Has anyone had moments where it feels like your personality disappears and you have nothing to say? Anything you do say is forced and fake and you feel disconnected from others and self conscious. I've had it happen a lot lately and it makes convos very awkward, and I feel inauthentic, unhappy and self critical after :/
Aria Targaryen she has a video titled "Do you need space? If so, you're being inauthentic" that outlines that dynamic. Maybe you've already found it. Hope this helps.
I've watched it and yeah, I feel much more "myself" and aligned with my purpose after some alone time, especially if it's spent doing creative stuff or being in nature. If I even imagine being watched by someone, I change my behavior, and I tend to hide myself and projects I make from people (fear of judgement). How can I be around other people (no matter who) how I am with myself? I have trouble connecting and even staying consistent with my values around others (I'll even eat something I'm allergic to if offered so I don't come off as picky)
Aria Targaryen there are several things that could be going on. Depersonalization, the loss of a sense of self and; derealization, the sense of not being engaged fully in reality can have many causes. Most commonly it is caused by dissociation, a defense mechanism where the conciousness narrows or retreats. It is 'zoning out' to an extreme degree. This doesn't mean there is something wrong with you, but is your mind's way of protecting your personality. Consider what external influences might be triggering your defenses. Is it social situations, or only dealing with certain people, or even being alone. I highly recommend nature, it doesn't have any expectations
Leeor Alexandra same here! Your turn next girl! You definitely have your authenticity on the screen 😄 I don't know why every time I try to share with RUclips, I feel I'm not able to be authentic (maybe I'm just nervous? idk) Namaste 😊
You can only experience what is your "self". All information we carry (all forms of memory/form), is what we have gathered. Authenticity could be measured by where we get our instructions. Identifying the sources of our impulses requires observation. Believe that beneath the layers of drama happening within us is a mass of unconscious intelligence that is building us from within, and is trying to not only heal, but blossom chemically into bliss. This is why we sit comfortably, legs crossed at ankles, spine comfortably erect, breath and just let grace happen here. Mind is busy because we put external conditions on heal+ process. Things will 'come up', and it's ok to shift around, stand up, and look at any physical obstacles happening of coarse. Just get as close as possible without pain, relax, sit up, enjoy. Things in the body will start moving. Pay attention. Adjust when pain is felt, and follow pleasantness. The first step is really just sitting comfortably. Don't think "spiritually". Just get a good seat going. Yeah then, enjoy your new home.
Yes, why does it go away? I was like this when I was a teenager.. I guess I went through some trauma, and needed to hide, because my true emotions my true self was to painful for me to bare.. But I am coming back too
What causes inauthenticity? Judgement, shame, no self-worth, other emotional traumas causing: people pleasing behavior, not speaking, tension, repression (internalised). This is the essence of pavolvian conditioning, we act according to the behaviors that were emotionally rewarded and dont act in the ways we were punished from. Solution is to heal the original triggers.
I 100% agree with this. I learned to make myself little. Not think great of myself, put my own needs aside, to be overly humble and be like «sorry i exist» to say The least it has got me nowhere. I have always been people pleasing, and i will get walked over and used. I am 32 now and working on myself. Building myself of to The person i was born to be. Be my authentic self, and dont be ashamed of who that is. Not all people will like me, but that is not my responsible and it wont hurt me if i stay true to myself.
@@Malin0908Hey man I am going through the same now. I am 17 and I noticed I was people pleasing and thinking too much of what others think of me. This made me inauthentic, or at least I feel that way. How are you doing now? Do you have any advice that can help on my journey to become authentic again?
+Jayce Gwynn this doesn't invalidate the video, it just makes teal look shitty. but the things she said in this video are still mostly true and it is valuable advice. also, you got me curious. is there some kind of huge compilation of sources for everything she's done that you listed here? like a content cop or something. i'd like to see one
It's normal for teenagers to be inauthentic the social life and connections are as important as oxygen I was in every clique imaginable partly so I didn't have to face myself I think being inauthentic is only a real problem after 18
The part where you talk about how tense you feel when you know you are being watched really resonated with me. Something I've noticed is I have really good balance - until I think about somebody (imaginary or real) watching me. For example, if I am in flow state I can ride my bike with no handlebars, and stand on one leg in a yoga pose, for a long time. However, as soon as I become self-conscious I lose my inner equilibrium and wobble. This has made me wonder in what other ways does being self-conscious affect my state, and expression of it.
When I was very young I invited a friend over to my house. (Side note. My friends family was way wealthier than my own) My mom cleaned our house before she came like she never cleaned it. She spoke to me kindly and offered to order pizza. Acted involved with my brother and myself. And I lost it. My mother left her "t.v room" maybe once a week. Rarely spoke to her children, didn't care what or if we ate, and was generally not kind. I lost it because of how much of a facade she was putting up. I was Maybe 8 or 9 a d I was getting upset because I couldn't tolerate how phony she was being. If she was so ashamed then why only work on things when someone else was looking. . .. my friend and I went to a park, I wasn't allowed to have friends over for the rest of my childhood. I also never put up a front. It's gotten me in serious trouble (esp at work), it's permitted me to get hurt, but I get genuinely upset by inauthenticity. . .I know no one will read this, just remembered this moment when I started watching this and I wanted to put that memory out there
That’s brilliant, good for you. May I ask, do you still feel like you are fighting the world? I hope not. Why I’m commenting, is we can get stuck in that mode. I’m an old guy, and my wife still doesn’t feel safe with me. She is so scared of childhood criticism and abandonment. That she can’t let her guard down, her protective shield. No one is allowed to get close enough to hurt her. ❤
Timestamps 0:00 Intro 1:25 Why We Are Not Authentic 4:30 Step 1 Congruency of Inner & Outer World 6:23 Step 2 Conscious Authentic Expression 7:48 Step 3 Be Willing To See Yourself As Bad 9:55 Step 4 Be Willing To Be Vulnerable 11:22 Step 5 Know and Admit Your Feelings 12:54 Step 6 Become Aware Of Your Thoughts & Beliefs 13:34 Step 7 Objective View Your Life 16:16 Closing
Every video I watch: "To understand this concept I'm talking about, watch another video" **me happily going down a rabbit hole with a spoon in my mouth**
"Whatever you're trying to defend is the vulnerability you need to be authentic about" WAIT A MINUTE TEAL! Don't just casually continue talking after that sentence. Give us a couple of hours to process lol
@@3zooz17 lm actually just starting to tey and understand these concept. I lived unconsciously and unaware. My coping mechanism was depersonalization and denial because l had no where to receive love acceptance or understanding. So no. I dont know how to differentiate between ego amd vulnerability. I just feel hurt.
Great video Teal. This is currently my journey. I took on the "guarded, quiet, shy girl" mask due some child hood issues. I am in the process of releasing that, coming out of my shell, speaking up and just doing what I need to do for me and not anyone else's comfort it's a process, but I'm coming a long. And you're videos have helped A LOT!!
I think I took on that mask as well. Any reasons what kind of childhood issues cause that? I'm lost, trying to find the reason as well as releasing it..
I have the same mask and I'm learning more and more about what caused this. I've been unhappy with this mask my entire life and I've been trying to be more myself. Although it has gotten a lot better (compared to when I was a kid) I'm still struggling a lot with it
I so relate to that! I was an outgoing rambunctious child before the world beat me into submission, making me quiet, nervous, shy and unhappy later to become extremely depressed. The only times I have felt happy are the few times I felt safe enough to express my true self. I'm learning about Jungian, depth psychology to help understand myself better. Plus watching Teal Swan and other spiritual and/or psychological healing videos. I'm not spiritual but there is still plenty to learn from people like Teal Swan. It just annoys me when people use the word 'vibrations' and all its variations, lol.
For me I think I kind of lost myself as a little girl being the eldest sister in a single parent house hold. Always had to look after my disabled brother and sister. I got so use to just being in service to others that I never developed my own preferences, opinions etc let alone sharing my inner world. Now at 21 I feel so alone and tired, my whole life has evolved around adjusting to other people that I don’t know who i am. I’m trying to heal and allow myself to play a bit.
Throughout my short-lived spiritual journey, I kept returning to the conclusion that "self-love" is really just accepting the good and bad parts of myself. But EXPRESSING those parts without self-judgment is so much closer to the authenticity you discussed in this video. Thank you, Teal!
Well, that explains why life is so painful. Society has literally everything wrong. No wonder I've always felt I'm born on the wrong planet. This backwards civilization is in the emotional dark ages. Thank you Teal. Every one of your videos helps me immensely and I'm so glad you are out there working to tear down barriers to awareness.
10:53 one of the best ways to express yourself authentically is to ask yourself, in these scenarios you get yourself into, what is the opposite of defending myself right now or what is it I am trying to defend? Whatever you are trying to defend is the vulnerability you need to be authentic about.
The person who maintains their complete essence they came into this life with the clarity of a child without fragmenting .. the one that can last the longest into their lifetime despite major challenges seriously deserves a prize
A week ago I realized that I have never been truly authentic in all of my life, even though I always believed I was. Now I am on a journey to uncover the "real" me. This video was more helpful than you can imagine! Thank you from my heart.
yes it is really hard to find out who you really are - you can pray to Angelic forces to help because it is hard to do this without the help of higher powers than yourself/your self
i'm 24 now, and basically i was sick until 22, bed-ridden most of the time and in a lot of pain. i remember when i first started to genuingly feel better (not band-aid fixes) and i was getting stronger i got excited, 'oh boy i'm starting to have a body strong enough to go out there and try things and explore and really get to know who i truly am, i'm so excited!' and today i'm still excited, but oh boy when i wished to truly get to know myself, everyone talks about how great it is to be authentic but no-one warned me of the depth of my shadow! feelings i disowned, ways i purposefully hurt ones i loved and actually wanted to cause them pain, tons of sexual feelings, etc. i think if you set out on the journey to be authentic and you're doing it right you'll realize it's very tough and scary and vulnerable, not as easy as i had thought! but so far it's worth it, i'm loving exploring my light and my shadow instead of feeling numb all the time sick and bed-ridden. bring it on life!
I am manifesting my twin flame here that he is also Teal’s follower . Teal you have no idea how much I relate to your teaching and knowing myself more ❤ Thank You Goddess
Incredible information density - I have to pause and/or replay often to follow her swift train of thought. 3:17 Comments about ignoring our vulnerability was brilliant, and glossed over too quickly IMHO. 7:35 Outstanding take on denial and shame. 11:20 "We are living in the Emotional Dark Age" 16:16 "Authenticity is the highest state a person can achieve. In the years to come, "Authenticity" will replace the concept of "Enlightenment" as the true goal of "Spirituality".
The significant point missing here is that those who have been raised to be inauthentic in order to be safe in their family or community do not have a clue who they are by the time they reach adulthood. They may not even know that they have lost themselves or who it was they lost. The best advice I was given decades ago while struggling with this is to think of myself as a toddler & try to capture the essence of that person.
Thank you for addressing the very important fact of viewing children as in need of being moulded, when in reality they often are the most interesting beings to have a conversation with! Keep it coming!
When I'm with someone who says or does something that doesn't feel in harmony with me, depending on the situation, I will try to immediately tell them what I saw/heard from them (instead of me being silent, and holding resentment, etc. about them), and I'll ask them what they are trying to convey by doing/saying what they did (I'll ask them without any emotion, and, instead, just being factual). They respond, how they want to, and I tell them what doesn't fit with me (kindly said, but not directed at what they're doing 'wrong'), and let them own it/react to it, etc. I observe their choices in the initial expression (that felt inharmonious to me), and I don't attach emotion to what their response is to me, after asking them what they are trying to convey. They usually get to see from my perspective, without saying harsh words to me, and we engage in a level-headed discussion about the matter. There's no judgment on my part, and, so, no emotion/reaction/expectation. Sometimes, I learn that what they meant, is not what they initially seemed to express, and they get to see things from my perspective, too. And, when they tell me that it IS about what I felt/thought that it was about, then they can have opportunity to choose what they want to with the knowledge discussed, and they will, many times, tell me that they will act better in the future. It ends up all being about communicating, and understanding a fellow wanderer. We all say/do things that are not in harmony with those around us; when someone engages us in conversation about it, we can have a transparent conversation, with no judgment, about the matter, instead of being silent, which, actually, encourages the inharmonious behavior from the other person to continue with us, and others. An example: At work, a co-worker might gossip often with another co-worker, and then do so with me about the boss. I don't care for gossip, and I ask them why they are telling me gossip about the boss. S/he says that they're so frustrated with him, and it helps to get it off their chest by telling me and others. I say that after listening to him/her complain about the boss, that I understand completely that they could be frustrated with the boss (if I did understand). And then, I'd tell him/her that if I were the boss, that I'd like to hear it to my face about what my employee isn't happy with, with me. The person might get angry, etc., at me, but they'll understand that I want them, the boss, and me to be respected, by our relating openly with each other. And, there's a good chance that they'll want to find ways to have harmony at work. And, they might feel an ease about having a level-headed discussion about how to go about actually talking to the boss about their concerns.
I just want to applaud you on your bravery and forthright nature here I have only had the pleasure of meeting a few individuals in my lifetime like you Many times when l'm acting out or have in the past, l am simply in need of a hug or reassurance That being said, not everyone is ready to face the pain they have learned to internalize their whole lives through conflict resolution It can definitely be a struggle which is why the best approach to mediation is amongst two level headed, fully healed adults If l was confronted with some of my past toxic behavior, l would delve into a state of extreme shame and most likely become aggressive and combative You critiqued my behavior and the message l recieved was: "My behavior was bad, so l too, must be bad" this translates to the reappearance of childhood feelings of unworthiness We're all deserving of love 💘 Some of us are just a bit further along in our self love journey than others Anyways, l think what you're doing is very commendable. I just didn't want you to be surprised if your valiant efforts are met with defensiveness and resistance It is very hard for some people to take ownership of their own behavior. However, by choosing to do so, we can change the entire course of our life which is truly beautiful
Dear Irene This thread is the unexpected dessert that I didn't know I needed after this killer meal of a video, and I hope that a whole lot more people end up reading this. I needed this, to read about your perspective/take on raw, powerful, honest communication. Often, when I watch Teal's videos, I'm left with this feeling that all that instinctive, almost cosmic, knowledge and all these ways of thinking & perceiving (also visually - the pictures she's using while analysing are a perfect example) were already inside/a part of me, she just amazingly found the right words to form these sort off instinctual images/feelings/perceptions and help me align or get in touch with that knowledge again. It's as if she's channeling core essence and bringing it back to us lol. Anyways, while I was reading your dessert I got that same feeling. The way you described your position in these situations resonates deeply. Like you just affirmed & proved a strong subconscious belief (and need) that I didn't fully know I carried: that we could all be connecting and communicating in an authentic, unconventionally but respectfully, honest way with each other, EVEN when faced with difference/adversity/inauthenticity,... It's something I already knew I desired for myself & others, and wished for humanity at large, but still learning how to turn that philosophy into real life situations. I know this will be added to my philosophy, and that it'll help me to navigate upcoming challenges. Thank you for being one of those gems with a good heart and warm soul, who are self-aware and willing enough to be vulnerable about their take on someone's behaviour. I'm sure you're helping people heal in huge and tiny ways through deep conversation and butterfly effect! Thank you so much. I hope you are received well by our fellow humans 🍀
I wouldn’t do that with people. Your extensive comment sounds to me like an explanation of why you judge people. Being authentic isn’t about us telling people anything whatsoever about THEM.
Do you mean something along the lines of gaslighting? If so, I've just recently realized that I've been experiencing that through my own family members as well. I hope the best for both of us!
I feel like inauthenticity was required to fit into my Mormon upbringing. There were strong shame factors if you don't do what you're told when you're expected to do it. I've nearly perfected the ability to mirror what others want in a conversation even though I was thinking the opposite. It's a crazy dynamic to think about.
I feel so overwhelmed watching these videos. I'm taking notes and trying to digest all this information. I'm pausing to visual moments of past congruency but I am very grateful for this content because I feel this is a better solution than taking medication. I am afraid of my authentic self. I have suppressed so much that I am angry and resentful at my self and others. I will accept this. This seems like the only way to move forward, not sure if this is invalidating those feelings.
The cure for fragmentation is integration ... pulling together those pieces of ourselves that have flown off in different directions. I believe this is the definition of integrity.
at around 8:43 what you say about the pain of being unauthentic becomes so much that we are almost forced to become more authentic reminds me of the quote so famous by Anais Nin that says “And the Day Came When the Risk to Remain Tight In a Bud Was More Painful Than the Risk It Took to Blossom.” i LOVE that quote.
This women is on fire with her teachings. Im truly mind blown right now. I completely relate to this topic, and Teal does an amazing job explaining it. The one thought I had was that if 90% of the world is inauthentic than won't it be very difficult to get to our own point of inauthenticity? It almost seems that if you are around people who won't accept you for you, then you will end up in your own "space" anyways..... this is why I always say my dog is my best friend, lol. I will continue to follow this amazing woman!
Being able to summarise in 15 minutes " Authenticity " and more important " putting it in a plain language " for everyone to understand and "absorb " the information ( knowledge, truth ) it s truly a gift ,We need more people like you to " shout out " in today's self absorbed , double standard , PC culture world we live in . Thank you
I have come to discover the more authentic or honest I become, the fewer people want to be around me. I used to fear that because I wanted to be "liked". As I learn it is better to be honest or authentic with people I am learning it's better to have fewer people like you and I am becoming comfortable with that.
Thank you Teal, so so much! I found your videos 5 years ago and soaked you in like a sponge. Now, all these years later, the synchronicity brought me back to you again, and now you help me even more. So grateful for your work and God who sent you! Watching the same video over and over again to really really get it and live it! Folding my hands and thanking you.
thank you so much. your videos help me so much while i navigate through this crazy stuff. after my spiritual awakening, i felt like i had no personality... because all i could express was what i REALLY felt (a lot of new intense emotions). now i can see that im just becoming my authentic self. youre really an amazing person, so well spoken.
When I was sad, I'd think about myself from a stranger's POV. It was only then that I would cry and feel bad for myself and the situation I was in. I didn't know how bad it was otherwise, due to being disconnected from my emotions and living in an overlay. At times I thought maybe that was me being shallow, like "why care what others would think if I personally didnt find the situation all that bad". Looking back now I understand what was happening. It was one of the few ways to get my compass ticking. It was a way for me to find self-compassion.
I just experienced true authenticity today, it is so profoundly idk how to explain it but I realized I don't want to be anything else but authentic. To find out where I am inauthentic and stop being so. All this spiritual and inner work is worth it. I had seen this. Ideo before 2 times I didn't understand exactly what you meant but now I came back and can see it so clearly.
authenticity is the spontanious force of god flowing through us.When we disolve those blocks it becomes automatic. Remember a time when you were really happy or loving. In those moments you feel the most like yourself.
This is exactly what I needed. Unfortunately, I hit that wall, so I am so ready to face the consequences of fully being myself. I'm sure I'll be much happier and more at peace ✌🏼
I am most of the time Authentic but the world around do not except it. Always when I am Authentic if it is in work situations, with man or other people they look down on you or even punish you. People see it as a weakness. I am still keep on going te bo autenthic because I do not want to live in a fake world but it is really hard.
If it's hard, as I am going through rediscovering my authenticity too, is because we are still looking at "them" to approve of our authenticity. Meaning we are not being really authentic if it feels hard. It's the easiest thing in the world to be who we are, even if the whole world is against us, it doesn't weigh us down because we are on our side. But when we're against us, even if the whole world is on our side , we're so heavy and miserable. Authenticity by definition means that we stop looking for approval, for agreement from others , we stop looking "out there" for feedback and we develop our own "muscles" so to say. That's my take so far. Bless you!
I was able to share this video finally- Although I have been Learning for decades- I was afraid what would happen if people knew what I study. I found your help and advice 5 years ago. I understand all the work you do is not easy at all, and I Thank you so much Teal. ✨✨✨
Jehovah God Created Teal beautiful to the core! Blessed with a true heart and understanding that took a lifetime for me to live and learn. Hallelujah 💜 Let's appreciate these blessings! This is REAL! Authentic people can find one another! One God..One Love!
I wanted to add to the frequency here and also express my gratitude for the doors you help so many to open. Thank you for giving in all the ways you do. 💓
This has been such a problem of mine. My authentic thoughts and feelings and beliefs are so radically different from anyone in my environment that exposing my authentic self would definitely create enemies, even among family and "friends", and possibly even put me in actual physical danger. American society is extremely intolerant of differences, and it seems to only be getting worse. I am extremely tolerant of other peoples' differences, even if they are radically different from mine, because I know how painful it is to feel forced to hide your true self out of a feeling that you are surrounded by dangerous highly reactionary and aggressive people.
Omg! My heart (and brain too😄) expanded while watching this video! It's like something I can perceive but wasn't able to explain or put into words! ..and it's funny because the "thing" that put me on the path that lead me to watch this video was a sensation of a knot in my throat. Thanks Teal♥️..what you say makes absolute sense to me I ♥️ your videos!
Please do a video on dating and authenticity. In the beginning of a relationship a person naturally tries to put on their best front but over time the facade (if it's there) slips and you get to see the someone's true colours. How can you yourself be real throughout/better read another? Thank you :)
Great thoughts, i really agree with that, everybody should ALWAYS hear what your guts say and grow a sense of selftrust so they can observe and improve. Its never to late to start. The moment you realise that, you will be free and never able to be blinded again by these kind of lies.
Most people have this issue, myself included. I know spiritual truth but I have social anxiety and self esteem issues, and my whole life I feel like Ive been putting on this front, being too agreeable, boring, avoiding any extraordinary conversation or antics with 'strangers'. I need to master my emotional aspect because I think Ive been suppressing my emotions too much, snd work on changing my thought patterns to be more positive.
Yess! I've been stagnant for a while because I was afraid of doing something that was inauthentic, but then I realized that the best option I have for the time being, is to be consciously inauthentic sometimes... and it's not a means to an end, it's just serving me at this time... as long as I can observe my persona and acknowledge that this isn't my truest of true essence, I can move forward... trying to be totally authentic all at once was definitely overwhelming me to the point where I couldn't create anything :)
Some times I can't keep up the speed of thought with what you are saying so I alter the speed to 0.75 in settings and close my eyes. I then visualise us both in a toilet cubicle with the lights out and your holding a Half finished bottle of whiskey hence your speech speed lol. Seriously great vids keep them coming and I'll do my best to spread the word...PEACE!
lmao this makes me feel so much better because sometimes i cant keep up either. great idea. getting pretty deep there with the toilet cubicle and the half finished whiskey bottle lol clever.
Three lil PIGS not true More people start inviting you to things because they see themselves in you More people are attracted to you because you don’t look so needy You start to look like the person who brings value
I find just the opposite to be true. Becoming more authentic to myself and becoming confident in my choices go hand in hand and most people are attarcted to confidence.
I'm so grateful for Teal Swan because I think often, parents and the world don't teach authenticity. I have always felt strange sensing people behind their masks. I agree with her, a world where people could be authentic 24 hour's a day would be a great world. I have authenticity in me deep down but it is my destiny for it to be there full time even if most of the time it remains on the inside. Sensible instructions from Teal Swan.
I have a fully functioning “inner sheep” AND a fully functioning “inner wolf” and express them as my outer circumstances require according to my best assessment of the needs of the moment. I feel that this is quite “authentic” as long as the expression of either, matches my true inner feelings at the moment of their expression. As Teal said though, I do think there are some circumstances where it just doesn’t make sense to be 100% authentic in our expression (i.e. to a boss or co-worker we really don’t like..etc…) but if we’re completely aware of our authentic internal feelings, we can consciously choose to BOTH honor/accept them, AND choose to maintain an appropriate level of civility in that space for the sake of getting the work done and keeping the job! This does NOT mean we have to lay a huge act on top of that civility. I find that anything beyond basic human respect and civility….if not authentically/organically derived (which it sometimes can be…even when we “generally” don’t like someone)…is not necessary and best left out of the equation if our goal is to be truly authentic. Not only is this a good practice for us, I personally feel it’s my responsibility not to put out “mixed messages” which lead to “cognitive dissonance” …even in those I don’t particularly care for…because I know that any harm or confusion that results, affects the whole dynamic.
These facts are the ones missing in our school that's why there are ppl that are professionals but not good mannered. Professionals but egotistic, professionals but there's a big big thing missing. Where it is only IQ, and EQ is being thrown away whether they claim it as immaturity or see it as weakness to even show emotions. Ughh this is really the time for these truths to finally surface, bye bye to ignorance and illusions and also to the matrix of lack. ;) Welcome Spiritual truth and matrix of abundance. 😘
Teal! I can’t believe what is happening. I tried to be Authentic but shut it down because no one wanted to hear my stuff. Now I am accidentally doing it and for me it is amazing. So many blessing happening & I learn more & more about myself and everything else. I feel like a little kid so many ah ha’s & new discoveries happening Every day. Besides that I am even mire in love with myself. I do get confused because it all is happening so fast. And truth is I really don’t know what is happening. The love just flows & flows. Now I send some to you & the group. Because I can & I am so so grateful. 3-4 years ago I hated myself so bad I went into flat line. Shadows before Dawn was the first book I read & digested after deciding I had to do something about this flatline. I since learned self-love, to not “need” others, (but it is nice to have some friends) , that I can send out love & their response does not matter. I love you Teal!!
I know she is very busy and all and I love her... but i would sooo love it if Teal would take 2 or 3 minutes of her time to ``like`` and /or comment the commentaries of her audience here once in a while, - If I'm realy authentic with me, that's what I would dare to say...
honestly the woman is older than I am, and my generation is really the one that started socializing online. from what i've seen of Teal she behaves like one of those people who just prefers to stay offline. this is her career and she is keeping it separate from her personal life, understandably
I avoid sharing my “spirituality, or my way of thinking, from other people. I tell myself it’s personal, yet it is the whole of who I am. I’m in a constant dance to avoid speaking my truth. No longer can this be the case. I’ve got to fearlessly be the person I want to be and who I know I am.
I have spent a week listening to Teal Swan and I felt my brain expanded to a 100%.
do you mean your brain or you concsiousness?
Me too. My God. Thank you Teal, you are such a women! 😍❤️🙏
Same 😂
I know right?
I just discovered her channel and I don't know where to start, there is so much information and learning to do.
Has anyone had moments where it feels like your personality disappears and you have nothing to say? Anything you do say is forced and fake and you feel disconnected from others and self conscious. I've had it happen a lot lately and it makes convos very awkward, and I feel inauthentic, unhappy and self critical after :/
Aria Targaryen I feel like that all the time…
Aria Targaryen she has a video titled "Do you need space? If so, you're being inauthentic" that outlines that dynamic. Maybe you've already found it. Hope this helps.
Thanks I'll be sure to watch!
I've watched it and yeah, I feel much more "myself" and aligned with my purpose after some alone time, especially if it's spent doing creative stuff or being in nature. If I even imagine being watched by someone, I change my behavior, and I tend to hide myself and projects I make from people (fear of judgement). How can I be around other people (no matter who) how I am with myself? I have trouble connecting and even staying consistent with my values around others (I'll even eat something I'm allergic to if offered so I don't come off as picky)
Aria Targaryen there are several things that could be going on. Depersonalization, the loss of a sense of self and; derealization, the sense of not being engaged fully in reality can have many causes. Most commonly it is caused by dissociation, a defense mechanism where the conciousness narrows or retreats. It is 'zoning out' to an extreme degree. This doesn't mean there is something wrong with you, but is your mind's way of protecting your personality. Consider what external influences might be triggering your defenses. Is it social situations, or only dealing with certain people, or even being alone. I highly recommend nature, it doesn't have any expectations
My biggest inspiration. The world needs you, Teal. Love you always!
Awww angel!
Leeor Alexandra same here! Your turn next girl! You definitely have your authenticity on the screen 😄 I don't know why every time I try to share with RUclips, I feel I'm not able to be authentic (maybe I'm just nervous? idk) Namaste 😊
💕💕💕i love this so much its so truuu
Lol- Beautiful and awsome comment. Thank you for that dear😇
hey leor is here too,i cant wait for a collab,leor aron victor and teal.😀😀
"We are copies of what we have seen succeeding..." gosh... so true... I love you, Teal!
yess this one
She's right once again the best times of my life were when I was myself.
You can only experience what is your "self". All information we carry (all forms of memory/form), is what we have gathered.
Authenticity could be measured by where we get our instructions. Identifying the sources of our impulses requires observation.
Believe that beneath the layers of drama happening within us is a mass of unconscious intelligence that is building us from within, and is trying to not only heal, but blossom chemically into bliss.
This is why we sit comfortably, legs crossed at ankles, spine comfortably erect, breath and just let grace happen here.
Mind is busy because we put external conditions on heal+ process. Things will 'come up', and it's ok to shift around, stand up, and look at any physical obstacles happening of coarse. Just get as close as possible without pain, relax, sit up, enjoy.
Things in the body will start moving. Pay attention. Adjust when pain is felt, and follow pleasantness.
The first step is really just sitting comfortably. Don't think "spiritually". Just get a good seat going.
Yeah then, enjoy your new home.
@Andrew Snowmon Yeah, the only time like that was when I was a kid...
Just kidding, the kid is coming back😋
The whole world in a single sentence.
Yes, why does it go away? I was like this when I was a teenager..
I guess I went through some trauma, and needed to hide, because my true emotions my true self was to painful for me to bare..
But I am coming back too
Yeah right! Totally agree, had kinda forgotten that... thanks for reminding me.
What causes inauthenticity? Judgement, shame, no self-worth, other emotional traumas causing: people pleasing behavior, not speaking, tension, repression (internalised). This is the essence of pavolvian conditioning, we act according to the behaviors that were emotionally rewarded and dont act in the ways we were punished from. Solution is to heal the original triggers.
Expectation and bills.
I 100% agree with this. I learned to make myself little. Not think great of myself, put my own needs aside, to be overly humble and be like «sorry i exist» to say The least it has got me nowhere. I have always been people pleasing, and i will get walked over and used. I am 32 now and working on myself. Building myself of to The person i was born to be. Be my authentic self, and dont be ashamed of who that is. Not all people will like me, but that is not my responsible and it wont hurt me if i stay true to myself.
@@Malin0908Hey man I am going through the same now. I am 17 and I noticed I was people pleasing and thinking too much of what others think of me. This made me inauthentic, or at least I feel that way. How are you doing now? Do you have any advice that can help on my journey to become authentic again?
This video should be played in schools. I wish i had seen this as a teenager.
+Jayce Gwynn this doesn't invalidate the video, it just makes teal look shitty. but the things she said in this video are still mostly true and it is valuable advice.
also, you got me curious. is there some kind of huge compilation of sources for everything she's done that you listed here? like a content cop or something. i'd like to see one
@@jaycegwynn9091Lol
I am 13 and I am a teenager
Just do your best to show this to the people you feel need it the most
It's normal for teenagers to be inauthentic the social life and connections are as important as oxygen I was in every clique imaginable partly so I didn't have to face myself I think being inauthentic is only a real problem after 18
You just have to be honest and all the time....with your self and with others....
The part where you talk about how tense you feel when you know you are being watched really resonated with me. Something I've noticed is I have really good balance - until I think about somebody (imaginary or real) watching me. For example, if I am in flow state I can ride my bike with no handlebars, and stand on one leg in a yoga pose, for a long time. However, as soon as I become self-conscious I lose my inner equilibrium and wobble. This has made me wonder in what other ways does being self-conscious affect my state, and expression of it.
When I was very young I invited a friend over to my house. (Side note. My friends family was way wealthier than my own) My mom cleaned our house before she came like she never cleaned it. She spoke to me kindly and offered to order pizza. Acted involved with my brother and myself. And I lost it. My mother left her "t.v room" maybe once a week. Rarely spoke to her children, didn't care what or if we ate, and was generally not kind. I lost it because of how much of a facade she was putting up. I was Maybe 8 or 9 a d I was getting upset because I couldn't tolerate how phony she was being. If she was so ashamed then why only work on things when someone else was looking. . .. my friend and I went to a park, I wasn't allowed to have friends over for the rest of my childhood. I also never put up a front. It's gotten me in serious trouble (esp at work), it's permitted me to get hurt, but I get genuinely upset by inauthenticity. . .I know no one will read this, just remembered this moment when I started watching this and I wanted to put that memory out there
wow that sounds enraging
Totally understandable this would make you angry, and sad/hurt. It's very hurtful.
That’s brilliant, good for you.
May I ask, do you still feel like you are fighting the world?
I hope not.
Why I’m commenting, is we can get stuck in that mode.
I’m an old guy, and my wife still doesn’t feel safe with me. She is so scared of childhood criticism and abandonment. That she can’t let her guard down, her protective shield. No one is allowed to get close enough to hurt her.
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Timestamps
0:00 Intro
1:25 Why We Are Not Authentic
4:30 Step 1 Congruency of Inner & Outer World
6:23 Step 2 Conscious Authentic Expression
7:48 Step 3 Be Willing To See Yourself As Bad
9:55 Step 4 Be Willing To Be Vulnerable
11:22 Step 5 Know and Admit Your Feelings
12:54 Step 6 Become Aware Of Your Thoughts & Beliefs
13:34 Step 7 Objective View Your Life
16:16 Closing
Omg THANK YOU 💖🙏 this needs WAY more likes
Thank u
This needs to be translated to all languages in the world
olena89
agree
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what language you need this to be translated?
Instead we had religious groups, fed their agenda, fit in only when we meet the mold of that community, fellowship of Christian athletes anyone
Inauthenticity ruined my life. And now I'm taking my power back by being authentic.
I have always tried to create myself but all i needed was to find my authentic self ✨️
Every video I watch: "To understand this concept I'm talking about, watch another video"
**me happily going down a rabbit hole with a spoon in my mouth**
ha ha
As Teal has said before, healing doesnt end.
Hahaha it gets easier when you already watched a lot of videos.
Yes!!!
me right now:”oh looks like i’m going down with teal” lol
"Whatever you're trying to defend is the vulnerability you need to be authentic about" WAIT A MINUTE TEAL! Don't just casually continue talking after that sentence. Give us a couple of hours to process lol
😂
Dont we call that EGO ?
@@fishautawater73 Hi, do you know what being vulnerable means?
Ikrr lol
@@3zooz17 lm actually just starting to tey and understand these concept. I lived unconsciously and unaware. My coping mechanism was depersonalization and denial because l had no where to receive love acceptance or understanding. So no. I dont know how to differentiate between ego amd vulnerability. I just feel hurt.
teal's content should literally be taught in schools, sometimes though i get overwhelmed by the number of concepts/tools she's demonstrating.
She is one smart lady. The truths just keep coming.
@@stinareed270 indeed.
Great video Teal. This is currently my journey. I took on the "guarded, quiet, shy girl" mask due some child hood issues.
I am in the process of releasing that, coming out of my shell, speaking up and just doing what I need to do for me and not anyone else's comfort
it's a process, but I'm coming a long. And you're videos have helped A LOT!!
I think I took on that mask as well.
Any reasons what kind of childhood issues cause that?
I'm lost, trying to find the reason as well as releasing it..
I can relate 101% to this comment. I am on process of having major realizations and tapping into my authenticity
I have the same mask and I'm learning more and more about what caused this.
I've been unhappy with this mask my entire life and I've been trying to be more myself. Although it has gotten a lot better (compared to when I was a kid) I'm still struggling a lot with it
I so relate to that! I was an outgoing rambunctious child before the world beat me into submission, making me quiet, nervous, shy and unhappy later to become extremely depressed. The only times I have felt happy are the few times I felt safe enough to express my true self. I'm learning about Jungian, depth psychology to help understand myself better. Plus watching Teal Swan and other spiritual and/or psychological healing videos. I'm not spiritual but there is still plenty to learn from people like Teal Swan. It just annoys me when people use the word 'vibrations' and all its variations, lol.
For me I think I kind of lost myself as a little girl being the eldest sister in a single parent house hold. Always had to look after my disabled brother and sister. I got so use to just being in service to others that I never developed my own preferences, opinions etc let alone sharing my inner world. Now at 21 I feel so alone and tired, my whole life has evolved around adjusting to other people that I don’t know who i am. I’m trying to heal and allow myself to play a bit.
Throughout my short-lived spiritual journey, I kept returning to the conclusion that "self-love" is really just accepting the good and bad parts of myself. But EXPRESSING those parts without self-judgment is so much closer to the authenticity you discussed in this video. Thank you, Teal!
Well, that explains why life is so painful. Society has literally everything wrong. No wonder I've always felt I'm born on the wrong planet. This backwards civilization is in the emotional dark ages.
Thank you Teal. Every one of your videos helps me immensely and I'm so glad you are out there working to tear down barriers to awareness.
10:53 one of the best ways to express yourself authentically is to ask yourself, in these scenarios you get yourself into, what is the opposite of defending myself right now or what is it I am trying to defend? Whatever you are trying to defend is the vulnerability you need to be authentic about.
Love this
The person who maintains their complete essence they came into this life with the clarity of a child without fragmenting .. the one that can last the longest into their lifetime despite major challenges seriously deserves a prize
The question is, who’s actually watching to give that prize?!??
A week ago I realized that I have never been truly authentic in all of my life, even though I always believed I was. Now I am on a journey to uncover the "real" me. This video was more helpful than you can imagine! Thank you from my heart.
yes it is really hard to find out who you really are - you can pray to Angelic forces to help because it is hard to do this without the help of higher powers than yourself/your self
i'm 24 now, and basically i was sick until 22, bed-ridden most of the time and in a lot of pain. i remember when i first started to genuingly feel better (not band-aid fixes) and i was getting stronger i got excited, 'oh boy i'm starting to have a body strong enough to go out there and try things and explore and really get to know who i truly am, i'm so excited!'
and today i'm still excited, but oh boy when i wished to truly get to know myself, everyone talks about how great it is to be authentic but no-one warned me of the depth of my shadow! feelings i disowned, ways i purposefully hurt ones i loved and actually wanted to cause them pain, tons of sexual feelings, etc. i think if you set out on the journey to be authentic and you're doing it right you'll realize it's very tough and scary and vulnerable, not as easy as i had thought! but so far it's worth it, i'm loving exploring my light and my shadow instead of feeling numb all the time sick and bed-ridden. bring it on life!
I hope with all my heart,that we change the world to become something that will allow this way of life for everyone ... do your best people
I am manifesting my twin flame here that he is also Teal’s follower . Teal you have no idea how much I relate to your teaching and knowing myself more ❤ Thank You Goddess
Incredible information density - I have to pause and/or replay often to follow her swift train of thought.
3:17 Comments about ignoring our vulnerability was brilliant, and glossed over too quickly IMHO.
7:35 Outstanding take on denial and shame.
11:20 "We are living in the Emotional Dark Age"
16:16 "Authenticity is the highest state a person can achieve. In the years to come, "Authenticity" will replace the concept of "Enlightenment" as the true goal of "Spirituality".
Thank you for this outline it, needs to be pinned💜
Its sad to see that the views for this video aren't in the millions...😢
Teal is so authentically pretty and beautiful 🥰
This video needs to be seen by everyone 😫😫😫✨✨✨ life changing stuff in here
How inauthentic have you been being?!??
This woman is revolutionizing my life!
The significant point missing here is that those who have been raised to be inauthentic in order to be safe in their family or community do not have a clue who they are by the time they reach adulthood. They may not even know that they have lost themselves or who it was they lost. The best advice I was given decades ago while struggling with this is to think of myself as a toddler & try to capture the essence of that person.
Yes! Yes! Yes! I love the idea that enlightenment will -one day- be all about being authentic! 💚
Teal out here saving lives
Something I like about Teal: she has great insightsSomething I don't like about Teal: her bitterness and resentment is contagious
Do what thou wilt shall be the whole of the law!
Thank you for addressing the very important fact of viewing children as in need of being moulded, when in reality they often are the most interesting beings to have a conversation with! Keep it coming!
Girl you called it. People have started saying authenticity is the highest vibration
When I'm with someone who says or does something that doesn't feel in harmony with me, depending on the situation, I will try to immediately tell them what I saw/heard from them (instead of me being silent, and holding resentment, etc. about them), and I'll ask them what they are trying to convey by doing/saying what they did (I'll ask them without any emotion, and, instead, just being factual). They respond, how they want to, and I tell them what doesn't fit with me (kindly said, but not directed at what they're doing 'wrong'), and let them own it/react to it, etc. I observe their choices in the initial expression (that felt inharmonious to me), and I don't attach emotion to what their response is to me, after asking them what they are trying to convey. They usually get to see from my perspective, without saying harsh words to me, and we engage in a level-headed discussion about the matter. There's no judgment on my part, and, so, no emotion/reaction/expectation. Sometimes, I learn that what they meant, is not what they initially seemed to express, and they get to see things from my perspective, too. And, when they tell me that it IS about what I felt/thought that it was about, then they can have opportunity to choose what they want to with the knowledge discussed, and they will, many times, tell me that they will act better in the future. It ends up all being about communicating, and understanding a fellow wanderer. We all say/do things that are not in harmony with those around us; when someone engages us in conversation about it, we can have a transparent conversation, with no judgment, about the matter, instead of being silent, which, actually, encourages the inharmonious behavior from the other person to continue with us, and others.
An example:
At work, a co-worker might gossip often with another co-worker, and then do so with me about the boss. I don't care for gossip, and I ask them why they are telling me gossip about the boss. S/he says that they're so frustrated with him, and it helps to get it off their chest by telling me and others. I say that after listening to him/her complain about the boss, that I understand completely that they could be frustrated with the boss (if I did understand). And then, I'd tell him/her that if I were the boss, that I'd like to hear it to my face about what my employee isn't happy with, with me. The person might get angry, etc., at me, but they'll understand that I want them, the boss, and me to be respected, by our relating openly with each other. And, there's a good chance that they'll want to find ways to have harmony at work. And, they might feel an ease about having a level-headed discussion about how to go about actually talking to the boss about their concerns.
I just want to applaud you on your bravery and forthright nature here
I have only had the pleasure of meeting a few individuals in my lifetime like you
Many times when l'm acting out or have in the past, l am simply in need of a hug or reassurance
That being said, not everyone is ready to face the pain they have learned to internalize their whole lives through conflict resolution
It can definitely be a struggle which is why the best approach to mediation is amongst two level headed, fully healed adults
If l was confronted with some of my past toxic behavior, l would delve into a state of extreme shame and most likely become aggressive and combative
You critiqued my behavior and the message l recieved was:
"My behavior was bad, so l too, must be bad" this translates to the reappearance of childhood feelings of unworthiness
We're all deserving of love 💘
Some of us are just a bit further along in our self love journey than others
Anyways, l think what you're doing is very commendable. I just didn't want you to be surprised if your valiant efforts are met with defensiveness and resistance
It is very hard for some people to take ownership of their own behavior. However, by choosing to do so, we can change the entire course of our life which is truly beautiful
Dear Irene
This thread is the unexpected dessert that I didn't know I needed after this killer meal of a video, and I hope that a whole lot more people end up reading this.
I needed this, to read about your perspective/take on raw, powerful, honest communication. Often, when I watch Teal's videos, I'm left with this feeling that all that instinctive, almost cosmic, knowledge and all these ways of thinking & perceiving (also visually - the pictures she's using while analysing are a perfect example) were already inside/a part of me, she just amazingly found the right words to form these sort off instinctual images/feelings/perceptions and help me align or get in touch with that knowledge again. It's as if she's channeling core essence and bringing it back to us lol.
Anyways, while I was reading your dessert I got that same feeling. The way you described your position in these situations resonates deeply. Like you just affirmed & proved a strong subconscious belief (and need) that I didn't fully know I carried: that we could all be connecting and communicating in an authentic, unconventionally but respectfully, honest way with each other, EVEN when faced with difference/adversity/inauthenticity,... It's something I already knew I desired for myself & others, and wished for humanity at large, but still learning how to turn that philosophy into real life situations. I know this will be added to my philosophy, and that it'll help me to navigate upcoming challenges.
Thank you for being one of those gems with a good heart and warm soul, who are self-aware and willing enough to be vulnerable about their take on someone's behaviour. I'm sure you're helping people heal in huge and tiny ways through deep conversation and butterfly effect! Thank you so much. I hope you are received well by our fellow humans 🍀
I wouldn’t do that with people. Your extensive comment sounds to me like an explanation of why you judge people. Being authentic isn’t about us telling people anything whatsoever about THEM.
A video is needed on the consequences of being authentic.
Wow, this is SO important. I'm definitely feeling this info. So ready. This is amazing.
HugBunnies 🌎❄️💨🔥🐰💗
Do you mean something along the lines of gaslighting? If so, I've just recently realized that I've been experiencing that through my own family members as well. I hope the best for both of us!
It doesn't matter what anyone thinks about you. It doesn't matter what you think about another. It doesn't matter what you think about yourself.
I feel like inauthenticity was required to fit into my Mormon upbringing. There were strong shame factors if you don't do what you're told when you're expected to do it. I've nearly perfected the ability to mirror what others want in a conversation even though I was thinking the opposite. It's a crazy dynamic to think about.
Do not sacrifice who you are to make others happy, be authentically yourself first
I feel so overwhelmed watching these videos. I'm taking notes and trying to digest all this information. I'm pausing to visual moments of past congruency but I am very grateful for this content because I feel this is a better solution than taking medication. I am afraid of my authentic self. I have suppressed so much that I am angry and resentful at my self and others. I will accept this. This seems like the only way to move forward, not sure if this is invalidating those feelings.
She is the Queen of all my dreams, literally!
The cure for fragmentation is integration ... pulling together those pieces of ourselves that have flown off in different directions. I believe this is the definition of integrity.
at around 8:43 what you say about the pain of being unauthentic becomes so much that we are almost forced to become more authentic reminds me of the quote so famous by Anais Nin that says “And the Day Came When the Risk to Remain Tight In a Bud Was More Painful Than the Risk It Took to Blossom.” i LOVE that quote.
This women is on fire with her teachings. Im truly mind blown right now. I completely relate to this topic, and Teal does an amazing job explaining it. The one thought I had was that if 90% of the world is inauthentic than won't it be very difficult to get to our own point of inauthenticity? It almost seems that if you are around people who won't accept you for you, then you will end up in your own "space" anyways..... this is why I always say my dog is my best friend, lol.
I will continue to follow this amazing woman!
You are unbelievable!! wow!! my mind has melted!!!
Being able to summarise in 15 minutes " Authenticity " and more important " putting it in a plain language " for everyone to understand and "absorb " the information ( knowledge, truth ) it s truly a gift ,We need more people like you to " shout out " in today's self absorbed , double standard , PC culture world we live in . Thank you
I have come to discover the more authentic or honest I become, the fewer people want to be around me. I used to fear that because I wanted to be "liked". As I learn it is better to be honest or authentic with people I am learning it's better to have fewer people like you and I am becoming comfortable with that.
Thank you Teal, so so much! I found your videos 5 years ago and soaked you in like a sponge. Now, all these years later, the synchronicity brought me back to you again, and now you help me even more. So grateful for your work and God who sent you! Watching the same video over and over again to really really get it and live it! Folding my hands and thanking you.
I can listen to you for hours!
thank you so much. your videos help me so much while i navigate through this crazy stuff. after my spiritual awakening, i felt like i had no personality... because all i could express was what i REALLY felt (a lot of new intense emotions). now i can see that im just becoming my authentic self. youre really an amazing person, so well spoken.
Summer congratulations on your Awakening, I recently had mine as well and I'm loving it
Meditation for good selfconfidence
When I was sad, I'd think about myself from a stranger's POV. It was only then that I would cry and feel bad for myself and the situation I was in. I didn't know how bad it was otherwise, due to being disconnected from my emotions and living in an overlay.
At times I thought maybe that was me being shallow, like "why care what others would think if I personally didnt find the situation all that bad". Looking back now I understand what was happening. It was one of the few ways to get my compass ticking. It was a way for me to find self-compassion.
I just experienced true authenticity today, it is so profoundly idk how to explain it but I realized I don't want to be anything else but authentic. To find out where I am inauthentic and stop being so. All this spiritual and inner work is worth it. I had seen this. Ideo before 2 times I didn't understand exactly what you meant but now I came back and can see it so clearly.
How did it feel?
Authentically... I don't like being in a relationship with the person I'm with... Thank you teal 😤😭☺️
You remind me of Xeena and I love when you laugh at your own jokes!
Haha, me too!
On the other side isnt ur own jokes made up by urself the absolutely best😉
Xena, the warrior princess?
That's what it is I couldn't figure it out. I loved that show as a teenage boy.
Me too
Yeah, they both are badass.
living with cancer will show you just how unique you really are
You’re a genius
authenticity is the spontanious force of god flowing through us.When we disolve those blocks it becomes automatic. Remember a time when you were really happy or loving. In those moments you feel the most like yourself.
This is exactly what I needed. Unfortunately, I hit that wall, so I am so ready to face the consequences of fully being myself. I'm sure I'll be much happier and more at peace ✌🏼
Objectively viewing myself and self awareness are two of my greatest skills
All you have to do is remember the magical wholeness you felt as a child and hold that
6 years later and this comment holds so much truth
Omg! The 45 image of fingers representing a little bit.priceless
I am most of the time Authentic but the world around do not except it. Always when I am Authentic if it is in work situations, with man or other people they look down on you or even punish you. People see it as a weakness. I am still keep on going te bo autenthic because I do not want to live in a fake world but it is really hard.
If it's hard, as I am going through rediscovering my authenticity too, is because we are still looking at "them" to approve of our authenticity. Meaning we are not being really authentic if it feels hard. It's the easiest thing in the world to be who we are, even if the whole world is against us, it doesn't weigh us down because we are on our side. But when we're against us, even if the whole world is on our side , we're so heavy and miserable. Authenticity by definition means that we stop looking for approval, for agreement from others , we stop looking "out there" for feedback and we develop our own "muscles" so to say. That's my take so far. Bless you!
awareness is SO Imporant
Appreciating you and your awareness and straight to the actuality of reality speaking Teal. You expose and translate reality brilliantly.
her voice is Making me feel calm
I was able to share this video finally- Although I have been Learning for decades- I was afraid what would happen if people knew what I study. I found your help and advice 5 years ago. I understand all the work you do is not easy at all, and I Thank you so much Teal. ✨✨✨
Jehovah God Created Teal beautiful to the core! Blessed with a true heart and understanding that took a lifetime for me to live and learn. Hallelujah 💜 Let's appreciate these blessings! This is REAL! Authentic people can find one another! One God..One Love!
I love you Teal, so pure, so true, so real, and a living word full of wigth and depth, the true reality of our times
I LOVE YOU.
I wanted to add to the frequency here and also express my gratitude for the doors you help so many to open. Thank you for giving in all the ways you do. 💓
She is gorgeous and cultured.
Great video teal. I find it is easier to only be authentic with people I truly trust and that's really only 3 to 4 people in my life.
me too but is a shame. Such a limited constricted lifestyle. can you imagine feeling free open and powerful everywhere?
Gosh I thought I was authentic until I watched this 😅
This is incredible 👏🏻
Again Teal Swan blows me away.
This has been such a problem of mine. My authentic thoughts and feelings and beliefs are so radically different from anyone in my environment that exposing my authentic self would definitely create enemies, even among family and "friends", and possibly even put me in actual physical danger. American society is extremely intolerant of differences, and it seems to only be getting worse. I am extremely tolerant of other peoples' differences, even if they are radically different from mine, because I know how painful it is to feel forced to hide your true self out of a feeling that you are surrounded by dangerous highly reactionary and aggressive people.
If I hadn't hidden my true self as a 9 year old I would probably be dead or in prison now, so I understand why this happened.
Just watching this for the first time. What a wake up call and beautiful message.
Omg! My heart (and brain too😄) expanded while watching this video! It's like something I can perceive but wasn't able to explain or put into words!
..and it's funny because the "thing" that put me on the path that lead me to watch this video was a sensation of a knot in my throat.
Thanks Teal♥️..what you say makes absolute sense to me
I ♥️ your videos!
Thank You!
Please do a video on dating and authenticity. In the beginning of a relationship a person naturally tries to put on their best front but over time the facade (if it's there) slips and you get to see the someone's true colours. How can you yourself be real throughout/better read another? Thank you :)
Great thoughts, i really agree with that, everybody should ALWAYS hear what your guts say and grow a sense of selftrust so they can observe and improve. Its never to late to start. The moment you realise that, you will be free and never able to be blinded again by these kind of lies.
Most people have this issue, myself included. I know spiritual truth but I have social anxiety and self esteem issues, and my whole life I feel like Ive been putting on this front, being too agreeable, boring, avoiding any extraordinary conversation or antics with 'strangers'. I need to master my emotional aspect because I think Ive been suppressing my emotions too much, snd work on changing my thought patterns to be more positive.
Yess! I've been stagnant for a while because I was afraid of doing something that was inauthentic, but then I realized that the best option I have for the time being, is to be consciously inauthentic sometimes... and it's not a means to an end, it's just serving me at this time... as long as I can observe my persona and acknowledge that this isn't my truest of true essence, I can move forward... trying to be totally authentic all at once was definitely overwhelming me to the point where I couldn't create anything :)
Some times I can't keep up the speed of thought with what you are saying so I alter the speed to 0.75 in settings and close my eyes. I then visualise us both in a toilet cubicle with the lights out and your holding a Half finished bottle of whiskey hence your speech speed lol. Seriously great vids keep them coming and I'll do my best to spread the word...PEACE!
OMG LOL!!
Peace pal!;)
That's real funny
LOL!
lmao this makes me feel so much better because sometimes i cant keep up either. great idea. getting pretty deep there with the toilet cubicle and the half finished whiskey bottle lol clever.
I love connecting to others who also see the gift in authenticity and vulnerability.
As you begin to be more authentic, less people want to be around you LOL
Three lil PIGS and others that want, will come.
Three lil PIGS not true
More people start inviting you to things because they see themselves in you
More people are attracted to you because you don’t look so needy
You start to look like the person who brings value
I find just the opposite to be true. Becoming more authentic to myself and becoming confident in my choices go hand in hand and most people are attarcted to confidence.
Three lil PIGS lol 💕🤣
Being authentic is being/living out of the matrix in which other people have made their home/have fit in comfortably.
I'm so grateful for Teal Swan because I think often, parents and the world don't teach authenticity. I have always felt strange sensing people behind their masks. I agree with her, a world where people could be authentic 24 hour's a day would be a great world. I have authenticity in me deep down but it is my destiny for it to be there full time even if most of the time it remains on the inside. Sensible instructions from Teal Swan.
I have a fully functioning “inner sheep” AND a fully functioning “inner wolf” and express them as my outer circumstances require according to my best assessment of the needs of the moment. I feel that this is quite “authentic” as long as the expression of either, matches my true inner feelings at the moment of their expression.
As Teal said though, I do think there are some circumstances where it just doesn’t make sense to be 100% authentic in our expression (i.e. to a boss or co-worker we really don’t like..etc…) but if we’re completely aware of our authentic internal feelings, we can consciously choose to BOTH honor/accept them, AND choose to maintain an appropriate level of civility in that space for the sake of getting the work done and keeping the job! This does NOT mean we have to lay a huge act on top of that civility. I find that anything beyond basic human respect and civility….if not authentically/organically derived (which it sometimes can be…even when we “generally” don’t like someone)…is not necessary and best left out of the equation if our goal is to be truly authentic. Not only is this a good practice for us, I personally feel it’s my responsibility not to put out “mixed messages” which lead to “cognitive dissonance” …even in those I don’t particularly care for…because I know that any harm or confusion that results, affects the whole dynamic.
Nicely nuanced.
I just want to hug you Teal......the doors you open for me is like I'm given a chance at being re-born.
that hair mama looks so good gawd
❤Amor❤ Ahaha this is the best! You are queen! #BetterAskTealWithTheGoodHair
Teal, you are truly Amazing!!!
These facts are the ones missing in our school that's why there are ppl that are professionals but not good mannered. Professionals but egotistic, professionals but there's a big big thing missing. Where it is only IQ, and EQ is being thrown away whether they claim it as immaturity or see it as weakness to even show emotions. Ughh this is really the time for these truths to finally surface, bye bye to ignorance and illusions and also to the matrix of lack. ;) Welcome Spiritual truth and matrix of abundance. 😘
Don't let no one bring you down Teal . Keep being you
theres an empty space inside my heart where the weeds take root
This sounds so poetic and deep.
And now I'll set you free
Teal! I can’t believe what is happening. I tried to be Authentic but shut it down because no one wanted to hear my stuff.
Now I am accidentally doing it and for me it is amazing.
So many blessing happening & I learn more & more about myself and everything else. I feel like a little kid so many ah ha’s & new discoveries happening Every day. Besides that I am even mire in love with myself. I do get confused because it all is happening so fast. And truth is I really don’t know what is happening.
The love just flows & flows. Now I send some to you & the group. Because I can & I am so so grateful. 3-4 years ago I hated myself so bad I went into flat line. Shadows before Dawn was the first book I read & digested after deciding I had to do something about this flatline. I since learned self-love, to not “need” others, (but it is nice to have some friends) , that I can send out love & their response does not matter.
I love you Teal!!
I know she is very busy and all and I love her... but i would sooo love it if Teal would take 2 or 3 minutes of her time to ``like`` and /or comment the commentaries of her audience here once in a while, - If I'm realy authentic with me, that's what I would dare to say...
honestly the woman is older than I am, and my generation is really the one that started socializing online. from what i've seen of Teal she behaves like one of those people who just prefers to stay offline. this is her career and she is keeping it separate from her personal life, understandably
I avoid sharing my “spirituality, or my way of thinking, from other people. I tell myself it’s personal, yet it is the whole of who I am. I’m in a constant dance to avoid speaking my truth. No longer can this be the case. I’ve got to fearlessly be the person I want to be and who I know I am.