What it's like being a Single Dad - (LET'S BE REAL)

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  • Опубликовано: 14 окт 2024

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  • @Its-the-knife-man
    @Its-the-knife-man Год назад +38

    To be honest I was far from ready to be a single dad my ex walked away from my kids and myself she signed all the papers in court giving me full guardianship. It’s been 12 years for me and I’ve had so many hard times as a single dad. But I wouldn’t trade it in for anything else. I’ve had the privilege of watching my kids grow and become respectful young men. I’m 37 now and barley have a social life or ever go out on dates. But I love my time with my kids and my most proudest moment was buying a house for us when everyone doubted I could do it. As much as I try to stay positive I also have days I’m just so lost. But I’m doing my best for them

    • @hi8107
      @hi8107 Год назад +3

      You ROCK 🤙

    • @tonytee4494
      @tonytee4494 Год назад +3

      👏🏽 same here man. Some days I’m lost and depressed but I keep going

    • @Its-the-knife-man
      @Its-the-knife-man Год назад +1

      @@tonytee4494 that’s all we can do man keep pushing forward and staying positive better days are ahead

    • @deemariedubois4916
      @deemariedubois4916 9 месяцев назад +2

      You’re incredible. You are molding another human being to reach adulthood as good a person as you are. All your feelings are all valid. You are doing an incredible job.
      Thanks for sharing. OMG your son, Lincoln, is adorable. You are so blessed to have Lincoln. Keep up the good job.

    • @rayderlord4633
      @rayderlord4633 3 месяца назад +1

      Youre the Best man. And God is with you.💪🏽

  • @kebbbinnn
    @kebbbinnn 3 года назад +26

    As a single father, this video has truly touched me, I could relate to everything you've said in this video. Thank you.

    • @XxEtHaN39xX
      @XxEtHaN39xX  3 года назад +1

      Kevin! Thank you for sharing and I'm glad you could relate... (it's good to know I myself aren't alone!) Hope you have a great day brotha! ✌

    • @resianemaculate.
      @resianemaculate. Год назад

      @krbbbinnn can you please give me an opportunity to clean,do laundry,cook for you

  • @Wattz1124
    @Wattz1124 Год назад +11

    I'm Single dad. Honestly Best days of my life. Honestly way happier than with my ex, Zero complaints till I have to deal with ex. Dating been terrible but I don't think being a dad effects it much.

  • @jasonduke8996
    @jasonduke8996 2 месяца назад +1

    3 days in 3 babies under 4 I'm 41 all I ever did was work now I'm paying for it. I never expected to be here blown away heart broken ashamed and overwhelmed.
    This picked me up on a very dark day, this meant a lot.

  • @emmataylor2742
    @emmataylor2742 3 года назад +16

    I'm a single mum and struggling especially with lockdown and loneliness, just glad to hear some straight talking helps me make more sense of how I feel, not always easy to talk to people and I feel most people just don't get it how hard it can be sometimes

    • @XxEtHaN39xX
      @XxEtHaN39xX  3 года назад +1

      Oh hell yeah... It can be so hard sometimes. I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling with loneliness if you ever needed anyone to talk to let me know :) (Dm me here, on IG or whatever!) You got this :) ✌🏻

  • @Jrgibbjr
    @Jrgibbjr 11 месяцев назад +4

    I am a single dad of 2, a 12 yr old girl and 2 yr old boy. 2 ex's similar choices they both made. i 100% understand how this feels. it's nice to see it from the outside another like myself and knowing i am not alone in the world

  • @swisher042592
    @swisher042592 8 месяцев назад +2

    I'm a single dad and i related to pretty much every single thing you've said in this video. Its simultaneously the most challenging and rewarding thing that I've ever done. When i work 12 hour days and try my hardest, even when I'm thinking I'm failing, when my 4 year old son randomly says "i love you daddy!" It makes it all worth it. Wouldnt have it any other way.

  • @jpowell2603
    @jpowell2603 Год назад +6

    Widowed dad of 4 kids here, it gets lonely alright some days are good and some days are just crap! So many emotions I go through wish my wife was here but I got this someday this will pass and I can look back knowing I gave it all I got. 💯🙏

    • @tommannix199
      @tommannix199 Год назад +1

      Hang in there, sir. Be strong for your little tribe..

    • @JesusGodHolySpirit3
      @JesusGodHolySpirit3 5 месяцев назад

      Good, now you know how it feels for the WOMEN across the world to be a SINGLE mom. Don't get pregnant if you are female or transvestite.

  • @DominickLewis-r4o
    @DominickLewis-r4o 7 месяцев назад +4

    Thanks for this video man. Im 21 with a two year old son. Im trying my hardest to not let my inner demons affect him negatively. The part you said stop taking life so seriously is the part i need to work on the most. Just wanted to say i appreciate you taking the time to make this video and its givin me a better perspective as to how to treat my journey with my little man. Stay blessed

  • @composedguy
    @composedguy Год назад +6

    You are awesome mate! I am a single dad too and learning each day. It is indeed a mix of both good and learnings along the way - he Grows, I grow and vice versa. Thanks for putting this out. I had been looking for a community lately and I didn't got one but yeah this video moved me and kind of validated my emotions. Thanks bud. Cheers!

  • @AlistairRussell-o2z
    @AlistairRussell-o2z Год назад +6

    Came here as I'm soon to be a single dad - the mother isn't mentally or economically capable to be given even shared custody of our son...and yet she is fighting tooth and nail, making up all sorts of crazy lies to social services. Worse still, I'm having to repatriate him from Colombia.

    • @Janine466
      @Janine466 7 месяцев назад

      You’re an idiot

    • @edwin768
      @edwin768 7 месяцев назад +1

      Good luck man hope everything goes well for you

    • @travisblack9519
      @travisblack9519 5 месяцев назад +1

      isn't it crazy how people who once said they loved you can reveal themselves to be

  • @mariobasso1090
    @mariobasso1090 Год назад +3

    So glad i found you. I’m a singledad for 3 years now and still coping with the ecxact issues hou are talking About. I noticed There are not a lot of dads out there doing it all alone. Thank you for being awesome mate.

    • @XxEtHaN39xX
      @XxEtHaN39xX  Год назад

      Hey Mario, I'm glad you found these videos and can relate to them. You are right there aren't a lot of dads out there who are doing this all alone. It's hard man. I'm going to drop a What's app link to a group I'm creating for single dads to drop in share, connect and support each other. I want to build a real community. Is that something you would be interested in?

  • @ines-simpson
    @ines-simpson 2 года назад +5

    I'm so relieved that I just discovered this youtube channel, I subscribed because I'm dating a single dad. Thanks for the content, it really helps!

    • @XxEtHaN39xX
      @XxEtHaN39xX  2 года назад

      Welcome! That's so cool to hear that you are dating a single dad. It brings a smile to my face :) If I can ask, how old are you and how old is he?

  • @hi8107
    @hi8107 Год назад +2

    I am a single mom and can can relate to all your thoughts and sentiments. I especially like the part about the joy and closeness that you have to your son which couples with children might take for granted. I have spent days at home with just my son and I reading books and playing games and felt so privileged to have this time for close connection. Love your gratitude and your honesty about all the positive and negatives about being a single parent. God bless 🙏

  • @90sschick
    @90sschick Год назад +2

    I applaud any single fathers on here and find the energy to get through whatever it is that you are going through as a single mother this is what I do all day every day right now I literally cried because nobody wants to hang out with me or my kids and I get very lonely to 🤦🏻‍♀️

  • @danielolivares6313
    @danielolivares6313 8 месяцев назад +2

    Im not a parent but its always been my dream to adopt and raise a child as a single parent. This video is extremely inspiring thank you so much for putting this out

  • @malitahirahman999
    @malitahirahman999 2 года назад +4

    This video was so amazing! It felt genuine to its core. And my favorite part of the video was when you said that one of the amazing things about being a single dad is your kid teaching you not to take life so seriously.

    • @XxEtHaN39xX
      @XxEtHaN39xX  Год назад

      Awe Mali :) Thank you so much. I'm glad you felt this way while watching the video and that truly is one of my favourite parts of being a single dad and still is to this day :)

  • @sar983
    @sar983 3 месяца назад +1

    6:46 😂😂😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤❤❤❤LOVED IT ❤️
    MAY OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST BLESS YOU DAD SON DUO 😊❤✝️

  • @rizednb
    @rizednb 6 месяцев назад +1

    everything hit home with me. I'm divorced and have a 8-year-old son. Both of my parents passed away 20 years ago or so. I definitely feel alone and im doing this on my own, but my son is smart happy. he's active in sports. I'm dedicating my life to my reason to live. Yes, I feel I never have time to do things I want, date, etc. But these are years we will never get back. You blink and they're 15, 16, and don't want to hang with you at all. Hope that isn't my case. Stay strong all single dads!

  • @karlopalenzuela7915
    @karlopalenzuela7915 2 года назад +5

    What a channel! More power to us..Thanks for sharing! It will be worth it all!

    • @XxEtHaN39xX
      @XxEtHaN39xX  2 года назад

      Yes brotha! More power to us, and it will be worth it as long as we make it worth it and do the best we can to show up and live our lives fully! Thanks for being here man.

  • @shanepye7078
    @shanepye7078 2 года назад +3

    After years of searching, there is NOTHING in the way of help for single dads with an autistic child. I’ve been totally alone for years. No help, no family, no friends, no life, no ability to work. My life has been over for years, and I don’t know how much longer I can keep this up.

    • @XxEtHaN39xX
      @XxEtHaN39xX  Год назад +4

      Shane, brother. I want to say sorry for not replying to your comment sooner. I'm sorry man, and in some ways I feel as though I let you down. That would be a hard road to navigate and I hope things are looking brighter for you. I would love to know how you are doing know and would invite you to join a What's App group I'm making which will be a support for Single dads. A place where we can connect, share and grow together to be better! Thinking of you dude!

    • @shanepye7078
      @shanepye7078 Год назад +1

      @@XxEtHaN39xX thank you for the thought! And no worries, we all have stuff to do. And sure, I’d be interested in a group.

    • @Bmayo27
      @Bmayo27 Год назад +3

      Shane, I think you’re feelings are valid. I’m a single dad with a four year old that has boundless energy, and that’s tough. But, I can’t imagine the difficulties of your personal struggles. I hope the best possible for you. But, I struggle myself…..and, so I’d be hypocritical for me to try and offer advice. But again, I do sincerely hope things get easier on you.

  • @larryrobinson-ym6tk
    @larryrobinson-ym6tk Год назад +1

    Just found your channel. As a single dad myself your videos impact me deeply.

  • @shannonmacaulay3435
    @shannonmacaulay3435 2 года назад +5

    Iam a single mom. I can relate to everything you mentioned in this video . Wow you describe my life to a tee

    • @XxEtHaN39xX
      @XxEtHaN39xX  2 года назад +4

      Hey Shannon, I'm glad to hear that you could relate :) I think we single fathers and single mothers have much in common

  • @Spacebarf
    @Spacebarf 5 месяцев назад

    Brother! My son is named Lincoln too! he's almost 2. Been doing this on my own for about 4 months it's hard but my son makes every second worth it. Loved the video. Stay strong. Keep pushing

  • @kalynsloan3152
    @kalynsloan3152 3 года назад +5

    Few words, just tons and tons of love and gratitude.

  • @yeahyeah_maria
    @yeahyeah_maria 3 года назад +3

    You always seem to explain everything so well. I agree about the extra sense of purpose! And about not taking life so seriously. I've been working on that for the passed few years already.... slowly but trying haha

    • @XxEtHaN39xX
      @XxEtHaN39xX  3 года назад +1

      Hell Yeah! That's awesome :) From watching your vlogs It seems like you are having a lot of fun :) All we can do is slowly change... You're killing it, Maria! Also... thank you :)

    • @yeahyeah_maria
      @yeahyeah_maria 3 года назад

      Thanks! And I'm glad you're improving with any struggles you've had or are going through. Everyone who tries deserves the best!

  • @1988Classic
    @1988Classic Год назад +2

    You not alone brother were our own community ❤

    • @SingleDadSurvival
      @SingleDadSurvival 11 месяцев назад

      It can be tough as hell being a single dad. I talk about my own struggles/dealing with child support on my channel if you think it’ll help you. Keep your head up and fight. 🤝

  • @RealityMilitaryTV
    @RealityMilitaryTV 3 года назад +3

    Thanks for sharing bro. I don't find much talk about about single dads on YT.

    • @XxEtHaN39xX
      @XxEtHaN39xX  3 года назад +1

      Yeah man there is barely any and that is why I started this Channel. I hope you are well dude!

  • @mr_pillow_99
    @mr_pillow_99 5 месяцев назад

    Bro much love and respect! You're an upstanding man. You're like a real life modern Kratos!!

  • @sonkenvubu1553
    @sonkenvubu1553 Год назад

    ❤❤❤ It's 2023 and being a single conscious dad. I've cracked the code. It's not easy but fun. Raising my 3 year old boy alone has helped my emotional intelligence to do my art works. After moving on after two years. I've met a partner which is awesome for any dad facing hardships, even though she's in America and I'm in Africa, she has unconditional love for our son. Which melts my heart, thinking I'm also in a long distance, where a real hug would make me feel great, but my son has been there to offer that. I'm more happy seeing struggling happy dad's out there. Big ups. I'm not alone, but a community of awesome beautiful guys.
    My advice. Let's stay loving and be supportive. I'm grateful with gratitude to have love within.

  • @Dougfraughan
    @Dougfraughan 4 месяца назад

    What a bloody awesome man you are. As a single dad myself it ticks all the boxes. Its easy to say everything is great but it is really hard sometimes. But agreed. Its like no other experience and the alternative is sitting in some bar surrounded by miserable old men. Fuck that x

  • @resianemaculate.
    @resianemaculate. Год назад

    Been a single mum for nine years now,my children really desire to have a father figure.
    Someone they can talk during this phase in teenagehood.Would really love to connect with fellow single mums and dads

  • @travisblack9519
    @travisblack9519 5 месяцев назад

    it's harder than being lonely, because you aren't actually alone. it's so frequently very lonely, but also constantly demanding in a way that being alone isn't. being alone would be way, way easier. but I've made my choice, I'll sacrifice my entire life for my child if it's what is required

  • @XavierP333
    @XavierP333 Год назад

    Hey brother.
    Thanks for the video.
    As a fellow single father, I salute you. You do a fantastic job taking care of that little guy.
    Keep up the good work

  • @smustipher
    @smustipher 9 месяцев назад

    The irony of being a single parent who is doing a good job at raising their children is that the character and qualities you.must cultivate and display to do this makes you an excellent choice for a mate: you are able to put other people's needs before yours, make sacrifices, think long term, etc. I am not a single parent btw and I get that some people.are wary of getting involbed in a situation where exes may still be in the background due to co parenting and legal issues, but goodness - give these folks a break. They may have gotten the raw end of the deal and are trying to move on with dignity and hope for a better future for themselbes and their children.

  • @donnaturpin5995
    @donnaturpin5995 Год назад

    my son is 22 raising a 19 month old daugher full time. we his parents work so he is 99 percent full care of her. he lives both places w me part. with his dad part. he also works full time, he is doing great! but it is very hard on him at times!! he has no friends, he is not able to go out on weekends because the sitter only works weekdays! but he has stepped up n is the best mom n dad both for his daughter. the best advice for me to give is if u are single parent try to get support n every now n then get a sitter or family member to keep yr child if only for a few hours!! take a lil bit n go to a movie or something! Prayers for my son n granddaughter and prayers for you n yr son.

  • @AlejandroHernandez-lf3tf
    @AlejandroHernandez-lf3tf Год назад +1

    Im 23 I’m a single father me and my bm been separated for over a year now I see my son he’s 2 and a half on the weekends I long see him but I cherish the moments I have with him the court is a process

  • @bresdiyjourney3323
    @bresdiyjourney3323 Год назад

    Literally cried while watching this ❤

  • @progressongs4346
    @progressongs4346 3 года назад

    Thank you for sharing. Progressongs is excited to be following along now with a subscription!

  • @Ebizzill
    @Ebizzill 2 месяца назад

    This videos should be used as a massive PSA for young men who think that leaving their partner to handle raising the children is an absolute breeze while they lounge around essentially using weaponized incompetence as a means to not have to deal with the kids.

  • @alinanagibova3468
    @alinanagibova3468 11 месяцев назад

    Thank you. You’re right. All of it!

  • @brianmantilla7487
    @brianmantilla7487 Год назад

    I can understand that you want to have the freedoms of being on your own. However, being a single Dad can be one of the most rewarding things you can do for yourself. It also teaches you being self-less on many different levels. Yes, it has its ups and owns. However, there's many more ups to get from being a single Dad.

  • @nishu894
    @nishu894 3 года назад +6

    Well i m not single but still struggle raising a child ...how do u do it ...god bless u

    • @XxEtHaN39xX
      @XxEtHaN39xX  3 года назад

      I think everyone who parents feels that struggle :) I just keep showing up and committed to improving a tiny tiny bit everyday 🙌 God bless you as well!

  • @chasewebster7891
    @chasewebster7891 Год назад +1

    God it’s hard and lonely. I love my boys, but holy smokes, life is hard when you are just trying to keep things under control.

    • @XxEtHaN39xX
      @XxEtHaN39xX  Год назад

      Hey Chase, yeah life is hard when you are just trying to keep things under control. I can relate to that deeply. I don't know you from a hole in the wall however I do know that you are the man for the job otherwise you wouldn't be in it. Your boys are going to be hella grateful one day that you kept it all under control for them!

  • @princessguesslosangeles6137
    @princessguesslosangeles6137 3 года назад +3

    Ok when and how did Lincoln get so tall? He's so cute it feels like yesterday we all saw Lincoln as a little baby

    • @XxEtHaN39xX
      @XxEtHaN39xX  3 года назад

      I know right?!?!?! It's wild at how quickly he has grown haha... it honestly felt like he grew a foot overnight. Appreciate you :)

  • @nobody-hd4du
    @nobody-hd4du 2 года назад +2

    I'm not a parent but I am a 15 teen year old guy and my dad lashes out at me and I just want to know how he feels because we don't talk to each other and any time we do talk I'm being yelled at

    • @XxEtHaN39xX
      @XxEtHaN39xX  Год назад +1

      Oh man. Dude if you are still around on RUclips and see this man I would love to chat and connect and hear you out dude. I'm sorry that your dad lashes out at you. You don't deserve that man he's hurt and you get that pain. For that I am sorry. If there is anything I can do for you let me know man, you are not alone!

    • @johanruiz3422
      @johanruiz3422 7 месяцев назад

      Fr bro

  • @BeanDar
    @BeanDar 6 месяцев назад

    This is good. I am a single dad

  • @nobody-hd4du
    @nobody-hd4du 2 года назад

    My dad doesn't realize I can take Care of myself so if I don't want to go anywhere I say he can go he sleeps in I cook but I don't do my chores and I'm on the game in my room all the time when he's doing yard work I'm in my room I realize I'm a horrible child with anxiety and depression but he doesn't realize gaming is how I keep myself blank

  • @soniaandeme-xu3bo
    @soniaandeme-xu3bo 6 месяцев назад

    Bravo de la France !!!!❤

  • @hannatitley8272
    @hannatitley8272 Год назад

    Single mom here

  • @phish_1
    @phish_1 Год назад

    My youngest sister passed away with a son from this man who was not able to marry her.
    Is she a victim of love?

  • @edwardgrobler3618
    @edwardgrobler3618 3 года назад +2

    👍

    • @XxEtHaN39xX
      @XxEtHaN39xX  3 года назад

      Thanks My Man! Appreciate you brotha ✌️

  • @Pocketpowerplant
    @Pocketpowerplant Год назад +1

    😢Dear Lord SOMEONE HELP US😢

    • @joshuabates38
      @joshuabates38 4 месяца назад

      Your not alone. God is a big help in my life someone who I can talk to that cares and understands. I have two young kids and no help their mom abandoned us. I trust God in his plan keep your head up bro. Us single dads are a different breed we were created different.

  • @jonathonjoyner7326
    @jonathonjoyner7326 8 месяцев назад

    Thanks for this

  • @maninblack4158
    @maninblack4158 6 месяцев назад +2

    Single dads should date single moms and that is the way it was ment to be.

  • @rbcml47
    @rbcml47 3 месяца назад

    I feel so blessed to be a single mom, 1 less child to take care of haha

  • @moreshm7612
    @moreshm7612 3 года назад

    🙌🙌🙌😀😀😀

  • @Sebti206
    @Sebti206 3 месяца назад

    without music will be better

  • @Sebti206
    @Sebti206 3 месяца назад

    music is annoying

  • @johanruiz3422
    @johanruiz3422 7 месяцев назад

    Is this single dad like 28… Clearly being a single dad at that age is less problematic than If u were to be a single 19 dad

    • @witikka5134
      @witikka5134 5 месяцев назад

      Single dad at 19 now I’m 21. I feel mentally destroyed, the mother doesn’t want to help or even watch him. I’ve been single for two years no sex no relationships. I’ve lost friends and I feel all alone. It’s been a rough journey but I know things will get better soon but sometimes soon feels so far away. I wish every dad the best in the journey. Commitment are not the same anymore baby mother has 3 kids at 21 now and wants to dump her other kids on the other two baby fathers. Feminism is real and this is what it has become just get use to it. Talk to her recently and all she talked about is how she gets plenty of men and how she wants to be “outside”. Things like this hurts because I really did love her and all she did was make my life a living hell through court and now abandonment.

  • @Humanflesh1988
    @Humanflesh1988 Год назад +2

    Ima newly single father, I’m scared. I don’t want to fail him.

    • @SingleDadSurvival
      @SingleDadSurvival 11 месяцев назад +2

      It can be tough as hell being a single dad. I talk about my own struggles/dealing with child support on my channel if you think it’ll help you. Keep your head up and fight. 🤝

  • @EnglishBOYxxx
    @EnglishBOYxxx 6 месяцев назад

    I what baby son so bad