FAMILY ISN'T EVERYTHING: Could My Stalker Be My Family? | LIVE CHAT
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- Опубликовано: 23 фев 2023
- Family isn't everything IF they set out to harm you.
Family and stalking are just two words that simply don't fit together.
We rarely if ever consider stalking within the family system.
When families use manipulation tactics such as "gang-stalking," triangulation, pathological lies, and ostracism to keep you held down, things can get ugly.
Family can feel like ALL you need when things are going well.
Family isn't, however, everything you need when it isn't going well.
In this live chat, I will discuss 10 manipulation tactics you may have been subjected to yourself.
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I misssss you! Haven’t been tuning in because I’ve been doing great taking care of me, but I miss watching you because you brought so much peace knowing that I was not alone or crazy with how I felt when it came to my family and how I wanted to separate myself and I finally did, in love, and it brought sooo much peace. Thank you for your beautiful soul 🙏🏽❤️
❤🤗This is such a lovely and humbling comment!! Thank you Kathy!! I'm glad to see you back on here too. Hope you have been benefiting from your "me time." Reminds me of what I need to be doing more often. And I'm so glad you found peace on this channel. That's truly the intent.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Sooo much love and blessings I pray for you. Thank you Dr. Hill 🙏🏽❤️
I think the beginning of stalking began with families! They follow you and use other family members to stalk you as well! The evil is real!
Yes members of family that don't accept to talk with him again...
Family and church.
Scary stuff. I thought my problems were magically State induced. Years went by and I find out its my MOTHER. I had to get really clean in recovery to discover and understand.
They're dangerous. In the case of a mother or father (usually mother) they can easily steal your identity and pretend they are you.
some of the abused get fixated because the family never never stop. over 30 years.... jobs, friendships, financial, relationships... they never stop as if they have a window into your life. being in reactive abuse, ruminating and trauma state can look a lot like wound collecting. the difference is I've never stalked any of them nor do I want to watch any of them or have any information on their personal affairs or life.
It’s crazy when you can’t afford to run away.
😔so true. I'm sorry. Not impossible to get away or build boundaries, just difficult.
One of the biggest problems is getting away. Im 47 and have considered changing my identity
My mother is undiagnosed Narcissist Psychopath. She perped it for so many years i didn't know she was worse than anyone else out there..
I became a “wound collector” for the narc bpd physical, emotional, spiritual abuse that I had hoped would stop after divorce but these types gain a dopamine adrenaline rush by making your daily life miserable. They never leave you alone. I was instructed by many therapists to collect all of the incidents and keep a file at the police which I do and am. When the perp is a community leader and wears a saint mask they can ruin your reputation and life when you did absolutely nothing wrong other than be a supporter to them and a faithful person. When they know you know who they really are - their mission becomes discrediting you and making you appear crazy.
My family is definitely stalking me
My own twin sister is an abusive, narcissistic gang stalking bully. My entire family is full of perps.
The beautiful thing about family enstragment: is when you leave a toxic family member: they can't use their siblings to say... oh just forgive her, she went through this and this and this: so forgive her. No longer can outside sources seek to shame Me for wanting to achieve My own goals.
This is MY life. My sister is toxic and is a stalker and turned everyone against me when I told her to get help. 🤦🏼♀️
I'm sorry. 😔
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Me too! I’m so sorry😞 I bet she’s be doing it since you were little too. Started slandering you in kindergarten 😢
Mine too
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It's hard when you are willing to do the deep-dive work to work things out with their relationships in your family but all they want to do is gloss over and be in denial and scapegoat you. I mean I just can't be all nicey-nicey and pretend at family functions with people. It's just so fake to me
Take it from me. Go No Contact if its that bad. It gets worse. Ive been going through it over 10 years.
Don't bother, just avoid family functions, go down the pub instead
Grievance collectors- makes sense. They will literally provoke a response but if you don’t respond to them exactly as they want you to, or if you don’t give them supply, or tell them to respect your boundaries, that’s a grievance. They use it the moment you call them out on their manipulation.
I’ve started pretending as if I didn’t hear their insult or projection or whatever it is they do. Zero acknowledgement but in a play dumb hear no evil see no evil way and it’s just crazy to watch them repeat themselves over and over…they look nuts and they then see it for themselves. Sad really.
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What amazes me is how good these people are at manipulating therapist lawyers flying monkeys professionals you know?
Very true. That's because of a lack of education, personal and professional experience with these people, and the "following" of what society tells us is almost always true which is: "what persona would do that? Most people are nice."
@@TherapistTamaraHill heard somewhere nice does.not always mean good .
These lawyers and others that they “ fool” are actually f r e e m a s o n s who are a network all across the world that take an oath to defend each other. That’s why law enforcement is useless to the victim. Society is ruined bc of this.
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26:00-- GREAT POINT about how they sneakily "Control the quantity of communication and want to talk every 2 weeks" only to "disappear for year."
It's funny how they have the arrogance to think they can invite themselves into and out of your life however they please*
*That's a classic line a friend of mine used when his ex-wife decided to show up again out of nowhere and he just simply went, "You JUST DON'T GET TO to invite yourself into and out of my life however you please anymore!" She was shocked that the tide had turned that way.
Anyway, we all know how to do with our romantic relationships-- but it's a time we do it with our family ones too! This video is a great help with that and thanks for keeping me STRONG
they’re only hyper critical of things in your life that don’t directly benefit them.
Yes this is happening to me, including law enforcement officers too. They all are in on it, my facebook, my address, internet stalkers especially some rich internet gangs and TV, RADIO, envious cousins. I am aware of all of it.
My mom is an expert on triangulation and coercive control.
The only way is to remove yourself from social media and die a “social death”. Give no one connected to your toxic family a window into your life. If you move, leave no forwarding address. Pay for an online service to wipe away all traces and future traces of you. It’s extreme, but ask yourself how important your peace and freedom is to you and you’ll realize it’s a small price to pay.
I'd love to do that 💯
Seems to be Such a fine line between healthy and unhealthy , understood and misunderstood, good intentions and ill intentions. And then there's the love in the family that hopes for healing and its hard to accept that there may be none. Heartbreaking.
You never needed those people. A cop told me that he arrest more people during holiday get togethers, lol.
It's happening to one in four people... that is concerning, yes.. Good to talk about this
Narcissists like to gang stalk.
I really needed to listen to this. Hit home on soooooooo many points. It's sad but true. Thank you love
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I had to delete my Facebook when I removed myself from my family. My dad was harassing me online. And he's a psychologist! 😢
That's awful. 😔 I'm sorry.
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Been off FB but I saved stalking comments and reactions
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Family mobbing
That's interesting 🤔 yes. I would have to agree
Hi, I used to be the scapegoat of the dysfunctional , addicted family. I was blamed for really everything.
I am glad that I have no contact with those family members that still are alive.
Thank you for your informative videos!
Cyber stalking is happening to me. I hate these technology stalkers. Hate all of them.
Just pray that the power grid gos of for Good
Black hat stalkers. Red. People who are not legit, not ethical. Theres ethical hacking, but thats rarely whats happening.
My sister does this talks to all my ex husbands and I believe she has slept with ex husband no 2. Also she has gone to some of my friends to discuss me .she’s covert narc, very sneaky and evil I feel like she’s always keeping tabs on me. It’s really getting to me my therapist says to ignore it. But it’s been going on to long.
Trust your gut. For sure she did. Can relate, mine slept through all my sister in laws. I'm out 10 years but he can't let go. I have and still am working on myself, it may take me the rest of my life, but that's what we have to do. I'm sorry for the pain and heart ache.
Yes.....mother has those issues. Everyone ive ever dated.
I’m definitely being stalked by my narcissistic mother & family. I have gone no contact with them & they keep on bothering me smh. I am ready to relocate with my daughter.
OMG The Most High wanted me to find you and this channel
Amen! Welcome. Glad to have you.
Lord Jesus!!!! This was an excellent teaching! So glad to come to understand what I been going through with my ex family! SMH 🤦♀️
Knowing what I experienced. This video is nothing but net! I love it!
Needed this 20 years ago. Thank U,
You're welcome! And thanks for watching.
I love your videos it is so therapeutic because you always hit *great points* which registers in my current life. I am currently being stalked by a psychotic/very vengeful relative who just cannot snap back into reality and leave me alone. It is incredibly frustrating because it is causing some problems in my private/personal life, and even though I switched off that connection, permanently, they cannot go on with their lives. It is very bizarre.
Thank you so much! Glad these videos are helpful to you.
I'm so sorry you are going through this. The best way to get ahead of someone like this is to have cameras everywhere, keep documentation or proof of stalking, and only go to the police if you have enough proof to have the stalker arrested. It's such a hard situation to navigate.
Thank God, This is Accurate to the nearest degree. Brilliant to see that this deplorable act of gang stalking is getting professional coverage. I'm going thru this with my family and I'm Walking Away For Good, I cannot believe that the ppl that are meant to be family, honest, caring respectful etc are Actually Sick individuals who prey upon each other. I'm a chronic pain patient who's been thru cancer care centres and NONE of my family cared about a Thing until I was prescribed certain medication for pain and the SICK Individuals turned up to ask for pills-I told them All No and to leave me Alone then they started sending constant stress and individuals at me to basically kill me off ALL because i Refused to give them a Pill which to me is The Lowest form of person to Take from a Person going thru Cancer Care centres etc etc. I feel Sooo much better Without Them. I Was Told as a Younger person that the Worst Enemy you'll have this Lifetime will come directly from within your Own Family..Blessings 🙌 and Much Respect for bringing up This topic 🙏🏻.
This information is great and straight on. Thank you for this.
You're welcome! I'm glad this was helpful.
It’s not hard for police to narrow down and punish. All they need is to trace an IP address back to the person. If they are dumb enough to be on their home internet/phone, it can be traced back to that person. This happened with me. All the police have to do is get the IP records.
My goodness Tamara how spot on you are. Having distanced myself from my dysfunctional family. Husband and I moved to his country 4 years ago. He’s passed away 3 months ago, and the problems with his family started a year ago and harassment and stalking started when he was in hospital for 13 weeks. I refused them access because of their lies secrets and denial of the truth and gang. clan. and cult behaviour. I feel so much relief and have gained my power back to cope with the inevitable challenges. Thanks Tamara God bless. Carol N.I.
Excellent information
Thank you.
You're welcome and thank you!
Wow 🎯🎯 been going thru turmoil a while now your smart because being in darkness feeling like no one understands what your going thru but you do next is solutions to these issues
I have a situation where my x husband of 6 years contracted someone I dated for several years and I parted ways with him because of lies he told me. My x stops at nothing to find things out about me, it unnerves me. He was abusive and for sure narcissistic and so many other things, what I find most disturbing is we are on our sixties. It's just to much. Just found your channel. Thank you
Narc Con is a great supportive community on here as well. ❤im 47 and life is easier as you discover how to protect yourself
Great info!!! Wow!!
Thanks for watching! Glad this was helpful to you!!
Yes some stalkers are family
Thank you🙏🏽✨️
You're welcome😊
Thanks for the info I sure learned a lot after 3 years of this would love to join your live streams I am subscribed
You're welcome and Welcome aboard!
I am going live this Friday 6:45 :)
Yes! I am being stalked too!
🧚♀️Suffer Less
😘 yes
Thank you so much....... ❤❤❤
Most welcome 😊
I can’t remember a lot of stuff that my toxic sister has done to me. I don’t keep track. But she does! I don’t know if it’s trauma making me not remember or maturity. Is it normal to not remember all of the toxic strikes?
i've still not recovered from therapists pointing this out to me 6 months ago. No contact with them now. 6 months free from it all.
I know who my stalkers are, but these small town cops dont do anything, thryre greasy
Once a sock from my nephew appeared in my underwear drawer. I called the police and said nothing. Can no once helps.
Is there a way u take new patients? I feel like you understand a lot of things I’ve been though, regarding childhood trauma.
Hi Jazzy, You can email me at contact@anchoredinknowledge.com for a consultation. I am currently all booked up until July with clients so I can't take anymore right now. I can offer a 30min consultation where we talk about the issues, etc. If you'd like to move forward, please email me and I'll get you started.
Yay thank you!!
@@TherapistTamaraHill hi I emailed you on my gmail account, but I don’t know if you received it.
my bro so crazy that when my mom made him live outside on the patio for like a week, he dug a hole through the concrete wall using just a plastic spoon
Hi Tamara and thanks for the video! Just wondering, did you know that some gang stalking targets also get some rather invasive electronic harassment as well? One example is the "voice to skull" technology (Army designation V2K) which first came on the scene half a century ago, but isn't widely discussed. This can add some new angles for counsellors to deal with.
Thank you for mentioning this. I've heard about this in the past from my veteran family members and friends, but I'm not too familiar with it. I will certainly do some brief research.
It’s been almost two years for me since I went no contact, I’ve moved to a different state, change my phone number, deleted my social media profiles, than created new ones, somehow my narcissistic family found my number, I’ve had to change my number again, so far I haven’t heard anything from them.
Are you able to provide some research that speaks more about the hypercritical individual and stalking? I would like to read more about this, as it very much resonates.
Great coverage of this topic! Thank you :)
This has been happening to me since 2017 - after I exposed a male relative for sexually harassing me…
Is there a way to prosecute these people in court?
Yes.
How?
Complex. You need to have a ton of evidence, on paper. Police will not be able to go after people who broke no contact orders. Even a County away. The best thing some ppl.can do, is not try to stop them. But you can get infront of a judge and present your reasons for needing a name change and. Social security # change. ...its hard. But if you have evidence, possible. That's why you report even through they do nothing.
What about sexual abuse and family stalking?
Hi shannon from Louisiana
hello Shannon 👋 Welcome!
Hi Tamara
Hi there! Welcome to the channel. Glad to have you.
I saved all the texts and messages chats and FB reactions. I saved later to sis a certified letter stated if she wants to meet or. It's with the church elders she refused and continues to manipulate people to demand I reconcile. Boundaries don't egisist.
Minute 9 is what’s happening to me. Someone in my family gave my abusive ex husband my address.
I feel way I deal with this on my moms side
Mine is family
Yup my family involved, they do noise campaigns, I’m being followed by drones but people will watch my video and it’s planes just flying 😂😂😂 it’s sad but anyways they follow me on the road always one headlight out or they wear color coordinated tops
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What to do what to do I am 54 years old male always had a good relation with my family had a good marriage my wife moved out two years ago and my family now two kids and wife are stalking me not physically but notes , isolation , hatred they will not answer to me of why they are doing it what should I do when I contact them the phone the police and make stuff up they think it's funny?
It's very strange. My family outcast me yet hack my accounts and delete comments on my social media
Same exact thing here. Like, if you all hate me so much, how come you can't leave me alone completely. Like weren't you the ones that pretty much disowned me without even having the guts to say so?
@@GuitarMattno guts. My mother has tried to get me waxed and locked up for years. Get far away. My last rights are through my attorney. Im moving this coming month. 47, never will look back.
How do I get notified of chats?
You would hit the notification bell that is near the subscribe button 😊
I can’t tell if I’m being stalked by my family or if I’m going crazy. Think i need help bc I’ve been completely isolated and my family keeps me blocked and leaves me out of everything . I’m getting strange mail at banks and some mail I get is missing and one guy I was dating asked me if I knew my mamas names. So out of any name he asked me if i knew a Shannon and said her name. He swears he’s never made her and then a guy my mom was living with was literally seen across the street in the bushes at 1 am . And my mom definitely is a wound collector. But my dad had mental problems and so I question if I’m paranoid and if I’m the problem.
This is happening with my sister, shes enlisted our neighbour, we live on the 11th floor of apartment building. She made driends with only our neighbour on our floor wtf?
What’s it called when they purposefully put themselves in situations to receive wounds they can use in the future guilt blame you for not helping get out of
"Wound collector," ouch 🙃🫣
No one knows my home address and I changed my name on Facebook
Barb, I'm just about to step behind you where I'm going to basically come up with an untraceable address and phone number through someone else if need be even if that will cost me some freedom or money which I barely have any of. I just can't take it anymore and I'm glad to hear that someone like you has gotten off of the grid that you could be traced within yourself. Cheers for you absolutely!
@@GuitarMattflip phones, lots of different IP. Never use your name. I just bought a GPS instead of my phone. They track that easily. Look towards getting off that grid pattern. Change your habits. My mother has always had an idea, id write a BOOK about her. Thats why she trying to get me in the ground.
How to prosecute?
Just like in the case of other stalkers who are strangers or ex-lovers, there isn't much you can do legally until they act on some of their strange and disregarding behaviors. Until then, it's best to be wise and protect yourself by becoming more private, keeping passwords updated and safe, accounts hidden, etc.
You need so much to prosecute. Its better to cut ties. I stayed for the money cut off my home. It cost me all year in and out of jail. I see. This will never stop.
You would need an attorney that understands this type of sickness, mental illness. And there are very very few.
Isnt it illegal for school board members you dont know watch your bank account and have gangstakers to watch your pockets
If I am understanding correctly, it depends on whether or not this is truly happening. No one is able to do this unless you give them access to do so at some point in time.
My mom used to send my cousin to spy.
She's complained for years that I don't hit her spank mine but she wanted to bring up me bopping her mouth the other day.
I don't spank like that so yes this is abuse.
I wanted to do time outs and she started hugging on her a few years ago.