Absolutely true. About 8 or so months in, my husband proposed...he was already talking about wanting to marry me a few months in. Few months after engagement, we got married. A kid later...running a family business together...doing life together. To other people, it looks fast. But when a man is ready, he is READY and will move accordingly.
Mines ask me to marry him in 2 weeks. I was 40 he was 38. He was a widow and had been married and said he just knew from our first conversation. The good thing was…… I felt exactly the same for him.. 5 yrs later we are still strong ❤
Amen.you better preach been there before been divorced.for awhile because i choose wrong one instead of God its very beautiful thing when you find your suitable mate but God is only one best matchmaker i will never settle again
Tony Gaskin said, when he learned how to love his wife, that is when he began to see an abundance of blessings. A woman is a gift to man so he would not be alone. After man finds himself and is working in his purpose is when they should come together. She has to be in hers as well. This is coming from a divorced woman. I was married for 15 years and have been divorced for almost 6 years. After this, I can still truly say that marriage is a blessing if the right two purpose partners marry and are in the will of God. Being married is not perfect, but all the nonsense that many go through would not be a factor if people were careful and vetted out who they marry. Congrats!
So true my husband ask me after 3months. I was not ready only being 19 at the time.He never pressure me and waited 2y for me to say yes...We married in 2003 and still until this day are together LOVE HIM WITH ALL OF ME..
How did you do it ??😭😭 I am with my bf of 5 years, we are in our early 20s. We have had many talks and arguments about getting married. He says he’s scared and doesn’t want to get married so young, he says that he always wanted to buy himself a sports car and getting married will take that away from him because he feels like there’s going to be more expenses and he’ll never get his sports car. I know he loves me, and I love him too. But I don’t know, I can’t stop thinking abiut this. Any advice ?
As long as you make God the Head of your household, everything else will fall into place. ✔Always pray together, ✔address problems early, ✔talk about everything to nothing and; ✔never let the sun go down with wrath in your heart. CONGRATS! 👌
Very true. My husband wasted no time in our courtship, engagement, to marriage. We dated for 6mon until he proposed and we were engaged for a year. He asked my parents for my hand after 4months so they knew the proposal was coming. We just celebrated 7yrs married in February. Congrats on the engagement! Ladies just because you’ve been with a man for years doesn’t mean he is who is meant for you. I dated one man for 5 years before my husband but I knew he wasn’t my husband. Men know.
@@AllThingsFitnessandLifestyle of course, but nothing worth divorce. Every one has hard times in marriage, but ours have never been about our relationship with each other.
Seriously the key is to find a Godly man, who is confident in himself, his ability to provide (financially, spiritually, physically, emotionally, etc.) and he has room in his life for a wife....and actually desires to have one.
Every man is different and when he has his MIND right, his HEART right, his FINANCES right (not talking millionaire but enough to be comfortable), he knows and he is looking for Ms RIGHT! While I believe there are many marriage minded men, women have to STOP playing houses, giving their bodies away so freely, having kids, no commitment and not REQUIRING what they want in a relationship. It will always come back to, "IF you want BETTER you have to do BETTER!" Get you together and stay strong in what you want.
Those men who dont want to marry or dragging their feet are going to be the loser in the end. We are settling down in record numbers in and outside of our race.
@Imani Watson the percentage of wealthy men is so small in any race, so you probably be waiting for life if you waiting on a wealthy man to pursue you lol.
I respect that you had enough regard for your fiancé while being friends first not to string her along into a romantic relationship that you weren't truly ready for. As Tony Gaskins has stated, you've displayed strength through your gentleness and approach. Congrats!! 🎉🎉
I'm not waiting for no man over 10 years. I'm only dating men that have intentions to marry. If not I'm not wasting my precious time. But I'm glad it worked out for you congratulations 🎊👏🏽
yes, but sometimes people are 2 or 3 or 1 yrear together with plan to marry, but in the end no engagement, no marry, and break because something changed (prioruties or personalities or beauty)... :(
Congrats. What you have is rare and special. If only there were more black men who thought like you. We would have a much better community. I wish this for every black woman.
It’s nice to see a man saying that he did the work on himself. This means God showed him what attitudes and behaviors he needed to give to him and he was open to the growth and lessons. Love let’s go.
Not only did I had the “talk” with my father in law, all 3 of my brother-in-laws were in the room too....and they were all 6’3 or taller while I was only a mere 5’9😂🤣. They were not playing games that day and it was super intimidating.
Thank you so much for making this content, I used to enter relationships and not be upfront about the fact that I did want to get married and have children because I was always told it would scare men off. At 35, I have only just started telling men from the off that I will only enter a relationship if it leads to marriage. I met a new guy in August, he was amazing, but he told me he would never get married but he was happy to live with me and he would give me a child. For the first time in my life I told him the relationship would stop, but we could remain friends. He then told me that he didn't want to be friends. Here I am single again but leaving with my dignity. I refuse to remain anyone's pit-stop until they decide that they are ready to move on and marry someone else.
You did the right thing. But, don't be lazy and stop or give up (not a personal attack). You need to meet other people. With that said, you gotta be a wife first, before a husband finds you. Also, telling men you are looking for marriage will only scare off men that are trying to hit and quit... or scare off good men if you seem too aggressive or desperate (like you are trying to trap someone). All the best of luck!
A man is ready when he feels confident enough and when he feels some sense of pride over his own accomplishments. Periode. When he said “something I needed to do and have accomplished them” at 3:29 that’s really what he is taking about
I think all men know their wife and they will waste every other women's time, if she let them. We can all see a man's true intentions. There's no real way for him to fake it or hide.
Sometimes you just know. My stepdad approached my moms like this. Hi, my name is Anthony. I just want you to know that you’re going to be my wife. Could’ve just been a smooth pick up line, but they’ve actually been married over 10 years now lol
@@TheShumakeWay 😳😳🤭🤭🤭 That's a little scary if you think about it. What if he was a creep? But then as the song goes: 🎶"if it's meant to be, it'll be, it'll be. Baby just let it be."🎶
Congratulations! I was married for long time until my husband suddenly passed away. After much counseling and prayer,, I have healed. It has been several years since this happened and I am finally in a place where I would like to meet someone; however, things have changed so much since I was last single.. Your story gives me hope that there are men who still want what God created. Marriage can be beautiful if you have the right mate (as I did). I wish you the best.
Great advice! You are somebody's wife or husband. Don't deprive your spouse. Let that person uncertain about you go so the person who deserves you and you're all they ever wanted be happy and yourself happy.
when he said, “ it feel good” and “i love the idea of marriage” this is so beautiful usually men look at is as a loss (ball and chain) but like you said kingdom marriage is a blessing when its done right 💜❤️
This video was so relatable for me. I find myself in a similar situation with a woman, we aren't even dating right now, just friends but in my heart I know she's the one. There's still work to be done for me to feel confident in approaching her with something serious. This video gave me a little inspiration though. Congrats on the engagement!!
It is refreshing to know that black men who think like this exist. It's not about being perfect or having it all figured out. Being open to love and the willingness to work on one's self in order to be ready for true partnership is key. I really needed to see this. Thank you!!
The dreamy-ness in your sigh when you said it feels good was everything we needed to know!! You’ve got that love glow all over you!! Many congratulations to you and your lovely fiancé!! 🙌🏾🥰🤩
Wow, congratulations!! I remember watching one of your videos a few weeks ago and you were talking about your friend as the one. And I was just like wow, I hope one day he shoots his shot. So, I'm reading the description and was just so surprised and happy for you. Being aware of who she was/is and how you needed to develop yourself before stepping in that role with her is such a high level of awareness. Congrats to you both!!!!
Congratulations! For working on yourself, for being her friend, for being a man to her father, for loving your children - I wish you the absolute best brother!!!!🥰
Why do I feel like he’s giving me a “Big Bro” convo?! Lol! I’m listening and taking it all in. Praise God for your growth and wisdom to prepare to be a good husband.
I was in a 5 year relationship that caused me a lot of stress and lack of peace. Mostly because I knew she was not right for me but children were involved and I wanted to try and reconcile. When you are not meant for one another there is no reconciling no matter what you do. I decided to leave and 5 months later I married my current wife and I can't even explain the joy of the decision I made. My wife was single for 6 years prior to meeting me so in my opinion she is clearly more cut out for marriage at this point and I am playing catch up because of the lingering issues of the last relationship. But I knew after only a few short months she was a keeper.
JUST PLEASE remember beauty that is skin deep is not nearly as important as the beauty which is soul deep. If her candle glows from within - you are truly a blessed man. Should exterior looks fade & she gains weight, as long as that inner beauty exist you have a true jewel. Read the Song of Solomon & the value is a good woman, of a good wife. I pray all goes well for ya'll. Be BLESSED!
CONGRATULATIONS! Thank you for being upstanding and not stringing her along while you developed yourself. It's so refreshing to see traditional values and love for black families. As typical for your videos, thank you for giving real, honest, yet respectful advice to us black ladies. We appreciate you!
Your fiancé is gorgeous! Congratulations! So happy for you both & glad you took the step to propose b/c everyone needs ❤ & don't waste anymore time when you know she's the 1.
Feminine energy brings good luck and positive spirits w/ her( like you said a good woman, but women in general). Congratulations to you both. May love reign 🥺😍😍🎊 🎊🎊🖤🖤🖤
She is a STUNNING young woman and you seem like a great man!! God bless you both, I’m so happy for y’all 🙏🏾🙏🏾 May God bless this union for many, many years to come.
Welcome back and congratulations!!!! Oh my goodness, this is so exciting!!! I love proposal stories!! She is so lovely and I am so happy for you! May Lord God bless your futures!!
Man when I heard u talk about her , I wanted you to cuff this girl so F----ing bad! Glad somebody winning 💯💯💯. Love is amazing, I almost gave up this video just encouraged my heart!
I'm literally emotionally crushed by someone playing with my emotions and making me angry and hurting. They say they love me then they say they have a guilty concious they met someone else. What you have done is so truly Magnificent. As a woman you will never bring the best out of a woman by playing with a woman like a toy. It's devastating to a woman's mind heart emotions and I cannot stress the damage it causes.
Wish I had wifi and this video a year ago… I got the parent’s blessing, and dated for six months, and then her best friend started suggesting that it’s never the right time and i must just do it. I wanted to wake up next to her every day… so I went and bent the knee… However it was a mistake. she was ready, and I was not. And I fumbled it big time. Was engaged for five months, four of which we were thousands of miles apart. Today, 5 months after breaking up… after plenty time with God and purposeful preparation… now i’m ready… but she is long gone, living her best life
Congratulations!! It's so good to see a man that values the sanctity of marriage and understands the benefit of having a good woman by his side. I pray that God blesses your union 🙏🏽
What lol!!! I am screaming and so happy for the two of you!!! That is what the Miami video was about.... You have been doing the work. I wish an abundance of Gods blessings to you brother!
So true I'm in a dilemma running away from men who want marriage with me in the talking stage On my word without even knowing me well, they just see a pretty face and I run at that time
Been seeing a man for a year now, he has been dropping hints about marriage. We have been knowing each other for over 30 years, since we were children. So thank you for this video, I needed to hear this
I’m not even done with the video yet !!!! SHES GORGEOUS THE RING IS GORGEOUS AND YOURE A BEAUTIFUL MAN! What a stand up guy! “ look her dad in the eye” … great video!!!
This was a powerful confirmation ! Thank you so much. I appreciate you not stringing her along because you knew you weren’t the husband she needed at the time. So you became the man you needed to be and the husbanded she needed. When you were ready you made it happen quickly. Thank you for breaking down the process because most people don’t and it leads women to rushing or forcing something the man didn’t want of wasn’t ready for.
She's beautiful!! Treat her right and she'll stay right by you. And thank you for the words; only thing I'd add is that, when a man decides he wants to marry you, he may not be in a place where you feel he's husband yet. So the woman may stay friendzoned in that case.
Your commitment to having and maintaining a relationship with your fiance is a testament to your maturity and growth. Congratulations to you both. I'm really happy for you and believe that your marriage will stand the test of time. Thank you for sharing this joyful news and education.
Happy to hear this blessing to you and your future wife. It does my heart good to see young couples who truly love each other. There is nothing you both can't accomplish with a good woman/ man in your corner.
We've been engaged for 3 years. Still talking about getting married. But he's a truck driver and I'm a chef in a very busy restaurant. At times I feel like it's never going to happen.
How do you do it? There's a guy I'm interested in now who drives trucks & has 2 businesses on the side, plus a son, plus lives >2hours away from me. I'm hesitant to give him my #, let alone start anything with him, but the conversation between us is really good. Idk if it's worth it, b/c he doesn't have much time & neither do I
You need to have a serious conversation with him Sis. Life is going to always be busy. It NEVER slows down. What I can tell you is this-- time is passing. Men can marry and start a family at any time. Women don't have that luxury. Ask yourself what you want.
You two better get married asap; why such a long engagement? After a man proposes, within a year, a wedding should take place. Go to the courthouse, or have a simple garden wedding.
This poor woman waited for you 10 years. I salute her. I hope you know how to consider her also, cos you talk just about yourself on here. You being ready you knowing, you this and you that . Think of both feelings hers & yours
Awwwwww .... as I started to understand where this story was going, I found myself smiling all goofy like. Lololol CONGRATS LIL BROTHER IN MY HEAD. SHE'S GORGEOUS!
This is so beautiful and awesome. I love this black love and he said she was a high value woman!! He has God and worked on himself. That's good, more people should be like this! Marrying a friend seems better because you know them!!
Timely message. im from ig and ive seen a woman say how she waiteddddd for this man for 14 years and with 4 kids and 2 baby mama dramas and one hidden baby after. The man was also in jail and then got a job from mcdonalds. She then got engaged and went on to tell us patience. i was utterly disappointed because I knew that man settled with the woman that stayed.
You two are a lovely couple. Please make sure that you are sharing your wisdom with your friends and hers. It makes me happy to see that younger people are starting to get back to the core of what relationships and love should be. I believe that the generations from the early 70s started to drop the ball on this and the 80s/90s babies have suffered the most. Keep doing what you’re doing and I hope that your sweetie decides to join you on a video or two.
I don’t do that best friend foolishness. Either we together or not. There is no man that wants to be your friend. He wants to either just have sex or actually be with you
Hit that subscribe button while you’re here. 🤝
You are lucky she was still available.
She is a looker. You make a great couple. I wish you some beautiful dark chocolate babies.
Congratulation that a blessing so happy for u.😊
That’s amazing sir congratulations
Damn! This woman is blessed!! To have a man of character 😇🙏🏽 CONGRATULATIONS 💅🏾💍
Absolutely true. About 8 or so months in, my husband proposed...he was already talking about wanting to marry me a few months in. Few months after engagement, we got married. A kid later...running a family business together...doing life together. To other people, it looks fast. But when a man is ready, he is READY and will move accordingly.
A few months in what?
@@ceyciemateo9411into the relationship
AMEN.
Mines ask me to marry him in 2 weeks. I was 40 he was 38. He was a widow and had been married and said he just knew from our first conversation. The good thing was…… I felt exactly the same for him.. 5 yrs later we are still strong ❤
@@ceyciemateo9411a few months in her p*
I wish there were more marriage minded black men out here.
There are sister have faith 🤗
@@wandaprather1960 It's OK to acknowledge the reality that they are the minority. Hopefully that will change.
yes....I'm still waiting. 39 and waiting.
There are, sister. You just don't know them. Ask God to lead you to one, and be ready for when you meet him.
Check your friend zone... 😂😂
Yes, marriage is never the problem. When you marry the wrong one, is when it is bad.
So true! I was with my husband until he passed in 2011. Marriage is a beautiful thing when you choose the right one!.
@Imani Watson you hard up in these comments. Stop trolling and go HEAL. God bless.
Amen
Amen.you better preach been there before been divorced.for awhile because i choose wrong one instead of God its very beautiful thing when you find your suitable mate but God is only one best matchmaker i will never settle again
Yesssssssss this is soooo true!
I heard a man say that, "Men aren't ready until he finds the woman he wants."
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@UpRyzeQueen I honestly agree 😂
And they are usually NEVER their type! Especially visually off “their type”
Tony Gaskin said, when he learned how to love his wife, that is when he began to see an abundance of blessings. A woman is a gift to man so he would not be alone. After man finds himself and is working in his purpose is when they should come together. She has to be in hers as well. This is coming from a divorced woman. I was married for 15 years and have been divorced for almost 6 years. After this, I can still truly say that marriage is a blessing if the right two purpose partners marry and are in the will of God. Being married is not perfect, but all the nonsense that many go through would not be a factor if people were careful and vetted out who they marry. Congrats!
I agree with that! Thank you 🙏🏽
Yesss.
Men usually choose wrong and cry afters... the ones who chose for the right reasons even if it ends still love and respect their exes.
You sound like a smart woman sorry your marriage didnt work out and I hope true love finds you and you will be ready for the blessing❤
So true my husband ask me after 3months. I was not ready only being 19 at the time.He never pressure me and waited 2y for me to say yes...We married in 2003 and still until this day are together LOVE HIM WITH ALL OF ME..
a blessing, thats beautiful
Yaaayyyy 💕
Awesome
This y their exes didn’t work
How did you do it ??😭😭 I am with my bf of 5 years, we are in our early 20s. We have had many talks and arguments about getting married. He says he’s scared and doesn’t want to get married so young, he says that he always wanted to buy himself a sports car and getting married will take that away from him because he feels like there’s going to be more expenses and he’ll never get his sports car. I know he loves me, and I love him too. But I don’t know, I can’t stop thinking abiut this. Any advice ?
As long as you make God the Head of your household, everything else will fall into place. ✔Always pray together, ✔address problems early,
✔talk about everything to nothing and;
✔never let the sun go down with wrath in your heart.
CONGRATS! 👌
I’ll keep that advice with me. Thank you 🙏🏽
Congratulations! 🍻🤴🏾👰🏽
This is really good advice, too.
Thank you for this comment. I'm a married woman with a BLACK man and let me tell you, it's a wonderful thing. When it's with the RIGHT one.
Beautifully stated.
Very true. My husband wasted no time in our courtship, engagement, to marriage. We dated for 6mon until he proposed and we were engaged for a year. He asked my parents for my hand after 4months so they knew the proposal was coming. We just celebrated 7yrs married in February. Congrats on the engagement! Ladies just because you’ve been with a man for years doesn’t mean he is who is meant for you. I dated one man for 5 years before my husband but I knew he wasn’t my husband. Men know.
My husband asked me 2 months into dating and we got married in January and we been married 5 years. So trust your gut ladies💅
Factual. I married my husband within 8months of meeting him. It’s been 8 years of marriage and it’s been filled with joy and love
No hard times?
@@AllThingsFitnessandLifestyle of course, but nothing worth divorce. Every one has hard times in marriage, but ours have never been about our relationship with each other.
My husband wanted to marry me 3 months into our courtship and 1 year later. We got married. I THANK GOD FOR HIM
Seriously the key is to find a Godly man, who is confident in himself, his ability to provide (financially, spiritually, physically, emotionally, etc.) and he has room in his life for a wife....and actually desires to have one.
Every man is different and when he has his MIND right, his HEART right, his FINANCES right (not talking millionaire but enough to be comfortable), he knows and he is looking for Ms RIGHT! While I believe there are many marriage minded men, women have to STOP playing houses, giving their bodies away so freely, having kids, no commitment and not REQUIRING what they want in a relationship. It will always come back to, "IF you want BETTER you have to do BETTER!" Get you together and stay strong in what you want.
Amen
@Imani Watson That maybe true for some, but you have to decide what works best for you. There ARE men who are looking for the right girl.
Amen
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When you choose the right woman, whatever you are going to be and do, will be better.
I believe that
Amen
Congratulations! This is how a sensible man handles things. He gets his mind, heart, and finances right.
Thank you
Donna, This was being a MAN. Not a little boy in man's body, out Tom Catting around.
Aww congratulations and best wishes!!! She’s a lucky women. Black love and marriage is still happening. ❤️
For sure! Thank you 🙏🏽
Those men who dont want to marry or dragging their feet are going to be the loser in the end. We are settling down in record numbers in and outside of our race.
@Imani Watson it’s time for black men and women to listen and understand each other so we can make black families.
@Imani Watson ✌🏾. This channel promotes black love and family.
@Imani Watson the percentage of wealthy men is so small in any race, so you probably be waiting for life if you waiting on a wealthy man to pursue you lol.
I respect that you had enough regard for your fiancé while being friends first not to string her along into a romantic relationship that you weren't truly ready for. As Tony Gaskins has stated, you've displayed strength through your gentleness and approach. Congrats!! 🎉🎉
Thank you 🙏🏽
He reminds me of Tony gaskins. Toooo lol
I'm not waiting for no man over 10 years. I'm only dating men that have intentions to marry. If not I'm not wasting my precious time. But I'm glad it worked out for you congratulations 🎊👏🏽
Where did you hear him say she waited 10yrs? they were just friends for that long.
yes, but sometimes people are 2 or 3 or 1 yrear together with plan to marry, but in the end no engagement, no marry, and break because something changed (prioruties or personalities or beauty)... :(
@@BlessingQandA_TV Right ?!? 😂 smh listening skills
She waited for him. He got lucky. She's gorgeous and could have found a suitor during those 10 years.
Am also like 🙄 10 years 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Nah that's not me 😜
But they were friends before though. Plus he must have treated her well... women know as well when someone is good for them.
Congrats. What you have is rare and special. If only there were more black men who thought like you. We would have a much better community. I wish this for every black woman.
I wish everybody based their relationships on friendship too. But I’m not going to lie it is hard if you really like the person.
It’s nice to see a man saying that he did the work on himself. This means God showed him what attitudes and behaviors he needed to give to him and he was open to the growth and lessons. Love let’s go.
Not only did I had the “talk” with my father in law, all 3 of my brother-in-laws were in the room too....and they were all 6’3 or taller while I was only a mere 5’9😂🤣. They were not playing games that day and it was super intimidating.
I feel you! Lol
It felt like a big weight fell off my shoulders by the time it was over.
@@TheShumakeWay yes sirrrr!!!!
LOL. You do anything to hurt their daughter/sister and you already know you're getting jumped on sight.
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Thank you so much for making this content, I used to enter relationships and not be upfront about the fact that I did want to get married and have children because I was always told it would scare men off. At 35, I have only just started telling men from the off that I will only enter a relationship if it leads to marriage. I met a new guy in August, he was amazing, but he told me he would never get married but he was happy to live with me and he would give me a child. For the first time in my life I told him the relationship would stop, but we could remain friends. He then told me that he didn't want to be friends. Here I am single again but leaving with my dignity. I refuse to remain anyone's pit-stop until they decide that they are ready to move on and marry someone else.
Well done! Wishing you all the best!💫
You did the right thing. But, don't be lazy and stop or give up (not a personal attack). You need to meet other people. With that said, you gotta be a wife first, before a husband finds you. Also, telling men you are looking for marriage will only scare off men that are trying to hit and quit... or scare off good men if you seem too aggressive or desperate (like you are trying to trap someone).
All the best of luck!
A man is ready when he feels confident enough and when he feels some sense of pride over his own accomplishments. Periode. When he said “something I needed to do and have accomplished them” at 3:29 that’s really what he is taking about
Congratulations my brother in Christ, May God Bless your marriage in abundance 🙌🤗🙏💜🎈🎈🎈🎊🎊🎉🎉🎉
Thank you 🙏🏽
Patience and may you have a long and happy marriage life.
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Congratulations
I think all men know their wife and they will waste every other women's time, if she let them. We can all see a man's true intentions. There's no real way for him to fake it or hide.
Men either see a woman as the love of their life or plaything. Ladies, don't waste your time on the second one.
That's a fact. My man knew I was his wife when we first met.
Sometimes you just know. My stepdad approached my moms like this.
Hi, my name is Anthony. I just want you to know that you’re going to be my wife.
Could’ve just been a smooth pick up line, but they’ve actually been married over 10 years now lol
@@TheShumakeWay 😳😳🤭🤭🤭 That's a little scary if you think about it. What if he was a creep? But then as the song goes: 🎶"if it's meant to be, it'll be, it'll be. Baby just let it be."🎶
Amen
@Romeo ThePLUG Keep on working on yourself, you are doing great. And try to also to say " I don't" instead of "ion".
Love you
Is that just about the way you carry yourself and the way you look ? When you first meet you know nothing about the other person
Those are the best relationships when your truly friends first, and knowing the person for a while. Congratulations to you!
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I agree. Thank you
Aww, shed a tear. This is beautiful, congratulations.
Thank you
Congratulations! I was married for long time until my husband suddenly passed away. After much counseling and prayer,, I have healed. It has been several years since this happened and I am finally in a place where I would like to meet someone; however, things have changed so much since I was last single.. Your story gives me hope that there are men who still want what God created. Marriage can be beautiful if you have the right mate (as I did). I wish you the best.
Great advice! You are somebody's wife or husband. Don't deprive your spouse. Let that person uncertain about you go so the person who deserves you and you're all they ever wanted be happy and yourself happy.
when he said, “ it feel good” and “i love the idea of marriage” this is so beautiful usually men look at is as a loss (ball and chain) but like you said kingdom marriage is a blessing when its done right 💜❤️
This video was so relatable for me. I find myself in a similar situation with a woman, we aren't even dating right now, just friends but in my heart I know she's the one.
There's still work to be done for me to feel confident in approaching her with something serious. This video gave me a little inspiration though. Congrats on the engagement!!
Thank you 🙏🏽
Who EVER raised you....DID an AWESOME job....May you and them be Blessed !!!
It is refreshing to know that black men who think like this exist. It's not about being perfect or having it all figured out. Being open to love and the willingness to work on one's self in order to be ready for true partnership is key. I really needed to see this. Thank you!!
The dreamy-ness in your sigh when you said it feels good was everything we needed to know!! You’ve got that love glow all over you!! Many congratulations to you and your lovely fiancé!! 🙌🏾🥰🤩
Thank you 🙏🏽
Wow, congratulations!! I remember watching one of your videos a few weeks ago and you were talking about your friend as the one. And I was just like wow, I hope one day he shoots his shot. So, I'm reading the description and was just so surprised and happy for you. Being aware of who she was/is and how you needed to develop yourself before stepping in that role with her is such a high level of awareness. Congrats to you both!!!!
I had to get right before I took that step! Thank you 🙏🏽
Congratulations! For working on yourself, for being her friend, for being a man to her father, for loving your children - I wish you the absolute best brother!!!!🥰
I appreciate you 🙏🏽
You are literally glowing!🤣 I never seen a man with that kind of glow. God bless you both and congratulations 🎉
Thank you 🙏🏽
That screenshot with her and the ring on. 🙌🏾 She’s gorgeous! Congratulations on your engagement
She's Beautiful Congratulations i wish you both the best!
Thank you
Why do I feel like he’s giving me a “Big Bro” convo?! Lol! I’m listening and taking it all in. Praise God for your growth and wisdom to prepare to be a good husband.
I was in a 5 year relationship that caused me a lot of stress and lack of peace. Mostly because I knew she was not right for me but children were involved and I wanted to try and reconcile. When you are not meant for one another there is no reconciling no matter what you do. I decided to leave and 5 months later I married my current wife and I can't even explain the joy of the decision I made. My wife was single for 6 years prior to meeting me so in my opinion she is clearly more cut out for marriage at this point and I am playing catch up because of the lingering issues of the last relationship. But I knew after only a few short months she was a keeper.
Has it worked out?
@@akcr5769 indeed it has!
Letting a man run your time and use your body for half a decade while he decides if you're worth marrying is CRAZY!
My uncle married at 19, my dad married at 36. Both had fulfilled 52 year marriages. Do it when ur ready guys, when u meet your Queen 👸
And that’s on facts, when he ready ain’t no convincing or even talking about it, he will just move period
My man!! Congrats!! Live your best life!!! Stay blessed!!
Thank you sir
JUST PLEASE remember beauty that is skin deep is not nearly as important as the beauty which is soul deep. If her candle glows from within - you are truly a blessed man. Should exterior looks fade & she gains weight, as long as that inner beauty exist you have a true jewel. Read the Song of Solomon & the value is a good woman, of a good wife. I pray all goes well for ya'll. Be BLESSED!
CONGRATULATIONS! Thank you for being upstanding and not stringing her along while you developed yourself. It's so refreshing to see traditional values and love for black families. As typical for your videos, thank you for giving real, honest, yet respectful advice to us black ladies. We appreciate you!
Of course! My heart belongs to her, but I love all of my people. I want all of us to have healthy relationships. Thank you for your support
Your fiancé is gorgeous! Congratulations! So happy for you both & glad you took the step to propose b/c everyone needs ❤ & don't waste anymore time when you know she's the 1.
I’m glad too. Thank you
Congrats!!! BLESSINGS on your union. God is good!
Yes he is! Thank you 🙏🏽
Feminine energy brings good luck and positive spirits w/ her( like you said a good woman, but women in general). Congratulations to you both. May love reign 🥺😍😍🎊 🎊🎊🖤🖤🖤
Thank you 🙏🏽
So true! 🥰
She is a STUNNING young woman and you seem like a great man!! God bless you both, I’m so happy for y’all 🙏🏾🙏🏾 May God bless this union for many, many years to come.
Yes, you are doing it correctly. Ask her Father for his daughters hand in marriage. #TraditionalValues amen... amen
The only way to do it. Thank you
what if she (me) doesn’t have a father? what mode should he take?
@@delucastudios3097 ask her mother
@@audreyc1091 hmmm ok
Welcome back and congratulations!!!! Oh my goodness, this is so exciting!!! I love proposal stories!! She is so lovely and I am so happy for you! May Lord God bless your futures!!
Thank you 🙏🏽
Man when I heard u talk about her , I wanted you to cuff this girl so F----ing bad! Glad somebody winning 💯💯💯. Love is amazing, I almost gave up this video just encouraged my heart!
YAAAAE!!! Her melanin poppin!! Congrats!! She's a beautiful QUEEN.
Thank you 🙏🏽
Yessss!! I don’t know y’all but 🙌🏾
Thank you 🙏🏽
I'm literally emotionally crushed by someone playing with my emotions and making me angry and hurting. They say they love me then they say they have a guilty concious they met someone else. What you have done is so truly Magnificent. As a woman you will never bring the best out of a woman by playing with a woman like a toy. It's devastating to a woman's mind heart emotions and I cannot stress the damage it causes.
Wish I had wifi and this video a year ago… I got the parent’s blessing, and dated for six months, and then her best friend started suggesting that it’s never the right time and i must just do it.
I wanted to wake up next to her every day… so I went and bent the knee…
However it was a mistake.
she was ready, and I was not. And I fumbled it big time. Was engaged for five months, four of which we were thousands of miles apart.
Today, 5 months after breaking up… after plenty time with God and purposeful preparation… now i’m ready… but she is long gone, living her best life
They get in a rush when they need a place to stay too. If he doesn't come with references from Jesus, forget about it.
Amen you better say that
Amen.
Amen very true
Congratulations!! It's so good to see a man that values the sanctity of marriage and understands the benefit of having a good woman by his side. I pray that God blesses your union 🙏🏽
This is one of the best videos I've watched so far in 2021. Thank you for paying it back and keeping it 💯.
Thank you! I’m glad you enjoyed it
What lol!!! I am screaming and so happy for the two of you!!! That is what the Miami video was about.... You have been doing the work. I wish an abundance of Gods blessings to you brother!
Yep! Thank you 🙏🏽
That confirms it. Don't trust a guy who has a female best friend. He is just keeping her there for when she finally decides to give him a shot.
So true I'm in a dilemma running away from men who want marriage with me in the talking stage On my word without even knowing me well, they just see a pretty face and I run at that time
Been seeing a man for a year now, he has been dropping hints about marriage. We have been knowing each other for over 30 years, since we were children. So thank you for this video, I needed to hear this
May it all work out for you both! 🥰💫
I’m not even done with the video yet !!!! SHES GORGEOUS THE RING IS GORGEOUS AND YOURE A BEAUTIFUL MAN! What a stand up guy! “ look her dad in the eye” … great video!!!
CONGRATULATIONS!!! I smiled the entire time as I listened to you.
Thank you
Congratulations! She is gorgeous. You are wise beyond your years. I wish you both every happiness.
Thank you 🙏🏽
This was a powerful confirmation ! Thank you so much. I appreciate you not stringing her along because you knew you weren’t the husband she needed at the time. So you became the man you needed to be and the husbanded she needed. When you were ready you made it happen quickly. Thank you for breaking down the process because most people don’t and it leads women to rushing or forcing something the man didn’t want of wasn’t ready for.
This topic was JUST in my mind, perfect timing Sir 👏🏾
She's beautiful!! Treat her right and she'll stay right by you. And thank you for the words; only thing I'd add is that, when a man decides he wants to marry you, he may not be in a place where you feel he's husband yet. So the woman may stay friendzoned in that case.
Your commitment to having and maintaining a relationship with your fiance is a testament to your maturity and growth. Congratulations to you both. I'm really happy for you and believe that your marriage will stand the test of time. Thank you for sharing this joyful news and education.
You have grown since then n that’s a beautiful thing
CONGRATULATIONS to you both!!! May God bless your union with abundant joy!!!
Thank you
True! My husband of 22 years, did not waste any time when I came back into his life!
Happy to hear this blessing to you and your future wife. It does my heart good to see young couples who truly love each other. There is nothing you both can't accomplish with a good woman/ man in your corner.
We've been engaged for 3 years. Still talking about getting married. But he's a truck driver and I'm a chef in a very busy restaurant. At times I feel like it's never going to happen.
How do you do it? There's a guy I'm interested in now who drives trucks & has 2 businesses on the side, plus a son, plus lives >2hours away from me. I'm hesitant to give him my #, let alone start anything with him, but the conversation between us is really good. Idk if it's worth it, b/c he doesn't have much time & neither do I
You need to have a serious conversation with him Sis. Life is going to always be busy. It NEVER slows down. What I can tell you is this-- time is passing. Men can marry and start a family at any time. Women don't have that luxury. Ask yourself what you want.
You two better get married asap; why such a long engagement? After a man proposes, within a year, a wedding should take place. Go to the courthouse, or have a simple garden wedding.
@@donnamcintosh2109 Girl you out here reading minds!!! 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
That's beautiful. Some of us women just aren't as really to get married as others. Move at your own speed.
Have you done a video on what work a man needs to be done before he is ready for marriage? If not that would be a great video.
This poor woman waited for you 10 years. I salute her. I hope you know how to consider her also, cos you talk just about yourself on here. You being ready you knowing, you this and you that . Think of both feelings hers & yours
Congrats! The future Mrs. is a beauty!!!
Thank you
THANK YOU YOUNG MAN FOR GIVING YOUR TESTIMONY!
Congratulations...many blessings. He that finds a wife..finds a great thing.
Definitely!
Awwwwww .... as I started to understand where this story was going, I found myself smiling all goofy like. Lololol CONGRATS LIL BROTHER IN MY HEAD. SHE'S GORGEOUS!
Crying tears of joy for your union. I pray for your marriage to be blessed ♥️
Thank you 🙏🏽
Glad you're back Shumake!
Great to be back!
@@TheShumakeWay Congrats on your engagement! She's just as lucky as you are.
Yasssss I am so happy to hear this shit! Makes lots of sense u killing it🙂🙌🏽💪🏿#BLACKLOVE
I'm so happy for you. God will make a way for your marriage to last because you are so positive.
This is so beautiful and awesome. I love this black love and he said she was a high value woman!! He has God and worked on himself. That's good, more people should be like this! Marrying a friend seems better because you know them!!
I love to hear men who are in love with their wives talk about how much they love marriage and it’s just so cute to hear!
I love your energy and information. Thank you, from a black woman. I appreciate you.
Thank you 🙏🏽
Watching this in 2023… you even look different now than you did in this video. You look much happier and have a glow in 2023. Bless
Timely message. im from ig and ive seen a woman say how she waiteddddd for this man for 14 years and with 4 kids and 2 baby mama dramas and one hidden baby after. The man was also in jail and then got a job from mcdonalds. She then got engaged and went on to tell us patience. i was utterly disappointed because I knew that man settled with the woman that stayed.
Congrats!!!! This was heartfelt, she is beautiful, God Bless the both of you & I wish you two nothing but the best..... Stay Blessed!!! 💕
Thank you
You two are a lovely couple. Please make sure that you are sharing your wisdom with your friends and hers. It makes me happy to see that younger people are starting to get back to the core of what relationships and love should be.
I believe that the generations from the early 70s started to drop the ball on this and the 80s/90s babies have suffered the most. Keep doing what you’re doing and I hope that your sweetie decides to join you on a video or two.
Dont mess up...lol. Tell her everyday you love her. This is so beautiful !!!
She’s pretty, you two make a beautiful couple. Blessings to you both!🕊Peace & ♥️Love.
Thank you 🙏🏽
Congrats, your wife to be is absolutely gorgeous! 😍 nice reminder that genuine black love still exists 🖤💚❤
I don’t do that best friend foolishness. Either we together or not. There is no man that wants to be your friend. He wants to either just have sex or actually be with you
“ Turbo boost to your energy” speak sir!!! Both her to you and you to her!👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️