Amazing clip. Really amazing. I've been fighting an inner battle with myself lately between whether or not I should commit myself to "the game" in exchange for whatever sense of "normal" I thought I had. I've met people who are in love with "pickup" and they're the creepiest most foul people I've ever met and I want to be nothing like them. But I've also met some great people through approaching girls in my everyday life. This really revitalized my whole image of the game. So thank you.
Great video and message, Sasha. Most noobs won't understand because they have there whole identity riding on being a "pua" as it feeds their external validation. Keep up the good work.
Amazing speech, however,I thought it is wise to keep talking to other women even after you meet an amazing one because that amazing girl can still flake on you. Shouldn't you keep talking to other girls to maximize your choices?
There is a point where lots of interactions are good - but only if you're going through a certain early stage of development. Once you're past your fear of approach, you need to work on connection, and to focus your energy on at least getting 1 girl not banging a shit ton. You'll develop better as a human being - though perhaps less quickly as a "PUA"
When i first found about you,i thought it only has to be about being direct,funny,turse and to the point,this confused me a little bit.I also read at one of your How to Approach articles on your site that you have changed your game but the core is still the same,It would be great if you wrote a new article on how your game is now and what things you have changed.Amazing talk as always.
I always wanted to ask you these questions. I did not know the right place to ask them. So I am going to ask them here . 1) all the PUAs I have known about, claim that they were really bad with women, had social anxiety etc. and then they went out over and over again, tried endlessly to get better with women finally. So , how much effort does it really need? Can I do whatever I am doing right now as for profession, and still get better with women in a short period of time ?
I have more respect for them than for other "commercial" companies, for sure. Few people on the scene talk about anything even slightly based around oneness with yourself, connection to women, self respect etc. That's why I'm so picky about speaker line-ups for the Direct Dating Summit... most people don't cut the mustard!
Hello Sasha, I cannot agree with you more. Could you please tell us when you will be in Paris France? I would love to attend one of your events. Cheers,
I'm with Sasha on this one. Become an alpha and a man you can respect yourself before you commit to learning PUA game. I tried tacking on game tricks onto a weak beta frame years ago, it was a band-aid solution.
I totally agree Sasha. Anyway, what is your take on RSD? Seems like they have nuggets of good stuff (like on nutrition, motivation, meditation) but also I feel like they just create narcissists that don't really see the overall connection we have with other humans (dehumanizing women into 'sets' as you put it). You don't hear things coming from them about finding one amazing chick and harnessing passions, but more like "here's a new way to make drama so the girl will superficially love you"
I think we have to approach and learn shits from the game to be good with women and overpass timidity, to be confidant and become our real best self. Don't you think so Sasha ? The point is : game mustn't be the end goal, only a step in your life, to be better in every other fields of your life.
So then you go home after you meet an awesome girl and read a book. You text her the next day and she doesn't text back or she is playing hard to get. This is why you don't go home after just meeting one awesome girl.
I want to thank you Sasha, because of you I stopped all the indirect bullshit, and today I managed to do my first street pick up. I do have a question, I am 21 and I usually try with older girls but they always bring up the age thing. I can get past it if I have enough time, but what do I do if I it is on the street or somewhere where I need to act fast?
Yes, I realized that once the clip went up. That's why I wrote the article as a compliment to it.... I may have to re-write it lol... there's a lot to be said on this topic.....
I know. After being here once I swore I'd never come back - but - I'm glad I did...... Me and Boris were just joking around whether we'd live in Zurich for 5 years (without being able to leave) for 10 million dollars. We thought about it, and we decided that we wouldn't. Fucked up eh? ;)
Couldn't have said it better myself. A lot of guys are like, "fuck fuck fuck fuckety FUCK!" , and then they'll leave....you DO NOT want to have that sort of reputation. Sorta like what reputation Paul Janka has, now I'm not trying to say he's a bad guys, it's just that he should be NICER, not like "fuck me, ok go home, bye.", 'cause that's exactly the type of characteristic he gives off....
2) You seem to advocate the fact that one should have fun doing whatever they do to be naturally attractive. therefore you naturally attract women. While this is absolutely true. I still think, one should have a basic understanding of the emotional framework of women i.e. 1) attraction 2) qualification 3) comfort 4) seduction and bring the framework into your own style to be really good with women. what are your views on this ?
Good,speech,a lot of what you say makes sense.I completely disagree tho that puas dehumanize dating life.They all eventually get girlfriends and love them as much as everyone else.The reason why I go get other phone numbers after a very good interaction is because you can't really know who she is and your THERE at the club and they might flake so its a good rhythm and you don't feel stupid.STOP disrespecting other puas.It's there lives and they are happy with it!
not true, watch more of RSDs videos and you'll understand. However i do see your point of view, search more of their vids, RSD is very expansive in terms of topic variety
I'm not saying PICK A GIRL AND STAY WITH HER FOREVER! I'm saying focus on a girl at least for a few days till you form a real connection. Then, go and meet some more women. Girls are super flakey. Splitting your attention amongst 20 girls you're texting isn't going to help - focusing on one girl at a time will actually get you some women in your life.... how can you truly appreciate a woman if you're off chasing another one straight after?
Yes there may be weird people in the community and it is weird if you go direct without meaning it. However the shit isn't weird. In fact i noticed older people talking to strangers more than young ones and i like to think it used to be normal. Imagine everyone approaching people on the street - it would be awesome. So please don't tell people to go back to their boring old ways after getting a chick.
Sasha, usually I like what you have to say. In this case it´s slightly bullshit. I have had relationships with more than 12 girls in my life and affairs, too. With all of them I had a very deep and profund connection. It´s right to make the attempt to be your best self, but it´s also ok, to collect numbers and connections over the day when sargin´. I see no point in going home an reading a book after making a connection. she might be flake or timid. from my perspective mass means success. And that doesn´t contradict making deep connections as well!
You are so correct. I have met plenty of women who appeared to be insanely awesome and then it turned out they have bf's, want to play games, or it was just an act. This is the worst advice I have ever heard Sasha give.
Trust me i've seen enough, I feel like they take simple concepts (be yourself...ok, have confidence..alright) and blow it way out of proportion by sticking their own labels on it like "law of state transference" Lol, it's ridiculous, they embellish simple human interaction so they can sell guys on this stuff.
+Gulraj Bains Because RSD is not about being you it's about being someone you are not. The best you is who you are be happy with who you are and stop blaming your self if you don't get the girl you want to be with.
You guys are surprised there's women??? Sometimes I have one of my GF's come to talks. They love'em..... so why wouldn't a dude bring a girl to a talk? Doesn't it speak volumes the fact that there's girls at my talk, and they're all nodding their heads in agreement? ;)
Sasha must have been in a romantic mood that day. Unfortunately, "Wow I just met an amazing girl, I don't need or want to meet anyone else" is a disaster in the making. Women of 2012 are the flakiest, and unmarriagable in history.
Nigga??? Whatever... Yes, that's what i said. The Sasha's message is good; make it more accessible also to people doesn't have enough practice with english to understand every different accent. Difficult? Don't think so. Useful? You tell me...
very inspirational sasha...but i have to disagree with you on the going home and reading a book after getting one solid number.There is nothing dehumanizing or retarded about approaching multiple women in one day, you're only going to get you more numbers and a greater chance of finding those 5 or 6 amazing girls out of that 1000 ,or it will prove to be valuable experience.
This is bullshit - I've met I would say between 5-10 girls in my life that were "special" and that's without ever approaching. And every last one of them has fucked me over emotionally and reside in my mind as just another failure. If I'd been sarging hard all that time how many would I have met? 100s. If you set your sights on just one and go home and read a book, you will place her on a pedestal, become all needy and fuck it up. The more you sarge, the better you and the girls become.
hahaha yeah, guys get traumatized by that city every year, full of hope coming from all over europe, starting their college career at those prestigious instituions... it's so fucking expensive, hot girls, but you better be swiss and have lots of status, actually not even the swiss guys get shit done, maybe girlfriends they keep from highschool... every cool guy i've met there shared the same stories, great for male bonding haha, maybe a late revenge for not letting their women vote for so long
Man, i think that what you say is really interesting, but please...improve your dialectic! It's not a critic, it's a favor i'm asking you... i know enough english to understand it pretty well, but you...man, i can't understand a complete sentence! Thank you :)
Dude no, sounds like a straw man anyway. His point is to game to the point where you're insanely comfortable with yourself (while developing passions and what not), not to the point where you're just out there to get another number and maybe some vacuous sex. The latter is why girls are unmarriagable.
And what's with having girls in the audience? You can't expect guys who need to learn how to approach women to speek freely with women around, they will try to cater to what they think the women are thinking of them. It's plain wrong! Get them out! In fact, I think Sasha's speech here is said to impress the girls in the room. No doubt there was a bit where he espoused how girls like sex better than men! Yawn. (They have a funny fucking way of showing it!)
I just CAN'T believe I know Sasha for a year now and this is the first time I see this. It's time I spend a LOT more time to this....
True, Great Message Sasha, Thanks.
Amazing clip. Really amazing. I've been fighting an inner battle with myself lately between whether or not I should commit myself to "the game" in exchange for whatever sense of "normal" I thought I had. I've met people who are in love with "pickup" and they're the creepiest most foul people I've ever met and I want to be nothing like them. But I've also met some great people through approaching girls in my everyday life. This really revitalized my whole image of the game. So thank you.
That is a great talk Sasha , absolutely great
Great video and message, Sasha. Most noobs won't understand because they have there whole identity riding on being a "pua" as it feeds their external validation. Keep up the good work.
Man you're such a fucking legend and inspiration...
Wow. This really gets me thinking.
Sasha's speeches are always so powerful!
Amazing speech, however,I thought it is wise to keep talking to other women even after you meet an amazing one because that amazing girl can still flake on you. Shouldn't you keep talking to other girls to maximize your choices?
No
Who else is listening to this in 2024??
There is a point where lots of interactions are good - but only if you're going through a certain early stage of development. Once you're past your fear of approach, you need to work on connection, and to focus your energy on at least getting 1 girl not banging a shit ton. You'll develop better as a human being - though perhaps less quickly as a "PUA"
2:42 - 2:52 i love sasha LMFAO mans so real
Brilliant talk mate!
Nice touch with the Fight Club music ;)
When i first found about you,i thought it only has to be about being direct,funny,turse and to the point,this confused me a little bit.I also read at one of your How to Approach articles on your site that you have changed your game but the core is still the same,It would be great if you wrote a new article on how your game is now and what things you have changed.Amazing talk as always.
I always wanted to ask you these questions. I did not know the right place to ask them. So I am going to ask them here .
1) all the PUAs I have known about, claim that they were really bad with women, had social anxiety etc. and then they went out over and over again, tried endlessly to get better with women finally. So , how much effort does it really need? Can I do whatever I am doing right now as for profession, and still get better with women in a short period of time ?
Haha. Love the dramatic music
Yes they are getting good!
Great vid Sasha see you in Munich
I have more respect for them than for other "commercial" companies, for sure. Few people on the scene talk about anything even slightly based around oneness with yourself, connection to women, self respect etc. That's why I'm so picky about speaker line-ups for the Direct Dating Summit... most people don't cut the mustard!
very well edited. great production quality.
Love it!
This talk is great
I left Vienna it was a horrible place. Will discuss in next podcast....
Hello Sasha,
I cannot agree with you more. Could you please tell us when you will be in Paris France? I would love to attend one of your events.
Cheers,
dude you got to come to portugal... there are very few of us still here and we would like some pro's here to test the territory :)
I'm with Sasha on this one. Become an alpha and a man you can respect yourself before you commit to learning PUA game. I tried tacking on game tricks onto a weak beta frame years ago, it was a band-aid solution.
I totally agree Sasha. Anyway, what is your take on RSD? Seems like they have nuggets of good stuff (like on nutrition, motivation, meditation) but also I feel like they just create narcissists that don't really see the overall connection we have with other humans (dehumanizing women into 'sets' as you put it). You don't hear things coming from them about finding one amazing chick and harnessing passions, but more like "here's a new way to make drama so the girl will superficially love you"
I think we have to approach and learn shits from the game to be good with women and overpass timidity, to be confidant and become our real best self.
Don't you think so Sasha ?
The point is : game mustn't be the end goal, only a step in your life, to be better in every other fields of your life.
SASHA YOU DONE GOT CAKED UP.
I would also like to know, want him to explain.
Actually Zurique was just voted as the second best city to live in the world..
So then you go home after you meet an awesome girl and read a book. You text her the next day and she doesn't text back or she is playing hard to get. This is why you don't go home after just meeting one awesome girl.
yes, totally agree!
I want to thank you Sasha, because of you I stopped all the indirect bullshit, and today I managed to do my first street pick up. I do have a question, I am 21 and I usually try with older girls but they always bring up the age thing. I can get past it if I have enough time, but what do I do if I it is on the street or somewhere where I need to act fast?
zurich is by faaaaar the hardest city to get any action going, if you make it there you can make it anywhere...
Hey sasha,
Any chance you'll make your way to America? Particularly in Arizona
Awesome speech, will you be in Canada any time soon?
Oh man. I live in Zurich and I can confirm that it's pretty hard. Tough life.
Beautiful city though!
Yes, I realized that once the clip went up. That's why I wrote the article as a compliment to it.... I may have to re-write it lol... there's a lot to be said on this topic.....
Hahaha fuck you. I'm pumpin' more than ever before eating the cake!! ;)
I know. After being here once I swore I'd never come back - but - I'm glad I did......
Me and Boris were just joking around whether we'd live in Zurich for 5 years (without being able to leave) for 10 million dollars. We thought about it, and we decided that we wouldn't. Fucked up eh? ;)
im sold
Couldn't have said it better myself. A lot of guys are like, "fuck fuck fuck fuckety FUCK!" , and then they'll leave....you DO NOT want to have that sort of reputation. Sorta like what reputation Paul Janka has, now I'm not trying to say he's a bad guys, it's just that he should be NICER, not like "fuck me, ok go home, bye.", 'cause that's exactly the type of characteristic he gives off....
Wah, you're in Vienna on Dec. 4th? Today? You're site says time and location will be revealed soon. It's a bit late for that. :D
This is amazing.
♥ Sasha
Wow, good Vid
Hi Sasha, what about Poland? Ever gonna think about that?
Rsd is nothing! One Man Sasha that's it, i am glad you do what you do. Thanks Bro
RSD literally exists BECAUSE OF horrible advice like this that puts men into scarcity and women onto pedestals!
+apollo33 You right bro! Rsd is Missleading Men they can't see there own value! It’s all about the Money...fuck that.
@@bobbymoravcic2521 u right
Isn't that music from Fight Club bro ?
2) You seem to advocate the fact that one should have fun doing whatever they do to be naturally attractive. therefore you naturally attract women. While this is absolutely true. I still think, one should have a basic understanding of the emotional framework of women i.e. 1) attraction 2) qualification 3) comfort 4) seduction and bring the framework into your own style to be really good with women. what are your views on this ?
Amazing Video :) Thumbs Up
- Anglacer™
Dude where are you in Vienna?
Good,speech,a lot of what you say makes sense.I completely disagree tho that puas dehumanize dating life.They all eventually get girlfriends and love them as much as everyone else.The reason why I go get other phone numbers after a very good interaction is because you can't really know who she is and your THERE at the club and they might flake so its a good rhythm and you don't feel stupid.STOP disrespecting other puas.It's there lives and they are happy with it!
I don't seem to have much of a following in France..... I think like 2 dudes from there have ever contacted me. Who knows though.... one day....
WOAH, this shit blew my mind..
not true, watch more of RSDs videos and you'll understand. However i do see your point of view, search more of their vids, RSD is very expansive in terms of topic variety
Sasha as you get older do you plan to settle one day or keep trying to find girls who are awesome?
would you like me to send you specific links?
I'm not saying PICK A GIRL AND STAY WITH HER FOREVER! I'm saying focus on a girl at least for a few days till you form a real connection. Then, go and meet some more women. Girls are super flakey. Splitting your attention amongst 20 girls you're texting isn't going to help - focusing on one girl at a time will actually get you some women in your life.... how can you truly appreciate a woman if you're off chasing another one straight after?
Yes there may be weird people in the community and it is weird if you go direct without meaning it.
However the shit isn't weird. In fact i noticed older people talking to strangers more than young ones and i like to think it used to be normal. Imagine everyone approaching people on the street - it would be awesome.
So please don't tell people to go back to their boring old ways after getting a chick.
why was it so horrible? Were the girls way too unfriendly? I agree with you in that point!
make that 3
y that? @friebender are u in Vienna. I werd wahrscheinlich ab März oder April dorthin ziehen! LG
Sasha, usually I like what you have to say. In this case it´s slightly bullshit. I have had relationships with more than 12 girls in my life and affairs, too. With all of them I had a very deep and profund connection. It´s right to make the attempt to be your best self, but it´s also ok, to collect numbers and connections over the day when sargin´. I see no point in going home an reading a book after making a connection. she might be flake or timid. from my perspective mass means success. And that doesn´t contradict making deep connections as well!
You are so correct. I have met plenty of women who appeared to be insanely awesome and then it turned out they have bf's, want to play games, or it was just an act. This is the worst advice I have ever heard Sasha give.
Man, Canadians putting days first like Europeans.. Thoughtvit was March 12, 2012 @ first
hey sasha did u ever tought about coming to italy?
Why's there a girl in the talk
Trust me i've seen enough, I feel like they take simple concepts (be yourself...ok, have confidence..alright) and blow it way out of proportion by sticking their own labels on it like "law of state transference" Lol, it's ridiculous, they embellish simple human interaction so they can sell guys on this stuff.
FIGHT CLUB OST!!!
What´s so bad about Zurich ? I´m interested to know ..
Is it the people ? The society envolving it ..
yes it's down, someone is working on it. email me if you're a WP guru ;)
S
Damn good question - keep them the fuck out!
From which musician is the beat on 1.30 minutes?
Thank you.
Massive Attack - Teardrop
suprised to hear so FEW "fucks" used. :P
I feel like a guy just starting out in this will get one-itis
there is a girl in the audience
wtf??Dr. sashas aka Dr. house lol
I feel RSD misses out on this.
+Gulraj Bains
Because RSD is not about being you it's about being someone you are not. The best you is who you are be happy with who you are and stop blaming your self if you don't get the girl you want to be with.
You guys are surprised there's women??? Sometimes I have one of my GF's come to talks. They love'em..... so why wouldn't a dude bring a girl to a talk? Doesn't it speak volumes the fact that there's girls at my talk, and they're all nodding their heads in agreement? ;)
stolen from brian tracy. He probably stole it from someone else.
why !? what happend there!?
Sasha must have been in a romantic mood that day. Unfortunately, "Wow I just met an amazing girl, I don't need or want to meet anyone else" is a disaster in the making. Women of 2012 are the flakiest, and unmarriagable in history.
Nigga??? Whatever...
Yes, that's what i said. The Sasha's message is good; make it more accessible also to people doesn't have enough practice with english to understand every different accent. Difficult? Don't think so. Useful? You tell me...
very inspirational sasha...but i have to disagree with you on the going home and reading a book after getting one solid number.There is nothing dehumanizing or retarded about approaching multiple women in one day, you're only going to get you more numbers and a greater chance of finding those 5 or 6 amazing girls out of that 1000 ,or it will prove to be valuable experience.
This guy does not get LAİD. He is a fraud, just look at him. His body language, tonality and overall attitude shreaks insecurtiyy.x
Whats wrong with Zurich?
This is bullshit - I've met I would say between 5-10 girls in my life that were "special" and that's without ever approaching. And every last one of them has fucked me over emotionally and reside in my mind as just another failure.
If I'd been sarging hard all that time how many would I have met? 100s. If you set your sights on just one and go home and read a book, you will place her on a pedestal, become all needy and fuck it up. The more you sarge, the better you and the girls become.
What's so bad about zurich? I've never been there.
Awwww thanks man - at least somebody who TRULY appreciates me. Good thing you're not a girl, otherwise I'd ejaculate all over your face in thanks! ;)
Sasha what's doing a cute girl on the bootcamp ??
I guess he's goty more talent than I'll ever have. However he seems like an Owen Cook copy.
hahaha yeah, guys get traumatized by that city every year, full of hope coming from all over europe, starting their college career at those prestigious instituions... it's so fucking expensive, hot girls, but you better be swiss and have lots of status, actually not even the swiss guys get shit done, maybe girlfriends they keep from highschool... every cool guy i've met there shared the same stories, great for male bonding haha, maybe a late revenge for not letting their women vote for so long
Ogres come out of the woods and snatch townspeople.
is that a lesbian in the room learning how to pick up chics,damnnnn shyt just got real....
Man, i think that what you say is really interesting, but please...improve your dialectic! It's not a critic, it's a favor i'm asking you... i know enough english to understand it pretty well, but you...man, i can't understand a complete sentence! Thank you :)
Dude no, sounds like a straw man anyway. His point is to game to the point where you're insanely comfortable with yourself (while developing passions and what not), not to the point where you're just out there to get another number and maybe some vacuous sex. The latter is why girls are unmarriagable.
Nein! Nein! Nein!
And what's with having girls in the audience? You can't expect guys who need to learn how to approach women to speek freely with women around, they will try to cater to what they think the women are thinking of them. It's plain wrong! Get them out!
In fact, I think Sasha's speech here is said to impress the girls in the room. No doubt there was a bit where he espoused how girls like sex better than men! Yawn. (They have a funny fucking way of showing it!)