He didn't say it was easy he said to stop I'm going through it too it's been 3 months and we have kids I didn't even start no contact cause I can't and all I did was beg and plead send love letters I even had a picnic that I cooked and planned for and while I was there she was txtng someone who made her smile in a way I recognized from when we first started dating
Guys dont waste ur energy for god sake ,go and do ur work ,beleive me u will find someone better in near future ,when u will get engage in urself the right person will eventually come in ur way u dont need to push anything we cant force any person to stay with you ,go and work time is limited u have many others works to do
I understand what you're saying, but each person has his/her own reasons for why they either choose to get back together with an ex or let go totally. You can't speak for them because it's their life, not yours to decide. Granted, not all relationships are meant to be salvaged, especially abusive ones and/or one that involves numerous instances of infidelity, but some are worth saving. This all depends on what kind of relationship you have and if you decide to move on or fight for it. There is no wrong answer on whatever your decision is. :-) Anyway thanks for your input!
It worked! Everything you said worked! Thank you! He called me and asked me to go somewhere with him, I told him I was planning to travel next month so I'll be able to go then. I don't know whether I should have said that or not.
@@jasmineb2383 I stopped talking to him for 30 days, started ignoring his story and casual messages and memes that he used to send. I removed him from my instagram, because I initially begged for him to follow me back. I started acting indifferent and he started causing a scene so I just said "look there are no hard feelings, in fact no feelings at all so chillax". If he gets really angry then I would say, I was just busy and then reply with short message and end the conversation. He then deleted my number or may be blocked me on whatsapp, I don't know because I didn't text back. Earlier I would've created drama for this but this time I didn't do anything. Brad Browning told me that it was just his way of coping up. Around one week later he sent me follow request on instagram. I accepted and then followed him back. He texted "hi" but I ignored him. He deleted that text then. Then after completion of 30 days I sent him a link for his opportunity in filmmaking that I came across. He said that I did care about him then why was I ignoring him. I didn't reply and ignored him again. He got angry and said "you wanna help, then do charity" then, so again I just said that "I'm outside and I'm busy and already dealing with a problem". Since Brad Browning told to wait for few hours and then reply so later after few hours I replied "I wasn't trying to do charity, I was just passing on the opportunity for filmmaking to the one who deserves it". He said "okay thanks". I started uploading in my stories that my life is happening and I am happy. I bought a new dress and got got a new haircut and uploaded lot of pictures with it with awesome captions. Some of the guys I flirted with commented on my photo, I flirted back in the comments not being too obvious of course. Then after a week I sent him an interesting video. He then immediately knew that I was ready to talk, he sent me on whatsapp a link of a movie we both love and I replied "woah". He sent another link, I didn't say anything and then I deleted the app. He called me that night and asked me out.
@@jasmineb2383 one of the caption on my post in instagram was "the best thing about life is that everything I've ever lost has been replaced with something better. I never lack, I transition 💃" and the other caption was "oh the epiphany and the slew of happiness with it 😋😬". Well he loves to use new English words so I threw some new words, playing around with hard words and make a poetic sentence. Haha
thank you for sharing your story. I really want my ex back and I’m trying to have him build that attraction for me again. although our stories are completely different you gave me some ideas that might work!
@@jasmineb2383 strong turning point is to have fun with new dresses and a new haircut, awesome photos and upbeat captions. Flirt a bit with other guys in your comment section. Watch movies, tell everyone how much you enjoyed the movie. Go places and tell how beautiful it was. Just make your life happening. I lost hope too. So don't lose hope.
When my ex dumped me, I sent her a text message saying that I’m sorry about what I did and that I expected nothing but friendship and she accepted my apology. This was back in late December and early January. Then, I did the 75+ day “no contact” technique and then I started reaching out again. Now, we’re starting to get things going again.
You guys figure everything out? I'm just starting no contact but the whole first month after the relationship she wanted to see me everyday and just last week she said she needed space so i agreed
This text worked like magic, I went from seeing no future with my ex and being in a heated argument to hugging her the next day just from just sending this text, thankyou
@@BradBrowning Brad I fucked up again, do you have any advice on what to do when ur girlfreind seems to have completely lost interest in you, please reply if you do, thanks
@@Bzzle oh he's back.. he was my fiance & left me cause his father asked him to.. now they both want me as their wife & daughter in law.. but I'm done so I said no...
This guy seems pretty legit, but remember all relationships are different and there are no absolutes. Also it really depends on why the relationship ended, ie. if she/he brokeup with you for being too distant, then the 30 no-contact rule is probably a bad idea.
@@tomislav_malbasic If she's not responding then probably stop messaging her, you'll only make it worse. If she knows you care about her all you can do is wait for her to reach out to you.
So..i broke up with my gf yesterday..and she said she wants nothing to do with me anymore..and told me to move on..i really love her because..never in my life i've ever love someone like this..i need help to get her back..
It's time to find a more positive outlet for your emotions. It's totally okay to cry your eyes out (just NOT in front of your ex), this is healthy, but try to balance it with other stuff. So keep your mind occupied, get busy with a lot of stuff like hobbies, work, etc. focus on what makes you feel good and take time to heal as well. Also read my Ex Factor Guide, which covers commonly possible ‘what if’ scenario and will give you pretty much everything you need to know, so read it many times over until you master it. The aim of the guide is basically to put you in the best position to get your ex back...and to avoid the pitfalls to increase your chances altogether. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
Brad, We broke up 10 days ago, she has came to get all her stuff from my house and moved out. I have sent her this final text, she did responded but I now plan on not talking to her for 30 days. Have I done the right thing by sending this text; , sorry If I acted the way I did since Sunday, That wasn’t me and my head was all over the place with emotions and going through a lot outside of the relationship. Thank you ever so much for the last 5 years of knowing you. The last 2.5 years of us, You have been my star, my rock and soulmate. I have so so many amazing memories forever that I will hold close to my heart ♥️ & the times you’ve been there for me. I hope you have felt the same. I Wish you well and every success in the future whatever you decide, maybe one day we will bump into each other. X
This was her response (and I’m not replying back) I hope you are okay, I hope xxx is as well. It’s been an adventure, I wish you all the best, I hope everything works out the way you want it to with work etc. That’s me got all my stuff, thank you for moving a lot of it through to the living room. I’ve posted the key through the letterbox.
I sent: Sorry for my erratic behavior. I've honestly been going through a lot outside the breakup and it was taking a toll on me. Maybe I'll run into you again soon AND SHE REPLIED "Yeh I guess so Sorry if I broke your heart in some kinda way❤️".. what should I say?
I sent a text like that shes been seeing someone else after 3 months. She broke up with me because she was going through a lot and broke up with me through she was texting me a lot and also asking me for favors but I asked her if she was seeing somebody else and she said yes and i spilled my heart to her "yeah i know stupid" she said if I don’t want to be friends anymore then she’ll leave me alone. But today i sent a text like you said and she sent "its all good I understand" I didnt say anything back. I just let it go for now.
Take it one step further, don’t revisit it at all. If you’re not together now and she’s seeing someone, the only reason she’d go back to you is if it doesn’t work out with them. At this point you’re better cutting your loses and meeting someone else than accepting being a backup
I've been in no contact with my ex after pledding and begging almost a year ago. Bafflingly, I just recently discovered that she has been an emotional wreck because we haven't communicated in so long but at the same time, I also discovered that towards the end of our relationship, she lined up some guy behind my back and got pregnant by him. No contact put her in a position to miss me aggressively but she won't contact me because she afraid that if I find out about her kid, she think that I will never speak to her again. Should I just move on? I've worked on myself since then and learned how important it is to value yourself, but like I said, I did discover that she has been emotionally irrational because of me not contacting her. No contact really is powerful
The decision is ultimately up to you since you know your relationship and your ex better than anyone else on here. Is your ex worth getting back together with? Check this out, though, particularly if your reasons for getting your ex back overpowers everything else: ruclips.net/video/ruPp_tCs-qg/видео.html and once you've decided to try and get your ex back, make sure you play your cards right starting with the 30-day "no contact" rule then tick off the checklist here after: ruclips.net/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/видео.html
Was in your shoes ounce tried it again with her but the love was tainted period. I was laying down in her bed one morning and never came back no cantact
She is a animal she didn’t miss u she just regret the fact she got pregnant and that guy don’t want her. Don’t be the step daddy maybe have sex with her dog her out but don’t fall for her because she was definitely dogging u out and most likely was having sex with that same guy with u
Never ever want ex back because once someone leave u that the surety he or she will not leave u again so once someone dicieded to move on or leave u then let them go u can't force them to stay thnx
The thing is, there are no guarantees in love, are there? Even if you've been together for a decade, there is never a guarantee that a breakup won't happen. That's what love is all about, it's filled with risks and it's a matter of knowing and deciding who's worth the risk!
I really wanna hug you brad i leave this message to my ex i hope it will work soon inshallah she cheated on me yet i want to bring her back because she was my smile Thank You
I’m on second week of no contact I’ve ben traveling everyday enjoying life this is the best thing ever if she doesn’t come back I’m ok with it if so I’m a better person
My ex and I have been off and on for almost 8 years...we broke up again about a month ago, we had even lived together this time... we ended on good terms and he tries to stay in contact. He told me multiple times he thinks after some time to work on ourselves maybe we can be together again. (His friends told me he has said the same thing to them as well). I guess my question is... 1. Am I stupid for believing there’s still a chance and that he meant it when he said later? 2. Do I answer when he calls or should I go completely radio silent for the NC period?
There may be some truth in what he's telling you, but no, don't answer his calls because you both really need this time apart to clear your heads. It may be time to put things into perspective because in 14 years spent as a relationship coach, I find that a breakup is often NOT just one person's fault, so look at the roles that you've BOTH played that led to the breakup and if the issues have a chance to get resolved, and how to go about it. In most cases, the problems that led to the breakup can be resolved, but in some cases, it can't. So take time to evaluate, okay? However, I have to warn you not to ask the reasons from your ex. This is what I've discussed here along with other stuff that might help you, so this is a must-watch: ruclips.net/video/zqAEi9PbEAA/видео.html Good luck!
Saying that I had more on my mind more than the break up might make things worse... I would be like.. "So you were removing all the frustration on me? "
What do I do now? I’m two weeks into no-contact, and I’ve been successful thus far. Today my ex’s best mate sent me a video of my ex captioned hey honey, then her mate asked curious questions such as how are you what you doing. I answered to her friend politely. What next?
Getting an ex back is a gradual process, so there's no one-action solution for this. Okay? The "no contact" phase is a good start, so do that first if you haven’t yet, for 30 days. If you have, then I'm glad you've completed it. There are two more phases to go with a few other steps in between (in the right order). What I'm trying to say here is it's a 3-phase process, and it's a bit complicated to explain it all on here, but I made an overview in the hopes of making people understand, so watch it here: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html or read my guide for the entire process. Good luck!
Hey Brad. I sent her the text and she reached out to me and said... "You know I always care about you and want you to have the very best. I will definitely keep in mind and pray for everything you're going through.... Thank you for everything. Ok?" Should I respond or just go ahead and implement the no contact.
You're welcome! Hey, you never know who else can benefit, so if it’s not too much to ask and if you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it!
I cheated to my girlfriend 2, 3 times, Now, she is so angry to me, she can't believe me. She don't recieve my call and text messege also not reply. On the 2nd to 7th may i was silent. Than, again i was calling to her, but she dont recieved my calling, than i text again on the 8th may. My text that: ''sorry, i had been saw to you lot of bad behaviour. Please forgive me. I will never do it behaviour. Wish you luck'' Is it text right or wrong please tell me Sir Brad Browning.
By cheating, you're automatically putting the ball in your ex's court and have lost privilege to take your power back in all this. It's up to your ex now and how soon they can forgive you and move on from the incident, not necessarily from the relationship although some people do that. With that in mind, these may help: ruclips.net/video/f0F8q2IIgtE/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/qnE192fUKxI/видео.html
I’ve done all the no no’s. Sent the angry text then the sorry text and then the begging text. Is it to late to start the no contact? After breaking up he still has called a couple times and sent vacation pictures, but says he will think about getting back together?
My ex and I go on no contact for two weeks then one of us reach out. Last weekend he invited me to dinner. When he didn’t reply to confirmed, I went nuts on texting. He said he takes back trying to get back together. Is there any hope? I feel I’m angry about the past.
Dont text him wait him to text you if he didnt confirm the date or to go out with you afzer asking him one time wait dor him to get back to you and confirm. If he doesnt confirm the date dont text him. If he doesnt confirm dont go out.
My situation is totally messed. I sent a gift back to her. Then she told me the she is engaged which is obviously not. And then after pleading she told me she loves me but doesn't want to continue. What to do?
It’s about to be 2 months still have feelings for her, we send each other memes for quick laughs every now and then. When she broke up our 2 month relationship saying she lost the spark, she wants to focus on herself and be single for awhile. Our mutual friend asked her if we’ll get back together in the future she said “yes, possibly” (we were co-workers btw). I need your opinions.
Big Boss my ex has said that we needed time to build our lives up and we have kept in great contact. She has even said we should meet during the summer and hang out a little. Just before Summer started we made love because we weren’t going to see each other for a while and she as the one that brought up the idea and she cried when we left. I think you’re in a good position but don’t let it get you too excited because every time I bring up the idea of getting back together she says that we need to see how summer goes and there is a possibility. So be careful with how much you think about the idea cause it’s killing me
Big Boss Dude listen to me right now you're not going to want to hear any of this but you're the one commenting reaching out for help. So I'm going to help you, what you do is you completely block her, I don't mean physically block her RUclips Facebook cell phone keep those opened, but you need to erase her from your memory. When you walk by her in your workplace don't even look at her don't even say anything if she says hello just act like you didn't hear her. You want this girl frothing-at-the-mouth for you you need to show her that she is nothing to you garbage Etc also getting another girl rubbing and kissing your face would not hurt either. Even if you do not like the other girl just get some really good looking girl and start flirting with her right in front of your ex. Bottom line is if you want this ex-girlfriend of yours this is what you have to do, your being a female right now and you need to stop if you want this girl. Women want men not females otherwise they'd be a lesbian. So grab your balls what's left of them start hitting on other women in front of your ex and ignore your ex. Do not block her from your phone or social media because the whole point of this is to wait for her to take the bait meaning to send you a text message to hang out or to send you a message on social media. My girl left me and I totally ignored her ass didn't even seem to care when she did 17 days later she came begging and crying for me back so this shit Works bro!! Here's the bad part since you have already been sending her memes as you say and continuing to talk to her acting like her girlfriend your chances might have been lost but you need to act now start this second it's your only shot dude.
TheSeattlegreen I I approach girls, but I always get rejected and it brings my confidence down. So, I’m just left beaten throughout the day, I’m hitting the gym lost a good 15 lbs practicing more on my guitar I should be confident, yet getting rejected ruins it.
Big Boss Do you think you are the only person who is being rejected on a daily basis? Because you're not. This is what I'm talking about you do not seem confident women love confidence and if you're walking around the world with your head down to the ground women pick up on that kind of attitude and are turned off. You seriously need to act more positive even if you don't feel it make yourself feel positive do things that you like to do! Aim high in life don't let anyone tell you what you can and cannot do. And I mean anyone! There are a lot of people out there who would love to kick you when you're down stay away from these people they are evil. You need to basically continue being yourself but do things that make you happy. When you meet a girl for the first time do not get nervous she should be the one being nervous to talk to you you understand where I'm going with this? You are worthy of a beautiful woman's time! You are worthy of having a beautiful woman in your bed! Start walking with your head high! Walk with swagger and confidence women love that! Dress nice smell good slick your hair back wear a suit and tie act like you look like a million bucks! Confidence is key!
I met my ex after 10 years. He called me asked me to forgive him and that he changed. He asked me if I had a man I told him no because I don’t. He told me he have a girlfriend, and a house and she lives with him. We had drinks. So my question is why he even meet up with to tell me he had a gf?
I need help. I messed up so bad with my ex and it even led to losing all my friends. I don’t know what to do can someone please help. He’s with someone else now but I still care so much but I begged to much when we immediately broke up.
Mr. Brad, I was in a relationship with a guy. 2 and half years ago, I was in a relationship with a guy. Last 8 months ago, he stopped talking to me. We were in no contact for long. 3 days before, I contacted him because I i couldn't bear the pain. I sent him my current pictures, he was happy with my change and smiling face now. And then later on, I conveyed how I missed him by sending a crying video of mine woth lengthy message. He didn't reply ☹️ Kindly, Please guide me what should I be doing now? I'm perplexed 😔😔
I suggest you do what you haven't been doing for so long, which is to focus on yourself and learn to detach from this ex, especially if you already spent months talking to him. Take my free quiz to know about your chances at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
So I begged and apologized to my ex for about a month straight off and on after the break up. I ended up finding myself apologizing for things i never did wrong in the first place. I just started no contact and applied the clean slate message and i was wondering if she could still come crawling back. We had a great relationship up until the end if that helps.
You ought to back off and give her some space. It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
He replied and said if he could see me in person and talk about it but his mom is sick. I was begging for a month and he is already seeing other people. I want him back but he also replied saying "Im sorry for being an asshole but I just dont want to hurt you anymore" should i reply??
I think we achieved emotional neutral today. The phone call ended with her saying "I love you to me." And her reminscing some good times we had together... Ofcourse I responded the same way with an I love you, but I kept myself more reserved during this facetime call, the call lasted 2 hours. However, a day earlier we did have an argument and she said we had no chance together. So I know getting her back is definitely not going to be a walk in the park... So since right now we ended the conversation on a very exellent note, I really just want to fade away as much as possible and work on myself.
Don't be too responsive with her. Limit your availability and if she truly cares, she will reach out. Fading away is easy, it's all about mindset. Go do stuff with friends, family, etc. And again, you don't have to completely ignore. Just keep busy enough so that she doesn't become your priority when you're clearly just an option to her.
This text might of ruined everything, now after all this I’ve learned that once someone says “ I don’t wanna be with you” u gotta just stop all communications no more texts no more nothing and just leave it at that. If someone don’t see ur worth let them go.
Well, it depends. Breakups aren't always a result of someone not seeing someone else's worth. Oftentimes, there are issues in the relationship that may seem insurmountable to overcome or one or both parties get tired of trying. For the most part though, breakups are caused by a loss of attraction because of the relationship dynamic or someone doing something that turned the other person off. Whether an ex or a relationship is worth a second try is completely up to you!
I have been with this man for 31 years. We have 4 kids. All grown adults, 5 weeks ago he up and left me overnight for single mother with 4 kids. I tell him to not come around me but every weekend he comes home and tries seducing me. It's a control thing. I don't know what to do anymore. It hurts like he drove a strake knife thru my heart. Bastard
Hey Brad, I got your book, I´m one week into No Contact, the thing is I live in the same apartment with my ex. I already told him I don´t want to be friends and I only talk to him when necessary and keep interactions short and polite. Thing is as of yesterday he started talking to me more and inviting me out to dinner with his friends today. I don´t think it´s time to break No Contact yet, it seems like he´s treating/ seeing me as a friend??? Even though I told him we weren´t. Or maybe he´s feeling the loss of contact??? I´m confused.
Today, after 10 days of No Contact (Limited Contact for me) my ex contacted me and asked if we could still at least be friends because he doesn´t want me out of his life. Of course the answer was no.
I couldn't tell for sure. Just follow the guide and make sure to play it cool, okay? If it's too soon to be hanging out with your ex, then don't. It's important you get busy with your own life though. Best of luck!
Does the no contact rule really work? I’m trying to get my ex back after he broke up with me yesterday. Is there anything I can do that will guarantee that? The reason he broke up was because “he didn’t feel the same way as when we first started” and he likes being a “free bird.” (Meaning not having the responsibility of a relationship and not feeling guilty when other girls flirt with him, which he likes). I just want him to feel the excitement and attraction he once did for me and I need help doing that..
Don't do this,nevef date an ex again,they are toxic for your life,believe me sweety i also made this mistake and he is in another relationship, so only one advice move on.
I'd still suggest to give the "no contact" rule a shot because that's still really your best bet and yes, it will work in a sense where you BOTH will get to clear your mind to be in a better position to deal with each other when the time comes - instead of letting emotions overrule everything, risking things to get blown out of proportion even further. Makes sense? But will no contact ALONE work to get your ex back? Sometimes it does, but other times (especially if your situation is unique) it won't, because the no contact phase is only part one of the three-step process I teach in my Ex Factor Guide. Learn the basics here: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html I also made a quick vid to those who are seemingly lost and could use a reminder on what to do: ruclips.net/video/obBIttQSak4/видео.html
I sent her a, “goodbye I will cherish the memories” message a week ago after a week of trying to ask her to explain in more detail why she decided to end what she also perceived to be an incredible relationship and trying to get her to think rationally. I regret saying “goodbye” (wasn’t literally those words) as I wanted to push more. But it was clear she didn’t want to speak and made assumptions; could I still send a message like the one in this video after a week of not talking? I had actually thought of just apologising for pushing a bit… I did say in the message that it was a shame I couldn’t change her mind. Not sure if I should leave it as I have or send an apology message, or even ask her to reconsider? 😜 She did seem to appreciate the goodbye message…
Give it AT LEAST a month without talking and stop forcing things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html
I said the second one and told her I was going through a lot besides the breakup and she took that to believe I was apologizing again for my mistakes that caused the breakup. And now she's asking what I was going through that caused me to act in that way (the way that caused her to break up with me). Should I clarify I was just talking about my begging and whatnot after the breakup or just ignore her all together and implement no contact?
Overapologizing is very annoying. You sounded like a broken record to her and that's what she's likely pissed about. At this point, it may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Should you do this after your ex blocked you? (ive been blocked for a a day) I want to possibly contact her on a different account in a couple of days and give an apology for begging, then I want to explain to her that i've also started to move on and I wish her the best, then after I could explain that I'm not expecting a reply I just wanted to get the apology out, let me know if that sounds good to you. Also just to re-clarify, i'll send this in 2 - 4 days, not now.
Don't do that. If you get blocked, this signifies your ex does NOT want to hear from you in any way, shape or form. Creating another account will only mess things up further. Again, you really need to stop all contact for at least 30 days and not push it. Being needy or too forceful for your ex to talk to you will only alienate them further. Here's what may going through your ex's mind and they seem they want nothing to do with you: ruclips.net/video/sd2Lx8uEni8/видео.html
Brad, 6 months after the breakup she found a new bf, there I initiated no contact. Has been 7 months of NC so far. The last message I sent she never replied. I completely changed my life, and I live in a completely different continent! Yet I still love genuinely here..
Sorry to hear that. Not to state the obvious, but the distance is often the main culprit. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ruclips.net/video/GQY4N04uvtA/видео.html and/or ruclips.net/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/видео.html
When did the breakup happened and have you two cut off contact yet for at least 30 days? If you haven't, then I suggest to assess the risks first if it's all worth it. Remember, meeting up when you're both not ready will only alienate your ex further, and that's best case scenario. Worst case scenario will land you a spot in the dreaded friendzone. Watch this first: ruclips.net/video/Jzb18j7ZMPE/видео.html but if you're both ready, watch this video on how to tell as well as how tips for you on tipping the odds to your favor: ruclips.net/video/eJPGrkuQnm0/видео.html Best of luck!
@@BradBrowning no we kept in conversation and I found out last night she went to meet up with her ex to also talk. Might just not reply and go silent now
Sir, my ex's friend(a friend of my ex) was chatting with me. She was asking me some questions, such as. "Why did you guys break up." "What did you guys do when you're in a relationship, did you kiss or touch." I answered them, but I made sure I wasn't desperate. Did I do anything wrong ???? I am in the 2weeks of my NO CONTACT period.......She's so calm like as if nothing happened, her Instagram story posts were like normal, like as if she never had a b.f. So sir, what shall I do now, I feel like I'm doing a big mistake of doing the no contact period. Respond quick pls.....another request is that can you make videos of how to not be desperate and also on how to chat with your ex's friends without being desperate and what you can do to reverse everything. PLS SIR......Thank you.
Your ex's loyalty lies to your ex, so it would've been best to keep mum. You're not obligated to answer them. Tell whoever asks that you've been busy... and it really helps if you are. So take steps to rebuild your life first. Hang out with friends, family, get a new hobby, join a club, etc. to keep your mind off of things and to process the breakup accordingly and heal. It's all about balance! Take care!
My ex broke up with me about 5 days ago because she stated that “the spark was gone and she lost feelings” since the break up she only contacted me on the first two days but on the second day I saw that she was going to see a movie with another guy and I blew her phone up asking if she had feelings for him at first she said no but I have been asked to days later and she said that she did not know I have done some begging and pleading and I have called her phone multiple times without her answering we have exchanged a few messages with me messaging first in the past three days. When she was breaking up with me I asked if she could leave our relationship status on Facebook for a day or two as soon as I sent her this clean slate text she did not reply and she removed our status from Facebook is this a good or a bad sign .
Stop bombarding her with texts and calls, it will keep her away from you. That's what happened to me, after my loooonng messages to her. I stop chatting her in facebook and then she just sent me a photo of my drawing to her and she said "I saw it." and I just reacted and didn't replied. She was the one who left, and I stopped begging to her, and now she's bugging me. Step Back. Dude meditate it will help to hold up your emotions. She broke up with me 3 days ago.
Your ex is most likely lying about the reason of the breakup so try not to fall for that. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/ZuHWCWeG1xs/видео.html However, the bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and the golden rules here: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
I understand what you're saying, but each person has his/her own reasons for why they either choose to get back together with an ex or let go totally. You can't speak for them because it's their life, not yours to decide. Granted, not all relationships are meant to be salvaged, especially abusive ones and/or one that involves numerous instances of infidelity, but some are worth saving. This all depends on what kind of relationship you have and if you decide to move on or fight for it. There is no wrong answer on whatever your decision is. :-) Anyway thanks for your input!
Heyy, sorry I was acting that way a few days ago. That wasn't me. I was honestly just stressed about other things in my life too, and it won't happen again. Wish you well.
I sent the clean slate message and they responded with “It’s okay, I’m glad that you’re doing better. I hope that you find what you’re looking for.” I started no contact I didnt respond but what does that even mean. Do i dwell on that text. What does that message state of where im at
Of course not because you're already overanalyzing. Watch this first: ruclips.net/video/sJg4udwCS90/видео.html Just continue on to the no contact rule until you've reached at least the 30-day mark.
I did all possible mistakes, sent all messages which i shouldn't, was begging him to stay, cried and manipulated. Sad didn't find this chanel before. Now sent this message and started NC period 🤦🏼♀️😂 I doubt it will work, but let's see.
Give it a go anyway. It's your best bet. Employ the 30-day "no contact" rule first. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ruclips.net/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/видео.html Though make sure you follow the tips here as well: ruclips.net/video/xgR03RcU8mw/видео.html AND some recent tips here: y2u.be/FLeP1eRCkCk Lots of folks seem to be oblivious about it, so here goes: the 30-day "no contact" rule, once COMPLETED, is just the first phase for most people (unless your ex sincerely wanted you back and it's shown in their actions). This would also help guide you on what to do after the "no contact" rule: ruclips.net/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/видео.html Anyway there are two more phases to go through if you want an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw
I NEED HELP BRAD. We were together for 2 years, but we have been having a shaky relationship these past few months. about 1 week ago she broke up with me. She said she had been talking to this guy on social media for a while as friends and realized they liked eachother. Shes soo tired of how I treated her and this guy has been there for her whenever I made her sad. She dated him imetiatly after breaking up with me and has been saying she has been doing great. But is sad to see me in pain and doesnt wanna hurt me because she still cares about me. She says she doesnt wanna get back together. What advice can you give me? I'm almost certain that she has no intentions of ever coming back BECAUSE she found a new guy and things are going well with him. Is she gone for good? What can I do to get her back. And KEEP her?
What did you do? Make sure you aren't being defensive or deflecting the blame because that's as annoying as ever. It may help to apply the tips here first: ruclips.net/video/qnE192fUKxI/видео.html Be patient and let things play out first. Let time do its job since it's your biggest ally at this point. Good luck!
Wow, sounds really similar to my situation, except we were 4.5 years and long distance. I dont know how long she's been talking to this other guy though, I didn't lie, cheat, or steal, but got wrapped up in my own issues I became a little distant.
Best advice is just hope the other guy f's up lol, nah, just plan on moving on without her, if she comes back great! If not, at least you'll have gotten most of the poison out of your system. When she contacts you MAKE IT COUNT.
My ex broke up with me 5 months ago and he's still not allowing me to leave in peace he says that he is seeking revenge from me I don't know what to do please help me to get out of it..
I'm going through this at the moment he is seeing someone but is still trying to control me.i block him and he came to my job saying if I dont unblock he will stab up my tires.i unblock him he text me good morning everyday,I say good morning too and thsts it.i dont call him I loved him but I'm getting over him little by little. He doesn't call me only text. And I dont care because if he calls I wont answer.i just want him to leave me alone.its going on 3 months now.
Because once I angrily posted his pictures in Facebook and have written many things about him that he betrayed me nd he's looking for another girls in my presence
I sent the second text and I got back within 5 minutes "Thank you for the apology" so I guess it was not really perceived as needed but let's see what happens after 30 days of NC starting today
hey brad i’m in a sticky situation me and my ex broke up 4 weeks ago i begged 2 and a half weeks ago then the very next day saw her for our dogs birthday then 2 days after that i had to change her oil after that day i started no contact but then 4 days later went to help her move things from her storage cause her mom asked me to and her coworker that’s she’s going out with now was there and she got mad at me after 5 mins of getting back from going to get a dolly for moving the things instead of making the dog hush up from barking cause he missed me i didn’t send a clean slate text and it’s been almost 2 weeks of no contact and i would say a week ago she’s going out with her coworker that is also a girl i went to a friends birthday with a girl posted on social media of me drinking with her and photos with my arm around her to make her jealous but the same day she posts a pic of them kissing i’m losing hope i don’t know what to do i’m hurting
It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Hi Brad , i am so desperate, I did many mistakes after break up , begging , going to his house, trying to change his mind for two months . First I did no contact for 2 days and then I reached out , after 7days I reached out again when I met him his favorite restaurant. After 15 days from the break up , I went his house . We had a good time together but things in his mind didn’t changed , and after 45 days I reached out him and tried to change his mind by having 15 minutes conversations. He said it is too late , he gave me two times change in our 4.5 years old relationship and he was tired , he doesn’t want me . And I said I won’t disturb him but I will continue to love him in my hearth without disturbing him . Is it too late to do no contact again or did I ruin everything?
Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
I didn't beg and plead but I did express my feelings and called him a selfish person. He left annoyed and angry bc I talked about a traumatic experience. After an evening full if hugs and kisses he suddenly switched to cold and degrading bc according to him I talked about my bad experience many times (assault, violence). We had many great dates but I also noticed his impatience or telling me I'm overthinking when I was relaxed but he seemed to know how I am within one week. So...part of me feels he is not healthy for me but my other half feels confused shamed for being so emotional. I'm crying daily, not all dsy but when I wake up. My heart hurts so much.it was only one month but like he said in the beginning 'we are fire'. I miss feeling his hand covering mine. I am hoping he is just waiting and will text me if I calmed down but...I was calm , he was yelling at me when I told about my bad experience. It just came out and he said it made him feel bad Maybe, for my own closure I will text him next week, then it will be 2 weeks since he left saying 'I won't talk to you anymore'. One hour before he kissed me saying 'you are so sweet'. He said he can't be under pressure. I have moments of anger for how he talked to me but I also have moments of torturing myself that I messed up i think it's a mix and I wish we could meet for coffee to talk like adults but...when he left he said he doesn't want to invest his energy in my traumatic experience. It made me insecure but I was being myself and he didn't see my qualities and optimism after all. He sent me one last text which felt like another insult "i hope after all you won't lose respect". Wow...he yelled at me for what. Respect. I have to let go but it will take time. I tell myself I deserve a more supportive person but I also was very cautious to get hurt in the future by him. Not sure if it was my instinct or my own fear and inner wounds.
Hi! Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Respect her decision and move on. Beware in situations like this of possible friendzoning because she will hit you with that shit. If she ask to be friends, refuse!! Just tell her to hit you up if things don't work out with the other guy. And start dating other people. You are gift, so believe it.
@@gabrialblast2007 she has no clue that I know abt her this that she's with her ex and this was our 2nd brkup she's doesn't value what all I have done for her and her mom also had a hint that we we're in the relationship and had no prb with it I dunno what to do can't forget her a we work in same office and now we don't talk anymore she has blocked me in social media evrywherr
I messed up. My ex asked for space and told me she would text me when she is ready. But I let my family talk me into sending a Merry Christmas text. She didn’t respond. It’s been over 30 days no contact since then and I don’t know whether to break it to apologise and send a clean slate or continue.
Give it time to give each other space first and for you to decide what your best route forward is because the decision to either to try to get your ex back or move on from the situation is entirely up to you. Here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: ruclips.net/video/STLjybyiaBQ/видео.html
Hey Brad I need your help. My Ex Girlfriend send me a text message yesterday after she blocked me everywhere for the last 10 months after she thought that I have cheated on her. She was saying that she wishes me all the best for my future but she does not want me to contact her ever again, after I was sending her flowers last week. She doesnt want to meet me because she thinks our emotions will get out of control once we talk to each other in person. She has not blocked me after that message, maybe waiting for me to answer. I still want her back. How should I reply? What shoulder I write back?
Flowers are a bad idea, man, especially since you've just been accused of cheating on her which I of course assume you hadn't done. Review this first: URL: ruclips.net/video/5tNRL7dWCTA/видео.html and probably this one, too: ruclips.net/video/OU0cmyhSxE0/видео.html Best of luck!
My ex gf breaks up with me, after a day i beg her to give me another chance, she told me she is enough and she can't take the relationship anymore, it is hurt to love. What should i do?
Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Hi Brad, What if it's a case of a dumper who came back 1.5 weeks after leaving, to reconcile and the dumpee accepted but called to change his mind 2 days after. Now it feels & hurts like I am the one who got dumped as I have begged & made promises to never leave again on and off for weeks and he just completely ignored me. He responded later saying I shld reflect & work on myself...I got confused cause I needed him to work on pushing me away/neglecting me hence why I left to begin with, so I just re-stated this & told him goodbye. I haven't contacted him for a week after that... should I still send this text now or let him be and continue no contact?
MY GF DECIDED TO BREAK UP WITH ME AFTER SAYING THAT SHE IS NOT ABLE TO ADJUST WITH ME AND I ONLY THINK ABOUT MYSELF NOT HER SIDE. SHE SAYS I CHANGED AFTER WE GOT INTO RELATIONSHIP, ME AND HER WERE BEST FRIENDS BEFORE GETTING INTO THE RELATIONSHIP , WE HAVE BEEN FRIENDS FOR MANY YEARS BUT ONLY BEEN 4MONTHS INTO RELATIONSHIP , AND ITS BEEN 2 MONTHS AFTER BREAK UP, WE STILL MSG EACH OTHER, I BEGGED HER AND SAID I WOULD CHANGE AND TREAT HER BETTER BUT SHE ISN'T READY TO GET BACK SHE SAYS WE CAN STAY FRIENDS, I NEED HER BACK WHAT WILL I DO?
Which part did you change, though? Were you displaying some toxic behaviour like unwarranted jealousy and stuff? Also never beg. By begging, it shows how you're not respecting your ex's need for space and time at the moment. Can't you see? In other words, you're making it hard for your ex to be attracted to you again. Your best bet is still to cut off contact completely for around a month or even more in order to clear your heads. You'd increase your chances of getting your ex back if you've got your sh*t together than if you were doing the opposite of the no contact rule which is begging/pleading or negotiating/trying to woo your ex again. Well, there are a few rare who take their exes back if you beg/plead but it hardly ever lasts since these people are taking their exes back out of pity. So my point is, don't let your ex take you back out of pity, all right? Here are 5 keys you need to remember when it comes to this: ruclips.net/video/eZ6niCLUU6E/видео.html The best way to avoid that is to work on yourself and get your life together by having fun, hobbies, etc. and to stop chasing your ex. I've made numerous videos about the "no contact" rule and why it's important. Check those out. Also watch the stories here and try not to be a statistic: ruclips.net/video/1U_IOm8ofFo/видео.html
Hi Brad, I love all your videos that I keep watching during these days of breakup, What if she is with someone? They had communication before the breakup. She is in love to that guy but she can't lost me now that I am back communicates her constantly. Now she ask the other guy and me for space. Should I send this text message Brad? Thank you and more power to your company Brad.
hey brad, i texted her that 1 first text and after 1 day she texted me back that "Of course you don't need my words of comfort now. Take care. I wish you well too." what should i text her on this? ?she were ignoring me but suddenly after this she texted me back
This really depends. Are you at a stage where you're supposed to be already texting each other and has the 30-day no contact rule been implemented? I suggest you start with this to give you an overview on how to go about this or where you're at in the process: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but you're also welcome to sign up for my coaching program if you're unsure how to go about this or you're planning to do something but not sure if it's a good idea or not, etc. but I would have to look a the situation as a whole in order to give solid advice, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
What if you been communicating for 3 months while broken up and you have done lots of begging and pleading how do you know when and do you still Initiate the 30 day no contact rule ?
My ex hmu after 3 years, and we ended up having 2 conversations over a month period. I asked to meet on the second convo which she agreed but she wanted to talk before so. I came across too needy on the phone, pushing to work things out again to which she responded with ghosting the following day. I wasn’t being myself due to other issues, issues which are gone now. It’s been a little over 5 weeks. Should I brake no contact and apologize for the way I acted? Or is it just done?...
@@OGgalactica as of right now we’re on good terms. We just met last night to smoke together. She’s still distant and hesitant (cautious if you will) so there’s still more work to be done when it comes to trust.
Always good to see what the cheaters help guide says to do so as I can avoid falling into traps. Thanks a bunch now I know what to IGNORE I'll be sure to pass it on to others to get them on the wise to know how to STAY AWAY from crazy ex's.
So I bought your program and read through the book and I cant find a solution to what I'm going through. I'm doing no contact on my ex. Have been for 3 weeks except when she text me about a bill or something that we shared. But now she hits me up to argue. Just sends me long paragraphs of how she feels. Do I ignore her or respond? I responded because he kept sending me text blaming me for a lot of things that weren't my fault
Just ignore her. Talking to her about it will only aggravate the situation since she's still highly emotional at the moment. Also, fighting is the last thing you both need right now, trust me.
Hi brad! Can i message him after five months of begging and pleading? Our breakup happened 5 mnths ago..i sent him your clean slate email.. tried no contact for 1 mnth & then he started messaging me..he even wished me happy valentines..but then at the end of feb i losted my control & started sending him too many msgs..in march we started fighting..& i started forcing him to talk to me & all.. and then he blocked me from everywhere in april instead of whatsapp..he told me that he is commited..i still tried to make contact with him..should i msg him this? I dont know I should try or not..all ik is it was all my mistake..i was the one who broke up..and abused him..he still tried to make contact with me..he said sorry and everythg..he wanted to do friendship...but then suddenly i ws d one who always doubted him..i ws always d one who never trusted him..& now i think i losted a guy who never forced for anything..i always felt comfortable around him...i pushed him away..i love him..but i dnt thnk he will ever talk to me..i dnt know i should try or not..but all i know is one thng tht if i didnt..i will always have that one doubt..tht maybe i should've tried one last time..i am just afraid tht what if i tried everythg and he didnt came back? But on the other side i think tht i making a mistake by not trying one last time..what if i tried & our bond became stronger? Even i am not able to do my work..i am jst confused...he was a big supporter..i just feel lost..i need your private coaching..but i am just confused..all i know is my life is becoming hell without him
That's gonna have some consequences. Begging for months on end will only alienate an ex. With that in mind, it may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
It's too soon to be contacting her, so don't push it. Play your cards right and notice the world of difference that this can make. Stick to the "no contact" rule this time for at least 30 days. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ruclips.net/video/4gqo4RjqUpo/видео.html and this is the principle you ought to follow: ruclips.net/video/EfbgU7v0Ny4/видео.html A situation with an ex is often fragile, so you'd really want to omit, if not minimize these mistakes. Start with the 30-day straight "no contact rule. It’s one step forward, two steps backward with an ex & there are no unlimited chances with them, so if you can do it right moving forward, then do so. Check out my guide so you won't end up making the same mistakes. Good luck!
Tell her what you want and if she is not willing to be in relationship stop talking to her. After she contact you, ou ask her out if after 3 times you ask she say no stop asking her until she bring it up.
I just sent him a message and he responded he knew i was under dures when i begged and there's no need pretending..and he wish me well too..this is after 2 weeks of breakup..
Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule - let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Brad my ex hates me, and I'm a frecuent person on this channel (I'm sorry), but I was wondering, what can I do to change that? I had male friends but was very posessive so he always got mad that I talked to them, I never flirt with anybody, he was my first and only boyfriend. I don't want him back but seeing him so mad at me and so cruel and different (angry, mad and sometimes depressed) makes me feel bad. Could I do something to change that? We had many fights so I feel really bad I hurt him. What could I do to fix it? Thank you
He's still thinking about you that's for sure, but couldn't seem to work it out. What were you two fighting about? It's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in your relationship. Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship,as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral.
Helpp me pleasee... After 3months of breakup I pleaded and begged so much and every time we talk i mess up and drama he told he don't love me anymore and there is no chance of getting back! I really messed up in these 3months.. Hell me brad we're in the same school what should i do i really miss him and want him back!!!
Rayane Moujaes If you want him back why don't you try to hang around some other guy even if you don't like him? He needs to see that you moved on and that he doesn't matter to you anymore. Few people who keep begging and pleading for someone to want you back it's pathetic I'm sorry. Bottom line you want someone back you ignore them and you move on even if you don't like the new person let him see you with someone else let him see you that you forgot about him let him see you that you are happy without him.
@@theseattlegreen1871 the thing is that every time I feel jealousy i talk to him and mess up everything that was going right... I can't help myself not talking to him when i get jealous and angry
It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
What if I just went right into my no contact after not begging but just telling him I want to work on our marriage?? He didn't respond so I haven't contacted him in the past 2 weeks
That's what I call the "check-in" text and believe it or not, your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message and when and/or how to reply, including what not to text, (so watch to the end of the vid) here: ruclips.net/video/tev2-lrJq7o/видео.html
If you've already cut off contact for at least 30 days, yes, you can respond. Otherwise it may not be a wise idea to do so unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ruclips.net/video/ek_4wpkV66c/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/видео.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses her power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ruclips.net/video/bgOG9s1fac8/видео.html
Hey brad! I hope you can read this and help me a little bit. Myex and i decided to "take a break" and it got a bit overextended. We still texted but no that much. The breakup was because we both got too neutral and distant. However she told me she was seeing someone else now and i begged and pleaded like crazy. Should i send the message and start no contact? Or just send the message and keep talking since its been so long after the breakup
The 30-day "no contact" rule can work for you in the following ways: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html Your ex is divertingher attention to someone else, which is the easiest thing to do and is really just his/her way of coping. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/7KE6nb4-ndA/видео.html So that's what you ought to be doing too. Here, watch this: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html so try to put your focus elsewhere because your ex is likely rebounding and you're only wasting precious minutes of your life worrying about something that's out of your control. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/TBtb34gy6zw/видео.html Now lastly, keep in mind that your ex is suffering too, even though they try to cover it up. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA
Hii Brad.First of all you are doing a great job by uploading solutions for many people.I have a girlfriend n she is attracted towards a guy whom loves her.But now she is confused between him and me.She said to me"I’m attracted to him but I love you.I feel like cheating on you by having attraction towards the other guy".And the most important thing is she said"We'll date for more one month n then we’ll breakup”.What should I do brad please help me.I’m really very confused.😔😔Should I date her for 1 month and make her feel special or Should I go for no contact rule.Please help❤️😔😔
Cut off contact first and let her really miss you. A key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing herself away from you.The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let her feel what it's like not to have you in her life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html
Don't listen to this guy man you should never want her back trust me. She will again repeat the same with the other guy. Your just a third wheel for her
You mean because of financial instability? On whose part? It depends because in most relationships, that part is easily manageable. Your ex is most likely lying about the reason of the breakup so try not to fall for that. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/ZuHWCWeG1xs/видео.html However, the bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and the golden rules here: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
So my ex moved back to her home town a state away and hooked up with a guy she said she had no interest in. The day before I found out she had called me talking about how maybe she was the toxic one, she's glad I'm doing well, and she was crying. A week ago she had texted me hypothetically taking over my lease because I made a mention of moving out. She didn't mention her man until I did. It's been over a month since she moved and if she wants to come having to me I don't know what the next step idms
Hi there! Getting an ex back is a gradual process, so there's no one-action solution for this. Okay? The "no contact" phase is a good start, so do that first if you haven’t yet, for 30 days. If you have, then I'm glad you've completed it. There are two more phases to go with a few other steps in between (in the right order). What I'm trying to say here is it's a 3-phase process, and it's a bit complicated to explain it all on here, but I made an overview in the hopes of making people understand, so watch it here: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html or read my guide for the entire process. Good luck!
Hi brad after we broke up, I went to a coffee-shop and accidentally my ex gf enemies met me there and she saw us, she did ignore me but later i got a message and she was angry - did that make her jealous should I repeat that and meet up with her enemy-friends again?
I think that's too obvious, man. Find someone new to help you build enough mystery. Getting with her "enemy friends" is just annoying and not to mention a little childish if you're doing it on purpose.
Hi Brad, I made the mistake of begging and pleading for almost 2 months after my bf of 10years brokeup with me.but then I found your channel and signed up for your guide. I've been no contact for 2 weeks and started it off with a text like you mentioned in this video. However I stated that I didn't want to talk for 30 days.(I sent my message before I found this type of video)Was that a mistake? He's a very independent and literal guy so I'm afraid he definitely won't reach out before that time and that this whole process is going to take even longer. We were on the verge of working things out but he still seemed distant and I wanted to take more time to work on myself so thought your no contact method would work for me. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you!
Not at all. Also, if you follow the guide down to a tee, you shouldn't run into any trouble since there's a part there where you will contact him, but only when the time comes so don't rush it. Review it again if you're having doubts on what to do.
@@BradBrowning thank you. I think I was just having some anxiety. I felt so much less anxious after watching and following the second video in the program. I had to meet up with my ex to exchange some much needed items today and it went well. I stayed strong and showed the positive changes I am making. I kept the meeting brief and I was even the one to end the suprisingly long hug he gave me before I left. He told me I can call him any time and I told him he could do the same. My intention though is to hit the reset button on the no contact for 30 days. Thank you again! No matter how this works out I'm glad I found your videos and program.
Hey brad. Need some help here. I did a period of no contact. And she started contacting me when her rebound relationship ended. Now she is stating she needs to heal from it, and find herself again. She is stating she is reaching out her hand for mine to help her. But also says mentally and emotionally she isn’t ready for a relationship, nor can promise me one. She is upset with me right now because I told her that I felt when she would ask for help with gas or food money while she was in a relationship it was in a way using me. She is distancing herself from me. And I’m just struggling with how to get over how she hurt me, and give a hand to help her, and help eventually get in a relationship again. Any advice please?
Just be wary of this first: ruclips.net/video/35Pxw6ZuD_M/видео.html If you keep helping her but not getting the commitment you deserve from her, then that is draining for you so you might want to lie low for a bit, especially if you see the signs mentioned in the vid.
Am about to send him the message after i broke the no contact a couplenof time during the 30 days and whatever the outcome i will just leave it and go on the no contact this time till i fully heal and move on and am hoping i find some1 else because being single and watching him with other women acting as if i never existed is whats killing me slowly 😢
Sorry to hear that but yes, it's crucial to take some time for yourself especially if you're having doubts. I suggest you watch this vid: ruclips.net/video/t6I5k55pnCE/видео.html
Me and my bf had an argument he is not replying to my text and i stopped texting him its been 2 weeks... He has my Instagram password he keeps login it and checking my chats with others... He says he dont care for me now then why is he keep logining in my Instagram and what should i do i dont see any hope plsss help me
Move on and stop giving them attention. The one who care less holds the power, this is for my ex 🖕😈
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Easier said than done 😢
But you’re right
Okayyyyy facts
Fcwk em
He didn't say it was easy he said to stop I'm going through it too it's been 3 months and we have kids I didn't even start no contact cause I can't and all I did was beg and plead send love letters I even had a picnic that I cooked and planned for and while I was there she was txtng someone who made her smile in a way I recognized from when we first started dating
Guys dont waste ur energy for god sake ,go and do ur work ,beleive me u will find someone better in near future ,when u will get engage in urself the right person will eventually come in ur way u dont need to push anything we cant force any person to stay with you ,go and work time is limited u have many others works to do
I understand what you're saying, but each person has his/her own reasons for why they either choose to get back together with an ex or let go totally. You can't speak for them because it's their life, not yours to decide. Granted, not all relationships are meant to be salvaged, especially abusive ones and/or one that involves numerous instances of infidelity, but some are worth saving. This all depends on what kind of relationship you have and if you decide to move on or fight for it. There is no wrong answer on whatever your decision is. :-) Anyway thanks for your input!
Brad . This msg really worked like magic. She replied in no time .
Hey which one u send 1st one or the 2ndonw plz lemme me know
It worked! Everything you said worked! Thank you! He called me and asked me to go somewhere with him, I told him I was planning to travel next month so I'll be able to go then. I don't know whether I should have said that or not.
your doom what did you do to make it work?
@@jasmineb2383 I stopped talking to him for 30 days, started ignoring his story and casual messages and memes that he used to send. I removed him from my instagram, because I initially begged for him to follow me back. I started acting indifferent and he started causing a scene so I just said "look there are no hard feelings, in fact no feelings at all so chillax". If he gets really angry then I would say, I was just busy and then reply with short message and end the conversation. He then deleted my number or may be blocked me on whatsapp, I don't know because I didn't text back. Earlier I would've created drama for this but this time I didn't do anything. Brad Browning told me that it was just his way of coping up. Around one week later he sent me follow request on instagram. I accepted and then followed him back. He texted "hi" but I ignored him. He deleted that text then. Then after completion of 30 days I sent him a link for his opportunity in filmmaking that I came across. He said that I did care about him then why was I ignoring him. I didn't reply and ignored him again. He got angry and said "you wanna help, then do charity" then, so again I just said that "I'm outside and I'm busy and already dealing with a problem". Since Brad Browning told to wait for few hours and then reply so later after few hours I replied "I wasn't trying to do charity, I was just passing on the opportunity for filmmaking to the one who deserves it". He said "okay thanks". I started uploading in my stories that my life is happening and I am happy. I bought a new dress and got got a new haircut and uploaded lot of pictures with it with awesome captions. Some of the guys I flirted with commented on my photo, I flirted back in the comments not being too obvious of course. Then after a week I sent him an interesting video. He then immediately knew that I was ready to talk, he sent me on whatsapp a link of a movie we both love and I replied "woah". He sent another link, I didn't say anything and then I deleted the app. He called me that night and asked me out.
@@jasmineb2383 one of the caption on my post in instagram was "the best thing about life is that everything I've ever lost has been replaced with something better. I never lack, I transition 💃" and the other caption was "oh the epiphany and the slew of happiness with it 😋😬". Well he loves to use new English words so I threw some new words, playing around with hard words and make a poetic sentence. Haha
thank you for sharing your story. I really want my ex back and I’m trying to have him build that attraction for me again. although our stories are completely different you gave me some ideas that might work!
@@jasmineb2383 strong turning point is to have fun with new dresses and a new haircut, awesome photos and upbeat captions. Flirt a bit with other guys in your comment section. Watch movies, tell everyone how much you enjoyed the movie. Go places and tell how beautiful it was. Just make your life happening. I lost hope too. So don't lose hope.
When my ex dumped me, I sent her a text message saying that I’m sorry about what I did and that I expected nothing but friendship and she accepted my apology. This was back in late December and early January. Then, I did the 75+ day “no contact” technique and then I started reaching out again. Now, we’re starting to get things going again.
Out of curiosity, what made you go 75+ days instead of 30?
Good for you man how's it going?
@@jasonreagan4028 I felt that it was necessary.
You guys figure everything out? I'm just starting no contact but the whole first month after the relationship she wanted to see me everyday and just last week she said she needed space so i agreed
@@jasonarokiaraj9817 how is it going now with her?
This text worked like magic, I went from seeing no future with my ex and being in a heated argument to hugging her the next day just from just sending this text, thankyou
Awesome! You're welcome! :-)
@@BradBrowning Brad I fucked up again, do you have any advice on what to do when ur girlfreind seems to have completely lost interest in you, please reply if you do, thanks
@@chazzat3113don't be boring
What did you send
@@chazzat3113what did you send
After this message my ex said: "I don't even know what to say"
I just saw the message and said nothing else. i'll stick to NO CONTACT
As mentioned in the vid, go back to or start the "no contact" rule. Watch the vid again thoroughly for guidance.
I don't want him back. But these text seems to me very powerful. I send one too.. & feeling much more better. Thank you coach
What happened after that ...?
@@Bzzle oh he's back.. he was my fiance & left me cause his father asked him to.. now they both want me as their wife & daughter in law.. but I'm done so I said no...
@@sadiatasnuva4227 Did he beg after you told him no? Are you back together now? I'm in a similar situation
This guy seems pretty legit, but remember all relationships are different and there are no absolutes. Also it really depends on why the relationship ended, ie. if she/he brokeup with you for being too distant, then the 30 no-contact rule is probably a bad idea.
Yup, already discussed that in a few of my videos, too. Thanks for dropping by!
@@BradBrowning which video is that. Could you send me the link
yeah...i was reserved and distant...hidding myself. she don`t respond to my messages at all. what should i do?
@@tomislav_malbasic If she's not responding then probably stop messaging her, you'll only make it worse. If she knows you care about her all you can do is wait for her to reach out to you.
So..i broke up with my gf yesterday..and she said she wants nothing to do with me anymore..and told me to move on..i really love her because..never in my life i've ever love someone like this..i need help to get her back..
It's time to find a more positive outlet for your emotions. It's totally okay to cry your eyes out (just NOT in front of your ex), this is healthy, but try to balance it with other stuff. So keep your mind occupied, get busy with a lot of stuff like hobbies, work, etc. focus on what makes you feel good and take time to heal as well. Also read my Ex Factor Guide, which covers commonly possible ‘what if’ scenario and will give you pretty much everything you need to know, so read it many times over until you master it. The aim of the guide is basically to put you in the best position to get your ex back...and to avoid the pitfalls to increase your chances altogether. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
Brad,
We broke up 10 days ago, she has came to get all her stuff from my house and moved out.
I have sent her this final text, she did responded but I now plan on not talking to her for 30 days. Have I done the right thing by sending this text;
, sorry If I acted the way I did since Sunday, That wasn’t me and my head was all over the place with emotions and going through a lot outside of the relationship.
Thank you ever so much for the last 5 years of knowing you. The last 2.5 years of us, You have been my star, my rock and soulmate. I have so so many amazing memories forever that I will hold close to my heart ♥️ & the times you’ve been there for me. I hope you have felt the same.
I Wish you well and every success in the future whatever you decide, maybe one day we will bump into each other. X
This was her response (and I’m not replying back)
I hope you are okay, I hope xxx is as well.
It’s been an adventure, I wish you all the best, I hope everything works out the way you want it to with work etc.
That’s me got all my stuff, thank you for moving a lot of it through to the living room. I’ve posted the key through the letterbox.
Update?
I sent: Sorry for my erratic behavior. I've honestly been going through a lot outside the breakup and it was taking a toll on me. Maybe I'll run into you again soon
AND SHE REPLIED "Yeh I guess so
Sorry if I broke your heart in some kinda way❤️".. what should I say?
Nothing more to say. Time to focus on yourself and on your own life.
I sent a text like that shes been seeing someone else after 3 months. She broke up with me because she was going through a lot and broke up with me through she was texting me a lot and also asking me for favors but I asked her if she was seeing somebody else and she said yes and i spilled my heart to her "yeah i know stupid" she said if I don’t want to be friends anymore then she’ll leave me alone. But today i sent a text like you said and she sent "its all good I understand" I didnt say anything back. I just let it go for now.
Take it one step further, don’t revisit it at all. If you’re not together now and she’s seeing someone, the only reason she’d go back to you is if it doesn’t work out with them. At this point you’re better cutting your loses and meeting someone else than accepting being a backup
What happened 4 years later?
I've been in no contact with my ex after pledding and begging almost a year ago. Bafflingly, I just recently discovered that she has been an emotional wreck because we haven't communicated in so long but at the same time, I also discovered that towards the end of our relationship, she lined up some guy behind my back and got pregnant by him. No contact put her in a position to miss me aggressively but she won't contact me because she afraid that if I find out about her kid, she think that I will never speak to her again. Should I just move on? I've worked on myself since then and learned how important it is to value yourself, but like I said, I did discover that she has been emotionally irrational because of me not contacting her. No contact really is powerful
I think u should go ahead and talk to her and see what she want from you.then u make the decision
The decision is ultimately up to you since you know your relationship and your ex better than anyone else on here. Is your ex worth getting back together with? Check this out, though, particularly if your reasons for getting your ex back overpowers everything else: ruclips.net/video/ruPp_tCs-qg/видео.html and once you've decided to try and get your ex back, make sure you play your cards right starting with the 30-day "no contact" rule then tick off the checklist here after: ruclips.net/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/видео.html
Was in your shoes ounce tried it again with her but the love was tainted period. I was laying down in her bed one morning and never came back no cantact
She is a animal she didn’t miss u she just regret the fact she got pregnant and that guy don’t want her. Don’t be the step daddy maybe have sex with her dog her out but don’t fall for her because she was definitely dogging u out and most likely was having sex with that same guy with u
Begging and pleading will push her further away.
Never ever want ex back because once someone leave u that the surety he or she will not leave u again so once someone dicieded to move on or leave u then let them go u can't force them to stay thnx
The thing is, there are no guarantees in love, are there?
Even if you've been together for a decade, there is never a guarantee that a breakup won't happen. That's what love is all about, it's filled with risks and it's a matter of knowing and deciding who's worth the risk!
I really wanna hug you brad i leave this message to my ex i hope it will work soon inshallah she cheated on me yet i want to bring her back because she was my smile Thank You
Wtf this guy is a genius ! Worked
Awesome!
I’m on second week of no contact I’ve ben traveling everyday enjoying life this is the best thing ever if she doesn’t come back I’m ok with it if so I’m a better person
My ex and I have been off and on for almost 8 years...we broke up again about a month ago, we had even lived together this time... we ended on good terms and he tries to stay in contact. He told me multiple times he thinks after some time to work on ourselves maybe we can be together again. (His friends told me he has said the same thing to them as well).
I guess my question is...
1. Am I stupid for believing there’s still a chance and that he meant it when he said later?
2. Do I answer when he calls or should I go completely radio silent for the NC period?
There may be some truth in what he's telling you, but no, don't answer his calls because you both really need this time apart to clear your heads. It may be time to put things into perspective because in 14 years spent as a relationship coach, I find that a breakup is often NOT just one person's fault, so look at the roles that you've BOTH played that led to the breakup and if the issues have a chance to get resolved, and how to go about it. In most cases, the problems that led to the breakup can be resolved, but in some cases, it can't. So take time to evaluate, okay? However, I have to warn you not to ask the reasons from your ex. This is what I've discussed here along with other stuff that might help you, so this is a must-watch: ruclips.net/video/zqAEi9PbEAA/видео.html Good luck!
Saying that I had more on my mind more than the break up might make things worse... I would be like.. "So you were removing all the frustration on me? "
Not if you've been the one broken up with. Don't confuse yourself.
What do I do now? I’m two weeks into no-contact, and I’ve been successful thus far. Today my ex’s best mate sent me a video of my ex captioned hey honey, then her mate asked curious questions such as how are you what you doing. I answered to her friend politely. What next?
Getting an ex back is a gradual process, so there's no one-action solution for this. Okay? The "no contact" phase is a good start, so do that first if you haven’t yet, for 30 days. If you have, then I'm glad you've completed it. There are two more phases to go with a few other steps in between (in the right order). What I'm trying to say here is it's a 3-phase process, and it's a bit complicated to explain it all on here, but I made an overview in the hopes of making people understand, so watch it here: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html or read my guide for the entire process. Good luck!
Hey Brad. I sent her the text and she reached out to me and said... "You know I always care about you and want you to have the very best. I will definitely keep in mind and pray for everything you're going through.... Thank you for everything. Ok?" Should I respond or just go ahead and implement the no contact.
Cut off contact already.
This video was gold! Thank YOu sir Brad! I have a good feeeling that we are going to get back together.
You're welcome! Hey, you never know who else can benefit, so if it’s not too much to ask and if you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it!
I did this she's immediately showing so many emotions by posting and asking about me by family wow
Good. Just make sure you play your cards right and cut off contact when you're supposed to, especially after you've begged.
I cheated to my girlfriend 2, 3 times,
Now, she is so angry to me, she can't believe me.
She don't recieve my call and text messege also not reply.
On the 2nd to 7th may i was silent.
Than, again i was calling to her, but she dont recieved my calling, than i text again on the 8th may.
My text that:
''sorry, i had been saw to you lot of bad behaviour.
Please forgive me.
I will never do it behaviour.
Wish you luck''
Is it text right or wrong please tell me Sir Brad Browning.
By cheating, you're automatically putting the ball in your ex's court and have lost privilege to take your power back in all this. It's up to your ex now and how soon they can forgive you and move on from the incident, not necessarily from the relationship although some people do that. With that in mind, these may help: ruclips.net/video/f0F8q2IIgtE/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/qnE192fUKxI/видео.html
Dude she's not coming back and for good reason. Would you take her back if she cheated on you 3 times?
I’ve done all the no no’s. Sent the angry text then the sorry text and then the begging text. Is it to late to start the no contact? After breaking up he still has called a couple times and sent vacation pictures, but says he will think about getting back together?
Update?
So what's happening now??!!
Never say “sorry” unless you really mean it! Don’t apologise if it’s not sincere
Yep!
My ex and I go on no contact for two weeks then one of us reach out. Last weekend he invited me to dinner. When he didn’t reply to confirmed, I went nuts on texting. He said he takes back trying to get back together. Is there any hope? I feel I’m angry about the past.
Dont text him wait him to text you if he didnt confirm the date or to go out with you afzer asking him one time wait dor him to get back to you and confirm. If he doesnt confirm the date dont text him. If he doesnt confirm dont go out.
Is it okay if two people love each other immensely but can't be together
My situation is totally messed. I sent a gift back to her. Then she told me the she is engaged which is obviously not. And then after pleading she told me she loves me but doesn't want to continue. What to do?
Then what happened?
It’s about to be 2 months still have feelings for her, we send each other memes for quick laughs every now and then. When she broke up our 2 month relationship saying she lost the spark, she wants to focus on herself and be single for awhile. Our mutual friend asked her if we’ll get back together in the future she said “yes, possibly” (we were co-workers btw). I need your opinions.
Big Boss my ex has said that we needed time to build our lives up and we have kept in great contact. She has even said we should meet during the summer and hang out a little. Just before Summer started we made love because we weren’t going to see each other for a while and she as the one that brought up the idea and she cried when we left. I think you’re in a good position but don’t let it get you too excited because every time I bring up the idea of getting back together she says that we need to see how summer goes and there is a possibility. So be careful with how much you think about the idea cause it’s killing me
Do not count months since your break up. Find new girlfriend. If she comes back fine, if not you have new girlfriend. I think she found someone else.
Big Boss
Dude listen to me right now you're not going to want to hear any of this but you're the one commenting reaching out for help. So I'm going to help you, what you do is you completely block her, I don't mean physically block her RUclips Facebook cell phone keep those opened, but you need to erase her from your memory. When you walk by her in your workplace don't even look at her don't even say anything if she says hello just act like you didn't hear her.
You want this girl frothing-at-the-mouth for you you need to show her that she is nothing to you garbage Etc also getting another girl rubbing and kissing your face would not hurt either. Even if you do not like the other girl just get some really good looking girl and start flirting with her right in front of your ex.
Bottom line is if you want this ex-girlfriend of yours this is what you have to do, your being a female right now and you need to stop if you want this girl.
Women want men not females otherwise they'd be a lesbian.
So grab your balls what's left of them start hitting on other women in front of your ex and ignore your ex.
Do not block her from your phone or social media because the whole point of this is to wait for her to take the bait meaning to send you a text message to hang out or to send you a message on social media.
My girl left me and I totally ignored her ass didn't even seem to care when she did 17 days later she came begging and crying for me back so this shit Works bro!!
Here's the bad part since you have already been sending her memes as you say and continuing to talk to her acting like her girlfriend your chances might have been lost but you need to act now start this second it's your only shot dude.
TheSeattlegreen I I approach girls, but I always get rejected and it brings my confidence down. So, I’m just left beaten throughout the day, I’m hitting the gym lost a good 15 lbs practicing more on my guitar I should be confident, yet getting rejected ruins it.
Big Boss
Do you think you are the only person who is being rejected on a daily basis? Because you're not. This is what I'm talking about you do not seem confident women love confidence and if you're walking around the world with your head down to the ground women pick up on that kind of attitude and are turned off.
You seriously need to act more positive even if you don't feel it make yourself feel positive do things that you like to do!
Aim high in life don't let anyone tell you what you can and cannot do.
And I mean anyone! There are a lot of people out there who would love to kick you when you're down stay away from these people they are evil.
You need to basically continue being yourself but do things that make you happy. When you meet a girl for the first time do not get nervous she should be the one being nervous to talk to you you understand where I'm going with this?
You are worthy of a beautiful woman's time! You are worthy of having a beautiful woman in your bed! Start walking with your head high! Walk with swagger and confidence women love that! Dress nice smell good slick your hair back wear a suit and tie act like you look like a million bucks!
Confidence is key!
I met my ex after 10 years. He called me asked me to forgive him and that he changed. He asked me if I had a man I told him no because I don’t. He told me he have a girlfriend, and a house and she lives with him. We had drinks.
So my question is why he even meet up with to tell me he had a gf?
He could just be trying to be friends... especially since it's been a decade now.
@@BradBrowning yea I will be playing the no contact game with him
Dai 1 of "NO CONTACT". I sent this msg yesterday. He replied: No problem! Now, here we go NC forever. Wish me luck guys!
@Ngangom Shreya thanks
Any update brother?
I need help. I messed up so bad with my ex and it even led to losing all my friends. I don’t know what to do can someone please help. He’s with someone else now but I still care so much but I begged to much when we immediately broke up.
Follow the tips on the vid.
Mr. Brad, I was in a relationship with a guy. 2 and half years ago, I was in a relationship with a guy. Last 8 months ago, he stopped talking to me. We were in no contact for long. 3 days before, I contacted him because I i couldn't bear the pain. I sent him my current pictures, he was happy with my change and smiling face now. And then later on, I conveyed how I missed him by sending a crying video of mine woth lengthy message. He didn't reply ☹️
Kindly, Please guide me what should I be doing now? I'm perplexed 😔😔
I suggest you do what you haven't been doing for so long, which is to focus on yourself and learn to detach from this ex, especially if you already spent months talking to him. Take my free quiz to know about your chances at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
So I begged and apologized to my ex for about a month straight off and on after the break up. I ended up finding myself apologizing for things i never did wrong in the first place. I just started no contact and applied the clean slate message and i was wondering if she could still come crawling back. We had a great relationship up until the end if that helps.
You ought to back off and give her some space. It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
He replied and said if he could see me in person and talk about it but his mom is sick. I was begging for a month and he is already seeing other people. I want him back but he also replied saying "Im sorry for being an asshole but I just dont want to hurt you anymore" should i reply??
Nothing. Silence is key. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html
I think we achieved emotional neutral today. The phone call ended with her saying "I love you to me." And her reminscing some good times we had together... Ofcourse I responded the same way with an I love you, but I kept myself more reserved during this facetime call, the call lasted 2 hours. However, a day earlier we did have an argument and she said we had no chance together. So I know getting her back is definitely not going to be a walk in the park... So since right now we ended the conversation on a very exellent note, I really just want to fade away as much as possible and work on myself.
Don't be too responsive with her. Limit your availability and if she truly cares, she will reach out. Fading away is easy, it's all about mindset. Go do stuff with friends, family, etc. And again, you don't have to completely ignore. Just keep busy enough so that she doesn't become your priority when you're clearly just an option to her.
This text might of ruined everything, now after all this I’ve learned that once someone says “ I don’t wanna be with you” u gotta just stop all communications no more texts no more nothing and just leave it at that. If someone don’t see ur worth let them go.
Well, it depends. Breakups aren't always a result of someone not seeing someone else's worth. Oftentimes, there are issues in the relationship that may seem insurmountable to overcome or one or both parties get tired of trying. For the most part though, breakups are caused by a loss of attraction because of the relationship dynamic or someone doing something that turned the other person off. Whether an ex or a relationship is worth a second try is completely up to you!
I have been with this man for 31 years. We have 4 kids. All grown adults, 5 weeks ago he up and left me overnight for single mother with 4 kids. I tell him to not come around me but every weekend he comes home and tries seducing me. It's a control thing. I don't know what to do anymore. It hurts like he drove a strake knife thru my heart. Bastard
Hey Brad, I got your book, I´m one week into No Contact, the thing is I live in the same apartment with my ex. I already told him I don´t want to be friends and I only talk to him when necessary and keep interactions short and polite. Thing is as of yesterday he started talking to me more and inviting me out to dinner with his friends today. I don´t think it´s time to break No Contact yet, it seems like he´s treating/ seeing me as a friend??? Even though I told him we weren´t. Or maybe he´s feeling the loss of contact??? I´m confused.
Today, after 10 days of No Contact (Limited Contact for me) my ex contacted me and asked if we could still at least be friends because he doesn´t want me out of his life. Of course the answer was no.
I couldn't tell for sure. Just follow the guide and make sure to play it cool, okay? If it's too soon to be hanging out with your ex, then don't. It's important you get busy with your own life though. Best of luck!
Does the no contact rule really work? I’m trying to get my ex back after he broke up with me yesterday. Is there anything I can do that will guarantee that? The reason he broke up was because “he didn’t feel the same way as when we first started” and he likes being a “free bird.” (Meaning not having the responsibility of a relationship and not feeling guilty when other girls flirt with him, which he likes). I just want him to feel the excitement and attraction he once did for me and I need help doing that..
Don't do this,nevef date an ex again,they are toxic for your life,believe me sweety i also made this mistake and he is in another relationship, so only one advice move on.
I'd still suggest to give the "no contact" rule a shot because that's still really your best bet and yes, it will work in a sense where you BOTH will get to clear your mind to be in a better position to deal with each other when the time comes - instead of letting emotions overrule everything, risking things to get blown out of proportion even further. Makes sense? But will no contact ALONE work to get your ex back? Sometimes it does, but other times (especially if your situation is unique) it won't, because the no contact phase is only part one of the three-step process I teach in my Ex Factor Guide. Learn the basics here: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html I also made a quick vid to those who are seemingly lost and could use a reminder on what to do: ruclips.net/video/obBIttQSak4/видео.html
I sent her a, “goodbye I will cherish the memories” message a week ago after a week of trying to ask her to explain in more detail why she decided to end what she also perceived to be an incredible relationship and trying to get her to think rationally. I regret saying “goodbye” (wasn’t literally those words) as I wanted to push more.
But it was clear she didn’t want to speak and made assumptions; could I still send a message like the one in this video after a week of not talking? I had actually thought of just apologising for pushing a bit…
I did say in the message that it was a shame I couldn’t change her mind. Not sure if I should leave it as I have or send an apology message, or even ask her to reconsider? 😜
She did seem to appreciate the goodbye message…
Give it AT LEAST a month without talking and stop forcing things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html
I said the second one and told her I was going through a lot besides the breakup and she took that to believe I was apologizing again for my mistakes that caused the breakup. And now she's asking what I was going through that caused me to act in that way (the way that caused her to break up with me). Should I clarify I was just talking about my begging and whatnot after the breakup or just ignore her all together and implement no contact?
Overapologizing is very annoying. You sounded like a broken record to her and that's what she's likely pissed about. At this point, it may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
@@BradBrowning ggg
Alright I was begging like 3 weeks ago and started no contact already. Should I still send the message?
And what should I Write in that case?
same here
If you've begged, yes.
Thanks for answering. What should I write in that case
If you love them then deffinetely yes
Brad helped me get my ex back and we're married now ❤️
What, no wedding invitation? Seriously though, congrats! :-)
@@BradBrowning big thanks to you and all of your help!!
Should you do this after your ex blocked you? (ive been blocked for a a day) I want to possibly contact her on a different account in a couple of days and give an apology for begging, then I want to explain to her that i've also started to move on and I wish her the best, then after I could explain that I'm not expecting a reply I just wanted to get the apology out, let me know if that sounds good to you. Also just to re-clarify, i'll send this in 2 - 4 days, not now.
Don't do that. If you get blocked, this signifies your ex does NOT want to hear from you in any way, shape or form. Creating another account will only mess things up further. Again, you really need to stop all contact for at least 30 days and not push it. Being needy or too forceful for your ex to talk to you will only alienate them further. Here's what may going through your ex's mind and they seem they want nothing to do with you: ruclips.net/video/sd2Lx8uEni8/видео.html
Brad, 6 months after the breakup she found a new bf, there I initiated no contact. Has been 7 months of NC so far. The last message I sent she never replied. I completely changed my life, and I live in a completely different continent! Yet I still love genuinely here..
Sorry to hear that. Not to state the obvious, but the distance is often the main culprit. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ruclips.net/video/GQY4N04uvtA/видео.html and/or ruclips.net/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/видео.html
I sent this text. Then 2 days later got a reply "hope your well? Maybe we can meet to clear some things? If you want?"
What should I do
When did the breakup happened and have you two cut off contact yet for at least 30 days? If you haven't, then I suggest to assess the risks first if it's all worth it. Remember, meeting up when you're both not ready will only alienate your ex further, and that's best case scenario. Worst case scenario will land you a spot in the dreaded friendzone. Watch this first: ruclips.net/video/Jzb18j7ZMPE/видео.html but if you're both ready, watch this video on how to tell as well as how tips for you on tipping the odds to your favor: ruclips.net/video/eJPGrkuQnm0/видео.html Best of luck!
@@BradBrowning no we kept in conversation and I found out last night she went to meet up with her ex to also talk. Might just not reply and go silent now
Sir, my ex's friend(a friend of my ex) was chatting with me.
She was asking me some questions, such as. "Why did you guys break up."
"What did you guys do when you're in a relationship, did you kiss or touch."
I answered them, but I made sure I wasn't desperate. Did I do anything wrong ???? I am in the 2weeks of my NO CONTACT period.......She's so calm like as if nothing happened, her Instagram story posts were like normal, like as if she never had a b.f.
So sir, what shall I do now, I feel like I'm doing a big mistake of doing the no contact period. Respond quick pls.....another request is that can you make videos of how to not be desperate and also on how to chat with your ex's friends without being desperate and what you can do to reverse everything. PLS SIR......Thank you.
Your ex's loyalty lies to your ex, so it would've been best to keep mum. You're not obligated to answer them. Tell whoever asks that you've been busy... and it really helps if you are. So take steps to rebuild your life first. Hang out with friends, family, get a new hobby, join a club, etc. to keep your mind off of things and to process the breakup accordingly and heal. It's all about balance! Take care!
@@BradBrowning Thank you sir!
Dude her friend was hitting on you, I guarantee your ex didnt tell her to ask those questions.
My ex broke up with me about 5 days ago because she stated that “the spark was gone and she lost feelings” since the break up she only contacted me on the first two days but on the second day I saw that she was going to see a movie with another guy and I blew her phone up asking if she had feelings for him at first she said no but I have been asked to days later and she said that she did not know I have done some begging and pleading and I have called her phone multiple times without her answering we have exchanged a few messages with me messaging first in the past three days. When she was breaking up with me I asked if she could leave our relationship status on Facebook for a day or two as soon as I sent her this clean slate text she did not reply and she removed our status from Facebook is this a good or a bad sign .
Stop bombarding her with texts and calls, it will keep her away from you. That's what happened to me, after my loooonng messages to her. I stop chatting her in facebook and then she just sent me a photo of my drawing to her and she said "I saw it." and I just reacted and didn't replied. She was the one who left, and I stopped begging to her, and now she's bugging me. Step Back. Dude meditate it will help to hold up your emotions. She broke up with me 3 days ago.
Your ex is most likely lying about the reason of the breakup so try not to fall for that. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/ZuHWCWeG1xs/видео.html However, the bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and the golden rules here: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
Don't take an ex back! You deserve much better.
Rei Matsumoto Not always the case.
I understand what you're saying, but each person has his/her own reasons for why they either choose to get back together with an ex or let go totally. You can't speak for them because it's their life, not yours to decide. Granted, not all relationships are meant to be salvaged, especially abusive ones and/or one that involves numerous instances of infidelity, but some are worth saving. This all depends on what kind of relationship you have and if you decide to move on or fight for it. There is no wrong answer on whatever your decision is. :-) Anyway thanks for your input!
Heyy, sorry I was acting that way a few days ago. That wasn't me. I was honestly just stressed about other things in my life too, and it won't happen again. Wish you well.
Yup, that'll do!
I sent the clean slate message and they responded with “It’s okay, I’m glad that you’re doing better. I hope that you find what you’re looking for.” I started no contact I didnt respond but what does that even mean. Do i dwell on that text. What does that message state of where im at
Of course not because you're already overanalyzing. Watch this first: ruclips.net/video/sJg4udwCS90/видео.html Just continue on to the no contact rule until you've reached at least the 30-day mark.
I SENT MY WIFE THE SECOND TEXT AND IT BACKFIRE ON ME WHAT SHOULD I DO now very lonely by myself need help want my family back
I did all possible mistakes, sent all messages which i shouldn't, was begging him to stay, cried and manipulated. Sad didn't find this chanel before.
Now sent this message and started NC period 🤦🏼♀️😂
I doubt it will work, but let's see.
Give it a go anyway. It's your best bet. Employ the 30-day "no contact" rule first. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ruclips.net/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/видео.html Though make sure you follow the tips here as well: ruclips.net/video/xgR03RcU8mw/видео.html AND some recent tips here: y2u.be/FLeP1eRCkCk Lots of folks seem to be oblivious about it, so here goes: the 30-day "no contact" rule, once COMPLETED, is just the first phase for most people (unless your ex sincerely wanted you back and it's shown in their actions). This would also help guide you on what to do after the "no contact" rule: ruclips.net/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/видео.html Anyway there are two more phases to go through if you want an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw
I NEED HELP BRAD. We were together for 2 years, but we have been having a shaky relationship these past few months. about 1 week ago she broke up with me. She said she had been talking to this guy on social media for a while as friends and realized they liked eachother. Shes soo tired of how I treated her and this guy has been there for her whenever I made her sad. She dated him imetiatly after breaking up with me and has been saying she has been doing great. But is sad to see me in pain and doesnt wanna hurt me because she still cares about me. She says she doesnt wanna get back together. What advice can you give me?
I'm almost certain that she has no intentions of ever coming back BECAUSE she found a new guy and things are going well with him.
Is she gone for good? What can I do to get her back. And KEEP her?
What did you do? Make sure you aren't being defensive or deflecting the blame because that's as annoying as ever. It may help to apply the tips here first: ruclips.net/video/qnE192fUKxI/видео.html Be patient and let things play out first. Let time do its job since it's your biggest ally at this point. Good luck!
Wow, sounds really similar to my situation, except we were 4.5 years and long distance. I dont know how long she's been talking to this other guy though, I didn't lie, cheat, or steal, but got wrapped up in my own issues I became a little distant.
Best advice is just hope the other guy f's up lol, nah, just plan on moving on without her, if she comes back great! If not, at least you'll have gotten most of the poison out of your system. When she contacts you MAKE IT COUNT.
My ex broke up with me 5 months ago and he's still not allowing me to leave in peace he says that he is seeking revenge from me I don't know what to do please help me to get out of it..
I'm going through this at the moment he is seeing someone but is still trying to control me.i block him and he came to my job saying if I dont unblock he will stab up my tires.i unblock him he text me good morning everyday,I say good morning too and thsts it.i dont call him I loved him but I'm getting over him little by little. He doesn't call me only text. And I dont care because if he calls I wont answer.i just want him to leave me alone.its going on 3 months now.
Revenge for what? What did you do? If he's harassing you, you can always file for a restraining order so he'd leave you alone.
Because once I angrily posted his pictures in Facebook and have written many things about him that he betrayed me nd he's looking for another girls in my presence
I sent the second text and I got back within 5 minutes "Thank you for the apology" so I guess it was not really perceived as needed but let's see what happens after 30 days of NC starting today
any updates?
He didnt text back he just saw the message and ignore it . What should i doo now???
hey brad i’m in a sticky situation me and my ex broke up 4 weeks ago i begged 2 and a half weeks ago then the very next day saw her for our dogs birthday then 2 days after that i had to change her oil after that day i started no contact but then 4 days later went to help her move things from her storage cause her mom asked me to and her coworker that’s she’s going out with now was there and she got mad at me after 5 mins of getting back from going to get a dolly for moving the things instead of making the dog hush up from barking cause he missed me i didn’t send a clean slate text and it’s been almost 2 weeks of no contact and i would say a week ago she’s going out with her coworker that is also a girl i went to a friends birthday with a girl posted on social media of me drinking with her and photos with my arm around her to make her jealous but the same day she posts a pic of them kissing i’m losing hope i don’t know what to do i’m hurting
she still had pictures of us on twitter and only prom pics on instagram
and she’s been expressing on social media that she’s happy and happy she’s getting what she deserves
It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Hi Brad , i am so desperate, I did many mistakes after break up , begging , going to his house, trying to change his mind for two months . First I did no contact for 2 days and then I reached out , after 7days I reached out again when I met him his favorite restaurant. After 15 days from the break up , I went his house . We had a good time together but things in his mind didn’t changed , and after 45 days I reached out him and tried to change his mind by having 15 minutes conversations. He said it is too late , he gave me two times change in our 4.5 years old relationship and he was tired , he doesn’t want me . And I said I won’t disturb him but I will continue to love him in my hearth without disturbing him . Is it too late to do no contact again or did I ruin everything?
Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
@@BradBrowning thank you so much Brad🙏🏻💐 , this time i will stick on it.
@@BradBrowning thank you so much Brad 🙏🏻😌
I didn't beg and plead but I did express my feelings and called him a selfish person. He left annoyed and angry bc I talked about a traumatic experience. After an evening full if hugs and kisses he suddenly switched to cold and degrading bc according to him I talked about my bad experience many times (assault, violence). We had many great dates but I also noticed his impatience or telling me I'm overthinking when I was relaxed but he seemed to know how I am within one week.
So...part of me feels he is not healthy for me but my other half feels confused shamed for being so emotional.
I'm crying daily, not all dsy but when I wake up.
My heart hurts so much.it was only one month but like he said in the beginning 'we are fire'. I miss feeling his hand covering mine.
I am hoping he is just waiting and will text me if I calmed down but...I was calm , he was yelling at me when I told about my bad experience. It just came out and he said it made him feel bad
Maybe, for my own closure I will text him next week, then it will be 2 weeks since he left saying 'I won't talk to you anymore'.
One hour before he kissed me saying 'you are so sweet'. He said he can't be under pressure.
I have moments of anger for how he talked to me but I also have moments of torturing myself that I messed up i think it's a mix and I wish we could meet for coffee to talk like adults but...when he left he said he doesn't want to invest his energy in my traumatic experience.
It made me insecure but I was being myself and he didn't see my qualities and optimism after all.
He sent me one last text which felt like another insult "i hope after all you won't lose respect".
Wow...he yelled at me for what. Respect.
I have to let go but it will take time. I tell myself I deserve a more supportive person but I also was very cautious to get hurt in the future by him. Not sure if it was my instinct or my own fear and inner wounds.
i see why he left you typing paragraphs like this
Hi! Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
She replied with “it’s okay, you too” what do I do now?
Go NO CONTACT and do not reply until she asks you to get back together
Wht did u do
My ex is dating her ex now its been 2months of no contact she said to her cousin I don't want him in my life
Bah ha ha
Respect her decision and move on. Beware in situations like this of possible friendzoning because she will hit you with that shit. If she ask to be friends, refuse!! Just tell her to hit you up if things don't work out with the other guy. And start dating other people. You are gift, so believe it.
@@gabrialblast2007 she has no clue that I know abt her this that she's with her ex and this was our 2nd brkup she's doesn't value what all I have done for her and her mom also had a hint that we we're in the relationship and had no prb with it I dunno what to do can't forget her a we work in same office and now we don't talk anymore she has blocked me in social media evrywherr
Let her have that bigger D and move on.
@@lewisb5364 I was satisfying her in those terms but dunno y she did all this
I messed up. My ex asked for space and told me she would text me when she is ready. But I let my family talk me into sending a Merry Christmas text. She didn’t respond.
It’s been over 30 days no contact since then and I don’t know whether to break it to apologise and send a clean slate or continue.
Give it time to give each other space first and for you to decide what your best route forward is because the decision to either to try to get your ex back or move on from the situation is entirely up to you. Here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: ruclips.net/video/STLjybyiaBQ/видео.html
Hey Brad I need your help.
My Ex Girlfriend send me a text message yesterday after she blocked me everywhere for the last 10 months after she thought that I have cheated on her. She was saying that she wishes me all the best for my future but she does not want me to contact her ever again, after I was sending her flowers last week. She doesnt want to meet me because she thinks our emotions will get out of control once we talk to each other in person. She has not blocked me after that message, maybe waiting for me to answer. I still want her back. How should I reply? What shoulder I write back?
We will meet each other next week. How should I react? What should I do?
Flowers are a bad idea, man, especially since you've just been accused of cheating on her which I of course assume you hadn't done. Review this first: URL: ruclips.net/video/5tNRL7dWCTA/видео.html
and probably this one, too: ruclips.net/video/OU0cmyhSxE0/видео.html Best of luck!
@@BradBrowning Thanks my man
My ex gf breaks up with me, after a day i beg her to give me another chance, she told me she is enough and she can't take the relationship anymore, it is hurt to love. What should i do?
Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Hi Brad, What if it's a case of a dumper who came back 1.5 weeks after leaving, to reconcile and the dumpee accepted but called to change his mind 2 days after. Now it feels & hurts like I am the one who got dumped as I have begged & made promises to never leave again on and off for weeks and he just completely ignored me. He responded later saying I shld reflect & work on myself...I got confused cause I needed him to work on pushing me away/neglecting me hence why I left to begin with, so I just re-stated this & told him goodbye. I haven't contacted him for a week after that... should I still send this text now or let him be and continue no contact?
MY GF DECIDED TO BREAK UP WITH ME AFTER SAYING THAT SHE IS NOT ABLE TO ADJUST WITH ME AND I ONLY THINK ABOUT MYSELF NOT HER SIDE. SHE SAYS I CHANGED AFTER WE GOT INTO RELATIONSHIP, ME AND HER WERE BEST FRIENDS BEFORE GETTING INTO THE RELATIONSHIP , WE HAVE BEEN FRIENDS FOR MANY YEARS BUT ONLY BEEN 4MONTHS INTO RELATIONSHIP , AND ITS BEEN 2 MONTHS AFTER BREAK UP, WE STILL MSG EACH OTHER, I BEGGED HER AND SAID I WOULD CHANGE AND TREAT HER BETTER BUT SHE ISN'T READY TO GET BACK SHE SAYS WE CAN STAY FRIENDS, I NEED HER BACK WHAT WILL I DO?
Which part did you change, though? Were you displaying some toxic behaviour like unwarranted jealousy and stuff? Also never beg. By begging, it shows how you're not respecting your ex's need for space and time at the moment. Can't you see? In other words, you're making it hard for your ex to be attracted to you again. Your best bet is still to cut off contact completely for around a month or even more in order to clear your heads. You'd increase your chances of getting your ex back if you've got your sh*t together than if you were doing the opposite of the no contact rule which is begging/pleading or negotiating/trying to woo your ex again. Well, there are a few rare who take their exes back if you beg/plead but it hardly ever lasts since these people are taking their exes back out of pity. So my point is, don't let your ex take you back out of pity, all right? Here are 5 keys you need to remember when it comes to this: ruclips.net/video/eZ6niCLUU6E/видео.html The best way to avoid that is to work on yourself and get your life together by having fun, hobbies, etc. and to stop chasing your ex. I've made numerous videos about the "no contact" rule and why it's important. Check those out. Also watch the stories here and try not to be a statistic: ruclips.net/video/1U_IOm8ofFo/видео.html
Hi Brad, I love all your videos that I keep watching during these days of breakup, What if she is with someone? They had communication before the breakup. She is in love to that guy but she can't lost me now that I am back communicates her constantly. Now she ask the other guy and me for space. Should I send this text message Brad? Thank you and more power to your company Brad.
hey brad, i texted her that 1 first text and after 1 day she texted me back that "Of course you don't need my words of comfort now.
Take care.
I wish you well too." what should i text her on this? ?she were ignoring me but suddenly after this she texted me back
This really depends. Are you at a stage where you're supposed to be already texting each other and has the 30-day no contact rule been implemented? I suggest you start with this to give you an overview on how to go about this or where you're at in the process:
y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but you're also welcome to sign up for my coaching program if you're unsure how to go about this or you're planning to do something but not sure if it's a good idea or not, etc. but I would have to look a the situation as a whole in order to give solid advice, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
What if you been communicating for 3 months while broken up and you have done lots of begging and pleading how do you know when and do you still Initiate the 30 day no contact rule ?
My ex hmu after 3 years, and we ended up having 2 conversations over a month period. I asked to meet on the second convo which she agreed but she wanted to talk before so. I came across too needy on the phone, pushing to work things out again to which she responded with ghosting the following day. I wasn’t being myself due to other issues, issues which are gone now. It’s been a little over 5 weeks. Should I brake no contact and apologize for the way I acted? Or is it just done?...
What did you do?
@@OGgalactica as of right now we’re on good terms. We just met last night to smoke together. She’s still distant and hesitant (cautious if you will) so there’s still more work to be done when it comes to trust.
Just tried it and within 15 minutes she replied. She said "I hope you are ok, take care of yourself".
Sounds like a good start!
She said “ I call bull “ to the text. What does everyone think. I haven’t responded and was planning to start no contact.
Always good to see what the cheaters help guide says to do so as I can avoid falling into traps. Thanks a bunch now I know what to IGNORE I'll be sure to pass it on to others to get them on the wise to know how to STAY AWAY from crazy ex's.
Hey you're welcome! Glad you find it helpful.
So I bought your program and read through the book and I cant find a solution to what I'm going through. I'm doing no contact on my ex. Have been for 3 weeks except when she text me about a bill or something that we shared. But now she hits me up to argue. Just sends me long paragraphs of how she feels. Do I ignore her or respond? I responded because he kept sending me text blaming me for a lot of things that weren't my fault
Just ignore her. Talking to her about it will only aggravate the situation since she's still highly emotional at the moment. Also, fighting is the last thing you both need right now, trust me.
Its been 2 months i have been begging and pleading, she is too much exausted from me now, i know 2 months is too much its my mistake, what to do now 😢
What's stopping you from sending that one text that's mentioned in the vid?
Know ur worth. Loving yourself first is a must.
True! And cutting off contact is the first step to doing that.
Hi brad! Can i message him after five months of begging and pleading? Our breakup happened 5 mnths ago..i sent him your clean slate email.. tried no contact for 1 mnth & then he started messaging me..he even wished me happy valentines..but then at the end of feb i losted my control & started sending him too many msgs..in march we started fighting..& i started forcing him to talk to me & all.. and then he blocked me from everywhere in april instead of whatsapp..he told me that he is commited..i still tried to make contact with him..should i msg him this? I dont know I should try or not..all ik is it was all my mistake..i was the one who broke up..and abused him..he still tried to make contact with me..he said sorry and everythg..he wanted to do friendship...but then suddenly i ws d one who always doubted him..i ws always d one who never trusted him..& now i think i losted a guy who never forced for anything..i always felt comfortable around him...i pushed him away..i love him..but i dnt thnk he will ever talk to me..i dnt know i should try or not..but all i know is one thng tht if i didnt..i will always have that one doubt..tht maybe i should've tried one last time..i am just afraid tht what if i tried everythg and he didnt came back? But on the other side i think tht i making a mistake by not trying one last time..what if i tried & our bond became stronger? Even i am not able to do my work..i am jst confused...he was a big supporter..i just feel lost..i need your private coaching..but i am just confused..all i know is my life is becoming hell without him
That's gonna have some consequences. Begging for months on end will only alienate an ex. With that in mind, it may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Update?
I sent this, and he left me on read.. no response. Now I’m on day 2 of NC.
Continue no contact for 30 days and see what happens
What ended up happening
It's too soon to be contacting her, so don't push it. Play your cards right and notice the world of difference that this can make. Stick to the "no contact" rule this time for at least 30 days. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ruclips.net/video/4gqo4RjqUpo/видео.html and this is the principle you ought to follow: ruclips.net/video/EfbgU7v0Ny4/видео.html A situation with an ex is often fragile, so you'd really want to omit, if not minimize these mistakes. Start with the 30-day straight "no contact rule. It’s one step forward, two steps backward with an ex & there are no unlimited chances with them, so if you can do it right moving forward, then do so. Check out my guide so you won't end up making the same mistakes. Good luck!
What if she respond immediately and asking, are we really done with our relationship? Since i'll give her what she wants, the time and space to think.
Tell her what you want and if she is not willing to be in relationship stop talking to her. After she contact you, ou ask her out if after 3 times you ask she say no stop asking her until she bring it up.
@@SimeonMiglic thank you bro. We're back together!
Should I text her during no contact, even though I didn’t beg?
I just sent him a message and he responded he knew i was under dures when i begged and there's no need pretending..and he wish me well too..this is after 2 weeks of breakup..
Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule - let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
the magical text message got me blocked lol
Which one
Brad my ex hates me, and I'm a frecuent person on this channel (I'm sorry), but I was wondering, what can I do to change that? I had male friends but was very posessive so he always got mad that I talked to them, I never flirt with anybody, he was my first and only boyfriend. I don't want him back but seeing him so mad at me and so cruel and different (angry, mad and sometimes depressed) makes me feel bad. Could I do something to change that? We had many fights so I feel really bad I hurt him. What could I do to fix it? Thank you
He's still thinking about you that's for sure, but couldn't seem to work it out. What were you two fighting about? It's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in your relationship. Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship,as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral.
Helpp me pleasee... After 3months of breakup I pleaded and begged so much and every time we talk i mess up and drama he told he don't love me anymore and there is no chance of getting back! I really messed up in these 3months.. Hell me brad we're in the same school what should i do i really miss him and want him back!!!
Rayane Moujaes
If you want him back why don't you try to hang around some other guy even if you don't like him? He needs to see that you moved on and that he doesn't matter to you anymore. Few people who keep begging and pleading for someone to want you back it's pathetic I'm sorry. Bottom line you want someone back you ignore them and you move on even if you don't like the new person let him see you with someone else let him see you that you forgot about him let him see you that you are happy without him.
@@theseattlegreen1871 the thing is that every time I feel jealousy i talk to him and mess up everything that was going right... I can't help myself not talking to him when i get jealous and angry
Rayane Moujaes
Then I'm sorry if you cannot control your emotions then you will have zero chance of ever getting him back and that's a fact
It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
What if I just went right into my no contact after not begging but just telling him I want to work on our marriage?? He didn't respond so I haven't contacted him in the past 2 weeks
That's a good start, Tara.
Hey Brad, I took your advice and sent the second message after being broken up for 2 days. He responded with “hi I hope you are okay.” Do I respond?
That's what I call the "check-in" text and believe it or not, your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message and when and/or how to reply, including what not to text, (so watch to the end of the vid) here: ruclips.net/video/tev2-lrJq7o/видео.html
She responded and said “what’s going on “? “And you coo I wasn’t really tripping “ should I respond?
If you've already cut off contact for at least 30 days, yes, you can respond. Otherwise it may not be a wise idea to do so unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ruclips.net/video/ek_4wpkV66c/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/видео.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses her power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ruclips.net/video/bgOG9s1fac8/видео.html
Hey brad! I hope you can read this and help me a little bit. Myex and i decided to "take a break" and it got a bit overextended. We still texted but no that much. The breakup was because we both got too neutral and distant. However she told me she was seeing someone else now and i begged and pleaded like crazy. Should i send the message and start no contact? Or just send the message and keep talking since its been so long after the breakup
The 30-day "no contact" rule can work for you in the following ways: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html Your ex is divertingher attention to someone else, which is the easiest thing to do and is really just his/her way of coping. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/7KE6nb4-ndA/видео.html So that's what you ought to be doing too. Here, watch this: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html so try to put your focus elsewhere because your ex is likely rebounding and you're only wasting precious minutes of your life worrying about something that's out of your control. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/TBtb34gy6zw/видео.html Now lastly, keep in mind that your ex is suffering too, even though they try to cover it up. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA
Hii Brad.First of all you are doing a great job by uploading solutions for many people.I have a girlfriend n she is attracted towards a guy whom loves her.But now she is confused between him and me.She said to me"I’m attracted to him but I love you.I feel like cheating on you by having attraction towards the other guy".And the most important thing is she said"We'll date for more one month n then we’ll breakup”.What should I do brad please help me.I’m really very confused.😔😔Should I date her for 1 month and make her feel special or Should I go for no contact rule.Please help❤️😔😔
Cut off contact first and let her really miss you. A key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing herself away from you.The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let her feel what it's like not to have you in her life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html
Don't listen to this guy man you should never want her back trust me. She will again repeat the same with the other guy. Your just a third wheel for her
What if the ex broke up with you because of financial stable?
You mean because of financial instability? On whose part? It depends because in most relationships, that part is easily manageable. Your ex is most likely lying about the reason of the breakup so try not to fall for that. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/ZuHWCWeG1xs/видео.html However, the bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and the golden rules here: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
So my ex moved back to her home town a state away and hooked up with a guy she said she had no interest in. The day before I found out she had called me talking about how maybe she was the toxic one, she's glad I'm doing well, and she was crying. A week ago she had texted me hypothetically taking over my lease because I made a mention of moving out. She didn't mention her man until I did. It's been over a month since she moved and if she wants to come having to me I don't know what the next step idms
Hi there! Getting an ex back is a gradual process, so there's no one-action solution for this. Okay? The "no contact" phase is a good start, so do that first if you haven’t yet, for 30 days. If you have, then I'm glad you've completed it. There are two more phases to go with a few other steps in between (in the right order). What I'm trying to say here is it's a 3-phase process, and it's a bit complicated to explain it all on here, but I made an overview in the hopes of making people understand, so watch it here: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html or read my guide for the entire process. Good luck!
she has bpd run away from her
Hi brad after we broke up, I went to a coffee-shop and accidentally my ex gf enemies met me there and she saw us, she did ignore me but later i got a message and she was angry - did that make her jealous should I repeat that and meet up with her enemy-friends again?
I think that's too obvious, man. Find someone new to help you build enough mystery. Getting with her "enemy friends" is just annoying and not to mention a little childish if you're doing it on purpose.
Hi Brad, I made the mistake of begging and pleading for almost 2 months after my bf of 10years brokeup with me.but then I found your channel and signed up for your guide. I've been no contact for 2 weeks and started it off with a text like you mentioned in this video. However I stated that I didn't want to talk for 30 days.(I sent my message before I found this type of video)Was that a mistake? He's a very independent and literal guy so I'm afraid he definitely won't reach out before that time and that this whole process is going to take even longer. We were on the verge of working things out but he still seemed distant and I wanted to take more time to work on myself so thought your no contact method would work for me. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you!
Not at all. Also, if you follow the guide down to a tee, you shouldn't run into any trouble since there's a part there where you will contact him, but only when the time comes so don't rush it. Review it again if you're having doubts on what to do.
@@BradBrowning thank you. I think I was just having some anxiety. I felt so much less anxious after watching and following the second video in the program. I had to meet up with my ex to exchange some much needed items today and it went well. I stayed strong and showed the positive changes I am making. I kept the meeting brief and I was even the one to end the suprisingly long hug he gave me before I left. He told me I can call him any time and I told him he could do the same. My intention though is to hit the reset button on the no contact for 30 days. Thank you again! No matter how this works out I'm glad I found your videos and program.
How did it work out for you
Hey brad. Need some help here. I did a period of no contact. And she started contacting me when her rebound relationship ended. Now she is stating she needs to heal from it, and find herself again. She is stating she is reaching out her hand for mine to help her. But also says mentally and emotionally she isn’t ready for a relationship, nor can promise me one. She is upset with me right now because I told her that I felt when she would ask for help with gas or food money while she was in a relationship it was in a way using me. She is distancing herself from me. And I’m just struggling with how to get over how she hurt me, and give a hand to help her, and help eventually get in a relationship again. Any advice please?
Just be wary of this first: ruclips.net/video/35Pxw6ZuD_M/видео.html If you keep helping her but not getting the commitment you deserve from her, then that is draining for you so you might want to lie low for a bit, especially if you see the signs mentioned in the vid.
Am about to send him the message after i broke the no contact a couplenof time during the 30 days and whatever the outcome i will just leave it and go on the no contact this time till i fully heal and move on and am hoping i find some1 else because being single and watching him with other women acting as if i never existed is whats killing me slowly 😢
Sorry to hear that but yes, it's crucial to take some time for yourself especially if you're having doubts. I suggest you watch this vid: ruclips.net/video/t6I5k55pnCE/видео.html
Me and my bf had an argument he is not replying to my text and i stopped texting him its been 2 weeks... He has my Instagram password he keeps login it and checking my chats with others... He says he dont care for me now then why is he keep logining in my Instagram and what should i do i dont see any hope plsss help me