I definitely recommend keeping a copy of the wedding cake order and just ordering the same cake in a simple one tier round cake. then you can have it as many anniversaries as you want!
In 1996, we saved our cake for our 1 year anniversary and when we opened it a year later, all of our bridesmaids and groomsmen came over and celebrated with us. Both top layers from groom and brides cakes were delicious!!!
Married in 1989. Our top was wrapped and frozen and we had it on our 1st anniversary. It was just as tasty as the day it was made! The trick is to have a baker/caterer who knows how to wrap it to keep it from getting freezer burnt.
My maid of honor froze our cake for us and gave it to us when we got home from our honeymoon...I think we ate it about a week later...and then went and bought the exact same cake for our anniversary! (Benefits of buying a simple cake "off the shelf" from the grocery store to cut...we served sheet cakes to our guests...)
Idea for the next Christmas (and sorry If it exists already) - Christmas weddings! Like, how do you manage stress of both? Is IT worth it? Etc. Thanks!
Winter weddings in general too. Love the idea but am so scared people will be burnt out from holidays that’s they won’t want to show. Also am struggling to find venues that don’t have their indoor ceremony space as an afterthought
My husband and I wanted to freeze at least one piece of cake but there was nothing left 😂 we had 4 different layers and all was gone. We cut the cake in the afternoon so that people would actually eat the amazing cake. We had a dessert buffet after dinner. It was perfect 🥰
Same for my mom she did not even had a test of it 😂 and she cut the cake HERSELF!! 😂 I will definitely cut pieces FOR ME and husband BEFORE it is served to guests
@ my husband and I got the first piece. And because no one wanted to cut the rest of the cake - we actually had two persons for serving drinks, snacks and coffee - my husband cut the whole cake (every guest got his piece from him personally). 😅
So the frozen “preserved” cake is very traditional actually but a butter cream cake is not the one to do that with. It’s more alcohol based cake that stand the test of time. Prince William and Cake cake was preserved for the birth of their first child ❤😅 and first year anniversary
My partner and I are having a micro wedding in our house, with a maximize of 13 people including ourselves. For both of us, the ceremony is one of, if not the most important part of the wedding. We want to do a handfasting, an hourglass sand ceremony and to jump the broom. My concern is most micro weddings I've come across have very short/ simple ceremony and I don't want our ceremony to feel too long or awkward potentially amplify because of how small the wedding is. (I know I am likely over thinking it)
You are over thinking it ❤ it will be fine people are coming for both of you all your ideas are fine and will go so fast you won’t realise ! It’s not how many guests that make a long ceremony any different
I think that it is really great if you vibe with your photographer or other vendors that are around you on your wedding day all the time! I had to get a new photographer the day before because the original one was sick and I did NOT vibe with him. But I did not have much time to choose an and I'm glad I got photos at all, so, well, sometimes you have to accept what you get :)
When my husband and I were choosing our wedding cake, the bakery we worked with flat out told us that year old wedding cake is disgusting. They said, "As a certified pastry chef, I can not in good conscience allow you to uphold this tradition. However, as part of your wedding cake price, we will make you guys a free one year anniversary cake based off your wedding cake, when the time comes." That one year cake was delicious and so appreciated!
The issue with freezing the cake is usually more about the container that you put it in. If it's just a cardboard box, that's not going to preserve the cake. Better to cut it into pieces and put them in freezer bags (or, if you want to get really fancy, vacuum-seal bags) to actually keep them fresh in the freezer.
My dad and his friend threw the cake in the fire on their anniversary after 1 too many. Clearly their marriage didn’t go up in flames because I was born 11 years after that incident and they’re still together today 😂
My wedding cake came out of the freezer a year later smelling very questionable. I strongly fear and distrust this tradition (heard too many stories about it coming out tasting gross, but parents in law insisted we do it and put the cake in their own freezer for us!), so my husband and I didn't hesitate throwing it into the trash lmao.
I've got an off-topic question. When they say 150 guests, does that include bride, groom and wedding party? And vendors like the DJ? Or just the people you're inviting and the wedding party?
I'm not wedding planning yet, so you could take your time responding. How do my fiance and I go about having two receptions without upsetting too many people? One will be a simple dinner at a nice restaurant (his side) and the other a more typical reception (my side). It makes sense because his side is smaller and requires more accommodations due to food allergies, music volume sensitivities, and a service dog being present. How do we tell people about the plan without making it feel like we are excluding or coming off as not appreciating them?
I think Jamie has already addressed a similar situation as this in a previous video, and she advised against having separate receptions, however that couple or I think the groom, wanted them happening at the same time, just in two different areas of the venue. In your situation, assuming the more typical reception would be held directly after your wedding, I could see how your fiancé's family would feel left out if they're not invited to it. Is there any way you can accommodate their food allergies? If there are restaurants they can eat at, could you have the food catered from that restaurant? Aren't service dogs required by law to be allowed anywhere? So, that shouldn't be a problem. As far as the music volume, why not have it more subdued during dinner/desserts? Most people prefer that when they're trying to visit anyway and it sets a more classy atmosphere. Then ramp it up when dancing starts. As long as you give them advanced warning, they can decide if they want to stay or leave. If there's no way you can accommodate their needs, second best option imo is to tell your fiancé's family what your plans are for the reception and acknowledge that you understand it would be difficult for them to come, so you're giving them the option of whether they want to attend or have a separate time at a restaurant with you to celebrate. Or since his family is small, they would be welcome to do both! That would go a long way towards assuring them that you love them and aren't trying to exclude them.
@lizajane2971 The food allergies is major because my future FIL is very allergic to onions, which is used in alot of meals and I feel like it would be difficult for catering to absolutely insure nothing is contaminated. As for the service dog, it's not so much that they wouldn't be allowed to have the service dog, but rather there are guests on my side that wouldn't be comfortable with a dog at the event, due to trauma surrounding dogs. We were planning on keeping the music generally at a more comfortable volume since we would rather not have our guests have to yell to be able to hear each other.
@itssteph263 First, let me say that I think you are definitely NOT a bridezilla! It's great that you are thinking ahead about the different needs of your guests. I think, though, that you might be overthinking things. If you approach people, especially your future FIL, and ask them what you can do to accommodate them and what they prefer to do, imo that would be the best idea. Reasonable people want to help out the bride and groom as much as possible. Or just send out invites and let people figure stuff out on their own. People have to make decisions on what works best for them all the time, and they should recognize that your wedding isn't all about them. If that doesn't sound good to you and you don't see a path for both families to enjoy your reception together, maybe you could do two separate receptions on a different day than your wedding to accommodate both sides. Maybe just have cake or something on the day of. But if you send out invites and only invite your family to your after ceremony reception, but not his, I don't see any way how that won't seem like you're favoring your family over your fiancé's, even if you invite them to something else at a different time... Good luck!
I very much would like to hear The Bar options video. You might try doing one based on a couple of locations that you're familiar with like your mom's place in your current place. And what's her name that you did videos with when you went to assist her? At a wedding in England to give us a third specific location for Reference P, s, my sister did the cake saving on her. First wedding and I thought it was meaningful. Besides being a thing to help get through the first year, which is about when about half of divorces, the marriage comes apart because a wedding is a time of transition.
Our wedding was from 12-1 and the reception was 5-11. 350 people. My sisters was at 11, reception at 5-12, 500 plus people. Just Catholic and in a suburb.
HAH my parents also had a piece of their wedding cake in the freezer throughout my childhood (although I think it got thrown out at some point a few years ago) and that has definitely tainted the whole 1 year frozen wedding cake tradition for me. Keeping it for much longer than 1 year is very strange behavior but also totally on par for my dad who's kinda a hoarder.
My parents saved their wedding cake top layer to be eaten on their 1st anniversary… then 5th… then 10th… then not long before the 20 year mark, the freezer broke when we were camping so it had to be ditched
I specifically remember saying I did not want to save a cake for a year cuz I figured it was going to taste terrible but my mom went and did it anyway (this is a whole separate rant about all the crazy stuff that my mom is willing to freeze and save for a later day). And it tasted like frozen-year-old cake like it was fine but it wasn't anything special
If the wedding cake is a fruit cake, I can see it being okay after a year. I'd just get a new cake that's the same flavor if it was that important to me.
honestly in half of your videos i think "she's clearly never been to a nigerian wedding" since a lot of the advice isnt applicable. but i still watch your videos for the other helpful information!
You cake save a cake just not THAT TYPE of cake we are all thinking about 😂😂 the cake you can preserve very well for years are more like raisins brandy cakes 😂
I definitely recommend keeping a copy of the wedding cake order and just ordering the same cake in a simple one tier round cake. then you can have it as many anniversaries as you want!
In 1996, we saved our cake for our 1 year anniversary and when we opened it a year later, all of our bridesmaids and groomsmen came over and celebrated with us. Both top layers from groom and brides cakes were delicious!!!
Married in 1989. Our top was wrapped and frozen and we had it on our 1st anniversary. It was just as tasty as the day it was made! The trick is to have a baker/caterer who knows how to wrap it to keep it from getting freezer burnt.
My wife and I froze the top layer from our 1992 wedding cake and ate it on the first anniversary. It was fine.
Was it fruit or sponge though?
@@KateHistoryMysteries AFAIK normal white cake. (I know that I don't know)
My maid of honor froze our cake for us and gave it to us when we got home from our honeymoon...I think we ate it about a week later...and then went and bought the exact same cake for our anniversary! (Benefits of buying a simple cake "off the shelf" from the grocery store to cut...we served sheet cakes to our guests...)
Idea for the next Christmas (and sorry If it exists already) - Christmas weddings! Like, how do you manage stress of both? Is IT worth it? Etc. Thanks!
Winter weddings in general too. Love the idea but am so scared people will be burnt out from holidays that’s they won’t want to show. Also am struggling to find venues that don’t have their indoor ceremony space as an afterthought
My husband and I wanted to freeze at least one piece of cake but there was nothing left 😂 we had 4 different layers and all was gone. We cut the cake in the afternoon so that people would actually eat the amazing cake. We had a dessert buffet after dinner. It was perfect 🥰
Same for my mom she did not even had a test of it 😂 and she cut the cake HERSELF!! 😂 I will definitely cut pieces FOR ME and husband BEFORE it is served to guests
@ my husband and I got the first piece. And because no one wanted to cut the rest of the cake - we actually had two persons for serving drinks, snacks and coffee - my husband cut the whole cake (every guest got his piece from him personally). 😅
So the frozen “preserved” cake is very traditional actually but a butter cream cake is not the one to do that with. It’s more alcohol based cake that stand the test of time. Prince William and Cake cake was preserved for the birth of their first child ❤😅 and first year anniversary
My partner and I are having a micro wedding in our house, with a maximize of 13 people including ourselves. For both of us, the ceremony is one of, if not the most important part of the wedding. We want to do a handfasting, an hourglass sand ceremony and to jump the broom. My concern is most micro weddings I've come across have very short/ simple ceremony and I don't want our ceremony to feel too long or awkward potentially amplify because of how small the wedding is. (I know I am likely over thinking it)
You are over thinking it ❤ it will be fine people are coming for both of you all your ideas are fine and will go so fast you won’t realise ! It’s not how many guests that make a long ceremony any different
My mom’s friends did a popcorn bar with different toppings for their cocktail hour
Alcohol without food is bad combooooo HAVE SNACKSSSS less drunk people ! Thanks us later ❤
My son and wife brought out their cake top level on their anniversary and served at their party. It was good.
Unpopular opinion. I saved the top of our cake and it was still great 1 yr later. I cut into 4 pieces, wrapped in plastic wrap and put in freezer bags
I think that it is really great if you vibe with your photographer or other vendors that are around you on your wedding day all the time! I had to get a new photographer the day before because the original one was sick and I did NOT vibe with him. But I did not have much time to choose an and I'm glad I got photos at all, so, well, sometimes you have to accept what you get :)
When my husband and I were choosing our wedding cake, the bakery we worked with flat out told us that year old wedding cake is disgusting. They said, "As a certified pastry chef, I can not in good conscience allow you to uphold this tradition. However, as part of your wedding cake price, we will make you guys a free one year anniversary cake based off your wedding cake, when the time comes."
That one year cake was delicious and so appreciated!
The issue with freezing the cake is usually more about the container that you put it in. If it's just a cardboard box, that's not going to preserve the cake. Better to cut it into pieces and put them in freezer bags (or, if you want to get really fancy, vacuum-seal bags) to actually keep them fresh in the freezer.
My dad and his friend threw the cake in the fire on their anniversary after 1 too many. Clearly their marriage didn’t go up in flames because I was born 11 years after that incident and they’re still together today 😂
My wedding cake came out of the freezer a year later smelling very questionable. I strongly fear and distrust this tradition (heard too many stories about it coming out tasting gross, but parents in law insisted we do it and put the cake in their own freezer for us!), so my husband and I didn't hesitate throwing it into the trash lmao.
I've got an off-topic question. When they say 150 guests, does that include bride, groom and wedding party? And vendors like the DJ? Or just the people you're inviting and the wedding party?
I think it’s the total guests you are feeding so usually everyone
Guests (including wedding party) plus couple.
We ate our top cake layer on our 1 month anniversary. I like cake way too much to risk a year.
I'm not wedding planning yet, so you could take your time responding. How do my fiance and I go about having two receptions without upsetting too many people? One will be a simple dinner at a nice restaurant (his side) and the other a more typical reception (my side). It makes sense because his side is smaller and requires more accommodations due to food allergies, music volume sensitivities, and a service dog being present. How do we tell people about the plan without making it feel like we are excluding or coming off as not appreciating them?
I think Jamie has already addressed a similar situation as this in a previous video, and she advised against having separate receptions, however that couple or I think the groom, wanted them happening at the same time, just in two different areas of the venue. In your situation, assuming the more typical reception would be held directly after your wedding, I could see how your fiancé's family would feel left out if they're not invited to it. Is there any way you can accommodate their food allergies? If there are restaurants they can eat at, could you have the food catered from that restaurant? Aren't service dogs required by law to be allowed anywhere? So, that shouldn't be a problem. As far as the music volume, why not have it more subdued during dinner/desserts? Most people prefer that when they're trying to visit anyway and it sets a more classy atmosphere. Then ramp it up when dancing starts. As long as you give them advanced warning, they can decide if they want to stay or leave. If there's no way you can accommodate their needs, second best option imo is to tell your fiancé's family what your plans are for the reception and acknowledge that you understand it would be difficult for them to come, so you're giving them the option of whether they want to attend or have a separate time at a restaurant with you to celebrate. Or since his family is small, they would be welcome to do both! That would go a long way towards assuring them that you love them and aren't trying to exclude them.
@lizajane2971 The food allergies is major because my future FIL is very allergic to onions, which is used in alot of meals and I feel like it would be difficult for catering to absolutely insure nothing is contaminated. As for the service dog, it's not so much that they wouldn't be allowed to have the service dog, but rather there are guests on my side that wouldn't be comfortable with a dog at the event, due to trauma surrounding dogs. We were planning on keeping the music generally at a more comfortable volume since we would rather not have our guests have to yell to be able to hear each other.
@itssteph263 First, let me say that I think you are definitely NOT a bridezilla! It's great that you are thinking ahead about the different needs of your guests. I think, though, that you might be overthinking things. If you approach people, especially your future FIL, and ask them what you can do to accommodate them and what they prefer to do, imo that would be the best idea. Reasonable people want to help out the bride and groom as much as possible. Or just send out invites and let people figure stuff out on their own. People have to make decisions on what works best for them all the time, and they should recognize that your wedding isn't all about them. If that doesn't sound good to you and you don't see a path for both families to enjoy your reception together, maybe you could do two separate receptions on a different day than your wedding to accommodate both sides. Maybe just have cake or something on the day of. But if you send out invites and only invite your family to your after ceremony reception, but not his, I don't see any way how that won't seem like you're favoring your family over your fiancé's, even if you invite them to something else at a different time... Good luck!
I very much would like to hear The Bar options video. You might try doing one based on a couple of locations that you're familiar with like your mom's place in your current place. And what's her name that you did videos with when you went to assist her? At a wedding in England to give us a third specific location for Reference
P, s, my sister did the cake saving on her. First wedding and I thought it was meaningful. Besides being a thing to help get through the first year, which is about when about half of divorces, the marriage comes apart because a wedding is a time of transition.
Going for a very European castle fairytale vibe, and heavily using the font Adobe Caslon Pro Italic
My husband and I froze the leftover cake but ate it within a month after the wedding
Our wedding was from 12-1 and the reception was 5-11. 350 people. My sisters was at 11, reception at 5-12, 500 plus people. Just Catholic and in a suburb.
Jamie you're the best. 😂❤
Jamie could you do a video on drink tickets/limited bar hours?
Interested in bar options!
HAH my parents also had a piece of their wedding cake in the freezer throughout my childhood (although I think it got thrown out at some point a few years ago) and that has definitely tainted the whole 1 year frozen wedding cake tradition for me. Keeping it for much longer than 1 year is very strange behavior but also totally on par for my dad who's kinda a hoarder.
My parents saved their wedding cake top layer to be eaten on their 1st anniversary… then 5th… then 10th… then not long before the 20 year mark, the freezer broke when we were camping so it had to be ditched
I specifically remember saying I did not want to save a cake for a year cuz I figured it was going to taste terrible but my mom went and did it anyway (this is a whole separate rant about all the crazy stuff that my mom is willing to freeze and save for a later day). And it tasted like frozen-year-old cake like it was fine but it wasn't anything special
I froze the top layer of my first wedding cake in 1995 and by 1996 it was helllllllla freezer burned and did not taste good.
If the wedding cake is a fruit cake, I can see it being okay after a year. I'd just get a new cake that's the same flavor if it was that important to me.
I’ve got it - you really resemble Shaillene Woodley 😀
Hi lovely lady! love your uploads!
Theres a superstition about saving the cake? Just save the flavor ans bakery and bam get the same cake later
honestly in half of your videos i think "she's clearly never been to a nigerian wedding" since a lot of the advice isnt applicable. but i still watch your videos for the other helpful information!
You cake save a cake just not THAT TYPE of cake we are all thinking about 😂😂 the cake you can preserve very well for years are more like raisins brandy cakes 😂
My parents saved the top
Cake in freezer is gross and in my opinion, no longer a thing. I don't know anyone who has done that.