Hey Steve: She’s Not in the Five Year Plan || STEVE HARVEY
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- Опубликовано: 5 сен 2024
- After the first date, she asked what he had planned for five years. It didn’t involve a relationship - should she be concerned?
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His 5year plan was there before you came along, the blessing is that he have a "plan", not a lot of men have a plan.
Now if you are the one he will make adjustment to his 5year plan just for you.
Sums it up
well said!!!
And it’s just the first date if I heard correctly
If he was meant to be yours he'll definitely be yours,so be patient.
"When man loves you, it ain't nothing he won't do for you. It's no limit" So true!!!
True, but he doesnt know her to say anything with her in it. Give him a few dates.
So true
@@diduknowfacts101I agree, to wait for 3 or 4 dates before he starts making plans is reasonable. However, I have heard so many stories of people who got married and the guy told the girl on the first date that he was going to marry her! I believe when you know, you know, but it won't be that fairytale for everyone, some girls just have to have patience until the guy makes a decision.
WTF 🤦 sometimes my female counterparts frustrate me. First date sis 🙄
I agree. I'm like damn you moving too fast too soon. I personally would wait a couple months at least but definitely not the first couple dates. She acts like he's supposed to say on the first date I want babies and a marriage with you. I personally would be running in the other direction.
@@xxnarutxx3938 facts! They not even jumping the gun. They be jumping the gun and the whole clip. I'm like dam.
Right.
Anyone else sad about Steve’s show being cancelled? 😢
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The Josh O Show yes meeee
Yes me
WHEN?!
What?! Why?? I just realized he had a show and come to RUclips for clips.
that's going to depress me
The guy didn't say or do something wrong, he just didn't tell her what she wanted him to say.
@Allen Reynolds Lol, dead wrong sir. There's no way I'd expect a guy to include me in his five-year plan when I just met him. I wouldn't even ask him that on the first date. There are other creative ways to ask questions without them even feeling like questions. 😃
@Allen Reynolds "That's basically all women". That's what I meant by you're wrong...hence I said I wouldn't expect a guy to include me in his 5-yr plan on the first date, also wouldn't even ask that question.
@Allen Reynolds I quoted your first comment above. "That's basically all women". Check it. You wrote ALL women, that's what I wasn't agreeing with.
She’s either going to be single for a looooong time trying to “find” her a husband or her desperation to be married is going to be picked up by the wrong man and she’s going to rush to marry the wrong man. I think Steve kind of dances around the question she looks like she doesn’t take hints well. Direct advice will help her. Take it slow.
He probably danced around the question because he might have been in the same situation before. Steve also mentioned how the guy didn't know what she wanted to hear. If the guy tells her something based off of what she wants to hear, that is not truthful and is very inauthentic. This man told her the truth, and his ultimate goal is different from hers, so she should not keep chasing someone who plans on leaving the country, while she has plans on settling down and having kids.
I am 21 years old and i have been proposed to more than 5 times and i said no, granted i am grafuating meds school jext year and am starting my own company i dont want marriage and i feel like these men are trying to trap me am from africa and am a muslim so saving yourself untill marriage is a big thing here .. so i dont know if they want me in the man and woman way or the ur a great catch way am i being paranoid?
@@zamzamalifarah8960 You are not being paranoid. If you feel that a man is not being authentic, and only wants to trap you, you are most likely right. You are doing well. When a good man comes along that truly sees you as a catch, you'll know it by his actions, and he won't be trying to force things so quickly. You sound like an awesome woman, so don't settle for less. Congratulations on your accomplishments by the way. That's some amazing stuff you are doing.
@@zamzamalifarah8960 You are in med school. You are not grafuating. You are graduating.
STEVE... YOU ARE EXACTLY RIGHT!!200%
First date:
Dear Diary met this guy hes fine, has a god job and we like the same things... He kissed me! I think im pregnant now, Im calling the wedding planning services tomorrow.... Already has a wedding dress in her closet.... Lmao!!! She is going way to fast!!!!! Chill ❄
Lol
Too fast
Sandra R. Morales 😂😂😂
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Steve, when are you going to tell those women the truth straight up? You danced around the answer. Tell her she's rushing way too fast, enjoy the dates and relax.
I think he did say that
I think she got that
Well In woman's mind they will think the plan is not included them
5 years and the guy says he going to move to somewhere
5 years is not a short time.
This lady thinks she is not the person in her boyfriend's plan
I do think this doesn't gone wrong
I think this is woman's tuition
Except they both have a conversation and communication
Find out what the guy really mean.
Steve Harvey you know all the answers your so wise.
Well she running fast😑.
After the first date? That's not nearly enough time for us to get a plan together.
She’s 30 and desperate. Her biological clocks ticking
shawn a lol
I said the same thing.
Lol, she's also looking in the wrong place and wrong age group for someone to settle down with apparently.
She better be careful or she will marry the wrong one.
She has about 15 years if she's healthy. She shouldn't be desperate.
Damn some woman get so ahead of themselves.
Damn, she hasn't even have a second date yet!! Calm down luv
Lady... CALM DOWN!
1:02 - 1:04
just pure wind between them ears
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Okay?
Lol
Steve gave bad advice this time. When someone tells you who they are, believe them. The guy said his goal is to travel, and she said her's is to settle down and have kids. So if she ends up falling in love with him, and he decides to move away and breaks her heart, he is going to mention how he told her about this in the beginning, which would be true. Thinking you can change someone's goals will lead to heartbreak and lots of issues. It's better to find someone that shares similar values AND goals.
AMEN. 👏👏💯🙋 No one else said it!
Thank you once again for you truthful insight... I think Steve is a little bitter... because I know he would have given her better advice than that... he tells us all the time "Don't let a man have to tell you more than once that he don't want you" orginally quoted by Judge Lynn Toler... Steve was wrong for scolding her for her asking that question and he specifically stated in HIS BOOK to ask that question on the FIRST DATE the irony... and she got the opposite answer of what she's looking for... I am so glad she looks like the type that don't fall for "trying to change a man" and then only get hurt because your head and heart knew he wasn't the one.. and Steve says that too... that "nothing compares to a women's intuition, God blessed us with such a powerful tool" - Steve Harvey... I don't think she needs to even hear Steve's advice but yeah I so agree with you... she should just move all the way on...
@@SpecialKRNB When did the guy say he didn't want her. Let be real for a moment you just met this girl/man and your suppose to tell her i see you in my 5 year plan even though you don't know the person 1 its either a lie to get the person to become interested or this person has some unseen agenda . looking at this situation i would be like that person crazy, that is like marrying a person you met yesterday. You guys just want to miss the point that she is thinking about her biological clock. Just to be frank if someone i didn't know said that they see me in their 5 year plan i would be a little freaked out because 1 i don't know the person so who knows what they have in stored for me
@@penlavits3305 First of all... no where in what she said, she wanted to marry the guy within the first five minutes of their first date.. secondly, she just needed confirmation on if she needed to continue to date him or not based off of what he initially told her... if you listen to the video again and listen carefully on what she said about her posing the question to him about HIS 5 year plan NOT hers with HIM... and she said initially he said that he wanted to move overseas and he proceeded to ask her the same exact question what was her 5 year plan and she told him marriage and a family and then she said that he mentioned the same that he wanted marriage and a family and it kind of threw her off when she originally asked him that question he didn't say anything about him wanting marriage and family just residing overseas..until AFTER he asked her.. which caused him to back-track in which it places him into a deceptive position... trust it is men that are out there that does that to hold a woman down and sabotage her happiness instead of letting her go and I can almost bet if she stays... highly doubt she will... she definitely trusts that instinct... (We as women KNOW whether or not a man is the one for us WAY before he even realizes it... it's just that some women choose to ignore it and some women like this lady and myself... had to learn to trust it... go with what our instincts are telling us and 100% of the time it tells us everything we need to know about a man be it good or bad and 10/10 it is ALWAYS right because the women that chose to ignore it before like myself again... had to the learn the hard way... found out just how wrong he really is and how right our intuition was all along... instead of believing what we don't see... we rather see for ourselves being hard-headed and here comes destruction... like an older person told me once before "warning comes before destruction" and those words alone is so true.. but I Thank God to have learned my lesson and trust what God himself has placed in us as women for our safety and protection) by her going on the Steve Harvey show this can give him more of a chance to be dishonest and start telling her EXACTLY what she wants to hear thus producing a broken heart on her part... I've seen this played out before... and I personally and honestly believe that she is doing herself a service by simply walking away... you men have got to understand that... YOU may see our women's intuition as irrational or crazy or lunacy but once we begin to trust it and be lead and guided by it...it saves us so much time, effort, emotion, and any other negative thing that is brought our way by the wrong man or the man that isn't for us and it allows us to rest comfortably, securely, and safely in the arms of the right man that was right for us all along... and it is okay that you don't believe it... live your truth... we the men and women who believes in it will live our truth...
@@SpecialKRNB Ok... you said that women know before men know. I have a question for you i met this girl at university through someone i knew we were both freshmen we met like only once in person however i didn't stay long i left to go about registration anyway i didn't meet her again anyway the guy that i was with told me that she asked me how i was doing and later that year when semester ended she asked him for my number which he gave now. Initially i didn't think much of it but i thinks she likes me but i am not sure been wondering for sometime now but i could just be reading into it too much after all people exchange numbers all the time so she may have just wanted my number because i seem like a nice/ok person. So does all this mean that she likes me or am i thinking to much by the way i not looking for a relationship at the moment just working on self improvement and those things will come after. with all that said i am of the understanding that girls and boys can't be friends unless they aren't attracted to each other. She also messages me 1st most of the time .let me add that she is wife material but like i said i am not ready for a relationship. So i don't want to ask then she wants to start a relationship and i am not about it at the moment. what are your thoughts ?
Wow, unbelievable, a first date now means marriage and kids.
It does when you're desperate as hell.
Why is this girl thinking about long range planning after ONE DATE??? Total stalker!!!!
Steve, I wish your show was on the air over 35 years ago when the Lord sent me my soulmate and I didn't know what I know now. He was the one that loved me so much that he would have done anything to keep me. Your show may be going off the air but I hope you still have RUclips to show your excellent advice. Well done Steve!!!
She just met him and wants him to include her in his life plans? 🤦🏾♂️😂
Asking someone if they have a 5 year plan is a legitimate question. Who you have around you (friends, co-workers, teachers, etc.) can and usually does affect your life. Someome with no direction will put a strain on those around them - most people I know who struggle don't have one; I did not have one until recently and usually made life unmanageable. As a man hoping to find that special someone to share the rest of my life with, I need to have my ducks in a row; offer a better potential for a good future vs "winging it". Now when asked if I have a 5 year plan I can answer the question and have a better feel on where things may go, if at all.
How are you gonna try to make make him include you in his 5 year plan when you just met him? makes no damn sense once so ever
They approached the 5-year question from two different angles. He approached from the professional/career perspective; she approached from the domestic/family life angle. They are not mutually exclusive.
The guy didn't accuse her of being laid back devoid of ambitions outside the home. She should extend to him the same measure of grace.
She has a question for him and an answer already in her head. So why ask him the question?
Steve's right about her blocking her own blessings. Get over yourself and get to date 2 first. She'll be fine, just let it be what it can be.
When she said okay 💀💀💀💀
Hehehehehehe
Best Carefully Advised.
So then leave him alone
dance4life1208
Wise sister, men like that won’t fool with ya 😂. She looks naive.
The woman is caught up in a love at first sight fantasy.
The initial crowd reaction, or lack thereof, tells me that they were wanting/expecting Mr Hightower to rag on the guy. I'm glad he knew better and went the other way.
Stay blessed Mr Rad 🙏
I'm glad that didn't happen, too many times you here the women side of meeting someone, and the one time it doesn't work out, the man gets ridiculed, and called all kind of names, and the man is not there to defend himself.
@@The1baddman preach
I sometimes understand why the decent men are so paranoid. She made a decision early on, often what looks good to you isn't good for you. What happened to getting to know each other?
Yhe...some women can be quick to write of good men.
Nikolaiwww we do that often
You seem really nice and polite, look like a great woman.. Enjoy the dating first and let things unravel slowly. Guys like a woman who knows she wants, the trick though is to let us discover.. Don't force feed to us
Cheers
AMEN......STEVE when a man loves you there isn’t anything that he want do for you !
When you ask any guy you're dating that kind of questions this early, you're going to scare him away. He'll believe that you're crazy.
First, get to know each other a little more. Have a bunch more dates, see how you feel about each other after maybe six months. There'll be ample opportunity to ask such questions later!
One of your best suggestions ever yes When a Man Loves a Woman there is no limit if she says that's getting married tomorrow he says okay if she says what's your Five-Year Plan if he loves it he say whatever you want it to be thank you for sharing have a wonderful Memorial Day holiday God bless you stay happy
god, what’s the rush, you’re not even dating yet. First encounter doesn’t equal to i’m gonna marry you.
Biologic clock ticking. She's been having fun in her 20s, now she want's a family, found a guy that looks good and is stable to afford one and he's the success object she needs to make her plans come true. It's completely self motivated on fear of being old and selfishness of wanting her dream come true without consideration for her potential partner's dreams.
He has money and she's trying to tie him down before he realises how annoying she is and changes his mind
Y'all reaching... she's just simply asking the guy a simple first date question in which Steve Harvey himself told women to ask on the first date.. and she's trying to UNDERSTAND simply if she should even continue to DATE the guy further... if she does personally she's gonna be wasting her time... now if he mentioned a family and kids prior when she orginally asked that question and she seeks advice stating that when should he pop the question after the FIRST DATE... then I'll say she's moving way too fast... but simply asking a question and getting to know someone and finding out where their heart lies and finding out whether or not you're compatible...that's not desperation that's her making her next move based off of his HONESTY... now he did try and back track which I quote Jude Lynn Toler, "Don't let a man have to tell you more than once that he don't want you" and Steve mentions this a lot too..if he backed-tracked then he will be in the realm of "deception" or "leading her on" or any other dishonest terms.. so her simply asking that question and him simply answering the question tells her everything she needs to know that first date that it shouldn't be a second because it will be pointless from that moment on because now he's going to be dishonest and deceptive moving forward... or as Steve puts it, "Telling her what she wants to hear" in order to keep her around a little longer so he can play or toy with her emotions.. but I can tell she seems like the moving on type once she has all her answers answered and it is not similar to hers... #js I think she's WISE for moving on..
@@SpecialKRNB That would be a simple question. "Do you want a family and kids?" She took the back door then got mad that it wasn't open
She probably think she's pregnant if he kiss her.
Steve Harvey gives the best advice.
Steve was really on point with this one
You dropped the ball on this one, uncle Steve. This is a red flag from the jump. No good can come from this.
I'm telling you... for real... and I agree with you 100%
I seriously need an uncle like uncle Steve!!!
sefakor fiadjoe wow you pretty are you single married
You know that 6th sense every woman has got?
It never ever lies. Love may subdue it. Lust may subdue it, but hey, if you don't take the warning and counsel your 6th sense is giving you, trust me, you may fail.
That 6th sense doesn't just scare you from trying, it actually informs you and counsels you towards the right path.
As a lady, I've vowed never to shut down my 6th sense coz it has never failed me.
I did so in the past and failed, I've learned and unlearned and at this instance of growth equilibrium, I respect my 6th sense enough not to ignore it's signals but to listen to it's counsels for positive out come.
Same here... but she responded and said she actually went on a 2nd date with the guy and 3rd date underway... hopefully, she be careful... because now he has so much leverage to lie to her just to cater to her specific needs.. it is a lot of pretenders out there in the dating world and it has gotten so much worse they wait to show them true colors well after marriage now... that 6th sense saves our lives as women like you I failed to trust it but I learned my lesson quick, fast, and in a hurry... I really was hoping she wouldn't have gone on a second date with him... but ah well... we all live and learn
Steve . I love you man . . Im leave in iran . . We love you man . .
Be thankful he was honest about his plan, he probably doesnt even know your interested in him yet. Listen to uncle steve!
LET HIM GO BABY! HE IS TOOO YOUNG!!!!
He's 30...
She the same age. Lol. U ok?
That's what I said. Most 30-yr old men aren't thinking of marriage like that.
Sura Amenra LOL that’s the point love 😂
@@AW-mc9xw Your comment sounds problematic.
Steve please start a hey steve style show next!!!
From the way she is speaking, she is way more into him than her.
Warrior Of Allah nah she bugging just the first date
Don’t rush thing cause you want them. Watch and see how things turn out.
I can only understand her being skeptical because he said he wants to move out of the country in a year. And she knows now that she couldn’t ever do that if they’re together.
One date and she wants him to commit to all of her. She wants the best of everything in her man but isn't the best herself.
I think she needs to find out how well they get along first, before wanting to know if she's in a 5 year plan. At 30, she's not old like that , no need for the rush; better safe than sorry.
I'm currently learning english. So when I have time to spare I used to watch Mr Harvey show as he is fun and I thoroughly enjoyed his show. It helps me to improve my american english.
He said in 1:10 " He don't know you..."
It should be "he doesn't know you.."
I'm quite confused.
Is that a mistake Mr Harvey didn't notice or do people speak sometimes in an informal way like that?
It's an informal way of language in conversation with someone else such as slang... normally... we write the English language in its proper form but as we speak we tend to do without the proper English order of words, and sentences, syntax, and so forth... but you said it perfectly...
@GG T87 awww... we're all not so bad.. I mean Steve did mention that he was not a fan of school... and it doesn't negate his intelligence at all... it's just that we as Americans are still learning many forms of proper English verbally and nonverbally... I mean look at Michelle Obama and Barack Obama as examples and many other intellectual African-Americans... but as I said Steve is still intelligent in his own right...
@GG T87 Thank you for your adise ;)
Cheers mate -*
she's like I'm 30 I'm ready to get married now.. him: but it's the 2nd date.. she's like "damn all that", wife me! 💍😂 I feel her..
I don’t think the lady had expected to be in his 5 year plan. How could she after one date? I thought she was referring to the fact that he hadn’t talked about marriage or kids in his 5 year plan.
This is exactly what I've been saying! People really don't get it 🤦 It's like some of them don't have comprehension skills. She just wants to know of having a wife/marriage is in his general 5 yr plan, along with the travel (because it might not be)
One date... And you expect hin to include you in his plans....
I would hate to be in his shoes, for the honeymoon!!!😱😱😱😱🇬🇹🇺🇸
Well said steve
Y'all just..met... expectations, expectations. Listen to that intuition not everything he's telling you.
Forget IT!
The guy has no mistake
her issue is she is in her making babies phase, she just wants a man for kids that all.
I remember my 30's grl n ooooh!!! U needs to enjoy them 30's.
Dats all...
That 30 year old wall's kicking in kids lol....
Biological clock is all she is thinking about just to be frank she said she is 30 and that means she is at the wall. His 5 year plan decreases her chances to have kids if she decides to wait that is why she is wondering if she should invest time or not. This is why women shouldn't waste their 20s on alpha males because when it comes to having kids or having something stable its the beta males that can provide that. I hope it works out for her. Because by the time women hit 30 they start looking for the "good men" i.e the beta males who have a good stable jobs/careers that can provide for her and their kids.But sadly enough most of them are already taken,and thus the search continues for them up into their 40s. Which most women should know is that with age their beauty or ability to attract a man declines so if they wait too long the most they will be able to attract is the alpha males with no job or stable income some say they marry down if they can't find a man at their level or beyond their level. Men are visual creatures we do not care about what your dreams are and your fantasies when we first meet you. What we see is something that catches our eye and we go after it that is just how it works. Look at it this way ,who do you think has better chance of attracting a male; a women in her 30s or a women in her 20s ? if some people want to argue about well if the woman carries herself well and looks like she is in her 20s. While then just to fix that lets say 40s and 20s respectively. The woman in her 20s will attract the male almost every time but of course this all depends on the male. That is he may like older women just because its its something he may or may not find attractive mainly the idea of an older woman could be the thing that turns him on. Anyway what i want to reinforce is that women shouldn't waste their time on males that won't take them anywhere but this all up to women and whatever their current goals are in those moments. In the end the women who find the hard working boy in the class as unattractive and would rather have fun with the stud find out at an later date that that hard working student will someday be the best possible mate to have kids with if they want to have s good life wear she is support financially and not having to worry about things other than what color paint to have the wall done in Rather than the alternative where she is stuck with a kid and the dad isn't there because he left her the moment he found out or the father can't support her because he doesn't have a stable job even though her trying his best but with all this said and done its really up to the females when it comes to having a good life for the rest of their days above ground breathing and reproducing.
@@penlavits3305 exactly bruh. The wall is undefeated. Theses overgrown girls play around clubbing their most prime years away and then try to pull a fast one on nature in their 30s lol. Choose a career or a family. Almost impossible to maintain both past 5-10 years tops without eventually getting a divorce or having a miserable marriage
Steve is one million percent correct.
My first item on my five year plan is my next cup of coffee. Excuuuuuuse me. ☕
He doesn't know yet🤔 my lady take it slow😆😊
On the first day! Damn! Enjoy the dates first and just going out
She's going to lose this dude once his crazy-dar kicks in and she doesn't slow down or he is going to stay too long before it's too late to move on. SMH
Too, too fast!
"He's well off" was the first thing she mentioned... sack chasin... I will continue to save my money and let MY finances serve ME!
Name of dating is a Gamble babe
If he like you enough to love you he'll stay with you or bring you.
I am a big fan from kuwait
A lot of yall are missing it. She wants to physically carry a baby and get married. Y'all want her to have a baby toooo late. Difficult pregnancies can break you and your relationship or marriage. We both 30. You like 30 year old women but you don't think about her biological clock. If he wanted a 20 year old, then his flexible time table for kids would be decent. Yes they could adopt but she clearly wants to carry a baby. She is basically cool with seeing where this goes if the at least want to be on the same page. She knows she ain't Sarah from the bible. Unless she marries uber rich to have fertility treatments and the best doctors she needs her love life in order to get her baby on time. That's what she wants. Ppl accept everything else nowadays but traditional views.
Amen! 👏🙏💝
Asking a guy his 5 year plan on your first date was too much, she’s hasty and like desperate
I think the title of this video is misleading. She's wondering about the fact that he doesn't have marriage at all to any woman in his plans, not to her.
It is.. and she said she wants to know if it's a good idea to continue to date a man who didn't mention wanting marriage and a family in his 5-year plans... it's that people in these comments automatically came to their own negative conclusions without listening to what she actually said not what Steve implied..I don't know why they was making her seem desperate. #smh but she did mention in the comments she went on a 2nd date with the guy.
DAMN!! when i heard her say FIRST DATE my mind almost hit the floor from my face-palm. WTF LADY!?!? Yeah, you're into him. But you're not into HIM. You don't even know him and he's already ticking off all your boxes? More like he ticked a very specific box just the way you like and the rest of your list is smudged with mascara sweetheart. You have serious emotional disregulation if you are already thinking about kids and marriage on the FIRST F'n DATE. "Oh, he said he might travel, so I guess since I want kids in 5 years and it didn't make the list for him, we are incompatible". Someone shake this girl. She's not skeptical at all. She's SCARED.
What she needs to be doing is showing him she's indispensible and not easily replaceable. Lock that guy down by being a part of his life not just a series of holes that laughs at his jokes. If you help him on HIS come-up, you will also rise with him. If you help him, his 100% will turn into 120% and he will bring you love, babies, and a secure home just like you need and want. THAT is how you find a husband. BUT you won't if all you care about is what he offers to YOU. "uh oh he doesn't have baby fever so i won't even give him a second date" is so... ugh sometimes I just see women sabotage their lives out of neuroticism, can't stop their brain or their anxiety and act out of emotional reaction instead of really considering what's going on. She's already imagined 5 years with this guy... k i'm gonna stop this is stressing me out. like wtf lady
I hope dude sees this so he can RUN! RUN FAST! Why would she think she should be a part of his 5 year plan when they JUST started dating? That makes NO logical sense. She's crazy...
When he decides you’re the one he will make his plans work for you. My husband said a lot of things that he’s now doing different.
Hello Steve. If one works with the federal government one does not know in which country one may be sent. This happened to me.
That dude needs to run, no marriage no kids. Mgtow
@Keeper Of The Reaper I don't know if you know this but their was a video i watch on this where sperm donors where tracked down by the receiver or child and required to pay child support lmao. A contract is the best way if you want kids.
Sisssss 😂😂 slow TF down!
So true Steve
Great advice
Wow slow down please
Is she crazy? She met the guy once and wants to be included in his plans for the next 5 years?! Damn talk about insecurities!
30 for me as a man and 30 for you as a woman is much different. I’m not scared to death of my biological clock and my success in womanhood being a function of getting a husband and child. I’m 30, well off, built a lot , and I am deciding where I Wana put my home base at. And that’s gona be decided before I pick a woman, there’s women everywhere 🤷🏾♂️
She's way ahead of herself
Y'all had one or two dates and expect to be in his 5yr plan but wasn't so you have major concerns? 🤔 I'd tell my child to leave the relationship. That's just desperate and crazy...only the beginning of the crazy too. 😬 SMH
If u are concerned about it, there is your answer!
Nah I think she just knows what she wants and she’s checking if he’s compatible, she’s not saying she wants family with him, she wants family and someone that moves away doesn’t fit the bill
How abt he includes you in his lifetime plan...Just don't rush it and good luck
1st date ? She knows his core value n belief in the 1st date ?
I see why she don’t have no man look at how the way she thinks 👎🏾
Wow, that's a mean assumption
You guys don't know each other to be in each other's five year plan.
I disagree with Steve in this video!!(smh). It was good that she asked him what was his five year plan on the first date or after. For right now, it looks like this beautiful young woman 🌼 and the young man don't want exactly the same thing. She is not trying to be in his five year plan!! She just wants to know what does he plan to do in the next five years! But, she can date him and continue to talk just to see if it turns into a relationship. If it turns into a relationship with them, then maybe he will not relocate to another country, stay close to her region, and tell her that he too would eventually like to be married 💍 and have children.
Not necessarily he just answered her question honestly as a man on what his goals were
She already thinks he's a very good catch ... And the reason she has doubts is because she's doubting her self worth.
This 5 years plan question is meant to make women see if a man has any negative, non-negotiable thing to say.
No smart, emotionally stable man will say he wants you to be his wife on a first date ..
That's a beautiful woman.
Everyone's 5 year plan isn't going to be exactly like yours. Also plans change. Most men, depending on their age, probably doesnt have marriage in the plan. Doesnt mean he won't. Marriage is something you can't really put a time on. If the right one comes along and that's part of his "life plan", he will do it.
I'm fine with saying my five year plan on the first date, however it doesn't mean YOU will be in that five year plan because we just met. It's not like you can't be added to the plan. That man didn't say anything that would make him not qualified for the second date, in my opinion... take a seat and enjoy the ride miss before you ruin something that could be good