlling. If my partner is uncomfortable with those boundaries we shouldn't be together.
She should be allowed to model but he should be allowed to be uncomfortable. Like your guest said, she has to decide which will be her priority.
She should either help him understand, agree not to do bikinis, or break-up. But "change your mindset" and "stop being controlling" is not a very trauma-informed perspective here.
The model story: I immediately got the creeps from the boyfriends comment of “thats how men are”. If a boyfriend said that to me I would take it as a confession that HE objectify women this way and that would be a deal breaker for me. Maybe that’s why I’m still single, because if that’s “how men are” I’d rather not honestly.
Agree! Granted I grew up taking art classes and being around artist, so I have an anatomical view of the human body. Also my dad was a nudist back in the 80s, went to nudist camps, and it was never for the reason to look at other naked people (glad I wasn't around for that, I'd be embarrassed as a kid).
NEVER lower your standards in order to get a man, they're not worth it.
Story 3: No girl. Protect your feelings, not his.
Story 3: there's a power imbalance here and it's very similar to what my ex did to me. The wife knows that deep down if she denies him any of this, he might resent her for it. Putting the onus on her to call off the situationship is unfair to her; she knows how happy it makes him and she's going to feel the pressure to make him happy because she doesn't want to lose her relationship with him. He's an adult and knows what he's doing is outside of what they agreed upon. The onus should be on him to reel in his own behavior, not demand that his wife scold him like a rebellious child. Honestly, they need to break up ASAP.
Your uncle is wonderful! He has the most thoughtful takes and opinions and I really enjoyed listening to all of what he had to say. I hope he is a recurring guest!
Uncle Jimmy, is my new favorite guest on the show!!
I'm living for unhinged "fool me twice" Morgan 💕💕💕 she's like that dessert rain frog that squeaks but it's actually a fierce "battle cry"
For the bio dad story.. be careful what you wish for! I spent 30 years wondering where my dad was and wanting to know him.. turns out he’s a narcissistic garbage human. My dad that raised me isn’t perfect, of course, but he was there and loves me. It took me 30 years to figure out the dad I wanted, I already had! However, I can understand the unknowing eating away at someone. I will say although everything I went through wasn’t pleasant, I did get closure out of it.. and I found out I have four.. possibly five siblings from him.
Regarding the situationship: Something else that I noticed is that this couple is falling again for this sort of ideology of "men need to have this sort of stage in their lives to flirt and have hookups every weekend before getting attached to one single person the rest of their life" and first of all, despite him "checking in with her every step of the way" I don't see him extending the same deal out to her, she technically can say that she missed that stage of her life as well so, let's see how she feels in a similar situation. Second, I just think that if you meet the person that you really want to spend the rest of your life with, there's nothing out there that you are missing out on, you already have it at home. If your "needs" are not fulfilled or you NEED to flirt and hook up with other people to scratch that ick or whatever, then I'm sorry, but the relationship is not stable or worth it, why would you want to be with someone like that? and it takes me back to my point, why does he need that but she doesn't?.....
That’s still emotional cheating. And that’ll lead to so much more. And you gave him the green light. It’s one thing to open the relationship sexually- or even emotionally-it’s another to essentially be unwillingly pushed from your relationship. I’ve been with my fiancé since our sophomore year of high school, he has never once said that he wants a « one night stand » or was « missing out » ever. Nearly 10 years, starting very young and growing together. Which if that’s your relationship that’s that- but boundaries in any relationship are the most important thing. If someone doesn’t respect your or your relationships boundaries they don’t respect you. She needs to tell him how she’s feeling- this sounds like bad building resentment or a recipe for disaster.
Am I the only one who thinks Uncle Jimmy looks like he could be Jerry's actual brother? They look so much a like and those mannerisms 🤯
For story #5. Many people in the model industry maybe professional, but there could be a rotten bunch who go into industries specifically to harm/abuse others. A huge portion of child predators are teachers because it gives them access to their target victim.
I don’t condone controlling relationships. I support partners who care about my emotional and physical safety.
@@lizb.7774 But that wasn't his problem. She said it wasn't a safety issue. If it was I'd be more understanding, but it seems more about control and his insecurities than modeling being a potential safety hazard.
Story #3: I also never had a go to the bar and hook-up moment in my life, mostly due to social anxiety, and my husband and I plan to do some role play on our next vacation to flirt with each other at the bar, and pretend we don't know each other. Then I get that experience, and he has to try wooing me all over again (lol)
Uncle Jimmy and his bestie sound sooo similar! Great episode for my lunch walk at work😍
Story 1: you fix it by not covering for him anymore. Give him a warning.
“If you won’t stop this disgusting behavior, I’m going to tell everyone who asks what that smell is that you won’t stop pissing in the back yard because you’re a penny pinching skinflint who wants to save water.”
I bet he stops real quick once everyone knows how gross he’s being.
Everytime I watch an episode of THT I just admire Morgan so much for always being so open minded and secure in herself as a person and opinions 😊
I started dating my bf when he was 31 and I was 23. Now we’re 39 and 31.
We’ve both changed *considerably* over the last 8 years, but in the best way.
The age gap isn’t the problem. It’s the individuals in the relationship and whether or not it works out between them.
Yup my husband is a bit younger and we don’t notice the gap…we are on the same page
I just want to know what cat traumatized Justin this much 😂😂
With story 3, (disclaimer: I don’t have any experience with polyamory or open relationships) I thought one of the whole things was being in love with someone and still wanting either to keep dating or just carnal relations or something, but still liking and wanting to date your primary partner. If being with you and only you was making him miserable, why even continue at all? /gen Him getting a crush on the “Rachel” is catching feelings, a direct assault to your guidelines that you set up originally. He wanted more “experiences” you said fine, but no feelings. He didn’t find sex (to your knowledge), but instead has created an emotional connection to “Rachel”. No sex available since she’s so far away, just feelings. Emotional/intellectual connection. Did you only agree to an “open” relationship to keep him? Is it open only on one-side (which does not really work out a lot of the time)? Why are you okay with staying with someone who is miserable if they are with you?
Sunk-cost fallacy is never a good enough reason to stay with someone.
Hey! Your take is spot on! He's totally violating the boundary she put up, and she's allowing it in hopes to keep him. I'm open and married. My husband and I have our boundaries and we do lots of check ins so we're on the same page. Poly can be emotional, romantic or just sexual, or even all of the above. It's not just making up for an area you might be missing in a relationship. If someone thinks somethings missing or they "lost out" that is not a great reason to open a relationship. I'm more of a fling person due to not being easily connected with people and my husband loves making connections and seeing where that goes. We love each other so much but we also like being open. It's all about communication, as Justin would say. I hope this helps some!
For the 2nd story, I'll keep this simple: she's embarrassed of her. She's the oldest childhood friend there and this girl didn't want anyone to know they were friends, not even the coordinator. She did that and made sure their names were nowhere. She treated her like the "help". It's disgusting, but my sister is exactly like that. I became disabled (and my mom is disabled) and my sister acted so embarrassed of us. She picked any excuse to uninvite us from the wedding and even when we were still invited, she gave us a list of who we could and couldn't talk to (especially our mom). She eventually said that my little bro and I were inconsiderate because we our momma was having emergency surgery on a tumor and we told her, as our mom's caregivers, that we couldn't give her a definite answer about our attendance. She knew about this surgery because it was supposed to be the week after the wedding and was scheduled a bit in advance. The Dr called us and said that it was too dangerous and he didn't feel it was safe to leave it, so it was moved to the week of the wedding (a couple days before the wedding). I know it's shocking to believe people can do stuff like that, but selfish people are obsessed with self-image
Number Five:
RUN RUN RUN. If you think he’s controlling and insecure now, it’s only going to get worse. This literally sounds borderline abusive. You won’t be happy in this relationship if you’re with someone who is holding back your dreams.
He is the human embodiment of red flags. Next he will say what she can’t and can wear with everyday outfits, and it will only get worse from there.
THIS. His comments now are only the beginning. They’re not even MARRIED! Imagine how much worse this will get if they get married and he feels completely possessive of her. There’s a high chance this is just going to spiral and get worse and worse over time. He’s showing her a peek of the future and now is the chance to get out.
He also sounds like the guy that would cheat on his pregnant partner because her body changed.
Story two makes me so sad, knowing how much work goes into creating whether it’s a video or her dessert table people are so unappreciative it makes me sad
It’s incredibile how dad and uncle speak exactly the same. I was listening without watching the screen and I didn’t even recognise him! 😂 love them!!!!
Justin can’t compute the bride story (the first story in the podcast) because it’s both selfish, and illogical. Two opposites to what he is.
Not only is the woman seemingly malicious/selfish for no reason, she’s also dumb. I totally think Morgan hit the nail on the head. The bride doesn’t want the OP there at all. She’s hoping she leaves.
It doesn’t make sense to Justin because it actually DOESN’T make sense.
I was heated at the wedding! Almost all our vendors were friends of the family, all were paid and had a seat to eat! So rude of this shitty bride! Also my husband and I are open in our marriage. It involves at lot of communication and trust. This girl needs to talk to her fiance. Especially if it was because he wanted "to experience life".
Story #3 I can relate to. I was with someone where we were high school sweethearts and I was his first everything. However, he wanted more than just me like this guy and so I was so low I did the exact same thing she did for him. I at the time was just so scared of loosing this person I thought I loved and I thought he loved me that I didn't realize at the time how much we just were not meant to be together. Leave him, he doesn't love you and he needs to live his life the way he really deep down wants to. You both deserve happiness and from experience you will not find it by allowing him to disrespect you just because you're afraid of losing him. We were together for almost 6 years and honestly, I now regret all of it because I wasted so many years where we both could have been happier without each other. There's better people out there who won't do this to you and so don't waist your time with someone who will.
The "situationship" one pulled on my heart strings. When I was in my early 20's I had my bf tell me that he thought he had feelings for another, a supposed best friend of ours. It was heartbreaking but I was young, naïve and didn't know better so thought we could work through it. It lead to a lot of drama and pain. I know better know and with 20/20 hindsight I would have taken different actions. I wish all the best for the OP and agree, she should put her foot down and reinforce boundaries.
Yea, having a social media “throw away” account, fake name, no pics of me, no relationship status, single on the profile, but in a relationship over 3 years, I found out about while he was “sleeping talking”… double life vibes 😂 he was so adamant about me not having any type of social media, now I know why 😂
No way!!! That’s crazy I’ve never heard of someone finding out about their partners cheating that way. What did he say? Did you wake him up right away? How did you confront him? And did he lie? I’m so sorry this happened to you, and I’m also very interested and I hope that’s not offensive to you.
Thanks for the episode! I'm in the middle of finding out if my dad has terminal cancer. Should get the call today. So thanks for the small distraction while I wait! :]
Sending positive energy your way ❤
Sending positive vibes ❤
Sending so much love and prayers to your family ❤❤❤
@@CauldronBoilMe thank you so much! I still haven't heard anything. Still hoping 🤞🏼
@@frochaa thank you! I hope you have a good day! :]
Dude the whole peeing in a dry, hot dessert really put me off. There's this music festival, where I am from, that is notoriously known for poor toilet facilities so people just pee around the festival grounds. It's in the summer and if the festival is during a hot streak where we get no rain, usually you will be able to see from outside the festival grounds a dust cloud we call "the urine cloud" above the festival grounds and that shit smells so bad of ammonia and hangs onto your clothes. I would honestly tell the guy to either piss in a toilet or piss of.. No way I would accept this "to save water" or flush every other time you pee!? 😭😭
I work in a hospital lab and own cats… human pee is worse. I’m currently sitting with 15 cups of human urine in front of me as I’m listening, and it’s bad
The one with the friend being moved from the other room in the wedding is absolutely unacceptable. I just got married a couple months ago, I can not EVER imagine treating anyone who helped in my wedding this way!! Let alone a friend!! I had the seating organized flawlessly for my ceremony and reception. That was MY responsibility. I even had an extra table, cloth, and decorations on standby in case any circumstance at all arose where I needed extra seating. I didn’t, but you never knew!! How dare she take advantage of someone this way! Makes me sooo angry.
Story 6 gave me vibes he might still have something going on with the kid’s mother or maybe even another woman and just be using the kids as an excuse
Yes, things can always happen when you have kids, but it takes 20 seconds to text someone
Idk something is fishy
ETA: i wrote this before morgan read the comments lol
For the wedding one, he should just sent a clip of the speech where she said all of her friends other than OP!!!!!
Hearing about your loans is so painful. Lady pay those things, they aren’t accumulating interest!!!! It’ll only help you.
1st story - until you’ve smelt a 24hour human urine collection, you wont understand car piss is a walk in the park
For the wife of the peeing husband. Just use simple cause and effect. He pees outside and without rain, it stinks. Use your hose to thoroughly clean your backyard, maybe some soap, get it cleaned up and use as much water as you need. Do this consistently enough he’ll probably get annoyed with how much water is being used. Then bring it up to him that cleaning his piss out of the grass takes a lot of water, where as a toilet is engineered to use a small amount efficiently and that’s why as civilized people we use them. He’s not solving a problem. He’s creating one.
Story #5: a hot take maybe, idk, but I do not think it’d be “extremely unprofessional” for her to bring her bf to a shoot with her (I mean, I don’t think she should, but that’s a different point). Some shoots are friendly to ppl visiting, some are not, totally depends on the set. So if the photographer/producers are open to someone visiting and she’s asks beforehand, I think she’d be totally fine 🤷🏻♀️ I only bring this up b/c it felt like Morgan was really harping on how unprofessional bringing a bf along would be, when I’ve worked plenty of sets where talent brought along a friend and no one cared 😂
Story 2. Wedding photographer here. That’s how we are treated 99% of the time. Most don’t even give us food (usual a caterer issue). We are there longer than any vendor. It’s very frustrating. Bride in this story didn’t want to pay for their meals.
In my opinion everyone is entitled to do whatever they want with their body but also kinda your partner is allowed to be uncomfortable with you posing barely covered for many people to see. But maybe it’s just me because I’m only comfortable in revealing my body to my partner. Maybe I’m just too conservative/traditional…. But as crappy as it sounds she could find someone who supports her passion and he needs to find someone who is okay with not wearing revealing clothes
It just gives me a bad feel... I don't think he (specifically) will stop. To the point of not wanting her to go anywhere in any clothes without him
But you're right
Naked bodies are sexual. You can’t get around it. Doesn’t mean you can’t be sexual, but don’t be deluded
Edit to add: there are tons of stories about perverted and predatory “photographers “ and I know one personally and it was just a sub for pornography and a way to get his jollies and have the photos afterwards to keep enjoying. I don’t think she should not do it, but again, don’t be gaslighting and delusional
Naked bodies per se are not sexual. I'm from Finland and we are naked a lot (as kids, in saunas, on the beach).
The sexual tension comes from the viewer. The viewed can try and increase the probability of others having sexual thoughts: wear fishnets, high heels, flirt a lot, strong makeup...
Some people see almost all young/youngish women sexually, no matter what they are wearing, because they have a very strong hormonal response. This is not their fault, but it is their responsibility to learn to deal with having strong hormones.
Best case would be that anyone could wear anything they wanted, but the reality is, it's asking for trouble to wear clothes that might provoke a lot of people, as some people are not good with dealing with sexual thoughts.
I think the bride didn't want the guests to know she might have gotten services for free
"Why would you pay when they're frozen?" To lower the amount of interest you pay overall.
If you didn’t tell me Jerry wasn’t in this episode I honestly wouldn’t be able to tell ! 👯♀️
I've done some modelling and here's my experience:
When you're on set, there's like 20 other people there, when you take into account photographer and team, makeup artist and team, stylist and team, hairstylist and team, other models, personal assistants, etc etc.
THERE ARE SO MANY PEOPLE THERE, even on small shoots, there's at least photographer, makeup artist, stylist, hair stylist, and creative director (or brand rep)
As a model, you're very much in a work environment where you really don't care about stripping down to change if you need to.
Personally I havent shot nude, but have been on set when other models have and everyone is extremely respectful (model gets a cover-up until literally stepping on set, and even then is usually posed in a modest way that covers private parts)
This dude needs to CHILLLLL
Edit: ALSO while you're shooting, there's so much going on (other models getting makeup done, hair done, getting styled, etc etc) that really only a few people are actually watching you shoot (a makeup artist might pop over to adjust eyebrows, or hair person might run over to brush a strand of hair into place), but really it's an extremely chill 5-10 minutes depending on what you're doing and no one is getting horny
Why do jimmy and dad sound alike though? 😂
Story 3, makes me so sad 😢 I hate it when females let their partners play up just because they don’t want to loose them
Story 1: after he is finished, go in with the garden hose and wash it away. That's going to use a lot more water and maybe he will get the hint.
the wife in the pee story should start telling people it's his and see if he still wants to keep doing it
That controlling boyfriend one reminds me of my very first boyfriend I was 16. He was also 16. He was so jealous and emotionally manipulative and narcissistic. I was with him for 1.5 years then he dated my so-called “best friend”. Lol
UNCLE JIMMY'S "bye guys ! 😁" IN THE BEGINNING IS SO CUTE MY HEART 🥹🥹🥹
2nd Story: The bride definitely knew what she was doing, being that she was using them for their services. Never in the x amount of weddings I've been to or associated with has the bride not been involved in the seating chart. Dare I say that's one of the most important planning tasks because certain placements hold significance. The fact that she tried throwing the wedding coordinator under the bus who probably was also overworked and underpaid is baffling to me.
I find it funny how people confuse Lorren and Alejandra (i really really hope i spelt your names right if not i apologize) but for me, uncle jimmy and your dads voices sound similar, maybe how they speak as compared to sound but i find they sound the same hahaha
I dig this alternate-universe Jerry
Awww justin wanting to cheers with Morgan😭♥️♥️ so frikin cute😭✋
If I were listening to the podcast version of this I would have thought uncle jimmy is dad aka jerry lol they sound exactly the same! Love it
I still think the main problem with that one background check story was the guy doing it on people the person hadn't been in contact with for years AND keeping them for long periods of time.