The Power of Indifference to Outcome (How to Handle Any Result) - The Fearless Man

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  • @wouterdesmedt1736
    @wouterdesmedt1736 4 года назад +36

    Again my mind is blown by the fact this amount and quality of information is just out there, free for all to benefit from. What’s also striking to me is that most of this stuff is useful for women as well. What a time to be alive!

    • @joe-zf7fx
      @joe-zf7fx 4 года назад +6

      Exactly! We have such a privilege and abundance of free information! If you can't make it today, just image how hard it would be for you long ago.

    • @ErvinMitchell
      @ErvinMitchell 3 года назад +1

      Indeed

  • @BAlvn-yr6ej
    @BAlvn-yr6ej 6 лет назад +19

    the more i listen to Brian, the more I like him...one of the best channels on youtube.

  • @1StepForwardToday
    @1StepForwardToday 6 лет назад +62

    Just listening to this talk made me think.. that if you're someone who has a tremendous amount of anxiety around women, then that could indicate that you have an equally tremendous amount of "potential power". But, it's just not yet being used/focused properly.
    If your energy can make women feel awkward without even saying anything, then that seems like a great deal of energy, that if used correctly could translate to pwerful, seductive, polarizing energy.
    The point being, that you're anxiety is not a negative, but rather an indication of tremendous potential polarizing power with women.
    I can't say this for certain, but it seems sensible.

    • @raymondguzman5083
      @raymondguzman5083 5 лет назад +4

      Yeah I have exactly when you mean I can instantly feel weird around beautiful women and I can feel them also being weird I just need to process a lot of my emotions and do some releasing because under all that anxiety and pain I can feel my potential as a man

    • @ownone7759
      @ownone7759 5 лет назад +2

      Kibbie Lou I hear that EVERY CANNOT be destroyed, only transferred to another form! We are ALL thankful! It’s on now!

    • @cyrusjohnson6050
      @cyrusjohnson6050 5 лет назад +1

      Kibbie Lou yeah that’s a great way of looking at it for sure

    • @Jon-ly6xe
      @Jon-ly6xe 4 года назад +2

      Seems that energy could even be transferred to meet any goals you make as well.. hmm thank you for sharing that thought

    • @stevendalloesingh1214
      @stevendalloesingh1214 3 года назад +3

      Very very very good look at the situation. Very good point of view.

  • @nobodysperfect06
    @nobodysperfect06 7 лет назад +94

    the depressing frustrating part is learning this stuff later in life feeling you should have known this stuff earlier

    • @beastb83
      @beastb83 7 лет назад +20

      nobodysperfect06 but you also should understand nobody ever stops learning. Even master's have much to learn.

    • @rebeccaanne8546
      @rebeccaanne8546 6 лет назад +7

      nobodysperfect06 no one ever talks about it

    • @juta6500
      @juta6500 6 лет назад +13

      Just go for it no matter what your age is :)

    • @ChumX100
      @ChumX100 6 лет назад +26

      Or you can just be grateful that you learned it at some point in your life, which is more than most can say.

    • @AZTigerMMA
      @AZTigerMMA 4 года назад +2

      I’m with you. But now that I know ..../ I was doing damn well numbing out - hell I helped teach “infield “ and demo- I was decent but a clown .not grounded - well. Just another embarrassment to ponder about in the shower . I feel like a champ now that I know and can work on it

  • @DavidPiccinelli
    @DavidPiccinelli 7 лет назад +43

    This is so right and I realize it doesn't apply only to relationships with women. You are incredibly gifted & talented at teaching !!

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  7 лет назад +10

      Awesome compliment. Glad you're finding the videos so valuable.

  • @mmr0221
    @mmr0221 Год назад +2

    Analogy of waves to thoughts is really great

  • @immortaljanus
    @immortaljanus 7 лет назад +45

    It's amazing how everything this guy says I heard before when learning to play poker. If you play to keep your chips, you will end up losing your chips. The only way to win is to risk losing your chips, meaning you have to want to win more than you want NOT TO LOSE.

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  7 лет назад +8

      Well said!

    • @Naijarianman
      @Naijarianman 5 лет назад +6

      I know this is late. But that's a profound statement. Thank you for that

    • @alex_4trth
      @alex_4trth 3 года назад +1

      “Play to win not not to lose”

  • @ErvinMitchell
    @ErvinMitchell 4 года назад +3

    I thought it was weird how these things made so much sense to me so quickly. I'm used to having so many concepts in my head and trying to sort through them but I realized that I've been going out and trying so many things for so long and this feedback is just smoothing all that out. That's why it's clicking so easily because I have so many older references that have just been waiting to be polished out!

  • @amisonrocky3007
    @amisonrocky3007 5 лет назад +2

    Omg... Brian..u r all providing..all this for free...this is absolutely..blessings for all of us...This western education provides us only..for livelihood.and make us more of feminine..u r videos are making ur realising our true potential..as a man and as a complete human being...thanku

  • @yamnehroncero4238
    @yamnehroncero4238 6 лет назад +19

    The best way I found how to be indifferent to outcome is by taking personal responsibility. Taking control of your reaction to what happens to you. In that way, you realize your happiness, well-being, confidence, etc., is completely 100% in your power.
    What that will do is that you won't objectify women. Women won't become the objects of your happiness or well-being as a man. You will also not sexualize them.
    It's by taking personally responsibility that you also STOP BEING A VICTIM and you actually gain your power back. You will ooze natural confidence. You won't take things personal. You won't be afraid to be 100% yourself. Inhibitions will go away, worry and being self-conscious will stop.

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  6 лет назад +4

      Well said. Glad this has worked for you. Just don't be afraid to appreciate them as sexual beings and for being sexy, too

    • @fabulous1589
      @fabulous1589 5 лет назад

      y roncero excellent

    • @fabulous1589
      @fabulous1589 5 лет назад +1

      Stoicism

    • @yyiyyification
      @yyiyyification 5 лет назад

      @S H that's very true. Happened with my now ex gf. I was indifferent at first, but as I cared more for her that diminished and she felt it and left

  • @willpower89
    @willpower89 5 лет назад +2

    PLEASE DO MORE ON THIS
    1) Having, choosing, being, expect
    2) Want to, desire
    3) Have to, should, need to
    4) Avoid
    For so long I've bounced between 3 and 4 in several areas of my life. I thought that telling myself "I need to get to the gym, I have to get that project started/finished" was driving me forward but would just end up avoiding and moving on to the next thing that caught my attention.
    Please do some more on how to drive myself towards embodying, being, having, choosing and expecting - it really feels like this is the missing ingredient

  • @sugarlife485
    @sugarlife485 5 лет назад +3

    just like the Master I studied with always says to me..."The difference that makes the difference....is Indifference...")
    thankyou from nyc

  • @PapaSnippy
    @PapaSnippy 2 года назад +2

    This video has a huge impact on me. Got me thinking. Later I had a thought that I even wrote down for myself:
    We are dependent on outcome because we afraid of how other people will think about us, how they will judge us and how their behavior will decide the outcome of what do we want. We are afraid of how that reaction will make US feel. We are afraid of how other people will think about US and will make US feel, how they will judge US and that will make US feel, how the outcome which we dependent on will make US feel. "Oh! I am afraid of what they will think about me. It will make me feel bad about myself!"
    Perception of reality is subjective. Egoistically, we are afraid of our own emotions.

  • @mmr0221
    @mmr0221 Год назад +2

    True confidence

  • @duanechartier8008
    @duanechartier8008 2 года назад +1

    Really great video!

  • @Mario19851506
    @Mario19851506 6 лет назад +4

    You are fucking genious bro! Your line about giving and "providing values about being HONEST" is so inspirational and true! Thanks for your huge work.

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  6 лет назад +2

      Thank you! Hope to meet you at an event. Glad you're enjoying the videos

  • @functionalfitnessworkouts
    @functionalfitnessworkouts 3 года назад +2

    This is definitely one of the most useful videos Ive ever been fortunate enough to watch!!

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  3 года назад +1

      That's great to hear man. Feel free to post questions on any of the videos and we'll give you feedback. - Andrew, TFM Team

  • @kobalt77
    @kobalt77 6 лет назад +5

    This is amazing.................. I thought I had most of this "stuff" sorted out after years/decades of self work, but I learned a heap of things today that I have missing. ...................... The part at 1.09 ish when he helps the guy to understand welcoming is totally amazing, and that helped me so much too ........................... thank you for sharing this wonderful video Brian ! :)

  • @thomv5591
    @thomv5591 5 лет назад +2

    This is truly amazing stuff. It's like Brian knows me without ever meeting me.

  • @Karina_Engr
    @Karina_Engr 3 года назад +2

    22:00 This principle applies to everyone. I hope you see the high value in this knowledge Brian is sharing here. #EnergyWork #Psychology
    "You can't have something and want something at the same time." If you want something and you don't believe you can get it, that is resistance and it will hurt/be painful.
    Having and being has no wants nor desire.
    When you expect it and it's a part of your identity, it happens.

  • @NateSpurs
    @NateSpurs 7 лет назад +6

    Great vid Brian. I can see how you are attuned with the spirit of the Amorati. Zan and his crew are like the feeling and essence of seduction, as are you, but in a more logical, pragmatic approach, rather than the mystery and wonder so much. Athough both styles cross over no doubt.

  • @jonh5465
    @jonh5465 4 года назад +1

    Love the video. Hope to see more videos on indifference to outcome

  • @SuperWoody33
    @SuperWoody33 4 года назад +2

    Amazing video 👍 even got a tear in my eye when it finally clicked with the guy at the end ❤ wish you all the best guys 👍 keep up the good work 😉

  • @DrinkmoWater.
    @DrinkmoWater. 7 лет назад +10

    Dope message salute your journey

  • @rareview362
    @rareview362 6 лет назад +15

    Just be natural. Be yourself. Put yourself out there. Work on your physique. Be thankful. Improve your finances. Step by step.

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  6 лет назад +7

      The problem is that most don't know what "being themselves" really is

    • @rareview362
      @rareview362 6 лет назад +3

      The Fearless Man That's because society scrutinizes uniqueness.

    • @SH3player
      @SH3player 6 лет назад +2

      @@rareview362
      He is right, being yourself is the worst advice you can give to someone.
      You need to understand, if you don't get women, being yourself is what you should not do.
      Women, just hate actors..... but if you can genuinely feel the same
      emotions/confidence as a more confident guy you can be that person.
      Also, what if you want to improve yourself into a more confident guy. Why would you tell him not to improve and go back to a person who is shy, lack of friends, and not happy?
      Be yourself- should be ....
      don't act
      be very Comfortable and confident with yourself at the present time
      be congruent
      Don't feel you need a relationship in order to fix your present life. Be happy with yourself regardless.
      always improve.
      ...even then, you need more experience, feedback, and good and bad examples to truly understand.

    • @rareview362
      @rareview362 6 лет назад +2

      @@SH3player for a fake unconfident guy like you. You got no character if that's what you believe

  • @mmr0221
    @mmr0221 Год назад +2

    Are you doing any events in Florida?

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  Год назад

      Yes, we have an event this November. Reach out to me for more information.
      Landon, True Courage
      landon@truecourage.io

  • @jacobgarn
    @jacobgarn 7 лет назад +5

    Reminded me of David R. Hawkins' Scale Of Consciousness at the end

  • @jacobgarn
    @jacobgarn 7 лет назад +5

    I really appreciate this

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  7 лет назад +1

      Glad to hear it

    • @schuschnix5261
      @schuschnix5261 7 лет назад

      is there a video or can you make a video about the 4stages from having down to avoid?I do understand it and I certainly also do it sometimes, but how do you "work on it"?like how do you prevent the "want to/desire" and lack of Belief from turning into a have to?Would be really curious as to how you approach this because this would be really helpful in all areas and I havent figured it out yet.

  • @SuperPenguin5495
    @SuperPenguin5495 7 лет назад +6

    Wish you recorded without the group knowing of their field exercise, so we can see your guidelines in action

  • @andyarachige1265
    @andyarachige1265 3 года назад

    Good stuff thanks 🙏

  • @rainerneumeister5239
    @rainerneumeister5239 2 года назад +1

    I live in Ireland. Are there any mens coaches here who do what you do. ?

  • @rainerneumeister5239
    @rainerneumeister5239 2 года назад +1

    I get the whole tension thing now. But I live in a village where there are no single women in my age bracket? What do I do , where do I practice this.

  • @robertwallace3816
    @robertwallace3816 3 года назад

    Awesome shit!!!

  • @Christianpreaching
    @Christianpreaching 3 года назад

    This is good content exclusive to this channel that people like Us need

  • @aichujohnson8444
    @aichujohnson8444 4 года назад +2

    I am guess most men are watching this to be more confident in pursuing women. As for me, I am watching this to stop being nervous around beautiful women, because I don't want to pursue them. I just want to be comfortable in their presence.

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  4 года назад

      Hi Aichu, When you become comfortable around beautiful women while remaining open and connected with them, they will naturally become curious about you. - Andrew, TFM Staff
      Fearless Experience Intensive - 2021 Schedule
      www.thefearlessman.com/Experience2021
      Brian’s EBook - The Art of Fearless Seduction
      www.thefearlessman.com/eBookFearlessSeduction

  • @jamierudman52
    @jamierudman52 6 лет назад +3

    It's great to put time and energy in to being more socially confident and free. It has further reaching impacts than getting good with women. But I also think environment dictates a lot, in terms of potential for growth.
    I live in London, England, and I can tell you that approaching/meeting women here is just not the same as it is in Bucharest for example. In London, people are career focused and dates normally happen through Tinder (I'm not an advocate) and to approach women outside of a bar or club e.g. in the park or in a cafe, is pretty much a no-go.
    It has a lot to do with the spirit of the city and the openness of people in general. I'm sure Brian you are in touch with this aspect, having got to Bucharest so well. Could you offer any advice on finding a niche in an impersonal, unfriendly city, to be able to practice some of these principles?

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  6 лет назад +1

      Environment makes a difference, sure. But my friend Yad is known as the “Godfather of Daygame" - approaching women on the street - and guess where he's from, got good, and built his business? London. Here's his episode of Becoming FEARLESS: www.thefearlessman.com/yad-daygame-com-meeting-approaching-women-during-the-day-becoming-fearless-episode-7/ It's practice and indifference to outcome. Whether you get his products, mine, or just use all the free content, it's about you not buying in to the societal stories and stories you've created and practicing. And speaking of Bucharest, that's where we're teaching right now, and where we'll be again in October. More and more English guys are coming out for those events!

    • @jamierudman52
      @jamierudman52 6 лет назад +1

      I love his unconventional style! Those streets in central London are a daunting place for what he's doing, and he's genuine.
      There is societal pressure. I've had friends say that it's time to stop hitting on girls and to get career going, as though the two are mutually exclusive; and also that the ideas I had about 'approaching' were idealistic. But...I've also had some wonderful experiences where I showed up and girls responded really well, in the most unlikely settings.
      Deep down I still don't really believe in the journey, and don't trust that it can bring results. Perhaps I need to work on changing that belief system.
      Anyways I would love to head to a Fearless workshop in Romania. Can I find details of the October workshop on the website?

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  6 лет назад

      Ah. It looks like it's yourself you don't fully believe in...YET! ...Those are stories I hear from guys regardless of the country they live in. You can read about my seminar-style event and buy tickets here: www.thefearlessman.com/events/the-fearless-man-live-bucharest-september-2018/
      And if you're ready for a small-group intensive, that's here: www.thefearlessman.com/events/reg-the-experience-intensive-bucharest-oct-2018/
      RUclips makes it hard for me to see replies to comments, but you can email Mike @ mike@thefearlessman.com if you have questions, call us, or message us on facebook chat.

  • @sandeshrangari694
    @sandeshrangari694 3 года назад

    Brian your a really really beautiful human being...

  • @astarr3867
    @astarr3867 4 года назад

    This some good stuff

  • @sirbenzo9
    @sirbenzo9 7 лет назад +3

    I just giggle and laugh with the crowd....beer is not on me...it's on the floor. A lady dropped coffee at the Common Coffee house where I practice approaching and conversation and I said "Coffee is on you...not the floor. At least it matches your outfit!" Got myself a phone number to call in a week! Yeah!

  • @jonathanvazquez9685
    @jonathanvazquez9685 7 лет назад

    excellent content! I wish you had a seminar in the Orlando area. I would definitely attend.

  • @SPLIFBEATZ
    @SPLIFBEATZ 5 лет назад +4

    Any fearless man groups in germany?

  • @lootsmcgoots436
    @lootsmcgoots436 7 лет назад

    Can you further describe the use of humor to diffuse tension vs own tension? I think I do this but I want to understand it more clearly. Thanks!

  • @maikiling8286
    @maikiling8286 Год назад +1

    Hey Brian! I need your advice. I have a question. How do I move up the ladder to take action from a place of inspiration, instead of feeling like ‘i have to’? How can i become this guy that is just taking massive action like you, because he wants to, not because he has to? (Both inner work and outer action)

    • @maikiling8286
      @maikiling8286 Год назад +1

      Robert Glover talked about personal accountability. I feel like personal accountability would make me take action, because i HAVE TO, not because I want to. This taking action is a challenge for me.

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  Год назад +2

      Go within, and open your heart. When you lose flow, go within. Also, you can release on the judgment regarding your "have to" feelings. Can you simply allow yourself to want/desire without making it right or wrong? This is a higher energy after all than Apathy, for instance.
      Landon, TFM

    • @maikiling8286
      @maikiling8286 Год назад

      @@TheFearlessMan thanks Landon

  • @kennygo8423
    @kennygo8423 2 года назад +2

    Be Stoic. That's it. Very Simple.

    • @mmr0221
      @mmr0221 Год назад +1

      It’s not simple

  • @hotheadpie
    @hotheadpie 6 лет назад +1

    Thanks Brian. I feel a little confused though as to what you really mean about the following: You have many times mentioned approaching women on streets to ask for time etc. If, as you now mentioned, I hate doing that, should I still continue`(in order to be proactive), or would that just build more resentment and burn-out in me?

  • @tomatodragon318
    @tomatodragon318 7 лет назад

    good job you are a real man!

  • @smokeyrobinson3328
    @smokeyrobinson3328 3 года назад

    Hey Brian, I noticed u weren’t wearing your cross anymore and it made me think hmm how far dose the ability to feel and connect truly go?

  • @neoram87
    @neoram87 3 года назад

    We are told to celebrate our successes in the 1% rule. Isn't this going againts the indeference to outcome principle? How do we reconcile these two attitudes?

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  3 года назад +1

      Indifference to outcome means full willingness to accept the outcome, not having no feeling about it. Accepting that you feel sad about an outcome you didn't want, accepting that you are afraid it will happen again, etc. It doesn't mean having no emotions. - Andrew, TFM Team

  • @PapaSnippy
    @PapaSnippy 2 года назад +1

    Tried to like it twice but it keeps unliking it so I had to do it once.

  • @alex_4trth
    @alex_4trth 3 года назад

    Yes

  • @rockyjohnson6248
    @rockyjohnson6248 6 лет назад

    Can you be in flowstate all the time.....how can it be done? ...please help

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  6 лет назад

      www.thefearlessman.com/improve-your-conversation-skills-how-to-get-into-flow-state/

    • @rockyjohnson6248
      @rockyjohnson6248 4 года назад

      Thank you

  • @yokedupbra
    @yokedupbra 3 года назад +1

    this is hard ......

  • @nickldawg
    @nickldawg 6 лет назад

    Sometimes i will have something to say and really want to aay it. Then i will think it is try hard or weird if i miss the moment to say it

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  6 лет назад

      It can be. Best to say it in the moment. Not hold on to and think a lot about it

  • @paulstyle007
    @paulstyle007 5 лет назад +1

    Mode One

  • @raspberrynation
    @raspberrynation 6 лет назад

    How do you be giving without being taken advantage of or without being treated like a doormat

  • @martinkroissenbrunne
    @martinkroissenbrunne 6 лет назад

    Thanks Brian! Your work resonates with me ;)
    I wanted to ask if stepping into tension - with defense mode on - will still let one develop.
    I am proactive when i choose to go the girls, but when I finally talk to them i feel like shutting down and I don´t know how to overcome that.
    And if it is the case that you have to be proactive to be able to handle tension, can you please elaborate on this because it is hard to grasp for me!
    Thanks

  • @Bramble451
    @Bramble451 7 лет назад +15

    Apathy. That needs a video.

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  7 лет назад

      What exactly is your question on apathy?

    • @Bramble451
      @Bramble451 7 лет назад +5

      Apathy is similar to depression in that it saps the motivation to do _anything._ When you ask yourself, "What's important to me?", the answer that comes back is, "Nothing." The answer to every question about what's important is "Nothing," and the answer to every effort is, "Why bother?" How do you get your brain out of a state of, "Who cares?"

    • @DrinkmoWater.
      @DrinkmoWater. 7 лет назад +1

      Tune into your frequency ... id say the best is prayer.. man if you take the time The good Lord is at work for you. I believe you just need to regroup and drop the negatives and laugh more dude

    • @Bramble451
      @Bramble451 7 лет назад

      +DrinkMoWater: Sorry, not religious. And please don't follow up on that point. This isn't the place to get into a religious debate, and those never go anywhere anyway. Suffice it to say that's not a solution for me.

    • @DrinkmoWater.
      @DrinkmoWater. 7 лет назад +1

      Bramble451 get well yo

  • @rosshillstrom8056
    @rosshillstrom8056 7 лет назад

    So here is one for you fearless man. I asked an attractive woman for her number, she said yes. After leaving, I felt this great sense of emotional pain that came over me and, it lasted a couple of hours. what is this?

  • @biggbirdopensesame6762
    @biggbirdopensesame6762 4 года назад +2

    Caring will get you no place

  • @deanslife1
    @deanslife1 6 лет назад

    Leo Messi is the best example !

  • @mediapowersolutions
    @mediapowersolutions 3 года назад

    If nothing is something, then there's no point in anything.

  • @JoseMaEnage
    @JoseMaEnage 6 лет назад +1

    It appears you are using the Release Technique.

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  6 лет назад

      correct! www.thefearlessman.com/how-to-release-all-emotions-basics-of-fearless-letting-go/

  • @sashapark9695
    @sashapark9695 6 лет назад

    i noticed you brought up Richard branson in a few of your videos. Watch him in live conversations and you will see he needs your classes more then anybody. The guy is quite socially awkward.

  • @tltarzan678
    @tltarzan678 5 лет назад +2

    Seems like he knows what he is talking ...

  • @waedjradi
    @waedjradi 4 года назад +1

    34:37

  • @Stratton218
    @Stratton218 7 месяцев назад

    annotations

  • @sonamsherpa611
    @sonamsherpa611 6 лет назад

    why that u feels that u r fake as hell i

  • @jacobcasey28
    @jacobcasey28 5 лет назад +1

    I would take you so much more seriously if you went to the gym

  • @BlySS93
    @BlySS93 7 лет назад

    You're influenced by Elliott Hulse aren't you? Or if you don't know him, you speak about almost the same stuff.