How Trauma Changes Your Thinking
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I talked in a previous video about how trauma affects how you store memories. Traumatic experiences can also affect how you perceive things and cause you to have what we call cognitive distortions.
These distortions are especially present in people who develop post-traumatic stress disorder from an event, but you don’t need to have that diagnosis for your thinking to be skewed from a traumatic experience or experiences. This video looks at four ways trauma can change your thinking.
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Ames, D. L., & Fiske, S. T. (2013). Intentional harms are worse, even when they're not. Psychological science, 24(9), 1755-1762. doi.org/10.1177/0956797613480507
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6:53 “Fear followed by avoidance of things related to the fear makes the fear grow bigger and sometimes morph into other fears.” This hit hard. I hope I get better.
I wish you all the best ❤
@@birgitbranderrasmussen Thank you for your kind words
My ex was abusive in every way possible. He would sneak up on me and attack me when I got home as I walked from my car to my house. He would drive super close behind me try to swerve my car off the road with his car so that I would crash. He even climbed my 2nd story balcony to see if I was cheating. I was never allowed to get a restraining order because he’s a cop and was ignored once law enforcement found out he’s “one of them.” I’ve been 5 years no contact and he finally left me alone about 2 years ago, but I still am on high alter everywhere I go. Don’t know if I could ever trust a man again. Been in therapy for years but sometimes I feel like that only helps by having a witness that knows all of my horror stories in case he decides to come back to punish me for leaving him... I’m not posting this as a pitty party or trying to get sympathy. I’m not sad that it happened these days. I’m just very angry… My advice is as soon as you see the first red flag 🚩, RUN and block that person. Cut off all ties. There were so many red flags I naively ignored and that’s what haunts me most times. That I should’ve been smarter and made better logical choices. Always go with what you know than what you feel because making decisions based solely on love and hope can do more harm than good. Stay safe.🖤
Aww babes I’m so sorry you had to deal with that, life it’s so unfair I swear. But I hear you and see you and I know you will trust men again and he will reward you all the joy you lost because of this psycho xx
I need a stunt gun asap ngl
We tend to ignore red flags because we want to see good in people. Please don't beat yourself up. You're super strong for surviving that sick asshole and recognising the abuse that happened to you. I hope you heal and get to feel better everyday.
Which sorta of red flags do you think we should watch for ? Thank you 💗
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As someone whose being trained in Psychology,she’s really good and I look up to her! Thank you for sharing this!
Thanks a lot Diana! All the best with your training 👍🏽
I totally concur.
Excellent A+ status
If you are not listening already to him, listen to, Professor Sam Vaknin.
“Being trained in psychology”? Lol how does that work?
Damn, I have avoidant and paranoid personality traits and that resonate deep. Living with constant fear and anxiety is not fun at all. I almost lost my job and failed college multiple times because of this. It's so hard to overcome the paranoid thoughts and fear. Sometimes, last year I was just sitting in my bath petrified of the future. I almost became alcoholic. Ativan worked greatly to calm my anxiety attack at job.
@lLuminousMoonl I'm like this!! I stress whenever my husband is away from me. I didn't realize it was such a problem until I stayed a night away and I was panicking the entire time. I'm pregnant so I've been really struggling with anxiety over the future and trying to get/feel better about possibly being alone or trusting him being away from me.
@@ms.d5195 exercise and diet help the most honestly. Vitamin D too! I take vitamin D & K2 along with some other vitamins and prenatal. I noticed a huge difference in mood.
I was recently diagnosed with Depression, Anxiety and PTSD and I almost lost my job because I would constantly have panic attacks (I’m closing shift) I started therapy and Anxiety meds and I haven’t had a panic attack in Months and I was able to get out of my comfort zone!! I downloaded a dating app and make friends there!
It took a lot of errors, some medication was giving me sucidal thoughts and another one was making me supeeer numb but I found the right dose and medication for me and I’m very functional now!
Oh I’m in the process of Becoming the boss of everyone too!! About to get a raise and everything it took some months but definitely there’s always a way u should definitely seek professional help and give a peep talk to yourself
Be careful of Ativan it should be used less then two weeks
@@user-tn2pz7ze2o sounds like you have attachment distress...seek therapy...
I’m sure I saw this today for a reason.. My dad was killed by a drunk driver in front of my house, picking up my daughter Holly Joy..she blames herself, had 10 months of residential treatment, so victorious! Less than 6 months later she was diagnosed with cancer at 15 and I lost her at 21..she left me 10 years ago and I’m breaking now…my psychiatrist only prescribed medications which was a very bad thing…..thank you so much for this video, as it is me😭My name is Ronnie….of course I used my Holly’s name for this…
Tenderest condolences, Ronnie. I'm so sorry.
Therapy time
That is the single most tragic fucking thing I've ever heard of in my life. You deserve all the mental health support and love in this world.
this is one of the only channels I've ever seen that translates psychiatric knowledge to the general public without really watering it down. Grade A psychoeducation.
I lost my husband when I was 32 after a gun accident in our livingroom (it was not suicide)
I am now 42, live with my mom, have acquaintances but no real friends and have become a hermit. Living on a small island and being self employed helps with this lifestyle. I just don't want to lose anyone anymore. It's easier being alone.
Art helps a lot though!
When you go through enough traumatic experiences it can lead to what’s known as “Analysis Paralysis”. Essentially becoming unable to make future decisions due to the negative outcomes from past decisions. This coupled with traumatic experiences intentionally caused by others leaves one utterly hopeless. Unable to process the conflicting cognitive dissonance distortions leads to paralysis.
I use the 54321 grounding technique and breathing exercises. Also I count back from 100 by 7. These practices really help.
Very good Little Lulu. I like the 54321 too, it's so simple.
Count back from 100 by 7? Aight Stephen Hawking go'on with your bad self 👀
@@o-wolf LOL I know right? Wonderful skill ... I am going to count backwards by 5 .... possibly 1 depending on how bad the PTSD is that day ...
@@MyKrabi You know what's interesting? that method peaked my interest due to my own strange interwoven relationship with PTSD trauma &math
I developed (I think) brain damage from a brain related injury &didn't realise (until many years later) that my numerical ability &ability to concentrate on general had diminished severely.. throughout highschool I just assumed I wasn't good at or disliked math/numbers &kept telling myself this (perhaps as a coping mechanism) it was only MUCH later after talking to old friends/teachers etc that they reminded me how much I excelled at math from an early age up until 12/13 (around the time of my accident)
then after some digging up of old notebooks &journals I could prettymuch SEE the stark diff in the before &after the accident all across my work even in terms of my writing skill (both prose &strangely my actual handwriting) which post accident looking back had devolved to an almost childlike state..
My work in school suffered greatly my concentration was nil &while I grasped concepts I just couldn't focus for any substantial amount of time &after a while I just wanted to get it over with &get out.
Many years later my abstract intelligence has somewhat recovered &I'm considered intelligent by friends &family I can hold indepth or at least inquisitive debates on a variety of different subjects..
But I now unfortunately am barely able do basic times tables (something which became a source of great shame &self loathing for a while) &though I was once able to complex long division in my head (with an aid of my trusty invisible pad lol) now I just lose track get frustrated &give up.
@@DrTraceyMarks counting back from 100 by 7 stops rumination when trying to fall asleep.
I’m in tears. I feel validated from this. Thank you!
I have experienced physical trauma and it has definitely changed my way of thinking. Thank you for this video. 💖🌟
You're welcome April 😊
Dr Marks, I'd love to have on as my therapist..You're kind, intelligent, and patient. If only everyone could find a Dr just like you, we'd all be feeling much better! Bless you and yours Dr Marks.
😳 She just explain how my brain works. Thank you, I have so much to work on but this video just helped me to be more aware of my trauma responses!
Speaking of avoiding I’ve been avoiding watching your videos because they just make me realize things that I wasn’t expecting to face again but that being said thank you for making these videos they make me feel less alone 😊💕
Yes! Long term journaling can be a good self-therapy if you are in a situation where you can't get help. I wish everyone had a Dr. Marks.
I've still got PTSD for almost 20yrs after I lost my daddy tragically at 7yrs old in June 2002. His new intoxicated gf shot him in his heart point blank and got away with it! Sadly, it was a Huge Cover Up. My poor mom fought it for almost 9yrs but had NO LUCK! 💔💔I was in a BAD car accident in 8 2016. Nearly killed me bc of the negligent driver running a red light. Had to have Emergency Surgery that saved my Life. I still have PTSD over that as well. It's just HORRIBLE! Be safe y'all.
At age 10, I felt hatred, anger, & confusion after experiencing my very first heartbreak when my narcissistic mother gave my dog away while I was at school one day. The loss was an unexpected & incomprehensible traumatic experience for me.
I got home from school one day & my stomach dropped, Sassy was missing, my dog was gone. After seeing me cry & searching everywhere to no avail, my neighbor finally told me what happened. I didn’t understand why my parent would do this, as she gave me no warnings or indications that this would occur. When she got home from work I asked her why. She avoided me for hrs telling me to leave her alone & stop my crying over “nonsense”.
Later that night she finally answered however, it was w/a slap to my face & her yelling at me to stop me “pestering her about the stupid dog” as she’s the adult & im the child she can do whatever. This made me cry even more, & to stop me from crying she gave me beating in my room w/her hands & a belt telling me to shut up & go to bed or she will “give me something truly worth crying for”.
The bottomless pit created by this wound has made avoid getting close to anyone due to fears of them either taking away something that I love, or me losing them. Both of which I’ve already experienced in mid 20s adding more fuel to my paranoia where now as I’m in my early 20s I avoid evry1 & everything.
I’m sending you positive vibes and thoughts and I hope you might consider getting a pet again. I had a similar mother and I find animals way more emotionally safe than people. It’s now a constant in my life, I am never without a pet in my life and I go from there. When I’m feeling okay I give ppl a chance, but when not, my dogs are very comforting. If that makes sense. I’m rooting for you. ♥️
Thank you. Myself and children have severe PTSD all these points are so relatable, we will certainly try some of the techniques whilst waiting for more therapy.
Will those poor kids that got shot that made it out alive, will they have depression, pure anxiety and PTSD guaranteed by default because of the shock??? I don’t know how 8 through 11yr olds are going to deal with these harsh realities that just took place yesterday.
No doubt they will be haunted by the experience for the rest of their lives.
Technically it will all depend on the individual. Unfortunately, however, many of those kids I assume will be affected by the issues you listed for a while
I wonder if we will call them monsters when that trauma makes one of them do something terrible? I wonder if we will be able to recognize that all lives have context, or if we will throw that context away the moment it complicates things.
@@TubeytimeMaybe it is easier to forget that we all have our own histories that influence our decisions in life, and especially easy to forget for those individuals that make terrible choices…but in the end, it is not our past that forced the decisions we make. We all have a choice.
@@Tubeytime I don’t feel all that bad for the shooters. They made that choice. The least society can do is try and make it easier for the next generation of kids, whatever that may be exactly, so that their decision making skills will be stronger and driven with wisdom, right?
Dr Marks, Could you address the effects of bullying on future behavior? I am assuming that bullying/teasing is traumatic and regular, for instance bullying that occurs at school or work. Also, are there different responses to bullying depending on the victim's age when it occurs, for instance childhood, teens, young adult, etc?
Thanks for this suggestion this is a very important topic. I'll look into this.
I'd be interested in this as well. These videos are proving to be very informative for analyzing my behavior after a workplace bullying experience in 2019.
And coping skills some have while others don't
I'd be very interested in this as well. My daughter was severely bullied all the way through elementary and middle school. She now has anxiety and depression and is on meds for it.
It ruined me and has made me so paranoid heading out because I don't want to be recognized by someone I use to work with. I overthink everything about whether people are looking at me, if they recognize me etc. It sucks.
When she was going through the journaling is the way I work through situations with my reactive dog. He unfortunately has some pretty bad experiences I’m working to figure out how to help him, these are the steps I go through. it does help figuring out a situation you don’t feel control in.
You are a good teacher, Dr Marks. I am healing from c-ptsd and have experienced all this (and more, to do with memory). For the first time in a few years, I feel hopeful that I can recover or at least transform my trials into victories. Thank you for your good work.
She’s so straight on. Been learning this stuff through my trauma therapist. I love your videos as they go in depths.
Dr. Tracy, it’s a serve you read my mind. Exactly how I feel right now. Paranoid, avoiding, I just went through a difficult situation and I can’t even think straight. Thank you for your information God bless you. You’re awesome!
My parents divorced when I was baby and my mother left me to live with my grandparents, what I wouldn't change for anything.. I remember looking some movie and sentence "People always leave" and that stuck in my head since.. I was 12 years old... So more than half of my life..
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@Sam Smith don't know movie but very good that sentence..
This was extremely helpful for my driving anxiety issues.
Thanks for this video. Just today I had a terrible anxiety attack when a stranger started talking to me and I felt awful afterwards because I think he was just trying to be friendly but I couldn't control my thoughts/reaction. This has happened to me too many times now.
For context, I grew up in a country that transformed from a democracy to a dictatorship and you couldn't trust officials anymore and it's atrocious . That also destroyed the economy and crime skyrocketed. I experienced mugs. I also experienced a rape that had further consequences. Now I live in a really safe country for a couple of years. But I just feel I can't feel safe like most people do here. It's awful.
I'm so glad I found this channel.
It's been helping a lot. Thank you so very much!
As always many, many thanks! You're truly a gift to those with mental health issues! By all means keep them coming!
I am SO grateful I found your channel.
WOW...Thank you for this video! I've been given handouts about cognitive distortion, but no one has ever explained it as clearly as this. I really appreciate this. Been trying to heal from past trauma for years and just never really understood, even with therapy, how to get past it.
Dr. Marks, thank you so much for what you do on your channel! There have been many times where you have helped me process challenging situations I have been in. I appreciate you!
I love everything you post. 😍 Thank you for everything. Especially for the worksheets and resources on your website. May God bless you. I have a therapist , but I'm grateful to also have your education videos here for free. I pray that your sales of all your products sail through the roof.
I love your videos, you’ve helped me so much during the pandemic, where I was forced to go deep into my trauma. You’re great at synthesizing information and communicating it clearly and briefly. Thank you for wha you do. Love from Mexico ☁️✨
You're amazing! Just wanted to say that. People like you are needed.
Thank you for all your videos Dr! You truly are a gem on RUclips. May you be covered in blessings.
I love the way you explain things. You have a great gift for breaking down complicated concepts and making them easy to understand. Your videos have been helpful to my healing journey.
Oh my goodness. You're always right on time with your videos. Thank you.
As a trauma survivor who has held several of these distortions (and am still in the process of resolving) and has had several very unhealthy coping mechanisms over the years, it was interesting to have it explored in such a simple, almost clinical way. Another great video
Your videos always lead me to decluttering my mind. Finding your channel has been a blessing 🙌✨️
Thanks for the video, Dr. Marks. I always feel comforted and understood by your videos about trauma.
This video is so necessary, thank you Dr. Marks! Wishing you the best. 🙏🏾💛🙏🏾
This is so important, and this was done exceptionally well! Thank you for sharing this 🙏 I needed this.
I really needed to hear this today. Thank you so much for your work.
You are an excellent professional with excellent teaching skills! Accompanying people towards autonomy also requires this ability to transmit. Thank you Dr. Tracey Marks for sharing.
You are a blessing to many of us✨
Thank you so much for a clear and detailed explanation of what I was experiencing🌻
I have all of the above Tracey. I could tell you all the reasons why I grew up feeling like the world is a cruel and violent place. Also why I am helpless and powerless to protect myself. Why people leave and/or forget you.
So all of the above.
😔 abandonment is hard to heal from but I know I’ll get there
Things are finally healing, goals being met, dynamics are coming about that are a perfect fit, for my beloved, created family members.. so I'm suddenly terrified something will destroy it... scared of catastrophic loss, now that overcoming many traumatic years of PAS, Narc abuse effects...my family deserves this good, hard won..now I'm just terrified, as a mom and grandmother
Helpful and timely. Thank you. Especially the person to person trauma and self blame.
Thank you Dr. Tracy, always informative, may God bless you always.
Thank you Dr. Marks.
She's a brilliant woman and a great communicator.
I appreciate this so much, ive been hearing a lot about journaling but didn't understand how to go about it. Thank you so much 🙏
Trauma in some cases may cause extreme behavioural changes. The person may become fearful and paranoid. He may become somewhat schizophrenic, believing that he's seen or heard threats to himself and, despite family and friends believing that such threats aren't real, he can't be convinced otherwise. The person does not even recognise that he's ill or has any problem, and so refuses to seek help.
Thank you for your work. You are a blessing
Dr. Tracy is that auntie that you admire so much because she seems to always have the right answer for everything. ❤️
Made it very easy to understand. Thank you Doctor.
I always learn so much from your videos. Thank you.
Excellent video Dr. Marks. Thank you for making it simple for everyone to understand what are sometimes feelings and behaviors that can be difficult to understand and address. Dr. Marks could you perhaps talk about body image/dysmorphia/eating disorders and how they are sometimes related to traumatic experiences? Thank you.
Thank you for communicating in such a logical way. I am excited to see your book and the illustrations. Have an amazing day ❤️🙏✨
Thanks so much Ca D! You too! ❤️
This is right on the mark. Thank you for this and all of your videos. 🙏
Thank you for this! Great reminders for me to ground myself and not to avoid.
Thank you so much Dr. Marks for yet another helpful resource. You are superduper awesome! :)
Some of the flawed ways of thinking you mentioned made perfect sense to me even as I watched this video. Thanks for teaching me something!
Thank God for this channel Auntie this just brighten up my day, anyways God bless you Auntie and your beautiful family
I luv your content, it helps me to understand how my therapist is able to see me and help me.
This information is really valuable! thank you 🙏
Thank you. I needed this today and I'm sure many others do too.
Thankyou for all your help. 💖🌸
Whoa this was a good video. Especially in light of the recent headlines. I feel like we are all living with some sort of a trauma 😕
Thank you
I have cptsd and it is a struggle getting close to people and my thinking/memory whew I've been taking Magnesium l threonate thanks to your video and b12 which had been helpful but my mind isn't how it used to be. Honestly I would love to sue or get some type of retribution for the changes they have caused
Have the vitamins helped your memory/thinking? Or you’re sueing because it made things worse?
She likely means she wishes to sue those who caused her hurt.
Taking legal action sounds like it would feel good. There is a lot of research that says it could make you feel worse. Realizing that it didn't help you deepens your sense of loss. Do the hard therapy that will make more of a difference.
@@Cathy-xi8cb I think in many cases it's not just about closure, it's possible the person they're suing may be an extreme danger to others, and it's better to at least get your case out. Even if you lose, other people will hear about it and be aware. I think that's what matters most
Yay so happy to see you have a book! Congratulations 🎉
Another video that accurately aimed to the cause of the specific mentality issue. Just come here to say, thank you for revealing precious and free knowledge that really points out the main reasons and effects as a professional psychiatrist. Your vibe reminds me of Whitney Houston btw
Thank you Dr Marks
I do journal when I’m well
These are some great ideas to add to it😊
I’ve just signed up to your website.
I didn’t no you had one until today.
Looking forward to reading through it 💕🇬🇧
Another great video. So grateful.
Thank you so much Dr. Tracey this video is very helpful.
Glad it was helpful! 👍🏽
Thank you for sharing your wisdom 💚
U are a great woman putting this information out there..thank u very much
thank you so much,very helpful
I store certain events in my memory. The events are scarred in my brain. I relive them and sometimes I have to scream to throw something or slap myself , do anything to break the flashback , if I don’t it fills me with the worst feelings. Some of these memories are seeing pets dying in agony, accidentally killing my lizard when I was very young, shooting an arrow from a bow straight up in the sky when my little brother was right next to me. To name a few. I can’t undo them, just add more to the pile of things that haunt me. Death will bring silence and peace.
Love this deep dive into that negative beliefs about self and world part of PTSD and cPTSD, and general developmental trauma and how it impinges on personality. We often glance over this in checklist DSM based diagnostics but it's really the hear to healing is addressing these distortions. Note Prolonged Exposure moves the needle on these beliefs as well, evn if you are not addressing them directly. Often information that you did your best, you are competent are not guilty, not powerless- but this information is in the very memory you are avoiding. Ie- "oh yeah I did what anyone else would've done" when processing this memory in PE.
Thank you for the video
Fear is located in the conscious mind. Understanding and healing fear is done through accessing the subconscious. Cognitive ladders are good at recognizing things but so poor at controlling or releasing fears. Well done video.
Omg this is how I feel exactly wel explained dr !!
Thank you; Sista
Thanks Tracy❤
As a PsyD student, your videos are really helpful! I would love a video about EMDR. :)
Dr. Tracey Marks: this is SOO IMPORTANT for me!
I appreciated this episode. Related: Have you covered the topic of hypervigilence as a result of repeated trauma?
UNH!!!!!!!
no words other than...THANK YOU!!!!
thank you
Dr. Marks, thank you so much for helping me. I think you help me more than my actual therapist! I love having both of you combined. I'm reading your book, and so far it's wonderful. I really love the print out pages I got for pre-ordering. I don't know if it's because they're so easy to look at and absorb quickly, or, the characters on them. I'm glad I printed them out. Good luck with the book, and really everything! Oh, and I liked seeing your husband in your video. I guess it helps me feel like I know you a little bit. Ha, ha. Anyway, take care Dr. Marks and thanks again for being so awesome!!
What is the book called please?
I’m so excited for the book!
I want more. I am studying all your videos 🙌
I really have learned a lot
Thank you, Thank you
U R Awesome 🤩 🙏🏽💯
I can’t wait to read this book!
Thanks for this video. A connoisseur of trauma (painful surgery age 2, avoidant mother, dysfunctional family, battle trauma from eye-witnessing 9/11, 3 year recovery from serious heart surgery, and finally being wiped out in family court by, you guessed it: an avoidant partner who always failed to show up [except for court dates]). I try to hide my bristling at the popularization of the words trauma and triggered. Life is traumatic, yes, but some ppl get more of it and need more help.
Thanks for sharing this videos 🙂
Like the color awareness grounding technique!!