I said no to the rest and as soon as I said no to the rest the one I was loyal to dumped me to be with a zoo animal Now I regret not keeping the other women but that would have made me a cheater unless I had known that the girl I was loyal to was going to dumped me while I was absent at her concerts
@@JessicaOS hi Jessica' I came across with your videos yester night and congratulations to for considering men you're doing a great job by teaching us when to walk away and when to stay
Why should there be an element of control in a relationship? If one or the other is not comfortable in it they should just walk away; If they feel nothing is working for them.They don't need other options.... just in case. That would be admitting defeat beforehand. Judging from the comments, this can only encourage men to cheat; and push women in their masculine When a man/woman is serious about their partner, they are normally aware of it. They don't have to play mind games that can only push the other away.
Listening to this video had me in tears. I'm 36 years old and I'm just learning this stuff. Been with the same woman for 14 years because I thought she was the best I could do. Told her things that I've never told anyone else and she used them as weapons against me. Now that I'm trying to reclaim my self worth all of a sudden I'm a bad guy
@@damianhaynes3181 just went through this exact thing. Separated from my wife of 13 years, mother of 4 of my kids. Once I started going to therapy Aunt and thinking about my mental health and peace, our relationship started to fall apart. I no longer allowed her to gaslight me or make me feel guilty for communicating my feelings. I blame myself because I took entirely too long to acknowledge when it was time to move on.
@@letsboogie4408 very very true, exercising is much more important, I have been there before and the gym and listening to music did it though I made alot of mistakes during the process of reclaiming my self,
Remember, brother: don't be afraid to have options thinking this is disonest behavior, because the woman you're interested in has many more options than you will ever have.
Proverbs 31 is no joke. Put God first and He will get you a good woman. A God fearing woman. She'll be a blessing to you and your household. As the Bible says, "She will do you no evil all the days of your life". God first❤
True. It will be good if people can understand that such advice works if one is not interested in being a pure Christian. The devil is very manipulative when it comes to pulling us to his side. As @noahtacker5156 has mentioned. Let's trust in the Lord and He will give us a God fearing woman. Same to ladies. First you must be a true christian. You must trust the Lord our God completely, through Jesus. If you find a God fearing woman my friend you won't worry about emotions. Both of you will be focused on God and the feelings towards each other will be mutual.
This is totally so true and simply amazing!!! While I was a kid, my Dad always told me this, but I never listened. Learned it the hard way.😩 Thank you for sharing Jessy🥰❤️🫶🙌🙏
Jessica is right. Having an abundance mindset makes you come across as a calm and collective man. Sticking around one lady and tolerating all sorts of misbehaviour is simply BS.
Champion Jessica, Thank you for this one. Just scrolling through the comments section really scares me for women in the nearest future because so many guys/men are awakening to this BS women put them through and it gonna be a long day and absolutely herculean for many women to pin down a honest and committed man to settle with them because many men are experiencing most of the things talked about in this video when they truly commit and stay loyal to one woman. I have had my own shared experience as a man🎉
Going straight to the point without too much advertisement and long introduction is really impressive….Not focusing on one woman when there’s no commitment is a great way to go. Everything shared is true to an extent because you are only sharing your own thoughts. Love from Nigeria 🇳🇬
This the best thing I've ever learned and life touching lesson of my life, I've gat to re shuffle my life , ladies do like me ,not that am that handsome person but am very cool , selfless and faithful. My in integrity towards one lady has not been giving me peace of mind, she's taking advantage of the real person I'm. Thanks for this one; she's coming too often now because she sees that others are ready for me,but deep inside me I'm who I'm, one good woman in my life is enough for me but not until she's ready I'll be bad
Never invest on a person you'll lose value in yourself,n total respect from the ones who respected you n then they start walking all over you you'll always be the yes guy to everyone.cause of one person
Jessica i am an ardent follower of your videos but this video is one of the very best i have listened to. thanks a lot. you deserve a kiss for this tips....
Your speaking facts. I was just dating someone and I cut off all the other women. I put all my energy into this one person once we got serious . We just broke up a few days ago. I’m not cutting off no more other women the next time I get into another relationship.
One of the realest videos I’ve came across. I put a woman on a pedestal and made her my focus, and literally every thing you said in this video happened to me. (Never again)
@@EbenezerNyarko-u5b I hate games, but unfortunately as I have learned, you're dealing with another human being, boundaries are being tested, control is chipped off gradually, until you're hooked. I want to leave but I can't cuz I have so many things to consider now, whereas I wouldn't have second guessed prior to her
Jessica has some great points but as a man of religion I seek God first and luckily I've been given a God fearing woman. This advice is for worldly women, than women grounded in faith. I told her in the beginning of our relationship that I'm a committed person with everything I do so I don't want any mind games. I give her my attention but it's at my control, I'm a busy person so she'll get me when I make myself available. She knows the work I'm putting in is for future our family. Solid dating advice though
Time spent listening to your words of wisdom is one of the best times of my day. I was slowly getting wrecked. Now you have slowly and patiently pulled me out of the wreckage. God will bless you and give you more wisdom.
@@BeBestProduction u think they can comment yet U planning for them bad ideas what if it was that ladies never focus on one man what would U feel my friend
@@GodfreyNuwagaba-b9wmen and women are not the same. Women are best treated as options than as special beings. When u focus on just one woman and treat her special she will start feeling like a goddess and a princess without a kingdom, she will start feeling like the whole world revolves around her and she will be playing with u. For instance, in a polygamous marriage u will hardly see a woman denying her husband sex unlike in a monogamous marriage.
This is a Master piece Jessy. A lot of weight has been lifted off.( Keeping ur options open doesn't mean sleeping with every skirt, but rather, keeping ur energy in check.) Paraphrased.
I have been listening to your advice always and my life changed and I really love your talk.. I realize how much money have been wasted and now I’m doing fine and better than the past
I’m not struggling with this right now with women but I do appreciate the affirmation. Thank you for your wise words Jessica. I’ll keep doing what I’ve been doing
Hey Jess, you should have reminded me about this around May 😅. Yet still the timing couldn't have been better. I've experienced everything you said to the tee. I knew I was violating the Bro Code paa, but somehow I deceived myself into believing she's different even after many red flags. But I've taken back all the power now. Some small girl bi too oo 😅, got a whole me worked up. Never again! 🔥
You definitely should not seek people, places, things, conditions or situations to provide your completeness, happiness and peace. Instead, you should have them and bring them to all situations. Lastly, expecting others to help complete you, provide you with happiness and peace, usually places a very unfair burden upon others to provide these things, which they may never be able to provide.
Damn! This was me three years ago. Thank God it ended. And I've been breaking free from that mistake of Oneitis (focusing on one woman with all your everything) as Rollo Tomansi calls it. I prolly must have qualified for a simp but now I know better. Thanks again, Jessica. Stay Blessed.
Dear Jessica, thank you 😢😢😢😢😢😢 Wow, i just needed this. Im giving her everything, i sacrifice my life for her happiness. But its still not enough 😢😢. She doesn't appreciate anything nor respect me. She's my everything. Now i know why
👍👍💯Thanks Jessica i learnt that last year with my Ex & I'm making sure it never ever happens again right now I'm talking to different girls till am certain i want to marry any particular one of them that i know is the right one and deserves my attention
And what happens to the rest when you finally commit to the one you like. I feel like if you have more than one person at a time you'lm start comparing them rather than focusing on the their characters and you'll definitely miss the important ghings you need yo look out for. This is why people end up realising that the ones they let go where actually better than the ones they marry and start hoing backbto their Exes. I say 1 person at a time. If you see red flags move as soon as possible
The crazy part, is this IS EVERY SINGLE DUDE THAT'S TRYING TO DO RIGHT BY HIS LADY.. Until, "hurt feelings.." it's funny how, "not caring" and being put in set position shows results, by then it's too late.. Things are wild backwards.. No one is happy in the end. This is why, they say "Good guys FINISH last.."
I always had this mind since I was a youth that the best way to control a woman is not to be focus on her alone. That why at a certain period I had 16 women for myself
😂😂😂😂😂YOU ARE THE BEST MEN. A real example of true men. Most men have one woman and when they break up they cry like kids. I have 12 at the moment after dropping 8
Hello Jessica i know most women will disagree with you but this is a turning point lesson for a man like me and I belive that after listening to this video over and over again my Dating life will not be the same. Thank you very much and continue to inspire men who are strugle in with thier dating lives. God bless you for your endevours
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I said no to the rest and as soon as I said no to the rest the one I was loyal to dumped me to be with a zoo animal
Now I regret not keeping the other women but that would have made me a cheater unless I had known that the girl I was loyal to was going to dumped me while I was absent at her concerts
Thank you Soo much,so deeper than deep.❤
@@JessicaOS hi Jessica' I came across with your videos yester night and congratulations to for considering men you're doing a great job by teaching us when to walk away and when to stay
Why should there be an element of control in a relationship? If one or the other is not comfortable in it they should just walk away; If they feel nothing is working for them.They don't need other options.... just in case. That would be admitting defeat beforehand. Judging from the comments, this can only encourage men to cheat; and push women in their masculine When a man/woman is serious about their partner, they are normally aware of it. They don't have to play mind games that can only push the other away.
𝙈𝙮 𝙂𝙤𝙙! 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨'𝙨 𝙟𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙢𝙚 𝙧𝙞𝙜𝙝𝙩 𝙣𝙤𝙬...𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙠𝙨 𝙨𝙤 𝙢𝙪𝙘𝙝 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙫𝙞𝙙𝙚𝙤, 𝙞𝙩 𝙝𝙖𝙨 𝙤𝙥𝙚𝙣 𝙢𝙮 𝙚𝙮𝙚𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙧𝙩 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖 𝙧𝙚𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙠!
Listening to this video had me in tears. I'm 36 years old and I'm just learning this stuff. Been with the same woman for 14 years because I thought she was the best I could do. Told her things that I've never told anyone else and she used them as weapons against me. Now that I'm trying to reclaim my self worth all of a sudden I'm a bad guy
Just take care of yourself man don't get attached deeply.
@@damianhaynes3181 just went through this exact thing. Separated from my wife of 13 years, mother of 4 of my kids. Once I started going to therapy Aunt and thinking about my mental health and peace, our relationship started to fall apart. I no longer allowed her to gaslight me or make me feel guilty for communicating my feelings. I blame myself because I took entirely too long to acknowledge when it was time to move on.
@@nawar6124 he is already attached man. He needs to just dettach and believe in himself.
Stay strong 💪🏾 brother, make sure you’re in a gym, take care of your finances and watch these videos and you’ll be alright.
@@letsboogie4408 very very true, exercising is much more important, I have been there before and the gym and listening to music did it though I made alot of mistakes during the process of reclaiming my self,
Every moment you spent obsessing over her is a another moment you're drifting away from your own goal/life😢
I love this...
dude
It all makes sense now why our fathers were polygamous.
@@olufunsofamuyiwa7823 damn right ya dig for good reasons
@@olufunsofamuyiwa7823 😂😂
Remember, brother: don't be afraid to have options thinking this is disonest behavior, because the woman you're interested in has many more options than you will ever have.
Very true
@@ferreirasilas 💯, the day you have options is the day she starts working towards winning your affection cause there's competition
You will lose money chasing women, but you will never lose women chasing money.
true fact
@@paulomoteso You will lose black women
Proverbs 31 is no joke.
Put God first and He will get you a good woman. A God fearing woman.
She'll be a blessing to you and your household.
As the Bible says, "She will do you no evil all the days of your life".
God first❤
@@noahtacker5156 I totally agree to this and pray God gives me a Godly woman am putting my trust on God
Amen brother.. Amen!
@@noahtacker5156 my mother is a living testimony
That's God's promise to men!
True. It will be good if people can understand that such advice works if one is not interested in being a pure Christian. The devil is very manipulative when it comes to pulling us to his side. As @noahtacker5156 has mentioned. Let's trust in the Lord and He will give us a God fearing woman. Same to ladies. First you must be a true christian. You must trust the Lord our God completely, through Jesus. If you find a God fearing woman my friend you won't worry about emotions. Both of you will be focused on God and the feelings towards each other will be mutual.
I learned this at 25, life has been good.
6:41 "When she sees that you have a life beyond her, she wants to be a part of it" you sound like a caring sister ❤thanks Jessy.
Finally we the male fans are getting something 😂
@@TrueYarn ‼️
Am surprised as well😂
Ah 😂😂
You guys don’t follow Jess. There’s been so many keys for men 😂😂
@@maalisuobismark factz 💥
@@TrueYarn yeah
Why can't it just be loving relationship from both sides , why always have to be mind games 😢
That’s nowadays life sad
I wish it would, but it can never be
Life is not fair
You have to play the game unfortunately
@@agee7777 no. one might have to play her game. Entirely different thing. Period.
It's life happening brother just life happening
Dear Jessica, I thank you for posting this video. You cannot imagine how much I need this message.
Thank you for making my day…..
You just described what literally happened to me 2yrs ago, and I still remember her till this day which explains how obsessed I was.
😢
This is the best video of the year. Thanks for spilling these truths Jessica
you're welcome
This is totally so true and simply amazing!!!
While I was a kid, my Dad always told me this, but I never listened.
Learned it the hard way.😩
Thank you for sharing Jessy🥰❤️🫶🙌🙏
Jessica is right. Having an abundance mindset makes you come across as a calm and collective man. Sticking around one lady and tolerating all sorts of misbehaviour is simply BS.
I feel like I'm being baptised right now!!! 😮
😂
Champion Jessica, Thank you for this one. Just scrolling through the comments section really scares me for women in the nearest future because so many guys/men are awakening to this BS women put them through and it gonna be a long day and absolutely herculean for many women to pin down a honest and committed man to settle with them because many men are experiencing most of the things talked about in this video when they truly commit and stay loyal to one woman. I have had my own shared experience as a man🎉
“Until she shown you she’s serious, never stop dating or meeting other women.”
Keep your options open ❤
Focus on your purpose. Women will come and go but it won’t break you.
Every word in his video points my past mistakes to me literally one by one. And now I’ve learned my lessons.
Wow, exactly what happened to me. I am just getting out of heartbreak. I gave her all my attention and love but broke my heart. Tnx Jessica 🎉
Thank you God for speaking to me through this woman
Going straight to the point without too much advertisement and long introduction is really impressive….Not focusing on one woman when there’s no commitment is a great way to go. Everything shared is true to an extent because you are only sharing your own thoughts. Love from Nigeria 🇳🇬
This the best thing I've ever learned and life touching lesson of my life, I've gat to re shuffle my life , ladies do like me ,not that am that handsome person but am very cool , selfless and faithful. My in integrity towards one lady has not been giving me peace of mind, she's taking advantage of the real person I'm. Thanks for this one; she's coming too often now because she sees that others are ready for me,but deep inside me I'm who I'm, one good woman in my life is enough for me but not until she's ready I'll be bad
Never invest on a person you'll lose value in yourself,n total respect from the ones who respected you n then they start walking all over you you'll always be the yes guy to everyone.cause of one person
Blessings Auntie Jess, you are the best.
Jessica i am an ardent follower of your videos but this video is one of the very best i have listened to. thanks a lot. you deserve a kiss for this tips....
Absolutely, it is one of the very best she has put out here. I just shared it with my brother, and he also frankly agreed to it.
Your speaking facts. I was just dating someone and I cut off all the other women. I put all my energy into this one person once we got serious . We just broke up a few days ago. I’m not cutting off no more other women the next time I get into another relationship.
One of the realest videos I’ve came across. I put a woman on a pedestal and made her my focus, and literally every thing you said in this video happened to me. (Never again)
You are really talking for us❤🇬🇭
I'm in 20s and I'm learning a lot from Ms Jessica that my dad didn't know... every video is an eye opening to me
This perfectly explained my last relationship. The worst part is I knew it was happening but I got to lost in it all.
I really needed to hear this, especially after what this one girl did to me. Thank you 🙏🏼😊
Why should relationships be full of mind games 🤦🏻♂️
Soo sad
@@EbenezerNyarko-u5b I hate games, but unfortunately as I have learned, you're dealing with another human being, boundaries are being tested, control is chipped off gradually, until you're hooked. I want to leave but I can't cuz I have so many things to consider now, whereas I wouldn't have second guessed prior to her
The game is brutal bro, it's just how it is. That's the harsh reality.
This has really touched the hearts of many thanks Jessica.
Jessica has some great points but as a man of religion I seek God first and luckily I've been given a God fearing woman. This advice is for worldly women, than women grounded in faith. I told her in the beginning of our relationship that I'm a committed person with everything I do so I don't want any mind games. I give her my attention but it's at my control, I'm a busy person so she'll get me when I make myself available. She knows the work I'm putting in is for future our family. Solid dating advice though
Time spent listening to your words of wisdom is one of the best times of my day.
I was slowly getting wrecked.
Now you have slowly and patiently pulled me out of the wreckage.
God will bless you and give you more wisdom.
One of the best videos i’ve watched recently. Talk to me directly.
Ladies won't comment😂😂😂
@@BeBestProduction u think they can comment yet U planning for them bad ideas what if it was that ladies never focus on one man what would U feel my friend
@GodfreyNuwagaba-b9w men are more faithful in relationship than women. Though some of them are.
You mean cougars?
@@GodfreyNuwagaba-b9wmen and women are not the same. Women are best treated as options than as special beings. When u focus on just one woman and treat her special she will start feeling like a goddess and a princess without a kingdom, she will start feeling like the whole world revolves around her and she will be playing with u. For instance, in a polygamous marriage u will hardly see a woman denying her husband sex unlike in a monogamous marriage.
This is a Master piece Jessy. A lot of weight has been lifted off.( Keeping ur options open doesn't mean sleeping with every skirt, but rather, keeping ur energy in check.) Paraphrased.
I stumbled on this and i don't regret It. Frankly speaking , You hit harder once again 😅😅.
This is so true!!!! Thank u Jessica for spreading this message 🙏
Jessica, this message is a pot of gold 🎯💯
Vice versa, also applies to ladies! Great video. Nice one! 👍
God bless you@JessicaOS stumbles on your Chanel and it’s a real blessing in time
Jess, thank you for this video. I am relieved. You are a blessing to the brotherhood.
Thank you for this, I can relate to my life. I lost power whenever I focused on one woman..everything u said it’s true…
This video was for me as it relates to my current situation. Thank you for sharing
True Jessica, thanx for sharing, am helped 👌🏾
Since I started listening to your videos have understood alot about the female psychology,you're always on point
My eye opener ...🙌🏾🌹🌹 more flowers to you while you're still giving us food for souls. ❤️💛🍎
I have been listening to your advice always and my life changed and I really love your talk.. I realize how much money have been wasted and now I’m doing fine and better than the past
I’m not struggling with this right now with women but I do appreciate the affirmation. Thank you for your wise words Jessica. I’ll keep doing what I’ve been doing
only if this video comes a month ago.. thank you Jessica for take care of us. ❤
I love this video. Keep on with more, watching from Cameroon west Africa
Thanks Sister Jess, sending love from South Africa🔥
Thank you for this... I was getting it wrong before now.
" You are smart woman .. I applause this video and it's content " Man pay attention .. This woman will make y'all a man around a woman 💯 "
You dropped some bars on this one. Thank you.
My uncle told me this first
I'll always appreciate those words
This message is really for me,it helps me a lot,thank you for this video
Arguably the best video I've ever watched from this channel as a guy!!🔥 Thanks Jess🙏🏾
Hey Jess, you should have reminded me about this around May 😅. Yet still the timing couldn't have been better. I've experienced everything you said to the tee. I knew I was violating the Bro Code paa, but somehow I deceived myself into believing she's different even after many red flags. But I've taken back all the power now. Some small girl bi too oo 😅, got a whole me worked up. Never again! 🔥
You got this! better late than never
@JessicaOS 🙏🏾
Jess, thank you abundantly for these important insights. More blessings 🙏🏿 to you.
Yoooh😊
Jessica you have nailed it. The way you have put it give it all
This is the best relationship advice I've ever heard as a man
God bless you Jess 👍🏾👏🏾
This is so timely & it was for me exactly
Lessons learnt
And we move!
You definitely should not seek people, places, things, conditions or situations to provide your completeness, happiness and peace. Instead, you should have them and bring them to all situations. Lastly, expecting others to help complete you, provide you with happiness and peace, usually places a very unfair burden upon others to provide these things, which they may never be able to provide.
Thank you Jessica for sure this is one way to live a healthy life..........thank you
I've never related to a video in my life like this one...goodness lord and it is difficult to get out of this 😢
This is exactly what happened to me 😢😢😢.
I am relating to this right now! I needed this 😢
Damn! This was me three years ago. Thank God it ended. And I've been breaking free from that mistake of Oneitis (focusing on one woman with all your everything) as Rollo Tomansi calls it. I prolly must have qualified for a simp but now I know better.
Thanks again, Jessica. Stay Blessed.
Thank you so much Jessie, I can't stop loving you 🎉
Dear Jessica, thank you 😢😢😢😢😢😢
Wow, i just needed this. Im giving her everything, i sacrifice my life for her happiness. But its still not enough 😢😢. She doesn't appreciate anything nor respect me. She's my everything.
Now i know why
This resonates with me , I will never do that again .
👍👍💯Thanks Jessica i learnt that last year with my Ex & I'm making sure it never ever happens again right now I'm talking to different girls till am certain i want to marry any particular one of them that i know is the right one and deserves my attention
Thank you for this, I’ve been in this exact situation and it’s sad that it has come to this.
How do I love this video a million times ❤
this jesica is just genius
This is directly to me 😢😢😢it hurts so much but I finally told her it's over between us 😔
@JesseOs.. you are just giving me a new energy everyday and a Renewed hope..am putting all of this into practised and it's working out
And what happens to the rest when you finally commit to the one you like. I feel like if you have more than one person at a time you'lm start comparing them rather than focusing on the their characters and you'll definitely miss the important ghings you need yo look out for. This is why people end up realising that the ones they let go where actually better than the ones they marry and start hoing backbto their Exes. I say 1 person at a time. If you see red flags move as soon as possible
Exactly what i needed at this time, i focused on one and am now regretting it. i ignored someone and am feeling it
The crazy part, is this IS EVERY SINGLE DUDE THAT'S TRYING TO DO RIGHT BY HIS LADY.. Until, "hurt feelings.." it's funny how, "not caring" and being put in set position shows results, by then it's too late.. Things are wild backwards.. No one is happy in the end. This is why, they say "Good guys FINISH last.."
I always had this mind since I was a youth that the best way to control a woman is not to be focus on her alone. That why at a certain period I had 16 women for myself
😂😂😂😂😂YOU ARE THE BEST MEN. A real example of true men. Most men have one woman and when they break up they cry like kids. I have 12 at the moment after dropping 8
How do you manage them all cause that’s alot
😂
Jessica I have been watching your videos with likes without comments but this is gem❤❤❤❤❤ well done lady
thank you
Indeed Sister
God bless Jessica for speaking for us🎉❤
Hello Jessica i know most women will disagree with you but this is a turning point lesson for a man like me and I belive that after listening to this video over and over again my Dating life will not be the same. Thank you very much and continue to inspire men who are strugle in with thier dating lives.
God bless you for your endevours
This is profound… every man needs to listen to this… protect your power king 🤴
Today you're talking to is men directly. Thanks Jess❤
I literally make these mistakes.. Just was talking to a female who did this shit and now she ended things. Now I know what I did wrong.
Hi jessi I love you, thank you for this.
No problem 😊
Why this is my situation now but thank God i pulled back
THANK YOU!! Im telling guys this as well...they think Im a player and what not but nooo this is going to help men more than they know.
You are so correct
Thank you for that information Jessica
Jessica thank you for this message.