One last note, this meeting format "Ask it basket" was pretty good. Sometimes, we would have a group conscience meeting on the fly and extend the meeting fifteen minutes !
How many newbies do you see that go months without a sponsor? My opinion (and I could be wrong) is that we need to proactively grab the newbies and lavish lots of attention. Doing 12th step work after the meeting, including casually volunteering to be a sponsor.
@@sunflowerz54 I've been with a sponsor for few months not started the steps he keeps telling me to meeting and make phone calls ,steps will start later
So if I have a different take, or someone was in error, how does one reply? Also, what if the question needs several minutes and some discussion to give a full answer (example, what is and how does one cultivate the proper mindset for steps 8 and 9 as far as handling difficult situations including hostility and rejection?) Does the panel just do the easier questions? Indeed, how would the panel handle my clearly interrelated questions here?
If more time is needed, it's after the meeting has ended. I have that on the last slide on this video. If someone is in error ? We didn't crosstalk, meaning we didnt start to argue or "correct" an answer. We tried to address all questions. Step 8 is about your willingness to make amends and the list from step 4. Step 9 is explained in the Bigbook, plus your sponser would help you. It clearly says not to make more harm by making half ass amends. In other words, the timing and opportunity will come. Mike
@@AA100011 After a meeting is the worst time to discuss things, cuz everybody is jaw-jacking, putting stuff away, or heading for the door. A newbie, especially, won't have the guts to pigeonhole somebody to ask a question, and he'd run the risk of getting a half-measured answer. Plus, he'd only get one opinion at best. Perhaps a way is needed to formally refer the question until later, with somebody (or several somebodies) tasked with answering. We all (hopefully) speak from our own experiences, with the humility to know that we all only know a little, and our brother may know things a bit differently. Also, not everybody has a sponsor. Having said all that, I understand that meeting size may necessitate measures of crowd control, like time limits. Here in interior Alaska we have the luxury of small meetings and we can do things you can't. The basket idea is a pretty good one and I'll put it up for discussion at one of our meetings.
@@hairy-one We did have a few questions run over after the meeting ended. The 2 person panel would normally discuss it with the person wanting more clarity. I have been to a "Ask it basket" meeting where the questions are from the Bigbook. In other words, the Bigbook would generate questions, and everyone had a shot at answering. After everyone answered, the ANSWER from the Bigbook would be referenced.
One last note, this meeting format "Ask it basket" was pretty good. Sometimes, we would have a group conscience meeting on the fly and extend the meeting fifteen minutes !
What a fantastic idea! Never thought of doing that. Thanks ❤
I would say the panel has discretion on rather to take the question or not.
Anything that gets newbies talking Sounds like a plan and they can always get a Sponsor.
How many newbies do you see that go months without a sponsor? My opinion (and I could be wrong) is that we need to proactively grab the newbies and lavish lots of attention. Doing 12th step work after the meeting, including casually volunteering to be a sponsor.
@@sunflowerz54 I've been with a sponsor for few months not started the steps he keeps telling me to meeting and make phone calls ,steps will start later
@@macncheese3598
Take the steps asap, get to step 12!
The take 12 steps again!
You need the power to stay sober- one day at a time.
Mike M
@@AA100011 my sponsor said keep coming to meeting and do phone calls after few months we did the first step over the phone but that's it
@@AA100011 one does one day at a time mean ?
Never mind. You lost me at back to basics. 😏
So if I have a different take, or someone was in error, how does one reply? Also, what if the question needs several minutes and some discussion to give a full answer (example, what is and how does one cultivate the proper mindset for steps 8 and 9 as far as handling difficult situations including hostility and rejection?) Does the panel just do the easier questions? Indeed, how would the panel handle my clearly interrelated questions here?
If more time is needed, it's after the meeting has ended. I have that on the last slide on this video. If someone is in error ? We didn't crosstalk, meaning we didnt start to argue or "correct" an answer. We tried to address all questions. Step 8 is about your willingness to make amends and the list from step 4. Step 9 is explained in the Bigbook, plus your sponser would help you. It clearly says not to make more harm by making half ass amends. In other words, the timing and opportunity will come.
Mike
@@AA100011 After a meeting is the worst time to discuss things, cuz everybody is jaw-jacking, putting stuff away, or heading for the door. A newbie, especially, won't have the guts to pigeonhole somebody to ask a question, and he'd run the risk of getting a half-measured answer. Plus, he'd only get one opinion at best. Perhaps a way is needed to formally refer the question until later, with somebody (or several somebodies) tasked with answering.
We all (hopefully) speak from our own experiences, with the humility to know that we all only know a little, and our brother may know things a bit differently. Also, not everybody has a sponsor.
Having said all that, I understand that meeting size may necessitate measures of crowd control, like time limits. Here in interior Alaska we have the luxury of small meetings and we can do things you can't.
The basket idea is a pretty good one and I'll put it up for discussion at one of our meetings.
@@hairy-one We did have a few questions run over after the meeting ended. The 2 person panel would normally discuss it with the person wanting more clarity. I have been to a "Ask it basket" meeting where the questions are from the Bigbook. In other words, the Bigbook would generate questions, and everyone had a shot at answering. After everyone answered, the ANSWER from the Bigbook would be referenced.
Bro how can I call you let me know,
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