1. Don't make the first move 2. Never let a man hear you using disrespectful language and twerking in the club. Act classy! 3. Never get excited about sexual attention from a man. That's cheap! Bonus: Once you get a man you like, Never be afraid to walk away from him when he tries to test you. Show him you don't have a problem walking away if he can't act right.
This was real. He's is being honest. I tell young ladies, "never get excited about a man noticing you because it's just sexual attraction. They don't know you as a person."
When a man is attracted to you, he will approach you. It’s obvious too. You will KNOW when a man is interested in you or finds you attractive. I’m not ready to date, and that’s when men have been in my face trying to talk to me. It’s crazy. I want to be left alone and focus on my goals and healing.
@@abisolaabisola7357 could be past hurt from a relationship and that requires space and time to reflect or seek therapy to be a better version of yourself for the next relationship. I can relate because it's where I am currently.
@@abisolaabisola7357 I’m healing from childhood trauma. I realized that I was suffering from that when I seen a pattern of the type of men I was attracted to and attracting; they were all the abusive type. I realized that I had extremely low self esteem and no boundaries. I promised myself that I would work on myself to be secure and have REAL self love for myself before entertaining another man. People think that a relationship will fix and heal them, but honestly it’ll only make you worse off than before. You have to have real love and an healthy relationship with yourself first before you can have one with another person.
The last line.... whew. If you walk away and he let's you go, he didn't want you in the first place. Facts stacked on facts!!! I had to learn that the hard way. I used to tell my ex, I hate that you are willing to just let me go. You don't fight for us. Eventually, I learned he didn't fight for us because he didn't want "us". Once that set in, I was cool happily moving on. Great lesson.
Omg this is what I'm going through now. 6 months pretty much same thing. I never even considered that. You know what? If I'm chasing, it's because he is running. My last text to him was this morning and it said, "oh, xyz, I love you". Those are my last words. Edit- in my defense I haven't dated in like 12 years after I got my heart broken when I was 22.
I have always been reserved and I thank God that I was confident and that I understood very early in my life, pre-teens, that attention from boys was purely sexual. With that knowledge it was easy for me to chose to be a virgin thru high school and into my twenties. Casual sex or having sex with a guy bc hes handsome or he is attracted to me has never been a reason. For me, I only want attention and intimacy from a man who has really and truly invested in me, a husband, otherwise I am not interested.
Are we related or just GREAT upbringing🤣 I was/is a tomboy. I had sex after getting married to my 1st HS football playing boyfriend. He didn't want kids in the beginning, but when he placed that ring on... he wanted 11??!! I left one day, without telling him, & joined the USAF. BEST MOVE EVER😉👍
A woman should never chase a man, ask a man out, pick him up and take care of a man. A man must be provided for, protected, and built. Men are hunters. All women should always have boundaries.
❤ back in highschool I used to get so much attention when it came to my body. I didn't dress trashy, but I definitely showed off my curves because I loved my body. I STILL love my body, but I don't make it a point to dress extra skimpy or tight because there's so much more to me. I love that I recieve the attention from the RIGHT guys. It literally warms my heart when a guy compliments who I am as a person and not just on my looks.
Bless you and your family. I just had my 15 year old listen to you. This was awesome!!! Now she knows mommy isn’t just being old fashioned about how she dresses. As she listened to you, I could tell that she FINALLY understands. Thanks for helping out a single mom!👍🏽🙌🏾👏🏽😀😀😀😀
BONUS: Being able to walk away is "ON Point" .....So true, good message. If young women can take this in and know there POWER then they just might be alright. That was a good message for a Father to tell His Daughter. It's sad though that there are a lot of women who did not have that experience growing up, a father to protect them, a dad to teach them what to look for; but it's beautiful that you are there in your daughter's life and you can guide her and show her what she needs to know to equip her for when she steps out here in this world. I have a son who loves his daughter and I hope he will share the exact information that you just spoke on, and as her grandmother, I for sure will back him up and if I am still here I will share with her some of the mistakes I made and for her to avoid. But having a GOOD father figure growing up makes all the difference in the world because he is the first man in her life and he is the one who should be showing her the way. What to look out for, he is the one that is suppose to keep her safe. When I was growing up I had mixed messages, I had a father in the home, I saw my father who would get up everyday and go to work, and sometimes hold down several jobs to take care of our family of eight, I grew up with my father starting up his own business and doing very well to the point that we were able to move out into the suburbs, I saw him do all the manly things like keeping all the cars washed & cleaned, he kept up the car repairs if needed, I saw him keep the lawn groomed weekly. I grew up in a very traditional home, but what I did not get growing up was protection and feeling safe, the very thing that I should have learned from my dad. I will just leave it there but you get the point. Your message was painful but very true and if young girls can grasp it early on then they will be all the wiser. Thank You🙏
You don't have to approach a man but there are little ways to draw their attention. A cute laugh, a sexy walk, the way you sip your drink. I had a man tell me if he wasn't married I would be his wife because he liked the way I conducted myself at a bbq.. All I did was NOT engage in every conversation and sip my drink while vibing to the music. I didn't throw any signals or looks to anyone. I was in a crowd in my own little world.
He told you if he wasn't already married you'd be his WIFE? He sounds like a cheater who's disrespectful of his relationship with his own wife. I wouldn't have been impressed by his comment.
@@MAGAISKLAN I wasn't phased by the comment one way or another. I was giving an example of how your demeanor could attract someone without having to approach them.
Respectfully, what is a sexy walk. What we deem a sexy walk is also known as the hooker walk. This usually gives a man the impression that you are cheap and want to engage in carnal pleasure. It is not a good look.
Women should never make the first move to ask a man out. Shumake, I agree with you on all points. Thanks for speaking on this. Women need to hear this 🙂
Thanks for keeping it real. I just lost mr father, and trust me I’m able to recall the many conversations we’ve had pertaining to men. Your family is very fortunate, keep up the great work, you will not regret it.
Just angrily asked myself why this video doesn’t have more views but oh, it’s only two days old 😭 but this is a GEM. It sounds like it would be so obvious but us women can’t stop bumping our heads so it must not be obvious enough. I appreciate an intelligent black man giving it to us straight from the horses mouth, not some woman who think she knows what men want. Peace and blessings to you and you family ☮️
Why is it that we as women, have to pander to men ? Women can act like a nun a still get the bad end of the stick. I don't know about anyone else but I don't want a man in the club, that's not a place to meet a man. Men always have different standards for women. Men ask for wifey treatment and , they're usually for the streets. I don't think all men are like that, but a lot of them are. Some of our ladies are for the streets as well, but at the same time a woman should be comfortable in their own skin. Ladies stop pandering to these men who wants you to jump through hoops, usually it doesn't matter. The right one would except you flaws and all. IJS...
Awesome advice young brother 👊🏽. 💯 He who finds a wife finds a good thing. The man is supposed to make the first move respectfully. I understand I'm saying that same thing to my daughter. 💯
You are so right about all of this. I try to tell my niece and her mother this all the time. Neither one have ever been in a long term relationship or married. Sister now, 56 and niece is now 38.
Wow Shumake! Really needed this right now ~~~ A guy that I like was really into the “twerk representative” at a recent event that I saw him at. I was so broken because I became invisible to him after her “performance “... I’m quite conservative and have always been aware that people are always watching... You confirmed for me that keeping my cool and removing myself was the right thing to do... In the meantime, pardon me while I go lick my wounds in private.. LoL!
A lot of guys aren't approaching women these days like that. Especially if she appears unapproachable. .. she's on the phone...she's looks like she's in a hurry... She is wearing the rbf....approach anxiety is a real thing for a lot of guys these days. If she likes a guy...maybe not approach per se but give a choosing signal. Dudes who approach women like it's nothing are usually pretty good at it and tend to approach a lot of women. It's a numbers game after all. And they wonder why they always end up with a player.
@@kumajoey6031 maybe by asking a question about a pic or something. Idk. But if he's interested, it doesn't have to be hilarious or thought provoking. Just a conversation starter. I honestly don't agree with him that women shouldn't approach men. A girl approached me once in a grocery store. She just asked if i could cook and what i planned on cooking with what's in my cart. We had a decent conversation and exchanged numbers. Even tho it didn't work out. I still remember it to this day. I probably wouldn't have approached her, but since she showed me interest, i was intrigued for a lil while.
is it a good idea to sit next to a guy ur interested in more than once? (hes always in the room first therefore it’s up to me where to decide to sit) If so, how do I get him to start up a convo?
@@Mental_Alchemist thanks for the advice, only seeing this reply now 😅. Didn't get a youtube notification. So you were intrigued for little while? So the guy in the video is right I guess because you lost interest and you are saying you wouldn't have approached her. Now I don't know if I want to initiate because of what you just said. I am not into casual stuff and maybe the dude I like does like because if he did he would talk to me first.
@@kumajoey6031 i didn't lose interest. I think she lost interest in me. We exchanged numbers but she never replied to my text to her. It is possible that he isn't interested in you or maybe he has a girl or maybe he's shy. He might think you're out of his league. He might only be interested in a sexual relationship with you also. So that's also possible. Most single guys aren't going to turn down sex unless you're hideous. Either way, i don't see anything wrong with you 'shooting your shot' so to speak. If he really likes you, he won't hold it against you. If he's a regular guy (not a player or ladies man) he's probably not used to women approaching him and he'd probably be flattered in the very least. Just don't come across as desperate and you should be fine. Ask if he would like to study together sometime and set up a time and place. You could use that time to get to know him and see what he's really like. You could flirt a little, but since you're supposed to be studying, there won't be much pressure. A dark secret is to give him validation, (as in show interest), but then take it away. He might wonder why u suddenly stopped being interested. Use cautiosly though bcuz it migjht backfire on you. Or it might prove that he isn't that interested anyway....but u really don't want to get emotionally invested in some one who doesn't want u back lik3 that anyway even if you are attracted to him. Good luck
@@wwhyme.. it's a good idea i think. He's either going to be interested in you or not. But playing hard to get with someone not interested at all isn't going to make them suddenly interested. Show interest, but don't come across as desperate. Ask him questions about a test or an assignment. Ask about where he's from? Or what made him decide to go to that school. What's his major? Why did he decide to choose it ... stuff like that. Asking questions usually gets them to open up....in other words try to be his friend. If he seems open and ask you questions in return, he might be interested in you as well. Then maybe take the initiative to ask if he'd like to study together one day. You may have to set the date and time since a lot of guys are aloof when it comes to those kinds of things. Basically think of it like pitching him softballs, be easy (not in a sexual sense) but make it easy to approach. Be a friend, be cool, but be indirect in the beginning about your intention bcuz you might come across as desperate or either too strong. Be warned though. He might take the bait, but he still might not be interested in a relationship with you....but if u can start spending time with him, you can guage his interest level. Most of the relationships i had in the past happened because a girl i wasn't intially interested in showed interest in me. She grew on me and once i got to know her, i started liking her more. But in full disclosure, im a regular guy, not a player.
Young man, I don't know who you are but, GOD BLESS YOU!!! Thank you for being so well spoken, intelligent and protective of not only your little girl but all of us ladies out here. For the people who think that things are changing in today's society; nothing has changed except the date on the calendar. You are the real deal:)
I know u mean well but the 1st thing women need to do is stop listening to me telling women how to be women. Men please focus yall energy on building & guiding men....
The last time I watched one of your videos you weren't married Shumake. You were still working on making yourself ready for the woman you revealed was in your heart. Congratulations, good for you brotha'! Continued happiness and success!
Love this! Excellent video no matter the age. It’s especially good for those getting back out there because times are so different now. Thank you for sharing truth and facts from a male and fathers perspective🙏🏾👊🏽💙
Another thing to add, is to avoid discussing how much money you earn or show off your material possessions. There are a lot of men who seek out women to take care of them financially. Never give a man money, don't let him stay at your house or drive your car.
As a male growing up around women who loved the LORD. No woman or man is going to be no where near a club when the Holy Spirit lives within them! When you belong to the LORD. You become a new creature and you no longer belong to this world! And a man can also be vulnerable too! If either person is only looking for sex. It’s called lust! And lust is a sin in the LORD’s eyes. Flee from sexual immorality! There is no other sin so clearly that affects the body as this one does for sexual immorality is a sin against your own body!
Used to do this, ask men out. And I can tell you right now, not the thing to do. I don't care how excited he gets you and how he makes you feel. Let him chase you. Rest in your femininity ladies. It is so worth it. These men are not stupid for they are testing you, they just won't tell you. Since resting in my feminine, more men approach and hold doors, pay things and its such a nice feeling.
This was a great message especially for young ladies that may seek male validation due to the absence of a strong father figure. There tends to be few adults who are really willing to self improve so guiding the youth is always a great angle. If you’re a woman that is overly flattered by a man because he likes your appearance you still have many hard lessons ahead of you!
😭😭😭that bonus tip was were i messed up,,,,20 yrs in (off and on though) i FINALLY LEARNED i messed up wayyyyy back and he is NEVER going to commit to me....smh....what a waste of life i've lead, but its allllll on ME😕😟🙁☹😭😭😫😫💔💔💔
So, I wanna be very careful in how I respond to this as a man because fact is , Quite a few things I've heard on your channel, I frankly agree with BUT.... (and so it begins) . Your analogy, input or advice on this matter is only correct for some people. Now let me explain . Until God decided to call my wife home , we were married for close to 25 years and extremely happy !! But had she not made the first move or gave me some sign that she was interested ? I would have missed out on my absolute soul mate because at the time , I was too focused on my work and other other issues. The fact that this beautiful, strong , black woman went out of her way to let me know she saw me , appreciated the way I carried myself and was interested ? ...... Touched my heart and the rest is history. So I can't agree that your insight works for all women and no , I'm not a senior citizen...... Yet. IMO it highly depends on the he person's of which you speak and that's all.
I needed to see this thank you! I show interest by approaching sometimes but I wouldn’t go as far as asking the man for his contact. It’s just friendly conversation
I totally agree with points three and four. I wouldn’t change a thing. With point number one I had to learn that the hard way. I never used to chase men at all until one time my friend said to take matters into my own hands and make the first move. I told her that I thought it was inappropriate for women to make the first move but she told me that I’d never know when I’d be missing out on if I just wait for something to happen to me. The only reason I trusted her is because she was giving me advice that she took for herself. She’s a happily married woman to a man who works in the government and now they have two children. All because she made the first move. I like it when people give me advice that they honestly take for themselves. I can’t stand it when someone tells you to do something that they would never do for themselves. I tried it once and I felt embarrassed and it was really embarrassing, but at least I know she was coming from good intentions. The second one I don’t agree with because there is a time and place for everything. If I keep myself ladylike and classy on the streets, in the Board room, in the general public I should be allowed to literally and figuratively show my ass in the club. Now I’m not a club going person, but in any space where I feel compelled to let go and be loud and free I should be able to do that. Because why should I behave and put on appearances when the space doesn’t call for that? One of the reasons why a lot of men cheat is because they don’t go for the woman that they want but rather the woman they THINK they should have in a relationship. To have a wife and a woman who stays home, reserved, boring, predictable, covered head to toe with almost no inclination to go out while still having eyes on the women he saw in the club. Maybe they should just go for the women they truly desire in their hearts instead of safeguarding the good girls at home just so they can have a reserve of clean and untouched vagina when they get back.
Hey Love,I agree with many of the things you're saying... but the point he's making is :these men may keep you for years as a mistress,baby momma but will never wore u up.... That's what we need to teach our younger ladies,if you want that ring,there are rules, don't let anybody convince you otherwise....You can let your hair down with your girls at a private space...but not where the man you want is hanging out especially when his 'boys' are there......
I was just talking about the second paragraph with my bff! They want the women who look good to others in society instead of just going with the vibe and who they are actually attracted to
🎯reasons on why a Man deems a Woman good enough to Bed/🛌, but NOT Lovingly & Lawfully WED💍💒, as well... Thank you for sharing your, EXCELLENT 🥇 commentary and Word's of Wisdom, Sir!🔥💫
6 months pretty much same thing, me begging. He kept getting more and more turned off by me. Eventually I told him I'm finished trying to change for him and he brought my stuff over while I was out and hasn't responded all day. You know what I've figured? If I'm chasing, it's because he is running. My last text to him was this morning and it said, "oh, xyz, I love you". Those are my last words. Edit- in my defense I haven't dated in like 12 years after I got my heart broken when I was 22.
You are so sharp and on point i love it. This all makes so much sense ofcourse. I hope women will see this and think twice about making such bad choices. Your daughter is blessed with having you as het father! God bless 🙏🏾☘️
Thank you Shumake for giving advice from the perspective of mature, Godly, honest, respectable, delivered, and successful gentlemen! Unfortunately these are taken... Largely what's left are the jerks, narcissists, deadbeats, manipulators, cheaters, liars where none of your rules apply! What's needed is immediate discernment of their character! Please don't mistake these men for the characteristics of gentlemen!
I wish i found your channel earlier. I did the first approach first most of the time. Now I started to understand men a bit better. Thank you sir for your perspective I really need it.
When I go out I act a fool and I'm usually half naked. That being said I don't care what people think because I'm not looking for a man. Also, If he has less than honorable intentions thats on him. One thing I am not going to do is not be myself. If he has a negative opinion so be it. So tired of men talking about how we need to look and carry ourselves. We still have to go through the bull anyway. I am in management with a good job for over 15 years. My kids are healthy and happy. Yes i have significant other but I promise I would still do me even if I was looking.
Thank you!!! What he is talking about is referring to specific situations. And he is RIGHT!! But.. Like, first off! STOP looking for a man in the club, anyway!!!!!!!! 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
I agree that we should be able to express ourselves however we chose to. Your fashion sense is part of your identity and no one should make you feel like it’s wrong or improper. However, I also believe that how a woman chooses to present herself is indicative of her maturity. A woman in a certain place in life would never carry herself a certain way. It has nothing to do with seeking a man, or sex, or validation. It’s simply having the wisdom to understand that presentation is everything. Same logic applies to wearing bonnets in public, and pajama wear. I started by using “women” as an example, but both genders are guilty of this in different ways. How you present yourself determines how you are treated.
As a Lady i will have to agree with this gentleman, this is definetly 100% as this does keep me Single happy peace of mind, cuz most men these days do not like real true respectful Lady's especially all natural beauty one's... Much Love this is.. 💗💗💗
Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together......♻️♻️
thank you for this, speaking as a woman who was not raised by a father i need to hear this, i’ve had male role models and friends but still sometimes family and friends don’t want to get into dating situations it even though they care, especially when you’re like the youngest in a family
Man. Funny I should run across this video. Went out with my home girl cuz she was going to meet someone. Since I was just going as a third wheel I wore a tshirt, jeans, and some chucks. Her dude came with some friends. Now I’m very reserved. First guy(40) made small talk, seen the rump and amped it up. Got all touchy-feely, saying you know I want you, even put his tongue in my ear. I was like FOOL I don’t even know you. WTF. He really thought I was gonna leave with him and go Fk🤷🏽♀️. He left then a 55 yr old approached me and right off the top told me his income 🤦🏾♀️. I was not impressed. This was my first time this year going out and I was like SMH.
The first advice I think on the surface sounds good but I think in a modern dating era it can’t always apply. Here’s a thing most men that I waited to make the first move on me never do it. And the men who do make the first move on me are men that I’m not attracted to and don’t want to be with, so I just end up being disappointed and having to curve a man,but I thought that I had to wait for a man to make a move. I think in some cases women have to be forthcoming with what they want and go after it.I’ve been in a relationship now for a few years and we are very happy and I made the first move on him. if you online date which is starting to become the more popular way people are meeting there are even some apps where the women have to message the MAN first. I think times are changing and women don’t have to wait for a man to choose them anymore.
I agree; although most of the advice sounded practical. Some points that were made are kind of just not as applicable to this modern day. Times are changing, and people are changing. I'm sure he didn't mean it totally black and white, with no gray area, but some people may not catch on to that. Sometimes these "old-fashioned" ways of thinking don't progress men and women any further.
@@yourmajesty8742 there are times when it didn’t go my way but that happens. In this last case however I’ve been in a happy relationship for years now one of the healthiest I’ve ever been in so I say it still works. My boyfriend and I are so opposite appearance wise that he didn’t even think he would be on my radar. It took me saying something first for him to know and he took it from there.
@@LaughinMyAssOn I think it definitely sounds practical for sure. I just don’t think it’s always a woman showing her hand by expressing interest in a man first. I have had men be straight up with me and and tell me that either they weren’t interested or what they were actually interested in and I have made the first move and so many men have applauded me for that. From my perspective I see a lot of men wishing women would make the first move and speak up more. But I had men pursue me chase me down like I was the hottest piece of meat on the market and I had no interest in them and they had nothing but nefarious intent for me. Of course it is very nice to be pursued and chased and to feel like you are wanted ibut I know in this day and age that is happening less and less and I see women missing out because they won’t just go after what they desire. But overall I think his advice is being helpful and trying to give women a different perspective on how to protect themselves when they’re dating.
@@e3xiii315 I am so happy it's working for you. For me , yeah it's a no. I feel like when a man is extremely into you, it won't matter whether you are different nationalities , the urge to get to know you will overcome every single roadblock. I will smile at them and keep it moving. I never want to have the masculine energy ever and I feel like it will always fall to me to maintain that cadence. If you are happy , then this dynamic is suitable. I wish you a lengthy , happy union :)
Bravo To U God Bless U💙😇 I wish All teenagers & young ladies & women could hear this! Clearly it's needed now more than other today or being celibate until the u find someone worthy 💜💙💜💙
#1 Better to reject than be rejected #2 Be respectful of yourself #3 Don't be easy. You will only be a one night stand, booty call, or side chick # 4 Get to know him better first. Everything that look good to you, isn't always good for you If it walk like a duck and, quack like a duck, it is a duck. Be careful. If things that he does is dangerous or disrespectable leave asap, before it's too late. Obviously he is not what he portrayed to be or or who you wanted to be with.
Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together......♻️♻️
Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together......♻️♻️
1. Don't make the first move
2. Never let a man hear you using disrespectful language and twerking in the club. Act classy!
3. Never get excited about sexual attention from a man. That's cheap!
Bonus: Once you get a man you like, Never be afraid to walk away from him when he tries to test you. Show him you don't have a problem walking away if he can't act right.
And never give him any money
@@ayana188 Omg yes!
He still gon cheat🤣🤣🤣🤣🙄😏
@@buffybanks9853 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😭 that part
Truth
This was real. He's is being honest. I tell young ladies, "never get excited about a man noticing you because it's just sexual attraction. They don't know you as a person."
Being a female is a matter of birth Being a woman is a matter of age,but Being a Lady is a matter of choice....🎀🎀
Profoundly Well Stated!👏👑🙏
I personally OWN MY femininity!!!
Amen to that factual TRUTH, Curtistine❤
@@Blessingz777 😀
We’ll said 🙌🏽
When a man is attracted to you, he will approach you. It’s obvious too. You will KNOW when a man is interested in you or finds you attractive. I’m not ready to date, and that’s when men have been in my face trying to talk to me. It’s crazy. I want to be left alone and focus on my goals and healing.
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Same they always come when you not read.
What are you healing from if you’re not dealing with men?
@@abisolaabisola7357 could be past hurt from a relationship and that requires space and time to reflect or seek therapy to be a better version of yourself for the next relationship. I can relate because it's where I am currently.
@@abisolaabisola7357 I’m healing from childhood trauma. I realized that I was suffering from that when I seen a pattern of the type of men I was attracted to and attracting; they were all the abusive type. I realized that I had extremely low self esteem and no boundaries. I promised myself that I would work on myself to be secure and have REAL self love for myself before entertaining another man. People think that a relationship will fix and heal them, but honestly it’ll only make you worse off than before. You have to have real love and an healthy relationship with yourself first before you can have one with another person.
It’s so important to love yourself. I finally realized that a good man isn’t hard to find when you love yourself and carry yourself with respect.
The last line.... whew. If you walk away and he let's you go, he didn't want you in the first place. Facts stacked on facts!!! I had to learn that the hard way. I used to tell my ex, I hate that you are willing to just let me go. You don't fight for us. Eventually, I learned he didn't fight for us because he didn't want "us". Once that set in, I was cool happily moving on. Great lesson.
Omg this is what I'm going through now. 6 months pretty much same thing. I never even considered that. You know what? If I'm chasing, it's because he is running. My last text to him was this morning and it said, "oh, xyz, I love you". Those are my last words.
Edit- in my defense I haven't dated in like 12 years after I got my heart broken when I was 22.
Yes. I was so certain my man was in love but after our break up he made zero effort to work things out. I'm letting it go.
I have always been reserved and I thank God that I was confident and that I understood very early in my life, pre-teens, that attention from boys was purely sexual. With that knowledge it was easy for me to chose to be a virgin thru high school and into my twenties. Casual sex or having sex with a guy bc hes handsome or he is attracted to me has never been a reason. For me, I only want attention and intimacy from a man who has really and truly invested in me, a husband, otherwise I am not interested.
Right 🙌🏾
Kiran yessssss. Check out a lady called Salkis Re she talks about this "attraction" subject a lot. So much truth.
Those are my
my sentiments all day long.....
Are we related or just GREAT upbringing🤣 I was/is a tomboy. I had sex after getting married to my 1st HS football playing boyfriend. He didn't want kids in the beginning, but when he placed that ring on... he wanted 11??!! I left one day, without telling him, & joined the USAF. BEST MOVE EVER😉👍
I'm like you 😊
A woman should never chase a man, ask a man out, pick him up and take care of a man. A man must be provided for, protected, and built. Men are hunters. All women should always have boundaries.
I made the first move, and this Easter Sunday we celebrated our 59th wedding anniversary.
Back then men had some morals,I would never encourage it today
@@faridahkamya8225 exactly
@ Irene Funn Wow, congratulations! There are always exceptions to every rule!
Congratulations!
You got a different breed from these guys now lol
Honestly congratulations
❤ back in highschool I used to get so much attention when it came to my body. I didn't dress trashy, but I definitely showed off my curves because I loved my body. I STILL love my body, but I don't make it a point to dress extra skimpy or tight because there's so much more to me. I love that I recieve the attention from the RIGHT guys. It literally warms my heart when a guy compliments who I am as a person and not just on my looks.
BW be your authentic self. Whatever that is. Focus on yourself. Partners will come. Oh! And explore your options!
Bless you and your family. I just had my 15 year old listen to you. This was awesome!!! Now she knows mommy isn’t just being old fashioned about how she dresses. As she listened to you, I could tell that she FINALLY understands. Thanks for helping out a single mom!👍🏽🙌🏾👏🏽😀😀😀😀
That’s what I’m here for. Thank you!
Yes sometimes we have to hear it from the horses mouth
I am a single mom as well… I let my daughter watch this video for the same reason
I love this!!
These men not looking for wives 🙄.
No they are not
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They're looking for husbands
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BONUS: Being able to walk away is "ON Point" .....So true, good message. If young women can take this in and know there POWER then they just might be alright. That was a good message for a Father to tell His Daughter. It's sad though that there are a lot of women who did not have that experience growing up, a father to protect them, a dad to teach them what to look for; but it's beautiful that you are there in your daughter's life and you can guide her and show her what she needs to know to equip her for when she steps out here in this world. I have a son who loves his daughter and I hope he will share the exact information that you just spoke on, and as her grandmother, I for sure will back him up and if I am still here I will share with her some of the mistakes I made and for her to avoid. But having a GOOD father figure growing up makes all the difference in the world because he is the first man in her life and he is the one who should be showing her the way. What to look out for, he is the one that is suppose to keep her safe. When I was growing up I had mixed messages, I had a father in the home, I saw my father who would get up everyday and go to work, and sometimes hold down several jobs to take care of our family of eight, I grew up with my father starting up his own business and doing very well to the point that we were able to move out into the suburbs, I saw him do all the manly things like keeping all the cars washed & cleaned, he kept up the car repairs if needed, I saw him keep the lawn groomed weekly. I grew up in a very traditional home, but what I did not get growing up was protection and feeling safe, the very thing that I should have learned from my dad. I will just leave it there but you get the point. Your message was painful but very true and if young girls can grasp it early on then they will be all the wiser. Thank You🙏
You don't have to approach a man but there are little ways to draw their attention. A cute laugh, a sexy walk, the way you sip your drink. I had a man tell me if he wasn't married I would be his wife because he liked the way I conducted myself at a bbq.. All I did was NOT engage in every conversation and sip my drink while vibing to the music. I didn't throw any signals or looks to anyone. I was in a crowd in my own little world.
He told you if he wasn't already married you'd be his WIFE? He sounds like a cheater who's disrespectful of his relationship with his own wife. I wouldn't have been impressed by his comment.
@@MAGAISKLAN I wasn't phased by the comment one way or another. I was giving an example of how your demeanor could attract someone without having to approach them.
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I understood what you were saying. It was a great example.
@@MAGAISKLAN 🤣🤣🤣
Respectfully, what is a sexy walk. What we deem a sexy walk is also known as the hooker walk. This usually gives a man the impression that you are cheap and want to engage in carnal pleasure. It is not a good look.
Women should never make the first move to ask a man out. Shumake, I agree with you on all points. Thanks for speaking on this. Women need to hear this 🙂
A man can not want you and still chase you use your intuition ‼️ ( Read this 10 xs if you don’t understand)
BRAVO 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Whats sad is most of theses womanizer have daughters an still treat females bad.
Thanks for keeping it real. I just lost mr father, and trust me I’m able to recall the many conversations we’ve had pertaining to men.
Your family is very fortunate, keep up the great work, you will not regret it.
Sorry for your loss.
Just angrily asked myself why this video doesn’t have more views but oh, it’s only two days old 😭 but this is a GEM. It sounds like it would be so obvious but us women can’t stop bumping our heads so it must not be obvious enough. I appreciate an intelligent black man giving it to us straight from the horses mouth, not some woman who think she knows what men want. Peace and blessings to you and you family ☮️
Good content; I have a daughter and granddaughter to pass this along to..
Thank you for this advice. Im 18 trying to start off life ‘right’ :)
Why is it that we as women, have to pander to men ? Women can act like a nun a still get the bad end of the stick. I don't know about anyone else but I don't want a man in the club, that's not a place to meet a man. Men always have different standards for women. Men ask for wifey treatment and , they're usually for the streets. I don't think all men are like that, but a lot of them are. Some of our ladies are for the streets as well, but at the same time a woman should be comfortable in their own skin. Ladies stop pandering to these men who wants you to jump through hoops, usually it doesn't matter. The right one would except you flaws and all.
IJS...
Awesome advice young brother 👊🏽. 💯 He who finds a wife finds a good thing. The man is supposed to make the first move respectfully. I understand I'm saying that same thing to my daughter. 💯
You are so right about all of this. I try to tell my niece and her mother this all the time. Neither one have ever been in a long term relationship or married. Sister now, 56 and niece is now 38.
Thank you for sharing this. I'm in my late 60s and it's refreshing to hear you tell these young women the truth!! Bless you!
Wow Shumake! Really needed this right now ~~~ A guy that I like was really into the “twerk representative” at a recent event that I saw him at. I was so broken because I became invisible to him after her “performance “... I’m quite conservative and have always been aware that people are always watching... You confirmed for me that keeping my cool and removing myself was the right thing to do... In the meantime, pardon me while I go lick my wounds in private.. LoL!
A lot of guys aren't approaching women these days like that. Especially if she appears unapproachable. .. she's on the phone...she's looks like she's in a hurry... She is wearing the rbf....approach anxiety is a real thing for a lot of guys these days.
If she likes a guy...maybe not approach per se but give a choosing signal.
Dudes who approach women like it's nothing are usually pretty good at it and tend to approach a lot of women. It's a numbers game after all.
And they wonder why they always end up with a player.
@@kumajoey6031 maybe by asking a question about a pic or something. Idk. But if he's interested, it doesn't have to be hilarious or thought provoking. Just a conversation starter.
I honestly don't agree with him that women shouldn't approach men.
A girl approached me once in a grocery store. She just asked if i could cook and what i planned on cooking with what's in my cart. We had a decent conversation and exchanged numbers. Even tho it didn't work out. I still remember it to this day.
I probably wouldn't have approached her, but since she showed me interest, i was intrigued for a lil while.
is it a good idea to sit next to a guy ur interested in more than once? (hes always in the room first therefore it’s up to me where to decide to sit) If so, how do I get him to start up a convo?
@@Mental_Alchemist thanks for the advice, only seeing this reply now 😅. Didn't get a youtube notification.
So you were intrigued for little while? So the guy in the video is right I guess because you lost interest and you are saying you wouldn't have approached her. Now I don't know if I want to initiate because of what you just said. I am not into casual stuff and maybe the dude I like does like because if he did he would talk to me first.
@@kumajoey6031 i didn't lose interest. I think she lost interest in me. We exchanged numbers but she never replied to my text to her.
It is possible that he isn't interested in you or maybe he has a girl or maybe he's shy. He might think you're out of his league.
He might only be interested in a sexual relationship with you also. So that's also possible. Most single guys aren't going to turn down sex unless you're hideous.
Either way, i don't see anything wrong with you 'shooting your shot' so to speak. If he really likes you, he won't hold it against you. If he's a regular guy (not a player or ladies man) he's probably not used to women approaching him and he'd probably be flattered in the very least.
Just don't come across as desperate and you should be fine. Ask if he would like to study together sometime and set up a time and place. You could use that time to get to know him and see what he's really like. You could flirt a little, but since you're supposed to be studying, there won't be much pressure.
A dark secret is to give him validation, (as in show interest), but then take it away. He might wonder why u suddenly stopped being interested. Use cautiosly though bcuz it migjht backfire on you. Or it might prove that he isn't that interested anyway....but u really don't want to get emotionally invested in some one who doesn't want u back lik3 that anyway even if you are attracted to him.
Good luck
@@wwhyme.. it's a good idea i think. He's either going to be interested in you or not.
But playing hard to get with someone not interested at all isn't going to make them suddenly interested.
Show interest, but don't come across as desperate. Ask him questions about a test or an assignment. Ask about where he's from? Or what made him decide to go to that school. What's his major? Why did he decide to choose it ... stuff like that.
Asking questions usually gets them to open up....in other words try to be his friend. If he seems open and ask you questions in return, he might be interested in you as well.
Then maybe take the initiative to ask if he'd like to study together one day. You may have to set the date and time since a lot of guys are aloof when it comes to those kinds of things.
Basically think of it like pitching him softballs, be easy (not in a sexual sense) but make it easy to approach. Be a friend, be cool, but be indirect in the beginning about your intention bcuz you might come across as desperate or either too strong.
Be warned though. He might take the bait, but he still might not be interested in a relationship with you....but if u can start spending time with him, you can guage his interest level.
Most of the relationships i had in the past happened because a girl i wasn't intially interested in showed interest in me. She grew on me and once i got to know her, i started liking her more.
But in full disclosure, im a regular guy, not a player.
That’s why I leave content for my offspring, and others that benefit 💯
The man is the hunter, so he should be doing the chasing. Ladies stop chasing these men; allow the man to hunt for you.
Yes but a woman should reciprocate if she likes a man. Example: smile and say hello.
Absolutely! I am not afraid to walk away because I went through so much Hell all my life I'm not tolerating BS for one minute!!!
Young man, I don't know who you are but, GOD BLESS YOU!!! Thank you for being so well spoken, intelligent and protective of not only your little girl but all of us ladies out here. For the people who think that things are changing in today's society; nothing has changed except the date on the calendar. You are the real deal:)
Yes……Yes……… Keep your daughter, mother, sister n mind when talking about black women
I know u mean well but the 1st thing women need to do is stop listening to me telling women how to be women. Men please focus yall energy on building & guiding men....
Exactly, he is basically stating his preference though he also admitted not being out there as he’s married. Unqualified on all levels.
The last time I watched one of your videos you weren't married Shumake. You were still working on making yourself ready for the woman you revealed was in your heart. Congratulations, good for you brotha'! Continued happiness and success!
FACTS!!!! "...not impressed by sexual energy." Simple but very deep!!!!
I concur!! Everything he's saying are facts!!
I agree 100%. Thank you 😊
Love this! Excellent video no matter the age. It’s especially good for those getting back out there because times are so different now. Thank you for sharing truth and facts from a male and fathers perspective🙏🏾👊🏽💙
Another thing to add, is to avoid discussing how much money you earn or show off your material possessions. There are a lot of men who seek out women to take care of them financially. Never give a man money, don't let him stay at your house or drive your car.
Very true! These are some good old school rules!
Excellent, excellent advice 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 High quality women with strong morals understand this.
Yes! Always look forward to your videos!🙌🏾
As a male growing up around women who loved the LORD. No woman or man is going to be no where near a club when the Holy Spirit lives within them! When you belong to the LORD. You become a new creature and you no longer belong to this world! And a man can also be vulnerable too! If either person is only looking for sex. It’s called lust! And lust is a sin in the LORD’s eyes. Flee from sexual immorality! There is no other sin so clearly that affects the body as this one does for sexual immorality is a sin against your own body!
I dont know if you should say loose girl or a girl going to church cuz most times it's one of the same. Good points
Nothing but the truth! Straight facts!
Used to do this, ask men out. And I can tell you right now, not the thing to do. I don't care how excited he gets you and how he makes you feel. Let him chase you. Rest in your femininity ladies. It is so worth it. These men are not stupid for they are testing you, they just won't tell you. Since resting in my feminine, more men approach and hold doors, pay things and its such a nice feeling.
This was a great message especially for young ladies that may seek male validation due to the absence of a strong father figure. There tends to be few adults who are really willing to self improve so guiding the youth is always a great angle. If you’re a woman that is overly flattered by a man because he likes your appearance you still have many hard lessons ahead of you!
I always look forward to your content. Thank you.
😭😭😭that bonus tip was were i messed up,,,,20 yrs in (off and on though) i FINALLY LEARNED i messed up wayyyyy back and he is NEVER going to commit to me....smh....what a waste of life i've lead, but its allllll on ME😕😟🙁☹😭😭😫😫💔💔💔
So, I wanna be very careful in how I respond to this as a man because fact is , Quite a few things I've heard on your channel, I frankly agree with BUT.... (and so it begins) . Your analogy, input or advice on this matter is only correct for some people. Now let me explain . Until God decided to call my wife home , we were married for close to 25 years and extremely happy !! But had she not made the first move or gave me some sign that she was interested ? I would have missed out on my absolute soul mate because at the time , I was too focused on my work and other other issues. The fact that this beautiful, strong , black woman went out of her way to let me know she saw me , appreciated the way I carried myself and was interested ? ...... Touched my heart and the rest is history. So I can't agree that your insight works for all women and no , I'm not a senior citizen...... Yet. IMO it highly depends on the he person's of which you speak and that's all.
I needed to see this thank you! I show interest by approaching sometimes but I wouldn’t go as far as asking the man for his contact. It’s just friendly conversation
Facts on facts
Real talk! They not gonna listen, but real talk
Straight to the point. Awesome video thank you🙏🙏🙏
Not unobtainable standards...BUT STANDARDS not easily aquired , remember he is IMPRESSIVE.
THANK YOU MR SHUMAKE 💪❤💪YOU ARE SPITTING PRECIOUS JEWELS 💎💎💎
I like that this channel isn't anti woman or anti men and its even more rare that a man isn't anti woman.
I totally agree with points three and four. I wouldn’t change a thing. With point number one I had to learn that the hard way. I never used to chase men at all until one time my friend said to take matters into my own hands and make the first move. I told her that I thought it was inappropriate for women to make the first move but she told me that I’d never know when I’d be missing out on if I just wait for something to happen to me. The only reason I trusted her is because she was giving me advice that she took for herself. She’s a happily married woman to a man who works in the government and now they have two children. All because she made the first move. I like it when people give me advice that they honestly take for themselves. I can’t stand it when someone tells you to do something that they would never do for themselves.
I tried it once and I felt embarrassed and it was really embarrassing, but at least I know she was coming from good intentions. The second one I don’t agree with because there is a time and place for everything. If I keep myself ladylike and classy on the streets, in the Board room, in the general public I should be allowed to literally and figuratively show my ass in the club. Now I’m not a club going person, but in any space where I feel compelled to let go and be loud and free I should be able to do that. Because why should I behave and put on appearances when the space doesn’t call for that? One of the reasons why a lot of men cheat is because they don’t go for the woman that they want but rather the woman they THINK they should have in a relationship. To have a wife and a woman who stays home, reserved, boring, predictable, covered head to toe with almost no inclination to go out while still having eyes on the women he saw in the club. Maybe they should just go for the women they truly desire in their hearts instead of safeguarding the good girls at home just so they can have a reserve of clean and untouched vagina when they get back.
Hey Love,I agree with many of the things you're saying... but the point he's making is :these men may keep you for years as a mistress,baby momma but will never wore u up.... That's what we need to teach our younger ladies,if you want that ring,there are rules, don't let anybody convince you otherwise....You can let your hair down with your girls at a private space...but not where the man you want is hanging out especially when his 'boys' are there......
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I would never take a guy from the club serious. Its the club It’s strictly we’re u go to have fun that’s.
I was just talking about the second paragraph with my bff! They want the women who look good to others in society instead of just going with the vibe and who they are actually attracted to
I've never gone to a club expecting to find "the one". I'm going to play with my friends and have fun, not to meet men.
🎯reasons on why a Man deems a Woman good enough to Bed/🛌, but NOT Lovingly & Lawfully WED💍💒, as well... Thank you for sharing your, EXCELLENT 🥇 commentary and Word's of Wisdom, Sir!🔥💫
You tell her now! So she can ask questions 🤔
6 months pretty much same thing, me begging. He kept getting more and more turned off by me. Eventually I told him I'm finished trying to change for him and he brought my stuff over while I was out and hasn't responded all day. You know what I've figured? If I'm chasing, it's because he is running. My last text to him was this morning and it said, "oh, xyz, I love you". Those are my last words.
Edit- in my defense I haven't dated in like 12 years after I got my heart broken when I was 22.
Ah y'all, these are "points to ponder." Let's not get ourselves in a huff. I subscribe to Shumake's channel cause it's better than K.S. b s!
All u said is the truth concerning the man..congratulations on ur marriage
You are so sharp and on point i love it. This all makes so much sense ofcourse. I hope women will see this and think twice about making such bad choices. Your daughter is blessed with having you as het father! God bless 🙏🏾☘️
Very solid advice for your daughter and women in general! Couldn’t find one lie in your words!
You better preach!
Thank you Shumake for giving advice from the perspective of mature, Godly, honest, respectable, delivered, and successful gentlemen! Unfortunately these are taken... Largely what's left are the jerks, narcissists, deadbeats, manipulators, cheaters, liars where none of your rules apply! What's needed is immediate discernment of their character! Please don't mistake these men for the characteristics of gentlemen!
Why would a man that says he loves you try you ?
Hey Jam,if he wants to wife you up.....they always do.... trust me.
Because until a man matures, he will always test your limit...
You sure told the truth
I wish i found your channel earlier. I did the first approach first most of the time. Now I started to understand men a bit better. Thank you sir for your perspective I really need it.
The only thing I’m guilty for is the “aayyyyeeee bitch” in the club 😂😂😂 I just be having fun sir 😭😭😭 but you’re absolutely right
Right 😭
Lmaooo for real . I be having too much fun
Thank you for that information. Keep it coming. Love you my brother.
Yep, men have always told me, let the men chase.
All I asked for is a little more one in one time with out his friends and Family always around us but that's too much to ask for 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Thank you Michael I appreciate you. Straight to the point and honest, bless you 🙏💐😌💖
When I go out I act a fool and I'm usually half naked. That being said I don't care what people think because I'm not looking for a man. Also, If he has less than honorable intentions thats on him. One thing I am not going to do is not be myself. If he has a negative opinion so be it. So tired of men talking about how we need to look and carry ourselves. We still have to go through the bull anyway. I am in management with a good job for over 15 years. My kids are healthy and happy. Yes i have significant other but I promise I would still do me even if I was looking.
Thank you!!! What he is talking about is referring to specific situations. And he is RIGHT!! But.. Like, first off! STOP looking for a man in the club, anyway!!!!!!!! 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
I agree that we should be able to express ourselves however we chose to. Your fashion sense is part of your identity and no one should make you feel like it’s wrong or improper.
However, I also believe that how a woman chooses to present herself is indicative of her maturity. A woman in a certain place in life would never carry herself a certain way. It has nothing to do with seeking a man, or sex, or validation. It’s simply having the wisdom to understand that presentation is everything.
Same logic applies to wearing bonnets in public, and pajama wear. I started by using “women” as an example, but both genders are guilty of this in different ways. How you present yourself determines how you are treated.
Agreed!!! 1. Yep 100% 2. hmm.... 3. The whole Truth. Thank you.
Wow! These are sum amazing tips and advice! God bless you for this🙏🏾
As a Lady i will have to agree with this gentleman, this is definetly 100% as this does keep me Single happy peace of mind, cuz most men these days do not like real true respectful Lady's especially all natural beauty one's... Much Love this is.. 💗💗💗
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On point!
You seem like such a good father 💛
This is only true for some folks. If this shoe fits you, wear it loosely. If it don't fit you, leave it where you found it. Peeeeeeec
thank you for this, speaking as a woman who was not raised by a father i need to hear this, i’ve had male role models and friends but still sometimes family and friends don’t want to get into dating situations it even though they care, especially when you’re like the youngest in a family
Well said King....Well said.....I appreciate the Jewels....blessings
Man. Funny I should run across this video. Went out with my home girl cuz she was going to meet someone. Since I was just going as a third wheel I wore a tshirt, jeans, and some chucks. Her dude came with some friends. Now I’m very reserved. First guy(40) made small talk, seen the rump and amped it up. Got all touchy-feely, saying you know I want you, even put his tongue in my ear. I was like FOOL I don’t even know you. WTF. He really thought I was gonna leave with him and go Fk🤷🏽♀️. He left then a 55 yr old approached me and right off the top told me his income 🤦🏾♀️. I was not impressed. This was my first time this year going out and I was like SMH.
The first advice I think on the surface sounds good but I think in a modern dating era it can’t always apply. Here’s a thing most men that I waited to make the first move on me never do it. And the men who do make the first move on me are men that I’m not attracted to and don’t want to be with, so I just end up being disappointed and having to curve a man,but I thought that I had to wait for a man to make a move. I think in some cases women have to be forthcoming with what they want and go after it.I’ve been in a relationship now for a few years and we are very happy and I made the first move on him. if you online date which is starting to become the more popular way people are meeting there are even some apps where the women have to message the MAN first. I think times are changing and women don’t have to wait for a man to choose them anymore.
I agree; although most of the advice sounded practical. Some points that were made are kind of just not as applicable to this modern day. Times are changing, and people are changing. I'm sure he didn't mean it totally black and white, with no gray area, but some people may not catch on to that. Sometimes these "old-fashioned" ways of thinking don't progress men and women any further.
How has this worked for you?
@@yourmajesty8742 there are times when it didn’t go my way but that happens. In this last case however I’ve been in a happy relationship for years now one of the healthiest I’ve ever been in so I say it still works. My boyfriend and I are so opposite appearance wise that he didn’t even think he would be on my radar. It took me saying something first for him to know and he took it from there.
@@LaughinMyAssOn I think it definitely sounds practical for sure. I just don’t think it’s always a woman showing her hand by expressing interest in a man first. I have had men be straight up with me and and tell me that either they weren’t interested or what they were actually interested in and I have made the first move and so many men have applauded me for that. From my perspective I see a lot of men wishing women would make the first move and speak up more. But I had men pursue me chase me down like I was the hottest piece of meat on the market and I had no interest in them and they had nothing but nefarious intent for me. Of course it is very nice to be pursued and chased and to feel like you are wanted ibut I know in this day and age that is happening less and less and I see women missing out because they won’t just go after what they desire. But overall I think his advice is being helpful and trying to give women a different perspective on how to protect themselves when they’re dating.
@@e3xiii315 I am so happy it's working for you. For me , yeah it's a no. I feel like when a man is extremely into you, it won't matter whether you are different nationalities , the urge to get to know you will overcome every single roadblock. I will smile at them and keep it moving. I never want to have the masculine energy ever and I feel like it will always fall to me to maintain that cadence. If you are happy , then this dynamic is suitable. I wish you a lengthy , happy union :)
Yo, is this Derrick Jaxn's replacement? I'm playin y'all, I'm playin.
You are a very wise young man.
Thank you for this video.. much needed 🙏
Good looking out. Thanks for the honest advice.
Total contrast with the be young and be beautiful and rush to settle we see all around the manosphere.
AGREED ! Thanks for posting
Bravo To U God Bless U💙😇
I wish All teenagers & young ladies & women could hear this!
Clearly it's needed now more than other today or being celibate until the u find someone worthy 💜💙💜💙
it's good to know we have a few good black men left in our community 😂
#1 Better to reject than be
rejected
#2 Be respectful of yourself
#3 Don't be easy. You will only be
a one night stand, booty call,
or side chick
# 4 Get to know him better first.
Everything that look
good to you, isn't
always good for you
If it walk like a duck and,
quack like a duck, it is a
duck. Be careful.
If things that he does is
dangerous or disrespectable
leave asap, before it's too
late. Obviously he is not
what he portrayed to be or
or who you wanted to be
with.
Straight and to the point…and so incredibly true!!! I love it
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You are correct young man.
Thank you, sir!
Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together......♻️♻️
十2349056214114🪴🪴❄️❄️抄送，你會很高興♻️♻️
Contact him👆👆♻️♻️